Malcolm Gladwell on Talking to Strangers

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  • @Dontcallmebruh
    @Dontcallmebruh 5 років тому +21

    I love gladwell. I could listen to him all day.

  • @bluegreenOD
    @bluegreenOD 5 років тому +30

    MG’s latest book is brilliant - the audible version has set the benchmark in audio books - exquisitely produced and performed - MG’s thesis is compelling - ‘when talking to strangers, exercise restraint and humility’

  • @tinxonfski
    @tinxonfski 3 роки тому +5

    Just finished this book today. It was an eye opener. Highly recommended 👌🏾

  • @DAVIDPETERS12C
    @DAVIDPETERS12C 5 років тому +119

    Always good to see a new book from MG. Let's get him on a Joe Rogan podcast!

    • @danien37
      @danien37 5 років тому +18

      do me a favor, rogan is no intellectual. He's a geezer who missed out on his 20's, and now has overly mature perspectives on 20's shit, like drugs, and undermature takes on stuff we learnt about in our 20's like science and philosophy.

    • @byrnemeister2008
      @byrnemeister2008 5 років тому +7

      David Peters The Malcolm
      Gladwell podcast is excellent. Better than Rogan. Thought provoking and great story telling. Revisionist History.

    • @marywimmer5018
      @marywimmer5018 5 років тому +7

      @@danien37 omg I thought I was the only one that felt this way. This is exactly what I find so weird about him, all his fascination with DMT and aliens, and complete inanity on AI and climate change.

    • @eastafricacoding5864
      @eastafricacoding5864 5 років тому +1

      YESSIR!!

    • @ForRealSwagmaster
      @ForRealSwagmaster 5 років тому +2

      Rogan is a fan of Gladwell. He references Malcolm's book Blink quite often.

  • @Linnie210
    @Linnie210 5 років тому +3

    I love his take on recruitment strategy, taking out the bias. I will even go as far as deleting their names, address and school.

  • @damonm3
    @damonm3 5 років тому +18

    An interesting person. And so happy to see that he’s still learning and growing. A great researcher and storyteller🍻❤️

  • @iamsavest1470
    @iamsavest1470 4 роки тому +1

    He is one the best thinkers of our times

  • @brianjoyce9040
    @brianjoyce9040 5 років тому +6

    MAlcolm is up there in thought provoking and perspective changing. Few do it better with an ease that makes me want to understand to a positive result.

  • @MMEV2016
    @MMEV2016 5 років тому +14

    In talking to "us"...as strangers...he convinces us to buy his book...of the fairly obvious...which I'm ok with...because I like MG. He's quite convincing...and that's ok.

  • @rembeadgc
    @rembeadgc 5 років тому +5

    This is why I now tell myself that regardless of how I "read" or "feel" people, if I have to and it's contextually appropriate, engage them positively and without judgement. I'm naturally and instinctively judgmental, which has impeded my social life immensely. Even if the judgement instinctively occurs keep it's effect at bay for the moment. Usually it will diffuse itself after a successful degree of interaction or at least reform into something more accurate and less fear based. To his point, it is amazing why we are successful as a species to the degree we are considering the degree of potential and actual miscommunication, misunderstanding and haphazard listening and thinking that we do.

    • @apacur
      @apacur 5 років тому +1

      It's great that at least you can acknowledge and see how innately judgemental you are. Self-awareness is key.

  • @michaelw7115
    @michaelw7115 7 місяців тому +2

    Kind of surprised to see there is an artist (Andy Leek) with a project Notes to Strangers and Gladwell with his book Talking to Strangers and that neither of them mentions that the concept behind each (in fact the most perfect mix of the two) was already approached by an off Venice Biennale artist over 20 years ago. Talking to strangers by Jill Mercedes of which only a very few copies seem to be on offer.

  • @prestonchristie
    @prestonchristie 5 років тому +6

    This man is too brilliant. What a mind to watch 👏🏻

  • @suavedistributors9295
    @suavedistributors9295 5 років тому +6

    Absolute pleasure listening to this guy

  • @JustinMullally
    @JustinMullally 5 років тому +11

    On his last point about Julia: in my experience, you should almost always believe someone when they say you'd make a great fit with another person professionally. When the perspective of someone you trust goes against all of your own bias, it's a good sign that your bias needs to be re-examined.
    Anecdotally, my closest writing partner rolled up to our first meeting in hipster garb on a fixed gear bike and began talking about Whole Foods, soon after rolling his own cigarettes. I told the woman who said we'd be a perfect team that I would forever question her judgement after that. Weeks later, we were inseparable and fed off of our differences to have the most fun and productive partnership I've had in my entire career.

    • @lil10dot
      @lil10dot 5 років тому

      Kinda just sounds like you're close minded, xenophobic and prejudiced sir

  • @jeremiahbarlow1924
    @jeremiahbarlow1924 5 років тому +3

    I like your thoughts about Social Media. Right on!

  • @alexgoslar4057
    @alexgoslar4057 5 років тому +6

    The tipping point is always on my mind.

    • @ellencampbell3921
      @ellencampbell3921 4 роки тому +1

      Alex Goslar
      Blink is life changing. Easy read. His writing style is a pleasure to enjoy.
      I like the second read for better understanding as I rush through his books the first time. I am bad.

  • @elky360
    @elky360 5 років тому +1

    I can see why this book would appeal to people who don’t believe that evil exists, or those who don’t believe that there are people out there with malignant intentions.
    This book gives those people a rational and a more digestible interpretation of events.
    Because it makes more sense to them that it was miscommunication rather than evil that led to a particular incident

    • @pas9ify
      @pas9ify 5 років тому +1

      As opposed to the evil villain twirling his mustache in the movies? Or maybe you mean the Judeo-Christian Prince of Darkness? I challenge you to define "evil" any better than theists have defined "god"

    • @elky360
      @elky360 5 років тому

      pas9ify - if you don’t get it you don’t get it hun.x

  • @monicaromero7338
    @monicaromero7338 5 років тому +3

    Very fascinating book, I enjoyed it very much and made me think.

  • @jll5568
    @jll5568 5 років тому +8

    Considering 4 of 5 homicides are by murderers known to the victim: those known are far more dangerous than strangers.

  • @jdakadzwi
    @jdakadzwi 5 років тому +47

    I do not agree with the notion that the police officer read Sandra Bland's distress as danger, in the video he appears to fuel her distress with his responses, responses one would not expect from a trained officer. I mean he is trained to preserve the peace, disturbing it is unbecoming.

    • @bjornyesterday2562
      @bjornyesterday2562 5 років тому +10

      Absolutely. That police officer knowingly created the entire situation. I don't believe she committed suicide

    • @AskAW
      @AskAW 5 років тому +2

      Malcolm Gladwell researched the case, read the books, published a book.
      Are you saying you disagree with him because you watched the video?

    • @bjornyesterday2562
      @bjornyesterday2562 5 років тому +6

      @@AskAW did you watch the video? He pulled her out of a vehicle because she did not put out her cigarette. What a valuable service he was providing to the community

    • @lawsonone6015
      @lawsonone6015 5 років тому +5

      Joseph Dakadzwi thank you!! That whole situation was ridiculously suspect at so many levels. This is where I tend to part with MG. He also, in a previous book, described the Amadou Dialo (sp) shooting as if it was misunderstood instead of what it was: a case of police brutality.

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому +3

      @@AskAW Hitler also published a book. ;)

  • @KatherineWhoKnows-ni4nq
    @KatherineWhoKnows-ni4nq 4 роки тому

    I’m American and have lived in the US for all of my 59 years and never knew Americans were enthralled by the British. I guess it’s good to learn something new.

    • @marcoribeiro3053
      @marcoribeiro3053 4 роки тому

      Some are, some aren't. The ones who weren't won a war against them a couple of centuries ago. . .

  • @xz9376
    @xz9376 5 років тому +1

    One of the most intelligent men in the world. Enjoy his books and podcast.

  • @dogarajamesigbeji9950
    @dogarajamesigbeji9950 4 роки тому +5

    Imagine reading a book about COVID-19 by Malcolm Gladwell........ That's what i'm looking forward to

  • @alwaysincentivestrumpethic6689
    @alwaysincentivestrumpethic6689 5 років тому +4

    Great book,Great Author

  • @elainemagson213
    @elainemagson213 5 років тому +4

    Isn't he impressive. The media certainly convinced me that Amanda Knox was far from innocent - may I be forgiven. We really do need to take what we hear from the media and from the politicians we support with a huge pinch of salt. I have now bought the audiobook. Thanks for this, Penguin.

    • @elainemagson213
      @elainemagson213 5 років тому

      Richard Foran the book says that it was the layabout guy who’d gone with them to their apartment. I can’t remember his name but it’s given- but not Amanda’s boyfriend. The media are very much to blame for not putting the record straight. I had no idea of the truth but just went along with everyone’s dislike of Amanda Knox.

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому

      @@elainemagson213 the "layabout guy", Rudy Guede, has a compelling case for his innocence. The case is far from resolved. Just because you believed something false doesn't mean something else is true. Reason harder.

    • @florencevandermeer9447
      @florencevandermeer9447 5 років тому

      Italy is a beautiful country, but I'm pretty sure they don't think too fondly of Americans & misogyny is rampant.

  • @verberilesliemichealace5878
    @verberilesliemichealace5878 5 років тому +9

    An outsider from birth, never conforming to any standards ; a man with 4 identities

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 5 років тому +4

    Speaking of Egypt during the Arab spring, I was there before and after, Facebook gave the Egyptians the allusion that they had a voice and were united. As a consequence, everyone is worse off, the economy tanked and inflation has devoured the poor.

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому

      Speaking of South Africa, social media provided a necessary means of day to day organisation during protest that led to many significant and necessary changes in higher education and a growth of real community and leadership. Let's hear from Hong Kong, Taiwan and Occupy next...

  • @anthonyjackson867
    @anthonyjackson867 5 років тому +4

    Very interesting point of view...I need to read this book🤔

  • @jefmar43
    @jefmar43 4 роки тому +1

    What he finds « interesting» would often be thought cringeworthy by many, including myself. The ability to withdraw from sensitivity to cruelty or abuse in order to analyse it is itself a troubling phenomenon. I am not sure what to draw from this uneasiness I feel here. Perhaps not understanding what horrifies us is not so much a weakness as an obstacle in combatting it.

  • @JoyfulMD
    @JoyfulMD 5 років тому +15

    He is adorable. 😍

  • @jaicollier9983
    @jaicollier9983 3 роки тому

    While I am generally a fan, He is NOT CORRECT about social media. Many positive movements that would have been prematurely squelched have survived and thrived and caught fire and resulted in necessary action because of the direct access to social media. Corporations fully understand the power of a social media backlash or call to action.

  • @SofDiane
    @SofDiane 5 років тому +6

    Could the questions being asked be written in text along the bottom?
    We really miss out not knowing what is being asked.

  • @sailorbychoice1
    @sailorbychoice1 5 років тому +3

    pre-ordered on Audible!

  • @ItHadToBeSaid
    @ItHadToBeSaid 5 років тому +12

    How is the case of Sandra Bland about people with different perspectives as opposed to a typical expression of the white-supremacist state?

    • @theoverunderthinker
      @theoverunderthinker 5 років тому +1

      From my perspective:
      1) she would have been on her way if she had complied like a white lady would have. Because she thought she was being oppressed and disrespected, she stood up for herself instead of complying, and get herself arrested.
      2)when she went to jail, she thought she had a bunch of people who had her back and she would be all good; when she realized that all the people she thought had her back were all talk, and nobody was coming to get her out of jail, she lost hope and killed herself.
      This is my answer to your question. I am sure you will not agree, which shows how the case is about people with different perspectives. :)
      QED

    • @deez4evs
      @deez4evs 5 років тому

      ItHadToBeSaid read the book. He explains it beautifully...

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому

      @greenapplepear the officer is representing the state in this encounter. Police represent the state in their exercise and invocation of the law. The emphasis on his individuality here is obfuscation.

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому

      @greenapplepear straw man.

    • @ItHadToBeSaid
      @ItHadToBeSaid 5 років тому +1

      Well, the US is a white-supremacist state and always has been, and the police are agents of the state, so...

  • @poerava
    @poerava 5 років тому +9

    He’s a great writer (talking is not his thing)

    • @beachboxrealty
      @beachboxrealty 5 років тому +1

      I love his style.

    • @poerava
      @poerava 5 років тому

      @Bill Whittaker
      I do hear you.
      Noam Chomsky charges nothing for some talks he does.
      There is a charm in the genius of certain scholars and their idiosyncrasies. Like the mumbled declarations followed by long pauses of silence and giggles of Eckart or the painful monotony and frantic sketching on the over head projector with his pack of 10 different coloured pens of Edward De Bono. Or the sleep inducing speech of Noam Chomsky.
      23:30-23:40 I would prefer to read Gladwell’s work (and unlike all my friends, I could listen to De Bono for hours)
      It’s a rhythmic thing. Gladwell is too jerky and sporadic and loud then quiet for me.

    • @mycollegeshirt
      @mycollegeshirt 5 років тому +2

      What? He has a top ranking, award winning podcast, and had the most viewed ted talk for nearly a decade, and it was on sauce

  • @immasoxfanbaby
    @immasoxfanbaby 4 роки тому

    Great book title I gotta read this one

  • @glovskc
    @glovskc 5 років тому +1

    One word, brilliant.

  • @yellowburger
    @yellowburger 5 років тому +10

    I kinda wish we got more of the intro host. Holy smoke show!!!!

  • @bluepeteblue
    @bluepeteblue 5 років тому +2

    Time spent reading books about Amanda Knox described as "weeks I'll never get back". The irony!

  • @notachannel4u
    @notachannel4u 2 роки тому

    He should be the interpreter in his audio books!

  • @alisa9040
    @alisa9040 4 роки тому +2

    I read this book, and I am still confused about how I should behave because of it. I am just not sure.

  • @franceslock1662
    @franceslock1662 5 років тому +1

    Some think Twitter is useful to get live video out of events otherwise left covered up, in countries where reporters are controlled or restricted.

  • @rainerkrammconsulting227
    @rainerkrammconsulting227 5 років тому +1

    Recruiters and human resources people must update their knowledge.

  • @afterthesmash
    @afterthesmash 5 років тому +3

    I'm nine minutes in, and I'm not buying Gladwell's unifying thesis that all these chapters are about the "same" thing.

    • @terx1
      @terx1 5 років тому +1

      I'm only eight minutes in and pretty sure this guy is in love with his own voice.

    • @garycarlisle7810
      @garycarlisle7810 4 роки тому

      This is the second Rider who when speaking uses the idiosyncrasy umm.umm.

    • @garycarlisle7810
      @garycarlisle7810 4 роки тому

      Writer. Anyway it's just annoying.

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 5 років тому +1

    Because we humans are honestly dishonest, body cams and surveillance cameras should be mandatory.

  • @llcoolj8377
    @llcoolj8377 3 роки тому

    Could it be that Julia was genuinely not a good fit but that we adapt to the things we don’t like over time. No one likes beer or avocado in their first 100 tastes but at the end you kind of can’t live without.

  • @Robert...Schrey
    @Robert...Schrey 3 роки тому

    If someone asks you for the way keep in mind that he may seek some kind of permission from you.

  • @Seabasstien
    @Seabasstien 5 років тому +2

    Why would someone who has just successfully completed a job interview, with a caring supportive family, being held in police custody for essentially nothing kill themselves unless they were being so horrible mistreated that they were essentially driven to it and that's still murder not suicide. I used to think Gladwell had some insight but now I have serious doubts.

    • @GMAMEC
      @GMAMEC 5 років тому +1

      His premise doesn’t address your point because he goes in a different direction. He is attempting to explain the importance understanding empathy, cultural differences, motives, prejudices and unbiased assumptions. While I don’t agree with some of his opinions, his book may help those who are not familiar with the justice system and individuals who have a tendency to prejudge. It’s not my favorite book, but it is thought provoking.

    • @florencevandermeer9447
      @florencevandermeer9447 5 років тому

      How many people do the police kill for no reason? Especially in the US. Hundreds a year? It's easy to understand.

  • @acensor
    @acensor 3 роки тому

    I love Malcolm's novel and thought provoking perspectives and his meticulous in-depth research behind his writing. That makes two glaring errors I found all the more puzzling how they got in there. They're both aviation related, so as a pilot they jumped out at me...but shouldn't have to be a pilot to catch these. I admit neither undermines the point being made, but they make me wonder how little he understands about basic aviation and how careful he and his editors are with other facts: One is on page 53 of "Talking to Strangers": He refers to "single engine Cessna Skymasters" aircraft. They're twin engine and so unique as twin engine (one in front, one in back) that anyone with even the slightest familiarity with aircraft would know that.
    The other is in his book "The Bomber Mafia." On page 129 he's talking about a flight of overloaded B-29 bombers on Tinian island in the Marianas in 1944. They're ready to takeoff on a critical bombing mission over Japan. But they can't takeoff because the needed "an unusually strong tailwind blowing down the runway" to be able to. I read that and my WFT light went on. WRONG. They needed unusually strong headwind. Anyone with even the most basic understanding of flight or had even watched a movie of carrier takeoffs and noticed they always turn into the wind for launching would know that. Take off with a tailwind is a basic aviation no-no, let alone with an overloaded aircraft. How did this slip by? Puzzled.

  • @SkywalkerPaul
    @SkywalkerPaul 4 роки тому

    This dude is great writer

  • @marcoribeiro3053
    @marcoribeiro3053 4 роки тому +1

    Malcolm, are you saying that middle class white girls are completely incapable of murder ?(this is what he seems to imply when talking about Amanda Knox). I am flummoxed. I don't know if she was guilty, but I do know that Amanda and her boyfriend, who had the reputation of being slovenly, did an amazing cleaning job that took hours to do, shortly after the girls murder.

  • @AmitKumar-by7pz
    @AmitKumar-by7pz 5 років тому +4

    So Julia Rocks

  • @GorgonDrageil
    @GorgonDrageil 5 років тому +3

    I personally think it's crazy that this book had to be made.

    • @peggyharris3815
      @peggyharris3815 5 років тому +1

      But...deception has always been intriguing and there is no end to it.

  • @lewisdoherty7621
    @lewisdoherty7621 5 років тому +6

    I have Asperger’s and don’t look at people in their eyes. A cop reading body language would interpret that as a sign of lying. In addition, I also have a familial paulsy which appears to be nervousness, a sign I may be doing something I shouldn’t be. When dealing with cops, I’m aware how they tend to analyze things and don’t act resentful, just address their concerns.
    Some of those people who were suspicious of Madoff and invested knew that if they were able to get their investment out of the scheme early, they would have their original investment and profit. This is one reason there are clawbacks. But clawbacks often only go back so far.
    In the Ferguson situation Brown had just robbed a store which was unknown to the cop, but Brown knew it. He attacked the cop and tried to take his gun, so guess what happened when the cop feared he was coming back.
    Sandra Bland committed suicide in jail. She was found to have had a tremendous amount of THC in her body. It is possible seeing the cop, she decided to eat her Marijuana stash to keep it from being found. Maybe she was having withdrawals and killed herself. The police officer did not follow procedure.

    • @suavedistributors9295
      @suavedistributors9295 5 років тому +3

      Snoop dog the rapper would also have a high THC content, and he's yet to committed suicide! You're making claims which have no basis in fact. There's no evidence that THC causes withdrawal symptoms which then leads to suicides.

    • @lewisdoherty7621
      @lewisdoherty7621 5 років тому

      @@suavedistributors9295
      It appears to effect some people.
      And in addition, there are people who have mental conditions of which they are self-treating with Marijuana to deaden their pain. Going off of it means the pain comes back.
      So the person may face both the return of mental pain and withdrawal effects at the same time.
      www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5414724/#b12-sar-8-009
      Characteristics of Cannabis Withdrawal Symptoms
      Considering the cannabis research of the last 20 years,12,13,16,18-20,31 there was no doubt that cessation of heavy or prolonged cannabis use is most likely followed by typical symptoms, such as
      irritability
      nervousness/anxiety
      sleep difficulty
      decreased appetite or weight loss
      depressed mood
      one of the following physical symptoms such as abdominal pain, shakiness/tremors, sweating, fever, chills, or headache.

    • @76shian
      @76shian 5 років тому +1

      Wow! Your facts about each incident are wrong.Furguson police department has since come out and stated the Mike Broen didn't rob a store. Most people do not think Sandra killed herself but was infact killed with a zip tie put around her neck while in her in her cell. Please do not believe everything you initially hear reported on t.v

    • @lewisdoherty7621
      @lewisdoherty7621 5 років тому

      ​@@76shian Provide a link that the Ferguson Police said he didn't rob the store.
      Since you said "most people think," you must mean you don't have any proof.

    • @76shian
      @76shian 5 років тому

      Google it, honey

  • @yellowburger
    @yellowburger 5 років тому +10

    If you're gonna video a talk, then for god's sake make sure you have mikes for the question answerers at the end. So irritating.

  • @harshitagarwal4371
    @harshitagarwal4371 4 роки тому

    Starts at 1:40

  • @devinroy799
    @devinroy799 5 років тому

    "You get all of the pain and none of the joy." - Why it isn't a self help book.
    But his advice on hiring an assistant and sticking with an editor is so incredibly wise! He really should do a self-help book to go along side it. We really shouldn't let someone's charisma dictate what we think their quality of work will be. I'm annoying AF to my fellow employees, because I am brutal on feedback and hammering home my points so they stop screwing up, but I only need them to not kill me and stick around long enough to see the impact they are making by sticking to the quality guidelines. Then, they won't need me in their face, because I will have settled in their ear.

    • @AskAW
      @AskAW 5 років тому

      If he did a self help book, he'd need an additional 50 - 75 pages to provide you with the remedy.
      He's an investigative journalist who tells stories.
      He's also leaving money on the table for the next author who would like to provide a solution.

    • @rigelb9025
      @rigelb9025 2 місяці тому

      @@AskAW A solution to what? What's the endgame here?

  • @oo88oo
    @oo88oo 5 років тому +3

    I feel like this guy wrote one good book and he's been dining off of that one accomplishment ever since.

    • @anor33
      @anor33 5 років тому

      Brian Boru which one is the good book in your opinion? Have you listened to his podcast revisionist history? Many episodes are enlightening and informative. Highly recommend

    • @perezpepito104
      @perezpepito104 5 років тому +4

      Yep! Tipping Point, oh wait... David and Goliath, oh wait... Blink, oh wait... What the Dog Saw, oh wait... Outliers...oh wait, all the stuff he wrote for the New Yorker.

  • @OdditiesandRarities
    @OdditiesandRarities 4 роки тому

    the background makes him look like hes in heaven

  • @lindaweigel5857
    @lindaweigel5857 5 років тому

    Brilliant.

  • @nishamenon645
    @nishamenon645 3 роки тому

    The default to suspicion and coupling bits were really interesting. Couldn't stop myself from posting a video on it. :-) Let me know if any of you get the time to watch it.

  • @G11713
    @G11713 5 років тому +2

    Casting systemic biased hiring, training, and promotion practices of police departments with respect to anti-black racism and its consequent assaults to be merely miscommunication between strangers seems pretty apologetic to the system. Nonetheless, it does inform a path to improving recruiting and training profiles and; going forward, does demonstrates the importance of diversity in expanding the "social language" of institutions.

    • @cl759
      @cl759 5 років тому

      Dude, what were you smoking when you wrote that!?

  • @jlh6452
    @jlh6452 5 років тому +3

    michael brown tried to grab the cops gun in ferguson, the black woman driver in TX refused to obey the cop - you may want to get your info from other than the bbc

    • @Burkutace27
      @Burkutace27 4 роки тому

      ", the black woman driver in TX refused to obey the cop - you may want to get your info from other than the bbc"
      Did you even read the book? Brian Encinia escalated the situation unnecessarily because he assumed Sandra Bland was a potentially violent criminal, rather than someone going through a difficult point in their life and already in debt due to trivial traffic tops.

    • @hotelexploring
      @hotelexploring 4 роки тому

      MG doesn't have the facts correct in this example which devalues his argument.

  • @theimmortalbookclub9728
    @theimmortalbookclub9728 4 роки тому +1

    For the pun-loving Gladwell readers, here‘s a shirt that might get you talking to strangers... 😂
    teespring.com/i-m-glad-you-re-well?pid=379&sid=front&cid=100091

  • @akayrk
    @akayrk 5 років тому +2

    i do talk to strangers with an open mind, but that sometimes, only sometimes, backfires: somehow my being open gives the other person the wrong idea (men) and later I regret it even though it wasn’t my fault or was it? so my question is how can i still stay openminded and be okay with talking to strangers when certain bad experiences tell you not to? getting out of our comfort zone is a risky business

    • @samuelasanderinos1521
      @samuelasanderinos1521 4 роки тому

      E.H.K it was only your fault in that you didn’t think about it from their point of view or expect it from assumptions on “how men think”. But honestly, your level and breadth of thinking will decrease if you exert time and energy on monitoring what others may think.
      Thats why sometimes women use heuristics like preferring to talk to men in the company of other people, men who are religious... I think women sometimes have to come on very strongly as very interested in some topic at a level that is socially not acceptable for a man with no other context to recognize her as a woman with thoughts rather than a potential romantic/sexual interest.

  • @angelmatos9143
    @angelmatos9143 5 років тому +4

    ........an example could be the trump/Kim Jong-un conversations. Similar to Neville Chamberlain/Hitler meetings.

  • @jimedgar6789
    @jimedgar6789 5 років тому +6

    This talk would have been very much more interesting if I knew English.

    • @figgettit
      @figgettit 5 років тому +1

      You'd be surprised.

  • @sarahsyed-chaudhry1724
    @sarahsyed-chaudhry1724 5 років тому +1

    I used to like him more . But recently I think hes is attempting to be too edgy and can be dismissive.
    Some of these stories do not fit the theme. Now I read his books with a big grain of salt. Hes still an entertaining story teller most of the time.

  • @Milestonemonger
    @Milestonemonger 5 років тому +3

    Misinterpret each other is what's dividing Americans at the moment, not policies not Trump, just the refusal to genuinely listen.

  • @dianablackman4528
    @dianablackman4528 4 роки тому +1

    How did he conclude that Amanda Knox was innocent? Evil can often look very innocent.

    • @maxmeier532
      @maxmeier532 4 роки тому +1

      it rubbed me the wrong way too. He is falling for the young white female= innocent rhethoric. the details and the evidence of the case were much more compelling than he is portraying.

    • @maxmeier532
      @maxmeier532 4 роки тому +2

      @@okcthulhu8674 does he also details how harmless (cause she is a white female) amanda and the bf accused the innocent black guy of committing the murder?

  • @aily2924
    @aily2924 5 років тому +3

    Malcolm would you have dinner with me?

  • @shawnmoore8130
    @shawnmoore8130 5 років тому +2

    Did he ghostwrite "Run and Get Rich! Expect Great Things"?

  • @DonJivine
    @DonJivine 5 років тому +3

    I think he meant to use the word “cannibalize” somewhere in that sentence instead of “substitutive,” which, nah...not a word.
    Think it’s about 16:20 in or so.

    • @KConradG
      @KConradG 5 років тому +4

      Substitutive is a word.

    • @pattyvories9884
      @pattyvories9884 5 років тому

      @@KConradG Correct!

    • @rigelb9025
      @rigelb9025 2 місяці тому

      Lots of ¢@nn!b@l!z@+!¤n going on around here, it would seem.

  • @ryonlyon
    @ryonlyon 5 років тому +2

    I liked his books years ago, but, like all things you can only say the same thing so many times.

    • @M_SC
      @M_SC 5 років тому

      apparently not. and anyway, i think you mean "intelligent people can only hear the same things so many times", which is quite different in 2 aspects

  • @ilove2929
    @ilove2929 5 років тому +2

    The play hes talking, is no game, it really does work like that. He's playing american here

  •  5 років тому +1

    This is nothing like 'win friends and influence people'..

  • @TheMercilessEye
    @TheMercilessEye 4 роки тому

    The truth is...being raised in East Ontario makes you a bit of a naive fool, when it comes to talking to strangers, these days. It may be fine in East Ontario, but taliking to strangers in the USA can too-often land you in a body-bag. Words to the wise: trust in the Lord, but tie up your camel at night...

  • @johnroberts1505
    @johnroberts1505 5 років тому +1

    take a drink every time he says um or ah.....

    • @clarkclarke
      @clarkclarke 5 років тому

      And thank heavens you dont speak that way...🤔 enjoy your drinking..,..
      🍷🍾🍶🍸🍹🍺🍻🥂🥃

  • @taaronjones
    @taaronjones 3 роки тому

    wrong on Twitter

  • @spritecut
    @spritecut 5 років тому +4

    The English are enthralled by New York.

  • @shuifier5243
    @shuifier5243 5 років тому

    Perfect timing given that the Eli Cohen spy series just dropped on Netflix.

  • @eladwarren3318
    @eladwarren3318 5 років тому +5

    Ooooo he’s so intersectional

    • @apacur
      @apacur 5 років тому +1

      What do you mean?

  • @johncaron4888
    @johncaron4888 5 років тому +2

    Proof geeks rule the world!

  • @judiderman7104
    @judiderman7104 3 роки тому

    Father's in America, Malcombob

  • @jll5568
    @jll5568 5 років тому +1

    Early in the speech...Malcom mentions four identities...his AA identity is most prevelant. Made an exaggerated statement about "inappropriate" police interactions between police and AA teens. Make Facts Great Again!

  • @francismuiruri9064
    @francismuiruri9064 4 роки тому

    People i enjoy listening to unfortunately very people watch this type of videos.

  • @pseudomonarchiadaemonum4566
    @pseudomonarchiadaemonum4566 5 років тому +1

    I need to disagree on the Amanda Knox's case though. "Reading books" about it can't make you an expert on the case. See the interviews with her and the countless documentaries, and then make your conclusions.

  • @roycerhett178
    @roycerhett178 5 років тому +1

    This title should be "Malcolm Gladwell on How to Develop Emotional Intelligence"

  • @leifjohnson617
    @leifjohnson617 5 років тому +3

    Just think how strangers feel when Malcolm Gladwell talks to them with his freaky hairdo !!!!!

    • @allnargles
      @allnargles 5 років тому +1

      Leif Johnson Racist much? Obviously you know nothing of African American/African descent hair and think is nice to mock it...

  • @brandond.johnson167
    @brandond.johnson167 5 років тому

    He says Sandra Bland hanged herself, and leaves it at that? Not that there were suspicious circumstances, and skepticism? Or, it that just a teaser for the book?

    • @M_SC
      @M_SC 5 років тому +2

      he's assuming that if you give a shit, you know about Sandra Bland already.

    • @TSmith-no7kn
      @TSmith-no7kn 4 роки тому

      He is a business man. We know what happened.

  • @lpcc4010
    @lpcc4010 5 років тому +1

    Michael Brown shooting should not even be mentioned if you’re talking about police shootings! He was actively assaulting a police officer. Not much controversy in it.

  • @shelleynobleart
    @shelleynobleart 5 років тому +2

    Some excellent observations he makes but way way off about social media. If he thinks the only beneficial effect of Twitter is occasional amusement than I'm afraid something has caused him to miss its profound effect of global connectivity between civillian to civilian up to and including world leaders.
    No, I can honestly say to Mr. Gladwell that for all his intellect he has missed a watershed in human development as great, and to me obviously greater, than had by the effect of printing the written word 500 years ago.

    • @ANON1NE
      @ANON1NE 5 років тому +1

      NobleDesignMedia I am triggered by this comment.
      Printing of the word increased the depth of readily available knowledge for mankind. It exponentially increased the rate of industrialisation, technological advancement and quality of education in every field. It put man on the moon.
      Social media as you said does allow communication between anyone and everyone. However unlike printing it is instantaneous. Meaning the content communicated is not as well thought out, its often whimsical and viscerally reactive. As explained in the video our first impressions/ assumptions are often wrong as they are untested. Social media facilitates propaganda, individual self marketing, incomplete ideas and unsubstantiated claims. Often at the detriment of due process and well thought out, tried and tested theory.
      Theres a reason the themes in novels, plays & non fiction books last for centuries and twitter topics trend for a few months. Its the thought that is put into each body of work.
      Comparing printing of the word to social media is like comparing the creation of fire to a George foremen grill.
      Edit: grammar.

    • @byrnemeister2008
      @byrnemeister2008 5 років тому

      NobleDesignMedia I was an early adopter of social media. I dropped FB, Insta and Twitter in 2016. Not missed it at all. You can still use the internet without using social media. Social media is a massive time sink and very very noisy. Obviously your mileage may vary but that has been my experience.

  • @billschmidt4581
    @billschmidt4581 3 роки тому

    Did you look at Lindy?

  • @renzo6490
    @renzo6490 5 років тому

    6 minutes, 50 seconds....
    Singular: Phenomenon
    Plural: Phenomena

  • @meks90
    @meks90 5 років тому +10

    Mehn! I'm so drunk on Malcolm's KoolAid. He could sell me anything even urine and I'll buy.

    • @terx1
      @terx1 5 років тому

      Even purple KoolAid?

    • @jordansmith3597
      @jordansmith3597 4 роки тому

      Open wide, pretend it’s R Kelly’s secret god of life

    • @chairman6652
      @chairman6652 4 роки тому

      Emeka Okolocha I wouldn't expect anything less than a brother from the dark continent 🤔

  • @miahairstondavis2768
    @miahairstondavis2768 5 років тому

    Never thought a human thought like me. Yaayy!

    • @mariesmith5099
      @mariesmith5099 5 років тому

      I absolutely love the audiobook best done.

  • @JazzLoverKhurram
    @JazzLoverKhurram 5 років тому +2

    Wow Julia sounds great can I poach her from you?😊

  • @allmendoubt4784
    @allmendoubt4784 5 років тому

    People definitely play down identity in the UK, unless in safe company. If not people avoid you like a dog rolled in shit.

  • @WA-uq1rh
    @WA-uq1rh 3 роки тому

    He really does wish he was American. I’ve never anyone that glorifies the US like he does.

  • @503mcbee
    @503mcbee 4 роки тому

    He is naive in thinking the police thought Bland was dangerous. They always say that any time they use force on is dangerous, and get feared for their lives. That's how they are trained. Does not matter if the person has a gun or if they are unarmed and shot in the back. Same story, "I was scared", so I beat or shot them.

    • @rigelb9025
      @rigelb9025 2 місяці тому

      That guy tried to grab a firearm from the cops. Once you've done that, you've basically forfeited all of your rights. That's just a big 'No-No', whoever you are.

    • @503mcbee
      @503mcbee 2 місяці тому

      @@rigelb9025 do you bother to pay any attention whatsoever to what you are referring to? Are you so conditioned, pavlonian style, that you simply regurgitate law enforcement excuses without knowing if they are even remotely relevant to the situation being discussed? Because it sure seems that way .

    • @rigelb9025
      @rigelb9025 2 місяці тому

      @@503mcbee Yes.

    • @503mcbee
      @503mcbee 2 місяці тому

      @@rigelb9025 so then you know that Sandra Bland was not a guy. And she died in a cell 3 days after the arrest, and several people, including the wrestling officer lost their jobs over the incident.