What FREAKS OUT Your 16 Personalities Type the Most?
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How about 16 personalities and their contradictions?
Intp and angry.... You doing have like individually intp videos i hope you do a video on #intp and I love your videos your ideas and thank you for making it simple to understand our mbti 😍😍
Thank yoouuu did not had the time to answer 🥲
What about
16 personality types in a robotics club or sports club?
(Since I'm in the robotics club lol)
16 minutes ago
I _ _ P types be like:
"You don't like me for being me?
Well, I'm gonna be myself even harder!"
Took me far too long too learn this
I am totally like this
omg yea I chose this to be my life motto
All my favorite I--P's are so this way! I love it.
It's because when we're being us, it doesn't feel genuine enough. It feels like we're still not being true and trying to hide ourself in fear of being judge for and by the saying of "just be yourself" we think that maybe the problem is that we're not being truer enough so that's why we try to be ourself even more, maybe if we let our light shine people would like it more? No they don't. I learned It the hard way and now I'm just pretending to be an empty hussle from being force to live in boarding school with 16 dormmate.
As an INFP, it's super frustrating how unintentionally hypocritical I am. I spend all day worrying about being judged by others, but all the while I'm actively judging others. I'll think, "I really hope this specific popular girl doesn't think I'm stupid, but if she does that's just because she's a close-minded jerk who thinks she's better than everyone else." I've had countless conversations with my mom where she asks why I never try to make new friends, and my response is literally: "Because I know these people think I'm stupid and will judge me." The reason I think they'll judge me is because I'm judging them by assuming they're the type to judge. It's super annoying and hard to correct, but I'm working on it, and I know I'm not the only one.
It feels like I'm almost looking into the mirror. Can so feel where you're coming from.
Fellow INFP trying to be less judgey as well. Good luck on our journey:)
This hit me right in the IxxP
I’m being attacked
I'm impressed by your self awareness, I took years to understand this
As an INTP, yeah. I am constantly trying to learn about other people. Their motivations, how they think, what they believe, small habits. (I do this with imaginary characters too.) I like to learn about different perspectives too. I can only see life from my eyes, which makes me very curious about what other people can see.
I am also INTP. 🙂
While keeping as much distance as possible
@@louisejoel True.
Same!! I'm also an intp and I really feel the same way
I feel a small sense of accomplishment when I can get a person figured out to the point where I can make predictions about their behaviors and patterns and they come true
having social anxiety and being an IxxJ type is so weird because I feel like I live inside my own head most of the time and I often forget that people have a perception of me, but at the same time I'm hyper aware of how people perceive me in social situations. it’s either extremely one or the other, or it’s both at the same time and it just makes no sense.
I relate to this!
I'm so over focused and supposedly over sensitive when it comes to nuances in social interaction, yet at other random times i'll find myself completely clueless about a social situation everybody else is aggravating about.
@@randomfornow I relate a lot to both descriptions, I love reading this :)
Yes thank you for putting this into words !!! So Relatable
Oh gosh you summed me up perfectly
me 😭
As an INFP, I always thought that I got the worst type when it comes to overthinking everything and getting anxious about nothing. But now I feel really sorry for everyone else. Other people always seem much more assertive or confident than me that I never really considered that stuff could get complicated for them too.
So, to whoever is getting anxious or frustrated because of people, things or everything, stay strong! You're just great ❤️
Loved this❤ thanks!
Being unconfident or nonassertive is not about your type, it's about something unhealed! It is true that feelers have more chances to be like that because they take more things personally, but that's not necessarily true! Don't worry, everyone can be an overthinker about everything! There is nothing wrong with you!
This makes perfectly sense, considering socionics:
- ExxJs and IxxPs: judging dominants (‘j’ types in socionics).
- ExxPs and IxxJs: perceiving dominants (‘p’ types in socionics).
Makes sense even though I'm istp and really dont care about how others view me I always like comparing things to other things .
Yea this is how socionics arrived at that. It's just another version of Jungian types like MBTI ,only it emphasizes the functions more.
Early in our marriage (around the five year mark) after a long day of fielding constant criticism from my INTJ spouse, I demanded a compliment. Just one. He sulked in our room for two hours before he came up with one (which in itself kinda ticked me off - IS IT REALLY THAT HARD, OMG), but it was worth the wait: he said "I admire your ability to learn so much through other people". This is the distinction you're addressing, I think - over the years my husband has realized that my people focus is not so much a distraction from "more important things" as a means of side loading the experiences and perspectives of others IN ORDER TO gain that information I might otherwise forever be missing. It's a difference in starting points - and make no mistake I appreciate his helping me not to get lost in the weeds, which I can definitely do - but my processes still build towards the same intuitive goals: you have to let them run their course. -ENFJ
It's harder to give a sincere compliment to someone when you're pissed off at them. And if you care about the person at all, sincerity is important. That's probably why it was so hard. Glad it worked out. Signed, an INTJ. ;)
I'm amazed how an INTJ felt so attracted to a Fe dom to the point of marrying them considering the fact that Fe is the thing they hate and also struggle with the most.
He has to get his words right. In my experience, INTJ’s consider every assumption and application of every phrase they say. They wouldn’t say something flattering and fleeting, like, “you look lovely”. What does that even mean, when does it apply, when doesn’t it apply? If they even consider your beauty, they would, toss out the idea as frivolous . You probably did look lovely, your skin smelled good, you had a flattering haircut, and the last meal you prepared was delicious, but are any of those defendable facts he could debate successfully with a neutral person?
That’s so interesting! I‘m also an ENFJ and my husband is an INTJ. 🤗
@@end4567 We were friends for years before we dated, and we both had sound enough sense to allow our experience of the other's differences to invite wonder instead of annoyance. It saddens me that this is so rare: a broader range of function capabilities surely makes for a much stronger and satisfying partnership.
As an I--P (INTP specifically) I can confirm that I do spend a lot of my mental energy thinking about other people, and trying to understand WHY they behave the way they do. WHY?!?
It can be quite exhausting.
It is indeed exhausting. Good thing you're not an empath unlike me. ~INFJ
Me too, and than i was a child, i always asked directly: "so, why did you do that thing?" and "why do you choose that?" And other children thought that i was weird .... And actually, maybe i was...
Because people are fucking idiots, I said that 10 times alone only today. -intp
@@corinnae.7877 and I agree with you
@@mugdham2811 Thanks. And really, I literally screamed at the top of my lungs how the fuck are people such idiots today. People today especially got on my nerves.
EJ - Fear of being judged by others
IP - Fear of others judging what they like
EP - Fear of being controlled to organize their life
IJ - Fear of losing control when there are new changes in their life
I'm definitely an EJ according to these lines
as an ESFP wdym why did you type this comment what is your life purpose do you exist what is happening wth is going on what am I doing here what is this application what is what WHAT
whats ur perso type
@@dtxware06 I'm an ESFJ
@dtxware06 My purpose is to have purpose. Your purpose is to find purpose as well.
The hardest time I have ever had at any job was working for a boss who was focused on assigning blame to a person (sometimes me, sometimes other people), while I would often find that the system was at fault (improper training, warning documents removed from files, etc.). Soooo many arguments as I'd be like "The reason X incident happened were A, B, and C. A, B, and C need to be fixed to prevent X incident from reoccurring in the future, and here's how we can do that..." Meanwhile boss is like "Stop making excuses, take responsibility for your actions!" It was sooooooooooooooooo frustrating. I suspect the boss was an ESFJ. I am an INTJ. (I also actually have a psychiatric evaluation that I need to take less responsibility for things, as I do often blame myself ... which leads to me trying to figure out what mistakes I made and what systems I can implement to not make those mistakes again, but if the problem lies with existing system, then I need to fix that.)
Anyway, this reminds me of that, though as you can see from the type conflict, there were probably lots of reasons my boss and I fought.
I get this issue a lot. I think the biggest reason I complain about others is because I feel they are so busy assigning blame (ironic, I guess) instead of trying to fix the system.
This gave me ptsd just from reading it. That person shouldn't have been a boss / manager. Incompetent managers either don't want to or are incapable of effectively troubleshooting and problem solving. Much less leading people effectively and taking responsibility for their management if others and processes and systems. That's my experience anyway.
Best reason for working for yourself and / or becoming financially independent: Definition of a job can too often be doing stupid things for silly people.
@@tinaperez7393 Thanks. While I had numerous problems with that boss, she had a lot of customer facing and promotions work that she was genuinely good at (thus my suspicions of the E and F). She was also skilled at physical tasks of the job. I won't even say she was bad at talking with the staff. She was mostly just bad at planning ahead or foreseeing consequences of actions.
For example, we had colored warning sheets put on top of paperwork to indicate dangerous tasks (these changed daily, I'm trying not to talk about the actual job, so just trust me on this). The paperwork would then detail the dangers of the tasks. Most tasks were not dangerous and so didn't have a colored flag. Sometimes people would attach the colored flags to the wrong tasks if two tasks were put together and later separated. So it could be argued if you got hurt, it was your fault for not further reading the paperwork. However, we had limited time (like 10 minutes) to do 40 tasks. No one is stopping to read the paperwork unless it's flagged at that point because they've got stuff to do. That's just human nature and the nature of doing the same job every day.
So training the night team to keep the paperwork together would have helped quite a bit. Her solution was to take away the flagging system to make us read the paperwork, and then reprimand us for taking 40 minutes to do our tasks. And during the speed reading, since things were not flagged, nor were issues always tracked in the same area, often notes were missed on these unflagged documents because we were still in a hurry and missed the critical hand written line that we would have searched for if it were flagged, and just figured it was a non-dangerous task.
Will i was about to disagree with this as intp but i find myself blaming the boss for not being better at "bossing" i mean he's the boss he's supposed to be good at this
As a fellow INTJ, this situation completely resonates with me. I've worked in various healthcare settings and this happened constantly. 7 years of that burnt me so bad I took a sabbatical from my career earlier this year. If I'm going to do the work that I want to do, I just have to create my own system and work for myself. Some of these systems are just way too broken and they won't see it because their eye is on only money. Work on your quality and money will flow.
As an INTJ I'm never aware of what other people are doing or thinking and I don't care, I'm always is my mind trying to organize ideas, new information and solving problems. That's why when I meet my INTP friend after class and he asks me about certain people and what someone said I'm like I don't even know their names and what they're talking about 😅
Sometimes at work, I'll say whatever happened to that one guy. I've noticed he isn't around anymore. And be told. "He left. Like six months ago. " oh, that explains it then. Or it takes six months to learn someone's name.
I'm aware of what others thinking or feeling just by looking but I can relate to you 100% about not knowing of the other people. I only care about the people who are important to me which are very few so it's like I usually ignore others' existence.
Main commenter read what you wrote again, and you'll see that your mannerisms match a people focused conversation from an IxxP perspective.
- "I don't know who they are"
- "my friend," involving people when it wasn't necessary.
- Talking solely from your point of view.
Stood out as soon as I saw the comment.
That's all. Best of luck in your typing journey.
Whoa, this explains a lot why my IxxP friends can't unfollow somebody who's been really mean to them because they're afraid what this person would think of them and me, an INFJ, can do the door slam no problem. :D
I'm an IxxJ and I don't unfollow somebody, but for a different reason: if that person was mean to me, follow/unfollow, etc. is just a useless metric when you already know what is your relation with that person.
This was interesting and helpful. I'm absolutely INFJ and I hate the people-focused people and their conversation drives me nuts. Now I know they (and I) can't help it - or at least why they're doing it. Don't know if I'll be able to make this translate to dealing with them (and myself) more effectively and empathetically or not but I hope so.
Hi Tina! Your comment reminded me of my own INFJ-ness. Have you seen Wenzes' INFJ Life Coach stuff? She's turned my life right side up 😊 maybe she'll resonate with you too! ua-cam.com/video/P_6snooD4rA/v-deo.html
@@JustineAdlong thank you! I do pretty well as an INFJ and can interact and socialize with people pretty well - can be an extrovert when needed, no problem. But I ALWAYS identify with Frank's INFJs in his videos and quite frankly (no pun intended) I'm not happy with that. His INFJs always seem to be the people at the most disadvantage in his vids. 😒😩😠
So I will definitely check out your link. I'm always interested in ways to overcome the weaknesses about myself I don't like. So thank you!
My comment is making me think of an old Meg Ryan / Kevin Kline comedy called "French Kiss" - where Kevin plays antisocial French misanthrope and sits at a table at an outdoor cafe across from Meg and smokes his cigarette and looks around all the chatty, glib people around them and says "you people make my @ss twitch!" 😛😁🤣 Funny as a character in a french/American comedy but not the character you want to be on real life. (Well, not completely anyway!) 😸
What about you. What do you worry about?
@@jellyfishi_ the irony is most INFP hate when they do it. However, even when not being mean, we do relate the day to others. Oh, John got a new suit. It looks nice. Cassie is reading a new book. It's just how we relate to the world.
I'm an INFP and my partner is an INFJ. When I ask about his day he tells me about his tasks, or events, or changes, and yes, technical issues if that was a thing. Even though he is extremely sensitive to people's thoughts and feelings, that's not really what he talks about, at least not directly. But, when he asks about my day, I tell him about my various interactions with people. My kids, clients, my doctor or dentist, and even fictional people in books or videos.
Oh that's what it's like y'know. Most people think, more like assume that sensitive people tend to keep crying or complaining but that's not the case. If a sensitive person is like that, then they're immature just like any other people. That happens more early on in sensitive and HSPs lives. But as they grow, they learn keep everything to themselves. They learn how different the world/people around opperate than them.
In case with INFJs, it's the same. And obviously being sensitive doesn't mean you're sad all the time lol. INFJs wouldn't complain about problem unless they're really sure they wanna share it and people are ready and trustworthy. And about talking about tasks, events, and technical issues, yeah as an INFJ myself I do that too. Don't know why but I always first talk about what all major things that happened in my day, which often bores my INFP sister, even if she says she isn't bored. :] XD
But I slowly get into talking about various interactions. Idk why I'm like this, maybe, cuz it takes bit lot effort to recall interesting events out of all the mundane and regular tasks.
That's so interesting! I'm an INFJ and I'm thinking of all the times I get swept up in frustration when "things" don't work or I have to do a bunch of tasks I wasn't expecting. I find people interesting and observe them or wonder what they are thinking if I feel invested and nervous about a relationship, but it really doesn't come up as much as things. Like if something doesn't work or breaks it can set off my whole day and I will have to put in a lot of will power not to tell everyone about it! haha
OMG! This video was made for me, an INFJ. I literally get angry EVERY time I’m required to UPDATE my iPad or my laptop. It drives me crazy and I cannot stand having to get acquainted with some miniscule new feature, just because some numb skull who needed to justify their job created a slightly tweaked new format for my email interface, or something like that, which provides absolutely no benefit to me, and just pisses me off. Now I know WHY I feel this way about stuff like that. Thank you!
You can always spend 5 hours figuring it out a way to avoid ever being asked to update again instead of taking 5 minutes to update. Use the power of your Ni.
As an INFP I have a hard time dealing with this, really my biggest fear is being judged and humiliated by people. But I almost always judge misbehavior while trying to check that what I see fits my principles. Even though I don't tell these ideas and judgments to others most of the time, there is always a court in my head, I feel like I have to criticize my opponents harshly in order to protect my own principles and determination.
oh my gosh same here!
I really love the quality of these recent informational videos! Happy when I can learn a new way to see the cognitive functions xd
Argh so true! ENFP here, and although I think it was the example for the IxxJ type, I almost lost my mind when they changed outlook at my work and the email and calendar icon were in different spots. I actually chatted to a guy who does our home computer stuff and asked him how I could fix it on my work computer! And your other example was so true too! I hate it when I have to stop gathering info and put it all into a plan! What if there's info out there that I missed?! Spot on!
Interesting. When I started watching your videos last year, and attempting to guess the personality types in the sketches, I immediately gravitated towards identifying the Extroverted/introverted division and the Perceiving/Judging division first (and correctly for the most part), while having trouble pinning down the middle two functions. I also wondered why nobody would look at it that way, because it felt much more natural a way to understand the major differences between the types.
Quite fascinating and even counter-intuitive. Instead of zeroing in a single polarity--like, who's an extrovert and who's an introvert--you located the Big Divide between opposite pairs of polarities. That seems, instinctively, right. It's not so much the "One Big Thing" as the superior-inferior spectrum, or "current", that your personality type buzzes along. And, as you say, it looks like there are two key "currents," rather radically different from each other. As you have notced a gazillion times, all of us have all the traits in some measure, even if some of us have some of them in infinitessimal measure. Plus, we are all capable of developing and indeed capitalizing quite successfully on our inferior functions (I, as an INFP, certainly have: life forced me to it, landing as I did in an academic environment). Yet with this video, Mr. James, it seems to me you have hit upon a factor that reveals the absolute limits of we-all-have-this-ness. If your personality type is buzzing back and forth along one of these spectrums, as it certainly is, you can never by the remotest stretch of the imagination buzz along its opposite spectrum. There is a Great Gulf Fixed. If you try to hop onto the opposite spectrum, it will tell you in no uncertain terms to...er...buzz off.
FINALLY! Finally someone on the mbti community talks about this! Yesss! I always see this so clearly. Makes it easier to type people (when you get to know them a little bit more of course). Did you get this idea also from Objective Personality? They have been always put light on this fact very strongly.
Thank you for making these video's Frank! /from an overly people focused INFP haha
Frank, I must tell you I am OBSESSED and your videos have been getting me through some difficult weeks of work deadlines and university projects. After watching a video or two during a mealtime, I often share some findings with select friends and I call it their ✨ daily dose of MBTI self-awareness therapy ✨
OMGosh! I love this!
I thought I was an INFJ until I took cognitive function tests. Then I realized I was a mistyped INFP.
This was super insightful AND entertaining! And it explains a lot, too: when my partner talks about his day, he always talks about his colleagues, his bosses and his clients for hours on end. Despite being very sociable, he gets overwhelmed by other people for being, well, different people; he has a really hard time understanding why/how others come to different conclusions, and it can cause him huge amounts of stress. On my end, when talking about work, I'll just leave it at "eh, another slow/busy day" or go on about a really boring or exciting project I'm working on. I was unsure whether I was an IxxP or an IxxJ because I do have some social anxiety, but I realize that, when it comes to everyday, non-traumatic situations, I really do put a lot more focus on things. I'll react way more strongly to plans falling apart or an overload of information/stimuli than to a social situation falling apart or a simple disagreement.
Tldr; I've made some personal realizations lol.
Hey what's your type? This sounds like me
@@_Colie I'm still trying to figure it out, but I'm 98% sure I'm Ni-dominant. I have no idea whether I mainly use Fe-Ti or Te-Fi, though, since I relate to both. It's a work in progress!
@@kaysiee I came to see if you had added your type... I think you could be an INTJ, of course I'm no expert, but that's what I would say :)
W.O.W.... ESTJ here and OMG, I feel like your description of my type is SPOT ON!!! I can't even believe how accurate that was! My husband, ENTJ, is the same!! A past time of my ISFP sister and me is to sit around with our coffee, discussing in every detail our experiences with other people, yes, BY NAME. All the while our INFJ sister sits quietly in the corner not near as interested in the conversation. Lol! Thank you for those well explained differences. :)
When worrying about what’s going to happen and why, you still need to take people into consideration. If it wasn’t for Jim, things would be very different 😀
But seriously, FJ, I’ve learned so much from your videos and it does help me on daily basis to understand and work around those differences and enjoy the similarities of people I know. Learning with you is fun, appreciate that
I (INFJ) got recommended to watch it by my boyfriend (ENTP). I’m glad he did as this is pretty accurate. Love your creativity FJ. Thanks.
I'm about to add another layer to this. I think the single letter divisions (like S/N and F/T) depends on your dominant function. For IxxP and ExxJ types, F/T is the biggest division in who they naturally connect with, S/N doesn't matter as much... Whereas for ExxP and IxxJ types, S/N is the biggest division, F/T doesn't matter as much.
I can verify I relate to that as an Ne-dominant ENFP. I almost always click with N types whether they're T or F, while S types can be more confused or indifferent by me.
Whereas my INxP and ENxJ friends seem to click with S types more naturally, but they're more deterred by polarizing T or F.
Finally someone mentions it!!! Had that thought yesterday. Are you stalking me or something lol?
Excellent analysis thank you Frank ! I'm an ENTJ married to an ENTP and this truly rings a bell.
Another great one FJ! Man, you are a machine! I don’t know how you can churn out great videos day after day. REMEMBER as an INFJ (are you INFJ), then you need to watch out for that 8th slot Si and inferior Se. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep and nourishment. Middle-aged INTJ here to tell you the Si not caring and Se tidal wave is real. Don’t let it get you. You’re young and informed enough to prevent trouble from overworking yourself going forward. It sneaks up on you so don’t let yourself slide.
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Nice one, Frank
Very interesting!
I'm INTJ and I always could identify with ENTJ and saw it as just me but 'more intense in this way' and 'less intense in that way' since we have the same functions, just in slightly different order. In the same way I can fundamentally vibe with and love XNFPs, seeing the biggest difference bw them being extovert/introvert and N dom/F dom; the most important difference after N vs S is to me personally Fi/Te vs Fe/Ti (which need to be the same, having fundamentally similar values). Both XNFPs have Fi/Te as well so I couldn't see much of a difference otherwise. I attributed ENFP being 1st place with INFP 2nd place bc (well intuitively E and I are more compatible I guess but functions-wise) they're also N dom, but the difference talked about in this video is pretty insightful and interesting and by this criterion INTJ is on the same side as INFJ, ENTP and ENFP; INFP is on the other side. ENFP is the only one that "passes" in both cases. And in fact this is implied by them being N dom, it's correlated. That's pretty cool and insightful. And now that I think about it ENTJs do seem to care a lot about what other people think compared to me, that's a difference that I hadn't consciously noticed!
Wow, very insightful. I agree, I think it is quite important for people to be on the same axis for judging functions (Fi/Te or Ti/Fe) in order to be more compatible. Also, I would say, from one point of view it's more compatible for people to be on the same view about things and people (IJs and EPs vs IPs and EJs) because it allows to understand each others struggles better, but from the other point of view maybe it's better to spend more time with someone who's on the other side, in order to balance out each other and show that none of these worries are as real as they seem to be. For example, an IP could calm an IJs anxiety about things not going as planned and an IJ could calm IPs social anxiety and open their eyes of the possibility that "it's just people, we're all the same in many ways, more or less". Anyway, this is just a side note from a people obessesed INFP, lol. You sound like a cool person, if you'd like to chat more about mbti, let me know haha:)
@@loreta8249 yeah I agree, it’s always interesting to be surrounded by different people and make different perspectives interact anyway. And this IXXJ/EXXP vs EXXJ/IXXP is to me definitely one of those “productive” differences rather than one that means “incompatibility”. Sure I’m open to chat, I can’t promise I’ll be interested, and I’m gonna respond if/when I feel like it, but if that’s ok feel free to instigate :)
I agree, I adore that I have all these new art projects waiting for me......and I'm overwhelmed...lol
This is fascinating and helpful! I can totally see this playing out in me, an INFJ, and an INFP friend of mine.
Lol “there’s so many new things that could come out of nowhere and GET me!” Omg that had me dying laughing.
Seriously as an INTJ, the fear to update my phone deprives me of my sleep for days😅😂 on point!!🤣
Literally me
I'm intj as well, I used to be the same way but I got over the anxiety by just doing it, it was kind of like a stepping stone for me to overcome my general social anxiety, like in incremental step towards becoming more at ease in social setting. I don't know if the logical progression is apparent in my comment but yeah that's how i started getting over a large amount of my social anxiety
That helped me a lot Frank, thanks
THEE ACCURACCCYYY ~~ My brains a little weird tho.. I think I'm both an ISFP and an ENFP, but BOYYY THIS VIDEO WAS ACCURATE !
I experience BOTH! I feel paralyzed when things aren't going right or aren't fully planned.. & I'm CONSTANTLY worried about people's perspective of me ! And try to keep myself from being overly critical of others
Spot on Frank James! Spot on!
This is so true! See I'm gonna talk about my experience with EXXJ and IXXP begin INFJ.
My ENTJ mom always talks about people she dislikes or admires and how they are efficient or not, even with internet people I don't know and I'm like if you dislike them why you keep following and doing research about them lmao.
Also my ESFJ dad always talks about the people in his work, if they were mean, kind, productive, etc.
My ESTP brother is less worried about that, we always talk about games, jokes, TV series and he tries to find logic in that. We barely talk about his classmates.
My INFP friend is very anxious about what other people would think and she rant many times about people doing wrong things or begin hypocritical.
Also one time my family had money problems my dad was worried about what the company would think, my mom was so upset at my uncle's (long story) and I was like so worried about money (that always makes me anxious).
Omg how did you know my fear of phone updates blowing my mind here thought I was the only one!! 🤯
Awesome, thank you and please stay being your genuine self
Ready to dive in!! 🔥
I’m an ENTJ. This video makes perfect sense.
Observers: people are a means to information. Information is the goal
Deciders: information is a means to people. People are the goal
Oh, my days. Why have I only come across your channel at this point in my life?! The accuracy of your representations has me in stitches nearly every time.
This was one of your best, most helpful videos. Thanks.
As an INFJ, I must say that things overwhelm me quite often 😂 I was thinking it's because of my weak Se function, but now I have a broader look on this thing ^^
Yes me too! That's so funny. Like the world and processing the world and all the things sometimes feels like I'm falling in Alice's tunnel and things are just flying around me. I thought it was a sensing thing, too, but this sheds some more clear light and makes me feel like I have less of a problem and more just a function.
Frank laughing at his own jokes is the best part of the video always and that's a fact
Very insightful!
This is Really Good! Thanx!
I finally understand why often my best friend and I don’t understand each other. I always got frustrated with her hyper focus on people, on what would they think about her or why do they act a certain way, make certain decisions, she would also always seek validation from others. I would always ask her why does that bother her so much? Cause I never really cared about any of those things, like at all. And now I understand, she is an INFP/INTP and I’m an ENFP. And this is a DRASTIC difference. Thank you FJ for making this video, it was very useful! Cause now I just know that it’s the part of her nature.
My friend is an INTJ and I'm an INFP, she doesn't understand why people Judgement are so important so I explain it to her by what my mind thinks. I made up a social hierarchy system in my head and list, explain and draw eachone, trying to speak the language of the INTJ but then I realise how ridiculous the way I think. Nonetheless I believe the system is true.
Friendship is power, if you have a lot of friends, Charisma and confident people will be on you side and as someone who has none of those if I ever were to get in a fight with them, then everyone would go against me, therefore I need to be careful about what other thinks. If they start to go against me, ik I wouldn't be able to deal with the pressure of people disliking me and so it's a "better safe then sorry" system.
@@adrenalineactivate I think both are important it’s just about which one we prefer, as Frank always says. I don’t think any of those are stupid. It’s just so interesting how that’s an actual drastic difference between us
Interesting.
My brother, an ENFP, references people all the time in conversation. Myself, as an ENTJ, I don't reference people and names as much as he does, but I do it too.
I find it annoying when I'm reminded about characters I'm aware of after being exposed to the reality of their existence within the context of another person's insistent exposure of their own life.
'I heard you the first time. Your Boss, James, talks about things you don't care about. I got it!'
LOL
Thanks, Frank. This video is quite useful. Much appreciated.
Great explaination, thank you Frank! 😉
As an ISTP I struggle a lot with social anxiety. Mainly when I don’t know how to do things that I should know. Like ordering a complicated pizza
This made so much sense. I am an ESTP. Now I understand why INTJ daughter thinks a lot more like me than my ESFJ daughter.
my goodness that explains everything
I'm an intp and my best friend is an esfj. I noticed that when we get together we always end up talking about other people, and this always happens without exception.
And I didn't understand why I didn't get along very good with exxp or ixxj types.
Specifically I can't get along with enxps, I feel like we are not on the same page or don't talk the same language.
It's nice to learn something new
I have been exploring this idea for some time now hehe glad we agree
This is fascinating! I have a HUGE pet peeve that I never really understood until now. It drives me NUTS when people randomly mention the names of other people I don't know in conversation as if I should know them. Like "Oh, Charlie said the same thing, he was talking about that movie at work..." I'm like, excuse me, who is Charlie?? Especially if they don't preface it with "my co-worker" or something. If I know who they are, it's not annoying so much, but when I spend time hearing them referencing other people in their lives and saying "oh you know him! He's my old roommate! Oh my god he's hilarious" and then tell stories about them... It just makes me glaze over like... cool... let's talk about this person who I don't know...? Like I just don't understand how to build a conversation around that in any meaningful sense. :'''D I can't believe there is a video here where you are talking about it and it's actually related to my personality type. (INFJ)
Ikr! That's my experience too. I hate when someone brings up a random name without context who that person is. When I do talk about other people I always provide some context like the person I'm talking about is my family member or classmate. etc.
I already analyzed my previous conversations with people, as I think i am an INFJ, I never noticed how much my INFP friend is so people focused when something goes wrong, or how my dad always has to talk about a specific person (ESFJ) when I can't seem to wrap around my head about those people focused conversations, I think I just see it as why is it happening, and point out something like "it's in everyone's nature that they want to feel loved and appreciated" and INFP is like, well yeah but this person still didn't have to do that. probably a bad example, but I am not the best of remembering what we talked about, and more, I know we talked, and they could ask me what it was if they reminded me the subject
Interesting. Though I heard that it's INFJ purpose to help people become better version of themselves.
Yeaaah Frank you are totally right about ij and ep!!!I didn't know someone else has my problem. Being anxious about new information and new stuff and trying so hard for not getting new information. I don't usually watch new movies because of this
Thanks Frank! This was a very helpful video :)
I have an ESFJ coworker I'm sort of close to, and in our conversations she focuses so much on other people it's insane. She keeps telling me that "people should always be considerate of each other's feelings", which I agree with, but emphasizes it to the point where it starts to triumph the individual's wills and passions, despite also claiming that you should be yourself, which perplexes my INFJ mind. It's crazy how we both have the feeling and judging traits, which allow us to adjust ourselves in social situations, yet we arrive at such different conclusions, all while coming from somewhat similar life paths
I‘m an IxxP; my husband is ExxJ. I‘ll have to listen more closely this week to see if he does mention people a lot. Even writing this, I know he does. I remember our conversations when he comes home from work. I guess I just never noticed it because I, apparently, do the same thing. Again, I‘ll have to take more notice to see if we really are people-focused “all the time”.🤔 From now on, I’m going to go around asking in my head, “what’s weird about this person.”😁
Even you mentioning him is people focused!😂😂 Isn't that cool!
Thanks for this super clear, super simple (1st step) division. After 2 weeks I would have expected a 1 hour video though😅. And watched it as if it had 10 minutes 😊
You basically just described me in the first half of the video lol. Psychology is so interesting!
Haha, so true! Thanks!
I thought there was something wrong with me until I did the MBTI (with an approved psychologist), and understood that it was personality traits. Can totally relate to "what if I miss some information😬?!
I love to do schedules and budgets, but, I KNOW that I will not follow them....
Usually when I have to do something, I decide and plan to do something else, and then I often can do the first thing while trying not to notice that I do the thing I ought to.
"know thyself" 😁
The nightmare: what if I missed some important piece of information about something: 😬🤯😱🧐 I agree that is the worst of all. How can deductions about what might happen and how things could unfold IF some important detail got missing?.... What if I am wrong because of this, then my contol freak side is dead. Then I go back to sink in much more details just in case it changes the bigger picture (INFJ). So true.
Early on another one of your videos :D
i am always bringing up people, you were right on this one
Fascinating take
As an ISTP or someone in a group of IxxP I wouldn't say we are afraid of being judged by other people. In the world of ISTPs it's more like we are out there living our best life, adventures and solitude and not giving damn about what society expects of us and what other people think of us. 🤷🏼♀️ Multiple times people asked me how is that you are so different and do not care about gaining other people recognition. And somehow it is very appealing and attractive to other people when you are so truth to yourself, minding your own business, doing things your way and not caring about other people opinions. 🤔 Just saying. 🤷🏼♀️
ISFP here and I agree completely! I'm artsy and weird by many people's standards, but like you said, I'm just living my best life and whether or not someone likes what I am doing doesn't matter. If someone is that annoyed with my true self, they don't have to stick around, but really in my experience, most people appreciate authenticity.
I'm an ISTP and, though I wish I didn't, I really do care what people think of me
@@vibaj16 Maybe it is due to your age? I am 30 , I also used to be worried what people think of me especially when I was a teenager. But in a grown up age (for me it is somewhere 24+years) not so much or not at all.
"...even something as simple as i have to update my phone. an IXXJ might have a fear of, 'well, what if i update it and then i can't use it like i'm used to using it?'"
I ALMOST SPAT MY WATER i'm INTJ and that's exactly why i haven't updated to IOS 15 yet LMAO
Wow, I learned a lot! I’m an ISFJ who recently started hanging out with an ESFJ and was wondering, why are we so radically different with just one letter change? She does tend to bring up people while I bring up things. This video really helped me “get it.”
Good one James...good one, Got me with the EP stuff bro
The important question is: has Timmy been replaced by Jim?
@Margrete At last?? 😱😱
Maybe since their names rhyme, they are twins…look out, world 🌎! 😂 tag team
Hmmm... I think I'm both? I'm an ENFP and I definitely agree with the ExxP description, but I also have a tendency to be fascinated by character motivations. In fact, that's one of my main focuses in writing, even over plot and worldbuilding. Though, now I think about it, I tend to avoid bringing people up by name unless a conversation includes them or information I gleaned from them. For example, I run a Discord server with an ISFP friend of mine and we were talking about the kinds of people we've had to ban over the years, so I used a few usernames as shortcuts for the kinds of people who fell into that category. Such as using Tom (not his real name) to describe clingy teenage boys who constantly self-victimize and demand sympathy from everyone on a regular basis. We've banned a few Toms. So I guess people are used more as ideas and concepts than their behavior sometimes. Interesting.
As an ENFP I get you 100%. People are more concepts and systems themselves that we are interested in evaluating
Character motivations are more representations of the author and like the themes and all the cool stuff in the book, also psycoanalysising characters is just fun to explore 😂
This video was really helpful and eye opening to me. That's true that as an INFJ I always focus on situation and things and when I do talk about other people I never call them by name at first because I'm aware that the person I'm talking to doesn't know them. However my friend always tells me about people like I knew them and I'm sometimes confused because of it.
I think she might be an INFP but she talks a lot about her interests and she's never afraid to show me them, so I'm not sure.
that helped me so much typing my mother hahah (social gathering today, everything you said about the IxxP s is so true it's scary lol)
All true for the INFJ. How deeply do you know me, man?!
I used to think/suspect I was autistic, at least a little bit, but now I see that I'm just a textbook INFJ.
Also an INFJ and I've always assumed that I have sensory integration disorder.
Wayment.. 🤔
I heard that INFJ really good at reading people and their emotions but can't figure out how do they feel about themselves and how do they feel in general. What do you think?
@@robertsh.2506 That is the ONLY trait that I don't feel belongs to me, I always know how I feel and who I am. Although, I am many versions of me, so sometimes it's like - am I THIS, or am I THAT? So maybe that's what this trait is about, but me personally I always simply felt/accepted I was both.
@@mjprozac I can see why you would assume that.
As an autistic ENTP I was made a bit invincible to this in school, but with horrible side affects. Yeah I didn’t want to be judged, it was the end of the world for me. But I consistently DIDN’T REALIZE the things I did would make people judge me, or even if I was ring judged at all! I was afraid of it, but had no idea when it was happening. I was constantly oscillating between confidence and paranoia.
SUPER PERCEPTIVE. Awesome, and had me giggling out loud. A lot. (INFP)
One of your most enlightening videos ever, very insightful and helpful. It's so true as an I...P I've always been too focused on other people, now I know more about why. Thanks!
Laughed hard on the IJ parts 😂 I accidentally updated my phone at night (after postponing for like a year). Can't sleep at all coz i had to make sure everything works just like how it used to be 😅
Thanks for this.
I always wondered what INFP and ENFP difference was, apart from introvert and extrovert. A family member and I are those 2 types and believe similar things about …uh…something politically right now, same “side”, but for different reasons and I never understood how that could be (is 1 person just more quiet and the other more vocal?) but naw, this summed it up clearly.
Now, see, by all the quizes I come out as an ENFP, but I always relate to the INFPs. ENFP stereotype is happy me on a best day, or the me I aspire to be. But I get melancholic very often, while being nostalgic/ overthinking/ resigned around 2/3 of the time, and then the INFP traits are the absolutly most relatable thing for me. Now in this video, I find myself 100% on the INFP side!
I may recall being like 60/40% (although I'm not really certain it was this category..), then it would make sense. But then again - simplifications of these MBTI traits are often on the opposite poles!
I guess we should remember to take these things lightly, with a grain of salt, and not forget that humans are far more complex than to be divided by 16
This really gave me some insight, I was trying to analyze my INFP best friend, I've known him since childhood. I used to think we were so alike( I'm a INTJ btw) but now he has changed a LOT, probably we just grew up but he used to agree with me on my abstract ideas and thoughts and we didn't care if people categorised us as the "nerds" now he's in college and I'm in senior year of high school and he's completely faking his personality to fit in the crowd whereas I've never liked that and I would never change anything about me to "fit in" with others
Damn, as an INTP I never thought people could be frustrated by things
like...just find the problem and solve it, what's hard about it?
And when it comes to people, I overthink and panic so much sometimes
There are many things I want to do, but what stops me is the fear of being judged...like, I'm really scared of it
This might explain why I'm almost always on the borderline of J/P or, depending on the day, I could score as INTJ or INTP when retaking a test while the INT portion is like rock solid stable.
I kind of see myself doing both depending either on the situation or the specific events that created the situation (i.e. did a system failure cause it or did Jim cause it), over instantly "siding" with one aspect or the other.
In terms of cognitive functions - would that mean that Ni and Ti both can take a dominate role while Ne and Te can both act as support to the function that's dominate in the situation?
Great video!! Ty :D:)
That was a really good video! 🧡
The P vs J lead is the primary division in Cognitive Type, too.
As an INFP I can say I feel rightfully attacked!
Great Video!
🤣 Same. I’m an INFP-T as well and I agree 😂
I would love to see your opinions on which types would be which literary archetypes or fantasy characters. Do all mentor type characters gravitate toward the same type?
Spot on!!!
I am scared because I have always thought that I am an INFJ (from many tests, articles and your videos) but with this video I felt extremely identified with that of being overconcerned about people and what others think about me. And well, many times I have come to think that I can be an INFP and now I'm in panic.
PD: sorry for my english, not my language.
Check out Personality Junkies comparison between INFJ and INFP. It's what helped me understand the cognitive functions better. Turns out that I am an INFP not an INFJ. They are really quite different from each other, sharing no cognitive functions at all.
I think maybe it can just depend on where you fall along the personality spectrum (like what percentage of each function you are or if you’re close to the 50% line if I/E, S/N, T/F, J/P) or something like that and that we notice how systems affect people.
I don’t have a super thought-out answer but I’ve seen one other comment so far saying what you’re saying also.
And, I can definitely relate to becoming attached to the INFJ type as like a core part of your identity and feeling destabilized at the thought of doubting it lol 😅
Apparently, we are supposed to not get too attached to any certain personality type because it’s more of a gauge and it can make it more difficult to truly recognize your own traits but well, *much* easier said than done!! Lol
I (INFJ) was telling my boyfriend (ENTP) about this theory recently. After explaining it he's like, Yeah I notice it all the time now - you and I get really angry at inanimate objects when things don't go well.
Wow yes I am always kicking objects when I’m the one bumping into them 😂
@Erza Scarlet lol!! I feel bad blaming people even if it’s their fault!!
This is all just fascinating to read hahahahaha
Our connections to others are what makes who we are, makes us try to do better. Diverse perspectives are necissary to understanding any issue.
Love these informative videos 🙌
Thank you for making this ENFP feel so much better about the clutter in her life and the perpetually disorganized To Do list. Gathering and sharing information is a fun, fast ride and I never want it to stop. Organizing that information into a usable format is like being weighed down by a concrete coat. And talking about other people, well, that's just gossip. Who cares what other people do when there are BIG IDEAS to talk about?!?