Add subtitle - ua-cam.com/users/timedtext_cs_panel?c=UC6XZ4fmiUPQk6ws6fGs2rQg&tab=2 위 시리즈는 '스튜디오 온스타일'과의 협업입니다. 전체 에피소드는 스튜디오 온스타일 채널에서 보실 수 있습니다. 본인의 생각과 다르다는 이유로 달리는 평가,비하,악플은 소리소문없이 차단됩니다. 질문은 제작진이 준비합니다. 남성 출연분은 유튜버이십니다 -> kinetic student 솔파에 나오면 홍보도 가능하다!
I'm on the Guy's side, I understand the girl but i wouldn't want my girlfriend to be this possessive as if she gets wary for me on social media and also don't want me to go outside often then she basically wants me to not interact with anybody and her possessiveness will just make me think that she doesn't trust me.
Fair enough though, I like how the idea of in house husband was also being adopted by a woman and she expressed it out, because house wife is what the society has require women to do, but now it was no longer like it was before, still, there was a lot of this view, after she expressed it out, guys would realise that it wasn’t something nice to ask your wife to stay in house.
monozy If society stops viewing house husbands as losers, a ton of married guys would likely volunteer to not work. Consider the reality that it's completely acceptable for a married woman to be a housewife and not be considered a deadbeat bum. Being able to bum around in your undies, watch TV, take care of the kids, do some chores, and at the end of the day getting handed free cash from your husband. On top of that, being able to unabashedly moan and groan about your shit(easy) life while railing at your husband at the end of his work day for not helping with the chores. What a tragedy.
Im the dude in the video. Its been a dope experience. Behind The Scenes of this video is on my channel(ENG CC) I also make youtube videos.. just saying😎
This was so intense for me to watch for some reason, I felt like I was the one being asked. I can relate to both of them so my answers would be somewhere mid-ground. I really think they should go on a second date, there's something in their eyes and also they seem to be able to negotiate well. Maybe if they date more they can settle some differences, just my opinion, thanks solfa.
it's so nice that the guy is considerate of her choices and tries to understand where she's coming from bc often times they share the same thought process but not being on social media is definitely an insecurity problem. i don't know if the stay at home one is an insecurity issue or not but if she loved someone yet insists on having a house husband when the husband is unwilling that causes a lot of problems and she may just have to give up the man
"If a woman loves her career as much as a man loves his career, the man should give it up." "I can be on social media, but my boyfriend can't." Idk but... I totally understand why his lights turned off at the end, it's give and take. But for her, it's more of a "take" than a "give".
XXPeanutSoldier you're misrepresenting her words just like a lot of people here. It's funny how women are always expected to be a stay at home mom and considered very normal but when this women said "I would rather be the breadwinner than be a homemaker" she's somewhat selfish. She doesn't necessarily said she wants him to be a homemaker she just doesn't prefer to be one.
@saniyauzumaki That's true of course. But then what about her statement about social media? I didn't just pick some of her words and took them out of context, but rather looked at her overall attitude and statements. She said the same about it being okay for herself to be on social media, but it being not okay for her boyfriend to be. Also, the way she said it sounded like she expects her S/O to give up their career for her, instead of saying something about finding a middle ground. You know, both could work 50% for example. But that's just how I perceived it, I'm not saying it's true at all ! None of us know her after all.
XXPeanutSoldier I wasn't originally planning to reply you and delete my comment but let me point this out to you. "None of us know her" You've literally presented her and still are to be selfish women one of the reasons bc she prefers to be a breadwinner just like 95% Asian men. She simply asked him questions in situations of him preferring to be a homemaker which is asked to women in career all the f time.
Where did they say she was selfish? They said she was more headstrong; and that those forthright opinions would lead to them turning their light off too. There doesn't have to be that battle: there are plenty of partners out there who won't have conflicting opinions on this topic so why bother continuing? I notice you completely glazed over her double-standards for his social media presence - I'd love to have seen the reaction in these comments if he'd been the one to tell her he didn't want to see her online.
jv2014 p I have glazed over that bc that's not what I am talking about. Op bringing it into this is by definition whataboutism. I would have ignored his comment had he simply talked about her social media comments. His choice of words over her job preference is anything but "headstrong" and is misrepresenting her than what she said in the video.
성숙이 아니고 순수가 사라진 것 아닐까요? 더군다나 비지니스라고 본다면 정말 각박하고요. 사랑의 정의라는 것도 어떻게 보느냐에 따라 동거로 만족할 부분이냐, 결혼을 해야 하느냐로 갈릴 수 있다 생각합니다. 또한 준비라는 기준이 금전적 부분에 치중 된다면 동의하기 힘듭니다. 오히려 남자애가 인성이 준비되어야 한다라는 개념으로 이야기 하더군요. 제 기준에는 돈, 외모, 인성중 인성이 가장 중요하고 인성이 부족하다면 상대가 이쁘게 보이지도 않더군요. 돈으로 한 결혼은 결국 금전적으로 문제가 생기면 이별하게 되는데 죽을때까지 함께 갈 동반자라면 외부적 요인에 의하여 바뀌기가 쉽지 않은 가치관이나 됨됨이를 보는 것이 더 명확한 기준이라고 생각합니다. 서로에 대한 신뢰는 돈으로 이룰 수 없는 부분이니까요. 마냥 어려서 인생의 쓴 맛을 못 봐 하는 말이 아닙니다. 무엇이 더 합리적인지, 더 바람직한지, 좋은 결과를 만들지를 본다면 이러한 결론이 옳지 않을까요?
나는 이런 댓글보면 궁금한점이 주변인들 모두가 형편이 좋게 결혼했을까가 궁금하네.. 우리주변 대다수 일반인들이 형편이 좋게 시작하는 경우 없음.. 어릴때 사고쳐서 급하게 가고 첨에 빚으로 시작하기도 하고 근데 가족이 생겨책임감으로 열심히 살면서 내주변엔 별로 그렇게 상위몇프로 집안이나 엄청 고수익 직종없어도 알콩달콩 잘살음.. 근데 누구보다 돈 잘버는 유명 연예인들이나 재벌가들 보면 일반인보다 훨씬 이혼 많이 하고 이혼도 쉽게함.. 이거야 말로 비지니스의 말로라 생각함. 결혼은 현실이라 하셨는데 현실에선 님이 말하는것과는 또 괴리가 있음... 형편이 마련되고 결혼하는 이는 얼마없고 형편되는 결혼 한 사람과 비교해도 그렇게 불행한 결혼생활은 없음.개인의 가치관이나 인식의 차이일뿐... 저걸 성숙하다고 보긴 어렵지. 성숙함이란 표현 자체를 잘못알고 계신거 같음.
저는 여러가지의 의견들에 모두 동의하고 공감합니다만, 개인적으로 현실을 말하는 것은 욕심이 아닐까 생각이 들어요. 요즘 정말 살기가 팍팍한건 분명한 사실입니다. 하지만 그깟 전세 아파트가 아니더라도 고급 승용차가 아니더라도 제로베이스부터 시작해서 천천히 쌓아가는것, 아무리 힘들더라도 사랑한다면, 서로 의지하고 도움을 주며 키워나갈수 있지 않을까 생각이 듭니다. 저희 부모님이 단칸방시절부터 모으고 아끼고 살아왔고 제가 보고 자란것이라 그런지 이런 생각이 드네요.
@@user-pn3gs4ku9j 보이는 것만 보신 것일 수도 있어요. 속내는 본인이 아닌 이상 전혀 모릅니다. 가난한 형편에 결혼한 사이 좋아보이는 부부도 밤에는 카드내역서로 다툴 수 있죠. 가정에 돈이 많다고 꼭 행복한 것은 아니지만 없으면 불행요소가 될 수 있으니까요.. 물론 아닌 가족도 있겠죠? 하지만 흔하지는 않을 거에요
Honestly, this video series is more than just will they/won’t they date. Like these are some of the most informative videos on the young adult population in Korea, these questions really put into perspective how different people in different countries are. If you want to know what I mean, go watch the other one and you’ll see what I’m talking about. It’s always the young population to pay attention to because they show where that countries society mostly stands in terms of what they’ve been taught. Really so informative and interesting, keep doing great solfa!
I really like him. I don't really understand the girl point on social media, she seems a little bit selfish. But I agree with the job question. Both parts have the right to love their job, It shouldn't been taken for granted that the woman has to give up on it
At the risk of sounding archaic, I'd ask you to at least consider that women already stop their careers or at least put it on hold while they are pregnant for some time. Generally there is also time given in most jobs for the mother to spend time after the pregnancy to bond with the child. It seems to me that if there needed to be someone that stayed home, it would be the partner that is already off of work and has bonded most with the child. It obviously doesn't work for every situation but I don't think that the assumption that the mother should be a home maker is made out of sexism or ignorance.
@@eltongy1936 You make a good point but as you said It doesn't work for every situation. Sometimes is about the pride of the guy... In my country at least, the patriarchal structure of the family is still considered the norm
it's not like the guy disagreed with her on the job question, though. The answer should've ended on whether he is willing to give up his career. He said no, but the girl keeps pushing on to see whether he'd ultimately stop doing what he loves in an extreme scenario. Personally, I would just stop dating the person if they assume I would have to be the one to give up on my career. And I wouldn't expect my partner to give his up, too. In the end, if it doesn't work out, then it's just not meant to be.
If they both really loved their job couldn't they just have their kid in day care? Is that even an option in korea. I find it so hard to believe that once you have a kid that's it now you must spend the rest of your time raising them. I guess it's because here it is most common that once you have a child you usually only take maternity leave then either have someone you know take care of them during your work hours or send them to day care. Atleast most people I know have done so. Also the whole social media thing is so hypocritical. If it where the guy saying that it would be a turn off so how can she expect him accept that.
Gostei muito do vídeo, principalmente da parte dele, onde ele mostra o cuidado e não pensar somente nele mas por todos em uma futura família e por sua sinceridade. Eu gosto disso. Sinceridade 👏👏👏👏
자신이 살아온 인생에 따라 정해지는 가치관을 검증해서 소개팅을 하는것에 많은사람이 관심을가지는것은 우리가 가지고 있는 사상이나 생각의 타인과의 공통점이나 차이점이 타인과 얼마나 친밀감을 형성하는지에 대해서 중요한부분보다는 타인과의 차이를 인정하고 대화해도 가치관은 상당한 영향을 미칠수 있다는것을 이 영상은 말하고싶은것이 아닐까 생각해봅니다
I think the job question sealed the rejection. The guy is traditional. I'm the same way, and I actually related more to the girl for most of the questions.
여자분 공감은 되는데 이야기를 잘들어보면 남자에게 자신도 양보하지못하는것을 자신을 위해서 그만해달라 라고 이야기하는거같아요 둘다 똑같은 감정을 가지고 있을때 또한 남성에게 양보를 원하네요 상대의 마음을 잘 살피지못하는 모습도 보이고요 남성분은 굉장히 상대의 이야기를 들으려고 하고 이해하려고 하는데 생각보다 당사자한테는 압박감으로 느껴졌을꺼같아요
3:57 sis says “it’s their life” about kids smoking cigarettes but doesn’t want her boyfriend to have social media because she doesn’t want other people to see his profile????
I enjoy these types of videos, however for this specific video it felt as though the music volume was edited too high for certain parts of the video, making it harder to stick until the end of the video. ):
이런 소개팅 너무 좋다 일단 1차적으로 외모로 판단 하지만 서로의 성향을 알아 볼수 있는 실제 소개팅이나 연애 중에도 저런 이야기는 잘 하지 않는데 사람은 호감으로 만나다 보면 성격에서 갈등이 많이 빚어짐 나도 지금 여자친구와 첫만남이 너무 좋았고 같이 살면서 서로 너무 다른 성격차이로 다투고 이 사람과 결혼까지 생각했던 초반 생각이 지금은 아예 없음 그저 오래만난 정으로 버티고 있을뿐.. 주위에 안싸우고 잘 사귀는 커플 보면 서로 취미 성향등이 잘 맞기에 서로 배려가 되어있음
even though she had reasoning behind everything and why she choose what she choose she’s still very possessive and won’t let him live the way he wants so i think the guy made the right decision on this one
like she said, even though her lights are turned off almost for all of the questions, she thought that they matched pretty well after talking to each other AND THAT IS SO CUTE!!!! It hurts my heart a bit seeing that her light turned on but his light turned off at the end because i really think that they look so cute together ❤️❤️ I'm so jealous omg can i sign up for this, i'm literally feeling so lonely watching this 😂
it just felt like she was too selfish…she didnt want him on social media, as a stay-at-home dad, not posting his body…they wouldnt have held together long
She's seems like a good person, but I totally respect his decision. She said things like I wouldn't want to give up my job but my husband/bf should and guys can look at me on social media but I don't want anyone to look at my husband/bf. I just really hope that one of these episodes ends up with them both agreeing with each other.
I understand at where she's coming from in terms of wanting to be the "breadwinner" of the family. It's been an expectation for women to quit their career early in their life to pursue motherhood. I reckon equality between parenthood would be a suitable choice, but I don't like how she pressured his answer so that he could change it in the end. Both of them love their jobs, nothing wrong with that, but it's just how she pursued her answer that made it a thumbs down.
Well no because if I sacrifice something I do it out of being genuine. If my partner wants to do it or not that's their choice, then they'll have to face the consequences But I would never force anyone to do anything.
this channel is an interesting social experiment. I already watched two videos. For this one, there's a lot that stands out but one thing I want to comment about is marriage with only love. I suppose it depends on a person's materialism and what they need as basic necessities to be satisfied with life but a marriage without financial security is a very realistic and rational way to think. Again, it depends on what one means by financial security since everyone's threshold is different.
실제로 이런 소개팅이면 좋겠다
얘기할거리도 많고 서로에대해서 쉽게 알수있고 뻔한 질문 어색하고 불편한 소개팅보다 재밌네요
소개팅이라는 걸 해 본 적도 없고 뭔지 잘 몰라서 질문남겨요.
소개팅이라는 게 이런 질문쪽으로 가기 어려운 상황인가요?
초면에 딥한 얘기를 하는 게 쉽지 않긴 하겠지만, 두 사람이 서로 열린 마음을 가지고 대화하면 가능할... 수도?
어디서 나온생각 경로죠? 할때 손 동작 너무 귀엽다 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
스르르~ 들어온다고 뱀처럼
너무짧아
FOOD SCHOOL ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
5:285:285:28
5:285:285:28
키네틱 아이누? ㅋㅋㅋ
Awww, it almost looked like she was about to cry after the little laugh at the end
triple like for your comments
@K w i t t e n s ღ she was i feel bad for her.they are clearly not match for each other
@@tamzidahmed9706 Better now then after 5 years of fighting
I found myself agreeing with most of the stuff she said and I'm a guy. She can get another, she's cute. Thank you, next.
I just like their mood
의견 틀리면 앗아... 하는거 존나웃기네 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
앗....아....
아시바 ㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱ 앟 아....
앗....아...
아나 진짜ㅋㅋㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄲㅋㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱㅋㄱ
500개 좋아요를 다음 사람 에게
여자분 선택이랑 내 선택이랑 다 똑같아서 소름돋았다;; 근데 사실 남자분 의견도 듣고보면 납득이 감. 내 성향이 다른것일 뿐. 두분 다 멋진 분들이신것 같음.
저도저도!
저도 똑같음
저도 똑같았어요ㅋㅋ 특히 사랑하면 결혼한다는 부분에서 '돈이없으면 못하지..' 이생각이 딱 듦
저도 똑같아요 ,, ㅋㅋㅋ 두분의 논리가 다 이해가감
진짜 이런 주제도 너무 좋고 영상의 연출미 분위기가 너무 좋다. 배우고 싶다
저렇게 고정된 스튜디오에서 영상미 찾는거 어렵지않습니다. 그냥 비싼 카메라 쓰시면됨...
뿡붕뿌우웅 무슨 그런... 섭섭한 소리를 하나 하나 연출 하는 걸텐데 알지도 못하면서 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
진주 애교부리시는줄..ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
@@ohkohk6984 그건아니죠..
네버다이 앜ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
이런거해주는 소개팅카페 있었으면 좋겠다
진짜루요 시간낭비 안할 것 같아요
싸움날수도 있을것같은데
넘 괜찮당ㅋㅋ
ㅇㅈ
고추밭됨
와 둘다 왜이리 멋지냐..
자기주장 확실하고 남의 말을 들어주는 모습에 감동..
ㄹㅇ 다르지만 ㅇㅈ해주는거..
그런 프로임
내 사람 아니면 그냥 이해할 수 있지 뭐든지. 다음에 안보면 그만이니까.
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위 시리즈는 '스튜디오 온스타일'과의 협업입니다. 전체 에피소드는 스튜디오 온스타일 채널에서 보실 수 있습니다.
본인의 생각과 다르다는 이유로 달리는 평가,비하,악플은 소리소문없이 차단됩니다. 질문은 제작진이 준비합니다.
남성 출연분은 유튜버이십니다 -> kinetic student
솔파에 나오면 홍보도 가능하다!
agreed
영상 처음 나온 것부터 매번 나올 때 마다 챙겨보고 있습니다. 힘내세요!
thank you for making english as main language!!
it makes much easier to translate into any languages!
im gonna make Japanese subs later( ^)o(^ )
키네틱님이 왜 여기섴ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 여기서는 상당히 과묵하게 찍으셨네욬ㅋ 잘봤습니다.
전체 에피소드는 여기서 보실 수 있습니당
▶️ua-cam.com/play/PLQ0f_g2mQlLeokeiIQbPEhFb9Np0I8ISK.html
I'm on the Guy's side, I understand the girl but i wouldn't want my girlfriend to be this possessive as if she gets wary for me on social media and also don't want me to go outside often then she basically wants me to not interact with anybody and her possessiveness will just make me think that she doesn't trust me.
She's insecure.
Fair enough though, I like how the idea of in house husband was also being adopted by a woman and she expressed it out, because house wife is what the society has require women to do, but now it was no longer like it was before, still, there was a lot of this view, after she expressed it out, guys would realise that it wasn’t something nice to ask your wife to stay in house.
monozy
If society stops viewing house husbands as losers, a ton of married guys would likely volunteer to not work. Consider the reality that it's completely acceptable for a married woman to be a housewife and not be considered a deadbeat bum. Being able to bum around in your undies, watch TV, take care of the kids, do some chores, and at the end of the day getting handed free cash from your husband. On top of that, being able to unabashedly moan and groan about your shit(easy) life while railing at your husband at the end of his work day for not helping with the chores. What a tragedy.
I agree with you.you should trust your partner.being insecure shiws that you think that your partner may leave you
Yea I think he would of been a better match for the other girl in the other episode with the red shirt.
진짜 근데 신기한게 외모평가를 하는건 아닌데 남자분 딱 처음에 호감형 외모라곤 생각안했는데 끝나고 보니까 진짜 호감형으로 보임 사람이 말하는거에 따라서 이미지가 확 바뀐다는걸 느낌
님들 두찜 로제 닭발 무뼈 맛있어요?
@@jsjsnnjssk9923 와드
@@jsjsnnjssk9923 와드
@@user-ic8bx9cc5g 와드라고 댓글 다는게 무슨 뜻이에요?
아 추후 찐답변 보려고그러죠?
참고로 저는 매운거 별로 안좋아하고 장도 약한 타입인데, 시켜먹어봤는데
매운데 별로 안맛있게 맵고 맛도 그닥 별로였어요. 다 못먹고 버렸어요 ㅎㅎ
남자 초반 말하는거 별로였는데 볼수록 생각이 깊으심...
와
난 사실 처음 외모만 보고, 외모가 약간 소심상..? 이라 좀 별로일거라고 편견가지고 봤는데 남자분 생각 건강하시네
인정
이래봬도연세대나옴
@오준서 꽈배기 먹고싶다
어떤건 남자말이 수긍이가고 어떤건 여자의견이랑도 맞는게있고 참..힘들다..맞추기..ㅋㅋ
Im the dude in the video.
Its been a dope experience.
Behind The Scenes of this video is on my channel(ENG CC)
I also make youtube videos.. just saying😎
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 프사
Kinetic Student wait i saw u somewhere ! But idk where
No English subtitles? Boo :(
Haha knowing that you're a youtuber gives this video more insights
Hello there
마지막에 한쪽만불켜졌을때
분위기 ㅅㅂ 내가다못참겠네
아인정ㅌㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅈㄴ ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ 못보겠는데 보고싶고,,
ㅋㅋㅋ
남자가 20분 뒤에 쌩까지 말자고 했지 않았나
김민혁 일겅
ㅅㅂ.... 댓글보면서 영상보다가 이 댓글반응이 웃겨서 개쳐웃고있었는데 한쪽만 불꺼지고 음악소리커지고 말소리안들리고 웃음안나오고 홀리;;;
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 둘이 너무 안맞다
천번째 좋아요는 못참지
남자분 말이 청산유수네요 평소에도 깊게 생각을 잘 하시는분 같아요 멋있어요. 특히 전업주부질문이 제일 와 닿았는데 마음이 이해가 가요.
This was so intense for me to watch for some reason, I felt like I was the one being asked. I can relate to both of them so my answers would be somewhere mid-ground. I really think they should go on a second date, there's something in their eyes and also they seem to be able to negotiate well. Maybe if they date more they can settle some differences, just my opinion, thanks solfa.
I totally agree with you on that.
L. art true
I agree, a second date would help them out
Solfa's videos are so unique and interesting to watch because it really reaches deeper into the conversations. This channel deserves more recognition.
RiveJay 💯
It's refreshing to finally see a guy turn his lights off at the end BECAUSE their values clearly don't match (despite finding the girl attractive).
I hope to see a match in these videos 😃
it's so nice that the guy is considerate of her choices and tries to understand where she's coming from bc often times they share the same thought process but not being on social media is definitely an insecurity problem. i don't know if the stay at home one is an insecurity issue or not but if she loved someone yet insists on having a house husband when the husband is unwilling that causes a lot of problems and she may just have to give up the man
ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 재밌네요. 두분 다 생각도 많고 말을 잘하심 ㅋㅋ 볼게 많은 소개팅이네요
Solfa please bring back this series! I love it and even rewatch it sometimes
근데 SNS는 좀 이기적이긴 하다 내가 SNS을 하는건 나는 괜찮으니깐 상관 없는데 내 남자친구가 하면 좀 그렇다는건 흠.....
저는 시간 정지물이 좋더라고요 ㅎ
이기적이다 생각하면 딱 안사귀면 됨 나도 sns 그래도 고르자면 안하는게 더 좋을거같음
marley bob 한국 유일이라고 말하는 개소리가 한국 유일이지
@marley bob 뭐만하면 지 주제는 모르고 남 까고 싶어서 오타쿠 취급하는 것도 유일하지 ㅎㅎ
@@user-db2vw4nw4f 왜 오타쿠라 한적 없는데 찔렸냐
❤ Solfa ❤
Always coming out with that quality content
소재도 참신하고 연출 진짜쩐다....
보는 사람들이 자연스럽게 빠져들게 하는식이네 얼굴을 보면 감정이 들어남
"If a woman loves her career as much as a man loves his career, the man should give it up."
"I can be on social media, but my boyfriend can't."
Idk but... I totally understand why his lights turned off at the end, it's give and take. But for her, it's more of a "take" than a "give".
XXPeanutSoldier you're misrepresenting her words just like a lot of people here. It's funny how women are always expected to be a stay at home mom and considered very normal but when this women said "I would rather be the breadwinner than be a homemaker" she's somewhat selfish. She doesn't necessarily said she wants him to be a homemaker she just doesn't prefer to be one.
@saniyauzumaki That's true of course. But then what about her statement about social media? I didn't just pick some of her words and took them out of context, but rather looked at her overall attitude and statements. She said the same about it being okay for herself to be on social media, but it being not okay for her boyfriend to be.
Also, the way she said it sounded like she expects her S/O to give up their career for her, instead of saying something about finding a middle ground. You know, both could work 50% for example.
But that's just how I perceived it, I'm not saying it's true at all ! None of us know her after all.
XXPeanutSoldier I wasn't originally planning to reply you and delete my comment but let me point this out to you. "None of us know her"
You've literally presented her and still are to be selfish women one of the reasons bc she prefers to be a breadwinner just like 95% Asian men. She simply asked him questions in situations of him preferring to be a homemaker which is asked to women in career all the f time.
Where did they say she was selfish? They said she was more headstrong; and that those forthright opinions would lead to them turning their light off too. There doesn't have to be that battle: there are plenty of partners out there who won't have conflicting opinions on this topic so why bother continuing? I notice you completely glazed over her double-standards for his social media presence - I'd love to have seen the reaction in these comments if he'd been the one to tell her he didn't want to see her online.
jv2014 p I have glazed over that bc that's not what I am talking about. Op bringing it into this is by definition whataboutism. I would have ignored his comment had he simply talked about her social media comments.
His choice of words over her job preference is anything but "headstrong" and is misrepresenting her than what she said in the video.
질문 자체는 표면적인 생각만 알 수 있는 부분도 꽤 많아보이는데 서로 대화를 하니 좋네요
sns "시간낭비"라면서 자기는 해도되고 남친은 하지말라는게ㅅㅂ 말이야 방구얔ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
난 오히려 여자분이 성숙하게 느껴지는데 특히 결혼이라는 관점에 대해서. 나이들면 들수록 결혼이 사랑만이 아니란걸 알게 될텐데 복잡하고 비즈니스도 껴 있는게 결혼임. 사랑만 하면 구지 결혼 안하고 동거만 하면되지 결혼은 절대 사랑만으로 되지 않고 영화같지 않음
성숙이 아니고 순수가 사라진 것 아닐까요?
더군다나 비지니스라고 본다면 정말 각박하고요.
사랑의 정의라는 것도 어떻게 보느냐에 따라
동거로 만족할 부분이냐, 결혼을 해야 하느냐로 갈릴 수 있다 생각합니다.
또한 준비라는 기준이 금전적 부분에 치중 된다면 동의하기 힘듭니다.
오히려 남자애가 인성이 준비되어야 한다라는 개념으로 이야기 하더군요.
제 기준에는 돈, 외모, 인성중 인성이 가장 중요하고
인성이 부족하다면 상대가 이쁘게 보이지도 않더군요.
돈으로 한 결혼은
결국 금전적으로 문제가 생기면 이별하게 되는데
죽을때까지 함께 갈 동반자라면
외부적 요인에 의하여 바뀌기가 쉽지 않은
가치관이나 됨됨이를 보는 것이
더 명확한 기준이라고 생각합니다.
서로에 대한 신뢰는 돈으로 이룰 수 없는 부분이니까요.
마냥 어려서
인생의 쓴 맛을 못 봐 하는 말이 아닙니다.
무엇이 더 합리적인지, 더 바람직한지, 좋은 결과를 만들지를 본다면
이러한 결론이 옳지 않을까요?
나는 이런 댓글보면 궁금한점이 주변인들 모두가 형편이 좋게 결혼했을까가 궁금하네.. 우리주변 대다수 일반인들이 형편이 좋게 시작하는 경우 없음.. 어릴때 사고쳐서 급하게 가고 첨에 빚으로 시작하기도 하고 근데 가족이 생겨책임감으로 열심히 살면서 내주변엔 별로 그렇게 상위몇프로 집안이나 엄청 고수익 직종없어도 알콩달콩 잘살음.. 근데 누구보다 돈 잘버는 유명 연예인들이나 재벌가들 보면 일반인보다 훨씬 이혼 많이 하고 이혼도 쉽게함.. 이거야 말로 비지니스의 말로라 생각함. 결혼은 현실이라 하셨는데 현실에선 님이 말하는것과는 또 괴리가 있음... 형편이 마련되고 결혼하는 이는 얼마없고 형편되는 결혼 한 사람과 비교해도 그렇게 불행한 결혼생활은 없음.개인의 가치관이나 인식의 차이일뿐... 저걸 성숙하다고 보긴 어렵지. 성숙함이란 표현 자체를 잘못알고 계신거 같음.
저는 여러가지의 의견들에 모두 동의하고 공감합니다만, 개인적으로 현실을 말하는 것은 욕심이 아닐까 생각이 들어요. 요즘 정말 살기가 팍팍한건 분명한 사실입니다. 하지만 그깟 전세 아파트가 아니더라도 고급 승용차가 아니더라도 제로베이스부터 시작해서 천천히 쌓아가는것, 아무리 힘들더라도 사랑한다면, 서로 의지하고 도움을 주며 키워나갈수 있지 않을까 생각이 듭니다.
저희 부모님이 단칸방시절부터 모으고 아끼고 살아왔고 제가 보고 자란것이라 그런지 이런 생각이 드네요.
만약에 남자가 저여자가 했던말들을 했다면 여자애들대부분 경기일으켰을껄
@@user-pn3gs4ku9j 보이는 것만 보신 것일 수도 있어요. 속내는 본인이 아닌 이상 전혀 모릅니다. 가난한 형편에 결혼한 사이 좋아보이는 부부도 밤에는 카드내역서로 다툴 수 있죠. 가정에 돈이 많다고 꼭 행복한 것은 아니지만 없으면 불행요소가 될 수 있으니까요.. 물론 아닌 가족도 있겠죠? 하지만 흔하지는 않을 거에요
Honestly, this video series is more than just will they/won’t they date. Like these are some of the most informative videos on the young adult population in Korea, these questions really put into perspective how different people in different countries are. If you want to know what I mean, go watch the other one and you’ll see what I’m talking about. It’s always the young population to pay attention to because they show where that countries society mostly stands in terms of what they’ve been taught. Really so informative and interesting, keep doing great solfa!
아 이러면 안되는데 남자분 진짜 너무 웃기셔ㅜㅜㅜ
와 남자분께서 되게 유쾌하게 분위기를 풀어나가시는 것 같고 여성분과도 되게 잘 맞는 느낌이 든당 비록 저런 문제에선 서로 다른 부분이 되게 많긴 한데 막상 이야기 하면 서로 이해하고 대화도 잘 풀어나가서 좋다ㅜㅜㅠ
I really like him. I don't really understand the girl point on social media, she seems a little bit selfish. But I agree with the job question. Both parts have the right to love their job, It shouldn't been taken for granted that the woman has to give up on it
At the risk of sounding archaic, I'd ask you to at least consider that women already stop their careers or at least put it on hold while they are pregnant for some time. Generally there is also time given in most jobs for the mother to spend time after the pregnancy to bond with the child. It seems to me that if there needed to be someone that stayed home, it would be the partner that is already off of work and has bonded most with the child. It obviously doesn't work for every situation but I don't think that the assumption that the mother should be a home maker is made out of sexism or ignorance.
@@eltongy1936 You make a good point but as you said It doesn't work for every situation. Sometimes is about the pride of the guy... In my country at least, the patriarchal structure of the family is still considered the norm
@@gloria7190 muH pAtRiarChy
it's not like the guy disagreed with her on the job question, though. The answer should've ended on whether he is willing to give up his career. He said no, but the girl keeps pushing on to see whether he'd ultimately stop doing what he loves in an extreme scenario. Personally, I would just stop dating the person if they assume I would have to be the one to give up on my career. And I wouldn't expect my partner to give his up, too. In the end, if it doesn't work out, then it's just not meant to be.
If they both really loved their job couldn't they just have their kid in day care? Is that even an option in korea. I find it so hard to believe that once you have a kid that's it now you must spend the rest of your time raising them. I guess it's because here it is most common that once you have a child you usually only take maternity leave then either have someone you know take care of them during your work hours or send them to day care. Atleast most people I know have done so. Also the whole social media thing is so hypocritical. If it where the guy saying that it would be a turn off so how can she expect him accept that.
이 컨텐츠 너무 좋은거 같아요ㅜㅜ
Argh I was so excited to see a new upload but i already watched this one on the onestyle channel ! Solfa you're so talented it hurts
He looks like such a sensible guy and would easily click with anyone. What a great personality in a person.
오 이런소개팅 진짜 괜찮다
와 진짜 참신한데
Gostei muito do vídeo, principalmente da parte dele, onde ele mostra o cuidado e não pensar somente nele mas por todos em uma futura família e por sua sinceridade. Eu gosto disso. Sinceridade 👏👏👏👏
이렇게 편하게 볼수있는영상 너무 좋아요 영상에서 나온것처럼 일반적인 소개팅자리에서 안할법한 얘기를 하는데 그래서 더 좋은거같네요
자신이 살아온 인생에 따라 정해지는 가치관을 검증해서 소개팅을 하는것에 많은사람이 관심을가지는것은 우리가 가지고 있는 사상이나 생각의 타인과의 공통점이나 차이점이 타인과 얼마나 친밀감을 형성하는지에 대해서 중요한부분보다는 타인과의 차이를 인정하고 대화해도 가치관은 상당한 영향을 미칠수 있다는것을 이 영상은 말하고싶은것이 아닐까 생각해봅니다
I think this is the first time where the guy chooses 'X'. If I was at his position I would too, coz I can't relate to her at all.
Niharika Ghosh well this is only the second time doing this so..
@@_y8030 they have 3 more episodes on onstyle TV's UA-cam channel
I can't relate to him haha
Niharika Ghosh oh no wonder why it was ep4 lol
So u know how to watch those eps?
우와 오랜만이네요! 오늘도 영상 감사해요:)
여자 진짜 솔직하시다..! 어느정도 이해가 감 근데 남자 말 디게 잘하신다 배우고싶다 저런 점
말 잘하니까 멋있어 보인다.
와 소름... 여성분 여기 나온 모든 질문성향이 저랑 100프로 똑같으세요!! 신기하네요~~
solfa is absolutely my favorite ULTIMATE UA-cam channel. it's so well made its extreme
this channel is underrated this is amazing content
I think the job question sealed the rejection. The guy is traditional. I'm the same way, and I actually related more to the girl for most of the questions.
i didn't think i'd be so invested in this video my heart was PUMPING when it came to the final decision
왜 나는 여자분 말도 어느정도 공감가는데...
다 떠나서 님 닉네임 너무 귀엽네요 ㅋㅋㅋ
여자분 공감은 되는데 이야기를 잘들어보면 남자에게 자신도 양보하지못하는것을 자신을 위해서 그만해달라 라고 이야기하는거같아요 둘다 똑같은 감정을 가지고 있을때 또한 남성에게 양보를 원하네요 상대의 마음을 잘 살피지못하는 모습도 보이고요 남성분은 굉장히 상대의 이야기를 들으려고 하고 이해하려고 하는데 생각보다 당사자한테는 압박감으로 느껴졌을꺼같아요
@@user-bd8sh2qx3l 걍 전형적인 내로남불 마인드 ㅋㅋ
@@user-bd8sh2qx3l 좀 공감 ㅎ
ㅇㅈ여자분말도 공감 남자분말도 공감
고등학생들이 담배피는데 말거는거 여자입장에선 엄청난 리스크가 있는건데.;
이유 설명좀요
딱히 여자만 리스크있는거 아님 남자도 고등학생 무섭습니다. 내가 걔네 때려도 법적으로 문제있고 그렇다고 맞기만 하는것도 문제있고 그냥 아는 애 아니면 피하는게 상책쓰~
기모띠 힘으로 밀리니까;
@@user-cd7lz6so9y 고등학생들이라고만 햇는데 여고딩도 포함아닌가? 담배피는 애들은 남학생만 있나?
그래도 쪽수로 밀림
3:57 sis says “it’s their life” about kids smoking cigarettes but doesn’t want her boyfriend to have social media because she doesn’t want other people to see his profile????
진짜 소개팅서 이런거 있음 좋겟단
Thanks for posting
어우 이채널 참 고급지고 재밌네..
여기는 그냥 만나도 잘 맞을 거 같은데..ㅎㅎ
Welcome back, we missed you
Wow, for a young person, this guy really had wonderful thought out responses. Bravo on his thinking.
뒤에서 조명 딸깍딸깍 거리고 있을 거 생각하니까 웃기긴 하다 ㅋ
I enjoy these types of videos, however for this specific video it felt as though the music volume was edited too high for certain parts of the video, making it harder to stick until the end of the video. ):
이야기 하는거보니까 남자분 불이 꺼질게 예상이 됐어요.
순수함은 맞춰줄수없는 부분이라서 ..
여자분을 말씀하시는건가요? 순수함이라는 부분
순수한게 아니라 내로남불이지
좋게말해도 내로남불이고
까고말해도 내로남불이다 저건
삼대400 중간에 건너 띄어가지고 어느 부분인지 말씀해주실 수 있나요??
@@yagiyee4745 인스타에 대한 게 제일 노골적이고 전체적으로 대답이 다 자기중심적이라 그런듯
Yagi Yee 님이 찾아보세요 핑프네 완전
"We are starting off so well" LMFAO and it immediately went downhill after that XD
저 남자분 왤케 말하는거 멋짐..;;;
서로의 직업을 존중하면서 맞벌이를 선택하는 부부도 많지만 그 선택으로 인한 트러블도 많다. 문제 생기지 않는 선택은 없어요.
1:25 옆태 레전드네
김정태 얼평하지마세요 ㅋㅋ
박종현세브란스의 희망 ???? 아니 그냥 너무 예쁘길래;;;
@@user-vj4oz8ot4q 옆태 씹하자있네
@@user-vj4oz8ot4q 컨셉이네ㅋㅋ 박종현! 박종현! 박종현!
solfa's videos are always so well edited..i especially love how the choice of music always sets the atmosphere..so nice
저 언니 저랑 성향 다 맞으시는데...ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ언니 그냥 저랑 만나요ㅠㅠㅠ
I hope you do more blind date and date/personality match videos. I'm learning a lot from them. I hope you do a follow up with those who are dating
둘다 공감이 됩니다. 사람의 성격과 가치관은 똑같을 수가 없기때문에...
불의랄 잘 참는ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 아모야ㅠㅠㅠㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
여자분 목소리 좋다ㅠ 노래하거나 소리지르실때
목소리 진짜진짜 좋을것같아ㅠㅠ
I can see why they didn't match but they also seemed to have some chemistry. You need to make more videos Solfa, too long in between!
이런 소개팅 너무 좋다
일단 1차적으로 외모로 판단 하지만
서로의 성향을 알아 볼수 있는
실제 소개팅이나 연애 중에도 저런 이야기는 잘 하지 않는데
사람은 호감으로 만나다 보면 성격에서 갈등이 많이 빚어짐
나도 지금 여자친구와 첫만남이 너무 좋았고 같이 살면서 서로 너무 다른 성격차이로 다투고
이 사람과 결혼까지 생각했던 초반 생각이 지금은 아예 없음 그저 오래만난 정으로 버티고 있을뿐..
주위에 안싸우고 잘 사귀는 커플 보면
서로 취미 성향등이 잘 맞기에 서로 배려가 되어있음
I love her voice, it's like a korean Minnie Driver
I can relate to both of them but i feel my views are closer to the guy's
Yeah she basically don't want her partner interacting with anyone, she's too possessive
남자분 자신감 넘치고 멋있네요.. 저런 모습 배우고 싶다는 생각이 들었어요
재밌네요 ㅎㅎ 형식적인 소개팅만 대학 때 몇 번 해봤는데 ㅋㅋ 이런 건 처음이라 신선하네요~
even though she had reasoning behind everything and why she choose what she choose she’s still very possessive and won’t let him live the way he wants so i think the guy made the right decision on this one
잘될줄알았는데 ㅠㅠ 남성분 말씀 잘하시네요 약간 언어의 부두술사느낌쓰~ 깔끔쓰 좋았다 맨~~
언어의 마술사가아니라 부두술사 머임ㄲㅋㅋㅋ ㅋㅋ
언어의 두부술사인줄;;
죽은 멘트도 살린다는 뜻인가요?ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
Love the concept of this video! And a little off tangent here, but, the girl’s voice kinda reminds me of Blackpink’s Ji Soo
남자 분 생각이 너무 깊고 건강하다 말 한 마디 뱉을 때 마다 단어들을 하나 하나 꼭 꼭 씹어서 뱉는데 그게 너무 멋있음
That ending was n o t expected. I thought the other way lol.
This is their date but why do I feel like butting in with my opinion at every question lol
Haha same I'm like i wanna be the guy not because i want to date but because i want to answer the questions and state my reasons
i like this guy too. his personality is great. i love the ways he think
우와..사람마다 생각이 이렇게 다양하니, 놀랍네
*Respecting boundaries in relationship*
-Whistles*🙌
5:27 *Mood* 😂
8:48 *Won my heart* 😂
like she said, even though her lights are turned off almost for all of the questions, she thought that they matched pretty well after talking to each other AND THAT IS SO CUTE!!!! It hurts my heart a bit seeing that her light turned on but his light turned off at the end because i really think that they look so cute together ❤️❤️
I'm so jealous omg can i sign up for this, i'm literally feeling so lonely watching this 😂
Don't feel bad for her, she dodged a bullet.
@@OrbitalBliss "I don't want my boyfriend to be on social media." yeah not really. Think. Before you speak Karen
I think she just liked his appearance/charisma. They probably wouldntve matched too well
it just felt like she was too selfish…she didnt want him on social media, as a stay-at-home dad, not posting his body…they wouldnt have held together long
You have to be pretty first to be in these types of videos
I love her voice! I could listen to her for hours.
I loved the girll!! She was totally me. And the man was so cutee😍🙂❤
시작은 좋앗으나 시작만 좋앗네,,
the guy's reasoning was really good, but the debate about being the breadwinner...yikes
why? he shouldnt just stop his own growth to let her only grow more. shes obviously very possesive
Usually I don't trust the guys in these types of videos but I actually really like the guy here. He seems really genuine.
키네틱형 이번엔 그뉵말고 뇌가 쎄끈빠끈해보이넹ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
평소에 장난끼있는 모습만보다가 진지한모습보니까 멋있어보임
근데 이거 1년전 영상이었누..
둘이 서로 상반되고 너무 안 맞지만 둘 다 공감되는 입장이다
*Solfa, I WANTED TO HEAR COMMENTARY AT THE END EXPLAINING WHY THEY CAME TO THEIR FINAL DECISION!!! What an abrupt ending.* >:[
She's seems like a good person, but I totally respect his decision. She said things like I wouldn't want to give up my job but my husband/bf should and guys can look at me on social media but I don't want anyone to look at my husband/bf. I just really hope that one of these episodes ends up with them both agreeing with each other.
남자분 왤케 웃기지 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ 음.. 그렇군요.. 하는데 뭔가 웃김 그 표정 그 말투가..
I understand at where she's coming from in terms of wanting to be the "breadwinner" of the family. It's been an expectation for women to quit their career early in their life to pursue motherhood. I reckon equality between parenthood would be a suitable choice, but I don't like how she pressured his answer so that he could change it in the end. Both of them love their jobs, nothing wrong with that, but it's just how she pursued her answer that made it a thumbs down.
Yeah uh she didn't show the slightest intention of giving in. Instant X.
There's no expectation, that was her own genuine choice and there's nothing wrong with wanting to choose that
@@ZenQuestOfficial okay but if you don't sacrifice anything for the relationship and your s.o. does it's okay?
Well no because if I sacrifice something I do it out of being genuine. If my partner wants to do it or not that's their choice, then they'll have to face the consequences But I would never force anyone to do anything.
@@ZenQuestOfficial you're not getting this at all. He was willing at the very end to quit his job, she wasn't how hard is that to understand
It must be so awkward when the lights go off
this channel is an interesting social experiment. I already watched two videos. For this one, there's a lot that stands out but one thing I want to comment about is marriage with only love. I suppose it depends on a person's materialism and what they need as basic necessities to be satisfied with life but a marriage without financial security is a very realistic and rational way to think. Again, it depends on what one means by financial security since everyone's threshold is different.
여자분 하시는 말씀이 지금껏 제 생각이랑 많이 비슷했는데 보면볼수록 남자분 말에 더 공감이가고 멋있는사람이구나 싶네요 보면서 제 생각이 많이 바뀌었어요