The only people who truly hate you as a sigma are narcissists. These are the villains who hate sigmas because sigmas are not only immune to their manipulation games, but sigmas enjoy exposing narcissists just for amusement and sport. We're the real-life vampire hunters and narcissists know it.
Yeah I have a long time narcissist friend I stay away from when I can, but we have mutual friends, but he always communicates with everyone, wants them to know how special he is and all the so called important work he is doing and he is a great person because he is vegan. covid vaxxed and democrat... 🙄
The reason people betray Sigma Males is because Sigmas make them feel insecure. Sounds like it's their problem. If you're good to people and refuse to put up with abusive or irresponsible behavior that's called having boundaries. Are we supposed to make ourselves small so that no one feels threatened by us. What a bunch of BS! This presentation is garbage. It is not advice from a licensed mental health professional.
Life is rewarding when you get something on your own. Life is amazing when you share it with others. I am more recluse in life now. I have my family and a couple of friends I see from time to time. I have loved, lost, shared and regretted experien es and journeys. I don't begrudge the determined solo person who doesn't need or want anyone. Those who want independence instead of interdependence. I feel a little sad for them. Sitting alone at the table of life sounds very lonely. I think Sigma and Alpha etc, are just a state of situational circumstance. Like a motivator for a task. No anger at someone who only has 1 perspective.
Very true. It's important to project a little bit of danger or consequence. For example, I will often (humbly) flaunt my network. Not to show off, but so that others know that I'm not alone and that crossing me will close many doors for them. I learned this a bit late in life, but it works.
They know we're not weak though. If they really thought that, they wouldn't hide how they felt about us. They know what would've happened if they told me to my face...
It's sad to realize that most people would betray you for very trivial gains, also shows you what would happen if something big was on the line. Oh well, back to the mission.
Anger is a secondary emotion comprised of one of more of the following: fear, anxiety, worry, disappointment, frustration, envy, rejection, discomfort, and regret. Often rooted in envy/jealousy.
Real Christians Are there any left??? Not talking about worldly counterfeit christians plenty of those around. I mean those that seperate themselves from this world. They are not at all like rest. Not money motivated. wanting big house, new car, prestigious job this is worldly. Like the world. Real christians are not at all like this world. REAL Christians are few.
@chapiit08 Wow. I've never heard it explained / pointed out that way before but, now that you mention it, it definitely makes alot of sense. The fact that there are some (or, even more than a few) people in this world who are so cold & callous that they would want to destroy you simply because you chose to ignore them is quite frightening.
@VredesStall For real you would not believe the amount of hatred some people will have and the lengths they'll go to try and tear someone down simply over someone not being interested and emotionally indifferent towards them.
A sigma has come to the realization that humans have no enemies, only themselves. Don't forget people we live in a world where karma certain. Betrayal is the act of a person who by his actions proves he has yet to master the law of action-reaction.
It’s interesting that some people will treat you differently when you’re happy. I’ve had lifelong friends that have been around when I’ve had some bad times and I’ve always appreciated that. But when I found happiness they became weird and really showed their true selves. It’s almost as if they resent you for not being miserable. Crazy.
@@YourDoomIsSealed If you say so, it must be definitely true...or maybe, just maybe, it's just the projection of your own experience, which with all due respect, it's not a universal truth...
principles are above loyalty. I may be loyal to someone but if they change or betray my principles they do not deserve unconditional loyalty - that is the need of a tyrant.
Im probably self reliant because of an emotionally immature mother that'd always remind me of everything she has done for me when she got mad at me. Now i just dont want to ever be guilt tripped or manipulated again, so i do it myself or pay for it myself
This is very accurate for my life. I've been betrayed so many times and I just didn't see it coming. I'm not a very competitive person, but I often find that people try to compete with me and/or try to belittle me, seemingly stemming from their own insecurities. This world often feels strange to me. I sometimes feel like a bit of an alien here. I also test as an INFJ.
I think insecurity is one of the most important drivers of behavior in the world. I think it's ultimately at the root of things like racism etc. - people are desperate to identify some "others" as below them in the grand hierarchy, as a way of convincing themselves that THEY aren't at the bottom.
Sigmas will never find lasting loyalty or understanding, the majority of people in this time are morally bankrupt or self absorbed, only time finds out peoples ability to stay loyal and truthful to the character they perceive themselves to be. I knew a person who I considered a life long friend who I had shared experiences with good and bad for 37 years and one night when discussing current events and the way I saw them he gas lite me on something I said and then told me that friends of his didn't act the way I was. He has since apologised to me but it's too late the words were spoken and I have not replied to his apology or spoken to him since. It's better for me to be a recluse these days, I have very little in common with the people of this time.
I hear you 👍🏻..I had the same experience in 2016.. A friend suddenly changed after 27years. He changed, I didn't..Oh well life goes on and must be lived. And my reclusive life really too off last year. I really saw what society has, and is developing in too. So I got out😊...May the lord bless you and keep you Amen..✨️🙏🏻
It's possible I don't know the whole story here. But, I might suggest not to throw out someone with that length of comradery. This is definitely true, with a true apology. If you hold people to a standard in which even an apology holds zero weight, that's probably just unrealistic. It's like saying that NOBODY can make a mistake. What if you flew off the handle one day and hurt a friend. Then YOU wanted to apologize and did. Then that person rejected you FOREVER. A bit harsh, don't you think?
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
It's insane how literally keeping to yourself and staying in your own lane incites ridiculous animosity from people, even your own family. EXACTLY why I'm moving away to Florida. They can't respect you while you're around, but also DON'T want you to go... Basically an Emotional Punching Bag and after 35 years of life I'm no longer sticking around for the insanity. What they want is constant forgiveness without consequence. That's a child's mentality ✌🛫
@@jheneauxzacindeiga3409 They don't want you to go because then they wouldn't be able to pick on you and put you down. I've been through the same thing and my life is so much better without my family around. You'll be alright. All the best.
As someone who's experiencing a current and ongoing backstabbing by mulitple people. I have to praise you Mr. Videoman. Because this is the very first time, i come across an item done well about this topic, without any superficial views or presumptious claims. You have seemingly read my diary of the past decade.
Yes, same for me, just different context. I really do appreciate you both for the video and the comments. People that abuse the love and loyalty of others are abysmal people, whom are undeserving of anything more than the shallow relationship they put out. Thank you both so much
Can confirm. I was betrayed, really hard. Took 6 months of correcting my thoughts. Now I despise this guy, who succeeded to take my place. But I went on, got a better working place as a leader, with less stress and more salary. My old place, under the guy, who "stabbed me into my back", is now crumbling and old tasks are done by 3-4 employees and they cannot achive what I was able to do with ease. Now I'm trusting only myself and have only few true friends.
Good to hear. They lost your energy and presence. And they didn’t even know they needed it. Now they’re finding out, and you’ve moved on. Keep moving my friend, and keep focused 😎
Betrayed by friends you can live with that but what hurt's most if you get betrayal from your own flesh and blood makes it worse and can be very painful.😊.
I didn’t now I was Sigma until now. Bc I didn’t know what is Sigma till now. My whole life just made sense right here in a few short minutes. Very Healing indeed. Thank you
I have no hatred in my heart never do I hold grudges I am just staying in my own lane and minding my own business while running my successful team business 💯
Me either. I have no hate to hu-MANS...I have no regard whatsoever. Of course the odd hu-MAN comes to my attention if they manage to steal. But...I don't hate them for that, I simply wait...until time to collect. And I collect.
Amazing video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
expecting friendship in a transactional narcissist society is almost infinitely painful.. if you find someone like you out there .. revel in it because its a miracle anyone is on the same page
I don’t know if I am a sigma but I am an introvert and a lot of what was mentioned here holds true in my life. I’m 35 now and I have been betrayed a few times now, 3 times. And man it SUCKS!!!! First time I did not see it coming second time it was clear what was happening. The third time it was a reflection on past actions. This last time I realized the betrayal was on going and I confronted my best friend about it and once I did he showed his true colors. That one definitely cut deep. Now I’m refocused on improving and being there for my other friends. In the end it was a lesson learned.
When I earned my PSY degree in 2003, I never heard the 'Sigma' term. It wasn't until recently I learned about it. Very much describes me, on the surface I'm very light-hearted humorous, with very few people that really know me, but at the end of the day prefer to be alone when I can.
I swear it's confusing AF. Just keep putting distance between them until they phase THEMSELVES out with each offense. Working for me and they regret it every time.
You are a force to be reckoned with and when you’re caught off guard, it’s not uncommon for a group of people to work together to kick you when you’re down. The betrayal goes deep. Learn from it, and keep moving forward.
Reason 2 was spot on . Not saying anyone is jealous . But everything said in reason 2 was SPOT ON…. In every job I’ve ever worked… it hurts us deeply bc we don’t understand why ppl would betray us when we aren’t trying to compete with them. I think it mainly comes from ppl not being able to find you on social media. That is a spite to most Normies. They want to find out about you with one click since we are so quiet , but when they find out we don’t have social media it ticks them off.
@ I help out a lot of people when they ask me for it. From repairs on their houses, to their cars, even taking care of their kids when needed. Rarely do I ask for anything in return but when I do ask for a tiny little help I get nothing from them. I always go out my ways for the people I care about but they won’t even return the favor. But now I enjoy my life ever since I’ve cut people loose. No more of my time is being spent on people who cries for help and don’t even appreciate it when it’s done.
If you’re going through any kind betrayal, I recommend reading Shakespeare’s “Othello.” If you don’t feel up to reading Shakespearian English, watch one of the film adaptations: there’s one with Laurence Fishburne that’s really good.
Dear Sigmas, Since you likely spend a lot of time alone, you might as well be in good health and fitness. The aggressive pursuit of comfort and leisure is what's prematurely aging and killing people. Maintain a comfortable level of athleticism throughout your life so you can grow old and still be strong and agile, not weak and fragile. Agile. Not fragile. For as long as possible.
A lot of the information in this video resonates very loudly with me. Interesting to imagine there are people who suffer the same indignities as I have for the last 50 years. There's never any rest, everything is uphill, yet that is fine with me, and I would not have it any other way.
@@edheldude I choose solitude. Of course, l should back off my comment a bit as I've been known to betray myself. But solitude is what l require. Not saying what anyone else should require. But the solitude is my response due to learning including pre-symbolic.
What I have learned in being not alone or by myself for quite a few years,that "any" relationship eventually gets beaten back because "familiarity breeds contempt". Basically, saying you get tired of people's BS.
Love videos like this where it teaches things or concepts hard to explain yourself mostly because people don’t hear you but they will hear a voice of authority and perceived wisdom
I never knew what box I fell in, now I do, thanks. I have learned, if someone does betray me, I forgive and just let them go. Forgiveness isn't about the other person, it's freeing your mind from them. Your thoughts create your feelings, and your thoughts create your emotions, change your thoughts and change your life.
Is it jealousy or simply because they can’t manipulate you as much as they can others? My mother is a predator narcissist and couldn’t stand the fact that I was immune to her machinations of control once I started to mature.
Betrayals or not, while rest of the world struggles trough life because of this or that weakness, Sigmas are cruising stress free. You can try to mimic that mindset or go against it, it doesn't matter one bit to a sigma, they are laughing at your self inflicted misery while continue doing their thing...the choise is yours.
Sigma here. Insane how you mentioned loyalty. That means A LOT to me, so much that I had it tattooed on top of my left hand in cursive. No regrets. Supreme loyalty
To remind you how to spell it? What to you do when loyalty to another is disloyalty to yourself or another. In other words when loyalties conflict? I have no loyalty , I make seizing the opportunity my loyalty
I had it (loyalty) engraved in my gifts to my groomsmen. A knife for each. Was with the girl for 20 years, betrayed me with lack of emotional support. Now she’s with a drunk. I pray for her. It ended well as that’s how us sigma roll.
Same here, I'm older now with a degree in psychology, I've learned how to navigate and have friendships with good people outside of when I have to deal with people I don't care to associate with. I've left many friendships behind with my aloof independent nature and carefully avoided unecessary friendships. The friends I have now are low maintenance and really good caring people.
Well shared … as I try to make sense of these dynamics … I think where I’m most vulnerable is … I tend to trust completely … yet experience demonstrates … the extent of the loyalty and trust in return … is unequal … where I make the mistake of … seeing the relationship in a way that is not reciprocated … which means I’m setting myself up for a fall … and not one for superficial relationships … I’m susceptible to repeating this mistake … all rather sad this superficiality of relationships … which I have no interest in … and thus I walk alone … that is my path … 🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇮🇱🇮🇱🇮🇱🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
I think I might be a sigma male, I’ve pushed everything and everyone away. But I suffer with depression. With all the changes that’s going on in the world, I feel I don’t fit in or belong.
@ I’ve cut everyone out my life, I’m not on any social media. Just the thought of doing what other people do does my head in. I like doing my own thing. But my depression takes hold now and again makes me question is that the reason why I steer away people? I’ve only recently just heard of this stigma saying and the more I look into it the more I see a resemblance?
with the quiet nature a lot of times people think we're timid for some reason just because they're quiet that's very far from the truth. people if you have one of us sigmas as a friend. and you decide to test our loyalty once we've given our allegiance that is the biggest slap in the face an outright atrocious atrocity that you are committing. if you are loyal to us our loyalty is unwavering. that's all there is to it.
@@altingashi3927. the people that know me don't see me in such a light and I think nothing of myself as any kind of King we're all equal here. and what you may think of me I don't care.
dealing with this personally, I Have a real IDAF attitude about a lot of things mostly because I do what I want to do in life regardless about the feelings of others, I've dealt with a few people I guess had insecurity issues regarding that and did things that lost my trust and good will towards them, thing is, once I can't trust or respect you, your no longer somebody I want to deal with, I'm not compromising who and what I am for anybody, its very important to have standards and values you live by even if most people and the world don't have any morals, code of ethics or standards that they live by. I just don't get how people can betray and disrespect others and think you can go back to the way things are or that things can be fixed, excepting anybody back who disrespects you is inviting the same behavior back into your life from that person.
Had a friend of 30 years. Our friendship required me to go out of my way, while he made little effort. A few years ago he questioned our friendship. That was the sign I needed to ghost him without regret.
Why not just communicate with them. Tell them you feel you're putting in effort and youd like them to do the same or agree to become more casual friends, occasionally hanging out etc.. Ghosting is the easy way out and you learn nothing.
@@citizendc9 he Already learned what he needed to know. ..already... hehe... now he is done with it. and is moving on. he would be wasting time if he continued on with it
Great video. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist foe four years and I have slowly seen her dissolve my trust, then the other day she betrayed my trust and that is it. I have no people in my life because of the betrayal I have received. Into the wild on my own once again.
Relasonships are hard man...and real relationships are even harder...thats why i posted that quote- "What loneliness is lonelier than mistrust ?" I have always felt that way...
@ I can’t blame my partners. I have CPTSD from care giver abuse, sexual and psychological - so I don’t trust anyway. Narcissists hunt people like me for sport.
It happens. Give it time. We all says that at least once. I've said it à few times and yet I'm in 5 years relationship that goes beyond my expectations.
The thing I find hysterical now is that all the people that tried to screw me over now wonder why I keep my distance. Also I was never more successful than when I dumped the dead weight.
betrayal has been a constant companion in my life, I have learned who I can trust with what, i have barriers even for my oldest best friends as even they have betrayed me and I have had to walk away sometimes for a long time,, I have become quite careful over who I let into my life,, women dont seem to last very long,, im surprised when one stays for a while,,
What an amazing video, I was transfixed by its accuracy! Thankyou, it’s helped made a lot of things make sense :) Such a shame the majority of people don’t value things like trust, honesty, keeping one’s word etc. I would guess that most of the betrayals that happen (and I can see there are a lot in the comments!) are over material things, status, money, promotions, etc. But what we can do, is use this superficiality, obsession over status, and need for social validation against them, in the form of a business/product. We need to realise that most people on this earth are driven by the above emotions. And for sigmas, who tend to be altruistic and honest people, that could the most contradictory and powerful thing to understand…
I go through this alot in my life. Randomly a good relationship goes south and I haven't changed or did anything different. People are just insecure...
I am a Sigma Male, Japanese-American born in Seattle in 1973, and heterosexual. I learned a few things from this video! I get invited along, one on one, or in a group, and I decline, just because I would prefer my alone time. I began to realize just a few years ago, I'm unintentionally stinging these other people, by declining their invitations! I don't mean them any harm, but I'm a lone wolf. But, this video shed some light for me.
A good friend of mine, and neighbor was trying to understand the nature of what you describe. Knowing it was not alpha, I called it lone wolf. One who does not need the pack, and its dynamics.
I grew up with little values or a care in the world, that made me a piece of shit as a youngster. In my 20's i turned my life around and adopted "do unto others as if you would have done yourself". I stick by it and it's made my life so much better. I am a Sigma and I cannot be bought.
this is so real ive always been drawn to others. want to help and have a love for the adventure of life. always been betrayed by everyone close to me while never trying to hurt anyone. people always misunderstand me!
People take kindness for weakness. One can be kind, but it's important to project strength. For example, I will often (humbly) flaunt my network. Not to show off, but so that others know that I'm not alone and that crossing me will close many doors for them. I learned this a bit late in life, but it works.
Hello to all my fellow sigma people. Having experienced all these points, this video hits close to home. We tend to focus on the goal rather than chatter, because there is no time for such things. Spending energy on such counter productive topics make life meaningless and futile. Jealousy and rumors are also detrimental and demotivating. Why can't the world be simple. Everyone minding their own business and doing the best they can.
Sigmas know and observe, that their pride keeps them from evolving. I choose to distance myself because they behave as though they have no observer of their emotions and actions. They literally cant stop themselves even when exposed. Like they are destined to be this way. Manipulating someone, in any sense, feels very heavy and dreadful. I despise it tbh. Sigmas, we know that people use others for entertainment or to satiate their boredom or negative emotions. Thus most "connections" are superficial, inorganic and superficial. Such a nasty, toxic and unfulfilled life. I shutter to think about and couldnt imagine living with a mind that constantly relies on outer stimuli for validation for quality of life. Consistent need for external conditions for illusory perception of happiness. People are the worst external conditions to invest contentment in because their infinite complexity makes them especially volatile. We sigmas know and overstand this. Beware of all those who cannot be still and find peace in themselves without external validation to hide the war in their minds.
Thanks for the unspoken conversation we don't get from even our parents yet desperately need to have. A looking glass into the motives and behaviors of others over the short and long term. Most times we get the normie explanation with expectation that we'll un-Sigma ourselves to fit in. Not happening. Why undo ourselves in favor of those who betray us or don't know us?
The social games one I'm not so sure of. I have a lot of people at work trying to hurt me right now. Spreading rumors or trying to destroy my social status. So instead of sitting there and taking it. I'm putting out information to people that I want spread. Since I know exactly what and who is gonna spread it. Then I've been predicting the path it follows. Which allows me to see who I can trust. It has shown me some fiercely loyal people to me. While it's exposed others as untrustworthy even when they seemed very trustworthy. This is playing social games. Everything else seems to fit me to a t though
I have a small circle of friends I truly trust with my inner reflections of the world and myself. But I also tend to hold on deeply to optimism that I can branch out to other social circles and have definitely been betrayed multiple times. Somehow I blind myself of this and like the definition of insanity hold onto optimism that I can live a societal normative lifestyle.
Recently cut off one of my friends due to constant betrayal from them. He openly admitted he was jealous of my family and success. So he constantly undermined me and insulted me. When I finally cut him off and blocked him he’s being doing his best to contact me and when he does it’s only to try to get a rise out of me. When I don’t take the bait it makes him mad. Jealousy and his victim mentality has shattered his mind.
_”For the Sigma male, trust is rare and must be earned.”_ 👍 As a Sigma male, this statement, and video overall, articulates accurately and clearly the behavior, challenges, and with respect to my personal “romantic” relationships, the betrayal I’ve experienced in my relationships with many others. And to add to that “challenge”, I’m also a *left-handed* Sigma male and a hard-core, data-driven, professional Scientist, attributes which can further exacerbate this type of behavior from others.
The only people who truly hate you as a sigma are narcissists. These are the villains who hate sigmas because sigmas are not only immune to their manipulation games, but sigmas enjoy exposing narcissists just for amusement and sport. We're the real-life vampire hunters and narcissists know it.
🎯🎯🎯
100%
Well said.
100% true
Yeah I have a long time narcissist friend I stay away from when I can, but we have mutual friends, but he always communicates with everyone, wants them to know how special he is and all the so called important work he is doing and he is a great person because he is vegan. covid vaxxed and democrat... 🙄
People that are completely dependent on others resent those who are not.
The reason people betray Sigma Males is because Sigmas make them feel insecure. Sounds like it's their problem. If you're good to people and refuse to put up with abusive or irresponsible behavior that's called having boundaries. Are we supposed to make ourselves small so that no one feels threatened by us. What a bunch of BS! This presentation is garbage. It is not advice from a licensed mental health professional.
😂narcicist laughingh at this
Here's your thought more succinct: People resent.
People will always be dependent on eachother. Independence is an illusion.
Life is rewarding when you get something on your own. Life is amazing when you share it with others. I am more recluse in life now. I have my family and a couple of friends I see from time to time. I have loved, lost, shared and regretted experien es and journeys. I don't begrudge the determined solo person who doesn't need or want anyone. Those who want independence instead of interdependence.
I feel a little sad for them. Sitting alone at the table of life sounds very lonely.
I think Sigma and Alpha etc, are just a state of situational circumstance. Like a motivator for a task.
No anger at someone who only has 1 perspective.
That's because people take kindness for weakness .
Not always. Sometimes they take it as narcissistic supply and something owed to them.
Very true. It's important to project a little bit of danger or consequence. For example, I will often (humbly) flaunt my network. Not to show off, but so that others know that I'm not alone and that crossing me will close many doors for them. I learned this a bit late in life, but it works.
They know we're not weak though. If they really thought that, they wouldn't hide how they felt about us. They know what would've happened if they told me to my face...
@@MisterMonsieuryou’re cringe
No ones threatened by your lame ‘contacts’
@@thaistompreally tough guy ?
Enlighten us.. what would ‘happen’
We do not set out in life to be alone... it just happens.
It's sad to realize that most people would betray you for very trivial gains, also shows you what would happen if something big was on the line. Oh well, back to the mission.
Fraser, exactly.
@@jimhendericks This Video Hit Home.
That’s the truth
🗣️PREACH
I think number one has another reaction.
Basically people get angry with you because they can't use you anymore.
VG point. Many look for utility, esp women.
Can't tell you how many people just disappeared from my life once they realized that I wasn't willing to serve their needs anymore.
Anger is a secondary emotion comprised of one of more of the following: fear, anxiety, worry, disappointment, frustration, envy, rejection, discomfort, and regret.
Often rooted in envy/jealousy.
Right they get angry if they can't find a way to manipulate you to their own benefit.
Real Christians Are there any left???
Not talking about worldly counterfeit christians plenty of those around. I mean those that seperate themselves from this world. They are not at all like rest. Not money motivated. wanting big house, new car, prestigious job this is worldly. Like the world. Real christians are not at all like this world. REAL Christians are few.
Most people hate that fact that one can live without them, sometimes they can't hide their rage.
@chapiit08
Wow.
I've never heard it explained /
pointed out that way before
but, now that you mention it,
it definitely makes alot of sense.
The fact that there are some
(or, even more than a few)
people in this world who are so
cold & callous that they would want
to destroy you simply because you
chose to ignore them is quite frightening.
@VredesStall For real you would not believe the amount of hatred some people will have and the lengths they'll go to try and tear someone down simply over someone not being interested and emotionally indifferent towards them.
@@Zyllo5164 And women can be particularly vicious in that regard.
@@chapiit08 They LOVE being so.
Narcicist for example
The irony of betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.
NEVER. What a catch 22 😅
That's because you expect your enemies to betray you.
God protect me from my friends and I will fight my enemies. "Jules Cesar"
How can an enemy betray you tho lol
A sigma has come to the realization that humans have no enemies, only themselves. Don't forget people we live in a world where karma certain. Betrayal is the act of a person who by his actions proves he has yet to master the law of action-reaction.
It’s interesting that some people will treat you differently when you’re happy. I’ve had lifelong friends that have been around when I’ve had some bad times and I’ve always appreciated that. But when I found happiness they became weird and really showed their true selves. It’s almost as if they resent you for not being miserable.
Crazy.
Bingo 🎯
Missery loves company.
Preach 🙌🏾
I can definitely relate to that. Big time.
Being too good and wishing ppl well isn't reflected. 😢. It's just amazing how they switch.
Loyalty is everything, without it, you have nothing.
I agree. Love won't stand up to dis loyalty.
True and that's one of life's big lies because loyalty does not exist, just like love does not exist nor any god as in an entity.
@@YourDoomIsSealed Cap
@@YourDoomIsSealed If you say so, it must be definitely true...or maybe, just maybe, it's just the projection of your own experience, which with all due respect, it's not a universal truth...
principles are above loyalty. I may be loyal to someone but if they change or betray my principles they do not deserve unconditional loyalty - that is the need of a tyrant.
When trust is broken, the whole foundation crumbles.
It's not pride of being self reliant, it's just being self reliant.
Exactly.
I believe you can have pride still, just not the intention, but a by product after completing self reliance.
Im probably self reliant because of an emotionally immature mother that'd always remind me of everything she has done for me when she got mad at me. Now i just dont want to ever be guilt tripped or manipulated again, so i do it myself or pay for it myself
@DonTrump-sv1si it's not your fault. It's hard to see the good in bad situations like that but it's there. You are stronger because of it.
Correct. The authentic person ("the sigma male") is grateful for the opportunities given in life and not proud of accomplishments like the narcissist.
You hit a homerun with this subject. Betrayed by my family for no legitimate reason. 💯
Shit hit different
Mine too. I’m done with them. I feel your pain ❤
Same. OVer 20 years ago. I went complete non contact. Best thing I ever did.
@@aservantinbabylon ❤️ Merry Christmas 🎄🎁
You are not alone man. More common than you think.
This is very accurate for my life.
I've been betrayed so many times and I just didn't see it coming. I'm not a very competitive person, but I often find that people try to compete with me and/or try to belittle me, seemingly stemming from their own insecurities. This world often feels strange to me. I sometimes feel like a bit of an alien here. I also test as an INFJ.
same
I felt the same. I call it the journey. At least you have people accompanying you. I will if you accept it.
It's a flabbergasting revelation when you realise people you thought were way above your level have been directly competing with you.
I think insecurity is one of the most important drivers of behavior in the world. I think it's ultimately at the root of things like racism etc. - people are desperate to identify some "others" as below them in the grand hierarchy, as a way of convincing themselves that THEY aren't at the bottom.
Sigmas will never find lasting loyalty or understanding, the majority of people in this time are morally bankrupt or self absorbed, only time finds out peoples ability to stay loyal and truthful to the character they perceive themselves to be. I knew a person who I considered a life long friend who I had shared experiences with good and bad for 37 years and one night when discussing current events and the way I saw them he gas lite me on something I said and then told me that friends of his didn't act the way I was. He has since apologised to me but it's too late the words were spoken and I have not replied to his apology or spoken to him since. It's better for me to be a recluse these days, I have very little in common with the people of this time.
" He has since apologised to me but it's too late the words were spoken" I can't do otherwise either.
I hear you 👍🏻..I had the same experience in 2016.. A friend suddenly changed after 27years. He changed, I didn't..Oh well life goes on and must be lived. And my reclusive life really too off last year. I really saw what society has, and is developing in too. So I got out😊...May the lord bless you and keep you Amen..✨️🙏🏻
@@DanishFaultFinder1 Do people change for the worse after 27 years?
It's possible I don't know the whole story here. But, I might suggest not to throw out someone with that length of comradery. This is definitely true, with a true apology. If you hold people to a standard in which even an apology holds zero weight, that's probably just unrealistic. It's like saying that NOBODY can make a mistake. What if you flew off the handle one day and hurt a friend. Then YOU wanted to apologize and did. Then that person rejected you FOREVER. A bit harsh, don't you think?
Majority but not all
Being comfortable with silence during a conversation is a sign of confidence
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain , after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Being humble and quiet is an inner strength.
It's insane how literally keeping to yourself and staying in your own lane incites ridiculous animosity from people, even your own family. EXACTLY why I'm moving away to Florida. They can't respect you while you're around, but also DON'T want you to go... Basically an Emotional Punching Bag and after 35 years of life I'm no longer sticking around for the insanity. What they want is constant forgiveness without consequence. That's a child's mentality ✌🛫
@@jheneauxzacindeiga3409 They don't want you to go because then they wouldn't be able to pick on you and put you down. I've been through the same thing and my life is so much better without my family around. You'll be alright. All the best.
Very accurate ^^
"I am not upset that you lied to me, I am upset that from now on I can't believe you." - Nietzsche
A Sigma/INTP philosopher.
Jealousy
And the one that went to school and think there so smart but they relied there only dead shit
End of story. Every human is jealous - most are manic jealous.
@transacumen5172 I don't get jealous. Jealousy is a sign of weakness and insecurity
Me too this life is everybody responsible @@exs14this always keep secret and focus on yourself and be a blessing but there limits❤❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who's experiencing a current and ongoing backstabbing by mulitple people. I have to praise you Mr. Videoman.
Because this is the very first time, i come across an item done well about this topic, without any superficial views or presumptious claims.
You have seemingly read my diary of the past decade.
Wow, thank you
@HierarchiesofMan You're Welcome, and Thank You! Credit. Where It's Due. 💪🏽🤝🏽✌🏽
Yes, same for me, just different context. I really do appreciate you both for the video and the comments. People that abuse the love and loyalty of others are abysmal people, whom are undeserving of anything more than the shallow relationship they put out. Thank you both so much
Can confirm. I was betrayed, really hard. Took 6 months of correcting my thoughts. Now I despise this guy, who succeeded to take my place. But I went on, got a better working place as a leader, with less stress and more salary. My old place, under the guy, who "stabbed me into my back", is now crumbling and old tasks are done by 3-4 employees and they cannot achive what I was able to do with ease. Now I'm trusting only myself and have only few true friends.
same. I walked.
Now higher salary, way more respect, and genuine appreciation for my efforts. Nobody getting jealous or feeling inadequate.
Same. Can’t talk much about it, but you can probably find out if you look hard enough.
Good to hear. They lost your energy and presence. And they didn’t even know they needed it. Now they’re finding out, and you’ve moved on. Keep moving my friend, and keep focused 😎
Betrayed by friends you can live with that but what hurt's most if you get betrayal from your own flesh and blood makes it worse and can be very painful.😊.
You can't choose relatives, but you are in part responsible for friendships, so that can deepen the wounds.
I didn’t now I was Sigma until now. Bc I didn’t know what is Sigma till now.
My whole life just made sense right here in a few short minutes.
Very Healing indeed.
Thank you
I have no hatred in my heart never do I hold grudges I am just staying in my own lane and minding my own business while running my successful team business 💯
Me either. I have no hate to hu-MANS...I have no regard whatsoever. Of course the odd hu-MAN comes to my attention if they manage to steal. But...I don't hate them for that, I simply wait...until time to collect. And I collect.
Creeping insecurity. I generally agree to this. Betraying a good strong sigma is a ticket to Hades 😊
As an independent loner, I was a magnet for co-dependant alphas.
Yo tambien
ha, me too. they go mental when they cant get you to dance. the sabotage part mentioned in here resonated as that always happens.
Yes! After being an infantry scout, I was a magnet for co-dependent semipro athletes.
@@lc3853 "semipro athletes."
tell me about it.
They are not very tough.
I.e. narcissists
Amazing video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Exactly what I’m going thru. I needed this
Hang in there, and be true to yourself.
Stay strong brother.
@ appreciate it. Trying too. Wish I knew this knowledge earlier
Welcome!!🫡
@@ChillyWilly8233same lol
As a sigma I value loyalty over all. Every single person I ever trusted lied, stole or cheated. Never trust anyone or you will be disappointed.
Only the people you trust can betray you - but you can't achieve your goals without other people so at some point you need to trust, to a degree.
The Lord said call no man Father for said reasons.
expecting friendship in a transactional narcissist society is almost infinitely painful.. if you find someone like you out there .. revel in it because its a miracle anyone is on the same page
My only real friend is 80 years old. 42 years older than me. Rare, yes.
I don’t know if I am a sigma but I am an introvert and a lot of what was mentioned here holds true in my life. I’m 35 now and I have been betrayed a few times now, 3 times. And man it SUCKS!!!! First time I did not see it coming second time it was clear what was happening. The third time it was a reflection on past actions. This last time I realized the betrayal was on going and I confronted my best friend about it and once I did he showed his true colors. That one definitely cut deep. Now I’m refocused on improving and being there for my other friends. In the end it was a lesson learned.
Sorry to hear that bro but it’s a learning experience. Time heals and also reveals everything
@@duppyinstinct1112 very true, it's a life lesson.
@@duppyinstinct1112 thanks man, in the end it's a learning experience.
I can’t believe how accurate this is
When I earned my PSY degree in 2003, I never heard the 'Sigma' term. It wasn't until recently I learned about it. Very much describes me, on the surface I'm very light-hearted humorous, with very few people that really know me, but at the end of the day prefer to be alone when I can.
I leave everyone alone. And that bothers people. I don’t understand it lol
I swear it's confusing AF. Just keep putting distance between them until they phase THEMSELVES out with each offense. Working for me and they regret it every time.
Best way to be, Complete Peace!
Yup, people dislike you when you're minding your own business getting on with what you need to do, and not getting involved in drama
You are a force to be reckoned with and when you’re caught off guard, it’s not uncommon for a group of people to work together to kick you when you’re down. The betrayal goes deep. Learn from it, and keep moving forward.
True..can confirm this....lions move on.
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Reason 2 was spot on . Not saying anyone is jealous . But everything said in reason 2 was SPOT ON…. In every job I’ve ever worked… it hurts us deeply bc we don’t understand why ppl would betray us when we aren’t trying to compete with them. I think it mainly comes from ppl not being able to find you on social media. That is a spite to most Normies. They want to find out about you with one click since we are so quiet , but when they find out we don’t have social media it ticks them off.
As I get older, I’ve come to learn how so many of my “friends” have betrayed me in one way or another.
Have you asked yourself the same and then look at it with no bias and in their perspective
@ I help out a lot of people when they ask me for it. From repairs on their houses, to their cars, even taking care of their kids when needed. Rarely do I ask for anything in return but when I do ask for a tiny little help I get nothing from them. I always go out my ways for the people I care about but they won’t even return the favor. But now I enjoy my life ever since I’ve cut people loose. No more of my time is being spent on people who cries for help and don’t even appreciate it when it’s done.
If you’re going through any kind betrayal, I recommend reading Shakespeare’s “Othello.” If you don’t feel up to reading Shakespearian English, watch one of the film adaptations: there’s one with Laurence Fishburne that’s really good.
Dear Sigmas,
Since you likely spend a lot of time alone, you might as well be in good health and fitness.
The aggressive pursuit of comfort and leisure is what's prematurely aging and killing people.
Maintain a comfortable level of athleticism throughout your life so you can grow old and still be strong and agile, not weak and fragile.
Agile. Not fragile. For as long as possible.
Straightforward approach to life..
And there it is, right there...
A lot of the information in this video resonates very loudly with me. Interesting to imagine there are people who suffer the same indignities as I have for the last 50 years.
There's never any rest, everything is uphill, yet that is fine with me, and I would not have it any other way.
“You must show no mercy or any weakness what so ever of how others judge you, for your greatness will silence them all!!!!”
The Ultimate Warrior
I've been betrayed by even my own mother. This is unforgivable. I trust anyone ,they always use my trust as a weapon against me
Just remember, one day she will be dead. Then what?
my wife's not better. told her something private, of course the little moo cow made it public..
Trust is not required if you have sufficient infornation about a person.
"Trust but verify"
Mine did to Louis. They are only human. Love her from a distance. Sad reality for many.
Betrayals from every angle all aspects...
Yes.
That is very easily solved. I know. It is literally not possible for me to be betrayed.
Yup, they will try to gain your trust just so they can betray you. Sick people.
@@YourDoomIsSealed You've learned from the previous experiences? Or you don't have any relationships anymore?
@@edheldude I choose solitude. Of course, l should back off my comment a bit as I've been known to betray myself. But solitude is what l require. Not saying what anyone else should require. But the solitude is my response due to learning including pre-symbolic.
Sigmas are betrayed because they are just too amazing and no one can handle the flame they create by their loner ways
What I have learned in being not alone or by myself for quite a few years,that "any" relationship eventually gets beaten back because "familiarity breeds contempt". Basically, saying you get tired of people's BS.
It is jealousy.
That's all they are
I think that is indeed the bottom line - jealously so strong it morphs into hate.
7:41 "Trust is rare and must be earned." 9:11 "Respect the Trust you've been given."
Trust is only required in the absence of data. Extremely rare situations require blind trust.
Don't trust, collect data and make informed decisions.
Love videos like this where it teaches things or concepts hard to explain yourself mostly because people don’t hear you but they will hear a voice of authority and perceived wisdom
Thanks! I love it! I'm a sigma female.
One in a Million.
You're rare, ma'am.
Me, too. Love the content here.
No such thing as a sigma female 😅😂
What does that mean in practice?
Nailed it with my experiences when it comes to my independence. Even those who love me cannot stand I can do 99% of things solo.
I never knew what box I fell in, now I do, thanks. I have learned, if someone does betray me, I forgive and just let them go. Forgiveness isn't about the other person, it's freeing your mind from them. Your thoughts create your feelings, and your thoughts create your emotions, change your thoughts and change your life.
This here is the truth 💯
A Course In Miracles teaches this.
When someone attacks, I walk away.
The rejection of their desperate engagement injures them, not me.
@@wisconsinfarmer4742 Agree, ACIM is a great book, I've done the course twice. I wish you all the very best.
I have no friends only acquaintances that i never allow to get too close. Saves me a lot of trouble
Yup!
Proud to be here in this part of my journey with all of yall.
Cheers.
@mumbles215 215 like philly 215?
Already been betrayed by my family. I don't know why I just concluded that there's some jealousy involved.
Is it jealousy or simply because they can’t manipulate you as much as they can others? My mother is a predator narcissist and couldn’t stand the fact that I was immune to her machinations of control once I started to mature.
Sigma is who I am and what I am this analysis is amazing to me.
I got my backstabbing recently in the worst way by someone who I considered a friend
I lost some soldiers‼️🫡
Never forget the pain. It is your guide
Betrayals or not, while rest of the world struggles trough life because of this or that weakness, Sigmas are cruising stress free.
You can try to mimic that mindset or go against it, it doesn't matter one bit to a sigma, they are laughing at your self inflicted misery while continue doing their thing...the choise is yours.
Sigma here. Insane how you mentioned loyalty. That means A LOT to me, so much that I had it tattooed on top of my left hand in cursive. No regrets. Supreme loyalty
To remind you how to spell it? What to you do when loyalty to another is disloyalty to yourself or another. In other words when loyalties conflict? I have no loyalty , I make seizing the opportunity my loyalty
@@mrnice7570 Wah. Keep crying. It’s a form of self expression. Your comment made NO sense
Never put yourself in a situation that relies on the loyalty of another or yourself.
I had it (loyalty) engraved in my gifts to my groomsmen. A knife for each. Was with the girl for 20 years, betrayed me with lack of emotional support. Now she’s with a drunk. I pray for her. It ended well as that’s how us sigma roll.
I'm a sigma and havebeen forced to brave narcissitic fools for as long as I can remember
Be careful those fools can take a toll on a person. I show them no mercy.
Same here, I'm older now with a degree in psychology, I've learned how to navigate and have friendships with good people outside of when I have to deal with people I don't care to associate with. I've left many friendships behind with my aloof independent nature and carefully avoided unecessary friendships. The friends I have now are low maintenance and really good caring people.
Have you heard of this magic glass called a mirror?
Narcissists always try to use Sigmas to make themselves look good.
@@ThaiThom Often narcissist will over step sigma's boundries and conflict with Sigma's.
Just remember, there are only two types of relationships. Parasitic or symbiotic. Cleave the first and embrace the second. It’s the sigma way.
I don't want to be symbiotic with anyone. I want to know individuated people who have their sh1t together.
Well shared … as I try to make sense of these dynamics … I think where I’m most vulnerable is … I tend to trust completely … yet experience demonstrates … the extent of the loyalty and trust in return … is unequal … where I make the mistake of … seeing the relationship in a way that is not reciprocated … which means I’m setting myself up for a fall … and not one for superficial relationships … I’m susceptible to repeating this mistake … all rather sad this superficiality of relationships … which I have no interest in … and thus I walk alone … that is my path … 🙏🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧🇮🇱🇮🇱🇮🇱🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Are surrounding yourself with people who may betray you or around people who uplift you.
That thought is worth more than gold
I think I might be a sigma male, I’ve pushed everything and everyone away. But I suffer with depression. With all the changes that’s going on in the world, I feel I don’t fit in or belong.
Go to one you like most
C u in the gym player. Gotta lift yourself up. No one gon do it for ya. Goodluck 🤙🏽✨️
@ cheers pal.
yeah I don't see you as a sigma, maybe a comination of some sigma traits.
@ I’ve cut everyone out my life, I’m not on any social media. Just the thought of doing what other people do does my head in. I like doing my own thing. But my depression takes hold now and again makes me question is that the reason why I steer away people? I’ve only recently just heard of this stigma saying and the more I look into it the more I see a resemblance?
with the quiet nature a lot of times people think we're timid for some reason just because they're quiet that's very far from the truth. people if you have one of us sigmas as a friend. and you decide to test our loyalty once we've given our allegiance that is the biggest slap in the face an outright atrocious atrocity that you are committing. if you are loyal to us our loyalty is unwavering. that's all there is to it.
lol you’re basically a beta and see yourself as a ‘secret king’
Meanwhile everyone thinks you’re lame and laughing behind your back 🤣
@@altingashi3927. the people that know me don't see me in such a light and I think nothing of myself as any kind of King we're all equal here. and what you may think of me I don't care.
Any honest man & woman is betrayed in this age , has nothing to do with alpha or sigma’s
dealing with this personally, I Have a real IDAF attitude about a lot of things mostly because I do what I want to do in life regardless about the feelings of others, I've dealt with a few people I guess had insecurity issues regarding that and did things that lost my trust and good will towards them, thing is, once I can't trust or respect you, your no longer somebody I want to deal with, I'm not compromising who and what I am for anybody, its very important to have standards and values you live by even if most people and the world don't have any morals, code of ethics or standards that they live by.
I just don't get how people can betray and disrespect others and think you can go back to the way things are or that things can be fixed, excepting anybody back who disrespects you is inviting the same behavior back into your life from that person.
Had a friend of 30 years. Our friendship required me to go out of my way, while he made little effort. A few years ago he questioned our friendship. That was the sign I needed to ghost him without regret.
Why not just communicate with them. Tell them you feel you're putting in effort and youd like them to do the same or agree to become more casual friends, occasionally hanging out etc.. Ghosting is the easy way out and you learn nothing.
@@citizendc9 he Already learned what he needed to know. ..already... hehe... now he is done with it. and is moving on. he would be wasting time if he continued on with it
Great video. I have been in a relationship with a narcissist foe four years and I have slowly seen her dissolve my trust, then the other day she betrayed my trust and that is it. I have no people in my life because of the betrayal I have received. Into the wild on my own once again.
Relasonships are hard man...and real relationships are even harder...thats why i posted that quote- "What loneliness is lonelier than mistrust ?" I have always felt that way...
@ I can’t blame my partners. I have CPTSD from care giver abuse, sexual and psychological - so I don’t trust anyway. Narcissists hunt people like me for sport.
It happens. Give it time. We all says that at least once. I've said it à few times and yet I'm in 5 years relationship that goes beyond my expectations.
Excellent video 👌.
Thank you 👍
Keep it simple, weird vibes, negative energy, and toxic people they bring the room down. Move forward
In the workplace, sigmas become a target.
The thing I find hysterical now is that all the people that tried to screw me over now wonder why I keep my distance. Also I was never more successful than when I dumped the dead weight.
Most definitely
Some people mix politeness with weakness . Sigma is not weak.
betrayal has been a constant companion in my life, I have learned who I can trust with what, i have barriers even for my oldest best friends as even they have betrayed me and I have had to walk away sometimes for a long time,, I have become quite careful over who I let into my life,, women dont seem to last very long,, im surprised when one stays for a while,,
What an amazing video, I was transfixed by its accuracy! Thankyou, it’s helped made a lot of things make sense :)
Such a shame the majority of people don’t value things like trust, honesty, keeping one’s word etc. I would guess that most of the betrayals that happen (and I can see there are a lot in the comments!) are over material things, status, money, promotions, etc.
But what we can do, is use this superficiality, obsession over status, and need for social validation against them, in the form of a business/product.
We need to realise that most people on this earth are driven by the above emotions. And for sigmas, who tend to be altruistic and honest people, that could the most contradictory and powerful thing to understand…
I go through this alot in my life. Randomly a good relationship goes south and I haven't changed or did anything different. People are just insecure...
I am a Sigma Male, Japanese-American born in Seattle in 1973, and heterosexual. I learned a few things from this video! I get invited along, one on one, or in a group, and I decline, just because I would prefer my alone time. I began to realize just a few years ago, I'm unintentionally stinging these other people, by declining their invitations! I don't mean them any harm, but I'm a lone wolf. But, this video shed some light for me.
A good friend of mine, and neighbor was trying to understand the nature of what you describe. Knowing it was not alpha, I called it lone wolf.
One who does not need the pack, and its dynamics.
I grew up with little values or a care in the world, that made me a piece of shit as a youngster. In my 20's i turned my life around and adopted "do unto others as if you would have done yourself". I stick by it and it's made my life so much better.
I am a Sigma and I cannot be bought.
this is so real ive always been drawn to others. want to help and have a love for the adventure of life. always been betrayed by everyone close to me while never trying to hurt anyone. people always misunderstand me!
Almost didn't watch this, but decided to hear out what it had to say. This definitely resonated and was insightful, almost painfully so.
People take kindness for weakness. One can be kind, but it's important to project strength. For example, I will often (humbly) flaunt my network. Not to show off, but so that others know that I'm not alone and that crossing me will close many doors for them. I learned this a bit late in life, but it works.
…. So you’re not really a Sigma ..
Thanks for reminding me why I don't trust people haha 😄
Best video on sigmas ever. Thank you
You described my whole life. Betrayals that made me stronger and discover the secrets of the universe.
Hello to all my fellow sigma people. Having experienced all these points, this video hits close to home. We tend to focus on the goal rather than chatter, because there is no time for such things. Spending energy on such counter productive topics make life meaningless and futile. Jealousy and rumors are also detrimental and demotivating. Why can't the world be simple. Everyone minding their own business and doing the best they can.
they just can not relate to the idea of releasing emotional attachment to the games people play.
It's very rare that I listen to a YT video so closely. Good job HoM !
I needed this video. Thank you.
All you did was mention all my traits and explain to me why my current relationships are in the position it's in. Great insight.
Sigmas know and observe, that their pride keeps them from evolving. I choose to distance myself because they behave as though they have no observer of their emotions and actions. They literally cant stop themselves even when exposed. Like they are destined to be this way. Manipulating someone, in any sense, feels very heavy and dreadful. I despise it tbh. Sigmas, we know that people use others for entertainment or to satiate their boredom or negative emotions. Thus most "connections" are superficial, inorganic and superficial. Such a nasty, toxic and unfulfilled life. I shutter to think about and couldnt imagine living with a mind that constantly relies on outer stimuli for validation for quality of life. Consistent need for external conditions for illusory perception of happiness. People are the worst external conditions to invest contentment in because their infinite complexity makes them especially volatile. We sigmas know and overstand this. Beware of all those who cannot be still and find peace in themselves without external validation to hide the war in their minds.
Thanks for the unspoken conversation we don't get from even our parents yet desperately need to have.
A looking glass into the motives and behaviors of others over the short and long term.
Most times we get the normie explanation with expectation that we'll un-Sigma ourselves to fit in.
Not happening.
Why undo ourselves in favor of those who betray us or don't know us?
This helped me understand things a little bit better about the relationships in my life
The social games one I'm not so sure of.
I have a lot of people at work trying to hurt me right now. Spreading rumors or trying to destroy my social status.
So instead of sitting there and taking it. I'm putting out information to people that I want spread. Since I know exactly what and who is gonna spread it. Then I've been predicting the path it follows. Which allows me to see who I can trust. It has shown me some fiercely loyal people to me. While it's exposed others as untrustworthy even when they seemed very trustworthy. This is playing social games.
Everything else seems to fit me to a t though
I have a small circle of friends I truly trust with my inner reflections of the world and myself. But I also tend to hold on deeply to optimism that I can branch out to other social circles and have definitely been betrayed multiple times. Somehow I blind myself of this and like the definition of insanity hold onto optimism that I can live a societal normative lifestyle.
There are not failures, only lessons learned.
This video definitely resonates with me. I gave loyalty and in return I received betrayal.
Recently cut off one of my friends due to constant betrayal from them. He openly admitted he was jealous of my family and success. So he constantly undermined me and insulted me. When I finally cut him off and blocked him he’s being doing his best to contact me and when he does it’s only to try to get a rise out of me. When I don’t take the bait it makes him mad. Jealousy and his victim mentality has shattered his mind.
He was no friend. Good on you for getting rid of him.
_”For the Sigma male, trust is rare and must be earned.”_ 👍 As a Sigma male, this statement, and video overall, articulates accurately and clearly the behavior, challenges, and with respect to my personal “romantic” relationships, the betrayal I’ve experienced in my relationships with many others. And to add to that “challenge”, I’m also a *left-handed* Sigma male and a hard-core, data-driven, professional Scientist, attributes which can further exacerbate this type of behavior from others.