Why Do Your Parents Hate You?
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I know its harsh to say but the suicidal mom should not be getting her daughter back until she gets some serious counseling
It sounds like her family and friends don't know the extent of how she feels
I think giving up her parietal rights and giving the kid to someone else would be best
It *would* be better for the mother if she gets counseling before seeing her child again. But counseling isn’t for everyone. She might’ve tried it before, we have no idea.
I don't think it's harsh at all. It just felt very sad that her family and friends probably have no idea she feels this way
Mother sounds very traumatized and sadly, the child is a trigger due to her looking a lot like the person who caused the trauma. She should absolutely not get her back until she's dealt with her trauma and feels comfortable around the child.
I know a girl who did the same thing as the 1st story. They were so close to having their other son taken away. The family was absolutely destroyed. The only reason she got caught lying was she didn’t think anyone would go through her texts. I dont think I need to explain any further how she got caught. *UPDATE:* sorry, I didn’t think anyone would be that interested. The son did not get taken away, once they proved that her accusations were false. She was taken to some kind of rehab/hospital where they did all kinds of mental checks on her. I think she was 17 when she got back, and her parents allowed her to come home. But the understanding was that they disowned her. They would not recognize her as their daughter, and she was not to call them “mom” or “dad”. She was to figure her education out on her own, and get a job to start saving up. When she turned 18, she was out of the house. Once she turned 18 and left, she moved to Arizona and got some factory job but thats all I know. No one knows where she is, and as far as her parents are concerned she never existed. According to her brother, the reason she did it was because her parents found out she was sexually involved with a guy who was 20-something, and they completely freaked out. I think her dad even threatened the guy. There was a physical fight where she tried to beat her dad up because they locked her in the house to stop her from seeing him. She made the accusations to get back at her parents. But I personally cannot confirm that to be true. Even when she got back, she told everyone that her parents accused her of being a drug addict and forced her into a rehab facility, even though everyone already knew what really happened.
What happened afterwards? Did her parents disown her or what?
Yeah we kinda need an update if there is one available
Please update us
Update please
hygor bohm Hubner I updated, sorry about the wait
why do people who aren't ready to be parents/don't want to be parents get involved with single parents
I know I kinda ask myself that too.
They love and care about the person
@@14104 but not enough to love and care for that person's child
Because they're stupid. Lol.
Jk. Idk.
They think they can get the one popsicle but you have to take the whole packet if you want the one you want
As someone who grew up knowing I ruined my parents life by being born and wishing I was never born so they would be happy, cause they were always so miserable whenever I would dare to want them to so much as comfort me if I had a nightmare or was having a kiddy version of a panic attack, I feel no pity for these assholes. Don't have kids if you're not able to completely love and accept them. They know, they always know you resent them. Trust me. They understand you don't fully love them and you wish you could just leave
Same here. There are times when I wish the people who raised me put me up for adoption. I can’t call them my parents. They’ve ruined my chances at living a normal-ish life. All I’ll be is a homeless person and I don’t want that. I want to do something with my life, but with my autism, I don’t know if it’s possible
Damn freaking straight
The whole time I was reading that I was yelling "USE BIRTH CONTROL!!!
It’s okay to hate your parents. It’s okay to want to leave, just work hard and leave as soon as you can and never look back.
@@Khaleesi_Of_Kittens one story said she used birth control and still got pregnant and my mom did too. Also abortions were hard to come by not even that long ago so it really sucks for both the kids and parents tbh
Some of these are my worste nightmare, however others are just people having kids when they're clearly not fit to be parents yet smh
You'd still judge the mothers if they got an abortion I bet.
Well I support abortion, if my wife became pregnant that's what we would do.
There is also the Other Two options of an Open Adoption or a Closed Adoption instead of killing them in the womb.
That's how I will probably have children, either is fine.
I know someone who gave her children an Open Adoption, turned out well.
I also know people who had done bad things. Non-judgement means not holding something against oneself or Others.
@@pebblepod30 I could never bear having a child inside me. To me is something disgusting, bizarre and directly out of a horror movie, I would cry every day and hate that thing every second, I could never carry it let alone birth it like hell no I would much prefer getting rid of it
@@vickyale1203
Thanks for your reply Vicky.
Pregnancy is biologically natural to you, and in the vast majority of cases will be your own choice of action or inaction. Even when it is by rape, those that carry through it instead of blame the developing baby will often report it as a healing experience.
And so your saying that you would rather kill a human being developing inside you than simply face an irrational fear?
Thats your choice to kill.
And like any Other area of politics where the Ethical issue of killing or Consent is there, it is not just a private issue - same Principles as abusing one's own child.
12:03 Why do you resent her for being suicidal? That's not exactly something she can do that much about. If she's depressed she can't "magically get better".
It makes me think if they are feeling this way how does she feel about them
Depression can make you feel ways that seem very stupid to people who haven't had depression and very logical to the person who has it. Depression makes your hormones act up which is why people with depression act and feel so drastically towards one thing or another. Every depressed person is different
@@kandykat6967 Very true. Some people feel numb and stop caring. For others, every little thing makes them feel worse. For some it's a mix, or something else entirely.
@Doki Doki Literature club Ah so just because someone says they want to be dead, you think they're annoying? You dont think that the fact that they want to die is bad? Depression can get so bad that you think it's better not to live because you feel so helpless and constantly upset. The person who wrote that story must be going through some really bad emotional issues. I would like to think that you would be more empathetic than saying someone's mental illness is annoying
Kandy Kat No I think they meant that the patent said that they wished their child’s suicidal attempt was successful
Every Post: I hate such and such child because of something I'm responsible for and their actions show my mistakes constantly and I'd rather hate them than go through the emotional stress accepting responsibility for my mistakes, ensuing actions and remedy.
TLDR: Its not my fault that everything's my fault.
Perfectly stated and said lol
Not the first one though!
@@risinghopper1213 you can never tell if OP is lying or not. A friend of mine was in a same situation with her father. Her father was a very friendly touchy type of man who seemed very close to her so many people including her mother and even me( I regret it) and because she was a short tempered and a bit problematic we just thought it was all a sympathy act. Her father seemed really miserable and we would feel so bad for him but after a year she finally proved her point with a video evidence and he is still in prison and she no longer wants to meet her mom. But she's doing better
Yup!
It bothers me when some people say they resent their children for something that was completely out of that child's control. It's not their fault.
You can't help how you feel.
That's probably my third reason for not wanting kids.
While it is not the childs fault, they can’t control their resentment.
If only the U.S. had a better healthcare system. It's tough to see someone as a financial burden when you don't have to pay thousands of dollars out of pocket for medication or therapy.
Yeah you didnt have to raise them
My mom, hated me for being born. I made sure my son's, knew I loved them. That's all you can do.
I can relate 1000% except I don't and don't plan on having a child.
This.
I’m just not having kids XD
The first one hurts
I honestly hope the daughter who is suicidal gets some sort of help, and never knows that her parent actually thought life would be better if she succeeded in one of her attempts.
Another step-parent that resents their step-kid for acting like a kid... Fucking shocking.
Topic: very dark, sad theme
Reddit music: CARNIVAL TIME
Dang
"I sometimes wish I could have switched and had her first because the only reason for trying again was so I could have a girl."
Just... wow. Fucking wow.
i feel the selfishness in some of these parents that bug me to death.
I feel a lot more sorry for the siblings of these children than the parents. Having to miss out on fun activities and feeling safe as a child doesn’t sound healthy at all. Especially the ones who are step siblings and didn’t ask for any of this, or most likely had no say in it..
Hope the rotten teen who lied about being abused gets told, "Well, your college fund went for legal fees to get me out of the trouble your lies got me into."
Wow. This personally is more reason for me to be childfree. I’m not even dating anyone so I don’t need to worry. But I don’t wanna take a gamble at ruining my own life
Same, but I will adopt a child who understands right from wrong, but I'm 18 currently, so it's only what I would choose to do
@@blueridinghood5375 you can’t exactly adopt a kid who understands that because there’s no way of knowing for absolute sure until they live with you.
@@mindyschocolate ew don’t think that person needs to adopt at all. That’s trash. A parent should love their kid no matter what. They chose to bring a life into this world. Right from wrong? You obviously don’t know what that is with your ignorant ass comment.
@@mindyschocolate this. And adoption isn’t something to take lightly. People want to act like it’s equivalent to birth but it isn’t at all
This entire video has made me question how my mom truly feels about me. Even though I'm the least problematic of her kids, I feel like she hates me at least to an extent and it honestly hurts to think about. I kind of regret watching this lol
I worry about that too. I have way too much emotional baggage she has to carry for me and I worry she hates me for it.
I feel the same about how my dad feels about me.
I felt that way as a child about both my parents.. and I did have problems, still do. I now know and understand my mother loves me, maybe you'll feel that way one day too. :)
What makes you think she hates you?
That’s something you have to accept. The true reason Matricide and Patricide are “against nature” is because it is in fact very natural in the old times.
I'm pretty sure at some point my dad and my stepmom truly hated me, they would scream at me that I was tearing their family apart because of my bedwetting which stressed them out and my dad would regularly tell me that he was bending over backwards to try and help me but in the end, he figured I just wanted to make him suffer and make their lives harder. I dont know who hated me more at the time, me or my comically evil stepmom
Really, over bedwetting, those parents need some help SMH
all that because you wet the bed?? wth is wrong with some parents
That makes me sad. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you are doing well now.
That’s terrible. My little brother had a bedwetting problem when he was younger too. Yes it was inconvenient to be washing his bedding every single day, but did it tear the family apart? No. Don’t blame yourself for their problems, chances are they had wayyyy more internal issues and were just blaming it on you to feel better about themselves. That’s no way to treat a child.
What on earth?! Bed wetting? Are you serious right now? That's a stupid reason!
It seems like I hear the same thing over and over about how parents want to be friends with their kids and then whine about how whiny their kids are. Nope. You are not their friend. You are the parent. You are not their entertainment center nor should you be negotiating with them. I mean, play with them yes, but allow them time to make up their own games external to electronic devices and your intervention. Also, those parents who are bitter because they want to play around with their friends and not stay home with the kids? OMG! I would send you six more kids as punishment. Actually, if you raise your kid bad, you may end up raising the 6 grandkids when your kid ditches them to run around.
when i think about parent's being friendly to their child i think of a way how bestfriends tell each other secrets or maybe opinions because some parents don't like their child to share their opinions because "they're still young" so they're just going to brush off the opinions. sorry if my grammar is wrong lol but i think parents should be like that at the same time have some boundaries
When I think of being friends with my future kid, I think of stuff like talking to them about their interests and trying their hobbies with them, or talking casually about their friends and school and opinions. One can do all that while still being a parental authority and enforcing discipline.
The hard, so very hard, part is as they get older finding that right balance for both of you - to let them go, be more of a friend and advisor, rather than parenting them, and still trying to mold/control their behavior. Every parent and child is different and we reach out stages at different times. Sometimes parents and kids just clash.
Some peoples Parents: I dent went kidzzz.
Also those parents: Let's dew it.
(No Karen I can type however I want)
One of them was actually on birth control
Thing is, not everyone has sex to have children. The most important thing to know is that accidents happen, even when taking precautions and sometimes things like morals and culture and laws get in the way of things like abortions causing adults (and even children in rare cases) to have children they never wanted, causing them to hate the child
You can take the most effective birth control and still end up pregnant. People get surgery to not be able to have kids and they can still end up getting pregnant
Most people have kids to fit in, it’s expected and you’d be judged if you want to abort or something.
People pressure you by saying “you’ll change your mind” or “you don’t want to die alone”.
People most likely go through with it to feel accepted. Going against what’s considered normal is always looked down on
I mean... when people say they resent their kids because of their mental illnesses/disorders/etc., I can understand feeling frustrated but not outright resenting them. that's not always something they can help (and I don't mean the cases where a kid is mentally ill and refuses to get help, that's different; I'm mentally ill myself and it took me a long time to seek help). autistic kids especially cannot necessarily help EVERYTHING they do and it's kind of shitty to call them a burden. there's no shame in admitting that it's hard to handle, sure, but the kid can't help it at the end of the day. if you aren't prepared to deal with a potentially disabled/mentally ill/developmentally disabled child when you decide to have kids, maybe you just... shouldn't have kids.
I’d just be disgusted and either abort them or get rid of them. We got too many people. Doesn’t make sense to add another one that is just a waste on resources.
Like I know it’s not their fault for being born, but doesn’t mean their existence is good.
yeah i agree
Welll… Sometimes parents just need to maybe vent anonymously. It is a tough road to raise a disabled child, and having a safe outlet for those natural, but socially unacceptable, feelings may be a good thing.
They are a burden.
XD
My parents always found my mental issues to be a bother. I have ADHD and autism. They acted like the autism didn't exist. They medicated my ADHD so I'd shut up. Not fun. When my sister (golden child) had some mental issues, they said: I thought she'd be the easy one! Total slap in the face. I was pretty well behaved. They just hated that I had my own thoughts and feelings.
wtf!! If you don't want kids and/or resent them. YOU ARE NOT FIT TO BE PARENTS. If you don't believe in abortion. Give that child up for adoption.
I have 1 child who turned 15 recently. I never wanted kids and got pregnant with her while on birth control. My b.c. was recalled soon after I found out I was pregnant. I had a hard time trying to connect with her for the first 5 years. She was well behaved and sweet, so it was all me. I had to give up my career and all my plans when I had her. I've always been an independent person and loved traveling. Looking back, I think I had undiagnosed depression and that was causing me to be so distant to her. I was judged by other moms for everything I did for a child I never wanted. I feel different about being a parent now. I try to be the most involved mom to her and we have a great relationship. I know our relationship is good because she is an amazing person with a loving heart.
oh my godddd the parent at 13:54 is driving me up the wall. "She's HoH and autistic and has to wear hearing aids, i cant imagine why she cant speak well!" like GIRL. you SAID she knows some ASL. She is already knocking it out of the park by doing yes/no and trying to show you what she means. Seems to me like you and your family need to learn how to speak in ASL! A lot of autistic children have trouble with verbal communication but do better with signing! Enroll her in a school for the d/Deaf where other kids her age AND STAFF will be able to converse with her! Absolute insanity. This poor kid. Imagine having parents who are so wrapped up in their own resentment and bitterness over what you Could Have Been that they're failing to meet your basic emotional needs. Come the fuck on.
Too many of these parents resent their kids because of A) a disability the parents aren't handling properly B) They didn't really wanna be parents in the first place or C) ThEY'rE So wHiNEy like yeah, that's how kids are. The lady who resents her 7-year-old with ADHD seems to resent him because he's 7 and has ADHD that kid sounds incredibly normal for his age and ADHD, like seriously. All these parents it's like, you think your life is bad? Imagine having parents who hate you for things that aren't your fault and in some cases are entirely their fault.
this is a great example of don't have kids unless you want them and certainly dont marry someone who's kids you dont connect with... kids don't ask to be born resenting them instead of your own choices is cowardly af
6:20…To all parents of disabled kids, please don’t do this! Don’t lie to your kids. Tell them what is wrong with them, what issues they have and how you are working to help them and what they can do to help themselves.
Let the kids know they might not be “normal” but there is no such thing anyway so it’s ok. Focus on the abilities, not the disabilities.
I know a few developmentally disabled adults (mid 30’s) who are miserable. They have no idea they have a developmental disability, it was hidden from them. They think the reason they can’t pass a college course is because the college is discriminating against having someone else do the work for them. I don’t mean a scribe or assistant, I mean someone who will actually rephrase all the information into basic forms and then prompt answers and rephrase those to what is needed. This would mean when they eventually get a job in that field the company would not get someone who could actually do the job.
These friends also cannot understand why they can’t keep jobs, or why people won’t hire them. Everything is always blamed on discrimination. It leads to so much depression and anger it is so sad.
During high school they were “main streamed” and never noticed that while the class took algebra they still did basic addition. The class read Shakespeare, they read Babysitters Club. They were so protected from ever finding out about their developmental issues it has now led to them living in a world where everyone is against them and they don’t know why.
Sadly, it’s not my place to tell them and at this point it would destroy them. Their parents were not only set on making sure they didn’t know but also on making sure they thought those with developmental issues were beneath them.
I know my issues. Have no problem with them. I have lots of abilities to make up for the disabilities. Most of my friends are the same.
Please…be truthful with your children!!!
To the parents who put their feelings aside and didn't tune out despite their grievances,
well done.
I don't feel sympathy for a good many of these. Really, y'all made the choice to carry them, so live with it.
Finally someone who doesn't sugar coat the truth that should be told these people!!! I dont understand how you can resent your child when you were the one that didn't take every precaution to make sure you don't have kids!!!
Honestly the people I have the least sympathy for are the stepparents, especially the guy around the 15 minute mark. If you don't want or aren't ready for kids, don't date or marry someone who has kids.
No sympathy for any, ffs I need to block these shtty reddit videos
@@ameliamae9227 accidents happen, and red states have deemed people must have kids, so no dice. You’ll never get people to give up sex either. You certainly wouldn’t.
And they chose to come here as well? Tf is you on about?
Second OP. How the hell did she last five years in that relationship? Jesus Christ, what a bunch of monsters.
The one with the medical problems that isn't the childs fault she's just a bad parent 😔
Just stating that it's not the child's fault doesn't make things any less difficult
@@14104 That isn't an excuse for the parents to react the way they do. They have a child, so they need to get their shit together and put their own feelings aside so that their child at least can have a happy life. The child didn't ask to born like this.
@@paigemosher8697 It's easy for others to tell a tired, broken down person to get their shit together. Two people alone are not fully equipped to be raising human beings unless they are lucky, let alone multiple extra difficult ones, so just imagine the stress. It takes a village, remember the saying. Mental health is a real thing.
@@14104 but she said she hates her son because he ruined their relationship
@@14104 imagine how the sons feels. He doesn’t know hat his mother resent for him for life
I genuinely feel absolutely NO pity for the parents on this thread who hate their child because of their disabilities. It's not the child's fault, they can't control, so don't mentally, physically, or emotionally abuse them at any degree because of it!
100% THIS. How people can stand to play Devil's Advocate and validate the feelings of the people like the mother who confessed to wishing her suicidal daughter had succeeded in her attempts is beyond fucking sickening. Makes me wish parents like those could get publicly shamed or that people around the kid actually gave a shit and considered the child's needs above all else. People suck. The main reason I don't want kids is because I can't stand the thought of exposing a new child to this level of wretchedness in the world that only seems to get worse with each passing year. No child should ever have to live through something so horrific.
The one where the kid I think fell or something. Like why were you not watching your kid? This shit is so sad.
Those kinds of people need to have their sex organs removed since they can't be decent people.
@@paigemosher8697 You're exactly right. That mother is not right in the head, and is not suited to have children. I have not had a child, but I think that when you raise a child, it is your moral obligation to at some point expect to got through hell and back just make your child feels loved and has a great life.
Wow, some of these kids have incredibly serious problems. It makes me think what would I do as their parent and I don't really like the answers I come up with...
2:20 story sounds to me like she raised him that way.
I am a slob, my mother is the cleanest person alive. She would never ask me to do laundry, mop the floor and tidy the house except my room. I grew up having her and my sisters clean for me to the point i didnt know how to use a washing machine when i lived out of my house. Now i learned but i am still messy. Sometimes the cleanest parents raise messy children because they neglect teaching them valuable skills because they do it for them. I was a clean child because of you mother... Not because i kept myself clean
Same bro, i ask my mom to teach me how to cook, do the laundry, and everything. But i just received getting hit by them🙂
You literally have a tool you can use to learn how to do stuff by yourself...go look at the appliances in you're home then UA-cam how to use them and how to use cleaning supplies and soaps.
Don't wait to be taught because at this point you learning anything is going to have to be self taught...it's a good thing you have internet.
@@kshrali you can learn cooking by watching instruction videos or taking online master classes to cook.
Cleaning you can Google what you want to know and start off small with clothing you don't wear much or things you don't mind ruining then watch videos how to use the appliances in you're home.
Mopping and how to properly go about cleaning you can also UA-cam how to do them.
Don't forget social media is full of everything you want to learn.
@@anerdwithglasses7429 Yas, i was in literally in asian household so those happens to me so often. Well it's alright, i can do dishes, slight cooking, i can do laundry on my own, but, idk how to set it on washing machine then turn in on. I just do watch my mother do it and try it on my own, especially cooking. I just retreat sometimes because i remember her smacking my head and my head will hit the hot pan that almost burn my face. Searching things that i didn't know, and everything. It's not bad right? Hehe. Still fighting ! :>
And planning my healthy routine.
Parents who resent their sick child because it has ruined their relationship with their spouse is awful. Those parents need to make a better effort to keep their relationship strong and not blame an innocent child.
You're so fortunate to not have felt what they have.
@@14104 That Doesn't make any less evil. Blaming a Child for your stupidity is bad
children are extremely stressful in every sense, so yes they will definitely increase tension in the house. in this case, where the child is also sick, it causes a lot more tension. the child is obviously blameless, but people really can't stop their resent and they don't treat the child badly. regardless, having children is awfully stressful and even the strongest couples would find themselves preferring life prior to the kid.
Having children is very stressful, especially a sick child. Yes the child is innocent and probably did not do anything to the relationship, but sometimes relationships can’t hold up if there is a sick child putting tension on it. If that makes any sense.
@@borjanapopova8945 Parents aren't stupid for struggling with their relationship and children. Some children are born much more difficult than others. Nobody is saying the child should apologize for what they can't control, but it doesn't stop the stress they bring into the household. Humans are not Gods. We have feelings, needs and weaknesses, and there's a point where we can completely break down due to stress. Perfectly good people can feel broken after many sleepless nights and stress due to having to care for an extra difficult human being. All children are innocent, but some are still much more expensive, aggressive, destructive, and apathetic.
I'm really torn up over how many of these are related to people's kids being disabled. I wish there was more support for us.
Makes me glad I don’t want children.
If something does happen, please please please don't let the other person in the relationship influence that decision, like the 3rd (4th?) story!
PillowPanda i am 11 my mom wanted me why dont you want a kid
Xyyxyx B bck Because not everyone wants a kid
A little advice for steparents...
If you dont love your partner's child.....👏GET👏OUT👏OF👏THE👏 RELATIONSHIP👏
I dont care if you really love your partner. Just....👏GET👏 OUT👏
This thread makes me too afraid to try to have kids.
Me too.
@@tacomas9602 its just my own experience but I have 63 nieces
ephews and so far they all turned out pretty great. There is plenty of time for one of them to go bad but so far so good.
Everyone should be afraid to try and have kids. Only the ones that are ready and excitement outweighs the fear should actually do it.
Don't have kids. Don't ruin your life
42 with no kids. Best decision I’ve ever made.
As a Canadian I just can not wrap my head around the concept of hundreds of thousands in medical bills. One illness and a family is utterly ruined. Seriously guys…socialized medicine. Yes you pay for it with increased taxes, but it is so much better than financial ruin.
We're already taxed to death as it is in the US...and those taxes do fuck all for us. Last thing we need is more taxes.
@@IrkenExile you need the govt to scrap insurance companies and jobs controlling healthcare benefits.
You need a govt that doesn't put most of its money into the military or the navy and puts it back into the services for the people.
Health professionals and hospitals shouldn't be paid as highly as they are for the lackluster services they provide.
Things should Not be this expensive but cos America thinks socialising anything is bad they won't change to benefit the people.
@Marshie in the bigger picture America pays way higher taxes and none of it covers anything that benefits the people.
Why is the happy theme playing in the background
Because it is very funny
Im 40, married, no kids. I get that awww feeling every once in a while because the clock is ticking and it’s shit like this I have to remind myself of to keep a level head and stick with the path that I’m on.
My mom hated me for being a nerd.
Remember back in the day when "nerd" was one of the worst things you could call someone? Nowadays, it's not that sort of word at all, but it USED to be. If someone called you a nerd, it was like being called the lowest form of life, lower than scum. Nowadays, it just means "Oh, you're a smart guy who knows stuff" but that's not how it used to be. Well back in those days, my mom once was sickened upon the revelation of what sort of person I was. She said with as much contempt as possible, "You're just a nerd!" as if she wanted a son who was some other kind of person. Yeah, I studied hard in school and got good grades and SOME parents would appreciate that. But, no, that was expected, not anything special, and since I wasn't athletic or outgoing or anything else particularly special, she utterly despised me.
Well, she's been dead for over twenty years now. And I'm glad.
I send my heart to children born to resentful parents. No child deserves harsh treatment or to feel guilty for being born. However, I am glad these parents were honest about what it is like raising a child. They are fully responsible for choosing to have a child. However, maybe this video will prevent others from falling into the pressure of having unwanted children because people tell them, “you’ll regret not having kids later in life,” or, “it's the most rewarding thing ever,“ when those sentiments aren’t always accurate. It’s a harsh reality. However, we now see both sides of the coin instead of people treating babies and children like a magical unicorn fairy who makes people's lives better when sometimes having a child is the worst decision for some people.
I'm adopted. I'm soooooo glad I was wanted and really loved all my life. I miss you Mom and Dad. See you in the afterlife one day...I hope
I dont care how close you are with your partner, how understanding they are, or how you just know they are the one for you... all while you hate/dislike kids, and chose to date someone with a child lmao.
That is quite literally the first thing I would ask guys when we started talking. Do you already have kids, and do you want them in the future? If I received a yes, or a no and a yes/probably.. end of romantic pursuit. I know I dont like kids. Therefore I do not want to be pressured into making an exception for your child, or be pressured into having them later.. simply because you thought you would be able to convince me, or change my mind.
So idgaf about what a great, wonderful, and amazing person I think they are.. im not gonna be forced to interact with their kids, or pretend I love them too, when I absolutely don't. That is not in the best interest of anyone, and is an extremely detrimental to their child.
I also have to side eye people who have kids, and choose to date someone anyways, knowing that person doesn't like, or want kids. That is extremely selfish. Though I dont like kids or want any of my own, they aren't idiots who can't tell that they aren't wanted.. by their parents significant others. Gross.
My worst fear in life is having a child with a disability, this is not a joke
Don’t risk it
Don’t have children at all. Not trying to end your entire bloodline, but children are just oof ;-;
*person has rational fear that I'm sure many parents feel*
*the reply section-* "Well looks like a closed case. No having kids sorry."
ew so that guy puts his pooped pants in a corner until someone finds it?! gross.
Right? Child abuse isnt the anser but he needs his ass beat.
I mean a 12 year old doing that might have something to do with trauma tbh, that isn’t normal for a kid that age
@@hannahb2306 or just an arsehole child. I had a niece who wet the bed constantly just to mess with me (her primary caregiver) and when I started maki g her sleep on a rubber mattress cover she accused me of abuse (I absolutely never did that and still love her to be honest). Welp, I sent her to my aunt (her grandaunt) coz I wasn't going to deal with that shit and the first time she wet the bed my aunt whooped her senseless (the abuse kind too) and she called me to beg to come back and I just said, "you aren't my child, never forget that. I absolutely love you but I love myself more and I'm going to take care of myself and since it doesn't include you stay there" after several whooping she stopped wetting the bed, eating dirt and doing other shit she used to do to piss me off including setting fire to her bedding. Her mom came back into the picture when she was fourteen and decided to "annoy" her with bring boy-obbsessed and git an even worse abuse kind whooping and still gets slut shamed by her at seventeen. She recently told me how bad she regretted being difficult with me since to-date I'm the nicest and realest caregiver she's ever had. (Her mom makes her shave her head to keep the boys from liking her so.... she knows)
Emza 89 r/puss
your child can always sense your resentment and your disingenuous interaction. And that fucks them up.
My sister's autism spectrum disorder son was unable to control his bowels until the age of 16 when a doctor prescribed magnesium. That fixed it. I just can't get the images of how he must have been treated as a diaper wearing, ASD, poverty suffering child must have been treated. I'm going to go cry now.
@@zoeisonline excuse me? There's nothing wrong with using proper terminology. Get a life, lady.
I think for awhile my parents resented me. After I turned 10 I got worse and worse. It felt like I was trapped in a box while this angrier, ungrateful little toad version of me was at the wheel. I turned introverted, was violent, and it got to a point where I was trying to say "this isn't me and I know it" but i physically couldn't express it so I would end up breaking down out of pure frustration. After being diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, and chronic depression at 13 and just recently finding the right dosage of several different meds, I'm finally starting to go back to being my normal self and instead of hang physical interaction I actively seek it out and crave it to the point I'll talk to the crochety 80 year old neighbor that nobody else likes (he's not that bad). I hate that I missed out on so much because I was a little piece of crap.
Tbh I'm happy that my parents actually take me in public without worrying that I'll do something stupid or snobbish finally 👌
My birth father hates me bc I was born with a cleft palate. No, really. He took one look at me in the hospital and left in a rage. 💁🏻♀️
My parents hate me because I have Asperger's, they didn't think it was fair that they had to adjust their parenting to help me beyond getting me medication that never helped, and I don't accept their apologies that have never come with meaningful changes in behavior on their part.
I have Asperger’s and my parents never adjusted their parenting either. You’re doing an amazing job, dude. Don’t let close-minded parents think that you’re the problem.
Honestly some of those parents are just shit parents and their children either are the result of poor upbringing, or have to deal with shit that isn’t their fault. I really feel for disabled, autistic and unwanted kids. Harsh to say but if you’re not prepared to have a kid that might be different (or god forbid, acts like a kid), don’t have kids.
This is why I plan on living my life, working, building my career, doing the things I've missed out on doing because of my mental and physical health, I want to make sure I'm physically and mentally good and have my own place + being financially secure. I have a mum whos young and I've seen what having me and my sister as a teen did to her and I don't want that life.
Though she never said it, it was easy to figure out. My mother hated me and my half-sister because we were the reminders of her two failed marriages to two violent drunks.
For the kid that pees himself he's most likely embarrassed. He also probably just wants attention and can tell he's not getting any
12:15 Makaton is the best to use with non-verbal children. It is a combination of Pictures, symbols and written words. Using Makaton can improve non-verbal children's communication by them showing one of the pictures, words or symbols to you suggesting what she wants.
21:52 feel sorry that that kid.
Me too.
I was looking for this comment. Its sad that the person talked about the way the child looked... like that is honestly so sad.
Yo the story with the kid diagnosed with DMDD and autism was a rollercoaster ride from start to finish
The parent who picks on his kid's appearance and hygiene...how about you get him help? Teach him how to clean up, work put with him, take him to an orthodontist?! Jeeze that was painful 😢
Most kids go through an awkward stage. I feel like it's up to us parents not to judge them and help them through it with advice we wish we had gotten in our youth.
Jesus Christ. He just answered question on reddit. Simple as that. With your thinking we wouldnt have this video. The kid is dense as fuck. I babysit similar kid. Insufferable child to say at least. . They should seek professional help
This video is a great way to start wondering what your parents hate about you.
For people who don't like their children for their disabilities and ruining a relationship: it's not the child's fault. Don't you dare express any hatred towards them. If you still hate them, you are a piece of shit
Absolutely don't take away your child's possessions as punishment if you can help it. Basic parenting 101... your child needs *some* sense of control in their lives, even when they're being punished... taking away their things will make them resent you and try to hide their mistakes, rather than think about how to actually behave.
Most parents in this video are just irresponsible and immature. Oh, poor you, children have issues and personalities, how sad.
Do you have any idea what it’s like raising a child with any type of developmental issue. Do you have any idea the mental strain you go through? The complete loss of your own life and personal wants and needs. Everything becomes about them and their needs and your needs take absolute no priority.
@@HoneyBats having a child means sacrifice. Quite clearly, these people are not ready for it. And here it seems like you aren't either.
Dāvis Vaļģis both of my brothers are on the autism spectrum, one very severely. I helped raise them and dealt with all the struggles that came with it from an early age. I’m more than ready for it, I’ve dealt with it for over 20 years.
@@HoneyBats I could give less of a shit
@@HoneyBats I bet you must feel really proud making this whole debacle about yourself when you aren't the one suffering here, THE CHILD WITH THE DISABILITY IS. I have no sympathy for selfish assholes like you when you have it so much easier in life than the people you look down on and blame for your problems because you can't cope with someone being different.
Also, "severe autism" isn't a fucking thing. Either the autistic child is verbal or nonverbal. Functioning labels are incredibly harmful, and autism is not a sliding scale. I am autistic myself, so don't you fucking DARE try and speak over me and "correct" me on how MY OWN disorder functions. I've done the research, you haven't, and I have the disorder, not you, so you don't get in what's correct and what's not, only I do.
You're out of your goddamn mind if you think you're deserving of any sympathy here. If you have time to waste crying about how hard you have it when your brothers are the ones living with a disability that most people don't care enough to understand and properly work around, then you have time to fix yourself and get over your unsolicited resentment of innocent children who have done NOTHING to you whatsoever.
And you clearly are not ready for the commitment of having a child if you think this is an acceptable outlook on life. Fuck you.
I feel for the parents with horrible children. After reading these nasty comments aimed towards them, yeah it’s very clear that parents will always be blamed for their children’s shortcomings 🙄 We live in a very ableist society. I think most people aren’t prepared for having children that are medical and because our society is so ableist, there isn’t much a social support system to help out the parents either
Tru people even dont know what the common disabilities are
2 things i absolutely cannot stand: Step-parents that only love their significant other and not the child (this actually triggers me). And parents that resent their kids because of something they cannot control (again, wtf??!).
People need to really know themselves before making the decision of having kids. Anything could happen and they have to be somehow prepared to go through the ugly parts. Me, knowing myself, opted for not having kids and I know it is the best for the unborn kids and for me. I can't imagine living resentful of someone that didn't ask to be born and whose life is entirely due to my and my partner decision.
6:18 It's not your son's fault that he has an illness. It's not your son's fault that YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND are fighting almost everyday. That's your personal problem, not the innocent soul. Funny how she writes she "loves" her son and then blames him for things that he has no idea about. Imagine the son seeing this post someday.. May God bless the pure soul. That lady is never fit for being a mom!
I hate my children because:
They had emotions, so I threw them in a hole like a few minutes after they were born
Hah, they’re dead now
*so am i*
3:59 : "and became very depressed"
Happy, goofy piano music starts playing in the background
Parent: Me want kid :)
Kid: Exists
Parent: >:(
I was not a good child. Often felt like my mom preferred my younger sisters. I was the fat ugly girl and my sisters were slim and pretty. I got married and we had a kid. My kid is on the autism spectrum and different from my sisters kids. My mom never helped me like she helped sisters. She never sat for my baby and was not very interested in her. The kid was a loner and did not join conversations or activities with the family. I would see other families with alert and engaged kids, and I feel cheated. My mom thought I was a bad parent because it was so hard to control my kid. One time Mom corrected her about something and my kid said. "I hate you!". My mom yelled back "I hate you more!". The truth. It was a hard blow and I saw the truth. Mom died a while back. We had a difficult relationship. But she lost out on how great my kid is now that she's an adult. I have a great relationship with my kid because we got through this together.
This proves that having kids is not for me
yup.
Right, this is great birth control
6:39 the reason he's crapping his pants is literally because he doesn't want to pry himself away from his video games to go to the bathroom. No, really. This happened with our youngest, too. I recommend that you do what we did: take his game console into the back yard and demolish it with a sledgehammer. Note two things: 1.) It's going to be a rough couple of weeks after this, and 2.) you are actually going to have to spend time with this child going forward and ACTIVELY RAISE HIM rather than relying on video games to do your parenting for you.
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My sister did the same thing with pull-ups but my parents figured it out early and stopped using pull-ups at night
No one wants a child with a disability but the still deserve to feel loved
21:53 dad is that you? 🤣🤣🤣
If the first sentence of your comment starts with "I don't hate my child, I really love them" you're not off to a great start lol.
I dont understand the parents that got pregnant and didnt want the kid but kept the kid anyway. You can drop the newborn off at many hospitals or other public services no questions asked if you dont want it. At least you can do that at the hospitals in the city where i live. Is that not the case in other towns?
Maybe a bit of a harsh opinion, but some parents really sound very entitled...
14:50 Todoroki... Is that you
My parents say no to every thing I say and says yes to my younger brother even if my leg hurts and I tell them they say you are lying and when my brother says it and lies they say ok wait I will give you medicine
The slob story: bruh. call CPS.
The cluelessness of some of these parents piss me off. I couldn't even finish listening
The dirty house story reminds me of my older sister and her husband. My sister and I NEVER lived in a dirty nasty house. We never had wrinkly clothes for school, we showered/bathed every night, our rooms were always clean. We had structure, love and care. My sister got married to a dude who didn’t have cleanly living and she adopted that gross behavior. Stains all over the carpet, house stinks like weed, junk EVERYWHERE. Dishes stacked all over the house, mattress on the floor, no matching bed sets. And their son doesn’t bathe nearly enough. He always stinks and has no problem with it because they never taught him better. It’s so awful
I can’t believe some of these people. Don’t have kids if you know you wouldn’t fully love them no matter how they turned out. This is sad af.
Let this video be a warning to people wanting to have a baby just because of baby fever. Shits not a walk in the park. The worst isn't always "won't listen, doesn't do homework". It can be so much more. It's not sunshine and rainbows
This is why I'm never having kids
Also, to that person whose son makes her life miserable, just get rid of him. Put him up for adoption. You don't deserve to suffer like this
All children look like their parents. Just because you dont like theperson you had your kids with doesnt mean that you should be upset with them. I understand it traumatic or w.e but it's not your kids fault. They just want love. Most of yall are really unprepared to be parents nd its sad. Im sorry yall have to go thru this horrible stuff.
My father probably hates me.
Im pregnant and he uses that as an exuse to blame all his problems on me.
He says all these horrible things to me and about my baby.
Im to the point I wont talk to him anymore.
he says he's going to have to parent my kid because I'm incapable of parenting.
He constantly reminds me of all the suffering I've caused him.
Im tired of him.
The question is to the children, but it's the parents that answer.
Unconditional love shouldn't exist even for kids
Even if the kid stabs you or sends a police on you with a smile on its face yall just dont understand that some of thekids are psychos waiting for the trigger
@@kattodoggo3868 typo, shouldn't. Thanks for pointing it out
@@michaelrauch8629 hehehhe oh shout i misread but still. Stand with my point. In the end this thread was really sad. Feel bad for parents and the kids. None of them wanted this.
Omg ! After listening to all of this stories, i feel so bad for all the parents in here. Lol. Made me love my little angels at home.
People can bemonsters. . . Kids are people. . . Kids can be monsters. . . Never feel bad about disliking a shitty person because of age.
that one dad that insulted the child's appearance and intelligence for looking like his bio dad needs to have that comment sent to the mother.
he sounds like a terrible person.
my cousin didn’t want kids in the slightest. when she got pregnant, she tried to get an abortion but her partner said he wanted to keep the baby. being pregnant was not something she wanted. i’m not sure why the thought terrified her so much but it’s too late to ask now. after her partner said that he wanted her to go through with the pregnancy, she then killed herself by stabbing herself in the stomach. of course she killed the fetus as well because she wasn’t that far along, but she also ended up piercing something (i can’t remember it was a while ago). she bled out and died. i miss her tons but i know that she didn’t want to be put in a situation where in she knew she would be unhappy or the rest of her life.
No idea why they hate me but I was in a coma for 5.5 weeks, nearly died twice and they never bothered to check on me.
You be thing that I hate is how some kids with toxic or fully adult boyfriends (and the other is not an adult over 18) decide they can do whatever they want then they mess up and their parents don’t allow them to see that person again but their to busy to notice it’s for their own good like really your going to turn on your parents the mother that gave birth to you and the father that took care if you over a toxic person get a life your not going to die if you don’t see someone that is going to mess you up