My Honest Advice For Those Who Feel Lost & Confused
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
- Nobody is coming to save you. Not your parents. Not your friends. Not the government. They can give you advice and tools, but at the end of the day, it's up to you to change your mind, view your situation from a new perspective, and act regardless of how you feel.
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0:00 Take back control of your life
5:08 Don't tell people your goals (dopamine)
8:09 Create your own goals
11:17 Unfollow everyone
13:18 Play infinite games
16:08 F*ck your feelings
#Mindset #LifestyleDesign #TheArtOfFocus
"Most people ask for advice as a procrastination method to hide from the problems that they need to solve themselves". That really hit me. I'll definitely work on that, Dan 👊🏻 Appreciate it.
Yes, same! So true!
So true. Might try the advice even but only half hearted. Then complain that it doesn't work. Or trying to find the easy way out. Especially if you're trying to learn to code. Trying to avoid studying the documentation
@@codeintherough Bro, story of my life
If you hadn’t quoted this, I was going to. It’s one of those things I didn’t realise I did for the longest time.
As a man in his 50's I find myself in awe of your wisdom and insights into the human experience. You provide a lot of value and framework for life. It's appreciated more than you know, Dan.
I completely agree. He is remarkable!
Get in line, buddy.
I'm 39 & Dan blows my mind every video.
“Remember, the light at the end of the tunnel may be you.”
― Aerosmith
I adopted this mindset last year. In the span of a few months i started working out i started to learn to code. I got a second job I started fasting and improve my savings. I even have my wallpaper in my phone saying. No one is going ro save you are are your own back up.
I went through this process when I was 27 and decided to change my career path. It was then that I began to understand that if I truly wanted something, I didn't need to persuade others to support me or seek approval. Instead, I learned to go quiet and focus on my plans, then JUST DO IT.
A few years ago, when I was in high school, I wanted to start a rock band.
I was eagerly waiting for the day when my band would come together and I could join. But as time went by, nobody approached me, and eventually, my younger friends formed their own rock band. I was too afraid to ask if I could join them.
This experience taught me a valuable lesson - sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands, whether it's pursuing your passion for music, advancing in your career, or starting a business.
Ultimately, you are 100% responsible for making things happen.
Nobody will do it for you.
Me too. Cant get Guitrist
I suffer from "telling people that I'm doing something instead of actually achieving the goal" that was for me.
The crazy thing is people take tasks that doesn't matter or get them anywhere in life more seriously than working on their goals.
Everybody wants to dissuade me and discourage me because what I want to do is unconventional. So I don't want to tell anyone my goals anyway. Keeping my thoughts to myself is a very lonely road. But I am just chugging along.
100% true. I learned through heartbreaks and being cheated on by people that "No one's to be trusted. No one's going to save me and I came alone in this life and will die alone."
This life isn't everything. Only God knows what awaits beyond our last breath.
Pranjal, I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreaks, but they do not define the human species. There is a person for you, and you can manifest that person with a shift in mindset. If you focus on "No one can be trusted" then you won't be disappointed. Try the reverse, cautiously, and see what happens! 😊
I’m a 56 year old
Massage Therapist former homeschool mom with a son your age.
You have mentored me into
my own solo practice .
Next step is to move away from this level of client work as it’s only slightly more lucrative than being an employee .
Sometimes I feel like an old dog who starts acting like a puppy again when a new puppy is around, lol. Age really is just a number. I have a 14-year-old daughter who is so emotionally intelligent that I look to her when I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong. She, of course, looks to me for help with all the new situations she encounters in this life. Dan's a good voice to recapture that youthful feeling that anything is possible.
I am 53 years old. Mother of a 25-year-old girl and I am also learning a lot from Dan Koe.
Question for you, does massage therapy help with back pain? It’s muscle soreness not skeletal
@@Topstreet808 Yes it does. Massage Therapists specialize in muscles .
54 and this young man is beginning to change my life as well. Amazing content. So grateful.
Thank for this🙏 No one is coming to save me is a reminder I needed.
‘‘If you don’t have a goal, that means someone assigned you a goal” Love it 🔥
I am three weeks into retirement and the second week had a crippling arthritis flare. It is maddening. My health coach says it is the stress of retirement. I agree. But I joined a gym, I am downsizing my stuff even if it is just one box a day. I am reading your book in small snippets because that is all I can digest at a time. I truly enjoy your newsletter, insta feed and videos. Thank you!
The fact that this video popped up right after reading: "Psycho Cybernetics" and "Courage to be Disliked" is the best thing that happened in my life, thank you Dan
Life will be very simple if you know how to handle the battle between your Emotions And Logic
To take back the control I bought your MENTAL MONETISATION course. And yes, when someone ask me - 'What you do these days", i answer them that - 'If I'll tell you it won't happen😁'. Can't wait for JUNE 3 !!!!!!!
“When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things” 1 Corinthians 13:11, (KJV).
I don't want to grow up , I want to be a Toys R Us kid!!
Waiting to start something because you aren’t ready yet is what’s keeping you from getting better at that thing. You only get good after you’ve done it enough times to make enough mistakes to learn and improve.
it's very uncomfortable to remember that you're the one responsible. but it's liberating too❤😢
nah, better not tell anyone what you're doing, especially close friends and family. idk about most people but in my case, friends don't really like me being "ahead" of them and family just doubts my ability to accomplish the goal unless i can do it in a short time. so nah, i'm on my own here
Same.
I'm cancer survivor
35 years old
Traveled the world for a decade +
done 50-80 odd jobs ,
worked with brain injured clients as coach for 3 years before diagnosis
now I'm goal less. - nobody iss coming to save me and I don't see next steps which im passionate about
current life season is recovering from chemo treatment and consuming youtube and podcasts without clarity coming through
Clarity will come with time. Take your time to recover. There is a reason our great great ancestors aimed both for healthy body and healthy soul.
There was period of time when you fought for your life. Fingers and nails. Now you have remission and feeling of emptiness. It is natural.
Do your best to get your health back and live your best life. There is a reason why you are here and alive. With time you will discover it. Good luck!
Congratulations on surviving cancer! Do you remember what your vision for your life was, before you got hit with the diagnosis? Is that vision, today, still what you want to achieve? Did it change? Start with writing down what you don't want for your life, which will lead to what you do want. What steps do you need to take to stay healthy and bring the vision for yourself 'alive' ? All the best on your future endeavors. Warm regards, Patty
Hey congratulations on beating cancer, you're ALIVE man !!! That's a better news. You feel like you're in a rut. Try taking a walk and think about what would make you smile in 2 years if you started doing now. And also not to shove the religious thing down your throat but try JESUS too, I know, i know you might have your take and the religious folks but honestly give HIM a try with an open mind. Stay blissful man.
@vanderful_life JESUS LOVES YOU !
Jesus loves you and is waiting for you !
LOVE the last section "f*ck your feelings" and the badassery with "do whatever you want... I Will sleep at night" I LOVE this "wake the f*ck Up" tone.❤
Man, your video popped up at such a good time! Like, life was again starting to feel shitty again and i was losing my vision.
But you reminded me, again.
Thank you. But these 2 words can never describe my gratitude so I'll make sure my actions do! ❤❤
I love how open, honest and straight to the point you are. Thank you, Dare to be Exceptional, Dare to be Uncommon!
I had an epiphany yesterday & you just expressed it in its entirety!
I'm seeing how the algorithm works & though it's tedious & slow hoing for me right now, I KNOW I will reach my goal.
Thank you for all the lightbulb moments!
Dan, you've helped me become accountable in my work and really start my YT journey. I needed the inspiration and guidance so that I can guide others. Big things coming for my channel and myself, even if I'm unsure how it's going to take shape you've given me the ability to be confident in myself and my channel. Much appreciation for your unique advice!
This was a great video, Dan!! I actually said this very thing to myself recently, that no one is going to save me, I will need to save myself. So that's what I'm doing, I've got my vision and know where I want to go. I deeply appreciate your videos, they help reinforce ideas and beliefs and behaviors.
The video has the most authenticity and passion ive seen so far🤝🏾
I swear I've been vividly thinking about this in the last week and I'm astounded that this video was released today. THANK YOU Dan!
How powerful your message is..just life changing 🙌 👏
Lots of value as per usual. I’m learning and growing everyday from the nuggets I get from this channel. God bless you Dan!
DAN THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU. WE NEED MORE PEOPLE LIKE YOU IN THIS WORLD.✌️
Omg this is me so much I was trying to figure out why I do this. Every single time I do share what I want to do all of a sudden I stop. It's like I sabotage myself, instead of just doing it. Thanks Dan your the man
Hey sir ,😢
You are damn right ❤
Thanks for your knowledge 😊
Thank you, Dan!
Thank you Dan 👍
I needed to hear this.. the title grabbed me! I was feeling hopeless yesterday for some reason, but i know if i work hard and trust in God , he will bring me out this slump.
Nothing like some Dan knowledge to start the day, Thank you sir!
No one is coming. But honestly Dan with what u doing online in a way you have helped. But at the end of the day we must act to solve the problem. Thanks for this
I appreciate these videos. Thank you
This is the reason why I subbed, straight forward no nonsense wisdom packed up in every minute and no woo woo.
Great video. The mental clarity I am getting from watching your videos has significantly reduced my stress as I am aware of my surroundings and also more in control of my behaviour.
Thank you. 💫✨️
Thanks Dan Sir for bringing me back to the path.
I can tell you’ve been through a lot because you’ve learned a lot about life. Kudos to you!
Great video Dan. I’m fairly new to your content but thus far I’m finding your tips/advice/etc easy to absorb and very helpful. Thank you.
Thank you Dan, your the big brother I never had! 🙏🏽
nice man thanks for the one person business foundations course.
Love this shit bro. Thank you!
I just finished my final exams and was sick of living in a rut . I decided to change even if it's painful and just then this video showed up . Thank you sir !
Thank you.
You made me realise something fundamental about myself - I get again kick out of the theory, but fall short on the practical. I get the dopamine hit from knowing and now from the doing. Last night I bought 2 Hour Writer, and although I have been journaling for years, this course (only 2 modules in) has already opened my eyes to a way that I can combine this 'fault' of mine with writing to produce something that will be my lifes work.
This video is life changing - amazing content. Thanks for sharing
Your truly very precise 👌
Everything in this video was useful to me🔥. Thank you.
Thanks for making this video, Dan.
I'm in that place you mentioned;
The dark, sometimes hopeless place we all sooner or later will visit.
You made me get my shit together again.
I have a goal to achieve,
And new life to create.
F being broke and chained to a corporate gig.
All the best,
Doug
It’s like with each new video Dan posts I gain a renewed sense of perspective on life. In this past month alone I’ve gotten clarity on what it is I don’t want from life. In that, I can consciously decide how I’d like to move forward.
I think the most profound take I’ve gotten out of my journey is this: we all have a choice, complacency or progression. If you don’t choose one you become complacent by default. Truly powerful stuff
That eyeball screen was great!
Amazing video and content. Love you and your beliefs!! 🙏🙏🙏👌👌👌
Appreciate you!
Really good one Dan spot on
Truth truth TRUTH!!
The most dopamine by far is released when the question of achieving the goal or not is uncertain (like not being sure whether one gets the Christmas present one wished for). It‘s the means assuring you cling to your efforts instead of giving up too early.
Great! Thanks!🌹
Love the new wide angle lens and setup!
Thanks sir
thanks for this🧠❤
Thanx Dan.
I’m currently looking for other opportunities in my career. This has been very helpful, thanks Dan.
Complete opposite is true for me and many great people (not saying I am great it is just a mindset). Michael Jordans trainer, Tim Grover said, Micheal would tell opponents what he would do before the game, and by simply telling them, he was now held accountable to deliver on his statements. Kobe did this. Great artists did this, Beethoven, Mozart.... I do the same. I tell people because it puts a real pressure on me to deliver.
Sad but true, σε ευχαριστουμε Dan!😊
Keep your goals away from the trolls ✨
Dan,
You must have talked to Joey about the message I sent him yesterday. Part of this video was word for word. Very cool.
Many thanks.
Thank you Mr. Dan koe 🙌
What a quality piece of content!
Great insights in your video! Embracing the mindset of self-reliance and continuous learning can truly transform challenges into stepping stones for success. 👏
*I love the grounded reality of this channel!!!*
Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $27,000 weekly returns has been life changing. AWESOME GOD❤️
Only God knows how much grateful i am. After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
Wow that's huge, how do you make that much monthly?
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Maria Angelina Alexander.
She's a licensed broker in the states 🇺🇸
OOOOO I am loving this new set-up.
Unfollow you? You are bold Dan. Love it. The statement of someone having true success. Just started following you so won't be resetting my social media list anytime soon. And I WILL be spending a LOT of time binge-watching your content the next couple months, rewiring my brain, and most likely getting your book and other offers. Amazing content. Please continue your journey of reshaping humanity in a positive way.
Taking control of your life is key.
Great advice. Also here for the Ray Peat reference 😀
Dan i just click your vdo saw just 40 sec from beginning you became my mentor hoping onetime i will be ur paid program
Thank you!
This made me think about soo many issues I need to address in my life😮
very interesting, thanks
I can highly recommend the strategy which Dan mentioned half way through. I myself did this sort of manipulation of the algorithms on all my social media and I started to quickly take action on my vision because as soon as I saw something that I was interested in or something which alligned with my future life I was quick to engage with the content, I also did vice versa with every person or content I didn’t like by using the “not interested” feature!
The result is that if you are going to use social media anyways, you at least gain some healthy insights or new ideas which you can apply in YOUR own life :)
5:32 Dan Kennedy refers to this as the Gold Star Syndrome… it’s so true though and I see areas I’ve struggled with this in my life without realizing it. As soon as you tell someone your goal you feel an odd sense of satisfaction, even though nothing has actually been accomplished yet. I’ve decided to not tell anyone anymore until after it happens!
Love your content brother 💯🫶🏼
Love this advice. Once I realized this my life became easier.
Thank you for this information Love from India
Your ability to break down nuance and distill actionable information is profound @thedankoe loving it brother. Much appreciated
THOSE FIRST FEW WORDS ARE SO TRUE.
i liked the longer lens you used before more. it gave your videos a more serious, even kind of mean or dangerous look ✌️
but anyways, great video. thank you dan
LOVE THIS!! 🧠🫀👑
wow, revolutionary
For over 20 years i thought that something, somehow, someway would bring me happiness, money and freedom. Only when i took ownership did i start to live. It has been a hell of a journey to the top. Stay Uncommon!
Facts. 💪
Forward movment!
Its a fine line between positive self-promotion and seeking approval.