I encountered a pysch professional at a pysch hospital and she would start out the suicide conversation with that statement. People don't wanna die they just wanna stop hurting. And it opened my eyes so much
If you listen to her podcast, this is a common best practice she gives to EVERYONE. We ALL should say, I experienced vs. "You know" some people experience. We MUST internalize not externalize our experiences to better understand how we FEEL about our experience. This isn't about NICK, it is about all of us.
Greetings. My son was vegan, a personal trainer, mentor, and a massage therapist. No children and have never been in trouble with the law. He took his life in August of 2023. He was only 27 and was born on Mother's Day. There's not a day that passes when I don't think of him or cry.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. I honestly don't know if I could function if I lost one of my children. I hope you find someone who can help you cope w the pain and grief you're dealing with. ❤
This brought tears to my eyes...deepest sympathy and love to you.... he seemed to love and appreciate health I hope that inspires you to invest in the health of healing
this is such a good convo! no one talks about how men, especially black men don't feel like they have an outlet to talk about the things that they go through!
9:30 - "You have to be inauthentic" hit home. The code switch is so real. And I've seen people code switch long enough that it becomes them. I stay rooted in my culture and just pray that's enough for it never to become me. This show, these talks, are essential
Man, did it ever. Inauthenticity leads to self-contempt (self-loathing) which leads to confusion which leads to distrust of our own selves. And all we ever hear from women is that we're all liars who only want one thing.
She made Yeshua a mere thought and not a person who took our guilt and shame in exchange for His healing and peace. It is NOT found within us, in us without Christ is dark and confused.
As a mental health provider, I will say it's all spiritual at the end of the day. This world is full of trauma experiences and evil that you have to have a spiritual compass to survive/thrive. A mental health provider simply helps you process and talk (challenge your cognitive distortions) about it with an objective, empathetic, and skilled person who provides a confidential safe space.
I truly love Iyanla, she's the only sane elder we have of doing proper healing and creating understanding. So many gems dropped and balance shown here.
I'm So proud of Nick for him making this platform I wish my husband was watching fr I love my black King n they deserve to have a safe space good on you.❤❤❤❤
There's men out here doing great work for other men. That timeline is truly based on what is put in that search bar. Dr. Jay Barnett is pouring into the young men. It's so beautiful. You should look him up! Keep doing your work, Nick *hugs*
Wowwww Nick he gets by disassociating when he talks about pain or truama he keeps saying we or they but Iyanla is catching him Everytime and making sure he claims it I pray that he will start claiming his feelings after this so he can really heal and get even more understanding ❤
Peace family ... #Needed Iyanla is always refreshing through trial and tribulation with the truth and practical application to understand... - Thanks for the book recommendation too...
this one was in the top 5% of the show. she dropped straight fire. how many things do you have to balance in your life - career, marriage, bills etc. take time for you and be grateful to be alive! If you need help, seek it especially if you are a veteran.
When looking for a therapist, always consult with/interview more than two bc you are literally hiring an employee. Who hires the first person they meet?
I keep hearing its good to see a therapist, but it would be great if there was a cheat sheet on where to find a good therapist who gets the black and puerto rican experience.
It's amazing how quickly she zeroed in on the reality of (AA) male suicide, "men are demeaned, diminished, devalued..." As she says, everybody knows how many children Nick has but almost no one knows that three times as many (AA) men die from suicide every year than (AA) women, that Black men are suffering. It truly is depravity.
I would love for you to address what the onslaught of babies was about because that wasn't an accident. What was the psychology behind this. No judgement!
Is he a host or a client? The real work has to be done outside of the public's eyes and not on this platform. Nick is a brave soldier in trying to balance the two. Well done. But he needs his own private space to be helped to heal, off camera. It takes a minimum of 3 Months therapy/ counselling to recover from 1 year of trauma and even then, all isn't resolved. In this instance there is need for ongoing work, support and strategies to help this brave black man to navigate through the generational trauma he is victim of. Money doesn't solve everything. Remember that.
His heart wanted to cry but held it together to keep the conversation moving forward. I love that people who don’t have access to therapy, counseling, or feel heard by someone close are able to digest for themselves a little bit of healing ❤️🩹
We need Iyanla to have her own show again. The end.
💯
Yesss, pls!
Agree and Diddy should be her first guest
Yessss..
"Do you want to die or do you want to stop hurting?" Damn...
I encountered a pysch professional at a pysch hospital and she would start out the suicide conversation with that statement. People don't wanna die they just wanna stop hurting. And it opened my eyes so much
Nick is soooo comfortable,,authentic and free when he's in Rev Iyanla"s presence...beautiful.
I love the way that Nick is very receptive to new information when he knows a person true intention ❤ this is a mark of high intelligence
Amen 🙏🏾 ❤
JESUS ISN'T ON A CROSS! HE ROSE AND HAS THE KEYS TO HEAVEN AND HELL! YESHUA IS ALIVE AND ACTIVE... 🙏🏾
Indeed.
Iyanlas wisdom is so divine!
Man this was like a live counseling session they way she got him saying "I" and owning it
If you listen to her podcast, this is a common best practice she gives to EVERYONE. We ALL should say, I experienced vs. "You know" some people experience. We MUST internalize not externalize our experiences to better understand how we FEEL about our experience. This isn't about NICK, it is about all of us.
"I don't know which emotion to take seriously" 🤯🤯
Greetings. My son was vegan, a personal trainer, mentor, and a massage therapist. No children and have never been in trouble with the law. He took his life in August of 2023. He was only 27 and was born on Mother's Day. There's not a day that passes when I don't think of him or cry.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son. I honestly don't know if I could function if I lost one of my children. I hope you find someone who can help you cope w the pain and grief you're dealing with. ❤
This brought tears to my eyes...deepest sympathy and love to you.... he seemed to love and appreciate health I hope that inspires you to invest in the health of healing
Isn't there a Part 2? Wasn't he whining about his boy Diddy with her on one of these?
Prayers around You. May your Son Rest In Eternal Peace 🕊
PLEASE HAVE the beautiful, talented, innovative Dr. Iyanla Vanzant back...FREQUENTLY.
Sincerely,
A truly inspired psychology student.
Iyanla is a blessing to the Culture
I know that this conversation was for men, but I NEEDED to hear this today! Keep’’em coming!!!❤❤❤
Rev. Dr. Iyania you are teaching your tail off. The God of my understanding!!!!
Knowing there's a higher frequency doesn't mean you're operating in it... speaking from me and to me...
this is such a good convo! no one talks about how men, especially black men don't feel like they have an outlet to talk about the things that they go through!
20:51 The doctor's name is Jill Bolte Taylor and her book is My Stroke of Insight:A Brain Scientist's Personal Journey.
9:30 - "You have to be inauthentic" hit home. The code switch is so real. And I've seen people code switch long enough that it becomes them. I stay rooted in my culture and just pray that's enough for it never to become me. This show, these talks, are essential
Man, did it ever. Inauthenticity leads to self-contempt (self-loathing) which leads to confusion which leads to distrust of our own selves. And all we ever hear from women is that we're all liars who only want one thing.
I love that Nick did more listening and not talking. The information she gave deserved to be heard!
Wishing Nick the best in his endeavor to find self again and rise out of depression 💗
She made Yeshua a mere thought and not a person who took our guilt and shame in exchange for His healing and peace. It is NOT found within us, in us without Christ is dark and confused.
As a mental health provider, I will say it's all spiritual at the end of the day. This world is full of trauma experiences and evil that you have to have a spiritual compass to survive/thrive. A mental health provider simply helps you process and talk (challenge your cognitive distortions) about it with an objective, empathetic, and skilled person who provides a confidential safe space.
Hey 👋 Nick cannon I love you ❤️
I love these spaces for men.
I am a mother of boys and these conversations are so important! After watching this I'm goning to respond to my sons differently when they cry now...
I truly love Iyanla, she's the only sane elder we have of doing proper healing and creating understanding. So many gems dropped and balance shown here.
😢😢😢😢 This episode makes me want to go hug man 😢😢😢
She's beautiful
I'm So proud of Nick for him making this platform I wish my husband was watching fr I love my black King n they deserve to have a safe space good on you.❤❤❤❤
I love Iyanla so much.
There's men out here doing great work for other men. That timeline is truly based on what is put in that search bar. Dr. Jay Barnett is pouring into the young men. It's so beautiful. You should look him up! Keep doing your work, Nick *hugs*
Mam... the God of your understanding hit my confused spirit too hard ❤❤❤❤😭
This was amazing, men need to hear this.
I loved this. Nick is amazing. I love that he said yes to this assignment. I love mama Iyanla too!
Wowwww Nick he gets by disassociating when he talks about pain or truama he keeps saying we or they but Iyanla is catching him Everytime and making sure he claims it I pray that he will start claiming his feelings after this so he can really heal and get even more understanding ❤
Come on with that stand in that you got power. I FOREVER WILL LOVE IYANLA❤
Now you talking Nick. Frequencies!!
Amazing , amazing video bring her back please!
This hit home for me!!! Nick keep it coming my guy
Blessings
Peace family ... #Needed Iyanla is always refreshing through trial and tribulation with the truth and practical application to understand... - Thanks for the book recommendation too...
This is such a great platform! Nick this is when they say you are being your own case study. Thank you for your transparency!
Iyanla 🙌
Nick your always working ❤️🔥❤️🔥
Great healing information
this one was in the top 5% of the show. she dropped straight fire. how many things do you have to balance in your life - career, marriage, bills etc. take time for you and be grateful to be alive! If you need help, seek it especially if you are a veteran.
This was such a beautiful and necessary conversation. ❤
This is great and I do this kind of work all the time with people. I especially do this work with men. I’m here and ready to work.
It’s so sad. I pray Nick comes to see through Jesus we have a Heavenly Father who loves us and is our safe place.
Love you both! ❤
When looking for a therapist, always consult with/interview more than two bc you are literally hiring an employee. Who hires the first person they meet?
Gods of your understanding what?Our merciful GOD the ONE & ONLY not female nor male black nor white or any other race!!
I love y’all 😊
💪🏾💯🔥💥
I keep hearing its good to see a therapist, but it would be great if there was a cheat sheet on where to find a good therapist who gets the black and puerto rican experience.
Yes!!!!!!!! More of this conversation ❤❤❤❤❤ thank you Nick!!
It's amazing how quickly she zeroed in on the reality of (AA) male suicide, "men are demeaned, diminished, devalued..." As she says, everybody knows how many children Nick has but almost no one knows that three times as many (AA) men die from suicide every year than (AA) women, that Black men are suffering. It truly is depravity.
the neuroscientist that iyanla mentions is jill bolte taylor
❤❤❤❤This
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Great episode!!!
Amen. A. M. E n
Jesus is the answer 🙌
Love Iyanlas! However, it was a very hard watch on Nick’s part. I felt like she was having a convo with her teenage nephew.
I would love for you to address what the onslaught of babies was about because that wasn't an accident. What was the psychology behind this. No judgement!
The God of my own understanding. Why I never heard it like that before? That’s a bad woman
Think of Ian on the surface the son with everything.
Is he a host or a client? The real work has to be done outside of the public's eyes and not on this platform. Nick is a brave soldier in trying to balance the two. Well done. But he needs his own private space to be helped to heal, off camera. It takes a minimum of 3 Months therapy/ counselling to recover from 1 year of trauma and even then, all isn't resolved. In this instance there is need for ongoing work, support and strategies to help this brave black man to navigate through the generational trauma he is victim of. Money doesn't solve everything. Remember that.
Sincerely ask God to guide you.... And he will.
Say "god guide me" and see what happens
Coo9ooo kkkkkkkkk
Hiiiiii❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Just drop it in order or the whole clip like why you keep posting clips weeks at a time tryna be mysterious . Knock it off
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the size of nick's feet/shoes are distracting - wow
His heart wanted to cry but held it together to keep the conversation moving forward. I love that people who don’t have access to therapy, counseling, or feel heard by someone close are able to digest for themselves a little bit of healing ❤️🩹