Right, aint nobody got time for this. So it's a turnoff to help...but women are supposed to supportive, his peace, and his helpmate. So confused I give up.
Exactly if it’s not happening naturally I am not doing it these things just have to happen I’m not about to keep setting up situations and planning stuff to make a man like me more this is ridiculous
@@dinalva_santos15 that’s the way we are created & how we function! No rules! Just like day & night have different characteristics men & women do too! But some have gone so far off their true nature they don’t even recognize it any more! So they will get involved with a lazy man who asks u to provide material things so you will satisfy ur non-existing feminine energy!
Great advice. Consistent across all the other channels of the same topic. 1) Don’t solve his problems for him 2) if your having a relational problem then talk about it together to come up with a solution 3) Let him be the fixer of things in your life
ad 1) Most of the time it is you, who are generating new problems for me - not solving them. ad 2) I would gladly talk about problems in our relationship but the thing is that mostly it is you, trying to manipulate me into taking the blame and taking all the responsibility as you do lack basic accountibility and you are unable to admit that you may be wrong. ad 3) And nope - I won't be fixing your life, baby. Fix it yourself.
I find that men like being given the chance to solve an issue and help his lady, but there are men who appreciate a woman who can problem solve. I don't know how I feel about this.
I stopped listening at the 2 minute mark. She’s an idiot. Young woman out there… please don’t take any of her advice!! Don’t play games!! Do favors for your men & show them you love them!! They are taught to be hard & completely self sufficient in society. It’s perfectly fine for you, as their partner, to be the safe & soft place to land!! But, what do I know… I’ve only been married 28 years… and my parents were married 68 years!! Until my mom passed last year… and my dad is absolutely lost without her! Please show love to your men ladies!! They need it just as much as we do!! Maybe even more! ❤
The only problem is the men of yesterday are not the men of today. In fact, due to social media it’s mainly boys out here. You’ve been out the game since the late 90s early 2000s. It’s evil out here in the 2020s. So you have to play these games to see if a man will work hard to keep you happy. When you got married side chicks were at least somewhat shamed. Now with social media people are conditioned to praise the seductive woman that had enough game to take a married man away from his family. When you got married I bet you wouldn’t have imagined a platform like onlyfans being accepted in society, but it is and plenty of married men are investing in random naked girls. Back in the 90s you had to go to the back of the store. The more they invest emotionally the less likely they are to cheat knowing you will leave. Cause these men are lovebombing warlocks and will try to get the most out of women for the least.
I stopped listening to this vid at 1:44 upon stumbling across this comment. I 100% knew before clicking that this was going to be some inorganic advice, but your comment sealed the deal. I don't need to hear anymore. I'm too grown up for this 🤦🏾♀️. Lol
People just remember: just give advice if you are asked for it. Thats also for men, because it is sometimes like a punch in the belly if they give unwanted advice.
Sorry but its not healthy either when he loses interest,love,loyalty over every little thing. Let him do more for you without you asking and then you respond positively to that. Ugh Men NEED mercy. MERCY is what they need. And they also need to appreciate whats in front of them. We need to appreciate them more as their long language and we need to be MINDFUL about that. Well....why cant they be more mindful of what our love language is and what we need. Do THEY learn what OUR nature is? Let them figure out us as well!!!!!!! Also do you realize how many women live in a half made house because they dont finish projects. I get stress just thinking about that. They create a mess and you bite your lips because you know their ego is fragile and then you sit there stressing out because chaos in the home is chaos in the mind Many women act masculine because its necessary and thats the sad part
Interesting, because I know a whole lot of men who would only watch when you struggle with some physical inconvenience and never offer their help to a level of rudnes, where almost any woman wouldn't do that. For example you are walking together up on hill, you have bike, and baggage, he has empty hands, you almost fall, and he just go, even without waiting for you. Very manly indeed
you mean like the women who hide the MAN'S income from him in a getaway fund incase something goes wrong with the relationship? you aren't ENTITLED to a man's help tyvm... us men are waking up to gold diggin, resource draining, entitled 304s like you...
Because you all kept arguing and insisting, "I got it! I got it! I'm not a piece of broken glass!" That's why you kept getting treated equally. What's the problem?
@@BushidoBasher You're missing the common courtesy in OP's sentiment. Many of us women do this for others, so it's especially bizarre when men do not. For instance, I help (or at least offer to) when I see a woman struggling to carry her stroller up the stairs. Many men do not. Worse, some will even smirk at that woman struggling. I open a door to walk into a store or building, and a man who is exiting just walks right through, sometimes without a thanks or courtesy nod. Worse, some will not do the same. TBF, I even see my friends and capable family members differently if they are like this, *women included. So many people lack human courtesies and civilities, and it is 💔.*
@@Blissid_Waters how did you think it happened? The demonization of males. Accusing every man of being a rapist, decrying sexual relationships and calling it regrets, falsely accusing them of rape, always screaming and boasting, "I'm strong and independent and need no man". This is over 50+ years of man hating since the 1970s. The lack of courtesy is why men are not very receptive to helping women because they could get sued. It has happened multiple times. Whose fault was this? Feminism for corrupting our youth, infecting colleges, and souring the souls of men who sought love but found feminine toxicity in women. It would be nice for a man to literally help, open the door, or look after another. But no, those decades of man -hating, beating down men for who they are, always devaluing their worth... Men aren't going to give you common courtesy any more, even if the laws changed to better equalize the field.
People have lost sight of the fact that men and women are ying/yang. Men are supposed to solve problems for women and take their stress away. Women are supposed to induce stress for men.
@@davidkuhn3695 I kind of agree with you because I'm always so confused by this advice that women give to not help men. Why wouldn't a man accept help if he's in a bind? If you're a team, won't it be nice to know you have a capable partner who cares enough for you to help?
@@SaffariRoseIt has to be in balance. It's okay to help a man but they have to help you more and it needs to be something that does not stress you. If a woman ends up helping a man too much, she will become bitter. My boyfriend helps me with a lot of things and every once in a while I help him as well but it's usually something that I can do better than him and sometimes it's something I just like doing anyway. For example I helped him organize his closet. I actually like organizing so it was enjoyable for me.
@@The-Oneness11 I see. But does that mean that you're doing something wrong if you help them more than they help you? Because you stated it has to be in a balance but you're also giving an example that is skewed towards your bf doing more so not really in a balance per say. I'm genuinely curious because I've always been a doer/giver and I enjoy it but I'm wondering if I'm doing something that is potentially harmful towards my relationships. I've never felt bitter towards my helping, I just do things because it feels right to me. Is this wrong? How else can I show support if otherwise?
This is terrible advice fo young women. I'm a man and I can tell you, those who are young women, to start questioning this woman: 1. Is she married? 2. Has she been married only once? 3. Is she divorced right now? If she's been married, never married once for a long term marriage, this is NOT the role model for you! Let me give you skem advice: if you want to keep a man, let him seek and have peace at home. If he can do these two things, it's not hard to have him keep coming home to you. The real question is: what kind of marriage do you want? The one that bombs hard multiple times or the one that lasted forever. It's up to you!
@@MMMC-z8y I would accept your statement as true, but the truth is that falling in love might seem ideal but we need to figure out where we’re going with that person so you both don’t end up broken by each other if you’re taking two different paths. There’s a lot of reasons why modern dating doesn’t work out for most.
@@xocarleeryan It's the other way around. All that "figure out where we're going with that person" is sooo the anti thesis to the ease and spontaneity of gloriously living in the freedom of picking up a good vibe and just being grateful for it and hey...maybe we can do this again some time. Not needing to analyze ANYTHING! Less analyzing and figuring anything out. It really is as natural as breathing and digesting. Yes it is. It's sooo simple to have a ton of healthy relationships without expert advice . Go back to when there was no internet. People met with such ease and flow and everyone had greater success and less isolation and loneliness.
When’s an appropriate time to throw in suggestions ?? Should I ask like “ wellll , let me know how I can be of any support “? Or “I have faith you will figure it out , let me know if you need any advice, a different perspective or just a listening ear “
@@constance8667 Yes babe! Both such beautiful ways of asking before giving advice or solutions ♥️♥️ if it’s something extremely emotional or heavy, or a heavy problem, then I would more importantly just comfort and listen. If it’s a problem that is not too big of a problem, then I would ask what you just stated there. :) great point! ♥️♥️
@@JC-ce8uw babe so many!! Think big! A purse, a camera, a tripod, sewing a button, a computer issue, a shoe, solution for a problem you are having at work, anything that he needs to problem solve for you!!! 🩷🩷🩷
Great advice if you want to lose your man! 😊 F aroud with this one and find out, ladies. Men are more aware now, and what they want is their peace. Threaten the peace and you threaten the relationship.
Why are you on a womans channel? Go off and have your peace and stop telling everyone online. It's a joke... if you were indifferent you wouldn't care.
Lol.... These videos reveal more and more that people with unresolved personality and attachment disorders are still running from therapy. Love is for you and for you to share my people.
I got enough stress without all that!! If you want to complain go do that to somebody else, If you dont want your problems resolved or fixed dont tell me about it, If work is makin you act a fool at home find another home and never come back to mine!!
This is terrible advice. Why would you want to stress someone out? To save them? Also, don’t you know that stress is toxic? Please stop with this terrible advice.
We do need some level of stress though. Is what she is saying really that harmful to men if it’s boosting their testosterone and helping them feel like the hero/fixer?
STOP USING GAMES FOR GOD'S SAKE, LADIES.. JUST BE YOUR GOOD NICE SELF.. THE GOOD MAN WILL CONNECT TO YOU.. THE PLAYERS WILL SWIM AWAY.. AS EASY AS THAT.
People should help each other. Sure you let a man figure out how he wants to solve a problem, but you should be pleased to help him if you love him and he wants your help. Make your self useful to a man and he loves you more.
This is for modern day style dating for a short or medium almost thought amount of time. If you want to find real love you’ve got to put down those phones and get up out of that ego and just be you without having to hold back or even give a f to address silly shit like this
In other words, never do too much for a man.
Tired of all these rules
Right, aint nobody got time for this. So it's a turnoff to help...but women are supposed to supportive, his peace, and his helpmate. So confused I give up.
@@dianablossom-r7e okay diana
Exactly if it’s not happening naturally I am not doing it these things just have to happen I’m not about to keep setting up situations and planning stuff to make a man like me more this is ridiculous
Thats your issue. Just look at it this way, be focused in YOU and your life and your shit. Have a life, your own life
Your man is not your son…. He isnt your child. You are not his mother. Ok?
A relationship shouldn't feel like a chore.
If you dont care about that person do you even like them?
If you like them why would you not want to try to help them?
Mind games are just too much
Don't hate the player, hate the freaking game
@@precious14stones i hate both
A woman’s job is to provide emotional support!
Not materialistic
In this way u r not helping ur man!
U r destroying them!
@@Golden_Queen_888 who made those freaking rules and why tf should anyone follow them?
@@dinalva_santos15 that’s the way we are created & how we function!
No rules!
Just like day & night have different characteristics men & women do too!
But some have gone so far off their true nature they don’t even recognize it any more!
So they will get involved with a lazy man who asks u to provide material things so you will satisfy ur non-existing feminine energy!
Great advice. Consistent across all the other channels of the same topic.
1) Don’t solve his problems for him
2) if your having a relational problem then talk about it together to come up with a solution
3) Let him be the fixer of things in your life
ad 1) Most of the time it is you, who are generating new problems for me - not solving them.
ad 2) I would gladly talk about problems in our relationship but the thing is that mostly it is you, trying to manipulate me into taking the blame and taking all the responsibility as you do lack basic accountibility and you are unable to admit that you may be wrong.
ad 3) And nope - I won't be fixing your life, baby. Fix it yourself.
Yeah I see all these other channels saying the same thing.
This is exactly how cults work.
I find that men like being given the chance to solve an issue and help his lady, but there are men who appreciate a woman who can problem solve. I don't know how I feel about this.
I stopped listening at the 2 minute mark. She’s an idiot. Young woman out there… please don’t take any of her advice!! Don’t play games!! Do favors for your men & show them you love them!! They are taught to be hard & completely self sufficient in society. It’s perfectly fine for you, as their partner, to be the safe & soft place to land!! But, what do I know… I’ve only been married 28 years… and my parents were married 68 years!! Until my mom passed last year… and my dad is absolutely lost without her! Please show love to your men ladies!! They need it just as much as we do!! Maybe even more! ❤
Beautifully said!
@@p_a_m_e_l_a_h_i_l_l thank you! 😊
The only problem is the men of yesterday are not the men of today. In fact, due to social media it’s mainly boys out here. You’ve been out the game since the late 90s early 2000s. It’s evil out here in the 2020s. So you have to play these games to see if a man will work hard to keep you happy. When you got married side chicks were at least somewhat shamed. Now with social media people are conditioned to praise the seductive woman that had enough game to take a married man away from his family. When you got married I bet you wouldn’t have imagined a platform like onlyfans being accepted in society, but it is and plenty of married men are investing in random naked girls. Back in the 90s you had to go to the back of the store. The more they invest emotionally the less likely they are to cheat knowing you will leave. Cause these men are lovebombing warlocks and will try to get the most out of women for the least.
I stopped listening to this vid at 1:44 upon stumbling across this comment. I 100% knew before clicking that this was going to be some inorganic advice, but your comment sealed the deal. I don't need to hear anymore. I'm too grown up for this 🤦🏾♀️. Lol
@@QueenofWands3333 🫶
People just remember: just give advice if you are asked for it. Thats also for men, because it is sometimes like a punch in the belly if they give unwanted advice.
Sorry but its not healthy either when he loses interest,love,loyalty over every little thing. Let him do more for you without you asking and then you respond positively to that. Ugh
Men NEED mercy. MERCY is what they need. And they also need to appreciate whats in front of them. We need to appreciate them more as their long language and we need to be MINDFUL about that. Well....why cant they be more mindful of what our love language is and what we need.
Do THEY learn what OUR nature is? Let them figure out us as well!!!!!!!
Also do you realize how many women live in a half made house because they dont finish projects. I get stress just thinking about that.
They create a mess and you bite your lips because you know their ego is fragile and then you sit there stressing out because chaos in the home is chaos in the mind
Many women act masculine because its necessary and thats the sad part
Interesting, because I know a whole lot of men who would only watch when you struggle with some physical inconvenience and never offer their help to a level of rudnes, where almost any woman wouldn't do that. For example you are walking together up on hill, you have bike, and baggage, he has empty hands, you almost fall, and he just go, even without waiting for you. Very manly indeed
you mean like the women who hide the MAN'S income from him in a getaway fund incase something goes wrong with the relationship? you aren't ENTITLED to a man's help tyvm... us men are waking up to gold diggin, resource draining, entitled 304s like you...
Because you all kept arguing and insisting, "I got it! I got it! I'm not a piece of broken glass!"
That's why you kept getting treated equally. What's the problem?
@@BushidoBasher
You're missing the common courtesy in OP's sentiment. Many of us women do this for others, so it's especially bizarre when men do not.
For instance, I help (or at least offer to) when I see a woman struggling to carry her stroller up the stairs. Many men do not. Worse, some will even smirk at that woman struggling.
I open a door to walk into a store or building, and a man who is exiting just walks right through, sometimes without a thanks or courtesy nod. Worse, some will not do the same.
TBF, I even see my friends and capable family members differently if they are like this, *women included. So many people lack human courtesies and civilities, and it is 💔.*
@@Blissid_Waters how did you think it happened?
The demonization of males. Accusing every man of being a rapist, decrying sexual relationships and calling it regrets, falsely accusing them of rape, always screaming and boasting, "I'm strong and independent and need no man". This is over 50+ years of man hating since the 1970s.
The lack of courtesy is why men are not very receptive to helping women because they could get sued. It has happened multiple times.
Whose fault was this? Feminism for corrupting our youth, infecting colleges, and souring the souls of men who sought love but found feminine toxicity in women.
It would be nice for a man to literally help, open the door, or look after another. But no, those decades of man -hating, beating down men for who they are, always devaluing their worth...
Men aren't going to give you common courtesy any more, even if the laws changed to better equalize the field.
Thats mot a man. Thats cannon fodder.
I stress tf out of my husband 😂 they love it. 😂😂😂😂
He definitely cheats on you. I would if I were him.
A lot of men are coddled and that does play a part ❤ great take on this!!
People have lost sight of the fact that men and women are ying/yang. Men are supposed to solve problems for women and take their stress away. Women are supposed to induce stress for men.
Wrong. We don't want stress, y'all are crazy if you think we enjoy games. Blue-pilled guys might be the men you're talking about.
@@davidkuhn3695 I kind of agree with you because I'm always so confused by this advice that women give to not help men. Why wouldn't a man accept help if he's in a bind? If you're a team, won't it be nice to know you have a capable partner who cares enough for you to help?
@@SaffariRoseIt has to be in balance. It's okay to help a man but they have to help you more and it needs to be something that does not stress you. If a woman ends up helping a man too much, she will become bitter. My boyfriend helps me with a lot of things and every once in a while I help him as well but it's usually something that I can do better than him and sometimes it's something I just like doing anyway. For example I helped him organize his closet. I actually like organizing so it was enjoyable for me.
@@The-Oneness11 I see. But does that mean that you're doing something wrong if you help them more than they help you? Because you stated it has to be in a balance but you're also giving an example that is skewed towards your bf doing more so not really in a balance per say. I'm genuinely curious because I've always been a doer/giver and I enjoy it but I'm wondering if I'm doing something that is potentially harmful towards my relationships. I've never felt bitter towards my helping, I just do things because it feels right to me. Is this wrong? How else can I show support if otherwise?
This is terrible advice fo young women.
I'm a man and I can tell you, those who are young women, to start questioning this woman:
1. Is she married?
2. Has she been married only once?
3. Is she divorced right now?
If she's been married, never married once for a long term marriage, this is NOT the role model for you!
Let me give you skem advice: if you want to keep a man, let him seek and have peace at home. If he can do these two things, it's not hard to have him keep coming home to you.
The real question is: what kind of marriage do you want? The one that bombs hard multiple times or the one that lasted forever. It's up to you!
Whatever happened to boy meets girl and they just fall in love? All this dating advice is so convoluted.
@@MMMC-z8y I would accept your statement as true, but the truth is that falling in love might seem ideal but we need to figure out where we’re going with that person so you both don’t end up broken by each other if you’re taking two different paths. There’s a lot of reasons why modern dating doesn’t work out for most.
@@xocarleeryan It's the other way around. All that "figure out where we're going with that person" is sooo the anti thesis to the ease and spontaneity of gloriously living in the freedom of picking up a good vibe and just being grateful for it and hey...maybe we can do this again some time. Not needing to analyze ANYTHING! Less analyzing and figuring anything out. It really is as natural as breathing and digesting. Yes it is. It's sooo simple to have a ton of healthy relationships without expert advice . Go back to when there was no internet. People met with such ease and flow and everyone had greater success and less isolation and loneliness.
@@xocarleeryanGIRL BYE
When’s an appropriate time to throw in suggestions ?? Should I ask like “ wellll , let me know how I can be of any support “? Or “I have faith you will figure it out , let me know if you need any advice, a different perspective or just a listening ear “
@@constance8667 Yes babe! Both such beautiful ways of asking before giving advice or solutions ♥️♥️ if it’s something extremely emotional or heavy, or a heavy problem, then I would more importantly just comfort and listen. If it’s a problem that is not too big of a problem, then I would ask what you just stated there. :) great point! ♥️♥️
@@xocarleeryan Thank you for your insight & knowledge! Continue sharing w/ us ❤️
Girl. Bye
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Yep 🥱🍺✨️
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Just be fit, feminine, and friendly.
What kind of problems can he help you with if you live with your parents?
I.e he can’t help with household stuff and I don’t have a car.
@@JC-ce8uw babe so many!! Think big! A purse, a camera, a tripod, sewing a button, a computer issue, a shoe, solution for a problem you are having at work, anything that he needs to problem solve for you!!! 🩷🩷🩷
Men like to fix the things that they break... the rest is having us to nag them forever to get it done 😅
Gals, follow her advice, and stay single all your life. We have enough stress in life and not looking to add more
2-3 years, anyone foolish enough to listen to this garbage advice is gonna hit the wall like a freight train wondering why they can't find a man😂
My pov: When a true/real relationship is meant to be, we dont need any weird rules or to play any game. Blessings from Mexico 💜
Great advice if you want to lose your man! 😊
F aroud with this one and find out, ladies.
Men are more aware now, and what they want is their peace. Threaten the peace and you threaten the relationship.
Why are you on a womans channel? Go off and have your peace and stop telling everyone online. It's a joke... if you were indifferent you wouldn't care.
Do they want peace though? Seems like they love destroying womens peace of mind by causing chaos more often than not with many men
Lol.... These videos reveal more and more that people with unresolved personality and attachment disorders are still running from therapy. Love is for you and for you to share my people.
I'm in my 30s. I wish someone told me this when i was younger. Thanks sis
@@MarchingFt you’re welcome babe!!! All women need to understand relationship dynamics and how to communicate w men 🥰
it’s never too late
V Castro , are you an author ? Of the book ..The haunting of Alejandra
ughhhh me too!
Yeah, stress your man constantly and you'll get well deserved divorce sooner or later. Great advice indeed.
I've been told u can figure it out urself when it's stuff that he really doesn't kno how to do or care to learn how to do!!
"Let's learn together!" 🤓💓
Games
Get a dog...Let him be your dog walker ❤❤
I got enough stress without all that!! If you want to complain go do that to somebody else, If you dont want your problems resolved or fixed dont tell me about it, If work is makin you act a fool at home find another home and never come back to mine!!
This is terrible advice. Why would you want to stress someone out? To save them? Also, don’t you know that stress is toxic? Please stop with this terrible advice.
@@davidserlin8097 Please stop with the terrible trolling.
Actually, stress is not always toxic. You need to have cortisol in your body.
@@xocarleeryanStupid.
She's a narcissist and that's what they do
Cortisol can cause chronic disease
Watch narc daily channel
You would be dead in 24hrs without Cortisone = Cortisol.
We do need some level of stress though. Is what she is saying really that harmful to men if it’s boosting their testosterone and helping them feel like the hero/fixer?
This is horrible advice. Follow it at your own peril.
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STOP USING GAMES FOR GOD'S SAKE, LADIES..
JUST BE YOUR GOOD NICE SELF..
THE GOOD MAN WILL CONNECT TO YOU..
THE PLAYERS WILL SWIM AWAY..
AS EASY AS THAT.
Which world are you living in?? Is it 1988 or 2024..
Your too young to give advice
Your advice goes against the biblical teachings of women being helpers
Are you questioning people on the internet with cameras and microphones? 😂
Men don’t want to be cuddled?? Whaaat 😳 this is very wrong
My man loves to cuddle with me and wouldn’t even let go
Please get your facts right!!!!
@@loveabundance635 I said CODDLED. Not cuddled.
Go get a Webster dictionary from the 1980s
CODDLED. Not cuddled ffs 🤦♀️
@@xocarleeryanGIRL BYE
People should help each other. Sure you let a man figure out how he wants to solve a problem, but you should be pleased to help him if you love him and he wants your help. Make your self useful to a man and he loves you more.
This is for modern day style dating for a short or medium almost thought amount of time. If you want to find real love you’ve got to put down those phones and get up out of that ego and just be you without having to hold back or even give a f to address silly shit like this