Q & A: What's It Like to Grow Up Frugal?
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2022
- In this video, our grown sons answer your questions about growing up in a frugal family. You'll find out if they got allowance, paid for their own clothes, and bought their own cars. They also reveal Hope's most epic frugal food fail and whether they still use the financial principles that we taught them.
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Wow you are such an example of how to raise outstanding, responsibe, articulate young men with great personalities. Beautiful family! You didnt spend a lot of money but it is apparent you spent a lot of time with them and that is what truly matters! You must be so proud!
We are blessed, indeed. All four of them are amazing people with giving hearts and who are fun to hang out with.
@@UndertheMedian I believe alot of your children's attitudes and personalities were allowed to flourish by being homeschooling! Public school is full of jealous,spoiled rotten,competitive individuals,and bully type individuals that make attending public school a huge challenge when one's family is not so well to do! It causes a soul to become bitter!
Home schooled not homeschooling!
Lovely family! God bless
There should be more parents like you today.
Hope, in response to your son's comment about line drying towels...I felt the same way when I bought my first house and started line drying our clothes outside. If it helps, I found that if I popped all my fabrics in the dryer for a touch up 10 min cycle before folding/hanging and putting away, it helped to soften them down without the electric expense of full cycle drying. My family was good with that compromise!
Unfortunately, I was never taught to save money so I spent every dime on clothes, shoes, purses, I had maybe 10 credit cards at 20 years old. Now my kids are grown and I live alone I'm now saving and really doing what I need to do to suceed....so glad I ran across your website!!
Being a single mom raising 2 boys, we were forced to be frugal. One of the things we would do to get the "name brand" clothing was to shop at the end of season and get the clothing at a deep discount. Dillards was a favorite place to get their jeans and t shirts at 75% off.
My grandmother's family grew up in the great depression and all members worked. Whether it was picking and selling berries, chopping wood and selling to neighbors, baking pies, picking pinecones, making's bootleg whisky or a regular job everyone gave their wages to my great grandmother and she would pay the rent and expenses. The family members got a small allowance of "pocket money" for whatever they wanted. She recalls sleeping in tents in the summer time and having a outdoor kitchen for cooking. My grandmother wasn't very thrifty but was a great baker who had a number of side gigs while being a housewife. My grandmother created beautiful wedding cakes, wedding flowers, sold Christmas trees in her front yard as well as fresh wreaths she made in her dinning room. Quite an entrepreneur for sure. I think having skills can be a good frugal thing to have to make money when times are lean. Enjoy the channel ❤️
That depression era generation were so special.
When I asked my grandparents about the great depression, they said it did not affect them because they had a smokehouse full of hams, a yard full of chickens, cows, and several corn fields. (Georgia)
As a child in Denmark in the 70’s nobody had dryers and stiff towels was the norm. We didn’t know it could be any different. And a stiff line dried towel softens right up as soon as you use it once.
One son looks just like his dad the other looks like his mom and it's easy to tell which is which. You have a lovely fun family. Congratulations as parents.
Thank you, Dennis.
I don’t know. I see both parents in both “kids” 😊
what a family!! This world would be a better place if more people were raised like they have been raised. You did yourself proud!!
When you were talking about wearing off brand jeans and cloths it made me think back. I always got kids second hand cloths or goodwill cloths. When I taught my oldest on shopping I gave her $25 to shop at goodwill to see how much she was able to purchase. Then I took her to Kohls to have her see what she could buy for $25 there. Great lesson learned. She stayed open to second handed cloths.
We didn't have a dryer growing up and OMG, the cardboard comment. It's so true, I had forgotten about the rock hard towels of my childhood 😅
I grew up poor! There were 6 kids in my family. I picked berries,babysat,cleaned houses. I wore hand me downs and homemade clothing, and survived. I recently retired from a nursing career. I paid for my own education. Thanks for raising fiscally responsible kids. I have 2 boys, who are both homeowners in their 20's. I watch FB marketplace and am appalled that people would pay $150 for a pair of jeans, not like them, "miss the return window", and sell them for $20! Not the way I was raised! Blessings!
I have watched this video three times now, because I wanted to write down what James said, "Spend money on what brings you joy. You're voting with your dollar for where your priorities are."
A great way to have soft clothes is to put in dryer for 3 minutes and then hang up. They dry softer and wrinkle free. It’s not too late to try! Corrugated cardboard! 😂
Or tumble once dry, cold air, with a spiky ball or a tennis ball
My parents insisted if I wanted current fashion or anything new, get a job... babysitting, mowing lawns, racking, whatever ways available to buy them myself.
When I was in high school ( in Gary IN 1967~1971) several of my friends of European families, had to pay rent. If they had ANY type of job, But what their parents did was put their rent in the bank. Then when the kids got married the parents matched the amount saved an gave it to the newlyweds to buy a house!
What a lovely tradition!
Mine didn't. Grrrr.
When our kids got old enough to realize that labels were a thing, we told them that if they wanted the name brand, then they had to pay the difference on price. Once they figured out how expensive those labels cost, they usually made the choice to spend their money on other things.
Was raised frugal & raised my children( ages 31,29,&25) frugal. They now as adults are frygal & all know how to compression shop!
You should be very proud of your sons. They appear smart, articulate young men. Congratulations to you all.
I laughed when they comment on hanging clothes on the line to dry, I live in Ireland and it’s an everyday occurrence. I love the smell of freshly air dried clothes, and Mom you are right hard towels are better for your skin. 😂❤️
New Zealand too - line drying is the norm.
I line dry, my mom and her mom both line dried and my 34 year old son also Line dries. 😊😜
This may surprise you but in my neighborhood in the USA it is illegal to hang laundry to dry outside because it is considered ugly and associated with poverty. Lol so I hang mine in the garage or in the home. It's not humid where I live so it's fine.
I have to say I prefer a line dried towel, feels like it gets me dryer quicker, I hate towels that are so soft they just move the water around.
Must say that your boys are a credit to you and Larry. All the best x
So do I. may be you can find linen and cotton towels. Not so soft as cotton ones. And very durable. I am french please excuse my bad english
Bonjour Cat I do use 100% cotton I will take a look for the linen and cotton. Merci 😊
My parents didn’t charge me rent when I was in school. As the youngest of six, my parents couldn’t have paid for our school, but paying for rent, (and food) allowed me to finish college. They also helped a bit with books when I couldn’t quite cover the cost.
Nice, Joan. As long as our boys were in college they didn't pay rent either. This helped them to stay debt free. It worked out well for them.
You raised your sons to be honest, responsible, and with values and principles. I'm sure you're very proud of them and you should be. I'm sure they're very grateful for having you as parents. So many people in this country would have been so much better off if they had the upbringing your children did. May God continue to bless your family.
You taught your children to pay tithe first. Good parents.
Thank you James and John for your generosity in sharing your experiences. Loved the amount of laughter and humor. I can imagine many fun and interesting conversations going on in your household, Hope and Larry. And thanks to Daniel and Philip for coming in at the end to say hi. It was lovely seeing your whole family together (including you Larry; enjoyed hearing you).
As an Australian, drying laundry outdoors is the norm. I love the corrugated iron towel feel. Its great to loofah your skin. Have never known any different.
Our clothes dryer is literally used a couple of times a year in an emergency. We use a clothes drying rack if the weather is bad rather than the dryer.
As a British person I find it so strange that Americans don't line dry their washings. Even if it is freezing here we prefer to dry washing outside as long as the weather is dry. It's completely normal here to never have had a tumble drier.
What intelligent, articulate boys you have Larry & Hope. This is certainly a testament to the way you raised your sons to be lovely young men. They were such a delight to listen to!
Yall have a really lovely family. All of your sons have good sense about money and it was so nice to see them be very complimentary about how they were raised. Great video!
Thank you, Carol. We truly enjoy them.
My brother charged his daughter rent for the 6 months she lived at home before she married. Naturally he paid for the wedding and gave she and her husband a monetary gift. When she was leaving the hall to go off for the honeymoon he gave her back her "rent" money too. He told her to put it towards a house. She did.
I love this!
Great way to save!
Great job! Loved watching this! I homeschool my 6 kids too, and they would think the brand name clothing question was odd. We call our kids' allowance their "paycheck," and they get their age in dollars every 2 weeks. It helps with a lot of little expenses I wouldn't be able to keep track of for so many kids. They're learning to save and they're so generous towards each other too. Thanks for sharing your family!
Thank you so much for answering my daughter Lily's question! She had her full set of braces put on yesterday and was kind of bummed because she's in pain and you guys saying hello just made her day! She loves your channel as much as me lol
Oh that makes us so happy! All four of my boys had braces. So, they feel her pain.
James has a good eye for cars. That car can get you through your entire life.
I love towels on the clothes line because they really suck up the water a whole lot better than in the dryer towels
Line drying clothes was a problem? Wow. Here in Australia that is the norm if you have a garden… you have a clothes line. Dryer only used in the depths of winter of drying outside isn’t an option. Apartment dwellers are more likely to use indoor clothes drying racks than a dryer as well.
It’s very impressive that both your older boys have chosen to work for nonprofits. I’m in healthcare and am proud to work at a nonprofit.
In a twist of fate, they both wound up working for the same non-profit, but in very different capacities.
In the uk and have a garden you most likely line dry.
I love the smell of freshly dried clothes straight off the line. If a bit crispy, put it in the dryer for 5 minutes. 😊
Loved when your son said "spending with purpose"
What a Great Video.
Thank You for sharing this. My wish is that every parent with children can watch this video.
I hope this opens the eyes of many parents nowadays who are raising a family. It's sad to say but too many parents give their kids way too much of everything all of their lives and never teach or prepare them for the ways of the world as I would say. It really scares me how many of these kids are growing up in today's world and not have a clue on how to survive out in the world when they become adults. They are not taught how to save or budget their money. How to do certain chores as in keeping their own bedrooms clean, doing their own laundry & dishes, washing windows, vacuuming and moping floors, mowing, raking leaves, shoveling snow or even making a meal by themselves. Hope & Larry I must say you have raised 4 wonderful boys in which 2 are now out of the house & 2 are still at home. Their future wives will be very happy wives one-day. I know you are very proud of them as any parents would be seeing their children be happy well-adjusted, hard working & successful. You two really did it right and I'm sure your sons are very thankful for all you have done to prepare them for the world and their future. Wishing you and your sons an amazing life of frugality.
A subscriber & fan of your channel always.
❤ Mary
We have two teenage daughters right now and homecomings, formals, proms etc. are always here it seems! We get BEAUTIFUL dresses at the Goodwill and Salvation Army. Last prom my oldest got a beautiful dress for $2.50 at the Salvation Army. It was stunning on her.
I love this so much!
Regular dresses at our Salvation Army cost $14, fancy dresses start at $19.99 and upwards. Goodwill is worse with higher prices. Very sad!
@@happycook6737 Oh my goodness. Our dresses at Salvation Army are $5 then go half off pretty quickly. Our dresses at the Goodwill are $6.49 which is an increase from $5 recently. But those go half off pretty quickly as well.
Like my mother taught me, we shop for most clothes at charity shops. My teenage daughter is a very edgey fashionista at a tiny cost. And my 12 year-old son loves brands and is very savy getting brand name clothing with his own money at a fraction of the cost.
I like shopping at charity stores for my money to go to a good cause. I also like the eco print!
That's funny about the line drying of the clothes. We have line dried our clothes for 11 years. I am disabled now and asked if my kids (who are adults and live at home) wanted a dryer now since they have to hang up clothes. They both said no and still hang 1 to 2 loads every day.
James looks just like Larry!! You all rock!!!
Do more videos of your sons!
James you are totally right. Kids now days can find any style influences on social media, and thrift fashion is very popular!
About not having the latest clothes or tech: let the kids choose one item to buy on brand, and then let them price things out, make them have to pay half. That usually helps them realize the value of frugality, especially if you can show them cheaper, reasonable alternatives.
Oh my gosh those young men had a deal only paying 100 a week! When you think of it you fed them they had everything paid for so $100 a week is nothing. My siblings and I unless we were in school just like you had to pay rent and I think it was the best thing they ever did for us. It taught us how to budget, And made us realize that when we went out on our own we would pay about three times as much. I think more parents should do this with their children. I think your boys turned out great and I think if they decide to move back in you can at least triple that amount L O L
Thanks, Marilyn. I thought it was just enough that they learned responsibility, but they still have enough left over to save up and get their own place.
Yes, I think the amount was just right. I just love your program and I love how you’re raising your children. You both should pat yourselves on the back, good job mom and dad.
I smashed the like button! What wonderful sons and lovely family. The females who marry your sons will be very blessed. Such excellent parenting. 💯
I grew up frugal, HAD to be frugal for half of my adult life, and have proceeded to buy and do almost everything I want now. Being forced to be frugal inevitably leads to a desire to spend, in my opinion.
I love this comment and I think really important to think about. Perhaps part of the answer lies in how frugality is presented to children. Raising the boys, we often talked about being incredibly thankful that what we had and regularly found ways to bless and give to others. We also made common events an adventure. Finally, we prayed that God would provide and show us creative ways we could reach goals. Although, having said that, making decisions about what we bought (or didn't buy) wasn't always easy and the boys certainly saw some moments of frustration and some bad days along the way. We also make it very clear to them that they could ask us anything they wanted. No topics were off limits. So, when they noticed frugality frustrations, if they asked about it, we were very transparent, explaining that we were trying to work through being able to save money for something specific. We always followed up when a solution presented itself, too. So, they knew that life isn't about everything being perfect or always knowing what to do. Sometimes, it's about being uncomfortable for a while as you are figuring out your next step.
Came across this older video. What wonderful young men you have raised. You should be very proud! Can’t wait to see the Hannah and James wedding planning episode!
Love this you’ve raised lovely young men. I was shocked at the line drying in scotland that’s all we do unless it’s raining. The tip is to put a spoon of white vinegar into the washing machine to soften towels
Same here in New Zealand. It's perfectly normal to have clothes and linens drying on the line. There's nothing better than the fresh smell of laundry still warm from the sun.
Larry and Hope, you guys are obviously really great parents!
Here in England 🇬🇧 most people line dry clothes. We've never had a tumble dryer. It's nicer line drying than tumble drying. That's just my opinion tho. This is a good video. Thanks!
To spend money with purpose and no impulse purchases are great lessons to learn. I don’t know why people think that frugal people don’t dress well. My son is a teenager and I am fascinated by these questions. I know he has to wait for big purchases but he wears most name brand clothes I bought at consignment sales or through hand me downs. My biggest financial regret is spending on eating out too much when I was young.
All of your son's are so handsome & their demeanor shows they really love & appreciate their parents.
These young men (as it happens) have been taught really well. Congratulations, Hope and Larry!!! They seem very well put together and very kind. Thank you for this video guys!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
What a fun interview with your sons. They cracked me up with the clothesline drying comments because I feel the same way. I hate cardboard sheets.
Oh my gosh you guys are such a special family!! I loved the line-dry clothes (corrugated cardboard towels!! 🤣) A family that works as a team an laughs together! What a blessing to enjoy your videos💙you should be so proud of those sons!
I am an old lady and in my youth we lived very frugal and I learned to live frugal all of my life. I like your videos. Greetings from Spain.
Thanks for sharing your delightful sons with us. I also have four adult sons.
I laughed so much when they said that line drying the clothes was the worst frugal thing they experienced growing up. Here in Australia everyone line dries their washing, it is very much the norm. Obviously climate plays a big part, but most Australians would only use a dryer on rare occasions. I just love hearing how everyday things can be so different depending on where you live.
Faith, You look really pretty! I like your sons advice! After listening to your sons, I think you & Larry could have a parenting, family, marriage channel as well. Wonderful examples!
This is the video I’ve been waiting for! Your boys input were all great advice. You handled that vegan question so well. Not a single judgment on their spending choices or diet choices. You raised them well!
what a great video Hope and Larry. All your boys are smart ,motivated and educated. I can see that they were certainly not deprived at all. Frugal is the way to go.
Thank you all so much for this very enjoyable video! What a pleasure it has been to watch and listen to your lovely family. I was brought up here in Northern Ireland by frugal parents and thank God for that because I wouldn't have been able to cope as well without that start in life. I am a teacher retired now but always managed to feel rich even though my profession was not highly paid. I have learned so much from your channel as well Hope and Larry and your videos are always down to earth and entertaining as well as full of great ideas. God bless you all. Vera
What a lovely family you have! Your boys are bright and articulate. You've done such a great job, Hope and Larry .
What An Awesome Family.. Those 4 Boys Have A Bright Future Being Raised The Right Way. Hats Off To Hope And Larry.
what absolutely lovely children you have raised very nice to meet them .
My boys started working when they were 12 years old our first son started a small business and when he was moved ready to move on he pass it onto his younger brother, It is important for Your children to have meat in the game otherwise they will not appreciate it
😂 Onion cream cheese in the cake. Ohh boy that was awesome!! I'm crying over this video. The cardboard towels..exfoliating 😂
Very impressive. You have done a great job with your kids. You should be very proud. I enjoyed watching the video.
Wow, what lovely, boys you’ve raised, Their answers to your questions were thoughtful and well articulated, I’m 29 (so not too terribly far out of their age range) and I wish I had their wisdom!
I really appreciate the boys sharing their take on growing up frugal. It helped me make some real decisions for my own family. Again thank you.
That was brilliant I would be so proud of my sons ! Not only at what they said but the way they said it ,you and Larry obviously spent a lot of time and energy making such a good job and enjoyment on four lovely young men well done Bx UK
Loved seeing and hearing from your sons! Thanks for your programs. You and Larry have a gift for this. Also, you both are blessed and so is anyone who watches your channel! .
Oh, this was so lovely! I have three girls I homeschool and I was second guessing my teachings but now I feel so much better! Great boys and job well done!
Hi hope and Larry, you guys are awesome! Not surprised one bit to see such smart, well spoken, mature young men upu have raised. Also, I didnt realize you still had some young sons still being homeschooled.
My friend sewed her kids' jeans to look like brand name jeans, and sewed the labels on so their friends never knew.
I am looking forward to this video& I will compare how I was raised and count how many things are the same! I was raised for a short while by parents who were raised by parents that had survived the great depression! Looking forward to this one!
Both my parents were raised during the depression. Dad graduated from high school in 1933 and Mom in 1939. They were really good with money. I learned so many valuable lessons from them. I'm sure you did too, Lisa.
@@larryware1 yes I sure did learn alot of valuable lessons that have sustained me in my adult life! My Dad unfortunately passed at the age of 35,he was born in1942,I was 12 years old,one never forgets that occasion!
This was priceless!! Love the honesty, respect, and humor your family has. Great job Hope and Larry!❤
You have a great intelligent family. Thanks for having them on the channel
We were poor and could not afford to be frugal, you have to have money to save money.
Wow this actually makes me feel better about how I bought my children up frugally. They both tell me how they didn’t feel like they missed out on things growing up now but I know they did at the time. You must be so proud of your children lovely men they have turned out to be I feel as a result of their family upbringing. 💜 from Michelle in Australia 🇦🇺
im also a mum of 3 boys....oh my....lol....y'all did a good job.....lovely man....
Dear Larry and Hope, and boys ! What a joy to hear them talking such sense, yet clearly having a happy and good life showing directly that spending lots of money is never the key to contentment and happiness. It was a great video, and please make sure they can read how much their contributions are appreciated. Many thanks, Ann in the UK.
Good job Hope and Larry! And your family is amazing! This was a really inspiring and thought-full glimpse at the benefits of frugality and positive guidance. Thank you all for sharing this.
wow, John looks like you, and James looks like Larry, lovely family, sending positive vibes from the UK
Great video today. I raised 3 girls fairly frugally and they have always been good at managing money and saving. Not enough families teach these skills at this time.
Absolutely loved this video! Thank you!
This was so fun to watch! My kids are still young, 9 and 11, and i sometimes wonder what they will think later in life when they can choose hiw to do laundry or dishes. Im pretty old fashioned. We do not even own a clothes dryer, and havent for about 8 years now. I enjoy line drying the laundry and hand washing dishes and using a good sturdy broom to sweep the floor...i hope they are not scarred for life by the very exfoliating towels and jeans that may or may not have the super power of standing on their own... or the copious amounts of beans and rice we eat!
I enjoy your videos so much !!!
So nice to hear from your sons!!! Thank you for sharing!!!
Love this!
I really enjoyed this video!
I have two older sons:) I’m SOOOOOOO proud of both of them!!!:)
All your boys seem to be very nice, and well behaved and intelligent. You parents can take a bow!
Loved this!
This was so much fun! Thank y’all!
Great video as always
Exfoliating. 😅 Fully enjoyed this.
Best example raising children to face life challenges keeping it real thank you
What a lovely family you all have!!!God bless you!
Thank you,this was great to hear 😇🙏🏻♥️