High School Popularity Is A Curse…
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
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This video is kind of a part 2 to my "How To Not Peak In High school" Video where I simply dial in on Highschool Popularity, and how it negatively affects people when they leave High school and even during High School.
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popularity is fleeting. You may delude yourself into thinking you've got 1000 friends but the truth is they're all acquaintances. No one truly knows anyone.
that's actually true... popular people simply have a lot of acquaintances they are on friendly terms with, but they aren't really intimate close friends bc no one can be really intimate with lots of people.
Yeah I mean realistically you have like 10 friends at the very most that you’re on close terms with. Probably less.
@@lenoxpIeven 10 is a lot! Esp now of days
Dude i have like 5 close friends who I would share my deepest secrets with and its so much better than having like 50 people who like me somewhat
As someone online said “a friend to all is a friend to none”. You can’t really be friends, the deep emotionally intimate kind, with everyone
The people that are treated like shit their whole school years, either become criminals, or become innovators
Or we were criminals earlier on in our teen years now we're trying to go straight. We used to sell Addy's and shit to the popular kids. Now they're bums, single parents, and working and Dunkin. Just keep doing you.
I disagree all the popular kids are doing great in life, all the nerds do well but don't get selected in workplaces because they are seen as undesirable for being ugly.
@@thesaddestdude3575maybe don’t get selected for dates but unless you’re working in retail looks don’t matter at all in the workplace, the only thing that matters is skills. If you’re good at your job your looks don’t matter
@@thesaddestdude3575man what? this might be what you think but this isn’t true at all,
I’ve had some very not good looking people in a much higher position than me and other friends. tell me that when u’ve worked a job fr and your opinion will change.
@@goyim14eightso true fwiw..
As someone who peaked in kindergarten I can confirm this post valid
Edit: Someone's crusty ass peaked in the damn womb go search that com💀💀
as someone who peaked in preschool i can relate
as someone who peaked in elementary school i can relate
Same
As someone who peaked I'm nursery school I can relate😔
as someone who peaked in the womb i can relate 😔😔😔
I wish I could erase everyone's memory of me in High school tbh
Me too brother me too
me too, i’ve done stupid shit and that contributed to my horrible experience
Idk where you are in life right now but trust me, they don’t remember it or you. And even if they do, chances are they don’t even care anymore
@runningoutofnames6956 very true and very valuable words of wisdom 👏
@@runningoutofnames3CS ur right, everyone is worthless, there's no difference between the bully and the nerd, we're all animals 😭😭😭
Where I went, during highschool, I feel like nobody cared about "high school popularity" which I'm grateful for. You could literally socialize with anyone without fear of getting bullied or whatever. In fact there was no such thing as a "popular Jock who bullies a bunch of nerdy kids". If there was, pretty much everyone in the school would outcast this person.
That's the same as my school. At my school theres athlete of the week, but theres nobody in the school that ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE in the school knows of. Although there are a handful of show offs, everyone sticks to their own friend group. Also no bullying, so any fighting that goes on has something to do with personal issues going on with the 2 people.
@2easy4gaming12 that's actually really great. Though, at my school, the football players are pretty well known mostly because it's an American high school, but the majority "popular" football players are really laid back, chill and overall humble and good people. They act more like the older siblings you'll wish you had.
Also, you don't have to read this last paragraph. It's a story as evidence that people will literally outcast bullies in real life. But there was this one football player named "Landon", and no one really liked whatsoever, even if he was in a pretty good position (wide receiver, I'm pretty sure). A lot of people I talked to pretty much made fun of him, including his other teammates due to his controversial history, I cant really remember what happened back in middle school with him but it was nothing good I gauruntee. This, Landon, was a prick to pretty much everyone in the school, and everyone would just shut him down if he even thought about bullying someone. But then one day he decided to threaten one of the football players with a pocket knife. It was made worse because there was talk of Landon being a racist, and he threatened a black football player. That was a BIG mistake. When everyone got word of this all the students either bullied Landon, shut him out of his life or worse. The guy probably lost every single friend, if he had any, and got kicked off the football time. Now that's what I call getting humbled 🤣. I don't know what Landon is doing now, but I don't really care enough about him to look into it. He's probably making thirst traps on tik tok or something.
Same,it was mainly just people who were either notorious,controversial,or happened to be into sports which didn’t even guarantee you that status either
@Dragoncam13 It's also because people straight up don't like ass holes.
same here
It’s hard to find a social group to stick around after something ends. College/HS friends split. Often times you won’t talk to the people you used to once you leave a job/sports team.
And now, once you’ve left that social group, those people you hung out with everyday, you’d be lucky if they even checked in on you once a year.
It makes those check-ins really special. That “yo man how you been, i just was thinking about that time when we had blahblahblah” text hits different
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Maybe it's just the way I see it, but if someone stops talking to you after you leave a job or sports or whatever then they were never your friend. They were just someone you knew that you got along with.
a friend of mine was bullied so much in high school that he tried to kill himself. I think the negative effects of that are a bit more severe than being popular
I hope your friend is in a better place man
I don’t really care about “high school popularity.” I only care about my friends/friend group!
I only fuk with half of my friends the rest of them are just childish
good for you buddy
no one asked 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@rezza8311Sounds like an insecure loner
@@nmikey4082 ikr
I can confirm the most popular kid in my grade ended up being the most hated after hs. He got kicked out of college, got an assault charge, and crashes parties when not invited. Dude lives a genuinely sad life now
Wow
*real.*
This makes me happy
@@hazmat6080what makes you happy knowing that someone was kicked out of college and then assaulted a person?
@@revwh6791I think they mean that it’s “karma”, but I still wouldn’t wish this on anyone
so glad I only cared about learning and having a good time in high school. I had a solid circle of friends and good grades - that's all that mattered.
One time a popular girl had befriended and confided in me. She asked if I ever felt fake, I said no. She said she was into anime and was afraid of being teased for it, but saw me with anime merch or cosplay to school on Halloween and wanted to know "how I was so confident" doing so. I told her that after being bullied a lot in middle school, I stopped caring what people thought and did what I wanted to do. I hope helped her.
Tessa I hope you're ok girl
....did you graduate tho?
@@ZAND4TSU someone who actually focused on school, and you're questioning if they graduated?
@@dram3711 just a question man jeez, you never know you know?
@@dram3711I have to unlike her comment because I remember she make racist post somewhere in channels
Cool
Popular kids are kinda made for the real world since you need good social skills to have high positions in life. Introverted people may not have the connections to success. Of course it’s all depends on the person.
Same thing i was saying , most of the popular kids in my school went on to get good jobs and well to do future because their parents where already engineers , technicians , working at banks etc .By the time they graduated they were already prepped on what real world holds for them.
@manovrsb That's just your school, your experience doesn't speak for everyone.
@@colindowden2182 Assuming they went to an American high school then their experience on it will be pretty universal. The majority of the popular kids from my high school are successful.
@@Pe1ayo No it won't, just because they went to an American high school means that the majority of popular kids would be successful in real life in said America.
@@colindowden2182 You clearly were not popular in high school and it shows. People who are more popular have better social skills, are generally more attractive, and know how to make people do what they want. Those are all great things for both personal life and business. Also, the public high school experience is pretty similar in most of the US so most things will apply everywhere.
We tend to lose friends as we get older. Most of us are not friends with the people we knew during high school. We grow up, become working adults, and find new social circles.
Help
I knew that my high school reputation of being that quite non popular girl meant nothing when I left for a summer educational program. During my stay in that program, I was very popular and I formed so many connections. I figured out I wasn’t the problem, I just needed a better environment to let myself shine to others.
I feel that! This happened with me at college
i will go to work and travel a couple years later,hope it works for me too!
I experienced these in middle school and high school I noticed a lot of the time, people just want to impress each other. Lots of drama and gossip goes all around the school because someone did something. Sticking to a friend group or a few trusted people was what mattered the most and tbh they were the reasons why I had a good school year.
I have done something like that in 6th and 7th grade and the first semester of 8th grade. I was a class clown and I realize that I don’t have genuine friends as being a class clown. It made me feel lonely.
I think I made my first real friend in the summer after my 7th grade.
As someone who was practically a reject in high school, it does get better if you allow yourself. Try to learn from your past mistakes and behaviors and make peace with yourself. I’m currently in my early twenties and I’ve never been happier. You’ll know when you find your people, and it doesn’t have to be limited to your hometown. There’s a whole world of people out there like you
Hey
Some kids that wasn’t cool in high school wind up becoming popular later when they have more going on with their life’s and start chasing their dreams
I feel like I got an advantage in this regard because I went fully online during freshman year of HS. Used to screw around 24/7 in middle school because I was obsessed with what other people thought about me, especially because I was fat and obviously got bullied for it. Then Covid hit and I pretty much became a hermit for 4 years. I actually started studying after gaming and watching tv got boring and I stopped caring about social crap. It helps that I started to work out but my confidence is now through the roof. I genuinely don’t understand why some people are so obsessed with looking cool or being popular so I just do whatever tf I want and it tends to work. That freedom can be a huge de-stressor when I see all of my friends worried about not looking cool or associating with “uncool” people and I just do it now not giving a damn.
It’s really freeing when you stop caring what people think about you or what they say especially when their opinions have nothing to really merit the weight other people give them. Like why tf do I care what a dude on the football team says about another dude and why do I care about what the part time twitch streamer says? Just be you cuz none of this is gonna matter in a year or two.
You seem more mature than me as an 11 year old
Tirue
Well said
Confidence is a key aspect of life that many think is so hard to get when the real struggle is just you needing to realize that the choice is always in your hands
Once you realize that, it’s a breeze to get rid of bad influences you may have felt stuck with, start setting boundaries to build healthier relationships and just have fun being you everywhere you go
I struggled with this for most of my life until recently and as you said it’s very freeing and helps you appreciate how beautiful life can be
I always thought being boring or kinda "Lame" in highschool was being on top of your grades, handling your shit so you can free time for anything
Being on top of your grades is not lame at all in fact that my school people respect you if you’re at the top
I was best friends with the most popular dude at my high school. We were inseparable so by association, I became a popular dude myself. I don’t even know most of the people who nod at me and say hello at hallways but they knew my name. There were girls who admit to me when we were about to graduate that they’ve been crushing on me the entire time… and then high school ended and I enlisted in the army… damn. Flipped my world upside down. When I got off the bus at basic training and got sworn at by the drill sergeant the very first time, I knew I was in a bad place I wasn’t prepared for. I got exposed. It was a rude wake up call.
Damn
Plans after high school:
🔹Plan A trillion-dollar grindset.
🔹Plan B ctrl+Alt+Delete.
Crippling mental illness as well
You don't mean that do you? x
You dont mesn that do you? 😕
@@edenalexandriab9120 Trillion-dollar grindset. I MEAN MEAN IT
@@alendikxbx
Ctrl+Alt+Delete is not a good plan
This eliminates all the chances that your life will peak after high school (which I really think it will)
Ya it sucks after high school being a regular person after being praised so hard and being popular or just becoming a loser but my uncle always told me “I’d rather be a has been than a never was.”
Or just grow up lol
Sounds like that praise needs to come from the self and not reliance on temporary classmates
Like I said 50/50 you can go from never was to I'm him.
@@gameoverjit5565yup
Pure copium LMAO
Probably because high school isn't real life?
Tf is it then, a simulation?
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I always try to lay low and not get attention from people. I want to be that person people didn’t even know existed since I know high school is temporary. I have my friend group; the chances of us not splitting after high school is lower than the mean
Yeah me too most people in my class think im mentally challenged just because I have adhd anyway
So I just hangout with those how treat me decently anyway
I started keeping my interactions with them to a minimum 4 months ago and I actually started to feel better about myself
@@jma0645same ngl
same with me
The popular girl from my school struggles to find a partner, her relationships only last up to 8 months. She also lost so many "friends" in the process.
She often is crying in social media about wishing to find love but only attracts ppl that are not good for her. She is struggling with anxiety and probably alcohol abuse.
I was the shy girl in hs, but guess what? After therapy and treating my ADHD and Social Anxiety I was able to improve my appearance and confidence. I am about to graduate from UC Berkeley and turning 8 years of knowing my lovely boyfriend.
Wish the best for her.
How do u diagnos adhd
@@IIIISai A licensed mental health doctor
Did you get fat in college?
Popular kids are the mosquitos of highschools
someone’s mad
I think someones jelly
@@SingleCent Truth hurts.
@@Dovawhat how is it true 😂
Yeah the popular girls suck me dry 😼
I was popular in high school. I played basketball and golf and I won prom king my senior year but with all that said, I don’t view myself as someone who peaked in high school. My best years are ahead of me. I still play basketball at the YMCA with my friends from time to time to stay in shape.
What did you do after high school?
@@Davidpostingshid I was in college, worked in the restaurant business then, and then I moved onto manufacturing.
@@jameshawkins6619so u peaked 😂
@@IAm20StillInHighSchool no I did not. I’m moving up in my company.
@@jameshawkins6619 good for you then
My high school experience was good because it was the one place where I could truly be myself. I was raised in a Cult (JWs) so there were always expectations of me that were way too restrictive and fucking stupid. When I was at school, I could be my authentic (unmedicated Bipolar 1) self so I was popular. But, I always knew that there was much more to life than high school and I spent time looking into all kinds of options on what to do next and I knew that as soon as I got my diploma, the friend groups I had would scatter to the 4 winds, which is what is supposed to happen. After graduating in 2011, I only kept in regular contact with my best friend since 8th grade and once he stopped taking his meds for paranoid schizophrenia, I had to cut contact for the sake of my own mental health. Now that I'm out The Cult and medicated, I'm basically just acting like I did in high school but with no guilt and adult freedom.
I ain't reading allat
@@flawless_Cowboynobody asked you.
congrats on getting out and living ur authentic self!! it must be so freeing.
@@teehee5700 I do not care
@@flawless_Cowboy just say ur illiterate pal aint that hard
Think about it like this, in high school, you’re surrounded by kids. If you’re cool to kids, you’re probably not doing life right, kids only care about dumb shit.
Not 100% dumb shit, but they definitely don't have their priorities set up, since their brains are still mid-developed
Thats a stupid way of thinking
@@rbc923i agree,also,its not like all children are dumb
Sounds like cope
@@Nykandros yeah bro I’m the one coping making 6 figures at 22, maybe some
People have something to teach you
The crazy thing is, after you max out as the most popular highschool senior at your school all you can do is sink like a large stone in a deep pond.
I peaked in kindergarten and everything went downhill after that. Though being treated as a loser thru out elementary and high school did suck a lot it at least gave me the mental and emotional fortitude to survive and adapt to adult life's "survival of the fittest" social structure.
Bro
When i was in high school, i never felt like i fit in. Then i just made it my goal to never try, and to just embrace who i was, and ultimately, i had a lot of people who liked me and made a lot of friends that ill have for life. I still had people who didnt like me, but thats always going to be a given. You can only please some of the people, some of the time, but never all the people all the time. Just be true to yourself, cuz thats what really matters, because how can you be true to tothers if youre not to yourself?
I never cared about popularity. I just wanted people to stop treating me like crap.
Honestly. Same.
same sadly, my time in high school is done next year
Yeah, I didn't take shit from anybody back when I was still in. I didn't mind yelling at the popular kids for thinking they could get me to bow down to them. One of them earned my respect because instead of being a douche, he told the others to back off of me
this is some of the most emotionally intelligent, unbiased content ive ever seen good work
My own experience in high school is that popularity wasn't really a thing. Probably because I didin't talk to most people and was never interested in them. But it usually was like you have ur freind group and that's that.
A reason why you shouldn’t peak just don’t do it bro
Imagine peaking in middle school
I peaked in elementary 🥲
@@electroshock6383 same
OOOOF
Couldn’t be me haha…
I never peaked anywhere but I think I peaked in my adulthood triathlon club and now I’m no longer in that group since I’m injured and got bored of it and lost all contacts with people from my group
South Park had a great episode about this with a great message.
What was it?
@@FreedomRadio126 The episode is called The List.
Personally I dont think that being popular in highschool doest necessarily mean you're gonna be a failure in life. It's mostly have to do with how these people will handle the distractions in high school e.g: girls,parties, dances etc. Cause i know alot of people who were popular in high school but knew not to let the distractions get to them, and so they were the people who also ended up doing good after high school. So from retrospective I think it depends on how the popular kids handle "being popular" that will determine whether they're flops rather than just being a popular kid in general.
Most can’t handle much of anything if they’re gossiping and crying about the littlest things
Schools been driving me crazy this vid really helped thanks man 😂
I was a whole background character😂
Me too.
Its better that way than to have a peak in Highschool.
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Prob still are realistically. However In your mind you’ve prob told yourself you’ve changed. That’s good, as if you see yourself one way no one can tell you otherwise!
Wow everyone in this thread has a dark profile picture but me, I guess i'm standing out here.
I just tell everyone I have no friends and drown out all the fakes that try and be in my life. I don't really need any of the people in my school because they have almost nothing going for them.
bro is just the chillest guy ever
I remember my high school days where everyone wanted to fit in or be the next popular person before graduating. I found it annoying and sad when people tried to force that on new freshmen. I struggled to make any friends because many of my classmates had high expectations or had their own group which they were picky in bringing in new people.
I’m just glad I had everyone’s respect even tho I didn’t particularly talk to them a lot, I just wanted to focus on being a good person
One thing I always hated growing up being the quiet kid is that popular kids would either talk to me out of pity, or they’d try and befriend me “just in case.” It’s so backhanded
real a lot of the times people think quiet people are just depressed and suicidal when at times that’s not the case at all. A lot of us are happy in life, and they know how to socialize when given, but they just prefer just to not say much and do things (like there hobbies and interests) alone. Some people are just more quiet and introverted than others.
I never peaked at any grade in school, I just continued to move forward and have my times to shine.
As someone who graduated high school two years ago, personally, I didn't care about being popular or any of that BS, I just wanted to get the day over with. I was that one kid who liked going to the library simply because I liked getting distracted by the various novels or mangas I've encountered and read.
Let's be honest being popular in high school is like saying you want to seal a legacy in that era but in reality is fueling the ego of an individual but for me I wasn't popular during my time in high school I was considered a loner in a grey scale but I do have some friends who I get along most of the time while the "popular" kids in high school viewed us as losers fast forward 4 years later(I graduated during COVID during my senior year in HS) I saw one of the popular kids become a degenerate who's a crack head when he came up to me for money guess what I told him this "I guess being popular in HS paid off your parents must've been disappointed in your reputation due to your degeneracy" I told that individual the truth and to leave me alone guess what he made a scene now I could go on and on but if a kid is popular in HS guess what that's a sign that in the mere future that person will destroy his or her life within days"
Don't shit on my glorious effort that day man, speaking english in front of entire school that day cost 3 months of grinding to me...
Because they never know the meaning of failure everything handed to them in a sliver platter.
Ive only ever met 1 popular girl who was low key really chill. She just has an amazing down to earth personality and everyone always wanted to be her friend bc she was always nice to everyone. Not even in a desperate people pleaser kind of way, she just treated everyone with respect, no matter if you where popular or a loner, she would stop and help you if you needed it. She never really gave a fuck what people thought about her and did her own thing. I really hope shes doing well now. Ill always hold her in high regard not bc people thought she was cool but bc she was genuinely an amazing person to be around.
Karleigh if you out there, we might not have been close but you always left a good impression on me. You were one of the few people that made highschool slightly less shitty
Here’s my two cents on the matter: Everything in high school seems like your whole world or at least a major part of it when you are in the thick of it, but once you leave and step into the real world, you realize that your high school experience is merely a drop of water in an ocean of vastness if that
I think that’s a big reason why many peoples’ lives change a lot after high school including myself because you get a better perspective to see if your high school friends are actually good now that you have more opportunities at your disposal instead of being stuck with them
I remember thinking that I wanted to be in the spotlight more during high school but I’m glad I wasn’t since it gave me the space to develop myself and actually reach a high point in my life now where I get to be more well known as a result of who I am and the goals I set for myself instead of trying to force myself onto others for the sake of attention seeking, you can’t expect others to help and care about you if you don’t keep doing that for yourself first
I think that a lot of it has to do with where you went to high school. At an affluent/upper class school where most graduates go on to college, most of the popular kids probably come from affluent/well off families, do well in school and end up going to college, graduating, getting connections, and getting good paying jobs. At a more working class or lower income school where most graduates do not go to college, the popular kids are more likely to not have success after high school.
To that I would also add that popular kids with affluent parents from my country are often lazy and not ambitious.
The asshole ones still try to relive with all their might their high school environment. They are insecure about their academic skills and they have no drive because they were spoiled the entire time, as a result they feel they can't measure up to their parents' careers and are anxious about their “social prestige” fading because the next step to maintain it during adulthood is having a respectable career (and wealth).
The nice ones have more passions outside of partying and buying clothes, they are excellent communicators, but oftentimes are not disciplined, they graduate later and do not aim higher because they would rather hang out with their friends the moment they get asked out. They don't have a “growth mindset” so to speak and they would rather stay in their comfort zone. They also tend to hang out with their middle school circle, they're not very interested in expanding their social circle at uni.
Then there are the ones who are able to go through the same path their parents did, usually in Law though. I don't know about this category in depth but one of them told me his relatives asked him to pursue Law because all his cousins were doing whatever the hell they wanted, so he did. He seems to like it but I don't know him well to know what his actual thoughts are
Another one felt the pressure to study Medicine because all her cousins also didn't have “nice” careers, just normal jobs, but she hated Medicine and didn't pass the entrance exams. Right now I only know she works as a secretary at her father's studio.
Another one is in economics but hasn't given any exams. She wanted to be a beautician but was forced by her parents to go to university. She's very nice but she just wants to have fun with her friends all the time and relies too much on her beauty to get ahead, with no discipline or planning for the future.
Two guys who were materialistic and obsessed with money and chicks went to study Finance but then dipped. One of them is a mechanic now.
So it's weird to me when I see Americans say all the popular kids are super successful now because they have self-esteem, social skills etc. One of the problems they often have to face is the fact that they aren't ambitious and can't measure up to their ambitious and successful parents, and some of them feel a sense of responsibility to inherit their parents' careers despite wanting to do something else. Their popularity was sustained by their parents' wealth, but they don't have the drive to manage and keep producing that wealth. That compromises their social standing and they often end up panicking because of it and relying on beauty, one-night-stands and nightclub life to feel a sense of importance, but that only exacerbates their insecurities even more.
The popular kids who are ambitious do end up being successful, but they're a minority in my area. Most of them only fear the future and think about the “now” and aren't planning any life projects.
Very beautiful message at the end
I never really understood why popular kids were considered “popular” because from my experience everyone who wasn’t in their friend group hated them 😭
I was a nerd. Anime enjoyer. A lot of people react to my voice overs and quirkiness like it’s sin. It must suck being stuck in highschool still. Like forever what was important to stay cool In highschool still matters in adult life.
Did you speak japanese
I havent been in highschool in 11 years but i will say my highschool life was ass because 2 years it was hard making friends. Dont get me wrong, theres people that do talk to me as I'm a random NPC in a video game. I was into video and anime. Yes there was an anime and video game group of people but my confidence level was low, I was shy, I was suffering from depression and had social anxiety, then I was super shy and super quiet. Since I didnt had anyone to talk to after school I pretended that I had someone to talk to so I ended go to a quiet area during lunch time and talk to myself. Then we have some teachers telling me why dont I have friends or why i ain't participating in any school activities with my peers. I told them people are mean. Then she'll give me lunch detention whenever I dont talk to people too. I was a quiet and super shy kid. My relationship status including today is non existent. I was on the verge of taking my own life until my parents bought me a ps3 and I made friends after friends after friends that I've met online. If I didnt meet them, I wouldn't been here today. Senior got better for me however, it didn't stop me from being super shy, super quiet and having trust issues with people I dont know. Literally, life after highschool was the best years of my life! I have a kick ass car, have a good steady job, saving for a house. The only issue I currently have is my relationship status. That's it.
Listen, what you are in highschool doesn’t matter, sure it helps to build connections and have friends but popular people will peak in high school and then be forgotten once they graduate and if not their life falls apart. Just take care of you mans
High school was a blur to me.
idk why people always say this when i know a lot of nerds who were unpopular for a reason. It wasn’t even like a not cool thing, we had STEM at my school along with a whole arts division so all the nerds and arts kids that would normally be really talented and smart and just outed for being different are weird get there own space in a way. I mean a lot of kids still got joked about but they GENUINELY were being OD and weird it had nothing to do with being lame
See that’s the thing about your mentality being od or weird isn’t a good reason to bully someone. Just let them be it doesn’t have to impact you personally but some people wanna act righteous and go on a whole cancel culture spree when it’s unnecessary. Let people live their lives and stop judging.
@@user-og8gf8xw5h dude accept the concept that some people are weird and awkward it has nothing to do with judgement, tho I get your message. But man my school had disgusting kids
@@IIIISai yeah but being weird or awkward can be unique and isn’t their fault entirely. It’s how they are as people. Some people are just social dominant and wanna fit in (extroverted) and some don’t (introverted) and I notice a lot of the times extroverts put introverts down for not wanting to fit in the social norms which is so stupid and immature. But yeah unless someone is downright doing something illegal or messed up they deserved to be shunned out but because they’re nerdy or awkward is just dumb.
This is still stupid being weird or OD is not a prerequisite for bullying
@@user-og8gf8xw5h oh I agree 1000 percent
I went to a small high school and most of the popular kids were kind, down to earth outgoing people (all the theater kids). Then there were the mean popular kids and they gained a ton of weight, work shitty jobs and are begging people to join their pyramid scheme 😂. Just comes down to how kind you are to people
In highschool I was considered a loser, then I got to college and people think I’m pretty cool. People in highschool also thought I was ugly but now I have people (girls and guys) tell me I’m pretty good looking. So idk what’s going on with peoples brains in highschool but 🤷♀️
Are you a girl or guy. Also you got a decent friend group in highschool?
@@gamegamer9523 I did have a small friend group. We still talk actually, despite being in different states. I’m grateful for that.
@@virtualreese Good for you. I graduated in the same year as you. And I really got to put myself out there to make friends. But it worked better than I expected.
People become decent and not complete assholes once they leave their teens and mature. So (respect to you of course), people probably think you're ugly still, but actually have the decency to respect you.
Being a popular person myself I know when I grab that high school diploma I a nobody.So luckily I had the idea to study and work hard,but most importantly know what it is like to struggle.
With that grammar, yeah, that checks out.
As a senior in high school, don’t worry about being popular. Anyone doing really well socially in high school will probably end up flipping burgers in the future. Some of those kids who are bullied, called, weird and ugly and fat or whatever are you gonna be the people who are changing this world. High school is not real life. You only stay there for a few years and then you leave and only thing you left with from high school is your diploma your and whoever was close with you be friends with you past high school. High school should be focused on getting good grades of course stay out of trouble close friendships remembering that quality is way more important than quantity and of course, having fun because you won’t be this young forever, but not too much fun to the point where you’re addicted to like five drugs by the time you’re 17 or something. I’m a bad kid. I’m in nowhere popular anyway, but I’m well achieved. I had good grades throughout most of high school. I never got drugs and I cared about my attendance. I might have never been popular never really been invited anywhere except maybe twice never really been the relationship or anything, but at least I was well achieved academically and have hope for outside high school. At our school drugs and all that is not really seed as cool and people actually respect you if you’re academically achieved and I’m not even sure if there’s popular kids because there’s some kids who are popular on Instagram have the whole school wearing their clothes and all that.
0:54 VICTEM is crazy
Tbh being popular was overrated in school yeah i was a jock but I was only interested in sports ( boxing ) & my grades their was nothing better for after school besides looking after my sister with a disability
I disregarded the social hierarchy, i didn't kiss the ass of the popular kids, I treated them exactly how they treated me
Never really thought about popularity as something that people believe in because a group decided it was not even a majority.
Nah the bad thing about popularity is that one slip up. My middle school is so weird bruh I be hearing how ppl are sending d pics or are getting railed by the most popular kid in school. It's crazy.
Im in my last year of high school. Glad to be getting out of this hellhole.
It’s crazy all the popular kids look fried with kids now 😂😂
I must've been the smartest teenager back in my day bc I never cared at all for the popular girls and always found myself crushing on girls I used to previously have crushes on in elementary school. Followed through pretty well with most of them 👍🏼
I was never really popular in high school but for a brief moment I was considered popular I guess? I was an academic student and participated in many extracurricular activities which made me so well known. I was also the many few openly gay people in my grade and a lot of guys either hated me because of that or secretly were attracted me cause they were closeted or something. Girls were just as vicious too, they treated me just like a girl simply because I was gay. The bitchiness, backhandedness, and mean girl tactics they used on each other would apply to me as well for some reason. And some of the hate I got was for no reason, they hated me because I existed and because I was always seen as an outcast so for them to see me getting as popular as them fueled them with hate and jealousy towards me. I’m not really a feminine gay guy so girls would justify hating me because they thought I wasn’t being myself or was misogynistic for not meeting their stereotypical beliefs of how gay men should act .💀 High school it’s petty and filled with drama because people are bored but they don’t understand how their “entertainment” can ruin peoples lives, I was suicidal and depressed because of the bullying I faced, their goal was to cancel me and destroy my reputation for fun like my life was some kind of game or show. Like I wasn’t a human being or had feelings. Unfortunately I listened to their hate and did poorly at school, I didn’t get to go the the universities I applied to because of poor performance which because of my mental health. Also my parents were getting divorced at the time and I remember them mocking my grief toward the situation because “at least they didn’t divorce when when you were really little! You’re 17 you shouldn’t even care!” It’s so easy to mock other people when you’re jot the person who’s struggling in life. Now that I’m 20 I’m trying to heal and practice self love but the scars caused by bullying cut deep. Remember people always be nice to others you never know what they’re going through even if they seem weird or out of place from the societal norm standards.
People asked you who you liked in primary school and expect you to chose from the four most popular boy if you wanted to stop pestering you just drop one of their names. If you say any other guys name that will follow you until high school literally. And then in high school idk if it was just me but only the unattainable guys were considered to be boys (and that was the same 4 dudes from primary💀) the rest of the guys randoms. Ranked between, the ones who were your friends, class clowns, nerds, and the ones who you wanted nothing to do with.
One of the things that ruined me is that those who were "popular" were just pretty people with my characteristics. Like if I was "arrogant", they were "confident", when I balled hard, it was a fluke, but when they swish people scream in ecstacy. Fortunately those same people got lightheaded and emotional dissecting a frog, meanwhile I'm walking through STEM as we speak. It is what it is I guess, but among other reason I'm not letting my kids go to school those MFs can memorize everything I teach them or go learn welding I aint gonna traumatize my kids. 😭 GL to all you strugglers keep your Day 1s close.
I was never popular only well-known till now. I remember being the "new kid" in 5th grade I wasn't treated well by the popular people, and I was made fun of for some medical issues but as I grew older, I learned that some kids are just plain evil or have some sort of issues then express it on other people. Now that I'm in high school I was much better treated than in middle school. I wasn't called ugly, my medical issue got better, and I'm known as very chill, laid back, nice, and smart. As u grow older everything changes, and perspective/ideas thrown at others will change a huge amount or the slightest bit. The people that were treated like shit just end up doing good in school and actually focus on their academic process and excel well, then others don't get to graduate in time due to their foolishness. Not all popular kids are as horrible as back then, some popular kids just become the "average person they want to be", while others just want to fit in the "I'm all that" 💀 type of thing which I find rather annoying tbh. I have to give it to them though having popular kids around me also taught me that if I want to have the career I want to have, I have to toughen up a bit especially since I was pretty shy 😂.
99% of the most popular kids end up so average to below average in life. Menwhile the regular kids end up becoming respected with good education and decent life.
Tip to the young generation: Always plan your life for about 10 years in the future. So if you 20, have an idea of how you wanna see yourself in 10 year, not currentl because thats where younger adults make a mistake. So when you get to that age you are not worried about time invested.
I never had beef with anyone in HS. I was an average student that did somewhat decent in classes with a mixed friend group. Only time I would cringe when people talked about how good HS was is when they thought it was real life at the time and thought their “popularity” would follow them out of school (in my case anyways) or tried to live out their party selves they did. I know a couple dudes my age and older (25) that still go to my HS football games and I stopped talking to an ex comrade who was grooming a 16 year old when he was 23 🤢 (police were anonymously by me were called)
To anyone that’s still in high school or about to start, here’s something I wish I have done differently: Study better, take any types of help from teachers/peers. TURN IN YOUR DAMN HOMEWORK 😂 GPA matters, especially if your thinking about college after HS. Appreciate your teachers! They sacrifice their time and day to help you guys out and have a bright future! They are underpaid and have to deal with the shitheads that will act like thugs or complain why their phones are taken away while they teaching. Normalize clowning on those petty dudes/gals who act a fool to a teacher. And stand up for others 🖤
I think part of it is as you said you are forced to be with these people, hence the chains holding all these connections together are made of paper.
That’s why the popular kids suffer just as much as the regulars and outcasts, because their entire social life is built on this ephemeral model, and of course when it dissolves out from under them it’s a long fall down. I was somewhere between normal and outcast but if I’m honest I’m glad I learned the truth that position convays which is that people are aweful
For me highschool was bittersweet...if i can even call it that. School was a minefield and to be honest i wish i was homeschooled. I never understood why the people who are so called "popular" even deserved that title?. They were literally just kids who didn't gaf about learning or life in general, they'd just disrupt the class, argue with teachers and come to school late and we held them to high esteem!?!. It really says a lot about society because in a way highschool mimics society, politicians lie and commit crimes yet they are still admired by people. Highschool is the worst
Same shit with rap culture,society crumbles when we worship trash degenerates
Gang w ass video bro you stay speaking facts one of the reasons I stay watching you spreading some real shi that some ppl may be oblivious to keep up the quality content fam❤
I went to an all-boys boarding school that's a bit centered towards academic prowess, but I never noticed one single person that was popular/famous. If anything we have a dude that was infamous for being a thief in my year and we had a collective hate towards him lol. But it was nice that everyone knew each other, and at the same time everyone was known for being good at something. It made a very peaceful time in high school, tbh i dearly miss it.
Biggest example that highschool was just a bunch of kids following some other kids lead is the popularity of anime.
Idc what anybody says, anime was not popular. Anime was lame af. Only weebs, nerds, geeks, and maybe skater kids knew about it.
Now it is mainstream af.
I remember when the anime and manga section of a store was a single combined shelf, now McDonald's has entire ad campaigns based on anime.
Idc what nobody says, before 2016, no one liked anime.
Hell yeah, man I agree
Anime was most definitely popular before 2016 bruh, you must be super young.
@@candicoated2001 nah, I'm just old enough to remember that nobody fucked with it like today
Same with shit like star wars & dnd, dnd was like the epitome of nerdiness and now everyones into it
I got into anime at 2017 real deep
9:40 so inspirational
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I wasn't popular in HS but became so in College. I was in a leadership spot on my fraternity and sat on hellenic council etc. Accumulated a lot of attention via those that totally evaporated once I graduated and left the university ecosystem.
So... what about friends , who do u call
@@IIIISai Have a couple frat bros I occasionally talk to still, but most of my genuine friends now are guys from my church.
@@marcandre8832 solid
after graduating i realize popular kids were nothing but a bunch of bullies who pick on people just cause they think that they get more money from their parents and stuff but at the end of the day it just shows that rather be a nerd then a person with a toxic mindset other words awhile high school may be the best times of your life it really shows the true colors of these types of people just remember everyone is different respect that never let ur bad school years and others treatment of u stop u from being on the right path i believe in u 💖💖💖💖💖
9:10 bro tf this frituger aero ahh segment lol
So glad my school experience was very friendly. Only years later realised how friendly we all were compared to other classes
I agree with this video 100%. I believe that this logic applies to college students as well. I grew up with special needs for my mental challenges and had a terrible time socially in High School... when I went off to university I was way too obsessed with being one of the guys that were partying and sleeping around because I was convinced that's what I had to do to "redeem myself" after being so "pathetic" in High School. Ngl, pursuing that got me into really sticky situations my freshman and sophomore year, and I've been way happier with my life within the past two years of being a college graduate than in school. Popularity in High School doesn't mean shit after you graduate High School, nor does popularity in college matter after college. Just stop worrying and have a good day.
Being 10 years removed from high school myself, here's my general advice: Don't annihilate yourself with stress. If just going to school is high-stress, bring that up with your counselor, teachers, parents if you can, peers, anybody, until that gets fixed. Stress contributes to burnout and if you get burnt out on school and learning in high school it's going to carry over to college and speaking from experience, you're going to fuck yourself over.
Tbh i used to be a popular kid and it was draining as hell tbh i am much more chiller now with my smaller circle and more time to myself
same and I also thought it was draining
An unfair advantage in society should absolutely mean you deserve to be sabotaged. I feel no remorse for the times I've done it myself to "popular" people. The socially fortunate don't deserve human rights.
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if you’re relatively intelligent and emotionally somewhat stable/slightly mature you’ll notice that people around you generally won’t agree with your opinions.
being edgy and mean is far more “entertaining” to many kids than being empathetic and grounded. there was this guy in my class who kept saying/doing very problematic things because he found it funny how it triggered people/made him feel smart and real edgy by saying these things.
i’m talking being aggressively misogynistic, pretending to be a nazi, etc. edgy teen behaviour you know.
whenever i talked about sensitivity with my peers, or called him out for saying something that’s WAY over the line (like when in the middle of a literature lesson he goes [IN FRONT OF OUR FEMALE TEACHER]: “well i think it’s the woman’s fault if she gets raped”) i’d get called a “radical feminazi”.
no, no i’m not. i just think the world doesn’t revolve around any one person and i don’t care that you and your friendgroup “joke about this all the time”. it’s not okay to say such bullshit in a school environment like this, you don’t know what people around you went through and it’s dangerous to frame these comments as “harmless comedy”. most women face some kind of harassment in my country. i’m not the “radical” one, i’m the grounded person who feels we should THINK about what and where we’re saying things.
entertaining your edgy friendgroup isn’t a good enough reason to do something so harmful and distracting (this happened during a LESSON).
I agree completely even if we are opposites, I would fit the desensitized group of people, a r*pe joke doesnt trigger me, although the kid in your class is outta pocket lmao, i have standards for humor so i just care if its funny not morals, but I respect your opinion and also hate when people as a hive mind gaslight the victim, all my life
legit as a non-popular high-school girl trying to stand up against a dude like this (especially when it’s directed towards you) people just think that I’m suddenly the wicked witch of the west while everyone praises and laughs with the guy. It’s really sad, but I’m grateful enough to know my self worth.
I was one of the ppl who had A small group of friends and stayed friends the entire High School journey.❤
Late comment, I was in this weird Limbos state of middle and popular. A lot of people knew me but I wasn’t a popular kid.
Nah Editing Sparky is the smartest guy I know like bro was preaching
I just never talked too anybody lol
As some one who's a "grown ass man" with kids in highschool and college, bro was cooking. The earlier you learn this the better off you will be in life as a whole. They need to play this video in every health class in America 🔥
The real successful people are the one who got their glowup in the middle of highschool, realize that people treat you differently if youre attractive, so they never stop improving themselves even with all the praise and become even better as they get older. Btw looks will matter EVEN MORE after highschool they just dont tell you
Yeah, pretty privilege is real, it sucks that people get mistreated for not being conventionally attractive. Honestly, hygiene and dressing presentable is important, but qualifications are even more important in the first place.
@@candicoated2001true. People are more judgemental I think when I was more overweight but after I lost weight I think I got more good attention from people.
Frrr though this is the comment
@@candicoated2001Pretty people also get bullied out of jealousy,easily get raped by lustful people,people only love them for their looks,not for who they are,if people found out their secret flaws,they threw them in a garbage under the bus,and people don't take them seriously if they set boundaries if they feel disrespected or assaulted or having feelings.The grass isn't always greener on the other side.Both pretty and ugly people are treated unfairly in this cruel society
I am very happy that this school Popularity shit does not realy exist here in germany sadly theres this Stil much bullying and awesome Video man