A Major Conflict: Marriage Now or Later? - Yasir Qadhi / Mohamed Magid

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  • @AmmarNomani
    @AmmarNomani 7 років тому +80

    oh my God my mother needs to listen to this one! Regarding my youngest brother who will be 30 in January. Still her baby

    • @angelaanakonda3204
      @angelaanakonda3204 5 років тому +3

      Ammar Nomani 30 is still young though for nowadays. Relax and keep it halal

    • @sasukesuckz2577
      @sasukesuckz2577 5 років тому +17

      @@angelaanakonda3204 30 is defi not young. In fact for a guy to be that old is quite dangerous. Especially with the temptations in today's society. its not easy for many ppl to keep it halal. easier said than done

    • @reezis1619
      @reezis1619 5 років тому

      @@sasukesuckz2577 She was being sarcastic lmfao

    • @Butterflywarrior214
      @Butterflywarrior214 4 роки тому +1

      sasuke suckz totally agree but it’s not about age. It can be difficult to find a good compatible partner nowadays. I think child and parent should meet halfway. Most my cousins got married at 27-31 both men and women. Nothing wrong with that. That’s actually a culture mentality called “expiration date”

    • @janeyomar
      @janeyomar 4 роки тому

      Well, better find a fine muslima for him. Let your mom watch this video.

  • @thewarner8774
    @thewarner8774 8 років тому +13

    Yeah, subhanallah, that's so true, when you have to deal with certain issues together it really does cement the bond, in shaa Allah, Allah will make us married when we're desiring of marriage and prepared.

  • @patelzuleikha905
    @patelzuleikha905 8 років тому +46

    I was 18 when i got married and my husband was 25 years . I think age is only a number . Alhamdullila we did not make any haraam things . Due to some problems we got seperated and waiting for my divorce . We have to face certain issues in life . My advice to all youth is to think before getting married . Dont marry for lust .

    • @harunyahyadotorg
      @harunyahyadotorg 6 років тому

      Patel Zuleikha what’s wrong with divorce not all divorces are bad things? Is is better never to marry and do sin? Even Looking at non mahrem is a sin?
      What do non Muslims think of a 25 year old virgin male? They love this religion of yours? Really are talking from your backside!

    • @eberruiz1706
      @eberruiz1706 6 років тому +2

      Patel Zuleikha that nigga 25 ...

    • @skyline2601
      @skyline2601 5 років тому +4

      @@eberruiz1706 So? There's a 10 year differemce betweem my parents and they are very happy.

    • @qoon7689
      @qoon7689 4 роки тому +1

      DaBoi
      Alhamdulillah. May Allah unite your parents in jannah. (Ameen)
      Honestly speaking, as sister mentioned above, age is just a number, you don’t love someone for their age.
      Age shouldn’t be an obstacle in love or marriage.

    • @Mohiyudeensaifullah
      @Mohiyudeensaifullah 4 роки тому

      Marry me I’m readyyyy dearrr

  • @nazeefkhanhayat
    @nazeefkhanhayat 4 роки тому +7

    My bro got marriage at the age of 17 now he is 32 and he has 5 sons and 1 dau mashaa Allah . My bro is young and his sons are also young mashaa Allah

  • @fasilatsanusi7431
    @fasilatsanusi7431 4 роки тому +3

    Well said Ustadhs but sometimes marriage is not as we view it, marriage requires patience and maturity but not instant feelings of love. The younger generation need to understand this for a lasting relationship

  • @MrLiquidxIce
    @MrLiquidxIce 5 років тому +6

    i am 23 is till have 6 years of education ahead of me may Allah grant me saber/patience and strengthen to stay away from sin in this time

  • @helloitsme933
    @helloitsme933 4 роки тому +11

    My parents want me and forcing me to get married at 18 I’m a girl and I don’t want to because I’m not ready and I want to study but my parents don’t understand they keep saying in our culture you need to get married early and that Islam says to get married as soon as you hit puberty

    • @happyxwolf4595
      @happyxwolf4595 4 роки тому +9

      Your parents aren't allowed to force you to get married but you should also be conscious of what Allah SWT warned us against, if you're gonna prolong marriage, you must stay away from haraam. No boyfriends, no fornicating etc. A female is allowed to reject marriage due to emotions but a muslimah should be aware of the haraam and try her best to stay away from it.

    • @loveallah3903
      @loveallah3903 4 роки тому

      Uf

    • @loveallah3903
      @loveallah3903 4 роки тому

      Jg

    • @qoon7689
      @qoon7689 4 роки тому

      Hello Its me
      May Allah make everything easy for you sister.

    • @arafatkhan7016
      @arafatkhan7016 3 роки тому

      AS SALAH MU ali Kum! Sister, I know you are right, but why after marriage you Won't be able to study any more. I think this is the problem.
      The system should that the boy and girl can get married early but they have to continue their studies and building their career. They doesn’t have to live together immediately after marriage. We all know that marriage will make your riziq better ING SHA ALLAH!

  • @taymiyya1399
    @taymiyya1399 8 років тому +4

    Alhamdulillah for Islam

  • @kerembakar2508
    @kerembakar2508 3 роки тому +1

    Are there a basketball hoop in the mesjid :D I really loved it

  • @tasawarkazmi8404
    @tasawarkazmi8404 5 років тому +1

    I am Shia Muslim from Pakistan and like your views

    • @blessedfamily1417
      @blessedfamily1417 3 роки тому

      There is no Sunni no Shia qadiyani etc etc. There’s only Muslim.

    • @blessedfamily1417
      @blessedfamily1417 3 роки тому

      When I was growing up i didn’t know what Shia or Sunni or qadiyani is. Even when I was a teenager I didn’t know about it because I never heard anyone saying they are Shia sunny qadiyani etc. In my home no one ever used those words. One day I was outside and heard someone saying Sunni. I was confused. I was a teenager. I asked my mother what Sunni is. And that’s when I realized we are Sunni. It’s just sad how things changed. We r no longer just muslims :(

  • @yaseerc5334
    @yaseerc5334 3 місяці тому

    What an explanation

  • @eng.knowledgeseeker
    @eng.knowledgeseeker 4 роки тому +1

    Im 35 and haven’t got married yet , no haram things alhamdullela, but would like to get married soon enshallah, Dono what the qadar written for me .eshallah xair.

  • @rsp5497
    @rsp5497 5 років тому +4

    What if i lose my interest/ sense of getting married?

    • @watchbavaria
      @watchbavaria 4 роки тому +3

      You should seek out the cause for that. What is it that makes marriage for you not considerative?

  • @erfanasalim9886
    @erfanasalim9886 4 роки тому +1

    You are lucky brother, i am engaged since three years but my fiancee doesnt care to get married.
    Plz advice me what to do next

    • @mohammedsadiq7951
      @mohammedsadiq7951 4 роки тому +3

      Ask your finance openly that what is in her heart because prophet saw said 3 things must not be delayed and one of it is marriage if you find your partner.

  • @IbrahimAli-on4uo
    @IbrahimAli-on4uo 4 роки тому +1

    MashaAllah u have really guid me i was vry confused Alhamdulillah.....

    • @nazeerpasha2075
      @nazeerpasha2075 3 роки тому

      In this age of mobile phones and hundreds of dirty sites , it is necessary parents get their teenagers get married as early as possible. If they fall in to bad habits, no amount of advice and coercion will help . Get them married in a simple traditional way and register them when they reach the legal age . it is better than , them having boy friends and girl friends.

  • @overtothisside504
    @overtothisside504 4 роки тому +1

    Excuse me! Are we not marrying for the deen? Wallahi it's no ones business what goes behind closed doors is between you, your spouse and Allah

  • @khalielismail5380
    @khalielismail5380 11 років тому +9

    Marriage is a big conflict in the U.S it really is .

  • @qoon7689
    @qoon7689 4 роки тому

    And how do you test them with maturity??

  • @nazeerpasha2075
    @nazeerpasha2075 3 роки тому +1

    In this age of mobile phones and hundreds of dirty sites , it is necessary parents get their teenagers get married as early as possible. If they fall in to bad habits, no amount of advice and coercion will help . Get them married in a simple traditional way and register them when they reach the legal age . it is better than , them having boy friends and girl friends.

  • @JChasinABag
    @JChasinABag 5 років тому +11

    Im 19 right now but ik myself if I dont get married in the next few years I will fall into haram. My goal is to get married at 21 or 22

    • @clownhehe.4973
      @clownhehe.4973 5 років тому

      PalestinianGoon Allah who anam

    • @isaachussain607
      @isaachussain607 4 роки тому +3

      Same situation

    • @overtothisside504
      @overtothisside504 4 роки тому

      Musa (as) was poor and he got married and he lived with his father in law for 10 years marriage is not a financial problem people make it difficult I'm 17 and inshaAllah i wanna get married before 20 better sooner than later

    • @qoon7689
      @qoon7689 4 роки тому

      popcornto :
      Ameen ya rabb

    • @habibahdawodu5067
      @habibahdawodu5067 3 роки тому

      @@popcornto6032 Ameen, ya Rabb. Keep making dua

  • @bloomingburze4906
    @bloomingburze4906 6 років тому +8

    Since I born till the age of 32 may parents dose not discuss about may marriage , n now they want to make me marry, n still don't discuss any think to me, the impect in may mind make whole may life living hell, now i don't want to be marry ? I want or I don't want doesn't matter, am affraid from Allah to much , but whenever my marriage is discuss this make me so much angry, n I can't control my angar , plz help me , b a Muslim I should marry but how I control my fear for marry n my anger on people plz guaid me

    • @Really_Biggah
      @Really_Biggah 6 років тому +1

      Salamu Alaykum. Sorry to hear your problem. But I need some more details. What exactly are you afraid of? And what do you mean by your anger issues? What exactly makes you get angry? Also are you a sister or a brother? Thx.

    • @harunyahyadotorg
      @harunyahyadotorg 6 років тому

      Yusuf Eid 32 year old virgin and you need to ask about why he she is angry? Jahil. Don’t answer their question as you are not competent enough.

    • @Really_Biggah
      @Really_Biggah 6 років тому +1

      I was just trying to get a better perspective. Because it is confusing how she (or he idk) said they never discuss marriage with her. Yet she also stated, "but whenever my marriage is discuss this make me so much angry". So, does she want to discuss it with them or not?
      Personally, I think she should just put the matter into her own hands and try to find a spouse. If her parents are not doing their duty then she should try to fulfill it herself. She can go to a local masjid and imam and they can help her find a partner (if that is what she really wants, that is.). And, most scholars agree that, if the parents are not allowing the woman to get married, then the Imam or scholar can be the wali (guardian) for the woman instead of the dad. I make dua that she gets the help she needs. Insha'Allah.

    • @kagescar
      @kagescar 5 років тому

      May Allah tala make it easy for you ameen

    • @kagescar
      @kagescar 5 років тому +1

      But me also I am a little confused so is your parents not getting you involved on who you will be marrying are they trying to do like a arranged marriage or something?

  • @Als1822
    @Als1822 10 років тому +15

    Get established and mature first. Don't marry for sex.

    • @zamzampetal8574
      @zamzampetal8574 9 років тому +8

      Maturity is key! But, like Shaykh Yasir Qadhi said, it's not about lust. Marriage is naturally the next stage in life.

    • @Als1822
      @Als1822 8 років тому +1

      Jeffrey Hinkle did it make you feel cool and grown up writing that you imbecile?

    • @planc3318
      @planc3318 6 років тому

      Als Ad hominem

    • @harunyahyadotorg
      @harunyahyadotorg 6 років тому +6

      So is it better to sin? To even look or have non mahrem company is a sin, never mind sex.
      Marriage is not only about having babies and living together (husband and wife alone) like the ‘perfect case’ scenario. It’s about full filling the Sunna and avoiding sin which is major reason on its own.

  • @abdulazizalmass
    @abdulazizalmass 11 років тому +1

    thank you

  • @abbadjitteye4399
    @abbadjitteye4399 8 років тому

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  • @huzaifalewis1310
    @huzaifalewis1310 6 років тому

    Ma shallah

  • @IMT0077
    @IMT0077 5 років тому +2

    Im 23+ and i want to marry, but im really afraid what my parents will say... 😫

    • @IMT0077
      @IMT0077 5 років тому +1

      @Imran Khan Jazakallah brother

    • @heyitsc.t
      @heyitsc.t 5 років тому +2

      Life is short. You can do it right! Insya Allah things will go smooth for you

    • @abdulkhadher1610
      @abdulkhadher1610 5 років тому +1

      Same problem here brother

    • @IMT0077
      @IMT0077 4 роки тому

      @Mubarak Mondal yes brother...i make dua, and let it upto Allah, Cause he's the best planner.

  • @legend5735
    @legend5735 3 роки тому +1

    I just turned 25
    Almost got married at age
    20,21,22
    Everytime got screwed by families on both sides
    I even left islam for a year after that and engaged in haram many times
    Now im back in islam

  • @SAS-tt6zr
    @SAS-tt6zr 5 років тому +2

    I am 36 years old and don't want to marry because I have taken a oath(ALLAH ka Kasam khaye hai) ..that I will not marriage. I will sacrifice the joyness of life, for the shake of my parents and for their long live..is that acceptable ? My parents are long time telling me to marry ...what should I do? I love my parents. And its my thinking that I will sacrifice the happiness of married life and ALLAH will give good health and Ong live to my parents

    • @amaanhamza1776
      @amaanhamza1776 5 років тому +5

      Acc to some hadees , prophet mohammad found some of his sahaabas saying the same that we will only worship allah we wont be marrying we would fast whole year , then prophet mohammad told them not to do so . Dont become extreme brother

    • @TomSuckAtFinance
      @TomSuckAtFinance 4 роки тому +3

      Sekh Abdus Shamim the prophet forbid this kind of oath

    • @randomjoy8411
      @randomjoy8411 4 роки тому

      that's ignorance.
      عَنْ أَنَسَ بْنَ مَالِكٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، قال: جَاءَ ثَلاَثَةُ رَهْطٍ إِلَى بُيُوتِ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، يَسْأَلُونَ عَنْ عِبَادَةِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَلَمَّا أُخْبِرُوا كَأَنَّهُمْ تَقَالُّوهَا، فَقَالُوا: وَأَيْنَ نَحْنُ مِنَ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ؟ قَدْ غُفِرَ لَهُ مَا تَقَدَّمَ مِنْ ذَنْبِهِ وَمَا تَأَخَّرَ، قَالَ أَحَدُهُمْ: أَمَّا أَنَا فَإِنِّي أُصَلِّي اللَّيْلَ أَبَدًا، وَقَالَ آخَرُ: أَنَا أَصُومُ الدَّهْرَ وَلاَ أُفْطِرُ، وَقَالَ آخَرُ: أَنَا أَعْتَزِلُ النِّسَاءَ فَلاَ أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا، فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ إِلَيْهِمْ، فَقَالَ: ((أَنْتُمُ الَّذِينَ قُلْتُمْ كَذَا وَكَذَا، أَمَا وَاللَّهِ إِنِّي لَأَخْشَاكُمْ لِلَّهِ وَأَتْقَاكُمْ لَهُ، لَكِنِّي أَصُومُ وَأُفْطِرُ، وَأُصَلِّي وَأَرْقُدُ، وَأَتَزَوَّجُ النِّسَاءَ، فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي))[1].
      what you're doing conflicts with the sunnah if you're doing it with the intent of Taqarrub (getting closer to Allaah).
      Allaah knows best.

    • @wowwee0
      @wowwee0 4 роки тому +1

      You're an adult and can choose whatever you want to do. Just know the consequences and accept it.

    • @788cooldude
      @788cooldude 4 роки тому +2

      Marriage is a sunnah of the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم and is a half your deen

  • @golddust1266
    @golddust1266 Рік тому

    Dude with 27 written on his jumper as sheikh saying he got married at 21 was done wrong by cameraman. 😂