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INFP Tip: Trust your Fi, because it's your strongest and most developed function, allow your Ne to inspire you and feel the great emotions of inspiration in your Fi, this will give you energy to actually do things. Don't watch motivational videos that stress HARD WORK, THE GRIND, and NO PAIN NO GAIN. If you're like me these videos will not motivate you but do quite the opposite ( I get exhausted to do work before I have even done any work after watching those videos). Also read the successes of JK. Rowling, Johnny Depp, and Tim Burton because they are INFPs and they have had to overcome the same struggles as you. Johnny Depp claimed that ambition to him was a dirty word, that he wanted to be inspired. Also do not compare yourself to the hard workers that boast about the amount of pain and suffering they went through to get something done, that is not you, if it feels good THAT's when you work harder, and that's what gives you the strength to go through that pain and suffering, that oh so good feeling of doing the work, NOT because you want to overcome difficult challenges through pain, but ultimately because of doing what you love will give you a WONDERFUL feeling, chase that feeling, it's the only thing that will keep an INFP going. TDLR: - Fi is your strongest function, trust it. - Ne will inspire you, Fi will lead you to action. -You are NOT an ENTJ or ESTJ so you are not driven by hard challenges and accomplishments you are driven by the feeling of doing what you love. TRUST THAT! and do not compare yourself to other types definition of success, because that type has it's own. - You are a car not fueled by pain, but fueled by feeling, if you do not put good feelings in your tank you will either never work or you will resent your work.
My biggest struggle is self-acceptance, I'm trying to get there but it's really hard, have a lack of confidence. I like art and writing but not to the point where I would make a career out of that. I love psychology but am literally scared.. still trying to figure everything out
Try to accept that it takes time to learn and also that it doesn't matter if you go into something more deeply...take a course..invest you time/money in some way..and its not for you, as you will gain valuable knowledge about yourself and your confidence will grow as your knowledge and experience does! Take his advice and read some books about self confidence and a autobiography of someone you admire. I'm just giving you advice from my own experience of feeling lost in this way earlier in my life! And all though I don't always have it figured out, I feel confident that I will and am always improving myself.
you could try to remember the bad memories of rejection in the past and letting go of it. Because truthfully, you need no acceptance from other people because you are awesome in your own way :)
I alway feel I don’t belong to this world. The world is so harsh and cruel and heartless and emotionless. learning about everything so quickly and also bored easily. I realized I need to work on myself to embrace everything in life. Finally I accepted myself and open up instead of escaping and hiding myself from everything. Thank you!
@@emilywalasek888 yup 26 here and I feel the same way all the time. I don't even know if I am supposed to be here. I just started a really high paying sales job in November and already quit because I was indeed fighting myself every day to be there
Jupiter Fox! I recently left my job as a waitress/bartender because I couldn’t do it anymore. Took time off to get into therapy and build myself back up. I’m still struggling but I’m ready to find work now and think I might eventually go back into acting (a passion of mine) to help build my self confidence and esteem. My problem is that I’m always doubting myself, very self conscious and thinking that everyone hates me, but I know that’s not the truth. Chin up. You’re not alone :)
@@emilywalasek888 wow I wish you the best and thank you for your kind words. I always have this thing out in public where I feel like everyone is watching or judging me and this sales job gave me so much anxiety that I went to therapy for the first time and it was nice to just let everything out to someone who would listen haha. I'm still jobless and I'm looking around for something I'll actually like. I've been through so many jobs out of bordem or just not liking the job and my family thinks something is wrong with me, I thought the same too but I just realized that I am an infp and it's a common thing among them. My goal now is to get a part time job thats tolerable and use my feee time to do photography or work on custom projects (I love working on cars and doing wiring n stuff) and well.... I don't know what else really. 😂 I'm just so lost in this world
Jupiter Fox! Thank you and you are welcome. What helps me is reminding myself that other people are more concerned with and worried about themselves than what I’m doing. It helps to take the pressure off remembering that people probably aren’t paying attention to the little things you do that might make you feel inferior, they’re too busy worrying about what they’re doing. Just gotta take yourself outside of your own head sometimes. We’re all human and we all feel insecure and anxious and embarrassed and silly and regretful and make mistakes. And it’s totally okay. Be kind to yourself. And I’m saying this to you and to me, because I’m human and I feel all of these things sometimes and need reminding. Atm I’m reading self-help books so I can educate myself and utilise tools to build a strong sense of identity, self esteem and confidence. I’ve got books on DBT, CBT, self esteem, anxiety, psychology etc... I recommend Matthew McKay. If you’re interested, look him up and you’ll find a list of his books. Hobbies are good. Do what makes you feel good and good luck with finding a job that suits you :)
My tip is to not be afraid to say no to things that drain you, and to take time out to recharge and regenerate... watching films, listening to music, singing in the bath etc 😊
It sucks being an INFP living with abusive parents because i fall into the trap of depression over and over and it kills my creativity that I know i was born with. Im trying hard to get out but they wont support me in anything that isnt old fashioned and structured. Trying to just "swim up stream" to get away right now so i can figure out where my creativity can best be used.
swingonthespiral you got this! Keep strength :) and hold on to that fire inside, even just a little while you work to get yourself out of that environment :( My Uni is my supportive environment where I feel encouraged and at home :) hm, maybe if you have to study a more structured path for now, your uni might have an animation club or something that can be your outlet :)
i was in a abusive friendship where i was bullied and beaten a lot and i could do nothing to get out because i was too nice and didnt have courage to standup for myself. and i will regret that forever but the abuse with parents is different, they care for you although they cant completely understand us and because of that they dont realize that such way of pushing us forward is actually not effective. try to share your feelings when they are being nice and try to make them understand that they are pushing you to negativity instead of helping us move ahead
I feel that INFPs (like myself) struggle with working in a restrictive, sterile work environment. Like you said, INFPs are adaptable, but we will not flourish doing mundane jobs. I've always felt that to succeed, INFPs require plenty of autonomy and ability to be creative. I personally feel that while I'm intensely creative, I often struggle to turn my ideas into actual outputs. I've found that ENFPs are able to get my ideas off the ground very easily. (Many people at my company have completed and shared our MBTI results)
This is so true!! I made a big mistake by working in a bank, i have problems every single week with my managers and i’m so scared I don’t know what to do.
As an infp, as well as a reclusive, Libra artist, I've always escaped into my own dreamlike world in order to feel what I consider normal. For many years, I wanted to be an average person that fit in with the general crowd. In trying to do so, it required exhaustive, award-winning acting. Eventually, I realized it wasn't worth it. I am who I am and my inner world is magical at times... even mesmerizing. I've now learned to see this as a gift and not an alienated state of being, highly misunderstood by society. I'm a cinematic observer, surrounded by overwhelming beauty.
Monika M You should be a writer because just this commentary had me mesmerized, so beautiful. It's the valuing of who we actually are that I find the hardest in being an INFP. It is a person laity type that is so out of step with the aggressive hardass world we live in. Andrew
Yeah I'm a bipolar Libra infp. I want to be a neuropsychiatrist but guess who hates school or rather the way it's set Up lmao #collegesuckspleasekillme
I'm a Libra INFP artist too! It's been really hard to figure out what I want for myself, but I'm going to try to listen to myself. I'm very happy you have found a peace with yourself - it's very inspirational!
I am as well. Throughout the years I’ve grown attached to reading and writing as well as music and drawing. Even though I’m still exercising my self to make what my imagination conjures, real, one day I will do it with ease. I found myself doleful, all because I couldn’t find my way through the crowd, but I’ll find myself some day in some way. I love this comment. It was so beautiful in the littlest ways. I hope you are doing well a year later. I wish you the best in your journey. Thank you for making me feel a little less alone. :)
Don't watch this video before bedtime. I had a nightmare where I was working at a supermarket and someone left a baby for me to watch. I kept misplacing the baby! Once, I found the baby in a half-empty delivery truck. The second time, I found the baby mixed in with the unstocked freight. I even found a room full of other babies, but not mine. Immediately upon awakening, I realized the "baby" was my unntapped gifts and abilities.
Wow, interesting dream, could also literally be your baby self you lost, by not nourishing or protecting it in the right way and putting it in the wrong places/spaces or not making enough space for it, also not being able to find it amongst other babys is quite striking, it's like you can see and understand all the other inner babys but not yourself. This could also be connected to how your parents treated you as a smal child...
I’m not trying to sound whiny, but it is really difficult to be an infp. We are such sensitive odd ducks 🦆 Use your intuition, but realize you may not always be able to share it with others.
I noticed that I have a talend for esoteric stuff like Tarot, Astrology, Aura readings and understanding the connection between psyche, brain and body and see the soul of the person in front of me. I used to hide that, but it helped me doing my job as social worker but I was never truly satisfied because I would like to do this openly and also let it come thrpugh much more in my council sessions and have exchanges with other equal minded people and professionals about it, but now I am more confident and doing it more openly. I need practice, later I also want to work self-employed after my own flow. We can do this!!! 🙌✌😇
when you do follow this, since we kind of know that instinctively, we thrive when we love what we're doing. It kind of triggers the jealousy of others so when you happen to be not earning well yet with your project, they would scoff at you. If you are earning, they say you don't deserve it because your process to get there didn't look painful. we can't let the haters win or we're gonna go old with them winning and us losing all those years, ending up haters ourselves.
I am an INFP and I am very misunderstood by my parents who obviously are not INFP's. They cannot understand that I want a career that makes a difference and that a dull, boring job that means nothing is worse than death to me. I had to do door-to-door sales and like you said, I had to constantly force myself to do it everyday because it seemed so meaningless. I did it for the money but it was not me. It is so refreshing to hear that somebody actually understands me because I am so different from everyone else it seems. Thank you for doing this video. I wish that I would have known this before because I would have appreciated myself more.
@Anon Artist omg 😂😂😂 relatable. People in my country only care about big jobs such as doctor, engineer, architect, accountant, banker, lawyer and more WHICH ARE BORING TO ME. they only care about big salary! 😥 thanks goodness my parents are okay with my decision to be an author. (But i kinda interested with psychology tho 🙂)
You said something so key to understanding my experience--about being able to be good at so many things and doing well in a job that may not necessarily give you that "flow" experience. I am an INFP but ended up with a BS in physics and worked 22 years as a physicist/engineer. I did well at it and was highly regarded, and I even convinced myself that I was an INTJ for many years. But something in me was constantly searching within myself as to who I am and what my purpose is (because engineer wasn't IT). I was fortunate to be able financially to retire early (10 years ago) and with that time I have been developing my artistic passion. Now I find myself as an occasional art teacher and even though I do not actively market myself, I do sell a modest amount of paintings! And yes, this development of my artistic self has been taking decades (with more focused study in the last decade), but creativity and art is what creates a flow state for me now. It's wonderful to hear your words and feel validated.
As an INPF, i actually found in myself that if i stop trying too hard, I make the greatest work (comparing to my other ones). And my growth escalated when I decided that I like myself vulnerable despite of my childhood that reveled in tough love. GOOD LUCK OTHER INFP! LET'S INSPIRE THE WORLD! 😄
How do we find employers who will pay us a living wage for pursuing the work that we're truly great at? It seems like many of us XNFPs are naturally artists, and/or we're great at using language. Not many of us have a calling for engineering or programming. It's so discouraging and alienating to feel like the culture doesn't value what we have to give. Thank you for this video!
I actually teach a program called "The Free Freelancer" and about half the people are current or aspiring freelance writers. I believe, if you do it right, you can get paid VERY well for communication skills, especially writing. I talk about it a bit more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/sgJRCp-eRTg/v-deo.html
Yes. The answer is we become our own employers. I feel with current social trends, the internet and social media (which all usually carry many problems for us) opportunities for freelance work and niche businesses are opening up where they were few and far between just 10 years ago and before. We’re told we have to “go to work” because personality types that value that set-up basically run our society. That situation itself is why we sometimes feel so worthless and struggle so much to find our place. We have to realize our own value, but we struggle against that as well since we strenuously avoid being selfish, conceited, or narcissistic. I agree with this video that self-acceptance is key. I’m just getting to that point after over 30 years of misidentifying my strengths as weaknesses. I am just starting to see that “going on my own” is the only way I am going to “build a career” that pays my bills and makes me & others happy.
This is sooo true. As I recently discovered im an INFP I look back this utterly makes sense. I spent 25 years being an accountant which I was very successful at until chronic stress started affecting my health. I am however very creative and artistic, so at the age of 55 Ive decided to pursue my dream of being a singer and artist. 💙
As an INFP myself, I felt like I heard everything I needed to hear. I even cried watching this cuz I was feeling like I had to be a certain type of person that the society demanded just to pay bills and to survive, and I was wondering why I felt like I couldn’t breathe sometimes. Thank you for making this video!!!
I'm an Infp male, my whole life I've been mostly misunderstood and constantly being told what to do and not to do..people don't seem to share my enthusiasm and whenever I try to bring up something new or imaginative I'm always surrounded by people who tell me the right and the wrong do's and don'ts. No matter what when and wherever I'm at the end of the day it is loneliness that's always my friend coz it can't just leave me. I sometimes see that people are always concerned about their expectations from you and so thats also the point where I firmly believe that you should not let them down even if it means ignoring yourselves. I also have this habit of daydreaming a lot, my head is always in the clouds and therefore I forget the surroundings around me and I'm clumsy by nature (sigh) and although I'm great at setting up schedules and face no problem at it but then again I'm very poor when it comes to implementation. Once I start a particular thing it's quite difficult to get it completed (which is a classic infp behavior). Lastly to all infps my message to you is don't let the cruelty or darkness of the world lessen your brightness and imagination..we're here for the good of the others, we thrive to help others, if you truly believe that you are here to make a difference in this world then thicken up your skin and no matter whether you re having good time bad time because of a situation or a person remember who you're and your purpose and don't give up!!
Very well said! This is why I've created this new supportive community for idealists. Feel free to check it here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/dreamers/
OMG. You so nailed the 'you can do good, but at the expense of doing great', and giving ourselves a long runway for making progress. Thank you,. I'm really good at nearly anything I do, but it's very soul-sucking. Never allowed myself the runway to do 'great' work, that I know is in me. Thank you!
This is me. I have written 3 books. I live in the worlds my mind creates. My struggle is never believing I can write better than when I was inspired. It doesn’t seem important when I don’t “feel” it. Thanks for this video. It made me feel better.
Have some compassion for yourself and always go with what you feel is right for you. Don't listen to people, who feel they know what is best for you, no matter how well their intention is. And Please, please, be SELFISH! People will take advantage of our selfless and empathetic nature. Avoid toxic environments and be around positive people. :D. We are prone to depression, so it is good to have a good supportive environment. Don't give into despair and do small tasks everyday leading to your goal. We like to see different possibilities about our future, but sometimes it is good to appreciate our daily progress. You will be more mentally sound because of it.
i am so selfish now after feeling used by people! sometimes it is lonely ,other times i am that much closer to my true self because i have time to be with myself - which is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life
God this was spot on I know I'm smart and pretty adaptive and that I can do good at many things, I've always felt like I can "fake it" pretty easily, so nobody will notice. But in order of that, I've always had to sacrifice what I really am like, what I really love doing and what comes to me naturally, which is visual art. But as you say, this industry is not really easy to succeed in... I like the idea of giving myself more time to succeed though
Soon I'll be 18, still really lost with a lot of things... I don't know where my passion truly is as I'm always shifting between things I enjoy, and I can't help but feel like I'm running out of time. Everyone around me seems to have their plans figured out and I just feel like I'm moving in slow motion. I can feel this drive in me to do something great, but it's useless when I don't even know where to start... :/
I think us INFP tends to compare ourselves with the others. But actually we don't have to. Everyone has their own lane in life that they must go through. I also have the same feeling as you currently, so I began to watch a lot of inspirational video. One of the things I heard that I really remember is "If you still do not know what's your passion or purpose is, then you haven't tried a lot of things." I thought that makes sense. The less information or experience I know/have, the less chance for me to know what my passion and life purpose is. Even if it's just a small progress in your life, it may be able to lead you somewhere first or discover who you are first. You're still 18, you're young. Don't limit yourself to certain things that you currently doing now, try new things, and who knows, maybe some things might suprise you or sort of like "awaken" your inner talent :D. The more you explore, the more you know. You still have many many opportunities in life. Don't give up, always give yourself a time to improve and remember that there's always people who will be supporting you! *Sorry my english is not that good
JadedGems INFP bartender here. You encounter many types of people, from idiots to philosophers, everyone’s got a story or joke to tell. It’s definitely an interesting experience to say the least but as I like to think of it, any experience is always GOOD experience
ACCEPT YOURSELF!! That is the best advice for any INFP!! I'm 23 and I have just truly accepted myself and find happiness!! It happens, you just gotta work at it :) Give yourself time to succeed!! Thanks for making this dope video!!
Im 23 and I'm just starting to do that. I was trying very hard to force myself to be like everyone else. I'm still climbing out of the hole currently and trying to be my self.
Craig Szymanski i feel as tho crawling out of the hole is nearly impossible, ive finally quit smoking/vaping a month ago, to try to start feeling better and more positive with myself but i feel as tho i just keep falling right back in it with my emotions
We are so confused how to earn money for living🤣🤣😭😭 Expressing our emotions through writing art music also needs everyone's attention but we feel demotivated because lack of self control over our actions can't finish what we started because mind jumps on another thing
I wish I would’ve taken my personality test years ago. Now that I know why I am the way I am, I’d like to believe I can better maneuver my emotions, talents, day dreaming, and sporadic self-inflicted exiles. Life began making a lot more sense once I figured out I’m an INFP, but after being caught in the major negatives of this personality for 30+ years I’m finding it difficult to do what my older sister has been saying since I was a kid. I’m convinced she’s an ENFP. She’s my hero, my biggest advocate, and my best friend. She’s the only one in my family who was ever able to connect with me and level me out from the extreme lows and extreme highs without me feeling skeptical of her motivations.
Thankyou so much! Just discovered, at 40 :(, that I seem to be an INFP. Absolutely everything makes sense. I love and care so much for people but feel so often hurt by them. My life goal seems to be finding someone to really talk to. I seem so slow yet so onto it. Connect with people fast but feel a disconnection along the way often. Feel I am good at everything but master of nothing. Other people get places but I stay just humming along. I love anything out of the ordinary; always seem to be doing things differently to others. So! I am to step back and take time to really focus on what I am good at. Lots of time! Feeling a sense of hope. Thankyou
As a 31 year old female INFP who has been feeling very unsure of what I want out of life and for my future, and who often feels insecure and kind of a misfit because I don’t share the same goals as most of my peers, I found this video very reassuring and uplifting...thank you! Really appreciated ☺️
Working at what i love only 15 minutes a day, bigger chunks at the moment scare the bloody daylights out of me. But I don't feel stuck and I don't feel like I'm not doing something I'm passionate about.
Dear Dan, Thank you so much for this uplifting video. I know how important it is to be positive in life, but I've been studying and writing about not only INFPs but introverts, HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons) and on to more difficult topics like being psychologically and physically abused as a child. I'm beginning to think that because of the general INFP and artist's temperament, we tend to have a harder time growing up. It is not easy to be different, especially as a child. In most cases, children who are INFP don't know that they're INFPs, nor do their parents. I hope this will change and that there will be much more general awareness of Myers-Briggs type in the future. When an INFP child is thrust out into a world they don't fit into, it almost always compounds feelings of hopeless inadequacy, because no one around them understands why they don't behave the way most kids do. It has taken me decades to get to the point where I'm actually beginning to blossom, because my parents, who had to face the same challenges without the benefit of understanding personality types and temperaments, were very hard-nosed, critical and abusive. It is not a simple matter to shrug off the inevitable consequences of child abuse, which is to feel horrible about oneself. Right now, my life is completely focused on healing from this trauma in therapy, which I've been in consistently throughout my adult life. I really think it's very important to impress upon INFPs that they will have to work very hard on themselves in order to even get to the point where they can begin to truly be who they are. And they will have to buck social conventions to do it. The good thing is, as you pointed out, INFP intelligence and perseverance allows us to have the strength to do this. I hope that the majority of INFPs out there in the world didn't have as bad a time as I did in childhood, but sadly, I suspect this may not be the case. It's so important that INFPs become aware that they're not alone, because we can feel very alone. I hope your work will bring together INFPs who are struggling so that they know they're not alone.
Thank you for sharing, had the same experience with childhood. I am INFP, also HSP , Gemini ,Cancer Cusp...just coming to understand this later in life. I strongly feel there should be education on this in schools. How much pain, and struggle could have been avoided .Always feel so alone until I come across others like you online. Still so much to learn because I still have days where I feel cursed to feel (everything) so intensely compared to others in my community .
I am 21 and just stumbled across mbti and I feel so much more understood and like maybe there is some hope for me after all.. I always was so afraid to disappoint my parents and felt kinda bad for them for having a kid like me, because they compared me to other kids (they were still great parents) I am extremely introverted and highly sensitive and I never understood why I have so much trouble to hide my feelings :( When I was 12 I finally was totally depressed, but my family got mad at me, because they thought I am not grateful enough...they couldn't understand that it was more a war about myself and I always appreciated them ! Still living in a small town and trying to master an average life somehow, but feeling guilty for my feelings, because people still ask me if I am depressed or autistic or something. I always loved to draw but since I have my job, try to work out and also visit my family everyday I end up feeling too tired for this...mbti could be a great opportunity for me to finally grow and accept myself. It's very calming to know that I am not alone in this world :) btw thanks for your story I love all the comments here 💚 Honestly mbti is such a great way to understand the people around you and yourself better I wish I would discovered it earlier (I was typically very naive and thought everyone was the same as me what left me hurt a lot) Yeah Maybe that is finally the point to start improving myself in the right way :) (please ignore my bad english I am still learning haha )
This is the best motivational video for INFP I've ever watched! So true and on point! I almost cried. As for work stuff, I worked in sale and it was a NIGHTMARE! Now, I'm a teacher (which I didn't expect at all but it turns out my language skills and creativity are a great asset and I love the process of growing as a teacher) and of course, I'm a wanna be writer :-) As for believing in yourself, I suffered a lot because of self doubt and depression for my whole life- now, I've decided to believe in myself, take my life into my own hands and give myself a chance and TIME to succeed- and for the first time in my life, I'm at peace with my own mind and heart. I'm not sure if that's true happiness but it's the closest I've been to it. I still don't fit in with most people around me but I don't think it's a bad thing any more. I've decided to embrace it.
Thank you ; I am an Infp I didnt know what it is until last week and I was amazed about how correct the result was . Finally I got the answer why I am so different . I am a 23 years old studying a subject that I hate which is an industrial engineering. I went through depression because I hate it and I have no friends ; i always felt that I am different than others but I don't know why. I decided that I will follow my passion after my graduation; I will graduate after 1 year and I don't know how the hell I will handle it . Miserable life
Hey man I understand what you're going through, I am doing the same, 23 as well, planning on discovering and following my passion after graduation too. Started out in Software Eng. switched to Comp sci. I have a semester left before I graduate, been feeling confused about what I am going to do after. Life can be difficult and sad at times, but only in moments, life can also be beautiful and inspiring and awesome, we honestly take it for granted, stress about useless crap! Like after I dropped out of eng, I was distraught but I looked at my friends who didn't pursue further education, working jobs out of school. We find a way to make something of our lives, working a job you don't want to(I worked in a call centre), find where your passion in life lies and let it motivate you. I try to set small goals I can work towards. I spent the whole of this summer just submerging myself in philosophy as a hobby and it is really helping me to accept myself. I only recently found out I was INFP and its made things so clear to me about why I behave the way I do, I understand why I harbour such heavy sentiments of love and peace for the people in my life. My dad once told me once you feel like you've hit rock bottom you can only go up. What you're going through maybe difficult right now but don't lose faith in yourself and in your life! Feel free to reply to me, I am finding it harder to make new friends and find people who will accept me, but if you ever want to talk feel free to message me, I hope things get better for you, my friend.
Douglas Raymond very similar story to yours. 23 and recently found out I’m an INFP. Graduated on top of my class but didn’t really have direction. Wish I knew this before I hit rock bottom (depression/anxiety/panic attacks/abusive relationship w/ narcissist). Now I’m an accountant for a company that is ranked best top 15 small businesses to work for in Los Angeles and I dislike every minute being there lol life must have purpose for an INFP. Probably will go back to photography/videography.
Im 23 infp studying mba I don't know how I reached here No motivation,I hate studying,I hate every fake emotions and fake people and I am living with fake life. I don't know wtf I'm going to do after mba 😑
Codename Blue Hey you love Cnblue right?? 🤔.. I am 22 rn and I graduated in electronics engineering. I don't know why and how I graduated with good marks 😑. I was planning to go for MBA, what do you think?
A bit of advice for INFPs: When trying to resolve a problem or overcome a difficult or challenging situation, try to imagine what advice you would give a close friend or family member if they were experiencing a similar situation. Believe me this takes lots of practice and patience! INFPs are more empathetic and imaginative others, so it makes sense that this should be a very useful tool for us; using our vivid imaginations and empathy to better ourselves and others :)
The “you can do good” is so accurate i feel like im good at everything or i can be good at everything once i learn but i feel like something is missing perhaps that greatness he’s talking about
You are so wise for your age! Like a sage. Loved what you said. You've re-affirmed everything I knew when I was 22... I'm 39 now and I have been going against myself and doing the practical thing... I got an MBA, forged a career in advertising and marketing... The journey was great I have to say and so hard but here I am burned out, ashes to the ground. Spat out by the industry I churned in. My 22 year old self looking back at me empathically. I have no idea where to go from here or how to start a fresh... Have a 3 year old boy and migrated to a new country one year ago. Jobless, underconfidant, layered with Coivd 19 and not dynamic enough for the new world. I know I have to start small and all over again so the next 10 to 15 years can be fruitful aswell BUT with a deeper meaning attached to it. I hope the creator of creation can nudge me in the right direction.
Awesome video! Thank you! My piece of advice would be that some of the skills you infps have are so natural to you that you don't even realize the huge inherent value of them, such as being kind, understanding other people's motivations, and gently uplifting others through your ability to see exactly where they're at emotionally and knowing just what to do next. You've got superhero gifts that aren't generally given recognition in our societal upbringing, so recognize those subtle yet powerful things you do that feel second nature to you.
Thanks Jodi 😢needed to read that💖 The people who are closest to me and love me for who I am say the same. I've just been so damned hard on myself for not functioning like everyone else, it's been very emotionally and energetically taxing. Discovering that I'm an HSP (highly sensitive person) snd and an INFP has really taught me a lot about myself and that I'm really ok! Yay! Enough comparing already!
Jodi Piotrowski thank you :) I'm so very different from a parent who didn't apreciate that quality, and it lead to me overthinking the natural empathy and care I feel or want to express to those I love.. but learning to go with my first instinct :) hug!
I have to admit that I'm REALLY struggling in college because I cannot get my mind to focus for very long on anything that doesn't involve working creatively. I feel like my workload is usually overwhelmingly NOT related to my creative majors, and involve a lot of my biggest weaknesses as an INFP. How can I overcome my struggles and get past these issues in order to move on into the things I am passionate about and enjoy most? As well as avoid burnout?
PaperParade hm are you studying in America? In Australia our degrees are only what our major study area is. Gosh burnout sucks, pace yourself, set time to work on what you must for Uni, and then treat yourself by also setting time for what you love :)
My degree is what my major is, but we have to take general education courses, and where I'm going we are also required to take Bible classes in order to graduate (it's a private Christian college, and it's really strict). I already have two majors and a minor and am working to support myself. It's just a bit too much, but I don't feel I can abandon any of it.
PaperParade My advice would be: please don’t be a perfectionist at the things you don’t like. Really, don’t fall in that trap, it will cost you a lot! Just do whatever it takes to pass the exams and always save time for some creativity, cause that’s your fuel in life!
I have been there. Struggled but at the end I have graduated with all that self questioning and reassurance seeking, you can do it like I did!!!!! Stick with the Plans and try not to get distracted by nice ideas that we go out of the prime path. And finally don't be hard on yourself :) always encourage yourself that you can do it.
you literally just described me to the tee with that sales example. Im an INFP who recently got a job in sales and found that i became pretty good at it relatively fast but it after a couple months i started to feel like shit spending so much of my life doing it, even though i was good at it. I need to be creative and produce ideas and that really stifled that part of me, even though i seemed to adapt to it readily.
@@auroraint.7156 I am 30, and soon getting married in coming Jan, but I still don't know what i should do for a living, i tried some office jobs, they just don't work, I am not driven by promoting or earning more money
I haven't heard this kind advice in quite sometime your words have shaken the the window's of my heart... meaning where all my treasures have been closed! Awesome amazing thank you for your words!
personally, as a INFP I feel so different from my family and friends. and when I ask for advice such as what career should I follow, they usually tell things that usually feel that were not for me. but after those advice I feel that I'm not alone in this and that I can find something that I like and should follow it. Thanks
Stay your course! You have probably already proven to yourself in your lifetime that you are capable of doing great things so dont let things bring you down so easily, and don't doubt your ability to do so! Never sacrifice your morals and above all else trust your gut feeling. Love the video. Just discovering all this at 32 so its never to late!
I don't have any proof for jobs, but I agree with this. I work as a florist, study programming, but what really makes me feel good is listening to music, singing, writing my own songs, thinking about stories (building up my big (dark)fantasy/adventure/action/comedy story). Feelings and imagination are important parts of my life. I can't say I'm satisfied with my life, but I'm trying my best to find what I really want to do.
Thank you so much for this video! Really helped ☺️ infps feel that they can never be or do good enough so they have a tendency of shying away and beating themselves up knowing we could "always do better". That's a downside of being an INFP, we're idealistic which makes it mearly impossible for things to live up to par in our mind. It can be a dangrous road cause entailing with the 'i' part of you, INFPs can endangered themselves by hermiting away cause the bad and unideal actions in the world can become overwhelming, frightening, too much for your good heart and morals to stand. That is something I'm currently trying to break from. I keep telling myself it's ok if things aren't a 10/10 , maybe they're a 6/10! Learn to accept that it's a 6, figure out how or if you can turn it into a 7 but even if you can't just learn to be content with imperfection sometimes and keep being you. The world needs more good willed idealists, you may think you're not enough but the people who you let know you will say otherwise. Thanks again for the video! Keep on keeping on 😁 Peace be with you ✌️ Shalom 🕊️
Thanks, Dan. I'm an INFP. Loved your video! Just one little suggestion: I think it would be better to do videos without sunglasses. I know it's not an actual conversation, But still, it would be nicer to have some eye contacts. :)
This video should be our morning ritual! Most INFP advice videos (probably all personality-advice videos) focus on our flaws, weaknesses and how we can fix them. That may be helpful but we tend to take this kind of talking quite personally and in the end, we're most likely to stare at the ceiling, imagining our way forward. Now this video? It instantly makes you smile 'cause it embraces you with positivity! Sometimes I get the feeling from INFPS (myself included) that we're really good at analyzing our weakness but not spend enough time recognizing possibilities through our strengths. And I do believe that we have unimaginable possibilities, which is huge if you think about the level of our imagination. So dream big, trust yourself first, follow your instincts and I'm sure I'm gonna know all your names one day and feel inspired by you! Good luck!
I've basically been doing exactly what you are saying not to do...thank you for this video. I'm once again coming back to what I want to do, and it was nice just hearing someone say that it's OK if it takes years to get to where they want to be. It was just really encouraging to hear that.
Absolutely! I'll be doing more videos around this idea in the future. Good things take time! I filmed this in Italy a few weeks ago on the topic as well :) ua-cam.com/video/9baEkbGngnA/v-deo.html
Jennifer Curasco I am 29 and finally in my last year of my bachelor studying things I love :) animation and game design, with digital drawing dancing and language learning on the side for fun hehe :) I gave up giving myself a time frame, have finally accepted 'life long learning' and that, my journey may be the scenic route, but it's ever so scenic ;) hehe, enjoy and follow what you love :)
Thank you so much. i'm having hard time in accepting myself, i keep arguing with myself and compared myself with others in a such extent lead me into depression. watching this really motivated me
Just came across this video, thanks for the good insight I really struggle as an INFP and I've known I'm an INFP for a few years but I didn't recognize that maybe being different from the rest of the mold of society is why I often feel so lonely and unsatisfied. I'm really struggling. I have to be able to pay bills and support myself (I'm 25) but I want to be able to do what I love. But the things I'm drawn to- music, poetry, acting, writing, psychology- just don't pay much so I'm feeling like I have to force myself to try to fit into a career I don't belong in to get by while trying to do what I love on the side in my spare time. I got discouraged and just stopped trying. But this video really helped me. I don't want to waste anymore time not doing what I love because of fear of failure. I often assume I will fail and don't even give myself a chance.
The first one is so true! I learned to accept myself and appreciate my strengths and ignore what people say about my flaws/things that people don't like about me.
I am an INFP and I love to do everything. I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING!! it's really hard to narrow down to 1 or 2 things that I want to focus on. And I am going crazy. It is really hard to find a career path where you want to do what ever you like and whenever you like it 😂
I an an INFP and I would love to work at Pixar as an animator, expressing emotion, art, typical INFP stuff, my inner struggle is though, that working at ANY place I won't realize my own stories in my mind and create my own imaginative vision. I'm at apoint where that isn't as much of a struggle anymore since I have to pay bills but ultimately I DON'T want to work on someone else's story and vision for the rest of my life but to realize my own and bring that to reality, I doubt Pixar will give me the shot but it's close enough so I'll take it for now. And for me to say I'll take it for now takes alot since I used to fear working period because I thought it was the death of my dreams, so at least I'm willing to work now.
You may find it a very inspiring environment that will help train you (practically and mind) for telling your own stories. On the other hand, there has never been an easier time in history than now to go at it alone in a creative field. Either way, be an absolute minimalist with how you spend money and you'll maximise your options and freedom!
This is precisely why I (INFP) didn't choose to pursue a degree in architecture. The designing and creating is fun and challenging but the part where you have to constantly implement others' ideas in your work in order to pay the bills is a harsh reality... I guess it's important to do your own projects on the side. There's a solution to everything!
This is what I'm afraid of. I just got into a bachelor of animation, and I also want to be able to develop my own individual concepts as well as pay the bills. It's a very stressful situation to be in, I know the feeling. Good luck getting into pixar! I have every faith you'll have what it takes 😁
@@kaderakpinar1062 totally agreed. I was an architect. It was fun and creative at school. However, in reality, architects' job are basically project management and documentation jobs. The creative side is only very little. I quit and now I've dedicated to be a comic illustrator. It is so much better. I found my passion in creating again.
Thanks, now I kinda know why I’m so depressed in recent years. I always wanna be able to follow what the society wants me to do, and that makes me feel like I’m empty and that I can fade or disappear anytime I dare. I often see no point of living at all, I don’t understand why I am eating, sleeping or breathing. The only way I can feel better is to go see a movie or to have a vivid dream. For God’s sake I can’t even speak fluently and I’ve been trying so hard to improve it so that I can at least be more ‘acceptable’ for the society.
Hi wjkfy rotik: it will get better. Step by step. The struggle is real and part of the INFP journey. Unfortunately but in some ways also fortunately. You see more than others, use that skill in a creative way.
This is so true! I really felt that when you said that I could be able to do a lot of things, because it’s easy for me to learn new things and I can easily adapt. My high school teachers used to tell me that I shouldn’t choose Literature and Linguistics as my major, because “I have a good brain” - but I did it anyway.😂 I actually want to be a fiction writer. Sadly, the fiction novels/stories’ value is not really recognized in the academic field, but I think this genre has a lot of potential
Thank you, mate. It was good to read this today. Learning to accept yourself is actually a difficult thing to achieve, when really it should easy. We beat ourselves up far to often when we should actually be accepting of who we really are.
Thanks ! For me, the struggle is : But how can I financially sustain myself during those, 5, 10 years of pursuing my passion ? I find myself working at a day job (to pay the bills and, well, food)... But then, have no energy left for what matters... And just, not knowing how to escape this trap :/
Border your work life extensively, and nourish your private life. Real life example, work less hours to feel more grounded to have more time for yourself or do a job with lots of freedom and autonomy. Try to find a workplace that aligns with your values or you probably wont last long. (From my own experience at the moment)
"give yourself time to succeed" i needed to hear this. I was literally weighing the pros and cons of being my own boss vs working at the tech startup i'm at now. I'm actually pretty great at my job but I hate it. With being my own boss, I'm not good at it but I love it. What a predicament.
i used to compare myself to other people, like i want to be a cheerful posiitive or humorous person like used to but now i'm more to be a quite person.. i had personality crisis back then until i found myself being an infp( i tried 4th times) likee wow this is truly i am. Introverted yes (kay never try to be cheerful extroverted girl again) they are creative yes! (this is the only things that i'm proud about myself like whatt i'm webtoon artist!), and i shared my personalities with lady diana goddd couldn't happy anymore
Hi, I was on track to do a Master's and then a Phd at one point in my life but by the end of my Master's I had a big blockage and a burn-out, I noticed that I was not in with my feelings and not motivated for it anymore, I felt only appreciated for my brain and not seen at all for my true self. Even though I could have succeeded, I felt that it was not for me to follow this path with little space for feelings and intuition and creativity. 8 years later I gained some professional experience and got to know myself a little better, even developed some helpful skills over the years that make my life much easier now and I am on may way to educate myself for a career in which can really shine and go with the flow. I am getting there slowly 😃
Yes do not underestimate the length of the journey. I started sharing my art publicly 4 years ago and won my first award in January. If you start to doubt yourself sit down and talk to someone you trust to be honest and unbiased to tell you straight if you are possibly doing better than you think. I’ve had a few times when I’ve hit critical mass and almost thrown in the towel. Anticipate that any creative path will most likely have a lot of financial and emotional ups and downs.
Good luck on making the decision, take your time indeed, a good decision will benefit you so much in life. I took a few months and made a very satisfying and confident decision. Before that i didn't have any idea, but also didn't spend more than 1 hour a week researching, reading, getting experience.
I can dance, I can sing, I can tell stories ! I can do a lot but I haven’t made money out of any of these and I’m studying dental hygiene for my future career. One tip that kept me studying in this field is adding some emotion and purpose as to why I wanna become dental hygienist. I do it because my mum came from a place that didn’t have dentists and dental hygienists and I wanted to be that for her when I was younger. 💕
Thanks Dan for this video. When you say that being smart is a problem, I felt understood. I used to work as a Software Engineer and while my previous team lead said I'm good at it, I still quit my job because I don't feel the desire to level up and be great in that area. I don't feel good with the fact that I can deliver my work just fine because I'm not really feeling it, and others even look down on this trait as unambitious. And the fact that I could do well on many areas are misleading also. Idk but yea, I'm still in the process of retracing myself and skill to find the career I'll be most happy and great in ☺️
Thank you, Dan. This video helped me. The no self-judgment portion was good. I needed to hear that. I have been an RN for 11 years and recently started my own pottery business. I will be done turning my associate's RN into a bachelor's RN in just three short weeks, and going thru this school has been swimming upstream for me. I like it because I love to learn and have a somewhat structured challenge, but the lack of free time for myself and creativity with pottery has been choking the life out of me. I needed to hear what you shared here because it helped me see I am not crazy; I am actually fighting against myself here, and that these are truly the things I need.
I found this to be great advice! I have struggled for years to just accept myself and have made great strides and it is empowering. Also, I found the advice to give yourself time to be true. I struggled with my current position and kept comparing myself with others. I now realize, I learn at my own pace and own way and my boss would have fired me by now if it wasn't working out. Instead of focusing on my highly perfectionist view of where I think I should be (and how I imagine others would be in my position) I have changed my view to it being a journey and each day I learn and if this journey ends then it does and I start another. I too struggled with this idea of "doing what you are great at" because I couldn't find a job "doing what I am great at" (daydreaming isn't considered a job apparently... ;-) ) We live in a world of constraints and I work in a healthcare field surrounded by highly intelligent people in terms of logical and reason (apparently my logic and reason aren't the same). I have started to realize that since there doesn't seem to be many like me in this field, I can bring a different side to it - so it is actually good that I am in this position. I have started to look for ways to be more creative in it and I am lucky that there are some outlets for me. There's not necessarily a "perfect job" for me or a "only one perfect job." It took me years to get into a role like this and all those years gave me the foundation to do it. I do a lot of crafty things at home and that helps me to balance.
OMG!! I watch this video three years later, but in a perfect moment for me! Thank you very much!! I need it a lot! Acceptance without trying hard and judging myself intensely is my real concern ... The other thing I can say as advice to other people is: Never doubt your own abilities! No matter how long it takes you, if you want to improve on something it is because you can do it. Self-confidence is so important that we have to remember it as long as it takes us ... I hope that anyone who is reading works on it and really succeeds! Thanks again and good wishes to all! I'm sorry for my English, I'm from Argentina and we speak Spanish
Fellow INFP here! I had horrible low self esteem until about the age of 30 when I took the Strengthfinders assessment (Strengthfinders 2.0 by Tom Rath) It tells you your natural top 5 God given gifts and encourages focus and development of those 5 so you are fantastic at what you do and LOVE what you do and are not wasting your energy trying to do/be something God did not intend for you to do. We are passionate people- the world needs you/ us!! ❤️😘.
I'm hosting an event for INFPs in Prague this summer. You can watch the video about it here ua-cam.com/video/OaeCtaeSV5E/v-deo.html or read more about it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/Prague2022/
INFP Career Advice from an INFP- don't think of a day job as selling out, but also, when possible, look for a job that supports the pursuits where you find meaning and do your best to avoid day jobs that drain you. I have worked in a call center where I counseled students financially, which was way too draining for me- it gave me the money and time I needed to support myself and my passions but it didn't matter because it totally took my energy (plus it was miserable, even though I am grateful for the social skills, social life, and resilience I gained from it). Now I work in a behind-the-scenes role in higher ed and I'm not like super passionate about transferring credits or anything but it requires just enough critical thinking to be stimulating and offers nice coworkers, good pay and benefits, and takes advantage of my being meticulous, so ultimately I don't feel drained by my 40 hours a week job and have the time, money, AND energy to support my creative passions.
Recently found out I'm an INFP. Now reading related articles and seeing videos made it so easy to understand my "astronomical odd" traits. Eg. Empathy- let alone normal people I empathise my ill wishers and haters even. Like this I often get judged in a wrong way by people. It's a very complicated thing. People don't understand me very well.
I have a plan of making enough money the next couple of years so I can build my own tiny house. And also, I am sick of the fact that infp's only can be artist.
I started painting a s a student art teacher and when i started teaching high school at age 19 i have never looked back . I was told i wasnt good enough but ive kept going with my goal . Ive now reached 74 and still have a long way to go to fulfill my goal. In the meantime ive started classical guitar. Its taken me 3 yrs to feel safe with my beautiful guitar. Its all about relationship with tools. Muscians need time to develop skills and so do painters. This is good . I gave myself ten years to do well with guitar. As a painter i also love working with clay. Sometimes ive had periods of up to 5 yrs without touching a brush. But i live with my paintings around me waiting to move me on to the next steps. Baby steps become giant leaps too! In good time.
1. FOCUS ON ACCEPTING YOURSELF - get over any judgment of yourself 2. FOCUS ON THINGS YOU DO GREAT - as an INFP you tend to know how to learn things so quickly and you adapt very well. This, actually is a good thing but as an INFP, it may result in not so good things. It's gonna be a trade-off between learning other things to be good at it vs doing the things that you're naturally good at to become great at it. 3. GIVE YOURSELF THE TIME TO SUCCEED - accept that pursuing the things you love and aligns with your values might take several years and that shit will happen all the time. it's not a smooth course, so stop comparing yourself to others. Trust in your own pace.
Just discovered today that I am an INFP-T personality.. Right now I'm not entirely sure what to do with that information. I've really been struggling with finding a purpose for my life. Ruminating over and over on what I could do to get the life that I envision for myself. I'm good at a lot of things, but there isn't anything that I can see myself doing for an extended period of time. I'm hoping through learning what my personality type is, that I'll be able to clear some of the haze and get out of this vicious cycle of cynicism, and self-doubt, and boredom. I'm glad that there is a community of like-minded people. I'm looking forward to discovering myself in this new light.
I love photography, writing and acting. Photography, because it allows me to capture a moment in time. It makes me really appreciate all the little things, which I sometimes tend to forget in a world where people seem to compete with time in a race they could never win. It allows me to pause for a while. Also, editing pictures makes me able to envision the world in a different way. It gives me the amazing gift of letting a magical world emerge from a dull, empty place. It makes my imagination turn into something real. I love writing, because it allows me to process my feelings so incredibly well. Writing lets me escape into a different world, which isn’t necessarily better than ours or in any way different. It’s just that it provides me with the insides I am so desperately longing for. I just want to understand the world a little better and see a little more of what is actually out there cause even though we go through the same experiences and see the same things we still perceive it differently. Writing helps me understand all the different angles and depths of human behavior. Acting allows me to witness the world through different eyes. Since I’m really interested in finding out what the world is really about, acting enables me to feel and see the world from a different point of view. It’s like you’re able to live another life and feel things that you’ve never felt before. It’s like entering a new world, where you DO feel fear, but it’s a different kind of fear. By collecting all this different experiences and emotions, I feel like I can see more of what there really is to the world. We all claim to know what ‘being afraid’ feels like, but is that really true? We name emotions, say that we relate to them, but yet our worlds are so entirely different. Art makes me see a different world with different values and different people. It lets me see a different reality. By playing different people and characters I get to experience what it really means to live and die, see and be blinded, run and be thrown back, love and be hated, to see but never really see, feel but never really feel, to understand but never fully understand.
Wow! You gave us a completely new perspective of the world and the activites we seldom indulge in, but, never really care to introspect on how those activities actually bring meaning to our lives. This goes on to show that you are a true INFP. Btw sorry for my bad english. From Another INFP
I'm currently in college pursuing a graphic design degree, and I have found that in almost every class I've taken so far, my professors all agree that I have great skills in the field. But I find that whenever I try to use my illustrations, designs, and ideas to make money instead of just furthering my own knowledge, I lose motivation to create things. I'm only going into my sophomore year, but I'm worried that maybe a career in a creative field might not be for me due to this issue.
This exact things happened to me.. I studied graphic design and went into freelance work, but it didn't last long. as soon as I had to work with clients and put a price on the work I lost all drive and passion for it and became miserable. I am now pursuing a career in music, but I'm dealing with a lot of self doubt, even though I am told constantly how talented I am and to keep going.
My personality test says that I am an artist, and that is true. I keep going back to drawing, or doing something creative, piano for example. So I am working to develop this skill, and hopefully, I will improve.
One of the nicest, and most basic, ways I've heard it put is that the INFP is not the ugly duckling in a group of swans, but rather a swan in a group of ducks. I hope this thought helps bring the peace and understanding it brought me. For the great majority of my life I carried a feeling like I didn't fit in and I was somehow wrong for it.
Oh my god. I'm an INFP, and one of my best friends is also an ENFP like you. It's scary how similar your advice and your words sound. Like, I could see my friend saying the exact same thing to me. It's really fascinating how ENFP's manage to help us in a way that, I think no other personality really could. I'm sure others can too, but there's just something about the ENFP's that makes it 'special'. Like, they kind of understand us??? Naturally???? Or something like that. And loved your video. I always pressure myself because I don't seem to get anywhere in life and honestly, it's frustrating. I'm kind of just wandering around aimlessly sometimes. And I often doubt if what I'm doing now was/is the right choice. But you really encouraged me, thank you.😊
It's easy to say that.But in reality, it's like a burden.I feel like i left behind.My friends are there.And i'm here with my own things.They seemed to know a lot of things.Things that scare me a lot.My cousin seems very ambitious about things.Sometimes i feel a little uncomfortable about that.But then again, maybe i'm just the one who can't get out of your comfort zone.One of my friend seemed annoyed because when she asked me to join competitions together, i refused to go.I feel like i'm letting down people near me.I don't really want to be one of those people pleaser though.But sometimes i do that too.It feels like fake.But i'm scared that they'll hate for what i do.But i feel like i'm suffering just because of that.When i help my friend, i feel like i have to adjust things with my parents.My parents think that my friends were the one that tortures me for some reason.But i know it was just my feeling that i don't want to burden them so i ended up doing things by myself.But when things don't go that well, i asked my parents "how to solve this" because i'm scared i make the wrong move.And somehow it frustates them and they told me to solve it by myself.Since then i never want to ask things unless it is necessarry.I think i'm being too dependent on my parents.So i try not to burden them.I'm scared to tell about i like because it will burden them.Because i'm scared they will tell me " i don't think that it will do good for you.You should be something else".I know they never really say anything like that.But that was the point of what they are saying.It's not like they don't help me with things.They do help.But again when they offer me to do something i like, i refused to tell them.😐😐
celine nadia I know that feeling. When I was a child and an early teenager, all I did was according my parents desires. I've always done all things well, studying a career they would agree with, pleasing them, when I was mad about something I asked them for help, but I found their advice meaningless for me. I wasn't agree with them but I did everything they say I should do. I wasn't happy, I lived for pleasing them, I was excellent but I felt hollow and vain. Now, I'm doing things by myself, I'm exploring and trying to be independent of their opinions. The things I do, the things I like, are so different from the things that they expected for me, and they are disappointed. But I'm happy. I feel bad because I'm disappointing them. But myself is the only thing I have for sure. And I'm not afraid anymore, I know I'm not the perfect son, I don't want to be. It worth more to be myself, to please myself. It's okay to be afraid, but don't let the fear stop you to look for your real desire. Don't be afraid of disappoint people,you can't please everyone.
Hello! I am an INFP, your video is very interesting but I hesitate to buy your book. Does it bring a really new content compared to what it exists on UA-cam or on the internet for free? Good day to you.
Usually I don't like videos that confront me with my career plans, because more often than not I'm just getting anxious about it and start to doubt whether I will be truly happy with the future I'm imagining. This one, however, has mastered the art of INFP-Communication and Advice giving. The result: I love it :)
You can do anything you put your mind to. Don’t let negative INFPs discourage you. You may be uncomfortable at first. But once you get the hang of it you’ll be great.
Rahimunnisa Begum, I disagree with the person who said you’re in an unfit area for work... I observed an ortho surgeon all day today actually and as an INFP male, on my way to become a DPT, I loved every moment of watching him work. I’m personally fascinated by anatomy/physiology. You can put your creativity to work as a surgeon. Also helping ppl and seeing your work after the surgery is completed would be satisfying every time. Good luck on your path.. I’ve thought about going to med school myself. Probably won’t but who knows ;) I’m always changing my mind 😂
I'm in the middle of nowhere in my mid 20's confused and still dreaming I accept it i'm not the one to followe patterns, not me! Got back to writing, I could'nt believe myself the creativity I held back for no reason trying to shut myself and 'get by'. Stop spending time and energy trying to fit into a world you're here to change, that's all folks.
INFP here. Funny that you mentioned sales. I did it, was pretty good at it (even won an award), but I felt like a fish out of water. Kept at it as long as I did because the six figure income was nice. Eventually, though, I recognized how truly miserable I was. Now, at almost 50 years old, I’m wondering who I’m supposed to be. I’m creative, write well, and fit all the other words used to describe INFPs, but I’m truly not the best or close to it, and at my age, it’s difficult competing with those who are younger. I wish I had the time you mentioned in your video, because I believe I could go back to school and be what I was meant to be. However, realistically, I have a family and I need a paycheck. Do you have any recommendations for someone in my situation?
For a begining start doing what you like for a hobby, and see how do you react and feel, after some time you will be more clear about how do you stand with that particular activity and see is there any option of earning through that.
I did the same thing. Worked in sales and did really well but after I had enough savings I realized I hated going to work everyday. I'm trying to figure out what do right now, the problem is as an INFP we have so many interests so it's hard to narrow things down and have hope that I will be able to support myself financially. I hope we can all find success while still being true to who we are.
I second doing things as a hobby on the side to see what you like - whether thats writing, painting, making jewellery/crafty things, clothing etc. You could always use your sales background to sell on Etsy or something then? Or maybe a charity worker - the ones who try to drive up donations? I think INFPs could be good at that if it was for a cause we really cared about, since its one-on-one talk.
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INFP Tip: Trust your Fi, because it's your strongest and most developed function, allow your Ne to inspire you and feel the great emotions of inspiration in your Fi, this will give you energy to actually do things. Don't watch motivational videos that stress HARD WORK, THE GRIND, and NO PAIN NO GAIN. If you're like me these videos will not motivate you but do quite the opposite ( I get exhausted to do work before I have even done any work after watching those videos). Also read the successes of JK. Rowling, Johnny Depp, and Tim Burton because they are INFPs and they have had to overcome the same struggles as you. Johnny Depp claimed that ambition to him was a dirty word, that he wanted to be inspired. Also do not compare yourself to the hard workers that boast about the amount of pain and suffering they went through to get something done, that is not you, if it feels good THAT's when you work harder, and that's what gives you the strength to go through that pain and suffering, that oh so good feeling of doing the work, NOT because you want to overcome difficult challenges through pain, but ultimately because of doing what you love will give you a WONDERFUL feeling, chase that feeling, it's the only thing that will keep an INFP going.
TDLR:
- Fi is your strongest function, trust it.
- Ne will inspire you, Fi will lead you to action.
-You are NOT an ENTJ or ESTJ so you are not driven by hard challenges and accomplishments
you are driven by the feeling of doing what you love. TRUST THAT! and do not compare yourself to other types definition of success, because that type has it's own.
- You are a car not fueled by pain, but fueled by feeling, if you do not put good feelings in your tank you will either never work or you will resent your work.
Bang on! Thanks Pascal!
Pascal J Duverger thanks! those kind of agressive motivational approaches doesn't work well for us.
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Thank you for advice, we sincerely think that you made us be so good.
Pascal J Duverger what is fi and what is ne... what even is all this lol
My biggest struggle is self-acceptance, I'm trying to get there but it's really hard, have a lack of confidence. I like art and writing but not to the point where I would make a career out of that. I love psychology but am literally scared.. still trying to figure everything out
Almina B me too you're not alone!
Me three, I'm an INFP currently working on that stage too. Hopefully one day we'll be able to separate all the fear from the fun!
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Try to accept that it takes time to learn and also that it doesn't matter if you go into something more deeply...take a course..invest you time/money in some way..and its not for you, as you will gain valuable knowledge about yourself and your confidence will grow as your knowledge and experience does! Take his advice and read some books about self confidence and a autobiography of someone you admire. I'm just giving you advice from my own experience of feeling lost in this way earlier in my life! And all though I don't always have it figured out, I feel confident that I will and am always improving myself.
you could try to remember the bad memories of rejection in the past and letting go of it. Because truthfully, you need no acceptance from other people because you are awesome in your own way :)
I alway feel I don’t belong to this world. The world is so harsh and cruel and heartless and emotionless. learning about everything so quickly and also bored easily. I realized I need to work on myself to embrace everything in life. Finally I accepted myself and open up instead of escaping and hiding myself from everything. Thank you!
Ella I’m 22 and this is how I feel :) it’s hard
@@emilywalasek888 yup 26 here and I feel the same way all the time. I don't even know if I am supposed to be here. I just started a really high paying sales job in November and already quit because I was indeed fighting myself every day to be there
Jupiter Fox! I recently left my job as a waitress/bartender because I couldn’t do it anymore. Took time off to get into therapy and build myself back up. I’m still struggling but I’m ready to find work now and think I might eventually go back into acting (a passion of mine) to help build my self confidence and esteem. My problem is that I’m always doubting myself, very self conscious and thinking that everyone hates me, but I know that’s not the truth. Chin up. You’re not alone :)
@@emilywalasek888 wow I wish you the best and thank you for your kind words. I always have this thing out in public where I feel like everyone is watching or judging me and this sales job gave me so much anxiety that I went to therapy for the first time and it was nice to just let everything out to someone who would listen haha. I'm still jobless and I'm looking around for something I'll actually like. I've been through so many jobs out of bordem or just not liking the job and my family thinks something is wrong with me, I thought the same too but I just realized that I am an infp and it's a common thing among them. My goal now is to get a part time job thats tolerable and use my feee time to do photography or work on custom projects (I love working on cars and doing wiring n stuff) and well.... I don't know what else really. 😂 I'm just so lost in this world
Jupiter Fox! Thank you and you are welcome. What helps me is reminding myself that other people are more concerned with and worried about themselves than what I’m doing. It helps to take the pressure off remembering that people probably aren’t paying attention to the little things you do that might make you feel inferior, they’re too busy worrying about what they’re doing. Just gotta take yourself outside of your own head sometimes. We’re all human and we all feel insecure and anxious and embarrassed and silly and regretful and make mistakes. And it’s totally okay. Be kind to yourself. And I’m saying this to you and to me, because I’m human and I feel all of these things sometimes and need reminding. Atm I’m reading self-help books so I can educate myself and utilise tools to build a strong sense of identity, self esteem and confidence. I’ve got books on DBT, CBT, self esteem, anxiety, psychology etc... I recommend Matthew McKay. If you’re interested, look him up and you’ll find a list of his books. Hobbies are good. Do what makes you feel good and good luck with finding a job that suits you :)
My tip is to not be afraid to say no to things that drain you, and to take time out to recharge and regenerate... watching films, listening to music, singing in the bath etc 😊
Awesome tip. Thanks Karen!
Karen Coaching For positive health! I love the singing in the bath hehe ☺️ I should try that :) yay for music!
It sucks being an INFP living with abusive parents because i fall into the trap of depression over and over and it kills my creativity that I know i was born with. Im trying hard to get out but they wont support me in anything that isnt old fashioned and structured. Trying to just "swim up stream" to get away right now so i can figure out where my creativity can best be used.
swingonthespiral you got this! Keep strength :) and hold on to that fire inside, even just a little while you work to get yourself out of that environment :( My Uni is my supportive environment where I feel encouraged and at home :) hm, maybe if you have to study a more structured path for now, your uni might have an animation club or something that can be your outlet :)
I hate mine too. They don’t understand me.
Story of my life
Hey how are you doing?
i was in a abusive friendship where i was bullied and beaten a lot and i could do nothing to get out because i was too nice and didnt have courage to standup for myself. and i will regret that forever but the abuse with parents is different, they care for you although they cant completely understand us and because of that they dont realize that such way of pushing us forward is actually not effective. try to share your feelings when they are being nice and try to make them understand that they are pushing you to negativity instead of helping us move ahead
I feel that INFPs (like myself) struggle with working in a restrictive, sterile work environment. Like you said, INFPs are adaptable, but we will not flourish doing mundane jobs. I've always felt that to succeed, INFPs require plenty of autonomy and ability to be creative. I personally feel that while I'm intensely creative, I often struggle to turn my ideas into actual outputs. I've found that ENFPs are able to get my ideas off the ground very easily. (Many people at my company have completed and shared our MBTI results)
This is so true!! I made a big mistake by working in a bank, i have problems every single week with my managers and i’m so scared I don’t know what to do.
As an infp, as well as a reclusive, Libra artist, I've always escaped into my own dreamlike world in order to feel what I consider normal. For many years, I wanted to be an average person that fit in with the general crowd. In trying to do so, it required exhaustive, award-winning acting. Eventually, I realized it wasn't worth it. I am who I am and my inner world is magical at times... even mesmerizing. I've now learned to see this as a gift and not an alienated state of being, highly misunderstood by society. I'm a cinematic observer, surrounded by overwhelming beauty.
Monika M You should be a writer because just this commentary had me mesmerized, so beautiful. It's the valuing of who we actually are that I find the hardest in being an INFP. It is a person laity type that is so out of step with the aggressive hardass world we live in.
Andrew
award winning acting - omg no wonder why i excelled in drama in high school haha
Yeah I'm a bipolar Libra infp. I want to be a neuropsychiatrist but guess who hates school or rather the way it's set Up lmao #collegesuckspleasekillme
I'm a Libra INFP artist too! It's been really hard to figure out what I want for myself, but I'm going to try to listen to myself. I'm very happy you have found a peace with yourself - it's very inspirational!
I am as well. Throughout the years I’ve grown attached to reading and writing as well as music and drawing. Even though I’m still exercising my self to make what my imagination conjures, real, one day I will do it with ease. I found myself doleful, all because I couldn’t find my way through the crowd, but I’ll find myself some day in some way. I love this comment. It was so beautiful in the littlest ways. I hope you are doing well a year later. I wish you the best in your journey. Thank you for making me feel a little less alone. :)
Don't watch this video before bedtime. I had a nightmare where I was working at a supermarket and someone left a baby for me to watch. I kept misplacing the baby! Once, I found the baby in a half-empty delivery truck. The second time, I found the baby mixed in with the unstocked freight. I even found a room full of other babies, but not mine. Immediately upon awakening, I realized the "baby" was my unntapped gifts and abilities.
Before I read the end of your comment that was going to be my guess :)
Well, shoot. I'm doomed to have a dream just like this, it being 10 at night and me having the stupid, crazy dreams I always have!
INFP here and I too have had dreams of losing babies, LOL.
Wow, interesting dream, could also literally be your baby self you lost, by not nourishing or protecting it in the right way and putting it in the wrong places/spaces or not making enough space for it, also not being able to find it amongst other babys is quite striking, it's like you can see and understand all the other inner babys but not yourself. This could also be connected to how your parents treated you as a smal child...
I’m not trying to sound whiny, but it is really difficult to be an infp. We are such sensitive odd ducks 🦆
Use your intuition, but realize you may not always be able to share it with others.
I noticed that I have a talend for esoteric stuff like Tarot, Astrology, Aura readings and understanding the connection between psyche, brain and body and see the soul of the person in front of me. I used to hide that, but it helped me doing my job as social worker but I was never truly satisfied because I would like to do this openly and also let it come thrpugh much more in my council sessions and have exchanges with other equal minded people and professionals about it, but now I am more confident and doing it more openly. I need practice, later I also want to work self-employed after my own flow. We can do this!!! 🙌✌😇
thank you! this video made me feel better about myself. Being an INFP is kind of hard, cause most of the time we feel like an outcast.
You're welcome Lina!
I feel you
I've never known to be understood feels
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Don't let the "haters" win
Don't let the bastards grind you down
when you do follow this, since we kind of know that instinctively, we thrive when we love what we're doing. It kind of triggers the jealousy of others so when you happen to be not earning well yet with your project, they would scoff at you. If you are earning, they say you don't deserve it because your process to get there didn't look painful. we can't let the haters win or we're gonna go old with them winning and us losing all those years, ending up haters ourselves.
I am an INFP and I am very misunderstood by my parents who obviously are not INFP's. They cannot understand that I want a career that makes a difference and that a dull, boring job that means nothing is worse than death to me. I had to do door-to-door sales and like you said, I had to constantly force myself to do it everyday because it seemed so meaningless. I did it for the money but it was not me. It is so refreshing to hear that somebody actually understands me because I am so different from everyone else it seems. Thank you for doing this video. I wish that I would have known this before because I would have appreciated myself more.
@Anon Artist omg 😂😂😂 relatable. People in my country only care about big jobs such as doctor, engineer, architect, accountant, banker, lawyer and more WHICH ARE BORING TO ME. they only care about big salary! 😥 thanks goodness my parents are okay with my decision to be an author. (But i kinda interested with psychology tho 🙂)
@Anon Artist btw art is life
You said something so key to understanding my experience--about being able to be good at so many things and doing well in a job that may not necessarily give you that "flow" experience. I am an INFP but ended up with a BS in physics and worked 22 years as a physicist/engineer. I did well at it and was highly regarded, and I even convinced myself that I was an INTJ for many years. But something in me was constantly searching within myself as to who I am and what my purpose is (because engineer wasn't IT). I was fortunate to be able financially to retire early (10 years ago) and with that time I have been developing my artistic passion. Now I find myself as an occasional art teacher and even though I do not actively market myself, I do sell a modest amount of paintings! And yes, this development of my artistic self has been taking decades (with more focused study in the last decade), but creativity and art is what creates a flow state for me now. It's wonderful to hear your words and feel validated.
INFP Engineer here. But unlike you I'm autistic also.
LOL, INFP student trying to become an Engineer....I hate it though..
I'm an INFP and i got a music degree and at the same time I still study and my major is mathematics how ironic hahhaha 😔
Your an inspiration!
Stacy Egan help i am the same. Finished a BSc in Physics. It was challenging, Hard, fun , annoying. Now I’m working but I want moreZ.
As an INPF, i actually found in myself that if i stop trying too hard, I make the greatest work (comparing to my other ones). And my growth escalated when I decided that I like myself vulnerable despite of my childhood that reveled in tough love. GOOD LUCK OTHER INFP! LET'S INSPIRE THE WORLD! 😄
Awesome to hear
How do we find employers who will pay us a living wage for pursuing the work that we're truly great at? It seems like many of us XNFPs are naturally artists, and/or we're great at using language. Not many of us have a calling for engineering or programming. It's so discouraging and alienating to feel like the culture doesn't value what we have to give. Thank you for this video!
I actually teach a program called "The Free Freelancer" and about half the people are current or aspiring freelance writers. I believe, if you do it right, you can get paid VERY well for communication skills, especially writing. I talk about it a bit more in this video: ua-cam.com/video/sgJRCp-eRTg/v-deo.html
Yes. The answer is we become our own employers. I feel with current social trends, the internet and social media (which all usually carry many problems for us) opportunities for freelance work and niche businesses are opening up where they were few and far between just 10 years ago and before. We’re told we have to “go to work” because personality types that value that set-up basically run our society. That situation itself is why we sometimes feel so worthless and struggle so much to find our place. We have to realize our own value, but we struggle against that as well since we strenuously avoid being selfish, conceited, or narcissistic. I agree with this video that self-acceptance is key. I’m just getting to that point after over 30 years of misidentifying my strengths as weaknesses. I am just starting to see that “going on my own” is the only way I am going to “build a career” that pays my bills and makes me & others happy.
Working for yourself could be the best option.
Matt Leary I agree100%. And the world needs our original viewpoints and gifts now so much.
Dreams Around The World Thank you I will check it out as well.
This is sooo true. As I recently discovered im an INFP I look back this utterly makes sense. I spent 25 years being an accountant which I was very successful at until chronic stress started affecting my health. I am however very creative and artistic, so at the age of 55 Ive decided to pursue my dream of being a singer and artist. 💙
Spending some time alone in a remote place is what helped me see my potential
I've been quarentined by myself and I don't see any potential 😭
As an INFP myself, I felt like I heard everything I needed to hear. I even cried watching this cuz I was feeling like I had to be a certain type of person that the society demanded just to pay bills and to survive, and I was wondering why I felt like I couldn’t breathe sometimes. Thank you for making this video!!!
You're welcome, Kiara, I'm glad I've helped! :)
I'm an Infp male, my whole life I've been mostly misunderstood and constantly being told what to do and not to do..people don't seem to share my enthusiasm and whenever I try to bring up something new or imaginative I'm always surrounded by people who tell me the right and the wrong do's and don'ts. No matter what when and wherever I'm at the end of the day it is loneliness that's always my friend coz it can't just leave me.
I sometimes see that people are always concerned about their expectations from you and so thats also the point where I firmly believe that you should not let them down even if it means ignoring yourselves. I also have this habit of daydreaming a lot, my head is always in the clouds and therefore I forget the surroundings around me and I'm clumsy by nature (sigh) and although I'm great at setting up schedules and face no problem at it but then again I'm very poor when it comes to implementation. Once I start a particular thing it's quite difficult to get it completed (which is a classic infp behavior).
Lastly to all infps my message to you is don't let the cruelty or darkness of the world lessen your brightness and imagination..we're here for the good of the others, we thrive to help others, if you truly believe that you are here to make a difference in this world then thicken up your skin and no matter whether you re having good time bad time because of a situation or a person remember who you're and your purpose and don't give up!!
Very well said! This is why I've created this new supportive community for idealists. Feel free to check it here: www.dreamsaroundtheworld.com/dreamers/
@@enfp thank you very much
@@ameerasparkle5019 thing is you are not alone always..sorry for replying late but I guess you would know then why 🙃
Thank you for the advice 🌼
OMG. You so nailed the 'you can do good, but at the expense of doing great', and giving ourselves a long runway for making progress. Thank you,. I'm really good at nearly anything I do, but it's very soul-sucking. Never allowed myself the runway to do 'great' work, that I know is in me. Thank you!
This is me. I have written 3 books. I live in the worlds my mind creates. My struggle is never believing I can write better than when I was inspired. It doesn’t seem important when I don’t “feel” it. Thanks for this video. It made me feel better.
Have some compassion for yourself and always go with what you feel is right for you. Don't listen to people, who feel they know what is best for you, no matter how well their intention is. And Please, please, be SELFISH! People will take advantage of our selfless and empathetic nature. Avoid toxic environments and be around positive people. :D. We are prone to depression, so it is good to have a good supportive environment. Don't give into despair and do small tasks everyday leading to your goal. We like to see different possibilities about our future, but sometimes it is good to appreciate our daily progress. You will be more mentally sound because of it.
@Rae Wiltshire - Rae Wiltshire - Thanks. That's appreciated, especially the part about not listening to others who think they know what's best for us.
i am so selfish now after feeling used by people! sometimes it is lonely ,other times i am that much closer to my true self because i have time to be with myself - which is one of the most rewarding experiences of my life
Great advice! ❤️😊
God this was spot on
I know I'm smart and pretty adaptive and that I can do good at many things, I've always felt like I can "fake it" pretty easily, so nobody will notice. But in order of that, I've always had to sacrifice what I really am like, what I really love doing and what comes to me naturally, which is visual art. But as you say, this industry is not really easy to succeed in... I like the idea of giving myself more time to succeed though
Be sure to watch my video why passion pays... Its a better perspective on the visual arts path
Soon I'll be 18, still really lost with a lot of things... I don't know where my passion truly is as I'm always shifting between things I enjoy, and I can't help but feel like I'm running out of time. Everyone around me seems to have their plans figured out and I just feel like I'm moving in slow motion. I can feel this drive in me to do something great, but it's useless when I don't even know where to start... :/
It's exactly what i am feeling now...
I think us INFP tends to compare ourselves with the others. But actually we don't have to. Everyone has their own lane in life that they must go through.
I also have the same feeling as you currently, so I began to watch a lot of inspirational video. One of the things I heard that I really remember is "If you still do not know what's your passion or purpose is, then you haven't tried a lot of things." I thought that makes sense. The less information or experience I know/have, the less chance for me to know what my passion and life purpose is. Even if it's just a small progress in your life, it may be able to lead you somewhere first or discover who you are first. You're still 18, you're young. Don't limit yourself to certain things that you currently doing now, try new things, and who knows, maybe some things might suprise you or sort of like "awaken" your inner talent :D. The more you explore, the more you know. You still have many many opportunities in life. Don't give up, always give yourself a time to improve and remember that there's always people who will be supporting you!
*Sorry my english is not that good
You English is awesome.
The only wrong with waiting to be successful is having to pay the bills.
hahaha! i literally just said that out loud to the video! 😂
gmhefner1 work as a bartender or DJ. It’s fun, and you may get writing inspiration on the job that’ll make you millions
JadedGems INFP bartender here. You encounter many types of people, from idiots to philosophers, everyone’s got a story or joke to tell. It’s definitely an interesting experience to say the least but as I like to think of it, any experience is always GOOD experience
Everyone pays bills. No exceptions. Haha
Ouch. Your comment just kicked me in the balls lol. So so true
ACCEPT YOURSELF!! That is the best advice for any INFP!! I'm 23 and I have just truly accepted myself and find happiness!! It happens, you just gotta work at it :) Give yourself time to succeed!! Thanks for making this dope video!!
Im 23 and I'm just starting to do that. I was trying very hard to force myself to be like everyone else. I'm still climbing out of the hole currently and trying to be my self.
Craig Szymanski i feel as tho crawling out of the hole is nearly impossible, ive finally quit smoking/vaping a month ago, to try to start feeling better and more positive with myself but i feel as tho i just keep falling right back in it with my emotions
We are so confused how to earn money for living🤣🤣😭😭
Expressing our emotions through writing art music also needs everyone's attention but we feel demotivated because lack of self control over our actions can't finish what we started because mind jumps on another thing
I wish I would’ve taken my personality test years ago. Now that I know why I am the way I am, I’d like to believe I can better maneuver my emotions, talents, day dreaming, and sporadic self-inflicted exiles. Life began making a lot more sense once I figured out I’m an INFP, but after being caught in the major negatives of this personality for 30+ years I’m finding it difficult to do what my older sister has been saying since I was a kid. I’m convinced she’s an ENFP. She’s my hero, my biggest advocate, and my best friend. She’s the only one in my family who was ever able to connect with me and level me out from the extreme lows and extreme highs without me feeling skeptical of her motivations.
Thankyou so much! Just discovered, at 40 :(, that I seem to be an INFP. Absolutely everything makes sense. I love and care so much for people but feel so often hurt by them. My life goal seems to be finding someone to really talk to. I seem so slow yet so onto it. Connect with people fast but feel a disconnection along the way often. Feel I am good at everything but master of nothing. Other people get places but I stay just humming along. I love anything out of the ordinary; always seem to be doing things differently to others. So! I am to step back and take time to really focus on what I am good at. Lots of time! Feeling a sense of hope. Thankyou
Chloe Kite. Andrew is my husband :)
Maybe INFP is the group with the most interest in MBTI cuz there is no one understand us.
Quite possibly
Exactly my thoughts
Same thoughts!
Well.... I have a really good INTP friend and believe me. She knows more. Don't fight it.
Fun fact: an INFP made MBTI !!!
As a 31 year old female INFP who has been feeling very unsure of what I want out of life and for my future, and who often feels insecure and kind of a misfit because I don’t share the same goals as most of my peers, I found this video very reassuring and uplifting...thank you! Really appreciated ☺️
You're welcome, Louise! Glad I've helped!
32 year old female INFP-T here...I could have written that myself.
Working at what i love only 15 minutes a day, bigger chunks at the moment scare the bloody daylights out of me. But I don't feel stuck and I don't feel like I'm not doing something I'm passionate about.
Dear Dan,
Thank you so much for this uplifting video. I know how important it is to be positive in life, but I've been studying and writing about not only INFPs but introverts, HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons) and on to more difficult topics like being psychologically and physically abused as a child. I'm beginning to think that because of the general INFP and artist's temperament, we tend to have a harder time growing up. It is not easy to be different, especially as a child. In most cases, children who are INFP don't know that they're INFPs, nor do their parents. I hope this will change and that there will be much more general awareness of Myers-Briggs type in the future. When an INFP child is thrust out into a world they don't fit into, it almost always compounds feelings of hopeless inadequacy, because no one around them understands why they don't behave the way most kids do. It has taken me decades to get to the point where I'm actually beginning to blossom, because my parents, who had to face the same challenges without the benefit of understanding personality types and temperaments, were very hard-nosed, critical and abusive. It is not a simple matter to shrug off the inevitable consequences of child abuse, which is to feel horrible about oneself. Right now, my life is completely focused on healing from this trauma in therapy, which I've been in consistently throughout my adult life. I really think it's very important to impress upon INFPs that they will have to work very hard on themselves in order to even get to the point where they can begin to truly be who they are. And they will have to buck social conventions to do it. The good thing is, as you pointed out, INFP intelligence and perseverance allows us to have the strength to do this.
I hope that the majority of INFPs out there in the world didn't have as bad a time as I did in childhood, but sadly, I suspect this may not be the case. It's so important that INFPs become aware that they're not alone, because we can feel very alone. I hope your work will bring together INFPs who are struggling so that they know they're not alone.
Thank you for sharing your story and insights Miriam! I too hope my work will help. Dan
I am an INFP, a HSP and a Gemini. ;)
There are so many pisces or gemini INFP 🤔, tough these two signs are supposed to be very different
Thank you for sharing, had the same experience with childhood. I am INFP, also HSP , Gemini ,Cancer Cusp...just coming to understand this later in life. I strongly feel there should be education on this in schools. How much pain, and struggle could have been avoided .Always feel so alone until I come across others like you online. Still so much to learn because I still have days where I feel cursed to feel (everything) so intensely compared to others in my community .
I am 21 and just stumbled across mbti and I feel so much more understood and like maybe there is some hope for me after all..
I always was so afraid to disappoint my parents and felt kinda bad for them for having a kid like me, because they compared me to other kids (they were still great parents)
I am extremely introverted and highly sensitive and I never understood why I have so much trouble to hide my feelings :(
When I was 12 I finally was totally depressed, but my family got mad at me, because they thought I am not grateful enough...they couldn't understand that it was more a war about myself and I always appreciated them !
Still living in a small town and trying to master an average life somehow, but feeling guilty for my feelings, because people still ask me if I am depressed or autistic or something.
I always loved to draw but since I have my job, try to work out and also visit my family everyday I end up feeling too tired for this...mbti could be a great opportunity for me to finally grow and accept myself. It's very calming to know that I am not alone in this world :) btw thanks for your story I love all the comments here 💚
Honestly mbti is such a great way to understand the people around you and yourself better I wish I would discovered it earlier (I was typically very naive and thought everyone was the same as me what left me hurt a lot)
Yeah Maybe that is finally the point to start improving myself in the right way :)
(please ignore my bad english I am still learning haha )
This is the best motivational video for INFP I've ever watched! So true and on point! I almost cried. As for work stuff, I worked in sale and it was a NIGHTMARE! Now, I'm a teacher (which I didn't expect at all but it turns out my language skills and creativity are a great asset and I love the process of growing as a teacher) and of course, I'm a wanna be writer :-) As for believing in yourself, I suffered a lot because of self doubt and depression for my whole life- now, I've decided to believe in myself, take my life into my own hands and give myself a chance and TIME to succeed- and for the first time in my life, I'm at peace with my own mind and heart. I'm not sure if that's true happiness but it's the closest I've been to it. I still don't fit in with most people around me but I don't think it's a bad thing any more. I've decided to embrace it.
Thanks Barbara. Awesome to hear you're embracing it
Thank you ; I am an Infp I didnt know what it is until last week and I was amazed about how correct the result was . Finally I got the answer why I am so different . I am a 23 years old studying a subject that I hate which is an industrial engineering. I went through depression because I hate it and I have no friends ; i always felt that I am different than others but I don't know why. I decided that I will follow my passion after my graduation; I will graduate after 1 year and I don't know how the hell I will handle it . Miserable life
Hey man I understand what you're going through, I am doing the same, 23 as well, planning on discovering and following my passion after graduation too. Started out in Software Eng. switched to Comp sci. I have a semester left before I graduate, been feeling confused about what I am going to do after. Life can be difficult and sad at times, but only in moments, life can also be beautiful and inspiring and awesome, we honestly take it for granted, stress about useless crap! Like after I dropped out of eng, I was distraught but I looked at my friends who didn't pursue further education, working jobs out of school. We find a way to make something of our lives, working a job you don't want to(I worked in a call centre), find where your passion in life lies and let it motivate you.
I try to set small goals I can work towards. I spent the whole of this summer just submerging myself in philosophy as a hobby and it is really helping me to accept myself. I only recently found out I was INFP and its made things so clear to me about why I behave the way I do, I understand why I harbour such heavy sentiments of love and peace for the people in my life. My dad once told me once you feel like you've hit rock bottom you can only go up. What you're going through maybe difficult right now but don't lose faith in yourself and in your life!
Feel free to reply to me, I am finding it harder to make new friends and find people who will accept me, but if you ever want to talk feel free to message me, I hope things get better for you, my friend.
Douglas Raymond very similar story to yours. 23 and recently found out I’m an INFP. Graduated on top of my class but didn’t really have direction. Wish I knew this before I hit rock bottom (depression/anxiety/panic attacks/abusive relationship w/ narcissist). Now I’m an accountant for a company that is ranked best top 15 small businesses to work for in Los Angeles and I dislike every minute being there lol life must have purpose for an INFP. Probably will go back to photography/videography.
Im 23 infp studying mba I don't know how I reached here
No motivation,I hate studying,I hate every fake emotions and fake people and I am living with fake life.
I don't know wtf I'm going to do after mba 😑
Same here! INFP studying Process Engineering. Hated the course...but I am trying to write stories and publish it on Wattpad. All the best to you!
Codename Blue Hey you love Cnblue right?? 🤔.. I am 22 rn and I graduated in electronics engineering. I don't know why and how I graduated with good marks 😑. I was planning to go for MBA, what do you think?
A bit of advice for INFPs: When trying to resolve a problem or overcome a difficult or challenging situation, try to imagine what advice you would give a close friend or family member if they were experiencing a similar situation. Believe me this takes lots of practice and patience! INFPs are more empathetic and imaginative others, so it makes sense that this should be a very useful tool for us; using our vivid imaginations and empathy to better ourselves and others :)
The “you can do good” is so accurate i feel like im good at everything or i can be good at everything once i learn but i feel like something is missing perhaps that greatness he’s talking about
You are so wise for your age! Like a sage.
Loved what you said. You've re-affirmed everything I knew when I was 22... I'm 39 now and I have been going against myself and doing the practical thing... I got an MBA, forged a career in advertising and marketing... The journey was great I have to say and so hard but here I am burned out, ashes to the ground. Spat out by the industry I churned in. My 22 year old self looking back at me empathically.
I have no idea where to go from here or how to start a fresh... Have a 3 year old boy and migrated to a new country one year ago. Jobless, underconfidant, layered with Coivd 19 and not dynamic enough for the new world.
I know I have to start small and all over again so the next 10 to 15 years can be fruitful aswell BUT with a deeper meaning attached to it.
I hope the creator of creation can nudge me in the right direction.
Awesome video! Thank you! My piece of advice would be that some of the skills you infps have are so natural to you that you don't even realize the huge inherent value of them, such as being kind, understanding other people's motivations, and gently uplifting others through your ability to see exactly where they're at emotionally and knowing just what to do next. You've got superhero gifts that aren't generally given recognition in our societal upbringing, so recognize those subtle yet powerful things you do that feel second nature to you.
+Jodi Piotrowski so true! People hugely undervalue what comes naturally to them. Great comment!!
Thanks Jodi 😢needed to read that💖 The people who are closest to me and love me for who I am say the same. I've just been so damned hard on myself for not functioning like everyone else, it's been very emotionally and energetically taxing. Discovering that I'm an HSP (highly sensitive person) snd and an INFP has really taught me a lot about myself and that I'm really ok! Yay! Enough comparing already!
Jodi Piotrowski thank you :) I'm so very different from a parent who didn't apreciate that quality, and it lead to me overthinking the natural empathy and care I feel or want to express to those I love.. but learning to go with my first instinct :) hug!
Thank you! God bless you! 💕
Ahh I'm literally crying at this. thanks for the affirmations
I have to admit that I'm REALLY struggling in college because I cannot get my mind to focus for very long on anything that doesn't involve working creatively. I feel like my workload is usually overwhelmingly NOT related to my creative majors, and involve a lot of my biggest weaknesses as an INFP. How can I overcome my struggles and get past these issues in order to move on into the things I am passionate about and enjoy most? As well as avoid burnout?
PaperParade hm are you studying in America? In Australia our degrees are only what our major study area is. Gosh burnout sucks, pace yourself, set time to work on what you must for Uni, and then treat yourself by also setting time for what you love :)
My degree is what my major is, but we have to take general education courses, and where I'm going we are also required to take Bible classes in order to graduate (it's a private Christian college, and it's really strict). I already have two majors and a minor and am working to support myself. It's just a bit too much, but I don't feel I can abandon any of it.
PaperParade My advice would be: please don’t be a perfectionist at the things you don’t like. Really, don’t fall in that trap, it will cost you a lot! Just do whatever it takes to pass the exams and always save time for some creativity, cause that’s your fuel in life!
marry me ahaha
I have been there. Struggled but at the end I have graduated with all that self questioning and reassurance seeking, you can do it like I did!!!!!
Stick with the Plans and try not to get distracted by nice ideas that we go out of the prime path. And finally don't be hard on yourself :) always encourage yourself that you can do it.
you literally just described me to the tee with that sales example. Im an INFP who recently got a job in sales and found that i became pretty good at it relatively fast but it after a couple months i started to feel like shit spending so much of my life doing it, even though i was good at it. I need to be creative and produce ideas and that really stifled that part of me, even though i seemed to adapt to it readily.
I am an INFP with ADHD. Its really difficult for me to focus and I often slip to my fantasy land to escape the reality.
Same here. 52 and just found out the concept of Mediator/infp-t after a rough life. The next 52 wil be more harmonious
I like the tip of giving yourself time, I can accept that more that being told maybe you won't ever get there, that just kills my soul man.
Of course of course!
@rocky mountain lass Not true. People arrive, and when they do they find that they need to find another place.
I’m and INFP. I still don’t know what I want to be and I’m 31 😭
What are you most good at/passionate about?
I honestly feel this so much 🙃
Omg same!!! It gets so confusing at times...like so much we can do yet so hard to decide what exactly!!
@@auroraint.7156 I am 30, and soon getting married in coming Jan, but I still don't know what i should do for a living, i tried some office jobs, they just don't work, I am not driven by promoting or earning more money
Im 33 and still don’t know what to do career wise !
I haven't heard this kind advice in quite sometime your words have shaken the the window's of my heart... meaning where all my treasures have been closed!
Awesome amazing thank you for your words!
personally, as a INFP I feel so different from my family and friends. and when I ask for advice such as what career should I follow, they usually tell things that usually feel that were not for me. but after those advice I feel that I'm not alone in this and that I can find something that I like and should follow it.
Thanks
Stay your course! You have probably already proven to yourself in your lifetime that you are capable of doing great things so dont let things bring you down so easily, and don't doubt your ability to do so! Never sacrifice your morals and above all else trust your gut feeling. Love the video. Just discovering all this at 32 so its never to late!
I don't have any proof for jobs, but I agree with this. I work as a florist, study programming, but what really makes me feel good is listening to music, singing, writing my own songs, thinking about stories (building up my big (dark)fantasy/adventure/action/comedy story). Feelings and imagination are important parts of my life.
I can't say I'm satisfied with my life, but I'm trying my best to find what I really want to do.
Thank you so much for this video! Really helped ☺️ infps feel that they can never be or do good enough so they have a tendency of shying away and beating themselves up knowing we could "always do better". That's a downside of being an INFP, we're idealistic which makes it mearly impossible for things to live up to par in our mind. It can be a dangrous road cause entailing with the 'i' part of you, INFPs can endangered themselves by hermiting away cause the bad and unideal actions in the world can become overwhelming, frightening, too much for your good heart and morals to stand. That is something I'm currently trying to break from. I keep telling myself it's ok if things aren't a 10/10 , maybe they're a 6/10! Learn to accept that it's a 6, figure out how or if you can turn it into a 7 but even if you can't just learn to be content with imperfection sometimes and keep being you. The world needs more good willed idealists, you may think you're not enough but the people who you let know you will say otherwise.
Thanks again for the video! Keep on keeping on 😁 Peace be with you ✌️
Shalom 🕊️
An an INFP author and poet I needed this... big time
Thanks, Dan. I'm an INFP. Loved your video! Just one little suggestion: I think it would be better to do videos without sunglasses. I know it's not an actual conversation, But still, it would be nicer to have some eye contacts. :)
+Chen .Chen I tried but the sun that morning was impossible! Don't worry, whenever I can the sunglasses are off.
This video should be our morning ritual!
Most INFP advice videos (probably all personality-advice videos) focus on our flaws, weaknesses and how we can fix them. That may be helpful but we tend to take this kind of talking quite personally and in the end, we're most likely to stare at the ceiling, imagining our way forward.
Now this video? It instantly makes you smile 'cause it embraces you with positivity! Sometimes I get the feeling from INFPS (myself included) that we're really good at analyzing our weakness but not spend enough time recognizing possibilities through our strengths. And I do believe that we have unimaginable possibilities, which is huge if you think about the level of our imagination.
So dream big, trust yourself first, follow your instincts and I'm sure I'm gonna know all your names one day and feel inspired by you!
Good luck!
I've basically been doing exactly what you are saying not to do...thank you for this video. I'm once again coming back to what I want to do, and it was nice just hearing someone say that it's OK if it takes years to get to where they want to be. It was just really encouraging to hear that.
Absolutely! I'll be doing more videos around this idea in the future. Good things take time! I filmed this in Italy a few weeks ago on the topic as well :) ua-cam.com/video/9baEkbGngnA/v-deo.html
Jennifer Curasco I am 29 and finally in my last year of my bachelor studying things I love :) animation and game design, with digital drawing dancing and language learning on the side for fun hehe :) I gave up giving myself a time frame, have finally accepted 'life long learning' and that, my journey may be the scenic route, but it's ever so scenic ;) hehe, enjoy and follow what you love :)
Thank you so much. i'm having hard time in accepting myself, i keep arguing with myself and compared myself with others in a such extent lead me into depression. watching this really motivated me
Great the hear it helped
Just came across this video, thanks for the good insight
I really struggle as an INFP and I've known I'm an INFP for a few years but I didn't recognize that maybe being different from the rest of the mold of society is why I often feel so lonely and unsatisfied.
I'm really struggling. I have to be able to pay bills and support myself (I'm 25) but I want to be able to do what I love. But the things I'm drawn to- music, poetry, acting, writing, psychology- just don't pay much so I'm feeling like I have to force myself to try to fit into a career I don't belong in to get by while trying to do what I love on the side in my spare time. I got discouraged and just stopped trying. But this video really helped me. I don't want to waste anymore time not doing what I love because of fear of failure. I often assume I will fail and don't even give myself a chance.
The first one is so true! I learned to accept myself and appreciate my strengths and ignore what people say about my flaws/things that people don't like about me.
I am an INFP and I love to do everything. I WANT TO DO EVERYTHING!! it's really hard to narrow down to 1 or 2 things that I want to focus on. And I am going crazy. It is really hard to find a career path where you want to do what ever you like and whenever you like it 😂
I an an INFP and I would love to work at Pixar as an animator, expressing emotion, art, typical INFP stuff, my inner struggle is though, that working at ANY place I won't realize my own stories in my mind and create my own imaginative vision. I'm at apoint where that isn't as much of a struggle anymore since I have to pay bills but ultimately I DON'T want to work on someone else's story and vision for the rest of my life but to realize my own and bring that to reality, I doubt Pixar will give me the shot but it's close enough so I'll take it for now. And for me to say I'll take it for now takes alot since I used to fear working period because I thought it was the death of my dreams, so at least I'm willing to work now.
You may find it a very inspiring environment that will help train you (practically and mind) for telling your own stories. On the other hand, there has never been an easier time in history than now to go at it alone in a creative field. Either way, be an absolute minimalist with how you spend money and you'll maximise your options and freedom!
This is precisely why I (INFP) didn't choose to pursue a degree in architecture. The designing and creating is fun and challenging but the part where you have to constantly implement others' ideas in your work in order to pay the bills is a harsh reality... I guess it's important to do your own projects on the side. There's a solution to everything!
This is what I'm afraid of. I just got into a bachelor of animation, and I also want to be able to develop my own individual concepts as well as pay the bills. It's a very stressful situation to be in, I know the feeling.
Good luck getting into pixar! I have every faith you'll have what it takes 😁
@@kaderakpinar1062 totally agreed. I was an architect. It was fun and creative at school. However, in reality, architects' job are basically project management and documentation jobs. The creative side is only very little. I quit and now I've dedicated to be a comic illustrator. It is so much better. I found my passion in creating again.
Thanks, now I kinda know why I’m so depressed in recent years. I always wanna be able to follow what the society wants me to do, and that makes me feel like I’m empty and that I can fade or disappear anytime I dare. I often see no point of living at all, I don’t understand why I am eating, sleeping or breathing. The only way I can feel better is to go see a movie or to have a vivid dream. For God’s sake I can’t even speak fluently and I’ve been trying so hard to improve it so that I can at least be more ‘acceptable’ for the society.
Hi wjkfy rotik: it will get better. Step by step. The struggle is real and part of the INFP journey. Unfortunately but in some ways also fortunately. You see more than others, use that skill in a creative way.
you are not alone. I found it difficult to speak in a small room. That is why I hate meeting because I could not find anything appropriate to say.
This is so true! I really felt that when you said that I could be able to do a lot of things, because it’s easy for me to learn new things and I can easily adapt. My high school teachers used to tell me that I shouldn’t choose Literature and Linguistics as my major, because “I have a good brain” - but I did it anyway.😂
I actually want to be a fiction writer. Sadly, the fiction novels/stories’ value is not really recognized in the academic field, but I think this genre has a lot of potential
Thank you, mate. It was good to read this today. Learning to accept yourself is actually a difficult thing to achieve, when really it should easy. We beat ourselves up far to often when we should actually be accepting of who we really are.
I had to stop for a moment so that I wouldn't cry. It felt like someone finally got me.
Thanks !
For me, the struggle is : But how can I financially sustain myself during those, 5, 10 years of pursuing my passion ? I find myself working at a day job (to pay the bills and, well, food)... But then, have no energy left for what matters... And just, not knowing how to escape this trap :/
Patience
Border your work life extensively, and nourish your private life. Real life example, work less hours to feel more grounded to have more time for yourself or do a job with lots of freedom and autonomy. Try to find a workplace that aligns with your values or you probably wont last long. (From my own experience at the moment)
"give yourself time to succeed" i needed to hear this. I was literally weighing the pros and cons of being my own boss vs working at the tech startup i'm at now. I'm actually pretty great at my job but I hate it. With being my own boss, I'm not good at it but I love it. What a predicament.
i used to compare myself to other people, like i want to be a cheerful posiitive or humorous person like used to but now i'm more to be a quite person.. i had personality crisis back then until i found myself being an infp( i tried 4th times) likee wow this is truly i am. Introverted yes (kay never try to be cheerful extroverted girl again) they are creative yes! (this is the only things that i'm proud about myself like whatt i'm webtoon artist!), and i shared my personalities with lady diana goddd couldn't happy anymore
Hi, I was on track to do a Master's and then a Phd at one point in my life but by the end of my Master's I had a big blockage and a burn-out, I noticed that I was not in with my feelings and not motivated for it anymore, I felt only appreciated for my brain and not seen at all for my true self. Even though I could have succeeded, I felt that it was not for me to follow this path with little space for feelings and intuition and creativity. 8 years later I gained some professional experience and got to know myself a little better, even developed some helpful skills over the years that make my life much easier now and I am on may way to educate myself for a career in which can really shine and go with the flow. I am getting there slowly 😃
Yes do not underestimate the length of the journey. I started sharing my art publicly 4 years ago and won my first award in January. If you start to doubt yourself sit down and talk to someone you trust to be honest and unbiased to tell you straight if you are possibly doing better than you think. I’ve had a few times when I’ve hit critical mass and almost thrown in the towel. Anticipate that any creative path will most likely have a lot of financial and emotional ups and downs.
Thanks Dan! I'm an INFP in my early twenties and struggle with finiding the right career for me. Great advice!
+riceballgurl you're very welcome. Dont rush things, you have all the time in the world!
Good luck on making the decision, take your time indeed, a good decision will benefit you so much in life. I took a few months and made a very satisfying and confident decision. Before that i didn't have any idea, but also didn't spend more than 1 hour a week researching, reading, getting experience.
I can dance, I can sing, I can tell stories ! I can do a lot but I haven’t made money out of any of these and I’m studying dental hygiene for my future career. One tip that kept me studying in this field is adding some emotion and purpose as to why I wanna become dental hygienist. I do it because my mum came from a place that didn’t have dentists and dental hygienists and I wanted to be that for her when I was younger. 💕
Thanks Dan for this video. When you say that being smart is a problem, I felt understood. I used to work as a Software Engineer and while my previous team lead said I'm good at it, I still quit my job because I don't feel the desire to level up and be great in that area. I don't feel good with the fact that I can deliver my work just fine because I'm not really feeling it, and others even look down on this trait as unambitious. And the fact that I could do well on many areas are misleading also. Idk but yea, I'm still in the process of retracing myself and skill to find the career I'll be most happy and great in ☺️
Carat Noona So I was scrolling through comments and I saw yours. Stopped by just to say "Hi, Unni have a great day"...
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Thank you, Dan. This video helped me. The no self-judgment portion was good. I needed to hear that. I have been an RN for 11 years and recently started my own pottery business. I will be done turning my associate's RN into a bachelor's RN in just three short weeks, and going thru this school has been swimming upstream for me. I like it because I love to learn and have a somewhat structured challenge, but the lack of free time for myself and creativity with pottery has been choking the life out of me. I needed to hear what you shared here because it helped me see I am not crazy; I am actually fighting against myself here, and that these are truly the things I need.
I found this to be great advice! I have struggled for years to just accept myself and have made great strides and it is empowering. Also, I found the advice to give yourself time to be true. I struggled with my current position and kept comparing myself with others. I now realize, I learn at my own pace and own way and my boss would have fired me by now if it wasn't working out. Instead of focusing on my highly perfectionist view of where I think I should be (and how I imagine others would be in my position) I have changed my view to it being a journey and each day I learn and if this journey ends then it does and I start another.
I too struggled with this idea of "doing what you are great at" because I couldn't find a job "doing what I am great at" (daydreaming isn't considered a job apparently... ;-) ) We live in a world of constraints and I work in a healthcare field surrounded by highly intelligent people in terms of logical and reason (apparently my logic and reason aren't the same). I have started to realize that since there doesn't seem to be many like me in this field, I can bring a different side to it - so it is actually good that I am in this position. I have started to look for ways to be more creative in it and I am lucky that there are some outlets for me. There's not necessarily a "perfect job" for me or a "only one perfect job." It took me years to get into a role like this and all those years gave me the foundation to do it. I do a lot of crafty things at home and that helps me to balance.
Thanks Christina
OMG!!
I watch this video three years later, but in a perfect moment for me! Thank you very much!! I need it a lot! Acceptance without trying hard and judging myself intensely is my real concern ... The other thing I can say as advice to other people is: Never doubt your own abilities! No matter how long it takes you, if you want to improve on something it is because you can do it. Self-confidence is so important that we have to remember it as long as it takes us ... I hope that anyone who is reading works on it and really succeeds! Thanks again and good wishes to all! I'm sorry for my English, I'm from Argentina and we speak Spanish
He almost got me convinced that im great..
😂
Fellow INFP here! I had horrible low self esteem until about the age of 30 when I took the Strengthfinders assessment (Strengthfinders 2.0 by Tom Rath)
It tells you your natural top 5 God given gifts and encourages focus and development of those 5 so you are fantastic at what you do and LOVE what you do and are not wasting your energy trying to do/be something God did not intend for you to do. We are passionate people- the world needs you/ us!! ❤️😘.
I'm hosting an event for INFPs in Prague this summer. You can watch the video about it here ua-cam.com/video/OaeCtaeSV5E/v-deo.html or read more about it here: www.DreamsAroundTheWorld.com/Prague2022/
INFP Career Advice from an INFP- don't think of a day job as selling out, but also, when possible, look for a job that supports the pursuits where you find meaning and do your best to avoid day jobs that drain you. I have worked in a call center where I counseled students financially, which was way too draining for me- it gave me the money and time I needed to support myself and my passions but it didn't matter because it totally took my energy (plus it was miserable, even though I am grateful for the social skills, social life, and resilience I gained from it). Now I work in a behind-the-scenes role in higher ed and I'm not like super passionate about transferring credits or anything but it requires just enough critical thinking to be stimulating and offers nice coworkers, good pay and benefits, and takes advantage of my being meticulous, so ultimately I don't feel drained by my 40 hours a week job and have the time, money, AND energy to support my creative passions.
Thank you so much for the advice and videos. They really helped me.
To INFPs: do one thing at a time and do well :)
Thanks Clara!
Clara Lin haha it took me years to realise that, and just stopped overloading my study to focus on one study passion for now hehe
Recently found out I'm an INFP. Now reading related articles and seeing videos made it so easy to understand my "astronomical odd" traits.
Eg. Empathy- let alone normal people I empathise my ill wishers and haters even. Like this I often get judged in a wrong way by people.
It's a very complicated thing. People don't understand me very well.
I have a plan of making enough money the next couple of years so I can build my own tiny house.
And also, I am sick of the fact that infp's only can be artist.
I started painting a s a student art teacher and when i started teaching high school at age 19 i have never looked back . I was told i wasnt good enough but ive kept going with my goal . Ive now reached 74 and still have a long way to go to fulfill my goal. In the meantime ive started classical guitar. Its taken me 3 yrs to feel safe with my beautiful guitar. Its all about relationship with tools. Muscians need time to develop skills and so do painters. This is good . I gave myself ten years to do well with guitar. As a painter i also love working with clay. Sometimes ive had periods of up to 5 yrs without touching a brush. But i live with my paintings around me waiting to move me on to the next steps. Baby steps become
giant leaps too! In good time.
1. FOCUS ON ACCEPTING YOURSELF - get over any judgment of yourself
2. FOCUS ON THINGS YOU DO GREAT - as an INFP you tend to know how to learn things so quickly and you adapt very well. This, actually is a good thing but as an INFP, it may result in not so good things. It's gonna be a trade-off between learning other things to be good at it vs doing the things that you're naturally good at to become great at it.
3. GIVE YOURSELF THE TIME TO SUCCEED - accept that pursuing the things you love and aligns with your values might take several years and that shit will happen all the time. it's not a smooth course, so stop comparing yourself to others. Trust in your own pace.
Just discovered today that I am an INFP-T personality.. Right now I'm not entirely sure what to do with that information. I've really been struggling with finding a purpose for my life. Ruminating over and over on what I could do to get the life that I envision for myself. I'm good at a lot of things, but there isn't anything that I can see myself doing for an extended period of time. I'm hoping through learning what my personality type is, that I'll be able to clear some of the haze and get out of this vicious cycle of cynicism, and self-doubt, and boredom. I'm glad that there is a community of like-minded people. I'm looking forward to discovering myself in this new light.
To my other infps. I love u. Godspeed lmao
I love photography, writing and acting. Photography, because it allows me to capture a moment in time. It makes me really appreciate all the little things, which I sometimes tend to forget in a world where people seem to compete with time in a race they could never win. It allows me to pause for a while. Also, editing pictures makes me able to envision the world in a different way. It gives me the amazing gift of letting a magical world emerge from a dull, empty place. It makes my imagination turn into something real. I love writing, because it allows me to process my feelings so incredibly well. Writing lets me escape into a different world, which isn’t necessarily better than ours or in any way different. It’s just that it provides me with the insides I am so desperately longing for. I just want to understand the world a little better and see a little more of what is actually out there cause even though we go through the same experiences and see the same things we still perceive it differently. Writing helps me understand all the different angles and depths of human behavior. Acting allows me to witness the world through different eyes. Since I’m really interested in finding out what the world is really about, acting enables me to feel and see the world from a different point of view. It’s like you’re able to live another life and feel things that you’ve never felt before. It’s like entering a new world, where you DO feel fear, but it’s a different kind of fear. By collecting all this different experiences and emotions, I feel like I can see more of what there really is to the world. We all claim to know what ‘being afraid’ feels like, but is that really true? We name emotions, say that we relate to them, but yet our worlds are so entirely different. Art makes me see a different world with different values and different people. It lets me see a different reality. By playing different people and characters I get to experience what it really means to live and die, see and be blinded, run and be thrown back, love and be hated, to see but never really see, feel but never really feel, to understand but never fully understand.
Wow! You gave us a completely new perspective of the world and the activites we seldom indulge in, but, never really care to introspect on how those activities actually bring meaning to our lives. This goes on to show that you are a true INFP. Btw sorry for my bad english.
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I'm currently in college pursuing a graphic design degree, and I have found that in almost every class I've taken so far, my professors all agree that I have great skills in the field. But I find that whenever I try to use my illustrations, designs, and ideas to make money instead of just furthering my own knowledge, I lose motivation to create things. I'm only going into my sophomore year, but I'm worried that maybe a career in a creative field might not be for me due to this issue.
This exact things happened to me.. I studied graphic design and went into freelance work, but it didn't last long. as soon as I had to work with clients and put a price on the work I lost all drive and passion for it and became miserable. I am now pursuing a career in music, but I'm dealing with a lot of self doubt, even though I am told constantly how talented I am and to keep going.
My personality test says that I am an artist, and that is true. I keep going back to drawing, or doing something creative, piano for example. So I am working to develop this skill, and hopefully, I will improve.
Pisces sun Aries moon INFP : do it because ur gonna be dead one day and it’s very important u do what u feel pushed to do
One of the nicest, and most basic, ways I've heard it put is that the INFP is not the ugly duckling in a group of swans, but rather a swan in a group of ducks. I hope this thought helps bring the peace and understanding it brought me. For the great majority of my life I carried a feeling like I didn't fit in and I was somehow wrong for it.
I came out infp, i dont like labels but hey haha
Oh my god. I'm an INFP, and one of my best friends is also an ENFP like you. It's scary how similar your advice and your words sound. Like, I could see my friend saying the exact same thing to me. It's really fascinating how ENFP's manage to help us in a way that, I think no other personality really could. I'm sure others can too, but there's just something about the ENFP's that makes it 'special'. Like, they kind of understand us??? Naturally???? Or something like that.
And loved your video. I always pressure myself because I don't seem to get anywhere in life and honestly, it's frustrating. I'm kind of just wandering around aimlessly sometimes. And I often doubt if what I'm doing now was/is the right choice. But you really encouraged me, thank you.😊
Thank you
It's easy to say that.But in reality, it's like a burden.I feel like i left behind.My friends are there.And i'm here with my own things.They seemed to know a lot of things.Things that scare me a lot.My cousin seems very ambitious about things.Sometimes i feel a little uncomfortable about that.But then again, maybe i'm just the one who can't get out of your comfort zone.One of my friend seemed annoyed because when she asked me to join competitions together, i refused to go.I feel like i'm letting down people near me.I don't really want to be one of those people pleaser though.But sometimes i do that too.It feels like fake.But i'm scared that they'll hate for what i do.But i feel like i'm suffering just because of that.When i help my friend, i feel like i have to adjust things with my parents.My parents think that my friends were the one that tortures me for some reason.But i know it was just my feeling that i don't want to burden them so i ended up doing things by myself.But when things don't go that well, i asked my parents "how to solve this" because i'm scared i make the wrong move.And somehow it frustates them and they told me to solve it by myself.Since then i never want to ask things unless it is necessarry.I think i'm being too dependent on my parents.So i try not to burden them.I'm scared to tell about i like because it will burden them.Because i'm scared they will tell me " i don't think that it will do good for you.You should be something else".I know they never really say anything like that.But that was the point of what they are saying.It's not like they don't help me with things.They do help.But again when they offer me to do something i like, i refused to tell them.😐😐
celine nadia I know that feeling. When I was a child and an early teenager, all I did was according my parents desires. I've always done all things well, studying a career they would agree with, pleasing them, when I was mad about something I asked them for help, but I found their advice meaningless for me. I wasn't agree with them but I did everything they say I should do. I wasn't happy, I lived for pleasing them, I was excellent but I felt hollow and vain. Now, I'm doing things by myself, I'm exploring and trying to be independent of their opinions. The things I do, the things I like, are so different from the things that they expected for me, and they are disappointed. But I'm happy. I feel bad because I'm disappointing them. But myself is the only thing I have for sure. And I'm not afraid anymore, I know I'm not the perfect son, I don't want to be. It worth more to be myself, to please myself. It's okay to be afraid, but don't let the fear stop you to look for your real desire. Don't be afraid of disappoint people,you can't please everyone.
This is the life of an INFP. Reading your story, know you aren't alone. (:
@@CarlosPerez-kq2pb thank you for sharing, feels like i read my own story :')
My most significant advice is to trust your intuition. We have to walk our own path and out Intuition is more than ready & to be our guide.
Hello!
I am an INFP, your video is very interesting but I hesitate to buy your book.
Does it bring a really new content compared to what it exists on UA-cam or on the internet for free?
Good day to you.
Usually I don't like videos that confront me with my career plans, because more often than not I'm just getting anxious about it and start to doubt whether I will be truly happy with the future I'm imagining.
This one, however, has mastered the art of INFP-Communication and Advice giving. The result: I love it :)
Thanks Markus :)
I'm an INFP and I want to be a surgeon~ lol.
You may like the idea and feel inspired by it but damn, you're in for a VERY unfit work environment for infp
all in all, MBTI is not that deep. if you know what you want, do it
You can do anything you put your mind to. Don’t let negative INFPs discourage you. You may be uncomfortable at first. But once you get the hang of it you’ll be great.
Rahimunnisa Begum, I disagree with the person who said you’re in an unfit area for work...
I observed an ortho surgeon all day today actually and as an INFP male, on my way to become a DPT, I loved every moment of watching him work. I’m personally fascinated by anatomy/physiology. You can put your creativity to work as a surgeon. Also helping ppl and seeing your work after the surgery is completed would be satisfying every time. Good luck on your path.. I’ve thought about going to med school myself. Probably won’t but who knows ;) I’m always changing my mind 😂
INFP are great healers, nothing comes easy, so if that’s your purpose and calling,,, go for it
I'm in the middle of nowhere in my mid 20's confused and still dreaming
I accept it i'm not the one to followe patterns, not me!
Got back to writing, I could'nt believe myself the creativity I held back for no reason trying to shut myself and 'get by'.
Stop spending time and energy trying to fit into a world you're here to change, that's all folks.
INFP here. Funny that you mentioned sales. I did it, was pretty good at it (even won an award), but I felt like a fish out of water. Kept at it as long as I did because the six figure income was nice. Eventually, though, I recognized how truly miserable I was. Now, at almost 50 years old, I’m wondering who I’m supposed to be. I’m creative, write well, and fit all the other words used to describe INFPs, but I’m truly not the best or close to it, and at my age, it’s difficult competing with those who are younger. I wish I had the time you mentioned in your video, because I believe I could go back to school and be what I was meant to be. However, realistically, I have a family and I need a paycheck. Do you have any recommendations for someone in my situation?
For a begining start doing what you like for a hobby, and see how do you react and feel, after some time you will be more clear about how do you stand with that particular activity and see is there any option of earning through that.
I did the same thing. Worked in sales and did really well but after I had enough savings I realized I hated going to work everyday. I'm trying to figure out what do right now, the problem is as an INFP we have so many interests so it's hard to narrow things down and have hope that I will be able to support myself financially. I hope we can all find success while still being true to who we are.
How do we do it? :( sometimes I want to kill myself
I second doing things as a hobby on the side to see what you like - whether thats writing, painting, making jewellery/crafty things, clothing etc. You could always use your sales background to sell on Etsy or something then? Or maybe a charity worker - the ones who try to drive up donations? I think INFPs could be good at that if it was for a cause we really cared about, since its one-on-one talk.
I’m an INFP man, coupled with being a Cancer and Virgo rising. Life is a fun ride to say the least.