Found this in the middle of a broken sleep night, and it was exactly what I need. So much about life in this culture demands that we push through for sheer survival’s sake. If I wonder if I can stop pushing through, shutting down so as to endure my toxic work environment, I have only to pay attention to the homeless people right outside the store where I work, to be reminded how things could be, if I don’t push through. It’s such a difficult dilemma.
It really is difficult. I'm out on my own then I have no choice but to deal with my own inner demons to accept and face and to fully feel the pain. It's so difficult in fact that it shouldn't be attempted without people who really understand and can show up in the right way. It very much seems like being alone in the dark like a lost child. Thank you for showing up and helping guide me thru this dark scary tunnel like the north star
I was emotionally abused - ie; had emotional support withheld, was given the silent treatment by my adoptive mother; and treated with hostility as well as constant minimising ie; raped at age 11, and molested repeatedly by a music teacher as a 12 year old, mother appeared to be angry at me, probably mostly because she chose not to support or reassure me in any way whatsoever. Neither of these abuses were reported to the police. I took that to mean I didn't matter enough :-(
Thank you for your work! Life Force is within you. You can feel it at this moment. It is breathing your body; it is moving your blood; it is keeping your nerves alive; it is sparking your mental awareness. (Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 3: What Is Life Force?) You must take responsibility for the content of your mind.What are you thinking at this moment? What you are thinking is relevant to what you are experiencing.This is accurate. But beyond this is reality, and that is the great gift. Achieving this, then, is more a settling down than a building up. It is the result of becoming still and observant so that you can penetrate your own interpretation. A still mind is a mind that is collecting its own power. It can direct its full resources in any direction, and that is the definition of power in the world. (Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 30: Perception) These powerful quotes are from books by *Marshall Vian Summers*
I had a similar experience with when learning how to ride a bike. My father figured said he wouldn’t let go of the back of my bike seat but he did. I crashed my bike and ended up with a ripped up knee. I probably should have gotten stitches because I have a 3 inch long scar from it. When I see the scar it is a constant reminder that some people lie, break promises and cannot be trusted.
Irene, I've not commented for a while because I'd be repeating my kudos and also my experience. But I'll repeat myself now, for you & your audience. Every moment of this video, and each of your videos-kudos! People, stay with it. My 61 years of working with PTSD has shown me that reconnecting with myself is arduous, at times seemingly unbearable...but a genuine necessity.
This is so profound for me! I’ve had boundary issues most of my life and have learned to weaken my assertiveness with setting boundaries to be accepted. I was regularly hit and yelled at as a child whenever I tried to assert myself and set boundaries.
My great aunt was a lefty and my great grandmother made her write with her right hand because it was a superstition in her community back in the 40s. She ended up with a lefthanded granddaughter and great granddaughter (me) and my nephew is a lefty.
Hi Irene I just want to say thank you for everything! I’m 20 years old and I realized that I have a very disregulated nervous system. You made me realize how my childhood trauma is suppressing my authentic self. You tell the truth on nervous system health. Your work is amazing! Thank you!
So helpful, thank you. Made me realize I need to try and raise something that's been making me feel incredibly uncomfortable but which I minimized and tried to forget about. Listening to you it reemerged like a vulcano combined with that feeling of uncomfortableness that made me suppress it last time round. This time I heard you explain that uncomfortable feeling so now I have more courage to honour my feelings even if the other person may think it's ridiculous for me to react so strongly. But even though it's small it triggered huge wounds of past events where my needs and fears were ignored.
I just paused this video after 6 minutes. And it's a win. I've learned not to push through, to slow down and even pause or stop when I need to. And gosh, I needed to coz my guts were wrenching as Irene read this person's comment. So horrible for adults to behave this way. It triggers me so intensely because my story was that I would be taken away by an 'ugly wicked man' if I didn't do this or that. It wasn't a spank but God how it hurt. I believed it. I was so scared to be taken away. And I can tell you, even now in my forties, I'm afraid I'll be excluded, rejected, in danger, if I don't satisfy one's expectations. I'm working on it. Thank you Irene.
Oof, when you started talking about detachment, I had to stop the video, because I've been overwhelmed by emotion. I guess it hit too close to home.. But I'm curious about that and hope I will come back to it one day. What you're doing is awesome!
thankyou. I will be sure to listen to your recommended material.. I am so connecting with your content and sharings .it covers the neuro and soma clearly🙏. Thankyou again.🌹🍁
Thank you! I suffered violence and I don't remember so many things. My child and young years are covered with blackouts. So, how to remember, how to start to say no, how to begin to get out? I have the impression that once again cases like that are not contemplated in so many programs and this one appears to be the case once again.
Hi. I am in the same boat. It has taken me a year to even think about titrating my feelings about my childhood violence. The first thing I did was to find at least one person I could open up to. Now, when I try to go into the repressed feelings and get stuck a little bit, I can call someone. Kind of like an AA sponsor. This isn't easy work. Holding your hand, virtually. 🙋♀️
@@dapsolita Thank you, thank you, dearest Theresa. I am sending you a big and warm hug. ❤️ I am really glad you found someone to speak with about all that. I am Spanish and live in Spain. North Americans are a lot, a lot more open than us. We don't speak about these things. I have been trying for years without luck, by the way. You know, trying a little, when feeling confident but still with hesitation. The usual answer is silence or "I don't know what to say". I've done so many therapies, and I am still dealing with this F****** curse. Reading doctor Peter Levine's book gave me some hope. Self Havening gets me out of the frozen state. Very effective for that. But I know I need more. Still looking.
@@jimenaffpp I hear you! I am saving for SBSM at the moment. Good luck and keep trying to reach out, if you can. Sending warmth from Vancouver to Spain!
I don't remember most of my childhood, though there was no violence, just trauma from emotional abandonment. I shopped around til I found a very well trained and experienced trauma therapist. After over a year with her, we started Internal Family Systems work. This is my way around not remembering because the work is between my therapist and my subconscious, I keep myself out of the way while we're working! She helps me go into a sort of meditative state for this work. For me, I've found that talking about what traumatised me just retraumatises me, I don't find it helpful or constructive. Good luck 💚
@@Cathy-js8xm That's so interesting! I have tried IFS as well. When you are in this meditative state, do you still feel the emotional pain of the abandonment? Even if you aren't reliving the actual event?
So I have an unrelated question--how do antidepressants like Prozac affect nervous system healing? Can I still heal if I'm on one? Thank you! Love your videos!
Hi Lili 37, Jen here from Team Lyon. We don't have psychiatrists on Irene's team so aren't able to advise on medication specifics, and generally speaking when it comes to working with the nervous system they can sometimes be helpful to provide stability in the nervous system that then makes it possible to do this work (in addition to other benefits). Prozac is an SSRI as you may know, and you asked about medications like Prozac. If you're considering starting a medication, it can be prudent to learn about the potential risks associated with long term benzodiazepine use.
@@teamlyon3109 I’m sure this was autocorrect jumping in to assist (a frequent occurrence in my life), but it’s hard to understand the reply to the question.
Found this in the middle of a broken sleep night, and it was exactly what I need. So much about life in this culture demands that we push through for sheer survival’s sake. If I wonder if I can stop pushing through, shutting down so as to endure my toxic work environment, I have only to pay attention to the homeless people right outside the store where I work, to be reminded how things could be, if I don’t push through. It’s such a difficult dilemma.
It really is difficult. I'm out on my own then I have no choice but to deal with my own inner demons to accept and face and to fully feel the pain. It's so difficult in fact that it shouldn't be attempted without people who really understand and can show up in the right way. It very much seems like being alone in the dark like a lost child. Thank you for showing up and helping guide me thru this dark scary tunnel like the north star
I was emotionally abused - ie; had emotional support withheld, was given the silent treatment by my adoptive mother; and treated with hostility as well as constant minimising ie; raped at age 11, and molested repeatedly by a music teacher as a 12 year old, mother appeared to be angry at me, probably mostly because she chose not to support or reassure me in any way whatsoever. Neither of these abuses were reported to the police. I took that to mean I didn't matter enough :-(
. blessing your path. Sending love🙏❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your work!
Life Force is within you. You can feel it at this moment. It is breathing your body; it is moving your blood; it is keeping your nerves alive; it is sparking your mental awareness. (Greater Community Spirituality, Chapter 3: What Is Life Force?)
You must take responsibility for the content of your mind.What are you thinking at this moment? What you are thinking is relevant to what you are experiencing.This is accurate. But beyond this is reality, and that is the great gift. Achieving this, then, is more a settling down than a building up. It is the result of becoming still and observant so that you can penetrate your own interpretation. A still mind is a mind that is collecting its own power. It can direct its full resources in any direction, and that is the definition of power in the world. (Wisdom from the Greater Community Volume I, Chapter 30: Perception)
These powerful quotes are from books by *Marshall Vian Summers*
This is the information that is saving my life. Thank you for sharing!
This is so good. GREAT therapeutic information/ content, & very supportive for self-inquiry for healing.
I had a similar experience with when learning how to ride a bike. My father figured said he wouldn’t let go of the back of my bike seat but he did. I crashed my bike and ended up with a ripped up knee. I probably should have gotten stitches because I have a 3 inch long scar from it. When I see the scar it is a constant reminder that some people lie, break promises and cannot be trusted.
Irene, I've not commented for a while because I'd be repeating my kudos and also my experience. But I'll repeat myself now, for you & your audience. Every moment of this video, and each of your videos-kudos! People, stay with it. My 61 years of working with PTSD has shown me that reconnecting with myself is arduous, at times seemingly unbearable...but a genuine necessity.
i enjoyed discovering my top 5 core values the other day :) there was this gut 'yeah this feels right' type of 'tension' zingyness hehe
OMG hearing that story about the bike made me feel overwhelmingly sad. That is so mean! : (
This is so profound for me! I’ve had boundary issues most of my life and have learned to weaken my assertiveness with setting boundaries to be accepted. I was regularly hit and yelled at as a child whenever I tried to assert myself and set boundaries.
My great aunt was a lefty and my great grandmother made her write with her right hand because it was a superstition in her community back in the 40s. She ended up with a lefthanded granddaughter and great granddaughter (me) and my nephew is a lefty.
Hi Irene I just want to say thank you for everything! I’m 20 years old and I realized that I have a very disregulated nervous system. You made me realize how my childhood trauma is suppressing my authentic self. You tell the truth on nervous system health. Your work is amazing! Thank you!
So helpful, thank you. Made me realize I need to try and raise something that's been making me feel incredibly uncomfortable but which I minimized and tried to forget about. Listening to you it reemerged like a vulcano combined with that feeling of uncomfortableness that made me suppress it last time round. This time I heard you explain that uncomfortable feeling so now I have more courage to honour my feelings even if the other person may think it's ridiculous for me to react so strongly. But even though it's small it triggered huge wounds of past events where my needs and fears were ignored.
Thank you . I think you are brilliant and so clear about how you speak and teach this material . It is helping me so much to see myself and heal .
Thank you 🙏🏻 ❤
I just paused this video after 6 minutes. And it's a win. I've learned not to push through, to slow down and even pause or stop when I need to.
And gosh, I needed to coz my guts were wrenching as Irene read this person's comment. So horrible for adults to behave this way.
It triggers me so intensely because my story was that I would be taken away by an 'ugly wicked man' if I didn't do this or that. It wasn't a spank but God how it hurt. I believed it. I was so scared to be taken away.
And I can tell you, even now in my forties, I'm afraid I'll be excluded, rejected, in danger, if I don't satisfy one's expectations.
I'm working on it.
Thank you Irene.
Oof, when you started talking about detachment, I had to stop the video, because I've been overwhelmed by emotion. I guess it hit too close to home.. But I'm curious about that and hope I will come back to it one day. What you're doing is awesome!
I relate. Thank you for this video.
Thank you🙏
thankyou. I will be sure to listen to your recommended material.. I am so connecting with your content and sharings .it covers the neuro and soma clearly🙏. Thankyou again.🌹🍁
Thank you
👍🏻 good information
Brilliant!
thank you for doing these videos ❤️
Thank you! I suffered violence and I don't remember so many things. My child and young years are covered with blackouts. So, how to remember, how to start to say no, how to begin to get out? I have the impression that once again cases like that are not contemplated in so many programs and this one appears to be the case once again.
Hi. I am in the same boat. It has taken me a year to even think about titrating my feelings about my childhood violence. The first thing I did was to find at least one person I could open up to. Now, when I try to go into the repressed feelings and get stuck a little bit, I can call someone. Kind of like an AA sponsor. This isn't easy work. Holding your hand, virtually. 🙋♀️
@@dapsolita Thank you, thank you, dearest Theresa. I am sending you a big and warm hug. ❤️ I am really glad you found someone to speak with about all that. I am Spanish and live in Spain. North Americans are a lot, a lot more open than us. We don't speak about these things. I have been trying for years without luck, by the way. You know, trying a little, when feeling confident but still with hesitation. The usual answer is silence or "I don't know what to say". I've done so many therapies, and I am still dealing with this F****** curse. Reading doctor Peter Levine's book gave me some hope. Self Havening gets me out of the frozen state. Very effective for that. But I know I need more. Still looking.
@@jimenaffpp I hear you! I am saving for SBSM at the moment. Good luck and keep trying to reach out, if you can. Sending warmth from Vancouver to Spain!
I don't remember most of my childhood, though there was no violence, just trauma from emotional abandonment. I shopped around til I found a very well trained and experienced trauma therapist. After over a year with her, we started Internal Family Systems work. This is my way around not remembering because the work is between my therapist and my subconscious, I keep myself out of the way while we're working! She helps me go into a sort of meditative state for this work. For me, I've found that talking about what traumatised me just retraumatises me, I don't find it helpful or constructive. Good luck 💚
@@Cathy-js8xm That's so interesting! I have tried IFS as well. When you are in this meditative state, do you still feel the emotional pain of the abandonment? Even if you aren't reliving the actual event?
Thank you!
So I have an unrelated question--how do antidepressants like Prozac affect nervous system healing? Can I still heal if I'm on one? Thank you! Love your videos!
Hi Lili 37, Jen here from Team Lyon. We don't have psychiatrists on Irene's team so aren't able to advise on medication specifics, and generally speaking when it comes to working with the nervous system they can sometimes be helpful to provide stability in the nervous system that then makes it possible to do this work (in addition to other benefits).
Prozac is an SSRI as you may know, and you asked about medications like Prozac. If you're considering starting a medication, it can be prudent to learn about the potential risks associated with long term benzodiazepine use.
@@teamlyon3109 I’m sure this was autocorrect jumping in to assist (a frequent occurrence in my life), but it’s hard to understand the reply to the question.
@@lrow5416 thanks for letting me know. It looked like a YT glitch. Should be fixed now.
the fuck is wrong with that persons grandfather