"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guys you don't wanna date is a circle." Just about the greatest John Green quote I've ever bothered to record. Thanks for making my day, John.
Dammit. It's six a.m., I have school in two hours, I turned on my computer to look up a question for math nine hours ago and somehow I've landed in 2009.
You're so, so right about talking about getting married before a proposal. When my fiance 'officially' asked me to marry him we both knew what the answer was going to be, because we'd decided together it was what we wanted. I think if a proposal is a genuine surprise, there's something wrong in the relationship.
i was bitten by a nerd girl once. now i watch vlogbrothers videos and obsess over star wars and harry potter. i think i may be turning into a nerd guy. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME
Some people try to discourage my dream of computer engineering by saying, "Guys don't like girls who do guy stuff." or "Guys don't like girls who earn more money than them." And I'm all like, "Screw what they think, I'm doing what I want to do. Their loss."
Similar to one of John's answers, "the Venn diagram of the group of people who think 'guys don't like girls who earn more money than them' and the group of people whose opinions you shouldn't care about is a circle."
how many guys do you know? most of the guys who don't ask out smart girls that i know are intimidated by the fact that they feel inadequate, but still want to ask out smart girls.
It appears that you have just met many who aren't intimidated by having slighter intellect than their partner...so I wouldn't worry too much about your Venn diagram. but when push comes to shove, you can always call upon the nerd army to gallivant into your battle :)
This is one of my favourite brotherhood 2.0 video. I'm not sure if most people know this but I thought I'd put it up here cause its rather hilarious. The reason John answers 53 at 2:20 is cause that how many times he says he has been dumped (he talks about it in the authors note at the end of An Abundance of Katharines)
He missed the obvious brownie points of calling his wife a beauty queen. Oh well, I'm sure she's just on a whole other level of beauty that she puts beauty queens to shame. She's probably also incredibly smart, which is arguably more important
The 'Navy SEAL tongue' analogy has resulted in my boyfriend constantly mimicking a snake whenever I try to kiss him in an attempt to be more SEAL-like...possibly not the best kissing advice for pedantic men.
The way I asked someone out was by repeating to myself "That feeling is pride screwing with you" and "This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time." You build up a tolerance to fear. And when they reject you, you feel free, free enough to go out with someone who actually likes you.
From 1:31 to 1:35 I died of laughter! Secondly yeah nerd girls aren't actually scary. We are actually more scared of you then you are of us. Or is that spiders? No. Everyone should be afraid of spiders.
This has to be one of my absolute favorites for 2 reasons: 1) Too much tongue can totally destroy an otherwise enjoyable kiss 2) The Venn Diagram comment is brilliant.
John, re-watching old videos and came across this. My partner and I have discussed marriage, it is NOT something we are just waiting to talk about whenever he brings it up, we are in the relationship equally! Also, we never kiss with tongue, seems so incredibly unnecessary and sloppy. Little over Three years we have been together now so it seems to work well for us!
After a frustrating discussion about who shall propose to whom, my significant other and I agreed that when one person proposed, the other shall offer an equally elaborate answer. You know how some people choose to rent out a sign or go to a fancy restaurant, etc.? The other person is also given that same opportunity to arrange something special in order to provide their answer. If you're not into that idea, just know that marriage is something that the two of you should have spoken about LONG before a proposal. If the proposal is the first time "marry" has come up in conversation, something is amiss and you should take some time to think about it. It doesn't matter how public it is, it doesn't matter how much that significant other spent on the proposal or the ring; what matters is YOUR happiness. And also theirs, this is a relationship after all. But your happiness matters EQUALLY as much. If you're not ready for that, you better let your significant other know. It would be unfair to them sign up for a lifetime of partnership, just because they asked, if you weren't sure you really wanted it as well.
April 2018! I discovered John and Hank a couple years ago via Crash Course, but have only recently begun binge-watching all the Vlog Brothers videos. It’s fun and inspiring to watch how impressively the project has grown (in your pants) from simply two brothers keeping in touch into a worldwide community of nerds (and nerd allies) fighting to decrease world suck. You might even say it’s AWESOME!
I'm fairly certain that this was the first vlogbrothers video to be posted after I susbscribed. Yay for my first moment of John Green in my sub box! Disclaimer: I am at least a little bit intoxicated right now.
John. I love you more every time you answer these kinds of questions, and some how make 'Just do it' completely logical. hahaha The porpoise question was epic.
hey there , I'm a real nerdfighter boy . Sure I'm two years late but I spontaneously combusted when I saw you , I'm a phoenix doe reborn from my ashes .
This video is solid gold. From the porposing boyfriend, to (excellent) advice from the Yeti, to winning over beauty queens with peanut butter treats and beyond. I smiled so hard my face hurts. :D
John(sarcastically): you know cause I’m such an expert in the field I get that this is a joke but you literally write romance novels you kind of are an expert
Yeah, I'm 18, but I'm a master at love. And true, pure to heart, unconditional, love isn't achieved anywhere but through the time and effort spent connecting to yourself especially, and resolving personal and impersonal issues with your 'significant other.' You either love, don't love, shrink love, or grow love. Love is still there, always there in fact. Open it, be the open doorway for it. Don't give up on it. Create a good world of acceptance and choice, and the romance will be total bliss..
I love what you said about marriage and proposing. I always hates that notion. It should be discussed and mutually agreed upon, not just popped up out of nowhere.
I was having a really, really bad day, but this honestly made my life way better and gave me such a good laugh, especially the tongue metaphor. PS : all of the nerdy girls are indeed here
Man I completely forgot there was a time when the Vlogbrothers had a Julia Nunes intro. I still love both Julia and the brothers Green now a decade later.
"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guys you don't wanna date is a circle". True words, listen well and I can't stress this enough. Being alone is way better than being with toxic people whether family, friends or lovers. Be yourself.
Hi, I'm a guy who's been on the other side of your situation (long term relationship with a girl who needed to see other guys). Relationships shouldn't be seen as forever--that's terrible to wish upon yourself or somebody you care about. You should be growing as a person, living experiences, and learning. And one day, when you're ready for forever--you'll know it. Just talk to him about it, and please do reassure him that he's the most amazing person. If he is, he'll hurt but he will understand.
I like how Hank makes videos about the James Webb Space Telescope and Rocky Horror and weapons that were made for the sole purpose of killing zombies, and John makes videos about romance and how to get through life.
LAUGHING. I was thinking exactly what you said after you said "Where are all the NERDY GIRLS?" I just about died as my mental dialogue and your vlog synced up. This happened.
I'm currently IN a long distance relationship, and it sucks. The long distance part, not the actual relationship, which is awesome. I've also been through it in the past, and it sucked then, too. If you currently 'try to talk once every other week', you're off to a rocky start. I'd say that if there was enough two-way interest, you'd be communicating a lot more often. Like, daily. Also, being too far away to visit adds to your troubles(we have that issue, currently).
Hahahah!!!! I've just been introduced to your novels by an incredible NERDFIGHTER(also a girl) and you sir, are a gentleman and a scholar. I have LOL'D LITERALLY for the past 3 minutes, and have now watched this video 3 times in a row. You're a great author and definitely an inspiration to NERDS! Thanks John!
Is a circle... Wow, John. I knew that TFIOS had been written over years and years, but you gave us a look at in two a half years before it was even released.
john, i really like this guy. he was a senior while i was a freshman now i'm a sophomore and he is a freshman in college. Even though hes to far away to visit we are really good friends and we try to talk once every other week. is it worth it to still try and tell him i like him as more then a friend or should i just let him not be bothered by a silly high school-er with a crush. we both love your videos so i figured you'd be the best person to ask
I think it's cool to ask someone out using "check yes or check no." And if the person is doing because they're shy, not because they think it's cool or they're in the middle of class or something, I think that's adorable. :)
Don't panic, I don't think anyone goes through a relationship without thinking about being romantically involved with someone else at some point. It's normal and you'll probably grow out of it soon :)
Relationships don't work without talking guys, kissing is awesome, sex is awesome, but they should not be the primary things you do in a relationship, ever. Because news flash, IT DOESN'T EVER WORK. I had friends who only ever kissed, they never talked about anything, and when I asked the girl about this she said "Oh, well some people just don't talk in their relationships, ours is okay" and that same day, the guy realized they had nothing in common, and he dumped her. Facinating how that works.
-Ask them.
-With your voice?
-Yeah.
-But what if it quivers?
best line
real problem tho haha
+The Optimist Vibe I don't know man, the "how do I know my boyfriend's about to porpoise" answer was pretty great...
+
That one time I ask a girl if she would have lunch with me and I was so nervous I think the whole bus quivered.
"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guys you don't wanna date is a circle."
Just about the greatest John Green quote I've ever bothered to record. Thanks for making my day, John.
"What if it quivers?" One of my favorite quotes ever.
Dammit. It's six a.m., I have school in two hours, I turned on my computer to look up a question for math nine hours ago and somehow I've landed in 2009.
That's the procrastinating spirit!
I have landed it 2009 too...just that I am from 2021 which makes my case even worse😂
@@riddhimanna8437hi from 2024..😔
You're so, so right about talking about getting married before a proposal. When my fiance 'officially' asked me to marry him we both knew what the answer was going to be, because we'd decided together it was what we wanted. I think if a proposal is a genuine surprise, there's something wrong in the relationship.
Where are the nerdy girls? Heeyyyy boyyysss! *awkward wave*
Oh ya same!
Heyyyyy boyyyyyyys. Awkwardly waves back........
Seriously guys, the nerdy girls are right here. Don't be afraid. We're nice.
Yas we don't bite
Aakanksha Pattanaik sometimes
wait, so i should hide the chain saw?
Rachel Luna You guys bite? Should I be afraid?
i was bitten by a nerd girl once. now i watch vlogbrothers videos and obsess over star wars and harry potter. i think i may be turning into a nerd guy. WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME
Some people try to discourage my dream of computer engineering by saying, "Guys don't like girls who do guy stuff." or "Guys don't like girls who earn more money than them." And I'm all like, "Screw what they think, I'm doing what I want to do. Their loss."
You go girl.
You got it girl, go for it!
Similar to one of John's answers, "the Venn diagram of the group of people who think 'guys don't like girls who earn more money than them' and the group of people whose opinions you shouldn't care about is a circle."
Damn right! You do what makes you happy and don't you give a shit what anyone else says
I like the attitude
I wish the Venn diagram of guys who don't want to date girls who are smarter than them and guys that I know looked less like a circle.
Same
You girls deserve better than the self conscious morons you have to sift to to get to the... Respectful people.
I wish that the venn diagram of non homosexual guys and guys that i know looked less like a circle
how many guys do you know? most of the guys who don't ask out smart girls that i know are intimidated by the fact that they feel inadequate, but still want to ask out smart girls.
It appears that you have just met many who aren't intimidated by having slighter intellect than their partner...so I wouldn't worry too much about your Venn diagram. but when push comes to shove, you can always call upon the nerd army to gallivant into your battle :)
Hello immature ex boyfriend? John Green said that breaking up over text is bad.
lol
This is one of my favourite brotherhood 2.0 video.
I'm not sure if most people know this but I thought I'd put it up here cause its rather hilarious. The reason John answers 53 at 2:20 is cause that how many times he says he has been dumped (he talks about it in the authors note at the end of An Abundance of Katharines)
He missed the obvious brownie points of calling his wife a beauty queen. Oh well, I'm sure she's just on a whole other level of beauty that she puts beauty queens to shame. She's probably also incredibly smart, which is arguably more important
Well, he says we don't see her in videos because she's so pretty that her cuteness would break our screens. So that's something I guess
Jay Of course, she has been in multiple videos. She even has her own channel (Art Assignment)...
The 'Navy SEAL tongue' analogy has resulted in my boyfriend constantly mimicking a snake whenever I try to kiss him in an attempt to be more SEAL-like...possibly not the best kissing advice for pedantic men.
"With your voice? What if it quivers?"
hahahahahaha
The way I asked someone out was by repeating to myself "That feeling is pride screwing with you" and "This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time." You build up a tolerance to fear. And when they reject you, you feel free, free enough to go out with someone who actually likes you.
Those are really excellent mantras. :D
lolzcakey Why thank you. Use them in your daily life if you ever have trouble doing something, it's what I do.
I might just do that. (:
I got on the internet to do research for my short story. That was 4 o'clock, it is now 10pm and I've spent 6 hours watching vlogbrothers videos.
gabby lemass Time well spent, trust me.
Thank you for not making me feel alone
"What if it quivers?" is one of my favorite John moments ever.
Hello...I'm a nerdy girl...I mean, I guess...
I think I am..
or am I a potato..
THESE ARE REAL QUESTIONS PEOPLE!
Most definitely a potato. You're welcome.
i too am a potato. you'll be pleased to know that there is a whole community of us living in underground tunnels. join us if you dare
The Optimist Vibe i would totally join you ;)
Thindorama everyone is welcome
The Optimist Vibe can i sit next to you??
From 1:31 to 1:35 I died of laughter! Secondly yeah nerd girls aren't actually scary. We are actually more scared of you then you are of us. Or is that spiders? No. Everyone should be afraid of spiders.
***** Well you are lucky then. I am terrified of them.
Lol I laughed and didn't die but I thoroughly enjoyed it as well and your comment :)
This video never gets old
The porpoise comment, omfg i cannot stop laughing
This has to be one of my absolute favorites for 2 reasons: 1) Too much tongue can totally destroy an otherwise enjoyable kiss 2) The Venn Diagram comment is brilliant.
John, re-watching old videos and came across this. My partner and I have discussed marriage, it is NOT something we are just waiting to talk about whenever he brings it up, we are in the relationship equally!
Also, we never kiss with tongue, seems so incredibly unnecessary and sloppy. Little over Three years we have been together now so it seems to work well for us!
After a frustrating discussion about who shall propose to whom, my significant other and I agreed that when one person proposed, the other shall offer an equally elaborate answer. You know how some people choose to rent out a sign or go to a fancy restaurant, etc.? The other person is also given that same opportunity to arrange something special in order to provide their answer.
If you're not into that idea, just know that marriage is something that the two of you should have spoken about LONG before a proposal. If the proposal is the first time "marry" has come up in conversation, something is amiss and you should take some time to think about it. It doesn't matter how public it is, it doesn't matter how much that significant other spent on the proposal or the ring; what matters is YOUR happiness. And also theirs, this is a relationship after all. But your happiness matters EQUALLY as much. If you're not ready for that, you better let your significant other know. It would be unfair to them sign up for a lifetime of partnership, just because they asked, if you weren't sure you really wanted it as well.
OH MY GOD. John! HAHAHA. Between the kissing "demonstration" and the "What if it quivers?", I couldn't stop laughing!
the first 10 seconds of this are pure ART. also, anyone for 2018?
YES on both accounts!
April 2018! I discovered John and Hank a couple years ago via Crash Course, but have only recently begun binge-watching all the Vlog Brothers videos. It’s fun and inspiring to watch how impressively the project has grown (in your pants) from simply two brothers keeping in touch into a worldwide community of nerds (and nerd allies) fighting to decrease world suck. You might even say it’s AWESOME!
well, make sure you don't forget to stay that way!
13 years later and this video is still gold!
I'm fairly certain that this was the first vlogbrothers video to be posted after I susbscribed. Yay for my first moment of John Green in my sub box!
Disclaimer: I am at least a little bit intoxicated right now.
John. I love you more every time you answer these kinds of questions, and some how make 'Just do it' completely logical. hahaha
The porpoise question was epic.
"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guy you don't wanna date, is a circle."
Excellent kissing advice
Did all nerdfighter boys near me experience spontaneous combustion and therefore cease to exist or is it just me?
No, me too.
hey there , I'm a real nerdfighter boy . Sure I'm two years late but I spontaneously combusted when I saw you , I'm a phoenix doe reborn from my ashes .
Excuse me, I have to make a call...
This video is solid gold. From the porposing boyfriend, to (excellent) advice from the Yeti, to winning over beauty queens with peanut butter treats and beyond. I smiled so hard my face hurts. :D
I am quite literally crying with laughter, despite the fact that I've seen this like 4 times!
I forgot how much I love this video to bits.
right? so great.
I could never stop a vlogbrothers video to ask someone out. It's just not that important
John(sarcastically): you know cause I’m such an expert in the field
I get that this is a joke but you literally write romance novels you kind of are an expert
seriously, John. you are adorable. I always wanna give you a big teddy bear hug after I watch your videos.
Yeah, I'm 18, but I'm a master at love. And true, pure to heart, unconditional, love isn't achieved anywhere but through the time and effort spent connecting to yourself especially, and resolving personal and impersonal issues with your 'significant other.' You either love, don't love, shrink love, or grow love. Love is still there, always there in fact. Open it, be the open doorway for it. Don't give up on it. Create a good world of acceptance and choice, and the romance will be total bliss..
I vote nerdfighter date sight!!
"Where are the nerdy girls?"
Guys, I'm right here...
I think all girls should know, us guys are more scared of you then you are of us. Simple.
+ryry love Really??
+aaron123ninja gaming I think it depends on the person, not on the gender of the person.
+aaron123ninja gaming try being into both genders. everything is terrifying.
OK now I know boys are more scared of me than I am of them thank you
I was about to say that! Bi-twins
It's March 2020 and I'm enjoying classic Vlog Brothers. Love it.
There is nothing better than hearing a nerd talk about romance, thanks John for the enlightenment that is this video :D
I do believe this is the funniest video ever..sooo cute!!!
"With your voice? What if it quivers?"
1:16 best part of this video
*wags finger* "mmm? See why spelling matters?"
hahahah! ily this is so funny
I love what you said about marriage and proposing. I always hates that notion. It should be discussed and mutually agreed upon, not just popped up out of nowhere.
I was having a really, really bad day, but this honestly made my life way better and gave me such a good laugh, especially the tongue metaphor.
PS : all of the nerdy girls are indeed here
that has always blown my mind. why dont people just ask other people out on a date. its not that hard. they are humans too
Oh man, I wish I had watched this in high school. Thank you.
The kiss demonstration made me laugh so hard I cried.
Best romantic advice I ever heard.PERIOD.
I think it would be the most amazing thing to say "Yeah, John Green told me to call you."
SYLTHERIN SCARF!!
LMAO 3:33
Man I completely forgot there was a time when the Vlogbrothers had a Julia Nunes intro. I still love both Julia and the brothers Green now a decade later.
Thank you John so much. My boyfriend porpoised and for a time our relationship was difficult but now he lives happily in an aquariame nearby.
John green said I have to call you
can we give this kissing advice to the guy who i had my first kiss with???!!!
venn diagram foreshadowing…..
"Ask them"
"With your voice?"
"Yeah"
"But what if it quivers?" Couldn't stop laughing.
WHAT HE SAYS ABOUT HOW MARRIAGE IS THRUST ON WOMEN SHOCKED ME!!!! I WASN'T EXPECTING THAT! I LOVE HIM SO MUCH! He speaks the TRUTH!
draw my life video?
1:35... I'm literally crying John
"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guys you don't wanna date is a circle". True words, listen well and I can't stress this enough. Being alone is way better than being with toxic people whether family, friends or lovers. Be yourself.
Do you have any idea how undeniably awesome you are? I wish you all the best in your quest for nerdgirls. I'd say you've got the opening down.
John is my spirit Animal!
Hi, I'm a guy who's been on the other side of your situation (long term relationship with a girl who needed to see other guys). Relationships shouldn't be seen as forever--that's terrible to wish upon yourself or somebody you care about. You should be growing as a person, living experiences, and learning. And one day, when you're ready for forever--you'll know it. Just talk to him about it, and please do reassure him that he's the most amazing person. If he is, he'll hurt but he will understand.
I like how Hank makes videos about the James Webb Space Telescope and Rocky Horror and weapons that were made for the sole purpose of killing zombies, and John makes videos about romance and how to get through life.
The Yeti's voice is so lovely I could very well listen to it for one whole video.
I am a huge nerdfighter and military supporter so I found your jokes about the marines and Navy SEALs very awesome
John, that venn-diagram line is profound and amazing yet funny and uplifting.
Thanks, John. I needed this now more than ever.
what if it quivers? John Green, the small shy boy who needs reassurance, adorable.
"It's important to remember that [guys] are people in exactly the same way that girls are people"
LAUGHING. I was thinking exactly what you said after you said "Where are all the NERDY GIRLS?" I just about died as my mental dialogue and your vlog synced up. This happened.
I'm currently IN a long distance relationship, and it sucks. The long distance part, not the actual relationship, which is awesome. I've also been through it in the past, and it sucked then, too. If you currently 'try to talk once every other week', you're off to a rocky start. I'd say that if there was enough two-way interest, you'd be communicating a lot more often. Like, daily. Also, being too far away to visit adds to your troubles(we have that issue, currently).
Lawlz. I love how accurate your choki--I mean French kissing noises were.
Hahahah!!!! I've just been introduced to your novels by an incredible NERDFIGHTER(also a girl) and you sir, are a gentleman and a scholar. I have LOL'D LITERALLY for the past 3 minutes, and have now watched this video 3 times in a row. You're a great author and definitely an inspiration to NERDS! Thanks John!
"The Venn diagram of guys who don't like smart girls and guys you don't want to date is a circle." That is most certainly my new favorite quote :D
"I like you a little bit... No big whoop." OHMYGOD. Just the way he was so nonchalant about it made me laugh really hard.
"What if it quivers?" Oh my goodness you are a perfect angel!
Thank you for mentioning the ridiculousness of proposals! Everyone thinks it is viewed as romantic when in reality it is very NOT.
Is a circle... Wow, John. I knew that TFIOS had been written over years and years, but you gave us a look at in two a half years before it was even released.
john, i really like this guy. he was a senior while i was a freshman now i'm a sophomore and he is a freshman in college. Even though hes to far away to visit we are really good friends and we try to talk once every other week. is it worth it to still try and tell him i like him as more then a friend or should i just let him not be bothered by a silly high school-er with a crush. we both love your videos so i figured you'd be the best person to ask
Aaah so awesome! :D I hope you two get on really well together. It sounds promising!
I think it's cool to ask someone out using "check yes or check no."
And if the person is doing because they're shy, not because they think it's cool or they're in the middle of class or something, I think that's adorable. :)
I had to pause the video after the kissing demonstration because I was laughing so hard, I had tears rolling down my cheeks.
the kiss advice was golden
"What do you recommend instead?"
"Ask them."
"With your voice?"
"Yeah."
"...What if it quivers?"
@FlargTheKitty no, I purposely did that because that was the misspelling from the word propose. Also, porpoise is the animal.
Don't panic, I don't think anyone goes through a relationship without thinking about being romantically involved with someone else at some point. It's normal and you'll probably grow out of it soon :)
A pleasure to make your aquaintance too :) (I felt this needed a response seeing as you were so polite and adorable)
john, you are exactly what has been missing in my life
Relationships don't work without talking guys, kissing is awesome, sex is awesome, but they should not be the primary things you do in a relationship, ever. Because news flash, IT DOESN'T EVER WORK. I had friends who only ever kissed, they never talked about anything, and when I asked the girl about this she said "Oh, well some people just don't talk in their relationships, ours is okay" and that same day, the guy realized they had nothing in common, and he dumped her. Facinating how that works.
THIS VIDEO. THIS FUCKING VIDEO. THIS IS THE BEAT THING I'VE EVER SEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.
John is so good at using venn diagrams as an analogy for dating.