How Kristin And Jen Got Diagnosed With ADHD | Kitchen & Jorn
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In which Kristin and Jen share very silly, goofy bloopers from their recent videos! There be some gay and ADHD stuff in our brains as well!
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Thank you so much you are so amazing ADHD is part of you makes you unique and special and love your honesty and happy Friday have a great weekend I love you ❤️
How to ADHD is an amazing UA-cam channel, it is the reason I got tested and diagnosed. I have two kids with ADHD as well. Needless to say, all the things get lost, things get done...but never what I mean to get done. Thank you for your honest experiences, I hope you will feel comfortable to share more in the future!
Thank you to both of you! Kristin you look stunning in yellow and Jen your smile lights you up! I have watched both of you for years now and hope you keep finding ways to keep us entertained for many years to come!
@@katelyncampbell6011 I also wanted to recommend "How to ADHD", such a good channel! Very helpful and interesting.
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"either people with adhd need to stop being so relatable or I need to see a doctor"
This was The Post for me lmao
i feel attacked with this comment
@@imanimcnair973 same
Saaaaaame
That's why *I* sought a diagnosis.
I'm procrastinating my work by watching a video about ADHD.
The way God intended
SAME THO
ME TOO OMG
I feel this
SAMEEEEE
2:11: "you have 10 things on your to-do list, and you do like a third of all of them, and then 5 hours has gone by and nothing is done and you start to CRYYYY." I've never felt more attacked in my life hahaha
same ive been trying to do some late work and i got a little bit of everything done but nothing finished
ADHDer here: I would love to hear you guys talk about the way that ADHD impacts your emotional health because the emotional side of ADHD is a topic that gets so little attention
Yes!!! I said the same thing. Learning about RSD was such a game changer for me.
Oh man the emotional processing struggle is too real...
Same. Explains so much about...... my entire life, lol.
This! I feel when I was growing up the only aspects of ADHD that got discussed were things that would affect my productivity under school and capitalism. The social and emotional challenges I faced felt embarrassing, stigmatized and personal.
There's actually a serious school of thought that suggests that ADHD is just flat out on the autism spectrum, and honestly, I think that's a very helpful way to look at it.
One of the most frustrating things to me is that me and my brother both have,
-The same type of ADHD
-The same parents
-The same living conditions
-Went to the same schools
and yet he got diagnosed with his ADHD at 5 and I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 14.
MoonlightRose Same, my brother got diagnosed at 10 and I got diagnosed at 27
Ug. My issue is that I have ADHD and dyslexia, so once everyone got the dyslexia news they said "well, I guess that's what it is," and just kind of left it there. Like great, I had a hard time concentrating enough to complete tasks AND THEN I got a bunch more homework to do to improve my reading.
Girls are mless likely to get diagnosed
That is incredibly common. Unfortunately, when ADHD studies were originally done only on boys. More modern studies show girls show ADGD differently. Buts the old data still instructs a lot of diagnosis.
Oddly enough I was diagnosed really early (3rd grade) because my adhd presented very emotionally. I used to have full blown mental break downs over seemingly small things such as another kid whistling. I had no control over my emotional state at all.
also, kristin and i are literally the same person:
- faked my way through high school
- knows that information is stored somewhere in the brain, but can't access it
- overachiever
Totally me too 😬
And super sound sensitive/ get irritated and upset when I have to work or try to complete around literally any noises I didn’t intentionally place there to the point of emotional breakdowns. Was also zoned out through most of school until and life until grad school too, then had to play catch-up and figure out strategies for completing things (like totally quiet rooms in the library), feeling like i was just bad at everything or less smart than other people, and having to backtrack or repeat things over and over bc of missing info or forgetfulness. So exhausting.
SAME JESUS
@@emmapemberley6111 The sound sensitivity is awful for me. I used to get so angry at my sister for singing (she’s an amazing singer) because it made my brain short circuit and I didn’t know how to explain that I wasn’t just being a bitch.
Same. Diagnosed at 29.
I got the ‘tism and ADHD and I’m a woman, WHAT UP UNDERDIAGNOSED CREW
Ayeeeeee
HELL YEAH
Hi 😅 didn’t get diagnosed til 13/14. Aspergers anxiety and depression ftw
Me TOOO!!! Hi friend!
Still waiting for my assessment at 42!!
Wait... wait... you're telling me that my ADHD is the reason why I feel like i'm having the worst day ever if my time table gets screwed up? I always feel like people think i'm being dramatic when I get super upset that people don't keep to a schedule I set
yeah I'm the same way, I get very upset and I either cry or just get extremely irritated and frustrated
@Andrew Murray the way oc phrased it implies they already are diagnosed with adhd ? At least that’s how I read it, and they’re simply realizing the connection of another symptom
@Andrew Murray Okay but I have been diagnosed with ADHD and taken medication for it for a good portion of my life?
You forgot the insane procrastinating until you have 15 minutes to finish a massive project before your class and you end up skipping class and having a meltdown instead because you couldn’t finish the thing. Also, the inability to shut up.
deadlines used to get me going (last min ofc) but at some point, yeah...it became exactly what you wrote.
And then it's been a week and you still haven't finished it
Oh My God! I did that with my last assignment for part 1 of my masters. I can't do part 2 as I spent all my money. That's another ADHD issue. I can't save money for toffee!!!!
We are not doctoors, we are fools is how I feel 100% of the time
When you're a good student, especially in public school, so many issues just go by the wayside. If your problems don't interfere with your grades, it's a miracle you'll ever get any help at all.
This so much. Everyone just thinks if you can perform you are fine. So many people can perform and not be fine. I see that with my sister especially. She is doing well her first year in college, but my parents don't really take her emotional state seriously.
hah even if your grades suffer you're lucky to get help.
THIS. and if i couldn't pay attention, people told me that i wasn't trying hard enough :'''')
“Find an adult” so like a more adulty adult than me? Got it. Thanks
"High functioning" is just being really good at masking. This is why im seen as "high functioning" while my sister's are "low functioning"
Functionality labels can be so toxic. Im labeled as high functioning because i did well in school but i can go days where i hardly eat at all purely because i forget. My partner needs to remind me to take my meds, because i can have a phone alert and turn it off without even realising what it was for. I cannot life by myself - but im hIgH fUnctIonING (so no help is available). Thanks for coming to my rant.
Forreal! High functioning is essentially like. The things you struggle with don't come across in interactions with others or are written off as quirks so ppl don't get it when you need support and are struggling
High functioning is how I got mislabeled as adhd instead of asperger's
I never would have thought that I had ADHD until my boyfriend's mom described her symptoms and encouraged me to go to a doctor because she saw some of the same behaviors in me. I was 23. It explains SO many of my life struggles now
I also was able to "fake" my way through school like Kristin... Even in college! Being smart and having high functioning ADHD is a crazy mean cycle
@@sarahkidd9608 Same
Make sure to look at female specific resources too. It's mostly centered around young boys but girl symptoms and signs can manifest very differently
@@TH0KH exactly! I had no idea I had ADHD because my symptoms were almost entirely different from the men in my life who I knew had it. It took another woman who had it to open my eyes
Me too! I'm on the shyer side and have a really good visual memory, so I breezed through school + college at the top of my class. Every time I tried to tell someone what was going on they'd gaslight me into the next dimension... It wasn't until I started seeing a new shrink at 24 and he was just like '.......... you literally do not stop moving'
I was misdiagnosed as a teen girl with ADD, but turns out I'm actually Autistic. There's a ton of parallels between the two diagnosis and experiences especially for women since they're both neurodivergent. Usually the sensory issue may mean that you actually lean towards the Autism side of things rather than the ADD side of things (saying this as a licensed therapist). It gets missed a TON though. There's lots of misdiagnosed neuro-divergent (ADD & Autism) people out there simply because the system is sexist, ableist,
I've been scared about talking about this possibility for me simply because I know the system and I feel like the symptoms of autism I do have aren't enough to actually be valid. I think I might be both. I've been diagnosed with ADHD already a long time ago (like summer before freshman year of high school or something and I'm 20 now) but I'm kinda questioning the possibility of autism as well. i just don't know who to talk to about it. my psychiatrist, probably, but idek what to SAY because most the symptoms I have overlap with ADHD but then there's some that don't and I'm just ?????? yknow?
I think I may be ADD and autistic
I feel like I might have light ADHD. I struggled to learn in school, like Kristan sounds bother me. (Couldn’t even sleep last night because my boyfriends computer was making a clicking sound. A facet dripping, or a dog licking it’s paws is the WORST). I also lose objects frequently like my phone. I had to have tags cut as a child and sometimes still do, and anything silk or silk like bothers me. And trying to get ready for something takes me so long because I can’t do multiple things at once or I get discombobulated.
With that being said I was diagnosed very young with High autism (aspergers) and I can tell as an adult now I do have it. Possible I could have both?
@@amandaarmstrong5901 Absolutely possible! Honestly, I trust self-diagnosis as well. If both resonate with you, then you very well could have both.
@@chloepresley2000 Definitely a possibility!
I am so terrible with procrastination, and when I procrastinate I organize or clean. So if my room looks like it is put together, that is because I have a project that I'm not doing.
why is that meee 😂😭
was also high functioning, smart, "gifted" kid who could fake it. also in grad school. it also caught up with me lol
when you add other things on top of it it tends to show earlier
Yup. Me.
same here
I feel very appreciative that I am not alone in this 🙃
SAME and my brother got diagnosed but I still haven’t my parents refuse to accept that me, their smart child, has adhd
That moment when you're not actually diagnosed with adhd, but you relate to everything in this video.... and other adhd youtube videos.... and then you're just standing in your kitchen really questioning your brain....
Literally me, down to standing in the kitchen!
Same! Like I’m pretty sure I have some low level ADD, but since I’ve managed to get through school and function at work and stuff I’m pretty sure I’d never actually get a diagnosis
LITERALLY ME RN 😳🤯
same here
@@nightsgrow6575 i've always done well in work and college but I still got a diagnosis really quickly, like it was very obvious to the psychiatrist that I had adhd, so I wouldn't get discouraged just because of that! If you feel that you have adhd and that it would be helpful to get a diagnosis you should go for it!
I literally was just diagnosed with ADD yesterday and I’m 25. I always thought this was just how everyone functioned. I also was like Kristin with the “I’m totally zoned out in class focusing on the squirrel outside but somehow managed to get A’s” until I was in college. I also fidget like a mf and can’t handle sounds and forget literally anything that is not in my line of vision.
“People without ADHD might be watching this video and going “you haven’t even described this well” people with ADHD are watching this video and they can see it”
Why do we all seem to have ADHD/neurodiverse radar 😂
It is our normal. We all can see what is normal to US.
I haven't been diagnosed but this just described my life so I was like, where's the symptoms part? seems like a normal day to me (got anxiety and sleeping meds so far cause panic attacks and insomnia tho)
kristen: is talking about her adhd
kristen: goes off on a tangent
kristen: what was i talking about??
this is the story of my life
Same!
I don't have ADHD but tangential conversations and anyone you can have them with are my favourite thing in the world ❤️ I often have 5 topics of conversation going parallel with this one particular friend and it's brilliant
Me every day
My favorite part of the ADHD video is where they talk about filming themselves living a day with ADHD then forget to do it
I watched this video, immediately called my doctor, had to fill an initial questionnaire before being referred for an assessment and had an anxiety attack on the phone with my doc. So that's how I'm doing, how about you guys?
At least you did it and didnt anxiety stop you from making that call! Hope you're doing fine now. :)
Having a frustrating day even though I haven’t done anything because I can’t focus on things I want to do or even need to do, finally got back to this video to finish the other half of it because I forgot, and I’m almost 100 certain I have adhd but my anxiety prevents me from getting help or asking for it so honestly I feel you bro
I watched this video when it came out and let me tell you: THAT SHIT IS ACCURATE. I wasn't diagnosed until today (like literally got diagnosed 3 hours ago) but this is the first time I've ever heard people talking about experiences that are very similar to mine. For the first time ever I felt recognised as someone with a manageable "disorder" instead of someone who "just isn't trying hard enough". It actually means a lot to me that you have put your story out there so people like us have someone they can relate to. So thank you very very much!!!
Me to my partner: “Is it my chronic illnesses or is it ADHD....???”
Them: “Both.”
The hypersensitivity to perceived rejection thing is really fucking me up right now
By which I mean for as long as I've been sentient on this planet
Rejection sensitivity is so real!
Me not being able to be in the same room as someone else eating something
Dinah Consumption YES. I have a bestie who is amazing and I think “why is she friends with me” all the time.
Wait that’s an ADHD thing? Christ I need to see a doctor.
@@lu656 yooo I was thinking the same thing. But like I'm already diagnosed 🤣
"Not only is this our adhd video, also wine!!"
This non sequitur is so embliatic of my ADHD experience in like 3 different ways lol.
My story is SO similar to kitchens.... But I never finished college. Turns out homework is really important in higher education, unlike highschool
I remember thinking I might have ADHD back in elementary school, then ignoring it for a while and eventually forgetting it. Fast-forward to online university classes and my inability to watch any video longer than 8 minutes in one sitting. Somehow that reminded me :P I will literally pause the video and have to spend five minutes not even doing anything (!!!) before I can convince myself to keep going.
My life right now!! I think I need to finally get on some meds. Mine is pretty mild but couple it with Dyslexia and online learning is rediciculously hard.
That's part of what got me diagnosed too! Online classes for COVID made me so incredibly angry and upset, and I couldn't understand why everyone else couldnt shut up about how much easier it was
From a college instructor with ADHD, I COMPLETELY GET IT! Videos/Zooms are hard, but it was super HARD for me to make those videos and edit them and it is super hard to teach on Zoom, especially with students’ having cameras off and not even engaging in chat. So, many of us completely understand student struggles and appreciate the difficulties, but know that many of us are struggling on the other side, too! So, just do your best and let us know if you need help! We are happy to help! 🥰
As someone diagnosed with ADHD as an adult getting to hear other people’s experiences means a lot to me. Especially when it comes to dealing with that and depression and anxiety all together.
I've been considering going to my doctor about ADHD, but I wasnt ever sure. But I HEAVILY connect with the smart kid pretending to not struggle. I dont really know anything, I'm just good at tests.
Though, I did save some money in college by not buying some textbooks because I knew I wouldnt read them.
I didn't get my official adhd diagnosis until about 4 years ago....I'm 26
I was diagnosed in high school. But I declined treatment and... I forgot. I got re-diagnosed at... 39, and am now taking meds and it's making a massive difference. Not treating ADHD was just a massive waste.
I just got diagnosed last month, and I am 26.
i am female and i got diagnosed at 10. let me tell you adhd medication at 10 changes it
These comments make me feel so much less alone. I was diagnosed a few weeks ago and am well into my 20s and felt like SUCH a fraud
I was diagnosed aged 26.
How many other smart ADHD kids were told their whole childhoods that they had “wasted potential” 🙃
Every report card since grade shool
Oof
Don’t call me out like this
Oh Yes!!!
I mostly have stop myself from saying that to myself
I got diagnosed at 25. It took so long because 1) female, 2) inattentive but not hyperactive, and 3) dismissive parents. All three are major factors that contribute to a delayed diagnosis. On the flip side it bothers me to no end to see young boys in my family with very obvious hyperactive ADHD be refused a screening by parents because "all boys are like that" and "they'll grow out of it". They're struggling... If it's a common disorder, so be it. If they grow out of it, great. But treat them in the moment. I don't even mean with medication, because I have a liver disorder and have never been able to take medication for ADHD; it is simply SUCH an unbelievable relief to have this answer to why my brain misfires the way it does. There are coping mechanisms and better learning methods that can help so long as we know what the problem is.
Ngl thought when Kristen said “if you are an adult, same” just like saying that she was indeed also an adult
Ha! Funny
Would love to hear Brie's perspective on how to support someone with ADHD as a partner.
Yeassss I 100% agree because my husband needs help and I don't know what to tell him about how to deal with me lol
How to ADHD is a great channel to check out
It is hard. My bf has it. And it’s a challenge. He had a lotta anger issues and his frustration tolerance is severely low. Housework etc. is almost a chore to get him to do. What you need is a lotta patience and love. Understanding, trust and the right type of closeness and distance works for us.
Great idea..
Oh I’m definitely using Kristin’s productivity song from now on
Do you have any idea who is replying to your comment right now? It's me, the FUNNIEST MAN ALIVE! My v*deos are so extremely funny, if you don't cry tears of laughter, you are allowed to D*SLIKE my EXTREMELY FUNNY v*deos! Do you think my v*deos are funny, dear eein
I have never related to a person more than I do right now.
-faked my way through high school
-if my schedule is screwed up, my entire day is ruined and i can’t do anything
-i don’t like being touched
-loud sounds where there’s a lot of stuff going on makes me shut down
-very much struggling in college and can’t fake it anymore
-several sensory issues with clothes
-singular focus on tasks that really aren’t the priority
maybe i should talk to a doctor
two wlw spots man in their line of sight
Jen: *hisses*
Kristin: A MAN?!!
me watching this instead of eating and getting ready for dance: haha I do that
how funny that i'm doing the same thing rn 😭 it already takes me too long to get ready and now i'm waiting even longer lol. good luck/ have fun!
I have autism and for a while people thought it was “just a woman being docile like women are supposed to be”, but the big tell was having no friends, bad communication skills that theoretically i should have grown out of, and having a really high iq and a really low eq which is empathy quotient, so like i can’t understand social situations or cues at all, i take things as very literal and black and white, and i process any and all stimuli at the same level. Honestly neurodivergence should be much more talked about, even tho i don’t have adhd ND representation is so important, thank you for this video.
High functionality autism here.
High IQ, no Social EQ, Sensory overload, I have had irony and sarkasm explained fifty million times, still can't understand it.
I also have an extremely low EQ. (on standard canadian tests, i'm a 9/80 and below 30 is considered abnormal) It's really frustrating when everyone else seems to see me as insanely rude because i don't know when to lie and i hate lying.
@@lev.sin. Rude, confusing, offensive, dumb, annoying., irritating. All things that have been described to me. I suggest training a social routine based on standardized responces and reactions to words, actions and reactions.
I was forced to get tested for adhd like 6 times throughout my school years and never got dx though I was found to have some executive issues. I’ve come to realeased I very likely am on the autism spectrum as I have a lot of markers for it esp with sensory processing and food issues ( arfid )
For me, my autism diagnosis happened when I was 26. The way I describe the experience is that it feels like everyone else has the rules of how to act and interact with people, while I was not told about it. Everyone else seemed to know things and know about some secret that I didn’t.
Dude the type A friend - this is one of my best ADHD life hacks!! Relating so hard, and I really love that you are talking about this. Like Kitchen, I slipped through the cracks because despite barely ever doing my homework and doodling all through class, I wasn't loud and I aced my tests.
adhd problems: having to watch this for the 3rd time bc i just can’t remember to pay attention after 30 seconds
The "you pick up things and lose them moments later" is my entire existence
And when you lose them like that, you totally disappeared that thing. It's HARD to find
Me with my phone 24/7
Same
And it's literally the only thing on the table but your eyes just pass over it anyway
Oh I’m staring right at it but I can’t see it
I'm not even done with the video and I feel like I need to talk to my doctor... I'm 23 and something has felt off for the past year or two and I've related to too much of this
We support you! It's definitely worth having a conversation with your doctor!
Same here. I’m 28 and college was so hard for me and life is hard
I’m 22 and just got a new therapist who immediately started exploring if I had it lol
I can only say do it. And do what is right for you I got diagnosed around your age :) Im 27 now.
same with me, especially with kristens story. that’s basically how my entire high school experience went and now in college, it’s SO much harder to commit to any single task than it probably should
I was diagnosed with ADHD about 3 months ago and I'm 29. I literally thought everyone was like this and I just happened to be ditzy cause my family always joked about me being ditzy. When I would tell people I'd park and go into a store for an hour and a half and when I left, I'd forget where I parked my car they just laughed and thought it were like, "That's so you." I thought it was normal to constantly lose stuff and when I asked my family they'd just be like, "You wouldn't lose so much stuff if you cleaned your room". But then when I went to clean, I'd get so overwhelmed at where I should start cleaning I ended up sitting on my bed crying. And no one in my house brought it up to a doctor while I was younger.
Wait really. This sounds like me.
I was diagnosed my sophomore year of high school so I was 15. I always got good grades because I was pretty smart so nobody questioned anything. My spaciness was so bad that all throughout elementary school I wouldn't know something that everyone else in my class knew, and I would have no recollection of ever being taught that so I would tell myself and everyone else that "I wasn't there that day" and I would genuinely believe it because that was the only thing that made sense in my little brain for why I would not remember it. This happened sooo many times.
“Keep talking to adults until you find an adult who understands you” ❤️❤️
Both of my parents throw around the "you're lazy and not organized" lines at me, and they really don't get the method to the madness. The only people who know what it's like and don't judge me or berate me for what I do are ones with ADHD.
I was diagnosed in 8th grade, and still don't get how I work. I'm turning 20 in April.
**hugs**
I’m old and still don’t “get myself” but it’s okay. Life isn’t about getting it’s about living. Just enjoy the ride as much as you can when you can, breathe and know that you are wonderfully made.
@@catchyname5403 just hard to when the world isn't able to understand that you work differently.
@@skyshack4194 I agree and because of this I often find myself alone, which isn’t always good. It’s led me to acquire social anxiety but I’m working on socializing more.
The Mom and me wants to hug you and say “it’ll be okay, everything is okay”. A little empathy goes a long way for me, I’m sorry the world and the ppl in it can be so harsh and rigid.
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@@catchyname5403 thanks. And honestly, I know I have it better than most. Sure, my parents don't understand the limitations caused by ADHD, but they understand basically everything else and are very accepting. It's just annoying to hear them clamoring on that "you should focus on your homework and stop messing with your phone" when realistically, yeah I'll get distracted, but I'll most likely get back to my work shortly after since my brain's dopamine levels are high enough for my brain to say "okay, do what you want now".
It's rough and people without ADHD don't understand that "normal" organization techniques just don't work. One key thing that helps me A BUTT LOAD is setting things up to take as few steps as possible. I try not to put things where I can't see it. If I can't see it, it doesn't exist. If my shoes are not by the front door, I cannot find them. Labeling things helps too. It drives my mom TOTALLY BATTY because all my daily make up is always out.
Just because you have to do things differently, doesn't mean it's wrong. If you are able, getting a therapist that specializes in ADHD really helped me.
I was in a 6 year relationship with someone with ADHD and even though we haven't been together in 15 years, I still have habits that I developed just to deal with their daily living. Main one: I learned to always look behind us when we got up to leave anywhere like a restaurant, a movie theater, a cab, etc. They lost SO MANY WALLETS before I started looking behind us.
This was so relatable! As a child I had meltdowns multiple times a week and I clearly showed emotional signs of ADHD, but I wasn’t hyperactive and I did okay in school so I was never diagnosed. I never noticed my concentration problems until high school, but looking back it was obvious that I wasn’t reaching my full potential even in elementary and middle school (for example I was horrible at math until I started taking medication and now I love math). Once I got to high school I really struggled with studying and my grades went down but I ignored it because I thought I was still adjusting to the new workload. Finally, when I was 16 and studying for the SATs I realized that I couldn’t sit and take a 3 hour test without having a mental breakdown so I went to see a psychiatrist and the rest is history! It’s obvious looking back that I was masking my symptoms so no one noticed but it’s just so frustrating that I went 16 years where no one questioned what was going on with me and just thought I was anxious and emotional for no reason
I touch and play with everything and I don’t even notice, to the point that I was mid conversation with my college roommate and she stopped and said “I’m sorry but please stop stroking my toothbrush.” I literally didn’t know it was in my hand
You just reminded me of a “please stop humming” from over 7 years ago, often I have 1% awareness I was doing the thing, but that time I had -10%a awareness I was humming to the point I was almost certain she was lying about me humming but she wasn’t
LET'S GOOOO ADHD GANG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I got diagnosed a year ago and I have been really struggling to find coping methods but this video really helped me understand that maybe I’m not a shitty person, I just function differently :)))
Thank you for sharing this video! When I was diagnosed two years ago, as an adult at 24 and after fighting for a year with my doctor to send me to a specialist, I broke down sobbing as soon as I stepped out of the building. Because finally I knew why I'd struggled so much all my life and I was finally going to get help.
People without ADHD really don't understand how debilitating it can be, especially untreated and undiagnosed.
Advertising for alcohol in a video about a disorder for which the medicine interactions mean you're not supposed to drink alcohol was an interesting choice lol
I have a partner with ADHD and as someone who doesn't have it, I have learned that he gets really distracted by sound, and when two sounds are overlapping he can't focus. So when theres music or the TV, and I wanna talk, we have to pause the other sound or move away from it so he can focus on me. I have speak clearly and repeat myself a lot, which has taught me to be patient with him. I love him and if it means repeating something or pausing the TV, I don't mind. Just some advice for partners of people with ADHD out there.
Thanks for being patient with him! I have the same sort of issue. If there's a TV on and a conversation going, I can't hear either one (or I can only hear the one I'm NOT trying to focus on). I've paused shows and things before to let someone speak, and they get all "Oh, well pardon me, didn't mean to DISTURB you..." like I'm trying to make a point that they're being too loud or something...
No, I just literally cannot hear the TV or make sense of it.
And no, that obnoxious stage whispering doesn't make it any better., Nancy! If anything it's worse. (The woman did that, everything she said after I'd tried to explain that I just couldn't understand the TV if someone was talking was in a stage whisper, as if that would make a difference... it just made me feel guilty for continuing to watch a show, when SHE was the one who interrupted the two of us who were watching TV in perfectly amicable quiet together.
The two of you seem comfortable together, so a little trick I've learned with people I know well enough, is when I realize that I've completely lost the conversation, I can hold up a hand and say "Hold on, can you start over? My brain just completely dumped that." And they know it's not that I wasn't paying attention- my brain just... dumped it.
Also if his eyes glaze over and he looks away from you while you're telling him something like "Can you go get me a glass of orange juice?" he's probably paying EXTRA attention, not less. I can't look at people when they're talking to me or my brain just goes into static mode.
Kudos for being such a patient supportive partner!! I’m like your partner, very limited bandwidth for competing sounds. My husband is the opposite in that his ADHD brain wants allll the stimulation, TV, video on his phone, conversation, playing with the dogs, radio on in the other room... 🤯
It took us a while to parse out what each of our needs were - I’d want an intimate conversation and feel kinda ignored (RSD check 😒) as he would be losing his mind in the silence trying to stimulate his brain on his phone, or I’d be so overwhelmed by his cacophony of choice that I would kinda shut down or need to get away. After 10 years we are getting pretty good at balancing each of our needs and symptoms ☺️ we each had partners in the past that weren’t patient or accepting of our neurodivergent STUFF and to find someone who ‘gets it’ (whether they had ADHD or not) is such an affirming blessing! Wishing you guys much happiness
Sensory issues are a major impairment for me. I was diagnosed at age 50 and medication gave me my life back. I was so overstimulated after a week a work (middle school... all day chaos) I had to cocoon every weekend just to recover. I still struggle with some executive function issues, but at least the diagnosis helps me narrow down the search for answers.
Hearing them talk about adhd just re-enforces my suspicions that I may also have it. I resonate so much with Kristin's story of getting by in school and struggling in college, as well as other things like sound sensitivity is a BIG one.
I was diagnosed as autistic and with ADD in the autumn of 2020 at age 43. I went under the radar for years because of being intelligent, eloquent and quiet. Finally being diagnosed was the best thing that could happen to me, for the first time in my life I feel like I can unapologetically be me.
My daughter was just recently diagnosed with ADHD. It was really hard to even get her tested because they kept saying she is female and it would have been seen by now if it existed. We finally got her tested and she has a somewhat medium case. Meds have helped. She also has anxiety, depression and is on the Autism spectrum. The sensitivity to touch and sound is a major issue for her. We are all still working on learning how to help her cope with things.
Ive been noticing all the little quirks about me and learning that they do correlate with ADHD much more than I thought. Didn't know that focusing on something rhythmic and not being able to do anything was ADHD related... Ill def have to bring it up to my docs. Thank yall again for being so open about your lives!! :)
Same. If I heir a high pitch noice while trying to sleep, I can sleep until it goes away. Also I relate so much to the tags!! If there is ichy tags I have to cut them off!!
i’m having the exact same experience now!!!
i am in the process of getting diagnosed as a 20yr old woman, and when i look back at my life i can totally see how my adhd affected me. i have pretty severe rejection sensitive dysphoria, which lead to social and general anxiety in middle school, and my executive dysfunction lead to depression and suicidal thoughts in high school. i have constantly throughout my life felt like i was different. i thought different, i reacted to things differently, i communicated differently, etc, etc.
on another note, my best friend also has adhd and that is one of the reasons we get along so well. cause we understand each other and we understand when the other is flaky, or exhausted from masking all day, or just so overstimulated that even just people breathing causes a physical reaction/repulsion. i love her so much and am so glad we found each other so that we can helo each other in life.
I have ADHD diagnosed since I was 10...👧👧 took meds for 2 years, got depressed as a kid, kinda ignored the food disorder i got.💊 Then Ias 2 years without meds and had to take them again because the teachers couldn't handle my disturbing. Now I'm 20, sometimes I take my meds, most of the time I don't. It is preeeeetty hard, but i got the best people possible around me and that makes it a looot easyer ❤ much love to you from 🇨🇭
Woah, I *just* talked to my therapist about maybe having ADHD like an hour ago.
omg I *also* successfully faked my way through school!
@@caseycronan9217 my therapist just suggested this too! I always assumed I couldn’t because I did well in school, glad stereotypes aren’t starting to fade lol
I have autism, and there seems to be a huge overlap between the two conditions, especially in terms of sensory stuff
I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, but realizing as an adult the amount of overlap the two conditions have is a fuckin trip.
I was diagnosed with a kid, put on two different meds, they didn't work and so they didn't bother to try any others, and then they removed my diagnosis until I fought like hell for it until just last year. I wasn't listened to, I was ignored, I was pushed aside. Now, it's been life changing. I am in a better space.
I was 48 years old when I was diagnosed. I would love to try the last 30 years again.
Jen in the beginning talking about filming was just- me.
That reminded me so much of my kid who has ASD and ADHD...
I've told everyone I know this already but I gotta say it again: I asked if I could get tested for ADHD and my doctor's like "fill out these forms and we'll call you later"
And then they never called me!!! I got ghosted by my doctor!!!!!!
Oh no, that’s awful! Call them!
Just wanted to tell you guys: You are the reason I'm seeking out an ADHD diagnosis, my appointment is on the 18th! I've been with someone who has ADHD for years and because they were very different to me it would have never occurred to me that I could have it, too. I discovered your channel, watched and loved your videos and heard in one that you have ADHD. That made me very confused, because I could relate to how you behave and... if you have it, what does that mean? So I started researching it and my whole life suddenly made sense. Thank you so much. All my love!
OMG the rhythmic sounds YES. If I hear music next door, the faintest of sounds, I can not sleep or focus on anything. Any repetitive sounds gone on too long, in general, drive me crazy.
Me: *has just ended online therapy session where I talk about ADHD and autism assessment*
KITCHEN AND JORN HAS ENTERED THE CHAT
Me: *squeeeeee*
I'm 33 and I've suspected ADHD for a while now. My experience has been very similar to Kristin's, and when I brought it up to my doctor a few years ago, I was shut down. This video has made me determined to get tested. Thank you ladies.
I love this! I got diagnosed this year at 33. After spending a year remote learning with my kid I was like oh this kid has adhd. And then I was like OH. SO DO I! So much of my life makes sense.
Thank you for speaking about the difficulty of getting a legitimate prescription for a neurodevelopmental disorder. I hate it when people joke about “give me an addy” it angers me and I educate them on how difficult and COSTLY it is for me to get medication I need bc they want to abuse something I need for society to think I’m “NORMAL” to function in today’s socially acceptable society. It irritates them but I also hope to educate them as well.
My brother was diagnosed at 13 with ADHD. I am now 22, still undiagnosed, but showing the exact same symptoms he does, struggling in ways that I have the strongest feeling is ADHD related. Every single video on this I have watched just confirms it more for me. However, my mom won't help me get tested because "everyone does that/is like that!"
I have the same issue as Kristen, where as a kid I was able to suppress most of it and "blend in". Now I'm a senior in college and I have NEVER had solid grades because I'm finally beginning to see the struggle. And it sucks!! My university does testing, but it's out-of-pocket expenses and there's a 6 month waiting period.
Took 4 years to get my son diagnosed. I think i also have it but took so much money to get my son diagnosed and therapy. He doesn't take medication because of his heart problems.
as someone who was put in all "advanced" classes through elementary middle and high school and then crashed in college (and finally got diagnosed when I kept fucking up in college) I SEE YOU AND I FEEL U
my psychiatrist described executive dysfunction as like, the conductor at the orchestra of your brain functions being absent or falling asleep. you need the conductor to stay on beat, to keep everyone focused on playing together, but in a person with adhd your conductor is just absent until they feel like showing up -.- you have the knowledge of what you need to do, but without the ability to execute it (plan, time, switch tasks) your brain orches just descends into chaos and you feel paralyzed by choice.
I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 45. I try not to think about how different my life could have been if I’d been diagnosed earlier, and only focus on how grateful I am that it’s so different now.
I have mixed success with that. 😁
Same. Diagnosed at 46, spent some time being very angry that I couldn’t get diagnosed sooner. Finally decided there was no point in being angry.
I keep telling myself this cool thing (because I got diagnosed at 41) that I heard on an ADHD podcast once-you were meant to deal with it and get medication when you did because that was the right time..it makes me feel so much better and realize I don’t have to feel bad about when it happened.
I'm only 23 but I was diagnosed last year and I'm currently struggling with this... especially when I found out that my elementary school teachers would suggest having me tested and my parents decided I was simply bored and should just be given more work
Been trying to get a diagnosis on what the heck's up with my brain since late teens, started considering ADHD from around mid-twenties when I read about it and felt like it fit... Mid-thirties now. Still no diagnosis. Docs keep trying to treat depression no matter how many times I say depression is a symptom, not the cause goddammit. Latest set of trying is getting me recommended therapy. *sigh* It's such a long damn road some times, isn't it?
@@riibu I don't know what your medical system/insurance is like, but if you go to your GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist, they basically can't say no. There would be too much liability. Then, broach the topic of ADHD with the psychiatrist. They know a lot more about it. But in case they don't, bring journal articles. :)
ETA: Also, I don't know your gender, but women don't get as precise care as men do because we express our symptoms differently. We talk about how it feels versus how it impacts our actions. Of course, medical professionals should be trained to correct for all kind of communication styles, but they aren't. Next time you try, maybe just recite a list of symptoms with a practical focus - how much you're late, how many times you struggle with missing deadlines, how often you lose things. Don't talk about how that makes you feel. That might help their brains bypass the "depression" go-to diagnosis.
the weirdest thing about me is that i can do and understand complicated stuff really easily but things that should be super simple are really hard for me lol
Yes same! I do well on tests when I don’t think too hard but I miss all of my appointments because I get so confused about the time and place
I've been trying to get a diagnosis since last year and let me tell you, I can super fake being able to function in academic tasks as long as they don't require me to consistently do shit for more than a month. I'm currently in masters. Guess how that's going.
I've been on adhd meds since kindergarten. I just turned 21 and have learned more about my diagnosis in the last year than I have in my entire life. I didn't realize until college that my ADHD effected more than just my education.
ADHD video sponsored by a wine company when I can't tolerate alcohol on my ADHD meds 😂
Me either!! I'm fine while I have the drink, but afterward when I'm trying to wind down and go to bed or relax, I get into this awful 'dead zone' sort of mindset where I'm unable to get up and do anything, but can't sleep, and end up basically staring at a wall with sand in my brain for literally HOURS.
I hate it. I've just stopped drinking because of it. I'd rather take my meds... besides, I'd only ever have a few drinks at social events to take the edge off of dealing with crowds and noise and lights and conversations, and now the meds do that for me, so no need for a drink!
@@Palitato being autistic too, I still need a couple of drinks to be able to cope with socialising. This is super unfortunate, as when combining dexamphetamine and alcohol it makes me incapable of using my brain at all, and I often just want to pass out 🤣
Ever just walk into a room, forget what you were there for then walk away?
Or just forget a thought like two seconds after you thought it.
Oh, and have to constantly move in order to focus but then only end up focusing for 5 minutes then walk away?
My daughter was diagnosed at 5 ans reading about it me and my husband realized that we both have it. We dont have diagnoses yet but we are working on it. We both were looked over in school and my husband struggled but I was able to hide the fact that I was, indeed, struggling. And the amount of people that think ADHD isnt real is astonishing. I have been called lazy my whole life and now I know I dont just suck as a person. My brain just works different.
Recently Got diagnosed with ADD at almost 25 after complaining for over 10 years something felt off. Everything makes sense and I'm glad I was finally heard by the right adult. It's hard but hold faith guys. We got this!
I’m glad someone has adhd like me! (Kitchen) ive always felt as though I was ‘faking’ adhd because my symptoms weren’t like others and I could never relate
I was diagnosed at 30. I have had to do a lot of forgiving and grieving for my younger self. I’m not the worst! I just needed help!
I just turned 30 and I relate way too strongly to things in this video to keep ignoring it. I've been in college for YEARS just trying to finish. It's time to do something.
As How to ADHD put it... you were a fish, being judged on your ability to climb a tree. They never gave you the chance to swim.
I didn’t get diagnosed until this past year. I am 26 and it has really helped me understand why I had struggled in school and previous jobs. I am also high functioning and was able to “fake it” most of the time. Some people still don’t believe me when I tell them about my diagnosis because to them it’s not “obvious enough” to be real. That really frustrates me.
I was just diagnosed as Autistic about a month ago as a 17 year old girl. Its extremely common to have both autism and ADHD and Im 99% sure I have both because my executive functioning is definitely my largest area of struggle by a LOT. I'm a senior in highschool I can ace every single test knowledge wise I've always been way ahead in school. But I've failed every single year of high school and I'm just now as getting accomodations in my second semester of my senior year. I'm currently in a really bad burnout and I've started developing tics.
Basically it's really really refreshing to see specifically women that I look up to, that struggle with productivity in the same way that I do becoming successful. When you struggle with executive dysfunction people assume you're lazy or you're not intelligent which is so far from the case. You guys are really great representation for neurodiverse women so thank you
I love how I've literally just started the process of getting an adhd diagnose at 28, and then this video comes out 🤣❤
Yay for being high functioning and smart and slipping through the cracks and suffering because of it 🙌🤌🏻
Squad! *starts sobbing*
I just got diagnosed last week with ADHD! Only took 22 years.
This is hysterical and I feel so much less alone
I swear, these videos just make my day. So good!
"Things changed in Grad school" - tell me about it. Going from 10-15 page papers to 25-35 page papers and trying to stay on task with those is so different
got diagnosed in grad school this summer because I hit a freaking big wall and couldn't use my usual deficient strategies.
Lmao going from 3 pages to 10 pages was what got me dude... I'm suffering..........
I only just had enough confidence to talk to my doctor about adhd and turns out there's like one person who can diagnose me through my insurance so in the meantime HERE I AM SCREAMING
Yeah its totally bullshit even in canada I had to go pay out of pocket to get diagnosed
The sound thing though! That's exactly how I feel!
I love how open they are about this! It’s so important!