Women date less attractive men all the time because they have other qualities (money, status, intelligence etc). Men are not judged solely by their physical looks.
My female advice is to be a hint of Delulu and believe you are That girl. And you will project that in your confidence. Margarita Nazarenko has great videos about this.
Be delulu but use that confidence to pursue people that are in your attractiveness range. The delivery that were hurt a person is if they are deluded into going after people that are far more attractive then them.
agreed and remember mahales don't know what they want and are for the most part los/ers. that bowl of soup or that hole in the dirt sure aren't on the attractiveness scale🙄🥴!
The only thing is that some extremely beautiful women intentionally date conventionally unattractive men which will skew their score. So I think we'll need to take the advice with a pinch of salt
I agree. I find men who are considered very attractive are less willing to pursue a woman and tend to be players so it's better to go for the medium ugly smart guy who has a good job and is generous
@@hrf1954I have dated extremely attractive all the way to what I’m really not attracted to (just to see if their personality would grow on me)… well let’s just say the men who were not so attractive were not that great as far as their character and integrity were concerned. One of them had a child he was not taking care of the other one was a complete liar. Just because a man is good looking doesn’t mean he is a player. The man for you, if you don’t have one yet, will approach you and treat you well. Please don’t settle for someone you are not attracted to because you think they will treat you better.
@@hrf1954 exactly! I was going to do a video on why ive always avoided attractive men and how much better my relationships have been because of it - they expect you to do EVERYTHING and perform for them. They also play the field since they have so many oppty. Their wives are always shocked when they find out they cheates 🙄
I get why sometimes we avoid dating conventionally attractive men because typically the amount of options they have will give them more cheating opportunities. But a lot of unattractive men will also take the opportunities given the chance and it artificially inflates their ego and they can behave just as terribly. And let me tell you, there's no hurt like being played by someone you had to "grow" your attraction to. I dont think it's easy to vet men. All you can do is observe their reactions to different stimuli over time and beware them rushing you into a relationship. They usually do this to conceal massive character flaws so it's important for you to let them reveal themselves slowly. Any resistance..red flag.
@@MsOrganicBlack And it’s bullshit. Lmao. Beauty is subjective. There are men that look at Beyoncé and say “meh” and men that think friggin Lena Dunham is the baddest thing walking. I’ve seen men that I found sexy as hell with girls that were just averagely cute and vice versa. Beauty and attraction is not measurable. You either see it or you don’t.
Some of these gay men be regurgitating the same rhetoric. A man is always trying to tell a woman why she should settle for this .Meanwhile men can chase women out of their league and rate woman a 2 . Meanwhile they look like a -2.
@@blurhapsody1739 I mean, let’s be realistic. Most men will not say Lena Dunham is physically more attractive. Attractiveness is measured by society. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible for someone to obtain someone with a higher attraction. Whether it’s for dating purposes or hookup purposes, Five people with a BBW fetish do not make Lena the standard. Beyoncé fits the beauty standard as a Bw. It’s funny how she’s not most desirable in her community, but you compare her to a woc to leverage the possibility of her being more desirable. Chileee
@@MyaP-yq7op I literally just made an example love. Those were the first two women to come to mind. It’s not that deep. Not everything is about race. 🫶🏾
I know right? I had so many guys hit on me like i am da bomb and then quite a number look at me with not so hidden surprise when i dare say many guys consider me hot. One person's 2 is another's 9.
There’s a much better way to find out how attractive you are. Start calling yourself beautiful around other people. If people think you are they’ll hate you. If they think your average or below they won’t care! Nobody cares when unattractive people think they’re beautiful!
Or you can start calling yourself ugly. If you actually are ugly, people will comfort you by complimenting your personality. If you're average people will tell you you're pretty. If you're pretty, people will tell you to stop fishing for compliments
😂😂😂😂😂😂!!! So true.. noone care when ppl that arent so attractive think that they are so gorgeous. But let a gorgeous woman smile👀 Hmm everyone will hate her just because she smiled. 💀💀
I was over 300 lbs and considered myself a 5, although with a pretty face card. Now I'm down to 230 lbs and look and feel much more confident/attractive. I'll give myself a 6.5 for now. When I get to my goal weight, it will put me at a strong 7.5, in my opinion.
Dang this was good!!! I’ve always had people tell me how attractive I am but I didn’t have the self esteem to believe it until I did the inner work and could ACTUALLY see myself how others saw my physically. I’m an 8 when I’m taking really good care of myself but could be higher if I invested more money into my beauty maintenance instead of doing things myself 😅
Take stock of yourself basically, and be honest as well. The only person whose being lied to is yourself so be truthful. Write down your likes, dislikes. Wants and needs, strengths and weaknesses. Anything more or less you can do to improve your appearance if necessary. Just a start ❤.@luv2luvya4ever
I don't know about this because I think a lot of woman date unattractive men, personality is more important for us, that's what I notice most of the time. Also based on how I see my exes now I would be a -1.😅
Let me put you on, I typically date guys that are way better looking than me because I figured out that good looking men have issues with societal pressure. Being with me makes them believe a) they aren't shallow as society makes them b) that they can also be seen as smart and not just for their looks. Not proud of it but it is what it is.
A couple of years ago, I - an average European girl - was on vacation in Brazil, visiting a friend and going out to a club with her and the group. The club was FULL of these absolutely gorgeous and stunning Brazilian women. I kind of got into flirting with this Brazilian guy, a real hottie, he couldn't take his eyes off me and said I was the prettiest woman in this club 😂! Whatever is different to what we're used to seems to be very attractive, as well.
I’ve always thought I was a 4. Even when I was skinny, I considered myself a 4. Now that I’m the biggest I’ve ever been in my entire life, I am don’t think I’m less than a 4. I’m just a 4 in a new phase of my life. There is nothing wrong with being a confident, below average 30-something woman. Guys who were considered in my book a 7 have liked me. So, I must not be hideous, but I just know my place in the world and I’m more than happy to improve myself and still just honestly be a 4.
This is generally true, but I think it's more accurate if you take the man's income or level of wealth into consideration. A male six who pulls around $200k a year usually isn't going to date another six or even a seven. He'll likely go for an eight, or stretch for a nine. So, a woman who wants to figure out her attractiveness should look back at how well her past boyfriends were doing in life when she met them.
Exactly!! Cause men choose women based on where they are financially. This is why when men start making more money they always leave their original wife for a new woman who literally looks nothing like them.
@@9darshana It IS hard being a single woman. But at least there's so much wisdom and information out here on the Internet and social media. I WISH I had this advantage when I was coming up as a young woman!
My previous bfs were about 6 and 8. The men who thirst for me on apps are about 7. Men who actually approach in public are 3. Men who only want sex no dating are 9/10😪
Every guy I've dated from daily life (not dating apps), I've always gotten the reaction from friends and family: really? Him? Why? You can do soooo much better. But it was talking, chemistry, and his personality that drew me to him.
It's always been my aura and light and personality that has always attracted men to me it's something in me that gets them hooked beyond the physical. I am currently working on myself as far as hitting the gym and I do get compliments on my looks I come with my own personal flaws and all but I want to say about an average for me maybe a 7.
I’ve always dated down on looks on purpose, since someone (the soccer star) broke my heart in high school. I made an exception w my ex husband who turned out to be mostly gay.
I'm sorry but the amount of beautiful women I see with neanderthal men??? Attractiveness and who we partner with are so much more complicated than this story.
When I was confident my exes were top tier in the market. Then I got a few life blows, and went lowww in standards, dating some ugly guys(inside and out) because deep down I thought it was all I deserved. fyi I thought the ugly guys would be nicer, NO, they just had added insecurity issues to match mine. Its all about the confidence! It makes me way more physically attractive - when I love my life, I work out more, dress pretty, feel anything is possible, feel radiant. Top tier guys just love it when you're happy, loving yourself, believing in your dreams, it supports them aiming for the best in their life too. Wishing the best to everyone
A rating of 8-10 in attractiveness is model type and these people stand out. They are head turners and have a lot of options. No way a person in 9 would date a 6. That just would not happen.
My former boyfriends were ALL tall, lean, athletic, white dudes - very good looking. And to this day, I don’t know how I ever attracted them, because I don’t see myself on that level of attractiveness. I’ve always just seen myself as very average/“mid”. 😂🤷🏻♀️
@@natashadickson4819 I’m single, no kids and never been married. Am I married-minded? Hmm, put it this way, I’d know how to keep a husband happy as long as he acted right. 🙂
It isn't just about looks though. Most blk women have a lot of personality & charisma and our sense of humour is unmatched. And most of us have a personal sense of style. too
Not go to Disney and live in the movie Schrek?!!! 🤣🤣🤣 a NY 10 is an LA 8 🤣🤣-I am not even sure why you are on my feed, but your content and delivery is great! Good Luck Ladies, he has good tips.
I’m an original LA Valley Girl like a 3 now. But that might be an 8 in another town. The comparison of looks by city rating is my favorite thing ever now. 😂🎉
I’ve pretty much dated all 10s but they’ve mostly been cluster b abusers - need to work on my discernment, not my looks. I think many women are in the same boat with me. I’d rather stay single than settle for someone like that again.
Omg same! My ex was a 9, tall, athletic, perfect hair, beautiful smile, beautiful face, confident... but he was such an abusive and toxic person... he was a 1 on the inside. I can't feel any pride for attracting him. I wouldn't know how to measure his attractiveness level?!?
Everyone reading this comment, you are a 10. There is only one of you and you are uniquely and wonderfully made. Stay positive, beautiful and love everyone. God is love❤❤❤
That’s easy to say when woman use beauty enhancing products . Many of those woman are actually average to below average looking naturally. The bar isn’t even as high for men as it is for woman.
There’s a bigger expectation on women to be attractive than for men . Women also go through more enhancing rituals to enhance their appearance than the average man . All it takes is for a man to workout and a decent skin routine and he’s deemed attractive. This is why average looking men do better in Hollywood , because many women have lower standards for men .
When he did the attraction numbers in different states it made a lot of sense. I travel a lot and I hear my friends see certain types a certain way or value. But in comparison to my other friends and how they scale the same type. Its interesting for sure but spot on!
I will say that where I’m from Cincinnati I’m like a 4 but I go anywhere else with a more diverse population and I go up to like a 7. Everyone told me leaving a smaller city I would be lower in big cities but I’ve found it to be the opposite! The Midwest can be harsh for a black girl. 😂
I watched the video related to hairstyles. Afterwards, I was driving Uber, making food deliveries and had a very strange encounter. I tend to not catch social cues when someone is trying to be subtle. However, this person stared at me very deeply. I knew that what I exactly thought was right was when I got a whopping over $17 tip. My hair was in two strand twists, which look like starter locs. The person fit your description of who’d be attracted to that style to a tee. I’m going to rewatch this current video because I’m a six whose hips put me at a 6.5. My beloved hubby was a nine because he wasn’t dark skinned. People really questioned him about being with me.
💁🏿This advice should be directed towards men. Too many of them don't know better. I feel like I'm a 7. The men that I attract are 6-7ishs in looks and 9-10 in kindness, intellect & moral. However, most 5-7ish men want an 8 or a 9 woman and those men are shallow. Women generally date down while men date up. Men will damn near go broke trying to make the 9 like him & "act right".
Same! I only get overweight, old, broke-down looking men to flirt with me. Except that one time a really young, fine, Latin guy flirted with me at work a lot. It was just for fun though.
On paper, this advice sounds perfect! However, it lacks efficacy. The truth of the matter is that your heart will eventually "be broken" by every and all. And nothing hurts WORSE than having your heart broken by someone who isn't your first/best/ideal choice. He's right in that maybe things will be more "long-term" with the person you "settle" for, but like I said, eventually they will hurt you too. Maybe not in a year or even five, but eventually, they will. I guarantee it. But then you're sitting there trying to heal and forgive someone who you probably now see as a troll. lol So ALWAYS date/marry up. That's for both attractiveness and financially. All things considered, overall, you'll be a LOT happier. 💫😆
I mean, imagine ONLY applying for postions that you know you'll get and still getting laid off/fired. 😂 Or ONLY applying to colleges where you know you'll be accepted. That's what y'all be doing??? I hope not 😭 One of my favorite and most relatable quotes: "I always felt like I could do anything. That’s the main thing people are controlled by! THOUGHTS AND THEIR PERCEPTION OF THEMSELVES! They're slowed down by their perception of themselves. If you're taught you can’t do anything, you won’t do anything. I was taught I could do everything." -Kanye West In all areas of your life, aim for the stars, sis. I PROMISE YOU, you won't regret it. 💫👩🏽🏫
The guys I’ve dated when I was in highschool averaged me to a 6 when I did the calculations. I haven’t dated anyone recently in college so maybe I’m a 7 now with how I’ve upgraded my looks, lost weight a lot of weight, and learned how to do beautiful makeup that looks natural .
Girly if that is your photo in the thumbnail you are beautiful. If you are 5’8 or taller you could be a model. Your face is well proportioned. Add some confidence and you are unstoppable.
I never cared about looks until my first husband. He was fine as frog hair split 3 ways and sanded...but I later found out that he is a total narcissistic sociopath. He's actually been diagnosed as bipolar with a borderline personality disorder. So my initial true instincts were correct... looks aren't everything 😂
Borderline men are the absolute worst. My ex husband was an abusive bpder as well. They’re so much worse than the grandiose narcissist because a man with bpd is just basically a physically abusive vulnerable narcissist. It’s not if they will hit you and become violent - it’s when.
I get the guys who all the women drool over. They're in great shape, good looking, friendly, likable, seem intelligent, seem to have good values and good intentions. But they usually turn out to be disappointing - boring, very little substance, inconsistent personalities, major issues, or just flat out weird! But knowing them only from work or a similar setting, they seem like great guys. 🤦🏼♀️
Same. I've been with the hottest sexiest men, gym rats, a top level martial artist in the world, fine AF, educated men with degrees and jobs and all their teeth and still they have issues! 😭😅😂
Yuh cause his comparative analysis is quite interesting … I’ve lived in all the cities he referenced and Chicago wouldn’t rate somehow higher than Charlotte and Charlotte is a melting pot … and people generally can perpetuate outer beauty in socialization … but then after the party what’s it hitting for 😂 or after you leave the gym or when you’re running errands etc … I’m not trying to be messy or mean toward Midwest woman 🫣and the same holds true for all the other cities … because people feign outer beauty all the time. I’m from Greensboro NC originally and coming up we’d measure outer beauty by how you look at the club when they turn on the lights after the last slow bop they play to signify take yo ass home … and it was graded on a pass/fail … I always pass … my mom and dad gave me a few couple things 😂
Not gonna lie. I'm beautiful individual, but im usually with men way more attractive on 10,11 plus level. Think it's my venus in virgo, and im a libra on top of it. I really think it's that it fact aura thing with me, my personality hooks them and looks go out the door with me after like 3 days so im really okay what else do u have to offer looks dont phase me. Because those types of men come a dime a dozen and i deal with egos. Treat them normal and i fuess that intrigues them. I dont get star stuck or whatever u call it. 🤷🏾♀️ my exs and serious situations I dated and wanted a relationship, but I was out cause of something they did, were all highly attractive. Some were actually fashion run way models. My two ex fiancé, models bone structure, body height, eye, and the down stairs pacakage on horse. So Humm honestly don't know cause it's not just my looks. I'm not an LA hot. I'm in NY guess and 8 but personality on 11. It's hard alot of friends and people around me are like 9/10 la ny DC Miami atl hot. I just rambled, but yea.🤷🏾♀️
Exs are no measure. If we want to be superficial lets go all out. You can tell easily by how people react to you your entire life. If their shocked, stunned, and speechless with a few confident enough to blurt out how hot you are- then youre stunning. Im taking these every day life experience over anything to do with exs.
I'm attracted to a certain look that is familiar to me, because all the men in my family are real fine. But in addition to looks, I'm very attracted to men who are intelligently handy. I really appreciate feeling safe, with a bold, smart, relaxed man. Because I am bold and smart, and I like being able to relax
This is difficult because I get different feedback based on where I am and my hair as a mixed race woman. In the USA, if I wear my hair straight or wear a wig I get way more attention than with my natural 3c hair. And it's from younger guys vs the 40-60 year Olds that look at me with curls. In Southern Europe no one bats an eye except if I have short hair. The longer my curly hair the thirstier they are 😂.
I feel like this advice only applies to "first impressions" or "strangers across the room" scenarios. If you end up dating someone that you are around on a regular basis and the two of you have gotten to know each other, physical attraction is going to be a lot less based on appearance and more on how you make each other feel. I think all of us can relate to a 8 becoming a 3 once we got to know them. In contrast, a 3 ends up becoming an 8 because they are beautiful on the inside.
Not even low key because what people find attractive varies greatly from one person to the next. "Attractiveness" is the ability to attractive. Some people that aren't necessarily esthetically pleasing are very attractive. People do too much. 😂😂😂
He’s specifically talking about physical attractiveness which honestly does not vary greatly because scientifically certain facial features/harmony will be seen as more or less attractive across the board. The only thing that would cause the differences are cultural differences and European beauty standards that have negatively influenced societies view of what is seen as beautiful. Yeah people have preferences but let’s be so forreal some people will always be seen as beautiful/attractive because of certain physical features they possess. Even certain hair styles and makeup or facial cosmetics changes are changing your look in a more aesthetic way that skews your look towards something perceived as more beautiful to the eye.
@@Kay-jk3zj beauty is subjective asf and what you said about the colonizer was accurate! Without white supremacy there’s no ugliness couched in Blackness / certain phenotypes…it’s almost like white people invented ugly so they couldn’t be it 👀
Or you can be like me, there's lots of women who look better than me. I'm more magnetic than most though so even though other women look better, nobody takes their eyes off me regardless of what I'm wearing.
I’m basically a 10😅 good to know…All the guys I attract younger than me and older (extremely) are 9s and 10s from differently cities..ethnicities and races…I appreciate that Dr Anwar…Peace and love from South Africa😅
I think most people know whether they are attractive or not. You know what you can pull. People that doubt are 6’s or 7’s; with extra money/fame/swagger such individuals can (superficially) pull a 9, but generally speaking anything below a 6,5 (within their ethnicity).
I agree that location is definitely not apples to apples. I'm from Los Angeles and now live in Kansas City, Missouri. I was a 6/7 there, but an 8/9 here.
My ex was crazy, he forced me to be with him and threatened to kill himself if i didn't wanna talk to him anymore, and joked about kidnapping me, mind you, I was never physically attracted to him. So what advice woud you give me based on my ex?
Yes, looks are subjective. Go to big cities. You’ll learn quickly where you stand in the pecking order. Loving yourself aka self confidence does go a long way. It allows people to see more than what’s on the outside.
I just have something to add let me know if you would correct or debate this. 🤷🏻♀️ My LTR exes have all been good friends who confess they loved me.. situationships have varied from 7 - 9, thirsty guys + admirer/flirters are from 1-9. The thing with being pretty is you attract all sorts of people. Sometimes It’s the ugly guys that have the balls to approach. The attractive guys already have girls falling over to meet them so sex- their basic love need- is being met via that fast-food restaurant . Attractive women aren’t falling over to meet attractive guys because we feel they should approach us. The reality is, they never will because they are either not used to pursuing or expecting girls to come to them. So befriend them and get them to fall in love with you. Back in the day we used to talk on the phone now it’s watching IG stories. Tell him you don’t have social media 😂
Uh uh, I'm not sure what number I am. I don't get dressed up any longer since I'm getting beat on by life and I'm married with children. Some days I'm Peg other days I'm Al.
So, most guys on dating apps for me be a 3 and under. In the past, they were probably 2 -7. In person, they guys I find out who liked me but never went through asking me out were around 6 - 8. So I'm so confused. My outcomes in person definitely were better
I think your observation/advice is more fit for the gay male world. Cause most women date less attractive men than themselves. It’s a safer bet. Also we don’t date as much for looks but more for security, stability, ability to provide and protect.
I feel like most women are more attractive in general than the men they date 🤷🏽♀️
Heck yeah!
Especially if the men have money
Yeah, I agree, because women like to date for other reasons other than just looks.
Facts
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I will not base my attractiveness on my exes.. I was insecure and didn’t know any better 😂😂 I barely even want to call them my exes🤣
Agreed🤣
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Girl same.
Right!!
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Women date less attractive men all the time because they have other qualities (money, status, intelligence etc). Men are not judged solely by their physical looks.
So true!
Yea. His advice here is probably more correct in the gay male community
Hell yeah lol
No men aren't judged on their looks.. their judged on their wallets. Which in my opinion, is a fair trade.
Of course. It’s a double standard. 🤷🏽♀️
My female advice is to be a hint of Delulu and believe you are That girl. And you will project that in your confidence. Margarita Nazarenko has great videos about this.
Thanks! Never heard of her but heading over now
Be delulu but use that confidence to pursue people that are in your attractiveness range. The delivery that were hurt a person is if they are deluded into going after people that are far more attractive then them.
agreed and remember mahales don't know what they want and are for the most part los/ers. that bowl of soup or that hole in the dirt sure aren't on the attractiveness scale🙄🥴!
Yea actually I’ve seen her on YT before and she’s pretty practical. Haven’t gone to her channel in a bit
What's delulu?
The only thing is that some extremely beautiful women intentionally date conventionally unattractive men which will skew their score. So I think we'll need to take the advice with a pinch of salt
I agree. I find men who are considered very attractive are less willing to pursue a woman and tend to be players so it's better to go for the medium ugly smart guy who has a good job and is generous
@@hrf1954I have dated extremely attractive all the way to what I’m really not attracted to (just to see if their personality would grow on me)… well let’s just say the men who were not so attractive were not that great as far as their character and integrity were concerned. One of them had a child he was not taking care of the other one was a complete liar.
Just because a man is good looking doesn’t mean he is a player. The man for you, if you don’t have one yet, will approach you and treat you well. Please don’t settle for someone you are not attracted to because you think they will treat you better.
@@hrf1954 exactly! I was going to do a video on why ive always avoided attractive men and how much better my relationships have been because of it - they expect you to do EVERYTHING and perform for them. They also play the field since they have so many oppty. Their wives are always shocked when they find out they cheates 🙄
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I get why sometimes we avoid dating conventionally attractive men because typically the amount of options they have will give them more cheating opportunities. But a lot of unattractive men will also take the opportunities given the chance and it artificially inflates their ego and they can behave just as terribly. And let me tell you, there's no hurt like being played by someone you had to "grow" your attraction to. I dont think it's easy to vet men. All you can do is observe their reactions to different stimuli over time and beware them rushing you into a relationship. They usually do this to conceal massive character flaws so it's important for you to let them reveal themselves slowly. Any resistance..red flag.
I’m from Chicago. Lived in LA for two years. In Chicago, I was about an 8-in LA, I was clearly regarded as a 6.
What you say is so true
Thank you! He is definitely on point
Listen I went from a DC 4 to a memphis 10 lol
Your doing great - in LA I would be a 4 😂 LA beauty standards are insane because plastic surgery is the baseline.
You're a 10 in Cleveland! 😂😅
@@MermaidMoney I’m packing my bags tonight - Cleveland’s here I come 💜🤣💜
Damn he just called me a one 😭
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Me tooooo
Lawd….at least you scored. I’m sitting at zero 🙃 I don’t need the pressure. I’m just gonna stay single and live my best life.
@@elsie4794 Same here!
Same. Oh well. Either we will meet someone who is also a one and awesome as well, or be as happy as we can alone.
I’m a woman. Not a number. And I’m fine as fuck. Period.
Exactly. All these numbers and figures and equations are so exhausting.
@@MsOrganicBlack And it’s bullshit. Lmao. Beauty is subjective. There are men that look at Beyoncé and say “meh” and men that think friggin Lena Dunham is the baddest thing walking. I’ve seen men that I found sexy as hell with girls that were just averagely cute and vice versa. Beauty and attraction is not measurable. You either see it or you don’t.
Some of these gay men be regurgitating the same rhetoric. A man is always trying to tell a woman why she should settle for this .Meanwhile men can chase women out of their league and rate woman a 2 . Meanwhile they look like a -2.
@@blurhapsody1739 I mean, let’s be realistic. Most men will not say Lena Dunham is physically more attractive. Attractiveness is measured by society. It doesn’t mean it’s impossible for someone to obtain someone with a higher attraction. Whether it’s for dating purposes or hookup purposes, Five people with a BBW fetish do not make Lena the standard. Beyoncé fits the beauty standard as a Bw. It’s funny how she’s not most desirable in her community, but you compare her to a woc to leverage the possibility of her being more desirable. Chileee
@@MyaP-yq7op I literally just made an example love. Those were the first two women to come to mind. It’s not that deep. Not everything is about race. 🫶🏾
The idea of rating your attractivness is crazy. 😂😂😂 It's subjective.
I know right? I had so many guys hit on me like i am da bomb and then quite a number look at me with not so hidden surprise when i dare say many guys consider me hot.
One person's 2 is another's 9.
Same. I dont even fully understand how to rate people on the scale and be sure youre "right"
There’s a much better way to find out how attractive you are. Start calling yourself beautiful around other people. If people think you are they’ll hate you. If they think your average or below they won’t care! Nobody cares when unattractive people think they’re beautiful!
Or you can start calling yourself ugly. If you actually are ugly, people will comfort you by complimenting your personality. If you're average people will tell you you're pretty. If you're pretty, people will tell you to stop fishing for compliments
@@LifeisaBeautifultingI like that. I’m going to give it a try. If they roll their eyes, does that count as fishing for a compliment?😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂!!! So true.. noone care when ppl that arent so attractive think that they are so gorgeous. But let a gorgeous woman smile👀 Hmm everyone will hate her just because she smiled. 💀💀
@@44ashley lmao at that point you did the work and can take it however you like 😉
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In Texas I'm a 5 or 6.. in Florida im like 2 or 3😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Depends on what part of FL. A Miami 3 is a Tampa 5 and a Tallahassee 7.
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😂😂😂 So cute. Your personality most likely adds at least 3 points. 😉❤
@SoulKisses76 awww.. thank you 😊
I was over 300 lbs and considered myself a 5, although with a pretty face card. Now I'm down to 230 lbs and look and feel much more confident/attractive. I'll give myself a 6.5 for now. When I get to my goal weight, it will put me at a strong 7.5, in my opinion.
Gone head🙌🏾
I know that’s right 💖👏🏾
Congratulations!
That's a matter of opinion.
@reneecalvin2158 yes, my opinion
Dang this was good!!! I’ve always had people tell me how attractive I am but I didn’t have the self esteem to believe it until I did the inner work and could ACTUALLY see myself how others saw my physically. I’m an 8 when I’m taking really good care of myself but could be higher if I invested more money into my beauty maintenance instead of doing things myself 😅
You just spoke my life! Best wishes maintaining your self esteem ❤
An 8 and above is extremely rare. Please don't kid yourself.
Girl stop this your 10’s across the board!! 🤗.
Could someone explain the inner work that can be done to achieve what she achieved?
Take stock of yourself basically, and be honest as well. The only person whose being lied to is yourself so be truthful. Write down your likes, dislikes. Wants and needs, strengths and weaknesses. Anything more or less you can do to improve your appearance if necessary. Just a start ❤.@luv2luvya4ever
As soon as you said "fairy godbrother" I hit the subscribe button😂❤
I automatically did the same lol
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I don't know about this because I think a lot of woman date unattractive men, personality is more important for us, that's what I notice most of the time.
Also based on how I see my exes now I would be a -1.😅
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Same tho 😂
Same here. I always went for smart guys with money. That’s a 10! So my ex average is very low. And they were SO excited to have me.
It’s not accurate for women. I don’t date for looks so I’d easily be a one based off this rating.
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The love you have for yourself is more important if you know and believe you a catch people will mirror that back to you
Let me put you on, I typically date guys that are way better looking than me because I figured out that good looking men have issues with societal pressure. Being with me makes them believe a) they aren't shallow as society makes them b) that they can also be seen as smart and not just for their looks. Not proud of it but it is what it is.
A couple of years ago, I - an average European girl - was on vacation in Brazil, visiting a friend and going out to a club with her and the group. The club was FULL of these absolutely gorgeous and stunning Brazilian women. I kind of got into flirting with this Brazilian guy, a real hottie, he couldn't take his eyes off me and said I was the prettiest woman in this club 😂! Whatever is different to what we're used to seems to be very attractive, as well.
I’ve always thought I was a 4. Even when I was skinny, I considered myself a 4.
Now that I’m the biggest I’ve ever been in my entire life, I am don’t think I’m less than a 4. I’m just a 4 in a new phase of my life. There is nothing wrong with being a confident, below average 30-something woman.
Guys who were considered in my book a 7 have liked me. So, I must not be hideous, but I just know my place in the world and I’m more than happy to improve myself and still just honestly be a 4.
If that's you in your profile I don't think you're a four like what? You're pretty 🥰
@@ChaTerra Thank you. Yes ma’am. It’s me. I have old videos on the channel that is the real proof. No catfishing. 😆
4 where? Girllll🌚
I saw your thumbnail, ur higher than a 4
😭😭😭 He told us what fairytale to live in lol!
Looks absolutely matter. It’s #1 in my book, always. I refuse to wake up to someone I’m not attracted to on a looks level.
I have never cared to rate my own attractiveness or anyone else’s but I still watched this whole video 😂 I just love how you give out advice lol
Yes, black American girls are IT in Europe. 😊
Really🤔🤔🤔🛫🛬
Oh????
In certain countries, i.e. Spain.
@@ShanTeacher In racist Spain? I'm pleasantly surprised
@@noemita494 You'll experience racism in any non-black country. That's a given. But not everyone is racist.
I was hoping for more concrete and measurable things... having you rate your own exes is not scientific
This is generally true, but I think it's more accurate if you take the man's income or level of wealth into consideration. A male six who pulls around $200k a year usually isn't going to date another six or even a seven. He'll likely go for an eight, or stretch for a nine. So, a woman who wants to figure out her attractiveness should look back at how well her past boyfriends were doing in life when she met them.
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Exactly!! Cause men choose women based on where they are financially. This is why when men start making more money they always leave their original wife for a new woman who literally looks nothing like them.
@@9darshana Yep!
@mochagypsymagick Being a single woman is just hard. There's so many things I have to think about and your original comment confirmed that. Lol!
@@9darshana It IS hard being a single woman. But at least there's so much wisdom and information out here on the Internet and social media. I WISH I had this advantage when I was coming up as a young woman!
My previous bfs were about 6 and 8. The men who thirst for me on apps are about 7. Men who actually approach in public are 3. Men who only want sex no dating are 9/10😪
Okay but this is accurate af
Every guy I've dated from daily life (not dating apps), I've always gotten the reaction from friends and family: really? Him? Why? You can do soooo much better.
But it was talking, chemistry, and his personality that drew me to him.
This is my life!
It's always been my aura and light and personality that has always attracted men to me it's something in me that gets them hooked beyond the physical. I am currently working on myself as far as hitting the gym and I do get compliments on my looks I come with my own personal flaws and all but I want to say about an average for me maybe a 7.
Omg when he said live in the movie shrek he had me dead 😂😭💀
According to psychology
Ppl think your 20% more attractive than you see yourself.
I’ve always dated down on looks on purpose, since someone (the soccer star) broke my heart in high school. I made an exception w my ex husband who turned out to be mostly gay.
Yep, I always say good looking men are usually gay.
Oh!
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I'm sorry but the amount of beautiful women I see with neanderthal men??? Attractiveness and who we partner with are so much more complicated than this story.
Exactly. Im a sapiosexual.
When I was confident my exes were top tier in the market. Then I got a few life blows, and went lowww in standards, dating some ugly guys(inside and out) because deep down I thought it was all I deserved. fyi I thought the ugly guys would be nicer, NO, they just had added insecurity issues to match mine. Its all about the confidence! It makes me way more physically attractive - when I love my life, I work out more, dress pretty, feel anything is possible, feel radiant. Top tier guys just love it when you're happy, loving yourself, believing in your dreams, it supports them aiming for the best in their life too. Wishing the best to everyone
A rating of 8-10 in attractiveness is model type and these people stand out. They are head turners and have a lot of options. No way a person in 9 would date a 6. That just would not happen.
Marilyn Monroe dated ugly men.
How attractive someone is, is subjective. Everybody has different preferences you can’t really pinpoint that
Right
Exactly
The market establishes it! 😂😂
Yes, you were on point with that with the locations. 😊
My former boyfriends were ALL tall, lean, athletic, white dudes - very good looking.
And to this day, I don’t know how I ever attracted them, because I don’t see myself on that level of attractiveness.
I’ve always just seen myself as very average/“mid”.
😂🤷🏻♀️
Not being rude, just curious. Are you married (or marriage-minded). Sounds like you have had some opportunities.
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I’m single, no kids and never been married.
Am I married-minded?
Hmm, put it this way, I’d know how to keep a husband happy as long as he acted right.
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@@ExoticalT369 Thanks. I'm glad you have opportunities.
It isn't just about looks though. Most blk women have a lot of personality & charisma and our sense of humour is unmatched. And most of us have a personal sense of style. too
@@djlivvy46
True. ❤️
Not go to Disney and live in the movie Schrek?!!! 🤣🤣🤣 a NY 10 is an LA 8 🤣🤣-I am not even sure why you are on my feed, but your content and delivery is great! Good Luck Ladies, he has good tips.
I’m an original LA Valley Girl like a 3 now. But that might be an 8 in another town.
The comparison of looks by city rating is my favorite thing ever now.
😂🎉
Let me take my LA -5 to Texas, buy a house and get a 7 man!
Original Valley Girl here too!!
I’m in Chicago and you have me feeling a certain way about those other cities. Cause wtf? Lol
I’ve pretty much dated all 10s but they’ve mostly been cluster b abusers - need to work on my discernment, not my looks. I think many women are in the same boat with me. I’d rather stay single than settle for someone like that again.
Same
Omg same! My ex was a 9, tall, athletic, perfect hair, beautiful smile, beautiful face, confident... but he was such an abusive and toxic person... he was a 1 on the inside. I can't feel any pride for attracting him. I wouldn't know how to measure his attractiveness level?!?
Everyone reading this comment, you are a 10. There is only one of you and you are uniquely and wonderfully made. Stay positive, beautiful and love everyone. God is love❤❤❤
You are absolutely right, the market does determine attractiveness.
All my “crushes” are hot. Why would I be into someone that’s not attractive to me 🤦🏼♀️
Most men are not as good looking as most women though.
Exactly lol
I’m ex model ex athlete and you’re right lol they live through attractive women
That’s easy to say when woman use beauty enhancing products . Many of those woman are actually average to below average looking naturally. The bar isn’t even as high for men as it is for woman.
That's why you have to take their income level or wealth into account instead.
There’s a bigger expectation on women to be attractive than for men . Women also go through more enhancing rituals to enhance their appearance than the average man . All it takes is for a man to workout and a decent skin routine and he’s deemed attractive. This is why average looking men do better in Hollywood , because many women have lower standards for men .
When he did the attraction numbers in different states it made a lot of sense. I travel a lot and I hear my friends see certain types a certain way or value. But in comparison to my other friends and how they scale the same type. Its interesting for sure but spot on!
I was able to attract some really good looking men that made good income but I had so little confidence that I botched the interactions 😂
I will say that where I’m from Cincinnati I’m like a 4 but I go anywhere else with a more diverse population and I go up to like a 7. Everyone told me leaving a smaller city I would be lower in big cities but I’ve found it to be the opposite! The Midwest can be harsh for a black girl. 😂
I watched the video related to hairstyles. Afterwards, I was driving Uber, making food deliveries and had a very strange encounter. I tend to not catch social cues when someone is trying to be subtle. However, this person stared at me very deeply. I knew that what I exactly thought was right was when I got a whopping over $17 tip. My hair was in two strand twists, which look like starter locs. The person fit your description of who’d be attracted to that style to a tee. I’m going to rewatch this current video because I’m a six whose hips put me at a 6.5. My beloved hubby was a nine because he wasn’t dark skinned. People really questioned him about being with me.
Live with Shrek had me deaddd ☠️
💁🏿This advice should be directed towards men. Too many of them don't know better.
I feel like I'm a 7. The men that I attract are 6-7ishs in looks and 9-10 in kindness, intellect & moral. However, most 5-7ish men want an 8 or a 9 woman and those men are shallow.
Women generally date down while men date up. Men will damn near go broke trying to make the 9 like him & "act right".
Me going back to the mirror with a deep sigh: "I'm ugly and I'm proud. I'm 👏🏾 ugly 👏🏾 and 👏🏾 I'm 👏🏾 proud."
"I'm UGLY AND IM PROUD, I'M UGLY AND I'M PROUD"😂😂
Same! I only get overweight, old, broke-down looking men to flirt with me. Except that one time a really young, fine, Latin guy flirted with me at work a lot. It was just for fun though.
@@buttarain27 If I don't get that it's the average guy with noticably great teeth, but are a drug dealer or in a gang. 🙈
That’s me right now. I’ve been living under a rock. 🤣😂🤣
“If you wanna live in a fairy tale girl, go to Disney land and live in the movie shrek” 😂😂😂😩 shrek tho haaahaa
Ive always known im about a 7 and an 8 when im on my grind
Well fuck I thought I was a 7 but now based on this equation I’m like a 4! Wah 😭
The way I already knew he would start the video with “gurl” 😂
On paper, this advice sounds perfect! However, it lacks efficacy. The truth of the matter is that your heart will eventually "be broken" by every and all. And nothing hurts WORSE than having your heart broken by someone who isn't your first/best/ideal choice. He's right in that maybe things will be more "long-term" with the person you "settle" for, but like I said, eventually they will hurt you too. Maybe not in a year or even five, but eventually, they will. I guarantee it. But then you're sitting there trying to heal and forgive someone who you probably now see as a troll. lol So ALWAYS date/marry up. That's for both attractiveness and financially. All things considered, overall, you'll be a LOT happier. 💫😆
I mean, imagine ONLY applying for postions that you know you'll get and still getting laid off/fired. 😂 Or ONLY applying to colleges where you know you'll be accepted. That's what y'all be doing??? I hope not 😭
One of my favorite and most relatable quotes: "I always felt like I could do anything. That’s the main thing people are controlled by! THOUGHTS AND THEIR PERCEPTION OF THEMSELVES! They're slowed down by their perception of themselves. If you're taught you can’t do anything, you won’t do anything. I was taught I could do everything." -Kanye West
In all areas of your life, aim for the stars, sis. I PROMISE YOU, you won't regret it. 💫👩🏽🏫
The guys I’ve dated when I was in highschool averaged me to a 6 when I did the calculations. I haven’t dated anyone recently in college so maybe I’m a 7 now with how I’ve upgraded my looks, lost weight a lot of weight, and learned how to do beautiful makeup that looks natural .
Girly if that is your photo in the thumbnail you are beautiful. If you are 5’8 or taller you could be a model. Your face is well proportioned. Add some confidence and you are unstoppable.
@@mizzz.c thank you so much 😚 but no , unfortunately im 5’4 😭
Yes this is absolutely true! Frequency
I never cared about looks until my first husband. He was fine as frog hair split 3 ways and sanded...but I later found out that he is a total narcissistic sociopath. He's actually been diagnosed as bipolar with a borderline personality disorder. So my initial true instincts were correct... looks aren't everything 😂
Borderline men are the absolute worst. My ex husband was an abusive bpder as well. They’re so much worse than the grandiose narcissist because a man with bpd is just basically a physically abusive vulnerable narcissist. It’s not if they will hit you and become violent - it’s when.
I think Rating is a very unhealthy thing to do
I have to disagree with this post
Attractive is attractive no matter what city you are in. Attractiveness is based on preference
This Math is mathing ❤ Know thy self
I get the guys who all the women drool over.
They're in great shape, good looking, friendly, likable, seem intelligent, seem to have good values and good intentions.
But they usually turn out to be disappointing - boring, very little substance, inconsistent personalities, major issues, or just flat out weird! But knowing them only from work or a similar setting, they seem like great guys. 🤦🏼♀️
Same. I've been with the hottest sexiest men, gym rats, a top level martial artist in the world, fine AF, educated men with degrees and jobs and all their teeth and still they have issues! 😭😅😂
Currently looking into relocating to Europe 😂
Wisconsin would be better
@@kv2723Curious…why Wisconsin?
Thoughts 💭 and prayers 🙏🏾 to the girls from Charlotte living in New York 🗽😔
lmaoo
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Yuh cause his comparative analysis is quite interesting … I’ve lived in all the cities he referenced and Chicago wouldn’t rate somehow higher than Charlotte and Charlotte is a melting pot … and people generally can perpetuate outer beauty in socialization … but then after the party what’s it hitting for 😂 or after you leave the gym or when you’re running errands etc … I’m not trying to be messy or mean toward Midwest woman 🫣and the same holds true for all the other cities … because people feign outer beauty all the time. I’m from Greensboro NC originally and coming up we’d measure outer beauty by how you look at the club when they turn on the lights after the last slow bop they play to signify take yo ass home … and it was graded on a pass/fail … I always pass … my mom and dad gave me a few couple things 😂
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I’m a -2 in every situation. 🙆🏾♀️
What do I do with that??😅
Not gonna lie. I'm beautiful individual, but im usually with men way more attractive on 10,11 plus level. Think it's my venus in virgo, and im a libra on top of it. I really think it's that it fact aura thing with me, my personality hooks them and looks go out the door with me after like 3 days so im really okay what else do u have to offer looks dont phase me. Because those types of men come a dime a dozen and i deal with egos. Treat them normal and i fuess that intrigues them. I dont get star stuck or whatever u call it. 🤷🏾♀️ my exs and serious situations I dated and wanted a relationship, but I was out cause of something they did, were all highly attractive. Some were actually fashion run way models. My two ex fiancé, models bone structure, body height, eye, and the down stairs pacakage on horse. So Humm honestly don't know cause it's not just my looks. I'm not an LA hot. I'm in NY guess and 8 but personality on 11. It's hard alot of friends and people around me are like 9/10 la ny DC Miami atl hot. I just rambled, but yea.🤷🏾♀️
Plight of the Libra ❤ same same same
How old are you?
Libra here, yes indeed
Exs are no measure. If we want to be superficial lets go all out. You can tell easily by how people react to you your entire life. If their shocked, stunned, and speechless with a few confident enough to blurt out how hot you are- then youre stunning. Im taking these every day life experience over anything to do with exs.
Yt people love calling me gorgeous at random in public, while in the black community, I'm like a 6.5 LMAO fml
I must be better looking than I thought because my exes were fine af.
I'm attracted to a certain look that is familiar to me, because all the men in my family are real fine. But in addition to looks, I'm very attracted to men who are intelligently handy. I really appreciate feeling safe, with a bold, smart, relaxed man. Because I am bold and smart, and I like being able to relax
In California I'm about a 4-5, in Africa, I'm like Beyonce damnit! 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
THIS IS TRUE TEA! ☕☕☕☕
This is difficult because I get different feedback based on where I am and my hair as a mixed race woman. In the USA, if I wear my hair straight or wear a wig I get way more attention than with my natural 3c hair. And it's from younger guys vs the 40-60 year Olds that look at me with curls. In Southern Europe no one bats an eye except if I have short hair. The longer my curly hair the thirstier they are 😂.
I feel like this advice only applies to "first impressions" or "strangers across the room" scenarios. If you end up dating someone that you are around on a regular basis and the two of you have gotten to know each other, physical attraction is going to be a lot less based on appearance and more on how you make each other feel. I think all of us can relate to a 8 becoming a 3 once we got to know them. In contrast, a 3 ends up becoming an 8 because they are beautiful on the inside.
Personality,and confidence is very attractive also.
this is lowkey goofy
Not even low key because what people find attractive varies greatly from one person to the next. "Attractiveness" is the ability to attractive. Some people that aren't necessarily esthetically pleasing are very attractive. People do too much. 😂😂😂
He’s specifically talking about physical attractiveness which honestly does not vary greatly because scientifically certain facial features/harmony will be seen as more or less attractive across the board. The only thing that would cause the differences are cultural differences and European beauty standards that have negatively influenced societies view of what is seen as beautiful. Yeah people have preferences but let’s be so forreal some people will always be seen as beautiful/attractive because of certain physical features they possess. Even certain hair styles and makeup or facial cosmetics changes are changing your look in a more aesthetic way that skews your look towards something perceived as more beautiful to the eye.
@@Kay-jk3zj beauty is subjective asf and what you said about the colonizer was accurate! Without white supremacy there’s no ugliness couched in Blackness / certain phenotypes…it’s almost like white people invented ugly so they couldn’t be it 👀
Or you can be like me, there's lots of women who look better than me. I'm more magnetic than most though so even though other women look better, nobody takes their eyes off me regardless of what I'm wearing.
How does that translate in terms of the level of attractiveness of your current spouse or long term partner, or previous ones
What’s your magnetism due to?
Finally we found a guy spitting facts ❤
I’m basically a 10😅 good to know…All the guys I attract younger than me and older (extremely) are 9s and 10s from differently cities..ethnicities and races…I appreciate that Dr Anwar…Peace and love from South Africa😅
This is real. I keep trying to tell my single friends this
WTH did I just watch?!🤦♀️
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Its dating advice for black women. Are you a black woman?
Right?!? Lort.
I think most people know whether they are attractive or not. You know what you can pull. People that doubt are 6’s or 7’s; with extra money/fame/swagger such individuals can (superficially) pull a 9, but generally speaking anything below a 6,5 (within their ethnicity).
Savage!!! I love it
This advice is actually true good one
My ex are either business owners or a celebrity 😊
I agree that location is definitely not apples to apples. I'm from Los Angeles and now live in Kansas City, Missouri. I was a 6/7 there, but an 8/9 here.
My ex was crazy, he forced me to be with him and threatened to kill himself if i didn't wanna talk to him anymore, and joked about kidnapping me, mind you, I was never physically attracted to him. So what advice woud you give me based on my ex?
Yes, looks are subjective. Go to big cities. You’ll learn quickly where you stand in the pecking order. Loving yourself aka self confidence does go a long way. It allows people to see more than what’s on the outside.
Well, being everyone tells me I have always dated attractive men. I must be hot. 😂😂😂
Base on how they looked when we were dating them or how they look now?? Because if it's now I'm a 1
I just have something to add let me know if you would correct or debate this. 🤷🏻♀️
My LTR exes have all been good friends who confess they loved me.. situationships have varied from 7 - 9, thirsty guys + admirer/flirters are from 1-9. The thing with being pretty is you attract all sorts of people. Sometimes It’s the ugly guys that have the balls to approach. The attractive guys already have girls falling over to meet them so sex- their basic love need- is being met via that fast-food restaurant . Attractive women aren’t falling over to meet attractive guys because we feel they should approach us. The reality is, they never will because they are either not used to pursuing or expecting girls to come to them. So befriend them and get them to fall in love with you. Back in the day we used to talk on the phone now it’s watching IG stories. Tell him you don’t have social media 😂
Uh uh, I'm not sure what number I am. I don't get dressed up any longer since I'm getting beat on by life and I'm married with children. Some days I'm Peg other days I'm Al.
So, most guys on dating apps for me be a 3 and under. In the past, they were probably 2 -7. In person, they guys I find out who liked me but never went through asking me out were around 6 - 8. So I'm so confused. My outcomes in person definitely were better
I’m in Atlanta so I def know where I fall! 😂😂😂
women don't do the 1-10. It's hot or not.
I Always felt like a 7 because I wake up looking like shrek, not fiona but shrek LMAO
I know SO many people who’ve been married for decades who have a huge chasm between them on the physical attractiveness scale. 🙄
I think your observation/advice is more fit for the gay male world. Cause most women date less attractive men than themselves. It’s a safer bet. Also we don’t date as much for looks but more for security, stability, ability to provide and protect.
There are not an abundance of straight male 10s out there. maybe in Latin America or something but not the States.