@@laobok nah we don't hate you. We just want you to feel how hard it is to have a woman's physiology so you don't act all inconsiderate towards your spouse and women in general because "wOmEn hAVe tHinGs eAsyYyy"
Kenzi ! Then he shouldnt be in the room. But the meaning of the quote is that the husband should voluntarily want to be in the room with his wife. Unless, of course, the wife diagrees.
I love this 50's housewife, Mad Men vibe. I like how they spoke. People sounded like they had accents back then. Edit: this was in Australia (duh). Lol
Looks like men had more of a sense of unity than women did. But then again in those times women were taught to be private, reserved, never talk about themselves and always look beautiful. I understand that they could feel uncomfortable when seen so "imperfect" in such tremendous situation. My wife said "you were present while making, you're present when waters breaking" 😄 bit scary for the man but it is unity indeed and such a beautiful moment when a man can ease the pain of his wife bringing their child to the world by being with her.
women were ashamed of their bodies a lot more then. this question was pretty much like "Do you want to have a close-up look at your wife's vagina giving birth?" Women say no and the men say sure it's fine, or they're also a little bit grossed out by it. That's a big part of the debate no one spells out. Men weren't that opposed to it, they were mostly not physically allowed into the room.
I mean who could blame them really? If you really think about it it us really a private and embarrassing moment for a lady. I will have my husband and those who are delivering and that is it.
i mean I wouldn't really want anyone watching me shitting myself while ripping my body open to plop out a blood covered little human while sweating and screaming like a maniac. Awful enough the nurses have to be there
I think the doctor was looking for nicest possible way to say they don't like to deal with nervous husbands in the delivery room with all going on there already.
In the video about the white Australia policy they zoom in some Chinese kids in the background whilst some women is talking about how Australia should remain 99% white
Love the old guy who actually thinks about asking his wife if SHE would be comfortable with him there and then says he would prefer it if he could. Now that's applaudable.
Renu Thakur I’m a woman, and I was waiting for someone to feel the day way as I do hahaha I’m comfortable with it, but definitely depends on the partner as well (some may not like to see blood)
@@killerkitten7534 shes probably more excited to see a camera and mic. Back then people were really wow'd by this kind of stuff because of how new it was
Rain Blooms I thought his answer was perfect. Personal preference. My husband was present for the births of our children but he remained fixed at my head. I was happy to have a hand to squeeze and shirt collar to grab! 😂
As a father, I was delighted to bring my children into the world with my wife. We both got to hold our children, welcome them, hear their little cries. A man should witness his children being born. I felt like a father that day.
@@billf7062 its not even close to being the same as actually witnessing your child enter this world. my father was present for my birth and was unfortunately travelling for work purposes for my brother's birth and to this day he says his number one regret in life is not being there to see my brother take his first breath. he's also much closer to me
Yes! I thought the exact same thing! It all depends on both parents making the decision together. And I couldn't imagine a couple deciding against him being present today. I certainly wanted to be there and my now-wife wanted it, too.
Yeah if he's afraid of blood or not going to be supportive why have him there? Also many women went them out in response to pain or lack of privacy and also the opposite. But I do really think it helps many men engage with their children. Whether they see the birth part or not certainly they should be with them for the day.
Yeah. Like the real problem was all the marriages of dubious consent in that era and the fact that men often weren't allowed in the birthing room if they wanted to.
Being present at birth, does not mean, you have to stare into the wormhole while it is doing its magic, or does it? Just stand beside your woman and hold her hand, ffs.
My husband saw more than I did. The doctor asked if we wanted a mirror to see and we both said yes but I didn't have my contacts or glasses so I really didn't see much.
Wormhole?! Lol 🤣.. I mean if you are already there, why miss out on watching your own kid being born with the woman you are about to raise a kid with. If she can push a human out of her after growing it for 9 months, the dude can watch. It is just birth, a totally natural thing.. it is not scary lol. If he can't watch birth how is he going to handle projectile shit and vomit from a baby monster lol.
Yeah but he still can see all the blood and mucus and placenta coming out anyway. He will also be asked if he wants to cut the umbilical cord, which, according to my husband, feels like trying to cut a thick, slimy rubber band. But that’s ok too. He thought that at that moment “everything felt natural”.
Anona Meows It’s not really about if the man can handle it or not. It’s about the woman, giving birth is already hard enough without your man looking at it. Just hold her hand if thats what she wants.
"Wormhole" What a choice of words. Imagining babies coming out of stark trek wormhole now. We all know it's a blackhole, it sucks happiness and gives debt.
Well they're not debating, they're sharing their opinion, they don't get to hear the other's opinion, they're not even talking to each other, its just one person talking to the host. This was the age of segregation, these racists clowns had no problem putting others down.
sounds like a stretch to assume a correlation between freedom of expression and political ongoings. There were taboos then and there will be today. Much like bad actors or your "racist clowns" that give a lot of 'muricans a bad look.
@@sumkindacheeto I was actually making commentary on the original comment, OP trying to be woke and spread faux positivity by saying "they expressed their opinions without shaming one another for them." When in fact, they didn't hear anyone's opinion, they just expressed their own to the host. It's more of a stretch to assume they would not shame each others opinions.
and back then you didn't really marry for love and even if you did, it was still common to beat and rape your wife... some of them probably weren't that fond of their husband.
@Josh: OMG, that comment made me cringe so hard! 😂 "Man on the Street" interviews are the standard. It's like someone mentioning a disposable pop group from this period of time and saying the Beatles sound like them instead of the other way around. You must be really young!
@@ComedyLoverGirl Ah, yes, "journalist": a primitive precursor to our glorious lockstep propaganda machine. Thank Rupert we evolved from such vulgar practices. Hail Ignorance! Hail Arrogance!
Watched all three of mine. Was great. One born in Canada and two in Japan. Quite different experiences. Will never forget the look on my coworkers faces in Japan when the call came that the birth of my son was imminent and I told them I was leaving. They were utterly shocked. “You can’t leave, you have classes to teach!!” My son is about to be born!! I am outta here. Men in Japan would not ever leave work for that reason for the most part.
@@shadowweaver3693 Of course it isn't a problem, to the MAN. It's a big problem to the woman who has to go through a lot of pain and shouldn't go through it by herself
That's how people were back then. Now everyone's used to defending themselves because of the internet, so they jump to conclusions and aren't as level headed sadly
Alice fait des carabistouilles Well, before watching this, I thought about it and came to the conclusion that the wife should be the one who chooses if she wants him there first and then the husband should decide wether or not he wants to be there if she allows him. It's only fair, I mean, women could either feel embarrassed or more comfortable with their husband there, so they should be the ones to make the choice. I don't think there's a video of men in 2020 answering this question, so there's no knowing if they'd think about the women first or not.
I doubt I'd want him there, either. All these doctors and nurses staring between your legs and your body in agony, but please honey why don't you watch? Think I'd prefer what little privacy I'm able to at that moment.
Can't imagine going through childbirth without my husband. While he absolutely admits that it was way more graphic than he expected it would be (he didnt really take any time to mentally prepare), he also said he can't imagine NOT being there!
@umarb7325 to be very honest if you're not ready to witness the childbirth, then you're not ready to be a parent. that is the moment you will feel the most connected to your new baby and the mother of your child. nothing else in life or your relationship will ever be close to that.
Material aside, it’s interesting that their accents sound more British back in the day. It’s still clearly unique, but it’s also different than today’s Australian accents
This is an applied accent for tv and aristocrats back then, called the Mid-Atlantic or Transatlantic accent. Many articles and even UA-cam videos talk about it :)
@@zillashimmy This is in Sydney, Australia, in 1962. It is not in the United States. The initial comment here makes a good observation: The accents sound more English than the Australian accents we hear today.
@@lillianmonet5952 i think he means with proper pronunciation of the words and the education to the words not like " oh yea na i reckon it be alright if man where there you know what I mean "
Lmao the egocentric nature of America can be so cute. Just what if Mulan 121 was an Australian! And he might be bewildered and question where the heck YOU are from to ask such a thing!
@SO q how would you feel if i said "i wished women still dressed classy🙄, now theyre all walking around half naked" even tho i dont believe this. Would i be in the wrong/sexist?
That would be depressing. Not in this question, I think most would be "yes" without a doubt today, as would I, but just the state of the people and the world was completely different back then. They seem so polite, well-spoken, and well-adjusted. It's like a breath of fresh air to watch these old videos (millennial here, my mother was born that year).
Its true, go to countries were women are treated as property, raped, killed for being women, or misogynist communities that hate women, say their less than, etc. it does still exist, even if its not as much as it once was.
When my grandma had her kids the only reason my grandpa wasn't there is because he didn't realize he was allowed to be, by the time he learned he could they were done having kids and wished he could have seen it at least once.
I believe that is right. If a female wants to keep her partner and want him to be attracted to her. He should not witness childbirth lol. I mean, some guys can handle it, but some guys get turned off by their partners after seeing their va-jay-jay shit out a kid
@@nr1NPC Lack of attraction caused by childbirth signifies that the couple is unprepared to start a family, not that one partner should just excuse themselves from the situation while the other cannot. If a couple chooses to have kids, they had better be 100% in because any less is a recipe for disaster.
@@patsyhodge9071 he probably seen too many to think much of it ..also probably doesn't want the guy hyperventilating and giving them an extra person to take care of 😛
@@imagirl688 thats honestly ridiculous. What arguments could there possibly be to support such a claim? Political landscape doesn’t equate to behaviour among people. Despite what you might think, even back than husbands usually loved their wives and vice versa. Just because there were more traditional roles doesn’t mean empathy didn’t exist. Our picture of the past is very wrong. Painting a negative image of the past is in positive interest of the modern progressive movements. Saying that men regularly beat their wives and that women had no say at all in the family is so wrong if you look at such recordings. It’s like calling your grandfather a wife beater simply for being born in that generation. Well, I’m sorry to disappoint you, men back then weren’t just machines trying to beat their wife at any possible instance and women were in many ways privileged at the time. You just don’t want to see it. We are not better today, In many ways were worse, things changed, but not everything for the better. I have the feeling open mindedness is much less prevalent today as it was back then. Social media has ruined this generation. And I am not even old. I am 18
@@musiccer7446 in general women weren’t as privileged as men. Simple as that. They weren’t paid as high, they got mistreated, and beaten for little things (most of the time by their husbands.) so don’t go around saying women had it good because when you get down to it, it wasn’t. And I’d like to point out that I know not all men were like that. It’s just refreshing because throughout the whole video, nobody seems to acknowledge the wife in the situation. Stop making such grand accusations based on one comment. Stay in school, kid.
@@imagirl688 grand accusations? I don’t know what you’re talking about. Apart from that as I said, the roles were more traditional and the political landscape was fairly one sided. About just as one sided as our modern view of the past. No, husbands didn’t beat their wives for every little thing. Violence is in all species rarely used among intimate partners especially in social species. In fact studies show that what contributes most to domestic abuse is how the person was raised. Talking about abusers isn’t what will stop abusers from abusing. Our talking won’t change domestic abuse statistics. The only thing that awareness does is help victims after it already happened. The average man was not and never was abusive. Some cultural norms surely seem abusive, but then one could argue from our modern perspective that most women back then were gold diggers because money was a much bigger factor back then. Apart from that, human decency is imbedded in our nature as a social species. If you actually believe that husbands did regularly or even wanted to beat their wives than you are wrong because you clearly don’t understand the human psyche. Talking about roles. Yes, from our modern priorities women had it pretty bad. But you need to look at it from their perspective. Many women didn’t want the right to vote because usually that right came with the work of the husband. Men usually worked themselves to death in Cole mines and industry to provide for their family. Death by various diseases or accidents was common. Whereas women may have had less political and economical power they usually had a fairly comfortable life style. Autonomy was revoked for obedience but under better living conditions. Men had full freedom, but freedom can lead you down into the darkest corners of life. Just as much as you can rise you can fall. And unlike women, men were and are still forced to go to war. I personally would rather stay home and care than be send to the battle field to die or be traumatised for the rest of my life. Besides, Mutual respect on appreciation are the foundation of any relationship. If you want to tell me that healthy relationships were less common or didn’t exist at all compared today you are naive. A short look at divorce statistics should disprove you. It might be that people were more confined to their roles and that cost many individuals freedoms purely based on irrelevant factors such as sex. But it can’t be said that there wasn’t an appreciation for each other’s roles. And to say that women had it only bad and men only good is far too one sided. Women enjoyed many privileges men didn’t have that cost them many freedoms men did have. The pressure alone on men to provide and protect and be strong alone is much more psychological torture in case you are failing than for women. Women had less pressure for achievement. They had other pressures. Fact is, you can’t see this as one sided. Apart from that. Imagine a scenario where people are asked these exact questions on the street today. Do you really believe the answers would be that much different?
@@solitaire5856 considering there was more domestic abuse back then; toxicity and oppression towards both male and females obviously would cause a lot of problems that were bound to arise but I'm not denying that it wasn't all like that just more prominent in older times
@@baumber1919 I honestly don't know if there was more domestic abuse back then. I feel like the scale is similar to nowadays. It still happens alot. There's always good n bad people
I think most of the women who said no were scared their husbands wouldn't be attracted to them if they saw them in that state. Which is quite sad honestly
Yeah, if you're from a time where marriage was a requirement and the man you married wasn't necessarily one you wanted to, the societies were very separate. Women did Women Things and men did Men Things, and men encroaching on women's spaces/activities was so much more upsetting and privacy-destroying back then. A lot has changed in a relatively short time (for the better), but those older women were probably very much stuck in the "men have better things to do, and this is a Woman's Thing" idea.
@@asteroid152jes For the better? The society today is a lot worse. The divorce rates, marriages rates, how many men are becoming single (for the better) and look at how they view females and you can’t blame them for which feminism is the leading cause. No men would date a feminist. You know exactly why. Look at the single females and you notice they are one of them and once they are 30 and wish to seek to marry, settle down, & have kids, notice these men choose to ignore them. Why is that? It’s not that hard. You often hear single females saying “where are the good men gone?” You know exactly why.
@@alohatigers1199 Can you explain why you think feminism is causing a negative view on women? Feminism is literally the belief that women and men should have equal rights and opportunities. Nothing more. From my perspective that seems quite fair. And why are you saying men and you’re calling women females? A “female” could be anything, not necessarily a human. Could be be a dog. Not a crime to use the word female in this way but just wondering why. Oh and as a feminist myself I can happily say that men actually do want to date me and there are actually quite a lot of good men out there. Have a good day!
@@alohatigers1199 lmao you sound very sexist. Also the divorce rates are high because people actually feel comfortable getting divorced now. Back then there was so much stigma attached people frequently stayed married to people they didn't love or even people who were abusive or cheaters because they felt they had to. I'm glad the divorce rate is so high today. It means more people are choosing to be happy and move on. That's a good thing. If only people would stop getting married to begin with lol. Marriage is not for everyone. In fact I think the divorce rates prove that. But society still pressures people to get married. I predict another 50-100 years from now there will be less marriages.
@@alohatigers1199 "no men would date a feminist" First of all, it's "man" not "men" in this sentence. Secondly, I'm a feminist who has been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years. I know LOADS of feminists who are in happy relationships with men. Just admit you're a sexist bellend.
The women were brought up with the idea that all that 'wimin's business' (menstruation, childbirth, possibly even nursing) is something shameful that should never be shown to the husband because he'd be grossed out by it.
I personally think couples didn't have enough intimacy for these kind of moments back then... which is really sad. Women feeling uncomfortable in front of their husbands when giving birth and men not wanting to be with their wives in such a raw and vulnerable moment bc it would "traumatize" them. It's just sad.
@@girl-fromthemoon It was, and even now, a lot more of an issue where women do not want their partner present because childbirth is a time when they're very much physically exposed. To be seen bleeding, or with urine or feces present, while a baby is on delivery is physically traumatic to the body and moee often then none a man was just anxious or insecure and had nothing to do in such a way that many just did not (and still don't) want them present. Privacy was and is a preferred option; but it's not always the case. Some people do want partners present and that's not a measure of intimacy. It's more to the nature of how private someone is.
@@aliceknows5828 wow that's impressive, personal question but how is her health after all that? What a great achievement to bring so much life into the world. I pray for your father tho 😂
@@hdtaylor1977 this is my understanding as well. Maybe the materials were a bit cheaper more used and maybe you just had one dress or one suit but they definitely wore them out and took care of their clothes.
While I generally agree I think it would be wierd for a women to not want the man present, after all he has seen her naked before and it's the child of both of them.
@@arnekrug939 Yep, but these are two different situations. Some women might not want that their husbands watch them in that moment. As the man said it depends on each persons and their feelings.
Back in the day it was considered a medical procedure, between the hospital and the woman. It woulfve been the equivalent of a husband sitting in an operation.
You can see that the older generation was generally against it for concerns of privacy and whose business it is, and the younger generation generally for it based on the principle of sharing all things in marriage. No real difference between the sexes on the opinion.
You could not be more wrong, people from the 1962 are still around today ! Do you not understand math ? My parents were born in 1938 & 1941 and are still alive today (they would have been around 21 & 24 yrs old in 1962)
One Truth Media Company eh I don’t think I’m wrong... I wrote “most of these people” not all of them. And a lot of those people which they interviewed looked of middle age.
In the past, politeness was a requirement of all things that appeared in formal media, and cut out the rude people. Today, we look to the media for entertainment, and cut out the polite people.
@@LilMissTravelPants yeah child birth is a very stressful and not nice situation at all to put it lightly lmao, anyways yeah tearing happens all the time and if not natural tearing they cut you from your v to a if the baby is to big and then have to stitch you up all that happening right and the mothers choose at times to not have pain medicine my mother did that for all 4 of my siblings and now going on 5th. So imagine that without pain medication and giving birth in general without that is the worst pain one can manage without blacking out it’s like 51-52 and last from a few hours to 2days.
Definitely the best response. I told my wife, it depended on her, if she wanted me there. She wanted and it was a great experience and a very nice bonding with a newborn son. However, I know a female friend, who threw his husband away from the room, because he tried helping so much, he pissed her off :) So, it really depends on many factors. I would definitely recommend men to share this amazing moment with their wives, even though it is really hard.
True! Life is short. We must be certain of our eternity! Jesus came to give us life, if we turn from our sin and put our trust in Him, we will be saved. If we reject our savior and creator, we will suffer eternally in the lake of fire where there is utter darkness, weeping, and gnashing of teeth. Repent, put your trust in Jesus. And then grow in the knowledge of God. Read His Word, the Bible, every day. Jesus loves you! ❤️ He did not come into the world to condemn the world but to save the world.
@@lurji there is a chance that life continues to exist after death. We have souls. Reincarnation is very possible too. I'm not a christian, I do not believe in religion, but for some reason I'm almost sure that there's something after death. If you really wish to survive. Why it is so delusional? I bet you didn't even experience something paranormal to be so sure about your theory. The only delusional people are those who say that there's no other kind of life after the death of the body. How can you be so sure? Having an opinion is fine, but don't make it public and offend someone with a different point of view than yours.
I don't believe he was rude he just haven't been in that circumstance in his life so he shy's away. If anything, for me the doctor is the one I cought having a sour way of behaving.
The most important thing during birth is that the mama feels safe and as calm, relaxed and happy as possible. If that is with the father present, then he should be there. If not, then he shouldn't be there.
This!! Some women have really uncomfortable experiences do they don't want anyone around- and for me I think I might want my partner around but I also don't know because I might want privacy! Really great video. I was really surprised with how even it was with their answers. :)
If the father being present does not help her being calm, relaxed and happy, that may tell something about whether their marriage is in good terms. And considering the time, when many if not most couples married out of necessity/tradition/norms/etc etc (unlike today, where it's much more accepted to stay single and not have children instead of forcing yourself to marry someone), it wouldn't be far-fetched to guess that a lot of those couples weren't that happy together. Of course, that's just a guess, and I'm still 27 so what I know about those times I only know from what I've heard from my older relatives, but I think it's interesting to think about.
My mum have 7 kids in Vietnam and have to go through all of it by herself... and she said it quite sad and lonely have to do it all on her own... she is an amazing woman...love all her sacrifice for us.
@@blackblue7372 I think the problem might be that his dad was probably on duty at the time, as it might have been the Vietnam war, and the husbands are given time off to go visit their family. I mean, my grandpa was a great guy but that's how it was for my mom and all her siblings. He went back to visit my grandma and had to leave right away
In Vietnam the husband and family not allowed to go in labor room with the wife... my mum said all the women in 1 big room and each of them on 1 bed and you can see other women giving birth while you in labor pain....😖 and no bedsheets as well they have to bring their own newspapers and lay on them so after give birth the midwife only need to throw them away....😢😢and if they make the bed dirty they got told of by the midwife.... I still remember visit my mum when she have my little sister... she have to share a small bed with the baby and the room just full with bed and other mum with their newborn... no privacy at all... Nowadays if the family have higher income they can go private hospitals and have a room for themself and the husband can go in...
I was there for the birth of my son ,who's now the same age I was then..I remember him coming out but what I wasn't prepared for is what came out with him ...I don't recall anything after that
I felt like the interviewer was like a time traveller from modern times going back and asking the questions for some reason; it's weird to think that he had his own 60s-like views on the subject too and wasn't just filming this for UA-cam to watch
@@jakkonu5746 I wouldnt any they copied it. They jusy got a better medium in which to show more people the content. Thus is something g that really common for people to di: interview people on the street about different things. It's too common for it to have ever been copied.
Husbands need to protect their wives in their most vulnerable moments. The criminal mistreatment of labouring mothers has improved with the presence of their husbands who subsequently brought charges against the medical authorities.
@@chrisyo4461 giving birth can be quite traumatic (your in pain from an hour up to 20hrs constantly (depending on the woman) some women like to have their significant other supporting them, others don't, it's personal preference, I guess that the women who don't want someone in the room with them, don't want people to see them scream bloody murder or be all sweaty and covered in blood. It's personal preference at most.
I’ve noticed that they are polite despite their opinion, and there are much open minded than what I though they would be. While others disagree, that is their opinion, I’m shock many actually agree to be with their wives in the birthing room.
Robby Dey I think you’d see how close minded they really were if you brought up homosexuality or civil rights. They’re open minded to mildly polarising subjects of that time.
Србомбоница I think you’d far prefer men of today if you actually interacted with men of the 60s. You’re job would be to get married and have kids, that’s it. Even if you want that, you wouldn’t be taken seriously on subjects beyond the household.
Maybe they are afraid what their husband will say, if they wanted him to stick around during birth... they did not talk so openly about what birth looks like, like we do now and we still have to come a long way
A lot of marriages back then the woman may feel stuck in with bad husband's so if you don't have the most loving husband then you likely don't want him there
It was about women being pretty and such an image wouldn't be so nice. Also they are used to being seen nice and the view would made them shy like " no dont watch it its ugly"
I think it's just such a bad look and they are thinking they dont want to be seen in such a state. I would wholeheartedly disagree with their sentiment but I'm sure it's that. They are sweating, bloated, sometimes excrete themselves, screaming, irritable, and they are being ripped open from the place their husband seemed to enjoy the most. I can understand the sentiment of not wanting to be seen in that state. But for me that's the battleground of life and the most important moment I would be honored and beyond proud of her to have a woman go through that for something we created. Life isnt flattering so why should birth be
@@yesiyoongster1175 I thought that too at first, but ABC is the Australian Broadcasting Corporation. And it said Australia in the description. Well Sydney
The Aussies stopped sounding like us brits around the 70s when there accent started to evolve for years there accent was a hybrid between British and Aussie but by the time the 90s and 00s came around there accent was very distinctively there own
And to think that most of them probably never did get a chance to see their children born assuming that the women of their same age held their beliefs during their child rearing times.
@The Monster Under Your Bed Or she has just had some not so great experiences. A dog flinches when you go to pet it if its hit enough by that same hand.
For my first child I said I wanted my husband to stand at my head the whole time so he didn't see anything shocking. For our third he assisted me solo on our bedroom floor and it was amazing.
Back then husbands made decisions without considering their wives very much at all. At a time when you need everything to go right for the health of your baby you're trying to bring into the world, you do not need someone with a hot temper making stupid decisions FOR you as so often happened. They weren't saying no because they just felt like it or because it was not a normalcy at the time. They were saying no for good reason.
Doctor absolutely knew what he was doing. NO. Because I don't want those jerks in that room with them causing problems for everybody trying to command an experience they know nothing about. But back then you couldn't just out and say that. So they took a more subtle approach.
My former teacher told us that he was present at the births of his 3 children. The first child was born 65 or 66? He had to fight for it, the midwives and doctors didn't want it and couldn't understand it. That is not for a man, was the argument. But he held it according to the motto: I had fun and now comes the seriousness. A real role model.
kiliipower you’ve never heard about obstetrical violences ? Honestly some things in the past were terrible (like giving birth with drugs that made you totally forget what was happening to you) and some things still are today (mostly lack of consent and information)
Well, they were brought up in a different time. The older ladies were probably born and brought up long before the First World War in the late Victorian or Edwardian period. Very different zeitgeist than the post-Second World War time.
@Yawd Oldschool Maybe because becoming someone's beautiful picture isn't a good "moral" point. Maybe we should share that difficult process instead of worrying how you look. It is not beautiful it is just ignorant.
Best experience of my life, holding my son as he popped into my arms and into the world, he yelled his lungs out and I chatted to him. We BONDED. He grew up very close to me and knows I will always be there for him.
What I liked most is that some men acknowledged that they would like to assist but that ultimately it's up to the woman who is giving birth. So respectful!
@The Monster Under Your Bed I think that you asking for respect when you would be disrespecting the wishes of the mother of your child (if she didn’t want you to be there) is hypocritical. If I were to have kids the natural way, I would want the father to be there, but fathers can also be overbearing due to worry for the mother or they can make doctors’ lives more difficult if they hover. I think that if they are hindering the process of the birth, complications or no, they should be escorted out and if the mother doesn’t want the father there, he should respect that as she is the one going through the process. I think the best thing to do would be to discuss the situation before the birth because the father deserves an explanation as to why the mother doesn’t want his presence.
@The Monster Under Your Bed Well I don’t think any mother would refuse the father the right to be present at the birth of their child for no reason. The mother may not want the father to see her in pain, or maybe the father can’t stand the sight of blood. That’s why I said the couple should discuss this beforehand. While the father *should* be present at the birth of his child, I think that ultimately, the mother of the child comes first and foremost. You aren’t the one pushing a watermelon out of your body. You aren’t the one who has carried a child for nine months (give or take a few weeks). You aren’t the one that’s in labour. You aren’t the one who could have complications and is potentially at risk of death. I think that it would be rude for any father to disregard the mother’s wishes when it comes to the birth just as it would be rude for the mother to deny the father the right to be at his child’s birth *for no good reason* .
@@millienne8201 agreed! Fathers should be allowed to be present for the birth if the pregnant person wants them to be there. Not respecting the pregnant person's wishes would be disrespectful.
I was born in 1984. My dad stood outside the delivery room, waiting anxiuosly, listening through the door for my mom and pacing up and down the hospital corridor. The nurse comes over, takes a look at my dad at the far end of the ward, proceeds to a complete stranger who was sitting closer to the delivery room and delivers him the good news- " you are blessed with a beautiful girl! congrats!" 😂 With that in mind, 34 years later My dad made sure my husband sits right next to me while I gave birth to our first child!
Reminds me of Russell Peters comment about when your woman is giving birth. "Guys, do your best - to NOT be there." "It's like watching your favorite restaurant burning down! They'll rebuild it... but I'm not eating there again."
Frida Nyberg That’s an extremely fucked up and dehumanizing way to talk about women and birth. Birth is literally the opposite of something burning down. It’s an incredible thing to witness... unless you’re a weak and immature person.
I love the way they all talk. Their voices are very different from how people talk now and they have a beat with every word they say it’s truly wonderful
I watched my son, our first born enter this world and quiet frankly that was enough for me. When my daughter was born I held my wife’s hand and left the receiving end to the doctor. In retrospect I’m glad I saw everything once in including the after birth and the bloody mess that followed. It gave me a whole new respect for the ordeal my wife just went through. I thought to myself “Dear Lord what did I do to this poor girl!”
I'm about ready to pop with our first and have adamantly told my husband he's "top-side only" 😂 Truly I don't need him anywhere near there, I'll basically have an audience already. And I don't want to scar him. Heck I wouldn't even want to see it. But we're both ecstatic, so let's leave it that way 😂😂
I have given birth once and my boyfriend watched some of it although he had to flee up to my head once I started ripping... 😂 he did grab our daughter and pull her to my chest when she came out. My afterbirth also exploded out onto one of the midwives. Birth is a bloody mess and its not for everyone, but Im really glad my boyfriend chose to give it a shot since I feel like he has understood my struggles afterward a lot better than if he had not seen any of it
"Dear Lord what have I done to this poor girl" Gave her a child you could raise together. Considering you got a second child I would say it was worth it through all the pain.
+milkwaves 310 I once heard from my cousin of her friend that had a mother in law and an absolute coward husband that wouldn't hold his mother back when she tried getting into the room. He'd mumbled something like; 'It's her grandchild honey, she wants to see the child get born' and left the room completely. The woman told the mother in law (during birth) to leave, but the mother in law stayed and actually proceeded to take pictures of her, with her phone, claiming this was a one-time-moment to see her son get born. The mother started crying and the nurse told the mother in law to leave. This became a fight, after which the mother in law was send out and the baby was born. The husband later returned from the toilet, he'd been playing on his phone. And 2 weeks later they went to a family-meeting and the mother in law proceeded to talk about how the woman has been vomiting and farting. And then, when the woman (mother of the baby) was gone from the room, the motherinlaw showed the pictures of the birth to everyone. Including her bits on the photo. Everything was on there. The woman came back into the room and they had a serious fight about it and never spoke again. The husband now visits the mother with his child often and then the lady stays home. I mean, the husband failed her there, I feel the nurses could've done more, but it inspired me to barricade the room if I ever give birth myself.
yeah I think most women at this time were pretty embarrassed about giving birth and didn't want their husbands seeing them like that for fear that they would think them gross.
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That lady who said no but then thought about it and said "maybe they would have less children if they saw the process."
I like her she's funny.
And even less if THEY had to give birth tbh!
@@Cassxowary Don't hate us cause you ain't us.
@@laobok don't hate us cause u don't compare to us
@@laobok nah we don't hate you. We just want you to feel how hard it is to have a woman's physiology so you don't act all inconsiderate towards your spouse and women in general because "wOmEn hAVe tHinGs eAsyYyy"
@@sherine9033 who said women have things easy?
The first man said we should share the burden equally, ahead of his time.
I thought he had the best response as well.
Except... that’s not possible. The baby grows in, and needs to get out of, mommy.
I thought the first guy had a beautiful answer. I mean it's not a guys fault that biology doesn't allow them to birth children.
Feminist moment
Someone bring that first man back from the dead so I can marry him.
The first guy: yes, absolutely, all problems in a married life should be shared
the woman in the background: good evening, are you single
Ikr, that woman was so invested 😂
I think she's the wife actually. She was going ahead and the husband decided to stop for the interview after all, or something like that.
I like this idea. I’m going to go tell errr I mean ask my wife to mow the lawn tomorrow.
@@mattwodziak1750 😂😂😂
Ruby literally what I thought
“Well as far as I’m concerned, mate, it’s got nothing to do with me. I’m not Married”.
That hit Me hard
🤣
@IHave ToBuy I’m lonely
Dude was probably mad he's single.. lol
mans been rejected
He has that 'Im single' energy
first bloke was woke
lickle sossij roll yeah... he was hot too
Sitti Inastasia So?
@@sittiinastasia5430 So this was 57 years ago. If you think he is in his 70s now, that means he was a 13 year old teenager in the video? :D
@@sittiinastasia5430 70? The dude was in his 30s in 1962, 56 years ago hes probably dead or close to 90 years old.
@@realsugar7056 looks more like in his 40s or 50s. As a 33 yo dude, believe me, we aint that old :P
"When you're married, you become one. And you should participate in all the ups and downs and everything." God bless.
Kenzi ! Then he shouldnt be in the room. But the meaning of the quote is that the husband should voluntarily want to be in the room with his wife. Unless, of course, the wife diagrees.
Kenzi ! Why wouldn’t she want him there? His child is being born.
I wouldn't. My husband has a terrible bedside manner when I am sick can't imagine when I'm birthing...
I think women are *a lot more* open now, then they were back then.
@@shirleydeebonilla6712 Well.. it *IS* very graphic to watch.. and gruesome too.
The first guy was a sweetheart, whoever married him must’ve been a lucky woman lmao
Right
Except a woman is going through the experience primarily for herself.
John Cronin ... do you mean other than for the child as well?
When he said share the responsibilities and problem I- 🥺🥺🥺
Yeah! This response was on point and thoughtful, and clearly the woman standing behind him was impressed! :)
I just love love love how they are dressed. Wow. And how humble so many of them are. Beautiful.
I love this 50's housewife, Mad Men vibe. I like how they spoke. People sounded like they had accents back then. Edit: this was in Australia (duh). Lol
Most of them are racist
Jk
ikrrrrr
@@cody7342 hm, but sounds like your level of racism, ignorance and bias is way way higher so far
"You're married, you become one, and you should participate in all the ups and downs of everything". Such a simple truth, yet so lost among so many.
His answer melted my heart...a true man.
Who said they had to be married XD
👏🏻
Snuggles McSquishbottom very true
Looks like men had more of a sense of unity than women did. But then again in those times women were taught to be private, reserved, never talk about themselves and always look beautiful. I understand that they could feel uncomfortable when seen so "imperfect" in such tremendous situation.
My wife said "you were present while making, you're present when waters breaking" 😄 bit scary for the man but it is unity indeed and such a beautiful moment when a man can ease the pain of his wife bringing their child to the world by being with her.
“Should a husband watch the birth of the children?”
“ No, I’m a doctor “
That one cracked me up!
He's probably seen enough for a lifetime.
He was 1000% sure of his answer too. Offended even that the interviewer would ask something so ludicrous lol
I imagine at the "family bonds" question, he thought "I've seen plenty of births and I've never gotten bonds to any of those women"
As he’s pushing the buggy that cracked me up lol
Interesting that most of the men thought it was okay and the women didn’t
women were ashamed of their bodies a lot more then. this question was pretty much like "Do you want to have a close-up look at your wife's vagina giving birth?" Women say no and the men say sure it's fine, or they're also a little bit grossed out by it. That's a big part of the debate no one spells out. Men weren't that opposed to it, they were mostly not physically allowed into the room.
Makes perfect sense, given the prevailing gender roles and social norms of Western societies back then.
I mean who could blame them really? If you really think about it it us really a private and embarrassing moment for a lady.
I will have my husband and those who are delivering and that is it.
i mean I wouldn't really want anyone watching me shitting myself while ripping my body open to plop out a blood covered little human while sweating and screaming like a maniac. Awful enough the nurses have to be there
Noelle
Most of the time the husband is away from the “business side” unless they want to see what is going on
I think the doctor was looking for nicest possible way to say they don't like to deal with nervous husbands in the delivery room with all going on there already.
He did say that it is an unnecessary worry, or something to that effect.
2:35
I love this little old man with the hearing aid who’s like, “I think it’s okay!”
I just had a dumb moment 🤣 I thought it was an earbud
@@paige6306 airpod😭
Literally thought the same thing. So cute 😍
Paige me too lol
*i think it’s AWH-KEH*
I appreciate the people not complaining about living without colors
9AIMEr BAHHAHAHAHA
I smell a woosh
it was just the cameras that couldnt record color.. the world looked the same
@@xxpandapotatoxx9766 8 hours
Ju Mei Ohhhhhhhhhhh I get it now!
What a disgrace. He didn’t give anyone an ig shoutout
they are probably too poor to afford a smartphone😔😫
maybe he wasn't allowed😤✋
are you all dumb they want privacy!!
Haha.
Bruh he didn’t want fake racist fans 😂
I like how for that one woman after she said no they slowly zoomed in on her baby as she walked away as if they were making some meta joke😂
Lol
😂😂
In the video about the white Australia policy they zoom in some Chinese kids in the background whilst some women is talking about how Australia should remain 99% white
Love the old guy who actually thinks about asking his wife if SHE would be comfortable with him there and then says he would prefer it if he could. Now that's applaudable.
Renu Thakur I’m a woman, and I was waiting for someone to feel the day way as I do hahaha
I’m comfortable with it, but definitely depends on the partner as well (some may not like to see blood)
Yes! He's the only one who gives any consideration to the wife's wishes. Everyone else is focused on the husband.
I like the woman in the back who’s just looking and smiling like “this guy’s got it”
King shit 👑
@@killerkitten7534 shes probably more excited to see a camera and mic. Back then people were really wow'd by this kind of stuff because of how new it was
I get the feeling that many of the older men are positive about the idea because they regret not being able to see their own children born.
Lmao
I did not go in for my first child, but did for my second, It was amazing, unfortunately 30 years later I lost him in January 2021 to suicide.
:(
@@lifeiswhatyoumakeit5027 im so sorry
@@lifeiswhatyoumakeit5027 I'm really sorry for your loss😢, and wish you the best, no one should ever have to lose his own child😔
The man who said consider the temperament of the husband and and feelings of the wife. Spot on. Its not a one size fits all. Respect both.
Rain Blooms I thought his answer was perfect. Personal preference.
My husband was present for the births of our children but he remained fixed at my head. I was happy to have a hand to squeeze and shirt collar to grab! 😂
No the dad is the boss. If he wants to watch he watches, if he wants to go get a steak it’s up to him. Women obey
@@displaychicken Your just sad, Hun
Eric Schick I can’t tell if your being facetious or not lol I think/hope/pray you are. Dads are the boss? Lol 😆 you’re super funny if it’s sarcasm!!
tara tara tara I’m just old fashioned. Back when people were burning CD’s, I was still burning books.
As a father, I was delighted to bring my children into the world with my wife. We both got to hold our children, welcome them, hear their little cries. A man should witness his children being born. I felt like a father that day.
@@neo_tsz lmao
That's beautiful. Can't understand a man who wouldn't want to welcome his child into the world.
You wouldn’t feel like a father in the waiting room?
@@billf7062 its not even close to being the same as actually witnessing your child enter this world. my father was present for my birth and was unfortunately travelling for work purposes for my brother's birth and to this day he says his number one regret in life is not being there to see my brother take his first breath. he's also much closer to me
I liked the one guy who basically said it's up to the husband and wife. That's how it should be.
Time stamp - 2:01 2:02
Wise man in fedora :) 2:01 ish
Well ofcp
Although I agree with you in part. Why is it such an issue? I mean. Some things should be sacred between and in opposition of a man and wife, no?
Those were indeed wise words from an elder
“It depends on the temperament of the husband and on the feelings of the wife.” This guy’s got the biggest brain of all of them!
Yes! I thought the exact same thing! It all depends on both parents making the decision together. And I couldn't imagine a couple deciding against him being present today. I certainly wanted to be there and my now-wife wanted it, too.
Yea this one was the real ahead of his time of all
Yeah if he's afraid of blood or not going to be supportive why have him there? Also many women went them out in response to pain or lack of privacy and also the opposite. But I do really think it helps many men engage with their children. Whether they see the birth part or not certainly they should be with them for the day.
Yeah. Like the real problem was all the marriages of dubious consent in that era and the fact that men often weren't allowed in the birthing room if they wanted to.
Ameen best answer
Being present at birth, does not mean, you have to stare into the wormhole while it is doing its magic, or does it?
Just stand beside your woman and hold her hand, ffs.
My husband saw more than I did. The doctor asked if we wanted a mirror to see and we both said yes but I didn't have my contacts or glasses so I really didn't see much.
Wormhole?! Lol 🤣.. I mean if you are already there, why miss out on watching your own kid being born with the woman you are about to raise a kid with. If she can push a human out of her after growing it for 9 months, the dude can watch. It is just birth, a totally natural thing.. it is not scary lol. If he can't watch birth how is he going to handle projectile shit and vomit from a baby monster lol.
Yeah but he still can see all the blood and mucus and placenta coming out anyway.
He will also be asked if he wants to cut the umbilical cord, which, according to my husband, feels like trying to cut a thick, slimy rubber band.
But that’s ok too. He thought that at that moment “everything felt natural”.
Anona Meows
It’s not really about if the man can handle it or not. It’s about the woman, giving birth is already hard enough without your man looking at it.
Just hold her hand if thats what she wants.
"Wormhole" What a choice of words.
Imagining babies coming out of stark trek wormhole now.
We all know it's a blackhole, it sucks happiness and gives debt.
Love how everyone is able to express their personal opinions without shaming one another for them.
I mean, it definitely still happened, especially since the 60’s were a Red Scare utopia.
Well they're not debating, they're sharing their opinion, they don't get to hear the other's opinion, they're not even talking to each other, its just one person talking to the host. This was the age of segregation, these racists clowns had no problem putting others down.
You have something you want to get off your chest?
sounds like a stretch to assume a correlation between freedom of expression and political ongoings. There were taboos then and there will be today. Much like bad actors or your "racist clowns" that give a lot of 'muricans a bad look.
@@sumkindacheeto I was actually making commentary on the original comment, OP trying to be woke and spread faux positivity by saying "they expressed their opinions without shaming one another for them." When in fact, they didn't hear anyone's opinion, they just expressed their own to the host. It's more of a stretch to assume they would not shame each others opinions.
Damn that one lady that was like “Having the husband in the delivery room would destroy the bonds of the marriage” needs to chill lol
I can understand why she says that..😂😂😂 "its like seeing your fav restaurant burn downs"
She was also pretty old which means she might have been Born around 1890
Victorian Era Sexual repression, woooo!
Probably doesn’t like her husband
@@sittingonceilings6805 Booo you're no fun
You have to remember the old ladies would have been born in the 1800s.
And the old men
Damn it's true
god thats old
and back then you didn't really marry for love and even if you did, it was still common to beat and rape your wife... some of them probably weren't that fond of their husband.
so? In the 1800's the husband was probably *more* present than in the 1960s!
This guy was a UA-camr ahead of his time.
Otherwise known as a journalist.
@Josh: OMG, that comment made me cringe so hard! 😂 "Man on the Street" interviews are the standard. It's like someone mentioning a disposable pop group from this period of time and saying the Beatles sound like them instead of the other way around. You must be really young!
@@lemurianchick Wow. It was a joke.
@@ComedyLoverGirl Ah, yes, "journalist": a primitive precursor to our glorious lockstep propaganda machine. Thank Rupert we evolved from such vulgar practices. Hail Ignorance! Hail Arrogance!
Lmao
Watched all three of mine. Was great. One born in Canada and two in Japan. Quite different experiences. Will never forget the look on my coworkers faces in Japan when the call came that the birth of my son was imminent and I told them I was leaving. They were utterly shocked. “You can’t leave, you have classes to teach!!” My son is about to be born!! I am outta here. Men in Japan would not ever leave work for that reason for the most part.
I need a guy like the first guy 😭 “All problems in a married life should be shared equally therefore the husband should be there”
❤
Yeah but childbirth isnt a problem 🤣🤣🤣
Adrian Barbuio sorry, i don’t speak ancient
@@shadowweaver3693 Of course it isn't a problem, to the MAN. It's a big problem to the woman who has to go through a lot of pain and shouldn't go through it by herself
@@avocado3-in-182 it means th
I love how they’re not attacking people just politely responding
BLACK CAT LIVES MATTER TOO!!!
@@mittenzpurrez8235 was this joke necessary here?
That's how people were back then.
Now everyone's used to defending themselves because of the internet, so they jump to conclusions and aren't as level headed sadly
The formality and politeness of people in the past is something I miss even though I didn't experience it.
@@shoshishoshi127 I get that feeling. 😂 Although I feel like the new generation is bringing that back.
Don’t let this distract you from the fact that both of Heinz Doofenshmirtz’s parents weren’t there for his birth.
What 😂
F
Who's Heinz doofus? 🤔
@@Snobviously the villain from phineas and ferb
And he’s a supervillain.
The THIRD old man with a hat reminds me of the Aparently kid💖
Maybe he's his grandpa lol
Which one? There is a lot of old men in hats in this video
I think she's talking about the 3rd video/second dude
There's like 95 old men with hats in the video...
@@Skelyboss I think she's talking about the 3rd video/second dude
Someone should do the same interview with people of this generation
We already know the answer
@Ronald Studuain 😂😂😂
people today think that all family, and in laws should be present
Ronald Studuain 💀
Horses4life1001 Hell no. Just my boyfriend/husband. If an in-law tries to but in in that personal time, I don’t want them around me anymore.
“It depends on the wives feeling, if she wants him there or not” CEO OF TAKING WOMENS FEELINGS INTO CONSIDERATION
Yeah, incredible that men these times seem more considerate than men today.
@@alicefaitdescarabistouille924 dude... that's so mean, and a tad sexist.
@@alicefaitdescarabistouille924 keyword "seem". We take in consideration everyone's feelings
Alice fait des carabistouilles Well, before watching this, I thought about it and came to the conclusion that the wife should be the one who chooses if she wants him there first and then the husband should decide wether or not he wants to be there if she allows him. It's only fair, I mean, women could either feel embarrassed or more comfortable with their husband there, so they should be the ones to make the choice.
I don't think there's a video of men in 2020 answering this question, so there's no knowing if they'd think about the women first or not.
ah yes, the 1960s, famously known for men respecting women /s
Shout out to the man at 2:02 who was the only guy who considered the feelings of the woman giving birth!
Suzan Y Yeah, he’s a good guy.
@@KonstruktiveKritik he was born in the 1800s yet he had the brains to say it (notice his nervous laugh, he knows there was women "against" it)
Absolutely! His answer was most considerate of everyone involved and each unique situation.
The first dude was considerate too.
I doubt I'd want him there, either. All these doctors and nurses staring between your legs and your body in agony, but please honey why don't you watch? Think I'd prefer what little privacy I'm able to at that moment.
Can't imagine going through childbirth without my husband. While he absolutely admits that it was way more graphic than he expected it would be (he didnt really take any time to mentally prepare), he also said he can't imagine NOT being there!
The guy who said 'it depends on the temperament of the man and the feelings of the woman' hits it on the head.
2:03
@umar b some men just can’t handle it
@umarb7325 to be very honest if you're not ready to witness the childbirth, then you're not ready to be a parent. that is the moment you will feel the most connected to your new baby and the mother of your child. nothing else in life or your relationship will ever be close to that.
if this was me i would say
"husbands were present in the making, they should also be present in the outcome"
Thank you u said this in the most graceful way possible
best comment here lol
They should be present if the female wants him present
100% should also apply to the money. Maybe in better times.
Yepp couldn't say it any better myself!
„Do you think husbands should watch the birth of their children?“
„No I am German“
Underrated comment. Aliens!
Nibogen Cupcake Not all heroes wear capes
*vegetable*
I remember from last video 😂😂👏👏
lmao u remember that video 🤣🤣🤣
There's just charm that I find from vintage stuff: recordings, clothes people used to wear and their speech.
Material aside, it’s interesting that their accents sound more British back in the day. It’s still clearly unique, but it’s also different than today’s Australian accents
I was just wondering what accent that was! I mean, they sound American to me but from some unknown region. Does anyone know what that is?
It’s truly incredible how accents change over time and change in specific areas!
This is an applied accent for tv and aristocrats back then, called the Mid-Atlantic or Transatlantic accent. Many articles and even UA-cam videos talk about it :)
@@zillashimmy This is in Sydney, Australia, in 1962. It is not in the United States. The initial comment here makes a good observation: The accents sound more English than the Australian accents we hear today.
I had no idea it was filmed in Australia. To my ears, I'm hearing an British accent. Shook
It's fascinating how the accent was so different back then, especially considering it hasn't been that long.
It was done in Sydney, unless you meant an Australian accent :)
@@lillianmonet5952 i think he means with proper pronunciation of the words and the education to the words not like " oh yea na i reckon it be alright if man where there you know what I mean "
@@shaunmcfarlane9657 truth is people had a different way of speaking when the occasion called for it. It's just posh phone manner and mostly for show.
Lmao the egocentric nature of America can be so cute. Just what if Mulan 121 was an Australian! And he might be bewildered and question where the heck YOU are from to ask such a thing!
@Mulan 121
I always think about that!
This is really surprising though. I figured more men would laugh it off, but they seem invested in it.
More so than the women.
I think it really illustrates the degree to which men romanticise relationships, and particularly parenthood compared with women.
Congratulations, you've been highly suggestively influenced by the media around you to think a certain way about men...
@@eggsnspam Men?? Empathic??? HOW?!?!?
/s
@@bombkangaroo ???
Gentleman at 2:02 is the middle man of reason. As long as she says it’s ok then yes. It’s incredible by the way.
They dressed so classy.
@SO Hello, and women. I have to level up my appearance.
Men look so professional, now they look horrible. There is no pride in appearance anymore.
well now there are half naked people walking around
@SO q how would you feel if i said "i wished women still dressed classy🙄, now theyre all walking around half naked" even tho i dont believe this. Would i be in the wrong/sexist?
@@kv.2060 she'll probably call you sexist.
@@kv.2060 shhhh, you can't say that.
all of these abc clips should be done again today to see the difference in generations
please make this happen!
Much worse.
I would not want to see that.
That would be depressing.
Not in this question, I think most would be "yes" without a doubt today, as would I, but just the state of the people and the world was completely different back then. They seem so polite, well-spoken, and well-adjusted. It's like a breath of fresh air to watch these old videos (millennial here, my mother was born that year).
Who says the original clips contain an unbiased sample of participants?
She said "I think some men...it'd do them good to see that" AND DID A DRAMATIC walk away....
Girls got some STORIES I tell ya😂
She was 100% adorable and right!
I love how the interviewer did a silent and respectful bow as she left 😂
She was going to miss her bus
It's actually sad isnt it? Such toxicity patriachy still exist.
Its true, go to countries were women are treated as property, raped, killed for being women, or misogynist communities that hate women, say their less than, etc. it does still exist, even if its not as much as it once was.
When my grandma had her kids the only reason my grandpa wasn't there is because he didn't realize he was allowed to be, by the time he learned he could they were done having kids and wished he could have seen it at least once.
I believe that is right.
If a female wants to keep her partner and want him to be attracted to her. He should not witness childbirth lol.
I mean, some guys can handle it, but some guys get turned off by their partners after seeing their va-jay-jay shit out a kid
@@nr1NPC or they need to grow up
@@nr1NPC if the only think in a marriage is how turned on the man is by his wife then that marriage is not going to be happy
@@nr1NPC Or they can man up
@@nr1NPC Lack of attraction caused by childbirth signifies that the couple is unprepared to start a family, not that one partner should just excuse themselves from the situation while the other cannot. If a couple chooses to have kids, they had better be 100% in because any less is a recipe for disaster.
these old street interviews are great, keep them coming ABC
Mike McGhie.... ABC?
Deebull the channel that posted the video is ABC Australia
@@Strawberrycream100,yes I see .. thank you. Dee
Love the guy who said it’s a nice thing for a man to see his child come into the world.
The bloody Doctor though. Didnt want a bar of it.
@@patsyhodge9071 that’s where it all started.
@@patsyhodge9071 he probably seen too many to think much of it ..also probably doesn't want the guy hyperventilating and giving them an extra person to take care of 😛
Once he see the vagina stretch it never leaves his mind
I would like to say that all of these 4 replys before me was very amusing. What a nice talk
“Well I’m married to the woman I should know everything that goes on” lol 😂 deeaaaddd!
I'm hoping what he meant is that they are one person and that goes both ways... lmao
I mean, he's right tho!😂
Just read this when he was saying it😅
It's still funny
@@aderiancreature8464 I did too
The man at 2:02 has my respect because he took into account of the wife’s feelings.
its not like showing empathy didn't exist back then
@@musiccer7446 empathy for women, not so much…
@@imagirl688 thats honestly ridiculous. What arguments could there possibly be to support such a claim? Political landscape doesn’t equate to behaviour among people. Despite what you might think, even back than husbands usually loved their wives and vice versa. Just because there were more traditional roles doesn’t mean empathy didn’t exist. Our picture of the past is very wrong. Painting a negative image of the past is in positive interest of the modern progressive movements. Saying that men regularly beat their wives and that women had no say at all in the family is so wrong if you look at such recordings. It’s like calling your grandfather a wife beater simply for being born in that generation.
Well, I’m sorry to disappoint you, men back then weren’t just machines trying to beat their wife at any possible instance and women were in many ways privileged at the time. You just don’t want to see it. We are not better today, In many ways were worse, things changed, but not everything for the better. I have the feeling open mindedness is much less prevalent today as it was back then. Social media has ruined this generation. And I am not even old. I am 18
@@musiccer7446 in general women weren’t as privileged as men. Simple as that. They weren’t paid as high, they got mistreated, and beaten for little things (most of the time by their husbands.) so don’t go around saying women had it good because when you get down to it, it wasn’t. And I’d like to point out that I know not all men were like that. It’s just refreshing because throughout the whole video, nobody seems to acknowledge the wife in the situation. Stop making such grand accusations based on one comment. Stay in school, kid.
@@imagirl688 grand accusations? I don’t know what you’re talking about.
Apart from that as I said, the roles were more traditional and the political landscape was fairly one sided. About just as one sided as our modern view of the past.
No, husbands didn’t beat their wives for every little thing. Violence is in all species rarely used among intimate partners especially in social species.
In fact studies show that what contributes most to domestic abuse is how the person was raised. Talking about abusers isn’t what will stop abusers from abusing. Our talking won’t change domestic abuse statistics. The only thing that awareness does is help victims after it already happened.
The average man was not and never was abusive. Some cultural norms surely seem abusive, but then one could argue from our modern perspective that most women back then were gold diggers because money was a much bigger factor back then.
Apart from that, human decency is imbedded in our nature as a social species. If you actually believe that husbands did regularly or even wanted to beat their wives than you are wrong because you clearly don’t understand the human psyche.
Talking about roles. Yes, from our modern priorities women had it pretty bad. But you need to look at it from their perspective. Many women didn’t want the right to vote because usually that right came with the work of the husband. Men usually worked themselves to death in Cole mines and industry to provide for their family. Death by various diseases or accidents was common. Whereas women may have had less political and economical power they usually had a fairly comfortable life style. Autonomy was revoked for obedience but under better living conditions. Men had full freedom, but freedom can lead you down into the darkest corners of life. Just as much as you can rise you can fall. And unlike women, men were and are still forced to go to war. I personally would rather stay home and care than be send to the battle field to die or be traumatised for the rest of my life. Besides, Mutual respect on appreciation are the foundation of any relationship. If you want to tell me that healthy relationships were less common or didn’t exist at all compared today you are naive. A short look at divorce statistics should disprove you. It might be that people were more confined to their roles and that cost many individuals freedoms purely based on irrelevant factors such as sex. But it can’t be said that there wasn’t an appreciation for each other’s roles.
And to say that women had it only bad and men only good is far too one sided. Women enjoyed many privileges men didn’t have that cost them many freedoms men did have. The pressure alone on men to provide and protect and be strong alone is much more psychological torture in case you are failing than for women. Women had less pressure for achievement. They had other pressures.
Fact is, you can’t see this as one sided.
Apart from that. Imagine a scenario where people are asked these exact questions on the street today. Do you really believe the answers would be that much different?
The first man is a rare kind of husband. Such loving and understanding perception
Especially for the time period
@@baumber1919 what makes you think husbands were not loving and understanding as a rule during that time period?
@@solitaire5856 considering there was more domestic abuse back then; toxicity and oppression towards both male and females obviously would cause a lot of problems that were bound to arise but I'm not denying that it wasn't all like that just more prominent in older times
@@baumber1919 I honestly don't know if there was more domestic abuse back then. I feel like the scale is similar to nowadays. It still happens alot. There's always good n bad people
@@baumber1919 You’re exaggerating this
I think most of the women who said no were scared their husbands wouldn't be attracted to them if they saw them in that state. Which is quite sad honestly
Yeah, if you're from a time where marriage was a requirement and the man you married wasn't necessarily one you wanted to, the societies were very separate. Women did Women Things and men did Men Things, and men encroaching on women's spaces/activities was so much more upsetting and privacy-destroying back then. A lot has changed in a relatively short time (for the better), but those older women were probably very much stuck in the "men have better things to do, and this is a Woman's Thing" idea.
@@asteroid152jes
For the better? The society today is a lot worse.
The divorce rates, marriages rates, how many men are becoming single (for the better) and look at how they view females and you can’t blame them for which feminism is the leading cause.
No men would date a feminist. You know exactly why.
Look at the single females and you notice they are one of them and once they are 30 and wish to seek to marry, settle down, & have kids, notice these men choose to ignore them. Why is that? It’s not that hard.
You often hear single females saying “where are the good men gone?” You know exactly why.
@@alohatigers1199
Can you explain why you think feminism is causing a negative view on women? Feminism is literally the belief that women and men should have equal rights and opportunities. Nothing more. From my perspective that seems quite fair.
And why are you saying men and you’re calling women females? A “female” could be anything, not necessarily a human. Could be be a dog. Not a crime to use the word female in this way but just wondering why.
Oh and as a feminist myself I can happily say that men actually do want to date me and there are actually quite a lot of good men out there.
Have a good day!
@@alohatigers1199 lmao you sound very sexist. Also the divorce rates are high because people actually feel comfortable getting divorced now. Back then there was so much stigma attached people frequently stayed married to people they didn't love or even people who were abusive or cheaters because they felt they had to. I'm glad the divorce rate is so high today. It means more people are choosing to be happy and move on. That's a good thing. If only people would stop getting married to begin with lol. Marriage is not for everyone. In fact I think the divorce rates prove that. But society still pressures people to get married. I predict another 50-100 years from now there will be less marriages.
@@alohatigers1199 "no men would date a feminist"
First of all, it's "man" not "men" in this sentence.
Secondly, I'm a feminist who has been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years. I know LOADS of feminists who are in happy relationships with men.
Just admit you're a sexist bellend.
“Perhaps they wouldn’t have so many children if they could watch the birth” 😂😂
thats a good thing though
AJ wins best comment and Marky Mark wins for best reply.
For some it would be like watching your favorite restaurant burn down
@Yes Sir! really? Wow :o sounds like youre traumatized!
Marky Mark soooooo true 💯
Hearing the development of the Australian accent is so fascinating.
I can’t believe that this is not what every comment is about. It’s so interesting
I think people thought this is the UK, that’s what I thought too until I read your comment.
Yassssss I was wondering big-time where this was filmed! I did think UK at first but there was too much twang
فتاة مصريه it doesnt sound british at all!
It's remarkable! Even as a English person I was thrown off at first thinking that they were British. The interviewer in particular.
It’s so wild that many woman were like, “absolutely not!” and many men were like, “absolutely, we’re partners”.
A lot of women back then wanted privacy.
The women were brought up with the idea that all that 'wimin's business' (menstruation, childbirth, possibly even nursing) is something shameful that should never be shown to the husband because he'd be grossed out by it.
@@TheNaexis The real answer.
I personally think couples didn't have enough intimacy for these kind of moments back then... which is really sad. Women feeling uncomfortable in front of their husbands when giving birth and men not wanting to be with their wives in such a raw and vulnerable moment bc it would "traumatize" them. It's just sad.
@@girl-fromthemoon It was, and even now, a lot more of an issue where women do not want their partner present because childbirth is a time when they're very much physically exposed. To be seen bleeding, or with urine or feces present, while a baby is on delivery is physically traumatic to the body and moee often then none a man was just anxious or insecure and had nothing to do in such a way that many just did not (and still don't) want them present. Privacy was and is a preferred option; but it's not always the case. Some people do want partners present and that's not a measure of intimacy. It's more to the nature of how private someone is.
that lady that says "maybe if they witnessed it they wouldn't have so many children" lol, bless her heart
Yeah well, that’s her fault too. If you know the pain and decide to have careless sex then you deserve it
Some people love having babies, my mother had 19.
@@to.lame.to.function5242 what a dumb response lol
@@aliceknows5828 wow that's impressive, personal question but how is her health after all that? What a great achievement to bring so much life into the world. I pray for your father tho 😂
@@tomw6947 why pray for the father? pretty sure he was in on it 😂
I love how well dressed everyone is.
That's because this interview shows only one side of society, the rich suburban one.
Davide Vandelli true but i really just like the rich 50s look lol
@@keyboardcockatoo4567 mood
Davide Vandelli during that time most people left the house well dressed no matter their economic circumstances.
@@hdtaylor1977 this is my understanding as well. Maybe the materials were a bit cheaper more used and maybe you just had one dress or one suit but they definitely wore them out and took care of their clothes.
As a father, watching my daughter being born was the best moment in my entire life.
@Sarah A we were never married
That guy who said it depends on the temperament of the husband and the wife’s feeing about this situation was spot on.
+10 insight
He was right, I agree with him.
Yess
While I generally agree I think it would be wierd for a women to not want the man present, after all he has seen her naked before and it's the child of both of them.
@@arnekrug939 Yep, but these are two different situations. Some women might not want that their husbands watch them in that moment. As the man said it depends on each persons and their feelings.
Really surprised to see the Dads did want to be there.
Back in the day it was considered a medical procedure, between the hospital and the woman. It woulfve been the equivalent of a husband sitting in an operation.
You can see that the older generation was generally against it for concerns of privacy and whose business it is, and the younger generation generally for it based on the principle of sharing all things in marriage. No real difference between the sexes on the opinion.
I thought more men would say no considering the time.
I expected this. Marriage was a lot more sacred and traditional back then. Plus, the 1960's were a relatively progressive time anyways lol.
@@dbzayan yea that is true, but with the way feminism and stuff is going it almost seemed as if men didn't do much of anything.
@@_trixieburg26 modern feminism is bs
Patricia Burgess modern feminism is different from back then. Many things were very sacred, esp to a married couple who was about to start a family
@@AlysonJackson yea I'm starting to see that now lol😂😂
Just knowing most of these people are already dead is so wierd...
Im certain less than two people in this video is alive
Well damn ☠️
You could not be more wrong, people from the 1962 are still around today !
Do you not understand math ? My parents were born in 1938 & 1941 and are still alive today (they would have been around 21 & 24 yrs old in 1962)
@samantha id say around 25% of these people are still alive
One Truth Media Company eh I don’t think I’m wrong... I wrote “most of these people” not all of them. And a lot of those people which they interviewed looked of middle age.
At that time they spoke elegantly and answered everything politely.
I suppose they would cut out the clips of a drunken bum slurring through his answer.
I feel like some of these responses might have been seen as rude back then but the way we talk has just changed a lot since
In the past, politeness was a requirement of all things that appeared in formal media, and cut out the rude people. Today, we look to the media for entertainment, and cut out the polite people.
Oh yes! It was such a beautiful time.
You're seeing the best of the best; remember this when you form an opinion of the past.
The men are all: it would be admirable to attend.
The women: get away from me youll only stress me out.
“I don’t want my husband to know I tore my V to my A” I wish that was a response
@@seangust9025 Tearing doesn't necessarily happen. Shitting happens often though, and all shits should be done with as much privacy as possible.
@@LilMissTravelPants that’s kind of graphic lol somehow more so than my less than realistic idea
@@LilMissTravelPants I had to clean my girlfriends shit off the floor lol.
@@LilMissTravelPants yeah child birth is a very stressful and not nice situation at all to put it lightly lmao, anyways yeah tearing happens all the time and if not natural tearing they cut you from your v to a if the baby is to big and then have to stitch you up all that happening right and the mothers choose at times to not have pain medicine my mother did that for all 4 of my siblings and now going on 5th. So imagine that without pain medication and giving birth in general without that is the worst pain one can manage without blacking out it’s like 51-52 and last from a few hours to 2days.
The sweet old man at 2:03 with his laugh is adorable. The way he responded suggested he was considerate, good humored, pragmatic, and open minded
By far the best response. Well thought out and complete.
@@bliss252 thank you 🙂
I thought the first guy had the best response until he came up. Yes men should also learn this but the feelings of the mother are at the first place.
That was my favorite response as well.
Definitely the best response. I told my wife, it depended on her, if she wanted me there. She wanted and it was a great experience and a very nice bonding with a newborn son.
However, I know a female friend, who threw his husband away from the room, because he tried helping so much, he pissed her off :) So, it really depends on many factors.
I would definitely recommend men to share this amazing moment with their wives, even though it is really hard.
Woah their manners and attitude is so delightful to see, I’m taking notes
Crazy to think 90% of the people talking are now dead.
Shows how fleeting life is, we are temporary beings having a physical experience!!
True! Life is short. We must be certain of our eternity! Jesus came to give us life, if we turn from our sin and put our trust in Him, we will be saved. If we reject our savior and creator, we will suffer eternally in the lake of fire where there is utter darkness, weeping, and gnashing of teeth. Repent, put your trust in Jesus. And then grow in the knowledge of God. Read His Word, the Bible, every day. Jesus loves you! ❤️ He did not come into the world to condemn the world but to save the world.
This is what i think when i watch this video too😂😂
skunkii exactly, they sound dumb
@@lurji there is a chance that life continues to exist after death. We have souls. Reincarnation is very possible too. I'm not a christian, I do not believe in religion, but for some reason I'm almost sure that there's something after death. If you really wish to survive. Why it is so delusional? I bet you didn't even experience something paranormal to be so sure about your theory. The only delusional people are those who say that there's no other kind of life after the death of the body. How can you be so sure? Having an opinion is fine, but don't make it public and offend someone with a different point of view than yours.
They guy who said "I think it has nothing to do with me, I'm not married." That was adorable to me.
He was just saying "it's not my problem" to all the women he has got pregnant.
Gareth H he probably didn’t get anyone pregnant
And that lady too who said "I'm not married". So Innocent. 🤣
@@garethhanby Doesn't look like the type imo.
@@Waldemarvonanhalt I did mean it as a joke.
the woman in the last looked like a hollywood actress
Yeah true!!
Yeah she was a baddie
I know, she was so pretty! I LOVED her hair, I wish we still had hairstyles like that!
does she have an instagram? just joking
@@canpuk She’s not a married woman. You’ll probably find her on Tinder.
The guy at 1:50 was the rudest and he was still nicer than a lot of people I know
I don't believe he was rude he just haven't been in that circumstance in his life so he shy's away. If anything, for me the doctor is the one I cought having a sour way of behaving.
@@ezratehzib2168 Yeah, I guess that’s true. Not saying he was rude, he just seemed to be the least nice to me, which is still fairly nice.
@@Lukeamcleod I see 👍🏻
The most important thing during birth is that the mama feels safe and as calm, relaxed and happy as possible. If that is with the father present, then he should be there. If not, then he shouldn't be there.
Definitely
This!! Some women have really uncomfortable experiences do they don't want anyone around- and for me I think I might want my partner around but I also don't know because I might want privacy! Really great video. I was really surprised with how even it was with their answers. :)
If the father being present does not help her being calm, relaxed and happy, that may tell something about whether their marriage is in good terms. And considering the time, when many if not most couples married out of necessity/tradition/norms/etc etc (unlike today, where it's much more accepted to stay single and not have children instead of forcing yourself to marry someone), it wouldn't be far-fetched to guess that a lot of those couples weren't that happy together.
Of course, that's just a guess, and I'm still 27 so what I know about those times I only know from what I've heard from my older relatives, but I think it's interesting to think about.
@@ptheorist4670 just because you are married doesn't mean you can't have privacy you still are an individual
@@Peayou... agreed
My mum have 7 kids in Vietnam and have to go through all of it by herself... and she said it quite sad and lonely have to do it all on her own... she is an amazing woman...love all her sacrifice for us.
Ok
Its sad, that some hysbands dont care about their wifes
@@blackblue7372 I think the problem might be that his dad was probably on duty at the time, as it might have been the Vietnam war, and the husbands are given time off to go visit their family. I mean, my grandpa was a great guy but that's how it was for my mom and all her siblings. He went back to visit my grandma and had to leave right away
Amen to your beautiful mother Original poster 💖🙂
In Vietnam the husband and family not allowed to go in labor room with the wife... my mum said all the women in 1 big room and each of them on 1 bed and you can see other women giving birth while you in labor pain....😖 and no bedsheets as well they have to bring their own newspapers and lay on them so after give birth the midwife only need to throw them away....😢😢and if they make the bed dirty they got told of by the midwife....
I still remember visit my mum when she have my little sister... she have to share a small bed with the baby and the room just full with bed and other mum with their newborn... no privacy at all...
Nowadays if the family have higher income they can go private hospitals and have a room for themself and the husband can go in...
The last lady is gorgeous. The hair looks effortless though it's not.
she reminded me of audrey in breakfast at tiffany’s 🥺
Yes, a giant beehive looks great,lol
She looks like Eva Mendes
She is absolutely stunning
I'm really interested in why she have a streak of light hair... I mean, that was common in that time?
“Yea, for sure” sounds lost within all this polite and proper talk
Guy was a bit ahead
@@PajamCamno he just didn’t care about being formal for the camera. Has nothing to do with being “ahead”
A moment of silence for all the husbands who were just as nervous as the wives and passed out in the delivery room.
I'm not even close to that part in my life and I already feel that would be me....The nerves would be like fireworks.
My dad*
I was there for the birth of my son ,who's now the same age I was then..I remember him coming out but what I wasn't prepared for is what came out with him ...I don't recall anything after that
My father passed out in the delivery room upon seeing me because he was so happy
The man in the bow tie at 2:01 was so thoughtful.
I said the same thing! Love his chuckle. He seems thoughtful, open minded, and funny
He was my favorite for sure
YES HE WANT MY FAVORITE.
hes dead
@@randomrazr yep and we will all die one day. Cool
I felt like the interviewer was like a time traveller from modern times going back and asking the questions for some reason; it's weird to think that he had his own 60s-like views on the subject too and wasn't just filming this for UA-cam to watch
Same!
omg thats what I thought too
These kinds of street interviews were kind of common before the interview. So the youtubers kinda copied that.
@@jakkonu5746 I wouldnt any they copied it. They jusy got a better medium in which to show more people the content.
Thus is something g that really common for people to di: interview people on the street about different things. It's too common for it to have ever been copied.
Husbands need to protect their wives in their most vulnerable moments. The criminal mistreatment of labouring mothers has improved with the presence of their husbands who subsequently brought charges against the medical authorities.
the lil old lady saying “some of the men need to see that” is so cute
Men who never watched a birth: Yes.
Single women without children: Yes.
Married women with children: Hell No!
Why is that
@@chrisyo4461 giving birth can be quite traumatic (your in pain from an hour up to 20hrs constantly (depending on the woman) some women like to have their significant other supporting them, others don't, it's personal preference, I guess that the women who don't want someone in the room with them, don't want people to see them scream bloody murder or be all sweaty and covered in blood. It's personal preference at most.
Stylomagic in my culture men aren’t allowed to see the birth and they don’t come too see her until the baby 1week is. :(
@@noinfoneeded1838 That's horrible, why?! I mean the mother decides that, should be that way in every culture.
@@drkatbun8566 "Doctor" 😂
I’ve noticed that they are polite despite their opinion, and there are much open minded than what I though they would be. While others disagree, that is their opinion, I’m shock many actually agree to be with their wives in the birthing room.
They may be open minded in that regard- but you need to remember the history. These people were NOT open minded.
@@dumbdumb8526 I wish I was at that time ,I despise men of today
Robby Dey I think you’d see how close minded they really were if you brought up homosexuality or civil rights. They’re open minded to mildly polarising subjects of that time.
Србомбоница I think you’d far prefer men of today if you actually interacted with men of the 60s. You’re job would be to get married and have kids, that’s it. Even if you want that, you wouldn’t be taken seriously on subjects beyond the household.
Michael Martinez civil rights. Racism. Sexism.
I not only watched, but literally 'caught' both of my children bare-handed.
No experience will ever match the feeling of that moment. Life changing.
I love how supportive the men are, it’s really surprising that the women didn’t want it.
Maybe they are afraid what their husband will say, if they wanted him to stick around during birth... they did not talk so openly about what birth looks like, like we do now and we still have to come a long way
A lot of marriages back then the woman may feel stuck in with bad husband's so if you don't have the most loving husband then you likely don't want him there
It was about women being pretty and such an image wouldn't be so nice. Also they are used to being seen nice and the view would made them shy like " no dont watch it its ugly"
I think it's just such a bad look and they are thinking they dont want to be seen in such a state. I would wholeheartedly disagree with their sentiment but I'm sure it's that. They are sweating, bloated, sometimes excrete themselves, screaming, irritable, and they are being ripped open from the place their husband seemed to enjoy the most. I can understand the sentiment of not wanting to be seen in that state. But for me that's the battleground of life and the most important moment I would be honored and beyond proud of her to have a woman go through that for something we created. Life isnt flattering so why should birth be
@@constancesmoothpiee1286 Ironic when you think about how that baby came to be.
Australians seem to sound a lot more British back in the 60’s
I-I thought they were British.
@@yesiyoongster1175 I thought that too at first, but ABC is the Australian Broadcasting Corporation. And it said Australia in the description.
Well Sydney
@@zakwanberlin I didn't notice until after I read your comment...I was too invested.
The Aussies stopped sounding like us brits around the 70s when there accent started to evolve for years there accent was a hybrid between British and Aussie but by the time the 90s and 00s came around there accent was very distinctively there own
@@wolfder6661 Interesting...
The number of men who said yes and that they should be there was actually surprising 🔥
And to think that most of them probably never did get a chance to see their children born assuming that the women of their same age held their beliefs during their child rearing times.
Not surprising. Men are great people
@@cz180p Neither gender can be called "great people". That's crazy vague. Lol.
It's a great reminder that women can be sexist too and that men could benefit from feminism as well (because of toxic masculinity)
@The Monster Under Your Bed Or she has just had some not so great experiences. A dog flinches when you go to pet it if its hit enough by that same hand.
For my first child I said I wanted my husband to stand at my head the whole time so he didn't see anything shocking. For our third he assisted me solo on our bedroom floor and it was amazing.
❤💕
Answers to the Question -
Most men: Yes
Most women with children: No
All women without children: Yes
Doctors: No
Also, It's good to point out that the people who said "No" were generally older.
Back then husbands made decisions without considering their wives very much at all. At a time when you need everything to go right for the health of your baby you're trying to bring into the world, you do not need someone with a hot temper making stupid decisions FOR you as so often happened. They weren't saying no because they just felt like it or because it was not a normalcy at the time. They were saying no for good reason.
Doctor absolutely knew what he was doing. NO. Because I don't want those jerks in that room with them causing problems for everybody trying to command an experience they know nothing about. But back then you couldn't just out and say that. So they took a more subtle approach.
It was a small amout of people, you cant make statistical statement about it
A doctor.
My former teacher told us that he was present at the births of his 3 children. The first child was born 65 or 66? He had to fight for it, the midwives and doctors didn't want it and couldn't understand it. That is not for a man, was the argument.
But he held it according to the motto: I had fun and now comes the seriousness. A real role model.
I think the doctors and nurses were abusive to the women which is why they didn't want the fathers to see.
Please explain?
What do you mean "abuse"?
Strange Fantasies
Ppl still abusive to women giving birth today
Ppl???
kiliipower you’ve never heard about obstetrical violences ? Honestly some things in the past were terrible (like giving birth with drugs that made you totally forget what was happening to you) and some things still are today (mostly lack of consent and information)
Interestingly enough, the younger women didn’t mind as much as the older women
Well, they were brought up in a different time. The older ladies were probably born and brought up long before the First World War in the late Victorian or Edwardian period. Very different zeitgeist than the post-Second World War time.
That's true, but why? Is it because of educational differences or because of the generational difference? Because the men were random.
@Yawd Oldschool Maybe because becoming someone's beautiful picture isn't a good "moral" point. Maybe we should share that difficult process instead of worrying how you look. It is not beautiful it is just ignorant.
Younger women have less experience. The older women, know what they are talking about.
the older women were that generation’s “boomers” lol
Best experience of my life, holding my son as he popped into my arms and into the world, he yelled his lungs out and I chatted to him. We BONDED. He grew up very close to me and knows I will always be there for him.
What I liked most is that some men acknowledged that they would like to assist but that ultimately it's up to the woman who is giving birth. So respectful!
@The Monster Under Your Bed I think that you asking for respect when you would be disrespecting the wishes of the mother of your child (if she didn’t want you to be there) is hypocritical. If I were to have kids the natural way, I would want the father to be there, but fathers can also be overbearing due to worry for the mother or they can make doctors’ lives more difficult if they hover. I think that if they are hindering the process of the birth, complications or no, they should be escorted out and if the mother doesn’t want the father there, he should respect that as she is the one going through the process. I think the best thing to do would be to discuss the situation before the birth because the father deserves an explanation as to why the mother doesn’t want his presence.
@The Monster Under Your Bed my dude 🙏🏾👍🏾
@The Monster Under Your Bed Well I don’t think any mother would refuse the father the right to be present at the birth of their child for no reason. The mother may not want the father to see her in pain, or maybe the father can’t stand the sight of blood. That’s why I said the couple should discuss this beforehand. While the father *should* be present at the birth of his child, I think that ultimately, the mother of the child comes first and foremost. You aren’t the one pushing a watermelon out of your body. You aren’t the one who has carried a child for nine months (give or take a few weeks). You aren’t the one that’s in labour. You aren’t the one who could have complications and is potentially at risk of death. I think that it would be rude for any father to disregard the mother’s wishes when it comes to the birth just as it would be rude for the mother to deny the father the right to be at his child’s birth *for no good reason* .
@The Monster Under Your Bed respect!
@@millienne8201 agreed! Fathers should be allowed to be present for the birth if the pregnant person wants them to be there. Not respecting the pregnant person's wishes would be disrespectful.
I was born in 1984. My dad stood outside the delivery room, waiting anxiuosly, listening through the door for my mom and pacing up and down the hospital corridor. The nurse comes over, takes a look at my dad at the far end of the ward, proceeds to a complete stranger who was sitting closer to the delivery room and delivers him the good news- " you are blessed with a beautiful girl! congrats!" 😂 With that in mind, 34 years later My dad made sure my husband sits right next to me while I gave birth to our first child!
Awe, what a beautiful story. I wish you, your husband, and your child only the best!
@Brian Boru tf
@Brian Boru your gross.
A beautiful what? Girl? They just assumed Gender like there was genitalia hanging out or something 🤔
@@billytheripper4 mfw
"No I think it would destroy them to a very great measure" hahha
Reminds me of Russell Peters comment about when your woman is giving birth. "Guys, do your best - to NOT be there."
"It's like watching your favorite restaurant burning down! They'll rebuild it... but I'm not eating there again."
Frida Nyberg That’s an extremely fucked up and dehumanizing way to talk about women and birth. Birth is literally the opposite of something burning down. It’s an incredible thing to witness... unless you’re a weak and immature person.
@@Aethuviel Ah yes because the vagina is an organ meant exclusively for male pleasure
Social conservative fear mongering over values will never change
She has a point 😂 men don't like it when women complain that would be hell for them 😂😂😂
I love the way they all talk. Their voices are very different from how people talk now and they have a beat with every word they say it’s truly wonderful
I watched my son, our first born enter this world and quiet frankly that was enough for me. When my daughter was born I held my wife’s hand and left the receiving end to the doctor. In retrospect I’m glad I saw everything once in including the after birth and the bloody mess that followed. It gave me a whole new respect for the ordeal my wife just went through. I thought to myself “Dear Lord what did I do to this poor girl!”
I'm about ready to pop with our first and have adamantly told my husband he's "top-side only" 😂
Truly I don't need him anywhere near there, I'll basically have an audience already. And I don't want to scar him. Heck I wouldn't even want to see it. But we're both ecstatic, so let's leave it that way 😂😂
"dear lord what did I do to this poor girl"
I'm wheezing 😂😂😂
I have given birth once and my boyfriend watched some of it although he had to flee up to my head once I started ripping... 😂 he did grab our daughter and pull her to my chest when she came out. My afterbirth also exploded out onto one of the midwives. Birth is a bloody mess and its not for everyone, but Im really glad my boyfriend chose to give it a shot since I feel like he has understood my struggles afterward a lot better than if he had not seen any of it
"Dear Lord what have I done to this poor girl" Gave her a child you could raise together. Considering you got a second child I would say it was worth it through all the pain.
@@laurejohannesen1024 what is afterbirth lol just curious
I love the man who says what the mother wants is most important but that he’d like to be there.
Huh. As a woman, the only person I WANT to be with me during childbirth would be my husband.
Absolutely not my parents or siblings.
+milkwaves 310
I once heard from my cousin of her friend that had a mother in law and an absolute coward husband that wouldn't hold his mother back when she tried getting into the room.
He'd mumbled something like; 'It's her grandchild honey, she wants to see the child get born' and left the room completely.
The woman told the mother in law (during birth) to leave, but the mother in law stayed and actually proceeded to take pictures of her, with her phone, claiming this was a one-time-moment to see her son get born.
The mother started crying and the nurse told the mother in law to leave. This became a fight, after which the mother in law was send out and the baby was born.
The husband later returned from the toilet, he'd been playing on his phone.
And 2 weeks later they went to a family-meeting and the mother in law proceeded to talk about how the woman has been vomiting and farting. And then, when the woman (mother of the baby) was gone from the room, the motherinlaw showed the pictures of the birth to everyone.
Including her bits on the photo. Everything was on there.
The woman came back into the room and they had a serious fight about it and never spoke again. The husband now visits the mother with his child often and then the lady stays home.
I mean, the husband failed her there, I feel the nurses could've done more, but it inspired me to barricade the room if I ever give birth myself.
Agreed, I do not want my parents or his in the room, no thanks. I'd want him in the room, but not watching if that makes sense
@@Widdekuu91 what is the matter with that family? Wow.
I want my mom in the room because I know my anxiety is going to be through the roof.
yeah I think most women at this time were pretty embarrassed about giving birth and didn't want their husbands seeing them like that for fear that they would think them gross.
I like the man who said it depends how both partners feel about it. It really does! Not everyone wants the experience to be the same and that's okay.