Aba, I'm disappointed that you didn't walk up to the cab, confront her, and then give them your blessing to go on a date, and then encourage the guy to kiss her...
My worst rejection was a girl picking me up, driving around, got coffee which I paid for and suddenly she stopped on the road and she said "I think I busted my tyre, can you check for me?". Knowing I am a man I offered to hop out the car and help, as I exit the car she then took off and left me for stranded on the road. I still have PTSD from this date.
I mean this is always so far away from the truth. Most the time your asking someone either closely or losely attached to your friendship group. Asking and being denied can really ruin your standing in the group.
The part that is the saddest about this is not even Aba's response, the jumping in the bushes is an attempt to save his heart from humiliation/pain. The saddest part is the fact this broad couldn't send a simple text message to cancel, or let him know she wasn't interested. Not only did she agree to a date she didn't want to go on, but she decided to not take responsibility for her actions and just let him know how she feels. Shit is weak. No cap Aba, thank you for the story, I know it wasn't funny then.. but the story lets all the men out there know they aren't alone in hard rejection. I can't tell you how many times before my current girl that I was told yes/given the open door and then just ghosted. Again, shit is weak.
Yeah by the end I just went “you’re not only a**hole you’re a b*tch.” I mean cmon how hard is it really to cancel especially if you’re gonna let this other Ahole roll up IB him to clown him.
Each gender got their own share of dirt and from my own experiences, women have the capability to be extremely foul and disrespectful for no other reason than them being pretty and being used to getting what they want.. That "I'm not interested" would get loads of respect from me, but I guess I always gotta be thinking about their struggles and potential fears all the while just eating the disrespect and ignoring my own. It's cool though
from what i can gather it's similar to the docu's bit about the girl trying to get rid of Ned or at least it's born of the same mindset. essentially she probably has to see and talk to a large number of people with no shortage of guys hitting on her so she made an example of Aba by either getting her boyfriend or some random guy to go with her and then hunt him down to call him out. i can only assume that she looked for him before they came out, as they went to the cab (with the cab driver potentially also being a lookout for him) and then making the round till they made sure of where he was in case he chose to book it instead of sticking around. in the end word may have spread around which would dissuade people from approaching her. this might be overthinking it but i honestly doubt that Aba was so notable to her that she thought "no, fuck you in particular"
Woman here, and I totally agree. Everyone needs to be honest and respectful. Ghosting someone is such a bitch move - it might feel a little awkward to tell someone you aren't interested or after a date or 2 that aren't feeling the chemistry, but I have never and would never ghost a guy because it's worse to let someone wonder why and think maybe they did something wrong when they didn't. That's some weak, high school bullshit. So disrespectful.
I was jogging once trying to get into shape and two young ladies drove past and screamed “keep running fatty”. I’m not even fat but that killed my confidence for weeks.
There are a LOT of subtle variations to that ' called ugly in public " subject .....In 2008 i was ripped as hell , and at my peak level , i just had two girlfriends of the 10/10 level , i KNEW i was good looking , not out of ego , but out the reports of my gfs ( even tho gfs aren't always objective , and tastes differ from a. girl to the next i really asked their honest opinions ) ...One night i go out dressed like a million bucks , and i see a girl looking at me from 100 meters away , like INTENSE gaze , she was with two female friends , i was walking towards them anyway , when i was at their level , one of the girl says to the one that was looking at me " why are you looking at him he's UUUUUGLY" like giggling and all .....I'm sure it was either the girl talking out loud who wanted to pull a nasty one to her girl friend to brake her eventual ticket with me , or it was to make me react and provoke me speaking to them like " the fuck are you calling me ugly for out of the blue bitch " and then they would have apologized and told me it was a joke , then would have probably pursued the conversation , which would have been the goal in the first place ( it's true tho , that luring a guy walking the streets that they absolutely don't know into a conversation is a hard one to pull for a group of girls probably , hence the twisted very rude method ) .... Shy or twisted people , sometimes have really counter intuitive reactions like that ......The surface of what people show oftenly is very different from the inner motives ...... I've had a girl screaming at me , and talking me like absolute shit for a full year the last year of high school , and i learned years after that she was treating me like that to catch my attention by friends of hers during an impromptu night out discussion after not having seen them for a decade , she was totally into me .... I had NO idea . Don't forget that girls , are professionals at shit testing guys to test their own self confidence . You gotta learn to tell a girl to go F herself when she misbehaves , and FEELING it when you're doing it , especially when she's gorgeous ....The moment you take low key gloves because you care too much , and try to potentially save a ticket with her , she knows she already go you , you're no challenge anymore , you're done .....
@@benoitguillou3146I don't even talk to people like that, I just go past them and spit in front of them. Don't have time for some bozo that's calling me ugly, be it a drunk homeless guy or a pretty girl.
To be fair, it probably looked pretty sketchy. Think about it. Some customer comes by when your works over, then jumps into a bush to hide when you come out.
Moral of Aba's story: don't have high expectations for a first date, if she ghosts or rejects you just move on, basically still a stranger at that point anyway.
@@houseofhas9355 We shouldn't have to learn to not take it personally. They could act their fucking age and stop making plans they don't intend to keep.
Bruv mine, I did this full plan where my friends would distract her group and I would just say it one on one. I said I liked her and went away, then realised she didn't respond. Naturally, I went like the fkin lunatic I am, to her the next day to ask if she liked me back. Long story short I don't like talking to my school friends for extended periods of time.
I am in PAIN hearing Aba's story, Mine wasn't in a bush but it was in a closet at her house and her friends came over. She told me to "go hide" so they wouldn't know I was there. after sitting for 2 hours they come in the room 3 girls (plus her) 2 dudes laughing and I hear one of the guys say "Ayo nigga still in the closet? hahaaaA" shit was devastating man, high school was a trip. Doubt You will see this aba but I FEEL your pain. Edit: holy s*** how did most of you see this comment. If I remember I I can't recall how I got out of her house or the closet. I just know video games and anime got me through it.
I flew across country for my mom who has stage 4 cancer and grief is suffocating me.. and you guys posted this.. I was crying and laughing at the same time..😂😭🤣thank you both!! Lord it was funny as hell!!
God bless you Anecia, hug her every minute you can, breathe her in, smell her, kiss her. God give your darling Mum life and peace in her heart and spirit. You give your mum all the time you can. Be there with her. These gifts to her are what you’ll remember for the rest of your life. 💞
The messed up part of that L story was she intentionally planned on humiliating him. She planned another date then didn't tell him even when she got text that he was outside. To put the cherry on top they stopped just to say "yeah, I see you hiding in the bushes". Damn.
That's why I don't usually feel anything for these broads out here when they cry and regret about their life choices, they deserve no mercy considering how nasty some of them are character wise.
Pretty late for this but my somewhat “bush story” isn’t necessarily a rejection. I remember in 7th grade overhearing a group of girls ask one of the pretty girls at our school which guy she likes in our class. They went through a couple of names and to all of them she’d say “No”, then when my name came up she said “Eww No” and they all laughed. Man that hit me hard, that’s the one 7th grade memory I can’t seem to forget.
Asked a girl to prom for my senior year she said yes. The day of prom I show up to pick her up she said she can no longer go. So I go to prom solo and when I got there she was there with someone else.
That is horrible. Maybe she didn't want to tell you because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. But she probably assumed you wouldn't go any more. That is messed up. I would be pissed if I got all dressed up and that happened.
As a young man. I had to conquer disabling shyness. So to develop rhinohide, I forced myself to talk to women. Always telling myself "the worse thing she can do is say no". I was sooooo wrong. A young lady flatout laughed when asked buy her a drink. It DESTROYED my confidence...for years.....
I learned when I was in my teens you talk to many women at once and who ever bites bites. Some can be cruel but thats the game partner. I married in my 30s now glad that is over.
Lowkey the stories u can't cry about can hurt the most. Cuz there's no lesson to learn. They just become little landmines of shame that trigger throughout your life when something reminds you of it lol
How you gonna be giving advice about dating and moving on when you're in your 30s still sulking about a woman that wasnt yours sulking about her with another dude lols. This is what the red pill community is about lols.
@@thegamingkitchen8429 i think you're on the wrong channel lol. 1. this isn't the red pill community 2. he isnt sulking about anything, he simply opened up and told his audience a funny/embarrassing story about rejection, something all guys have gone through (you red pillers literally become 'red pilled' due to rejection). Aba n Preach also don't really give dating advice either. They just give their opinions on certain aspects of relationships/dating when the topic happens to arise. You really must be confused. Or you're a F&F still angry about something happened months ago. Lol. Not very red pill to live in the past
The problem is not rejection. Not everyone fits with everyone and thats normal. The problem is , women being unnecessarily mean or hurtful, often for no good reason other than bad past experiences with OTHER men. So when another guy approaches her, she treats him at least just as bad as those other dudes. They dont start out with the new guys' approach with a clean slate.
ya'll sound hurt. i've never been rude or mean when i politely reject a man. but i can honestly say i've been approached aggressively and disrespectfully too many times to count. your comment makes it sound like women are just rude and men are innocent. both sides are at play in the whole thing. aba and preach even said it in this video - this is why men cat call. they'd rather be rejected for being purposefully repulsive than to approach sincerely and be rejected. society teaches men they can't be soft. and society teaches women they're objects. we all want connection but unfortunately we have been misguided and we're all running around with insecurities and disillusions just bumping into each other hoping we get lucky.
@@herenow4550 true. I'm on the more respectful and how are you doing side of things. I remember scheduling a date with a woman for a Wednesday, then next week she rescheduled for the Saturday coming up. 1 hour before the date she told me she met someone else via online dating and wanted to see where it was going. Lol. I was mad cause I could've been doing othet stuff instead of wasting time. End of the day, folks gotta read the signs. If a woman stops responding or is sloowwwwwwwww to text....I just keep it pushing to the next. That way you don't waste energy on someone not wasting energy on u. And I know some guys can be whole butt heads
I would say that men do even worse for the same misconceptions towards women. From aggressive catcalling to even situations of some sort of revenge over complete strangers that put women in danger (like stalkers or sexual assaulters) before even knowing how she may react or anything about them. There is a good reason for which women may keep a distance when dating and may be precaucious. Women who are mean and try to make fun of guy's situations are wrong, but also another wrong doesn't make a right. Guys don't have to pit everyone in the same bowl and treat actual strangers like they have personally ruined their lives and would deserve ridicule.
@I'm a ghost. Her reply only matters if you are interested in actually getting to know her. It then matters because her reply gives you a clue as to what she is really like, and you can thereby reflect on what kind of women you are choosing to approach. Women are not the only ones who can choose poorly.
"Sat in the bushes looking back at your life".. up until that line I was just smiling a bit, but after Preach said that I list all control and started laughing hysterically
My best rejection story: I was about 19 and a freshman in college. I was walking through the mall and saw this cute girl working at a sunglasses stand. So I approach and try to use the whole I'm a customer as a way to try to flirt and get a conversation going. Off the jump, I can tell she isn't having any of it. Body language screamed either buy something or move on. I try one last time and talked about some party that was happening that weekend and she basically was like oh that's cool. Realizing that I am just embarrassing myself more with each swing I decide let me just get a pair of $10 glasses and move on. I pick a pair of aviators and go to pay and my card got declined. I had to walk away from that wasting that poor girls time and couldn't even buy the $10 sunglasses. I'm 33 now and I still feel that one lol.
is this story a pun because.....your *card* was rejected? LOLOL but in all seriousness that sucks. It's best not to approach a woman like that while she's on the clock.
As someone who has gotten rejected plenty of times, i had a really attractive girl approach me not to long ago and I caught myself questioning everything. She was actually into me though and that was a major confidence boost.
@@PfEMP I’ve never had easy so I went with it. We hung out, had fun, and talked for a few weeks in the end we decided to go our separate ways but no regrets on either side.
Many women think being a man is easy because we make it look easy. I'll give her props for trying to be in our shoes and experience what we go through daily. 💪
Watch the whole video about it.. she experienced the darkest side of being a man.. the last thing she did while acting as a man was attend some help group or something.. and she realized how depressed men can be.. things that not even her as a woman can actually think was possible.. she herself almost got depressed just by being in this group..
It's not that we make it look easy we have to hid how hard it is unlike them. They can go to mom,gfs/bfs and countless support groups tp complain and never be made less of a women because of it, vs men who might have a dad whom might give a minute to bitch before telling you to stop being a bitch and fix yourself, or some friends who might listen hell maybe even check up again but better not use it to much because each time the outside view of you becomes more and more emasculated. Or they do the big fall with a short drop when they encounter the difficulty with being a man and never make it to the point where women even see how hard it is to be a man
When you are being a jerk, and she rejects you, it is like you have a shield because she rejected the jerk you were portraying, but when you approach as to how you are and get rejected, yeah she rejected the real you.
@@iamcasihart You are a woman. I don't think it is right for you to downplay social dynamics that simply don't apply to you. If you work for a living, and you are looking for a job, it is not the end of the world to be rejected by companies that you applied to, but when you need to eat, pay bills and have a roof over your head, yeah is a problem.
As someone said:"100 bad days make a 100 good stories, a 100 good stories makes you interesting at parties". I feel for Aba, but this story is goals in comedy BECAUSE YOU CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP! 😂
normal.. men are supposed to take it. An L is much worse for a woman supposedly, for men it isnt that bad. they are strong, they can and should take it. sometimes its just a shit test too. she doesnt actually mean it but is just testing your metal. its pretty messed up
The only people who can get away with roasting, hollerin and dying on the floor at your Ls, while you mouth back on their existence are people who are either your real friends, family members or romantic partners. Cause you know at the end of the day, they got your back no matter what.
I think it's cute, like a 2000's teenager movie how they don't want to DTR (*Define the Relationship) it started as a business/partner relationship but like Batman/Robin, Holmes/Watson and what else, they clearly created a strong bond. Maybe it's not what they would describe a friendship, but it's beautiful and really funny to see
I had a girl straight up laugh in my face. Never said yes or no. Just a laugh. She then walked over to her friends and pointed at me and they all laughed. After that any other rejection felt like they were being nice. I'd like for women to know that feeling. I'm petty
I would honestly rather a woman reject me straight up from the jump then lead me on for dates or attention for weeks then just ghost me. Aba's story is just one of a million. Guys have to deal with being ghosted, blocked or ignored and not even know why? It use to hurt me a lot when I thought things were going good and then BAM she just straight up ignores your texts. It's just stuff as a man you gotta learn how to deal with and move on from.
Im now close to 40 and dealt with that situation many times and never understood it. Why give your number to a guy you had no intention of dating...attention maybe, self validation? We'll never know
@@maxtorque5329 From what I understand, they want your time and attention in exchange for nothing. Worse yet, they keep in touch to see what you can possibly offer them in the future
It goes both ways this generation is full of flaky people, gender has nothing to do with it because both sides are complaining about not being able to find a partner or being ghosted.
@@maxtorque5329 Some women will say they do it to protect themselves from verbal or physical assault that could happen if they reject a guy in public. I think that's the case in some situations but I really believe women like to keep their options open and like the free attention as well.
They guy who rolled down his window is also a sucker. Cause if the girl can do it to Aba, she'll do it to him too when she sees another shiny object. At the end of the day, Aba just was unlucky giving a shitty person a chance.
Just switch the roles: Imagine for a moment, someone is waiting for you, to go on a date, you showing up with someone else (for that in itself you'd have to be pretty petty and callous) and NOTICING them hiding out of embarrasment, stopping and letting them know you know they hid...That's just cruel.
Aba is speaking facts about being the ugly girl in a friend group. I remember going on vacation with one of my friends and everywhere we went men would stop her to compliment her even to the point where people would stop me only to tell me that my friend was pretty 🥲 She absolutely was (and is) beautiful but I felt invisible whenever I was walking next to her. It used to bother me but now I just accept my role and keep it moving.
People shouldnt feel as bad about staying home playing games and watching anime, itll keep you out of trouble. If your home, no baby mamas, no debt, no warrants or beefs with anybody. Sometimes folks just need time to get thier head right.
Facts people really under rate the importance of falling back never be afraid to say I need a break and then take a minute by yourself to get your mind correct
That’s sounds lame as hell anybody who is too scared to take risk is unable to grow and stagnant. That is completely against the fundamental nature of humans to explore and discover. Whatever though you do you.
Bruh I feel like most “average” dudes have some kinda brutal story like this that we don’t talk about lol but I kinda love it at the same time cuz it builds strong character as long as you don’t stay there in that hurt and improve yourself. Eventually you learn to laugh at it all. I’ve had some really bad stories that I don’t even like to talk or think about lmao
The overwhelming majority of individuals are average... just sayin... and this goes for both men and women. Unfortunately, social media with all the editing of photos and the filters used, combined with the advances in cosmetic procedures and surgeries, the true form of most is skewed.... altered. Fake world, fake people, for the most part.
Bro I swear everyone has them stories. In highschool I had a experience where a girl I liked told me to come hang out and when I turned up she literally ran shouting ew get away.. All her friends laughed we were all in class so it was so embarrassing.. I leave school.. Start touring the world with music.. The same girl in my inbox years later trying to spit game and be friendly.. I said "remember when you made all your friends laugh at me because I liked you?" Never heard from her since 🤣🤣🤣🤣 This is why the perfect thing men can do is forget women and try to be the best person they can be!
I think I have more than one of these stories, that I've subconsciously boxed away in my memory. You don't talk about your failures, because nothing positive comes out of that.
@@mamamarianovits9029 True, majority of the people are average. But what you need to understand is that average men do not get to smash average women. Average women tend to overestimate their worth and basically sideline average men for top tier men.
"Die alone or put yourself out there." Dying alone is a hell of a lot safer than getting repeatidly destroyed. If a women was to simply say "Sorry but I'm not interested" that would be fine with me, but when they say "eww" or when they laugh, or their friend drags them away and fires you an ugly look, that shit destroys me, I've been through it and dying a lone is a hell of a lot better. I get my entertainment from video games, tv (including some anime) and my right hand because at least I'm not being treated like shit for simply showing an interest in someone.
A fully grown adult women who rejects someone showing interest by saying ew and is in no way feeling threatened is not emotionally mature and doing you a favour, this was a hilarious episode. Take it easy and keep showing up.
The reason they respond that way is because they are so insecure, they don't know how to react to the confidence you don't even realize you have. It's them wearing an L on their forehead, and the tragic irony of it all is that she'll never admit it, and you don't even know it. ✊
honestly, for anybody to be absolutely disrespectful without any reason is pretty insane to me. As a woman, I've seen other girls say "eww" to men approaching them respectfully... and I was so beyond angry. I turned around and remember telling one girl to learn some damn respect. To speak like that to anybody is absolutely disgraceful. However, I've also been on the opposite side where despite the fact of telling men incredibly respectfully and kindly that I wasn't interested, they still proceeded to be force themselves in my personal space and follow me even after I moved spots... that also gave me trauma. It was incredibly hard Because it felt like someone took away my agency. My right to choose. So I sometimes understand when people become a little tough. Tho not justifiable, I understand that it may be trauma. I understand what you mean. Both side need to do better.
This short film.. *teardrop rolls down*.. is the most vulnerable story telling. And the patience and bond I see Aba has for Preach is profound side story. Five out of five stars. This film will stand the test of time as a classic.
@@VNRPro you obviously dont watch their videos. Time and time again they say too each other that they are not friends outside of work. They don't hang out or nothing, yes they are cool with each other but not friend nor best friends. They say it in a lot of their videos.
Also, as an ugly girl who is also in a wheelchair...I have approached most of the men I've dated and I have been rejected a lot, but it is worth it to find the right person who I like and who can handle my dark sense of humor because I always approach with something ridiculous lol. The thing is even the ones who rejected me were usually nice about it except a couple when I was a lot younger. (As a teen I had a guy literally scream and run away from me laughing with his friends and they roasted the shit out of me for years for it, but I took my shot you know lol) I dunno how you guys handle the cold and bitchiness like we saw in the video all the time. I'm so glad I'm not looking anymore though because dating is stressful if you put yourself out there.
A) don't call yourself ugly (im sure your SO will agree with me). B) as a woman who is differently able who still went out and shot her shot. You have my absolute espect. C) I genuinely feel like women who approach have a better chance of finding a guy the click with because you took the onus on yourself. D) Lastly its comforting to see that some women have already realised the thing i try to teach my nephews, neices and young men I mentor, that rejection is normal and not something to be ashamed or angry about, accept it be polite and keep it moving. I genuinely hope you have a good day/life.
Well, the reason why Men tend to handle rejection from women is, because there is an understanding between men when it comes to women. I used Online Dating and met Girls in Real-Life an i have seen and learned a lot from that. I have experienced how some Girls where telling me im not as tall as their Ex`s while mentionin that those Guys abused her but she wants what wants to Girls who had Self-Esteem Problems and therefore used Sex as a method of trying to fill that Void and feel that they are being wanted. Or Girls who wanted to have someone who where very,m very dominant and wanted to have some Dude who is even more of that. I know who i am and what im going to archieve in Life. Im working hard for that and i will probably have a good life in the future. And some of these Women choose men just because they are tall and have that "i give zero F" mentality. And those Men will be in poverty their whole life, behaving poorly and whatever. Thats a point that actually makes me laugh. Of course it makes you sad to a certain point that you dont meet someone you really like. But there are more important thing in life than having relationships.
Ma'am with all do respect you probably see your as ugly when someone else does not. So you are fine, Everyone has had their moments hell I look at myself everyday and say "Who hell would want to be with me" and Laugh it off and hit the gym.
had a crush on a girl for several years in middle school, when we reached high school i checked in yellow pages where she lived (small town), went there on my bike (a good 1h cycling) dropped a poem in her letter box, next day she showed it to her best friend ... who decided to recite that very personal poem i made to the whole class and then proceed to shred it. just felt like she torn my heart, as well as make the whole class make fun on me for the rest of the year. i had hard time later even showing my interest into women to be fair.
Aww man look I'm a chick and that girl sounds fu#$ed up you did such a lovely thing I'm so sorry she did that I bed she regrets it still today I bet you,sending much love💓
@@Avi-tq6fd well life moved on, we ended doing different studies which brought her to South America where she found her love. And mine brought me to China where I found my love. But in-between my self confidence to approach women was pretty low.
If you couldn’t tell by my name, I’m a black nerd. I’ve been one all my life. When I was in school, sometimes I would get propositioned by girls….but they were playing a prank on me. Some of you may have gone through a similar experience. I was sitting alone in the cafeteria. Out of the corner of my eyes I see a group of guys and one girls sitting at a round table. I see them peeking over at me, whispering to themselves, and chuckling. This girl stands up and walks over to me. She sat down next to me and started talking, asking me for my name and whatnot. So I told her, that I knew that she was dared to come and talk to me and pretend to be interested for their amusement. She got up and walked back to her table of guy friends. I felt victorious that day, because I didn’t lose my cool like I normally did when someone tried to screw with me. The moral of that story is that if theirs a group of guys with one girl….one of them is smashing and the others are waiting their turn. Oh….and whenever a man is propositioned, it’s usually a scam.
Yo, I'm not a guy, but I've felt the same thing. Idk how you kept your cool, dude, kudos, in situations like that I get so snappy so fast; I just have no patience for such disrespect.
Y'know similar to the bot story, when I was a kid I rejected like two girls cause I thought they were pranking me. I know it happens twice but I only remember one of them. This girl was with a group of her friends laughing and she came up to talk to me. And it just reminded me of middle school when girls did that right before a prank. I think she was serious cause she kinda tried one more time after that.
Rejection story #1: it’s the start of the fall semester. I’m with a group of friends and they were discussing dating(specifically how men are trash because it’s majority females). There was this girl in the group I had eyes on. She was quirky, liked anime as much as I did, good looking, and was outgoing; which was a nice contrast to my introvert personality. So she was describing her ideal type of guy, and a lot of them were traits that I have. She said she wanted something serious and I am of the same mindset despite being in college. So we connect and start talking until we decided to go on a date. Had a time, day, and place all set up. She tells me she busy with schoolwork. I understood, so I told her when she has free time to hit me up. That never happened, however because I’m in a lot of friend groups and I see her on social media outside. Fast forward a week and we see each other again at a game night. So it’s truth or dare, if you don’t do the dare you drink. Whole time I’m sober, but I see her and one of my homeboy (which I’m not mad at because he didn’t know until after), getting close and all that. We spend the night at the house we was having the game night at, and the two are cuddled up on the couch in front of me. Next day comes, I didn’t bring it up but I leave. Dropped the date entirely at that point. I never stated it but I knew she wasn’t gonna make a date and I wasn’t gonna keep reminding her about it, to me it shows you weren’t interested to see it through. However, because my friends have realized that I showed interest, they started telling me what has been going on with her. I come to find out she boo’d up with another dude, which still irked me just because I felt like you just played my emotions. There are no happy endings, wish there was. So that’s mine
"Nobody will ever proposition you". Hits deep, been there, don't think women will ever understand it's a super lonely world out here for a man at the bottom. No wonder so many of us just end it. Will never forget how lonely it was when I was homeless, like full on street bum, yeah cause of my decisions but also I was super fucked over by people, and when I was homeless I saw this sticker in the window of a laundromat with stats on male suicide. All I could think was "something is very wrong with this world".
I recently went through a serious ghosting. I had been in a serious relationship with someone for just under 2 years. We had dinner on a Friday night in June and to this very day, hasn't spoken a single word to me. June 28 to be exact. He wouldn't respond to my texts, calls, nothing. I have no idea what happened. I was in so much pain and would have done anything for a simple explanation until I decided to go to his house and confront him a month ago. That little mf'er wouldn't even come out of his house to talk to me! I sat in my car for 20 minutes and he hid inside like a coward. This is a 45 year old grown man! I drove away and all of the hurt and pain immediately went away. I had to see for myself just how much of a POS he truly is. So long story short, don't ghost anyone, people. It's so immature and extremely hurtful. Use your damn words.
@@IYeleven I don't think he will because he just put "in a relationship" on his FB profile. This happened last week. I kind of knew it was coming because he is with a woman now who he has always had a thing for and she recently went through a divorce. I guess he jumped at the chance, regardless of how it effected me. 2 years wasted with a complete asshole. They deserve each other 🤷🏼♀️
@@tracyd693 I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I went through something similar and now I try to ask a guy or notice what his type is so this way I can avoid having my time wasted if I’m not his type to begin with.
Guys...I TOTALLY GET IT. 20 years ago I lived through what I called "The Summer of Disrespect". I had a beautiful Chinese friend and she was top notch. A solid 10. She had black hair down to her knees, she had the curves and everything. I was the driver and I was doing music so everywhere I had a gig, she was there. She NEVER disrespected me and would get pissed off at the men that did. Even fellow musicians blatantly disrespected me. It was so bad that she didn't want to hang out with me because it just hurt. Examples of disrespect included: Men holding the door open for her while letting it shut in my face---this included with my hands being full and she would run back to help me instead Male musicians saying I couldn't sit in with them unless I got her number for them. And when she rejected them, they took it out on me She'd introduce me and wouldn't even acknowledge my presence I was in a way her chaperone. She was heavy into online dating but told her dates that she was bringing her friend (me) along. Never expected her date to pay for me and brought my own money or she'd spot me if I didn't. Most of her dates offered to pay for my meal too and say it was alright...until they met me. Now...look at my profile picture. I'm not ugly. That was me in 2008. I was smaller than that in 2001-2002. I had just gotten out of the Marines when this happened. So I was fit. I was thicker but I would've rated myself at least a 7. But she was a dime, and no one else saw me exist. But I wasn't ugly by any means. Anyway, once they saw me arrive with her, they would give her deference. I expected this. She had doors opened for her, chairs pulled out. I was chopped liver. I even had one date of hers say to me when she went to the bathroom "Aight, I think we're good, you can go now..." and tried to dismiss me. Others wouldn't even make small talk with me. They KNEW I was coming along, they were OK with it, and then change when they saw me. It's as if they were expecting Halle Berry but they got me instead and acted like they got cheated. A couple of dates even rescinded their offer to pay for my meal. I would say "It's OK, you're not on a date with me." I'd pay for my own. A couple of them treated me cordially but were cold. But she didn't want to be alone with these online dates. All that summer, I was treated like this. My self-esteem was DESTROYED. She even hooked me up with her ex because I was so broken down and lonely. And that was 3 years of hell because he was a narc. It was not my best moments. I did get over it, but that shit scarred me. I'm happily married now, but all the shitty rejections men go through were what I experienced that summer. It is soul-crushing. And even though I'm married now, there are times when I shed a few tears remembering that awful summer. Men...I feel you. Trust me.
My rejection story: Highschool, met a boy who I thought was super cute and nice. We had great conversations and we basically vibed very well. I had a huge crush on him and I took my chance because I knew he wouldn’t do the step, he was more of the shy type. I took my courage and went straight to him after class and asked him out for a movie. I said that I really liked me him and I would pay for everything …. He looked at me up and down and said : I don’t date girls who look like dudes….and walked away. Next day, he told to the hole class about it… this event hurts me till this day …well it is not as bad as Aba’s story but I still felt that. Soo I would like to agree that girls get less rejected than guys but there is 1% of girls like me that i don’t get approached by Guys online or in real life. I got rejected soo many times that I just put myself in the friendzone now.
I like girls who lean towards the Tom boy style as long as they have a nice body. I prefer Jordan’s over heels. I’m sure I’m not alone. Keep doing you 👌🏽👌🏽
I can top that. Took this girl out for dinner. Excuses herself to make a very important call, right after we ordered our food. About 25 mins later, the food arrived and she was still nowhere to be seen. At this point, I sat there staring at the food and reflecting on my life choices, thinking this girl ditched me in the worst possible way. What made it more humiliating was noticing the waiters and waitresses staring and feeling sorry for me. It get's better... She eventually comes back just as I was about to leave and (wait for it...) tells me she was having a serious conversation with her ex partner - whom she found out was a married man - with kids... She then gives me this warm smile and says in the most calm manner "Hey, it's ok. We were only talking about ethics", like I should be grateful I still had a chance with her. Needless to say, I wished her well and never saw her again. Looking back, there were many things I could have said and done, but I guess I didn't have it in me. The only good thing that came from this experience, was me realising that I should have more respect for myself.
I mean that honestly ended a lot better than I thought it was going to… sure I’m sure sitting there visualizing where you went wrong and feeling hella awkward cause the waitresses felt bad was devastating, but she could have not came back and it would of just been another story of you being left, but she came back and explained the situation, prolly could have still smashed if you let what she said slide and played it right
@@kzukiodenthechad7205 Why'd you even try to smash with someone who feels they can leave you in the middle of a date to talk to their supposed ex, who was also a married man? Bruh, have some fucking standards mate.
@@kristianjensen5877 How tf would he know if hes just meeting her? So what? Youre supposed to laser scan them and find out who they are just like that before they even speak?
Started chatting with a girl on spring break who went to the college in my hometown. Planned an ice cream date on my layover cause I flew for free. We had been chatting back and forth all day an night while I was on vacation, figured everything was go. I land, get to the crib, and let her know I’m ready to go when she is. STRAIGHT SILENCE. 5 hours later while boarding my return flight she says “Ew. Was never gonna happen” as if she hadn’t been sending me unsolicited thirst traps all weeeek longgggg. Such a trippy time of life.
Tell me about dignity. Imagine when the guy she stood you up for gives you a sympathy hug before he goes home with her. This, right after you had to serve them for a couple of hours, because they picked your workplace to have their date, and, as a consequence, you had to endure their flirting and making out. The sad part was that despite your professional and cheery demeanor (in a bid to mask your sadness and do your job), this was the moment when you realized that an unprovoked act of kindness could also feel quite demoralizing. Embarassing as is it may be to admit, that hug had been the least lonely you had felt for some time, after having been rejected so frequently and in increasingly novel ways. True story. 😂
One of my worst rejections was when I was told "You're more husband material than boyfriend material". Shit blew my mind. Like ight, I'm the "I'll settle for you later" type.
Yea man.... im ok with rejection... i literally asked 18 women out over a 1yr period before getting a yes once upon a time. 16 of those were actually nice to the point and i said thanks no problem- have a good one. No ego trippin... no lectures.... no breaking down my looks etc
Preach is SOOO saddened by Abas pain, that he just cant contain himself, to the point of becoming hysterical. You can hear the pain in his voice. Its not "haha" laughter, its "poor poor Aba" laughter. 😂
@@kelliejackson3563 Not even close to how much or how badly men do. Women lose their minds getting rejected ONCE in a very polite way by a guy (men are usually MUCH nicer when they turn women down because 1. they have empathy from being rejected themselves, 2. they respect what it takes to initiate, and 3. because they don't get approached by women neatly as often so they're flattered and happy about it even if they aren't interested). A man will get rejected many many times in his life and often women will be downright cruel about it rather than just saying "no thanks". Many women will act offended "how dare you even approach me what made you think you had a chance" or mock you openly to their friends right in front of you. If the rule became that women had to make the first move- the human species would go extinct
Do I dare share any of those stories that I swore I would take with me to the grave? Okay, just one, it was my senior year in highschool and my best friend and I carpooled to school every morning. After a week or two of classes I'm telling him about this girl I like in my english class and he starts telling me about this girl he's been on a couple dates with in his math class. As it turns out, same girl. No problem, he and I are best friends so no big deal. I move on. They break up after like a month, and it never really got super serious for him. About a month after that, prom is coming up. I'm from Utah (I know, I know, same place Skippy is from, we're not all like that) and for us prom is an all day thing. You do a big day-date and then go to the dinner/dance later. Anyway, I wasn't planning on going to prom because reasons but this girl's friends that were also in my English class are telling me that she said she wants me to ask her out to prom. I play it off cool but inside I was super excited cause I did still have a stupid crush on her. I talk to my friend to make sure he's cool with it because bros before hos right? He didn't care, he broke up with her, never really that serious etc. etc. So I ask her out. I plan out this tandem bike ride and a picnic in the canyon everything is going great, I drop her off at her house, leave and come back later to pick her up in my tux. We take a bunch of pictures with the parents, and then we're off to get dinner at Ruth's Chris' Steakhouse (like I said, all-day affair in Utah) and then we're going to the dance. We get through one dance and then she tells me she's got a headache and asks me to take her home. So I do, and I'm legitimately sympathetic to her pain (anyone reading this probably realizes that wasn't real) I drop her off and get back in my car and go home. The minute I'm gone she's texting my best friend again asking him if he wants to come over. Because he's a friend, he doesn't go but helps set me straight when I see him next and break the news. So what really happened? She used me to try and make my friend jealous, she never cared about me, and those other girls in the class knew about it. So: bike rental $25 tux $60 dinner $100 tickets $75 emotional trauma? priceless
10 minutes in and despite the laughing and the phenomenal editing. This was a really personal story that most men will feel once the laughter subsides. Shit fucking sucks man... Thanks for sharing!
We don't really matter for the most part.. We're a dime a dozen to a lot of people.. We get up, go to work, go home, repeat.. We're expected to run ourselves into the ground and not be whiny about it.. But the thing is, we don't really ask for much.. A lot of us don't have it in our nature to whine and complain that life is hard, all we ask is not to be felt sorry for or be pitied, we just ask for patience..
It gets better men. The older you get the more confidence and less giving a fuck about things like rejection. You get rejected by jobs during applications etc.
My most painful rejection in one line - “Have you even looked at yourself?” tl;dr - so I used to like this girl at my coaching institution, who was really outgoing, smart, a little short and was not particularly attractive. She was a skinny girl with curly har. I developed a liking for her because I liked the way she talked. I was an introverted guy and back then I was a little chubby. I used to hang out with backbenchers and she was the nerdy type, but I tried to have conversations with her every now and then. It wasn’t going nowhere though so I decided to at least share what I felt with her. Only a few weeks were left at the coaching institute and I saw her hanging out with the nerdy people after class at the parking lot. I gathered enough strength and asked her if she can meet me before leaving. She came to see me after separating from her group. I had never approached a girl before that day so I was super anxious but I was able to tell her how I felt politely I was trying my best to not come out too strong and use the right words. I was not too hopeful about her response though but what she said left a permanent memory (not the good kind). She went from being calm to angry as if I killed her dog or something, the look on her face was a mix of disgust and anger (in case anyone is wondering it wasn’t fear). Without any hesitation she said “WHAT! HAVE YOU EVEN SEEN YOUR FACE?!” And then walked off. I was able to hold it together because my friends were waiting for me outside to hear about my encounter, I felt so defeated and broken but since a very young age I have been great at suppressing my emotions. I just casually told my friends she said no, they begged me for the details, but I just couldn’t speak I tried to change the topic and told them I need a cigarette. Edit: So much love in the comments thanks yall. Its not all bad though, I've had better luck since then. Also, I used to think tl;dr meant too long don't read, Im keeping it up 😂😂😂
Alot of girls are entitled and she thought she supposed to get the best guys going after her. Deep down she had big ass Ego and when you approached her weather your same level or beneath or above, cause she had such a big Ego she shut you down hard. End of the day she entitled and prob annoying to actually be with
@@rjgn4054 she had better expectations from her life maybe. That’s okay, I was prepared for a ‘no’ more than hearing a ‘yes’. But the worst part is we were well acquainted by that point. It took me a long time to process that incident. I blamed myself for a very long time.
alex grce explains why. you talking to them is an affront. you are dirtying her imagine. lowering her worth in the eyes of people around her. fratenising with the riff raff. its makes logical sence. some dude mightnsee her and think thats her level and not approach her. so you are ruining her chances. so she makes sure to put you in your nplace, in stuch a way you wont ever tey again, and that everyone can see loudly that you are riff raff and not in her circles. thats why they reject you so visciously if she deems you of lower caliber than herself. anyway. logically it makes sence. but its still shallow as all heck and primitive und uncivilised and a major red flag coz how you treat others is a strong indication of your moral compass.vits pretenscious and evil. i understand why, but damn just because i understand it. doesnt mke it good
My worst rejection was being told after some months: "Im sick of being associated with you. Someone like you doesnt have a chance with someone like me. I'm out of your league."
Listening to this one made me actually cry a couple times. Really hard to get through. It's not often an 18 minute video takes me over an hour to finish. Thanks for talking about the real issues. And props to Aba for being brave enough to tell that story.
In the 5th grade, I was a shy kid with a crush on this girl in my class. I was scared that she wouldn't like me back, so I left her a note saying how I felt, and I signed it as a secret admirer. I wasn't sure what this would turn into, but I just wanted to get the feelings out. This girl went on a witch hunt through the entire class to find out who sent it to her, and when she noticed that the paper was from a notebook I was holding, she and her friends laughed in my face and told everyone. I felt so bad that I tried to go home early by acting sick, but no luck. It was one of the worst feelings in the world.
Man I felt this. When I was in 5th grade I had a crush on this girl but I never planned on saying anything. And one day her friend started asking my crush does she like this guy or that guy and she would say no. So I got my hopes up. Then her friend asked if she liked me she said “ew no” I was fuckin crushed lol
My first rejection was senior prom. My prom date never communicated it but I knew she was not interested in me. Despite how much I tried being a gentlemen, being the most respectful guy I could be. I wasn’t good enough. I was a nice guy who finished last. To make things more awkward she was also dating at the time, and out of respect I never made any moves even though I wanted to. That night I was just a friend to her and nothing more. It took a year for me to acknowledge that pain and move on from her. My second rejection was in college with someone who shared similar interests, and when I asked for her number she said “Not my thing.” That had me hurting for a week, but it hurt less than senior prom. Life goes on though, and I’ll meet my match eventually. Just gotta keep trying, and take each rejection as a lesson.
Aba, I'm disappointed that you didn't walk up to the cab, confront her, and then give them your blessing to go on a date, and then encourage the guy to kiss her...
I’m reliving the cringe rn
Skippy 101
Bruh it’s a skippy reference y’all lmao
@@idcbruh1590 its a joke smooth brain
Pin of remembrance 🤣 the cringe is real!!!
Preach laughing his ass off makes me laugh so hard.
“It’s not funny” he says while crying from laughing
He looks like he's on one of those hot wings interviews 😅
@@MM-tz3fc Hot Ones lol
"Stop laughin' at my pain" lmao I love these 2 so much
@@MM-tz3fc yeah
Me & my friend Jess , her ass stay crying while laughing at my pain 😂😂😂😂
My worst rejection was a girl picking me up, driving around, got coffee which I paid for and suddenly she stopped on the road and she said "I think I busted my tyre, can you check for me?". Knowing I am a man I offered to hop out the car and help, as I exit the car she then took off and left me for stranded on the road. I still have PTSD from this date.
What the fuck...
Bro if you wanna go jump that bitch I'm down
@@solusthepg 🤣
Wow that's fffffdddddd up. Something's wrong with her.
That's mad disrespectful....🥺😂😂🤣🤣
“Worse thing she can say is no”
Girl: We know you’re in there.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
xDDD
😭😂😂
I mean this is always so far away from the truth. Most the time your asking someone either closely or losely attached to your friendship group.
Asking and being denied can really ruin your standing in the group.
Aba pin this comment
@@xxxYugooxxx good, overlooked, point.
We're not laughing at Aba's pain, We're laughing with Preach
Exactly
Nah I was laughing at BOTH 💀😂
at Aba's pain.
Preach’s tears sold it for me 😭🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
“hey we know you’re in there” WHYYYY why couldn’t they just ROLL AWAY LOL
I lost it XD
they wanted to humiliate him
For real, like you couldn’t text him to cancel but you can confront him in a taxi with some other guy? Lmaoo that was mad funny though 😂😂
That was brutal
This might have been the most cold blooded thing she could have done.
Surfshark’s new slogan: We protect your identity better than a bush.
lol best comment here.
You didn't have to do him like that lmao
Too soon... 😂
🤣🤣🤣
FBI: we know you’re in there.
The part that is the saddest about this is not even Aba's response, the jumping in the bushes is an attempt to save his heart from humiliation/pain. The saddest part is the fact this broad couldn't send a simple text message to cancel, or let him know she wasn't interested. Not only did she agree to a date she didn't want to go on, but she decided to not take responsibility for her actions and just let him know how she feels. Shit is weak.
No cap Aba, thank you for the story, I know it wasn't funny then.. but the story lets all the men out there know they aren't alone in hard rejection. I can't tell you how many times before my current girl that I was told yes/given the open door and then just ghosted. Again, shit is weak.
Yeah by the end I just went “you’re not only a**hole you’re a b*tch.” I mean cmon how hard is it really to cancel especially if you’re gonna let this other Ahole roll up IB him to clown him.
Each gender got their own share of dirt and from my own experiences, women have the capability to be extremely foul and disrespectful for no other reason than them being pretty and being used to getting what they want..
That "I'm not interested" would get loads of respect from me, but I guess I always gotta be thinking about their struggles and potential fears all the while just eating the disrespect and ignoring my own. It's cool though
from what i can gather it's similar to the docu's bit about the girl trying to get rid of Ned or at least it's born of the same mindset. essentially she probably has to see and talk to a large number of people with no shortage of guys hitting on her so she made an example of Aba by either getting her boyfriend or some random guy to go with her and then hunt him down to call him out. i can only assume that she looked for him before they came out, as they went to the cab (with the cab driver potentially also being a lookout for him) and then making the round till they made sure of where he was in case he chose to book it instead of sticking around. in the end word may have spread around which would dissuade people from approaching her.
this might be overthinking it but i honestly doubt that Aba was so notable to her that she thought "no, fuck you in particular"
It was cold, but I wonder if Aba had dated anyone she knew because this sounds more like revenge stuff.
Woman here, and I totally agree. Everyone needs to be honest and respectful. Ghosting someone is such a bitch move - it might feel a little awkward to tell someone you aren't interested or after a date or 2 that aren't feeling the chemistry, but I have never and would never ghost a guy because it's worse to let someone wonder why and think maybe they did something wrong when they didn't. That's some weak, high school bullshit. So disrespectful.
I was jogging once trying to get into shape and two young ladies drove past and screamed “keep running fatty”. I’m not even fat but that killed my confidence for weeks.
Ppl can be so cruel
Loooool 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 sorry
I am a girl. When I was 13, in summer at a public pool some boys called me a "fat pig". I didn't go to the public pool for the next 6 years.
There are a LOT of subtle variations to that ' called ugly in public " subject .....In 2008 i was ripped as hell , and at my peak level , i just had two girlfriends of the 10/10 level , i KNEW i was good looking , not out of ego , but out the reports of my gfs ( even tho gfs aren't always objective , and tastes differ from a. girl to the next i really asked their honest opinions ) ...One night i go out dressed like a million bucks , and i see a girl looking at me from 100 meters away , like INTENSE gaze , she was with two female friends , i was walking towards them anyway , when i was at their level , one of the girl says to the one that was looking at me " why are you looking at him he's UUUUUGLY" like giggling and all .....I'm sure it was either the girl talking out loud who wanted to pull a nasty one to her girl friend to brake her eventual ticket with me , or it was to make me react and provoke me speaking to them like " the fuck are you calling me ugly for out of the blue bitch " and then they would have apologized and told me it was a joke , then would have probably pursued the conversation , which would have been the goal in the first place ( it's true tho , that luring a guy walking the streets that they absolutely don't know into a conversation is a hard one to pull for a group of girls probably , hence the twisted very rude method ) ....
Shy or twisted people , sometimes have really counter intuitive reactions like that ......The surface of what people show oftenly is very different from the inner motives ......
I've had a girl screaming at me , and talking me like absolute shit for a full year the last year of high school , and i learned years after that she was treating me like that to catch my attention by friends of hers during an impromptu night out discussion after not having seen them for a decade , she was totally into me .... I had NO idea .
Don't forget that girls , are professionals at shit testing guys to test their own self confidence .
You gotta learn to tell a girl to go F herself when she misbehaves , and FEELING it when you're doing it , especially when she's gorgeous ....The moment you take low key gloves because you care too much , and try to potentially save a ticket with her , she knows she already go you , you're no challenge anymore , you're done .....
@@benoitguillou3146I don't even talk to people like that, I just go past them and spit in front of them. Don't have time for some bozo that's calling me ugly, be it a drunk homeless guy or a pretty girl.
I dont think Preach is laughing at his pain, but the way Aba tells the story is lethal.
Preach on the floor while Aba yells at him had me wheezing lol
I really felt Aba’s pain on that one. Brutal
"Lethal" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right😂
@@tomferguson9250 yo stop laughing!
"The Worse she can say is no."
Her : "We know your in there."
Her Date* lol
omfg😂🤣
dear god im crying lol
To be fair, it probably looked pretty sketchy. Think about it. Some customer comes by when your works over, then jumps into a bush to hide when you come out.
Moral of Aba's story: don't have high expectations for a first date, if she ghosts or rejects you just move on, basically still a stranger at that point anyway.
exactly!!! How I had to learn to not take it personally
@@houseofhas9355 We shouldn't have to learn to not take it personally. They could act their fucking age and stop making plans they don't intend to keep.
@@KeithDCanada learning to not take things personally is 100% a valuable life skill.
Moral of the story is that shit is funny af and you need therapy walking around feeling butthurt about some female years later, lol.
Preach dint have a high expectation. Yet he was still Scarred.
"Hey, we know you're in there." They coulda just let you live on and not said anything 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Fr that means they legit told the taxi driver to stop so they could do that 💀
yeah, they were trynna clown on him. thats the worst part.
don't worry. when they had a fall out, i'm sure they did each other way dirtier than that
Seriously !!! 😂😂😂
Yeah that's the moment you know that you have to switch gyms. You're gonna get clowned about that one for eternity.
When you’re reminiscing about your biggest “L” and your boy can’t stop laughing in the background 😕😉
Bruv mine, I did this full plan where my friends would distract her group and I would just say it one on one. I said I liked her and went away, then realised she didn't respond.
Naturally, I went like the fkin lunatic I am, to her the next day to ask if she liked me back.
Long story short I don't like talking to my school friends for extended periods of time.
Is that what they call male comradery ?
Yoh!😂😂😂 nah I'm surprised his back didn't break carrying an L that big his whole life😂
@@WesleyThibodeau exactly
Nights like this I wish raindrops would fall🤣🤣🤣
Aba turns around to confront Preach about laughing at his pain*
Manscaped: “it’s free real estate”
"Your balls will thank you" 😂
Brilliant
It was by design
I am in PAIN hearing Aba's story, Mine wasn't in a bush but it was in a closet at her house and her friends came over. She told me to "go hide" so they wouldn't know I was there. after sitting for 2 hours they come in the room 3 girls (plus her) 2 dudes laughing and I hear one of the guys say "Ayo nigga still in the closet? hahaaaA" shit was devastating man, high school was a trip. Doubt You will see this aba but I FEEL your pain.
Edit: holy s*** how did most of you see this comment. If I remember I I can't recall how I got out of her house or the closet. I just know video games and anime got me through it.
🤯 yo
BAYTAH!
Nah u got violated 😂😂😂😂
That's just straight cold
Bogus asf
Aba's story ia truly the embodiment of "the worst she can do is say no"
When Preach is dying of laughter in the opening and it’s black and white, yk the video is gonna be a banger.
Also keep up the vids, you guys are great
You already know 🤣🤣
Facts! Instant like
Straight 🔥🔥🔥
I said the same lol
FACTS!!!!
I flew across country for my mom who has stage 4 cancer and grief is suffocating me.. and you guys posted this.. I was crying and laughing at the same time..😂😭🤣thank you both!! Lord it was funny as hell!!
God bless you Anecia, hug her every minute you can, breathe her in, smell her, kiss her. God give your darling Mum life and peace in her heart and spirit. You give your mum all the time you can. Be there with her. These gifts to her are what you’ll remember for the rest of your life. 💞
Yes indeed i second what Ericka said. I’ll be praying for both of you all’s comfort and healing.
I’m praying for you.
✨ every thing that ericka Co has said. Cherish every moment with her!
It's good to laugh even when times are hard. Feel what you feel!
Love how these guys have succeeded in creating a safe space for men to chat about things like this openly. RESPECT
I know what you mean but leave the "safe space" terminology else where.
@@vaushawnbrown644 right, ain't shit safe out here 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Safe space? You on your period bruh. Its a mans world, your safe everywhere, relax.
Jeepers are you gents really that sensitive to that term? Fill in the blank with whatever makes you feel comfortable
BETA
That story was a solid 10/10, but Preach wheezing while painfully trying to hold his laughter was the cherry on top
The messed up part of that L story was she intentionally planned on humiliating him. She planned another date then didn't tell him even when she got text that he was outside. To put the cherry on top they stopped just to say "yeah, I see you hiding in the bushes". Damn.
Diabolical
Some Broads out here not only want to reject you, but do it in a malicious way. Because they can. Diabolical indeed
What goes around comes around. Wait till she's 50+ fat and nobody wants her
That's why I don't usually feel anything for these broads out here when they cry and regret about their life choices, they deserve no mercy considering how nasty some of them are character wise.
Its cruel i feel sorry for him
“I wish there was a good ending to this”
Aba, y’all got 1 mil followers on here and are the most reasonable niggas on the internet. RESPEKT
Under liked comment fr 💯
THE TRUTH
Ethical maybe, there are more intelligent people obviously, but these dudes are principled.
Aba's auto-message for his DMs nowadays: "Sorry hon, hiding in the bushes right now, hit you later"
😂😂😂
"Elizabeth, if you're watching...turn this off" 🤣😭 my man, that story was brutal! Good on you for telling it tho.
Who is Elizabeth
@@happyguy2k That girl from the Jubilee videos. Aba was crushin on her and she responded at some point and now it's a running joke
@@ivermcten8396 oh yes how did i forget about her 😂
Bro fuck elizabeth lmao 🤣 😂 💀. Aba up tho so who knows maybe Elizabeth needs some good luck 😆
Preach tears are the testimony of a real internal struggle: how much he really wanted to hold on and the inevitable need of laughing. 😂
He did say he heard the story before, he knew what was coming.
Preach: It's not funny
Said through literal tears.
Pretty late for this but my somewhat “bush story” isn’t necessarily a rejection. I remember in 7th grade overhearing a group of girls ask one of the pretty girls at our school which guy she likes in our class. They went through a couple of names and to all of them she’d say “No”, then when my name came up she said “Eww No” and they all laughed. Man that hit me hard, that’s the one 7th grade memory I can’t seem to forget.
Build your confidence up. Don’t let that moment shatter your life. There’s definitely a special woman for you.
Had a similar experience man, luckily I grew past it, I hope it doesn't bother you anymore
Remember success is the best revenge. When you are doing well in life you can look back and say it was their loss.
I know how that feels... it hits
I've had adults say that to me.
So i say
"Its ok. I prefer to date people who dont have STD's"
Everyone needs a friend like preach, when he's laughing at aba's story It had me dying I love these dudes
Same. Thankfully I have friends like this. I feel his pain. 😂
Oh but they tooootally "aren't friends."
@@relevantusername3342 "technically" they ain't.
@@BosnaUnitedBrothersReally?!? Why?
@@Craig-pm2kc they said they weren’t friends in another video. I think they’re closer than they think.
Asked a girl to prom for my senior year she said yes. The day of prom I show up to pick her up she said she can no longer go. So I go to prom solo and when I got there she was there with someone else.
Wow
Oof I'm sorry dude
Wow…reading that hurt my feelings I’m so sorry dude
Got any closure after that?
That is horrible. Maybe she didn't want to tell you because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. But she probably assumed you wouldn't go any more. That is messed up. I would be pissed if I got all dressed up and that happened.
As a young man. I had to conquer disabling shyness. So to develop rhinohide, I forced myself to talk to women. Always telling myself "the worse thing she can do is say no". I was sooooo wrong. A young lady flatout laughed when asked buy her a drink. It DESTROYED my confidence...for years.....
Sheesh
Yikes.. That's what a lot of these dating coaches would tell guys. But reality can sometimes be disappointing and hurtful
We become better everyday
I am so Sorry that happend to u! That woman was a dick, u didnt deserved to be handled like that.
I learned when I was in my teens you talk to many women at once and who ever bites bites. Some can be cruel but thats the game partner. I married in my 30s now glad that is over.
The fact that Aba didn't laugh nor shed a single tear shows how that moment cut his soul deeply.
Lowkey the stories u can't cry about can hurt the most. Cuz there's no lesson to learn. They just become little landmines of shame that trigger throughout your life when something reminds you of it lol
@@GoScience123 nice turn of phrase. "Little landmines of shame," I like it!
@@GoScience123 Facts. Shit keeps me up at night sometimes
How you gonna be giving advice about dating and moving on when you're in your 30s still sulking about a woman that wasnt yours sulking about her with another dude lols.
This is what the red pill community is about lols.
@@thegamingkitchen8429 i think you're on the wrong channel lol.
1. this isn't the red pill community
2. he isnt sulking about anything, he simply opened up and told his audience a funny/embarrassing story about rejection, something all guys have gone through (you red pillers literally become 'red pilled' due to rejection).
Aba n Preach also don't really give dating advice either. They just give their opinions on certain aspects of relationships/dating when the topic happens to arise. You really must be confused. Or you're a F&F still angry about something happened months ago. Lol. Not very red pill to live in the past
The problem is not rejection.
Not everyone fits with everyone and thats normal.
The problem is , women being unnecessarily mean or hurtful, often for no good reason other than bad past experiences with OTHER men.
So when another guy approaches her, she treats him at least just as bad as those other dudes.
They dont start out with the new guys' approach with a clean slate.
And once the guys finally gets he’s shot and now has an abundance, the cycle continues
ya'll sound hurt. i've never been rude or mean when i politely reject a man. but i can honestly say i've been approached aggressively and disrespectfully too many times to count. your comment makes it sound like women are just rude and men are innocent. both sides are at play in the whole thing. aba and preach even said it in this video - this is why men cat call. they'd rather be rejected for being purposefully repulsive than to approach sincerely and be rejected. society teaches men they can't be soft. and society teaches women they're objects. we all want connection but unfortunately we have been misguided and we're all running around with insecurities and disillusions just bumping into each other hoping we get lucky.
@@herenow4550 true. I'm on the more respectful and how are you doing side of things. I remember scheduling a date with a woman for a Wednesday, then next week she rescheduled for the Saturday coming up. 1 hour before the date she told me she met someone else via online dating and wanted to see where it was going. Lol. I was mad cause I could've been doing othet stuff instead of wasting time. End of the day, folks gotta read the signs. If a woman stops responding or is sloowwwwwwwww to text....I just keep it pushing to the next. That way you don't waste energy on someone not wasting energy on u. And I know some guys can be whole butt heads
@@herenow4550 for every 1 woman like you there's about 10 others like the ones described
I would say that men do even worse for the same misconceptions towards women. From aggressive catcalling to even situations of some sort of revenge over complete strangers that put women in danger (like stalkers or sexual assaulters) before even knowing how she may react or anything about them. There is a good reason for which women may keep a distance when dating and may be precaucious. Women who are mean and try to make fun of guy's situations are wrong, but also another wrong doesn't make a right. Guys don't have to pit everyone in the same bowl and treat actual strangers like they have personally ruined their lives and would deserve ridicule.
Aba said “Elizabeth if you watching turn it off…”
💀
women: why do y'all men complain about making the first move, the worst thing she can do is say no
aba: *vitenam bush flashbacks* yeah, sure....
Vietnam bush LOOOOOOOOOL.
*hears hueys coming from the back.
Actually, "No" is the second-best thing she can say. Much of the time, her answer is worse than that.
Vitamin flashbacks??
@I'm a ghost. Her reply only matters if you are interested in actually getting to know her. It then matters because her reply gives you a clue as to what she is really like, and you can thereby reflect on what kind of women you are choosing to approach. Women are not the only ones who can choose poorly.
The fact that Preach is laughing so heard that he chokes, coughs and then continues to laugh has me laughing tears right now lol this is so cold.
He's probably heard the story many times already lol
*crying from laughter* "It's not funny"
🤣🤣☠️
The fact that he laughs the Metal Gear Solid Noise 😹
"Sat in the bushes looking back at your life".. up until that line I was just smiling a bit, but after Preach said that I list all control and started laughing hysterically
My best rejection story: I was about 19 and a freshman in college. I was walking through the mall and saw this cute girl working at a sunglasses stand. So I approach and try to use the whole I'm a customer as a way to try to flirt and get a conversation going. Off the jump, I can tell she isn't having any of it. Body language screamed either buy something or move on. I try one last time and talked about some party that was happening that weekend and she basically was like oh that's cool. Realizing that I am just embarrassing myself more with each swing I decide let me just get a pair of $10 glasses and move on. I pick a pair of aviators and go to pay and my card got declined. I had to walk away from that wasting that poor girls time and couldn't even buy the $10 sunglasses. I'm 33 now and I still feel that one lol.
is this story a pun because.....your *card* was rejected?
LOLOL but in all seriousness that sucks. It's best not to approach a woman like that while she's on the clock.
Yeeesh! I felt that 😭😂 that's a hard blow
😂😂😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀
The “my card got declined “ really spiced the story up 😂
That's rough dog, but it's on you for not knowing the card status tho
As someone who has gotten rejected plenty of times, i had a really attractive girl approach me not to long ago and I caught myself questioning everything.
She was actually into me though and that was a major confidence boost.
A lasting memory
yea that shit do be confusing
And did you go with her? Or did you reject her because it was too easy?
@@PfEMP I’ve never had easy so I went with it. We hung out, had fun, and talked for a few weeks in the end we decided to go our separate ways but no regrets on either side.
@@anthonypiti1767 awesome! Thx for sharing :)
Many women think being a man is easy because we make it look easy.
I'll give her props for trying to be in our shoes and experience what we go through daily. 💪
I cam only hope she gains more understanding.
Almost like it looks easy because they’re avoiding the majority of men that don’t have it easy lol
Most likely to be murdered, go to war, work dangerous job, defend ur family, be the bread winner, long work weeks , and it goes on and on....
Watch the whole video about it.. she experienced the darkest side of being a man.. the last thing she did while acting as a man was attend some help group or something.. and she realized how depressed men can be.. things that not even her as a woman can actually think was possible.. she herself almost got depressed just by being in this group..
It's not that we make it look easy we have to hid how hard it is unlike them. They can go to mom,gfs/bfs and countless support groups tp complain and never be made less of a women because of it, vs men who might have a dad whom might give a minute to bitch before telling you to stop being a bitch and fix yourself, or some friends who might listen hell maybe even check up again but better not use it to much because each time the outside view of you becomes more and more emasculated. Or they do the big fall with a short drop when they encounter the difficulty with being a man and never make it to the point where women even see how hard it is to be a man
When you are being a jerk, and she rejects you, it is like you have a shield because she rejected the jerk you were portraying, but when you approach as to how you are and get rejected, yeah she rejected the real you.
Well put
Oooo.... I never understood that before. It makes sense- thanks.
It hurt just reading that. Damn nicely put
Okay, and. It’s not the end of the fucking world. Your worth as a person is not contingent on how many people want to date or go to bed with you.
@@iamcasihart You are a woman. I don't think it is right for you to downplay social dynamics that simply don't apply to you. If you work for a living, and you are looking for a job, it is not the end of the world to be rejected by companies that you applied to, but when you need to eat, pay bills and have a roof over your head, yeah is a problem.
Aba's story is hilarious on its own, but I defy ANYBODY to hear Preach's laugh without laughing yourself. You can't. It's impossible.
its kryptonite
Facts!! His laugh is infectious 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
It's the greatest laugh. It cheers me up when I'm feeling down. I have to laugh when he laughs, there's no holding it in! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As someone said:"100 bad days make a 100 good stories, a 100 good stories makes you interesting at parties". I feel for Aba, but this story is goals in comedy BECAUSE YOU CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP! 😂
Only apologized once she knew she was a woman. Meaning a man wasn't entitled to an apology. Crazy..
It’s disgusting.
normal.. men are supposed to take it. An L is much worse for a woman supposedly, for men it isnt that bad. they are strong, they can and should take it. sometimes its just a shit test too. she doesnt actually mean it but is just testing your metal.
its pretty messed up
A real man doesn't gaf about an apology from some random hoe.
maybe we’d apologize & be nice if the other 90% of men that approached us weren’t CREEPS. They’re the ones ruining it for the actual good guys.
@@samanthahilborn6751 It isn't 90%. Stop lying
The only people who can get away with roasting, hollerin and dying on the floor at your Ls, while you mouth back on their existence are people who are either your real friends, family members or romantic partners. Cause you know at the end of the day, they got your back no matter what.
Aba: "We aint friends tho"
🙄
Yep, idc idc. They frenz now! 🤣
I think it's cute, like a 2000's teenager movie how they don't want to DTR (*Define the Relationship) it started as a business/partner relationship but like Batman/Robin, Holmes/Watson and what else, they clearly created a strong bond. Maybe it's not what they would describe a friendship, but it's beautiful and really funny to see
Or that shit was Straight up funny.
This one hurt. 4:11 if youre here for the story.
:(
Damn nigga you got played and THEN some. Ngl tho i wouldve lost it the moment i saw em walk out
Aba an the right and preach on the left. keep it hallal waryaa
Thank you for this. We all know that sting and that lonely feeling that comes after
That’s story damn, I felt that
I think Preach trying to hold in his laughter may be funnier than his actual laugh lol. Sound like he's having the best cardiac arrest ever lol.
Lol. 👍🏾
I had a girl straight up laugh in my face. Never said yes or no. Just a laugh. She then walked over to her friends and pointed at me and they all laughed. After that any other rejection felt like they were being nice. I'd like for women to know that feeling. I'm petty
They can dish it but trust me friend they wouldn’t be able to take it.
How old were you
I rejected a girl and she spread rumors I was gay. You are not petty my guy
Whoa bro. That wasn’t a woman that was a demon.
She was an ass. Cant think of a reason why anyone would do that
I would honestly rather a woman reject me straight up from the jump then lead me on for dates or attention for weeks then just ghost me. Aba's story is just one of a million. Guys have to deal with being ghosted, blocked or ignored and not even know why? It use to hurt me a lot when I thought things were going good and then BAM she just straight up ignores your texts. It's just stuff as a man you gotta learn how to deal with and move on from.
Im now close to 40 and dealt with that situation many times and never understood it. Why give your number to a guy you had no intention of dating...attention maybe, self validation? We'll never know
WhY aRe mEn so tOXiC and IndepEndENT?! they sEem TO NeVeR OpEn up, IT's That ToXIC maSCuLiNITy
@@maxtorque5329 From what I understand, they want your time and attention in exchange for nothing. Worse yet, they keep in touch to see what you can possibly offer them in the future
It goes both ways this generation is full of flaky people, gender has nothing to do with it because both sides are complaining about not being able to find a partner or being ghosted.
@@maxtorque5329 Some women will say they do it to protect themselves from verbal or physical assault that could happen if they reject a guy in public. I think that's the case in some situations but I really believe women like to keep their options open and like the free attention as well.
They guy who rolled down his window is also a sucker. Cause if the girl can do it to Aba, she'll do it to him too when she sees another shiny object. At the end of the day, Aba just was unlucky giving a shitty person a chance.
it shows her poor character. She likes to belittle
Truth
Aba dodged a bullet. That woman was sadistic..
Lol what? Are yall those mtgow ppl?
@@jazdj04 And what if we're then what??
"Whenever anything bad happens to a man, nobody cares! People just think it's funny!" - Bill Burr.
We need more storytimes from Aba and Preach. This one is gold.
Some of their storytimes are on the patreon.
Facts
Yes!!!! Comment for more likes!!!
For real man
Get patreon you broke bozo
Just switch the roles: Imagine for a moment, someone is waiting for you, to go on a date, you showing up with someone else (for that in itself you'd have to be pretty petty and callous) and NOTICING them hiding out of embarrasment, stopping and letting them know you know they hid...That's just cruel.
For real. Just awful 🤦🏿♂️
Aba is speaking facts about being the ugly girl in a friend group. I remember going on vacation with one of my friends and everywhere we went men would stop her to compliment her even to the point where people would stop me only to tell me that my friend was pretty 🥲
She absolutely was (and is) beautiful but I felt invisible whenever I was walking next to her. It used to bother me but now I just accept my role and keep it moving.
“I CAN SEE YOU LAUGHING! I can SEE you laughing!” Aba and Preach are hilarious lol
"Nah, bro, I'm out here having a moment! You need to be up here!"
"I'm shutting up!"
"No you're not!"
classic
People shouldnt feel as bad about staying home playing games and watching anime, itll keep you out of trouble. If your home, no baby mamas, no debt, no warrants or beefs with anybody. Sometimes folks just need time to get thier head right.
Facts people really under rate the importance of falling back never be afraid to say I need a break and then take a minute by yourself to get your mind correct
yeah of course, no risks, no gain but no loss. I'll take taking risks though
That’s sounds lame as hell anybody who is too scared to take risk is unable to grow and stagnant. That is completely against the fundamental nature of humans to explore and discover. Whatever though you do you.
@@dirtyclickers7649 depends people value things differently. Neither is bad.
Yeah but also no life...
Bruh I feel like most “average” dudes have some kinda brutal story like this that we don’t talk about lol but I kinda love it at the same time cuz it builds strong character as long as you don’t stay there in that hurt and improve yourself. Eventually you learn to laugh at it all. I’ve had some really bad stories that I don’t even like to talk or think about lmao
The overwhelming majority of individuals are average... just sayin... and this goes for both men and women. Unfortunately, social media with all the editing of photos and the filters used, combined with the advances in cosmetic procedures and surgeries, the true form of most is skewed.... altered. Fake world, fake people, for the most part.
Bro I swear everyone has them stories.
In highschool I had a experience where a girl I liked told me to come hang out and when I turned up she literally ran shouting ew get away..
All her friends laughed we were all in class so it was so embarrassing..
I leave school..
Start touring the world with music..
The same girl in my inbox years later trying to spit game and be friendly..
I said "remember when you made all your friends laugh at me because I liked you?" Never heard from her since 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is why the perfect thing men can do is forget women and try to be the best person they can be!
Yeah I got laughed at to my face and she just walked away didn't even answer but didn't really need one after that 🤣
I think I have more than one of these stories, that I've subconsciously boxed away in my memory. You don't talk about your failures, because nothing positive comes out of that.
@@mamamarianovits9029 True, majority of the people are average. But what you need to understand is that average men do not get to smash average women.
Average women tend to overestimate their worth and basically sideline average men for top tier men.
"Die alone or put yourself out there."
Dying alone is a hell of a lot safer than getting repeatidly destroyed. If a women was to simply say "Sorry but I'm not interested" that would be fine with me, but when they say "eww" or when they laugh, or their friend drags them away and fires you an ugly look, that shit destroys me, I've been through it and dying a lone is a hell of a lot better. I get my entertainment from video games, tv (including some anime) and my right hand because at least I'm not being treated like shit for simply showing an interest in someone.
Keep on trying fam. Improve yourself everyday little by little. Eventually you'll get there. Work on you. Keep putting yourself out there.
A fully grown adult women who rejects someone showing interest by saying ew and is in no way feeling threatened is not emotionally mature and doing you a favour, this was a hilarious episode. Take it easy and keep showing up.
The reason they respond that way is because they are so insecure, they don't know how to react to the confidence you don't even realize you have.
It's them wearing an L on their forehead, and the tragic irony of it all is that she'll never admit it, and you don't even know it.
✊
honestly, for anybody to be absolutely disrespectful without any reason is pretty insane to me. As a woman, I've seen other girls say "eww" to men approaching them respectfully... and I was so beyond angry. I turned around and remember telling one girl to learn some damn respect. To speak like that to anybody is absolutely disgraceful. However, I've also been on the opposite side where despite the fact of telling men incredibly respectfully and kindly that I wasn't interested, they still proceeded to be force themselves in my personal space and follow me even after I moved spots... that also gave me trauma. It was incredibly hard Because it felt like someone took away my agency. My right to choose. So I sometimes understand when people become a little tough. Tho not justifiable, I understand that it may be trauma. I understand what you mean. Both side need to do better.
So is a slightly working Bentley Continental better than a woman?
This short film.. *teardrop rolls down*.. is the most vulnerable story telling. And the patience and bond I see Aba has for Preach is profound side story.
Five out of five stars.
This film will stand the test of time as a classic.
Bond what bond they aren't even friends
@@Sora_Nai how aren’t they friends???
@@VNRPro you obviously dont watch their videos. Time and time again they say too each other that they are not friends outside of work. They don't hang out or nothing, yes they are cool with each other but not friend nor best friends. They say it in a lot of their videos.
@@Sora_Nai I literally just subbed 6 hours ago so ya you’re right
And it could just be a joke
Thumbnail reminds me of the animorphs book series
It was an homage to that classic series. I see u are a man of culture.
Men of culture unite. It's all in your hands.😂
💀💀💀 I remember seeing those books in our school library, one of the covers had a black guy transforming to a horse
@@AbaNPreach nah man. You guys are men of culture, keep up the great work.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Also, as an ugly girl who is also in a wheelchair...I have approached most of the men I've dated and I have been rejected a lot, but it is worth it to find the right person who I like and who can handle my dark sense of humor because I always approach with something ridiculous lol. The thing is even the ones who rejected me were usually nice about it except a couple when I was a lot younger. (As a teen I had a guy literally scream and run away from me laughing with his friends and they roasted the shit out of me for years for it, but I took my shot you know lol) I dunno how you guys handle the cold and bitchiness like we saw in the video all the time. I'm so glad I'm not looking anymore though because dating is stressful if you put yourself out there.
A) don't call yourself ugly (im sure your SO will agree with me).
B) as a woman who is differently able who still went out and shot her shot. You have my absolute espect.
C) I genuinely feel like women who approach have a better chance of finding a guy the click with because you took the onus on yourself.
D) Lastly its comforting to see that some women have already realised the thing i try to teach my nephews, neices and young men I mentor, that rejection is normal and not something to be ashamed or angry about, accept it be polite and keep it moving.
I genuinely hope you have a good day/life.
Well, the reason why Men tend to handle rejection from women is, because there is an understanding between men when it comes to women. I used Online Dating and met Girls in Real-Life an i have seen and learned a lot from that. I have experienced how some Girls where telling me im not as tall as their Ex`s while mentionin that those Guys abused her but she wants what wants to Girls who had Self-Esteem Problems and therefore used Sex as a method of trying to fill that Void and feel that they are being wanted. Or Girls who wanted to have someone who where very,m very dominant and wanted to have some Dude who is even more of that.
I know who i am and what im going to archieve in Life. Im working hard for that and i will probably have a good life in the future. And some of these Women choose men just because they are tall and have that "i give zero F" mentality. And those Men will be in poverty their whole life, behaving poorly and whatever. Thats a point that actually makes me laugh.
Of course it makes you sad to a certain point that you dont meet someone you really like. But there are more important thing in life than having relationships.
I have to give you props you have more courage and resilience than most women out here. Shit you have more than me I don’t approach no more
Ma'am with all do respect you probably see your as ugly when someone else does not. So you are fine, Everyone has had their moments hell I look at myself everyday and say "Who hell would want to be with me" and Laugh it off and hit the gym.
@@herenow4550 so true! The worst ones tend to be the best looking.
had a crush on a girl for several years in middle school, when we reached high school i checked in yellow pages where she lived (small town), went there on my bike (a good 1h cycling) dropped a poem in her letter box, next day she showed it to her best friend ... who decided to recite that very personal poem i made to the whole class and then proceed to shred it.
just felt like she torn my heart, as well as make the whole class make fun on me for the rest of the year.
i had hard time later even showing my interest into women to be fair.
Danm that’s fucked up
Aww man look I'm a chick and that girl sounds fu#$ed up you did such a lovely thing I'm so sorry she did that I bed she regrets it still today I bet you,sending much love💓
Any follow up?
@@Avi-tq6fd well life moved on, we ended doing different studies which brought her to South America where she found her love. And mine brought me to China where I found my love. But in-between my self confidence to approach women was pretty low.
@@jobslolo7387 did she ever apologized to you?
If you couldn’t tell by my name, I’m a black nerd. I’ve been one all my life. When I was in school, sometimes I would get propositioned by girls….but they were playing a prank on me. Some of you may have gone through a similar experience. I was sitting alone in the cafeteria. Out of the corner of my eyes I see a group of guys and one girls sitting at a round table. I see them peeking over at me, whispering to themselves, and chuckling. This girl stands up and walks over to me. She sat down next to me and started talking, asking me for my name and whatnot. So I told her, that I knew that she was dared to come and talk to me and pretend to be interested for their amusement. She got up and walked back to her table of guy friends. I felt victorious that day, because I didn’t lose my cool like I normally did when someone tried to screw with me. The moral of that story is that if theirs a group of guys with one girl….one of them is smashing and the others are waiting their turn. Oh….and whenever a man is propositioned, it’s usually a scam.
Bro sorry you had to go through that. Some people are just fucking evil
Don't worry I have gone through the same experiences. You pick up on these and tell them to kick rocks.
I feel for you. Same thing sorta happened to me. It stings, but it's definitely a lesson worth learning.
Yo, I'm not a guy, but I've felt the same thing. Idk how you kept your cool, dude, kudos, in situations like that I get so snappy so fast; I just have no patience for such disrespect.
Y'know similar to the bot story, when I was a kid I rejected like two girls cause I thought they were pranking me.
I know it happens twice but I only remember one of them.
This girl was with a group of her friends laughing and she came up to talk to me.
And it just reminded me of middle school when girls did that right before a prank.
I think she was serious cause she kinda tried one more time after that.
This is why men stay chilled when they hear a woman complaining about not being able to find a man.
Damn its been a while since ive seen a member of the maxgang in an unsafe habitat
It's actually kind of funny. Men just like "Nah" and walk away. Shit got crazy.
Majority of men are invisible to her or don't meet her unrealistic standards.
I don't feel bad one bit. 😂
@@SirYeetus I highly agree.
@@SirYeetus people get mad at me for being an incel and that’s why I’m am one
Rejection story #1: it’s the start of the fall semester. I’m with a group of friends and they were discussing dating(specifically how men are trash because it’s majority females). There was this girl in the group I had eyes on. She was quirky, liked anime as much as I did, good looking, and was outgoing; which was a nice contrast to my introvert personality. So she was describing her ideal type of guy, and a lot of them were traits that I have. She said she wanted something serious and I am of the same mindset despite being in college. So we connect and start talking until we decided to go on a date. Had a time, day, and place all set up. She tells me she busy with schoolwork. I understood, so I told her when she has free time to hit me up. That never happened, however because I’m in a lot of friend groups and I see her on social media outside. Fast forward a week and we see each other again at a game night. So it’s truth or dare, if you don’t do the dare you drink. Whole time I’m sober, but I see her and one of my homeboy (which I’m not mad at because he didn’t know until after), getting close and all that. We spend the night at the house we was having the game night at, and the two are cuddled up on the couch in front of me. Next day comes, I didn’t bring it up but I leave. Dropped the date entirely at that point. I never stated it but I knew she wasn’t gonna make a date and I wasn’t gonna keep reminding her about it, to me it shows you weren’t interested to see it through. However, because my friends have realized that I showed interest, they started telling me what has been going on with her. I come to find out she boo’d up with another dude, which still irked me just because I felt like you just played my emotions. There are no happy endings, wish there was. So that’s mine
Thats hardly even an L, you just werent able to take the hint at the time
I wish she would’ve been honest with you, or just not agreed to the date at all instead of wasting your time!
That’s painful and cruel of her to do that in front of you and not be honest. She wasted your time.
Salute to you bro bro.. Had my fair share of Ls during school years so I can relate
"Nobody will ever proposition you". Hits deep, been there, don't think women will ever understand it's a super lonely world out here for a man at the bottom. No wonder so many of us just end it. Will never forget how lonely it was when I was homeless, like full on street bum, yeah cause of my decisions but also I was super fucked over by people, and when I was homeless I saw this sticker in the window of a laundromat with stats on male suicide. All I could think was "something is very wrong with this world".
Hope you're in a better place man, must've been hard
The only thing missing from Preach during Aba’s story was a “beetttaaa” 😂
This right here lol
😂😉😂😂😂😂😂
Why I said in his voice
I read that in Preach's voice😭
Yes
Aba: I've had a couple brutal experiences.
Preach with tears in his eyes trying not to laugh: "Please tell us another one"😂😂😂
😂😂😵💫😵💫😂😂
I need another story.
🤣🤣
@@inovermyhead3947 if he tells another story, he’s probably going to put it on his patreon. Aba is going to want a return on his investments.
😂😂😂
Ghosting people is such a cowardly response. We all know those people who need to own up and say what needs to be said.
I recently went through a serious ghosting. I had been in a serious relationship with someone for just under 2 years. We had dinner on a Friday night in June and to this very day, hasn't spoken a single word to me. June 28 to be exact. He wouldn't respond to my texts, calls, nothing. I have no idea what happened. I was in so much pain and would have done anything for a simple explanation until I decided to go to his house and confront him a month ago. That little mf'er wouldn't even come out of his house to talk to me! I sat in my car for 20 minutes and he hid inside like a coward. This is a 45 year old grown man! I drove away and all of the hurt and pain immediately went away. I had to see for myself just how much of a POS he truly is. So long story short, don't ghost anyone, people. It's so immature and extremely hurtful. Use your damn words.
@@tracyd693
He will messages you later down the line with some sorry azz excuse of “I was depressed, going through something “
@@IYeleven I don't think he will because he just put "in a relationship" on his FB profile. This happened last week. I kind of knew it was coming because he is with a woman now who he has always had a thing for and she recently went through a divorce. I guess he jumped at the chance, regardless of how it effected me. 2 years wasted with a complete asshole. They deserve each other 🤷🏼♀️
@@tracyd693
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I went through something similar and now I try to ask a guy or notice what his type is so this way I can avoid having my time wasted if I’m not his type to begin with.
Guys...I TOTALLY GET IT.
20 years ago I lived through what I called "The Summer of Disrespect".
I had a beautiful Chinese friend and she was top notch. A solid 10. She had black hair down to her knees, she had the curves and everything. I was the driver and I was doing music so everywhere I had a gig, she was there. She NEVER disrespected me and would get pissed off at the men that did. Even fellow musicians blatantly disrespected me. It was so bad that she didn't want to hang out with me because it just hurt. Examples of disrespect included:
Men holding the door open for her while letting it shut in my face---this included with my hands being full and she would run back to help me instead
Male musicians saying I couldn't sit in with them unless I got her number for them. And when she rejected them, they took it out on me
She'd introduce me and wouldn't even acknowledge my presence
I was in a way her chaperone. She was heavy into online dating but told her dates that she was bringing her friend (me) along. Never expected her date to pay for me and brought my own money or she'd spot me if I didn't. Most of her dates offered to pay for my meal too and say it was alright...until they met me.
Now...look at my profile picture. I'm not ugly. That was me in 2008. I was smaller than that in 2001-2002. I had just gotten out of the Marines when this happened. So I was fit. I was thicker but I would've rated myself at least a 7. But she was a dime, and no one else saw me exist. But I wasn't ugly by any means.
Anyway, once they saw me arrive with her, they would give her deference. I expected this. She had doors opened for her, chairs pulled out. I was chopped liver. I even had one date of hers say to me when she went to the bathroom "Aight, I think we're good, you can go now..." and tried to dismiss me. Others wouldn't even make small talk with me. They KNEW I was coming along, they were OK with it, and then change when they saw me. It's as if they were expecting Halle Berry but they got me instead and acted like they got cheated. A couple of dates even rescinded their offer to pay for my meal. I would say "It's OK, you're not on a date with me." I'd pay for my own. A couple of them treated me cordially but were cold. But she didn't want to be alone with these online dates.
All that summer, I was treated like this. My self-esteem was DESTROYED. She even hooked me up with her ex because I was so broken down and lonely. And that was 3 years of hell because he was a narc. It was not my best moments.
I did get over it, but that shit scarred me. I'm happily married now, but all the shitty rejections men go through were what I experienced that summer. It is soul-crushing. And even though I'm married now, there are times when I shed a few tears remembering that awful summer.
Men...I feel you. Trust me.
You married?
maybe some stop sticking to that friends
Ive seen guys behave like that.
She wasn’t your friend
But dang people can be such buttheads, its crazy
I think the men on those dates were hoping for a threesome beforehand. And she only dated shitty men. Says a lot about her, too.
Loool the look on Preach's face, "Tell us another one."
Aba: "I've had some pretty brutal rejections"
Preach: literally crying from laughing "please tell us another one"
I lost it
LMAOOO
That laugh is so contagious. I shouldn’t be laughing this hard so early in the morning 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Truth. My face was hurting from my smile.
My rejection story: Highschool, met a boy who I thought was super cute and nice. We had great conversations and we basically vibed very well. I had a huge crush on him and I took my chance because I knew he wouldn’t do the step, he was more of the shy type. I took my courage and went straight to him after class and asked him out for a movie. I said that I really liked me him and I would pay for everything …. He looked at me up and down and said : I don’t date girls who look like dudes….and walked away. Next day, he told to the hole class about it… this event hurts me till this day …well it is not as bad as Aba’s story but I still felt that.
Soo I would like to agree that girls get less rejected than guys but there is 1% of girls like me that i don’t get approached by Guys online or in real life. I got rejected soo many times that I just put myself in the friendzone now.
@Charming Chowder Well in his defence, I wasn’t the prettiest in highschool 😂
@Charming Chowder Well those experiences makes you stronger, right ?
@Charming Chowder Thank you for the good advice 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 I really appreciate it
I like girls who lean towards the Tom boy style as long as they have a nice body. I prefer Jordan’s over heels. I’m sure I’m not alone. Keep doing you 👌🏽👌🏽
Damn thats fucking brutal. Why can't people just be respectful and polite to confessions.
Preach: "Im crying because of your pain bro..." ....immediately starts laughing again.
Story was funny as fuck.
Playing on *Veteran* is a shock for everyone no matter who you are.
Veteran difficulty is no joke.
Cries in realism
Veteran difficulty and Asian…
I can top that. Took this girl out for dinner. Excuses herself to make a very important call, right after we ordered our food. About 25 mins later, the food arrived and she was still nowhere to be seen. At this point, I sat there staring at the food and reflecting on my life choices, thinking this girl ditched me in the worst possible way. What made it more humiliating was noticing the waiters and waitresses staring and feeling sorry for me. It get's better... She eventually comes back just as I was about to leave and (wait for it...) tells me she was having a serious conversation with her ex partner - whom she found out was a married man - with kids... She then gives me this warm smile and says in the most calm manner "Hey, it's ok. We were only talking about ethics", like I should be grateful I still had a chance with her. Needless to say, I wished her well and never saw her again. Looking back, there were many things I could have said and done, but I guess I didn't have it in me. The only good thing that came from this experience, was me realising that I should have more respect for myself.
I mean that honestly ended a lot better than I thought it was going to… sure I’m sure sitting there visualizing where you went wrong and feeling hella awkward cause the waitresses felt bad was devastating, but she could have not came back and it would of just been another story of you being left, but she came back and explained the situation, prolly could have still smashed if you let what she said slide and played it right
@@kzukiodenthechad7205 Why'd you even try to smash with someone who feels they can leave you in the middle of a date to talk to their supposed ex, who was also a married man?
Bruh, have some fucking standards mate.
That in no way topped Aba's lmao
@@kristianjensen5877 How tf would he know if hes just meeting her? So what? Youre supposed to laser scan them and find out who they are just like that before they even speak?
@@Priest015 fr
Started chatting with a girl on spring break who went to the college in my hometown. Planned an ice cream date on my layover cause I flew for free. We had been chatting back and forth all day an night while I was on vacation, figured everything was go. I land, get to the crib, and let her know I’m ready to go when she is. STRAIGHT SILENCE. 5 hours later while boarding my return flight she says “Ew. Was never gonna happen” as if she hadn’t been sending me unsolicited thirst traps all weeeek longgggg. Such a trippy time of life.
The rejection story 😂😂😂 damn they couldn’t just let you hide with “dignity”…
A lot of guys have stories like this. Especially teenage years. Thats life. we Learn from it. lol Preach’s laughter!!!!! tho
Wassup Becky
Tell me about dignity.
Imagine when the guy she stood you up for gives you a sympathy hug before he goes home with her. This, right after you had to serve them for a couple of hours, because they picked your workplace to have their date, and, as a consequence, you had to endure their flirting and making out.
The sad part was that despite your professional and cheery demeanor (in a bid to mask your sadness and do your job), this was the moment when you realized that an unprovoked act of kindness could also feel quite demoralizing.
Embarassing as is it may be to admit, that hug had been the least lonely you had felt for some time, after having been rejected so frequently and in increasingly novel ways.
True story. 😂
@@MisyeDiVre I’m sorry for that one bro, I feel your pain.
@@MisyeDiVre damn. All jokes aside, that story hurt even me 😔.
A true bro, laughing and his best friends; truly this is how men bond.
Aba & Preach aren’t friends…they’re business parents
heh we gotta get it in cause we know our turn is just around the next bush :)
@@BooshMasterOriginal Whatever you say "partner"
One of my worst rejections was when I was told "You're more husband material than boyfriend material". Shit blew my mind. Like ight, I'm the "I'll settle for you later" type.
I've been told that as a female... um... cool? 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️. Still single. But also at peace :)
that means she sees you as a beta (BEEEEEETA) male provider
DEADASS!!! I had this exact one too.
Like bih!! 😳🤯
People, every time you get rejected go back to this video and tell yourself: *"Welp...at least I was in no bushes when I got rejected"*
lol That can help
Everyone should strive to not have a bush moment
I feel we as a society have lost a skill here. Teaching young people about rejection and how handle rejecting someone with class and compassion
Yea man.... im ok with rejection... i literally asked 18 women out over a 1yr period before getting a yes once upon a time.
16 of those were actually nice to the point and i said thanks no problem- have a good one. No ego trippin... no lectures.... no breaking down my looks etc
💯
I got the worst rejections
Preach is SOOO saddened by Abas pain, that he just cant contain himself, to the point of becoming hysterical. You can hear the pain in his voice. Its not "haha" laughter, its "poor poor Aba" laughter. 😂
The amount of rejection a man goes through life will either break a man or turn him invicible to urges
men get rejected on the front end while women get rejected on the back end. i dunno which one is worse
I’ve been made invincible through pain
women get rejected too, stop feeling sorry for yourself.
@@kelliejackson3563 Not even close to how much or how badly men do. Women lose their minds getting rejected ONCE in a very polite way by a guy (men are usually MUCH nicer when they turn women down because 1. they have empathy from being rejected themselves, 2. they respect what it takes to initiate, and 3. because they don't get approached by women neatly as often so they're flattered and happy about it even if they aren't interested). A man will get rejected many many times in his life and often women will be downright cruel about it rather than just saying "no thanks". Many women will act offended "how dare you even approach me what made you think you had a chance" or mock you openly to their friends right in front of you. If the rule became that women had to make the first move- the human species would go extinct
@@LordBattleSmurf My bad, you men win the competition then. Well done men!
Preach is like that kid that the teacher makes leave the room so he can collect himself and move on lol
Preach has the most addictive laugh. I appreciate you guys more than y’all know. Thank you because you guy saved my life years ago.
Can you share the story please?
Do I dare share any of those stories that I swore I would take with me to the grave? Okay, just one, it was my senior year in highschool and my best friend and I carpooled to school every morning. After a week or two of classes I'm telling him about this girl I like in my english class and he starts telling me about this girl he's been on a couple dates with in his math class. As it turns out, same girl. No problem, he and I are best friends so no big deal. I move on. They break up after like a month, and it never really got super serious for him. About a month after that, prom is coming up. I'm from Utah (I know, I know, same place Skippy is from, we're not all like that) and for us prom is an all day thing. You do a big day-date and then go to the dinner/dance later. Anyway, I wasn't planning on going to prom because reasons but this girl's friends that were also in my English class are telling me that she said she wants me to ask her out to prom. I play it off cool but inside I was super excited cause I did still have a stupid crush on her. I talk to my friend to make sure he's cool with it because bros before hos right? He didn't care, he broke up with her, never really that serious etc. etc. So I ask her out. I plan out this tandem bike ride and a picnic in the canyon everything is going great, I drop her off at her house, leave and come back later to pick her up in my tux. We take a bunch of pictures with the parents, and then we're off to get dinner at Ruth's Chris' Steakhouse (like I said, all-day affair in Utah) and then we're going to the dance. We get through one dance and then she tells me she's got a headache and asks me to take her home. So I do, and I'm legitimately sympathetic to her pain (anyone reading this probably realizes that wasn't real) I drop her off and get back in my car and go home. The minute I'm gone she's texting my best friend again asking him if he wants to come over. Because he's a friend, he doesn't go but helps set me straight when I see him next and break the news. So what really happened? She used me to try and make my friend jealous, she never cared about me, and those other girls in the class knew about it.
So:
bike rental $25
tux $60
dinner $100
tickets $75
emotional trauma? priceless
Should have sent her the whole damn bill. 😟 So messed up, that ruined my day.
Your boy was a true friend💯
@@Bellz972 yeah, it ruined my day then too. Oh well, you live and learn.
All I can say is I’m sorry about that man. Crazy thing is most women won’t ever realize how much we take the the chin and move forward.
Hope you're doing good in life right now cause I know for sure that left you depressed. Props to your good friend who didn't go to her place.
Some people have no conscious especially around your age. Your friend sounds like a real one though.
Aba’s got mad respect from me for disclosing that bush story, certainly makes me feel a little better 👌🤣
She ended her life. From what I seen in a article. RIP
10 minutes in and despite the laughing and the phenomenal editing. This was a really personal story that most men will feel once the laughter subsides. Shit fucking sucks man... Thanks for sharing!
We don't really matter for the most part.. We're a dime a dozen to a lot of people.. We get up, go to work, go home, repeat.. We're expected to run ourselves into the ground and not be whiny about it.. But the thing is, we don't really ask for much.. A lot of us don't have it in our nature to whine and complain that life is hard, all we ask is not to be felt sorry for or be pitied, we just ask for patience..
Barry Barry Well said
There really wasn’t anything funny about that story. That was some real pain and Preach missed it
@@andrewferguson8032 Oh no it was fucking hilarious, but in a really dark and fucked up way. It played out like something from a tv show.
We have found something better than Preach's laugh. Preach trying not to laugh 😂🤣
What's the difference?
@blaze: Which one is preach again?
@@macruz8503 the one with dreads
@@macruz8503 the black one
@@crazycjk: Lol bless your soul.
It gets better men. The older you get the more confidence and less giving a fuck about things like rejection. You get rejected by jobs during applications etc.
Especially when I keep staying younger and their beauty starts fading away. This isn't written with hate its just nature.
I believe in this.
Mad respect for you Aba. Takes balls to share stories like that. Most of us hand at least one humiliating rejection story. It's life.
My most painful rejection in one line - “Have you even looked at yourself?”
tl;dr - so I used to like this girl at my coaching institution, who was really outgoing, smart, a little short and was not particularly attractive. She was a skinny girl with curly har. I developed a liking for her because I liked the way she talked. I was an introverted guy and back then I was a little chubby. I used to hang out with backbenchers and she was the nerdy type, but I tried to have conversations with her every now and then. It wasn’t going nowhere though so I decided to at least share what I felt with her. Only a few weeks were left at the coaching institute and I saw her hanging out with the nerdy people after class at the parking lot. I gathered enough strength and asked her if she can meet me before leaving. She came to see me after separating from her group. I had never approached a girl before that day so I was super anxious but I was able to tell her how I felt politely I was trying my best to not come out too strong and use the right words. I was not too hopeful about her response though but what she said left a permanent memory (not the good kind). She went from being calm to angry as if I killed her dog or something, the look on her face was a mix of disgust and anger (in case anyone is wondering it wasn’t fear). Without any hesitation she said “WHAT! HAVE YOU EVEN SEEN YOUR FACE?!” And then walked off. I was able to hold it together because my friends were waiting for me outside to hear about my encounter, I felt so defeated and broken but since a very young age I have been great at suppressing my emotions. I just casually told my friends she said no, they begged me for the details, but I just couldn’t speak I tried to change the topic and told them I need a cigarette.
Edit: So much love in the comments thanks yall. Its not all bad though, I've had better luck since then. Also, I used to think tl;dr meant too long don't read, Im keeping it up 😂😂😂
Alot of girls are entitled and she thought she supposed to get the best guys going after her. Deep down she had big ass Ego and when you approached her weather your same level or beneath or above, cause she had such a big Ego she shut you down hard. End of the day she entitled and prob annoying to actually be with
My guy... That's crazy. There's never any justice & it's so sad
@@rjgn4054 she had better expectations from her life maybe. That’s okay, I was prepared for a ‘no’ more than hearing a ‘yes’. But the worst part is we were well acquainted by that point. It took me a long time to process that incident. I blamed myself for a very long time.
alex grce explains why.
you talking to them is an affront. you are dirtying her imagine. lowering her worth in the eyes of people around her. fratenising with the riff raff. its makes logical sence. some dude mightnsee her and think thats her level and not approach her. so you are ruining her chances. so she makes sure to put you in your nplace, in stuch a way you wont ever tey again, and that everyone can see loudly that you are riff raff and not in her circles.
thats why they reject you so visciously if she deems you of lower caliber than herself.
anyway. logically it makes sence. but its still shallow as all heck and primitive und uncivilised and a major red flag coz how you treat others is a strong indication of your moral compass.vits pretenscious and evil. i understand why, but damn just because i understand it. doesnt mke it good
Buy a mirror.
My worst rejection was being told after some months:
"Im sick of being associated with you. Someone like you doesnt have a chance with someone like me. I'm out of your league."
Dang. I'm sorry bro
Bro she is a disgusting person. Do you g.
@@XO_Hikari Yeah but hey I'm married and have a beautiful son now. She has a daughter and her baby daddy is MIA. Her loss.
and by saying that she instantly proved everyone was out of her league
Yikes, to be fair that says more about her my guy. People saying things like that irks the hell out of me .
Preaching losing it at 6:50 is the best part of this whole video. 🤣
Listening to this one made me actually cry a couple times. Really hard to get through. It's not often an 18 minute video takes me over an hour to finish. Thanks for talking about the real issues. And props to Aba for being brave enough to tell that story.
“A dude if he is ugly, he can swipe as much as he wants” 😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah he can match with every Russian bot on Tinder 😂😂😂
Finger exercise.
3:13 the story ain't even started and Preach got me rolling
9:52 you good Preach
In the 5th grade, I was a shy kid with a crush on this girl in my class. I was scared that she wouldn't like me back, so I left her a note saying how I felt, and I signed it as a secret admirer. I wasn't sure what this would turn into, but I just wanted to get the feelings out. This girl went on a witch hunt through the entire class to find out who sent it to her, and when she noticed that the paper was from a notebook I was holding, she and her friends laughed in my face and told everyone. I felt so bad that I tried to go home early by acting sick, but no luck. It was one of the worst feelings in the world.
God damn.......
Man I felt this. When I was in 5th grade I had a crush on this girl but I never planned on saying anything. And one day her friend started asking my crush does she like this guy or that guy and she would say no. So I got my hopes up. Then her friend asked if she liked me she said “ew no” I was fuckin crushed lol
Damnn some people are rude asf ,I think every guys went through rejection
My first rejection was senior prom. My prom date never communicated it but I knew she was not interested in me. Despite how much I tried being a gentlemen, being the most respectful guy I could be. I wasn’t good enough. I was a nice guy who finished last.
To make things more awkward she was also dating at the time, and out of respect I never made any moves even though I wanted to. That night I was just a friend to her and nothing more.
It took a year for me to acknowledge that pain and move on from her.
My second rejection was in college with someone who shared similar interests, and when I asked for her number she said “Not my thing.” That had me hurting for a week, but it hurt less than senior prom.
Life goes on though, and I’ll meet my match eventually. Just gotta keep trying, and take each rejection as a lesson.