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@jeremyross7939saying yes to something you don’t want is literally denying yourself meaning you are telling yourself that you don’t matter and other people matter more than you.
No is my default. I say No without guilt and I’ve learned to say it from a very young age, because people will steal your time and overload you with work or time consuming tasks either in your job or personal life. I listen politely and decline politely, but if they continue to pressure me then I just tell them the truth: ‘I’m not interested in participating in that (whatever) because I really just don’t want to do it.’ As some people don’t respond well to being told no, no matter how polite I say it.
This is one of my favorite topic because I really need to learn how to say NO, thank you so much Jamila for taking the time to explain everything and giving examples how to say No in a polite way without being sound rude.
You're one of those UA-camrs that I haven't met in person but gave me big help. God bless you Jamela. I truly wish for you greater wealth and success in every possible way.
You provided excellent examples of how to graciously decline. I usually say " I am sorry, but I have to decline." If the person pressures me or wants another date or time, then I say " I still have to decline. I have a lot on my plate and I do not want further stress so please accept this and please do not ask me again." It is true. We all have a lot on our plate. We all have stress. The invitation creates more stress and accepting it will overload us with stress, so no need to provide other reasons, as this is the actual truth for most of us, "I have a lot on my plate and cannot accept." Easy, peasy.
Now I finally know why men never took no as an answer and always tried to persuade me. It was because my voice went higher. Also, I'm a people pleaser unfortunately so that makes it even more difficult to say no. I will try saying no in a more firm way now. I hope it works
Throughout the whole video, I had a feeling that I'm receiving an important life lesson from an older sister or mentor with care and understanding. Thank you wholeheartedly for this and for sharing your own experience.
Hi @@video-cv3ov I’ve been working on it for a quite a long time and I’m still struggling, I wish it’s easy as you said but I will keep in mind of what you said and I will try to apply it in my life. Thank you.
@@Carmen0777 yes it happens in countries with rampant nepotism, they think being close to relatives and neighbors is good but it's actually toxic . I stay away from them as much as possible, and still cant say No 😞
Very intelligent and punctual. Jamila you're such a multitalent, your advices are diving into psychology and I wonder how did you collect all the psychology knowledge
The most important thing to remember is that one does not help everyone by helping them. Really important! Sometimes, you are helping people by NOT helping them (as they need to learn sth by that). 👍
Your voice is so soothing. Who knew hearing "no" could make me so relaxed? 😂 Thank you for these tips, especially about lowering the tone of voice. With these techniques, I can leave a positive impression while advocating for myself. Awesome! 🤍
This is great content. Thanks, Jamila. Another challenge for many people (and the younger version of myself) is to truly understand and execute the priorities at the specific stage of their lives. Not saying no to a request or an attraction might also be due to not knowing what they were signing up for or committed to.
Thank you for teaching us 🩵. I’ve been watching your videos since a long time and I wasn’t understand everything you’re saying because my week English but today I can easily and understand everything you say. I thank myself for this improvement ❤
Thank you so much for this video Jamila!! In my opinion it's perfectly okay to not give a concrete explanation for why you said no and you can just say "I have other commitments" or "I have other plans" and not explain what it is. Or even a "I plan to stay in that night because I have a really hectic week". I think this is how we can draw boundaries and not appeal to people who want to push them!
Thank you, Jamila, you are a blessing to me. I could not sleep last night due to the truth; I needed to say "no." This delivering message came up this morning with compassion and understanding. Thank you. Love, Vivian Arnold
Thank you so much for this video, so grateful for all your videos. I would love to see a video on the techniques used to hold specific drink glasses as well as how to be a good host, thanks again.
mi: Thank you so much, I really appreciate the fact that you took me into consideration for this position in a time when employment is so scarce but I have current obligations in my current career and the opening may be better utilized by somebody else whom may truly need a new job.
Jamila, it’s always a pleasure to hear from you! But I'm missing the chapter markers throughout the video... so we can go back to a specific point directly or even just to pay more attention to that part of the video. Anyway, thank you! Ah, and I miss you in red lipstick! Use it more and more times!
How to say no: 1. Always give thanks for the opportunity. 2. Say no giving a short reasoning. 3. Say it with an affirmative tone of voice. 4. Offer an alternative. But don't offer an alternative if you don't mean it.
A friend committed to make an afternoon tea with me. We started planning and set a timeframe. She later said she had too much going on and gave no alternate date. I learned this type of person is a "bailer." I won't plan anything with her now.
Hello Jamila! I hope you're doing well. Thank you for the videos so far. I'd like to ask if you could make a video about prom? I'm having a prom this year and have no idea what the proper attire and etiquette is. If you could make a video on it I'd be more than thankful.
I feel like I can’t reject men. I find myself being nice and people pleaser and some find it being flirty.. and then they try to date me and think I’m on same page . And I never say anything or give false hope but not rejecting and staying quiet not benefiting me either. I find myself getting sucked in situations I don’t want be part of . I have fear of abandoning . I have fear being alone . Feel like if I reject no one will want to stick around… I know I need change my ways . It’s hard .
Love this video! But one question popped into my head: what do I say, when I already said no, it doesn't fit with my schedule (as you suggested in the video) to something I do not want to do ever, and the person keeps asking to reschedule??
Quick question unrelated to this etiquette video but relevant nonetheless, in a scenario where a woman is at dinner with a jacket could be a fur jacket, leather jacket or a blazer, should she remove it if so where should she place it? Or should she keep it on. I know a coat is removed but what is the etiquette when it comes to smaller forms.
I am the worst unsocial being you could ever find in this world I came up to the video because I declined a ride offered by my friend is that We were getting late and and she offered to drop me as I was a bit shy and It was my first time seeing their parents so I got bit clumsy and I refused and they offered again and I still refused later now I feel that I could have either have taken it politely or I should have refused it politely 😢😢 now where should I die I dont want to hurt them and I am very pessimistic thinker please suggest some solution to this problem I don't want to live like this
Місяць тому
I ALWAY USE WHAT SHE SAYING BUT ALOT OF PEOPLE GET MAD AND CUT ME OFF AND SAY YOU DONT HAVE TO EXSPLAIN YOUR SELF
Unfortunately when we keep telling the little white lies we create confusion and people with weak self esteem on both sides. Please re-evaluate this video.
Hi! I'm currently a 16 year old girl and I have problems with conversation skills. Before, I used to talk very loudly, especially when I was happy, excited, surprised, etc. It was so loud that if I went into a coffee shop and chatted with friends, everyone in the shop would look at me. I was complained that I was too childish and it made me very frustrated and worried. I started speaking smally, so smally that almost no one could hear me. And for some reason, my hearing ability also decreased. So I can't tell people what I want and I can't hear what others say. I wanted to say more loud, but I was afraid it would be too loud like in the past. This really upsets me because I have no friends and I feel lonely. I like the way you talk or hold the conversation so if possible, could you spare some time to help me solve this problem? I would really appreciate it if you could do that 🥹🥹
Greetings Jamila, I hope you and your family had a great holiday season. Thank you for another informative video. I most gracefully appreciate your dedication to making content for all of us. I'd like to ask if you could create a video on explaining how to deal with confrontational individuals and situations in a graceful and feminine way? Thank you once more. ✨️🤍
These days any housewife can write a book, especially if you using the knowledge and information invented by others, Don:t you think Jamila that your books just a plagiarism,you selling something which has been created and practiced by other people from different cultures, nothing unique is in "your "books, Am I right?
Of course. It is based on the knowledge gathered from all kinds of books. That is what non fiction books are. You probably have never read those. Try reading any book on philosophy, religion, history. I bet all of them are plagiarized.
@@JamilaMusayeva Actually,I have BA in Arts and Humanities,so I read enough to spot the impostor.You look like one to me. Also,to give unsolicited advice considered rude,something you should know if you claim to be an etiquette trainer
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"When you say 'no' to things, we gain more space to say 'yes' to better things ".
Wow..how true this is!
. Thank you Jamila!
Also say no with no guilt to family members, relatives need limits. So we all live in health and in harmony. No is no, end of story.
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@jeremyross7939saying yes to something you don’t want is literally denying yourself meaning you are telling yourself that you don’t matter and other people matter more than you.
No is my default. I say No without guilt and I’ve learned to say it from a very young age, because people will steal your time and overload you with work or time consuming tasks either in your job or personal life.
I listen politely and decline politely, but if they continue to pressure me then I just tell them the truth: ‘I’m not interested in participating in that (whatever) because I really just don’t want to do it.’ As some people don’t respond well to being told no, no matter how polite I say it.
The reason why I'm here because I'm afraid to say no especially to my relatives. I feel guilty but I'm thankful to God that I did say No to my Auntie.
This is one of my favorite topic because I really need to learn how to say NO, thank you so much Jamila for taking the time to explain everything and giving examples how to say No in a polite way without being sound rude.
You're one of those UA-camrs that I haven't met in person but gave me big help.
God bless you Jamela.
I truly wish for you greater wealth and success in every possible way.
Thank you so much 🙏🏻
You provided excellent examples of how to graciously decline. I usually say " I am sorry, but I have to decline." If the person pressures me or wants another date or time, then I say " I still have to decline. I have a lot on my plate and I do not want further stress so please accept this and please do not ask me again." It is true. We all have a lot on our plate. We all have stress. The invitation creates more stress and accepting it will overload us with stress, so no need to provide other reasons, as this is the actual truth for most of us, "I have a lot on my plate and cannot accept." Easy, peasy.
Loving these recent video topics Jamila! I can definitely make use of this type of guidance, hopefully towards a more confident self
this is what I truly needed!!
Now I finally know why men never took no as an answer and always tried to persuade me. It was because my voice went higher. Also, I'm a people pleaser unfortunately so that makes it even more difficult to say no. I will try saying no in a more firm way now. I hope it works
Throughout the whole video, I had a feeling that I'm receiving an important life lesson from an older sister or mentor with care and understanding. Thank you wholeheartedly for this and for sharing your own experience.
Wonderful!❤️🥹
@@JamilaMusayeva thank you for always finding time to thoughtfully read comments and answer. It means a lot every time ✨
I needed to hear/watch this video. I have a hard time saying No to anyone.
Why is that hard ? Just say no and no one would care they will pick another person
That’s the hack when people abuse of u u are always the options
@@video-cv3ovit's easy in your country maybe, in my country people gossip about everything so any word means there are going to be consequences
Hi @@video-cv3ov I’ve been working on it for a quite a long time and I’m still struggling, I wish it’s easy as you said but I will keep in mind of what you said and I will try to apply it in my life. Thank you.
@@zabavnaya-xt8tbwe have the same problem, especially it’s family and friends. It’s really hard to say No to them.
@@Carmen0777 yes it happens in countries with rampant nepotism, they think being close to relatives and neighbors is good but it's actually toxic . I stay away from them as much as possible, and still cant say No 😞
I’m still working on saying no without guilt. Thank you for this video, it helps.
This is GREAT! Not Only Telling It Like It Is; but the God's Honest Truth! No More Saying Yes, to Pleasing Others! I'm OVER IT!
Very intelligent and punctual. Jamila you're such a multitalent, your advices are diving into psychology and I wonder how did you collect all the psychology knowledge
Very helpful! Thank you so much for making videos related to speech etiquette, I appreciate your honest, kind words.
The most important thing to remember is that one does not help everyone by helping them. Really important! Sometimes, you are helping people by NOT helping them (as they need to learn sth by that). 👍
I needed this from so long, well explained Jamila Ma'am you are the best person in the whole world 🌍 🙌💞
Thank you so much Jamila. It is very important to learn to say no.
Thanks jamila, for making me a better person. I am so lucky that i found your channel . May god bless you dear ❤
Thank you for what you’re doing. I’m grateful for founding your channel ❤
Tvoja smirenost, kodes ponasanja, tvoj glas , govor me oduseve. Veliki pozdrav ,Radomir Eric, Beograd, Srbija.
I love the way u speak ❤
Thank you
❤ ☺️
Me too, it’s very ladylike and soothing. Like Liv Tyler. ❤️
Finalmente i sottotitoli in italiano! Grazie, Jamila!
Thank you, Jamila! I love the way you talk and explain 🙏
Thank you so much! ☺️
Your voice is so soothing. Who knew hearing "no" could make me so relaxed? 😂 Thank you for these tips, especially about lowering the tone of voice. With these techniques, I can leave a positive impression while advocating for myself. Awesome! 🤍
This is great content. Thanks, Jamila. Another challenge for many people (and the younger version of myself) is to truly understand and execute the priorities at the specific stage of their lives. Not saying no to a request or an attraction might also be due to not knowing what they were signing up for or committed to.
THANK YOU for this video because i don't really know how to say NO to people
You are welcome
@@JamilaMusayeva Can you do a video on financial management(SAVINGS)
Thank you for teaching us 🩵. I’ve been watching your videos since a long time and I wasn’t understand everything you’re saying because my week English but today I can easily and understand everything you say. I thank myself for this improvement ❤
Jamila Musayeva, admiro tu labor. Cada día veo uno de tus videos y procuro aplicar cada consejo a mi vida diaria.
Gracias,
Saludos.
Thank you, as always it was very interesting, I like all your videos, especially about self-development and etiquette❣️🌸
Thank you so much for this video Jamila!! In my opinion it's perfectly okay to not give a concrete explanation for why you said no and you can just say "I have other commitments" or "I have other plans" and not explain what it is. Or even a "I plan to stay in that night because I have a really hectic week". I think this is how we can draw boundaries and not appeal to people who want to push them!
Thank you, Jamila, you are a blessing to me. I could not sleep last night due to the truth; I needed to say "no." This delivering message came up this morning with compassion and understanding. Thank you. Love, Vivian Arnold
Thank you so much for this video, so grateful for all your videos. I would love to see a video on the techniques used to hold specific drink glasses as well as how to be a good host, thanks again.
Am excited to see this 😊
Liked before watching because I know it will be good 😊
Love to see your video mam, please make a video for flowers nd candles organisation in home for guests nd our day to day basis..
Thank you again Jamila. This is exactly what I needed to hear.
Thank you for this video
I am learning how to Say No. Right now I suck at it, but this helped
Thank you for you hard work ❤God bless you my dearJamila❤
mi: Thank you so much, I really appreciate the fact that you took me into consideration for this position in a time when employment is so scarce but I have current obligations in my current career and the opening may be better utilized by somebody else whom may truly need a new job.
Oh I NEEDED this video, thank you
You're so welcome!
Jamila, it’s always a pleasure to hear from you! But I'm missing the chapter markers throughout the video... so we can go back to a specific point directly or even just to pay more attention to that part of the video. Anyway, thank you! Ah, and I miss you in red lipstick! Use it more and more times!
Gracias, Jamila. Los temas que tocas son magníficos y de mucha ayuda.
Thank you so much for this! So difficult with family, this helps give me some ideas and somewhere to start ❤
You are so welcome!
شكرًا جدًا 🤍🤍🤍
So true I feel bad to said no with out hurting people feelings I understand now not please any body anyone I’m learning to said no
well said jamila❤🎉love the video
So interesting, so much work to do! Thank you Jamila
You're so welcome!
Just what I need tonight wow😢
Thank you❤its really helpful as an introvert,i am in my university life and
you are so eloquent!
How to say no:
1. Always give thanks for the opportunity.
2. Say no giving a short reasoning.
3. Say it with an affirmative tone of voice.
4. Offer an alternative.
But don't offer an alternative if you don't mean it.
Thank u Jamila❤. This information helped me a lot.
I'm so glad!
A friend committed to make an afternoon tea with me. We started planning and set a timeframe. She later said she had too much going on and gave no alternate date. I learned this type of person is a "bailer." I won't plan anything with her now.
forgive and give a second chance.
Thank you 🙏
Thank you for sharing. Very helpful advice.
Glad it was helpful!
After watching any of your videos I always feel the urge to be more elegant and princess like.🌹 God bless you always!
Thank you Jamila. I should have heard this fifty years ago 😂
Jamilia, your skin looks so fantastic and glowy in your latest videos… we need a new skincare routine pleeaase! ❤
Thank you!
Yes we want more videos
Need this
Very helpful video. Thank you, Jamila.
Glad it was helpful!
thank you for your time, but it is a no for me because I need everyone to watch Jamila's videos
Thank you very very much 😊
You're welcome 😊
Loved the video! So necessary. Please consider doing a video about wine ettiquete! Wish you the best 💕
Great suggestion!
Hi i am a newbie to your channel jammila!
Welcome!
Grazie!
Thankyou so much mam😍😘
My universal no ---- "I have other plans." No need to explain one word further. I don't have the guild gene.
I hope it works
Jamila you are beautiful inside and out 🥰
Thank you!
Hello Jamila! I hope you're doing well. Thank you for the videos so far. I'd like to ask if you could make a video about prom? I'm having a prom this year and have no idea what the proper attire and etiquette is. If you could make a video on it I'd be more than thankful.
I feel like I can’t reject men. I find myself being nice and people pleaser and some find it being flirty.. and then they try to date me and think I’m on same page . And I never say anything or give false hope but not rejecting and staying quiet not benefiting me either. I find myself getting sucked in situations I don’t want be part of . I have fear of abandoning . I have fear being alone . Feel like if I reject no one will want to stick around… I know I need change my ways . It’s hard .
If you were single Jamela, there's no way I could say no to you!!
Love this video! But one question popped into my head: what do I say, when I already said no, it doesn't fit with my schedule (as you suggested in the video) to something I do not want to do ever, and the person keeps asking to reschedule??
Quick question unrelated to this etiquette video but relevant nonetheless, in a scenario where a woman is at dinner with a jacket could be a fur jacket, leather jacket or a blazer, should she remove it if so where should she place it? Or should she keep it on. I know a coat is removed but what is the etiquette when it comes to smaller forms.
“Lie” with your excuse? Is it not possible to give a brief reply with your “no” that is also truthful?
Nice videos! Are there ways in countries like yours to earn a decent living without corruption?
How do you end a friendship if you find yourself saying no all the time to a person who won’t take a hint?
I am the worst unsocial being you could ever find in this world
I came up to the video because I declined a ride offered by my friend is that
We were getting late and and she offered to drop me as I was a bit shy and It was my first time seeing their parents so I got bit clumsy and I refused and they offered again and I still refused later now I feel that I could have either have taken it politely or I should have refused it politely 😢😢 now where should I die I dont want to hurt them and I am very pessimistic thinker please suggest some solution to this problem I don't want to live like this
I ALWAY USE WHAT SHE SAYING BUT ALOT OF PEOPLE GET MAD AND CUT ME OFF AND SAY YOU DONT HAVE TO EXSPLAIN YOUR SELF
Just don’t get murdered when saying no. Think about the consequences.
❤🤍💙 all your videos mam👍
Wow
A woman in an Islamic country can get into a lot of trouble by saying no.
She's a Muslim woman from a Muslim majority country. Sit down.
👏👏
❤❤
Easy. “No thank you” 😂
Yes but it's better if we say
Thanks for asking but I can't be there or I can't do this . I think it shows little bit extra politeness
Funny!:))
@@TSDS111 I was joking ;) although, I do think many people explain too much, sometimes less is more.
🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😘
🌹😘
no thanks
That watch worn over full sleeve on the arm looks ridiculous. Should've been placed near wrist area
Unfortunately when we keep telling the little white lies we create confusion and people with weak self esteem on both sides. Please re-evaluate this video.
Hi! I'm currently a 16 year old girl and I have problems with conversation skills. Before, I used to talk very loudly, especially when I was happy, excited, surprised, etc. It was so loud that if I went into a coffee shop and chatted with friends, everyone in the shop would look at me. I was complained that I was too childish and it made me very frustrated and worried. I started speaking smally, so smally that almost no one could hear me. And for some reason, my hearing ability also decreased. So I can't tell people what I want and I can't hear what others say. I wanted to say more loud, but I was afraid it would be too loud like in the past. This really upsets me because I have no friends and I feel lonely. I like the way you talk or hold the conversation so if possible, could you spare some time to help me solve this problem? I would really appreciate it if you could do that 🥹🥹
Greetings Jamila,
I hope you and your family had a great holiday season. Thank you for another informative video. I most gracefully appreciate your dedication to making content for all of us.
I'd like to ask if you could create a video on explaining how to deal with confrontational individuals and situations in a graceful and feminine way?
Thank you once more. ✨️🤍
These days any housewife can write a book, especially if you using the knowledge and information invented by others, Don:t you think Jamila that your books just a plagiarism,you selling something which has been created and practiced by other people from different cultures, nothing unique is in "your "books, Am I right?
Of course. It is based on the knowledge gathered from all kinds of books. That is what non fiction books are. You probably have never read those. Try reading any book on philosophy, religion, history. I bet all of them are plagiarized.
@@JamilaMusayeva Actually,I have BA in Arts and Humanities,so I read enough to spot the impostor.You look like one to me. Also,to give unsolicited advice considered rude,something you should know if you claim to be an etiquette trainer
Gracias, Jamila. Los temas que tocas son magníficos y de mucha ayuda.
❤❤❤