after so many many videos I've watched, your video is the most understandable and straight to the point like so clear information for me. thank god i found you and thank you for this very helpful video!
My first baby adapted to sleep pretty well, but my second baby, who is now 4 months, has started fighting sleep tooth and nail whether it is nap time or bed time. I think it is a combination of him learning to roll to stomach early, sleep regression and teething. It has been about two weeks of him fighting sleep. It is at a point now where he is not even comforted by me sleeping next to him (my company used to calm him), so I eventually get him out of bed to walk around the house to soothe him, but the moment I put him back down he is back to crying. Even after breastfeeding and pain relief medicine he continues to cry. So CIO (extinction) looks like the only option right now in order for him to sleep at all! He will also usually only sleep for a half hour or so for any nap! He is not getting the sleep he needs. My first baby would sleep much longer stretches.
Hi I’m wondering what do you do when baby wakes up at night during sleep training? Do you let baby cry throughout the night? And only feed when they stop crying? Thanks!
Hi! Ok, so depends on your babies age, if they still need night feedings. If your pediatrician says the baby does not need any more night feedings, then you could slowly wean them off of night feedings. Or cut it out cold turkey and yes, just let them cry. For me, i slowly weaned off the night feedings. The most important thing is to make sure they are falling alseep independently when you put them down for the night. Then if my son woke up around 1am, i would wait 10-15min to see if he would fall back asleep by himself. But later if he woke up at 3/4am i would wait a bit, and then go feed him them back in the crib. Make sure to feed them with the lights off- only change the daiper if its poo or super-duper wet. Dont talk - keep it dark, feed and business like, then back in the crib. If you know the longest time your baby can go without a feeding will help to know if should go to them or let them be. I kept doing this until only the 5/6am feed was left. And then eventually, by 9 months for us we had weaned off all night feedings. I knew for sure when a couple mornings he wasnt even really hungry for 7am feeding upon waking for the day (like he nursed for a few min and wanted to get up and play).. Maybe i will do a video on this? Press like this comment if you'd like to see that vid.
Oh yes. He had some regression.. I think at 9months, and then 11months, etc... Haha. But i just applied the same principle. I'd check the monitor to make sure he was ok and give him a good 15min. Sometimes i gave him longer if i could see he was trying to settle. And sure enough he'd sleep. Each baby and parent is different. I was pretty strict about as long as you're clean, fed and loved you dont need me. Haha. Sounds bad but i had anxiety about going in to "help" and not really being able to help and he'd end up having bad sleep habits, or just waking and crying and me going in and a vicious cycle. I read that during regressions dont start anything you're not planning on continuing. But obviously take into consideration if they are sick, dirty diaper or too cold/hot etc. If you can fix it that's great. If there's nothing to be done, just let them be. That's what i did and he's 23months and a WONDERFUL sleeper- i havent had any issues my peers have been having the past few months. He always goes to bed happily and easily with the right schedule and bedtime routine. Up to you mama! Thay
Hi... So naps i just bounced baby to sleep and then put in the crib. It works for us. I like the cuddle time with him for this and he usually stays alseep then. But bedtime def put him in awake after the bedtime routine and he puts himself to sleep.
He stopped crying because he gave up on your coming, no matter what for or how much he needed you. It's like breaking a horse, starting with its spirit. Read up on what happened to the Romanian orphans who were ignored just like this.
The Romanian orphans were ignored day and night.. none of their attachment needs were met. This is VERY different than having them cry for an hour (or less) before they fall asleep on their own. This baby is very clearly attended to, loved, and cared for.. the exact opposite of the Romanian orphans that developed RAD because of their harsh neglect and attachment disorders.
@@melissah1639 nope. My son is very happy, well loved, loving, thriving boy! He always lets us know when he needs something from us. There are times now when he cries from his crib because something is wrong- we forgot his water bottle, the sound machine turned off, his pajamas were on funny - we can tell its something and listen in by door or the monitor and always go in to fix the problem. He goes right back to sleep once the problem is fixed! Once there was lightning and thunder was so loud it woke him from his nap, he was startled and cried- i went in immediately to hold him and rock him because i knew he needed comfort. Maybe some parents are neglectful and just chuck their kid in the crib unattended to do their own thing. Mine was a careful process of solid routines, watching wake windows, making sure his needs are met, the room is sleep conducive, etc. We didnt break him, he didnt give up. He is now comfortable falling asleep even tho we put him in his crib awake. and he also knows how to cry out when he needs something. I hope ppl dont use this method in an unloving way to ignore their kids cries no matter what. I always look at his monitor from the moment we close the door until he is alseep to make sure he is OK and if he needs something.
This was a very ignorant comment. The Romanian orphans you speak of were ignored for days, weeks, years. No child is going to be “broken” for crying for 45 minutes. Check out Supernanny, she says the same exact thing. And we aren’t talking about newborn babies, we are talking about 9-12 months.
after so many many videos I've watched, your video is the most understandable and straight to the point like so clear information for me. thank god i found you and thank you for this very helpful video!
My first baby adapted to sleep pretty well, but my second baby, who is now 4 months, has started fighting sleep tooth and nail whether it is nap time or bed time. I think it is a combination of him learning to roll to stomach early, sleep regression and teething. It has been about two weeks of him fighting sleep. It is at a point now where he is not even comforted by me sleeping next to him (my company used to calm him), so I eventually get him out of bed to walk around the house to soothe him, but the moment I put him back down he is back to crying. Even after breastfeeding and pain relief medicine he continues to cry. So CIO (extinction) looks like the only option right now in order for him to sleep at all! He will also usually only sleep for a half hour or so for any nap! He is not getting the sleep he needs. My first baby would sleep much longer stretches.
Thank you. Very helpful. I’ll try to train my 13 month old. Who nurses to sleep. Cold turkey.
Do you keep a night light when you did this is the room completely dark ?
Thank you!
Hi I’m wondering what do you do when baby wakes up at night during sleep training? Do you let baby cry throughout the night? And only feed when they stop crying? Thanks!
Hi! Ok, so depends on your babies age, if they still need night feedings. If your pediatrician says the baby does not need any more night feedings, then you could slowly wean them off of night feedings. Or cut it out cold turkey and yes, just let them cry. For me, i slowly weaned off the night feedings. The most important thing is to make sure they are falling alseep independently when you put them down for the night. Then if my son woke up around 1am, i would wait 10-15min to see if he would fall back asleep by himself. But later if he woke up at 3/4am i would wait a bit, and then go feed him them back in the crib. Make sure to feed them with the lights off- only change the daiper if its poo or super-duper wet. Dont talk - keep it dark, feed and business like, then back in the crib. If you know the longest time your baby can go without a feeding will help to know if should go to them or let them be. I kept doing this until only the 5/6am feed was left. And then eventually, by 9 months for us we had weaned off all night feedings. I knew for sure when a couple mornings he wasnt even really hungry for 7am feeding upon waking for the day (like he nursed for a few min and wanted to get up and play).. Maybe i will do a video on this? Press like this comment if you'd like to see that vid.
@@jenl8063 Thank you this was very helpful!
Did he ever have a “burst night” where he regressed for a night?
Oh yes. He had some regression.. I think at 9months, and then 11months, etc... Haha. But i just applied the same principle. I'd check the monitor to make sure he was ok and give him a good 15min. Sometimes i gave him longer if i could see he was trying to settle. And sure enough he'd sleep. Each baby and parent is different. I was pretty strict about as long as you're clean, fed and loved you dont need me. Haha. Sounds bad but i had anxiety about going in to "help" and not really being able to help and he'd end up having bad sleep habits, or just waking and crying and me going in and a vicious cycle. I read that during regressions dont start anything you're not planning on continuing. But obviously take into consideration if they are sick, dirty diaper or too cold/hot etc. If you can fix it that's great. If there's nothing to be done, just let them be. That's what i did and he's 23months and a WONDERFUL sleeper- i havent had any issues my peers have been having the past few months. He always goes to bed happily and easily with the right schedule and bedtime routine. Up to you mama! Thay
Can you tell me what u did for naps ?
Hi... So naps i just bounced baby to sleep and then put in the crib. It works for us. I like the cuddle time with him for this and he usually stays alseep then. But bedtime def put him in awake after the bedtime routine and he puts himself to sleep.
He stopped crying because he gave up on your coming, no matter what for or how much he needed you. It's like breaking a horse, starting with its spirit. Read up on what happened to the Romanian orphans who were ignored just like this.
Does he look like he’s given up, or his spirit is broken?
The Romanian orphans were ignored day and night.. none of their attachment needs were met. This is VERY different than having them cry for an hour (or less) before they fall asleep on their own. This baby is very clearly attended to, loved, and cared for.. the exact opposite of the Romanian orphans that developed RAD because of their harsh neglect and attachment disorders.
@@melissah1639 nope. My son is very happy, well loved, loving, thriving boy! He always lets us know when he needs something from us. There are times now when he cries from his crib because something is wrong- we forgot his water bottle, the sound machine turned off, his pajamas were on funny - we can tell its something and listen in by door or the monitor and always go in to fix the problem. He goes right back to sleep once the problem is fixed! Once there was lightning and thunder was so loud it woke him from his nap, he was startled and cried- i went in immediately to hold him and rock him because i knew he needed comfort. Maybe some parents are neglectful and just chuck their kid in the crib unattended to do their own thing. Mine was a careful process of solid routines, watching wake windows, making sure his needs are met, the room is sleep conducive, etc. We didnt break him, he didnt give up. He is now comfortable falling asleep even tho we put him in his crib awake. and he also knows how to cry out when he needs something. I hope ppl dont use this method in an unloving way to ignore their kids cries no matter what. I always look at his monitor from the moment we close the door until he is alseep to make sure he is OK and if he needs something.
That's why it is called "extinction".. If this would happen in nature, we would go extinct! LOL ;)
This was a very ignorant comment. The Romanian orphans you speak of were ignored for days, weeks, years. No child is going to be “broken” for crying for 45 minutes.
Check out Supernanny, she says the same exact thing. And we aren’t talking about newborn babies, we are talking about 9-12 months.