I always told my wife if she cheats on me that is it, I'm gone. I also told her if I ever cheat on her, dump me immediately. Lying and cheating have no place in a relationship. If you want someone else, leave the relationship. It's really that simple.
@Corey Parker i understand where your coming from but that still don't make it right to cheat and if someone really can't help it than they could be in an open relationship..
Serenas Choices umm no. It’s literally the other way around. How many men have you heard say “I love my wife but I’m not in love with her anymore that’s why I cheated on her but I could never leave her because I love her” 90% of married men that cheat on their wife will say something along those lines. They still love their wives and would rather die then lose them but at the same time they’re still men and their sex drives take over so they cheat (usually their wives have stopped taking care of themselves and/or refuse to have sex with their husbands anymore and are all about the children) so the men cheat out of desperation. When men are IN LOVE with their woman they could never cheat, but you can LOVE and not want to divorce but still cheat.
There’s just too much effort that goes into cheating to deem it a “mistake.” You have to make the effort of engaging with other women, you have to get their number, you have to maintain contact for weeks, months, or in some cases years...you have to make the effort to take them out or drive to their house.. it’s..too much effort to call it a mistake.. you mean to tell me through all that you not once you THOUGHT about your girl or doing the “right thing”?? Spilling milk is a mistake, and you don’t cry or get hurt over that.. too many people are actively CHOOSING to cheat and try to cover it up as a mistake, it’s not.
Yup, maybe it's a mistake only if, for eg., you had a big fight/something is seriously wrong at the moment w/ the relationship, maybe your thinking is impaired as well and you find yourself with someone else that is all over you and you just go w/ it...a perfect storm of events, a one time thing that you regret once you have a clear head. Long-term cheating or multiple-partner cheating is as you said, too much work to be deemed a mistake.
Absolutely agree! Also even the act of having sex requires finding a location, foreplay, putting on a condom etc. Makes no sense, that’s more than enough time to stop yourself. It’s not a mistake it’s a wilful act
Voicu Violeta Can’t relate 🤷🏾♀️ But even then.. there’s a lot of things that have to happen before it goes “down” engagement still takes effort, getting wherever you need to get to let it happen takes effort...by then I’m sure you have calmed down and had a thought
Shon, yeah never happened to me either, I was just thinking... It's difficult, a long shot...like I said, the perfect storm needs to happen to be able to claim mistake...like if you had a fight & were pissed off and you went out w/ your friends to a party and drank some and somebody threw themselves at you and a bedroom or broom closet was right there :)))
You can lie without cheating. My ex and I broke up because he lied about being deployed and being "blown up". I found out just bringing it up in a conversation to someone who is in his platoon. He told me the truth that he never has been deployed nor has he been "blown up" and have metal in him.
Cheating is physical lying: you lied when you said you would be faithful. Not telling me and repenting is deceiving, unrepentant unfaithfulness. It is the same package. It is the straw that breaks the camel's back to confront and lie... and then you find that he was lying. The trust is lost physically by the cheat, and mentally/emotionally/spiritually by the lies covering it up
Mary Contrary I agree. For me the initial act of cheating is more hurtful. Once you lie about doing it, that doesn't change the fact that you did it. There is no doubly wrong for me. It's all wrong and FOR me the physical ACTION of cheating is worse than lying about it cas you shouldn't have betrayed my trust in the first place?
And when you speak your vows in front of God and all your family you vowed "to love to honor to cherish till death do you part" and the death doesn't always mean that you become a widow/widower, it can be the death of a marriage in different categories. For there is death in the communication of the relationship, the death of trust, infidelity in the marriage where the said partner basically building the second relationship, and lastly the death of affection physically, spiritually, verbally, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.
I like how you women are assuming it’s just guys who cheat when I’d say there’s just as many women out there cheating it just doesn’t get talked about as no ones knows
TVHaLL12 that’s why marriage is a load of nonsense as you can never trually trust someone 100 percent there will always be some kind of doubt even when someone says they trust them completely it’s a load of nonsense lool
If you are truly in love with someone you would never wanna do anything to hurt that person you love. Period. I’m madly in love with my sweetheart. I have never cheated on him n he never cheated on me because we love each other.
@@rebeccanamata1170 Women always know. I've been married for 12 years, and I know my husband has never cheated on me. I know him and can read him like a book. We are also both home bodies and spend almost all of our free time together lol. He turns his eyes away if a Victoria Secret commercial comes on because he thinks looking at a woman in her underwear is being disrespectful to me. When a man cheats, you will see the change in his routines and schedules. There will be signs. Women are too intuitive not to know. I think some women turn a blind eye to it, but my husband knows if he were ever to cheat on me he would never have sex with anyone ever again once I was through with him lol.
The ego behind it is insane, statistics show women cheat at roughly the same rate as men. And women are determined to perpetuate this hive mind lie because they have each others backs for shady stuff despite generally despising each other
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e It isnt mostly at all. Statistics show that women cheat at roughly the same rate as men. Whats worse is women are better at covering it up and there are many men who are currently fathering children that dont belong to them. At least a woman knows that her child is definitely her child.
If he lies, then that grows into mistrust. The lying is worse; provoking paranoia, stalking, and the revenge. So if he admits it, all trust is not gone, we move on, think more, and get some space until we try it again or not.
I saw some stats recently say that 25% of husbands are victims of paternity fraud. Like how more proof do you need than a baby who's not even the husband's.
@@hymnodyhands that's a hard statistic to actually believe considering women just hide it better. I know plenty if women that cheated and their partners still dont know. I think women and men cheat about the same.
Love that Keisha said she's an advocate for "working on you" then come together. Steve is always trying to come at the cheating talk with "there's one woman a man will change for". Nope, nope, nope. If you're not willing to be better because it's what you desire for yourself, you won't change at all. Nobody else can make you change. You'll end up resenting them for trying to be something you don't want to be.
I've never cheated on a girl, granted I've been single most of my 28 year old life. I don't cheat not because of her. It's because I would feel stupid being with a girl that's worth cheating on. Why would I date a girl like that? If it's not obvious to not cheat, it's likely you're dating the wrong person.
Promiscuity in high school and college leads to cheating later in life whether it is with a fiancé, husband or wife. Parents sadly normalise promiscuity today and say it is the new "normal" and call it having a "steady" relationship. There is no such thing as having a relationship serious or otherwise. If you want to have intercourse, get married. We now have staggering divorce rates and breakups due to infidelity whose root cause started long ago.
What Steve said is the reason I'm never getting back with my ex, 3 years of cheating and yet it was always my fault for feeling how I did about him.. men change for those they want to change for and IF they see themselves as someone that needs to change
Flavia Fernández I think Steve tells it like it is. There’s been too much sugar coating about men and what women want t hear about men. If they want the truth they’ll get the truth. But Steve is getting through to women either you waist time with a man or you do you.
@@leahvictoria7447 it's not about the truth. He/she was complaining about the fact that Steve always seems to protect men when the subject is cheating. Probably because of his player past, but still. In this case it's by minimizing it about it just being men's ego. In ask steve's he always discourages the women from telling on a cheating dude to their wives. And basically stuff like that. It's not about the cold hard truth, it's about the fact that steve seems to protect cheating men a lot.
IIsuperstarII But don’t you think women do the same thing? I don’t think it’s just Steve I think it’s everyone that justifies cheating. When men cheat he’s a dog when a woman cheats she’s unhappy. The point of the Steve Harvey show is the point of view of men, that’s why it sounds like he is defending cheating, but he really is doing is giving point of view and the truth, because when I hear the women talk, they talk in circles. When he is talking he’s straight forward. But to me it doesn’t matter what sex it is either one justifies cheating in my opinion.
What’s confusing? People can make love to people they are not in love with. Biological urges can make a man desire to sleep with a woman even if he isn’t in love with her. It’s very simple.
Cheating is deliberately attempting to escape from life with your spouse/love partner for life with another person. NOBODY has to cheat to seek a better life and it's INFURIATING to lie about it.
This topic was too deep for the guests, They even moved from the initial question, Am not sure if am satisfied by their responses or reaction to the question, Well Cheating is Lying
well either way yall going to be upset whether we confess or not .Sometimes you lie to spare someones feelings because you ''love'' them . this is something women don't understand. we are damned if we do damned if we dont lol
Why is Bridget Kelly on here talking about cheating?! I am screaming 🤣🤣, this woman is a habitual cheater with no standards how dare she come on here talking about "respect and dignity"!! My stomach is in knots!! ⚰⚰⚰
From my experience (as a cheater, one time), lying about it to her makes the situation alot worse. In addition to that, if it become public, its worse also. So if you cheat, confess right away and make sure its not public knowledge or better yet... DONT CHEAT AT ALL.
Let's make it simple...both people don't cheat. Be happy with each other. Cheating is no answer to anything in your relationship. If you want to sleep with another just leave this person for good and then do your thing. Don't hurt people's feelings.
Yes! My husband and I are completely baffled by cheaters. Even setting aside how cruel and disrespectful it is. It's soooo much work! Who has that kind of time and energy??? It sounds absolutely exhausting lol. I'd rather take that time and work on my own relationship.
The real question should be, "What is worse: A breakdown in honest communication in your relationship, or cheating to fill the void?" Cheating happens for a reason. Most of the time, the relationship was already damaged before anyone cheated. We lie to ourselves and try to make it seem like "cheating" was the problem itself, rather than a response to a problem.
Jasmyne Wells I wouldn't call it self-destructive. There are some people who cheat to learn more about themselves. It can be a form of exploration and self-examination that either reinforces the bond of the relationship, or ends it. The person getting cheated on is the one who gets hurt.
People cheat when they feel insecure, not strong in their morals and selfish. After cheating you need to ask the partner "Do you want to be with me?" Do you want to be committed to me and if not why not...If he or she is angry, not getting their needs met then you should work on those things, decide if you want an open relationship or split up. Most people who cheat are weak spiritually and morally that is the bottom line its no different then someone who steals or hurts people in other ways its just not having strong principles and discipline. Its not a mistake its an unintelligent self interest and he or she doesn't care unless you guys agree that you want other partners its not right. Cheating is lying to yourself and your partner.
You have to lie in order to cheat. It's lying by omission if you've discussed being in a committed relationship and you cheat and come back like nothing happened you're lying. Where there's no respect , there's no love. A man cannot love you and cheat on you, it's disrespectful and hateful.
I don't understand how we've become like this, it doesn't matter if he lied about it, is he or she cheated, it's over, no matter if they came out or not with it. We shouldn't even be having this conversation, cheating means there's no love. And saying women don't cheat when a man provides is the dumbest thing I've heard.
I would appreciate it more that you be honest with me instead of making me feel like I’m crazy for believing what I believe. What I learned about me is that we cannot bounce back if you lie to my face about cheating. You have a better chance of being honest, helping me understand what drove you to that point, and if I feel it is salvageable, allowing me the time to get over it Only as you work on fixing you as well.
Absolutely no way! I don't cheat. I have class:-) And I will not put up with him cheating. I told him he needs to be sure he wants to get rid of me, before he goes and makes a fool out of me. If I find out, I will leave!
Yeah, people need to get it through their head that if you catch your partner cheating and you forgive them, they will just continue to do it because they know you wont leave.
Two thoughts here: 1) Women don't cheat. How naive can you be? The current figures put out by psychologist studies is the 62% of married women have thought about cheating - and 40% have - so their opinions are not based in fact. 2) That does not take into consideration women that are in "committed relationships". If you were able to include that number, the percentage would soar. Personally, if I were able to be ask one question of this panel, it would be: Have you ever been involved in a committed (declared exclusivity) relationship and done an overlap ~ where you had ANY sexual activity (physical affair - including making out), or, any emotional development going on (emotional affair) with another person other than your significant other - before you officially broke off the exclusivity with your significant other? In short, lined up your next partner before your ended it with current partner. I'll bet that all three of them have. Keep in mind that for the most part, an emotional affair is typically as destructive for women as a physical affair.
Women say a lying cheater is worse, but from a guy's perspective and experience i've seen with friends if you cheat never tell, it ruins the relationship. (Cheating should never been done though, it's one of the most hurtful things in life)
Once Steve said "Do you believe once a cheater always a cheater?" And the two on the left said "No" and didn't even elaborate on it I just knew they've cheated before. Lol
He is lying whether he admits it or not does not excuse the betrayal. Most relationships can not survive cheating. It is hard to get over. You can not keep bringing up the cheating, reopening that old wound over and over again and call it forgiveness.
I completely disagree with this...cheating is not loving....how can you cheat on a woman who you say you love so much...im not ok with even looking at another woman
Cheating is cheating! A guy can’t say they love you and still cheat... it wasn’t a. Mistake , it was a thought out plan and he decided to go behind their spouses back, who they “love” , and continue to cheat.... there’s no changing them! Once they cheat then it’s over
From experience it is very very selfish to confess. Your cheating ass was selfish enough to enjoy yourself with someone else and then when it's resting on your conscience you dump it on me. Now you're feeling better because you got it off your chest and even think you're being "honest" but all you really did was break my heart to make you feel better. Don't cheat in the first place but if you do keep it to your damn self. Let your so called mistake eat away at your conscience don't hurt me by telling me. Just stop cheating and suffer by yourself. That's how I see it.
Princess BC I deserve better too but make no mistake when a person, man or woman, confesses to cheating on you it's never because they think you deserve better. It's because it's on their conscience. Another selfish move. I don't want to be with a cheater but he shouldn't dump his conscience on me. It's like using me twice. Ideally he should end the relationship if he wants to be with someone else but in the event he is selfish to cheat he shouldn't be selfish to use me to ease his conscience. He should let me go and keep his dirty secret to himself.
Kizzy Wizzy...Nah, if you're leaving me I'm going to need to know why. It's really disrespectful to just up and leave like that and cowardest as hell. If the reason is because you cheated I'm not going to be concerned with your conscience or how you feel. I'll be more concerned with having the truth so that I may move on.
The truth may hurt for awhile but it will set you free. Why walk around and everyone know your living a lie but you. Yes it’s extremely painful but there are others out there that value you and will stay true (they are just hard to find). Truthfully I don’t think most cheaters are that concerned of their wife/girlfriend knowing the truth or that it rides their mind like that (especially if they are a repeated offenders). However, I believe by telling the truth (the whole truth) is good for both people although it hurts like hell!!! Valuable time has already been wasted so why continue to live a lie. If people can find strength to leave then I advice them to do so. However if they stay, he needs to be responsible for healing her and not just telling the truth. I understand somethings can be just too much to know but me.... I would want to know the truth so I know who I am really dealing with and how to adjust my mindset to better myself.
facts, same here, if I can resist cheating, I expect the same from my partner, and I've had plenty of chances to cheat, but thank the Lord I did not do it
Both are unacceptable! My mother said, "if you'll lie, you'll cheat, and if you cheat, you'll steal! Cheating brings lies, lying brings stealing. Stealing from our lives!
Don't CHEAT, and you won't have to LIE
Vic Marshall exactlyyy
That part
Well duh that ain't the question 😂
How you gonna throw a surprise party?
I'm not. 1 chance n I'm gone! not taking it nomore getting 2 old n not scared of being by myself!
I always told my wife if she cheats on me that is it, I'm gone. I also told her if I ever cheat on her, dump me immediately. Lying and cheating have no place in a relationship. If you want someone else, leave the relationship. It's really that simple.
Exactly 💯 💯 💯 💯
@Corey Parkerfor the love of God then why? What is the point? All cheating does is just mess everything up.
@Corey Parker How? if they really love someone than the person they love will be enough....why can't men help it exactly.
@Corey Parker i understand where your coming from but that still don't make it right to cheat and if someone really can't help it than they could be in an open relationship..
@Corey Parker u deranged bro
Bridget is talking from experience lol her ex came to her with facts, pie charts!
Lala layla 😂😂😂
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Lala Land Not
Hahaha
oohh I love this comment!
ummm lying and cheating go together there is no honest cheater
stephanie parido Smartest comment so far🌻💚💙
thank you
Dazzling Jewel Yep
Exactly smart
Same thing I said lying is cheating these folks think differently
the truth only hurts once, the lie hurts every time you remember it.
Waffles hey 😉😘
Amen
Im sorry I dont agree with Steve. Theres a huge difference in being IN LOVE and HAVING LOVE for someone.
I agree 100%. If you truly Love you will not cheat.
Serenas Choices umm no. It’s literally the other way around. How many men have you heard say “I love my wife but I’m not in love with her anymore that’s why I cheated on her but I could never leave her because I love her” 90% of married men that cheat on their wife will say something along those lines. They still love their wives and would rather die then lose them but at the same time they’re still men and their sex drives take over so they cheat (usually their wives have stopped taking care of themselves and/or refuse to have sex with their husbands anymore and are all about the children) so the men cheat out of desperation. When men are IN LOVE with their woman they could never cheat, but you can LOVE and not want to divorce but still cheat.
nothing is ever that simple human beings are not that simple
Dashone Sims What’s the difference? And how would that shape your actions towards a woman?
Dashone Sims -Yes indeed
There’s just too much effort that goes into cheating to deem it a “mistake.”
You have to make the effort of engaging with other women, you have to get their number, you have to maintain contact for weeks, months, or in some cases years...you have to make the effort to take them out or drive to their house.. it’s..too much effort to call it a mistake.. you mean to tell me through all that you not once you THOUGHT about your girl or doing the “right thing”??
Spilling milk is a mistake, and you don’t cry or get hurt over that.. too many people are actively CHOOSING to cheat and try to cover it up as a mistake, it’s not.
Yup, maybe it's a mistake only if, for eg., you had a big fight/something is seriously wrong at the moment w/ the relationship, maybe your thinking is impaired as well and you find yourself with someone else that is all over you and you just go w/ it...a perfect storm of events, a one time thing that you regret once you have a clear head. Long-term cheating or multiple-partner cheating is as you said, too much work to be deemed a mistake.
Absolutely agree! Also even the act of having sex requires finding a location, foreplay, putting on a condom etc. Makes no sense, that’s more than enough time to stop yourself. It’s not a mistake it’s a wilful act
Voicu Violeta Can’t relate 🤷🏾♀️
But even then.. there’s a lot of things that have to happen before it goes “down” engagement still takes effort, getting wherever you need to get to let it happen takes effort...by then I’m sure you have calmed down and had a thought
Shon, yeah never happened to me either, I was just thinking...
It's difficult, a long shot...like I said, the perfect storm needs to happen to be able to claim mistake...like if you had a fight & were pissed off and you went out w/ your friends to a party and drank some and somebody threw themselves at you and a bedroom or broom closet was right there :)))
Voicu Violeta lol I guess so
Lying and cheating are one in the same.
barbara wright they are both worse.
You can lie without cheating... but cheating is lying...
Illogical
You can lie without cheating. My ex and I broke up because he lied about being deployed and being "blown up". I found out just bringing it up in a conversation to someone who is in his platoon. He told me the truth that he never has been deployed nor has he been "blown up" and have metal in him.
@@malcolmparkins1935Well said
Cheating is physical lying: you lied when you said you would be faithful. Not telling me and repenting is deceiving, unrepentant unfaithfulness. It is the same package. It is the straw that breaks the camel's back to confront and lie... and then you find that he was lying. The trust is lost physically by the cheat, and mentally/emotionally/spiritually by the lies covering it up
Mary Contrary I agree. For me the initial act of cheating is more hurtful. Once you lie about doing it, that doesn't change the fact that you did it. There is no doubly wrong for me. It's all wrong and FOR me the physical ACTION of cheating is worse than lying about it cas you shouldn't have betrayed my trust in the first place?
And when you speak your vows in front of God and all your family you vowed "to love to honor to cherish till death do you part" and the death doesn't always mean that you become a widow/widower, it can be the death of a marriage in different categories.
For there is death in the communication of the relationship, the death of trust, infidelity in the marriage where the said partner basically building the second relationship, and lastly the death of affection physically, spiritually, verbally, spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.
@@TVHaLL12 love this and totally agree.
I like how you women are assuming it’s just guys who cheat when I’d say there’s just as many women out there cheating it just doesn’t get talked about as no ones knows
TVHaLL12 that’s why marriage is a load of nonsense as you can never trually trust someone 100 percent there will always be some kind of doubt even when someone says they trust them completely it’s a load of nonsense lool
Lying to a persons face about cheating is gaslighting
Didn’t Bridget cheat on her ex multiple times?
Kaiya Brown yuppppp
Lol
Nope ! It was multiple multiple multiple times lol
Right like no one can even take her advice on this seriously like you a mega cheater mam🙄
Exactly bloody hypocritical cow
"Ain't no floor that slippery" but Bridget you been slipping multiple times lol
Bridget on here talking about cheating???😂😂😂😂😂 my bladder!
nicky rosey ahahhahahhaha. I know right
nicky rosey I was about to say 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😘😂
😂😂😂
Ctfu i forgot she was a cheater too😂😂😂😂
Shay Shay Fortune she's doing it with a straight face too.
If you are truly in love with someone you would never wanna do anything to hurt that person you love. Period. I’m madly in love with my sweetheart. I have never cheated on him n he never cheated on me because we love each other.
Be careful. People don't like facts.
Hope after 2 years you still going strong
Are u sure,? dont be so trusting
@@rebeccanamata1170 Women always know. I've been married for 12 years, and I know my husband has never cheated on me. I know him and can read him like a book. We are also both home bodies and spend almost all of our free time together lol. He turns his eyes away if a Victoria Secret commercial comes on because he thinks looking at a woman in her underwear is being disrespectful to me. When a man cheats, you will see the change in his routines and schedules. There will be signs. Women are too intuitive not to know. I think some women turn a blind eye to it, but my husband knows if he were ever to cheat on me he would never have sex with anyone ever again once I was through with him lol.
I know Bridget ain’t talking....😂😂😂
amezeful for real
You didn’t know there’s a double standard that women use to attempt to get away with their shenanigans?
@@michaelrobinson9713 I’m not surprised
Its typically the people who are most vocal against cheaters that cheat themselves
"most women don't cheat" 😂the level of ego behind that. I think they meant to say "most women don't get caught"
Bridget definitely didn't get caught for a while, and she's a mega mega mega cheater.
@ymarrero23 That’s disgusting..
@@elim8792 learn to recognize an obvious troll.
The ego behind it is insane, statistics show women cheat at roughly the same rate as men. And women are determined to perpetuate this hive mind lie because they have each others backs for shady stuff despite generally despising each other
@ymarrero23 call Future. you for the streets!
Bridget get off this panel!
ikr
If you don't cheat you won't have to lie.
People cheat, not everyone, but it happens. Majority of people have been cheated on unfortunately.
glad you said people and not just men!
By men MOSTLY. 'Mostly' I SAID, not only. ( FACTS).
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e I dont think so
Stop trying to normalize it. It's a disgusting and unforgiveful thing and most people don't cheat.
@@user-zx5xw4yw2e It isnt mostly at all. Statistics show that women cheat at roughly the same rate as men. Whats worse is women are better at covering it up and there are many men who are currently fathering children that dont belong to them. At least a woman knows that her child is definitely her child.
I had to google Bridget Kelly 😂🙈
Lol me toooooo really...
If he lies, then that grows into mistrust. The lying is worse; provoking paranoia, stalking, and the revenge. So if he admits it, all trust is not gone, we move on, think more, and get some space until we try it again or not.
Once lying is intergrated mistrust , lack of foundation, a marriage cannot survive without trust
Both, Cheating and Lying is equally worse!!!.
Ha ha Ha!!!!!!!!!! Bridget delusional....... I think your ex should be on this show not you.
"Most women don't cheat" 😂🤣😂🤣
I damn near died when she said that. 🤣
byron martin I died laughing
I saw some stats recently say that 25% of husbands are victims of paternity fraud. Like how more proof do you need than a baby who's not even the husband's.
@@alansamuel2454 Mathematics says that if 25 percent of women cheat, 75 percent -- MOST -- don't.
@@hymnodyhands that's a hard statistic to actually believe considering women just hide it better. I know plenty if women that cheated and their partners still dont know. I think women and men cheat about the same.
these comments LMAO! i knew everyone would come for Bridget
Love that Keisha said she's an advocate for "working on you" then come together. Steve is always trying to come at the cheating talk with "there's one woman a man will change for". Nope, nope, nope. If you're not willing to be better because it's what you desire for yourself, you won't change at all. Nobody else can make you change. You'll end up resenting them for trying to be something you don't want to be.
I've never cheated on a girl, granted I've been single most of my 28 year old life. I don't cheat not because of her. It's because I would feel stupid being with a girl that's worth cheating on. Why would I date a girl like that? If it's not obvious to not cheat, it's likely you're dating the wrong person.
Promiscuity in high school and college leads to cheating later in life whether it is with a fiancé, husband or wife. Parents sadly normalise promiscuity today and say it is the new "normal" and call it having a "steady" relationship. There is no such thing as having a relationship serious or otherwise. If you want to have intercourse, get married. We now have staggering divorce rates and breakups due to infidelity whose root cause started long ago.
What Steve said is the reason I'm never getting back with my ex, 3 years of cheating and yet it was always my fault for feeling how I did about him.. men change for those they want to change for and IF they see themselves as someone that needs to change
if u know he’s cheating. what is there to talk about? lmao
Yeah right? I feel like a lot of women dont actually know theyre being cheated on, theyre just trusting their gut and are wrong half the time.
Hi
If you find out that your husband is cheating, leave or don't say anything just keep the receipts they might come in handy one day
Period
Hate how Steve is always defending men’s mistakes by pulling the “that’s just a man’s ego” card as if that excuses cheating/lying.
Flavia Fernández I think Steve tells it like it is. There’s been too much sugar coating about men and what women want t hear about men. If they want the truth they’ll get the truth. But Steve is getting through to women either you waist time with a man or you do you.
@@leahvictoria7447 it's not about the truth. He/she was complaining about the fact that Steve always seems to protect men when the subject is cheating. Probably because of his player past, but still. In this case it's by minimizing it about it just being men's ego. In ask steve's he always discourages the women from telling on a cheating dude to their wives. And basically stuff like that.
It's not about the cold hard truth, it's about the fact that steve seems to protect cheating men a lot.
IIsuperstarII But don’t you think women do the same thing? I don’t think it’s just Steve I think it’s everyone that justifies cheating. When men cheat he’s a dog when a woman cheats she’s unhappy. The point of the Steve Harvey show is the point of view of men, that’s why it sounds like he is defending cheating, but he really is doing is giving point of view and the truth, because when I hear the women talk, they talk in circles. When he is talking he’s straight forward. But to me it doesn’t matter what sex it is either one justifies cheating in my opinion.
I like how the story never gets told about how many women also cheat but never gets talked about didn’t know women were so perfect loooool
@@leahvictoria7447 Yup for some reason when a woman cheats she's the victim. Cause she was feeling 'lonely'.
"A man can cheat on you and be in love with you"! What?
I'm a guy and that doesn't make any sense☹
Facts , true love would protect their partner from that kind of heart ache
What’s confusing? People can make love to people they are not in love with. Biological urges can make a man desire to sleep with a woman even if he isn’t in love with her. It’s very simple.
@Hélia Alves super facts
@@nataliewalters2759 preach!! true love does not hurt
Thank you, it can't be made sense out of
Why is Bridget kelly talking about cheating when she cheated on her partner multiple times
Cheating is deliberately attempting to escape from life with your spouse/love partner for life with another person. NOBODY has to cheat to seek a better life and it's INFURIATING to lie about it.
This topic was too deep for the guests, They even moved from the initial question, Am not sure if am satisfied by their responses or reaction to the question, Well Cheating is Lying
Also woman they don't always know, and woman cheat too,
Both. Cant trust a cheater cant trust a lair
preach
The worse thing is for a woman to find out by someone else that the mans cheating and when she asks he lies
Dana Lois ouch, my heart just dropped
Vice versa
well either way yall going to be upset whether we confess or not .Sometimes you lie to spare someones feelings because you ''love'' them . this is something women don't understand. we are damned if we do damned if we dont lol
This is Dana ll
ryanr20091 how about you just don’t cheat?
Why is Bridget Kelly on here talking about cheating?! I am screaming 🤣🤣, this woman is a habitual cheater with no standards how dare she come on here talking about "respect and dignity"!! My stomach is in knots!! ⚰⚰⚰
I love Steve’s reaction! Get em girls! Spread that wisdom! ❤️💯
From my experience (as a cheater, one time), lying about it to her makes the situation alot worse. In addition to that, if it become public, its worse also. So if you cheat, confess right away and make sure its not public knowledge or better yet... DONT CHEAT AT ALL.
Let's make it simple...both people don't cheat. Be happy with each other. Cheating is no answer to anything in your relationship. If you want to sleep with another just leave this person for good and then do your thing. Don't hurt people's feelings.
Yes! My husband and I are completely baffled by cheaters. Even setting aside how cruel and disrespectful it is. It's soooo much work! Who has that kind of time and energy??? It sounds absolutely exhausting lol. I'd rather take that time and work on my own relationship.
Steve, my brotha....If men show love by 'protecting', then tell them the PROTECT our heart, not destroy it.
Preach, another question for him. If men show love by protecting women, then how can he love the women and cheat on her at the same time????
Oh she can change her perfume, but he can't change his cologne???
Angela Barry Right on
the act of cheating automatically makes you a liar so..... they are one in the same
If a man is cheating he has lost my respect period.....doesn’t matter is he’s honest about it or not.
well that's fair and i can respect that
FACTS
preach, same with me. if my girl cheats on me, she can kick rocks
Steve is asking cheaters is cheating worse or lying about cheating 😂😂😂 Yoo I can’t I’m too weak
You got me Steve, I’m a Liar and a Cheater 🤣🤣 Great topic 👌
1:51 Oh NO,Steve!!!!! Don't do that! Now this carpet will stink forever LOL
That girl in the middle talks a lot man lord have mercy
She constantly talks over people too!
I enjoyed the comments on Bridget Kelly more than the video itself... Lol 😂 😂
The real question should be, "What is worse: A breakdown in honest communication in your relationship, or cheating to fill the void?" Cheating happens for a reason. Most of the time, the relationship was already damaged before anyone cheated. We lie to ourselves and try to make it seem like "cheating" was the problem itself, rather than a response to a problem.
DeshaunX its a self destructive response to a problem. It takes a great deal of self awareness and honesty to face your demons...
Jasmyne Wells I wouldn't call it self-destructive. There are some people who cheat to learn more about themselves. It can be a form of exploration and self-examination that either reinforces the bond of the relationship, or ends it. The person getting cheated on is the one who gets hurt.
I agree
People cheat when they feel insecure, not strong in their morals and selfish. After cheating you need to ask the partner "Do you want to be with me?" Do you want to be committed to me and if not why not...If he or she is angry, not getting their needs met then you should work on those things, decide if you want an open relationship or split up. Most people who cheat are weak spiritually and morally that is the bottom line its no different then someone who steals or hurts people in other ways its just not having strong principles and discipline. Its not a mistake its an unintelligent self interest and he or she doesn't care unless you guys agree that you want other partners its not right. Cheating is lying to yourself and your partner.
You have to lie in order to cheat. It's lying by omission if you've discussed being in a committed relationship and you cheat and come back like nothing happened you're lying. Where there's no respect , there's no love. A man cannot love you and cheat on you, it's disrespectful and hateful.
I don't understand how we've become like this, it doesn't matter if he lied about it, is he or she cheated, it's over, no matter if they came out or not with it. We shouldn't even be having this conversation, cheating means there's no love.
And saying women don't cheat when a man provides is the dumbest thing I've heard.
Thank god these woman can admit to the saying " once a cheater always cheater" is not true. Amen
It's about being completely honest, taking accountability... not minimizing it. Full truth. Or trust will never be rebuilt.
where is bridgets dress from. i love it!!!
goodwill
The guy she cheated on her man with probably brought it for her.
I would appreciate it more that you be honest with me instead of making me feel like I’m crazy for believing what I believe. What I learned about me is that we cannot bounce back if you lie to my face about cheating. You have a better chance of being honest, helping me understand what drove you to that point, and if I feel it is salvageable, allowing me the time to get over it Only as you work on fixing you as well.
What confuses me is when a man cheats on his lady.She forgives him & he continues to cheat & she continues to forgive him.🤔
Absolutely no way!
I don't cheat. I have class:-)
And I will not put up with him cheating.
I told him he needs to be sure he wants to get rid of me, before he goes and makes a fool out of me.
If I find out, I will leave!
Yeah, people need to get it through their head that if you catch your partner cheating and you forgive them, they will just continue to do it because they know you wont leave.
"A, You already know." (Hmmm, What comes after the letter A? Got it!)
"2nd, ...not you're insulting my intelligence."
😆
She also said "obserbant" instead of "observant." 🤣🤣
Steve Harvey cheated on his wife multiple times also 💀💀
justin magallon thank your finally someone bringing it up
justin magallon he’s admitted it
Which wife though?
So did bridget here.
So did one of the chicks denouncing cheating
I'm glad Steve was able to bring the focus back on the question. Good job Steve 👏🏾 👍🏽
First thing said: “Here’s the thing, women, we always know.”
Me: click off after commenting
Right
Two thoughts here: 1) Women don't cheat. How naive can you be? The current figures put out by psychologist studies is the 62% of married women have thought about cheating - and 40% have - so their opinions are not based in fact. 2) That does not take into consideration women that are in "committed relationships". If you were able to include that number, the percentage would soar.
Personally, if I were able to be ask one question of this panel, it would be: Have you ever been involved in a committed (declared exclusivity) relationship and done an overlap ~ where you had ANY sexual activity (physical affair - including making out), or, any emotional development going on (emotional affair) with another person other than your significant other - before you officially broke off the exclusivity with your significant other? In short, lined up your next partner before your ended it with current partner.
I'll bet that all three of them have. Keep in mind that for the most part, an emotional affair is typically as destructive for women as a physical affair.
"Leaving with my respect". Listen lady. He CHEATED. How can he leave with your respect after that. Man these women are crazy
Cheating and lying go together , you cannot cheat without lying to your partner.
*If men bring pie charts and analytics, it doesn't end well.*
Women say a lying cheater is worse, but from a guy's perspective and experience i've seen with friends if you cheat never tell, it ruins the relationship. (Cheating should never been done though, it's one of the most hurtful things in life)
Honestly, Steve has to stop bringing Bridget on the show when topics about relationships and cheating come up considering her track record....
I love all of these ladies and the words they are bringing to the table.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. I believe that!!!
If he lies, then you cannot ever believe anything they will ever say again. Period.
Where's Keri?
I am here for this channel!
Bring back Keri, garcelle, catt and the others ...I do not like this panel
Meshanda Ellison Neither do I
celeste matthews yeah they are nor ing and they just ain't giving the topics any life
I like the change.
NotyNoty I like when he bring different panel but these three were nor ing for me
NotyNoty I like the first panel
Once Steve said "Do you believe once a cheater always a cheater?" And the two on the left said "No" and didn't even elaborate on it I just knew they've cheated before. Lol
" now you insulTinG Miii INTELLIGENCE " ❗🤦🏽♀
He is lying whether he admits it or not does not excuse the betrayal. Most relationships can not survive cheating. It is hard to get over. You can not keep bringing up the cheating, reopening that old wound over and over again and call it forgiveness.
"im not gonna fly off the handle until i have my facts" ....said no chick ever
Wrd
This is good!! Thanks!
I completely disagree with this...cheating is not loving....how can you cheat on a woman who you say you love so much...im not ok with even looking at another woman
preach!!! true love does not hurt
I agree. Depending on the level of cheating it is a deal breaker, or not. This is why the lying after cheating makes it easier for a deal breaker.
The facts that Steve is indirectly normalizing cheating how ridiculous once a cheater always a cheater.
ikr
Steve's like I'm not drunk enough for this😂😂
I believe once a cheater always a cheater 🤷🏾♀️
I really enjoyed these women & Steve's conversation. They were great together. Great strong women are really empowering. Men too
Cheating is cheating! A guy can’t say they love you and still cheat... it wasn’t a. Mistake , it was a thought out plan and he decided to go behind their spouses back, who they “love” , and continue to cheat.... there’s no changing them! Once they cheat then it’s over
Cheating. Lying is only offensive because it shows disrespect...which they already be doing if they cheating.
From experience it is very very selfish to confess. Your cheating ass was selfish enough to enjoy yourself with someone else and then when it's resting on your conscience you dump it on me. Now you're feeling better because you got it off your chest and even think you're being "honest" but all you really did was break my heart to make you feel better. Don't cheat in the first place but if you do keep it to your damn self. Let your so called mistake eat away at your conscience don't hurt me by telling me. Just stop cheating and suffer by yourself. That's how I see it.
Nope! Tell me because I deserve better than a cheater.
Princess BC I deserve better too but make no mistake when a person, man or woman, confesses to cheating on you it's never because they think you deserve better. It's because it's on their conscience. Another selfish move. I don't want to be with a cheater but he shouldn't dump his conscience on me. It's like using me twice. Ideally he should end the relationship if he wants to be with someone else but in the event he is selfish to cheat he shouldn't be selfish to use me to ease his conscience. He should let me go and keep his dirty secret to himself.
Kizzy Wizzy...Nah, if you're leaving me I'm going to need to know why. It's really disrespectful to just up and leave like that and cowardest as hell. If the reason is because you cheated I'm not going to be concerned with your conscience or how you feel. I'll be more concerned with having the truth so that I may move on.
The truth may hurt for awhile but it will set you free. Why walk around and everyone know your living a lie but you. Yes it’s extremely painful but there are others out there that value you and will stay true (they are just hard to find). Truthfully I don’t think most cheaters are that concerned of their wife/girlfriend knowing the truth or that it rides their mind like that (especially if they are a repeated offenders). However, I believe by telling the truth (the whole truth) is good for both people although it hurts like hell!!! Valuable time has already been wasted so why continue to live a lie. If people can find strength to leave then I advice them to do so. However if they stay, he needs to be responsible for healing her and not just telling the truth. I understand somethings can be just too much to know but me.... I would want to know the truth so I know who I am really dealing with and how to adjust my mindset to better myself.
You better make that change walking
Down the aisle, cause if you slip it's
OVAHHHHHHHHHH!
I have never cheated in my life. No respect for those who do, whatever their gender may be.
facts, same here, if I can resist cheating, I expect the same from my partner, and I've had plenty of chances to cheat, but thank the Lord I did not do it
Whether you tell me the truth or not it doesn't change the fact that you cheated.
All three of them think they know when a dude's cheating 😂😂😂
Keep drinking that Kool aid
The truth! they have a pattern that we recognize right away! Also the gut feeling is your receipt✅
she said “if u tell the truth u can leave with my respect”
who in their right mind would respect a cheater.
facts
Why are the two women on the left dressed like they're going to a dance festival? lol
Both are unacceptable! My mother said, "if you'll lie, you'll cheat, and if you cheat, you'll steal! Cheating brings lies, lying brings stealing. Stealing from our lives!
3:23 Steve says"A man can cheat on you and still loves you"
Women around the world:No he don't😤😤
Me:👀👀😂😂😂🏃🏻♂️🏃🏻♂️🏃🏻♂️🏃🏻♂️
Wow Steve , these three with some major Skelton’s in their closets, cmon smh.....
Beautiful panel