Same for me. Going through it now. He already had trust issues and his ex gf told him I was cheating on him. Her proof “she’s a girl & she knows” after that he saw signs everywhere. Like looks I was giving a neighbor to get attention & show interest, I wasn’t! I proved many things she said were lies & she had not 1 shred of evidence that I cheated even though she claimed I sent a neighbor text, pictures & videos that she saw. They don’t exist! The only text I had between me and the neighbor was about our kids. They played together. The only other conversation we had was him Telling me my bf was cheating with his ex. So I don’t know what’s going on! I don’t think he was cheating with this girl I think she set out to destroy our relationship because of jealousy. It worked. It’s been 6 months since she accused me and we can’t get past it!
@@TiffanysBunnyGang so sorry to hear you are going through this. My advice to you would be to leave. I tried for 2 months after I was accused of cheating and honestly nothing changed. He kept trying to find “information” or assumptions just to fit his narrative. Whether it was something I posted or Instagram or a male friend liking a pic to him thinking I’m meeting up with a guy when I told him I was out with friends. It never changed no matter how much I tried. It got to a point when we were arguing everyday! No matter what i said or did his mind was made up about me and there was nothing else I could do. We just decide to just stay as friends as we did get on better on a friendship level. Also if you have to “prove” to someone you are not cheating it’s not worth it because nothing you say will change their narrative or perception of you. You can’t have a solid relationship without trust and when the trust has gone from on them the spark will start to fade from you.
Happened to me 2 days ago and I've been crying nonstop. Doesnt help that I suffer from depression so couldn't even get out of bed first day was just weeping. 6 years and you still dont trust me because I went to a bar? I'm devastated and dont think I'll eve love again.
I just left my wife of 4 years because of this. Remember guys they will not change run never come back. I’ve tried and came back several times. I had enough
Leave him alone and do not contact him stay calm if you know for sure that you are innocent do not try to prove him wrong by callling and blowing his phone with messeges ...leave him alone and he will know the truth for sure ......
Nova Manina it's never enough unfortunately! I'm in a relationship right now and have been dealing with the same stuff. Disrespectful and at this point I would consider it mental abuse! You can love them unconditionally to the moon and back and if they are that insacure there is nothing you can do about it. Or they are cheating! The only difference is I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Things have just gotten worse! Hopefully I figure this situation out asap. I can't continue on like this anymore. It's exhausting. Unfortunately finding out about the baby makes it worse! Good luck to everyone.
I’m going through that myself. It’s tough because a lot of our problems we’ve had stem from that. I pride myself in my loyalty not only in my relationship but also in my friendships and it’s a kick in the gut when I get accused of BS I never did.
My wife was cheated on by her ex and now I'm the one who's wearing that 🤦♂️ its pretty frustrating that she doesn't trust me and it's a major turn off
It's very hurtful. I find myself feeling so hurt and angry. I've invested alot of myself and time in to this. I keep feeling like she keeps making herself in to the victim. I can't understand this and im getting extremely frustrated. I'm thinking about ending this relationship. Who wants to be with someone who don't trust you. I'm at home all the time. I barely hang out. I don't stay out late. I don't flirt. It's either insecurity or projection. One or the other.
Thanks for the video. It’s been 2 years of hard core accusing. I’ve never done anything, I’m always home or working. I chatted with a couple female friends on social media not related to anything other than friends. That was it. 2 years constant accusations and they live in other states. Lost the friendships over it. It escalated to more fighting and constant accusations. It never ends. It never stops. It’s been this way for years and has gotten worse. I get the silent treatment when i defend myself. Yes, I’m very strong but as you said, it wears on you and i feel really bad about myself. I’m sick of it and for this reason i don’t want to be around anyone. Kids are young and she has said evil things to me in front of them. There is no talking from her. I’ve done all the research and it’s going to be up to me. Been bad and getting worse. “Funny thing” is she says it’s all my fault. I said it takes 2 and she says it’s all me. She said no one likes me and it’s all me. I believe this is what a relationship is like. Been dealing with this for years. I hear there are good relationships. I can’t believe that.
Wow I’m in the same boat. Never cheated and been married for three years with three small children. Today, I told my husband I have my doctor appt tmrw and he ask me what time, the place, and the doctors name. I get him asking the time but you interrogate me about a doctor appt. I would say if I ever cheated on him, I would also be cheating on my kids and I won’t do that. He was tracking my phone without my knowledge but I found out by looking in his phone one day. When I took a pic of it I showed him an he claimed he wasn’t tracking me he flat out lied. I continue to be disrespected and I don’t even talk much anymore and lost interest in sex and he continues not to see what he does. It’s so much I could say but it’s just way too much. I had a mini stroke on Nov 27th and was taken by the ambulance and guess what he kept saying to me at the hospital? Now it’s another bill to pay, I don’t have all this money to spend on medical bills. Not even worried about my life one bit. When he had back surgery I was there for him and never complained. I believe his behavior has enhanced my depression and the stress that resulted in that stroke. I’m tired and worn down.
I'm in the same situation. My husband has been accusing me of cheating on him and checking out other guys for almost 5 years now when I haven't done anything.
@@j.symone I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I get it. You need to try to take it easy and i know that’s really hard. You can’t change anyone and you did nothing wrong! NOTHING! Remember what i said...you can’t change anyone! It took me years to realize this. I actually cut some friends off because they did things i did not like and treated me like crap. It was hard to let them go but i did. A real friend wouldn’t do that. Someone who cared about you would do bad things. Sure, we all have bad days, but this was more than that. Relationships can be bad because you get trapped and used to the person.
@@amberlenalovescats2160 I understand. I know it’s bad. I know you get to feeling like you can’t look anywhere across a restaurant maybe because he’ll wonder what you’re looking at. THAT is being in prison. Many people deal with this. They’re insecure...it’s not you.
I was truly in love with my ex fiance following my divorce from 22 year marriage and he always accused me of cheating and I never gave him any reason to feel that way. So he cheated on me and immediately told me he did this to get back at me. Complete insanity. I was devastated we were to be married. We went to a therapist and he was diagnosed with abandonment disorder and failed to change so we had to end it.
My husband accuses me constantly, I never cheated. Most of the time it is after he watches some video about women cheating. He cheated in the past and now he constantly accuse me. He has caused me to lose jobs because I worked in a hotel so I had to be having sex in every room with every man, woman, etc. He accuses me of animals if they walk by. His insecurities are out of control.
I'm constantly being accused of cheating by my husband. If i say hi to the opposite sex it will be looked at suspiciously. If i have an attitude about the house being dirty im told its because i have a guilty conscious and that something is going on and that I'm hiding. If I am talking to a female family member at night Im up to something and i will get caught. Its driving me nuts and im sick of it. This is the same person who went out to hotels when he was suppose to be working overtime. Or goes out late and doesn't answer the phone because he doesn't feel like it. Smh.
My husband is constantly accusing me it's soo tiring 😫😩I can't stand it any more he even tries to make fake fb accounts to see if I talk with I don't!! I really can't Take it anymore
Kristin: Thanks for this video. It is difficult to find this topic. Most of them talk about when men cheat. But never about when you are accused. I lived in this situation for many years. When he accused me, I started to cry and scream and started to defend myself. I never cheated on him (Now I think I was stupid) But something that you have to know, and it is something really impressive. My psychologist told me once, but I did want to believe her. She told me that my ex-husband saw his mother cheating on his father. But I was starting my divorce so I didn´t listen to her. However, now that I have several years divorced, I saw a strong phrase on the internet "When a man accuses his woman of sexual betrayal is because he saw it in his mother" I think this phrase is from Sigmon Freud. It is hard to believe, but it is true
My husband's mom cheated (dad did too but he only blames his mom). He has always thought I was cheating. 9 years of hell for me, because of something his mom did almost 40 years ago.
Yep, this is exactly why my husband has this fear that I'm going to cheat on him as well. It has been 28 years together but every now and then, this rears its ugly head. Makes me want to punch his mother square in the mouth for what she has done to her son. She was a serial cheater, married multiple times, currently in a nursing home and STILL bragging to her son that she's dating a married man. Disgusting. I haven't cheated and wouldn't cheat. I think a person either has it in them to do it or not. I don't and don't appreciate dealing with the fallout of her disgusting behavior.
I’m in a tough spot right now. The father of my children has accused me multiple times of cheating, he once’s accused me of stealing money from him because I was living a double life. We got in argument where I blew up finally I blew up and told him to get mental help because he’s mind is fucked up to constantly be thinking that I’m doing things when I’m not! I told him that his insecurities where not my problem and that I was done trying to make a unreasonable person try to understand. We haven’t talked for a week. I’m soo upset I can’t speak to him, or even look at him for the sake of me not blowing up again. He spoke to me once to tell me he had scheduled a appointment for couple counseling. I’m soo upset and soo ready to walk out. I’m tired of my integrity being questioned and I’m not sure if this can ever be repaired.
Just one more month to complete 2yrs together and I had to end it. She always accused me of cheating and she always had reasons that made no sense to come up with such accusations. Still going through the misery of ending my relationship but I know it will get better
Hey how are you feeling now? I just ended a relationship that was over 3 years long. She kept asking if I was cheating on her and always doubted where I was if I didn’t answer the phone. Funny thing is that she lied about being home when she was still out and drunk with her friends.
@@pullsupatthepark405 a lot better. I’m sorry to hear that. Not worth to be with someone who doubts your worth. You’re way better than what they see you. Remember that
I been married 4 years now I'm 24 and my husband is always accusing me of cheating on him, talking to men, looking at them, and trying to seek attention from men I'm always being accused and blamed for the reasons he feels that im doing something wrong he calls me easy and says he knows me. I cheated on him before we had our children as boyfriend and girlfriend when we were just 2 months together But I've never done anything while we have been married or even after that incident We fight alot it hurts me that he thinks of me that way and I dont know what to do to make it work with us
Lucero Hernandez hey i just want you to know im going through the same thing. Im 24 yrs old got married at 20. Only diferrences is our relationship is long distance. Trust me you are not alone
@lou davey how about you stop being an insecure trogdolite and learn to trust your significant other. People can do other things besides cheat when they aren't available to talk to you 24/7.
I'm going through the exact same thing and I've never cheated at all or even thought about it. He's always accusing me of checking out other guys and trying to get attention from guys even though I literally do NOTHING to try and get attention.
I have this same problem, I think it hurts me more that he thinks I’m capable of doing the things my husband says I do.., they are terrible awful things… I’m mentally emotionally exhausted… how long does one deal with this before throwing in the towel? We have 2 young children and I’m in nursing school… AND working! He’s not working! He didn’t have a car… I think it’s a loss of power… he’s even showing signs of Schizoaffective disorder and believes he sees things in my clothes & hears things… it’s near impossible to deal with
this is hard situation and i am experiencing this kind of relationship right now😢 . He always accuse me of talking to other guy , even using messenger to talk to my family i need to screen capture and send to him everytime he see me online. I cannot keep calm ,and i need to defend myself and i am freaking exhausted need to explain myself everytime😭😭
I am crying reading your comment right now I experienced this yesterday, it's been going on for years and it's so hurtful and exhausting. I cant stay calm I get emotional because no matter what I say or do he thinks otherwise. I love him so much we have known each other since we were kids I believe he wants to push me away so his thoughts will be right no matter what I do, he says I don't take them blame for my actions Its always him, I don't understand because I don't accuse him at all I don't ask for messages or voicemails he asked me while I was at work to go on my messenger and share my screen I did but I couldn't connect my Bluetooth so he hung up guys hit me and I don't respond at all, and of course I have male friends but they know the deal, it has made them feel uncomfortable to talk to me or be around me because he is so insecure. I don't know what to do because we have been on track for a while. But it only takes a moment for it to all go south. . Reading your comment made me cry cause seen myself in your words! I hope things have gotten better for you.
i stand for myself and breakup with him ☺️. Its better to lose toxic people than lose myself while loving him. Relationship without trust is nothing. Hope you can make best decision for your own good.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I'm 18 and he just turned 19. Things were going great but ever since we started college (we go to the same one) and I started working, he does nothing but accuse me of cheating with guy friends that I'm not even close to or even my coworkers. I've been calm and trying to approach the situation lovingly but its hard. He has schizophrenia so he gets paranoid easily, especially after his last relationship where she cheated on him with multiple guys. I dont know what to do... I love him but I dont feel happy
I understand. It can absolutely bring you down to be accused of something you're not doing. And it starts arguments and negative emotions in the relationship. He needs to really work on that, and if it's his schizophrenia that's causing paranoia, it's impt for him to get that under control. but it also sounds like the past cheating really impacted him too, which is understandable. But he's the one who needs to put in the work. You can reassure all you want, but the trust needs to come from within him.
Update: I broke it off and am now in a far healthier relationship. He treats me way better. The relationship with my ex only got worse as he began to talk about having vivid thoughts of beating me when he got angry. He had began yelling and cussing at me and in the past has abused me sexually. I'm so glad to be out of it but now I need to deal with the fear I have going into this new relationship
This is close to what I’m going through. She thinks I cheated on her with every girl we knew. She was tripping on drugs but now that we off the drugs she still believes it happened and thinks I did way crazier shit and it sounds crazy and I’m like how can you possibly believe this. Almost three years. What do I do?
I have been accused of cheating and talking to other men for 8 years now. My partner is a covert narc and I have fled three times just since 2019. I’m now completely and wholly financially destitute. I am looking for options to leave but with no money and no car (he totaled the car I bought in august this past October- albeit it wasn’t his fault) I have very little options. If I defend myself, I’m told that I’m angry bc I got caught. I use my phone to watch UA-cam when I’m not working. He looked over my shoulder last week and said I had a bunch of men on it it’s absolutely insane. I pray I can change this sooner than later bc it is a living hell. Oh- and he does shady stuff all of the time so it’s even more sickening that he accuses me of doing that which I believe he is.
My husband accused me of talking to another man and he refused to hear what i have to say and he just say do not ever talk to me again i am not gonna believe you no matter what and he said that he is done he broke up with me. So i send him a strong proof and i started implementing no contact immediately . Am in 23 days nc and i feel that he wanna talk but he can't do it. Let him feeeeel my absence
I have had this problem for three years. Most of us stay in the same spot because we see another part of our partner that we know is the real them. Let's not lie about his, we love them point blank period. My partner and I have been through it all. I stick with him because there are times where he understands he is wrong for putting me through such accusation. I could sit here and write all day long and perhaps people who study narcissism may see some narcissism actions in my situation. Point is, I already have it down, I've studied psychology, and child development and I have managed to learn why peoples mind work like that. The answer is Mental Health!! Some families completely ignore mental health or don't believe in it, yet those families are the ones with insane problems. People learn from their families and sometimes that strand is knocked off by someone who knocks some sense into them. My boyfriends uncle is the sane toxic way with his ex wife. (whom my boyfriend got mad at me because I talked to her). I learned a lot form her and she let me know that she saw me and my boyfriend in her and her ex-husband ( boyfriends uncle ). But his whole family ( hispanic ), are very "machistas" and that strand comes from alllll the way form their dad who would beat their grandma and tell her she couldn't wear certain things or makeup. My boyfriends family would accuse his uncles wife of being a h*e. My boyfriends mother accused me of being a h*e and that got into my boyfriends head and caused him to keep thinking of me that way. But I am so blessed to have that power where I can use my words to speak out and not let myself form any guy who thinks they can do whatever they can to their woman. I knocked some sense into him ( in a good way ) and things have been a little better. Like I said I would explain a lot fo things but there's so much behind a toxic person and a person who has family that thinks that they are such an angel.
someone sent my gf a ss of me apparently cheating on her and messaging another girl, but it wasn’t actually me, i never sent those messages but now im single and my entire circle has labelled me a cheater. i did nothing.
I need this this has been my life for the last 3 years... I've never even spoken to another man. I keep all of my texts on the phone. Stop talking to my best friend who is a guy. And I am a "liar and cheater" he makes s*** up. This all started because I found some very disgusting texts from him to another woman on his phone. I am so depressed I've had a great job for 20 years and about to lose it because of this guy.. I love him but I can't do this. It's living a constant nightmare
My gf cheated on me before Christmas so I left spent 4 months apart we’re she was rude distant and mocking me she was doing her own thing and I never cared I was hurt but built myself up , and went on dating - sites and was with a few women , I got a call from the hospital that something happened so I went just out of love i was over her and my life was great , after I picked her up we talked and got back together and things are going down hill she constantly accuses me of cheating and I would never and starts big arguments about it and is so rude , hurts my feelings , she put a program on my phone to connect to the laptop at her place to watch my every step , she went through my emails and started accusing me from date sights from when we were not together, and tried saying we were together the hole time and is treating me like garbage for nothing I did , kinda sad , lost about this :(
My wife has been accusing me for 10 yrs that I am cheating with neighbor. Fights every week. I never spoke to her ever. Don't know her name. Help. Never gave her reason to suspect.
My husband has been accusing me of cheating for 15 of the 23 years we have been married, and sometimes I wish we never got married and now he is talking about divorce and I didn’t cheat on him and it is sad because the kids will have to suffer I don’t know what to do
Trust that gut feeling. I accused her of cheating when she started being home late from work. My gut told me something was going on with her. She finally confessed after lying to me for a year.
I have been accused of cheating by my long distance partner. It really cut deep. I just blocked him because I couldn't take it anymore. He kept accusing me of cheating and the 3rd time, I just had to distance myself 😢I didn't want it to be like this
I really loved her. Her ex cheated with her on his wife without telling her and I’ve been paying for that during the whole relationship. Hurts af that it feels without solution, yesterday we had our biggest fight yet. I already tried all nice options. She is gone now and told me she will sleep with someone tomorrow to get back to me. I really loved her and we had beautiful moments together but it’s f’d now
Mine was always causing me of cheating even if I just went for a neighborhood walk. Only reason I can figure he’d do that is because he’s cheating…and I’m sick of thinking of ways to prove that. Horrible base for a relationship
I never cheated ever ..I don't know what to do ..I've tried to talk and plea ..I've tried to show him even when he said people were hiding people for me ..I tried to even have them explain..I lost someone I truly love ..
My partner thinks I cheated because I saw my ex at a party and won't listen to any logic or reason, he has no reason to believe I did anything of that type but he is adamamt that I cheated on him even though I avoided my ex on purpose all night.
Yes because what he accuses me of seems crazy to me but not him he thinks every time we're on face time I have a guy sitting next to me or he thinks he runs out the door any little sound or every little move I make he has it in his head I have a man in my room with me and our baby that's being quiet when I talk to him all hours of the night because it seems normal to him it makes me wonder if he's doing that to me
I have a long distance relationship with my bf and he thinks I'm talking to another guy and im not all because I sent him a text with someoneelse's name on it a love gif image..I've tried to talk to him and he hangs up on me..I love you him so much..I was married 20 years so very loyal and caring..he's stepped back some does that mean he's done with me
I'm going through this right I'm working my ass off out of town Worse off they moved out I don't know what I'm going home to I'm so pissed hurt a ton of emotions Also it's 1 scenario after another the neighbors,the guy down the road,my ex , it's relentless And for whatever reason he thinks I put a tracker on his phone WTF 😡 I know his ex cheated so he claims I'm not his past or her 🤬
So right now im dating a supposed matured guy he's 29 and im 21 years old. We've been together for almost 2 years and for those time i haven't or did not do anything unfaithful like srsly but during those time until now he kept accusing me like some delusional boy im so tired of it i don't even talk to other guys except my relatives and after school all i do is watch movie / anime and games thats it and yet im still suspicious like bruh its totally bullshit right now im at the peak of breaking up with this fucking kiddo
bro my girl and i have been dating fir 2 years and idk why but shes been bringing up " who's texting you" i noticed this behavior change for about a month... thanks for the video !!!
exactly what am I going through. my partner's ex was cheated on him that's why he have trust issue. he constanly accusing me for cheating if I didn't pick up the phone fast, in the end we broke up because of silly thing. just because I followed back a guy!! I didn't do anything to that guy, he know it beecause my instagram is in his phone. I only love my partner. yet he still wants to break up with me because I was "cheating" him. I feel so much emotional abuse from him, I just hope he get well fast and realized what he did 😢
He is accusing me of cheating with a housemate who i have nothing to do with. He even has a gf and stays at her place most of the time but my partner doesn't even believe me he has a gf. Should i speak to my housemate and get him to show my partner photos of his gf or what? It's actually so embarrassing to say this to him but I don't know what else to do 😩
If he regularly accuses you hes prolly covering for himself..if you discover him cheating he can say that you were...then he has a way back in incase it doesn't work with her..
My son didn't call or text his now ex gf for 3 days. He got his fishing license & pole & was off work for a week. He went out fishing. Took pictures & sent to woman he was dating. She accused him of cheating & fucking some other woman. So my son text her & said if u think I'm cheating come over & view pictures I sent u on my phone with time & date stamp. He also told her if u think im cheating ill go take a polygraph test with you present. She felt like shit but he had enough & said I'm done with you. Left her heartbroken & crying her eyes out. He devastated her world. She is miserable & wants him back. He told her hell fucking NO!!!!
My gf accuses me every now and then. Comes up with weird stuff like she turned something off but now its on after she comes home from work. I just laugh it off, but hope its not always going to be like this
My ex was accusing me of cheating n she was , the one cheating I forgave once n , she did it again I have to let her go , she was on Zoloft for depression trust me once a cheater is always a cheater period
A guy who tried to get with me got pissed about me not hooking up with him, he texted my boyfriend and he is not talking to me he told me someone told him something about me and the other guy said that he did it and that he doesn't even care. My boyfriend hasn't talked to me in a week, I am so heartbroken, I've tried to talk to him and he is not responding or replying my texts. We've been together for almost a year now, what can I do?
Even though you did not hook up, I think it's important to think about if there's anything you would have done differently if you could rewind time. This is a reflection of personal responsibility which can be really helpful in terms of being able to communicate with your boyfriend and have him be able to trust you moving forward. I think you just need to wait until he's ready to talk, which he will be ready at some point. And when he is ready, think about what you want to say and see if there is anything you can apologize for and take responsibility for to help him feel more secure moving forward in your relationship.
He's settings up traps like asking me if i had been in the bedroom drawers saying i hadn't and he knows it was opened. Ok maybe i have and didn't remember. So lying and cheating. 2 days ago i discovered him talking on some girl from tinder on his facebook. But obviously I'm the one cheating.
I just want to save my family got with him when I was 18, 10 years together 3 kids one that has beautiful angel wings I don’t understand how we are here 4th April asked my dads permission to marry me 6th of may accused me of cheating and left I’m broken I love that man so much our kids love him and our home is not home anymore without him here I’ve tried everything to prove my innocence I would never hurt him in anyway 💔💔💔
Going through this now, any advice? Is concerning because we’ve only been married for a few months and she wasn’t like this when we dated. But just randomly within these two months she constantly accuses me of doing something or being sneaky.
@@wuture its only going to get worst bro. Im not married but I was with my girlfriend for 3 years and every time we had small conflicts she would accuse me of leaving her, cheating , and living a double life. I worked 2 jobs to provide for her and gave all my free time to her. Yet I was still accused of this and by extension, not appreciated. I broke up with her last week and she doesnt even care😂. I guess she was projecting and maybe she was the one cheating or planning to leave
My husband has been accusing me since sept.2021..He just wants me to leave w/o nothing...I have no one I have nothing...I have worked since we bern today...I believe hes bipolar ir dementia hes 65yr I'm 62. .The last thing I want is a man..dont even want him r.now the things hes done& said. .help!
I've been with my husband for 17rs and he always accused me of cheating with someone that doesn't even exist..I don't know what to do anymore, 😢 help me ..I just want a normal life like I once had ...😢 😭💔
Thank you very much, this video really helps a whole lot, this is what me and my bf fight about and have arguments about. Its hard at times. But this video really helps a whole freakin lot. Thank you a whole lot. :) This video really refers to me nd my bf and really helping me out a real lot. Thanks once again Kristin!
Everything you said is so true i been a 5 year relationship i been accused of cheating for these past 5 years i never looked at another man talked to another man touched another man nothing and its every other day i get accused of cheating or doing something i am not doing i only stick around because i do believe and have faith he will one day stop this none sense and make me happy not accuse me or try to start fights like i go to the hospital this morning wasnt feeling well still not i literally gpt accused of cheating when i was at the hospital for hours evan asked him to get dropped off to me he never showed up or came too top that every time i have my monthly i dont want to be an sexual way at all like for bid i am bleeding and heavy who wants to be sexual when they are bleeding let alone bleeding bad so then he accuses me of cheating like wtf it is the point where tonight i told him its either gonna stop or im leaving because i never done anything for this man to swear up an down im doing stuff i am not doing at all an i am tired of it and i am starting to be unhappy i cant evan go with his mon or my momm or go out with my sister without him thinking im doing something its sickening very sick what can i do i need some advice
Ur story is very similar to mine my ex was accusing me of cheating bcs she was cheating, but she was the one cheating n , I have to let her go , I think he is cheating on u so he is accusing u of cheating, I say just leave him n trust me once a cheater is always a cheater n life to short for head games n drama. Good luck
In the same situation for 3 years being accused from my husband but I never cheat. He doesn't listen, doesn't believe, doesn't trust him, doesn't respect me. He said he has proof and he knew all. He called me a lying whore and all the names calling. I took my kid and moved out the house and we are separated almost a year. I still dont know what to do. Is my marriage over? The more I ignore the more mad and violent he gets. I think he has OCD delusional jealousy disorder. I have been with him almost 20 years. People change! He is like a narcissist type that never do wrong and no remorse. He blames everything on me. Is the divorce only way?
I've learned is when you catch your man cheating and don't leave he will spend a lot of time trying prove that you're cheating on him when you're not. Guilt is a big problem
Going through this now. My wife saw pictures of ladies from bars on my phone. The thing is, it was a snapshot from one of the guys that worked with us and posted it in our group chat. Inviting us to go. I haven’t been to be bar since I met my wife 10yrs ago. Wherever she goes, I go. We’re always together with our kids. I went on a mission with a group and hence the pic that was posted. It saved to my camera roll. Which sucked because I should have deleted it , now she thinks I took the picture even though in the picture it shows it’s clearly a screen shot with someone’s else’s name that posted. Came home three minutes Tha later to later go on another mission. Which something similar happened, but now she says it’s the same person and that I slept with her and she’s pregnant. The pregonare I don’t know because the girl she accused me of sleeping with I only saw her twice. And was placed somewhere else and I switched my shift because my wife wanted me to.
I'm late to learn from these 💡... Seriously I was being accused of cheating , Told her I'm cheating because who cares to be so gentle when they pissed us so much ...i said i have 1000 girls 😆 when i said jokingly even that she believed for that silly joke wtf 👁️👄👁️, i don't understand what went thru her head but you know thats how i ended the relationship with one of the insecurity people.... The thing is why should i waste my time with some kiddo brain dead... 😋
I swear my ex cheated. I have no evidence solid, but her actions showed it. Like now shes still trying to say "I'm only telling you i cheated because you want to hear it, you won't believe a thing I say and idk what else to say" but explain the disappearing and ignoring me? Like she seems narcissistic, but doesn't show all the signs. My soul knows it. But she still says no. I'm so messed up right now
Holy shit. If this doesn’t almost explain my situation perfectly. Ugh. I don’t want any of this to be true. I was told, you’re looking to find ways that to prove that I have apparently cheated. NO- I’m looking to find that this isn’t true-because my heart can’t take it otherwise. I’m also sensing a bit of narcissistic behavior but I don’t want to believe it. 😭 Any update on your situation?
I really don’t even know what to do. This guys that my BF supposedly sleep with went out of his way to let my friend know that they slept together. The guy went into detail with me about it on the phone. My BF admitted to the messages and sending him fake pictures (which he did) but never meeting this guy. The guy says otherwise. My BF even swore on his grandma’s grave, my life, and his moms life. I don’t want this to be true. My heart is in pieces just with the thought of it. And I don’t have hard evidence to prove it.
@@austincross6256 oh i broke up with her happy ass. She became so bad it was easy to let go. But i do still have pain and sometimes miss her but not to a crazy extent it's getting less by the day :)
Can you believe my bf accused me of being in an open relationship just because I used the term open relationship in a conversation. He said how come I know the term open relationship when he has never heard of it!🙄 he accused me of being in open in present or past. Logic is dead
OMG, that's crazy! Can't believe he accused you just because of a term you used. Logic really took a vacation there. Hope you were able to sort things out and make him understand. Keep me updated!
He understands everything he says. he knows his failed logic. that's just his way of getting a confession(that only exists in his assumptions) from me that I am cheating on him. @@KristinCoaching he as always says later that it was his mistake but doesn't intent to give up his patterns, because acc. to him negative assumptions serve him by preparing him for the worst. i am helpless
She said she saw me kissing someone, I rarely go out unless we’re together, she told all of her friends so, they turned on me too. She broke up with me, she was the sweetest thing, and I don’t think she would do something like this on purpose.
I can't help but wander if I'm the only guy who gets accused constantly, I mean the most recent accusations are my lesbian co worker and my female Dr because I had an appointment!
Accusations started in March I been calm thought he's joking when he accused me of sleeping with his friend. I don't talk to his friend who is also his business partner according to my husband his friend went out to a bnb to get some 😺when he came back he asked him if got it and the friend said no but he had love bites that made my husband suspicious I don't know what signs he saw from me that says I did the did with this friend. The strange thing is he is mad at me when I'm asking him to call this guy and ask him in my presence he gets furious 😒. Now he started again calling me out that he will never forget that I slept with his friend i was like really we doing this again, you know what I'm not even mad anymore I'm not arguing about something I didn't do nope.
I have been accused for almost 3 years now. He can’t see any bruises of any size on my legs because that to him is having hard sex with someone. He checks my legs every chance he gets and I feel heart broken because I love him. Last time he accused me he got violent and bruised my wrists. He does a lot more things to keep accusing me. He also asks me if I’m not being threatened by a guy to have sex with him. He tells me to let him know if that ever happens. And on some occasions when we spend the whole weekend together he still accuses me and when I tell ask him how if we were together the whole day he will say that he was probably hypnotized or that I probably snuck out in the middle of the night. I have never cheated on him and I never will. But honestly his actions are killing my love for him. I don’t know how to help him and I don’t know how much longer I can take it 😢
This is abuse. Leave. NOW. It will escalate into much worse. LEAVE. It's not your job to help him, honey. It's your job to help YOU. This is a sick, abusive man. LEAVE.
Me ex and broke up last month of 5yrs. He went through my phone and saw this.I did talk to a few men I regret doing it. I did say a text to a guy saying ill rub your back but I never met any of them. this. Blocked my number and texts so I don't know what to do
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I am going through this too we have two kids and in front of them he will call me a liar cheater I never cheat on him I try my very best to keep my family together he never lied he don't cheat everything I am doing I call him God because I have stood by him but now my kids or hearing him accuseng me
That sounds like a completely unhealthy behavior that really needs to stop immediately. Your children should not be exposed to comments like that...that needs to be between you and him. And figuring out where the trust broke for him, and why, and coming up with strategies together to fix it. It sounds pretty intense at this point, and I wonder if finding a local therapist in your area might be a strong start in terms of finding a solution as it sounds like there are lots of layers to sift through.
Please I need help asap😢 my partner thinks I have been cheating on him😢 its a battle everyday ..he thinks I don't need self time so when I had a job or when I went to parks to have a moment to myself that in that he thought I was meeting up with men..we are at a stale mate and I've done everything you have suggested can I get a personal text or call ..I evolved my entire life around him even have a child with him to show more dedication
Hello I need some help. My girlfriend accused me of cheating long story short I did a screen recording and I went on my facebook search bar cuz I told her am going to add her little bro and sis as i told my mum and sister about her and she was so happy we always talk in tex but we had call just a few times but she does not really speaks cuz she's shy but I gave her time and also her bro and sis knows me. But even that she did not like it so I did a screenrecording to show her that I did not add them that I cancelled the friend request and there was 2 differnt girls names there but they got the same first name but both are not the same person. Which i have no idea who that were maybe it was before I met her or when scrolling on fb I accidentally went there. IT HAPPENS RIGHT? But I never talk to any other girls expect her or even look to other girls. I put my life on the line for what am saying. So then after that she went so crazyyy on me cursing at me even told me she would had kill me if she could but long story short I talk to her clam and i explain everything and it was a mistakes and maybe it was before I met her and at the time when I met her I did not clear my search bar. I unfollowed every single girl had followed me on Instagram and Facebook I even block my best friend which was a girl we got into a big fight after she knows about her. Long story short i messed up things so bad when trying to tell her that it was cuz I was searching for her sister which myself was so confused cuz I literally have no idea when I went to that profile and I keep telling her it was a mistakes or it was before I met you and I I not clear mu search bar but it becomes to the point where she think am fooling her and am cheating on her WHICH AM NOT. But even with all the evidence I provided for her and telling her sorry even tho I did not do anything she won't listen to me and she litterly cut me off guard like it was nothing. I always made her smile everyday talk to her goodmoring tex goodnight tex and also Make videos just for her even with all I did. She removed everything on her profile about me and she unfollowed me like it was all for nothing she won't consider my perfective when i understand hers. I cry too much that I ran out of tears and my heart is in so muchhh painnn A little words from someone please because am so lost at the moment.
Never cheated but was accused !! very hurtful and it has left deep scars
I think being accused of cheating is worse than actually cheating because the trust and respect has gone.
same happened to me
Same for me. Going through it now. He already had trust issues and his ex gf told him I was cheating on him. Her proof “she’s a girl & she knows” after that he saw signs everywhere. Like looks I was giving a neighbor to get attention & show interest, I wasn’t! I proved many things she said were lies & she had not 1 shred of evidence that I cheated even though she claimed I sent a neighbor text, pictures & videos that she saw. They don’t exist! The only text I had between me and the neighbor was about our kids. They played together. The only other conversation we had was him
Telling me my bf was cheating with his ex. So I don’t know what’s going on! I don’t think he was cheating with this girl I think she set out to destroy our relationship because of jealousy. It worked. It’s been 6 months since she accused me and we can’t get past it!
@@TiffanysBunnyGang so sorry to hear you are going through this. My advice to you would be to leave. I tried for 2 months after I was accused of cheating and honestly nothing changed. He kept trying to find “information” or assumptions just to fit his narrative. Whether it was something I posted or Instagram or a male friend liking a pic to him thinking I’m meeting up with a guy when I told him I was out with friends. It never changed no matter how much I tried. It got to a point when we were arguing everyday! No matter what i said or did his mind was made up about me and there was nothing else I could do. We just decide to just stay as friends as we did get on better on a friendship level. Also if you have to “prove” to someone you are not cheating it’s not worth it because nothing you say will change their narrative or perception of you. You can’t have a solid relationship without trust and when the trust has gone from on them the spark will start to fade from you.
Happened to me 2 days ago and I've been crying nonstop. Doesnt help that I suffer from depression so couldn't even get out of bed first day was just weeping. 6 years and you still dont trust me because I went to a bar?
I'm devastated and dont think I'll eve love again.
Don't blame yourself for their insecurities especially when you've done nothing wrong.
Exactly. Mine keep accusing me and I had it up to here with his crap after 2 years!!
I just left my wife of 4 years because of this. Remember guys they will not change run never come back. I’ve tried and came back several times. I had enough
LEAVE. NO TRUST = NO RELATIONSHIP.
I've just been accused of cheating and dumped...
Absolutely gutted as I didn't do what I was accused of.
It's tough
I totally feel you. It’s traumatizing. When you even get to a point where you fell like “Is it better I admit to something I haven’t done” ???
After he accused me he called me a slut and said he’s seen proof 😔 I would never even think about cheating I loved him but that wasn’t enough 😭
I'm so sorry to hear that. Sounds like he didn't have proof which is worse that he could say those things without it being factual.
Leave him alone and do not contact him stay calm if you know for sure that you are innocent do not try to prove him wrong by callling and blowing his phone with messeges ...leave him alone and he will know the truth for sure ......
He guilty of something if u ask him the same question does he say why are you avoiding my question even tho you already answered it.
Exactly what I be told
Nova Manina it's never enough unfortunately! I'm in a relationship right now and have been dealing with the same stuff. Disrespectful and at this point I would consider it mental abuse! You can love them unconditionally to the moon and back and if they are that insacure there is nothing you can do about it. Or they are cheating! The only difference is I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Things have just gotten worse! Hopefully I figure this situation out asap. I can't continue on like this anymore. It's exhausting. Unfortunately finding out about the baby makes it worse! Good luck to everyone.
I’m going through that myself. It’s tough because a lot of our problems we’ve had stem from that. I pride myself in my loyalty not only in my relationship but also in my friendships and it’s a kick in the gut when I get accused of BS I never did.
My wife was cheated on by her ex and now I'm the one who's wearing that 🤦♂️ its pretty frustrating that she doesn't trust me and it's a major turn off
I feel you bro
Hey dude I'm here after 7 years saying end it
It really is a turn-off.
You're not alone brother.
suchhhh a turn off! my bf does it constantly due to his exes cheating….it’s insulting and embarrassing
It's very hurtful. I find myself feeling so hurt and angry. I've invested alot of myself and time in to this. I keep feeling like she keeps making herself in to the victim. I can't understand this and im getting extremely frustrated. I'm thinking about ending this relationship. Who wants to be with someone who don't trust you. I'm at home all the time. I barely hang out. I don't stay out late. I don't flirt. It's either insecurity or projection. One or the other.
Both.
How did it go
Thanks for the video. It’s been 2 years of hard core accusing. I’ve never done anything, I’m always home or working. I chatted with a couple female friends on social media not related to anything other than friends. That was it. 2 years constant accusations and they live in other states. Lost the friendships over it. It escalated to more fighting and constant accusations. It never ends. It never stops. It’s been this way for years and has gotten worse. I get the silent treatment when i defend myself. Yes, I’m very strong but as you said, it wears on you and i feel really bad about myself. I’m sick of it and for this reason i don’t want to be around anyone. Kids are young and she has said evil things to me in front of them. There is no talking from her. I’ve done all the research and it’s going to be up to me. Been bad and getting worse. “Funny thing” is she says it’s all my fault. I said it takes 2 and she says it’s all me. She said no one likes me and it’s all me. I believe this is what a relationship is like. Been dealing with this for years. I hear there are good relationships. I can’t believe that.
Wow I’m in the same boat. Never cheated and been married for three years with three small children. Today, I told my husband I have my doctor appt tmrw and he ask me what time, the place, and the doctors name. I get him asking the time but you interrogate me about a doctor appt. I would say if I ever cheated on him, I would also be cheating on my kids and I won’t do that. He was tracking my phone without my knowledge but I found out by looking in his phone one day. When I took a pic of it I showed him an he claimed he wasn’t tracking me he flat out lied. I continue to be disrespected and I don’t even talk much anymore and lost interest in sex and he continues not to see what he does. It’s so much I could say but it’s just way too much. I had a mini stroke on Nov 27th and was taken by the ambulance and guess what he kept saying to me at the hospital? Now it’s another bill to pay, I don’t have all this money to spend on medical bills. Not even worried about my life one bit. When he had back surgery I was there for him and never complained. I believe his behavior has enhanced my depression and the stress that resulted in that stroke. I’m tired and worn down.
I'm in the same situation. My husband has been accusing me of cheating on him and checking out other guys for almost 5 years now when I haven't done anything.
@@j.symone I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I get it. You need to try to take it easy and i know that’s really hard. You can’t change anyone and you did nothing wrong! NOTHING! Remember what i said...you can’t change anyone! It took me years to realize this. I actually cut some friends off because they did things i did not like and treated me like crap. It was hard to let them go but i did. A real friend wouldn’t do that. Someone who cared about you would do bad things. Sure, we all have bad days, but this was more than that. Relationships can be bad because you get trapped and used to the person.
@@amberlenalovescats2160 I understand. I know it’s bad. I know you get to feeling like you can’t look anywhere across a restaurant maybe because he’ll wonder what you’re looking at. THAT is being in prison. Many people deal with this. They’re insecure...it’s not you.
I was truly in love with my ex fiance following my divorce from 22 year marriage and he always accused me of cheating and I never gave him any reason to feel that way. So he cheated on me and immediately told me he did this to get back at me. Complete insanity. I was devastated we were to be married. We went to a therapist and he was diagnosed with abandonment disorder and failed to change so we had to end it.
Thank you so much for this video . I am going through this stage of falsely accused of cheating when I'm not
My BPD GF is obsessed and relentlessly accusing me of cheating. It has destroyed our relationship.
Me too man! All it took was for me to go to the grocery store for 10 minutes and she'd accuse me of going to see another woman.
Yup same here brother. She has full access to my phone and still accuse me of cheating
My husband accuses me constantly, I never cheated. Most of the time it is after he watches some video about women cheating. He cheated in the past and now he constantly accuse me. He has caused me to lose jobs because I worked in a hotel so I had to be having sex in every room with every man, woman, etc. He accuses me of animals if they walk by. His insecurities are out of control.
My husband actually told me that I must be cheating cause he is not. I told him it's okay for two people to be in a relationship and not be cheating.
I'm goin tho same...But I think my husband is bipolar or dementia..but wont get hrlp& of course that's my fault too...
I'm constantly being accused of cheating by my husband. If i say hi to the opposite sex it will be looked at suspiciously. If i have an attitude about the house being dirty im told its because i have a guilty conscious and that something is going on and that I'm hiding. If I am talking to a female family member at night Im up to something and i will get caught. Its driving me nuts and im sick of it. This is the same person who went out to hotels when he was suppose to be working overtime. Or goes out late and doesn't answer the phone because he doesn't feel like it. Smh.
I swear they are the one's doing things they shouldn't be & they assume that we are doing the same.
Your videos deserves much more attention loved them.
Thank you! So happy you enjoy the videos :)
My husband is constantly accusing me it's soo tiring 😫😩I can't stand it any more he even tries to make fake fb accounts to see if I talk with I don't!! I really can't Take it anymore
Dont life is what make it
Ne updates ?
I'm going through this right now. My boyfriend thinks I'm cheating on him. And I'm tired of it, thinking of leaving
Kristin: Thanks for this video. It is difficult to find this topic. Most of them talk about when men cheat. But never about when you are accused. I lived in this situation for many years. When he accused me, I started to cry and scream and started to defend myself. I never cheated on him
(Now I think I was stupid) But something that you have to know, and it is something really impressive. My psychologist told me once, but I did want to believe her. She told me that my ex-husband saw his mother cheating on his father. But I was starting my divorce so I didn´t listen to her. However, now that I have several years divorced, I saw a strong phrase on the internet "When a man accuses his woman of sexual betrayal is because he saw it in his mother" I think this phrase is from Sigmon Freud.
It is hard to believe, but it is true
This is so true and this is why I’m suffering
My husband's mom cheated (dad did too but he only blames his mom). He has always thought I was cheating. 9 years of hell for me, because of something his mom did almost 40 years ago.
Yep, this is exactly why my husband has this fear that I'm going to cheat on him as well. It has been 28 years together but every now and then, this rears its ugly head. Makes me want to punch his mother square in the mouth for what she has done to her son. She was a serial cheater, married multiple times, currently in a nursing home and STILL bragging to her son that she's dating a married man. Disgusting. I haven't cheated and wouldn't cheat. I think a person either has it in them to do it or not. I don't and don't appreciate dealing with the fallout of her disgusting behavior.
I’m in a tough spot right now. The father of my children has accused me multiple times of cheating, he once’s accused me of stealing money from him because I was living a double life. We got in argument where I blew up finally I blew up and told him to get mental help because he’s mind is fucked up to constantly be thinking that I’m doing things when I’m not! I told him that his insecurities where not my problem and that I was done trying to make a unreasonable person try to understand. We haven’t talked for a week. I’m soo upset I can’t speak to him, or even look at him for the sake of me not blowing up again. He spoke to me once to tell me he had scheduled a appointment for couple counseling. I’m soo upset and soo ready to walk out. I’m tired of my integrity being questioned and I’m not sure if this can ever be repaired.
You are a tiger! It's always great to keep your self value!
How are things, did you end it? I'd like to talk to you i believe i can help you tremendously
Just one more month to complete 2yrs together and I had to end it. She always accused me of cheating and she always had reasons that made no sense to come up with such accusations. Still going through the misery of ending my relationship but I know it will get better
Hey how are you feeling now? I just ended a relationship that was over 3 years long. She kept asking if I was cheating on her and always doubted where I was if I didn’t answer the phone. Funny thing is that she lied about being home when she was still out and drunk with her friends.
@@pullsupatthepark405 a lot better. I’m sorry to hear that. Not worth to be with someone who doubts your worth. You’re way better than what they see you. Remember that
it will never get better , never.
“It’s better to be healthy and single than to be sick in a relationship.”
@@luxuryqueen42 Very true
I been married 4 years now I'm 24 and my husband is always accusing me of cheating on him, talking to men, looking at them, and trying to seek attention from men I'm always being accused and blamed for the reasons he feels that im doing something wrong he calls me easy and says he knows me. I cheated on him before we had our children as boyfriend and girlfriend when we were just 2 months together
But I've never done anything while we have been married or even after that incident
We fight alot it hurts me that he thinks of me that way and I dont know what to do to make it work with us
Lucero Hernandez hey i just want you to know im going through the same thing. Im 24 yrs old got married at 20. Only diferrences is our relationship is long distance. Trust me you are not alone
Does it make you cry when he accuses you?
@lou davey how about you stop being an insecure trogdolite and learn to trust your significant other. People can do other things besides cheat when they aren't available to talk to you 24/7.
I'm going through the exact same thing and I've never cheated at all or even thought about it. He's always accusing me of checking out other guys and trying to get attention from guys even though I literally do NOTHING to try and get attention.
I have this same problem, I think it hurts me more that he thinks I’m capable of doing the things my husband says I do.., they are terrible awful things… I’m mentally emotionally exhausted… how long does one deal with this before throwing in the towel? We have 2 young children and I’m in nursing school… AND working! He’s not working! He didn’t have a car… I think it’s a loss of power… he’s even showing signs of
Schizoaffective disorder and believes he sees things in my clothes & hears things… it’s near impossible to deal with
Wife was cheated on before me and it’s destroyed us too now. It. Is. Abuse.
this is hard situation and i am experiencing this kind of relationship right now😢 . He always accuse me of talking to other guy , even using messenger to talk to my family i need to screen capture and send to him everytime he see me online. I cannot keep calm ,and i need to defend myself and i am freaking exhausted need to explain myself everytime😭😭
I am crying reading your comment right now I experienced this yesterday, it's been going on for years and it's so hurtful and exhausting. I cant stay calm I get emotional because no matter what I say or do he thinks otherwise. I love him so much we have known each other since we were kids I believe he wants to push me away so his thoughts will be right no matter what I do, he says I don't take them blame for my actions Its always him, I don't understand because I don't accuse him at all I don't ask for messages or voicemails he asked me while I was at work to go on my messenger and share my screen I did but I couldn't connect my Bluetooth so he hung up guys hit me and I don't respond at all, and of course I have male friends but they know the deal, it has made them feel uncomfortable to talk to me or be around me because he is so insecure. I don't know what to do because we have been on track for a while. But it only takes a moment for it to all go south. . Reading your comment made me cry cause seen myself in your words! I hope things have gotten better for you.
i stand for myself and breakup with him ☺️. Its better to lose toxic people than lose myself while loving him. Relationship without trust is nothing. Hope you can make best decision for your own good.
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I'm 18 and he just turned 19. Things were going great but ever since we started college (we go to the same one) and I started working, he does nothing but accuse me of cheating with guy friends that I'm not even close to or even my coworkers. I've been calm and trying to approach the situation lovingly but its hard. He has schizophrenia so he gets paranoid easily, especially after his last relationship where she cheated on him with multiple guys. I dont know what to do... I love him but I dont feel happy
I understand. It can absolutely bring you down to be accused of something you're not doing. And it starts arguments and negative emotions in the relationship. He needs to really work on that, and if it's his schizophrenia that's causing paranoia, it's impt for him to get that under control. but it also sounds like the past cheating really impacted him too, which is understandable. But he's the one who needs to put in the work. You can reassure all you want, but the trust needs to come from within him.
Update: I broke it off and am now in a far healthier relationship. He treats me way better. The relationship with my ex only got worse as he began to talk about having vivid thoughts of beating me when he got angry. He had began yelling and cussing at me and in the past has abused me sexually.
I'm so glad to be out of it but now I need to deal with the fear I have going into this new relationship
This is close to what I’m going through. She thinks I cheated on her with every girl we knew. She was tripping on drugs but now that we off the drugs she still believes it happened and thinks I did way crazier shit and it sounds crazy and I’m like how can you possibly believe this. Almost three years. What do I do?
I have been accused of cheating and talking to other men for 8 years now. My partner is a covert narc and I have fled three times just since 2019. I’m now completely and wholly financially destitute. I am looking for options to leave but with no money and no car (he totaled the car I bought in august this past October- albeit it wasn’t his fault) I have very little options. If I defend myself, I’m told that I’m angry bc I got caught. I use my phone to watch UA-cam when I’m not working. He looked over my shoulder last week and said I had a bunch of men on it it’s absolutely insane. I pray I can change this sooner than later bc it is a living hell. Oh- and he does shady stuff all of the time so it’s even more sickening that he accuses me of doing that which I believe he is.
After all this I feel like I’m a bad person. I actualy feel guilty of something I haven’t done.
Exactly how I feel 😢
@@emilyn.9457 the feeling comes and go ; but I know we still love eachother,
My husband accused me of talking to another man and he refused to hear what i have to say and he just say do not ever talk to me again i am not gonna believe you no matter what and he said that he is done he broke up with me. So i send him a strong proof and i started implementing no contact immediately . Am in 23 days nc and i feel that he wanna talk but he can't do it. Let him feeeeel my absence
You are a very strong person.
@@KristinCoaching thannkk youuuuuuuuuu
You're very welcome :)
My husband tore up the house looking for a second phone when I do not have another phone.
I have had this problem for three years. Most of us stay in the same spot because we see another part of our partner that we know is the real them. Let's not lie about his, we love them point blank period. My partner and I have been through it all. I stick with him because there are times where he understands he is wrong for putting me through such accusation. I could sit here and write all day long and perhaps people who study narcissism may see some narcissism actions in my situation. Point is, I already have it down, I've studied psychology, and child development and I have managed to learn why peoples mind work like that. The answer is Mental Health!! Some families completely ignore mental health or don't believe in it, yet those families are the ones with insane problems. People learn from their families and sometimes that strand is knocked off by someone who knocks some sense into them. My boyfriends uncle is the sane toxic way with his ex wife. (whom my boyfriend got mad at me because I talked to her). I learned a lot form her and she let me know that she saw me and my boyfriend in her and her ex-husband ( boyfriends uncle ). But his whole family ( hispanic ), are very "machistas" and that strand comes from alllll the way form their dad who would beat their grandma and tell her she couldn't wear certain things or makeup. My boyfriends family would accuse his uncles wife of being a h*e. My boyfriends mother accused me of being a h*e and that got into my boyfriends head and caused him to keep thinking of me that way. But I am so blessed to have that power where I can use my words to speak out and not let myself form any guy who thinks they can do whatever they can to their woman. I knocked some sense into him ( in a good way ) and things have been a little better. Like I said I would explain a lot fo things but there's so much behind a toxic person and a person who has family that thinks that they are such an angel.
someone sent my gf a ss of me apparently cheating on her and messaging another girl, but it wasn’t actually me, i never sent those messages but now im single and my entire circle has labelled me a cheater. i did nothing.
I need this this has been my life for the last 3 years... I've never even spoken to another man. I keep all of my texts on the phone. Stop talking to my best friend who is a guy. And I am a "liar and cheater" he makes s*** up. This all started because I found some very disgusting texts from him to another woman on his phone. I am so depressed I've had a great job for 20 years and about to lose it because of this guy.. I love him but I can't do this.
It's living a constant nightmare
Daily accusations....turns out hes got 5 other women on standby😂
One of my X-girlfriends constantly accused me of cheating, when I bloody hadn't, and it turned out that SHE was bloody cheating on ME!
That is exactly what happened to me
My gf cheated on me before Christmas so I left spent 4 months apart we’re she was rude distant and mocking me she was doing her own thing and I never cared I was hurt but built myself up , and went on dating - sites and was with a few women , I got a call from the hospital that something happened so I went just out of love i was over her and my life was great , after I picked her up we talked and got back together and things are going down hill she constantly accuses me of cheating and I would never and starts big arguments about it and is so rude , hurts my feelings , she put a program on my phone to connect to the laptop at her place to watch my every step , she went through my emails and started accusing me from date sights from when we were not together, and tried saying we were together the hole time and is treating me like garbage for nothing I did , kinda sad , lost about this :(
Life taught you to toughen up! We all learn it, some sooner than others
My husband accused me of cheating when all I did was poop HAHAH
Lol
My wife has been accusing me for 10 yrs that I am cheating with neighbor. Fights every week. I never spoke to her ever. Don't know her name. Help. Never gave her reason to suspect.
Sounds like she’s insecure
My husband has been accusing me of cheating for 15 of the 23 years we have been married, and sometimes I wish we never got married and now he is talking about divorce and I didn’t cheat on him and it is sad because the kids will have to suffer I don’t know what to do
Divorce her you don't need to put up with that s**t
Trust that gut feeling. I accused her of cheating when she started being home late from work. My gut told me something was going on with her. She finally confessed after lying to me for a year.
You didn’t mention Narcissism once.
How do i stay calm when someone is telling me im this or that ?
Honestly same like how my supposed to stay calm
The best power to fight with woman is to be come down very relax never put your voice up be polayed .
If you do all of this god will be on your side
Truly devastating, ive remained calm and all i get is anger in return...i have to move on
I have been accused of cheating by my long distance partner. It really cut deep. I just blocked him because I couldn't take it anymore. He kept accusing me of cheating and the 3rd time, I just had to distance myself 😢I didn't want it to be like this
I really loved her. Her ex cheated with her on his wife without telling her and I’ve been paying for that during the whole relationship. Hurts af that it feels without solution, yesterday we had our biggest fight yet. I already tried all nice options. She is gone now and told me she will sleep with someone tomorrow to get back to me. I really loved her and we had beautiful moments together but it’s f’d now
I been going through this for a few months now everyday it's something with my wife
Mine was always causing me of cheating even if I just went for a neighborhood walk.
Only reason I can figure he’d do that is because he’s cheating…and I’m sick of thinking of ways to prove that.
Horrible base for a relationship
I never cheated ever ..I don't know what to do ..I've tried to talk and plea ..I've tried to show him even when he said people were hiding people for me ..I tried to even have them explain..I lost someone I truly love ..
Sad..
My partner thinks I cheated because I saw my ex at a party and won't listen to any logic or reason, he has no reason to believe I did anything of that type but he is adamamt that I cheated on him even though I avoided my ex on purpose all night.
Yes because what he accuses me of seems crazy to me but not him he thinks every time we're on face time I have a guy sitting next to me or he thinks he runs out the door any little sound or every little move I make he has it in his head I have a man in my room with me and our baby that's being quiet when I talk to him all hours of the night because it seems normal to him it makes me wonder if he's doing that to me
I have a long distance relationship with my bf and he thinks I'm talking to another guy and im not all because I sent him a text with someoneelse's name on it a love gif image..I've tried to talk to him and he hangs up on me..I love you him so much..I was married 20 years so very loyal and caring..he's stepped back some does that mean he's done with me
I'm going through this right
I'm working my ass off out of town
Worse off they moved out
I don't know what I'm going home to
I'm so pissed hurt a ton of emotions
Also it's 1 scenario after another the neighbors,the guy down the road,my ex , it's relentless
And for whatever reason he thinks I put a tracker on his phone WTF 😡
I know his ex cheated so he claims
I'm not his past or her 🤬
So right now im dating a supposed matured guy he's 29 and im 21 years old. We've been together for almost 2 years and for those time i haven't or did not do anything unfaithful like srsly but during those time until now he kept accusing me like some delusional boy im so tired of it i don't even talk to other guys except my relatives and after school all i do is watch movie / anime and games thats it and yet im still suspicious like bruh its totally bullshit right now im at the peak of breaking up with this fucking kiddo
But does it mean he just wants you to push him away?
bro my girl and i have been dating fir 2 years and idk why but shes been bringing up " who's texting you" i noticed this behavior change for about a month... thanks for the video !!!
exactly what am I going through. my partner's ex was cheated on him that's why he have trust issue. he constanly accusing me for cheating if I didn't pick up the phone fast, in the end we broke up because of silly thing. just because I followed back a guy!! I didn't do anything to that guy, he know it beecause my instagram is in his phone. I only love my partner. yet he still wants to break up with me because I was "cheating" him. I feel so much emotional abuse from him, I just hope he get well fast and realized what he did 😢
He is accusing me of cheating with a housemate who i have nothing to do with. He even has a gf and stays at her place most of the time but my partner doesn't even believe me he has a gf. Should i speak to my housemate and get him to show my partner photos of his gf or what? It's actually so embarrassing to say this to him but I don't know what else to do 😩
If he regularly accuses you hes prolly covering for himself..if you discover him cheating he can say that you were...then he has a way back in incase it doesn't work with her..
My son didn't call or text his now ex gf for 3 days. He got his fishing license & pole & was off work for a week. He went out fishing. Took pictures & sent to woman he was dating. She accused him of cheating & fucking some other woman. So my son text her & said if u think I'm cheating come over & view pictures I sent u on my phone with time & date stamp. He also told her if u think im cheating ill go take a polygraph test with you present. She felt like shit but he had enough & said I'm done with you. Left her heartbroken & crying her eyes out. He devastated her world. She is miserable & wants him back. He told her hell fucking NO!!!!
My gf accuses me every now and then. Comes up with weird stuff like she turned something off but now its on after she comes home from work. I just laugh it off, but hope its not always going to be like this
Yes I am in Real Estate. Every guy I talk to my boyfriend thinks I am cheating on him.
My ex was accusing me of cheating n she was , the one cheating I forgave once n , she did it again I have to let her go , she was on Zoloft for depression trust me once a cheater is always a cheater period
this hurts fr. i love him so damn much
A guy who tried to get with me got pissed about me not hooking up with him, he texted my boyfriend and he is not talking to me he told me someone told him something about me and the other guy said that he did it and that he doesn't even care. My boyfriend hasn't talked to me in a week, I am so heartbroken, I've tried to talk to him and he is not responding or replying my texts. We've been together for almost a year now, what can I do?
Even though you did not hook up, I think it's important to think about if there's anything you would have done differently if you could rewind time. This is a reflection of personal responsibility which can be really helpful in terms of being able to communicate with your boyfriend and have him be able to trust you moving forward. I think you just need to wait until he's ready to talk, which he will be ready at some point. And when he is ready, think about what you want to say and see if there is anything you can apologize for and take responsibility for to help him feel more secure moving forward in your relationship.
Thank you I didn’t understand but I can move forward now it’s not my problem.
My friend says I’m with his girlfriend but I’m not
He's settings up traps like asking me if i had been in the bedroom drawers saying i hadn't and he knows it was opened. Ok maybe i have and didn't remember. So lying and cheating. 2 days ago i discovered him talking on some girl from tinder on his facebook. But obviously I'm the one cheating.
That's definitely not a good sign he's talking to a girl from Tinder. why is he on tinder?? sounds like a huge relationship violation.
Same my boyfriend always sets traps and says I moved them when I haven't I don't cheat and idk wat to tell him on sum I'm not doin
@@jrjosie472 gaslighting. I know it all too well. And if you say you didn’t do it you’re a liar.
I just want to save my family got with him when I was 18, 10 years together 3 kids one that has beautiful angel wings I don’t understand how we are here 4th April asked my dads permission to marry me 6th of may accused me of cheating and left I’m broken I love that man so much our kids love him and our home is not home anymore without him here I’ve tried everything to prove my innocence I would never hurt him in anyway 💔💔💔
Great advice!
I have this problem right now
me too. I think
My partner was insecure projecting her lies on me questioning me all the time one minute were good then I'm next I'm defending myself
Going through this now, any advice? Is concerning because we’ve only been married for a few months and she wasn’t like this when we dated. But just randomly within these two months she constantly accuses me of doing something or being sneaky.
@@wuture its only going to get worst bro. Im not married but I was with my girlfriend for 3 years and every time we had small conflicts she would accuse me of leaving her, cheating , and living a double life. I worked 2 jobs to provide for her and gave all my free time to her. Yet I was still accused of this and by extension, not appreciated. I broke up with her last week and she doesnt even care😂. I guess she was projecting and maybe she was the one cheating or planning to leave
My husband has been accusing me since sept.2021..He just wants me to leave w/o nothing...I have no one I have nothing...I have worked since we bern today...I believe hes bipolar ir dementia hes 65yr I'm 62. .The last thing I want is a man..dont even want him r.now the things hes done& said. .help!
First I was a cheater, few months later a narcissist!
I've been with my husband for 17rs and he always accused me of cheating with someone that doesn't even exist..I don't know what to do anymore, 😢 help me ..I just want a normal life like I once had ...😢
😭💔
I learnt from past experiences to IMMEDIATELY CUT TIES WITH FALSE ACCUSERS.
Thank you very much, this video really helps a whole lot, this is what me and my bf fight about and have arguments about. Its hard at times. But this video really helps a whole freakin lot. Thank you a whole lot. :) This video really refers to me nd my bf and really helping me out a real lot. Thanks once again Kristin!
Thank you Jessica! I'm so happy to hear that :)
Everything you said is so true i been a 5 year relationship i been accused of cheating for these past 5 years i never looked at another man talked to another man touched another man nothing and its every other day i get accused of cheating or doing something i am not doing i only stick around because i do believe and have faith he will one day stop this none sense and make me happy not accuse me or try to start fights like i go to the hospital this morning wasnt feeling well still not i literally gpt accused of cheating when i was at the hospital for hours evan asked him to get dropped off to me he never showed up or came too top that every time i have my monthly i dont want to be an sexual way at all like for bid i am bleeding and heavy who wants to be sexual when they are bleeding let alone bleeding bad so then he accuses me of cheating like wtf it is the point where tonight i told him its either gonna stop or im leaving because i never done anything for this man to swear up an down im doing stuff i am not doing at all an i am tired of it and i am starting to be unhappy i cant evan go with his mon or my momm or go out with my sister without him thinking im doing something its sickening very sick what can i do i need some advice
Ur story is very similar to mine my ex was accusing me of cheating bcs she was cheating, but she was the one cheating n , I have to let her go , I think he is cheating on u so he is accusing u of cheating, I say just leave him n trust me once a cheater is always a cheater n life to short for head games n drama. Good luck
@@siraj7397 and I did leave and your absolutely right
In the same situation for 3 years being accused from my husband but I never cheat. He doesn't listen, doesn't believe,
doesn't trust him, doesn't respect me. He said he has proof and he knew all. He called me a lying whore and all the names calling. I took my kid and moved out the house and we are separated almost a year. I still dont know what to do. Is my marriage over? The more I ignore the more mad and violent he gets. I think he has OCD delusional jealousy disorder. I have been with him almost 20 years. People change! He is like a narcissist type that never do wrong and no remorse. He blames everything on me. Is the divorce only way?
Pretty much
I've learned is when you catch your man cheating and don't leave he will spend a lot of time trying prove that you're cheating on him when you're not. Guilt is a big problem
Going through this now. My wife saw pictures of ladies from bars on my phone. The thing is, it was a snapshot from one of the guys that worked with us and posted it in our group chat. Inviting us to go. I haven’t been to be bar since I met my wife 10yrs ago. Wherever she goes, I go. We’re always together with our kids. I went on a mission with a group and hence the pic that was posted. It saved to my camera roll. Which sucked because I should have deleted it , now she thinks I took the picture even though in the picture it shows it’s clearly a screen shot with someone’s else’s name that posted. Came home three minutes Tha later to later go on another mission. Which something similar happened, but now she says it’s the same person and that I slept with her and she’s pregnant. The pregonare I don’t know because the girl she accused me of sleeping with I only saw her twice. And was placed somewhere else and I switched my shift because my wife wanted me to.
I'm late to learn from these 💡... Seriously I was being accused of cheating , Told her I'm cheating because who cares to be so gentle when they pissed us so much ...i said i have 1000 girls 😆 when i said jokingly even that she believed for that silly joke wtf 👁️👄👁️, i don't understand what went thru her head but you know thats how i ended the relationship with one of the insecurity people.... The thing is why should i waste my time with some kiddo brain dead... 😋
I swear my ex cheated. I have no evidence solid, but her actions showed it. Like now shes still trying to say "I'm only telling you i cheated because you want to hear it, you won't believe a thing I say and idk what else to say" but explain the disappearing and ignoring me? Like she seems narcissistic, but doesn't show all the signs. My soul knows it. But she still says no. I'm so messed up right now
But she never did things like accuse me of anything
She swears on her deceased mother she didn't but her actions were sketch
Holy shit. If this doesn’t almost explain my situation perfectly. Ugh. I don’t want any of this to be true.
I was told, you’re looking to find ways that to prove that I have apparently cheated. NO- I’m looking to find that this isn’t true-because my heart can’t take it otherwise. I’m also sensing a bit of narcissistic behavior but I don’t want to believe it. 😭
Any update on your situation?
I really don’t even know what to do. This guys that my BF supposedly sleep with went out of his way to let my friend know that they slept together. The guy went into detail with me about it on the phone. My BF admitted to the messages and sending him fake pictures (which he did) but never meeting this guy. The guy says otherwise. My BF even swore on his grandma’s grave, my life, and his moms life. I don’t want this to be true. My heart is in pieces just with the thought of it. And I don’t have hard evidence to prove it.
@@austincross6256 oh i broke up with her happy ass. She became so bad it was easy to let go. But i do still have pain and sometimes miss her but not to a crazy extent it's getting less by the day :)
Almost 6 years with her I'm so confused
Can you believe my bf accused me of being in an open relationship just because I used the term open relationship in a conversation. He said how come I know the term open relationship when he has never heard of it!🙄 he accused me of being in open in present or past. Logic is dead
OMG, that's crazy! Can't believe he accused you just because of a term you used. Logic really took a vacation there. Hope you were able to sort things out and make him understand. Keep me updated!
He understands everything he says. he knows his failed logic. that's just his way of getting a confession(that only exists in his assumptions) from me that I am cheating on him. @@KristinCoaching he as always says later that it was his mistake but doesn't intent to give up his patterns, because acc. to him negative assumptions serve him by preparing him for the worst. i am helpless
Thank you for the help.
Exactly be mature about it and leave 🚪
He left me because he “thinks” I’m cheating. It happened after a few days I forgave him for actually cheating on me…
She said she saw me kissing someone, I rarely go out unless we’re together, she told all of her friends so, they turned on me too. She broke up with me, she was the sweetest thing, and I don’t think she would do something like this on purpose.
An abusive idiot was sweet!? You're sleep walking. Hope you toughened up!
I can't help but wander if I'm the only guy who gets accused constantly, I mean the most recent accusations are my lesbian co worker and my female Dr because I had an appointment!
Came here for solution my wife always accused me of cheating....
accusation leads to cheating
Great, glad I stumbled across this!
This is happening to me on weekly basis now
Very helpful thank you
Just got hit with that today. Yes it is very hurtful.
dont listen to these people , throw them out because it will get a lot worse
Accusations started in March I been calm thought he's joking when he accused me of sleeping with his friend. I don't talk to his friend who is also his business partner according to my husband his friend went out to a bnb to get some 😺when he came back he asked him if got it and the friend said no but he had love bites that made my husband suspicious I don't know what signs he saw from me that says I did the did with this friend. The strange thing is he is mad at me when I'm asking him to call this guy and ask him in my presence he gets furious 😒. Now he started again calling me out that he will never forget that I slept with his friend i was like really we doing this again, you know what I'm not even mad anymore I'm not arguing about something I didn't do nope.
I have been accused for almost 3 years now. He can’t see any bruises of any size on my legs because that to him is having hard sex with someone. He checks my legs every chance he gets and I feel heart broken because I love him. Last time he accused me he got violent and bruised my wrists. He does a lot more things to keep accusing me. He also asks me if I’m not being threatened by a guy to have sex with him. He tells me to let him know if that ever happens. And on some occasions when we spend the whole weekend together he still accuses me and when I tell ask him how if we were together the whole day he will say that he was probably hypnotized or that I probably snuck out in the middle of the night. I have never cheated on him and I never will. But honestly his actions are killing my love for him. I don’t know how to help him and I don’t know how much longer I can take it 😢
This is abuse. Leave. NOW. It will escalate into much worse. LEAVE. It's not your job to help him, honey. It's your job to help YOU. This is a sick, abusive man. LEAVE.
Me ex and broke up last month of 5yrs. He went through my phone and saw this.I did talk to a few men I regret doing it. I did say a text to a guy saying ill rub your back but I never met any of them. this. Blocked my number and texts so I don't know what to do
Hi husband always accuse me of cheating when I never did everyday he has a story
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it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger..
Same
I am going through this too we have two kids and in front of them he will call me a liar cheater I never cheat on him I try my very best to keep my family together he never lied he don't cheat everything I am doing I call him God because I have stood by him but now my kids or hearing him accuseng me
That sounds like a completely unhealthy behavior that really needs to stop immediately. Your children should not be exposed to comments like that...that needs to be between you and him. And figuring out where the trust broke for him, and why, and coming up with strategies together to fix it. It sounds pretty intense at this point, and I wonder if finding a local therapist in your area might be a strong start in terms of finding a solution as it sounds like there are lots of layers to sift through.
@@KristinCoaching that's something that the two of them need to work on. Regaining trust is never easy when one or the other is accused of infidelity.
Please I need help asap😢 my partner thinks I have been cheating on him😢 its a battle everyday ..he thinks I don't need self time so when I had a job or when I went to parks to have a moment to myself that in that he thought I was meeting up with men..we are at a stale mate and I've done everything you have suggested can I get a personal text or call ..I evolved my entire life around him even have a child with him to show more dedication
Hello I need some help.
My girlfriend accused me of cheating long story short I did a screen recording and I went on my facebook search bar cuz I told her am going to add her little bro and sis as i told my mum and sister about her and she was so happy we always talk in tex but we had call just a few times but she does not really speaks cuz she's shy but I gave her time and also her bro and sis knows me. But even that she did not like it so I did a screenrecording to show her that I did not add them that I cancelled the friend request and there was 2 differnt girls names there but they got the same first name but both are not the same person. Which i have no idea who that were maybe it was before I met her or when scrolling on fb I accidentally went there. IT HAPPENS RIGHT? But I never talk to any other girls expect her or even look to other girls. I put my life on the line for what am saying.
So then after that she went so crazyyy on me cursing at me even told me she would had kill me if she could but long story short I talk to her clam and i explain everything and it was a mistakes and maybe it was before I met her and at the time when I met her I did not clear my search bar. I unfollowed every single girl had followed me on Instagram and Facebook I even block my best friend which was a girl we got into a big fight after she knows about her.
Long story short i messed up things so bad when trying to tell her that it was cuz I was searching for her sister which myself was so confused cuz I literally have no idea when I went to that profile and I keep telling her it was a mistakes or it was before I met you and I I not clear mu search bar but it becomes to the point where she think am fooling her and am cheating on her WHICH AM NOT.
But even with all the evidence I provided for her and telling her sorry even tho I did not do anything she won't listen to me and she litterly cut me off guard like it was nothing. I always made her smile everyday talk to her goodmoring tex goodnight tex and also Make videos just for her even with all I did.
She removed everything on her profile about me and she unfollowed me like it was all for nothing she won't consider my perfective when i understand hers.
I cry too much that I ran out of tears and my heart is in so muchhh painnn
A little words from someone please because am so lost at the moment.
I missed his calls and he said I'm a slut i was with a man and wants nothing to do with me. He blocked me. I've never cheated.