PLOT TWIST?! How we Really Feel about Becoming Parents, Fun Weekend in Nash! | Julia & Hunter Havens
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You should press some of the flowers, if you still have them! They would be so cute for a baby book! 💙💙💙💙
That’s a great idea!! And/or get them
Framed 🥹😍
That would be super cute nursery decor with an ultrasound photo 🥹
The sleep is definitely a hard adjustment, especially if baby will be breastfed. Every kiddo is so different and you never know how it will be until he is here. It is definitely instinct and you will know what to do right off the bat. That is the biggest thing that I realized within myself, is that I have good instincts especially when it comes to my son. Asking for help is the main thing especially Julia, for the sake of your mental and physical health, it’s important.
Real words 🤝🏽
Just like another person said, you can prep and prep and you just don’t know until baby comes because they truly are all so different. I think it’s good to try to be go with the flow mentality. Sleep deprivation is hardest to adjust to. Maybe taking shifts with waking with baby. With the first we took baby everywhere and tried to be out of the house. With the second, I’ve tried to keep more of a routine with naps and keeping to a schedule.
You can get advice but it’s true every body with new baby is different. I had 3 boys and not one slept thru the night. That changes soon, but it’s overwhelming going thru it. I thought it was so sweet when Hunter said he’d see you in a new way when the baby comes. Neither of you have seen the love you’ll have for your baby and the love you’ll have for each other will be awesome to see. Also the love you have for your dogs is a good sign of what good parents you’ll be. Plus you both have amazing parents and families, I’m so happy for both of you.
My parents ate super clean growing up and obviously fed us the same. No junk. At times it was frustrating because being a kid you see your friends eating doritos and other "yummies" for lunch, but I am so so thankful now. I am in college and home cook almost all of my meals and eat clean. They also workout every single day which definitely motivates the whole family. I couldn't be more thankful for them raising us that way, so I really respect and encourage putting that at the top!
Taking a prenatal class really helped me feel more at ease. My nursery wasn’t 100% ready before my twins were born because they arrived early and that stressed me out so if you can get it ready early and stocked with all the necessities. Also, if it’s important to maintain your healthy eating lifestyle, I would prepare a simple menu to get you through the first couple weeks, otherwise it will be tempting to order via meal delivery services. Y’all have got this!
My first baby is 19 months and just got pregnant with baby #2… one thing I will say is, don’t listen to people that make the newborn stage sound miserable 😂 every experience is different but my son has actually been super easy and it truly is a precious time! I hate the mindset people try to throw at new parents where they tell you you’ll never sleep again haha it is a beautiful journey!
Love this comment!🤍
before baby, get sleeeeeeeep you will never get it the same again especially Julia, watch a movie because it will be difficult later, going out to eat for a nice dinner because that will be hard as well. but always trust your mommy instincts when people are giving you advice, you know best.
Taking Cara Babies was key! You’ll hear that you’ll never be able to sleep again but you will def adjust and lean on each other to switch off w/ baby so y’all can each rest.
Schedule a newborn shoot when baby is 3 weeks old
Meal train with friends/fam for first couple of weeks was so nice. We did a huge Costco & TJs run before baby was here too🤍
The number one tip I would give for new patents is go with your instincts. If you want to cuddle your baby to sleep. Then do it in the safest way of course. Get a very comfortable recliner/recliner/ rotating chair and your are set! Human babies are totally helpless. None of that crying out stupid mentality is gonna “spoil” your baby. They need love. And mamas always know best!! Never doubt that instinct with your baby. Even when experts tell you other wise. Everything else will be depending of your baby’s temperament and then you’ll adjust accordingly. You’ll probably have a very calm baby. I have that feeling! ❤
Love this advice, I wish I had followed this advice when my baby was born. I love co sleeping but was so scared to. I wish I could go back and sleep next to my tiny baby.
Yes❤ ive co slept with borh my babies and its the best decision ever. I feel their warm and you have that mother instinct that they are next to you and wont even move a bit lol
I knew it was a boy from the get go!! Booker is going to be the sweetest big brudder 💙🐶💙
Hi! We just made homemade Starbucks copy cat egg bites and they turned out great!
1. Cut up bacon and cook until crispy
2. In a blender, add 4 eggs, 2 eggs worth of egg whites, gruyere cheese, 1/4 tsp salt, and 1/4 cup of cottage cheese. Blend until fluffy.
3. Grease a silicon muffin tin. Disperse bacon and egg mixture evenly among all 12 tins. (We did half bacon gruyere and half red pepper spinach)
4. KEY: place muffin tin on top of a baking sheet with a layer of water. (This steams the bites and makes them fluffy and moist).
5. Bake on 350 for 20-25 mins.
6. Enjoy!
Tips from this 65 mother of 3…….. sleep schedules are important as they get older, newborns obviously are different, when feeding in middle of night , try not to stimulate baby with bright light or talking. It will help them go back to sleep. Those are 2 tips I learned and prepared better with kid 2,3.
Sleep as much as you can! My boy was and still is a terrible sleeper his now 21 months! Also if you can prep some meals now freezer meals soups curries etc easy things to just heat up when you just can’t be arsed and don’t want to eat crap takeout!
This is going to sound weird but my biggest tip is to set your expectations low. For yourself, for your baby, for your to-do list, for holidays and outings. I would always try to do too much and get too excited for things and they just don’t always go as planned. When you have low expectations you will just enjoy yourself and your baby more.
You guys seem like such solid people with great communication, a big love, considerate of each other’s well-being. You’ll be amazing parents to your baby boy!
The truly worst thing about having a newborn is being overtired and therefore irritable and stressed(aside from the hormonal shifts and healing your body after delivery.) Finding shortcuts like securing yourselves ready-to-eat balanced meals and having people to help clean/do laundry. Do not underestimate the amount of laundry with all kinds of leaking that happens from mom and baby 😅
ESSENTIAL: always asking for help whenever possible: even if it’s a family member or well rested friend to just sit and watch the sleeping baby/the monitor while you catch up on sleep without panicking to check on your baby every second.(maybe that was just me! But like they’re a miracle you’re obsessed with them and worry all the time to make sure they’re good!) Like you, Julia, I was blessed with a supportive partner and he really stepped up from minute 1. Don’t overthink anything and enjoy every second of the newborn bliss when the time comes ❤
Sleep is definitely an issue to be aware of. It effects your mental state and motivation. I still haven’t pinpointed the exact “term” for this, but the biggest thing for me was understanding I am the machine that keeps everything going, which means your personal care, health and well-being is just as important as your baby’s needs. I didn’t do great at this with my first but am getting a little better with my second. You thought you knew yourself before kids, you REALLY get to understand this new you after kids. Yes your body will CONTINUOUSLY crave sleep, BUT…weighing your mental state in those moments is important too, like, “ok, is it essential to get sleep right now, or should I take this opportunity to do something that is therapeutic to me and just drink an espresso shot in order to go do that thing” understanding that balance has been essential to me. Sometimes squeezing in the sleep helps your body feel more rested, but not your brain, and knowing which one you need more is important. Having a partner that knows you really well can help with this, sometimes they can tell which you need more before you do.
I love that Hunter said seeing you as a mom will be a new attraction he has for you. It is so important to remember how much your woman goes through to bring that baby into this world and reminding her how beautiful she is, is so precious. I’m so happy for you two ❤
My number one tip, I had 2 under 2 is to go with your instincts as a mother. Do less prep and research. Don’t worry about what the “experts” say you should be doing with your baby. Respond to love, love them, hold them, sleep with them, rock them, kiss them etc. do what feels right to you. It’s your baby and no one else will know them better 🤍 soak it all in bc they grow up so fast. They’re only little for so long
I love it that you guys are making these changes,, you guys are going to be wonderful parents, I was ready for the changes after baby girl came, the kisses the cuddles, I loved nursing so much, made me eat healthier, for my babies, some advice I took , especially from my Mom and my sister, MY HUSBAND AND I FELL DEEPER IN LOVE HAVING Our BABIES, after my two girls couldn’t have anymore due to complications, so never had my boy until my grandson came along,, we are very close and he’s graduating in May, couldn’t be any prouder,, I’m so happy I had two children, my girls are very close, 34 and 39
I CAN’T WAIT TO SEE
BABY BOY HAVENS,
❤❤❤😊👍🏻😌☺️🙃😌😊🙏🙏🙏🙏
i had my baby boy june of 2022, and i’m so excited for you guys to have a baby boy, they are THE BEST!!!!!! 💙💙
I love this chapter of the Havens 🫶🏼
Things that helped me (I’m 31 and my son is 21 months old) I was done with the nursery before he came (I know people say it’s not important but it made it so much easier because I felt like I had no time after he was here to do it) preparing my hospital bag was major by the time I was 33 weeks. I’m anal retentive 😂 also we took the taking cara babies sleep class (this was the biggest thing I would recommend, it helped us create a proper schedule for us and our son. This class helped us figure out how to get him to soothe himself to sleep and he’s been sleeping through the night ever since which is a dreammmmm come true) having everything setup and prepared helped ease my mind. I had my bedside table prepped with a diaper caddy. I had the bassinet setup next to our bed. So when we got home with him that first day it felt weird but also calm because we had setup and prepared before hand. Honestly it felt like a little vacation because my husband was home for 5 weeks with me and we created such a beautiful time together. Enjoy it for everything it brings! 🤍🤍
You sound like me! I'm 36 weeks💝
I disagree i had my last one in 1985 my grandmother came for a few days and it was a time i will cherish forever. She’s been gone at least 15 years. Plenty of time to bond, years. My grandparents, mom, and husband are gone. I wish i had more pictures of everyone that came over. All the love for a beautiful child. I was there for my grandchildren as well. It’s a special time when your own children have children. Words can’t describe.
Totally agree family being around was beautiful!
Great advice 👍😃
I have 3 adult married children that have young kids, so I’ve been there when grandbabies were newborns.
Plus I can clearly remember bringing home my babies. So I just want to pass along some new parent “hacks”. You’ve got time to complete the baby’s nursery. Having a changing station in your bedroom for the first few months while baby sleeps in your room with you is nice of course but having a nightlight that you use in the middle of the night is wonderful. A device of some sort that rocks baby that is plugged in so it keeps going without stopping until you stop it. Since nursing a baby is an ‘art’ it’s important to be calm, relaxed and comfy when baby is nursing. Have daddy bring you a nice beverage and put your feet up. Enjoy bonding and try to stay in the moment. Drinking a lot of fluid helps prime your body to make milk. One of my babies wouldn’t latch on because he was distracted by every little thing. I finally took off my nightie, turned the lights down low and laid down on my side to nurse him without any distractions. Only had to do that a few times until baby caught on and didn’t want to miss out on a drop of milk. Then I could nurse him in any position I liked. The best advice I got from my husband’s grandmother on nursing successfully in the beginning was to not introduce any nipple other then your own and don’t give up. You have everything your baby needs in your milk, it’s the right temperature, it’s convenient, no bottles to wash. Once nursing is fully established after 6 weeks, then you can introduce an occasional bottle of your milk that you pumped. A good breast pump is important. Make up your mind that you are going to nurse your baby and don’t listen to people saying he’s not getting enough milk or he needs some water or a pacifier. Those actions will deplete your supply. Mother’s milk doesn’t usually ‘come in’ until day 3. So baby will be fine with just your colostrum (liquid gold)until then. Read now about how to successfully nurse a baby. SLEEP as much as you can because you’ll wish you had once baby arrives. You’ll do great Julia because when you make up your mind something is important to you, you get it done. Nothing is more important than giving your baby the most nutrient rich start in life that only you can give him. 💙
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Completely agree and I always like before watching too 🤩
I am so excited you both are getting a baby boy! They are the best. 💙
I became a mom at 23 and the biggest thing for me was being a team with your partner. It’s easier said than done. Mom will make a ton of sacrifices but so does Dad so it has to be equal. Remember to take turns doing things, not just one person doing everything. Don’t forget to take of yourselves. 1000% finding a good healthy balance. ❤
Whoever said you can’t prepare is right. How can you prepare for the ride of your life? Pray a lot!?! Starting now! Prepare yourself mentally to have the hardest days of your life and prepare yourself now to remember that nothing lasts
forever. Every stage can drag on and be mundane and all consuming. Roll with it. You will come out on the other side of it. Let go of any and all pressure to do things perfectly. Your life is about to change in ways you can’t even imagine and it will all be worth it! Prepare to resist the urge to put your child before your spouse. Your kid will grow up one day and leave but you will need your spouse on your side forever. 💙
I don’t know if I’m the only one that feels this way, but I definitely don’t think you can prepare for the sleep deprivation. It will be tough, but you can do it and we’re all here for you! Once baby comes you guys will get in a rhythm and it will come naturally. Especially for momma, you’ll never fully be asleep pretty much ever again and that’s just our instinct, we hear everything! Love you guys so much, can’t wait to meet baby boy 🫶🏻✨
“You’ll never be fully asleep ever again” THAT PART 🫶🏼🤞🏼
Totally AGREE!!
Your face Julia when Hunter made that sweet comment about you being the coolest mom was so heartfelt and priceless I’m beyond happy for the two of you! You both are going to be such great parents that precious boy is blessed already and so are the two of you!!
Hunter, what happen to the bars you would eat before workouts? Those are good for grab an go😊 yeahhhhhhhh Baby Boy🎉 congrats
You guys might have mentioned it already but where is Bookers Collar from???? I LOVE IT! I’m struggling to find a decent collar for my doggos active energy 🥰
Yay it's a boy my daughter is having her 2nd boy due in May wow this will be grand child #5 for me (my other daughter has three 2 girls 1 boy) so I'm really happy to watch you and her pass through this journey so stay calm and relaxed it's ok you will be just fine you got this #bombmoms 💜
ALWAYS give juj the 4-7am sleep stretch. It’s invaluable ❤
Just a tip: when you do eyedrops you are supposed to lie on your back fro 5-10 minutes for best results! From a nurse point of view :)
If you guys have a local farm or farmers market it would be great to shop local it’s so fresh meats dairy veg it supports local farmers which is so important & makes great content would be fun to see the local markets in Nashville 💛and when you get your own farm going it’s nice to connect with local farmers for information they are such a great resource if you are looking into your own garden and farm animals
Congrats! I am 31 with an 11 month old. My advice for going through that first year… Everything is SO temporary, that includes the bad/hard. Enjoy each other the most you can, and individually. Your life won’t end and you’ll still get time, but it will be different. Enjoy the get up and go at your leisure❤ try not to listen to the “just wait” comments… I was terrified of losing sleep and the struggle of being tired…and then my baby came out sleeping through the night since a month old 😂 also, getting yourself new treats for in the hospital and postpartum (favorite lotion, new comfy clothes, any type of mood booster) is helpful and fun for YOU, since life is about the baby so much that first 1-2 months. It’s such a beautiful experience, and the love you have for that tiny human is unlike anything you’ll ever know. Enjoy it ❤ congrats again!
YES!! I totally second what you said about each stage being so temporary (good & bad). And the stuff you’re so freaked out about (what bottles, then how to wean, etc) will come & go so fast. My kids are now 5, 4 & 3 yrs and I STILL remind myself of this.
Yes!!! I agree. When i get frustrated at night because mine has woken up , I just remember everything is temporary and these times go by so fast!!!
3 words. Moms On Call.
Buy the books. Game changer. Gave us a routine, taught us all the little things no one teaches you how to do & makes you feel like you’ve got a grip on things being new parents. Their sleep tips WORK
I just had my first baby in December the one thing that you can do now is prep freezer meals!! Having food prepared is legit the most helpful thing in the first couple of months and I wish I spent more time doing it.
I know this is a tip for a little
bit closer to the due date but I wish we had prepped healthy meals like things we could freeze and throw in a crockpot/oven for a couple weeks while we adjust!
Sending you guys so much love, patience and confidence in your new journey as parents! It’s such a fun new chapter! 🤍💙
The one thing I would change is having frozen meals ready for the newborn stage. Make meals and freeze them because it is so hard to cook when you are exhausted plus needing to tend to a newborn 24/7 for the first couple of weeks.
I just love ❤️ these guys
Congrats again ! Love the blue top. Where is it from ?
So I’m not a “young parent” (53 😝) but if I could give just one piece of advice …. It would be to have your hospital bag packed early! Both of our girls were born early. One 4 weeks the other 7 weeks. Both healthy… but my youngest spent 17 days in the NICU. My oldest attends Vandy 🥰 ANYWAY…my husband had to go home & round up my things 1. Put a lot of pressure on him and 2. I was missing a lot of essentials that I wanted. My own fault! Oh one more….. Congrats on having a boy!
When breast feeding and it starts to get hard and sore and yes will hurt. Use ice packs. Also try to have schedule with baby and everything. Because it will help to get in some alone time. Time for each other. Believe me. It’s a must. Congrats its a boy. From what I’ve seen. U guys have what it takes to be great parents. Faith. Love. Communication 🙏🏾🥰
you guys can get hot teas at Starbucks! they have some yummy flavors, peach , white tea peppermint etc.
We’re both 33 with one heavenly three year old, and an earthly 19 month old and here are some of the best tips I’ve received or would give -
1 Enjoy your baby - don’t view them as something you have to be doing but instead a nugget you get to be loving on . Such a gift, obviously, but being sure to do things with them that you’ll enjoy doing too.
2 Kind of hand in hand with 1, but putting your baby into your life rather than changing everything about your life to fit your baby (obviously not talking about eating or sleeping schedules). Use your baby as weight when working out, take them on hikes, let them drop the fruit in the blender, etc…
3 Remember that everything is new to them so what feels like monotonous daily life for you is a whole adventure for them. Going on Starbucks dates (we love these), grocery store outings, trying new parks - these are all brand new for your baby.
4 Sleep. Sleep. Sleep some more. Getting on a schedule is admirable and i totally get where y’all are coming from, but schedules/habits are formed and then your brand new nugget comes and you’re up throughout the night and just sleeping when you can, so don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get on a good schedule yet. That’ll happen naturally in the first few months.
5 Cuddle that puppy! We love our first baby little pup Pepper, but she definitely gets less attention these days.
6 Accept help from any family or friends who want to watch your baby. Even if that just means you going to take a nap.
So happy for your guys, sending all our love and prayers and good energy to y’all! Such an exciting new chapter!
My biggest prep is having TWO changing stations. One in the parents bedroom & one in the living room. Since those were the main rooms.. & it’s in a basket.
I think the biggest adjustment is the newborn stage when you’re stressed and overwhelmed and happy and exhausted. That is the biggest time of change and adjustment. It’s hard but it’s so good. Just make meals in the freezer to have when you need them, sleep when you can, naps are wonderful, and make mental health a priority. So excited for you guys!
Literally all this! When I was expecting I thought these things were cliche but really they’re the ONLY thing we can have control over in the newborn stage. Resting ourselves and having meals ready because otherwise there are just not enough hours in the day, are there 😅
When I had my twin daughters at the age of 26 my husband and I swore that we’d had our baby plan/schedule figured out.
We were so, so wrong!
My best advice is to prepare to go with the flow and gently transition so that you can actually enjoy the time of new change and live in the moment with your new life and family ❤
So happy for y’all. In my experience you cannot really prepare but I will say in these last months, enjoy quiet time, EAT OUT, hang out with friends. I always said I’ll just take the baby with me … but it’s not the same.
Congratulations on the baby boy! New mom over here, and I would say the hardest adjustment was the sleep… it’s tough!! Just hang in there! and honestly shocked how much babies eat and how quickly the amount jumps from month to month! As much as you can try to prepare you can’t, however as long as you have a supportive partner you guys got this! Love your videos!
I had the same reaction with my prescribed eye drops it’s terrible lol it’s like the back of your throat
So beautiful! I said boy the whole time! 🎉💙 yay! Also- I love your friendship with TT. You’re so cute & sweet together.
Loved that you talked about your goals for the week! Thanks for including us! It has motivated me for the week! WOOO! Hope you guys give us an update on how you did next vlog! Cheers!
Hunter missed the perfect opportunity for another nickname for Booker with the red collar…PAWtrick Mahomes 🤣
I guessed right...Boy!! 👣💙
Carrying high means baby boy per the women in my family history. 😊 Congratulations again!! 🎊🎊🎊
You just can’t prepare 😂 my husband and I are the same age as you guys and let me just tell you, a baby just flips your world around. I’d say the early stages of sleep was the worst though. I always say - there’s a reason sleep deprivation is used as a torture tactic. It’s unbearable sometimes. But it gets better! I just think sleep is never the same after a baby anyway. Our little boy, Carter, is 2 and it’s currently 2.20am in London and I’m wide awake because he didn’t want to sleep in his bed last night so we popped him in with us and he quite literally kicked me out the bed. Like he’s been kicking me for hours now that I’ve relocated to the couch and will likely fall asleep here for the rest of the night. But let me tell ya, there isn’t anything in the world I wouldn’t do for that little boy 💙 being a parent is truly the most challenging, but most rewarding thing you’ll ever do.
I didn’t pack my hospital bag soon enough and gave birth 6 weeks early. Eat a meal before you go to the hospital. I didn’t get to eat for 4 days. Prepare healthy meals in freezer for crockpot or oven for when you come home. Don’t forget to bring chapstick in hospital bag.
Ahhhhhhhhhh I loved seeing the behind the scenes of the gender reveal it was INKREDIBLE as Julia would say💙 I can totally relate on the healthy snacks topic, and I would say check our Costcos freezer aisle. They have good little things you could put in the air fryer for 10 minutes and go.
Get all the sleep and rest now 💕
IM SO HAPPY FOR YALL!!! I love you so much 💙💙💙💙💙 y’all are going to be the best parents!
I am old but I had 3 kids and each of their demeanor was different. I think it's great Julia that you have such a great partner in Hunter and I know you will work together and support each other when needed. You can have a cryin baby or a baby that is content and that you have to wake him up to eat. Just enjoy the infant stage. It's a hard stage because they can't tell you what they want but just know that phase goes by so fast. And that first time he sleeps through the night your like, what just happen. LOL. And then the next night he might not Also what was hard for me is that the grandparents wanted to come and stay as soon as the baby was born to help out and with good intentions but I found out next time I just wanted my husband and I because this was our bonding moment with our baby. You learn as you go and don't be ashame to ask questions for tips.But like the others said every baby is different. One of my children was a crier but would sleep to the sound of the dishwasher, so we taped recorded the dishwasher and would play the tape for her naps. I guess she like the swishing noise. LOL Best wishes for you both.
My husband and I are also eating really clean and laser focused on health. We have been most of our lives but now really focused. We just turned 60 and living our best life. I have been watching Bobby Parrish's channel FlavCity and he is awesome with all the clean eating videos. congratulations on your baby boy. We have five grown children and the number one thing you have to do is take care of yourselves. Do not give up the self-care, but cherish every minute because is goes soooo fast. You are entering the best part of life. We are now empty nesters and loving our new found freedom but miss our kiddos everyday! BTW...Sleep when baby sleeps!
A baby boy.. Congratulations.. Your love and excitement is precious..😀😀
we knew we wouldn’t be able to workout together anymore (except weekends if grandma comes over or something) but it’s been an adjustment to lose my gym partner and have almost separate routines in a sense. We now have to compromise who goes in the AM vs PM. It’s more so tough for me bc I feel like I don’t push myself as hard without him 🥲😂 just something random I don’t hear a lot of ppl saying. As for prepping, making dinners or even just pre chopping sides + blanching veggies and freezing them is super helpful when you want to avoid eating poorly bc it’s so easy to get everything cooked up super quick. Congrats you guys!
Are you drying the flowers for forever keepsake?! 😍
Everybody will tell you what to do. Find what works for you and ignore criticism. Sleep deprivation is the hardest part.
Love your vlogs!! 💗
chomps beef jerky sticks are great for a grab and go snack! pair that with a piece of fruit to get some carbs too
It’s so fun to get to watch you guys become parents 🥰 at the same time that my husband and I are just starting the same phase of life. Never feel bad about baby content cuz I’m eatin it uppppp
How do you plan on still working out at the gym together with a newborn? Do you plan on hiring a nanny?
I’m also trying to eat more healthier and wondering if you could share the recipes for your salad dressings. Thanks.
I agree with everyone in saying Sleep is the hardest adjustment and you really don’t know what it’s like until you experience it. Basically your mind doesn’t shut off. It’s not necessarily that you can’t find time to sleep
Because you absolutely can.. but your brain won’t let you….
Constantly thinking about baby even when they’re sound asleep. You’ll wonder if they’re breathing ok, comfortable etc. and eventually you’ll get comfortable with being uncomfortable. I’m 1.5 month postpartum. Also check in with your OB because PPD is a real thing and it’s really hard when you’re not getting sleep.
Also if breastfeeding becomes exhausting, don’t feel guilty if you want to switch to bottle feeding.
Pumping breast milk.. giving a bottle is perfectly fine and easier for baby 😊
You also can’t know this until you go through it
Breast feeding, expressing milk, pumping is EXHAUSTING! It takes 20% of your energy
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Congrats on baby boy enjoy the little memories
Also BEST thing after you have your baby.. you can basically eat what you couldn’t before(but consider baby food intolerance if breast feeding)
I ate salami and deli meat all the time after delivering my baby. It’s all I craved since you can’t eat it during pregnancy
And for Hunter… if Julia is breast feeding.. help her around the house! Be there to support her in other ways. There’s a lot you won’t be able to do and that’s ok. But always bring her WATER when she’s feeding/ pumping :) best advice I can give lol
Just paused our Sun movie to watch. 🥰
Just watched this ! I wish I was more prepared for post partum. No one really talks about it because I think a lot of women block it out. In my experience it was worse than the third trimester. The brain fog, the lack of sleep, the hormones. Like it was pretty intense. With the right support I got through it but I had to be very specific with the type of support I needed. And I’m not used to asking for help I’m just a “I’ll do it all by myself” and trust me YOU NEED TO ASK FOR HELP. Big lesson I learned.
Try to like mint...HUNTER❤️😃🌏🌞🍷🍷🍷🍷🍷
I’m 24 and have an 18 month old and 2 month old 😅 One thing I wish I would’ve done, especially now that I have two.. is prepare freezer meals for post partum. I NEVER have time to cook myself a meal so my eating habits have become terrible.
Also I live in a tiny town just about an hour from you guys!! Everytime I go to nash I hope I run into you 😂
I was one of the ones thinking you were having a girl
It’s a huge adjustment, no matter how much you prepare. The newborn stage is equal parts exhausting and blissful. I wish I knew that as much as you love your new life with your baby, that it’s okay to mourn your life pre-baby especially those first few weeks. Don’t feel bad about it. Also, any words exchanged between 8 pm and 8 am didn’t happen 😂
I swear nothing can truly prepare you pre baby. When the baby comes being sleep deprived is so common and all of the things you planned on doing may not even work for you. Don’t beat yourself up. Taking care of yourself is first priority, take all the help you can get and enjoy those baby snuggles! Excited for you guys❤
Continue to be the great team you seem to be! It’s VERY important for the dad to step up and support mom, especially during the breast feeding journey - if it doesn’t go to plan. My husband was instrumental in my mental health during the hard newborn phase. You lose a lot of sleep, but, if you’re a team, you can incorporate breaks amongst each other, to a certain extent. Be mentally ready for things to NOT go to plan, don’t get hung up on a plan. My baby just turned 2 months and I’m just starting to feel like myself again bc she’s sleeping really well (I’m lucky) so I have much more energy to workout etc. If your baby is happy and healthy, newborns do sleep a lot so it’s just a lot of sleeping and eating. You can feel like you’re in a hamster wheel for a bit but remember it’s temporary. You both will be excellent parents and you’ll find your way quicker than you think - a lot of child care is very instinctual. You can research all you want but the main thing is the experience and your instincts will kick in. Best of luck ❤❤❤
Well im a married 27 year old boy mom they are 7 and 5....I think the sleep deprivation was difficult for me. Congratulations again so excited for this new journey for you two!💙
I wish I prepared my room better before baby. I was too focused on babies room! You’re going to be TIIIIREDDD so be ready to do every thing as fast as you can in your own room for a little while. Also prepare for your baby to maybe have acid reflux or be colic. Look into products and techniques for that now. My baby went from pleasant one week to miserable the next and it was totally out of left field and stressful. Also as hard as it may be at some times, enjoy him. They grow up SO fast. There were moments I had wished my baby was older and now, I wish my baby was a newborn again 😅
If I could go back and prep for baby better, I would make some freezer meals, easy to make and cook. I have 3 kids and this would’ve helped a lot. I’m 47 with a 7, 10, & 13 year old .
Hunter I am not saying you have auto immune but I heard if you use Spirulina and a few other herbs that it triggers the auto immune . I had that eye thing a few years back . It was weird. They just gave me steroids . Our body chemistry changes every seven years so, maybe you are more sensitive to some things . You are on the right track I personally believe that God has an unique way of getting our attention . That’s just my opinion. Be blessed!🙏🏻 I enjoy watching you and beautiful Julia 😘
One thing I wish I would of done before having my baby was definitely declutter my entire house, kitchen, living room, bedrooms, closets the whole 9 yards!
Just had my baby 2 months ago. Every baby is different but for sure be prepared to wake up multiple time at night to feed baby and having the baby brezza formula machine really helped! Also make sure you keep colic medicine /drops on hand since day one.
I did not eat sugar when l was pregnant and did not give my children sugar either. Both my boys slept all through the night at 6 weeks old. They both had healthy naps but we were active. Lol First Birthday of course you get a cake and ice cream. Neither would eat either.
Absolutely love that mind set. I’m 26 and I have always gone back and forth with having kids, but you both opened up my perspective. Especially you Julia bc I’m around your height and always feared carrying a baby, but you make me feel more comfortable about it one day. Love y’all xoxo
Number 1 thing I wish we did was just spend more time doing things the two of us. And now that having a daughter for a year, I’m really happy we set up healthy sleep habits because she’s a great sleeper! I, excited for you guys because you are already such a great team and I know you guys will do amazing ❤ very excited to see you guys in your parenting journey
Snack prepping your meat; I saw a Pinterest meal that gave me a great idea for prepping meat! It’s meat, skewers or meat kebabs lol. Just cube up a meat of your choice and stick it on a kebab and grill it. Then just store it in a container or something. Then when you’re on the go, you can either pop it in the microwave for 15 seconds or take it with you cold and you kind of just have meat on a stick lol. I think it’s also a great idea to have personally because sometimes I am craving meat in a salad and it’s easy to just pull the meat off and throw it in there.
Do chicken salad from whole foods! or tuna salad. Super healthy and easy to grab n go! Love y'all. Congrats on the baby boyyyy!!!
WHERE IS THE COORS LIGHT VARSITY JACKET FROM OMG. It’s killer
When the baby comes I feel like everything will fall into place! 100% nap when the baby naps. I live overseas due to military and when I had my baby the country was shut down sadly and my family wasn’t able to be here with us but I wish I would of meal prepped more because newborn stage is exhausting and you don’t really wanna cook😂
Read up on babies sleep schedule, awake windows, and sleep training (even though that’s not realistic in the beginning). I would suggest having them nap in their crib from day 1, even though they will sleep anywhere, it gets them use to it for future use.
Aww congrats on baby boy 💙 i thought a girl cause mom and older mexican ladies say if your pointy stomach its a boy if its like squared round a girl.. but yess i had pointy stomach in both pregnancies and i had a boy and girl so i dont believe it that. But ur glowing mama and Hunter looks so happy too!! Having a l baby is the best thing. I feel like we learn as we go. They can give you all the advice but at the end of the day as parents we know whats best for out babies
I knew it was a Baby Boy! Congratulations 🍾
Sleep is a shock but you’ll adjust. Just take turns if possible. Just remember everything is a phase, they will sleep longer stretches at some point and eventually through the night. Check in with one another and discuss your roles. I think that make it more real and a lot easier.
Oh please, you are going to lose yourself for like 20 years😂. My advise is, as a couple, make sure you take care of YOUR relationship together.