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- Опубліковано 7 сер 2024
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↠ If you made it all the way to the bottom of this description comment 'TOASTED BAGELS' on this video!!
not trying to judge or be rude or anything, getting sponsors is important and wishing you always the best, but unfortunately better help has been getting pretty bad lately. (there's always been problems sorry) but lately especially they've been shown to be hiring people with no qualifications to be a therapist, to the point they're being sued as they're actively harmful/dangerous to some patients, especially minorities. I can break down a collection of the different problems but I just need to put out there that it's unfortunately not a safe therapy option
came to comment this
Yeah it sucks cause I know it helps creators get a steady stream of income but I really hope people stop accepting sponsorships from them
Commenting to boost, but also to add that since @Alayna herself is interested in a career involving psychology and therapy, this type of sponsorship should perhaps be carefully reconsidered and removed because she's associating her own youtube name and creative videos with them (better help) as sponsors, which can backfire for herself in the future
dunno about their hiring practices but boosting this as ive been hearing a bunch of issues with them especially with major privacy concerns. i know that it's hard to get sponsors on lgbt+ content but it's to the point where i have to wonder about the vetting/credibility of other sponsors
Coming in to comment this, so here's my boost.
To the person who was 27 and never been kissed, I had my first kiss when I was 39 (same age that I also had my gay awakening). Life goes how it goes, and we don't always have control over that. I understand the anxiety of getting into a relationship at that age and experiencing that for the first time. The right person will find that endearing and want to walk with you through that process. Don't kick yourself because you don't fall into society's norms. That's society's problem, not yours.
SAME!
i am also 27 and have not kissed anyone either! we are out here!
Almost 32 and never been kissed
I'm turning 27 at the end of the month, and I've kissed people (mostly during sleepover games of truth or dare and spin the bottle), but I've never felt a spark when kissing someone, because it never really felt real. I've never dated anyone and I also feel really behind and often ashamed. I'm not very good at putting myself out there and I don't have a good relationship with my body and often feel doubt that anyone could be attracted to me. It's something I'm trying to work on in therapy.
It is nice to hear that there are other people out there who lack experience at my age or older though. Like it's not too late to start dating once I repair my relationship with myself.
im a 29 year old lesbian and never kissed or dated anyone either, this is honestly so nice to see all the other people with some similar experiences
"Easy clean up" as a pro argument for having x with men sounds so saphic, I can't even..
Reminds me of a woman who came out to her mum, and the only thing the mum could come up with as an argument for dating a man rather than a woman was: "What if you have a jar you can't open?". 😂
as a straight guy only thing i can figure she means if a woman is on her period? cause y'all are so much cleaner than us dudes.
two men having sex is messy
Then there's the whole pregnancy thing....
@@docxenI think the difference is that (this comments gonna be a little gross lmao) for people with penises, there's only liquid involved at one point whereas with a vagina it starts wet and only gets more wet from there so there's generally a lot more liquid to clean up (and the anatomy is also easier to just wipe off)
Loving reminder: you dont have to come out to anyone if you dont feel safe to do so. It doesnt change who you are to not come out for safety reasons 💜
Anyone who's going to treat you badly for it means there's a good chance you're damned if you do, damned if you don't (often "its your responsibility to tell your partner" if you don't and outed by someone else/they find out, and "why are you making your whole life about this" if you do want to talk about it). I always advocate for being safe first too, but its going to have some level of risk to it. There are usually surprises in who IS supportive and who ISN'T, besides the "it gets better" improvement to personal mental health and not having to filter words and actions so carefully.
alayna sounds like she's trying not to pick between baygel and bahgel so she's going for a safe in between beaehheyyaagel
I read the bagel thing as what's for breakfast the morning after!
My boyfriend is 39 and I am his first relationship. I don't care that he is inexperienced - it's kind of fun to get that "new" feeling back through him vicariously. And fun to teach him what feels good to me and to laugh when things don't go smoothly. I understand feeling like you are 'behind' but it's really not a big deal. Like Alayna said, there are tons of people that would be THRILLED to be your first kiss and first other things.
FACTS. Man I would love an inexperienced lesbian right now. That is exactly what I need. I'm tired of flipping straight girls. They find their confidence and then they leave.
How sweet!
“It might be the gayest thing I’ve ever done **3 seconds later** it’s not.” 😂💀 (9:31)
That was the best part of the video xD
Hair in a bun and a blazer okay therapist Alayna we see you
Alayna saying "ur attracted to women, check, thats the only requirement, u can be bi if u want to" felt a lil too validating 0-0
sincerely -not knowing if I'm straight or not for the last 3 years, and found Kida from Atlantis and Shego from Kim Possible to be extremely attractive at the ripe age of 12 c:
Kida from Atlantis is a bisexual awakening for everyone I swear
If it helps at all, I'm a straight woman and I've never had any sexual attraction to women so if you're telling yourself that "everyone has attractions like that but it doesn't mean I'm bi"...just add the data point that not everyone does have those attractions.
The ✨lesbian dating experience ✨ hit hard at the end. My partner and I met on tinder, where she also said she wasn't looking for anything serious, and while our first date wasn't six weeks, it was still a solid 4 days together (would have been longer but we were already set up for long distance, as we lived two hours apart and I had to get to work the Monday morning). She also had this crazy dizzy spell that ended with her literally falling in my arms for me, so... and after that, I HAD to come back and make sure she was okay. So, every weekend after that, I'd finish work at 7 pm and make the drive so we could get as much time together. And maybe 6 weeks later she moved in with me 💁🏻♀️
Fast forward over a year later, we're engaged and still joke about our first date weekend; and now can barely go a work day without seeing each other💝
This is so cute, I can't ❤
As a 65 yr old cis gay man i would like to mention to any other LGBTQ latecomers that this year after being a subscriber and Alayna Joy listener i have not experienced ANY REM dreams soaked in shame, self-hatred or condemnation. All happy gay dreams from now on!
as a 24 year old lesbian who sometimes feels ashamed of my lack of romantic experience, it always made me feel like something was wrong with me for not having had hit those milestones so thank you Alayna for your words of comfort ❤
“I continuously fall in love with straight married mums” “and you’re not wrong for it and look can we just say it mums are hot mums are hot and that’s okay! Mums are hot and that’s a hill I will die on.” so true Alayna!! 😅😂 (13:21)
I moved to a new place at the start of this year, where I can be gay out loud and in peace, and I'm so grateful I don't have to watch these videos with earbuds in ❤
Happy for you❤
To the person that is 27 and never been kissed, I didn’t have my first kiss until 26 years old. It was with a random girl in a bar (I was WASTED) and then a month later, I met my wife, and she was my second kiss. I have never kissed anyone else besides those two people. I completely resonate with that feeling of shame. But just like Alayna said, it is not shameful. Prior to kissing someone, it helped me to think of it as just any other characteristic about myself. My eyes are blue, I love painting, and I’ve never kissed someone. Eh, big deal! There are way more interesting things about myself than the fact I haven’t kissed someone! Try to not be afraid to put yourself out there, talk to people, tell someone you think they’re cute when you’re drunk in a bar (okay maybe that’s not the best advice but you get the idea). Sending you lots of love and just know you are worthy of all the kisses and love life has to give!
@ville__being straight is a choice
That last one was hilarious!
Mostly because my wife and I went on a date expressly because neither of us was looking to date (much less start a relationship), but we had a social thing, and a date was "required" and we assumed it was safe.
Yeah ... we caught feelings, and that was 21 years ago 😅
Better Help was found guilty of selling their patients' medical data to third parties like Facebook, why is Alayna promoting this harmful dangerous company to her vulnerable queer audience? Does she even care about us or is the money Better than Help!?
aye agreed, i believe she's simply unaware of these issues, I know from experience getting a paid sponsor is very important to make ends meet so its def not from a place of malice.
@@jamwrightiam I fooking hope you're right...
@ville__Not when you're gay.
There is one point about UA-camrs that keeps being forgotten - the fact that they post every week, doesn't mean they record these videos every week. For the most part they pre-record even months in advance. I truly believe that at this point Alayna is aware of everything & won't keep supporting Better Help. There is no way in hell she's accepting money that's against her values & beliefs. I hope she's gonna post a video explaining all this at some point. We all really need the candid clarity about this shitshow
I was 28 too! Now 33, separated from my husband with a gf. It's WILD.
9:00 I had never put on someone's makeup or had someone do my makeup until I met my best friend and I kid you not, the first time she did my makeup is when I *knew* I was in love with her. My therapist had said it sounded like I was, I had thought about it, but that intimate experience, that's when I knew. And I would choose her doing my makeup over me every single time, even if I did secretly thing her makeup looks could be a little too much sometimes. The amount of time we spent sitting on her floor with her makeup kits or straddling the bench in my room in front of my makeup station, facing each other... Those times make me miss her so much 😢
Have y'all seen the lesbians doing makeup meme picture?
Okay love the trans editor chime ins! 🏳️⚧️🫡
13:22 Ashley, is that you? 😂
I was 27 when I kissed someone properly for the first time. I thought I was too old too but I'm glad I waited, it was with a woman that I ended up dating for 2 years. I also came out to my parents not long after as we started dating. Honestly you'll be thankful that you waited for the right time. Also I found experience doesn't make someone a good kisser :)
It is in such poor taste to take a sponsorship form better help, especially as someone interested in psychology, I’m genuinely pretty sad
please stop supporting bh. if you weren't aware how harmful they are, it shouldn't take too long to find out why
@ville__ why would you say that?
Heyyyyy the first editor's note is cluuuutch here and a nice addition to the videos! Nice work Alayna and Editor!
Are we still accepting Better Help sponsorships in 2024? After all their issues??
P.S. I love you and your videos, I just have to ask.
9:54 Aww, I feel this. I've never even kissed a girl either, and I'm 31 and have been out for 8 years. I actually was just talking about this with my therapist the other day because I have so much anxiety around dating (mostly abandonment) and this is one of them. So thank you Alayna
I must say I can't get over how cute you say behgɘl.
The thing about the intimacy of makeup applies to other things too. I had my first face-lasering treatment recently, and lying on your back with something covering your eyes while someone is very close to your face felt weird. I mean, laser-treatment is a lot less pleasant than someone applying makeup but there is still a weird intimacy to it. I'm actually glad for the eye covering, as I also never know where to look at a dentist appointment so I tend to close my eyes there as well.
Why all these confessions seems like I could have submitted in different stages of my life
Pretty sure that being a asshole that it's a choice
I'm 37, knew I was a lesbian when I was 12, & have never had sex with, kissed, or been on a date with a woman. I've only had sex with one person (a guy, when I was going thru a bad mental health patch in college, and which only made me more certain that I'm not attracted to men). And I don't think that's a bad thing. Yes, it sucks that I have never had a playable sexual experience despite really wanting to, but I no longer feel sad about it. I've just let it go. It will happen if it happens.
Oh thank God, I thought I was the only baby gay who loved braiding hair and later discovered my queerness and then it made sense why I was so obsessed with girls hair 😂 still to this day braided hair on a woman is a massive turn on for me 🫣
10:00 that "ashamed" of coming out so "late" and never-kissed, suggests this person has been judged, and maybe gone into perfectionism a little, feels like they can't make a mistake or will be shouted at, or can't try new things and it not work out every time without being harshly judged or berated or abused for it; cos everyone starts off new at things, all through their life, and anyone who made her feel like she had to be at a certain level/was judging her for not progressing faster, is the a-hole. Maybe some trauma to deal with there... (if I picked up right).
AHHHH YAY IM SO HYPED
I really appreciate all your advice videos ❤
You are the best! Your videos make me feel so much better while I’m trying to come out. Love you
Couldn’t love this series more!!!!🥰🫶🏻
You look stunning Alayna!
Please do more of these they are so entertaining
That six-week long date....I definitely thought it was going to end with a U-Haul LOL
@ville__ being straight is a choice
10:00 - I honestly didn't realize how much I needed to hear that ❤❤❤ Okay, I'm done crying
You are good with this, Bravo!
The story about the stalking is giving the song Mastermind by Taylor Swift vibes
Great advice and love these videos thank you so much I’m learning more about myself when I listen to you
These are too good!
Loving the editor notes from a trans guy! you’re the best, mysterious editor man!
over 1000 secrets and only 15 min video pffftttt i NEED more please
Someone that gaslights you is not a friend.
I always get scared whenever Alayna does the gay secrets video....I have left many anonymous comments and til now she hasn't read any of it.... But I still get embarrassed, what if she reads it lol
Great video
One thing I will always remember from you, is that it just feels SO different with women compared to my earlier experiences with men.
And I love that.
The begel is crazy
Sometimes thinking back on my life and relationships i can now pick out events that if the one or two things were different that i might have come out sooner and experienced less trauma (either to myself or others) but i dont let it sadden me anymore. We all do the best we can with what we have. I am glad there is way more information available for young people to find to live and love with authenticity.
Saw you at the Hive in the peg, hope you had a good climb at my favourite hometown bouldering gym! nice to see you back round toba welcome home!
Just what I need while I deal with COVID 😂 thank you ❤😊
I hoped my secret would be in it hahah
nice username
I hope these secrets have been relatively tame for you Alayna lol. I used to watch ayydubs do these videos back in the day… and it got… intense!
Take care of yourself Alayna!
Not starting the intro with "HO my goodness" lmao...I see what you did there ;)
Every time you upload these i hope so badly my hot tea secret is in it and it never is…you’re missing out Alayna and so is the world
oh that last one got me... hahaha so relatable :)
Every video Alayna tells us to follow her on Instagram. Every video I say in my head "I too old for that" and consider doing it anyway.
But When Twitter got Musky that ended my last (only?) social media, and I feel that was a good thing. (Honestly trying to remember if I ever actually did any "social media" other than that... and I was not a poster there.)
What a joy!
Only two minutes into the video but I have to say that I loved that editor note
I wanna read more of the trans guy editor! Thank you so much for that note!
Please, PLEASE never work with Betterhelp again. They support Israel and have a lot of other problems.
Here for the gay secrets ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Ok, tbh I'm glad to know I'm Not the only one who discovered/realized for sure to be Not straight after hers 25 years old. 😅
Some of these are too relatable 😅
I assume all the "fell i n love with my straight best friend" posts are covered in the previous videos lol
also moms are absolutely hot can confirm from experience
@ville__ ok. Then I choose to date your mom so what
I have the best BetterHelp therapist ever
We need to start a gofundme to help reunite the yeast infection couple... that's true love right there
Oh my, the stalkers, I've had a few of those, it's not as flattering as some movies make it out to be. + Therapy and - stalking please.
“yeah, that’s what i just said.” 💀😂😂😂
I can relate, I just turned 25 (I feel old yes) and have no experience with either men or women. I've only had one bf, and it was long distance.
02:10 Love the editors note
I just started being a subscriber so idk if i can give a suggestion or not but have you ever thought about doing videos like this with other sexualities/genders? I think it'd be awesome!
13:21 they are me and I am them...idk what to say. The issues, issue too hard 🤭
I'm yer Uncle Taz and I found Alayna's Midwestern Canadian accent peeking through from time to time. Involuntary Smile Reaction engaged...
constructive note: i think the music is a tad too loud 🫠 BUT GREAT VIDEO AS ALWAYS
Tada !😂
If I may be so bold as to suggest a video idea: reacting to lesser known lgbtq movies/stories... this video has that kinda vibe.😅
@ville__ No, staying ignorant is a choice.
Just yesterday I spent about 50 dollars for a shitty therapy session just for you to exist and make all of my insecurities go away in just 20 minutes for free
Doing friends makeup, let me know if I'm doing this hard 😂😂
@ville__being nice is also a choice, seems you’ve forgotten it
Girls tying my hair up really gay awoke me as a teen 😊
1:30 Easy solution: date a trans woman. You can get the feminin touch you desire and (if available) the easy to clean penile sex. (I have yet to encounter a messier vagina than a spurting pene, but that's just me)
You're welcome 🙌
I had a first date that lasted three and a half weeks but it started with my picking her up from the international airport and should have only lasted two and a half weeks if not for missing the flight home and having to stay an extra week, which my flatmates wanted to murder me for.
you should do a Real TED talk!!! :)))))))))
So I’ve watched Alayna’s videos on and off for a few years now without subscribing for whatever reason (have to remedy that) but I just wanted to say that the lesbian experience TM at the end, I’m not even a lesbian and I have done that.
Pretty sure the bagel thing is just "someone had breakfast with me the night after we hooked up, and paid attention to how I prepare my bagels" like. You didn't have to do a walk of shame, and she's showing genuine interest in what you like.
The way I get so excited when you post is probably unhealthy
@ville__ yeah ok sure…
@ville__ being straight is a choice
My wife and I met on bumble. She didn’t want a relationship. She asked me to be her girlfriend in 3 weeks and we got married less than a year later
i'm actually bi, and i've had a very very hard time coming out. I've only told my friends. not my parents or family. my mom and brother sorta know... but again I'm like super nervie of what will happen. the good news is I have this family friend who's been with us since before I was even born, and he's gay and has a fiance. so I'm pretty sure around the homophobic part, my family would never be like that. so that's not what I'm worried about. I'm just a very shy nervous person. so saying, "i'm bi" gets me so nervous. one day when I have the power to do so, I'll properly come out. ;)
You don’t need to label yourself right ;)
@@marjolein5622 well, ik. i just would like one so I can confirm to myself. if not, I'm gonna nag myself until I do LOL !
I just want a big gay wedding too 😂❤
That is indeed the lesbian experience 😂
Toasted bagel
I’m 19 and never had a first kiss. Also ashamed of it considering most people have and I know it’s purely my fault coz I stop myself from experiencing anything. Just today I was sharing an umbrella with this girl and she hooked her arm in mine and leaned into me and guess what I did? I left. Hijjkuyhhjsdklfnjytee
Don’t be ashamed of experiencing life your own way. Be patient with yourself, and when it happens it happens. It’s not a race, nobody is keeping score.
i'm also 19 and i've never kissed anyone, so you're not alone!
Editor with best point of the video?
like, always
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I have feelings for my co worker who is male. But I have had crushes on women too. When my coworker messes with me I get aroused. But yesterday I got aroused by seeing a women’s body. I know my feelings for my male coworker are real and I care about him deeply. But I am currently trying to understand my feelings for women. I’ve heard though in the past though that lesbians have had crushes on men etc before they understand they are gay. That’s the biggest confusing thing for me. Advice? I forgot to say an ex friend. A shirtless of his body and I got aroused.