Ryan has used you from the beginning to support him financially while he lived the bachelor lifestyle. I'm so sorry that you didn't see the red flags sooner
Yes it was very obvious sadly, he exploited and used her as a free cleaning maid. And if this is not horrible enough he also did all the other horrible things to her as she recently shared. Horrific
My husband was the same way. While we worked so hard for what we had. He did a character assassination on me because he hated me for being successful. But I have grown strong and learned to build boundaries. My heart goes out to Brittany.
You are so amazing for opening up about something all couples experience but rarely share! Only seeing highlight reels on social media can be so tough because real relationships take work and compromise. So proud of you, I know so many people will be able to relate! xox
What Carly said! Marriage and kids are not easy but with effort n love anything is possible. Thank u for ur humbleness. And congrats @carlycristman on ur bundle of joy!
We took a parenting classes through our church starting when I was pregnant and one of the things that they taught was to have a daily 15 ‘couch’ time where the parents visit with each other about their day, etc in a common area of the house but if they are interrupted by children, they let them know that they mommy & daddy are taking right now but I will help you with that when we are finished. Not only are you taking care of your marriage and catching up with each other but the kids will see the value that mommy and daddy have for one another. This is huge because children innately know that if something happens with the parents then their entire world changes. So it’s a win-win!
Melody Champion im not church like , but some of believes are good , like woman think men cant help, but truth is we women want it all , and dont ask for a mans help, cause we put them down ! They have weakness and strong points ! So do we , and if we just let down our ego , we could all get along . Ego ,omg, yes woman dont want to be weak ? But where has strong manly attidude gotten us ? Men are men , woman are women . Let men be men and women be women .
Yes, this came up on my newsfeed. What really hit me about this is how she’s the one making sacrifices, trying to hold things together, suggesting and implementing solutions… while he gets a full night’s sleep and spends THREE HOURS A DAY(?!?!) in the gym. But hey he eventually managed to allow her 20 minutes of his time and a weekly date night. Looks like his strong muscles are trying to compensate for his weak spine.
Seriously. What surprises me is that none of the comments on this video pre-divorce announcement called that out! 3 hours of the gym while your wife is struggling with a newborn baby is downright selfish. When you have a major life shift like that you have to reassess your priorities, and it seemed he was communicating his priorities pretty clearly. Her feelings that her life was changing dramatically while his wasn't were totally valid. Yet everyone in the comments pre-divorce were just saying "those feelings of resentment are normal, we all go through this!" Well ladies, we shouldn't have to.
Those are natural feelings of resentment after you have a baby. It takes time to have a routine that works but once you have one the baby gets bigger and its time to find another routine. As moms we sacrifice so much to bear our children so its important to feed your soul with whatever makes you happy. I just filmed a video about this on my channel. Thanks for sharing!
Marriage & Motherhood yes, I agree 100%. I do youtube too so that I can have time for myself. As I am always busy with 2 babies and I needed to do something that I really enjoyed. My 'ME' time. 💕
One bit of advice I got when we started our family, (our daughters are grown now, so it was a long time ago) was to always make time for each other. You can raise a happy family, if you have a happy and loving marriage. You’re on the right track. Always keep dating each other. Always talk and share your day with each other. If you love each other, make it work. I’ve been married for 27 years and couldn’t be happier in my marriage! Good luck to you and your family. ❤️
Thank you for always keeping it real. I don’t think ANY blogger really does anymore. Or when they try to, they end their convo by selling a product...marriage is tough. I totally get it and sometimes you feel like you are the only one struggling when everyone is putting on social media that their life is perfect. Thank you again for sharing and Btw Baby Carter’s curls are the cutest thing on the planet!!!
Girl it wasn’t postpartum depression. Your husband should have been helping you with the household instead of prioritizing gym. Women got to stop being so hard on themselves. UA-cam recommending this video after your latest video is next level algorithm
Agreed! I have the suspicion he will soon have a new woman without children “yet” , who will want him to do a “my side of the story” upload and enter into media to ride off of BV’s success. He always seemed a little bit like the type who would need adoration, and probably is already getting it somehow. Or is he going to whine when HIS life gets complicated due to the divorce? Glad BV is centered and strong! She will do everything she can to make sure those beautiful children grow up emotionally healthy.
@bestiefswlady5251 That clown could never get another women to top her. She's the Rolls-Royce of women in beauty and personality. He's a fool to ever cross her!
@@bestiefswlady5251 6 months later, he has a new girlfriend that he introduced the kids too! From Brittany’s newer videos, sounds like he started dating straight away.
Dear Brittany, watching this video, now that you and Ryan are divorcing, is so sad😢, especially since you went through it with your own parents and said you didn’t want that for Carter. A lot can change in 5 years and I am so sorry that divorce is now your reality. You have always been honest and so open about your life. I hope things will settle down for you and you get some peace of mind moving forward. Your UA-cam family will always be here for you. Be kind to yourself. Lots of love from Down Under 😘💕🇦🇺.
I will never understand when people have a baby to “save” their marriage! Having a baby is so hard on marriages! The whole dynamic changes! Glad you are finding time for each other! 🎉 after I had my first I went through the same emotions as you - but worse. I had PPD for sure. ❤️
@@vasseurbeauty This video brings tears to my eyes I know your doing your divorce. I also know you said he’s still living with you while divorce is going down but you once loved each other there still can be hope to reconcile try to find in him and he find in you what you both fell in love about before you married you guys make a great family try to save it.
Brittany thank you for opening up ❤️ your advice for taking just 20 min a day to sit and just talk is such a great and genuine idea ❤️ you’re an amazing wife, mother and woman. Thank you for being such an inspiring ray of sunshine ☀️☀️
Thank you for talking about your marriage. I've been talking about kids a lot with my husband and I think it's because I see so many babies and pregnant women in my life and online doing so well and being perfect. I need to see more reality so that I don't feel like I'm missing out too much.
I have 3 kids who are now 20, 17, and 14. I’ve been married for almost 25 years. It is a lot of work but worth all the effort! My opinion- keep Carter’s curls! Once he gets his big boy hair cut you’ll miss them! Always be honest with how you are feeling. No one can deny your feelings, they are real and honest. Work from there. In my marriage I have found when we are honest about how we feel it is easier to hear each other and find solutions moving forward. Women have a lot of unspoken expectations on men and resentment can easily build. Men usually need clear instructions about what we want/expect from them. Good luck to you all and your son is just beautiful!
Seeing this after we are getting divorced video is breaking my heart. I remember watching you when I was single and so wanting a life like yours now with 2 kids I really feel you and understand the struggle. I’m so sorry but I know you’re brave and strong and can get through it. We are all here for you ♥️
Same I started watching her when I was single and now I’m married with my own kid. I feel for her and I can’t imagine how terrible what she is going through is 😔
Appreciate your openness, Brittany. It’s not easy to say these things out loud and I think you’re right, we tend to shy away from sharing realities. Love that you’re working proactively to get more back on track and I wish you guys all the very best with it! Btw, the accent colour in your living room is soooo peaceful and relaxing!
Yes, thank you, Brittany. It really helps a lot when comparing all of one's life to only the perfect moments being shared online! Although I don't understand some things, I am going to respect the info you decided to share with us and learn from it.
This is so strong for you to admit, most couples go through this but i feel that they dont admit it because they are trying to keep up such a persona. You are so REAL, and you subs really appreciate it
It’s so important that you’re identifying and trying to resolve these issues while Carter is so young! So many people ignore their problems until it’s much too late. You and Ryan seem like such a great match. I’m sure you guys will handle the ups and downs with grace and wisdom. ❤️
That's exactly how my marriage problems started...sleeping in different rooms which has now continued on almost 2+ years...and we just don't have the time, especially now with 2 babies, to connect. Plus we don't have a reliable babysitter so no date nights for us...we recently have been both making an effort to get that spark back in our relationship. It's hard but I believe we can do it. Definatly take your own advice and fix the issue while it still a small one...and i will too. Thank you for sharing...its nice to hear im not alone :)
I knew you were amazing I just didn't know how much.. Honestly when I first came across your channel I was hesitant but I soon began to realize she is so down to earth and real.. now I know I made the right decision. You amaze inspire and make me want to be a better mom. Love ya too Carter
I admire your bravery, honesty, and openness. Not many people are willing to open up like this. Especially to so many people. This just makes me respect you more, though. We are all human. I pray that you, Ryan, and Carter grow stronger through the trials and hardships you go through. You are such a beautiful family! Sending lots of love your way!
Yoriko Truss I completely agree. I've been married to my husband for 22 years and date nights, and communication is the key. Of course there is no perfect anything in this world. But making time for each other is what matters.
Simply talking to your spouse for a little bit evey day is so valuable. My fiance and I call it the "debriefing." It's only about 15 minutes long, right when he gets home from work (I work from home). We talk about the day, laugh a little, and just bond. I live for those moments. Be proud of yourself for taking proactive steps in your marriage, not just reactive. That's amazing. Much love to you both 😙
This is what social media needs - people being honest about how difficult marriage can be etc! I've been through tough times in my marriage, but husband and I have worked through them and have been married for 29 years! Keep strong and keep remembering how much love you have for each other!
I love you and all your videos! You make being a stay at home mom so much easier for me! When i need a pick me up i just watch a video! You are such an inspiration! I’m so sorry you are going through rough times but i know there is a ton of positivity coming your way because of what you have done for so many people with your positivity!
Opening up about your marriage was so brave. You are not alone and your honesty is greatly appreciated. Marriage is hard, but the more we know everybody’s marriage isn’t perfect, the less pressure we feel when going through things.
Dina Morales That is a good thought. Please go ahead and ask. I did that some 12yrs ago to a friend, I didn't even know how badly they needed until later I was told that gesture probably saved their marriage.
You are a great mom/grandma! I have a toddler and I hope that I can remember to do this for her if she is a parent some day. My parents are more than willing to watch my daughter but it is hard for me to ask so it’s so nice when someone offers ❤️
I love that you opened up about this. My fiancé and I haven’t had a single date night alone since our second son was born. I was also feeling resentful because of having to do all the work (I was breastfeeding as well) and he works all day but even if logically it makes sense, it’s still hard. We make sure to watch 1 episode of whatever show on Netflix and snuggle on the couch every night no matter how late it gets
I love your honestly, everyone goes through difficult times it's just important to ride the waves and not fight them. It's great that your taking care of the issues you see before they get to overwhelming to deal with. So many people give up. A home isn't build in a day and neither is a marriage. You seem like a strong happy couple that can push through the obstacles together. Carter is to cute! I love his curls. My son has very curly hair when it starts to get long, I get sad cutting it but he also looks so handsome with it short. My son was so happy to see the car show, he loves fire trucks and was so excited to see one in your video ☺
Carter is still the cutest baby ever💙💙💙 I once heard in Mexico "Lo mejor que un padre puede hacer por sus hijos es amar a la madre", which means "the best a dad can do for its children is to love their mother". A house full of love is seriously the best a child can have. Always wishing you the best to you and your family, love you so much!
When i go back and watch these videos... i believe she was trying to tell us without outright telling us. Her life still seemed so perfect... but she did tell us! Just not completely ❤
You guys are such a beautiful, normal couple! It is awesome how you are being honest, will help others feel less pressure to be perfect all the time. Ryan is an amazing father to Carter, and you can see how much he cares about both of you!
This comment didn’t age well at all. I often realize many women have no discernment, nor judge of character and for red flags when it comes to men. It’s concerning
@@coredadventure1these are the type of women who are used/played the most bcuz they attract the worst that don’t care about them as a person just exploit and then discard them at the end
Re marriage: what’s key is you have the awareness of whats happening with you two as you go. You seem very aware of triggers and their effects on your relationship and that’s awesome. Plus you have a plan to not let things go awry, and stay connected. The emotional connection and bond between you two and as a family is even more important than communication in a lot of ways. If I had one suggestion to offer it is look into the “magic 6 hours a week” approach by John and Julie Gottman. Emphasizes couples helping their relationship thrive by spending 6 hours a week together. Not just any time, but is broken down into rituals of connection like greeting and parting each day, expression affection, a weekly date (even if it’s just an hour or two long) and so on. Believe me, when my husband and I were practicing these things it made a huge difference in our marriage. Consistency is key.. But I feel you. I used to get so upset when my kids were littler and I felt like there was an imbalance of childcare, housework, sleep deprivation etc. Actually I kind of still feel that but hey. Oh forgot to mention the one book that I must recommend that may be life changing for new parents and that is And Baby Makes Three (again by John and Julie Gottman). It discusses the impact that a new baby has on a couple’s life, and how it affects the father and mother differently, what steps you can take to make things better if they get off track and it is SO helpful, insightful and informative. I was trained as a therapist and can tell you thar in the field it is common parlance that most people seek counseling about 7 years “too late”. But that won’t be you because you are taking steps now so your marriage can thrive. Wishing you all the best! xo
I love that your house gets messy and you allowed us to see it, its sounds crazy but that put a smile on my face seeing the pillows on the floor. I struggle maintaning our house with three small kids. I also think you are a great mom it really shows you give everything you have in raising carter. What you invest now you enjoy later. And i have the same stuff with my husband, it goes up and down, its part of life.
Thanks for the reply😘 and i know it sounds horrible but i gave my son a buzzcut because i didnt no what to do with his loose stringy pieces of hair he had, i call it soldier chic😂 his hair is growing back fast and i noticed its also thicker then before. (Sorry for my grammer im from the netherlands🇳🇱) looking forward to your next video, have a good day😉
I think your marriage is very normal. I have a son the same age as carter. We are finally doing really well, communication is key! Thank you for keeping things real! I stopped watching another’s Vlog as soon as your video popped up!
Kudos to you for realizing that things need a shift before they aren’t able to be fixed! I’ve been married almost 23 years.. there’s always adjustments that need to be made best of luck to you guys! 💕 you got this 😘
Brittany, you’re very smart to carve out time for you and Ryan. My kids are 21 & 18, and I can honestly say that spending time together as a couple is a HUGE step in staying together for the long haul. SO glad your mom is going to be watching Carter on Saturday nights, so you guys can have date nights. There’s TONS of date night ideas on Pinterest btw! Good luck and enjoy!!
Thank you for being so honest and real about your relationship. Not many youtubers are open like you, its really refreshing. I wish the best of luck to you and your family.
I can totally relate. We have a special needs child and everything is that much harder. I’m thankful for our nurses because they afford us a little time to get away if only for a few hours. We have made it a thing for just two to go out for date day while the nurse on duty keeps watch. Plus we instructed her to not text but only call if urgent. We are not using our phones on date day but we keep mine in silent vibrate in case the nurse calls. His phone stays in the car. This is something we just implemented and it so helpful keeping us connected. We have been married 10 years and a few times we almost broke. Thanks be to God we are stronger than ever
Omg I love the fact that you do these talks. Thank you so much you have no idea how much hope you bring to people in a few minutes. I’m 19 with a 10 month old and I’ve experienced and currently experiencing what is happening in your marriage. Im defiantly going to try out the 20 minute talks. Thank you once again!! I love you! Please don’t stop doing what you’re doing. You’re an amazing mother that I look up to.
So refreshing that you shared this. (Not to mention brave of you!) I really appreciate how honest you are being, it is so much more relatable than the typical social media mentality of making everything seem perfect. =)
Brittany, you continue to amaze me! You are so wise beyond your years! Good for you for seeing an issue and trying to remedy it before it becomes a bigger problem. You're right, marriage is hard work. There will always be ups and downs...times when you feel close and others far apart. But if you remember to think of your spouse in the things you do, you will find it easier to get back to a good place! You're doing a great job!
Many people feel that the first year of marriage is the hardest. I think the first year with your first baby is the hardest. Thanks for sharing that. I had some of those same resentments. You are doing great!
I totally get you Momma, keeping a happy marriage with a happy toddler is HARD work but you are totally on the right track! The fact that you recognize that you guys needed to change things up is so important and it's what is gonna save you! My advice is to keep communicating, it's so important and many relationships fail because their communication is lacking! Also don't be afraid to ask for help from family and/or Ryan! Hang in there! Also, thanks for being real! :)
I was in the same boat as you...I felt resented towards my husband after I gave birth. I let him sleep in and rest more because he was working. I was on a maternity leave. My recovery took a long time to recover and I was overworking myself. I didn't want to go out or meet anyone besides family. When I looked back, I definitely had postpartum depression. Thank you for opening up and sharing your struggles. It is so important to talk about postpartum and the truth to what holds a relationship together. You are a strong woman and you empower us moms to keep doing what is best for our family.
Thank you so much for your honesty. It's very refreshing seeing someone talk about the difficulties - the realities - of parenthood. I think you have great strategies to overcome this period and become closer. Sending you lots of love 💙 strength and patience 😉
Brittany, you are not alone. It sounds like the same scenario for me too. No one tells you that things will be difficult for your marriage after the baby comes along. I totally get the resentment thing too! Thanks for telling us your private situations. We are all human and living in the real world with adult probs ! ♥️
Hi Joana, so true no one tells the truth. After having our son we realized that it wasn’t easy. But we worked on it. We always take the time for ourself, without our son. We try to do things we used to do before having kid. So after almost 2 years things started to be normal again. Now we are happier than ever. Our little one is 4, and is the best thing that we have in life. But I started telling my friends who didn’t have kids, about how life can change. And also to be careful with what they see on social media. No relationship is perfect. Stay blessed. 💐
I honestly really love the fact that you opened up to us! I glad you two are able to come up with a plan to make it work! Even parents need a night out every once in awhile!
Yup, this sounds like our marriage after giving birth as well. Grandparents are the best recepie in situations like this, so that you and your partner can get some alonetime
Having a baby was really the test to my relationship, I had horrible postpartum depression and horrible anxiety. We had gone through a rough patch but now we are stronger than ever:)
Thank you so much for opening up! I am due with our first baby really soon, and I am definitely going to use this as advice. It’s nice to see someone who has problems at times in their relationship on social media. I know we have gone through things just being married, so I can’t imagine with our new little girl
I think having your first child is a reality check for every marriage! I definitely had some of these same feelings after we had our first child. Thankfully after a year I feel like we are closer than ever:)
Resentment in the situation you had mentioned is totally acceptable! Both parents can stay up, both can contribute, even during odd hours of the day or night. But I’m glad you got through it! If you got through that with Carter, maybe you can take some things you learned during that experience and utilize them moving forward! 😊
You are so brave for sharing your story and talking about a topic that not many people want to talk about. No one talks about how hard it is to bring a baby home and integrate a new person into your lifestyle. We have three boys and each time my husband and I had to work to find a new normal and new routine that worked for everyone. Having that together time is so important and happy mommas and daddies make happy families!
You’re a beautiful family. Every couple needs to take time away from their child/children. Don’t forget about you and Ryan. Sounds like you are aware and are taking steps to things for just the two of you. I love Carter’s curls. My son had the same curls. You’ll know when it’s time to cut. Just enjoy how adorable he looks.
i love seeing Carter. Can't get enough of him. You and your husband seem like a the perfect couple. I have never been married but you guys are an inspiration.
Marriage is difficult, but you guys will get through this! We've been married 10 years and we have to make that commitment of time together, we have date night out and date nights in! One great thing is that ur aware there's a bit of disconnect and you are gonna fix it, that's so crucial, bc people often realize it when it's too late! Much love and hugs sent your way!! 💕😊
It's so inspiring how you prioritize/value your family! My parents had hard family situations, kind of how you explained- but like you, they wanted something different for their kids. I'm sooo glad they worked for our family! Keep doing what you know to do- a strong marriage is the best thing you could give your kids!
Your "best friend" style to your viewers is so refreshing. Everyone needs a shoulder and advice from time to time. You two are doing the best things ever - especially having some "me time" for the two of you to catch up on your day. That is super important. Having a baby, especially the first one, is a huge adjustment for you both. Having your support backup so you two can enjoy a date night is wonderful! Thank you for sharing! *It has been said that once a woman has a baby, it is like dating her husband like brand new. The hubby needs to be extra attentive just like dating again.
Jennifer Bay agreed! By the third kid my husband and I are way more in sync than we were with our first. So much fighting the first year and a half. The song Give Me A Reason by Pink still makes me cry cuz it came out when we were struggling.
I truly appreciate your honesty because perfection is always protrayed on social media. I never would have guessed you and Ryan were going through this, but I'm so glad you invested in your marriage which will only filter down to Carter.
Thank you for being real UA-cam only portrays Mr & Mrs perfect I feel your struggle So glad you are on to it early as resentment builds stronger than bricks and mortar You are a great family unit and your sincerity will help young families also😊
I love that you are sharing your story. I think it's so important for couples to hear what you have to say. People will tell you that life will be different after baby, but nobody really tells you the *ways* that things will be different - especially different for the two parents. Thank you for your honesty and thank you for pointing out that even a little bit of time together can make a difference. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best.
thanks for sharing! i actually cried! i have an 8.5month old and we are in seperate rooms for the same reason. it was really refreshing to hear about the relationship impact of a baby. its not always easy and its nice to know we're not the only ones :)
I must admit that your videos have changed my life and my families life. I was never a clean person and I never even knew how to do it but after your videos I now clean on a daily, your videos are on in our house every morning while I clean and I could never thank you enough! Bless you and your beautiful family! Also let Carter's hair grow!
Thanks for being real as always! You're marriage sounds perfectly normal and you have a great approach to heading off trouble. My husband and I have been married 13 years today and we've worked through these exact issues. 🙂
Take it from a mom who has been married for 47 years and has two sons...grown of course. It is wonderful to be completely a mom to your baby. It is what you had that baby for. But, and this is a BIG but, the relationship you have with your husband is supposed to be till death do you part. Always, ALWAYS make that time to keep things going good between you two. It can be hard at times....sometimes it seems impossible....but Carter will appreciate it when he is grown...and you can still have your best friend till the end. I have gone through seasons of hating everything about my husband...but still loving that guy I fell in love with. Remember when you didn't even see any faults in him at all??!!! As I said, it can be tough, but I am so glad my children had both parents growing up....and they saw how much we loved each other too. It is good all the way around. And I am so glad to see so much of Carter!!!!! HE IS THE CUTEST,, HAPPIEST KID ON YOU TUBE!!!
Sharon Hughes hi Sharon 😀 Im watching this channel too. Your comment brought tears to my eyes. Very inspirational how you've gone trough so many years and still make it work and have your best friend ❤
Sharon Hughes agree. Through thick and thin. My first was twins. Both collicky and born very small. My ENTIRE identity became "twin mom". Ended up with depression. An anxiety disorder (which started in teens) resurfaced, as I was SO overwhelmed with motherhood. No money and no family around meant ZERO breaks from mom role. The ONLY things that saved us was putting the kids to bed at 7pm, nightly, even if they didn't fall asleep right away. Hubby and I atleast had some time together. The other thing was my hub's christian background. He told me all the time, " the D-word is NOT in my vocabulary!" Now, kids are teens and I have perspective. My kids will grow up and have their own lives soon. We have loved and raised them well, but I'm so thankful we made it through the tough years, "as a team". He is my VERY BEST friend!
I get so sad when I see newly weds, or new parents start to lose interest in their marriage...and you can see it clearly most times. I always want to tell them, before they get married, that they are making a lifetime commitment when they say "I do". It is so easy to just chuck it all out the window when things get tough. But, when you stick through all those really bad times....you end up, one day, looking back and seeing how wonderfully you made it through BECAUSE both of you wanted to make it work. My oldest son just celebrated his 23rd year of marriage. I am so proud of them, and they have been through the wringer as some would say. Having a good Christian faith and belief in the Word of God can hold you together when all else seems to be trying to cut you to pieces.
Amie Knudson , Love those baby curls! My son had similar hair to Carter and I loved them so much ! I cried at his first haircut, but I still saved those precious curly locks. 😊
Omg! This sounds exactly like my marriage & situation. I also had a traumatizing birth( third degree tearing) like you. We also had issues of my man always going to the gym or playing games when he could he helping me. Thank you for sharing brittney, it helps me to realize I'm not alone 💗 you guys are doing an AMAZING job!! I'm loving your videos!
Thank you for this video! It’s so true couples do put themselves on the back burner so often once they have a child together. You have to remind each other that you’re family wouldn’t be a family without you two! You will always have that thing that brought you together but you need to fight to keep it going. Explore new hobbies together.. golf, running, games. Anything you both enjoy and can do together and once your son is older. He can join you. Best wishes and I’m happy for you
I've been married 25yrs. It's peaks and valleys the whole time. Everyone needs to realise there is no perfect person, perfect realtionship or perfect family. Its called real life. It's the real world we are all in.
Carter is soooo cute. Let his hair live he’s so handsome. He soo needs to be a model. Best of luck for u Nd ur family u guys are such a beautiful family
You’re not alone. With everything! Traumatic birth, colic, resentment. I felt it all! My sons 3 now and it’s getting better and I think we’re communicating much better. Now we’re thinking number 2 but I have my reservations. Marriage is a rollercoaster. Wishing you guys the best!
Oh the marriage thing, YES! Thank you for sharing! We had the exact same story when our first was born and it took both of us by surprise, how hard it all was not just with the baby, but within our marriage. You're right, NO ONE talks about it! Thank you for sharing candidly. Us first time mommas need to know it's not just our relationship fumbling through the hormones and adjusting to the new dynamic in the house--it's SO common if you can find people who are actually honest about it. My husband and I are so much more solid after working through all these struggles (and new ones show up with every stage of toddlerhood, ha). You're totally right too, catch the problems while they're young and keep them from festering and dividing you two. Good luck with it all, you're doing an amazing job!
You had every right to be angry back when you had Carter. All fathers need to step up and help. I’m glad you guys are doing well. Carter looks happy and he seems really intelligent.
I LOVE Carter's hair! My son is 4 years old and we have never cut his hair. He doesn't want it cut either. We love the long crazy curls but to each their own. You'll know what's right for you when the decision is easy.
Got notification!but the title made me nervous..Carter is just the cutest!he should be a model ...my baby boys had curls like Carter I didn't cut it..it was way too cute..love your channel...YeS!love these chats /talks 💕💖💕
You are an amazing mom to Carter and I can tell you are a wonderful wife. Love that you want your marriage to work and are taking steps, so things will never get out of control. I believe you two have a marriage that will last, because there is so much love there. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
Thank-you so much for your authenticity. I really struggle with perfectionism, which is a huge underlying component of my depression and anxiety. The perfectionist inside me is what drew me to your channel because you have your home, health, beauty, and life so perfectly put together. Seeing the rawness behind that reminds me once again that not everything can always be perfect all the time. It may sound strange, but just your opening up feels like a weight lifted off my shoulders! Trusting that you and Ryan get to carve out more time for each other! I’m not a parent (yet) but I fully believe the best thing a parent can give their child is a strong and healthy marriage. Sending love xx
Ryan has used you from the beginning to support him financially while he lived the bachelor lifestyle. I'm so sorry that you didn't see the red flags sooner
Yes it was very obvious sadly, he exploited and used her as a free cleaning maid. And if this is not horrible enough he also did all the other horrible things to her as she recently shared. Horrific
In retrospect, Ryan has been a douche all along.
My husband was the same way. While we worked so hard for what we had. He did a character assassination on me because he hated me for being successful. But I have grown strong and learned to build boundaries. My heart goes out to Brittany.
You are so amazing for opening up about something all couples experience but rarely share! Only seeing highlight reels on social media can be so tough because real relationships take work and compromise. So proud of you, I know so many people will be able to relate! xox
What Carly said! Marriage and kids are not easy but with effort n love anything is possible. Thank u for ur humbleness. And congrats @carlycristman on ur bundle of joy!
I just watched your announcement!! Congratulations 🎊🎉
you understand the pressures more than most. Scary to start sharing more but it feels cathartic
We took a parenting classes through our church starting when I was pregnant and one of the things that they taught was to have a daily 15 ‘couch’ time where the parents visit with each other about their day, etc in a common area of the house but if they are interrupted by children, they let them know that they mommy & daddy are taking right now but I will help you with that when we are finished. Not only are you taking care of your marriage and catching up with each other but the kids will see the value that mommy and daddy have for one another. This is huge because children innately know that if something happens with the parents then their entire world changes. So it’s a win-win!
Melody Champion im not church like , but some of believes are good , like woman think men cant help, but truth is we women want it all , and dont ask for a mans help, cause we put them down ! They have weakness and strong points ! So do we , and if we just let down our ego , we could all get along . Ego ,omg, yes woman dont want to be weak ? But where has strong manly attidude gotten us ? Men are men , woman are women . Let men be men and women be women .
I wish id do it again to do it right ! But i wouldnt have learned anything doing it right !
Melody Champion couch time is best advice ever!!
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Watching this after the divorce, hits different! Stay strong Brittany ❤
Yes, this came up on my newsfeed. What really hit me about this is how she’s the one making sacrifices, trying to hold things together, suggesting and implementing solutions… while he gets a full night’s sleep and spends THREE HOURS A DAY(?!?!) in the gym. But hey he eventually managed to allow her 20 minutes of his time and a weekly date night. Looks like his strong muscles are trying to compensate for his weak spine.
It really does. I'm so sorry about the divorce. 🙏🏽🙏🏽😔
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@lisabeaumont 100 % agreed. Not exactly a partnership, and then she takes on the responsibility for his selfishness. She deserves better.
Ryan is a narcissist and Brittany is a people pleaser, lots of marriages are like that
3 hours a day of going to the gym is alot when you have a new baby and you need to bond as a family. You also as a new mom needed support.
Exactly. Is he spending three hours a day with his kids? Probably not. It’s all about priorities.
WHO says he went to the gym?
Seriously. What surprises me is that none of the comments on this video pre-divorce announcement called that out! 3 hours of the gym while your wife is struggling with a newborn baby is downright selfish. When you have a major life shift like that you have to reassess your priorities, and it seemed he was communicating his priorities pretty clearly. Her feelings that her life was changing dramatically while his wasn't were totally valid. Yet everyone in the comments pre-divorce were just saying "those feelings of resentment are normal, we all go through this!" Well ladies, we shouldn't have to.
Those are natural feelings of resentment after you have a baby. It takes time to have a routine that works but once you have one the baby gets bigger and its time to find another routine. As moms
we sacrifice so much to bear our children so its important to feed your soul with whatever makes you happy. I just filmed a video about this on my channel. Thanks for sharing!
I really applaud you moms. It's not easy. God bless ya'll!
Two of my favorite youtubers on the same page! Love it!
Marriage & Motherhood yes, I agree 100%. I do youtube too so that I can have time for myself. As I am always busy with 2 babies and I needed to do something that I really enjoyed. My 'ME' time. 💕
One bit of advice I got when we started our family, (our daughters are grown now, so it was a long time ago) was to always make time for each other. You can raise a happy family, if you have a happy and loving marriage. You’re on the right track. Always keep dating each other. Always talk and share your day with each other. If you love each other, make it work. I’ve been married for 27 years and couldn’t be happier in my marriage! Good luck to you and your family. ❤️
Thank you for always keeping it real. I don’t think ANY blogger really does anymore. Or when they try to, they end their convo by selling a product...marriage is tough. I totally get it and sometimes you feel like you are the only one struggling when everyone is putting on social media that their life is perfect. Thank you again for sharing and Btw Baby Carter’s curls are the cutest thing on the planet!!!
Girl it wasn’t postpartum depression. Your husband should have been helping you with the household instead of prioritizing gym. Women got to stop being so hard on themselves.
UA-cam recommending this video after your latest video is next level algorithm
Agreed! I have the suspicion he will soon have a new woman without children “yet” , who will want him to do a “my side of the story” upload and enter into media to ride off of BV’s success. He always seemed a little bit like the type who would need adoration, and probably is already getting it somehow. Or is he going to whine when HIS life gets complicated due to the divorce?
Glad BV is centered and strong! She will do everything she can to make sure those beautiful children grow up emotionally healthy.
That part exactly
THIS.
@bestiefswlady5251 That clown could never get another women to top her. She's the Rolls-Royce of women in beauty and personality. He's a fool to ever cross her!
@@bestiefswlady5251 6 months later, he has a new girlfriend that he introduced the kids too! From Brittany’s newer videos, sounds like he started dating straight away.
Dear Brittany, watching this video, now that you and Ryan are divorcing, is so sad😢, especially since you went through it with your own parents and said you didn’t want that for Carter. A lot can change in 5 years and I am so sorry that divorce is now your reality. You have always been honest and so open about your life. I hope things will settle down for you and you get some peace of mind moving forward. Your UA-cam family will always be here for you. Be kind to yourself. Lots of love from Down Under 😘💕🇦🇺.
I will never understand when people have a baby to “save” their marriage! Having a baby is so hard on marriages! The whole dynamic changes! Glad you are finding time for each other! 🎉 after I had my first I went through the same emotions as you - but worse. I had PPD for sure. ❤️
So true!! I was warned but it was harder than expected
@@vasseurbeauty This video brings tears to my eyes I know your doing your divorce. I also know you said he’s still living with you while divorce is going down but you once loved each other there still can be hope to reconcile try to find in him and he find in you what you both fell in love about before you married you guys make a great family try to save it.
Brittany thank you for opening up ❤️ your advice for taking just 20 min a day to sit and just talk is such a great and genuine idea ❤️ you’re an amazing wife, mother and woman. Thank you for being such an inspiring ray of sunshine ☀️☀️
Thank you for talking about your marriage. I've been talking about kids a lot with my husband and I think it's because I see so many babies and pregnant women in my life and online doing so well and being perfect. I need to see more reality so that I don't feel like I'm missing out too much.
It's the internet, everyone wants everyone to think their lives are perfect.
I have 3 kids who are now 20, 17, and 14. I’ve been married for almost 25 years. It is a lot of work but worth all the effort! My opinion- keep Carter’s curls! Once he gets his big boy hair cut you’ll miss them! Always be honest with how you are feeling. No one can deny your feelings, they are real and honest. Work from there. In my marriage I have found when we are honest about how we feel it is easier to hear each other and find solutions moving forward. Women have a lot of unspoken expectations on men and resentment can easily build. Men usually need clear instructions about what we want/expect from them. Good luck to you all and your son is just beautiful!
Seeing this after we are getting divorced video is breaking my heart. I remember watching you when I was single and so wanting a life like yours now with 2 kids I really feel you and understand the struggle. I’m so sorry but I know you’re brave and strong and can get through it. We are all here for you ♥️
Same I started watching her when I was single and now I’m married with my own kid. I feel for her and I can’t imagine how terrible what she is going through is 😔
Appreciate your openness, Brittany. It’s not easy to say these things out loud and I think you’re right, we tend to shy away from sharing realities. Love that you’re working proactively to get more back on track and I wish you guys all the very best with it!
Btw, the accent colour in your living room is soooo peaceful and relaxing!
Yes, thank you, Brittany. It really helps a lot when comparing all of one's life to only the perfect moments being shared online!
Although I don't understand some things, I am going to respect the info you decided to share with us and learn from it.
This is so strong for you to admit, most couples go through this but i feel that they dont admit it because they are trying to keep up such a persona. You are so REAL, and you subs really appreciate it
It’s so important that you’re identifying and trying to resolve these issues while Carter is so young! So many people ignore their problems until it’s much too late. You and Ryan seem like such a great match. I’m sure you guys will handle the ups and downs with grace and wisdom. ❤️
That's exactly how my marriage problems started...sleeping in different rooms which has now continued on almost 2+ years...and we just don't have the time, especially now with 2 babies, to connect. Plus we don't have a reliable babysitter so no date nights for us...we recently have been both making an effort to get that spark back in our relationship. It's hard but I believe we can do it. Definatly take your own advice and fix the issue while it still a small one...and i will too. Thank you for sharing...its nice to hear im not alone :)
Yup totally agree! After 2 kids myself the best gift a father can give his child is to love their mother ❤️❤️
I knew you were amazing I just didn't know how much.. Honestly when I first came across your channel I was hesitant but I soon began to realize she is so down to earth and real.. now I know I made the right decision. You amaze inspire and make me want to be a better mom. Love ya too Carter
I admire your bravery, honesty, and openness. Not many people are willing to open up like this. Especially to so many people. This just makes me respect you more, though. We are all human. I pray that you, Ryan, and Carter grow stronger through the trials and hardships you go through. You are such a beautiful family! Sending lots of love your way!
Yoriko Truss I completely agree. I've been married to my husband for 22 years and date nights, and communication is the key. Of course there is no perfect anything in this world. But making time for each other is what matters.
Simply talking to your spouse for a little bit evey day is so valuable. My fiance and I call it the "debriefing." It's only about 15 minutes long, right when he gets home from work (I work from home). We talk about the day, laugh a little, and just bond. I live for those moments. Be proud of yourself for taking proactive steps in your marriage, not just reactive. That's amazing. Much love to you both 😙
This is what social media needs - people being honest about how difficult marriage can be etc! I've been through tough times in my marriage, but husband and I have worked through them and have been married for 29 years!
Keep strong and keep remembering how much love you have for each other!
It takes two, though!
This video was SO relatable! I've been through similar feelings! You two are great parents and I wish you both a strong marriage! 😘
Your videos are such a breath of fresh air
perfectly said!!!
Brittany says she throws herself together and looks absolutely stunning! 😍 hope I look as gorgeous as you when I’m a mom!
Christina Marie right!!
Her throw herself together is me taking 2 hrs to get ready 😂
Yukiko Pearson same here
you're too sweet thank you!
I love you and all your videos! You make being a stay at home mom so much easier for me! When i need a pick me up i just watch a video! You are such an inspiration! I’m so sorry you are going through rough times but i know there is a ton of positivity coming your way because of what you have done for so many people with your positivity!
Opening up about your marriage was so brave. You are not alone and your honesty is greatly appreciated. Marriage is hard, but the more we know everybody’s marriage isn’t perfect, the less pressure we feel when going through things.
I love her personality. She works so hard and is so genuine on her channel. We all go through ups and downs in relationships/marriage.
That reminds me I should ask my daughter if she and her husband need to have a date night out.
Dina Morales That is a good thought. Please go ahead and ask. I did that some 12yrs ago to a friend, I didn't even know how badly they needed until later I was told that gesture probably saved their marriage.
You are a great mom/grandma! I have a toddler and I hope that I can remember to do this for her if she is a parent some day. My parents are more than willing to watch my daughter but it is hard for me to ask so it’s so nice when someone offers ❤️
💝you are a good mum
Dina Morales Awww, I love this 😊
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I love that you opened up about this. My fiancé and I haven’t had a single date night alone since our second son was born. I was also feeling resentful because of having to do all the work (I was breastfeeding as well) and he works all day but even if logically it makes sense, it’s still hard. We make sure to watch 1 episode of whatever show on Netflix and snuggle on the couch every night no matter how late it gets
We are the same way! Seriously the same situation, it’s so hard to make time for us as a couple. So I know exactly how I feel
XoJuliana I didn’t know you watched her! ❤️
I love your honestly, everyone goes through difficult times it's just important to ride the waves and not fight them. It's great that your taking care of the issues you see before they get to overwhelming to deal with. So many people give up. A home isn't build in a day and neither is a marriage. You seem like a strong happy couple that can push through the obstacles together. Carter is to cute! I love his curls. My son has very curly hair when it starts to get long, I get sad cutting it but he also looks so handsome with it short. My son was so happy to see the car show, he loves fire trucks and was so excited to see one in your video ☺
After the divorce announcement you tube shows me this video 😔
same 😢
Same
Me too algorithms 🙄
Same
I think it’s because people are watching this video trying to figure out what the cause was
Carter is still the cutest baby ever💙💙💙 I once heard in Mexico "Lo mejor que un padre puede hacer por sus hijos es amar a la madre", which means "the best a dad can do for its children is to love their mother". A house full of love is seriously the best a child can have. Always wishing you the best to you and your family, love you so much!
YES!! Love that saying!!
Carter is adorable (: I wish you and Ryan the best in your marriage and positive vibes your way(:
Love this video. I respect you so much for speaking about the struggles in a marriage after having a child. You are amazing and inspiring. ❤
When i go back and watch these videos... i believe she was trying to tell us without outright telling us. Her life still seemed so perfect... but she did tell us! Just not completely ❤
No one’s life is perfect. Yeah there was a lot of red flags.
You guys are such a beautiful, normal couple! It is awesome how you are being honest, will help others feel less pressure to be perfect all the time. Ryan is an amazing father to Carter, and you can see how much he cares about both of you!
Yet her life looks so perfect on UA-cam. House is perfect her looks etc
@@coredadventure1they’re getting a divorce now
@@johannechampagne7332 oh wow
This comment didn’t age well at all. I often realize many women have no discernment, nor judge of character and for red flags when it comes to men. It’s concerning
@@coredadventure1these are the type of women who are used/played the most bcuz they attract the worst that don’t care about them as a person just exploit and then discard them at the end
Re marriage: what’s key is you have the awareness of whats happening with you two as you go. You seem very aware of triggers and their effects on your relationship and that’s awesome.
Plus you have a plan to not let things go awry, and stay connected. The emotional connection and bond between you two and as a family is even more important than communication in a lot of ways.
If I had one suggestion to offer it is look into the “magic 6 hours a week” approach by John and Julie Gottman. Emphasizes couples helping their relationship thrive by spending 6 hours a week together. Not just any time, but is broken down into rituals of connection like greeting and parting each day, expression affection, a weekly date (even if it’s just an hour or two long) and so on.
Believe me, when my husband and I were practicing these things it made a huge difference in our marriage. Consistency is key..
But I feel you. I used to get so upset when my kids were littler and I felt like there was an imbalance of childcare, housework, sleep deprivation etc.
Actually I kind of still feel that but hey.
Oh forgot to mention the one book that I must recommend that may be life changing for new parents and that is And Baby Makes Three (again by John and Julie Gottman). It discusses the impact that a new baby has on a couple’s life, and how it affects the father and mother differently, what steps you can take to make things better if they get off track and it is SO helpful, insightful and informative.
I was trained as a therapist and can tell you thar in the field it is common parlance that most people seek counseling about 7 years “too late”.
But that won’t be you because you are taking steps now so your marriage can thrive. Wishing you all the best! xo
going to look into this book, sounds like it's just what I need!
I love that your house gets messy and you allowed us to see it, its sounds crazy but that put a smile on my face seeing the pillows on the floor. I struggle maintaning our house with three small kids.
I also think you are a great mom it really shows you give everything you have in raising carter. What you invest now you enjoy later. And i have the same stuff with my husband, it goes up and down, its part of life.
Carter is a human tornado - things are only clean approximately 15 minutes before it's all in shambles again. I don't know why I even bother haha
Thanks for the reply😘 and i know it sounds horrible but i gave my son a buzzcut because i didnt no what to do with his loose stringy pieces of hair he had, i call it soldier chic😂 his hair is growing back fast and i noticed its also thicker then before. (Sorry for my grammer im from the netherlands🇳🇱) looking forward to your next video, have a good day😉
I think your marriage is very normal. I have a son the same age as carter. We are finally doing really well, communication is key! Thank you for keeping things real! I stopped watching another’s Vlog as soon as your video popped up!
Elizabeth Hodoway lol same
Me too!
Glad you guys are also on the right track too!
Is it still normal😂
I LOVE you being more open. I'm a fairly new viewer/subscriber and I love me some authenticity! Carter seems so advanced & intelligent!
Kudos to you for realizing that things need a shift before they aren’t able to be fixed! I’ve been married almost 23 years.. there’s always adjustments that need to be made best of luck to you guys! 💕 you got this 😘
Brittany, you’re very smart to carve out time for you and Ryan. My kids are 21 & 18, and I can honestly say that spending time together as a couple is a HUGE step in staying together for the long haul. SO glad your mom is going to be watching Carter on Saturday nights, so you guys can have date nights. There’s TONS of date night ideas on Pinterest btw! Good luck and enjoy!!
Thank you for opening up about this! Having a baby is SO hard on your marriage, and it’s so nice to know and feel like you’re not alone in that.
Thank you for being so honest and real about your relationship. Not many youtubers are open like you, its really refreshing. I wish the best of luck to you and your family.
I can totally relate. We have a special needs child and everything is that much harder. I’m thankful for our nurses because they afford us a little time to get away if only for a few hours. We have made it a thing for just two to go out for date day while the nurse on duty keeps watch. Plus we instructed her to not text but only call if urgent. We are not using our phones on date day but we keep mine in silent vibrate in case the nurse calls. His phone stays in the car. This is something we just implemented and it so helpful keeping us connected. We have been married 10 years and a few times we almost broke. Thanks be to God we are stronger than ever
Omg I love the fact that you do these talks. Thank you so much you have no idea how much hope you bring to people in a few minutes. I’m 19 with a 10 month old and I’ve experienced and currently experiencing what is happening in your marriage. Im defiantly going to try out the 20 minute talks. Thank you once again!! I love you! Please don’t stop doing what you’re doing. You’re an amazing mother that I look up to.
So refreshing that you shared this. (Not to mention brave of you!) I really appreciate how honest you are being, it is so much more relatable than the typical social media mentality of making everything seem perfect. =)
Brittany, you continue to amaze me! You are so wise beyond your years! Good for you for seeing an issue and trying to remedy it before it becomes a bigger problem. You're right, marriage is hard work. There will always be ups and downs...times when you feel close and others far apart. But if you remember to think of your spouse in the things you do, you will find it easier to get back to a good place! You're doing a great job!
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Many people feel that the first year of marriage is the hardest. I think the first year with your first baby is the hardest. Thanks for sharing that. I had some of those same resentments. You are doing great!
Yes I agree! Our first year of marriage I was pregnant which also wasn't a walk in the park but with baby was much harder
I totally get you Momma, keeping a happy marriage with a happy toddler is HARD work but you are totally on the right track! The fact that you recognize that you guys needed to change things up is so important and it's what is gonna save you! My advice is to keep communicating, it's so important and many relationships fail because their communication is lacking! Also don't be afraid to ask for help from family and/or Ryan! Hang in there!
Also, thanks for being real! :)
I was in the same boat as you...I felt resented towards my husband after I gave birth. I let him sleep in and rest more because he was working. I was on a maternity leave. My recovery took a long time to recover and I was overworking myself. I didn't want to go out or meet anyone besides family. When I looked back, I definitely had postpartum depression. Thank you for opening up and sharing your struggles. It is so important to talk about postpartum and the truth to what holds a relationship together. You are a strong woman and you empower us moms to keep doing what is best for our family.
Thank you so much for your honesty. It's very refreshing seeing someone talk about the difficulties - the realities - of parenthood. I think you have great strategies to overcome this period and become closer. Sending you lots of love 💙 strength and patience 😉
Brittany, you are not alone. It sounds like the same scenario for me too. No one tells you that things will be difficult for your marriage after the baby comes along. I totally get the resentment thing too! Thanks for telling us your private situations. We are all human and living in the real world with adult probs ! ♥️
joanna prevost agreed!!
Missy Dog twins are a blessing! All babies are, no matter how many!
Hi Joana, so true no one tells the truth. After having our son we realized that it wasn’t easy. But we worked on it. We always take the time for ourself, without our son. We try to do things we used to do before having kid. So after almost 2 years things started to be normal again. Now we are happier than ever. Our little one is 4, and is the best thing that we have in life.
But I started telling my friends who didn’t have kids, about how life can change. And also to be careful with what they see on social media. No relationship is perfect.
Stay blessed. 💐
I honestly really love the fact that you opened up to us! I glad you two are able to come up with a plan to make it work! Even parents need a night out every once in awhile!
Yup, this sounds like our marriage after giving birth as well. Grandparents are the best recepie in situations like this, so that you and your partner can get some alonetime
Having a baby was really the test to my relationship, I had horrible postpartum depression and horrible anxiety. We had gone through a rough patch but now we are stronger than ever:)
Thank you so much for opening up! I am due with our first baby really soon, and I am definitely going to use this as advice. It’s nice to see someone who has problems at times in their relationship on social media. I know we have gone through things just being married, so I can’t imagine with our new little girl
Thank you for your honesty! 💖 you are SUCH a beautiful person! I wish you the very best for the future between you and your lovely hubby! Much love 😘😘
I think having your first child is a reality check for every marriage! I definitely had some of these same feelings after we had our first child. Thankfully after a year I feel like we are closer than ever:)
Resentment in the situation you had mentioned is totally acceptable! Both parents can stay up, both can contribute, even during odd hours of the day or night. But I’m glad you got through it! If you got through that with Carter, maybe you can take some things you learned during that experience and utilize them moving forward! 😊
You are so brave for sharing your story and talking about a topic that not many people want to talk about. No one talks about how hard it is to bring a baby home and integrate a new person into your lifestyle. We have three boys and each time my husband and I had to work to find a new normal and new routine that worked for everyone. Having that together time is so important and happy mommas and daddies make happy families!
You’re a beautiful family. Every couple needs to take time away from their child/children. Don’t forget about you and Ryan. Sounds like you are aware and are taking steps to things for just the two of you.
I love Carter’s curls. My son had the same curls. You’ll know when it’s time to cut. Just enjoy how adorable he looks.
i love seeing Carter. Can't get enough of him.
You and your husband seem like a the perfect couple. I have never been married but you guys are an inspiration.
Marriage is difficult, but you guys will get through this! We've been married 10 years and we have to make that commitment of time together, we have date night out and date nights in! One great thing is that ur aware there's a bit of disconnect and you are gonna fix it, that's so crucial, bc people often realize it when it's too late! Much love and hugs sent your way!! 💕😊
It's so inspiring how you prioritize/value your family! My parents had hard family situations, kind of how you explained- but like you, they wanted something different for their kids. I'm sooo glad they worked for our family! Keep doing what you know to do- a strong marriage is the best thing you could give your kids!
Your "best friend" style to your viewers is so refreshing. Everyone needs a shoulder and advice from time to time. You two are doing the best things ever - especially having some "me time" for the two of you to catch up on your day. That is super important. Having a baby, especially the first one, is a huge adjustment for you both. Having your support backup so you two can enjoy a date night is wonderful! Thank you for sharing! *It has been said that once a woman has a baby, it is like dating her husband like brand new. The hubby needs to be extra attentive just like dating again.
You’re so brave for talking about your marriage so openly! Thanks for sharing. Stay strong! Things get easier as they get older. 👌🏻🤗
Jennifer Bay agreed! By the third kid my husband and I are way more in sync than we were with our first. So much fighting the first year and a half. The song Give Me A Reason by Pink still makes me cry cuz it came out when we were struggling.
I truly appreciate your honesty because perfection is always protrayed on social media. I never would have guessed you and Ryan were going through this, but I'm so glad you invested in your marriage which will only filter down to Carter.
Thank you for being real UA-cam only portrays Mr & Mrs perfect I feel your struggle So glad you are on to it early as resentment builds stronger than bricks and mortar You are a great family unit and your sincerity will help young families also😊
I love that you are sharing your story. I think it's so important for couples to hear what you have to say. People will tell you that life will be different after baby, but nobody really tells you the *ways* that things will be different - especially different for the two parents. Thank you for your honesty and thank you for pointing out that even a little bit of time together can make a difference. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best.
thanks for sharing! i actually cried! i have an 8.5month old and we are in seperate rooms for the same reason. it was really refreshing to hear about the relationship impact of a baby. its not always easy and its nice to know we're not the only ones :)
Would love a detailed video about your experiences with breastfeeding! You are always so helpful and I love your videos!!
Yes please! And how you went from sleeping in the same room to his own room while still nursing. It's a struggle for me!
yes this has been on my list!
VasseurBeauty thank you for replying! I love all of your videos and how you’ve grown since your first years! It’s so cool!
Very nice. Appreciate your sincerity and willingness to share real life struggles
Congratulations for being honest. Marriage is work. I am proud of you!
I must admit that your videos have changed my life and my families life. I was never a clean person and I never even knew how to do it but after your videos I now clean on a daily, your videos are on in our house every morning while I clean and I could never thank you enough! Bless you and your beautiful family! Also let Carter's hair grow!
Thanks for being real as always! You're marriage sounds perfectly normal and you have a great approach to heading off trouble. My husband and I have been married 13 years today and we've worked through these exact issues. 🙂
Take it from a mom who has been married for 47 years and has two sons...grown of course. It is wonderful to be completely a mom to your baby. It is what you had that baby for. But, and this is a BIG but, the relationship you have with your husband is supposed to be till death do you part. Always, ALWAYS make that time to keep things going good between you two. It can be hard at times....sometimes it seems impossible....but Carter will appreciate it when he is grown...and you can still have your best friend till the end. I have gone through seasons of hating everything about my husband...but still loving that guy I fell in love with. Remember when you didn't even see any faults in him at all??!!! As I said, it can be tough, but I am so glad my children had both parents growing up....and they saw how much we loved each other too. It is good all the way around. And I am so glad to see so much of Carter!!!!! HE IS THE CUTEST,, HAPPIEST KID ON YOU TUBE!!!
Sharon Hughes hi Sharon 😀 Im watching this channel too. Your comment brought tears to my eyes. Very inspirational how you've gone trough so many years and still make it work and have your best friend ❤
Sharon Hughes agree. Through thick and thin. My first was twins. Both collicky and born very small. My ENTIRE identity became "twin mom". Ended up with depression. An anxiety disorder (which started in teens) resurfaced, as I was SO overwhelmed with motherhood. No money and no family around meant ZERO breaks from mom role. The ONLY things that saved us was putting the kids to bed at 7pm, nightly, even if they didn't fall asleep right away. Hubby and I atleast had some time together. The other thing was my hub's christian background. He told me all the time, " the D-word is NOT in my vocabulary!" Now, kids are teens and I have perspective. My kids will grow up and have their own lives soon. We have loved and raised them well, but I'm so thankful we made it through the tough years, "as a team". He is my VERY BEST friend!
I get so sad when I see newly weds, or new parents start to lose interest in their marriage...and you can see it clearly most times. I always want to tell them, before they get married, that they are making a lifetime commitment when they say "I do". It is so easy to just chuck it all out the window when things get tough. But, when you stick through all those really bad times....you end up, one day, looking back and seeing how wonderfully you made it through BECAUSE both of you wanted to make it work. My oldest son just celebrated his 23rd year of marriage. I am so proud of them, and they have been through the wringer as some would say. Having a good Christian faith and belief in the Word of God can hold you together when all else seems to be trying to cut you to pieces.
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Let his hair grow!! It will be darling.
Amie Knudson those curls melt my heart ❤️
Amie Knudson , Love those baby curls! My son had similar hair to Carter and I loved them so much ! I cried at his first haircut, but I still saved those precious curly locks. 😊
my mom just texted me and is distraught that I'm thinking of cutting his curls haha
VasseurBeauty , LOL! I agree with your mom ! Grandma knows Best ! 🤣
Omg! This sounds exactly like my marriage & situation. I also had a traumatizing birth( third degree tearing) like you. We also had issues of my man always going to the gym or playing games when he could he helping me. Thank you for sharing brittney, it helps me to realize I'm not alone 💗 you guys are doing an AMAZING job!! I'm loving your videos!
Thank you for this video! It’s so true couples do put themselves on the back burner so often once they have a child together. You have to remind each other that you’re family wouldn’t be a family without you two! You will always have that thing that brought you together but you need to fight to keep it going. Explore new hobbies together.. golf, running, games. Anything you both enjoy and can do together and once your son is older. He can join you. Best wishes and I’m happy for you
I've been married 25yrs. It's peaks and valleys the whole time. Everyone needs to realise there is no perfect person, perfect realtionship or perfect family. Its called real life. It's the real world we are all in.
I struggle with my partner having more free time and sleep than I do I completely understand what you’re saying
Carter is soooo cute. Let his hair live he’s so handsome. He soo needs to be a model. Best of luck for u Nd ur family u guys are such a beautiful family
Carter is just so adorable and very clever for his age! ❤
thank you!!
You’re not alone. With everything! Traumatic birth, colic, resentment. I felt it all! My sons 3 now and it’s getting better and I think we’re communicating much better. Now we’re thinking number 2 but I have my reservations. Marriage is a rollercoaster. Wishing you guys the best!
Oh the marriage thing, YES! Thank you for sharing! We had the exact same story when our first was born and it took both of us by surprise, how hard it all was not just with the baby, but within our marriage. You're right, NO ONE talks about it! Thank you for sharing candidly. Us first time mommas need to know it's not just our relationship fumbling through the hormones and adjusting to the new dynamic in the house--it's SO common if you can find people who are actually honest about it. My husband and I are so much more solid after working through all these struggles (and new ones show up with every stage of toddlerhood, ha). You're totally right too, catch the problems while they're young and keep them from festering and dividing you two. Good luck with it all, you're doing an amazing job!
Carter is the cutest baby ever!!! Omg he is like a real live Gerber baby!
You had every right to be angry back when you had Carter. All fathers need to step up and help. I’m glad you guys are doing well. Carter looks happy and he seems really intelligent.
“I just threw myself together” ::::looks like a Victoria secret model::::
FUN IN THE SUN 😎🤣😆😉
FUN IN THE SUN 🤣
I need a video on how to do it 0.0
So true😂
You took the thought right out of my head. (By the way, I invented this phrase for my UA-cam comments) 😂😂😂😂😂!!!
I LOVE Carter's hair! My son is 4 years old and we have never cut his hair. He doesn't want it cut either. We love the long crazy curls but to each their own. You'll know what's right for you when the decision is easy.
He’s such a clever boy, how he understands everything’s just shows that u spend a lot of time with him and teach him stuff xxxx so lovely to see xxx
Got notification!but the title made me nervous..Carter is just the cutest!he should be a model ...my baby boys had curls like Carter I didn't cut it..it was way too cute..love your channel...YeS!love these chats /talks 💕💖💕
Still be together, still be together 🤞🏾
Marriage is hard when you have little ones but it will get easier! xxx
You are an amazing mom to Carter and I can tell you are a wonderful wife. Love that you want your marriage to work and are taking steps, so things will never get out of control. I believe you two have a marriage that will last, because there is so much love there. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
Thank-you so much for your authenticity. I really struggle with perfectionism, which is a huge underlying component of my depression and anxiety. The perfectionist inside me is what drew me to your channel because you have your home, health, beauty, and life so perfectly put together. Seeing the rawness behind that reminds me once again that not everything can always be perfect all the time. It may sound strange, but just your opening up feels like a weight lifted off my shoulders! Trusting that you and Ryan get to carve out more time for each other! I’m not a parent (yet) but I fully believe the best thing a parent can give their child is a strong and healthy marriage. Sending love xx