MsKatelyn01. Your right. I always panick in my mind saying "what should I say to cooperate a bit? will what I say to them be a good thing? am I just someone who is just not a big help for the group? will they not talk to me when we are in a group project? " and many more. I always get this thoughts and then I suddenly think that I should just stay quiet and let them handle it. But when Im just listening to what the group says, they think that Im just a person who is not giving anything to help the group and just sitting comfortably😢
I always panic if I’m in a group of all boys (I’m a girl) because I’m afraid they’ll judge whatever I have to contribute to the project. Luckily during a recent project I had with all boys, everyone appreciated my super helpful advice.......but I still don’t want to do that again
R I C H I E ikr. They dont even do anything anyway. Then they be claiming they contributed to the project. The most they would give us some super ultra mega totally the oppisite of super speacial awesome advice that you wouldnt even use. Tsk tsk tsk
Carmyn Black the key is the connection. Mental connection. You can be with people but only in the physical sense, thats why we need to detach from them. Most often we find it waste of time. When you understand your curse then you can handle all situation.
Not only answering a phone, but calling someone too. What if it's the wrong number? I don't wanna sound like an idiot, even if it is a complete stranger. It's so awkward. That's why I never call anyone.
I don't worry about calling a wrong number, but for whatever reason, I'm terrified that I might call someone when they're in the middle of something and they don't want interrupted.
When someone you're talking to starts to talk to someone else right in front of you, do you walk away? DO YOU JUST STAND THERE!? Do they want you there!? what do you do!?
this so freakin relatable, at lunch, i got 2 friends, i talk to one friend about something, 1 min later they talk to the other friend, i dunno what to do! should i get into the conversation? but i dont even know what they're talking about! what if i say something that's similar to the conversation? then they'll ask me a question! what am i supposed to say if i cant answer the question?! im already hesitant in answering questions!! do they want to talk to me?! am i invisible to them?! do they remember im even there?! *on the outside* is calmly eating my lunch pretending to get the conversation..
Nickel Hunter totally.. n everytime I feel anxious hit me, I told myself not to be too anxious bout it, I end up trembling like crazy it sucks tho even now im feeling anxious lmao
yess...... so tru.... so irriated i am right now... URHHGGGHHHH YAY IMMA GO TO AHHAAA TOMORROW, I HAD AN A IN ALL MY SUBJECTS AND THATS WHY I AND ONE OTHER BOY COULD COME... why not my friends though..... AND UGHH, WHY. WHY. WHY. WHY!!!! WHY DID THAT NEW GIRL SIT TO ME, I WAS SITTING ALONE AND THEN SHE CAME... NOW I HAVE TO SHARE MY DESK!!!! D;< URGHHHHHHHHHHHH I CAN'T EVEN DRAW IN PRIVATE a little bit.... CUZ THERE IS NO PRIVATE.......... BYE NOW...... BYEEEEEEEEEE
It is annoying when you are an introvert trapped in an extrovert's body. It's like 'imma gonna do dis cool thing in public' *five minutes later, sulks in corner and broods over poor social skills*
I also HATE when I order food, and then the waitress hits me with a double whammy, like: would you like a side of fries? or soup and salad? And then I'm stuck, floundering in my seat, mentally screaming "I DID NOT PREPARE FOR THIS!!!" All that mental prep, of picking out what I want, and planning out exactly how I want to word the order, flushed down the toilet. X(
when i order, i try to keep my voice to a minimum because i dont want to disturb anyone around me, then the waiter or whatever cant hear me, i try to speak up a little, they still cant make it out, so i tell my mom, who isn't native in English, so she tells my dad, and my dad tells the waiter, and then the waiter moves on....ordering is so hard...i cant make decisions THAT FAST...i need to think for like a good 10 minutes before coming to a conclusion most of the time, its so much pressure 😫😫😫
I try not to cough, sniff or sneeze in class. I also don’t like getting up for a tissue because the chairs are metal and blowing my nose seems like it’s really loud, and than I don’t know where the trash can is so I’m just going to be walking around the class looking for the trash can
I always hold back coughs in class and sometimes I make a gagging noise when I do, people stare at me like I’m about to vomit. I feel like if I cough too much I’m being annoying. I also don’t blow my nose because I’m afraid people will be really grossed out.
Kalina G Haha I needed to talk German for my exams and I have familiy in Austria so my parent where like you can call them for practise. And I was like NO I AINT CALLING ANYBODY! So my parents said: What if they call you? But I was still like NO THAT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN FORGET IT!!
And when my mum tells me to skype with her cousin to help with math!!! Nooo! Im gonna solve this by myself! Skype is the most akward thing ever invented! I always sit there and say like "yes yes OK....'
In class my nose was bleeding but I was too scared to ask the teacher to leave so I sat there in class swallowing blood and freaking out internally waiting for the bell to ring. Lucky for me someone raised their hand and told the teacher for me. It's really scary for me to talk to teachers and people that I don't know haha.
Oh man... I can relate, when I was little, I was to shy to ask the teacher if I could go to the washroom, so I... Ended up peeing myself... So I tried to make sure no one noticed by just sitting there, and when we were told we could read, well... The book took my place, and of course... The time where we had to put the books away came...
I can't use the school bathrooms.. I just feel like they are really disgusting so I just wait till I get home. I'm glad we can relate, hahah! But at the same time I feel bad that we relate lol...
Back in elementary school i once bought a packaged ice cream in the cafeteria but the bell rang and i gotta hurry to class (because being late always worries me so much) so i just pocketed it, but eight year old me didn't know that ice creams would melt if you put it in your pocket for a long time, and luck me happened to have bought an ice cream with a little hole in the packaging, so there i was, sitting in class nervously gripping my wet sticky pocket for about an hour
Something similar happened to me in elementary school! People always got in trouble for asking to go to the bathroom "you should have gone earlier!". So I just didn't ask, and I ended up peeing myself. I remember my friends getting paper towels for me to try to help me hide it....
I actually don't have a problem with getting phone calls but when it comes to calling people myself...well that's my personal horror scenario. Same goes with conversations. I like talking and having a conversation as long as I don't have to start it
I can talk..it's okay, because like you, I don't want to start the conversation (because I feel like it'd be nonsense to who I'm talking to) unless I'm interested or I know something about it..in phone calls, I don't want to be the one to press the end button because I don't wanna be rude..what if he/she was still saying something and I pressed it?..then they would blame me..😥😥 so as a result, there's an awkward silence..
And one problem all of us introverts have is: we want to be alone, but we get lonely. Edit: dude how’d this get soo many likes?? I haven’t checked this comment In forever lol
I always have my phone on airplane mode, so that when someone calls, I don't know about it and can act all innocent too without lying about not having gotten the call. Because I actually *didn't* get the call. :D
They forgot to add people showing up to your apt or house unannounced. That is one of the worst feeling a knock at your door and having to deal with someone
Yes, and at least 3 different times over the years, police showed up knocking at my door unexpectedly. 1. Falsely accused of a crime (charged dropped) 2. A warrant for PARKING TICKETS (!!!) 3. a psychopath murderer used to live in my apt building and they were looking for him. (True story). So now whenever someone shows up unexpectedly, I have a PTSD-like moment
For real though, I'd be more willing to talk to people if they'd stop whipping out their cells phones every minute to text someone or find something on the internet. If you're going to be on your phone the whole time I'm with you, then why are we even spending time together?
That’s why I read alone at recess because I have a lot to say but no one really cares enough about my life to listen to me rant in and on about the universe.
one of the worst things is when you feel like others are expecting you to ask questions and you really do not like to but you do not want to insult the person by not asking questions but you also do not want to seem too nosey either!
When someone doesn't reply to my text, whoever's around me just sais "give them a call then"and in my head Im thinking "HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO ME!!!!!!!!!"
Me: *tries to call friend but she doesn't answer* Me: Mom, she doesn't answer! Mom: Just call her then. Me: *in mind* I can't believe you've done this-
now this guy gets me..I constantly worry about my phone ringing that I removed my sim card and the only reason i leave the phone on is so that i could play puzzle and mind games all day..oh and he forgot to mention that we hate it when someone knocks at the door. personally sometimes i pretend not to be home so that the person at the door just goes away.
The worst is when you have a friend over and you want them to leave. It's just... Friend: Hey wanna do something fun? Me: Sorry but no. Friend: Why? Me: I dont want to be with you right now. Friend: You dont like me? Me: No it's just... please leave. After that i lost a friend that thought i didnt like him.
wow...thats me on the inside, i hangout with my friend, but now i dont wanna, i wanna get out of this, but im worried what they'd think of me, so i just silently go on with it wishing for it to be over
I'm an introvert that actually loves phone calls and hanging out only with one or two really close friends. Crowds freak me out majorly though. Too many people, too much activity and someone could literally come up behind you and stab you in the back while you're just chatting with a friend and you'd never know it til the last second.
Im an introvert. Im really paranoid how people talk about bad things about me. When I do something good they think Im like a person who thinks highly of myself and they judge me for that. But even when I dont do anything, they think that Im a person that doesnt care anything around me. I always hear them say like Im such a boastful person. And when that happens, I cannot think anything good, in my mind Im panicking. So the reason Im always quiet is the point where they judge me for what I always do. I can hear them say "those words" about me, and I dont know what I should do to make them stop gossiping bad subjects about me. I think there is nothing wrong about me in the first place, they are the ones who makes things difficult for me. And I know that when Im faced with them, they are like smiling at me awkwardly. And when they are on my back, all I hear is their gossiping. Huh. I dont know anymore. I think I will just ignore everything and not by any chance to stumble and hear what they say about me😕
I got that a lot during high school, to the point where I had the entire front row of every classroom to myself (most had only three rows). They'd all be snickering at me behind my back (literally) and believed that I thought I was too good for them. All of the girls would tell me to eff-off (but the actual word), and the guys would think I was a freak and ask why I didn't hang out with the other girls (I'm female). It also doesn't help that I'm taller than most people, so I'm kind of intimidating looking... -_- When formal/prom arrived and I was all dolled up (to the point of being unrecognisable, due to one of my only friends being an amazing make-up artist), people walked up to me to ask who I was and were actually nice. Half of them went back to treating me like crap when I told them who I was, the other half were all surprised that I actually had a personality and were 'sorry' for all the tormenting they put me through. I told them that I didn't need or want their 'apologies', and was beyond sick of how they treated me for years. No amount of fake apologies could make up for how I was treated due to their misconceptions.
Do what you believe is right and don't care about others (negative) opinion about you because there will always be people gossiping and say hurtful words about you ;)
I'm kind of an introvert and kind of an extrovert like I like being around people and hanging out but I also like being alone and worry about what I say.
No one is 100% introverted or extroverted. But no one is exactly half and half either. You lean one way or another. This is because you develop both introverted and extroverted functions throughout the course of your life. Me, I'm a strong introvert because my auxiliary function is actually quite ambiverted, drawing its energy from any available source, not just external ones. So it only reinforces my dominant and tertiary functions in their introverted nature. I won't appear to be extroverted until I'm in my 40s, when I really begin developing my inferior function, which is a very ambitious one.
You could be mostly an ambivert? Idk it depends on how many things you have in common with both sides. If you only have a slight edge towards one or the other, then you're probably considered an ambivert. But if you have a lot higher edge to one or the other, then you're mostly w/e one that is.
There is no such thing as an ambivert. You fall to one side or the other. You cannot be exactly half and half. You can be closer to the middle, but never in the middle exactly.
Am I the only introvert who actually prefers phone calls over texts? It is just, the phone call is much more temporary, and as soon as it is over, I don't have to worry about it. In texting however, the conversation can drag on and I always find it awkward to try to end it. Plus, it doesn't help that I tend to answer texts every few hours (if not days) lol.
I perfer text if my friend says something unimportant like I just took ibuprofen for a headache or I'm petting mg cat or my cat is taking a nap. I can just say okay
I used to be like that but now it’s like physically draining because I now have to respond to whatever they’re saying or repeat myself every time they didn’t hear me🙄
I'm an introvert and I would rather call a friend if it's something important but only close friends. I hate just calling and talking if it's not. So text would be better. But I also kinda don't like to text that much
The worst thing that always happens to me is people calling me on my birthday. You know, like 45 people calling AND another 12 uncles/aunts I didn't know about and OK I'M STARTING TO GET CHILLS JUST THINKING ABOUT IT. So now you know the reason why I dread my birthday rip @me :^)
Chibi Yubel i even hate messages on my birthday because there are so many and i have to answer them otherwise they think i'm rude but then they sometimes end up starting a conversation but i don't want to have a conversation with them
Chibi Yubel God damn it that's the worst part every year. I even have to talk to relatives I never communicate with. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO TALK ABOUT?!
Musicdarkerthanmysoul Same, My grandparents (I live with them) always ask "Why don't you answered it? What if it was something important?" Lol, it drives me crazy.
+Zymoox There's no such thing as a scientifically accurate personality test because human thought and behavior cannot be quantified. There is nothing more unpredictable than human behavior. Yes, we can guess at it and influence it to a certain degree, but ultimately, we cannot control or predict when a person's will kicks in and they start acting contrary to all the assumptions we've made about them. Psychology is barely science. It explores and experiments, but it cannot reproduce results because it has no control to work from.
I don't know why it seems easier for us as introverts to communicate through digital means, than audibly speaking. I totally relate to these things 100%. I always look at extroverts and think," How do they hold a conversation so well?"
I used to be an extrovert (or so my parents claimed), but then I became an introvert. Is that possible? Well, since I'm basically a ghost to anyone I talk to, I shut up completely. Then that's when they notice me, even saying that I should talk more. But when I do, they don't pay attention so I don't talk to them at all.
well, i cannot assure you 100% percent, but for the little i searched up to, introvertness comes from your brain structure, so it's not possible to change it ;) your parents might have assumed you were extroverted because when we are younger we tend to be more energic and stuff.
there are a few kinds of introverts, and you refered one kind as everyone (the kind who get anxiety from talking) me from example, as a 'thinking' introvert (the kind who doesnt get anxiety from talking at all and all we do is think, even when were talking and analyze situations) im actaully paranoid about sharing stuff on accident and giving up info i shouldnt have given in a post somewhere. i read whatever im going to post 70 times and think about what wouldve happened if you put there personal info or smth and after every time i watch a youtube video on my phone i open up whatsapp and gmail to make sure i havnt shared it with anyone. i also cant stand the idea of doing something on the PC while my door is opened.
That moment when you, as an introvert, have to order for all of your friends because they're too scared to do it themselves.... because you're too scared to tell them that you're scared as well.
As an introvert I actually prefer the phone calls to texting because when someone texts me I sometimes spend half an hour just trying to figure out how I should word what I’m trying to say.
I get so damn stressed out while ordering food that I just _cannot_ handle Subway. I avoid it at all costs. And making decisions doesn’t help when I’m indecisive as all hell! Also, sometimes I’ll go off on tangents. I always try to watch people’s body language (mainly because I despise people who can’t read body language for shit, like two of my friends, since that’s how I let people know I don’t want to be talked to), and I’ll pick up on things that to me seem like they aren’t interested in whatever I’m saying. So then I over analyze it and proceed to cut off my talking as quickly as possible and stay silent for awhile. I’ll always be much more comfortable listening to conversations and giving little bits rather than being the center of attention in them. I never really get comfortable enough with other people to start acting a bit more energetic unless I’m with my family or my best friend!
Peractys Z Subway is t e r r i f y i n g. I’ve only been twice, NEVER AGAIN. The last time i went to Subway it was in the middle of a mall and there was a lot of noise and I have pretty bad hearing when there’s a lot of background noise and I couldn’t really hear the person I was giving my order to and didn’t want to ask her to repeat herself and I actually wanted to cry, it was the worst
The way I handle subway is to text what I'm going to order and read it like it's for someone else... I be Like.. ok she wants.... A 6 inch on wheat... Blah blah blah.. Weird but it works for me lol
Whenever I go to a place to get dinner/lunch Mom: "You can tell the waiter what you want, you're old enough." Me: "MOM?! No. I am not going to.." My thoughts: Oh god, oh god, oh god, I'M GONNA SCREW THIS WHOLE THING UP! GOD SAVE ME! My mom knows that I hate to ask people I don't know questions.
xXBurkeAGXx my mom's the same and I swear I told my mother before but she just doesn't get it and forces me to order, ask questions and even PHONE for appointments (like I'm 15 give me a break)
The worst was to work at a call centre as an introvert while being terrified to talk to strangers over the phone. Takes a while to get used to, but eventually you end up really hating what you do.
As an introvert I worry no one will my comments. If no one reads it, I then think about how it was pointless to take the time to type this comment out and put all of my innermost, deep thoughts out there in the real world 😂😓🤣
I am a massive introvert and one of my friends is one too. Our whole friendschip is made of awkward converstations (with awkward pauses between every sentence..) and stares.. This may sound strange and awkward but she is one of the best friends I've ever had!
Talking on the phone in general is a nightmare to me, just thinking about it gives me anxiety. And also every time I have to call someone that aren’t a family member or close friend, it takes me at least half an hour to work up the courage to actually call. I also have to rehearse what I’m going to say, and sometimes there’s even a script... yeah I’m a mess!
I find it almost impossible to make a phone call. When I was a homeschool student in Pennsylvania, certain grades had to take achievement tests to see if we were where we should be for our grade level. Well on the second day of my third grade achievement test we finished up early. The parents who were in charge of the tests that year had us go call and let our parents know we were done. Being someone who gets tied into nervous knots about making phone calls I waited until last to make mine....... Well I got a wrong number and the man on the other end said to me "where you at Becky? I'm coming to get you". My name being Rebecca it freaked me out so badly it was years before I could even touch a phone let alone call someone. I still can't make a call without having the recipient in my phones contacts for a push of a button call or reading the number over and over to make sure I have it right.
I just started being friends with a girl who is an introvert and she has asked me to help her get over her social anxiety. I just want to let you know that you videos have actually helped me a lot! Thank you so much! I love all that you do! (please let me know if you read this!!)
Yass. Even though I don't want to talk to people, words come into my head and I just blurt them out, and get worried that no one heard me or if I have to repeat it. Also when you're asked to answer something and someone asks you to repeat it. Or if you're at a friends house and you don't know what to do so you just follow them around the house. The most awkward part is when you accidentally follow them to the bathroom
You're correct about the phone thing! And I don't go to parties either or any gathering, not even my council meetings, funerals, weddings or any outings. And when I have to go out to shop for food, cannot wait to get back home from these unfomfortable experiences.
That moment when you're on your phone and you get a call but you wait a few seconds to answer because you don't want them to think that you've been anticipating that call.
Phonecalls don't bother me unless it's a number I don't recognise. If I don't recognise it then I don't answer it. My phone is on silent most of the time anyway, so it usually just rings out because I don't hear it lol. I hate making phonecalls to people I don't know though. I get nervous that I'm going to stumble with my words for some reason. I always prepare what I'm going to say before making the call haha. I don't care about read receipts either. If I've read a message and then don't have anything to say to it, then I simply just move on. I don't spend the time worrying about what to say next. It's okay to end a conversation. We are not obligated to have a conversation just because someone starts one. If I have something to say then I will say it. I won't communicate with people just for the sake of communicating. Yes, I am an introvert but I'm not what people would call shy. I'm a confident introvert that's perfectly fine and not paranoid about my introverted ways.
I had a supply teacher in which called me the wrong name for the fist half hour, and me being my socially awkward self said nothing so my friend had to be the one to tell her
It's hard to be an introvert in the workplace. All the small talk, teamwork, communicating etc. Coping with those really is a skill... and even when you do, you come home with all the life sucked out of you. :|
Ok, so I know I just commented this on your video about the 4 things introverts want to say but can't, but THIS is the most accurate representation of my personality I have ever seen in my entire life.
*it's just every form of social interaction that has expectations* Introverts want a few people/a person they feel safe around, where they don't have to worry about how long they talk for or anything else. Just a relaxing conversation...that's relatively short so they don't have to worry about you getting bored or wanting to leave without saying it.
Neither. These are things introverts prefer to minimize or avoid, mainly because they're draining. They become paranoia when a person begins to dread them, and that dread takes over their life.
I am an introvert who is actually a very good communicator. I've spent years introspecting and understanding myself as well as observing human behaviour. I value "real" conversations. It's loud or shallow conversations that I cannot stand. This makes me picky about who I choose to spend my time with or talk to. I would rather be alone than engage in a crappy conversation.
I even prepare some short sentences before calling my cousins, and it takes me about 1 hour to decide to call my lecturer because I think I dont know how to say fluently and politely.
This is so me! I also have autism/asperger, not much but a little according to well those people who gave me the label, but I have had social anxiety, I´ve also been insanely shy, but this video is so great, it describes me so great. Also the thing about phone-calls is that the one friend that I have likes calling me when he want to hang out or just talk sometimes, and when that happens I go into a place where I´m arguing should I answer and hope it will go short, should I just ignore the call and text him that I message him later, which will cause me to constantly have that one thing distracting me for the entire day. Also I hate the fact that I can´t read the entire message on for example Facebook, what´s app and so on, plus if I open it they will see that I´ve read it and they will see that I´m online. You just made my day better. :)
My friend and I are both gamers, and we don't play online together too much... He ALWAYS seems to point out that I prefer playing in single player... He, however, is quite the opposite. He brings up how much "I'm a loner" at every opportunity he gets... So much, to the point that he seems to be forcing himself into being and extrovert, and demonizes introversion, as if it's how we choose to be... Next time, I'm calling him out on his bullshit. And to anyone still reading (who is trying to see if it applies to them), he also does this with exercise, and sports, and talent and so on. I ride a dirt bike, almost daily (when I can), which is a BIG workout in itself... I get way more exercise in a day than he does in a week. With sports, he always says he's "so much better than me" in the sports we both play, and completely dismisses the idea that the sports I play (which he doesn't), are actual sports... On top of that, he tells me that he's "an actual Canadian" because he plays hockey (1)
(2) And I play basketball ("No true Scotsman yada yada yada...(basketball was invented by a Canadian btw). He also says that he's more talented... yada yada... Bullshit bullshit... Little does he know, I'm creating a job for myself (at 14) with art/cars (or both at the same time). The only talent that I know of that he has, is that he's slightly better at me in CS:GO... Really... Just reeeaally. Aaand, going back to the beginning of this, he thinks I never talk to anybody, and that I'm all alone, all the time... He, my friends, is very wrong about that. I have a pretty large community of followers on a car based app (basically Facebook for car people) who NONSTOP message me to the point my notifications are off (which, I love, don't get me wrong, it's absolutely amazing). And keep in mind, this is MY BEST FRIEND of AT LEAST 10 years, if not, more. He isn't even the worst. And the worst thing of all, is what he says about a (female) friend of mine.
(3)mini story) There is a good friend of mine I've known for about two years, and I've been friends with her for about four months. I live in eastern Canada, and she lives in the middle of the US, so we're about a half a continent away from each other. The first time I seriously talked to her, I stayed up until 1:00 AM texting her, nonstop, which started around 5:00 PM (3 till 11 for her). We would (most likely) be dating by now, if she didn't have a boyfriend... Which I'm fine with. Most of her family is from where I live (or close to it). Her sister's wedding was this summer, and they had one ceremony in the states, and one here in Canada, meaning that she would be here for about two weeks. I knew about it in about six months advance, and once I became friends with her, I was excited to meet her, resulting in me talking about it a good amount. My "friends" then started to joke that I was dating her, which I didn't mind, as I really wanted it to be true.
(4) But, as you may guess, after THREE MONTHS OF THE SAME FUCKING JOKE, it got REALLY repetitive... And I was absolutely fucking sick of it. They continued to harass me about it every single time they deemed necessary. Tonight, I went to a small party/bonfire with them. The entire time, the jokes I told, weren't meanspirited, and we're just little pokes of fun... This, somehow means, in their peanut sized brains, that they should make horrible personal attacks (which, I might add are a lot harder to ignore when they're right in front of you, and are your "friend". Now, don't get me wrong, I love free speech, and don't think people should have to be censored, but I don't know why they would attack me for jokes that weren't even hurtful, and usually not directed at anyone... I just... Don't... Know. And I'm just fucking done with this. If you're facing the same thing, just remember what I am doing... Oh, and one last thing until my rant is done...
(5) The next time something, be it good or bad, happens to me and that girl... I'm showing her this... And I'm not kidding either, once I'm done this, I'm screencapping this so I know I have it... Jordan, (or anyone at Blimey Cow) if you see this, please make it a video... You don't even have to credit me... But it took a while to get out, and it means a lot to me, and I hope if there's anyone reading this (which, holy shit, thanks for sticking with me) who is going through the same thing, do what I did, tell them just to fuck right off and don't turn back... But then again, what do I know... I'm only 14........
(6) Oh, and if all that shit wasn't bad enough... I recently GOT HIT BY A DAMN CAR recently, at no fault of my own (as confirmed by a police officer). I was crossing an intersection on my dirt bike and was hit from the side by someone who was sitting at the stop sign... And when I posted something on snapchat about it, his response the next time we saw each other was "well why did you have to tell us that".... Hmmm, I don't know, maybe it's because I was HIT BY A FUCKING CAR!!! And he said it like he had never posted anything on Facebook along the lines on "just took a shit".... Real great job at bein a friend there. What fuckin egotistical douchebags I'm "friends with"...
Lmbooooooo always thought these problems were just me. I REALLY HATE ORDERING FOOD ESPECIALLY when you have to walk up to the cashier and you're all alone. Or calling in food😣😣😣 I mean, I know some of my friends struggle with this. But I didn't know someone could get this IN DEPTH with my constant anxieties. I wouldn't have thought it was the introvert in me. BUT I FEEL SO ENLIGHTENED. THANK YOU FOR THIS CLARITY. Follow up video on how to deal with these introvert anxieties 😂😂👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼
Group projects are the devil in whatever school type you're in as an introvert.
So true the moment the teacher says "Turn to your partner" or "The person next to you", the hopes for the class being good that day go down the drain.
MsKatelyn01. Your right. I always panick in my mind saying "what should I say to cooperate a bit? will what I say to them be a good thing? am I just someone who is just not a big help for the group? will they not talk to me when we are in a group project? " and many more. I always get this thoughts and then I suddenly think that I should just stay quiet and let them handle it. But when Im just listening to what the group says, they think that Im just a person who is not giving anything to help the group and just sitting comfortably😢
I always panic if I’m in a group of all boys (I’m a girl) because I’m afraid they’ll judge whatever I have to contribute to the project. Luckily during a recent project I had with all boys, everyone appreciated my super helpful advice.......but I still don’t want to do that again
Try being an introvert architecture student.. it's an utter hell
R I C H I E ikr. They dont even do anything anyway. Then they be claiming they contributed to the project. The most they would give us some super ultra mega totally the oppisite of super speacial awesome advice that you wouldnt even use. Tsk tsk tsk
When I'm alone, I'm lonely, but when I'm with people, I want to be alone
EXACTLY!!
Why is this video and ALL the comments so relatable for me?!?
SAAAAME!!! If it's more than 3 people, it gets too much
Natalie Jones same
Carmyn Black the key is the connection. Mental connection. You can be with people but only in the physical sense, thats why we need to detach from them. Most often we find it waste of time. When you understand your curse then you can handle all situation.
Not only answering a phone, but calling someone too. What if it's the wrong number? I don't wanna sound like an idiot, even if it is a complete stranger. It's so awkward. That's why I never call anyone.
I know the feeling, I had to call the college I applied at and it was the scarist thing ever.
I don't worry about calling a wrong number, but for whatever reason, I'm terrified that I might call someone when they're in the middle of something and they don't want interrupted.
Jenny Calhoun asking someone out is even worse 😬
Jenny Calhoun same I just hate calling people
lmao you sound just like me!
when i finally do talk people look at me like im an idiot
Canyon Beary
same. I also get ignored!~ :'D
I'm dead inside.
Canyon Beary
They sound strange in my opinion
Same.
Same here
That’s how I feel too,but I bet they don’t actually think anything of me talking.
When someone you're talking to starts to talk to someone else right in front of you, do you walk away? DO YOU JUST STAND THERE!? Do they want you there!? what do you do!?
this so freakin relatable, at lunch, i got 2 friends, i talk to one friend about something, 1 min later they talk to the other friend, i dunno what to do! should i get into the conversation? but i dont even know what they're talking about! what if i say something that's similar to the conversation? then they'll ask me a question! what am i supposed to say if i cant answer the question?! im already hesitant in answering questions!! do they want to talk to me?! am i invisible to them?! do they remember im even there?!
*on the outside*
is calmly eating my lunch pretending to get the conversation..
reading this is panicking to me
OMG LITERALLY THE BIGGEST STRUGGLE???? I just awkwardly stand there and i hate it so much
Nickel Hunter totally.. n everytime I feel anxious hit me, I told myself not to be too anxious bout it, I end up trembling like crazy it sucks tho even now im feeling anxious lmao
IKR
You forgot the thing worse than phone calls. FACETIME
Just give an excuse why you didn't answer, like you were on the toilet for a few days
Oh gosh those give me nervous breakdowns .-.
I never thought about that, actually.
+Shipwreck Samantha that's why I skype without the camera on
YES
NEVER HAVE I RELATED TO A VIDEO SO MUCH!
HI LOL
Oh my goodness yes
yess...... so tru.... so irriated i am right now... URHHGGGHHHH YAY IMMA GO TO AHHAAA TOMORROW, I HAD AN A IN ALL MY SUBJECTS AND THATS WHY I AND ONE OTHER BOY COULD COME... why not my friends though..... AND UGHH, WHY. WHY. WHY. WHY!!!! WHY DID THAT NEW GIRL SIT TO ME, I WAS SITTING ALONE AND THEN SHE CAME... NOW I HAVE TO SHARE MY DESK!!!! D;< URGHHHHHHHHHHHH I CAN'T EVEN DRAW IN PRIVATE a little bit.... CUZ THERE IS NO PRIVATE.......... BYE NOW...... BYEEEEEEEEEE
Same… I'm glad I'm not only one who does these things😂😂🤘🏻💙
Me too
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It is annoying when you are an introvert trapped in an extrovert's body. It's like 'imma gonna do dis cool thing in public'
*five minutes later, sulks in corner and broods over poor social skills*
Isaac Shoffren THATS ME THE STRUGGLE IS REAL
😂😂 me too
Isaac Shoffren you must be an ambivert
9,999,999M views not really
LOL...Yes!!!!
I also HATE when I order food, and then the waitress hits me with a double whammy, like: would you like a side of fries? or soup and salad? And then I'm stuck, floundering in my seat, mentally screaming "I DID NOT PREPARE FOR THIS!!!" All that mental prep, of picking out what I want, and planning out exactly how I want to word the order, flushed down the toilet. X(
SwagPotato well the answer is always soup unless it's just vegetable or tomato.
SwagPotato I totally understand you, I'm struggling everytime with my stammer...
I laughed so hard reading this
This is what I'm thinking a while ago. I already picked out what I wanted to buy and then rehearsed what I'm gonna say in my head. Then she asked me
Ikr!
A good introvert doesn't need Facebook.
xylophone me, I'm not on Facebook ha! ☺️😂
A: "... she doesn't even have Facebook..."
A: "... she thinks she's better than us..."
B: "...yeah, but in reality..."
it'll be all that over again
So glad I don't have one. I don't even have friends outside of home. Only online.
My mom forces me to have one so she can communicate with me
xylophone Ha! But majority of the school assignments are posted in Facebook so introvert me has to suffer :')
Restaurants are the worst; when i order my voice gets 2 times higher than normal and i rehearse ordering in my head lol
I do too. :/
when i order, i try to keep my voice to a minimum because i dont want to disturb anyone around me, then the waiter or whatever cant hear me, i try to speak up a little, they still cant make it out, so i tell my mom, who isn't native in English, so she tells my dad, and my dad tells the waiter, and then the waiter moves on....ordering is so hard...i cant make decisions THAT FAST...i need to think for like a good 10 minutes before coming to a conclusion most of the time, its so much pressure 😫😫😫
Natalie Caldw3ll that is exactly my situation omg
Imaan Ahmed This is how I feel. I don't want to be rude with people. I keep my voice low and hate to negotiate specially in countries like India.
Olivia Dameron yeah..
I try not to cough, sniff or sneeze in class. I also don’t like getting up for a tissue because the chairs are metal and blowing my nose seems like it’s really loud, and than I don’t know where the trash can is so I’m just going to be walking around the class looking for the trash can
I have the same situations at school too :(
Sameeeeee. I'm paranoid that kids would look at me weirdly or yell at me if I make noise :(
I thought I was the only one omg
this is very relatable
I always hold back coughs in class and sometimes I make a gagging noise when I do, people stare at me like I’m about to vomit. I feel like if I cough too much I’m being annoying. I also don’t blow my nose because I’m afraid people will be really grossed out.
Mom: Did you call him?
Me: I texted him, but he's not texting back. I can wait.
Mom: Go and phone him.
Why mom, why?
Hahaha!! thanks for a good and relatable laugh
Kalina G Haha I needed to talk German for my exams and I have familiy in Austria so my parent where like you can call them for practise.
And I was like NO I AINT CALLING ANYBODY!
So my parents said: What if they call you?
But I was still like NO THAT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN FORGET IT!!
I hate calling people it’s hard to
Kalina G Me too!!!! My mom does that all the time and im like “i will call them later, mom!”
And when my mum tells me to skype with her cousin to help with math!!! Nooo! Im gonna solve this by myself! Skype is the most akward thing ever invented! I always sit there and say like "yes yes OK....'
In class my nose was bleeding but I was too scared to ask the teacher to leave so I sat there in class swallowing blood and freaking out internally waiting for the bell to ring. Lucky for me someone raised their hand and told the teacher for me. It's really scary for me to talk to teachers and people that I don't know haha.
Oh man... I can relate, when I was little, I was to shy to ask the teacher if I could go to the washroom, so I... Ended up peeing myself...
So I tried to make sure no one noticed by just sitting there, and when we were told we could read, well... The book took my place, and of course... The time where we had to put the books away came...
I can't use the school bathrooms.. I just feel like they are really disgusting so I just wait till I get home. I'm glad we can relate, hahah! But at the same time I feel bad that we relate lol...
Back in elementary school i once bought a packaged ice cream in the cafeteria but the bell rang and i gotta hurry to class (because being late always worries me so much) so i just pocketed it, but eight year old me didn't know that ice creams would melt if you put it in your pocket for a long time, and luck me happened to have bought an ice cream with a little hole in the packaging, so there i was, sitting in class nervously gripping my wet sticky pocket for about an hour
Something similar happened to me in elementary school! People always got in trouble for asking to go to the bathroom "you should have gone earlier!". So I just didn't ask, and I ended up peeing myself. I remember my friends getting paper towels for me to try to help me hide it....
one time i got sick of talking to people so i just used my tiny white board and people didnt care.
I actually don't have a problem with getting phone calls but when it comes to calling people myself...well that's my personal horror scenario. Same goes with conversations. I like talking and having a conversation as long as I don't have to start it
Ray Tanhì meanwhile I have to start everything. The only painful thing about it is what to talk about.
I can talk..it's okay, because like you, I don't want to start the conversation (because I feel like it'd be nonsense to who I'm talking to) unless I'm interested or I know something about it..in phone calls, I don't want to be the one to press the end button because I don't wanna be rude..what if he/she was still saying something and I pressed it?..then they would blame me..😥😥 so as a result, there's an awkward silence..
You are correct...if someone talk with me I can talk but starting conversations is not my cup of tea....
OMFG I HATE PHONE CALLS AND ORDERING FOOD. I ALWAYS SOUND LIKE AN IDIOT
Kitty Kat same
Kitty Kat same
Kitty Kat same!
And one problem all of us introverts have is: we want to be alone, but we get lonely.
Edit: dude how’d this get soo many likes?? I haven’t checked this comment In forever lol
Yes. Yes. Yes
so flippin true
LOL Yes!
I know the feeling
Yes!!! totally agree with u
I always have my phone on airplane mode, so that when someone calls, I don't know about it and can act all innocent too without lying about not having gotten the call. Because I actually *didn't* get the call. :D
Brilliant!!! I have to do this now. :3 Tenks fren.
PotterheadGeeK7 GENIUS!!!
I do that too it’s great
I once switched off airplane mode and I had 4 calls from my mum xD
PotterheadGeeK7 same here! lol
They forgot to add people showing up to your apt or house unannounced. That is one of the worst feeling a knock at your door and having to deal with someone
I really don't like that. I would not open the door. LoL
So true. The Schwan's guy knocked the other day and before he actually got to the door, I ran through the house looking for someone else to open it.😂
Yes, and at least 3 different times over the years, police showed up knocking at my door unexpectedly.
1. Falsely accused of a crime (charged dropped)
2. A warrant for PARKING TICKETS (!!!)
3. a psychopath murderer used to live in my apt building and they were looking for him. (True story).
So now whenever someone shows up unexpectedly, I have a PTSD-like moment
Group projects at school.
Expecially when it's random and you get someone you don't know well or dislike.
For real though, I'd be more willing to talk to people if they'd stop whipping out their cells phones every minute to text someone or find something on the internet. If you're going to be on your phone the whole time I'm with you, then why are we even spending time together?
R M
Ikr like when im with friends they just go on Facebook all day
R M usually to smoke
That’s why I read alone at recess because I have a lot to say but no one really cares enough about my life to listen to me rant in and on about the universe.
R M AMEN.
one of the worst things is when you feel like others are expecting you to ask questions and you really do not like to but you do not want to insult the person by not asking questions but you also do not want to seem too nosey either!
Giiiiiiirl, yes! So true 😥🙈
When someone doesn't reply to my text, whoever's around me just sais "give them a call then"and in my head Im thinking "HOW COULD THIS HAPPEN TO ME!!!!!!!!!"
Me: *tries to call friend but she doesn't answer*
Me: Mom, she doesn't answer!
Mom: Just call her then.
Me: *in mind* I can't believe you've done this-
now this guy gets me..I constantly worry about my phone ringing that I removed my sim card and the only reason i leave the phone on is so that i could play puzzle and mind games all day..oh and he forgot to mention that we hate it when someone knocks at the door. personally sometimes i pretend not to be home so that the person at the door just goes away.
angela mondoh when someone knocks on the door I basically do what my cats do and quietly run and hide. I am a mess of a human lmao
The worst is when you have a friend over and you want them to leave. It's just...
Friend: Hey wanna do something fun?
Me: Sorry but no.
Friend: Why?
Me: I dont want to be with you right now.
Friend: You dont like me?
Me: No it's just... please leave.
After that i lost a friend that thought i didnt like him.
wow...thats me on the inside, i hangout with my friend, but now i dont wanna, i wanna get out of this, but im worried what they'd think of me, so i just silently go on with it wishing for it to be over
I am happy that i am not the only one :)
;)
When you said answer the phone I legit felt a chill up my spine
I gasped I was like NO! 😫 I HATE talking on the phone!
+Haley angelo it's like "woah, he went there" it's one thing if they talk about controversial topics BUT NOT ANSWERING THE PHONE
I don't mind answering the phone as much, but I'm pretty much paranoid of making phone calls.
Or when it goes to voicemail and you haven't thought about what you want to say O.O
+Sarah Berkner Same!
#dontcallintroverts
#callthextraverts
Who ya gonna call? Not the introverts. Also not the new ghostbusters because well..... You know.
Jkop But definitely NOT the introverts. We won't answer.
+Jenna Williams Amen
+Jkop you stole my comment!!!
Imagine being an introvert with ADD, depression, and a bad habit of procrastination. Hahaha ha ha...
stratibro's Propane Train Music welcome to my life
stratibro BRUH YOU JUST DESCRIBED ME. YOU'RE NOT ALONE. HOLY COW
This is me right now !
How do you know how I am????????? *terrifyingly hides under blanket and shakes* h-how?????? t-that is so m-me!!!
Me
I'm an introvert that actually loves phone calls and hanging out only with one or two really close friends. Crowds freak me out majorly though. Too many people, too much activity and someone could literally come up behind you and stab you in the back while you're just chatting with a friend and you'd never know it til the last second.
A Garcia I fully agree. I am lonely without people Yet dont trust most catch 22
You a social introvert
Bruh I'm scared now
You are an ambivert u know to middle ones welcome to the club
Lmao you’re not a true introvert then😂😂
Im an introvert. Im really paranoid how people talk about bad things about me. When I do something good they think Im like a person who thinks highly of myself and they judge me for that. But even when I dont do anything, they think that Im a person that doesnt care anything around me. I always hear them say like Im such a boastful person. And when that happens, I cannot think anything good, in my mind Im panicking. So the reason Im always quiet is the point where they judge me for what I always do. I can hear them say "those words" about me, and I dont know what I should do to make them stop gossiping bad subjects about me. I think there is nothing wrong about me in the first place, they are the ones who makes things difficult for me. And I know that when Im faced with them, they are like smiling at me awkwardly. And when they are on my back, all I hear is their gossiping. Huh. I dont know anymore. I think I will just ignore everything and not by any chance to stumble and hear what they say about me😕
I got that a lot during high school, to the point where I had the entire front row of every classroom to myself (most had only three rows). They'd all be snickering at me behind my back (literally) and believed that I thought I was too good for them. All of the girls would tell me to eff-off (but the actual word), and the guys would think I was a freak and ask why I didn't hang out with the other girls (I'm female). It also doesn't help that I'm taller than most people, so I'm kind of intimidating looking... -_- When formal/prom arrived and I was all dolled up (to the point of being unrecognisable, due to one of my only friends being an amazing make-up artist), people walked up to me to ask who I was and were actually nice. Half of them went back to treating me like crap when I told them who I was, the other half were all surprised that I actually had a personality and were 'sorry' for all the tormenting they put me through. I told them that I didn't need or want their 'apologies', and was beyond sick of how they treated me for years. No amount of fake apologies could make up for how I was treated due to their misconceptions.
So in other words, none of those people matter. Only those who can see and respect you for you do.
Do what you believe is right and don't care about others (negative) opinion about you because there will always be people gossiping and say hurtful words about you ;)
paranoia is worse when you're a socially anxious introvert...
it is but I'm an extravert
+Krusper Butter (Koopa) dude chill.
...
Me AF
Exaaaactly....A lot of this stuff still applies to me because I'm a socially anxious extravert.
I'm kind of an introvert and kind of an extrovert like I like being around people and hanging out but I also like being alone and worry about what I say.
Same. I've kind of just pushed though the introvertedness thought. Although I still get paranoid a lot.
No one is 100% introverted or extroverted. But no one is exactly half and half either. You lean one way or another. This is because you develop both introverted and extroverted functions throughout the course of your life. Me, I'm a strong introvert because my auxiliary function is actually quite ambiverted, drawing its energy from any available source, not just external ones. So it only reinforces my dominant and tertiary functions in their introverted nature. I won't appear to be extroverted until I'm in my 40s, when I really begin developing my inferior function, which is a very ambitious one.
same
You could be mostly an ambivert?
Idk it depends on how many things you have in common with both sides.
If you only have a slight edge towards one or the other, then you're probably considered an ambivert. But if you have a lot higher edge to one or the other, then you're mostly w/e one that is.
There is no such thing as an ambivert. You fall to one side or the other. You cannot be exactly half and half. You can be closer to the middle, but never in the middle exactly.
Lol, my sister is an introvert and she raised her hand on every single one of these XD
i see you every week here… COOL
+The Geek Wave I see you replying to every single comment xD what's up with that lol
Wyatt W. Ikr... But there's nothing wrong with that! (It's a good way to get subscribers :P[And I actually did sub to him last week XD])
Mason McGuire then my hand is still up
Mason McGuire same.
i thought i was weird,i can relate to all of this .God i hate calling people back.
Am I the only introvert who actually prefers phone calls over texts?
It is just, the phone call is much more temporary, and as soon as it is over, I don't have to worry about it. In texting however, the conversation can drag on and I always find it awkward to try to end it. Plus, it doesn't help that I tend to answer texts every few hours (if not days) lol.
I perfer text if my friend says something unimportant like I just took ibuprofen for a headache or I'm petting mg cat or my cat is taking a nap. I can just say okay
I used to be like that but now it’s like physically draining because I now have to respond to whatever they’re saying or repeat myself every time they didn’t hear me🙄
I'm an introvert and I would rather call a friend if it's something important but only close friends. I hate just calling and talking if it's not. So text would be better. But I also kinda don't like to text that much
The worst thing that always happens to me is people calling me on my birthday. You know, like 45 people calling AND another 12 uncles/aunts I didn't know about and OK I'M STARTING TO GET CHILLS JUST THINKING ABOUT IT.
So now you know the reason why I dread my birthday rip @me :^)
#DONTCALLINTROVERTS
Chibi Yubel i even hate messages on my birthday because there are so many and i have to answer them otherwise they think i'm rude but then they sometimes end up starting a conversation but i don't want to have a conversation with them
Memories are... to important ღ AMEN
Chibi Yubel God damn it that's the worst part every year. I even have to talk to relatives I never communicate with. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO TALK ABOUT?!
AngieGandalf6 DUDE WHAT IF THEY START SINGING HAPPY BIRTHDAY OVER THE PHONE WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? LAUGH? STAY QUIET? SING WITH THEM?!
I don't answer our house telephone ever
Or my phone
Hadi Arabpour Dahooei but I don't think I have a social anxiety disorder, at least I was never diagnosed with it 😬
Musicdarkerthanmysoul A quiet phone is a happy phone
Me neither haha
Musicdarkerthanmysoul Same, My grandparents (I live with them) always ask "Why don't you answered it? What if it was something important?" Lol, it drives me crazy.
How do you know all these things about introverts so accurately Jordan??? Were you once an introvert????????
He's stated before that he is an introvert
+Caleb G. But he tested as an ENFP (Extrovert). I think Blimey Cow is just taking part in the internet phenomenon which is introversion.
+monkeyoftheforest Where did he say that?
Also, josh writes these.
+Zymoox There's no such thing as a scientifically accurate personality test because human thought and behavior cannot be quantified. There is nothing more unpredictable than human behavior. Yes, we can guess at it and influence it to a certain degree, but ultimately, we cannot control or predict when a person's will kicks in and they start acting contrary to all the assumptions we've made about them. Psychology is barely science. It explores and experiments, but it cannot reproduce results because it has no control to work from.
I don't know why it seems easier for us as introverts to communicate through digital means, than audibly speaking. I totally relate to these things 100%. I always look at extroverts and think," How do they hold a conversation so well?"
I used to be an extrovert (or so my parents claimed), but then I became an introvert. Is that possible? Well, since I'm basically a ghost to anyone I talk to, I shut up completely. Then that's when they notice me, even saying that I should talk more.
But when I do, they don't pay attention so I don't talk to them at all.
well, i cannot assure you 100% percent, but for the little i searched up to, introvertness comes from your brain structure, so it's not possible to change it ;) your parents might have assumed you were extroverted because when we are younger we tend to be more energic and stuff.
Blimey cow never fails to deliver
Well…. i guess
I see you have decided to be the commenter who replies to everything for this video. Godspeed man. Godspeed.
+Jkop i do this every week
That couldn't have anything to do with Labor Day, could it? :)
Except when they do...
there are a few kinds of introverts, and you refered one kind as everyone (the kind who get anxiety from talking)
me from example, as a 'thinking' introvert (the kind who doesnt get anxiety from talking at all and all we do is think, even when were talking and analyze situations)
im actaully paranoid about sharing stuff on accident and giving up info i shouldnt have given in a post somewhere. i read whatever im going to post 70 times and think about what wouldve happened if you put there personal info or smth and after every time i watch a youtube video on my phone i open up whatsapp and gmail to make sure i havnt shared it with anyone. i also cant stand the idea of doing something on the PC while my door is opened.
That moment when you, as an introvert, have to order for all of your friends because they're too scared to do it themselves.... because you're too scared to tell them that you're scared as well.
Literally my introvert secret weapon is being able to creep away from ALL conversations
As an introvert I actually prefer the phone calls to texting because when someone texts me I sometimes spend half an hour just trying to figure out how I should word what I’m trying to say.
I get so damn stressed out while ordering food that I just _cannot_ handle Subway. I avoid it at all costs. And making decisions doesn’t help when I’m indecisive as all hell!
Also, sometimes I’ll go off on tangents. I always try to watch people’s body language (mainly because I despise people who can’t read body language for shit, like two of my friends, since that’s how I let people know I don’t want to be talked to), and I’ll pick up on things that to me seem like they aren’t interested in whatever I’m saying. So then I over analyze it and proceed to cut off my talking as quickly as possible and stay silent for awhile.
I’ll always be much more comfortable listening to conversations and giving little bits rather than being the center of attention in them. I never really get comfortable enough with other people to start acting a bit more energetic unless I’m with my family or my best friend!
Peractys Z Subway is t e r r i f y i n g. I’ve only been twice, NEVER AGAIN. The last time i went to Subway it was in the middle of a mall and there was a lot of noise and I have pretty bad hearing when there’s a lot of background noise and I couldn’t really hear the person I was giving my order to and didn’t want to ask her to repeat herself and I actually wanted to cry, it was the worst
The way I handle subway is to text what I'm going to order and read it like it's for someone else... I be Like.. ok she wants.... A 6 inch on wheat... Blah blah blah.. Weird but it works for me lol
Same I hate subway. I get so stressed and I never know what to say. I would rather just stay home and eat. Ordering food is a lot
@@vonciamoneake4119 I'm going to try that
@@madisonwilson1164 it works!! 😂
PREACH!!! Pree....e...
Sorry, I'm being too loud aren't I...
LOLOLOLOL
You must think you're better than all of us
S-sorry..
+The Canadian Wizard ○□○ lolz
Mis Fortune XD ya, I know. I quite like the canadian stereotypes.... eh?
Whenever I go to a place to get dinner/lunch
Mom: "You can tell the waiter what you want, you're old enough."
Me: "MOM?! No. I am not going to.."
My thoughts: Oh god, oh god, oh god, I'M GONNA SCREW THIS WHOLE THING UP! GOD SAVE ME!
My mom knows that I hate to ask people I don't know questions.
xXBurkeAGXx my mom's the same and I swear I told my mother before but she just doesn't get it and forces me to order, ask questions and even PHONE for appointments (like I'm 15 give me a break)
The worst was to work at a call centre as an introvert while being terrified to talk to strangers over the phone. Takes a while to get used to, but eventually you end up really hating what you do.
Same
Kinda true about accepting whatever u get even if u don't want it
As an introvert I worry no one will my comments. If no one reads it, I then think about how it was pointless to take the time to type this comment out and put all of my innermost, deep thoughts out there in the real world 😂😓🤣
I am a massive introvert and one of my friends is one too. Our whole friendschip is made of awkward converstations (with awkward pauses between every sentence..) and stares..
This may sound strange and awkward but she is one of the best friends I've ever had!
About the the first item. People have told me that they thought I was stuck up because I wouldn't talk much.
Nari Hunter same omg
*phone rings*
Me: *screams* and *throws phone across room*
Parents: what's wrong!
Me: points at phone *still screaming*
Parents: *sigh*
I feel like this video truly understands me. All of these introverted videos truly understand me.
Testing my ability to post comments...
Response test...
Test passed. Certificate being issued.
Ashin John :)
My Monday has already become messy, and it's still Sunday night!
Nice one.*
*that wasn't sarcastic
But it's Labor Day
Talking on the phone in general is a nightmare to me, just thinking about it gives me anxiety.
And also every time I have to call someone that aren’t a family member or close friend, it takes me at least half an hour to work up the courage to actually call. I also have to rehearse what I’m going to say, and sometimes there’s even a script... yeah I’m a mess!
I find it almost impossible to make a phone call. When I was a homeschool student in Pennsylvania, certain grades had to take achievement tests to see if we were where we should be for our grade level. Well on the second day of my third grade achievement test we finished up early. The parents who were in charge of the tests that year had us go call and let our parents know we were done. Being someone who gets tied into nervous knots about making phone calls I waited until last to make mine.......
Well I got a wrong number and the man on the other end said to me "where you at Becky? I'm coming to get you". My name being Rebecca it freaked me out so badly it was years before I could even touch a phone let alone call someone. I still can't make a call without having the recipient in my phones contacts for a push of a button call or reading the number over and over to make sure I have it right.
I just started being friends with a girl who is an introvert and she has asked me to help her get over her social anxiety.
I just want to let you know that you videos have actually helped me a lot! Thank you so much! I love all that you do! (please let me know if you read this!!)
He is so right about accepting mess ups from fear of speaking up! I am an introvert and I HATE correcting other people's mistakes.
Yes I hate phone calls when ever possible I avoid them like the plague
Dearest introverts, if your friend walks off texting while you're still talking to them, they're being rude. Not you. Your voice matters too. ❤️
Yass. Even though I don't want to talk to people, words come into my head and I just blurt them out, and get worried that no one heard me or if I have to repeat it. Also when you're asked to answer something and someone asks you to repeat it. Or if you're at a friends house and you don't know what to do so you just follow them around the house. The most awkward part is when you accidentally follow them to the bathroom
You're correct about the phone thing! And I don't go to parties either or any gathering, not even my council meetings, funerals, weddings or any outings. And when I have to go out to shop for food, cannot wait to get back home from these unfomfortable experiences.
When you said answer the phone my heart stopped. I have a huge fear of people calling me or people demanding I call them. No no no!!!!
I also hate 'parties' & 'networking'.
You just described my life..I'm watching this right after ignoring a phone call
Thumbs up for that little white light in the top left corner of the screen. Learn to catch these things, Jordan! xP
HATER jk
Why did you have to point it out.... I was literally staring at it the whole time lol
I noticed that as well...
(also lol I found your comment)
It's been there for weeks! I pointed it out over a month ago I think. 😂😂😂
What am I missing?
I'm glad I found this channel. This guy nailed it! (watching this on my phone while making sure my "do not disturb" is on)
That moment when you're on your phone and you get a call but you wait a few seconds to answer because you don't want them to think that you've been anticipating that call.
Phonecalls don't bother me unless it's a number I don't recognise. If I don't recognise it then I don't answer it. My phone is on silent most of the time anyway, so it usually just rings out because I don't hear it lol.
I hate making phonecalls to people I don't know though. I get nervous that I'm going to stumble with my words for some reason. I always prepare what I'm going to say before making the call haha.
I don't care about read receipts either. If I've read a message and then don't have anything to say to it, then I simply just move on. I don't spend the time worrying about what to say next. It's okay to end a conversation. We are not obligated to have a conversation just because someone starts one. If I have something to say then I will say it. I won't communicate with people just for the sake of communicating.
Yes, I am an introvert but I'm not what people would call shy. I'm a confident introvert that's perfectly fine and not paranoid about my introverted ways.
All of these apply to me. lol introverts unite alone on the internet
I had a supply teacher in which called me the wrong name for the fist half hour, and me being my socially awkward self said nothing so my friend had to be the one to tell her
Charlie Edwards I let my grade 9 teacher call me by the wrong name all year. He never found out he was wrong...
This video means a lot to me - especially the part about the phone calls. I can not express my gratitude toward you enough :)
when the subway lady can't hear a word you say and you're just gonna hope you get something edible
Genevieve McKinnon yup
It's hard to be an introvert in the workplace. All the small talk, teamwork, communicating etc. Coping with those really is a skill... and even when you do, you come home with all the life sucked out of you. :|
When it comes to phone calls if it is a close long time friend I am comfortable enough to pick up.
The first shall be last.
i got that
Oh no! I was first!
Seth
+The Geek Wave Geek.
Classic Chrisnoh
Ok, so I know I just commented this on your video about the 4 things introverts want to say but can't, but THIS is the most accurate representation of my personality I have ever seen in my entire life.
*it's just every form of social interaction that has expectations*
Introverts want a few people/a person they feel safe around, where they don't have to worry about how long they talk for or anything else. Just a relaxing conversation...that's relatively short so they don't have to worry about you getting bored or wanting to leave without saying it.
I put my phone on Airplane Mode 23/24.
I do too 25/8
does the paranoia make an introvert or being an introvert produces the paranoia
introvertedness produces paranoia
AHHHHhhhHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHY TO COMPLICATED FOR UA-cam
I think introverts produce paranoia coming from personal experience.
Neither. These are things introverts prefer to minimize or avoid, mainly because they're draining. They become paranoia when a person begins to dread them, and that dread takes over their life.
Have to say though, part of the paranoia was developed from my parents' maxim of 'Don't talk to strangers/nosy neighbours.'
Seriously! Texting is so easy, everybody does it!! Why do you have to call???!!!!!
I am an introvert who is actually a very good communicator. I've spent years introspecting and understanding myself as well as observing human behaviour. I value "real" conversations. It's loud or shallow conversations that I cannot stand. This makes me picky about who I choose to spend my time with or talk to. I would rather be alone than engage in a crappy conversation.
THIS IS TOO ACCURATE 💀
Instead of being paranoid just doesn't answer the phone cause anyone who is worth talking to knows not to call an introvert
I even prepare some short sentences before calling my cousins, and it takes me about 1 hour to decide to call my lecturer because I think I dont know how to say fluently and politely.
#DontCallIntroverts
No... for real... don’t
When people start texting while I’m talking or interrupt, I get so mad. This video is so relatable 🙄
This is so me! I also have autism/asperger, not much but a little according to well those people who gave me the label, but I have had social anxiety, I´ve also been insanely shy, but this video is so great, it describes me so great. Also the thing about phone-calls is that the one friend that I have likes calling me when he want to hang out or just talk sometimes, and when that happens I go into a place where I´m arguing should I answer and hope it will go short, should I just ignore the call and text him that I message him later, which will cause me to constantly have that one thing distracting me for the entire day. Also I hate the fact that I can´t read the entire message on for example Facebook, what´s app and so on, plus if I open it they will see that I´ve read it and they will see that I´m online. You just made my day better. :)
Anyone else scared of being a loud eater?
I’m scared that I’m a loud breather whenever I have my headphones on in public
Omg yes
My friend and I are both gamers, and we don't play online together too much... He ALWAYS seems to point out that I prefer playing in single player... He, however, is quite the opposite. He brings up how much "I'm a loner" at every opportunity he gets... So much, to the point that he seems to be forcing himself into being and extrovert, and demonizes introversion, as if it's how we choose to be... Next time, I'm calling him out on his bullshit. And to anyone still reading (who is trying to see if it applies to them), he also does this with exercise, and sports, and talent and so on. I ride a dirt bike, almost daily (when I can), which is a BIG workout in itself... I get way more exercise in a day than he does in a week. With sports, he always says he's "so much better than me" in the sports we both play, and completely dismisses the idea that the sports I play (which he doesn't), are actual sports... On top of that, he tells me that he's "an actual Canadian" because he plays hockey (1)
(2) And I play basketball ("No true Scotsman yada yada yada...(basketball was invented by a Canadian btw). He also says that he's more talented... yada yada... Bullshit bullshit... Little does he know, I'm creating a job for myself (at 14) with art/cars (or both at the same time). The only talent that I know of that he has, is that he's slightly better at me in CS:GO... Really... Just reeeaally. Aaand, going back to the beginning of this, he thinks I never talk to anybody, and that I'm all alone, all the time... He,
my friends, is very wrong about that. I have a pretty large community of followers on a car based app (basically Facebook for car people) who NONSTOP message me to the point my notifications are off (which, I love, don't get me wrong, it's absolutely amazing).
And keep in mind, this is MY BEST FRIEND of AT LEAST 10 years, if not, more. He isn't even the worst. And the worst thing of all, is what he says about a (female) friend of mine.
(3)mini story) There is a good friend of mine I've known for about two years, and I've been friends with her for about four months. I live in eastern Canada, and she lives in the middle of the US, so we're about a half a continent away from each other. The first time I seriously talked to her, I stayed up until 1:00 AM texting her, nonstop, which started around 5:00 PM (3 till 11 for her). We would (most likely) be dating by now, if she didn't have a boyfriend... Which I'm fine with. Most of her family is from where I live (or close to it). Her sister's wedding was this summer, and they had one ceremony in the states, and one here in Canada, meaning that she would be here for about two weeks. I knew about it in about six months advance, and once I became friends with her, I was excited to meet her, resulting in me talking about it a good amount. My "friends" then started to joke that I was dating her, which I didn't mind, as I really wanted it to be true.
(4) But, as you may guess, after THREE MONTHS OF THE SAME FUCKING JOKE, it got REALLY repetitive... And I was absolutely fucking sick of it. They continued to harass me about it every single time they deemed necessary. Tonight, I went to a small party/bonfire with them. The entire time, the jokes I told, weren't meanspirited, and we're just little pokes of fun... This, somehow means, in their peanut sized brains, that they should make horrible personal attacks (which, I might add are a lot harder to ignore when they're right in front of you, and are your "friend". Now, don't get me wrong, I love free speech, and don't think people should have to be censored, but I don't know why they would attack me for jokes that weren't even hurtful, and usually not directed at anyone... I just... Don't... Know. And I'm just fucking done with this. If you're facing the same thing, just remember what I am doing... Oh, and one last thing until my rant is done...
(5) The next time something, be it good or bad, happens to me and that girl... I'm showing her this... And I'm not kidding either, once I'm done this, I'm screencapping this so I know I have it... Jordan, (or anyone at Blimey Cow) if you see this, please make it a video... You don't even have to credit me... But it took a while to get out, and it means a lot to me, and I hope if there's anyone reading this (which, holy shit, thanks for sticking with me) who is going through the same thing, do what I did, tell them just to fuck right off and don't turn back... But then again, what do I know... I'm only 14........
(6) Oh, and if all that shit wasn't bad enough... I recently GOT HIT BY A DAMN CAR recently, at no fault of my own (as confirmed by a police officer). I was crossing an intersection on my dirt bike and was hit from the side by someone who was sitting at the stop sign... And when I posted something on snapchat about it, his response the next time we saw each other was "well why did you have to tell us that".... Hmmm, I don't know, maybe it's because I was HIT BY A FUCKING CAR!!! And he said it like he had never posted anything on Facebook along the lines on "just took a shit".... Real great job at bein a friend there. What fuckin egotistical douchebags I'm "friends with"...
wow this is so true
i can so relate. if i don't think a person really cares i'll keep my answers as short as possible.
When my friends ask me why I don't answer the phone, I'll tell them to watch this video. It'll work!
Why the fuck does "read receipts" even exist? Mine is permanently turned off.
Whatsapp, the best invention ever for us!
It's the worst for me xD..
Ariel Segieda I use Messenger and Snapchat.
This video could not describe an introvert, such as myself, any better. Agree with this entire video 100 percent.
Lmbooooooo always thought these problems were just me. I REALLY HATE ORDERING FOOD ESPECIALLY when you have to walk up to the cashier and you're all alone. Or calling in food😣😣😣
I mean, I know some of my friends struggle with this. But I didn't know someone could get this IN DEPTH with my constant anxieties. I wouldn't have thought it was the introvert in me. BUT I FEEL SO ENLIGHTENED. THANK YOU FOR THIS CLARITY. Follow up video on how to deal with these introvert anxieties 😂😂👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼
You're really talking out of my soul xD It feels good not to be alone at all :D