The KEY SIGNS That Relationship Won't Last & How To ACTUALLY Find Love! | Esther Perel

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  • @ginachavez3350
    @ginachavez3350 3 роки тому +91

    Her wisdom and clarity is insurmountable❣️ She is truly heaven-sent! ♥️

  • @vp5134
    @vp5134 3 роки тому +16

    Did I hear well??? Fluent in 9 languages?? I was already amazed by Esther Perel, now I am even more amazed by her?

  • @Booster85
    @Booster85 3 роки тому +219

    Social media and all them dating apps ruined relationships, these days your a swipe away from being replaced! Nobody likes working through problems and facing adversity, they want the quick fix and that’s the problem.

    • @TB-rx1ue
      @TB-rx1ue 3 роки тому +12

      According to one of her talks, you decide that you marry when you decide you can’t do better and want to delete the dating apps lol
      She also talks about how there’s definitely also the paradox of choice. It’s easier to choose one of two, but not one of thousands

    • @elroyjetson6380
      @elroyjetson6380 3 роки тому +6

      If you're a swipe away from being replaced then you are doing something very wrong.

    • @mrmarkcima
      @mrmarkcima 3 роки тому +2

      Seriously. I plan to delete all my social media and just leave on fb messenger.

    • @sherriflemming3218
      @sherriflemming3218 5 місяців тому +1

      Online is The Paradox Of Choice- Ted Talk

  • @viniciomattos
    @viniciomattos 3 роки тому +439

    Be careful, watching this video is dangerous, you will fall in love with this wonderful woman

  • @nataliesmith4778
    @nataliesmith4778 3 роки тому +13

    I love that > we stop looking at ourselves and only focus on the other person, and the problems we see in thm.
    As a single person I see this alot when talking with my coupled friends

    • @sandteena42
      @sandteena42 3 роки тому

      Hello film Ft. Worth, Texas

  • @bitarezaee6152
    @bitarezaee6152 3 роки тому +9

    I am so excited for this interview but I expected a longer talk. She is pure gold...

  • @gloriasaliba3395
    @gloriasaliba3395 3 роки тому +33

    One of the very best relationship psychologists I’ve heard !! The ability to hold multiple perspectives and through varied cultural lenses is key.

  • @kingzach5000
    @kingzach5000 2 роки тому +2

    She is so good with speaking and her words. It is her nine languages for sure that gives her that understanding. Truly remarkable

  • @frankvaneck1
    @frankvaneck1 Місяць тому +1

    What I see as a pattern in the work of relationships through having been watching Esther a lot is that when the host or questioning person is male, the conversation is about rationalizing and categorizing and trying to understand relationships. While when the other person is a woman it is more about the actual Living of relationships, the struggles, the conflicts, the hardship, through sharing personal stories and experiences.
    I prefer when the both being present. In this case the host does not show his own vulnerability yet only shows how well he is in understanding which is not adding to the convo unfortunately.
    Still Esther is gold and her work full of nuggets to collect for my own life.

  • @KhushSoul
    @KhushSoul 3 роки тому +12

    You have to bring her back for part 2!! Pleaseeeee

  • @scramblendan
    @scramblendan 2 роки тому +4

    She is the bomb. Love her and how she understands, explains how to love another.

  • @valvrj
    @valvrj 3 роки тому +4

    She is so well thought and full of wisdom. It's hard to maintain relationships in these days (personal, professional, spiritual) but with the right tools in place it's possible to nurture them and keep the flame going for life.

  • @frankmassello9073
    @frankmassello9073 Рік тому +1

    This is one of her best. I think the interviewer facilitated this. Thanks

  • @RedIria
    @RedIria 3 роки тому +227

    "She has podcasts around this stuff" .. how about "She has multiple TED talks and books published around this stuff" ?

    • @Miutaeht
      @Miutaeht 3 роки тому +13

      Yes, what happened to the amazing intros Tom used to do!?

    • @tatianab2049
      @tatianab2049 3 роки тому +1

      Yeah, a missed opportunity

    • @jemineye02
      @jemineye02 3 роки тому +31

      Yeah... C'mon Tom. Her work in relationship dynamics is groundbreaking. She deserves a solid introduction.

    • @shellshocked7620
      @shellshocked7620 3 роки тому +12

      And then he got the name of her podcast wrong too... Esther is wonderful and articulate. Tom was irritating.

    • @villaespesa1
      @villaespesa1 3 роки тому +4

      She's so insightful and articulate about everything she says, her introduction lacks how paramount she is around her area of expertise and how much she is respected.

  • @vaishalivaidya7978
    @vaishalivaidya7978 2 роки тому +2

    She is the most amazing speaker, thinker who brings all aspects of us together and how they interplay, right from biology, to evolution, to communities, cultures, beliefs, organisations, our shared and personal history and all of the little nuances that shape the interplay of our relatiinships.
    We truly need many many more thinkers, speakers like her, like Dr.Mate, Dick Scharwtz, Shefali Tsabary, who go on all levels of the ground to unearth our beautiful fascinating complexities.

  • @BrainSturgeon
    @BrainSturgeon 3 роки тому +4

    She is brilliant.

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 3 роки тому +23

    Wish i learned this stuff when it mattered. I lost the love of my life to pure ignorance of this stuff

    • @MegaCheese48
      @MegaCheese48 3 роки тому +5

      Same here.

    • @aundreaanderson5670
      @aundreaanderson5670 3 роки тому +5

      I believe many have probably lost the love of their life due to ignorance of Relationships.

  • @workinprogress6282
    @workinprogress6282 3 роки тому +1

    Great engagement here. Glad I listened in. Keep up the good work Tom

  • @christianperron8834
    @christianperron8834 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks Esther Perel, really really interesting and deep stuff. Love it!!!

  • @LloydAntonyLB
    @LloydAntonyLB 3 роки тому +1

    Another unambiguous conversation with Ester. 🙌🏻

  • @adzahyawmensah5657
    @adzahyawmensah5657 3 роки тому +2

    She's just AWESOME seriously extra ordinary

  • @VivianGray88
    @VivianGray88 3 роки тому +7

    “The vast majority of the world has never raised their children to do what’s right for them but what’s expected of them.” *Africa has left the chat. Asia would like to be removed from this narrative.*🥶

  • @Conn30Mtenor
    @Conn30Mtenor Рік тому

    I think that we wilfully dismiss the red flags. We also expect WAY too much from other people.

  • @michaelweatherspoon8197
    @michaelweatherspoon8197 3 роки тому +3

    I absolutely love Impact Theory. I have an album in stores called, “ Faith Without Doubt;” currently working on my PhD, I work at Amazon, and have full custody of my six year old daughter, Livia, yet I have not reached my financial apex yet. I am trying to find out where am I going wrong.

    • @dubomlbng
      @dubomlbng 3 роки тому +1

      All the best dude god bless you and your daughter ❤❤

    • @michaelweatherspoon8197
      @michaelweatherspoon8197 3 роки тому

      @@dubomlbng thank you so much

    • @tommit4959
      @tommit4959 3 роки тому +1

      Your Awesome Micheal. Your financial goals will come. All the best to you and your daughter. Sending love from Canada.

    • @tommit4959
      @tommit4959 3 роки тому

      Oops Michael. Missed spell.

    • @michaelweatherspoon8197
      @michaelweatherspoon8197 3 роки тому

      @@tommit4959 thank you

  • @l23918
    @l23918 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for the gift of these wonderful ideas for my relationships.

  • @cm4644
    @cm4644 Рік тому

    Relationships have become mostly disappointing. The lack of willingness to be honest is just sad. I don't know is a good answer, rather than spinning up a bunch of lies to feel better about themselves. Trust is so difficult when it person is not able to show themselves

  • @korban007
    @korban007 3 роки тому +3

    She’s amazing Tom, thanks for an amazing interview. FYI production adjustment for you or your crew. Your mic is in your main camera shot of yourself. Looks great framed but the camera focus is on the mic vs yourself. If want the mic to be seen use a boom and put it same distance as your body. Or if have a manual focus on that camera switch it to that and let it grab focus of your seating position and lock it there. At that point mic can be in on the shot for eye candy if that’s desired.
    Thanks Tom!

  • @annnnn9074
    @annnnn9074 3 роки тому

    you can't argue with Esther

  • @TheObserver567
    @TheObserver567 3 роки тому +2

    What an amazing lady. subd to her podcasts.

  • @davewolf8869
    @davewolf8869 3 роки тому +8

    I'm a bisexual who is in a relationship with another bisexual, every time I visit her home I bring an offering, such as food or Italian soda or what she likes, and her dog too. You'd be surprised how well it works.

    • @frankmazzie4855
      @frankmazzie4855 2 роки тому +1

      Sounds like manipulation..just a thought

  • @AJustingYourHeart
    @AJustingYourHeart 3 роки тому +2

    Great insights :)

  • @Reikimakesmehappy
    @Reikimakesmehappy 3 роки тому +2

    My two favorite people i couldn't click fast enough

  • @thk929
    @thk929 3 роки тому +5

    She’s awesome. Always love listening to her. On another note, you need to get Jordan Peterson on your show. Only then can you take it to another level.

  • @Howtovideos840
    @Howtovideos840 2 роки тому +3

    9 languages , I'm seriously underutilizing myself

  • @rcz2023
    @rcz2023 2 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @SimplyHealthTips
    @SimplyHealthTips Рік тому

    What if the things that kill the relationship happens only a few times a year? Is that a sign that will happen more often?

  • @ava-jl1ll
    @ava-jl1ll 3 роки тому

    How is the best way to go about having the conversation to reconcile again and do it right after a break/break up that neither of us wanted..

    • @aplik881
      @aplik881 3 роки тому +1

      Meet for a talk and speak your truth, even if your voice is shaking , as Ralph Smart said, and see / let the other person says their say, if they want. After months of hilding, i have to call my daughter and speak my truth witjout expevting nor asking nothing from her. It was good, she was surprised and said it was constructive. Now all is open. Much better than two silents apart. Much love

  • @JuliaZatta
    @JuliaZatta 3 роки тому

    Hi! What's the name of the author Tom mentioned in the interview? About compartmentalizing? I'm interested in reading it. Thanks!

  • @sallykiruri3339
    @sallykiruri3339 3 роки тому +2

    Criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt .....horsemen of the apocalypse

  • @leapasco8144
    @leapasco8144 3 роки тому +4

    Could you have a special podcast on "How to love or rather survive... a relationship when separated by a Covid 19 travel ban".
    .
    Unmarried couples are still struggling to have some recognition and rights. It's nerve-wracking I don't know what to do or to which to turn to anymore. 😢❤️💔
    .
    🇫🇷🇺🇲 I miss my US boyfriend and his family so much 🥺
    #LoveIsNotTourism
    #LoveIsEssential

    • @kellymarieoconnorful
      @kellymarieoconnorful 3 роки тому

      Aah! I feel you! My fiance is in the Netherlands I'm in Ireland, it's so hard. Much love to you both 💝

  • @issac7787
    @issac7787 9 місяців тому

    17:00

  • @kirstiechambers9682
    @kirstiechambers9682 3 роки тому +1

    25:50

  • @LSSYLondon
    @LSSYLondon 2 роки тому +79

    25:00
    People fight over these things
    1. Power and Control
    2. Trust and closeness
    3. Respect and integrity

  • @kikiqld1547
    @kikiqld1547 3 роки тому +321

    Imagine the quality of your relationship and your life if you are with someone who communicates so effectively with you.

    • @QUINTUSMAXIMUS
      @QUINTUSMAXIMUS 3 роки тому +7

      I agree that communication is very important. I had a relationship with a girl and we had very good communication, but because our relationship partially moved into the friendship area (it was partially due to some long distance), she said it wasn't keeping the relationship. I highly value communication, being able to understand someone.

    • @RFernandez18
      @RFernandez18 2 роки тому +6

      I keep a great communication and feel that keeping interest to your partner and same for him,is important. Work as a team, not against each other.

    • @HideoutLeather
      @HideoutLeather 2 роки тому

      @@RFernandez18 eew weie2 i3

    • @HideoutLeather
      @HideoutLeather 2 роки тому

      @@QUINTUSMAXIMUS w

    • @HideoutLeather
      @HideoutLeather 2 роки тому

      @@RFernandez18 re

  • @kokestomoshira5854
    @kokestomoshira5854 3 роки тому +298

    "The vast majority of the world has never raised their children to do what is right for them"... That hit hard👏

    • @mirandarodgers5401
      @mirandarodgers5401 3 роки тому +4

      Definitely felt that one

    • @Jusyna24071981
      @Jusyna24071981 3 роки тому +8

      But what’s expected from them… hit harder❤️

    • @fredkaufmann8034
      @fredkaufmann8034 Рік тому

      1:26

    • @MStar10
      @MStar10 Рік тому

      But what's right for them? At a young age - it's what parents think is right for them (ie their experiences and expectations?)

    • @Mr.Steve-O
      @Mr.Steve-O Рік тому +2

      Bad parenting is alive and well in the USA

  • @PH1M0
    @PH1M0 3 роки тому +85

    “Naming is framing.” 👏She has really great insight into relationships and individuals 💯

  • @dericflairmultiverse4952
    @dericflairmultiverse4952 3 роки тому +29

    10 languages, Esther Perel is also fluent in Relationships lol

    • @sinthiaszato9189
      @sinthiaszato9189 3 роки тому +1

      I wish I could have had my 18 year relationship analyzed by her when we were in crisis and it broke apart. I was very open to therapy but my partner was afraid and unfamiliar and resistant so the marriage went down the hole,,,although we remain good friends but in a surface lightweight more superficial arrangement. It’s hard to find a great therapist that both people like and trust, therapy and self introspection are hard and can be painful plus just a lot of work.

  • @reallifepsych3309
    @reallifepsych3309 3 роки тому +110

    Thank you so much for this video. So many of our past traumas still linger in our new relationships unintentionally. Improvement begins with awareness.

    • @QUINTUSMAXIMUS
      @QUINTUSMAXIMUS 3 роки тому +5

      Yes, we also are wrongly encouraged to look away from our pain, wounds when looking at them helps us heal.

  • @gabrielamartinyuk9894
    @gabrielamartinyuk9894 3 роки тому +46

    Marriage : Serving your spouse, thinking of their best interest. Imagine if BOTH spouses practiced exactly this? Both would be seen and loved and respected.

    • @always12lovemusic
      @always12lovemusic 3 роки тому +5

      Two people can go into a relationship/marriage with this intention and think that they are doing it, but both could feel unseen or not respected. It's important that they are on the same page.
      I could marry you and I love oranges, so every day I give you an orange thinking "she's going to feel so loved by my actions". You could love apples and give me apples every day and think "she's going to feel so loved by my actions". But in reality, you could hate oranges and I could hate apples and every gesture of good-will is actually offensive to the other. That's why it's important for you and I to sit down and communicate with each other and explain our wants and needs as well.
      But you're right, I think people get complacent and an imbalance can grow in the relationship.

  • @janetkirsten6233
    @janetkirsten6233 Рік тому +14

    There are 4 things that kill a relationship and you should look for from day one....
    1. Contempt
    2. Neglect
    3. Stonewalling and
    4. Disrespect

    • @LolitaSurely
      @LolitaSurely Рік тому +2

      1.) Criticism
      2.) Defensiveness
      3.) Stonewalling
      4.) Contempt

    • @AndrewBeniston
      @AndrewBeniston 8 місяців тому +1

      The four horsemen!

  • @TB-rx1ue
    @TB-rx1ue 3 роки тому +76

    “Fluent in 9 languages”
    This woman... 🙌🏻
    This is the best interviewer of hers. I love that he actively listens, paraphrases, etc. He doesn’t interject, change the subject etc. Kudos!!!

  • @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862
    @jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862 3 роки тому +98

    At the end of the day, good communication always wins

  • @huyentang8925
    @huyentang8925 3 роки тому +93

    Esther is incredible. Her works and podcasts are pure gold - I truly believe that everyone in a relationship or thinking about entering a relationship, should educate themselves with her work. Relationships take continuous hardwork, y'all. Amazing 👏

  • @edminaliutke1110
    @edminaliutke1110 3 роки тому +64

    Only 10 minutes in and I am so fascinated. I think this is the best of her interview's I've ever listened to. And that is a big compliment to Tom as an interviewer.

    • @1maybeline
      @1maybeline 2 роки тому +1

      Yes! I was proud of him for not cursing ones during this interview!

    • @edminaliutke1110
      @edminaliutke1110 2 роки тому +1

      @@1maybeline lol his cursing is fine. I don’t know why people are so against curse words. It a language of passion.

  • @TheDhammaHub
    @TheDhammaHub 3 роки тому +152

    It is so important to talk a lot and early about problems... the longer you avoid them, the bigger they get. Every couple learns that the hard way

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 3 роки тому +7

      However if you have a partner who refuses to talk over problems then that can be a big problem. Another answer may be too try to create more happy times instead but I found the untackled issues just piled up on us.

  • @maxmd9218
    @maxmd9218 3 роки тому +26

    1) Power & control
    2) Trust & closeness
    3) Respect & Recognition- Am I seen? Do not distort my intention.

  • @stephenbrody2717
    @stephenbrody2717 3 роки тому +160

    This lady is one of the best communicators I have heard with regards to relationships

  • @h0llyisawes0me
    @h0llyisawes0me 3 роки тому +72

    Absolutely love Ester's concept to place two objects in your daily view.. One representing what you must leave behind and another representing what you mean to foster, and asking what you have done today about each.

  • @katelynmccorkle9902
    @katelynmccorkle9902 3 роки тому +16

    Power, Trust, Respect, Integrity, Recognition, Understanding, Nurturing, Reaching out.....VS....Shaming, Criticism, Stonewalling, Contempt.

    • @Melly16yr10
      @Melly16yr10 3 роки тому

      I'll also add the 7 deadly sins. Ego, Arrogance, Ignorance, Sloth, Lust and Envy

    • @katelynmccorkle9902
      @katelynmccorkle9902 3 роки тому

      @@Melly16yr10 I've been thinking about those lately and I think about how good it feels to have pride and lust for others and my life itself so I can't agree 🤷‍♀️

  • @muumarlin1731
    @muumarlin1731 3 роки тому +25

    She's the amazing aunt we all need. A national treasure:)

  • @tracesprite6078
    @tracesprite6078 3 роки тому +20

    The beginning of a relationship with all the attention and curiosity is exciting but I also think people need to withdraw from one another at times. You may need to mooch about, to sulk for a while over hurts which feel too petty to bring to the light of day etc. The important thing is to not extend these withdrawal times for too long as they can be hurtful to your partner.

  • @christinekriel3773
    @christinekriel3773 3 роки тому +29

    Esther Perel’s work is exceptional....I’ve watched and listened to every piece available....this interview was one of the most incredible...you both so articulately isolated different individuals experiences......please see me, please hear me, please respect me....thank you to both of you.

  • @tanuhuff
    @tanuhuff 3 роки тому +25

    Change your thoughts - Change your life

  • @Sunshinebuttercups
    @Sunshinebuttercups 2 роки тому +4

    My partner often mistranslates what I say and even when I say immediately no that’s not what I said he just says that’s how I took it and I’m like but that’s not what I said so there’s no point being upset or angry but he won’t budge and I can’t resolve.

  • @maxmd9218
    @maxmd9218 3 роки тому +7

    4 Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse
    1) Criticism
    2) Neglect
    3) Stonewalling
    4) Contempt

    • @maxmd9218
      @maxmd9218 3 роки тому

      Sorry. No. 2 is Defensiveness

  • @elgeebee5250
    @elgeebee5250 3 роки тому +13

    So true. Meditation and self awareness and bodily awareness! Polyvagal theory too! Also perception understanding one's past/values/triggers/beliefs

  • @sxd29
    @sxd29 3 роки тому +17

    LOVE Esther!!!!!!!!! I can hear Esther Perel and Brene Brown ALL Day!!!!!! They make such simple points but oh so right points!!!!!!!!

  • @lateralus411
    @lateralus411 3 роки тому +4

    How to avoid pitfalls that end relationships? Don't get into a relationship.
    Please before you go replying...I'm kidding...maybe.

  • @min-achozeno3237
    @min-achozeno3237 3 роки тому +19

    Im listening to this and feel she’s onto something really important at 13:00. A lot of us use the same words but the cultural context of the words are different. Words like sex, marriage, family, happiness, etc. Marriage meant something entirely different to my grandparents than it did for my parents who came together out of love more than parental expectations. Success and happiness for them is still very much tied to how well my sister and I do in life.

  • @HowellConsultations
    @HowellConsultations 3 роки тому +52

    In case no one has told you today, Keep pushing through the heartache, lack of motivation & self doubt. When you feel lost, that’s the perfect opportunity to find a reroute. There’s so much you’re meant to do in this lifetime, don’t give up on it. Hope our channel helps you on your journey ✌

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 3 роки тому +5

      You have touched on an important issue. Many of us feel somewhat discouraged by life and may not have the confidence and energy that Esther has. Some people need to withdraw from one another at times.

  • @davidgoodman6928
    @davidgoodman6928 3 роки тому +27

    Tom did a superb job at this interview. Best Esther P interview on the internet to date.

  • @ivastoianova7453
    @ivastoianova7453 3 роки тому +66

    She is incredible:)

    • @kathrynrobinson8924
      @kathrynrobinson8924 3 роки тому +4

      💯 I love her too!! I learn so much from her. 💕💕💕

    • @JaZmine147
      @JaZmine147 3 роки тому +5

      I could listen to her voice forever.

  • @kirstinstrand6292
    @kirstinstrand6292 3 роки тому +17

    Open, honest communication is a prerequisite of good sex.
    Without vulnerability in communication...sex will disappear between the two
    in the relationship.

  • @IevaKambarovaite
    @IevaKambarovaite 3 роки тому +34

    Tom's questions are absolutely briliant. I'm in awe.
    I've read Esther Perel's books and listened to her speak so many times, but this conversation was very different. Thank you so much 🙏🏻

    • @palladium607
      @palladium607 3 роки тому +3

      In my opinion, Tom is one of THE all time best interviewers. 👌🏼

    • @ChantalFourie
      @ChantalFourie 3 роки тому +3

      This is what makes Tom THE best interviewer! He has the unique ability to dive deep into someone's work and then to interview him/her in such a way that he gets all the golden nuggets in a very short time. I've listened to so many of Esther's interviews, podcasts, TED Talks, but this one is the best. I love her work and it certainly had a great impact on my own relationships. Thank you to you both!

    • @IevaKambarovaite
      @IevaKambarovaite 3 роки тому +2

      @@ChantalFourie I couldn't agree more. He's one the best prepared hosts ever!
      If you get a chance listen to Tom Bilyeu on Mikhaila Peterson's podcast. Loved seeing Tom on a different side of the conversation.

  • @aossi4565
    @aossi4565 3 роки тому +18

    Literally made me drop what I was doing to take notes. I was saving this one for the weekend and I’m beyond excited! What the two of you bring in these conversations is amazing.

  • @bitarezaee6152
    @bitarezaee6152 3 роки тому +9

    And by the way, your introduction was not the same as the other guests! She is a genius and she deserves to be introduced better

  • @revathysembuganathan
    @revathysembuganathan 3 роки тому +8

    ooo i am thrilled to know more about the card game Ester described towards the end of this talk, fantastic interview as usual Tom. Thank you for bringing Ester's wisdom.

  • @IevaKambarovaite
    @IevaKambarovaite 3 роки тому +18

    This was so good. I'm going to spend my night writing a couple of letters instead of binging on another series. Absolutely loved this 💜

  • @susanminihane4664
    @susanminihane4664 3 роки тому +11

    Wow! What a great interview! This content is very helpful for my personal and professional relationships. I was so engrossed with the interview it seemed to last only 5 seconds.

  • @bh5079
    @bh5079 3 роки тому +16

    I wish this was longer. She is truly amazing at what she does🙂

  • @mn9120
    @mn9120 2 місяці тому +1

    Dating became a mess because such persons like this woman pretend they know it all and some insecure people think they should look for answers that somebody else should tell them.

  • @joeydiamond4756
    @joeydiamond4756 3 роки тому +14

    This needed to be longer! I love this insight on relationships on any spectrum. Wonderful!

    • @joshikawale25
      @joshikawale25 3 роки тому +1

      You can check out more on Lewis Howes's channel

  • @terrifranklin7585
    @terrifranklin7585 3 роки тому +8

    2 of my favorite peeps! She makes intelligence seem so common place. Tom is still the best interview around! Do it again- soon please.

  • @selfbeliefchief
    @selfbeliefchief 2 роки тому +5

    Most of us stare at the things that are uncertain and can't be controlled and hope it changes. Certainty can be a feeling, so create certainty in the other areas of life and it will give you a stronger foundation to handle some uncertainty 🙌

  • @consummatel
    @consummatel 3 роки тому +8

    I LOOOOOVE HER!!! can we please have a part 2?

  • @belengutierrez1961
    @belengutierrez1961 10 місяців тому +3

    Esther is ABSOLUTELY brilliant, it's MESMERIZING to me how she's able to break down SUCH complex concepts in a digestible way.. she's the hero relationships need

  • @Beatrice_bb
    @Beatrice_bb Рік тому +1

    32:35 I need to understand better the objects example....

  • @ellipsis1228
    @ellipsis1228 3 роки тому +5

    Wow! So many tools handed out in this interview. Will definitely be looking into her work. She's amazing. Thanks for this golden nugget!!

  • @b_lilla_t6464
    @b_lilla_t6464 3 роки тому +6

    OMG, can't wait for the card gaaaame😍😍

  • @lytecyde
    @lytecyde 3 роки тому +3

    65% of startups fail because of the cofounders relationship. An astounding waste of economic resources!

  • @cloudhi
    @cloudhi 3 роки тому +7

    It's not just romantic relationships that this all applies to, but everything discussed in this vid is important to foster a good relationship with anyone in this world.

  • @sabah4123
    @sabah4123 3 роки тому +2

    Don't shack up before marriage & take it seriously. 🤷‍♀️

  • @MaddieLam
    @MaddieLam 3 роки тому +7

    Wow, Esther really just shined in this interview.

  • @smenicatti1039
    @smenicatti1039 3 роки тому +9

    My simple way of communication explanation is that there are 2 types of people. Narcissist style with whom the word communication is one way and it is their way and then you have the second group who are willing to communicate and fix problems.

  • @RozzaMindset
    @RozzaMindset 3 роки тому +6

    Great episode! That's why communication skills are so important! Thank you for this valuable information!

  • @anaharap8781
    @anaharap8781 3 роки тому +5

    She needs to be invited to "Conversations with Tom". I'd love to hear you guys talk more.

  • @readingsbycara
    @readingsbycara 3 роки тому +15

    Soooo much wisdom.
    ♥️
    *I literally have to re-watch... !*

  • @keepcreationprocess
    @keepcreationprocess Рік тому

    Pure laziness - thinking that the other person is not worthy of attention....Tensions in the world.. a whole list....complacency - you actually do not appreciate and respect - the other person anymore......

  • @FZAChannel
    @FZAChannel 2 роки тому +4

    24:59 Three things we are really fighting about . Power/control , trust, recognition

  • @mireillekobeissi3881
    @mireillekobeissi3881 3 роки тому +4

    She is Fabulous!! By far the best...highly skilful and inspiring. Very insightful interview