I’m lucky that I’ve never been the forgiving type. Anger is freeing. You won’t stay with guys like this if you’re strong enough to get pissed off and hold that grudge.
YES!! This is what happened to me too. My (now ex) boyfriend of 6 months used to BLOW UP IN ANGER and SHOUTING MATCHES with me when I'd bring up bad behavior from him or things that were unacceptable for me (he's almost 46 years old, in 2 weeks). He made such elementary errors that NO grown man would do in a mature, HEALTHY adult relationship and he got so pisssed at me for calling him out. He turned out to be a BIG TIME narcissist too. (He's also a professional actor and the best acting teacher in Florida, and he was IN LOVE with himself...always SO proud and arrogant). But I'm the bad guy because I put my foot down and insisted to be treated right? He simply backed out and showed me he just wasted my time by wanting to be friends and never doing ANY of the things he promised me in the very beginning. He KNEW I only enter into serious relationships with the end goal being marriage. He took total advantage and he is the reason why I no longer want ANY OF THAT ANYMORE. No marriage, no more boyfriends, no bullshit lies and verbal and emotional abuse. We have been broken up since late July. I'm still very angry and I want to stay angry at men because they always lie to us anyway and waste our time, leaving us in worse shape than when we first got romantically involved with them. TO HELL with them, I say. Holding a grudge against him is a huge driving force for me especially because we had been friends since our 20's. We are both in our 40's and only dated for 6 months before it all fell apart little by little. That was only this January 2024. Expiration date was WAY before it ended, because he stopped caring first. Naturally the relationship went to shit because of that..
Ladies, if you check that man’s phone and you see that he’s cheating and you’re not leaving then please save us the details we don’t wanna know. If you’re not leaving then why check?
I truly think some women don’t understand how bad cheating can be. It’s not just a breach of trust, but a detriment to your health. Dubai is known as the public toilet of the world. Taking him back after 20 skorts is crazy work. He’s a walking petri dish.
If men want multiple women with no strings attached and no relationships they can! So why do they date?? Why be in a full relationship or even marriage?? Just stay single and hop from a lady to another and let her know it's open. She may ask for $ and that would be a transactional relationship but it's better than the hiding and lies and drama. Just ewww
Adults are allowed to date other adults. There's plenty of thriving marriages throughout human history, where the couples have over a ten year age gap. Studies show that partners who have more than a ten-year gap in age experience ridicule and social disapproval from peers. Which is exactly what you're partaking in. Turning your nose up at other people because they don't calibrate their moral compass around your moralistic superiority complex is the epitome of emotional immaturity. Your comment is an illogical fallacy made from a place of ignorance.
That line that woman said: "If they're single at 40, there's a reason they're single at 40". That's so true! it does make relationship prospects bleak though when us women are going on 40 and not partnered up yet.
But it's true, if a man who is able bodied, heterosexual, educated, decent looking has a good job is single at 40 err on the side of caution. Particularly if he's been actively dating women. More often than not, he is on some BS.
I feel like mothers, including my own, pushed marriage and children for no reason. My mom always thought that it was just my dad that was odd and didn't get her. I tried so many times to tell her NO, it's all men. Dad isn't even that bad! He didn't cheat, he loves his kids and did things with us. That's why even at 52 y.o. I take trips with him in and out of state. He's not the most wonderful man in the world, but he's a good person. Thankfully, both my brother and I were born with the gene that repels marriage and kids, lol. He has money, I have my own money, my dad has his. None of us are stingy, either, with our money. My dad paid for our two-week trip we just returned from, saying it was his treat and that he wanted to show me his favorite place. Moms today, I implore you! Please DO NOT push the narrative that maybe you were told of a prince charming for your daughters. And, teach your boys to be self-sufficient so they don't think women are supposed to do the housework and raise children! I IMPLORE YOU!!!
There are men who have been taught to be self sufficient and have even lived alone and taken care of themselves. Yet the minute a woman is knocking around they are incapable of opening a tin of beans. Being raised right only goes so far.
🙄🙄🙄everyone trying to be a Risa Teresa and failing miserably, even titling it the same when she wasnt even married. If this is a real she not only was delusional but seemed to have stayed in it just to have a story.
Honestly I'm thinking that all good men found a wife in their 20's. There might be some in the ocean of weird ones, but it's hard to go on countless bad dates
Someone said there's so much sin in our lands no wonder we are seeing what we are seeing. Also it's in the bloodline, time to go back to the Lord and the word.
......Speechless...just foolishness. Not a good story teller so riding the coat tails of the OG who tf did i marry was not a good look. Good message though, leaving when you feel mentally ready for it. I get compassion fatigue from some of these women's stories..
Leaving when you’re mentally ready to leave just keeps you in danger, and many women have found out too late that staying till they were ready was the wrong decision, but to each their own.
If only it was that simple. Luckily the psychology and data we have globally shows abuse dynamics are much more complex. That they change the neural pathways, damage the prefrontal cortex that also changes a person's behaviour ect. Ignoring all of the above research is intentionally cruel, when all of this information is so freely and easily available. So to ridicule victims of dv by casting judgement shows bad character and hidden malice. Those people should be focusing on becoming better instead of pointing fingers trying to judge other people's decisions... @@tiahnarodriguez3809
She keep saying the red flag was him being single at 40 . The Red Flag was him being single at 40 and dating a woman half his age he wanted someone green to do exactly what he did
Its crazy how people give no sympathy to this woman in the comments but when the bleq woman came out about obviously ignoring the red flags, she garners sympathy and even gets a gofundme? Yeah, we need to talk about how America infantilizes bleq women and how they dont hold them accountable for their actions. I can see why bleq men are trading up
The mental gymnastics women will do for men, instead of leaving them.
@@dietdrpepper15 she did leave him in the end
@@lulc4694 Yeah I know, but the justification she made to stay for so long...thats where it gets scary.
Right but will cut off a female friend after an argument or misunderstanding smdh
@ cause they’ve been raised to believe they NEED men and male attention.
The-man-is-the-price mentality 🤡 I do not feel for her. Either you take it and shut up or leave for good the first time.
First girl's #1 mistake... asking the guy out
I’m lucky that I’ve never been the forgiving type. Anger is freeing. You won’t stay with guys like this if you’re strong enough to get pissed off and hold that grudge.
YES!! This is what happened to me too. My (now ex) boyfriend of 6 months used to BLOW UP IN ANGER and SHOUTING MATCHES with me when I'd bring up bad behavior from him or things that were unacceptable for me (he's almost 46 years old, in 2 weeks). He made such elementary errors that NO grown man would do in a mature, HEALTHY adult relationship and he got so pisssed at me for calling him out. He turned out to be a BIG TIME narcissist too. (He's also a professional actor and the best acting teacher in Florida, and he was IN LOVE with himself...always SO proud and arrogant). But I'm the bad guy because I put my foot down and insisted to be treated right? He simply backed out and showed me he just wasted my time by wanting to be friends and never doing ANY of the things he promised me in the very beginning. He KNEW I only enter into serious relationships with the end goal being marriage. He took total advantage and he is the reason why I no longer want ANY OF THAT ANYMORE. No marriage, no more boyfriends, no bullshit lies and verbal and emotional abuse. We have been broken up since late July. I'm still very angry and I want to stay angry at men because they always lie to us anyway and waste our time, leaving us in worse shape than when we first got romantically involved with them. TO HELL with them, I say. Holding a grudge against him is a huge driving force for me especially because we had been friends since our 20's. We are both in our 40's and only dated for 6 months before it all fell apart little by little. That was only this January 2024. Expiration date was WAY before it ended, because he stopped caring first. Naturally the relationship went to shit because of that..
Ladies, if you check that man’s phone and you see that he’s cheating and you’re not leaving then please save us the details we don’t wanna know. If you’re not leaving then why check?
She putting her life at risk taking him back after he admitted to being with at least 20 esc@rts!
I truly think some women don’t understand how bad cheating can be. It’s not just a breach of trust, but a detriment to your health. Dubai is known as the public toilet of the world. Taking him back after 20 skorts is crazy work. He’s a walking petri dish.
Exactly!! Can you imagine the amount of diseases he probably expose her to !
The-man-is-the-price mentality 🤡 I do not feel for her. Either you take it and shut up or leave.
I officially hate the "who TF did I date/marry" sector on social media.
Jeeeeezuz, just leave all ready!!
This is why men go for younger women....
Young, gullible, naive and inexperienced, most of us have been there. I hope she's learned her lesson.
So in other words she knew who he was from very beginning, she thought she could change him?
If men want multiple women with no strings attached and no relationships they can! So why do they date?? Why be in a full relationship or even marriage?? Just stay single and hop from a lady to another and let her know it's open. She may ask for $ and that would be a transactional relationship but it's better than the hiding and lies and drama. Just ewww
its social bragging to those guys.
They need a recharger and a 24/7 available 💥 maid at home and once they’re recharged they go out there to release their energy.
I wonder what her parents did wrong that she has like negative self-esteem
It’s okay to be single at 40. However, if you’re 40 years old dating someone FIFTEEN YEARS your junior then you have a major maturity problem.
Right! THAT was the first red flag!
Adults are allowed to date other adults. There's plenty of thriving marriages throughout human history, where the couples have over a ten year age gap. Studies show that partners who have more than a ten-year gap in age experience ridicule and social disapproval from peers. Which is exactly what you're partaking in.
Turning your nose up at other people because they don't calibrate their moral compass around your moralistic superiority complex is the epitome of emotional immaturity. Your comment is an illogical fallacy made from a place of ignorance.
That line that woman said: "If they're single at 40, there's a reason they're single at 40". That's so true! it does make relationship prospects bleak though when us women are going on 40 and not partnered up yet.
But it's true, if a man who is able bodied, heterosexual, educated, decent looking has a good job is single at 40 err on the side of caution. Particularly if he's been actively dating women. More often than not, he is on some BS.
I feel like mothers, including my own, pushed marriage and children for no reason. My mom always thought that it was just my dad that was odd and didn't get her. I tried so many times to tell her NO, it's all men. Dad isn't even that bad! He didn't cheat, he loves his kids and did things with us. That's why even at 52 y.o. I take trips with him in and out of state. He's not the most wonderful man in the world, but he's a good person. Thankfully, both my brother and I were born with the gene that repels marriage and kids, lol. He has money, I have my own money, my dad has his. None of us are stingy, either, with our money. My dad paid for our two-week trip we just returned from, saying it was his treat and that he wanted to show me his favorite place. Moms today, I implore you! Please DO NOT push the narrative that maybe you were told of a prince charming for your daughters. And, teach your boys to be self-sufficient so they don't think women are supposed to do the housework and raise children! I IMPLORE YOU!!!
There are men who have been taught to be self sufficient and have even lived alone and taken care of themselves. Yet the minute a woman is knocking around they are incapable of opening a tin of beans. Being raised right only goes so far.
All Men!
We need a WTF are men edition.as a whole. Women beed to know
🙄🙄🙄everyone trying to be a Risa Teresa and failing miserably, even titling it the same when she wasnt even married. If this is a real she not only was delusional but seemed to have stayed in it just to have a story.
Honestly I'm thinking that all good men found a wife in their 20's. There might be some in the ocean of weird ones, but it's hard to go on countless bad dates
l have no words 😮😮😮😮🤦🏾♀️
Someone said there's so much sin in our lands no wonder we are seeing what we are seeing. Also it's in the bloodline, time to go back to the Lord and the word.
ISn't he a chef? he couldn't make his chef-behind cook at home to chip in while she was supporting him?! At least she knows she was wrong for staying.
......Speechless...just foolishness. Not a good story teller so riding the coat tails of the OG who tf did i marry was not a good look. Good message though, leaving when you feel mentally ready for it. I get compassion fatigue from some of these women's stories..
Leaving when you’re mentally ready to leave just keeps you in danger, and many women have found out too late that staying till they were ready was the wrong decision, but to each their own.
If only it was that simple. Luckily the psychology and data we have globally shows abuse dynamics are much more complex. That they change the neural pathways, damage the prefrontal cortex that also changes a person's behaviour ect. Ignoring all of the above research is intentionally cruel, when all of this information is so freely and easily available. So to ridicule victims of dv by casting judgement shows bad character and hidden malice. Those people should be focusing on becoming better instead of pointing fingers trying to judge other people's decisions... @@tiahnarodriguez3809
She keep saying the red flag was him being single at 40 . The Red Flag was him being single at 40 and dating a woman half his age he wanted someone green to do exactly what he did
There’s a point where you’re endangering your life! Did stds come to mind for her?
20+ !!???? What??
This story time seergbms fake
@@EnjoyLife-hq2ud she’s probably reading it off Reddit 🫠
Its crazy how people give no sympathy to this woman in the comments but when the bleq woman came out about obviously ignoring the red flags, she garners sympathy and even gets a gofundme? Yeah, we need to talk about how America infantilizes bleq women and how they dont hold them accountable for their actions. I can see why bleq men are trading up