How to cope with the death of a parent - Psychologist, Michelle Bassam
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- Опубліковано 28 бер 2011
- Counselling Psychologist, Michelle Bassam, offers advice on coping with grief surrounding the loss of one or both parents. She discusses emotional coping strategies, how to find grief and bereavement resources, and deal with anniversaries.
About Michelle Bassam:
Holding an MA in Psychology and Counselling and Diplomas in various therapeutic disciplines, Michelle's expertise spans over 20 years of clinical experience. She addresses issues like anxiety, stress, depression, relationship problems, multicultural issues, and more. Michelle's approach is tailored to individual needs, using Psychodynamic, Psychoanalytic, and CBT strategies. She is also skilled in psychosexual therapy, particularly valuable for clients dealing with relationship and psychosexual issues.
Michelle works independently in at Harley Therapy. She is experienced in online counselling, making her accessible to international clients, and available for telephone, online, Zoom, Facetime, and WhatsApp video calls. She is also available for workshops, talks, media appearances, interviews, and podcasts.
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I lost my mum on 15 June 2023. I cannot describe the emptiness that I feel within. Deepest condolences to everyone here who has lost their parent.
My 80 year old mom died in 2014.
I describe the inner pain I felt as going as deep as my skeleton.
My mom passed from a massive heart attack October 16, 2023 (the same day she was going for a check up with her doctor.). I feel like the best part of me died when she passed. I told my family I'm just a walking zombie because, my heart is forever broken beyond repair. I am truly so sorry for y'alls loss.
@@christieintexas I'm so very, very sorry for the loss of your Mom. Mine passed in March 2016. I felt so much like you did. I was like an eggshell with nothing left inside, so heartbreaking. Prayers for you.
@@christieintexashey same here I lost my dad 15 days ago but I m feeling guilty also dont know why
I lost my mum on 16th November. I’m 55. She was my friend, my sounding board, she was clever and funny beyond words. We nursed her during her lung cancer . The loss of her is too huge , the void is a gaping hole - I miss her more than any words could ever describe and I feel I will NEVER recover .. I can’t believe she has gone , I yearn for her so much.
I lost my mom last week and I find it hard to realize it yet even if I have the urn right in front of me. I suddenly felt the greatest and utter loneliness. My mom raised me as a single parent and I was taking care of her until she passed from cancer. I feel like I lost a piece of myself along with her.
I feel your pain too, I lost my mother recently and I feel a part of me was ripped apart! 😭💔. My mom also raised us as a single mother, and I was very close to her too. She lived with me until she passed away. Is been extremely difficult for me but what's helping me are God's prayers. Taking it day by day and asking Jesus Christ for strength, healing, and resignation soon.
Mine passed away 3 weeks ago. Learning to breathe without her.😢
I lost my mother,i miss her so much
I lost my mother few days ago
I lost my mom
My mom and I were extremely close and it still hurts to not have her. I think I took for granted that she would always be around and that she would get through this time, but she didn't and I'm still in pain over it.
Same here. *hugs*
@@Jules-dn9jlsame here. Hugs
Same here.very close to my mother.felt she would bealways there. Butno.cancer took her away..
@@user-xm1bt6fi5osame here 😞 lost her to cancer
It's common to think our loved ones will always get better. It's like our brains won't process any other way.
I lost my dad 25yrs ago and my mom 5mnths ago. Life has never been the same for me again since my mom demise. I cry at anyplace , anytime at any memory I remember.
I’m so sorry.
Focus on yourself and keep going to the best possible direction.
You know yourself what is best for you!
I lost my father 3 days ago, it's very hard but life goes on and you need to be focused on developing the best version of yourself!
@@FlatMedia sorry for your loss. I’m about to lose my mom. That’s so true, what you said would be any good parents advice to their children.
That’s me too. I just cry all the time.
I'm so so so sorry this happened.. Ive been crying since I was 9 thinking about the day my mom dies , and I don't know what I'm going to do when the times comes.. your comment is the first I felt someone was as close to their mom as I am to mine.. I'm so scared and I think I might die from a broken heart
My mum passed this year at 61 and it was rare and unexpected. I feel completely lost and heartbroken 💔
I lost my mom 3 weeks ago she was 65 I can't get over it I feel so lost and empty
I lost my father on January 14, 2024. The heaviness in my heart is still deep. My father was my best friend, he was my anchor, a rock that kept me sturdy during turbulent times.
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my mother died and was unplugged. She was the bravest and strictest mom. She was probably struggling alot on her own as a mother of 6. I will never forget what she did.❤️
@@Loveior Sincere condolences. May she rest in peace.
Sorry for your loss, I'm also broken, shattered, I lost my mom on 2January 2024😭
Sometimes it's so hard to deal with that kind of stuff. For example my mom died yesterday, and it's just hard. I know that she would want me to be happy for the fact that she's not feeling pain and I am but I'm also so sad that she's gone.
My sympathies to you for your loss. We sometimes say to ourselves or others that at least our loved one is freed from any pain, but this doesn't spare us the deep suffering experienced from their passing. Our good wishes to you at this difficult time skyscat3r
Thank you, Sheri!
i lost my mother in 2003 and now my dad in 2014...
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I'm so sorry, man!
I know it's hard but you have to keep on living (I know it sounds weird) that's the only way (if that make sense) Again I'm so sorry for your loss!
Thank you skyscat3r :'(
My mother passed today. I am filled with joy because she is with God. I am happy for her. She is with HIM. Such is my faith and I thank God for it. God bless you all. I will do her proud.
My dad got saved two days before he died.. I am happy he is with God, but know I will never see him again even in death. I won't be going where he is but sometimes knowing he is there makes me feel better.
I lost my mom from cancer, she raised us as a single parent and I was able to care for her till her death and she died in my arms. It's been such a rollercoaster and marathon and now I'm so nauseous, can't eat, and have migraines. My mind is wonky and when I returned to work I discovered that they just left all the work for me. So overwhelmed.😢
I hope you’re hanging in. She sounds strong, I’m sure that same strength is in you. Use the strength she gave you and give it back to the universe.
Your coworkers are cruel . You just went through a very difficult thing. 😢
I hope you're doing better nowadays. Losing a parent to cancer is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. I'm two and a half years out from losing my mom this way and not a day goes by that I don't miss her. But the intense grief comes less and less often.
Lost my mom to cancer also, I ended up taking care of her in her final days because she didn’t want strangers caring for her. She was only 64 and the cancer caused her so much suffering. I am completely shattered. Love and strength to all of you affected by such heartbreak.
I lost my mom at the start of this year and dad 4 years ago-I can identify with the feelings of all comments here-being an independent person, I thought I could survive with dealing with the grief myself but that was not so. Hearing peoples pain and advice from experience has helped a lot and I'm glad that there is some decent people who make an effort to post videos like this, thank you. The healing process is very different for each individual but luckily we can grow strength and compassion from one another.
I lost my mom 2 years ago today, I was 18. I still miss her very much and it still hurts very much.
I’m so sorry.
Focus on yourself and keep going to the best possible direction.
You know yourself what is best for you!
I lost my father 3 days ago, it's very hard but life goes on and you need to be focused on developing the best version of yourself!
10 years ago?? I lost my mom 2 months ago I'm also 18 , I feel like I should just end my life , how did you dealt with it 🥲
it's been 2 months since my father died. It's really hard to accept the fate that he had and I feel like I didnt do everything for him when he is okay I didn't even use that precious time to talk to him. I wish someone invent the machine even minutes so I can thank him for what sacrifice he do for our poor family.
PS. sorry for my bad english.
I just lost my mom. I have no family, no real friends. No help. Only child, no wife or kids. All alone.
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Praying for you. I pray that your life will change and happiness find you and make you whole.
I lost my Dad 10 days ago, Nov. 3 2023. I was never close to him, but he was a good provider. I didn't think I would mourn his death very much but I find myself very depressed. I lost my Mom March 3, 2016, and it devastated me. We were so close she was like my breath, my heartbeat. It was horrible losing her but by the 3rd year God had done some great healing in me and I didn't hurt as much. I still felt alone, sadness, but I was learning to live without her. It's really odd when you have lost both parents. My prayers go out to those who understand this.
i’m so sorry you have to go though all these things. remember to stay as strong as you can and connected to good people who can help you with the things your parents would have been there to support. you are an absolute fighter. i know exactly how you feel
It's really painful .lost my mother a month ago. . I'm always shedding tears
My dad died 18 yrs ago, and it took me 2 years of grieving. Now my mom is in the hospital at 92, and I am so scared to lose her.😢
It's been a year now since Mom died. I'm doing a bit better but there are days where I get really upset. Her birthday is on the 27th of February and that's still a hard day for me. Christmas and Thanksgiving were HARD because I ended up doing everything she had done and it just felt empty without her.
Make new traditions to honour mom. JOIN other people's dinners and activities, DOORS are always open during the holidays, they are tough times. DONT be afraid to talk.
Thank you for your contribution here. What a difficult loss you've experienced against a complex family background. Yes, we must give gratitude to our friends for their valuable support. May your healing continue...
I lost my father on 14th feb 2024, My father was a very hardworking man and loved by many. He always stood by me no matter what, always made me feel special and gave me whatever I asked for, he was in the icu for 1 month, I could see his health deteriorate day by day, as there was ventilator support through the mouth so he couldn't say anything to me but he wanted to, he knew he was leaving me but we both couldn't help. I miss you papa.
Lost dad on mar 19... he was 91.
My mom died Saturday and I am completely heartbroken I want my mom back so bad I can’t function without her
I miss my dad so much 🙁
I lost my mom at 4:30 am today, im the last of my family
Im 21, cant cook, cant drive, i feel so empty and lost right now
I’m so sorry ❤ my friend just lost her mom. She was 62, no health issues & just passed in her sleep the day before Thanksgiving. I cannot imagine. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Praying for peace & comfort. ❤
@@noelc2 dont know how ill get through this Christmas
Even this day im still in tears, moms last words were "i love you"
Last time and last person to ever say those words to me
You are not alone. I lost my mom on the 27th and I was at work not even knowing she passed away after trying to get out of bed. Im 28 and I can’t drive either, please remember you are not alone. I feel so empty and this is a dark lonely world. Life just moves on and so many people don’t understand this emotional pain and only know the minimum. It’s hard, but we will see our respective mothers again when it’s our time. Until then, let’s be strong and live life to the fullest. Easier said than done given what happened but your mom and mine would want nothing else. *internet hug*
I went to my GP yesterday about my X-ray. My Mom passed away 3 weeks ago. I was surprised how much he talked about how to handle my grief with me. Usually he gives me a 20 min. Appt. He gave me almost an hr. I am so grateful❤
I need that too😭😭I lost mom a month ago and Im failing to cope with it...I really need help
my son was 5 months old when his father died. He's mentally impaired and is still trying to come to deal with it. He's 14 years old but mentally about 8-10 years old. It's difficult to see the struggle when he's never had that bond. He sees it all around him and wonders why he don't have that.
I lost my mother last year when I was 18. My heart goes out to you!! If you need some advice let me know!
Hi I am going to a therapist but I was my mother's caregiver I'm feeling guilty about a lot of things that I wanted to do but didn't get a chance to do I'm on medication but it seems to not help I miss her every day and it's so hard for me so I keep myself isolated and don't eat very very much I still talk with her but I'm lost
@@yttttffrr3684- I’m in the same boat as you.
I lost my mum this morning, find it difficult to cope with. Can't think properly, eat or drink anything.😭😭
I lost my father on 27th January 2024 and life's been a mess since then. Every corner of the house reminds me of him. After his death I realised that he was loved by countless people. I miss him every single day. I wish he's in peace now and healthy and happy. I love you papa❤
Just lost my dad today. Best man in the world
Heartfelt condolences! 🙏
My mom had passed on the floor after trying to get out of bed on December 27th, 2023 and when I got home I just assumed she was taking a nap as the door to her room is always closed. It’s completely normal to feel like if you had known the signs or done something earlier you could’ve saved them but unfortunately life is just so unpredictable. The only thing we can do for them is to live life to the fullest as this is what they would want for us. It is not the end. We will see them again someday, but until then, even though it’s extremely difficult, we have to continue forward- until that day comes.
I will always love you mom 🩵
You're mom was amazing and im so sorry for your lose. I lost my mom 2 days ago to a drug overdose. This is the worst pain ive ever experienced.
My mother died yesterday. I’m heartbroken.
That is a very good video. I'm from New Zealand. I helped The Salvation Army's disaster relief effort after the 2011 earthquake. Very saddening indeed. I helped out 11 months after the disaster occurred. The people who we served along side with were grieving for the destruction of their city. We also served those who had lost loved ones in the earthquake. This affected us all in different ways indeed. Even as I write this message, I am feeling proud that I was able to help in our nation's time of need. Arohanui (lots of love) Jackson.
Lost my mum when I was 1 to suicide, it’s been 22 years I’ll never get over it the feeling of missing someone you don’t know is one of the most painful feelings I have ever experienced and it sits with me always like a burning hole in the heart
This is very different from your story, but I lost my dad at 2 yrs old. No memories, only photos and stories. So in some parts i definitely understand the feeling.. ✨🍀✨
We're glad the video helps a little and we're sorry for the loss of your dad Lacie. Keep strong.
I just lost my mum today…….it’s hard,I can’t survive this.
Our sympathies to you, you are so young to be affected by such a tragic loss. We wish you lots of strength during this painful time.
I lost my mom😢 june 8 2023. I just cry when I see her pictures or videos. I pray so much 🙏 . I know that God has told us not to marvel at there grave because are love ones will hear Gods voice to wake up. We will see them again. But until then I thought about how we will cry 😢 an we all go through this life. Prayers are also powerful. 🙏 i sure miss my mama.❤
Hello I lost my mom on June 8,2023. also. The sadness comes and goes and actually it’s worse now because at first I was just too exhausted. I hope you are feeling a little better and are finding some way to ease your sadness.💚🙏🏾
My mom just went on hospice today and I can't stop crying
I feel so lost about my mother's death. It felt so unreal. Days after she passed away, especially night time, are the worst time to deal with the undeniable fact. My sleep rhytm is ruin, i feel so empty inside.
R.I.P dad i cant believe you're gone it doesn't feel right without you with me its sad
Today my uncle died. I saw him as a parent. He was always there for me. My heart goes out to everyone who has gone through any loss. I dont know how to deal with this, or where to start.
It's only been a couple of days. She was in the hospital for a long time though and was really sick. My dad is still alive, and he and my mom were really close as well, so he's taking it pretty hard too.
And yeah, holidays are gonna be really hard for a little while. My coworkers and other friends and family have been supportive thankfully. My bosses at work are helping me get therapy and services that I need.
I lost my mother 2 days ago to a drug overdose. Me and her had a vacation to Hawaii just days before her death, ive never seen such a happy and energetic person and someone who meant everything to me be gone so quickly....
My mom got cancer and quickly went downhill in the last month of her life. She passed on April 20, 2024, just four days after my birthday and two weeks after our pet cat died. I've got my brother for support, but it's still horribly painful for the both of us.
i am sorry for your loss.
We're very sorry to hear your loss. Yes it is normal to feel a range of strong emotions including the desire to escape or even to not exist. We wish you resilience as you come to terms with your loss.
My mom died almost a year ago. On Halloween I watched her take her last breath. Her death has left a big void inside of me. My son tells me to stop crying over her but I think that’s insensitive of him. I took care of her so I’m taking it worse than anyone else. Am I alone in this?
How are things now? At least you have a son, I have nobody. I’m really interested to see how your doing now because you posted this 2 years ago? Do things get better?
I lost my mom 25 years ago, im 35 now. That day broke me in so many ways, ive never been the same. I got jumped when i was 19 by a group lads with tools and i got beaten within an inch of my life and robbed shortly after going to a cash machine and was taken to hospital unconscious on a stretcher and i got stabbed in my eye and lost my left eye I struggle to find happiness in anything i do ever anymore i feel so broken. Ive been so unlucky, another year, after this event i got hit by a car and my ACL was ruptured and my meniscus was torn. Im in agony every single day both mentally and physically. Ive been close to the edge for so many years, my kids are the only reasons im still here now, they are 5 and 11 yo, i got a boy and girl, they're my angels. Its becoming increasingly difficult in recent years to live day to day and pretend to be happy when im perpetually dying inside on a daily basis. Wish i wasnt so broken, my kids deserve better than a man that is broken. I love my 2 amazing children so much. No matter what happens in the future kids, daddy always loved u!
Both my parents got diagnosed with stage 4 cancer within 6 months in 2020-21 and i lost both of them in 2023-24.
I am strong but there are times when i feel so alone and lost without them.
Thankyou for your speedy reply and kindness harleytherapylondon.
My mom passed 3 weeks ago. Thru the tough times, rough times she always loved me, protected me, worried about me. I always loved my mom. Wish I could have more time with her. I told her right before she passed I’ll see you on the other side !
I’m so terrified of losing my parents, I feel like I won’t survive as I feel so dependent on them, I suffer with depression and lost my younger sister when she was 15. Honestly when she died one of the first thoughts in my head was who will help me look after mum and dad when they are dying. My mum has major health problems and I can’t sleep because of it. I’m lost 😞
Youll be okay man I promise. I lost my mother 2 days ago and its extremely hard. May god bless you
Yes i was out of my emotions the last days. I was angry. I was grumpy. My mother was sadly not so nice to me, but still is it not so easy, i still took care of her for many years. People got mad at me. Everyone expects always that you act always in perfection, no matter if your mother is on the deathbed, and then died, no matter if you are sick or injured, no matter if you struggle financially and nobody helps. But if you say once ass or idiot then you are the worst person ever. And so much in your 10's and 20's that happened.
We're sorry for your sad loss at such an early age. We hope you have good support as you commemorate her passing.
Really sorry to hear that. It is so painful, and I'm sure you are still hurting. Well wishes over the holidays to you and your remaining family.
My dad died 3 years ago and I miss him very much and this helps me so much.
My mom died last week and even right I still can’t believe that she is gone 🥹🤦♂️🕊️
I’m going through the same, it’s sickening, I’ve never felt more alone. I’m so sorry for your loss
I lost my mom on the 10 July 2023 It so hard sometimes my life it never be same again 😭😭
I lost my mum recently and my life has changed forever too. I miss her voice now. Deepest condolences on your loss 🙏
@@shawshank178 Thank u , I really miss her since I face with many challenges in my life no one will pray for me
I lost my momma unexpectedly last night. I am totally fucking devastated. I am trying really hard to be strong for my family, my dad, my kids, my sister, her kids, all of us, but I feel completely shattered. Seeing her like that knowing she was gone from this place. What do I do? How can I find strength without my momma? I want my momma. God
We're so sorry, you are so young. Hope you have a good support base and we wish you strength.
I lost my mom 2 weeks ago unexpectedly and, my life has completely stopped. I feel like I m drowning in sorrow. I keep telling everyone thst i fied with her and I am just a walking zombie now. Insteadbof enjoying life, its now a curse. I wss with my mom almost 24/7 and her and I were best friends. Im stuck dealinh with anger. I hate that shes gone and I am stuck alive in constant chronic pain and, now devistated by her loss.
I feel similarly. I was essentially my mother's carer because she was in bad health for the last 6-7 years of her life, but she was also my best friend, and her death still felt so sudden and unexpected. She was my whole life and now I just feel so incredibly lost and confused. I don't know if I've accepted it or if it still hasn't sunk in yet.
I lost my mom in October on my brothers 13th birthday it was so unexpected she found out she had cancer 2 months before and I was her main caretaker and on that day she just went into cardiac arrest and died infront of me and my brother and sister 2 days later I found out I was pregnant, I’m only 18 and these past few months have changed my life in every way I’m so hurt because I wasn’t that close to her because I pushed her away over substances and it eats at me every day I can’t even remember the last time I gave a hug she was my only parent and I feel so lost without her I just want to hug her so tightly, it’s so hard having to go through grief over my mom and also trying to be excited for a baby I know if I told her I was pregnant she would be filled with joy it just sucks so bad. The only thing keeping me going is knowing I’m growing a baby if I didn’t find out I was pregnant I would let drugs and alcohol take over more than they ever did before my life has been so hard and I’m just excited to just be a mom I’m really really trying to stay positive right now that is all I want now I just want to be a good mom like my mom but it’s so hard to keep going ever since she died every day is harder without her I just want to hear her yell at me or call my name or just laugh and tell me I love you I miss her so much I just hope it gets better.
I am so sorry for your lose im sure your mother was amazing. Im 18 and my mother died 2 days ago from a drug overdose. Me and her just had a vacation to hawaii just days ago, I could never imagine this happening and how much it hurts. I have so much respect and empathy for those who have lost a parent now. Because this pain is indescribable, Ive spent the last 2 days puking and crying in my bed not able to even eat or move, In complete disbelief. God bless you and your family...
Glad you have each other. Wish you well during the holiday period this year Joe.
Lost my mother today, she was always there for me - i wish i told her more often how much she ment to me
We wish you well over this difficult period.
It's so unfair to lose a parent when you're a young child. I lost Mom to breast cancer she was only 44. It has shaped every part of my life and many times I say it has ruined every part of my life. And then as fate would have it, then my Father also died from cancer as well. IT IS SO UNFAIR. I've just learned to accept that I will never get over it. I will never, ever, ever get over it and I am so ready to see them both. I am ready.
You will never forget them as they will live in your heart forever, but the grief does get a little better over time. Stay busy if you can and know that death is but a transition to another realm...that we never die, just the body ceases to be. You will see them both again one day. Hugs to you!
Dear John, my deep sympathies to you on this very sad day. Please look after yourself during this time of grief.
Sheri
i just Lost My dad...
7 of may 2024...he had a surgery to loose weight but he was so fragile after...
i miss him so much and i regret i didnt was with him...i would've loved to tell him My secrets, fears and regrets...that i'm gay...
i can't even comprehend that i will never see him again...
Our condolences badgalexxx. Really sorry to hear that. Just awful news for you. Wishing you strength through your time of grief.
I lost my mum last week,the pain is terrible 😢
Our sincere condolences to you.
It's so difficult to have that line of communication ended as well as loss of the entire relationship.
My mother died three days ago and I just feel so lost and confused about what's happened. It all feels so sudden and unreal.
I am crying while watching, my dad died last Sept 30th and I am afraid for this coming holidays. Its so sad.
So sorry to hear that.
I'm 12 and my dad just died yesterday and it's been very hard
This didnt help with my moms death but thank you for trying
There is no solution, just small steps toward better feelings. TALK to people. Find people who love you Alex Villa, and after your cries, laugh. Your mom is there in your heart and mind, and she always will be. Later in life, the pain mellows...I won't lie, it is still there...but the memories become joyous and you can hear the guiding lessons in your heart.
Thank you...
I just lost my dad, 62 years old. I still can't believe that i just entered my 30s with losing my dad. He had a mini heart attack, he did a quadruple bypass surgery but never recovered. 2 days after the surgery, he lost his oxygen, he was in ICU for a month in a comatose state - not responding, with high fever - and on my bday (21st February), after a small tracheostomy, he regained the missing oxygen and woke up. I had him for like a month - he couldn't speak, but at least, i could say "i love you" to him. A week after, he started to have internal bleedings and finally, yesterday, he was not responding to medicine. In 10 minutes, he was past. Tomorrow is the funeral.I have nothing more to say but, see you soon.
That is so sad.😢
2 55 is a very important point,
You grieve for your parent in a way that suits you, not guided by other family. (It is an individual response), don't try to grieve for others in your family, grieve for yourself, you are not being selfish, it is deeply personal.
I lost my mom three days ago. I just want to call her like I have everyday for the the past 13 years. I miss you mom. 😔
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
My father died of cancer on 23/06/2017, he died in government hospital and I feel guilty of not taking fast decision and shift him to private hospital as I thought doctor will refer him and money will b saved then as it never came to my mind that let me spend all what I have and save my father,now I wish to die,keep regrets,miss him a lot,15 days gone my life is non existence, either I cry or sleep so that I may see my father,I loved him a lot,used to feed him,whole night I used to wake up for him,clean up his body,only thing I didn't do was to shift to a good private hospital as they are costly but I could have afforded for a month at least then why I kept waiting for financial assistance
my died last night. i’m having a real hard time. i feel so alone. the light of my life is gone.
So sorry for your loss🙏 it's not easy. Virtual hug to you!
I dont think i can ever recover. God please bring my Dad back to life.
i lost my mom too and i really miss her. there's so many things i wish i told her before she died.
How are you doing now? Do things get better? I just lost my mom and feel like life is over. I’m totally devastated and destroyed beyond words.
@@MrChuckwagon55 I am sorry to hear that. Things do get better, although it’s been quite a while for me. I still cry when I really think about her, but life does go on and you realize you have to live for them and I’ve done things that would make her proud. The first year is very tough - I remember missing her voice more than anything. But be strong, at least for her. Make her proud. She would want you to be happy.
@@Checkersss - Thank you, I really appreciate your reply. It gives me hope.
I have a very supporting family and many good friends around me.
I lost my dad 4 days ago and still i cant believe it. Am So sad that it had to happen to me. I never truly thought that it could rieach here.. I really hope that it all goes well....
My parents are super old and my mum is sick. I'm unemployed and depend upon them. I tried my best I worked so hard to get a job even dealing with my own depression but the fact that my mum is at this state is killing me. I have fear it can happen any time. My mum raised me as a single parent although I have a dad but he's a bad dad. I don't know what will happen to me when she dies. I was already lost in my own world but this pain I can't bear. I'm super scared. I feel so lonely. I feel like I am an exposed wound. I see no light. My dreams are shattered. My heart is broken. And I have pile of school work.
My mom passed away last week. It's still hurts everyday
my mom was killed by random gunshots
she was only 40 and her birthday was 2 days later
I keep checking my phone for the message that will never come.
I keep almost dialing her number to tell her about my day, and it kills me every single time I do it. I miss her so much
My mother is on her deathbed already, she was diagnosed with lung cancer too late for treatment and taking care of her until the inevitable comes hasn't taken a toll on me yet. I'm not sure what will happen later and I fear how it will affect me since I don't have a father to lean on.
im only 12 and my mum died 2 months ago to cancer😥
My adopted mum died 2nd of january. The pain is unreal, my birth mother died when i was 20 months old... I feel like i am falling apart and my heart is aching for both mums. Tears are never ending, making me ill.
dgjlo - deepest condolences to you on a very sad loss. You are in double mourning for your mothers and can only imagine the pain and suffering you are experiencing. Once again, our sympathies to you.
Two days ago I lost my mom
What do I do when both parents are gone? My father just passed away in August 2013, my mother passed away in 2004 and it's not October 2013. I'm still having a hard time feeling lost and confused...and no one in my family or close loved ones seem to get me...where do you recommend for me to go to for some communication with those who lost both parents? and how long does this take? Everyone keeps thinking I should be over it now but it's so hard and it's only been 3 months
Even I lost both my parents dad in 2004 I was still grieving his loss... and this year my mom passed away too.....now what do I do?....
i just lost my dad about 6 months ago due to a heart attack. I loved him very much and now i feel i didnt treat him like i should of. Tonight when i got home from work, i jumped on the computer. Our background is a picture of him. I just started crying when i opened up the computer. I am not one to cry, i havent in a while but tonight was weird. Just certain days i feel sadder. I havent talked to ANYONE about my loss and didnt really think it would help. I always thought that it would make my think about him constantly. Every time i talk about him, i almost tear up but i hold it in. I am not even 18 yet so this is extremely hard for me. I wish i had the chance to be with him longer than only 17 years. Any bit of advice would greatly help. Thanks
Same..my dad died in May from a car accident. I'm 17 too. what makes me feel a little better is looking at pics and thinking of memories and occupying my time and not laying around alone.
Lost my mom yesterday of brain cancer. How depressing😞
I lost my father nearly a month back and totally devastated .
For grief
Let the emotions and feelings flow and vent out naturally..it's a process..the person will be alright then
Spend time with the person and share the feelings
Pirappum irappum nam kaiyil illai..accept the reality and move forward
Death only comes to the person and not to the relationship..
It is so difficult and incredibly painful to lose a parent, and this time of year can be very hard when families are together for Christmas. I'm sorry for your loss. How long has it been for you? Is your father alive?
I just lost my dad 3 weeks ago, I was not able to see him again for the past 10 months because of my work and now I feel so much pain it's very painful
Thanks..can you recommend any online services? I live in a country that doesn't deal with these things too well even in the medical field. Not to mention there's a language barrier since I'm an American living in SE Asia atm
Lost my mother three days ago and I haven't cried as much as I wanted to..
Craig Folgers My Mother passed on April 2nd, and I didn't cry that much for the first week or so, now that's all I do. Everyone is different, but try to brace yourself for some very difficult days, months or years to come. I'm 38 and basically all alone, which makes it worse. Make sure you have a a good support system around you. God bless.
Josh Adams my dad told me I was dead to him two nights ago, so he is gone from my support group. Only have friends and family for now
Thanks.