A women's circle is an amazing, empowering space that holds all the magic. Listen to lots of ideas and pointers to set up your own circle. www.ruthcato.com
For anyone enjoying this video who would like to work with me either in the UK or Online i have Year Long Women's Shamanic Initiation work, held in circle. The online group starts in Oct 2023. And the next in perosn group is June 2024. ruth@ruthcato.com for more details or to chat www.ruthcato.com
Thank you for this. Doing my first circle next weekend. So excited. Not sure what I’m doing but I’m surrendering to the universe to guide me & this is very helpful 🙏🏽💞💞💞
wow I was just researching for some material to tell about the circle in my community where I live and you have commented just 5 min ago! where are you based? I'm doing my 3rd circle next Saturday :)
I feel the same about my first circle!! I was procrastinating because I didn't know how exactly it would look, then I remembered that's a huge part of the process. So excited now
Sometimes women need to be just with women and I would recommend that trans people come together for their own tailored circles because after reading much on this subject it is a trauma based neurological condition. Is there nowhere that women can now no longer be in sacred space. The feminine is under a very calculated agenda of attack and trans gender issues is part of that. People need to do a lot more research. Biological men should not be in womens circle or womens sports. As I said I am all for circles for trans and sports for trans. And yes we have lost our sacred BORN AS WOMAN space 😢😢😢
I am watching this 3 years after you made it, and subscribed 😊 I was looking for some ideas and/or guidance on a sister circle I’m doing tomorrow, and this really helped with the basics of setting it up. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
Just started a Drum Circle in Springfield Massachusetts.. I am FB as Springfield Mass Drum Circle.. it’s all women.. leaning toward healing and unifying women…
I found your statement a bit confusing that "only a small amount of women menstruate". Could you clarify please? Every healthy biological woman menstruates for at least half of her adult life....
Sure, Hi Sara. I’m referring to the split between those who are pre-menstrual age, plus those who are post menstruation, together with breast feeling or pregnant women, and also those on the pill, this group of women don’t menstruate. So it’s quite a large number.
@@ruthcato Those who are pre-menstrual are not yet women but gils/children, and as you are saying they are "pre-menstrual", so they will menstruate. And pregnant and breastfeeding women wouldn't be in that condition if it wasn't for their menstruation. Every healthy biological woman has the ability to menstruate and is menstruating for about half of her life. There is a lot of confusing information being put out there nowadays in relation to the transgender debate. The only reason why a woman wouldn't have the ability to menstruate is that there is a medical health issue or that she is is transwoman - a woman by gender but biologically a male. This is a very small number of women who don't have a cycle and the ability to menstruate. Sorry for interfering.The information you share is beautiful, but I find it very important to be clear about this point.
I want to open a circle in my area. I've done it for years attached to my bellydance courses. I've stopped in 2018 and I lost all confidence. I was looking for some tips to make me feel better about starting. Thank you for this jam packed video, lots of info to make me a bit more confident again and to integrate in my structure ❤️
Welcoming you back to your confidence - when I lose my confidence I remind myself how important and transformational a women's circle is and to allow it to flow thorugh me rather than assuming me in my humaness needs to know everything. Finiding trust in the women, in their stories, in the circle and in the divine, Ruth x
Great question. I think yes you should join in and share when you feel you want to. We are all in circle together. However sometimes it feels right to be simply holding the space and not joining in, see what feels right for you.
Thank you for this information, I am planning to start a sacred women circle in my country 🇸🇷 Suriname. Needed this 🙌 motivation Sending love and light to everyone who's planning to bring women together ❤
Thanks so much for sharing this. Im starting my first circle in 2 weeks for mums of children with disabilities (my son is autistic and in the same school as the mums coming). I wanted to offer a space for these women to connect. Im curious about the part where you talked about "when people cry (if they do) to not touch them .. Ive heard this a few times ... My own empathic nature automatically feels like offering comfort (not becasue its uncomfortable for me btw) but becasue I want them to know they are cared for and held in the space....Could it not also feel like people didnt care if they did not offer any kind of gesture that they do.. . Im just wondering where does this idea come from/ why its such a big no no... When setting up a circle for the first time can I ask how would you suggest explaining the rule ? also I heard another rule about not giving advice and wondered if you could go into this a bit more too (examples are very helpful.. thank you ever so much!! xx
Hi Natasha, how wonderful to be setting up a circle. And such an important group of women to do this for. So, crying - this is about boundaries and allowing all of our feelings. If someone has a cry or looks like they are going to cry this is a wonderful thing. They are letting out the feelings they need to let out. As soon as we touch them, make a face, or stop them even in seemingly caring ways, we are taking attention away from their feelings being allowed and shifting focus to the person patting them or coming in for a hug. We want to ensure all feelings are welcome. If you feel uneasy with someone’s sadness, anger, etc it’s important that as a space holder you inquire into what it is about that feeling you maybe need more of in your life. I always explain at the beginning of circle about crying, and say if you want to offer comfort pass the tissues to them. But focus on allowing all feelings. We need safer spaces to feel and express our feelings without them being ‘fixed’ for us. This is a listening space. I explain this (and would suggest it’s not a ‘rule’ but a suggestion) at the beginning by simply saying “If anyone is looking like they are crying or about to cry, remember we are allowing all feelings, and if you wish to offer comfort pass the tissues to them. Don’t touch them unless they ask or reach out for a hug, because by touching them you are shifting their focus from their feelings to worrying they are upsetting others with their feelings.” Same for offering advice - Circle is not the place for that, it’s a space to be present with everything being shared. We are not in discussion. But being witnessed in our humanity. X
I think it's cultural too. I'm Italian and seeing someone crying without comforting them with physical closeness would feel very unnatural and cold for us. On the other hand she makes a good point about letting feelings flow. I think it's good to stay in between but it also depends on the person. That's why running a closed circle is easier than running an open one - you don't know what will happen and how people will react in an open one.
thanks from the button of my heart!!! that`s so helpful and makes sense to me so much! I will start woman circles in Zurich in Switzerland, i used to do mantra circles and decided to include that in a women circle. found my passion in it!!! Thank you for this video and your being in this world!!
For anyone enjoying this video who would like to work with me either in the UK or Online i have Year Long Women's Shamanic Initiation work, held in circle. The online group starts in Oct 2023. And the next in perosn group is June 2024. ruth@ruthcato.com for more details or to chat
www.ruthcato.com
Thank you for this. Doing my first circle next weekend. So excited. Not sure what I’m doing but I’m surrendering to the universe to guide me & this is very helpful 🙏🏽💞💞💞
wow I was just researching for some material to tell about the circle in my community where I live and you have commented just 5 min ago! where are you based? I'm doing my 3rd circle next Saturday :)
Huge celebration for you doing this much needed work in the world. How did your circle go? Where are you based? Ruth x
So very happy for you for jumping right in to have a circle, congratulations 🎉❤🙏🏻
I feel the same about my first circle!! I was procrastinating because I didn't know how exactly it would look, then I remembered that's a huge part of the process. So excited now
Me too! ♥
You lost me at à woman is Who identify as à woman.😢
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Sometimes women need to be just with women and I would recommend that trans people come together for their own tailored circles because after reading much on this subject it is a trauma based neurological condition.
Is there nowhere that women can now no longer be in sacred space.
The feminine is under a very calculated agenda of attack and trans gender issues is part of that. People need to do a lot more research.
Biological men should not be in womens circle or womens sports.
As I said I am all for circles for trans and sports for trans.
And yes we have lost our sacred BORN AS WOMAN space 😢😢😢
I am watching this 3 years after you made it, and subscribed 😊 I was looking for some ideas and/or guidance on a sister circle I’m doing tomorrow, and this really helped with the basics of setting it up. Thanks for sharing your knowledge!
Just started a Drum Circle in Springfield Massachusetts.. I am FB as Springfield Mass Drum Circle.. it’s all women.. leaning toward healing and unifying women…
I found your statement a bit confusing that "only a small amount of women menstruate". Could you clarify please?
Every healthy biological woman menstruates for at least half of her adult life....
Sure, Hi Sara. I’m referring to the split between those who are pre-menstrual age, plus those who are post menstruation, together with breast feeling or pregnant women, and also those on the pill, this group of women don’t menstruate. So it’s quite a large number.
@@ruthcato Those who are pre-menstrual are not yet women but gils/children, and as you are saying they are "pre-menstrual", so they will menstruate. And pregnant and breastfeeding women wouldn't be in that condition if it wasn't for their menstruation. Every healthy biological woman has the ability to menstruate and is menstruating for about half of her life. There is a lot of confusing information being put out there nowadays in relation to the transgender debate. The only reason why a woman wouldn't have the ability to menstruate is that there is a medical health issue or that she is is transwoman - a woman by gender but biologically a male. This is a very small number of women who don't have a cycle and the ability to menstruate. Sorry for interfering.The information you share is beautiful, but I find it very important to be clear about this point.
Ok,so i keep coming back to either joining or starting a woman circle 😊thanks x
I freaking Love this - Thank You❤️🔥💯🌟🙏🏼 I Am starting Women Power Circles in these times🌟🙌🏼💖🎶💐👑
I want to open a circle in my area. I've done it for years attached to my bellydance courses. I've stopped in 2018 and I lost all confidence. I was looking for some tips to make me feel better about starting. Thank you for this jam packed video, lots of info to make me a bit more confident again and to integrate in my structure ❤️
Welcoming you back to your confidence - when I lose my confidence I remind myself how important and transformational a women's circle is and to allow it to flow thorugh me rather than assuming me in my humaness needs to know everything. Finiding trust in the women, in their stories, in the circle and in the divine, Ruth x
I'm hosting a circle soon. As a facilitator, should I share in the circle too?
Great question. I think yes you should join in and share when you feel you want to. We are all in circle together. However sometimes it feels right to be simply holding the space and not joining in, see what feels right for you.
Any circles online ladies I could join?
Hey. Thank you. 🥰 I'm your 111 subscriber, and before I wrote this comment there was 11 comments. Yay 💕💃
Welcome magical one ♥️
Thank you for this information, I am planning to start a sacred women circle in my country 🇸🇷 Suriname.
Needed this 🙌 motivation
Sending love and light to everyone who's planning to bring women together ❤
This is such wonderful news!
I m going to attempt to hold a circle for the first time
I'm celebrating you doing this! Let us know how it goes
Thank you so much for sharing this in depth information ❤ creating a womens circle this new moon 🌚 ❤
How wonderful, how did it go?
Thanks so much for sharing this. Im starting my first circle in 2 weeks for mums of children with disabilities (my son is autistic and in the same school as the mums coming). I wanted to offer a space for these women to connect. Im curious about the part where you talked about "when people cry (if they do) to not touch them .. Ive heard this a few times ... My own empathic nature automatically feels like offering comfort (not becasue its uncomfortable for me btw) but becasue I want them to know they are cared for and held in the space....Could it not also feel like people didnt care if they did not offer any kind of gesture that they do.. . Im just wondering where does this idea come from/ why its such a big no no... When setting up a circle for the first time can I ask how would you suggest explaining the rule ? also I heard another rule about not giving advice and wondered if you could go into this a bit more too (examples are very helpful.. thank you ever so much!! xx
Hi Natasha, how wonderful to be setting up a circle. And such an important group of women to do this for.
So, crying - this is about boundaries and allowing all of our feelings. If someone has a cry or looks like they are going to cry this is a wonderful thing. They are letting out the feelings they need to let out. As soon as we touch them, make a face, or stop them even in seemingly caring ways, we are taking attention away from their feelings being allowed and shifting focus to the person patting them or coming in for a hug. We want to ensure all feelings are welcome. If you feel uneasy with someone’s sadness, anger, etc it’s important that as a space holder you inquire into what it is about that feeling you maybe need more of in your life.
I always explain at the beginning of circle about crying, and say if you want to offer comfort pass the tissues to them. But focus on allowing all feelings. We need safer spaces to feel and express our feelings without them being ‘fixed’ for us. This is a listening space.
I explain this (and would suggest it’s not a ‘rule’ but a suggestion) at the beginning by simply saying “If anyone is looking like they are crying or about to cry, remember we are allowing all feelings, and if you wish to offer comfort pass the tissues to them. Don’t touch them unless they ask or reach out for a hug, because by touching them you are shifting their focus from their feelings to worrying they are upsetting others with their feelings.”
Same for offering advice - Circle is not the place for that, it’s a space to be present with everything being shared. We are not in discussion. But being witnessed in our humanity.
X
@@ruthcato thank you so much, the circle is tomorrow, Im nervous but excited ... xx
I think it's cultural too. I'm Italian and seeing someone crying without comforting them with physical closeness would feel very unnatural and cold for us. On the other hand she makes a good point about letting feelings flow. I think it's good to stay in between but it also depends on the person. That's why running a closed circle is easier than running an open one - you don't know what will happen and how people will react in an open one.
thanks from the button of my heart!!! that`s so helpful and makes sense to me so much!
I will start woman circles in Zurich in Switzerland, i used to do mantra circles and decided to include that in a women circle. found my passion in it!!!
Thank you for this video and your being in this world!!
Oh hurrah! What a gorgeous message thank you so much. I'm celebrating you doing this work. Ruth x
Thank you for all this information. Very helpful!
Thank you what a loving share 🙏🏼❤️🌺
this is priceless. thank you for sharing
This was so beautiful. Thank you.
Amazing thanks Ruth x 🌟x
Thank you for this :)
I didn't catch the email
Thank you thank you thank you what a gift
Excellent content ❤
Wow such valuable information thank you so much 🙏🏼♥️
You're so welcome!
Going to my first one tomorrow ❤️
Thank you 🌞
Thank you for sharing in so much thoughtful detail 🐨💗
you're so welcome X
I would like the email please xxx
You can pop me an email to ruth@ruthcato.com
Amazing!!!
thank you so much Ruth!!✨⭐️
You're welcome, I hope it brings the inspiration for you to share this work in the world.
aw that means so much! thank you!!@@ruthcato
I love your idea of a bowl as a talking piece. 🥣
Thank you I’m planning on starting my own women’s circle. Please may you add me to your email list.
Wonderful so happy you’re doing this. Yes please email me your email address and I’ll do that
@@ruthcato can I have your email please
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