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Wow did God ever send me this video… I was crying praying to Him on my way to pick up my two oldest kids from Forest school today asking for Him to take my anger, release me from it, give me more patience, that my children won’t remember me as the yelling mom, and to be the kind happy mom I so desperately want to be. ❤ wonderful video, thank you.
Relying on your husband to keep his house in order is so essential to mother's emotional well being. If you find yourself angry at your children make sure you tell him. Respect is important to men and showing you honor is critical to his role in your marriage.
I’ve been struggling with mom rage the last few days and I swear I didn’t look for this video. It found me. I literally needed to hear this. I’m pregnant and have a three year old but finding the patience to be a kind and soft mother the last few days has been tough. I don’t want to be a rigid mother and that’s just what I’ve been the last few days. Thank you for posting this ❤
I know exactly what you mean about that "rigid mother" - don't do this, no stop that, don't touch that... etc. It's so difficult when you're exhausted. Thank you for watching - I'm so glad the video "found you" - so grateful to have you here.
I am also pregnant with a three year old and struggling with anger too. Of course this pops up in my feed. Thank you Lord for always working on us! Prayers for you mama!
It’s also helpful to think of this in Biblical language. Instead of “I need to regulate my emotions” perhaps we should say “I need to practice self control”. The heart is deceitful above all things. We must not be merciful to our sin. I think your advice on memorizing scripture is so helpful. There are very specific verses on the evil of anger that I have found very helpful He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city. - Proverbs 16:32 He who is slow to anger has great understanding, But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly. A tranquil heart is life to the body, But passion is rottenness to the bones. - Proverbs 14:29-30 We are called to be “gentle and quiet”, peaceful and loving, not angry and anxious! May the grace of Christ cover us and may God graciously continue to sanctify us 🙏
Literally came across this while crying after an episode of mom rage followed by the guilt of treating the little ones I love so much with unkindness. This is the encouragement I needed in this moment
Generally I think of it as misplaced anger. Not necessarily that you're angry at your children or your husband. But overwhelmed, depleted, anxious, worried, overstimulated. So many things.
You’re absolutely right-misplaced anger is often a symptom of deeper struggles like feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or depleted. When our nervous system is in fight-or-flight mode, even small frustrations can feel magnified, and the anger often spills onto those closest to us, even when they’re not the root cause. What’s important is recognizing the triggers behind this anger. Sometimes it’s unmet needs-physical, emotional, or spiritual-that we haven’t been able to address. By learning to regulate our nervous system, pause in those heated moments, and care for ourselves intentionally, we can begin responding to our families with more grace and patience.
God has blessed you with wisdom. There is hope! I have 6 kids, my oldest is now 18, and I very much remember my many angry outbursts, and praying that Jesus would change me and help me. He answered that prayer. I have been changed so much over the years, as the Spirit is continuing His work in me to conform me into the image of Christ.
Oh how I love this comment! What HOPE it provides! Thank you so much for sharing. What a blessing that the Lord changed you into someone who is more like Him!
I just found out I am pregnant with my third. How blessed and happy I feel! I have had many lingering thoughts lately about how I will manage everything as a mother. I find a feeling of fear come over me at times. This video really helped put me at ease and it will be something I come to as I move through my pregnancy and even up to and after my baby finally arrives. Best thing I can do is give it all to God, keep read and study scripture and pray. Thank you for this video. It showed up at the right time. 🙌🏼🙏🏼❤
Congratulations on your new little blessing! Praying for a healthy pregnancy and delivery! Thank you for being here and I’m so glad this video came when it did! 🤎
my anger usually stems from lack of control in a chaotic environment. four kids ages 10 - 3. they are energetic and stubborn, each in their own phase of development and me (introvert) trying to juggle it all. need to remember to take my time and let some things go.
This is relatable. Another trigger is often not having basic needs met along with this lack of perceived ‘control’ - eg. Thirsty, needing to use the restroom, exhausted, hungry, etc.
"Lack of control in a chaotic environment" 100%. (Background: boisterous twin boys plus 2yr older sibling). They are a bit older now and I don't react as much as I used to. Bless you all ❤.
God did show me this today!! I had a mom anger issue this morning. After I dropped of my kid at school, I thought about the guilt I was feeling and what I needed to do. Then this video popped on my fyp. I just wanted to say thanks for your advice and reminding me I'm not alone!
Haha the 20 minute workout turning into 45 made me chuckle because that's how it goes right? If you try before they wake up you'll get interrupted or feel anxious about when they'll wake up so doing it while they are awake is better in my opinion! Some snacks and tv time wont ruin anyone and guess what! Ive done 10 mins of a workout 2x-3x through the day and that still works too! I also see my 3 and 5 year old picking up 2lb weights, stretching and walking on the treadmill cuz theyve seen me do it! If I only read my Bible and work out before they wake up, they don't see me do those things. So even though it's a little harder to do, I think there's more of a reward that my kids see me reading my Bible and they see me exercising to fill my own cup for my own health so that they see that it's important! It's the same thing if Mom never eats/eats little or doesn't sit down to eat then they don't see that good healthy food is important. If they only see that Mama eats standing up cuz she's trying to do a chore too well thats kinda sad and stressful. Let's read our Bibles, move our bodies, sit down to eat a hot meal, stop scrolling on our phones and have a book that you enjoy next to your nightstand. I love Chicken Soup for the Soul so I can have a laugh or a feel good story before bed! Don't read a how to be a good mom book before bed. I feel like our husbands read to enjoy, but we're reading how to be better in a million ways. Put down the self-help and read something that you enjoy or that you want to learn about! Read a few pages before bed for a sense of accomplishment and let's enjoy this life that's God's given us and live abundantly! This phase really goes by so fast and before you know it you'll have a clean house and a quiet house again. If we're lucky enough to live long, we will have more time, (decades if were lucky!) where we won't have our children under the same roof as us. So let's be faithful in these little years, coach our teens in the teen years and be there to support them when our children are adults. We got this!
Wow great input and advice!:) to show them you spend your time w the Lord in front of them as an example 👍 and I chuckled at a few things you mentioned bc sometimes it’s easy to feel that we’re the only ones going thru what you say- eating standing up while getting things done (& btw, anyone there heating up their food or coffee in the microwave for the upteenth time 😅🙌) or that our husbands read for enjoyment whilst we’re over there doing dishes, laundry or in bed reading or listening to Self help parenting or marriage books 😅
I love this! Also I’m learning about including the little ones In these things. I often don’t read my Bible because my boy will try to grab the Bible but instead I can give him his hard picture Bible book and encourage him to look at that while we sit together. Then end in a little prayer together (even if the whole thing is super short LOL).
I struggle with this sometimes too. One thing that actually helps me a ton (likely because I have adhd and also suffered a concussion a couple years ago) is to put noise cancelling ear plugs in to reduce overstimulation. Before you think I'm ignoring my kids thats far from it. The earplugs don't block all the sound. Just the white noise-like frequencies and unimportant noises, while making it possible to still hear my kids talk (just at a softer level). Having that reduction of stimulation alone has been a game changer. It helps me be able to get a calmer state of mind to be more patient with my kids, while also taking care of myself so I can think more clearly. I do use a lot of the other techniques mentioned to calm mom rage, but the earplugs are definitely a major ingredient for me. Its amazing how turning the world's volume down a bit can change your life!
I used to do this ALL THE TIME when my nervous system was stuck in a chronic state of stress. However, I’ve realized that if you feel the need to rely on this, it’s likely a sign your nervous system is already in fight-or-flight mode. Once I addressed my nervous system dysfunction, all those little tips I used to rely on to keep my peace became unnecessary. It was like my nervous system was constantly running at level 10, and even small triggers-like noise-would push it over the edge to level 11. But with techniques in place to calm my nervous system, I’m no longer starting at such a high baseline. Now, those little stressors don’t feel nearly as overwhelming. Does that make sense?
@@TransformedHomemakersSociety Yes, that does make sense. For me personally, however, I have to use them out of necessity. I can start my day at a pretty decent level (minimal anxiety, ready to start the day) and practice my fight or flight management strategies, but still end up overstimulated because of my ADHD and left over complications from my concussion. ADHD (as my therapist has explained) makes me much more sensitive to cortisol overload, even if it's from a positive activity, which puts me in a state of needing the earplugs. Also, ever since my concussion about two years ago, my tolerance threshold for regular level sounds dropped significantly (much to my frustration as a professional musician. It was my concussion that started me wearing earplugs to begin with). As a result, I can have a great day with my kids and still have to put the ear plugs in because of the sensory overload. I guess my bottom line is that yes, you are right with the suggestion of proactively addressing your fight or flight response first so you don't need the earplugs. But there are cases and situations where having them either out of necessity (like my situation) or as an extra tool when your fight or flight response has crept up on you, that earplugs can be helpful, especially if you are still learning about your fight or flight response and how to manage it. Hence the reason I suggested it. ❤
@ makes complete sense! I’m so glad you’ve found what works for you. Nervous system dysfunction is multi factorial and can be caused by so many things - as you’ve learned. Healing can be done in many ways as well. Thank you so much for being here! 🤎
We are entering the terrible twos and I’m finding it hard to manage my emotions while helping my kid regulate hers. Thank you for posting this. Keeping all of us moms in my prayers. It’s not easy but it’s so worth it.
Wow thank you so much for telling me this! How encouraging! I’m so happy the Lord lead you to my channel and this video. Praying my channel continues to bless you. 🤎
This video is heaven sent! I feel God speaking to me telling me I CAN be the kind mom I want to be but I have to do it with him. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Wow I had to go back and copy this part you said: “You aren’t that angry mom, or that grouchy wife. God made you to be wise and kind. THAT is who you are. It’s not too late to embody this woman you guys. Satan would have you think that you’ve gone too far. Or that you can’t change now because it would seem disingenuous. That’s a lie, you can be her” This is so amazing. I can’t say how many times I’ve thought when I’m trying to be nice and kind to my sweet children that it seems disingenuous because I have been the angry mom more than kind. Thank you so much for this video. It has blessed me very much. 🤍
I want to cry reading this even though I wrote it! I was having a hard time getting across what I meant by this but you perfectly understood and can relate to what I was trying to articulate! Thank you so so much for this comment.
God Bless you!!! This video will be a daily reminder for me because I struggle with mom rage. I struggle just to be present from day to day. I often feel like a failure for not even wanting to be on earth. These feelings are forcing me to lean into God's unchanging hands. Videos like this make it easier to understand the bible. Thank you so much🥹😭❤️
Oh thank you so much for this encouragement! I’m so glad this video blessed you. I have 100% felt what you’re feeling at times and boy is it all soooo much easier once I got out of fight /flight.
Omg just what my spirit was needing. been praying to the Lord to help me be and peaceful wife and mother especially with having a toddler and newborn ! ❤️
Postpartum Rage is so real and Postpartum depression 😢 it can last up to two years … May God be with us mommas/babies/daddies while we get through this carry us through the sand when we cannot 🙏🏽
Thank you for this video. I desire to break generational raging cycles in parenting!! Amen God makes a way out & His word is powerful❤️ May the Lord continue to give you wisdom & strength to overcome mom anger Bless you& your family 💕
He absolutely does! Thank you for sharing your heart, sister. This is a generational cycle and it can end with you. It requires retraining your brain and how you think! I have a mini course called Overcoming Mom Anger that might really bless you if you’re interested. Praying for you, sister! You’ve got this! Here’s that course: courses.healthfullyrootedhome.com/courses/overcomingmomanger
Sister in Christ. God is using you. Raised by a military mother with PTSD and bipolar 2 which has so much pent up rage towards me so often feels I have to fight how I was taught to treat my babies. This was wonderful content!
This came to me at such a perfect time. I'm a mommy of 3 now (3 months PP) and it's such a humbling season that requires all of us at home to slow down and it can be so hard to do that. Overstimulation is my biggest problem.
Thank you for this video. It spoke to my current struggle, and reminded me that there is a way to be the mom I want to be. I also agree that the anger comes from anxiety and confusion. Would love to hear you speak more on this topic, especially sharing some tools, and maybe speaking to passion/hobby tending that easily gets put on the back burner for us moms. Sometimes that seems like it adds to the empty cup feeling. Anyways, have a great weekend ❤
I would love to do a video on passion projects as a mother. I did one before about WHEN to do them (I think titled free time as a mom - or something like that).
I could totally see that! Sleep is crucial. I feel like for me personally I had all four of my kids within five years then had a bad injury to my neck right after having my fourth so my nervous system was shot. It truly only through God's grace that I am where I am at today. My kids ages now spread from Eleven to six and now I feel my frustration can come more from them having arguments with each other since they all have their own opinions. 😄
Wow! This was so good. I believe God led me to your channel bc he knows this channel is what I needed to help in the fits of “mom rage, guilt from it , being a wife” etc. God bless you sister! ❤
MOST of the time we do too much, too soon, at an inappropriate time…unrealistic time…with fantasy expectations. The burning the food example you gave is a good one. There’s no reason to make dinner with a newborn and toddler who are both unpredictable. Dinner making should migrate to another time so the focus can be where it should be. It’s like when I run my bath water in the middle of doing other things…the near overflow is always the end result.
While I agree with you that we multitask way too much, I don’t agree that we shouldn’t be making our family dinner or doing the many jobs of a homemaker. It’s unrealistic to expect our life to give us perfect opportunities to cook. There are definitely BETTER opportunities to cook than others, and we can do things to set ourselves up for success like making (or at least prepping) dinner in the morning when our children’s oxytocin is highest and they’re most content - but to simply shirk the responsibility of cooking is not wise in my opinion.
I like listening to videos meanwhile I wash the dishes and today I was tired out . My toddlers running between my legs and this video pop up . Ugh it’s so hard being a mom but I am glad am not alone in this . I work 40 hours a week have two toddlers and a 12 year old and by the time the day ends i am exhausted !
Thank you. Seriously. The verses were also really convicting, and I found that more helpful than merely the "they're not gonna be little forever!!!" attitude because I know that, but the problem is I don't know how to fix it, so it just packs on more guilt. God being the way of escape was true for other sin in my life, so why not this one? I had to be reminded of that verse despite it being one of my favorite, so thank you for your obedience. The meme also comes to mind: "Do I need the Holy Spirit to get to heaven?" "Girl, you need the Holy Spirit to go to Walmart" 😂 we need Him in literally everything, including our walk as parents!
Thank you so much for watching and for this encouragement! I’m so glad this resonated. Also, I haven’t seen that meme but it spoke to me! Lol I love how God uses even memes to convict. 😂 but how true is that? I’ve gotten very good about turning to the Lord the very second I feel my heart start racing and face getting red (early signs I’m triggered). I’ll immediately say “Lord, show me a way out.” Or “Lord be with me.”
This is incredibly on time for me. I pray that God continues to bless you and your family. Continue to submit to God’s will as He uses you as a vessel for His ministry. Stay encouraged 💕
Wow praise God for you ✨ I got so upset at my son last night who has been waking up almost every night at 1am 4am 3am and I haven’t been sleeping and I said something to him out of frustration and I have been beating myself up all day😩 I prayed about it and renounced the words I spoke to him and ask God for forgiveness and to help me with this and your video just came up💕🙏🏽 God heard us and He is our PRESENT HELP❤❤❤❤
I needed to find your channel! God allowed you to pop up in my feed, your videos speak so well to motherhood. Thank you for giving encouragement! I have a 4 year old and a 3 month old preemie. Find myself challenged daily to be kind and gentle when all I feel is exhaustion. The Lord is so good though and even when I feel I haven't done a good job that day, my oldest comes to me with an I love you or she prays for me or calls me her treasure. It's beautiful.
Thank you so much for being here and for sharing your heart! And wow, I totally agree with you there, mama. God is so gracious. I think the same thing all the time about how sweet my children are despite how nasty I’ve Al treated them. I always be sure to apologize though so they know that mommy was wrong and I know it. And how sweet of your daughter to say those things! That’s a testament to what a great mama you are! She’s getting those things from you - good job mama!
I have been struggling with losing my temper lately and prayed about it. I’ve seen this video multiple times and saved it to my watch later…I prayed to God again this morning to help with my patience as a mom and saw your video again in my feed. God is saying, “Hi, please watch this video”. lol ❤
Welcome! How wonderful to have you here. I can’t wait to get to know you more in the comments. Thank you for watching - I’m so glad this was useful for you. 🤎
I just found you tonight and immediately connected with this video. I subscribed immediately. As a new Christian, I am so desperate for Bible direction. I may have missed it but I don't see the Bible verses you mentioned in the description. If I am missing something, forgive and ignore me but if not, I think it would be incredible to list the Bible verses you mention in the description. Just a request. I think your content is awesome and I am so wanting a Christian female community of moms to hear and bear my woes. I'm so excited I found you!
Oh that’s a great idea! I’ll work on doing this for my videos. I should definitely be doing this - I can see how that would be helpful. Thank you so much for watching and subscribing! It’s wonderful to have you here and I can’t wait to get to know you more in the comments. I’d also love to have you join us in the free homemaking Facebook group: facebook.com/share/g/1X7HQRQUd8/?mibextid=K35XfP
God just brought me across your page. I'M SO GRATEFUL THAT HE DID!!!!! Now I know that I am not alone in having tough moments as a mama!! I felt like motherhood & homemaking should come effortlessly. I also believed that most everyone else had both figured out. The mom guilt was REAL!!! You'd be surprised at just HOW MUCH HELP even seeing you pull the garbage can to the counter while you cooked was for me!!!!! You would think something like that should be common sense! I can't tell you how many times I've made the dangerous trek across our kitchen to throw things out while I'm cooking . I am SHOCKED at how something so small could be so REVOLUTIONARY as God had the proverbial "light bulb" go off as I watched!!! Thanks mama!!! Blessings to y'all and y'alls family!!!!!
AHHH! Loooooove this encouragement! Thank you so much! I notice the small things like that when I watch videos ALL. THE. TIME. So I totally know what you mean. Isn’t motherhood and homemaking a kick in the pants?! I was shocked too.
@@TransformedHomemakersSociety😂 it would actually make for some good reality TV ! LOVE the chicken idea too!!! I've been praying for me to get a Dutch oven. Cast iron is AMAZING for FLAVOR!!! Also the 3 of us (hubby, me, 4yr son) can EAT lol!!!
Thank you for this amazing message!! I want to transform my home! I work part time so I feel spread thin. Not long enough at work to feel productive or thorough, and not at home long enough to check off my to-do list (wife duties, mom duties, house duties). I want to be a blessing to those around me.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart! I completely understand how it feels to be pulled in so many directions and still have the desire to be a blessing to those around you. It can feel overwhelming, but you’re not alone in this journey! I’ve been where you are, and I’ve found that small mindset shifts and practical tools can make a huge difference. That’s why I created the Transformed Homemaker Society-a course designed to help moms like us regulate our emotions, find peace, and transform our homes into places of joy and blessing. If you’re interested, I’d love to share more about it-it might be the encouragement and guidance you’re looking for! Either way, I’m cheering you on as you pursue this beautiful calling. You’ve got this!
Im so glad i found this channel today! I feel like no one in my real life actually talks about this stuff, and it often feels like im the only one. Thank you 🙏🥺❤️
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching. I hope it’s been a blessing. Would love to have you join our Facebook group! facebook.com/groups/1757801874968471
Just came across your channel today. And wow, are we in a similar stage of life! I am 6 weeks pp with baby #3. With 2 toddlers close in age to yours. Thank you for sharing those scriptures. I'm definitely going to be memorizing them. Subscribed❤
Thank you so much! It’s so great to have you here. I’d love to get to know you more in my FB group! Join if you’d like facebook.com/share/g/15Gtmbxmx4/?mibextid=K35XfP
So glad I found your channel! I already subscribed ❤ I appreciate your insights and find them very encouraging and inspiring. I also loved how you tackle your daily chores wearing baby. Baby sleep is a major stress point for the majority of mamas. I was wondering how you approach it. If you could share your thoughts on baby sleep in future videos I'd greatly appreciate. God bless you and your family 🙏
I feel so guilty because sometimes I’m mad and I talk to my kids the way I don’t want to talk. I blamed my stress which is not excuse. My husband and I are not together. We separated over 3 months ago and he can’t even be close to the babies. I’ve been so overwhelmed because it was not his choice nor mine it was the criminal justice system who separated my family. My kids cry for their dad and I’m all alone dealing with everything and trying to comfort them. I pray the lord to give me patience to be the best mom I can be for my kids and to help my babies get through this and not leave trauma not having their dad around.
That's a lot for you to be going through. Remember, Matthew 11:28-30. "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” What you are going through is not easy or light, but if you place your burdens on Him he will make it feel light by giving you a peace that surpasses all understanding. Thank you for being here and I can't wait to get to know you more in the comments.
You have such a nice yard with a play area!! When my son was 3 months old, we moved into a townhouse, and it's no maintenance. BUT there is no yard for him, and now that he's 3, I'm struggling with that because we always have to go to a playground. Motherhood is hard and we need more help from family. I think God intended for us to have big, multigenerational families, but that is not the way of things anymore.
We are SO blessed with our yard and home! I’m so sorry you’re struggling with motherhood in a town home - but good job looking at the bright side - no maintenance! Big yards come with lots and lots (and LOTS) of maintenance. Praise God for my husband who keeps it so well maintained. Oh man… I could talk for days about the fact that multigenerational families are a thing of the past (devastatingly). I agree with you completely.
Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🙏🙏 I needed this! I'm truly drowning in the mom anger & frustration phase right now.. I'm raising a 14yo challenging teenager and 2yo twins boy and girl. My lil baby boy is on the autism spectrum and have self-harming behavior that kept me on my nerves daily to supervise, so I can get too focused on every research and everything about his early interventions and therapy, while my lil baby girl is very clingy and demanding of my attention daily - because again she's a toddler! I'm always easily triggered to anger and frustration everyday dealing with my kids because I feel like I'm stretched too thin and can't do anything for myself - even for basic things like peacefully eating, showering etc, To say that I'm struggling is an understatement. Deep in my heart I knew that I cannot do this on my own. I will try to draw close and pray to God for His mercy and provision for my life.. please pray for me 🙏
Praying for you, Elga! I’m sure your body is in a state of fight or flight in those moments when anger takes over you. I can only imagine because when one of my children gets hurt I quickly fall into fight or flight mode out of fear so I’m sure when you’re constantly dealing with that it would be terribly difficult to bounce out of that state. I think my course would be a huge blessing to you. Have you signed up for my workshop? If not I can send you the link!
Hello struggling mama I am glad you found this video, which is a blessing. I am mama to five, my teenager is well along the spectrum with various diagnoses, and went through a phase of several years involving self harm, suicidal thoughts, aggression, extreme anxiety and other very challenging behaviours. Meanwhile my youngest, a toddler, has a rare genetic condition. Between the two of them, with extremely little to no community or family support, I then also have had moments of worry that I am neglecting the middle three, who don’t have such “special needs”. I write to encourage you. God has made you these children’s mama for a reason - only you can do it. Listen your internal wisdom, really come offline for a bit - the internet can be a curse as well as a blessing. And let. It. Go. Most things just let go in this season. Are your children fed, hugged, healthy? My husband works long hours and I am on my own plus my youngest has to be woken at night frequently to drink due to her condition so I don’t really sleep. “You” time can become a pressure. It can be as simple as suddenly feeling deep peace awake in the middle of the night and realising everyone is asleep, even if it’s for twenty minutes, and you can stop stressing and just breathe and enjoy that peace. Get up and have a cup of tea if you will enjoy it - you can sleep another time! Dinner not perfect? Don’t stress! My kids have eaten toast or porridge for dinner many, many times. Your Lord not only walks with you, but he carries you and truly understands your pain. I PROMISE it will get better. Nourish your children, their hearts. Nourish your own under wisdom. Be kind to yourself. And odd though it might sound when you are struggling so much - enjoy the moments you can. Because I promise it will not always be this way. Xxx
Have you brought your troubles to your head? Your husband is in charge of the house and if you're feeling this way his entire household will be feeling chaos and he'll be feeling the disorderly out of control feelings himself.
Hi I have 2 babies. I plan to be a stay a home mom for them. I have a full time job but I want to take my babies out of daycare because when I get home with them they both want to be carried and cry.. I feel like they need me and I don’t want to miss anything from them. . 😢❤Thank you for sharing your advise. God bless y’all
What is really terrible is if you are a mom with little ones little children who live in an apartment with no beautiful humongous backyard and backyard furniture, and sunshine, and I would love to be able to do all of the things. I come finally I have a yard now and we rent our small house. Being grateful is important!!!! There are many people with shared walls in an apartment who do not have a backyard. It is much less stressful if you can have a backyard, of course.
While I totally agree with you, I also understand that people can live in their own little personal prison within their own hearts and minds depending on many factors (past trauma, marital issues, spiritual barrenness, nervous system dysfunction, and a whole host of other circumstances). And perhaps moms who live in that tiny apartment are so rich in other ways and simply don’t struggle with the same things. So I do agree that having a great living situation makes certain struggles easier in ways and that gratitude certainly can be so beneficial (healing, even) - it’s most certainly not the only factor leading to mom anger struggles.
I am a mom and I do appreciate you and thank you for being an awesome sister in Jesus as we get closer to the Lord is it is important that we keep seeking God. My children are ages eight, nine and 12 and it is totally true as a Christian that I have needed God to help me in so many ways including anger of course including with patience. Much love to you. :-) I am grateful for what I have and my kids have helped me to be less selfish. We need to take care of ourselves as moms of course and you are a beautiful person much love. We are all beautiful as moms. :-) and we are all worth a lot both dads and moms together.
But seriously, much real love to you and it is true. I know what it is like to not have a house and not have hardwood floors and not have a flat stove before and these things make life so much better. I never one time had a babysitter come to my house or my apartment or my townhouse and I have lived in all three with children. I have also lived in a manufactured house. I have moved a lot and been very poor. I am so grateful That I have learned through all the stress and all the hate and all of the neighbors trying to be quiet for them with crying babies and shared walls, money helps a lot. With stress such as being able to afford food that helps the kids stop their crazy crying and clothes so that we have enough when they have a blowout diaper to go through with clothing and having modern easier utensils like also washing machine dryer, and a flat stove. A hardwood floor is also so convenient. Little things actually are really big things, that people take for granted. I am sorry, and please do forgive me though so much if my comments offend anyone.
Being a stay at home, mom is what I am. Although I do school. Online collagen once in a while, DoorDash deliveries lol but really I am a stay home mom. I would rather be a stay at home mom ever then work outside of the home. Being with crying babies is extremely stressful and of course putting them in daycare would be easier except I know they could die while they are at daycare or get sick while they’re at daycare and then die from that sickness and there can be abusive daycare workers. Being a stay at home mom as hard it is true and so is looking outside the home probably. But again, I am so sorry and please forgive me if my, if anyone.
Beef and bean chili in the instapot (or slow cooker). Throw in the onions, beans, tomato paste, browned ground beef, and seasoning, boom. Dinner for 2-3 days, easy to reheat on the stovetop.
Thank you for this video but for me, I still feel very alone in my ager. My eldest daughter will be 3 in a couple months and she still cannot speak. This has become frustrating for all 3 of us (daughter, husband, and myself) because she cannot exactly communicate all of her wants and needs so there are many dramatic outbursts throughout the day with some more than other days. I feel very alone and don't feel like I am prepared to handle her crying and now shrieking towards something every single day. These days I do not feel like I was given something that I can handle. I don't know what to do. I cry out to God during these episodes but it's everyday. Moments like this makes me feel like I'm not cut out to be a mother. I just don't know how to make it better. I love my daughter so much but I am at a loss for how to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I relate to this so much, mama. I felt exactly how you feel. Outbursts of anger everyday, feeling like this was an impossible task. Honestly angry at God for making motherhood so hard. It wasn’t until I realized my nervous system was in constant fight /flight that I was able to correct the issue and retrain my brain to respond to these situations with gentleness and love. Praying for you, sister. I’m here to help!
If you have a KitchenAid mixer throw the cooked chicken breasts in there with the paddle attachment to shred it. It works great! I've actually mixed it too much where I turned it into more of a pulp instead of shredded chicken. LOL My fourth baby is on the way (February) and every little bit helps. I'm a Catholic. Three children under three. 💕
I’ve mentioned the kitchenaid thing on my channel before, but honestly, with this method it’s completely unnecessary to dirty up the stand mixer because it’s just so quick and easy to shred with the forks.
@TransformedHomemakersSociety for me, it's actually easier to use the stand mixer because I have a little one that I carry around 80% of the time that I cook so the stand mixer IS easier for me and I can easily rinse the bowl and paddle with one hand and put it in the dishwasher 😂
Of course The Holy Spirit brought me to this video because nothing I watch on UA-cam is about being a mom. Last night I was in mom rage and asked God why would he allow me to have children if I can’t handle it. I felt absolutely terrible. I love my children!!
I’m so glad he brought you to my video. Motherhood is SO HARD. It’s undeniably the hardest job in the world. It tugs at every part of you and exposed every weakness - physical, mental, emotional, spiritual- it’s not shocking to me that so many moms are struggling with mom rage. You know who else it’s not surprising to? God. He’s not surprised by your sin, mama. You think you’ve messed up so much that you can’t come back from that, but you absolutely can with the Lord’s help. And then, once you start healing your own wounds, you’ll notice less and less episodes of rage. But it won’t feel like it! It’ll feel like you’re still the same but that’s because you’ll be more sensitive to even slight impatience in your demeanor and you’ll be convicted of even that. My encouragement is if you’re here, and you clearly care, you’re being sanctified by your role as a mother. And God ALWAYS wins. He will do the job He has set out to do with you. Phil 1:6 says And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
chicken breasts, slow cooker, ranch seasoning, 1/2 cup mayo. cook on low for 3-4 hours. shread it up. serve however you want. i make sliders out of it. my 4 kids love it. also chicken, slow cooker, 1/2 cup chicken broth (or water), seasoning of choice (herbs, salsa, etc) cook on low 3-4 hours. you're good!
Yes, I think I mentioned somewhere else that on top of confusion is having multiple "basic needs" not met. Tired, hungry, need to use the restroom, thirsty, all the things!
God bless you. Thank you! This was very helpful and timely for me to see. You’re right! It’s never too late. It so helpful to catch ourselves entertaining a lie and replace it with the word of God. Thank you for sharing! “What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all-how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died-more than that, who was raised to life-is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:31-39 NIV bible.com/bible/111/rom.8.31-39.NIV
What are thoughts on toys? I’m at the point there’s no more toys not even playroom in the house. Everything moved out to the garage. Soft toys fine, they will make toys or play in their rooms ( please God), haha, and it’s all put away in five minutes. Maybe this will make the difference?? Here’s hoping for peace, and less chaos! I’m trusting God on this one because I’m doing it solely for me and my safety, but my mom guilt on removing toys shocked me. I’m not getting rid of them I just moved them somewhere we can easily visit. I’m hoping I don’t give in and change my mind! We’re all happier even the husband. There’s no way it’s not helping us thrive. The “educational” toys are out, only musical instruments, and some sensory and books.
Personally, I think this is a great idea! Toys can add to the chaos. Open ended toys are the best - blocks, imagination-inspiring toys, sticks, rocks etc. kids will make anything a toy. Kitchen utensils, blankets, etc. no need to add to the clutter with tons of little toys lying around. We have toys put away into bins and put somewhere they don’t have free access to. They can ask for one bin at a time and the previous bin gets cleaned up first. Each bin has minimal toys.
Excellent idea! Toys are the bane of my existence. I just cannot deal with all the clutter and every time the grandparents visit they bring yet another to add to the pile. I just don’t know how I can politely ask them not to waste their money cluttering my house
@@monicageller226 The joy is in the giving - the grandparents got to see the children play with the toy for a bit and experience the joy of giving them the toy, but it is not your responsibility to manage the toy. So I believe you can donate the toy if it doesn't serve your family well. Graciously accept the toy, thank the grandparents, and then donate if you think it will just add to the chaos. I also make it clear our philosophy on toys (obviously not as an admonishment, but just making conversation) and then if they choose to go outside of that and spend their money on something that we try to avoid, then that's their choice. Also, you could politely tell them you'd love for them to have these particular toys at THEIR house so the children have things to play with at their house. I hope this helps!
For my three children that are all close in age, well now they are ages eight and nine and 12, but I was a stay at home mom exclusively, I breast-fed exclusively from the time all of them were out of the hospital. Only my middle child stopped wanting to breast-feed at about 15 months. But I breast-fed my oldest and youngest the other two children, way past three years and I won’t say exactly how long. The point is they’re all done breast-feeding now, but I never had a break. I never pumped one time and at least my youngest child never had one bottle not a single bottle one time in her whole life and I’m not lying or exaggerating or joking about any of it. But I never had a babysitter come to my home. I had shared walls in my apartment and I had to hope neighbors didn’t call CPS if they heard crying because his neighbors do that, I had to hope they didn’t think I was abusive when they were all crying And it was hard having only one bedroom and then having only two bedrooms and then finally we had three bedrooms. For my husband and I. I got married about six years before any of our children were born. We got married at age 819 and didn’t have our first child until About six years later. Well, it was June 2006 we got married and then baby was born the first child September 2012. My point is it is difficult I understand. I think I understand anyway because we never even had daycare one time for any of our three children. No babysitter no daycare except for maybe three times I had my parents babysit when I actually could trust them. And I did everything all by myself. I didn’t live with any relatives except for just my husband and I. I was with them 24 seven until they started preschool. I also tan and breast-fed so I was breast-feeding the oldest two while I was pregnant with the youngest. I never let people help me because I did not trust other people. I still don’t lol. 🤷♂️ I I mean they all go to elementary school and I don’t homeschool or anything unless we miss church. I will definitely do church with them at home such as read the Bible with them. I am still a stay at home mom besides working on getting my masters degree online and occasional DoorDash deliveries, but I really don’t need to do that. I don’t do that. I depend on God for money and my husband who works full-time. I am sorry and please forgive me if this, if anyone again lol. Seriously. The point is I understand how it feels to have Mom anger and be stressed out. I think anyway I understand about Mom anger.
God Bless It, For This Wonderful Video In Christ For Us Mothers! ♥️♥️ God In The Name Of Jesus Has Delivered Me From Anger! Yes! I Was An Angry Mom. It's Hard To Say And Even Let It Be Known As A Christian. Because, From What I Felt Inside It Wasn't A Spirit Of The Lord; It ISN'T! To Be Angry Is NOT A Sin, But The Ways About It And The SUBMISSION To It ( The Flesh) Is. It Took ME Some Time To Stop Blaming My Surrounding And Start Looking At Self. My Friend, I Had EVERY REASON Why I Should Be Angry Or Ways I Had Made To Have Justice For My Contention(s) ; Yes, I Am Raising A TEENAGER And A TODDLER. Day-By-Day I Gotten Into It With Daughter And It Was Like An Expectation Each Day, I Just Knew We Were Going To Get Into It Some Part Of The Day,-Side Note, SHE DID TO- And It Was Breaking Us Apart. 😢😢. Jesus Brought To Me That My Fault Was That I Had 'Exeptations' That Was Breaking My Family Instead Of Building Them 😮. I Planned My Day Of Joy In My Head And When The Plan, Or The IDEA Didn't Work Out, It Was Like I Failed! THEN After The Failure Feeling, I Felt Like I Let Down God, Because, The Plans "I" Had, I Thought Were Strategically Set By God So It Was Like.. Yup, You Disobyed. You Didn't Make Your Family Happy Today By The 'Plans/Idea/'The Way You Thought" It Should Go..( What A LIE, From The Enemy) So It Made Me ANGRY. Frustasted, And Disappointed! BUT, When I STOPPED Pointing The Finger And CRIED Out To God "WITH" My Daughter About SELF And Asking Him To HELP "ME", Immediately, Anger Was Gone!!!!! Like, Instant. It Was Like God Was Waiting For Me To Be Honest.. About ME. And, With That, He Taught Me To Grow WITH My Daughter And Son And Their Personalities And Not Try To Force Them In My Way Of Being. Yes, The Word Of God Is STILL The Way I Want Them To Live And WILL Live, But It's Done GODS/JESUS' Right Way And Not My Ways I've Created In My Mind. And His Way Is Full! That's In LOVE, Consideration, Compassion, And Security! (Bearing Much Of The Fruit Of The Spirit). God Bless, My Sister In Christ. ♥️♥️ ( This Is A Testimony Of Our Saviour In My Life, And How He CAN/ WILL Deliver. Even When We Feel Like We Shouldn't Be Experiencing These Things As Christians.. Gods In Control.)
I've taken a break from UA-cam because I used to think I deserved the "break" it was an issue that contributed to my rage so I let it go. I am glad to come back today and have this at the top of my recommendations. I would like to share an incredible resource that was transformative for my thinking; Good and Angry by Scott Turansky. It is a wonderful book, rooted in biblical truths about parenting and emotions. It is packed full of practical easy to apply methods, much like this video. Thank you. I subscribed after the truth of mentioned to obey God. Also, I have a list of go to scriptures for house painfully challenging moments. 1 Corinthians 10:13 is the first one, the rest are; Romans 6: 17, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 2 Corinthians 12:8-10, and of course James 1.
Thank you so much for being here and for that book rec! I'm going to add that to my list. So happy this was at the top of your feed! What a blessing. I'm excited to get to know you more in the comments!
It's ok to be angry. God says be angry and do not sin. There are times to be angry. Most of the angry, yelling feeling Mom's have towards their children is being disrespected by not having their authority honored. Children's job is to obey their mother and father. A wife's job is to obey her husband and respect him. What I usually see is Moms tolerating disrespectful behavior from their children and in turn disrespecting their husband. Putting your authority structures in order relieves so much stress. Children are priority after husband and after God primarily. If there's any stress bring it to your husband. Defer to your authority, just like your husband should defer to his (he answers to God as the head) and your children defer to their parents.
God also tells us to have the fruit of the spirit which is love, peace, patience, kindness and gentleness and yelling stems from MY selfish feeling of feeling disrespected meaning my response is NOT biblically justified. A righteous answer does not give us justification to yell at our children.
@@allthingsaremadenew236sure, for clarity, I'm not advocating that Christian mothers yell at their children, rather I'm just talking about the feelings that usually precede yelling and then how to deal with them. The verse in referring to is in Ephesians 4. It also speaks on how to be angry without sinning, by speaking truth with your neighbor and only letting wholesome words for building up proceed from your mouth. Also, it's right to take control of the things that are yours. Women have authority over their own children. It's not selfish to demand and expect respect from your children. I mean this all for encouragement.
Hahaha! It’s how I structure my videos - doing random homemaking things then voiceover of the main topic - but sometimes I’m excited enough about what I’m doing in the shot to go off the topic and tell you about it lol your comment made me laugh though because so true!
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Wow did God ever send me this video… I was crying praying to Him on my way to pick up my two oldest kids from Forest school today asking for Him to take my anger, release me from it, give me more patience, that my children won’t remember me as the yelling mom, and to be the kind happy mom I so desperately want to be. ❤ wonderful video, thank you.
I’ve had my fair share of those same conversations with the Lord. He hears you, mama. Thankfully he is a God of redemption!
Relying on your husband to keep his house in order is so essential to mother's emotional well being. If you find yourself angry at your children make sure you tell him. Respect is important to men and showing you honor is critical to his role in your marriage.
@@Shelb13v I agree. I speak to this topic quite a bit on my channel. :)
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Omghhhh sameee here!!! God’s perfect timing! Thank you Jesus! He always knows what we need!
I’ve been struggling with mom rage the last few days and I swear I didn’t look for this video. It found me. I literally needed to hear this. I’m pregnant and have a three year old but finding the patience to be a kind and soft mother the last few days has been tough. I don’t want to be a rigid mother and that’s just what I’ve been the last few days. Thank you for posting this ❤
I know exactly what you mean about that "rigid mother" - don't do this, no stop that, don't touch that... etc. It's so difficult when you're exhausted. Thank you for watching - I'm so glad the video "found you" - so grateful to have you here.
I am also pregnant with a three year old and struggling with anger too. Of course this pops up in my feed. Thank you Lord for always working on us! Prayers for you mama!
It’s also helpful to think of this in Biblical language. Instead of “I need to regulate my emotions” perhaps we should say “I need to practice self control”. The heart is deceitful above all things. We must not be merciful to our sin. I think your advice on memorizing scripture is so helpful. There are very specific verses on the evil of anger that I have found very helpful
He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.
- Proverbs 16:32
He who is slow to anger has great understanding,
But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly.
A tranquil heart is life to the body,
But passion is rottenness to the bones.
- Proverbs 14:29-30
We are called to be “gentle and quiet”, peaceful and loving, not angry and anxious! May the grace of Christ cover us and may God graciously continue to sanctify us 🙏
Thanks for your input!
Thanks for your input!
Literally came across this while crying after an episode of mom rage followed by the guilt of treating the little ones I love so much with unkindness. This is the encouragement I needed in this moment
Ooooh I feel this in my bones, mama. I' so glad you came across this. You're SO not alone in this battle.
Generally I think of it as misplaced anger. Not necessarily that you're angry at your children or your husband. But overwhelmed, depleted, anxious, worried, overstimulated. So many things.
You’re absolutely right-misplaced anger is often a symptom of deeper struggles like feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or depleted. When our nervous system is in fight-or-flight mode, even small frustrations can feel magnified, and the anger often spills onto those closest to us, even when they’re not the root cause.
What’s important is recognizing the triggers behind this anger. Sometimes it’s unmet needs-physical, emotional, or spiritual-that we haven’t been able to address. By learning to regulate our nervous system, pause in those heated moments, and care for ourselves intentionally, we can begin responding to our families with more grace and patience.
God has blessed you with wisdom. There is hope! I have 6 kids, my oldest is now 18, and I very much remember my many angry outbursts, and praying that Jesus would change me and help me. He answered that prayer. I have been changed so much over the years, as the Spirit is continuing His work in me to conform me into the image of Christ.
Oh how I love this comment! What HOPE it provides! Thank you so much for sharing. What a blessing that the Lord changed you into someone who is more like Him!
I need women like you in my daily life. God pushed this video on me multiple times until I clicked it. Thank you for posting.
Ah I’m so happy you clicked too! Thank you for being here!
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I just found out I am pregnant with my third. How blessed and happy I feel! I have had many lingering thoughts lately about how I will manage everything as a mother. I find a feeling of fear come over me at times. This video really helped put me at ease and it will be something I come to as I move through my pregnancy and even up to and after my baby finally arrives. Best thing I can do is give it all to God, keep read and study scripture and pray. Thank you for this video. It showed up at the right time. 🙌🏼🙏🏼❤
Congratulations on your new little blessing! Praying for a healthy pregnancy and delivery! Thank you for being here and I’m so glad this video came when it did! 🤎
my anger usually stems from lack of control in a chaotic environment. four kids ages 10 - 3. they are energetic and stubborn, each in their own phase of development and me (introvert) trying to juggle it all. need to remember to take my time and let some things go.
This is relatable. Another trigger is often not having basic needs met along with this lack of perceived ‘control’ - eg. Thirsty, needing to use the restroom, exhausted, hungry, etc.
"Lack of control in a chaotic environment" 100%. (Background: boisterous twin boys plus 2yr older sibling). They are a bit older now and I don't react as much as I used to. Bless you all ❤.
@@annaj1734 twin mama - IDK how you do it!!
@annaj1734 I have 4 under 4..2 year old twins. Im struggling so much right now!
Agree. Same here.
God did show me this today!! I had a mom anger issue this morning. After I dropped of my kid at school, I thought about the guilt I was feeling and what I needed to do. Then this video popped on my fyp. I just wanted to say thanks for your advice and reminding me I'm not alone!
Thank you so much for watching! I’m so glad it pooped up in perfect timing for you. 🤎
Haha the 20 minute workout turning into 45 made me chuckle because that's how it goes right? If you try before they wake up you'll get interrupted or feel anxious about when they'll wake up so doing it while they are awake is better in my opinion! Some snacks and tv time wont ruin anyone and guess what! Ive done 10 mins of a workout 2x-3x through the day and that still works too! I also see my 3 and 5 year old picking up 2lb weights, stretching and walking on the treadmill cuz theyve seen me do it! If I only read my Bible and work out before they wake up, they don't see me do those things. So even though it's a little harder to do, I think there's more of a reward that my kids see me reading my Bible and they see me exercising to fill my own cup for my own health so that they see that it's important! It's the same thing if Mom never eats/eats little or doesn't sit down to eat then they don't see that good healthy food is important. If they only see that Mama eats standing up cuz she's trying to do a chore too well thats kinda sad and stressful. Let's read our Bibles, move our bodies, sit down to eat a hot meal, stop scrolling on our phones and have a book that you enjoy next to your nightstand. I love Chicken Soup for the Soul so I can have a laugh or a feel good story before bed! Don't read a how to be a good mom book before bed. I feel like our husbands read to enjoy, but we're reading how to be better in a million ways. Put down the self-help and read something that you enjoy or that you want to learn about! Read a few pages before bed for a sense of accomplishment and let's enjoy this life that's God's given us and live abundantly! This phase really goes by so fast and before you know it you'll have a clean house and a quiet house again. If we're lucky enough to live long, we will have more time, (decades if were lucky!) where we won't have our children under the same roof as us. So let's be faithful in these little years, coach our teens in the teen years and be there to support them when our children are adults. We got this!
All great advice! I totally forgot about those chicken soup for the soul books! I should look for some at Goodwill soon! Thanks for watching!
I love thus, letting your children learn by watching you, great advice.
Wow great input and advice!:) to show them you spend your time w the Lord in front of them as an example 👍 and I chuckled at a few things you mentioned bc sometimes it’s easy to feel that we’re the only ones going thru what you say- eating standing up while getting things done (& btw, anyone there heating up their food or coffee in the microwave for the upteenth time 😅🙌) or that our husbands read for enjoyment whilst we’re over there doing dishes, laundry or in bed reading or listening to
Self help parenting or marriage books 😅
I love this! Also I’m learning about including the little ones In these things. I often don’t read my Bible because my boy will try to grab the Bible but instead I can give him his hard picture Bible book and encourage him to look at that while we sit together. Then end in a little prayer together (even if the whole thing is super short LOL).
@ what a sweet time for you two! Love that. 🤍
I struggle with this sometimes too. One thing that actually helps me a ton (likely because I have adhd and also suffered a concussion a couple years ago) is to put noise cancelling ear plugs in to reduce overstimulation. Before you think I'm ignoring my kids thats far from it. The earplugs don't block all the sound. Just the white noise-like frequencies and unimportant noises, while making it possible to still hear my kids talk (just at a softer level). Having that reduction of stimulation alone has been a game changer. It helps me be able to get a calmer state of mind to be more patient with my kids, while also taking care of myself so I can think more clearly. I do use a lot of the other techniques mentioned to calm mom rage, but the earplugs are definitely a major ingredient for me. Its amazing how turning the world's volume down a bit can change your life!
I used to do this ALL THE TIME when my nervous system was stuck in a chronic state of stress. However, I’ve realized that if you feel the need to rely on this, it’s likely a sign your nervous system is already in fight-or-flight mode. Once I addressed my nervous system dysfunction, all those little tips I used to rely on to keep my peace became unnecessary.
It was like my nervous system was constantly running at level 10, and even small triggers-like noise-would push it over the edge to level 11. But with techniques in place to calm my nervous system, I’m no longer starting at such a high baseline. Now, those little stressors don’t feel nearly as overwhelming. Does that make sense?
@@TransformedHomemakersSociety Yes, that does make sense. For me personally, however, I have to use them out of necessity. I can start my day at a pretty decent level (minimal anxiety, ready to start the day) and practice my fight or flight management strategies, but still end up overstimulated because of my ADHD and left over complications from my concussion. ADHD (as my therapist has explained) makes me much more sensitive to cortisol overload, even if it's from a positive activity, which puts me in a state of needing the earplugs. Also, ever since my concussion about two years ago, my tolerance threshold for regular level sounds dropped significantly (much to my frustration as a professional musician. It was my concussion that started me wearing earplugs to begin with). As a result, I can have a great day with my kids and still have to put the ear plugs in because of the sensory overload.
I guess my bottom line is that yes, you are right with the suggestion of proactively addressing your fight or flight response first so you don't need the earplugs. But there are cases and situations where having them either out of necessity (like my situation) or as an extra tool when your fight or flight response has crept up on you, that earplugs can be helpful, especially if you are still learning about your fight or flight response and how to manage it. Hence the reason I suggested it. ❤
@ makes complete sense! I’m so glad you’ve found what works for you. Nervous system dysfunction is multi factorial and can be caused by so many things - as you’ve learned. Healing can be done in many ways as well. Thank you so much for being here! 🤎
We are entering the terrible twos and I’m finding it hard to manage my emotions while helping my kid regulate hers. Thank you for posting this. Keeping all of us moms in my prayers. It’s not easy but it’s so worth it.
Thank you for sharing and for praying!
Teachable twos 🥰
@ Im using that from now on! Love it😊
Also terrific twos 😊❤@@DaniellePalomado
I was literally praying about this today and your channel popped up! Definitely God sent! Thank you for this tip!❤
Wow thank you so much for telling me this! How encouraging! I’m so happy the Lord lead you to my channel and this video. Praying my channel continues to bless you. 🤎
@ I’m sure it will! I subscribed! ❤️
This video is heaven sent! I feel God speaking to me telling me I CAN be the kind mom I want to be but I have to do it with him.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
100% you can with Him!
Wow I had to go back and copy this part you said:
“You aren’t that angry mom, or that grouchy wife. God made you to be wise and kind. THAT is who you are. It’s not too late to embody this woman you guys. Satan would have you think that you’ve gone too far. Or that you can’t change now because it would seem disingenuous. That’s a lie, you can be her”
This is so amazing.
I can’t say how many times I’ve thought when I’m trying to be nice and kind to my sweet children that it seems disingenuous because I have been the angry mom more than kind. Thank you so much for this video. It has blessed me very much.
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I want to cry reading this even though I wrote it! I was having a hard time getting across what I meant by this but you perfectly understood and can relate to what I was trying to articulate! Thank you so so much for this comment.
Amen ❣️ 🙌🏽👏🏽✝️🤍🕊️
What a blessing that this video popped up on my feed right now. Thank you Holy Spirit, thank you Jesus. God bless you.
Thank you so much for watching. Praying my channel continues to bless you. 🤎
God Bless you!!! This video will be a daily reminder for me because I struggle with mom rage. I struggle just to be present from day to day. I often feel like a failure for not even wanting to be on earth. These feelings are forcing me to lean into God's unchanging hands. Videos like this make it easier to understand the bible. Thank you so much🥹😭❤️
Oh thank you so much for this encouragement! I’m so glad this video blessed you. I have 100% felt what you’re feeling at times and boy is it all soooo much easier once I got out of fight /flight.
Omg just what my spirit was needing. been praying to the Lord to help me be and peaceful wife and mother especially with having a toddler and newborn ! ❤️
I'm so glad you found my channel! Thank you for watching and I pray the Lord gives you that peace.
Postpartum Rage is so real and Postpartum depression 😢 it can last up to two years … May God be with us mommas/babies/daddies while we get through this carry us through the sand when we cannot 🙏🏽
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Thank you for this video. I desire to break generational raging cycles in parenting!!
Amen God makes a way out &
His word is powerful❤️
May the Lord continue to give you wisdom & strength to overcome mom anger
Bless you& your family 💕
He absolutely does! Thank you for sharing your heart, sister. This is a generational cycle and it can end with you. It requires retraining your brain and how you think! I have a mini course called Overcoming Mom Anger that might really bless you if you’re interested.
Praying for you, sister! You’ve got this!
Here’s that course:
courses.healthfullyrootedhome.com/courses/overcomingmomanger
Amen!
Sister in Christ. God is using you. Raised by a military mother with PTSD and bipolar 2 which has so much pent up rage towards me so often feels I have to fight how I was taught to treat my babies. This was wonderful content!
This made me cry. Thank you so much for watching and sharing. Seriously.
Thank you Lord for leading me to this video and channel.
Thank you for being here! 🤎
This came to me at such a perfect time. I'm a mommy of 3 now (3 months PP) and it's such a humbling season that requires all of us at home to slow down and it can be so hard to do that. Overstimulation is my biggest problem.
A humbling season, indeed! I’ve experienced exactly the same thing.
Thank you for this video. It spoke to my current struggle, and reminded me that there is a way to be the mom I want to be. I also agree that the anger comes from anxiety and confusion. Would love to hear you speak more on this topic, especially sharing some tools, and maybe speaking to passion/hobby tending that easily gets put on the back burner for us moms. Sometimes that seems like it adds to the empty cup feeling. Anyways, have a great weekend ❤
Thank you! I did a video on mom rage in the past with more tips! Here it is: ua-cam.com/video/7KUcLdS-Sbc/v-deo.htmlsi=JFsTYTTui5DEa3_B
I would love to do a video on passion projects as a mother. I did one before about WHEN to do them (I think titled free time as a mom - or something like that).
I find the struggle becomes harder when they become five and up. Thank you for this message it was beautiful! 💗
Thank you for watching! I think everyone struggles with different stages for different reasons.
Became easier for me personally.. maybe because I sleep a bit better as he grows lol
I could totally see that! Sleep is crucial. I feel like for me personally I had all four of my kids within five years then had a bad injury to my neck right after having my fourth so my nervous system was shot. It truly only through God's grace that I am where I am at today. My kids ages now spread from Eleven to six and now I feel my frustration can come more from them having arguments with each other since they all have their own opinions. 😄
Wow! This was so good. I believe God led me to your channel bc he knows this channel is what I needed to help in the fits of “mom rage, guilt from it , being a wife” etc. God bless you sister! ❤
Blessings to you too! So glad this blessed you. 🤎
MOST of the time we do too much, too soon, at an inappropriate time…unrealistic time…with fantasy expectations. The burning the food example you gave is a good one. There’s no reason to make dinner with a newborn and toddler who are both unpredictable. Dinner making should migrate to another time so the focus can be where it should be. It’s like when I run my bath water in the middle of doing other things…the near overflow is always the end result.
While I agree with you that we multitask way too much, I don’t agree that we shouldn’t be making our family dinner or doing the many jobs of a homemaker. It’s unrealistic to expect our life to give us perfect opportunities to cook. There are definitely BETTER opportunities to cook than others, and we can do things to set ourselves up for success like making (or at least prepping) dinner in the morning when our children’s oxytocin is highest and they’re most content - but to simply shirk the responsibility of cooking is not wise in my opinion.
This is such a needed subject. Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you, friend!
I like listening to videos meanwhile I wash the dishes and today I was tired out . My toddlers running between my legs and this video pop up . Ugh it’s so hard being a mom but I am glad am not alone in this . I work 40 hours a week have two toddlers and a 12 year old and by the time the day ends i am exhausted !
That’s so much to have on your plate, mama. Praying for a peace that surpasses all understanding for you. 🤎
Wow I needed to hear this- thank you so much and God bless you sister in Christ!! 🙏❤️
Thank you for watching! Blessings to you, too!
Thank you. Seriously. The verses were also really convicting, and I found that more helpful than merely the "they're not gonna be little forever!!!" attitude because I know that, but the problem is I don't know how to fix it, so it just packs on more guilt. God being the way of escape was true for other sin in my life, so why not this one? I had to be reminded of that verse despite it being one of my favorite, so thank you for your obedience.
The meme also comes to mind: "Do I need the Holy Spirit to get to heaven?" "Girl, you need the Holy Spirit to go to Walmart" 😂 we need Him in literally everything, including our walk as parents!
Thank you so much for watching and for this encouragement! I’m so glad this resonated.
Also, I haven’t seen that meme but it spoke to me! Lol I love how God uses even memes to convict. 😂 but how true is that? I’ve gotten very good about turning to the Lord the very second I feel my heart start racing and face getting red (early signs I’m triggered). I’ll immediately say “Lord, show me a way out.” Or “Lord be with me.”
Thank you Lord for leading me to this sister in Christ 🥰🙏 God bless you incredibly and thank you for your encouragement!
Thank you so much for this encouragement! So happy to have you here. 🤍
This is incredibly on time for me. I pray that God continues to bless you and your family. Continue to submit to God’s will as He uses you as a vessel for His ministry. Stay encouraged 💕
Thank you so much, Krystal! You’re so sweet!
Wow praise God for you ✨ I got so upset at my son last night who has been waking up almost every night at 1am 4am 3am and I haven’t been sleeping and I said something to him out of frustration and I have been beating myself up all day😩 I prayed about it and renounced the words I spoke to him and ask God for forgiveness and to help me with this and your video just came up💕🙏🏽 God heard us and He is our PRESENT HELP❤❤❤❤
I love this testimony of the Lord working in your life! Thank you for sharing!
Hello Jessica, I’m going threw the same my son is 5mon old and he is cluster feeding. Just know your not alone.
We are in this together remember that.
This was beautiful. Thank you for reading God's word out to us. ❤❤
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching.
I needed to find your channel! God allowed you to pop up in my feed, your videos speak so well to motherhood. Thank you for giving encouragement! I have a 4 year old and a 3 month old preemie. Find myself challenged daily to be kind and gentle when all I feel is exhaustion. The Lord is so good though and even when I feel I haven't done a good job that day, my oldest comes to me with an I love you or she prays for me or calls me her treasure. It's beautiful.
Thank you so much for being here and for sharing your heart! And wow, I totally agree with you there, mama. God is so gracious. I think the same thing all the time about how sweet my children are despite how nasty I’ve Al treated them. I always be sure to apologize though so they know that mommy was wrong and I know it.
And how sweet of your daughter to say those things! That’s a testament to what a great mama you are! She’s getting those things from you - good job mama!
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks for the tips. God bless you 🙏🏿
I’m so glad this blessed you! Thank you for being here. 🤎
You’re right. Ask God and He will give you a way out. ❤ :)
I have been struggling with losing my temper lately and prayed about it. I’ve seen this video multiple times and saved it to my watch later…I prayed to God again this morning to help with my patience as a mom and saw your video again in my feed. God is saying, “Hi, please watch this video”. lol ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this! I’m so happy you watched. I hope it was a blessing and encouraging for you. 🤍🤎
Thank you so much!! for sharing this . This is such a blessing
Thank you so much for watching! I’m so happy it blesses you. Thank you for being here. 🤎
Thank you, this is real, useful content. God keeps showing me the way ❤ greetings from Mexico
Welcome! How wonderful to have you here. I can’t wait to get to know you more in the comments. Thank you for watching - I’m so glad this was useful for you. 🤎
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I just found you tonight and immediately connected with this video. I subscribed immediately. As a new Christian, I am so desperate for Bible direction. I may have missed it but I don't see the Bible verses you mentioned in the description. If I am missing something, forgive and ignore me but if not, I think it would be incredible to list the Bible verses you mention in the description. Just a request. I think your content is awesome and I am so wanting a Christian female community of moms to hear and bear my woes. I'm so excited I found you!
Oh that’s a great idea! I’ll work on doing this for my videos. I should definitely be doing this - I can see how that would be helpful.
Thank you so much for watching and subscribing! It’s wonderful to have you here and I can’t wait to get to know you more in the comments.
I’d also love to have you join us in the free homemaking Facebook group: facebook.com/share/g/1X7HQRQUd8/?mibextid=K35XfP
God knew I needed to hear this ! Thank you beloved ❤
You’re so welcome! Thank you for being here 🤎
This was a big help and a blessing sent from God! Thank you.
Thank you so much for watching! I’m so glad this was a blessing to you!
God just brought me across your page.
I'M SO GRATEFUL THAT HE DID!!!!!
Now I know that I am not alone in having tough moments as a mama!!
I felt like motherhood & homemaking should come effortlessly. I also believed that most everyone else had both figured out.
The mom guilt was REAL!!!
You'd be surprised at just HOW MUCH HELP even seeing you pull the garbage can to the counter while you cooked was for me!!!!!
You would think something like that should be common sense!
I can't tell you how many times I've made the dangerous trek across our kitchen to throw things out while I'm cooking .
I am SHOCKED at how something so small could be so REVOLUTIONARY as God had the proverbial "light bulb" go off as I watched!!!
Thanks mama!!! Blessings to y'all and y'alls family!!!!!
AHHH! Loooooove this encouragement! Thank you so much! I notice the small things like that when I watch videos ALL. THE. TIME. So I totally know what you mean.
Isn’t motherhood and homemaking a kick in the pants?! I was shocked too.
Also I love that you said “the dangerous trek across the kitchen” 😂 isn’t that the truth?! That should be an Olympic sport!
@@TransformedHomemakersSociety😂 it would actually make for some good reality TV !
LOVE the chicken idea too!!! I've been praying for me to get a Dutch oven.
Cast iron is AMAZING for FLAVOR!!! Also the 3 of us (hubby, me, 4yr son) can EAT lol!!!
Thank you for this amazing message!! I want to transform my home! I work part time so I feel spread thin. Not long enough at work to feel productive or thorough, and not at home long enough to check off my to-do list (wife duties, mom duties, house duties). I want to be a blessing to those around me.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart! I completely understand how it feels to be pulled in so many directions and still have the desire to be a blessing to those around you. It can feel overwhelming, but you’re not alone in this journey!
I’ve been where you are, and I’ve found that small mindset shifts and practical tools can make a huge difference. That’s why I created the Transformed Homemaker Society-a course designed to help moms like us regulate our emotions, find peace, and transform our homes into places of joy and blessing.
If you’re interested, I’d love to share more about it-it might be the encouragement and guidance you’re looking for! Either way, I’m cheering you on as you pursue this beautiful calling. You’ve got this!
God bless you and your family. Thank you so much ❤
You’re so welcome! Thanks for watching and blessings to you as well. 🤎
Im so glad i found this channel today! I feel like no one in my real life actually talks about this stuff, and it often feels like im the only one. Thank you 🙏🥺❤️
I know exactly what you mean. I was so scared when I started sharing my heart… but once I did I received so many comments from people relating!
Thank you so much for this wonderful message! I needed to hear this! God bless you!
You’re so welcome, beautiful! Thanks for watching!
Thank you so much for this video. God definitely lead me here for a specific reason.
I’m so glad! Thank you so much for watching!
Thank you so much for this video. ❤
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching. I hope it’s been a blessing. Would love to have you join our Facebook group! facebook.com/groups/1757801874968471
Just came across your channel today. And wow, are we in a similar stage of life! I am 6 weeks pp with baby #3. With 2 toddlers close in age to yours. Thank you for sharing those scriptures. I'm definitely going to be memorizing them. Subscribed❤
Thank you so much! It’s so great to have you here. I’d love to get to know you more in my FB group! Join if you’d like facebook.com/share/g/15Gtmbxmx4/?mibextid=K35XfP
This was an encouraging and helpful video! Thank you :)
You’re welcome, love! Thanks for watching 🤍
Oh my how powerful! Thank you ❤
Thank you!
So glad I found your channel! I already subscribed ❤ I appreciate your insights and find them very encouraging and inspiring. I also loved how you tackle your daily chores wearing baby.
Baby sleep is a major stress point for the majority of mamas. I was wondering how you approach it. If you could share your thoughts on baby sleep in future videos I'd greatly appreciate.
God bless you and your family 🙏
Thank you so much for watching and subscribing! I can do that for sure!
Definantly a blessing!
Oh good!
Thank you for this video!!! A gift from God.❤
You’re so very welcome! Thanks for watching!
Thank you
You’re so welcome! 🤍
This is exactly what I need. Thank you ❤
I’m so glad! You’re very welcome!
Thank you❤
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching!
This is so good! Everything I need!
Yes 🙌 so happy this has been helpful!!
I feel so guilty because sometimes I’m mad and I talk to my kids the way I don’t want to talk. I blamed my stress which is not excuse. My husband and I are not together. We separated over 3 months ago and he can’t even be close to the babies. I’ve been so overwhelmed because it was not his choice nor mine it was the criminal justice system who separated my family. My kids cry for their dad and I’m all alone dealing with everything and trying to comfort them. I pray the lord to give me patience to be the best mom I can be for my kids and to help my babies get through this and not leave trauma not having their dad around.
That's a lot for you to be going through. Remember, Matthew 11:28-30. "Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” What you are going through is not easy or light, but if you place your burdens on Him he will make it feel light by giving you a peace that surpasses all understanding.
Thank you for being here and I can't wait to get to know you more in the comments.
You have such a nice yard with a play area!! When my son was 3 months old, we moved into a townhouse, and it's no maintenance. BUT there is no yard for him, and now that he's 3, I'm struggling with that because we always have to go to a playground. Motherhood is hard and we need more help from family. I think God intended for us to have big, multigenerational families, but that is not the way of things anymore.
We are SO blessed with our yard and home! I’m so sorry you’re struggling with motherhood in a town home - but good job looking at the bright side - no maintenance! Big yards come with lots and lots (and LOTS) of maintenance. Praise God for my husband who keeps it so well maintained.
Oh man… I could talk for days about the fact that multigenerational families are a thing of the past (devastatingly). I agree with you completely.
Thank you for the reminder! 🙏🙏🙏 I needed this!
I'm truly drowning in the mom anger & frustration phase right now.. I'm raising a 14yo challenging teenager and 2yo twins boy and girl. My lil baby boy is on the autism spectrum and have self-harming behavior that kept me on my nerves daily to supervise, so I can get too focused on every research and everything about his early interventions and therapy, while my lil baby girl is very clingy and demanding of my attention daily - because again she's a toddler! I'm always easily triggered to anger and frustration everyday dealing with my kids because I feel like I'm stretched too thin and can't do anything for myself - even for basic things like peacefully eating, showering etc,
To say that I'm struggling is an understatement.
Deep in my heart I knew that I cannot do this on my own.
I will try to draw close and pray to God for His mercy and provision for my life.. please pray for me 🙏
Praying for you, Elga! I’m sure your body is in a state of fight or flight in those moments when anger takes over you. I can only imagine because when one of my children gets hurt I quickly fall into fight or flight mode out of fear so I’m sure when you’re constantly dealing with that it would be terribly difficult to bounce out of that state. I think my course would be a huge blessing to you. Have you signed up for my workshop? If not I can send you the link!
Hello struggling mama
I am glad you found this video, which is a blessing.
I am mama to five, my teenager is well along the spectrum with various diagnoses, and went through a phase of several years involving self harm, suicidal thoughts, aggression, extreme anxiety and other very challenging behaviours. Meanwhile my youngest, a toddler, has a rare genetic condition. Between the two of them, with extremely little to no community or family support, I then also have had moments of worry that I am neglecting the middle three, who don’t have such “special needs”.
I write to encourage you. God has made you these children’s mama for a reason - only you can do it. Listen your internal wisdom, really come offline for a bit - the internet can be a curse as well as a blessing. And let. It. Go.
Most things just let go in this season. Are your children fed, hugged, healthy?
My husband works long hours and I am on my own plus my youngest has to be woken at night frequently to drink due to her condition so I don’t really sleep. “You” time can become a pressure. It can be as simple as suddenly feeling deep peace awake in the middle of the night and realising everyone is asleep, even if it’s for twenty minutes, and you can stop stressing and just breathe and enjoy that peace. Get up and have a cup of tea if you will enjoy it - you can sleep another time! Dinner not perfect? Don’t stress! My kids have eaten toast or porridge for dinner many, many times. Your Lord not only walks with you, but he carries you and truly understands your pain. I PROMISE it will get better. Nourish your children, their hearts. Nourish your own under wisdom. Be kind to yourself. And odd though it might sound when you are struggling so much - enjoy the moments you can. Because I promise it will not always be this way. Xxx
@@littleacornsmightyoakswow, what a thoughtful kind response! You all have me in tears. What a beautiful community
Have you brought your troubles to your head? Your husband is in charge of the house and if you're feeling this way his entire household will be feeling chaos and he'll be feeling the disorderly out of control feelings himself.
Thank you I needed to hear this❤
You’re so welcome. Thank you for being here - I’m glad this blessed you!
Also, just to door dash some days. For all 3 meals. Delivery.
I really appreciated this video ❤
Thank you for watching!
@ absolutely! It jsut randomly popped up! So yay!!
Hi
I have 2 babies. I plan to be a stay a home mom for them. I have a full time job but I want to take my babies out of daycare because when I get home with them they both want to be carried and cry.. I feel like they need me and I don’t want to miss anything from them. . 😢❤Thank you for sharing your advise. God bless y’all
A noble calling, dear. You’re so welcome and thank you for watching!
What is really terrible is if you are a mom with little ones little children who live in an apartment with no beautiful humongous backyard and backyard furniture, and sunshine, and I would love to be able to do all of the things. I come finally I have a yard now and we rent our small house.
Being grateful is important!!!! There are many people with shared walls in an apartment who do not have a backyard. It is much less stressful if you can have a backyard, of course.
While I totally agree with you, I also understand that people can live in their own little personal prison within their own hearts and minds depending on many factors (past trauma, marital issues, spiritual barrenness, nervous system dysfunction, and a whole host of other circumstances). And perhaps moms who live in that tiny apartment are so rich in other ways and simply don’t struggle with the same things. So I do agree that having a great living situation makes certain struggles easier in ways and that gratitude certainly can be so beneficial (healing, even) - it’s most certainly not the only factor leading to mom anger struggles.
I am a mom and I do appreciate you and thank you for being an awesome sister in Jesus as we get closer to the Lord is it is important that we keep seeking God.
My children are ages eight, nine and 12 and it is totally true as a Christian that I have needed God to help me in so many ways including anger of course including with patience. Much love to you. :-) I am grateful for what I have and my kids have helped me to be less selfish. We need to take care of ourselves as moms of course and you are a beautiful person much love. We are all beautiful as moms. :-) and we are all worth a lot both dads and moms together.
But seriously, much real love to you and it is true. I know what it is like to not have a house and not have hardwood floors and not have a flat stove before and these things make life so much better. I never one time had a babysitter come to my house or my apartment or my townhouse and I have lived in all three with children. I have also lived in a manufactured house. I have moved a lot and been very poor. I am so grateful That I have learned through all the stress and all the hate and all of the neighbors trying to be quiet for them with crying babies and shared walls, money helps a lot. With stress such as being able to afford food that helps the kids stop their crazy crying and clothes so that we have enough when they have a blowout diaper to go through with clothing and having modern easier utensils like also washing machine dryer, and a flat stove.
A hardwood floor is also so convenient. Little things actually are really big things, that people take for granted. I am sorry, and please do forgive me though so much if my comments offend anyone.
Being a stay at home, mom is what I am. Although I do school. Online collagen once in a while, DoorDash deliveries lol but really I am a stay home mom. I would rather be a stay at home mom ever then work outside of the home. Being with crying babies is extremely stressful and of course putting them in daycare would be easier except I know they could die while they are at daycare or get sick while they’re at daycare and then die from that sickness and there can be abusive daycare workers. Being a stay at home mom as hard it is true and so is looking outside the home probably. But again, I am so sorry and please forgive me if my, if anyone.
Um anyone can die anywhere. Daycare doesn’t lead to death.
Thank you so much!!
You bet! Thanks for watching!
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You’re welcome!
Thank you for this 🙏
You’re so welcome!! Thank you for watching.
Thank you ❤.
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You’re so welcome!
One more verse, James 1:20
" The wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God"
Great one!
What are those trees? I need those for my backyard asap
They’re called arborvitae
Beef and bean chili in the instapot (or slow cooker). Throw in the onions, beans, tomato paste, browned ground beef, and seasoning, boom. Dinner for 2-3 days, easy to reheat on the stovetop.
Sounds yummy!
Thank you for this video but for me, I still feel very alone in my ager. My eldest daughter will be 3 in a couple months and she still cannot speak. This has become frustrating for all 3 of us (daughter, husband, and myself) because she cannot exactly communicate all of her wants and needs so there are many dramatic outbursts throughout the day with some more than other days. I feel very alone and don't feel like I am prepared to handle her crying and now shrieking towards something every single day. These days I do not feel like I was given something that I can handle. I don't know what to do. I cry out to God during these episodes but it's everyday. Moments like this makes me feel like I'm not cut out to be a mother. I just don't know how to make it better. I love my daughter so much but I am at a loss for how to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
I relate to this so much, mama. I felt exactly how you feel. Outbursts of anger everyday, feeling like this was an impossible task. Honestly angry at God for making motherhood so hard. It wasn’t until I realized my nervous system was in constant fight /flight that I was able to correct the issue and retrain my brain to respond to these situations with gentleness and love.
Praying for you, sister. I’m here to help!
The anger can also come from a place of feeling alone. Not having the support from a husband.
Anger is multi factorial, there’s many reasons for it. Situational, relational, physical, spiritual, etc,
If you have a KitchenAid mixer throw the cooked chicken breasts in there with the paddle attachment to shred it. It works great! I've actually mixed it too much where I turned it into more of a pulp instead of shredded chicken. LOL My fourth baby is on the way (February) and every little bit helps. I'm a Catholic. Three children under three. 💕
I’ve mentioned the kitchenaid thing on my channel before, but honestly, with this method it’s completely unnecessary to dirty up the stand mixer because it’s just so quick and easy to shred with the forks.
@TransformedHomemakersSociety for me, it's actually easier to use the stand mixer because I have a little one that I carry around 80% of the time that I cook so the stand mixer IS easier for me and I can easily rinse the bowl and paddle with one hand and put it in the dishwasher 😂
Of course The Holy Spirit brought me to this video because nothing I watch on UA-cam is about being a mom. Last night I was in mom rage and asked God why would he allow me to have children if I can’t handle it. I felt absolutely terrible. I love my children!!
I’m so glad he brought you to my video. Motherhood is SO HARD. It’s undeniably the hardest job in the world. It tugs at every part of you and exposed every weakness - physical, mental, emotional, spiritual- it’s not shocking to me that so many moms are struggling with mom rage.
You know who else it’s not surprising to? God. He’s not surprised by your sin, mama. You think you’ve messed up so much that you can’t come back from that, but you absolutely can with the Lord’s help. And then, once you start healing your own wounds, you’ll notice less and less episodes of rage.
But it won’t feel like it! It’ll feel like you’re still the same but that’s because you’ll be more sensitive to even slight impatience in your demeanor and you’ll be convicted of even that.
My encouragement is if you’re here, and you clearly care, you’re being sanctified by your role as a mother. And God ALWAYS wins. He will do the job He has set out to do with you. Phil 1:6 says And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.
@ God bless you!! 🤍🤍🤍 May He continue to favor you, your family and your ministry!!
chicken breasts, slow cooker, ranch seasoning, 1/2 cup mayo. cook on low for 3-4 hours. shread it up. serve however you want. i make sliders out of it. my 4 kids love it. also chicken, slow cooker, 1/2 cup chicken broth (or water), seasoning of choice (herbs, salsa, etc) cook on low 3-4 hours. you're good!
YUM. Love the idea of adding mayo. Salsa, yes. Yum.
I needed this, thank you! Reframing it to see it as the enemy coming to attack is going to help so much.
That’s exactly right. So happy this was helpful!
#3 is tiredness
Yes, I think I mentioned somewhere else that on top of confusion is having multiple "basic needs" not met. Tired, hungry, need to use the restroom, thirsty, all the things!
God bless you. Thank you! This was very helpful and timely for me to see. You’re right! It’s never too late. It so helpful to catch ourselves entertaining a lie and replace it with the word of God. Thank you for sharing!
“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all-how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things? Who will bring any charge against those whom God has chosen? It is God who justifies. Who then is the one who condemns? No one. Christ Jesus who died-more than that, who was raised to life-is at the right hand of God and is also interceding for us. Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.” No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Romans 8:31-39 NIV
bible.com/bible/111/rom.8.31-39.NIV
Thank you for sharing scripture with us! And thank you for watching. 🤎
What are thoughts on toys? I’m at the point there’s no more toys not even playroom in the house. Everything moved out to the garage. Soft toys fine, they will make toys or play in their rooms ( please God), haha, and it’s all put away in five minutes. Maybe this will make the difference?? Here’s hoping for peace, and less chaos! I’m trusting God on this one because I’m doing it solely for me and my safety, but my mom guilt on removing toys shocked me. I’m not getting rid of them I just moved them somewhere we can easily visit. I’m hoping I don’t give in and change my mind! We’re all happier even the husband. There’s no way it’s not helping us thrive. The “educational” toys are out, only musical instruments, and some sensory and books.
Personally, I think this is a great idea! Toys can add to the chaos. Open ended toys are the best - blocks, imagination-inspiring toys, sticks, rocks etc. kids will make anything a toy. Kitchen utensils, blankets, etc. no need to add to the clutter with tons of little toys lying around. We have toys put away into bins and put somewhere they don’t have free access to. They can ask for one bin at a time and the previous bin gets cleaned up first. Each bin has minimal toys.
Excellent idea! Toys are the bane of my existence. I just cannot deal with all the clutter and every time the grandparents visit they bring yet another to add to the pile. I just don’t know how I can politely ask them not to waste their money cluttering my house
@@monicageller226 The joy is in the giving - the grandparents got to see the children play with the toy for a bit and experience the joy of giving them the toy, but it is not your responsibility to manage the toy. So I believe you can donate the toy if it doesn't serve your family well. Graciously accept the toy, thank the grandparents, and then donate if you think it will just add to the chaos.
I also make it clear our philosophy on toys (obviously not as an admonishment, but just making conversation) and then if they choose to go outside of that and spend their money on something that we try to avoid, then that's their choice.
Also, you could politely tell them you'd love for them to have these particular toys at THEIR house so the children have things to play with at their house.
I hope this helps!
For my three children that are all close in age, well now they are ages eight and nine and 12, but I was a stay at home mom exclusively, I breast-fed exclusively from the time all of them were out of the hospital. Only my middle child stopped wanting to breast-feed at about 15 months. But I breast-fed my oldest and youngest the other two children, way past three years and I won’t say exactly how long. The point is they’re all done breast-feeding now, but I never had a break. I never pumped one time and at least my youngest child never had one bottle not a single bottle one time in her whole life and I’m not lying or exaggerating or joking about any of it.
But I never had a babysitter come to my home. I had shared walls in my apartment and I had to hope neighbors didn’t call CPS if they heard crying because his neighbors do that, I had to hope they didn’t think I was abusive when they were all crying And it was hard having only one bedroom and then having only two bedrooms and then finally we had three bedrooms. For my husband and I. I got married about six years before any of our children were born. We got married at age 819 and didn’t have our first child until About six years later.
Well, it was June 2006 we got married and then baby was born the first child September 2012. My point is it is difficult I understand. I think I understand anyway because we never even had daycare one time for any of our three children. No babysitter no daycare except for maybe three times I had my parents babysit when I actually could trust them. And I did everything all by myself. I didn’t live with any relatives except for just my husband and I.
I was with them 24 seven until they started preschool. I also tan and breast-fed so I was breast-feeding the oldest two while I was pregnant with the youngest. I never let people help me because I did not trust other people. I still don’t lol. 🤷♂️ I
I mean they all go to elementary school and I don’t homeschool or anything unless we miss church. I will definitely do church with them at home such as read the Bible with them. I am still a stay at home mom besides working on getting my masters degree online and occasional DoorDash deliveries, but I really don’t need to do that. I don’t do that. I depend on God for money and my husband who works full-time. I am sorry and please forgive me if this, if anyone again lol. Seriously. The point is I understand how it feels to have Mom anger and be stressed out. I think anyway I understand about Mom anger.
Thank you for sharing! I’m so glad that you are able to share so openly about your struggles in the early years.
God Bless It, For This Wonderful Video In Christ For Us Mothers! ♥️♥️ God In The Name Of Jesus Has Delivered Me From Anger! Yes! I Was An Angry Mom. It's Hard To Say And Even Let It Be Known As A Christian. Because, From What I Felt Inside It Wasn't A Spirit Of The Lord; It ISN'T! To Be Angry Is NOT A Sin, But The Ways About It And The SUBMISSION To It ( The Flesh) Is. It Took ME Some Time To Stop Blaming My Surrounding And Start Looking At Self. My Friend, I Had EVERY REASON Why I Should Be Angry Or Ways I Had Made To Have Justice For My Contention(s) ; Yes, I Am Raising A TEENAGER And A TODDLER. Day-By-Day I Gotten Into It With Daughter And It Was Like An Expectation Each Day, I Just Knew We Were Going To Get Into It Some Part Of The Day,-Side Note, SHE DID TO- And It Was Breaking Us Apart. 😢😢. Jesus Brought To Me That My Fault Was That I Had 'Exeptations' That Was Breaking My Family Instead Of Building Them 😮. I Planned My Day Of Joy In My Head And When The Plan, Or The IDEA Didn't Work Out, It Was Like I Failed! THEN After The Failure Feeling, I Felt Like I Let Down God, Because, The Plans "I" Had, I Thought Were Strategically Set By God So It Was Like.. Yup, You Disobyed. You Didn't Make Your Family Happy Today By The 'Plans/Idea/'The Way You Thought" It Should Go..( What A LIE, From The Enemy) So It Made Me ANGRY. Frustasted, And Disappointed!
BUT, When I STOPPED Pointing The Finger And CRIED Out To God "WITH" My Daughter About SELF And Asking Him To HELP "ME", Immediately, Anger Was Gone!!!!! Like, Instant. It Was Like God Was Waiting For Me To Be Honest.. About ME. And, With That, He Taught Me To Grow WITH My Daughter And Son And Their Personalities And Not Try To Force Them In My Way Of Being. Yes, The Word Of God Is STILL The Way I Want Them To Live And WILL Live, But It's Done GODS/JESUS' Right Way And Not My Ways I've Created In My Mind. And His Way Is Full! That's In LOVE, Consideration, Compassion, And Security! (Bearing Much Of The Fruit Of The Spirit). God Bless, My Sister In Christ. ♥️♥️ ( This Is A Testimony Of Our Saviour In My Life, And How He CAN/ WILL Deliver. Even When We Feel Like We Shouldn't Be Experiencing These Things As Christians.. Gods In Control.)
Thank you for sharing!
Literally I was telling my baby that I’m also tired 😂 my goodness
Haha I’ve been there! Actually was there last night!
Hi what’s the course again please
the Transformed Homemakers Society course. courses.healthfullyrootedhome.com/courses/transformed-Homemakers-society
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I've taken a break from UA-cam because I used to think I deserved the "break" it was an issue that contributed to my rage so I let it go. I am glad to come back today and have this at the top of my recommendations. I would like to share an incredible resource that was transformative for my thinking; Good and Angry by Scott Turansky. It is a wonderful book, rooted in biblical truths about parenting and emotions. It is packed full of practical easy to apply methods, much like this video. Thank you. I subscribed after the truth of mentioned to obey God. Also, I have a list of go to scriptures for house painfully challenging moments. 1 Corinthians 10:13 is the first one, the rest are; Romans 6: 17, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 2 Corinthians 12:8-10, and of course James 1.
Thank you so much for being here and for that book rec! I'm going to add that to my list. So happy this was at the top of your feed! What a blessing. I'm excited to get to know you more in the comments!
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It's ok to be angry. God says be angry and do not sin. There are times to be angry. Most of the angry, yelling feeling Mom's have towards their children is being disrespected by not having their authority honored. Children's job is to obey their mother and father. A wife's job is to obey her husband and respect him. What I usually see is Moms tolerating disrespectful behavior from their children and in turn disrespecting their husband. Putting your authority structures in order relieves so much stress. Children are priority after husband and after God primarily. If there's any stress bring it to your husband. Defer to your authority, just like your husband should defer to his (he answers to God as the head) and your children defer to their parents.
I agree with this.
God also tells us to have the fruit of the spirit which is love, peace, patience, kindness and gentleness and yelling stems from MY selfish feeling of feeling disrespected meaning my response is NOT biblically justified. A righteous answer does not give us justification to yell at our children.
@@allthingsaremadenew236sure, for clarity, I'm not advocating that Christian mothers yell at their children, rather I'm just talking about the feelings that usually precede yelling and then how to deal with them. The verse in referring to is in Ephesians 4. It also speaks on how to be angry without sinning, by speaking truth with your neighbor and only letting wholesome words for building up proceed from your mouth.
Also, it's right to take control of the things that are yours. Women have authority over their own children. It's not selfish to demand and expect respect from your children. I mean this all for encouragement.
@@TransformedHomemakersSocietythanks! And thanks for speaking on wholesome things ❤❤
I clicked on this to listen to how to deal with anger and got a chicken recipe right off the bat 😅 slightly random and off topic.
Hahaha! It’s how I structure my videos - doing random homemaking things then voiceover of the main topic - but sometimes I’m excited enough about what I’m doing in the shot to go off the topic and tell you about it lol your comment made me laugh though because so true!
I’m sorry if any of my comments sent twice. Cell Phone is being weird maybe.
Not on my end! 🤎