THAI WIFE & RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS In THAILAND 🇹🇭
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In one of my latest videos I discussed the issues I was having with my Thai wife 😬 • Video which received a lot of comments from people who have had similar experiences with a Thai woman and also people just offering their support 🤝 so in this video I discuss some of your comments and talk about certain points in more detail 👍
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Once she is upset she will not calm down. She will never apologize because she is never wrong. Her money is her money and your money is her money.
I was married to a similar woman from another country. The problem is that personality disorders are more present in certain parts of the world. If a woman is a narcissist, bipolar, sociopath or borderline she has an extremely low prognosis of ever-changing. Walking on eggshells and being subject to manipulation, gaslighting, temper tantrums, controlling behaviour, constantly talking to other guys and being demeaned is not a life worth living. Regardless of how much you love the person. Such a person can never be pleased, happy about anything or feel contentment. Guys! Do not think for a second that you will be able to change her.
You described my ex to a t. A nightmare.
absolutely, you cannot change someone with a narcissitic or socioptathic personality, which are prevalent here, and the cause to most of their problems and corruption, these traits are tolerated here and even accepted, once children are exposed to it for a short amount of time, they inherit these personality disorders, so the cycle continues, i treat most of the people i meet here even farang as possessing these type of disorders, but again not all thai i know or farang here are like this,,, its just far too many are...if you are spiritual in any way...you must be careful on who you spend your time time and energy on, otherwise they drain the life out of you...
@@nikkimclay5474because they hate us
I never did and offered a holiday to Isla Margerita (Neava Esparta) Venezuela. We did a domestic flight for a jungle safari....
I used my return ticket... she didn't.... was 1998.. never heard a word since... I can't complain she "choose" to stay....!
If a woman tells you she doesn’t love you anymore, believe it!
Exactly ! And love won’t come back no matter how hard you try.
Right on! I don't know why men put themselves through this madness. If a woman told me that I would be gone.
Thank you 🙏🙏🙏🙏 she loves the fact that she's been financially provided for!!! That's it!!!
I have heard this time and time again Thai girl take men for there financial security ( at least 95%) guys fall for there warm ways smile and sexual needs but things don’t seem to last a long time Dan you as a person you strong and this would be your greatest advantage Thai girls have one main motive we all know they can’t handle issues problems you got a son and see him through whatever-happens I hope we can meet for a long drink and chat one day be strong the sea will be calmer in your favour keep your faith ❤️🙏and best wishes always stay safe .....
@@MoshiraMitano unless you come into a serious inheritance or win the lottery!
Thank you Dan.I appreciate your honesty.Im currently in relationship with A Thai woman for past 6 years.Im doing all I can and my best but its still not enough for her..
yeah mate ,i understand you
Dude. I feel you 100%.married 3.5 years and have son, but still feel like 3rd wheel, and only called for when nobody else is there or cash register. Feel so lonely and trapped bro. Not leaving my son. She is a good mum. Thanks for the honest video. Bless you brother 💙
The one thing I learned about marriages and relationships with children, just because you have children with the woman, doesn't mean that it's going to work out. You can try to work it out, but once it's on downhill slope, nearly impossible to get it spiraling up again. I'm not trying to put a damper on things but I have experience what you're going through and I'm just being real.
Thanks Dan. I’ve been seeing my “Thai girlfriend “ for about 4 months and I can relate to a lot of what you say. In general, she is a wonderful woman, but she can be a nightmare too. I’m not sure it’s worth the hassle for me. We have no commitments together so I can walk away. I don’t actually think I would date another Thai woman. Thanks for sharing. Watching your videos has become a part of my life, and I wish you all the very best sir.
Cool. If you can't walk away, you're a slave and going to be manipulated, end of.
That's prob.. They're Buddhist, don't speak English with very little drop of western culture.
@@BonVoyage861 Yah? They celebrate xmas? They sing Bruno Mars, Ed Sheeran?
I have a friend now that is in a similar situation to you Dan. I’ve been talking to him daily and trying to support him without judgement. He’s doing everything to keep his family together which is very noble of him, unfortunately at the sacrifice of his own happiness. I often think how long can he keep that up,…as in being miserable and in a loveless one way relationship. Your not alone brother.
one sided is how a friend here when i first arrived described them
@@Rodderz1 for him it’s all about the kids. 1 hers, the other his he was tricked into having. Backfired on her tho because she got stuck into having the baby outside of Thailand. So he balks her when she threatens to leave! Sucked in!
I can see why so many guys stick to the 3 day rule.
I am 58 and at my age I just couldn't be bothered with all the brain damage.
what’s the 3 day rule?
@@VapourSword it means you don't stay with the same girl for more than 3 consecutive days.
@@VapourSwordpump dump. Goes against the grain unfortunately.
@chrismiles8297 never stay too long with a Thai woman, or you WILL fall in love with her.
The words that helped me the most in my last relationship were "I am not Thai man, I am Falang". It can offset a lot of things if she understands that some cultural bridges are too big to cross. Of course, we have to do the same and sometimes accept things that simply don't appear to make any sense. They have their ways, we have ours, and sometimes there's no middle ground. You either accept it or stick to bargirls and only short time. She'll never be a westerner and you'll never be a Thai. Both have to understand this if the relationship is to work in the long run.
100% TRUE I AGREE.
Most Thai girls only achieve a 'mentality' of about that of a 14 year old girl. Look at Thai advertising, soaps and shows! They all present over the top drama! The girls soak it up! Their background knowledge on most subjects, science, history, geography and FINANCE is normally appalling ! You wouldn't date similar in your own country's -why do it here?
That's prob.. They're Buddhist and don't speak English.
@@semi5alpha I agree on the buddhist thing but somewhat less on the language barrier. My lady speaks English fluently but at the end of the day she's still Thai.
funny thing though they are attracted to you because you are the exact opposite to them....keep that in mind, to me abuse is abuse no matter where you come from, saying its part of the culture doesnt make it not abuse,,,,,I know there are good Thai's that reject this behavior, and don' t follow these primitive traditions, they are way past that..the ones that do follow it are just on the take, abusing you. so what is the middle ground, give money freely, comply, and be sressed and unhappy, how can you be happy?? if you are surrounded by toxic greedy people...there are better ladies and supportive families that exist here,, just harder to find/meet and they arent necessarily looking for farangs or men for the same reason as we are discussing here.
Hi Dan, love your content mate. Sorry to hear about the troubles that you and the Mrs. are going through. I’m not a relationship expert, however considering the problems your talking about regarding you and your Thai mrs. it would appear to me, IMHO that your relationship has or is close to running its course. You did great by adding some distance by getting an apartment. Just based on what your explaining. I just don’t think that your village married Thai women is going to work out in the long term. We know that you love your son. But eventually she is going to wear you down.
hey Dan, I was married in BKK in 85 (another story) Took her back to Aust. Finished my first term in the RAN in Jan 89. My Thai mother in Law, we hosted, in Aust, a few times over the years, etc., etc. We have 2 Kids. After the Navy, having many problems, we eventually went into the Thai Restuarant business, successfully, which relieved a lot of those problems, such as having been in the RAN for 20 years from the age of 15! Been tavelling the world, but knew bugger all about being a civvie! Spent most of my time in the Far East. Bottom line is, my mother in Oz, who had been to Thailand many times and loved the place. Even in Patpong, in its heyday. But she said to me once. quite seriously, being a loving grandmother, "They'are different, aren't they?" Meaning different ways of thinking, different priorities etc. It was not said in 'badness', but she knew, and yes Thai Ways are different, hang in there mate. It takes work and constant learning. Language too can be a huge obstacle! Although she is very much a lot different person these days than she was 40 years ago, about 50/50 these days. Taking a girl from Thailand is one thing, taking the Thai from the girl in quite another thing altogether!
What is "RAN"?
Let me take a guess; Royal A??? Navy??
or??
@@traveler7249 No prizes, but you are correct. 'Royal Australian Navy' since the day it was formed. The date now accepted is 1 March 1901. The previously accepted date of 10 July 1911 is not the birth date of naval forces in Australia, rather it was the date that the Sovereign granted the title 'Royal Australian Navy'.
I did a lot of work with the Marines from Oz.
-- From your profile picture, it is difficult to tell if you were in the navy - smile -
-- Semper Fidelis
Retired US Marine.
@@traveler7249 We don't have Aust Marines like the US, but I get your drift. Worked a lot with US Marines, particularly in Subic, Hawaii and Yokosuka. Even arrested by them! Mainly on Shore Patrols duties, hehe. Pretty 'gungho' boys you were in the USMC, always had a lot of respect for you blokes. All the best for the New Year mate!
@@RussellGraystone Royal Australian Naval Brigade - ARE - the Australian Marines.
As in any bureaucracy, the Marines were renamed several times.
2nd Bn is the current name.
Hey Dan. I don't know if you will be reading this but...
Did you ever listen to the security instructions before an aiplane takes off?
When the oxygen masks come down, you first help yourself. After that you can help others, your kids etc.
You first take care of yourself. When you are safe, you can pay attention to others and help them.
In real life it is the same.
Your visa problems are in fact financial problems. And I am sure your wife is tired of hearing about that too. Sorry if my words sound too harsh.
Thailand and relations are all about money, even if you love each other.
Take care of yourself and your money. That way you can also help your son. That is most important. All other things come later.
In Thailand it seems most women have some kind of psychological problem. If it gets too much, you just replace her. That is the nice thing about Thailand. Women are easily replacable.
Just some advice from someone who lives here longer than you ;)
You did a great video. Thanks, life ain’t all roses, I guess.
I am still watching this video, and something happened to me last night!
I've been chatting for months and went to her city and hang out for the afternoon/night. Later we could not meet as she had work duties.
I noticed that after our meeting, she became less interested on me, and I said, "I think you are not interested on me anymore."
She finally replied that I had done something that did not impress her.
After a couple of days ( last night ), I asked: Are you awake? ( as she needs to do nightshifts sometimes )
and straightaway she answered saying she needed money for her rent and asked if I could help
This was my response ( if you get offended, that is your problem )
"I think you have the wrong idea about foreigners. I don't blame you.
I blame Pattaya, what happens in Pattaya is not the norm in western countries, just in Pattaya, and if you want to know, the foreigners that go to Pattaya are mostly the scum of society. People involved in crime, sex addicts, the degenerate, etc
... and me here thinking about you every day, because I thought you are different."
She is not a sex worker. She has a University Degree and works as a surgeon assistant. We are both in our 30s,
but I noticed she has the mental maturity of a kid ( probably like many Thai women )
I know this video is for you, but this happened to me last night and It feels bitter,
There was a lot effort of seduction and getting to know each other, and for sure I could expect money demands from a hook3r, but a someone with a degree in a medical field ...
You must be miserable man who puts labels on other men.
@@EricB07 Yes, I feel like sh1t
She did not take money from me or anything, but imagine you dated several women in your life and think this woman makes the difference ( i don't have love feelings for her ) and she results doing the same stuff the infamouas bar girls do
@@miglondon worried mine may do same. She works ft has good money gets by ok. Never asked me for one baht .. but thinking it could change in future when I there full time. Dunno 🤷♂️
Why is she asking you for money? Think with your brain. She wants your money not you.
Hi Dan
Been with my wife 17 years in May and totally agree about there mood swings and to be honest I think if we hadn't moved back to the UK 14 years ago I really don't think we would have stayed together. But now after a hell of a lot of work we know exactly what we both want in life and how we can get it. It's all about status stop looking at rich people and focus more on the people who are struggling it makes you realise what you both have. Chin up and keep working on it. Ps hopefully moving back to Thailand next year if all goes to plan will try and meet up for a coffee
The irony of your comment! Saved the marriage by going to the UK , then planning to move back to Thailand ?? Are you wanting to divorce?
No is the answer to your question.
The plan was to move back to the UK so my son could get a good education and we could earn enough money to buy some land and build a house so we could retire without a worry.
@@wheelchairbound69 I wish you good luck !
Thanks for sharing Dan: I married a Khmer woman (Cambodian). We are both older + she had high aspirations and goals (which is very atypical for SE Asia women in general): Your video surprised me as Khmer culture and Thai culture are very close.
Why haven’t I experienced this situation? I think my wife is more mature (in both age and mind), she is traditional (family comes first), she has high aspirations (always working / always learning / always moving forward and planning for the future = this is NOT typical of Khmer women).
I think it comes down to the individual: we all can change and adapt. We combine our lives, we have to give and take to grow together. I have told my wife multiple times, I am the happiest when we are together on the direction for our future. We can differ in other areas, but to adapt and have it be worth it, the future direction has to be in sync.
We don’t have any mental health issues, but my wife has experienced physical abuse, mental abuse, extreme poverty, and starvation. She is stronger for it I guess. I think she is the raw diamond in the ground: the locals think it is just dirt but I see the value $$$$.
Keep trying; keep open heart and mind. Make your partner clear on things that you can’t bend on (prevents you from being abused). Be there for your child: Show how you are not going to abandon them no matter what (can’t talk with kids = must show).
tip of the hat to you Dan
met a thai woman in the far north of scotland 6 month ago she was married to another man who took her to uk and paid visas etc and lived together for around 6 month and she told him its over for various reasons but carried on living together while seperated.
so after 1 year in total together she went on online dating and i met her and she left him because she said they were seperated mutually,so she moved in with me without even asking,but i couldnt really tell her to find elsewhere to live as she was so charming,fun,and good company and cleaned the house immaculately.
life went on quite smoothly she worked at tesco liked her job and never asked for any money etc,but after 5 month it slightly turned sour,then she announced she was pregnant,(at the start she told me she couldnt get pregnant by her doctor in thailand)...anyway im 50 and have 2 kids already, shes 40 and no kids so caught off guard i said i dont want another kid,but said if she wants it i would support her financially etc,but 2 weeks after she told me shes pregnant she says you dont care for me anymore so i leave and that was that shes gone.
i still messaged to reasure her i will pay maintanence but shes turned into one bitter bitch of a woman now and more than likely will never let me see the kid anyway.
seems to me like she used her husband of 65 to get her over here and pay visas and used me to get bloody pregnant!
anyone else think shes a user or just me?,ive started watching these videos thai talk with dan and listened to the other stories and i think my suspicions are right,,,definately feel used. 😐
Hey similar thing happened to me in Australia.
Met a Thai lady who was married to a guy for 5 years who helped her with her visa and getting her kids out from Thailand.
We met, both got divorced, her and I , then lived together for 8 years.
She was an odd one, plenty of red flags that I ignored.
Helped her with massage business to the tune of $30k , and moved her and her kids into nice house, using my inheritance money as deposit, stamp duty and the like.
After one year she decides she doesn’t need a man in her life anymore, threatens me with an intervention order, tells me she’s entitled to half my stuff, and changes the locks on the house and puts security cameras everywhere.
I understand where you’re coming from for sure.
Seem to jump from one guy to the next in an attempt to get wealthy and save face.
I thought she was very narcissistic and manipulating but seems like a lot of Thai woman are like this.
Nasty piece of work at the end of the day .
@@craigbulkeley8827 yea some slap in the face that for you when you helped her and made a life for her,then turns physco,,its probably not all thai women like this though plenty british women screw you over as well🤷♂️
@@craigbulkeley8827 mate its women from any culture but seems to be more prevalent in poorer cultures who look at western culture as a means to progress to a better life. Its a minefield out there trying to decipher who is suitable or not. I spent a fortune on visas for a Ukrainian women and her teenage son to AUS. Started off ok but after 6 months could see problems. Got married to. resolve her visa issues thinking it would relax us more but money issues were daily. She was on an interim visa awaiting residency and I made the decision to end it and deport them. Contacted Immigration said I can no longer sponsor them, negotiated a settlement, bought plane tickets. They only just got their life in order then bombs started falling. They now live in Switzerland. Feel so guilty about the situation but it had to be done. I just hope she learned a lesson from this experience but most women dont. Women live off men. Thats just how it is. Some leech more than others and its just time how long until something runs out . Either love, money, sanity.
A blind man could see that all Thai & philipina women are users. If you don't give them money you are worthless in their eyes. Recreational use only. Don't live with them Don't marry them. Don't be the fool that pays their way through life.
@@kevinharries9513plenty of women from poor countries that have a strong culture of being virgins in the wedding night and don’t believe in divorce. Thailand and Thai people don’t fit in that category.
Appreciate your sharing. Followed your channel for 2 months now. Love it. I did my village wedding last Christmas in Nong Khai, coz I promised her for 1 year. It meant a lot to her. Anyway keep at it Dan!! 💪
Thanks Kenny 👍
Hi Dan.. Was in your situation b4. Financial stability is very important. Any relationship there are ups n downs. Try to work it out between both of you. Only the both of you knows better. No regrets only lessons learned. Take care.
Thanks for sharing so honestly, Dan (will help a lot of people who are in a similar situation)..
No ship can run forever. It needs time off and maintenance, og not, it will be a sinking ship. Thats including relationship and friendship . So keep your ship above the water and stay focused, Captain!
I wish you happy new year and all the best for 2023💪
I can relate to what you have experienced...my Thai girlfriend can be difficult and when issues are to be discussed I hear from her "don't think too much"....
Think about the age difference!--That was a mistake I made! We were not close enough in age groups!
I asked my Thai gf a similar thing. She has no savings & I encouraged her to start putting 20% of her monthly salary into the bank.
Kinda worries me to think they are mostly like that.
Married myself to a Thai wife for over 6 years every thing evolves around paying for every thing for the extended family it's never ending regarding money matters while they try milking you for money in return the family's daughter will for fill your needs. Sex is just a body funtoin in Thailand like taking a dump. Regard a place to work my solution has always been build a simple small shed insulate it so it stays cool just with a fan. This saves what your paying in rent monthly seating outside your little shed office is allso working space.
Oh yes Thai women are definitely different, but I’m still with her giving it my best. She does have very good points but the temper and moodiness can wear you down. Great video thanks! I also lived in Buriram now separated in Bangkok
Been watching your videos lately, Dan. Particularly liked this one, very pertinent words IMO, especially about the ability of Thai women to deal with stress. Agree 100% with your advice to just manage it yourself. Big respect to you, Dan.
Wow, thanks for the warnings!
Hey Dan, Good luck sounds like your are making a good choices in attempting to resoulving your issues with your relationship. I would call the appartment an office and call it that when talking to the wife. The co office space is a good Idea, have the wife drop off lunch from time to time it should help if she is having any trust issues. You have a lot going on Dan, Wish you the best of luck. hope to touch bases with you when I arrive in April.
Huge learning curve with relationships out here.
Don't also take jokes too far, example of what happened to me the other night. My wife's got this plush doll she calls jenny, its always in the bed with us. I was making out that I didn't like it and kept throwing it out of the room in a jokey way, putting it in funny places. Anyway, after I threw it last she grabbed it and cut the legs off it with knife and tried to set fire to it, crying saying that I hated Jenny. I had to calm her down and try and explain it was a joke and that I didn't actually mind it. Cultural differences out here, they just don't get jokes like that.
If you want to dig yourself a huge hole with humour, try using sarcasm in any Asian country. There’s no explaining it. They will never understand it. Just don’t try.
@@MoshiraMitano I would never make it in Asian culture then 😂
Here is the cultural issue rearing its ugly head. I'm Malaysian but educated in a British school and studied in Australia for 7 years, mixed local and western parentage. The doll moving to different places is one of the confirmation signs that it could be possessed. It's the same in Malaysia as in Thailand. Second indicator is that members of the family will feel unease around it. Thirdly, the possessed doll has a goal and in this case your poor wife would probably think that it is trying to drive a wedge between you and her so the doll can have your wife all to itself.
The cutting of the legs is to stop its physical movement and burning is to liberate whatever possessed the doll. Its all superstitious hogwash but the locals here are very sensitive to it. I'm just offering my understanding to a situation and I have no intention to criticize at all, however you've just gaslighted your poor wife quite traumatically. Even if you tell her its a joke she'll still think there is some superstitious element that is influencing you to say things like that.
I'd suggest that you bring your wife to a temple and get any ol' monk to pray that all negative thoughts are liberated from her that were caused by the incident and also have the monk pray that you gain more knowledge and compassion. This should help things out if you find that she is not as warm to you as before. She's still looking for signs that you might be under some sort of influence, don't take it personally. Put a few baht in the temple charity canister. Have a laugh with the monk, they are trained to be highly logical and will understand.
Guys, you can't treat women like your daughter. You have to be strong and stick to your boundaries.
Ernest, I am in my mid thirties, I only recently came to this conclusion that western men have this tendency. I have to fight this in myself. The way we treat our women makes ungrateful brats out of them. It's even risky to treat daughters this way, maybe we should reserve this kind of treatment for grandchildren.
Hi mate, in Australia we have men’s sheds for retirees, the guys get together and build stuff and share skills, great for mental health. Might be something to consider.
Hi Dan
You dealing with it yourself is not a partnership, not marriage, its not sickness and in health , good and bad .
She us having it her way .
Bail mate
I made that decision, hated it at the time but so glad I did. Keeping the kids and having a job here helped me! I hired a maid and all went well. Lifestyle was zero but quality time with the kids was the bonus! Dan has to think long and hard! Good luck to him!
Pay and park guys , why get emotionally involved, that way u even get variety
Wise words, I certainly can relate to what you are saying.
Thanks for sharing 👍
Great advice Dan.
This is the kind of thing that happens in relationships in every country. Unfortunately, most relationships end at some point. The ones that don’t have to do with the individuals, not the countries of origin
So your saying language and culture make no difference?? Seriously!!!
@@lifeasithappens I didn’t say that, you did.
In the beginning all looked easy in Thailand...women in particuliar.
But experiencing more,i concluded Thai women as a whole are not for me and i'm probably not for them.
This apply to any Thai women..be it middle high class from Bangkok or a poor one from Isaan.
In the end, the conclusion is similar even if the roads to go there are different.
The sabai inclination,the impossibility to adress political subjects...don't even go to the royal matter...hard time to self criticise oneself...feeling a lack of deep conversation...most have no inclination to explore others cultures...interested in material things and superficial realities.
These are the common patterns i've remarked.
Fine if you just stay on the upper layer but i can't see how you will build a strong foundation there.
Life is not only smile..a fake sometimes..problems arise and not being able to adress them and suffer if needed,won't get you anywhere.
We as farangs are not only for an easy ride in life when they want.
Think about it.
They are not ready to suffer for us,well ask yourself as a foreigner,what do you have to do with them in these conditions?
Thank You for your knowledge
Watch what we wish for
Their is always Yin & Yang
I have been married 24 years to a Thai woman and it has been great. We do not argue much but when we do it gets very upsetting to both and both say things we regret later.
Thai women do not like criticism of any kind and many items that she says is the Thai way is against my western values. We argue it out and sometimes she comes around but mostly she does not. As a result she gives me the silent treatment for days at a time up to a week sometimes. It gives us both time to reflect on the issue. We mostly argue about upbringing of her grandchildren who all live with us. I set rules and boundaries but she cannot accept some, saying Thai families always allow this. Without going into details I am generally worried the results could be catastrophic on what she says is acceptable within Thai culture.
A big excuse that's is often used: It's not the Thai way! Don't believe it! They are selective how this term is used! They love everything foreign--especially money!
Fair play Dan you wear your heart on your sleeve 🙏🏼
Good one bud! As alway's stay cool 😎 kind and generous!
Sorry I’m late to this Dan as I’m travelling around and not watching You Tube much.
I’m sorry to hear about your problems and I hope they can be resolved. Relationships are difficult enough even with someone from the same culture, so different culture relationships are even more of a challenge. You’re a good honest guy, and I know you will try your hardest to get through this. I wish you all the best mate and hope 2023 will still be a good year for you all.
Mood swings, argumentative, difficult,etc... it's that time of life where a woman her age is approaching menopause *wink. Add that to cultural differences on how to handle relations *lalala Yours is a common issue not just with Thai women but Asian women in general. You are correct to be the bigger person. I wish you the best
was on the phone talking to a long time friend the other night, who's been living in Thailand for the last 10 years, & i asked him, "are you married yet?", to which he replied, "it's hard to find a thai wife when you have 6 thai girlfriends." that pretty much says it all. never - i repeat - NEVER go to Thailand looking for a wife!!!!!
I managed a factory here in Thailand. Most of the Thai guys were very good to their ladies! They wanted to work and didn't play about. They loved their kids. Most were quite firm ( they took charge of the family) with their wives. I had heard of Thai guys demanding things but never with any violence. Only time I saw violence was when I was around some bars! Thai guys on motorcycles hanging around waiting for the 'girl' to give them money! I saw them hit girls who were making money by doing 'Farangs' but hadn't given it all over! If your GF has spent any time around bars then you will unfortunately get issues. 'Nuff said.
I completely understand where you're coming from. But I can honestly tell you it is not just women from the country that you are in. I've traveled to another country. Match up with what I thought was a wonderful woman. And lo and behold after a time.. you find out exactly what, they are like. I'm going through the same thing the person I'm with does not find for the future will not discuss relationship. Basically it is. A huge pain. I'm debating whether to pull the pin. I wish you luck. I'm before anybody else says anythink. I know all women are not the same. 🤞
I have a gf here in France, I’m 53 she 51, my wife died suddenly three years ago. Any road up, we rushed in. Two years later I had to say stop. Now it’s just weekends and holidays. That’s much more comfortable
Hi Dan
It's a long game for them , the original family comes first full stop , I Cound not expect that , my plans came second to mother and sisters , I d
Believe she , my wife loved me , but loved there original family more .
The pressure for her to ask me for money for her mother was impossible in the end .
What they don't understand is we carnt work , if we could it would be different.
Just to survive there for a falang is unbelievable really.
My advise is bail , it will never change , not a easy decision I know .
But it will always be the same , we are walking ATM.
Old saying in Thailand
NO MONEY NO HONEY .
VISAS , ITS AN IMPOSSIBILITY TO STAY THERE .
the system is bent if you have a family and are married , you should be allowed to work .
If she loves you go England work and make a life .
I met a Thai woman in Los Angeles while a University grad student. Girl was a massage shop worker who also attended a different local college. We saw each other weekly but all she ever wanted to do was physical which meant no dating no long phone calls or other day to day activities. She considered herself my girlfriend and knew how to somehow find me on campus at will.
Well after a few years I had to follow my dreams out of town to San Diego but she remained married to the job. I met her again 6 yrs later and she could not understand why i refused to resume our physicality. Many years later still she now wealthy wanted to resume in Hawaii where I eventually helped set her up in business. I refused again.
A guy at the gym asked me why she always had her eyes on me. When he learned how long i knew of her he then told me of all her boyfriends in Hawaii............
Wow! Did you get lucky or what?? Bravo!
@@senianns9522 Thai women live for the moment ......YES
It's only a matter of time before you leave Thailand.
If u cant be yourself then cant be happy ! Its an uphill battle. The other person is being themselves so they are happy with themselves.
So why cant u ?
Well u can . As the thais say "its up to you"
Be Happy , be yourself .
Dan love your stories - Can't believe how gullible some guys can be .. Been to Thailand (and the other S E Asia countries) few times back in the late 80's/90's ... These women can be persuasive but you just have to look through the charade ... Stay strong mate
Been with 3 Thais and 1 Filipina. Everytime they started an issue I kicked them out the door with a proper explanation why. they all got pretty upset but they all eventually came back around after a few hrs saying sorry., **this was in my home country**
Sorry for your problems hope they work out for you .its a load of crap but im separated now and its ok not great but have to try to do your best for your kid.
Thaï women is for Thaï Man !! I use to live in Thaïlande for 6 years stories of the same kind, I have heard hundreds of them..
Just for F%#ck short time that's all !!
"Split it, hit it, lick it and quit it!" 😉
What a difference a year makes.
same with women from the north of brazil
this is why id never marrie a thai ,nor have a girlfriend . a bar fine will do me . why slould we take care of there familys . alots of them have money .
MY X,,WAS THE SAME,,IF WE DONT TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEMS,,,THE PROBLEM DOSENT EXIST,,,THATS THAI THINKING,,,HOW TO FIX A PROBLEM,,,,
dont worry be happy ✌
hi dan i meet a bar girl in pattaya 1 march 2024 been bk and to now 4 times ive spent loads on her bought her gold 23000 baht 3 days after leaving she tells me she sold it ive sent money to her family went to kabi with her kids again spent 30000 on her she tells me she no longer working in the bar but when i call her she in the bar do you think its best to walk away thanks barry
100% walk away mate. She's probably sold the gold already. No bar girl can be trusted. Lying is second nature to them, they couldn't be honest even if they wanted to.
Good luck.
I've got a really bad feeling about this woman!!! Especially now she's stated she no longer loves you!!! Walk away Dan and coparent!!! When a woman tells you she no longer loves you believe her!!! Just look at the amount of stress strain and friction your under!!! Your the full whole entire breadwinner of the family household!!! She can't even go and get herself a little part time job to ease the financial pressure on you!!! That's what happens when you enter a relationship with someone who's not got a pot to piss in!!! THEY LIVE 100 PERCENT OFF YOU!!!! Excellent video bruv!!! I'm suggesting you walk away and coparent it's clear that this is a loveless marriage that died a long time ago and is only being held together by a piece of string for the sake of the kids mainly your son!!! Nothing more!!!!
You can do your due diligence with a women you've chosen to have children with but when the child comes out, the added stress can really rekt a relationship which you can't really leave now since it's hard to raise a child with one parent!
How do I get on the facebook page please Dan ?
For them it is business and I am a business man with a cold hart.
Engage and enjoy, pump use and abuse... all part of the business.
Do not worry about not beeing a gentleman or hurting her feelings remember she is just in it for the business. She has no problem to fleece a simp off his life earnings so you should not have any second thoughts about beeing offered 20k usd to return solo from your holiday......!
Business is business.... I say....!
Is there a Thai lady handbook where they use different universal stories about their past ?
Man you can't be moving out because of your woman, she needs to get on the same page as you because you are the man the leader the protector and head of the house.. Remember this one important thing... If you treat women to nice and give them to much attention, treat them like a queen shower them with gifts etc etc.. You're gonna go down in flames fast..
By moving out you gave the woman more power so you gotta Move back in, tighten up on the rules and quit the I Love You's and the gift giving and you will start to earn your respect back....If you were not gift giving to much or pouring on the I love you baby talk then you have to cut back on saying Yes and cut back on Agreeing and negotiating with her... Hope this info gets to you in time... Cullen
Yes, men and women are of equal value but they are not the same. If the man is paying the bills regularly and treats his family well, he is entitled to respect. He can be firm and clear without being abusive or hostile.
@Diamond Hand Japan The woman is bipolar. Going back to HER house and going full-scale alpha won't change her mental health challenge.
@@JamesBondEsq. If bipolar is in the cards then Bipolar is no joke, had 2 of them they both killed themselves and dealing with bipolar women is just a losing battle. About going full scale Alpha then that's the way to start not end..Take care bond - James Bond
Bro I been married to a thai since 2008. Met her at 20 years old. And still together. Trust me they are nuttier then a box of frogs.
since covid i realize that you come first. period. bc nobody will help you. pack your own parachute. ur on ur own. if someone else wants to be on the team, then it's a team effort, but always remember ur a one man team.
Starting around 24:30 sounds like a hostage video. Sorry mate, hope it all works out.
Tell extended family you not ATM for them, they soon stop visiting,and your thai wife will find her bank account is still in tack.my wife is from farm back ground, we bought all family out which best thing, we have our close family,son,dauther and dog very happy. Going in 14 years marriage now.
I think the marriage is doomed
can see by your face
maybe just stay there for your kid
concentrate on you .
I would at least be considering my options and having various ones in place, one things for sure, this situation can’t continue.
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
I think now you must just do what is relevant for you
what will fix your life
remember you are the outsider and nobody cares
your wife is rooted in the community has family and is set
you are not.
I am not I live in Bali same stuff
7 years here
now your success is most important or you will go nuts
now its time to be alone for a while
support your child but stay away
until you are strong again.
Do you think the problem isn’t with Thai women in general but maybe, it’s Isaan women. I also ended up with an Isaan lady who ended up being a nightmare but, afterwords, met so many nice, chilled and relaxed women from the north west (Chiang Mai) and also the south, Phatalung. Isaan girls seem to be more erratic… But they’re also the stunners, so that’s why we get roped in. When you have a child, it makes it a difficult situation. And you grew up without parents so you of course don’t want your kid to go through the same. Hope it all turns out well mate
Roughly my life story too Karim. Lanna girls are much more grounded.
@@shadmo8629 absolutely they are. The Lanna girls are wife material.
Yes I had a relationship with an Isaan woman. I didn’t know woman could be so beautiful. It knocked my sox off. But after the physical relationship, there wasn’t much left. No conversation just “ what will you buy for me, you buy house ? You buy me gold ? 😝. I ran like Forest Gump 🏃♂️
@@MoshiraMitano a long term relationship with a girl you can’t have an in depth relationship with, isn’t going to work in the end. Also, if they don’t understand your sense of humour or you don’t understand theirs, that’s another sticking point. Looks only last so long… After that, you need some substance.
BKK gals = Hi-so,earns her own keep
Issan girls = slow learners,nagging(after married for long time sometimes)
South = quiet gals,pick up things fast.
CNX = mixed depends on your luck but generally better than traditional issan women.
Based purely on my experiences with them for past 2 decades.
How ya goin' Dan?... you dont have to live in thailand and have a Thai wife for this to go wrong and your marriage to Fuck up, this happens all over the world, theres and old saying mate, its only takes 2 to fuck up a good marriage no matter where you are! ............Greg
Bro, I'm a psychologist. Your wife's mental health condition is not bipolar. She had borderline personality disorder (often misdiagnosed as bipolar which is very different). Go look it up, you will understand her behaviour much better.
No psychologist would start a sentence off with bro
@@EvelKnievel1 which century are you living in lol
@@bpdslayer And they certainly don't go to Thailand for a bar girl or freelancer Lol
do you have any experience on what its like dating a thai lady that has a child, dating a single mum?
Yes I have a lot as most have kids nowadays if your not dating very young girls
All the family wants is your money 💰 money 💰 money l now
Hi all i no is I've been with my thai wife for 20 yers her family have never changed when were there they don't give a fuc about you or any body even my wife her sisters brothers her three grownup kids all they want is your fuc/ ing money 💰 money 💰 money 💰
that bed looks too tempting, I'd be lying down 2 or 3 hours per day 🙂
BUT, But, but......aren't most (if not all) women like that? OK, Ok, ok....... YEAH, everyone (men too) is an individual and should be measured on a their own scale/level. Rrrrright..... THAT, from a guy who has been divorced twice and had a child out of wedlock. Good news is...... I got custody and since the last divorce...... I've learned my lesson. 555
The thing that makes me sad here is after marriage thai immigration simply do not respect us foreigners. In europe a very well organised welcome please integrate a d we help you plan exists here 90 day reporting and every year a new visa under the motto you are not welcome. I meet many expats who could give so much to this nation by teaching at university for instance they have all tried and have like me given up. If I could change one thing it would be to work with the government to integrate spouses better into society , we are not tourists the government has not realised we exist yet.
They are not all like that. But these girls you refer to are from Isan. I had a top woman when l first came here. Her family were in BKK and she was a accountant and didn't know what a bar looked like. She even got the condo before l come. But l didn't love her. Never asked for money and was easy going. Isan is a no go zone
When you had some shit in your life with people your head takes over because your heart fouled you enough.
Rule is the same in the west, happy wife happy life, women are never wrong so why should they apologize, they want controls and if they don't get it your toast, hard to retain respect once the rot sets in ,good luck
Move on young lad. Support your child however you can but don’t try to put yourself where you aren’t wanted or respected.When a woman is done with you there’s nothing you can do to get her back.
Women - can't live with them,
Hooking up with someone of a vastly different culture and background is challenging. Too much effort.
Mate it seems like you've been jumping into relationships too easy you been in Thailand 6 years 1 ,6month gf and 12 months gf now 4 years I was there for 10 years learning everything about thai ladies I found a good girl and 5 years later had a kid and then moved to Australia been here 12 years now I think it's because her mindset has changed to farrang way of thinking now if you stay in that village environment she'll never change good look mate
I am quite happy with my thai wife, the problems are minimal. For me problem nr 1 is Thai women do not understand that foreigners are way more inteligent than anything they have experienced for partners who are thai. My wife simply can not understand that I plan life and proccess problems within hours by ordering stuff or whatever. This living every day as it comes mentality is for me real stress. Comparing however to a european woman the thai women win hands down european women have many many more problems obviously
Yes! Pretty much correct! Every month the bills came in was a shock to my ex! *( Electric, water, Internet, etc.). Like they hadn't ever had monthly commitments ? Years ago I would leave the money , go to work and expect the bills paid? WRONG! She forgot --that word in Thai I hate: 'Loom'.
I feel this would be my number 1 issue with these women. Not to be offensive but they don’t seem like the sharpest tools in the shed. I hear this often.
How hard is to go to these countries and not date just one woman? Stop simpin fellas
Look at it like business deal. Guys have the money. They make the rules. If you need the girl 4 times weeks... You invest only what will cost . Invest as little as possible. Because one day soon she will leave .. and will be next one. Never get married..never buy car or house ...buy nothing. The question is along will last... Along you money will last ... Look it like business deal. Invest very little.
The problems you seem to be talking about are more related to her being bipolar than Thai, IMO.
Is it the Thai girl, period, or is it the Thai/foreign interface? Would a Thai man not know what the fuss was all about? Any guess? (We can only guess, because we are not Thai.) (Unless: I wonder do you (or anyone) have a close relationship with a Thai male and can probe his brain on this topic?) I'm an American new to all this and should I just quit before I get started? It sounds like guaranteed disaster!!! I was married to a Chinese girl (immigrant) here in America for 35 years before she passed away, any rough spots we had I never blamed on the culture difference. I HAVE heard (decades ago) of "hot" Thais.
Mate, I was very sad to watch your video and see the situation that you're in. I haven't watched any other of your videos and I don't want to, because it will make me feel more sorry for you. It's not my business, but is your wife educated, how and where did you meet her, what is the status of her family. At a guess, I would say she is not educated and neither are her family past junior high school. From my 28 years experience of Thai culture, a good Thai woman would not act in the manner yours is. My wife only ever raised her voice at me once, and after I told her that it was an inappropriate and immature manner to deal with the issue we had, she never raised her voice to me again in 6 years of being together. We only separated due to differing ideas on how we she progress in life. She was from a business family and too focused on getting richer and was letting life pass her by. She was already doing very well when we met and we would of both still had very comfortable lives if we continued the way I wanted to live our lives. We have remained distant friends for a very long time now, and I know now from what one of her friends let slip, that she regrets the decision she made at the time. I have been in a relationship with another educated Thai women for a long time now and she doesn't have any wild mood swings either and neither does any of her friends or many other Thai women I have met through my various connections. A normal Thai woman is actually very reserved with her manners and will not tolerate a man that is not also.
You seem like a nice genuine person and you have already been through a lot growing up, I would say to you, lay down the law firmly and intelligently to your wife and if she doesn't make a drastic improvement of the next few months, take your son and run for his sake. I don't mean to demean of offend you, but your wife sounds typical of a bar girl. I have heard many stories like yours and without fail they met their partners in a tourist area like Pattaya, Phuket or Samui. I would be bold enough to say 95% of these relationships fail. Good luck with your situation Mate, I hope you work it out soon. All the best.
@@BonVoyage861 I mean run with his Son and find a good stable woman with a good stable family around them. I had a British friend in the same situation, he didn't have to run away from the issue, she ran off with another foreign man and made it easy for him. There are plenty of good woman available in Thailand that could make his life much better. The problem I often see, is men going for that sexy exciting very outgoing girl. Find one that has a normal job and average looks and life will be much better.
Must be horrible to always walk on egg shells.
People do this in purpose? For the idea or ideal of that kind Thai woman? Or for looks alone?
I am also puzzled how one can have money problems when the only cost is for one’s own family in Thailand. Can that really be more than, say, $2k per month?
Dan, if you exclusively posted other dudes’ unfortunate stories just to have random-internet-strangers point fingers and laugh at their naïvety , that’d be schadenfreude. Exposing your own situation is magnanimous and honourable. And it changes the whole flavour, or colour, or attitude of your channel. You’ve expressed top-knotch discernment & discretion by telling your audience as much as you could without saying things that’d exacerbate life’s difficulties. Bruv, you just told me (& the rest of your viewers) that your mum “invited you to leave” back when you were still just a child basically. And you told me why. And you said: “no pity solicited nor required, that was a long time ago.” Brother, that’s trauma: you’ve been traumatized. And you experienced that trauma during formative years. Consequences of that trauma affect you today. (I’m not a licensed therapist. I only know this because I too was kicked out of the house at 14 because my existence was a nuisance, as it made her dating a little more difficult. She decided dating and attention from men were more important than me, & more important than being a mother to my siblings, too.)
Mae ngdaa Po mi ben nii tuam hua
nabtuea whatanatham
non lap fan di buak na phu hi
Prak hon chai _ burtiam Provence. .live more luvd duve duv kid. ,Issan respect?!. Just life t /land , & love everything / everyday fararang boyo.