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Wow did God ever send me this video… I was crying praying to Him on my way to pick up my two oldest kids from Forest school today asking for Him to take my anger, release me from it, give me more patience, that my children won’t remember me as the yelling mom, and to be the kind happy mom I so desperately want to be. ❤ wonderful video, thank you.
Relying on your husband to keep his house in order is so essential to mother's emotional well being. If you find yourself angry at your children make sure you tell him. Respect is important to men and showing you honor is critical to his role in your marriage.
This video is heaven sent! I feel God speaking to me telling me I CAN be the kind mom I want to be but I have to do it with him. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
my anger usually stems from lack of control in a chaotic environment. four kids ages 10 - 3. they are energetic and stubborn, each in their own phase of development and me (introvert) trying to juggle it all. need to remember to take my time and let some things go.
This is relatable. Another trigger is often not having basic needs met along with this lack of perceived ‘control’ - eg. Thirsty, needing to use the restroom, exhausted, hungry, etc.
Wow I had to go back and copy this part you said: “You aren’t that angry mom, or that grouchy wife. God made you to be wise and kind. THAT is who you are. It’s not too late to embody this woman you guys. Satan would have you think that you’ve gone too far. Or that you can’t change now because it would seem disingenuous. That’s a lie, you can be her” This is so amazing. I can’t say how many times I’ve thought when I’m trying to be nice and kind to my sweet children that it seems disingenuous because I have been the angry mom more than kind. Thank you so much for this video. It has blessed me very much. 🤍
I want to cry reading this even though I wrote it! I was having a hard time getting across what I meant by this but you perfectly understood and can relate to what I was trying to articulate! Thank you so so much for this comment.
Thank you for this video. It spoke to my current struggle, and reminded me that there is a way to be the mom I want to be. I also agree that the anger comes from anxiety and confusion. Would love to hear you speak more on this topic, especially sharing some tools, and maybe speaking to passion/hobby tending that easily gets put on the back burner for us moms. Sometimes that seems like it adds to the empty cup feeling. Anyways, have a great weekend ❤
I would love to do a video on passion projects as a mother. I did one before about WHEN to do them (I think titled free time as a mom - or something like that).
Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🙏🙏 I needed this! I'm truly drowning in the mom anger & frustration phase right now.. I'm raising a 14yo challenging teenager and 2yo twins boy and girl. My lil baby boy is on the autism spectrum and have self-harming behavior that kept me on my nerves daily to supervise, so I can get too focused on every research and everything about his early interventions and therapy, while my lil baby girl is very clingy and demanding of my attention daily - because again she's a toddler! I'm always easily triggered to anger and frustration everyday dealing with my kids because I feel like I'm stretched too thin and can't do anything for myself - even for basic things like peacefully eating, showering etc, To say that I'm struggling is an understatement. Deep in my heart I knew that I cannot do this on my own. I will try to draw close and pray to God for His mercy and provision for my life.. please pray for me 🙏
Praying for you, Elga! I’m sure your body is in a state of fight or flight in those moments when anger takes over you. I can only imagine because when one of my children gets hurt I quickly fall into fight or flight mode out of fear so I’m sure when you’re constantly dealing with that it would be terribly difficult to bounce out of that state. I think my course would be a huge blessing to you. Have you signed up for my workshop? If not I can send you the link!
Hello struggling mama I am glad you found this video, which is a blessing. I am mama to five, my teenager is well along the spectrum with various diagnoses, and went through a phase of several years involving self harm, suicidal thoughts, aggression, extreme anxiety and other very challenging behaviours. Meanwhile my youngest, a toddler, has a rare genetic condition. Between the two of them, with extremely little to no community or family support, I then also have had moments of worry that I am neglecting the middle three, who don’t have such “special needs”. I write to encourage you. God has made you these children’s mama for a reason - only you can do it. Listen your internal wisdom, really come offline for a bit - the internet can be a curse as well as a blessing. And let. It. Go. Most things just let go in this season. Are your children fed, hugged, healthy? My husband works long hours and I am on my own plus my youngest has to be woken at night frequently to drink due to her condition so I don’t really sleep. “You” time can become a pressure. It can be as simple as suddenly feeling deep peace awake in the middle of the night and realising everyone is asleep, even if it’s for twenty minutes, and you can stop stressing and just breathe and enjoy that peace. Get up and have a cup of tea if you will enjoy it - you can sleep another time! Dinner not perfect? Don’t stress! My kids have eaten toast or porridge for dinner many, many times. Your Lord not only walks with you, but he carries you and truly understands your pain. I PROMISE it will get better. Nourish your children, their hearts. Nourish your own under wisdom. Be kind to yourself. And odd though it might sound when you are struggling so much - enjoy the moments you can. Because I promise it will not always be this way. Xxx
Have you brought your troubles to your head? Your husband is in charge of the house and if you're feeling this way his entire household will be feeling chaos and he'll be feeling the disorderly out of control feelings himself.
I could totally see that! Sleep is crucial. I feel like for me personally I had all four of my kids within five years then had a bad injury to my neck right after having my fourth so my nervous system was shot. It truly only through God's grace that I am where I am at today. My kids ages now spread from Eleven to six and now I feel my frustration can come more from them having arguments with each other since they all have their own opinions. 😄
Beef and bean chili in the instapot (or slow cooker). Throw in the onions, beans, tomato paste, browned ground beef, and seasoning, boom. Dinner for 2-3 days, easy to reheat on the stovetop.
What are thoughts on toys? I’m at the point there’s no more toys not even playroom in the house. Everything moved out to the garage. Soft toys fine, they will make toys or play in their rooms ( please God), haha, and it’s all put away in five minutes. Maybe this will make the difference?? Here’s hoping for peace, and less chaos! I’m trusting God on this one because I’m doing it solely for me and my safety, but my mom guilt on removing toys shocked me. I’m not getting rid of them I just moved them somewhere we can easily visit. I’m hoping I don’t give in and change my mind! We’re all happier even the husband. There’s no way it’s not helping us thrive. The “educational” toys are out, only musical instruments, and some sensory and books.
Personally, I think this is a great idea! Toys can add to the chaos. Open ended toys are the best - blocks, imagination-inspiring toys, sticks, rocks etc. kids will make anything a toy. Kitchen utensils, blankets, etc. no need to add to the clutter with tons of little toys lying around. We have toys put away into bins and put somewhere they don’t have free access to. They can ask for one bin at a time and the previous bin gets cleaned up first. Each bin has minimal toys.
Excellent idea! Toys are the bane of my existence. I just cannot deal with all the clutter and every time the grandparents visit they bring yet another to add to the pile. I just don’t know how I can politely ask them not to waste their money cluttering my house
chicken breasts, slow cooker, ranch seasoning, 1/2 cup mayo. cook on low for 3-4 hours. shread it up. serve however you want. i make sliders out of it. my 4 kids love it. also chicken, slow cooker, 1/2 cup chicken broth (or water), seasoning of choice (herbs, salsa, etc) cook on low 3-4 hours. you're good!
If you have a KitchenAid mixer throw the cooked chicken breasts in there with the paddle attachment to shred it. It works great! I've actually mixed it too much where I turned it into more of a pulp instead of shredded chicken. LOL My fourth baby is on the way (February) and every little bit helps. I'm a Catholic. Three children under three. 💕
I’ve mentioned the kitchenaid thing on my channel before, but honestly, with this method it’s completely unnecessary to dirty up the stand mixer because it’s just so quick and easy to shred with the forks.
Hahaha! It’s how I structure my videos - doing random homemaking things then voiceover of the main topic - but sometimes I’m excited enough about what I’m doing in the shot to go off the topic and tell you about it lol your comment made me laugh though because so true!
It's ok to be angry. God says be angry and do not sin. There are times to be angry. Most of the angry, yelling feeling Mom's have towards their children is being disrespected by not having their authority honored. Children's job is to obey their mother and father. A wife's job is to obey her husband and respect him. What I usually see is Moms tolerating disrespectful behavior from their children and in turn disrespecting their husband. Putting your authority structures in order relieves so much stress. Children are priority after husband and after God primarily. If there's any stress bring it to your husband. Defer to your authority, just like your husband should defer to his (he answers to God as the head) and your children defer to their parents.
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Wow did God ever send me this video… I was crying praying to Him on my way to pick up my two oldest kids from Forest school today asking for Him to take my anger, release me from it, give me more patience, that my children won’t remember me as the yelling mom, and to be the kind happy mom I so desperately want to be. ❤ wonderful video, thank you.
I’ve had my fair share of those same conversations with the Lord. He hears you, mama. Thankfully he is a God of redemption!
Relying on your husband to keep his house in order is so essential to mother's emotional well being. If you find yourself angry at your children make sure you tell him. Respect is important to men and showing you honor is critical to his role in your marriage.
This video is heaven sent! I feel God speaking to me telling me I CAN be the kind mom I want to be but I have to do it with him.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
100% you can with Him!
my anger usually stems from lack of control in a chaotic environment. four kids ages 10 - 3. they are energetic and stubborn, each in their own phase of development and me (introvert) trying to juggle it all. need to remember to take my time and let some things go.
This is relatable. Another trigger is often not having basic needs met along with this lack of perceived ‘control’ - eg. Thirsty, needing to use the restroom, exhausted, hungry, etc.
Wow I had to go back and copy this part you said:
“You aren’t that angry mom, or that grouchy wife. God made you to be wise and kind. THAT is who you are. It’s not too late to embody this woman you guys. Satan would have you think that you’ve gone too far. Or that you can’t change now because it would seem disingenuous. That’s a lie, you can be her”
This is so amazing.
I can’t say how many times I’ve thought when I’m trying to be nice and kind to my sweet children that it seems disingenuous because I have been the angry mom more than kind. Thank you so much for this video. It has blessed me very much.
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I want to cry reading this even though I wrote it! I was having a hard time getting across what I meant by this but you perfectly understood and can relate to what I was trying to articulate! Thank you so so much for this comment.
Thank you for this video. It spoke to my current struggle, and reminded me that there is a way to be the mom I want to be. I also agree that the anger comes from anxiety and confusion. Would love to hear you speak more on this topic, especially sharing some tools, and maybe speaking to passion/hobby tending that easily gets put on the back burner for us moms. Sometimes that seems like it adds to the empty cup feeling. Anyways, have a great weekend ❤
Thank you! I did a video on mom rage in the past with more tips! Here it is: ua-cam.com/video/7KUcLdS-Sbc/v-deo.htmlsi=JFsTYTTui5DEa3_B
I would love to do a video on passion projects as a mother. I did one before about WHEN to do them (I think titled free time as a mom - or something like that).
Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🙏🙏 I needed this!
I'm truly drowning in the mom anger & frustration phase right now.. I'm raising a 14yo challenging teenager and 2yo twins boy and girl. My lil baby boy is on the autism spectrum and have self-harming behavior that kept me on my nerves daily to supervise, so I can get too focused on every research and everything about his early interventions and therapy, while my lil baby girl is very clingy and demanding of my attention daily - because again she's a toddler! I'm always easily triggered to anger and frustration everyday dealing with my kids because I feel like I'm stretched too thin and can't do anything for myself - even for basic things like peacefully eating, showering etc,
To say that I'm struggling is an understatement.
Deep in my heart I knew that I cannot do this on my own.
I will try to draw close and pray to God for His mercy and provision for my life.. please pray for me 🙏
Praying for you, Elga! I’m sure your body is in a state of fight or flight in those moments when anger takes over you. I can only imagine because when one of my children gets hurt I quickly fall into fight or flight mode out of fear so I’m sure when you’re constantly dealing with that it would be terribly difficult to bounce out of that state. I think my course would be a huge blessing to you. Have you signed up for my workshop? If not I can send you the link!
Hello struggling mama
I am glad you found this video, which is a blessing.
I am mama to five, my teenager is well along the spectrum with various diagnoses, and went through a phase of several years involving self harm, suicidal thoughts, aggression, extreme anxiety and other very challenging behaviours. Meanwhile my youngest, a toddler, has a rare genetic condition. Between the two of them, with extremely little to no community or family support, I then also have had moments of worry that I am neglecting the middle three, who don’t have such “special needs”.
I write to encourage you. God has made you these children’s mama for a reason - only you can do it. Listen your internal wisdom, really come offline for a bit - the internet can be a curse as well as a blessing. And let. It. Go.
Most things just let go in this season. Are your children fed, hugged, healthy?
My husband works long hours and I am on my own plus my youngest has to be woken at night frequently to drink due to her condition so I don’t really sleep. “You” time can become a pressure. It can be as simple as suddenly feeling deep peace awake in the middle of the night and realising everyone is asleep, even if it’s for twenty minutes, and you can stop stressing and just breathe and enjoy that peace. Get up and have a cup of tea if you will enjoy it - you can sleep another time! Dinner not perfect? Don’t stress! My kids have eaten toast or porridge for dinner many, many times. Your Lord not only walks with you, but he carries you and truly understands your pain. I PROMISE it will get better. Nourish your children, their hearts. Nourish your own under wisdom. Be kind to yourself. And odd though it might sound when you are struggling so much - enjoy the moments you can. Because I promise it will not always be this way. Xxx
@@littleacornsmightyoakswow, what a thoughtful kind response! You all have me in tears. What a beautiful community
Have you brought your troubles to your head? Your husband is in charge of the house and if you're feeling this way his entire household will be feeling chaos and he'll be feeling the disorderly out of control feelings himself.
This was beautiful. Thank you for reading God's word out to us. ❤❤
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching.
This was an encouraging and helpful video! Thank you :)
You’re welcome, love! Thanks for watching 🤍
I find the struggle becomes harder when they become five and up. Thank you for this message it was beautiful! 💗
Thank you for watching! I think everyone struggles with different stages for different reasons.
Became easier for me personally.. maybe because I sleep a bit better as he grows lol
I could totally see that! Sleep is crucial. I feel like for me personally I had all four of my kids within five years then had a bad injury to my neck right after having my fourth so my nervous system was shot. It truly only through God's grace that I am where I am at today. My kids ages now spread from Eleven to six and now I feel my frustration can come more from them having arguments with each other since they all have their own opinions. 😄
Thank you I needed to hear this❤
You’re so welcome. Thank you for being here - I’m glad this blessed you!
This is so good! Everything I need!
Yes 🙌 so happy this has been helpful!!
Thank you ❤.
You’re so welcome 🤍
Beef and bean chili in the instapot (or slow cooker). Throw in the onions, beans, tomato paste, browned ground beef, and seasoning, boom. Dinner for 2-3 days, easy to reheat on the stovetop.
Sounds yummy!
I needed this, thank you! Reframing it to see it as the enemy coming to attack is going to help so much.
That’s exactly right. So happy this was helpful!
What are thoughts on toys? I’m at the point there’s no more toys not even playroom in the house. Everything moved out to the garage. Soft toys fine, they will make toys or play in their rooms ( please God), haha, and it’s all put away in five minutes. Maybe this will make the difference?? Here’s hoping for peace, and less chaos! I’m trusting God on this one because I’m doing it solely for me and my safety, but my mom guilt on removing toys shocked me. I’m not getting rid of them I just moved them somewhere we can easily visit. I’m hoping I don’t give in and change my mind! We’re all happier even the husband. There’s no way it’s not helping us thrive. The “educational” toys are out, only musical instruments, and some sensory and books.
Personally, I think this is a great idea! Toys can add to the chaos. Open ended toys are the best - blocks, imagination-inspiring toys, sticks, rocks etc. kids will make anything a toy. Kitchen utensils, blankets, etc. no need to add to the clutter with tons of little toys lying around. We have toys put away into bins and put somewhere they don’t have free access to. They can ask for one bin at a time and the previous bin gets cleaned up first. Each bin has minimal toys.
Excellent idea! Toys are the bane of my existence. I just cannot deal with all the clutter and every time the grandparents visit they bring yet another to add to the pile. I just don’t know how I can politely ask them not to waste their money cluttering my house
chicken breasts, slow cooker, ranch seasoning, 1/2 cup mayo. cook on low for 3-4 hours. shread it up. serve however you want. i make sliders out of it. my 4 kids love it. also chicken, slow cooker, 1/2 cup chicken broth (or water), seasoning of choice (herbs, salsa, etc) cook on low 3-4 hours. you're good!
YUM. Love the idea of adding mayo. Salsa, yes. Yum.
If you have a KitchenAid mixer throw the cooked chicken breasts in there with the paddle attachment to shred it. It works great! I've actually mixed it too much where I turned it into more of a pulp instead of shredded chicken. LOL My fourth baby is on the way (February) and every little bit helps. I'm a Catholic. Three children under three. 💕
I’ve mentioned the kitchenaid thing on my channel before, but honestly, with this method it’s completely unnecessary to dirty up the stand mixer because it’s just so quick and easy to shred with the forks.
I clicked on this to listen to how to deal with anger and got a chicken recipe right off the bat 😅 slightly random and off topic.
Hahaha! It’s how I structure my videos - doing random homemaking things then voiceover of the main topic - but sometimes I’m excited enough about what I’m doing in the shot to go off the topic and tell you about it lol your comment made me laugh though because so true!
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It's ok to be angry. God says be angry and do not sin. There are times to be angry. Most of the angry, yelling feeling Mom's have towards their children is being disrespected by not having their authority honored. Children's job is to obey their mother and father. A wife's job is to obey her husband and respect him. What I usually see is Moms tolerating disrespectful behavior from their children and in turn disrespecting their husband. Putting your authority structures in order relieves so much stress. Children are priority after husband and after God primarily. If there's any stress bring it to your husband. Defer to your authority, just like your husband should defer to his (he answers to God as the head) and your children defer to their parents.
I agree with this.