Exploring Dating After Gender Transition

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  • @FTMDaniel
    @FTMDaniel 7 років тому +2

    I'm glad you're getting out there and dating again. You'll meet someone perfect for you when the time is right.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      +FTMDaniel thank you so much! I'm looking forward to telling youajj about it, whatever the outcome!!!

  • @Vandermin011
    @Vandermin011 7 років тому +1

    I totally agree Finn, there is no healthy space where guilt and shame loom. Have a safe and wonderful date🌹

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Thank you, I am very much enjoying seeing my shame melt away!!!

  • @lukewoolley3164
    @lukewoolley3164 7 років тому +1

    Watching you get on so well in the dating world makes me so happy. Since coming out I haven't found anyone and I think being trans is holding me back, I need to be confident like you!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Thanks my friend. Its been a gentle journey of gradually pushing my boundaries and getting outside my comfort zone and boy its worth it, feel the fear and do it anyway!!

  • @noahmnm
    @noahmnm 7 років тому +1

    I'm so happy to see you making some new videos!!! Incredibly relateable, as always. Have a great date Finn! ❤️❤️

  • @sambroyd693
    @sambroyd693 7 років тому +1

    I am so over the moon for you mate, and having followed you right from the very beginning, to seeing the man you are now, is awesome. Congratulations on your "awakening " and can't wait to hear all about the date. Stay safe my friend. Xx

  • @Foundinthewoodsbushcraft
    @Foundinthewoodsbushcraft 7 років тому +1

    Finn you are wonderful!!! You are on your path to find happiness and you are having fun and enjoying yourself.Isn't that what life's all about.Continue being YOU and you will find joy all around you.Blessings my friend.

  • @friendoftherese1
    @friendoftherese1 7 років тому +2

    With all of your wild arm movements, I'm surprised you didn't lift off the couch! Lol! Ah, Finn, your little mother Sparrow across the pond is keeping you close in her thoughts and prayers. Happy Exploring my friend.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Hahahaha! I know!!!! My body wont sit still!!! Thank you for your thoughts, I look forward to reporting back!!!

  • @Sezwee
    @Sezwee 7 років тому +1

    Great post Finn. You are so spot on. I love the Narnia reference. So funny. 😀

  • @billyjohnson460
    @billyjohnson460 7 років тому +3

    I absolutely love your energy and your upfrontness with life and the journey you're on! You're also adorable! Greetings from Virginia, USA.

  • @ncburton1713
    @ncburton1713 7 років тому +1

    Hope everything goes well! I'm glad you're discovering all this new and fascinating stuff about yourself. Talk about an adventure. :)

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      Oh it reall really is such an amazing adventure! Date went so very very well thank you!!!!!

  • @arthenrowansbay4425
    @arthenrowansbay4425 7 років тому +1

    You are too adorable, looking forward to hear how the date went =D
    For the ones who want to watch the full videos, but think they are a bit long, I often speed up UA-cam videos when there is only talking, so they become a little bit shorter, you can put it on 1.25, 1.50, or 2 times faster, but I usually just set it to 1.25
    I do this to most videos where there is only talking, here on UA-cam

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Ah thats a good idea!!!! I did think about splitting this into 2....but it felt like it all needed to be together and it felt like a video that shouldnt be edited.
      Thank you for being so lovely!!!!

  • @TheAugustineMachine
    @TheAugustineMachine 7 років тому +1

    Awesome and inspirational. We are ever evolving-- how great is that? I love your thoughtfulness -- letting go of shame around sexuality (in general) has been such a beautiful part of my transition. What a gift.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      It truly is a gift! I love ever evolving! Love to you my friend!!

  • @13juniper
    @13juniper 7 років тому +1

    I giggled at the Salt N Peppa song... and then telling yourself "Stop it, Finn!" Your hyper energy makes me happy

  • @jail.2501
    @jail.2501 7 років тому +1

    enjoy your date. take it slow with all the info you want to share. give him absorb. be safe and have a good time.

  • @Andrewcc.
    @Andrewcc. 7 років тому +1

    I can tell your really happy as that was some amazing hand talking going on there. When looking at new elements of your life if it feels right for now, it is. And that doesnt mean youll want to do it again , BUT YOU JUST MIGHT. Take things as they come no pun intended and you just may have some fantastic learning to come. Keep up the good work.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Oh I know I get so animated when I am excited!!! I completely agree with you, this might be right for now and thats it...who knows...but I am just holding it lightly and following what feels right. I already can feel huge amounts of learning and its wonderful!!!! Thank you for your kindness!

  • @MsWendalina
    @MsWendalina 7 років тому

    Have fun on your date, Finn! Just take a couple deep breaths, hold your head high and BE YOURSELF. Literally anyone would be lucky to have YOU in their life, and don't you forget it 😊

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      You are so lovely! Deep breaths are already happening....thank you so much :) x

  • @damianaugust8491
    @damianaugust8491 7 років тому +1

    So now we know: Dawlish is the secret centre of the universe where everything falls into place finally :-)
    All the best wishes for your date! I am really excited for you and a tiny bit envious.

  • @xanderscott144
    @xanderscott144 7 років тому +1

    Good luck on your date, got so much admiration for your journey as always, stepping out in to the big wide world is scary no matter how old, what walk of life, or where you come from, go tomorrow and enjoy yourself, you deserve it, big love look forward to seeing your next video, Xander xx

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      Thank you so much my friend!

    • @xanderscott144
      @xanderscott144 7 років тому

      No problem, every video i watch of yours inspires me to be more confident in myself, in a way your videos are a spiritual and mental refresh to my day, thabk you for enlightening me x

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      I love that! Its why I share so openly!

  • @AEW0416
    @AEW0416 7 років тому +1

    Hope everything went okay and that you're safe. xx

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      It really did thank you!! I had a great time, the vlog is on its way!!!

  • @arourtutor8833
    @arourtutor8833 7 років тому +1

    I feel so much shame toward sex too. so glad you're bringing many things up. I've always loved men as ppl but couldn't bring myself for intercourse. your exploration of self is amazing. I so need to come out of many closets like you've done. I'm so scared and frightened and here you're doing everything I'm afraid of. so much thanks for your bravery. baby steps and one day at a time. yeah, I've got massive dysphoria, top and bottom. massive anxiety about sex. be safe dear!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +2

      It needs to be talked about doesnt it! Im feeling brave....I am going to explore and share as I now realise how much shame has been impacting me negatively and I would like to show that there is no need for it! Thank god for my wonderful woman!!!!!! I will be safe, I promise!!

  • @krismiller4092
    @krismiller4092 7 років тому +1

    wishing you the best on your date.

  • @natashamason3328
    @natashamason3328 9 місяців тому +1

    Such a cute excited Finn 😜💜xx

  • @garyc
    @garyc 7 років тому +1

    Good luck! X

  • @kimunderwood1573
    @kimunderwood1573 7 років тому +1

    Lol I just love you Finn! You make me smile 😀

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Ah you are so lovely! I very much enjoy that fact that I make you smile!!!

  • @wegotthepower
    @wegotthepower 7 років тому

    I really like your videos, Finn! You really inspire me and I hope everything goes well! I sit here and smile :)

  • @itsreallyimportantman
    @itsreallyimportantman 7 років тому +1

    Finn I hope everything has/is going well on your date! I think me and you have had the same type of therapy because like you i give myself to the universe and see what become of it i've had some really good times doing that and believe it or not it was just fluke that i had learned to give myself 'Away' like that (for lack of a better term) it was actually in therapy that i learned about giving myself the chance to trust the universe and it was just the smallest of things and out sprang a great friendship from it and we're still friends today! anyways enough about me - Ive been thinking about you all day and hoping the date has gone well!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      Mine came from some books I read and from the AA program which teaches abut handing over and accepting life on lifes terms, putting the action in but then staying out of the universes way! Its amazing how it works isnt it!!!! The date went well thank you my dear friend, the vlog has just gone up!

    • @itsreallyimportantman
      @itsreallyimportantman 7 років тому

      I bet your glad you read those books! Books are simply quite amazing you find out all sorts of things from them and as they say knowledge is power! There was situation with another dog walker about 18 months ago he'd been verbally abusive towards me and I said to myself let the universe handle this one - not after that his wife fell pregnant, now the flat there in is only one bedroom so now they have to move when the baby is a wee bit older. So your right the universe is amazing!! SO Very Glad it went well , can't wait to watch the Vlog later on tonight - For once its a lovely sunny day so I'm gonna take myself and the dog out for a wee while.

  • @jhay7607
    @jhay7607 7 років тому +1

    the more you grow and discover yourself the more you glow. never let yourself stop yourself. :)

  • @slapdashdigo6758
    @slapdashdigo6758 7 років тому +1

    I totally agree with you! i could date anyone from any sex any race like... just the chemistry, something mutual, spiritual i can't tell. What people don't understand is that i don't happen to feel this with everyone

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      No exactly, its like when people say, "oh you are bi sexual so you have so much more choice in partners.....well no it doesnt work like that.....I dont fancy everyone!!!!" Im the same, Im realising that I am open to just being attracted and the packaging is of little issue

  • @Poeboi
    @Poeboi 7 років тому

    OMG I'm so excited for you sweetie!!!! Be safe.

  • @jessi_starr
    @jessi_starr 7 років тому

    You're absolutely adorable! I can't wait to hear how it goes.

  • @ianmaxwell8497
    @ianmaxwell8497 7 років тому +1

    Wishing you a fantastic date experience! Yeah the sexuality changes with transition are really interesting. While always considering myself to be bi with a leaning toward women before transition, I'm now bi with a leaning toward men! I'm craving men at the moment, why? Who knows and who cares. My big struggle sexually is finding someone to explore with. I think part of that is being 58, it seems everyone wants to date younger. I also find my dating pool has shrunk considerably. Women and men that would date me before, won't now because of being Trans. So I have a bit of frustration, but I'm not giving up. I think the world would be more honest with Poly amorous relationships. I'm so happy you met a Poly woman who has opened doors and helped heal your sexual self into the world.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      It was certainly an aspect of transition I wasnt expecting! I was pretty sure i was straight! I love how being trans has opened me up to moving outside of labels and boundaries!!!
      Im glad you arent giving up, I have some concerns being the age I am but I feel if we keep looking and making ourselves available, it will happen!!!! I agree with you re the poly thing too, it does lead to more conscious and honest interactions. Im excited!!!!!

  • @travismaupin6617
    @travismaupin6617 7 років тому +1

    your such a nice guy sending lots of love to you and your lil lamb

  • @ziellian
    @ziellian 7 років тому +1

    I hope all goes well for you. Just remember, you're honest, genuine, and a cutie...you'll do fine :)

  • @tobijones1193
    @tobijones1193 7 років тому +1

    throw out the rule book and have fun 😆 out with the old and in with the new and exciting

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      +Tobi Jones bloody great advice, i totally agree!!! Thanks my friend!!!

    • @tobijones1193
      @tobijones1193 7 років тому

      FinnTheInfinncible 😊 can't wait for the next update ... hope the date went well 😊

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      It did thank you! Update will be with you within the hour!!!

  • @Merel-fb2uu
    @Merel-fb2uu 7 років тому +1

    Hey my Sunshiney Finn :-) Have fun on your date! You are in an interesting sexperimental phase YAY!
    It only makes sense even the plants are perkier now as you've blasted out of Narnia LOL. Are the gang behaving themselves a bit or do they get up to all kinds of naughtyness (wink wink) now too?
    It's great to see you talk with your whole body and I really love the way Lamby is beholding the scene, and the way you wear the right shirt for the vlog!

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +1

      Oh yes! Seperimental!!!! There is sooooo much naughtiness going on in my flat right now!! The whole gang are at it!!!! Im so animated arent I!!!!!! Haha! Thank you for being such a gorgeous light in my life!

    • @Merel-fb2uu
      @Merel-fb2uu 7 років тому

      Ah thanks bae :-) Like someone else commented, throw out the 'rule book' and have fun while you figure stuff out. It does feel weird doesn't it, looking at sexuality and sex outside of all the surrounding things you've grown up to feel and consider about it. That in itself is a journey. I'm sure you'll have a FinnFabulous time today as your muchness is at full force! Looking forward to hearing about your date ;D

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      It really does feel odd! All sorts of stuff is coming up right now regadring old ways of thinking about whats ok and whats not and new realisations are really taing hold, this is a vlog in itself!!!! Update vlog is on its way!

  • @HiImSpencerTate
    @HiImSpencerTate 7 років тому +1

    there is this channel here on youtube I watch called Conor and Brittany and they are a poly couple! they have a lot of helpful resources if you are interested! heres hoping the date goes well!

  • @MrMaur1
    @MrMaur1 7 років тому

    Dear Finn, is most important that you explore your sexuality, explore your feelings... In my heart I hope that you will find the Best for you, the Best for your life and... when I say this word "The Best" a say Real Love, because only a Big Love in all that you do and think and feel can give you a Wonderful life. It's very difficult to explain what I feel now in another language. Sorry for my mistakes. A Kiss from the heart 💌

  • @michelestaples5547
    @michelestaples5547 7 років тому +13

    lamby has a sexy pose going on. What is going on there?! must be in the water!! lol.

    • @michelestaples5547
      @michelestaples5547 7 років тому

      the furries haven't caught it have they?

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому +5

      The whole flat has been affected by my sexual energy....even the plants are extra perky!!!!

    • @michelestaples5547
      @michelestaples5547 7 років тому +1

      FinnTheInfinncible happy for you! Rather envious actually. lol. Smoothies and huggles

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Ah! Massive huggles back to you!

    • @blackmii
      @blackmii 7 років тому +7

      "Draw me like one of your french Sheep."

  • @fyrespirit999
    @fyrespirit999 5 років тому

    Damn... I need to find me one of those kinds of experts.

  • @sun1one1
    @sun1one1 7 років тому

    I'm FTM, never had any luck with guys who didn't know I was trans ahead of time. They all ran away screaming! Might be different if you've had phallo though.

    • @FinnTheInfinncible
      @FinnTheInfinncible  7 років тому

      Well thats their loss! You dont need idiots like that!!!

  • @nerdommeetsboy
    @nerdommeetsboy 7 років тому +1

    two years ago my reaction to poly people would have been "ewww gross no how can anyone live like that" (which is very judgemental obviously) but the last few people I've seen romantically have been poly so just goes to show how things can change