SUBTLE SIGNS OF TOXIC PARENTS 🫣: UNHEALTHY ATTACHMENTS, CONTROL & BOUNDARIES
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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2024
- Do your parents still treat you like you are still a child?
Do they guilt you into getting what they want? Or do they use threats or other manipulation strategies?
Do you feel ill or have other overwhelming physical or emotional feelings after seeing your parents?
Do you just feel like you will never live up to your parents’ expectations?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have grown up with a toxic parent.
Parents are human beings and that means that we may make mistakes, but it is time for us to do better.
What toxic trait are you currenting struggling with?
Follow the conversation on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @bumploveug
Video credits 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
VIDEOGRAPHY & EDITING: Garage Group
MANUELA'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Cadia Fashion House
Make Up: Tina Brows
Hair: Zuri Uganda
BEVERLEY'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Arija Fashions
Hair and Make up: Nisky
BARBARA'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Arija Fashions
Jewellery: SN Store
Hair: Zuri Uganda
Make up: The Sununu Effect
#toxicparents #parenting #bumplove
Do your parents still treat you like you are still a child?
Do they guilt you into getting what they want? Or do they use threats or other manipulation strategies?
Do you feel ill or have other overwhelming physical or emotional feelings after seeing your parents?
Do you just feel like you will never live up to your parents’ expectations?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have grown up with a toxic parent.
Parents are human beings and that means that we may make mistakes, but it is time for us to do better.
What toxic trait are you currenting struggling with?
Follow the conversation on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter @bumploveug
Video credits 👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾👇🏾
VIDEOGRAPHY & EDITING: Garage Group
MANUELA'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Cadia Fashion House
Make Up: Tina Brows
Hair: Zuri Uganda
BEVERLEY'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Arija Fashions
Hair and Make up: Nisky
BARBARA'S GLAM;
Wardrobe: Arija Fashions
Jewellery: SN Store
Hair: Zuri Uganda
Make up: The Sununu Effect
#toxicparents #parenting #bumplove
Thank you so much, Manuela and the entire bumplove team, you people are the best, I requested this last week and you granted my request, I love you guys, you don't know what this means to me.
Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤
A Lot to learn, education has no age limit life experiences but the village environment we grew in really my parents tried for sure especially my mother, rest in peace😢 but she taught me how to be observant about children especially being sensitive with the girl child. Not leaving them at large but being protective from men spoiling them at an early age. And showing them the way of the Lord.
The one who did Bev's hair should come for flowers. That style has beautified your face. The make up is so cool
Thank you. She is Nisky Beauty Experts.
One toxic trait not talked about is favoritism the parent shows on some children over the other
This is so true
I was a very toxic mother. Raising my son single handedly having been betrayed by dad, I quarrelled, I shouted, I spanked but after receiving Jesus, I'm a work in progress. So far, so good. All the above, I no longer do them. I learnt to extend grace.
God keep you strong.
That is great
Bev you are shinning today, the make-up no make up look is meant for you, your hair and that green are on point💚. Thank you ladies for the show.
Thank you so much for the kind words. Nisky Beauty Experts and Arija Fashionz
Every time i feel down, something hits into my mind like " Come on, u have to be such a powerful lady, can't u see Manuel? "
Same here
Awwwwwwwwww, this has blessed me. Thank you
Banange Bev that blend of Green is everything Girrrrl you look amazing 👌👌👌👌
Thank you.
Heal before having children so that your kids don't have to heal from having you as a parent. This has been my parenting guideline.
This is well said
This is so true
Am not yet a mother but after watching this video and listening attentively I have realised that I have been a toxic auntie to my niece so I have to pull up my socks and do better.
This episode just reminded me of what Barbra said but I had forgotten. I read it somewhere "Heal so as you don't bleed on those that didn't hurt you". I haven't become a mother yet and I have always seen things that my mum could have done better but now I see and realize that she did whatever she did the way she thought was better according to the way she was raised. And I have really made a bigger decision that I will correct whatever I felt as a kid that wasn't right to be a better parent when that time comes. I want a family where kids will always feel happy and want to come home to see me not because they have to. These episodes are really preparing me to do better.
Same here!
How l love this lady Barbra❤
She's such a sweet soul
Yes Babra is my lady too
Thank you ladies ❤️❤️❤️
@babramugeni2966 Been looking forward for a reply from you☺️☺️
Am soo happy 😊
Now Beverly this is the best colour😊
Bev is GORGEOUS 🥰❤
Bless you
Ladies ladies, always lovely to see you bring all the energy. Beverley's enthusiasm and depth on things just woke up the vibrant person I used to be, a person I had tucked away. Thank you all for sharing your lives with us.
I want to travel to various places, just for the experience, I always loved Europe specifically Scandinavian countries. Fortunately for me, I was raised by a liberal dad, a strict dad on responsibility but nothing toxic; communication was something he emphasizes and it has worked throughout the year. I, however, saw my maternal relatives be so helicopter to this day to their 35+ year-olds; it is crazy. That opening doors was normal, searches through our bags, books, etc. My mother ( r.i.p ) was really like Barbara, she took us everywhere at any time even places we had no business being. It was cool some days but not all days, she smothered us and I had a small stint of parenting my parent at this stage.
Emotional dysregulation as if the parent and child are peers. Train and let them go; they will get it right someday. There is a thin line between love and smothering. Why do I feel like no matter what we do, we shall still be toxic at some point. Ah!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us
Keep shining
The lady in green... Super gorgeous ❤
Thank you. I'm Beverley.
The bigger question after this discussion is " How do you deal with toxic parents" as a child?? We all know that you can never win against a parent because of the power dynamic and omuzadde tasobya even the Bible says clearly that we should HONOUR them. 😮
As someone who has been raised by a manipulative mother, what I normally do is to let her say whatever she feels like and I only take and do what I feel is right because right now I am a 23y/o adult who really can distinguish between what is right and wrong but as a child I just used to keep quiet, cry or even sometimes what helped me is that at times we could meet with my big siblings and we could share"talk about her" etc. That is really something that scares me looking back and I really don't want my kids to experience the same or meet to discuss about me as a mother😢. At times I try to talk to her about it since I am grown but still she brings in the manipulative technique that she mastered well and the moment I sense it, I just make my brain turn off and I do self-counselling and reminder.
@@n.sophie2001mine made a promise to herself to treat me like a teenager up to 24 years, wasn't allowed to even hang out with my half siblings on my dad's side it had to be her family no friends. She tried to make go to kyambogo I didn't want bse at makerere was given evening and to her that was going to be dangerous to move dat time told her to go to hostel it was like war thank God she allowed me. It was always sch home could call u had to finish the paper at 12 no it's 2 wc friend s are u with, in her mind ever it's men and with many times accused me for it maybe thought was protecting me but now clocking 26 and am still in pain she took y whole stage of life what hurts is seeing my younger brother do everything I wished as her funding it she didn't even allow me close to my dying sis all in the name protection. Evertime she tolr if u are to go somewhere u wait u get married u go with your husband not any friends those places aren't going 2 change. Have trauma alot
Omuzadde tasobya is not right. All human beings basobya
Thank you.. a toxic parent is like a punishment
@@n.sophie2001 our mother's must be sisters
Am not yet a parent but ur conversation has caught me toxic already,,,,thank you Ladies ur naturing us the right way 😊
Thank you ladies for the beautiful insights here. A perfect parent and perfect child doesn’t exist but The word of God when correctly interpreted goes along way in simplifying this relationship.
Children, respect your parents. Parents do not provoke your children.
In all things extend grace and do all you do from a Place of love, love is kind, patient etc Parents be kind to your children and do not spare the rode, being stewards of his creation ask God for direction and conviction.
Parenting well is impossible without the leadership of God’s principals.
Bev the shades of green and make up are giving 🎉❤🎉❤.
Bev another hair do that suits you beautifully
Thank you for that
The topic, guilty as charged, entering my Lil brother's room without knocking, surprise checks when he was younger, etc 😂 I will do better when I start my own family.
Thanks for sharing ladies, we have taken notes.
The colour codination is giving fabulousity, Bev your hair and outfit is stunning❤❤
Thanks so much. Nisky Beauty Experts and Arija Fashionz
Sometimes children don't talk for fear of what will happen. My son will hurt his leg and not talk because he fears going to the hospital. You only find out when he is taking a shower.
This conversation was worthy it. i have learnt a lot before i even become a parent
Bev...you look awesome with this hair do.....very beautiful.
I've learnt a lot as a mother of two beautiful angels.. thank you ladies for sharing.. I'll definitely do better esp when it comes to raising my voice.
Its always amazing to be here. Not yet a mom, but hoping to be a good one
Bev, you have lived the life. Those experiences at the beginning shared are so great. Barbara, same dream destination and Manuela, your dreams for your mum are so uplifting and inspiring.
Thank you
This episode....cheiiiii...I felt every hit. I will do better now as a mother. Truly how were are parented, the fear of our children experiencing what we did really makes us stick around them. My husband helped my children by taking them to boarding... otherwise, I had them so wrapped ard me.
Banange,parents lets not load our children with our problems
Thank you ladies for this discussion.
This topic was long waited for. Thank you ladies. African/ugandan parents feel owning their children and this thing of paying them back for the work they were entitled to do as parents has been a discussion i have had with several people that always never ended well because they were of the view I am very Westernised. Am grateful that its African women ,ugandan women on Ugandan soils discussing this topic. I think we are in the right direction. I pray we get better as Africans.
This is a very insightful conversation, thank you Bev, Barbara and Manuella.
Green is my colour in all forms at all times
Bev looking all glam😊serving us sauce...
Babs I love her....
Y’all ladies looking fab👌🏿
Bev looooked so stunning in this episode
❤💌
A lot of wisdom is shared here. Thank u ladies.
😂😂😂 holding the table .
Bev. I love you so much..
God bless you!
Finally…this topic has been long time coming🔥
Talking about temperature in a home... Uhmmmm I remember there was a time when mummy was upper grading her studies and we stayed home alone but every time we heard Dad's car coming everyone would run to their beds like we were always avoiding him and no one wanted to talk to him. The fear was too high 😢😢😢.
I agree with Babrah life is pain
I love the topic, a lot to learn and unlearn as a mother.
Naturally I ask questions. I think because our dad used to have free and loving conversations with us. But now people complain that I ask a lot yet in my mind, I be thinking we're having a conversation and am just trying to understand so that the conversation flows well.
Mind the questions you ask people they shouldn't be so personal.
Don't be tempted to ask about things people can't change they sound offensive.
Learn when to ask and to withhold or keep your question till wen the time is right
Sometimes if you are intentional about withholding some questions people will seek to tell you before you even ask them. This will better your relationships
Ladies....welllllll done. I think toxicity raised me and i have figured how I'm passing it on to my children now. I promise you I'm breaking those ties
Today Bev, you're extra, the makeup, hair, green🥰
Thank you. Nisky Beauty Experts.
Wow😮 today's show was marvelous 😍 and lovely. Were learning to be nice aunties, mums in future. Thanks ladies, were ending toxicity.
Great show ladies thank you for being so open and vulnerable so we can learn from you and grow.
Please do an episode on how these toxic traits follow us into our professional lives and in some cases impede our growth.
This is interesting
@@manuelap.mulondo 🙏🏽. Toxic leader at home often equals toxic at work. Controlling at home could translate into Micro Manager at work 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 . So help us God.
I love how you were all real especially Manuela. 😂😂😂😂😂
Thank you for watching dear
Am loving Barbra episode by episode
Bev, you look sooooo good
I appreciate that.
The colours on set mmmhhhh I like 🤗🤗
Bev. It is not only opening the door ..our parents my God..
Many thing they did only God is helping us slowly..
Wow very insightful👏👏👏 I need to up my game hoo. Am that aero plane parent . Thank you bump love.
Todays topic was the best ladles.
You nailed it.❤❤
So smart ladies.
I love anything to do with parenting...here to watch
Thank you for watching
lovely team, that was great.......we are all victims of victims, and as Barbra said we need to be conscious/intentional and do a thorough self-check to break this cycle, in order to bring a whole and stable future generation as God intended.... it's awakening.... for custodians
BEVERLY,I WANT TO BE YO FRIEND.THE WAY U SPEAK AND EXPRESS YOSELF IS SOOOO GOOOD.WOOOW
Wow wow Barbra is hitting us with facts❤
Thank you ❤
Beautiful content and hosts as always greater ❤🎉🎉
Ms. Barbara's dress looks amazing❤, Ms. Bev's hair is chef's kiss and Ms. Manuela's dress/top is giving boujee. l love it.
Bev' style is not of here... but respect, learning slowly
You all are great moms. That fact that you are willing to admit that you are at times toxic says alot. Because one cannot work on a problem they believe doesn't exist. Most African parents have the mentality that a parent is always right which isn't the case. That's probably why they are usually controlling..
I enjoyed the episode
New to this new bump love but I miss the old one😢😢
Bev today you served us looks ❤❤❤❤ you'll look amazing
Beverly you are soooo composed I really likeu❤
Thanks ladies🎉, there is always something to learn on every episode.
OMG such great content. Not a mother yet but have grown up in toxic parenthood environments
Beverly weldone for sharing that story of how your child draw you, just touched my heart.
Indeed fail for repeated mistakes or weaknesses
The car tyres, carried you in the cold.......😂😂😂. At times i have the same attitude
Bev everything on point today 🎉
Bless!
Bev your looks are giving
Oh dear Barbra 🎉🎉🎉🎉thank you indeed life is pain....this is hard though true lets hand everything to the Almighty God
Thank you ❤
Am learning,i was like Barbara 😂😂😂,i was on my child like eeeh until i realised that she is. Child she has to enjoy her childhood 😂😂😂,also that. I learnt it from here , thanks Bump love
Barbra has been in an AA class😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 am laughing PRIVACY' for my 11 years; i feel like nooo...
Am forever grateful for the Holy spirit, he always steps in whenever the toxicity is bulging out.
The chemistry well done Barbra Bev and manuela❤
Bev...u look stunning...
Bless you. Thanks
This a very difficult but necessary topic to discuss. Thank you.
I have inching point I would like to raise to my beautiful ladies in the house and you share with me ideas but am totally scared. And I love your shows.
Yours secret follower
Barbra is so right girl sometimes our parents can be too much in our spaces, ehh
I feel Barbara and Manuela have developed a connection already
The ladies are both my very good friends and I have deep connections with both of them
You're looking great Bev, Manuela and Barbara ❤
Manuela's input, when she said she lives vicariously through her chidren reminds me of the story of two brothers in the US who grew up and killed their mum and dad. The parents according to the boys were toxic. These boys grew up privileged however, the parents made them do things they did not desire to do but did because the parent's forced them. They were only two children so the parent's gave them all however, these boys said they could not breath or be like normal kids. So as they grew older, sports activities and keeping their grades up, they got tired .They said their parents were living through thrm. The boy's were only a year apart when you see them, they look like twins. They plotted and killed their parents. Actually the mum died from her injeries but their dad survived.
Bev is giving♥️👌🏽🎉🎊🥳🥳🥳🥳
It’s very true knocking is a must
I have enjoyed this conversation. Thanks to you ladies
Thax so much ladies the sharing was wonderful and hope to improve as a mother.
Brave. Your narration of the story is lit, am inspired
Really enjoyed this ❤and now i can also comfirm that i’m toxic and need to work on it!Thanks ladies
Waaaooo....thanks so much ladies, this show is a Blessing to this generation
Well done 👏 team,thanks so much for the efforts you put in making us better people. 👏 May the Almighty bless you all abundantly.
To you Manuela,thanks for being intentional and for building the foundation of making us better people.
Thank you for seeing that. I appreciate it
The owe thing is the really toxic one ,me personally I remind my mum that it's is he role to do her duties though me and my bond is intertwined that every one understand each other that wen we HV a complain for each other we HV a stable ground were one accepts it and grow and hv seen the difference in having a bond than owing thing to every thing
You look lovely ladies❤️❤️ even before I watch😂
Love the positive vibes❤
Barbra and Bev bring out such a beautiful side of you Manuela .. we are glad to have them on set .
Really?
@@manuelap.mulondo they do I think each person in our lives speaks to a different aspect of us as each one is a unique gift in of themselves
These women are the real deal
Thank you
when I grow up🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I want to be like Beverly🤣
oh, Bless!
This is a very nice episode
The experience of a toxic parent is terrible...some of us now look at our mothers as strangers....the toxicity is too much that we leave life as though we don't have them.my mother will choose a cousin of me.
Thought I was alone. I even fear to call her thinking she will blame me or compare me to someone else. I feel nervous around her. She will complain of anything my weight, my profession,
Olemwa!!!!!!
Are we related?? This is my mum exactly
@@sophienamayanja1967 Me and you are definitely twins😂
the attachment mom is me and i am not going to change it hhhh