This is Not Love.
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They would rather control you than love you.
They even laugh at you when you are upset or they are all composed and no compassion.
As I cried and panicked at his wild and untrue accusations trying to escape his scathing character assassination of me over the phone, mine openly mocked me, in a high pitch obnoxious voice going, "Mnew new nah nanernaah" as though he was a 6 year old boy picking on a girl in the sandbox for crying because he stole her shovel, and not a 42 year old 6 foot one 250 lb grown adult man engaging in what should have been mature conflict resolution with me his girlfriend and he was working for Comcast as an engineering supervisor and being a 3rd infantry division Iraq war veteran hero and former mayor and former city council member of his hometown and uncle to his nieces and nephews and talented drummer and practically the unofficial go-to personal trainer buddy for people at his gym.
But there he was, on the other end of the phone line, the man who said he loved me, mocking me, like a childhood bully on a schoolyard playground after baiting me and antagonizing me until I just completely broke down. Sick. He's a sick person. Just vile.
@@PassionateFlower they have mocked me too. I have had a lot of male and female narcs do it to me. Parents, partners (when they became exes), bosses, partners of parents and strangers on the internet etc. Its awful. I wish none of these sort of people were in this world as it would be a better place.
It is just sadistic
That is sadism....and when that happends...time to end the relationship !
@@PassionateFlower Hugs to you. 🤗 I know exactly how you feel.
I've experienced this a few times, from a few different narcissists. I could never understand why they had no remorse, no compassion....and NO LOVE. Now I know they never really loved me.
Because life to them... is a deal. Somebody so concerned with his or her image, that facts go out the window. ❤and as you know, I’m sure of it, they cheat the emotion. They steal our good feelings. They smuggle negativity, traffic in every kind of vice, make every demand, and most definitely think they are the smartest person in the room. So with all those to contend with AND MORE, that’s how they look like they have no love. As far as I know, they can only experience a taste of love, because with all those insecurities, the boundaries they have are unimaginable. ❤😂you know what I mean. They have the most needs, wants, desires, and DESERVES.” 😬🤟💯
It must be a power trip for the narc to know their words are so powerful they can make you break down and cry. My dad did that to My mom, and my older brother treated his wife the same way. You are right, Jill. It is not love. It is power and control.
Perfect description of emotional sadism.
ABSOLUTELY! You are better off without them in your life.
Cruel and dark - yes... 😞😢
They will not change no matter what you do for them. I have seen it with my own eyes.
I agree 💯 percent ❤❤❤❤❤
Not quite true... the more you comply with what they want, the more they want, and the nastier they get if they don't get their way.
This evoked pain in my heart….the essence of this evil. They are not love. God is Love ❤️. They are counterfeit, liars 🖤.
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Amen.
And they only get worse as they get older...
They smiled after severe emotional abuse
More and more people these days are loving that darkness your talking about. It is so rampant there are no kind people anymore.
The only changes I saw from the abusers was what worked on me to further traumatize me so that I could give them what they wanted. That’s the name of the game when it comes to abusers.
I've seen it. And all they said was "I don't remember that happening".
Sure you dont...
This^
Yes, they're very quick to gaslight!
Yeah they definitely do this.
That's when i just leave with no contact
Good for you. My Mom is 89 and is a narcissist. She is developing health problems and dementia. I told my brother she is now his responsibility as I am severely disabled. His wife is not happy as I helped her my entire life. Too bad. 🤨😒. I took care of my Dad when he was dying of cancer and when he died I was told I , as a nurse was unreliable. Took her and my Dad to every MD appointment and every chemo appointment. Just tired of the BS. I had severe health problems during that time and my husband worked 3 jobs so we cd pay our bills. My Moms comment was “ not my issue”.
💯 Take it from me, 28 years married to a female narcissist. It was so hard for me to come to terms with. I couldnt understand how a human being could take vows and be so cruel. This video is spot on. They're truly evil.
I hear you, was married to a female narcissist for 3 1/2 years but knew each other for 8 years total. I knew something was off the whole time from the beginning, but I just thought maybe she's just not perfect. Until things went from good to bad to worse and when I called her out on her behaviour and called her a narcissist she showed this raging demonic devilish face 😈 was the most disturbing thing I have ever seen in a human and couldn't unsee it!! I couldn't understand just like you said how someone could take vows and come all this way just to be soo cruel and downright disgusting!!!?!! Psychosis
I dont think they are even capable of expressing real feelings you never know what their true motives are for behaiving the way that they do!
Thank you for sharing Jill.😋
I'm SO BLESSED!!! My husband's parents were both narcissistic, so he learned a lot of behaviors from them. But he HAS changed from watching me cry, and in all the best ways! At first I was worried he was a narcissist too, but fortunately, he's not and he's proving it more every day!!!
My husband also had narcissistic tendencies but after 40 years of marriage he has changed also.
Now we are struggling with a covert narcissist daughter who is much worse. You just don’t want to give up on your own child. I’ve been discarded and plan to use the separation to heal. I pray for her everyday for God’s mercy to heal her and our family.
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She can be Delivered, if she seeks Repentance, and the Spirit of Reconciliation!
@@balanced4harvest552 I pray for her everyday. I’m encouraged by the mother and a father who begged Christ to heal their demon possessed children.
That's what I experienced. That's why I left. His attitude was wierd....
😢😢😢 I did also, 25 years...
Well put. 👍
I had a friend who betrayed me. We " reconciled" but the deceit still hurt
When I cried. I told him that I cried and his response " I have a better perspective now". Really??
True. That is not love but evil.
I found that out the hard way...years lost...I now pray God will have mercy on his soul for what he did to me.
I cut contact because someone who doesn’t want good for me is a nobody. When the abuse occurs within a narcissistic family system, the scapegoat's brain is wired in a self defeating mode. The target of family abuse becomes a people pleaser to survive, then attracts more toxic people in the outside world because of poor boundaries. It's like a puppy who does not receive safe nurturing in their first months of life.
You are so right! That is not and can never be Love! Spot on…thank you xx Love is kind and compassionate!❤ Love heals…Love does not inflict scars…
My mother says I'm trying to manipulate her when i cried because she was emotionally neglecting me 🙄
Spot on 🌹🌹🌹! !!
That was my mother...she was a pain inflicter and found pleasure in hurting people !! I had to separate and ignore her !!
They are incredibly cruel for demons with a very fragile ego.
The way my covert narcissist wife just sat there expressionless when I announced to our kids we were divorcing and WE all cried our eyes out… but zero expression or comfort even to the kids… 😳 BUT my kids will never forget that about her.
Sad but true
Yep!! They get their kicks from it. They say all the right words with ZERO intentions of changing.
Absolutely, SO VERY TRUE
Better OFF without THEM in LIFE..
THANK YOU' BIG TIME 🗣️💨💖👏👏
Its the definition of evil.
My mom did that and mimicked the day I had shingles, and I was appalled she would go so far as to emulate the worst pain of my life.
Awww, I hope you are feeling better.
My own narc parents actually screamed at me while having a seizure from a prescription drug withdrawal. Then a few weeks later my mother mocked me having one. Despicable. NO CONTACT IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER! 😊
Omg!!!!! Seizures are nothing to play around with and your own parents could do such a thing???!!!!! Wow, you better go no contact and block them on everything and get as far away from them as possible!!! That's the devil 👿
The going back and fourth was what got to me ,the uncertainty of my heart. I understand everyone's thoughts, i just believe in God and theres nothing he cant change. Its a sad day for me in a beautiful place and doing better things and realizing you may not be able to share this with your spouse. Prayers for everyone dealing with this process . May the lord comfort and help our hearts to heal.
Not a thing nope , there are those with no Love in them ! They cannot love , nor recieve it !
When i told my mother i was feeling suicidal on my birthday because of her abuse and mistreatment, and she did and said nothing, i knew it was over.
Omg 😳, that is awful. I hope you are feeling better. ❤
Needed to see this. It’s so hard letting go.
My tears made his eyes sparkle. It was awful.
Omg that's sick 😫 horrible 😮
😢 I got the smirk as if he enjoyed every second of it.
Thank you fir sharing your knowledge and wisdom with us. Stay beautiful.
You can’t be more accurate, it is the bottom line.
TY for keeping it real. I'm so glad I got to calmly tell my EX mother ( narcissist, alcoholic, schizophrenic, Sleestack and worse,.to her face before I went NC with the family of vipers THAT : " Just like the blues song lyrics go, " IF that's what you call love you can keep it to yourselves."
You're exactly right. And you look fab 😊
😊 thank you
Yes💔Can confirm this is 100% true unfortunately😿❤️🩹
They sometimes change for a short time, but revert right back to their usual harmful behavior.
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Dark and cruel is what it is!
They are pure evil.
Oh I was yelled at, “CALL YOUR FING MOMMA!!!” when I would be in the corner of the room crying.
Ya that’s bazar. 🤢you’d think some of them would realize it eventually. But no. It goes on. The no love thing I was telling one of the patrons here, all those insecurities and preoccupation with SELF, that grandiose entitlement, and the MEGA BOUNDARIES, it’s no wonder they can’t truly love. 😎🤟💯
I get the most nervous on your site because I do take it seriously. I try not to be obsessed by it, but these sites help us deal with resentments. Very healthy exchange here.” 😉🙏💯
Yeah, been there and I broke down and cried in front of her and my kids through her bullying me and tormenting me!
Her response was
Do you realise How pathetic you are”
No empathy just vicious!
This is not love
I’ve moved on now and I’ve been through the Stalking & Hoovering phase
But I’d never go back
Still carry the emotional scars but I’m getting stronger everyday without her in my life 😊
Such a painful truth!
My husband watched my 9 year old son Oliver take his last breath in my arms after fighting cancer a month later whilst trying to break up a fight between him and his sister he punched me around the face, last year after going to a san smith concert ( Oliver loved Sam) with my then 16 and 14 year old he knocked me in my stomach where I had to shout and remind him I was pregnant and that’s how my other children found out, I have lived through so many years of abuse mental and emotion physical abuse my children been treated the worse and that’s after losing my son, he still to this day tells me the mother of Oliver it was hard for him when Oliver passed. I gave my faith to god and I left him two months ago
They are sub humans
My mother & brother in a nutshell unfortunately
So sorry. My Mother and Brother as well!!! 😢❤
Mine too😢
Sometime crocodile tears. Mine would cry if she didn't get her way plus more. She would cry to punish others. Then a satan voice would come out. So how do you determine an act from reality.
Mine would cry if you said hello wrong ?
Learnt this the cruelest, hardest way
Thank you Amen
Helps understand the violent reaction I got once from the X when I told her I loved her, looking back she knew she was unlovable.
Never happened again
Thank you for this ❤
This is exactly my sister!
Amen
So true ❤
Describes my daughter.
Yep.
This is my ex-husband. Your channel inspired me and gave me the strength to divorce. Thank you Jill!
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Thank u
NEVER EVEN ASK ANY QUESTIONS ⁉️
Learned that
Because they don't love themselves! That's straight up demonic spirits! You have to love God, yourself then it spreads abroad!!!❤❤❤❤
Yes it is
I experienced this with my parents.
They told me though, they can't handle to see me going through trials. These trials I brought on myself. Mind you, it was a God fearing man who i married and he just passed away. They had no sympathy for me because they didn't agree with me choosing him therefore I brought it on myself to be alone in this..... 😮
They are there when it's convenient though and think I need saving
I am so sorry for your loss. 😢 You had real love. God has your back.
Lady, those black men's frames are lovely !
He would just look at me like I didn’t do this no comforting me nothing like completely unemotional. I later found out he had been cheating on me at the very place we were
That is terrible. I've had that too. I don't know if they've cheated, but last yr I saw emails of them chatting in emails to a few 3 yrs ago when I saw them they few wks, they said it was nothing & they were joking with them. Yea right
So many times I cried and she didn’t even care often would mock me and ignore me not even comfort it got to a point I would it cry in front of her because I knew she didn’t care or love me at all sadly
It's horrible. So wrong. Not sure of words. I hardly cried in a couple of yrs cause they don't give a shit
Mine smirked
That’s my adult children.
Yes, ex-wife with a very cold heart. Get thee behind me, Satan!
On the other hand I have watched a narcissistic person cry from a pity party and have shown no emotion whatsoever cause of all they put me through hope doesn’t make me a bad character but I just couldn’t
100% !!
Baby mama,,, yeah,,, two years later ,,, I was the love of her life again! That was 10 years ago! Mmm , that was a tough lesson!
It's abuse
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My father did
Too many people and money
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Narcissism is the flower on a dandelion. The weed root is sin which is an assault on your Creator. God is love, but I don't ever hear much about that from internet Narcissism gurus.
Thats where Im at :/
Is True ###u
Over and over.....
Women will cry just to get their way. So if a man is no longer reacting to the water works he just see's through the bull shat .
Says those who have been involved when cut them off they find another way to involve themselves in a sneaky narcissistic way yeah that was definitely not love not normal
@@terrystout9969 I have never met a female that has ever loved anything but themselves and how they feel. Men make sacrifices females only use others to make themselves feel better.
@@lastinline4322 meanwhile vast majority of guys watch porn which is infidelity and continue even when they're not allowed to when in a committed relationship... many men won't live they lust instead only
My ex husband would be smirking
Yes! Mine too! Demons, disgusting.
Stolen phone plug again on repeat.
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What if that's your mother?
Walk away
Yep and then even you know say is hilarious the way you look you look crazy and you know I'm going to tell people what you're all about and you faking phony but you crying for fake tears sisters you know what some narcissists say and I experienced that and at the end of the day it's my turn now to move on THANK YOU MA'AM SO MUCH
Thank you
Is it sociopathy?
A lot of the time, yes, it is.
@@theenlightenedtarget Scary. I only have a bachelor's in psychology, but I understand it's difficult if not impossible to treat.