How to Make Guys Like You
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- In which John discusses the six ways that girls can get guys to like them, and in the process talks about gender constructions and ee cummings and world of warcraft and twilight and giraffe sex. Romantic advice at its very finest.
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CAUTION: do not confuse nerd boys with boys who are a little weird and a little creepy and eventually a little mean. ....
+Damen Franklin he means not to confuse them with creepy, weird, shy boys who seem nice at first, then get obsessive and rude
All people are a little weird and eventually mean, its inescapable I'm afraid. But at least take comfort in the fact we're all the same in that we all have ceratain weirdish tendency. Yes you do too, just ask your friends to be honest
+Flames_Fan_32 I got my friend in a relationship with one of those ... He seemed like a normal nerd ... And then we found out he's had his whole life mapped out since he was 11, and was squeezing my friend into this picturesque life plan ... And she wanted nothing to do with it ... And he freaked out ... And yeah ... It was terrifying when she finally broke up with him ...
+Flames_Fan_32 cue Edward Cullen.
XD My crush ain't needy tho. He's really dense, or I'm too subtle.
Probably both.
So I have nothing against nerdy guys. My boyfriend is a dork and he's amazing. However, guys who are idiots and then use nerdiness as a reason that no one likes them aren't really options.
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"Gentlemen, Nerd Girls are the worlds greatest underutilized romantic resource"
That has to become a t-shirt or a poster or something.
George Henderson That was funny
wow this video is ancient and honestly this so is this comment. how did i get to this part of the internet? i dunno. but imma live in the past for a second before i finish picking up my room and one day, i will be 9 years in the past too and someone else might just find this random comment. anyway imma see if i could make that poster :)
as a nerd girl, letsfuckinggoooo
I need to get me that T-shirt. I would wear it, in an attempt to attract nerd girls.
Katies like 20 now. Wow.
omg no dont do that i feel so old
Dylan Ruggeri Why would you do that?
+Dylan Ruggeri are you kidding me, UA-cam IS 10.
+Dylan Ruggeri She can drink alcohol soon. I was 5 when this video was made. I'm 12 now. I feel so old, not only because I don't get all the vine references or shit songs they listen to these days.
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"How to get boys? Become a giraffe!"
You should become a therapist or something!
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Hi hello, 26 year old female, straight, nerd here. I would like to attest to John's video. Nerd girls and nerd guys usually have awesome relationships because they find a common "nerd-ground" in which they discover a nerdy topic they're both really passionate about. There's nothing more beautiful than seeing the person you adore talk passionately about something they love. Then when you're both passionate about the same thing, a nerdgasm is formed - something which can only be described as spectacularly adorkable. Stay safe and keep dreaming. Adieu. x
Unless they're passionate about genocide because I'm pretty sure that looks like Hitler
Yes I made a joke about Hitler. Just ignore that
Awww....kinda.. ^_^
Wow you’re 34 now
The only reason I clicked on this video is because I thought it was going to be about cloning yourself. I was deeply misguided.
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Wang Bao Wen, you aren't fooling anyone.
Yup
Watching this when your name is Katie is SO much better.
Casandra yes!
Hey guys...
Lucky :(
Absolutely!
"Whose self would I otherwise be being?"@1:48 just about sent me tumbling across the floor with laughter. Thank you, John. An always thank you for the laughs.
I know right? By the way, I'm a huge admirer Ariel, and I love all your covers to death! I really hope you win the contest :)
It's true though. No matter what you'll be, in the present, yourself.
"What's plastic?"
HA!
I am a nerd girl dating a nerd boy. We are probably going to get married so that we can make nerd babies. They will be raised on LOTR and Doctor Who and will one day rule the world.
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If this helps anybody, I had my first "boyfriend" when I was 20 :D And honestly, being single is AWESOME! You get to do what you want, when you what, travel wherever, eat whatever, stay at home or go outside.... don't rush into relationships, you will always have the opportunity. Enjoy the time alone and use it to work on yourself, build yourself and gain experience.
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I feel you so badly
Alsy Isn't it though?? I'm 22 and haven't been in a relationship. Some people seem surprised, as if me not dating means I'm undesirable. Nah, I just wanted to be grown up first.😃
amiablehacker Also, surprise fact about me: I've also never had a girlfriend before not because I'm ''undesirable'' but because I actively didn't want to. In fact, tens of girls wanted to go out with me but I was like: Nope.
...except routinely have free sex with someone who makes you feel less lonely: can't do that by yourself.
Which is largely why people want relationships in the first place.
Great, now I feel like I'm the only guy who watches these videos.
In all seriousness, the main reason these videos are more viewed by women than men is because all men are taught to be interested in are sports. Anything outside of that and we're considered nerds, or "gay".
In my experience. I know, I know. Anecdotes are not evidence and do not equal objectivity and all that.
That is ridiculous! haha. I heard about Tinder this last year and I was like "why not give it a shot?" almost everyone was shirtless and says they like to go out hiking, to the gym, or participate in some sort of sport. What I was looking for...? Someone I could play some freakin games with and not feel so self conscious with.
Also, for some reason people do not put up profiles... only them being shirtless...? I was so confused.
I do not like to bring up feminism (males == females)... not to be confused with femi-nazi's (females >= males) often because people on both sides get defensive. But I seriously do feel that it would help males feel more comfortable breaking their barriers as well.
Sara Potter I agree with ur point,I don't know if its the same for girls, but with guys being super nerdy is gets u widely made fun of. I don't know if this is just my experience but in middle school no one would even talk to me because I didn't like sports and I was nerdy. Girls used the fact I was nice to them and guys out right bullied me and it sucked. Eventually clubs in my high school allowed me to find friends and then this amazing show, but it was still hard being a nerdy guy.
Again I don't know if similar thing happen with girls or not, but being a nerdy guy is not a fun time.
i know that feeling lol. thats why i am proud to be a massive nerd. fuck off, jocks ;)
Keth Wintham Be who you are, dude. Assuming that you're still in either middle or high school, the worst thing you can do for yourself is to try to change for other people to fit society's narrow, rigid standards; especially for gender.
Fuck off, jocks, indeed. :)
Me too
Dear Katie. It's been 12 years now and hopefully you are still alive. Please let us know under this comment how it all eventually worked out for you. Best wishes, "a person who used to be a nerd boy 12 years ago"
You are no longer a nerd boy because you are a nerd MAN
nerd boys - yes
dorky boys - yes
dorky nerdy boys - yesss
rugby boys - nuuuu stay away
Your ex played rugby? That's what I heard.
His comment is too real
The truest of all truths
Eileen C YAS!
Leilani Fam Than that perfect boy has an unfortunate passtime
To girls happening to read this, you don't have to do much. Some guys will like you and some won't. My opinions are: Make-up is a waste of time, be healthy not under nourished, act like you are beautiful even if you are not, and be smart. You are already one step there if you are on UA-cam reading this comment.Also; If you like a guy, try to demonstrate it somehow. I cannot tell you how many times I have stopped pursuing a girl because I thought she was disinterested. Try not to be afraid of rejection in that sense.
Thank you.
this whole thing is true.
Ummm..."act like you are beautiful even if you are not"...stop.
Juliana, he means confidence.
This comment is very very true in every way. The girls who get my attention the most are the ones who don't wear make up and still have confidence in themselves because of that. This doesn't mean arrogance. No, no, no, that's one of the worst things to be. What I mean is real confidence and security with who you are.
^He's right. Confidence is key. If you don't have it, fake it. Fake it enough and it becomes real. People respond more to a person who walks with purpose than to someone who walks without.
"underutilized romantic resource"? Perhaps the best quote from you yet!
I am a girl who loves / obsessed with ancient and medieval history ,literature ,music of all kinds as well as etymology.Where are the nerd boys at?
+Echoes Obviously watching videos on giraffe sex and playing WoW
Robert Bartlett haha!
+Echoes Do you like swing dancing? There's history buff, swing dancer and occasional linguist British youtuber Lindybeige.
+Echoes "I'm self-proclaimed smart girl, give me attention."
+Conway79 i would love it lol
The way Katie's 27 now, whewwww
I would argue that the “be yourself” advice is less ambiguous then John thinks it is. I am also a 15 year old girl, and once I started caring less what people thought of me, a guy asked me out! So it’s not hopeless, now-26-year-old Katie.
To be fair to get any age boy to like you just compliment them once and they’ll remember for the rest of time.
@@Nick-me1ms He'll remember the compliment. Will he marry me and love me with my flaws and have children with me care for me until death? I'm guessing it takes more than a compliment for that.
@@i10i60 yeah this is “how to make guys like you” not “how to make guys fall in love with you” not to mention that you can’t make someone do those things those are much more voluntarily than a childish crush.
@@Nick-me1ms Like is the begining of love, for most women a like progresses to love. You can very much so make a person do all of these. Even liking someone is a voluntary reaction, to some extent. Love is a far stronger and more involuntary feeling than like I'd say.
"Paris Hilton-esque failure to understand hotness."
LOL dead.
And 14 years later...
I can attest to the hotness of nerd girls, and not just that there are girls who are nerds who are hot in the early 21st century magazine cover definition of the word, but that nerdyness itself is hot in girls. Almost a decade ago I started dating a girl I met in the college of engineering who, at the time, I thought was pretty and cute, but was not physically my normal "type". I say this to point out my flaws, not any flaw that I may have imagined her having. 10 years later it is painfully obvious that she is far hotter than any woman I ever dated before her.
"Gentlemen, nerd girls are the world's greatest, underutilized resource."
P.S. People who sparkle too much in the sunshine will certainly not sparkle at night, or in their tombs.
Because they won't have tombs… Because they're glittering fairy princesses with fangs from the Twilight Series. *shudders* HARRY POTTER FTW.
Grace Anne Gasperson
*throws scarf, flips tissue, drinks pretentious coffeh with imported milk while putting on stupid glasses that dont work* Such casuals, obviously Lotro and Discworld are where its at.
Tho seriously, read those over shitty school fanfics turned massive book series due to kids books, for tweens, being popular.
Best quote of this video," Gentlemen, nerd girls are the worlds greatest underutilized romantic resource."
that's what i keep telling people
We are all scared or uncomfortable when it comes to romance. Everyone. Throw a bunch of hormones on there and you've got your average teenager.
The moment you ask somebody out, is like putting a knife to your chest and hoping 'eyes closed' that it's not going in. For both sexes equally scary.
It makes you kinda nuts, time feels like eternity, every step closer to "the one" is earth shattering.
And then to confess your love, written on the most fragile paper.
Show it with a shaking hand.
Anyway a rejection isn't so bad. You'll survive. All you did in the end was giving somebody a huge compliment.
We're all just people, pooping once in a while. That someone isn't gonna change your life into life 2.0 or something.
21 year old guy with some experience.
My heart stops and waits for her eyes.
To be struck by the thunder that is her smile
and like the phoenix arise from it's ashes.
Eager to be struck again.
+rijste94 Aww
That poem is magic to my fantasy books
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Yo smoky. No problem man.
I enjoy writing. It has a price but i enjoy it.
Wow! You wrote so beautifully
(I'm taking screenshot🙃, to save it n' read it later).
*All you did in the end was giving somebody a huge compliment* .
That's a beautiful way to see it.
Anyways, thanku for giving me something to think (it'll probably roam in my mind whole day, now ) !
I dunno where you're in ur life right now.
It's been quite a while, since u wrote this.
Nonetheless, good wishes to u :)
Stay safe!
Just don't confuse nerd boys with Nice Guy incels who claim the nerd/geek label but have internalised movie and video game traditional misogyny and objectification of women and feel entitled to your time simply because you're a girl and they want you.
another thing people ask is WHY?
why are girls so obsessed with finding a boyfriend?
simple: Confidence. if a friend complements you, its because their being polite and friendly and love you because your awesome. family sees you as this beautiful little angel so thats out too. when it comes to boys, for me at least, they have a different perspective. and if they want to date YOU out of all those pretty, nice girls he has met, well you start to feel a little better about yourself. their look and opinion is honest (mostly i hope) and if they dont think your pretty or nice or funny then hey they just dont ask you out.
im literally out of all of my friends,the least confident. i feel ugly and untalented and its not because no guys like me its simply how ive felt since i was at least 5. and im not feeling sorry for myself or whatever. all im saying is why i think girls want boyfriends. its someone whose an outsider that cares (hopefully and isnt a jerk) about you and someone that you care about and makes you feel a little better about yourself.
alright NOW IM DONE RANTING
Or else they just are feeling really sexy and want someone to cuddle with and make out with. Personally, I never wanted a boyfriend for the status or ego boost of it
You are dead on the money.
Katie's 27 now. How'd it go, Katie?
dang... weird. i remember when i first found this video and katie was only 19.
i know nobody will probably see this since it like 5 years old but here it goes: first "hotness" is all theoretical. its like the quote "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" its up to you what you find "hot" or "attractive" or not. second, DO BE YOURSELF yes everybody says it but don't change yourself for anybody, to fit there form of "attractive". third and final point "nerd" nerd is an overused word that is a misconception of what it is. just because you like things that have been labeled nerdy doesn't mean you are a nerd. what even gives them the right to label something or someone nerdy?
It is up to the beholder to decide what personality-traits* they find attractive - which is a very important decision to make... but many will argue that physical attraction is not something they can control by power of will. You shouldn't change to fit someone, but they wont change to fit you either; sometimes you just gotta find a click
Actually physical attraction isn't theoretical. 1, im general, and not always, people find more average looking people attractive. So middle height cheek bones, symmetrical features, and a medium sized nose. Also, if a person looks more similar to the people you grew up around and see everyday. This is because uniform features suggest a healthy childhood, and when lookimg for a mate, you naturally would want the best health for your children. Of course, the average is very different around the world, and this rule doesn't apple to everyone, just the majority. Also, it depends how much of your decisions are made on physical attraction and not on inner beauty. Physical beauty and attraction are also a bit different.
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Nerd boys and nerd girls need to get together and make more nerds!
Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨Ʒ my father and my stepmother have created their own Star Wars and Marvel nerd of their own and I love him
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Katie is 27 now. Wonder how it's working out for her.
Kind of wish we knew how well John's advice worked for Katie. She would be 25/26 now.
nerd girls are fuckin awesome
i gots one mahself
Probably not anymore... xD
Damn, I thought all the women in Poe's life died, leaving him emotionally scarred. Then again, you have made it very clear that you are "NotPoe". Please excuse my confusion.
Aww cute!
*sobs in corner clutching The Fault In Our Stars*
update i no longer have a nerd girl
as of 6 months ago
Guys: Katie is 26
om nom nerd boys... I got mine ;), I've had him since we were 16. Love nerd boys, they're such gentlemen.
Haha" Nerd girls are the world's greatest under utilized romantic resource." Why is that not on a T- Shirt XD
As a female nerd, its hard to find nerdfighters where I live, since the only word (that isn't even remotely a word except in the "urban dictionary") that the boys here can pronounce is "bruh".
Both before and after, there was an advertisement like "I´m a really hot woman and i will show you how to behave, so every woman will fall in love with you". Just the opposite to everything John said and i think thats kinda amusing :)
Even though I'm only 13 and I'm not dating yet I know that I prefer nerdy and/or dorky guys more than those stupid stereotypically "hot" guys. I'm intelligent for my age so I can not and will not deal with having to explain every word that comes out of my mouth.
PandaProductions Don't underestimate people.
I'm not, I just think that I'd like cute and dorky guys more than I'd like "hot" and brawny guys.
As nice as that is, also don't define people. As in,don't limit your perception of them by placing them in a category.
It doesn't really matter to me right now. I'm thirteen and don't give a crud about dating
PandaProductions Regardless of dating worthyness, i meant people in general.
i can't even get nerd girls to like me. : (
...wat?
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aaaand i think we just found out why.
That comment seems to imply that nerd girls are somehow below "normal" girls, while really we are more intelligent and less socially corrupted by society. so suck it:p
boxerini No, I'm saying I don't understand the question from the way she was wording it. Was she asking me it or was she implying "what do you like to do?" is a good basic sarter question? I've been waiting for a reply but haven't gotten one. An explanation would be helpful.
***** I understand how you were thinking that way when you read my comment, but you seem to be missing two things.
1. Most "nerd girls" are usually the type I prefer because they usually live up to the description you gave(along with often being much more kind and caring) so I usually try to respect them more, and
2. John said nerd girls are the most underutilized romantic source, and I'm not saying they're needy or "easy" or whatever else comes to mind, I'm just saying that nerd girls should be easier to click with personally, if you get what I'm saying. Thanks for understanding.
I'm a 17-year-old nerd girl, and I find that more people hit on me online than in real life (no one has ever hit on me in real life).
The one thing I've noticed is that the people who do hit on me are usually older than me, like people who are 18 or in their 20s.
Guys who are still in high school typically aren't as physically mature as girls in high school, and those who are usually still aren't mentally mature, so they seek out the one type of girl society says you should go for: tall, voluptuous, skinny girls with long hair and delicate features.. I have nothing against these girls, they're just like every other girl on the inside, it just happens to be that these type of girls are the ones who society tells us is the ideal female.
Basically any girl who is seeking a (male) romantic or sexual partner while they're 15 probably won't get one, or may get someone older than them (that's why some girls say they prefer older guys). It's best to just wait until college to pursue romance, or better yet, just let things happen naturally.
Yes nerd girl FTW!
All I want is to marry a nerd guy. -A nerd girl
+Paige Jasmine ok, i put my heart in this. Imagine. It is 8:30 pm, the sky is full of stars, and we are sitting together on a dark beach in the south of italy.It is only us and a 3km long sealine (not sure if thats a word) We are sitting quietly just listening to the waves break and observing the beautiful universe. We are not speaking, afraid to hurt the silence. Well silence is made to be broken so I, being the legendary supersaiyan i am, decide to break it in the best way i can think of. I come closer to you, give you a soft unexpected kiss on the cheek, and ask you slowly: "Would you like to play chess". Keep in mind i will probably crush you but in the end i will just blunder everything and let you win, because well i love you. You like this? :)
+Paige Jasmine ok another one, im fired up and full of nerdy romance. It is night again, 9:20 pm. We are sitting in a small restaurant by the sea in a small greek village. All thats standing between us is a small rose, a tiny candle and two small half filled glasses of wine. Our teeth are probably red due to the absorbing porous enamel but my eyes do not make it further than your beautiful lips. We enjoyed our food. This time there is no silence (because of the drunk couple a few tables behind), but we are also talking slowly. We are not discussing anything in particular, just speaking from the top of our minds and that is probably the reason why we started at the natural habitat of jellyfish and are slowly converging to quantum mechanics. Still, after talking and drinking, a thought is settling in our minds, like a feather dropping in an oxygen filled low gravity environment. It is the thought of love, it is the thought that we are in peace. As this heavenly petal hits the bottom of our mind and touches our soul, a memory is formed and by the side a discovery. We cherish this date, and we just discovered ourselves, together.How about that? :) Im not a writer, im just an engineering student. Hope you liked this.
Avery Allred i was very high.
Applications still open?
As a recently 15 year old (I'm 16) guy, I can testify that all of this information is true. I'm a pretty big nerd, so was my ex girlfriend, and it was great. Then she moved and we broke up because of distance. But in the two years I really knew her, I grew a lot, both physically and as a person. When I first started hanging out (translation: spending time with) with her at 13 years old, I wasn't super attracted to her, partially because of the societal ideas of attractiveness planted into my younger mind. As I got to know her, none of that mattered because she was awesome. If a girl is "hot", that's a bonus, but a guy who is mature for his age looks for personality traits that are attractive to him. I particularly liked her intelligence, as my engineering, science, and history knowledge was well balanced by her music, art, and writing knowledge. Nerd girls and boys do rock, and my movement away from my childhood wish to be cool was one of the best things I've done for myself.
I'm a 19 year old guy and I am a lot like you but I've never had a gf. But I almost did and she was just like what you described. I wasn't physically attracted to her but I fell in love with her personality.
I like nerd boys :) Shy cute band/orchestra type nerd boys.
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Same. Mine's the type who likes books and video games, and is running for honors.
Though I ain't a nerd ;~;
I like nerd boys too. But sometimes nerd boys aren't necessarily considerate boys. They're all about putting you on a pedestal and not really wanting to know you but to just achieve the goal of being WITH you because they want to. A possibility of knowing you and then not liking you doesn't exist in their minds. It's scary to be a part of someone's "dream", not reality.
"Be yourself" "Who's self would I otherwise be being" lol
I legitimately don't think my eyelids have ever fluttered.
I here, as a 16-year-old boy, contractor obligated to disagree with the possibility that I feel, stupid, awkward, and eyelid-fluttery sometimes. I feel dumb and awkward all the time.
I think people need to understand that attraction can grow out of emotional connection. Both I and my friends have experienced this - you meet someone, you have a lot in common and get on really well, and then a relationship grows out of that; you don't necessarily have to have been attracted to them from the second you meet them.
Also, boyfriends come along the second you stop worrying about getting one. Trust me, there are a lot of places to meet boys when you're not constantly thinking about where you should meet them. The supermarket, walking home from work, your friend's friend's cousin...Honestly, just get on with your life (which is arguably a lot simpler when you're single anyway) and it will happen. It worked for me. :)
As a 26 year-old nerdy female dating a 26-year old wonderful nerdy male who I'm very much in love with: I advise every young person reading this and worrying over dating issues to:
1. Give time and attention to who your are, what you want to do in life, what you value;
2. Give time and attention to what kind of person you want to be with, what is more and what is less important for you in a significant other. Set and respect your standards;
3. Emotional roller-coasters and hormonal crushes and relationships may be fun, painful, and give lots of experience; but in the end, you may just want peace, trust, and a wonderful friend who you also happen to desire, to be your partner in life;
4. Don't lose faith, don't be harsh on yourself. You don't have to become more anything for others, but improve yourself in all the ways that really feel fulfilling to you;
5. Give yourself a hug when times are hard. I had many nights in which I literally hugged myself out of loneliness. But when you find a wonderful person who will be your playmate and game buddy and travel bestie and friend to leon on and the father to your future babies, it will be amazing.
Love y'all.
In my opinion, you can't just expect to find a need boy who likes you. It just happens. My boyfriend and I were just good friends hanging out with each other and then we realized our feelings after being around each for a long time. So don't give up hope, you might've already found the guy/girl, you just haven't realized it yet or you just have to wait patiently and see what happens in your future. :)
All my crushes are nerd guys and I'm a nerd girl. NERD POWER, ACTIVATE.
"Ok, so my first piece of advise to get boys to like you: You should become a giraffe."
Best advise yet, John Green XD
And John Green just became my biggest hero. Thank you, sir. I shall bow down to you forever.
as a nerdfighter I dont really care that much about whether guys like me or not,cuz I know I'm awesome in my own way!
id rather spent my time playing game and watch awesome video on youtube,but that doesnt mean that I didnt take care of my body,skin and clothes/fashion.well,girl are girl after all :3
Well, most of us don't get eyelid fluttery very often, but the rest of that applies.
In college and I have never had a boyfriend and well, I'm in the library if you want to find me.
Drops everything
Runs to library
Gets distracted by obscure book about 18th century civil service recruitment
DanielsPolitics1 I'll meet you there!
Are you referencing Good Girls? Cause if you are I love you
I have a nerd boy and just as you granted Katie that they are a little bit needy, I was adding on that they are a little needy.
So perfect.
Lmao I was fifteen when you made this I wish saw it then
Oh my goodness. Hello, my name is Katie and I am currently 28 days away from being 15. I also have a crush on an adorable Nerd-Boy and I, myself am a Nerd-Girl. This is amazing, thank you for reading my Ted Talk. D.F.T.B.A.
is it just me or John never blinks? like, maybe he does, but whenever he talks he just stares straight right into the camera and talks fast, unfazed... not that there's something he should show emotions about, but... get my point
your name, ermagerd
He does that on purpose.
I think I've watched this like 20 times sporadically over the last 5 years.
" Don't sparkle in the sunshine. " Ohgawd lololol
This is so ZeFrank.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT ABOUT BREAST IMPLANTS
so you think it's ok to shame women for their choice to have breast implants?
heytherelottie I don't see it as shaming women with breast implants.
Did John Green just say y'all?
i have a problem with the premise that nerd boys aren't hot, many of my friends are very attractive and also nerds
to be fair this video was made before it was socially encouraged to be a nerd.
@@ymmijx6061 But, it's still not really. Wdym?
I totally was like Katie in that boys didn't really like me, mostly because I was weird and pretty geeky. Then I went to college (this is in the UK so I don't mean uni) and I found a whole floor landing of nerds and geeks. And I found out, geek boys like me. And that is the secret, you have to find the right type of people. Although it isn't easy.
Can confirm. I am a boy who is denying feeling stupid, awkward, or eyelid fluttering in the comment section.
*eyelid fluttery*
I failed guys.
3 john videos in a row? did that just happen?
*and this is probably my favourite one. thanks for making me smile John*
Seems like I'm almost 5 years late, but from personal experience I'd say make sure whomever you are interested about notices you. The first girl who tried to hit on me went unnoticed by me for 4 years until my little sister told me about it. I am rather happy I missed that one though since she dated 6 boys after that in just as many days.
mysterioACE gee, I wonder what happened to her .-. That's a lot of boys. I dont even know how to get a guy, let alone talk to one xD
Who is watching this in 2021? John is hilarious.
Thank you John from 14 years ago🙏
john green, you and your brother continue to brighten up my days
As a nerd boy, is it still good for me to go for other nerd boys, or do I stick with regular boys?
Depends. What kind of boys are you interested in? Could be both. All depends on taste.
Considering they aren't douches, it doesn't matter. If you find an interesting boy that you like and he likes you, go for it.
Nerd boys. Always nerd boys.
I always feel stupid and I always feel awkward but rarely do I flutter my eyelids.
Well then you are doing something wrong. Back to the practice room with you.
I'm a gamer (Like many teenage boys) I find it quite intimidating to ask a girl really anything. I'm rather quiet and shy when it comes to asking anyone out and yet I from body gestures feel that girls probably feel the same way about me. As I do play sports I'm not fat or weak in that matter, quite literate but yet I find the same issues.
Idk if it helps but I love nerd boys. They're not hmm... What's a nice way to put this? full of themselve... So nerd boys for life! Actually now that I think of it all the boys I know are nerd boys probably because I'm a nerd girl...
It's not that nerd boys are attractive, but it's that they're not the typical male society tells us to like. Because they don't care about fitting into the mold, they choose to be themselves instead. And that makes them thoughtful and real, with all their flaws. So, I guess "be yourself" even if everyone thinks your "hot" is better than being "hot" :D
As a 17 year old girl born with a cleft lip and palate, I've been asked a few times why don't I look normal, my response "I look pretty dang normal". Now when it comes to dudes (the male ones) I've been told a few times that I scare them and that I can be "hot". Now this worries me mainly because although I'm scary (or intimidating), I'm still apparently a kinda 'hot' nerd who's never been approached by a teenage dude who was just interested. Why does this worry me.... because of questions like "what type of girl is approachable?"... "do guys just settle?" ... "if a guy approaches me, are they just settling?" Honestly I don't want them to settle or tell me I'm pretty and I don't want to be apart of the mass of 'approachable' girls. What does that even mean?!. I'd rather hear "Do you want to have a pi contest where her person who wins, wins a pie?!" or "Do you think if i spit off a really tall building it'll cause damage on it decent?". Stuff like that!
To all the humans/animals/alien life forms out there (which I tend to fit in that category since you know, I am an alien) I want to give you some advice.
Please. Do as you wish (you know, as long as it doesn't hurt other people) because you do not owe any boy or girl or whoever/whatever anything! Be the person who you want to be. Seriously though dating does not really matter unless you yourself wants it to matter.
he never blinks!!!!!!
1) Be a girl
2) Don't be a psycho
aaaaaaaand you're pretty much done.
This video is reason #354 I absolutely love John Green.
where can i find one of these nerd boys
Did u find one....If u did please tell me how.
Don’t quote me on this but if you go to college and take some of the hardest classes available you might meet a few nerd boys. Outside of consistently going somewhere with a higher than average concentration of nerd boys, I’d say the rest is luck. Yes I’m a nerd boy. (Sorry, I’m taken by a nerd girl)
"I don't know how to get boys to like me either" XD omg
I am a nerd girl and i totally needed this, thanks lol
First of all, I like women who bring something to the table. Such as hobbies (Plural), when I meet someone and they can get me involved in something new those experiences are always fun. There is nothing worse then a women who has no hobbies or interests. Go to school and become educated, having intelligent conversations is a must for me. Work out a FEW days a week, and eat healthy a FEW days a week. I feel that physical attraction is important, most guys don't like women who just let themselves go (have some self restraint). Now I'm not against dating a "bigger" women, but I need to be around someone who is active a few days a week. Also living a healthy life style is important. Lastly be willing to experience new things, guys like to try new things and you should be too. These are just some things I look for when I go out on a first date.
so i was thinking what advice or witty comments i had to give and then i realized. i am one of those nerd guys and i cant really tell you how to get more intelligent or more stupid physically oriented guys to like you. i can tell you how to get a nerd to like you, because being myself i have realized what is effective on me and probably similar nerds: give a noticeable indication you might be interested in him. because chances are you are the only one so he will be lonely enough that if you are at least moderately attractive (which depending on the nerd may or may not include wearing clothes that go below your knees and cover your torso reasonably [also worth noting that if you are moderately attractive to one person you might not be moderately attractive to another person simply because people actually have types... to an extent]) he will instantly be considering more as a potential mate as opposed to just another girl. also as a nerd he will then be trying his best to impress you (assuming you were his type and at least moderately attractive [this is nerds so that bar is very low]) however he will probably because he is a nerd, be calculating all the ways asking you out could go wrong, and basically overthinking the whole thing and be lacking in confidence to begin with and yeah... getting a nerd to like you is easy, getting him to ask you out is hard. but you can always just ask him out (you can even skip the getting him to like you part and instead just ask him out, most nerds are desperate enough to go out with any girl).
I spent the majority of this video working my brain to try and figure out how one flutters their eyelashes.
You don't flutter eyelashes; you flutter eyelids.
Hm... I can't get my eyelids to flutter either...
You just blink really fast; do the opposite of what John does.
Talking from my experience, I can confirm that my eyelids have only fluttered when a) I was trying not to fall asleep or b) I was very dizzy. As I conclusion I must say that I boys (I'm generalizing here) like eyelid flutters I will get to know them when I am very tired.
Be nice to them and act interested (In them),
and laugh at there jokes even if there are not funny.
Marcel Rusk No, they shouldn't have to act interested or fake laugh. If the person doesn't interest you or make you laugh then you should find someone else to be around.
Cablev94
Well, this isn't "how to have a long successful relationship", its how to get guys to like you, and, well, that'd do it.
acomputer121 That's really sad.
Cablev94 That's also life
I totally agree, nerd girls are hot. I'm not talking about chicks who play video games, and dress up for comic con necessarily. What I mean is that I like thinking about stuff. The act of indulging my innate curiosity is entertaining. So, if I meet a girl who can keep me entertained by facilitating that curious nature, then I'm am a lot more likely to think she is hot. This holds true even if she does not meet the stereotypical "hot chick" ideology of whatever pop culture portrays as attractive.
Like, whose self would I otherwise be being?
Where's my nerd boys? Where do you find these nerd boys? Not 15yo boys.. more like 28+yo men. Where do I find 28+yo nerd men?
From one Kathryne to another, I have absolutely no idea.
An abundance of katherines
Find a nerdfighter page for your area and get asking around! My local one has people of all ages (though granted most are teenagers)
If you do find where they are hiding please share the knowledge! I'm in search of a cute nerd/geek guys that share my love for books, comics, etc...
If you're talking about a nerd like this- memegenerator.net/instance/43112991
go to a Dungeons and Dragons competition at a comic book store.
If you want a "nerd" guy like this- www.nerdlikeyou.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/male-nerd.jpg
go to Starbucks. Oh, and the first done is the actual nerd, not the hottie with the thick-rimmed glasses and the stupid hat.
Here I am 14 years late and my stupid brain has decided to interpret 'how to make guys like you' as 'how to create a guy version of yourself.' I don't know why I'm like this.
John Green, You are officially my favorite person on this very planet.
l go to an All Girls School :/. Makes the whole "find a nerd guy" thing a bit difficult.
I went to an all girls school too, it is harder than a mixed school but don't worry, you will eventually find yourself mixing with guys through mutual friends at parties and stuff. And I know it's hard to do so, but don't rush yourself to get a guy now in school, because if you don't there will be so many amazing guys out there in the world at college or work or whatever :)
he's right, I'm 15 and in high school and if any girl knew this sorts stuff I'd be totally screwed😄
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I would like to state that what you just said the biggest lie ever. I do not consider myself "hot," nor smart enough to be called a nerd, but sir, NERD GUYS DO NOT LIKE ME. And it is so sad because I think the most attractive thing you could find in a man is their intelligence. I mean, I have dated attractive guys but after a time talking to them is very similar to talk to a wall. I once had a crush on a nerd/geek guy which told me he would not date me until I dressed up as Zelda which broke my heart (I'm talking about a 21 years old male). Dearly John, if you see this (which is quite impossible but I would still like to try even though it would be easier if I sent you a message), illustrate me with your knowledge. I do not know how to get nerdy guys to like me or maybe there is something wrong with my physical appearance that I should modify but I do not know of. Thank you
It's not completely possible for anyone to get someone to like them. The person you like has to like you back. It doesn't matter if you're a nerd or not. Granted, we nerds do get a bad rep by others who think we're not wanted, even though things have changed.
The point is, even to us nerds, it's never easy to get someone to like you. And it shouldn't matter who you are. If it does, then I would've been screwed and humanity would lead to extinction.