Don't Be a Jerk... even if everybody else is

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  • @Perceval777
    @Perceval777 Місяць тому +2

    I think the main issue some people on the right have is this: those people on the left, commenting how Trump should've died, are actively and openly supportive of political terrorism. It's not the same as just criticizing or hating someone, it's actively and intentionally wishing for that someone's death through violence. Also, some people were making fun of the innocent person who died while trying to protect his family. So personally, I do tend to agree more with the right's response here.

  • @codedlogic
    @codedlogic 3 місяці тому +33

    You're never too young to be the adult in the room. You're never too low to take the high road. And your never so inadequate you can't lead by example.

    • @LENIN990
      @LENIN990 2 місяці тому

      well said!

  • @iggypreilly
    @iggypreilly 3 місяці тому +8

    “Doing the right thing is never losing”. Gotta remember that phrase. Great video!

  • @dillonmorales3403
    @dillonmorales3403 3 місяці тому +5

    Thank you Brad for breaking your vow and comment about this situation. It would all be so simple if we’d just Don’t Be A Jerk😂

  • @mattrkelly
    @mattrkelly 3 місяці тому +7

    by my estimation there are about 12 people in America who are not jerks 😅

    • @spudsmorocco9202
      @spudsmorocco9202 2 місяці тому +5

      I’m going to take myself off your list. I can be quite a toad sometimes. You’re down to 11.

  • @wilhelmmischief8416
    @wilhelmmischief8416 2 місяці тому +2

    I had a psychotic break 8 years ago and, long story short, thought there was a 'social war game' happening which was cut throat and based on normal language meaning something different (for some reason hahaha). After I started regaining my sanity, I had the problem of not knowing for sure if it was psychosis or people were gaslighting me. I went with, 'I can be a good, selfless person and let go of my ego and even if it is true, I know I am good.' Buddhism really helps people deal with their psychological problems. Thanks for helping with that by the way!

  • @george221999
    @george221999 2 місяці тому +4

    When people are mean, I resist the urge to be mean by saying I am not going to allow you to be my teacher

    • @TrevK0
      @TrevK0 2 місяці тому +1

      that's such a great line

  • @marcmeinzer8859
    @marcmeinzer8859 Місяць тому

    Anyone who has a Ghoulardi sticker on his book shelf is all right by me. Ghoulardi earned my undying admiration when he visited our neighborhood back in the mid ‘sixties to play in a softball game at Bohlken Park in Fairview Park owing to his cussing out the obnoxious kids on my street who attempted to swarm him in his convertible as he was attempting to make a quick getaway with his uber hot lady companion who if I recall correctly was wearing a really tight leopard print shirt. I had never witnessed an adult using profanity on such small children before. When I taught high school in the Cleveland ghetto I would revisit that moment of peak experience to summon forth my inner Ghoulardi when dealing with the many juvenile delinquents I was expected to civilize. What Ghoulardi taught me was that sometimes you have to be a jerk.

  • @saralawlor780
    @saralawlor780 2 місяці тому +1

    Great talk, thank you. 🙏🏽😊

  • @georgwilliamfriedrichhegel5744
    @georgwilliamfriedrichhegel5744 2 місяці тому +1

    "Don't be a Jerk" was the first book of yours that I read. I happened to find it after searching for "Dogen" in my local library's database.

  • @AFellowNoSelf
    @AFellowNoSelf 3 місяці тому +1

    This was my first introduction to you. It was the only book relating to Dogen my library had

  • @That_Freedom_Guy
    @That_Freedom_Guy 2 місяці тому +1

    What we call the universe is often simply where we habitually look. Being ignorant of all else we assume it doesn't exist. 🙏🏻✌🏻🧡

  • @TYPHON2713
    @TYPHON2713 2 місяці тому +1

    Finished that book a couple weeks ago. Great book great video. Thanks Brad.

  • @revdrjon
    @revdrjon 2 місяці тому +1

    Even if all this jerk behaviour has been demonstrated previously by the target, it doesn't improve the world to be a jerk about a jerk.

  • @bradjaggard1836
    @bradjaggard1836 2 місяці тому

    DUDE! i read your books back in my 20's (in my 40's now) and used to follow you on livejournal or one of those blog spaces. fast forward to today, and your channel was recommended by the almighty algorithm. i see the channel name, and think to myself "is it? could this be the venerable brad warner???" fuckin A, it is! right on! good to see you!

  • @rorysimpson8716
    @rorysimpson8716 2 місяці тому

    I didn't say it, but I did think it for a moment when I first heard, then got really disappointed in myself. He has put us through a lot, but he almost inspired me to do it to myself.

  • @christinebaier-jy7cz
    @christinebaier-jy7cz 2 місяці тому +1

    Deeeep thanks to you🙏🏻

  • @stevencain2099
    @stevencain2099 2 місяці тому +1

    Love the Ghoulardi bumper sticker behind you Brad

  • @zensukai
    @zensukai 3 місяці тому +2

    I agree 100% Brad -- however, I think people who are in curtain positions give up that right to openly express themselves. The example of a politician is a good one that you mention, but there are also folks in academia.
    An example is, here in Canada we had a UBC medical doctor/professor say the same stuff on Twitter. Is this acceptable from such a person? My feeling is NO!. 1. She is in a position or power and influence; influencing the younger generation (i.e. students). 2. She took and oath to do no harm. Advocating for violence is harm and in breach of that oath.
    So, from a general perspective we should not perpetuate hate/cancel culture -- but there are times where we should hold people accountable for their actions.

  • @JimTempleman
    @JimTempleman 3 місяці тому +3

    The irony is that many Christians view it as the Hand of God choosing the next President.

    • @jethrobradley7850
      @jethrobradley7850 3 місяці тому +1

      I don't know about 'many'. Perhaps many right wing evangelicals?

    • @ThePhoenixcompanies
      @ThePhoenixcompanies 3 місяці тому

      ​@@jttj742Do you love his family?

    • @xs10z
      @xs10z 3 місяці тому +1

      Anyone who has read the Old Testament knows that God make some questionable choices when it comes to who to smite and who to bless.

  • @nerdpill6776
    @nerdpill6776 2 місяці тому

    "Be Good". - ET.

  • @user-oo8xp2rf1k
    @user-oo8xp2rf1k 2 місяці тому

    You are doing to Hebden Bridge in England! Cool! That is five miles from the home of Emily Brontë, who wrote W
    uthering Heights - a book whose whole theme is a kind of thought-experiment around the question: " what would a conciousness be like if It was a jerk, all the time?".

  • @seachd2268
    @seachd2268 3 місяці тому +19

    It really saddens me to hear people who I thought were against hatred and violence to be miffed that the assassination wasn't successful.

    • @brocklastname6682
      @brocklastname6682 3 місяці тому +4

      Do these people think the country would magically get better if it was successful? They're not thinking things through.

    • @Composer19691
      @Composer19691 3 місяці тому +4

      Likewise. I told people…”Watch the reaction of your family, friends or coworkers… they’re going to show you who they really are”

  • @10alblack
    @10alblack 2 місяці тому

    Oh Brad this was great. I loved "Don't be a Jerk" when it came out, love this return to it! Of course, I don't have it around anymore, because I loaned it to some one. Just ordered a copy again. Give Ziggy a neck scratchy for me. Its just Ziggy doing Ziggy stuff.

  • @Spudcore
    @Spudcore 2 місяці тому +1

    Any plans to visit Ireland?
    "But he called me a bumface!" "Two wrongs don't make a right, Jimmy."

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому +2

      If I got invited, I'd go.

    • @Spudcore
      @Spudcore 2 місяці тому

      @@HardcoreZen Duly noted!

  • @lcbryant78
    @lcbryant78 3 місяці тому +1

    How about, Stay Wholesome

  • @UlyssesJonah
    @UlyssesJonah 2 місяці тому

    sorry i try hard to focus but the books in the background mesmerize me, please let me know if piper at the gates of dawn 33 1/3 and Kraftwerk book are worth it, peace

  • @MrStrocube
    @MrStrocube 3 місяці тому +2

    Didn’t the Samurai use Zen to be more effective killers?
    I ask cuz I think I remember hearing Alan Watts mention that in passing in one of his many talks.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  3 місяці тому +3

      Oh yes! The samurai misused Zen that way.

    • @gunterappoldt3037
      @gunterappoldt3037 2 місяці тому +2

      Some thoughts on this:
      a) The typical samurai/bushi was part of the feudal system/order, which he regarded as natural/sacred and to be actively protected namely by the civil/military stuff of the “big names“ (daimyou).
      b) According to the pan-jiao system, we can/should between at least four kinds/levels of (Za-)Zen.
      c) The dilemma of “what can I, what should I do?“,while being part of the Theatrum Mundi, was already many, many moons ago voiced, e.g., in the Baghavad Gita - and it also “works“ inside the Zen-movement (as im-/explicitly shown, e.g., by D.T. Suzuki and the Kyouto-school).
      Things often turn out to be difficult, even the (supposedly) easy ones. -Regards

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 2 місяці тому

      ​​@@HardcoreZen It was vice versa. Takuan the Zen master taught the live giving and live taking sword. They even had a special koan curriculum, see Shonan kattoroku.

  • @haroldcampos9661
    @haroldcampos9661 2 місяці тому

    "everybody's doing wrong" that's how I described it when I recently rewatched ken park. It describes the feeling I personally got too.
    As for Trump's ordeal, I didn't go through alot of emotions. I definitely didn't wish the worst. Once I made a sarcastic comment about being unreasonably hotile towards T.Swift like an edgy teenager. Of course 20minutes later facebook's algorithm flagged it... lol, I don't listen to her music or know much about her but I'm not so dismissive or flippant when it comes to analyzing my actual feelings. Protect that lady!
    Anyway, it was an unfortunate tragedy.

  • @johngrunhard9939
    @johngrunhard9939 2 місяці тому

    Amen reverend brad

  • @MatthewGillespiedj
    @MatthewGillespiedj 3 місяці тому +4

    People are acting like children because most of us are wounded children inside adult shaped bodies.

  • @mjr7991
    @mjr7991 2 місяці тому

    Turn the other cheek

  • @Stedward_
    @Stedward_ 3 місяці тому +1

    Did Dogen, or any other Buddhist, write about determining what is "right" from what is "wrong"? How do we actually differentiate jerk behavior from non-jerk behavior? Without a way to determine right from wrong, saying, "Don't be a jerk", is just a moral platitude. For example, how do we know people saying "wrong" or "bad" things online are saying "wrong" or "bad" things?

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  3 місяці тому

      @@jttj742 Good answer (tho I haven't read what TNH said. He's usually good when it comes to such topics.)

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 2 місяці тому

      Omg, no OMB. TNH not having overcome dualism. Check out if Dogen did. Read carefully when he gets to the rules.

  • @michaelthompson7217
    @michaelthompson7217 2 місяці тому

    not the lil woofer 🐶

  • @SphericalShades
    @SphericalShades 2 місяці тому

    Zen Question : am i always Have to sit in Way of zazen posture in all my meditation,,
    Cant i just do zazen While Cooking, riding or just laying when im not feeling to sit still,, sometime i feel too lazy and ends up Focussed more on Sitting instead of noticing here and now

  • @Stevie_tha_tooth
    @Stevie_tha_tooth 3 місяці тому +1

    “Gene Simmons is not a zen master.” - Some Zen Bozo😃

  • @garad123456
    @garad123456 3 місяці тому

    I've thought of this too... Kyle Gass said it and I don't know him but I think he didn't MEAN it, so it's sad that his career may take a nosedive and people who paid for flights to see their show in Australia wont see them.
    But also, I kinda think that if you say that "by accident" then it's probably good for you to slow down in your life and drink more tea and hang out with your dog etc.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah. I saw the video. Seemed like he went for an easy topical joke. He probably didn't think it through.

    • @brocklastname6682
      @brocklastname6682 2 місяці тому

      I think, on some level, KG meant what he said. Otherwise he wouldn't have said it. People often reveal their feelings through jokes or sarcasm.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому

      @@whoisthegaucho Yeah... I think they made a bigger deal out of it than it needed to be. I'd imagine that those guys live in such a bubble world that it wouldn't have occurred to them anyone would get upset by a joke like that.

  • @tractorpoodle
    @tractorpoodle 3 місяці тому

    When can you come to Bangkok?

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому

      Oh gosh! A loooong time ago someone was trying to set up a thing for me in Thailand. But I haven't heard from that guy in a long time.

  • @w_ulf
    @w_ulf 2 місяці тому

    #StayGood

  • @99r__1
    @99r__1 2 місяці тому

    I clicked on this hoping for something a bit braver, to be honest. I mean, I'm viewing it all from some distance away, but I'm not convinced that "both sides"-ing what's going on over there is really the 'right thing to do' at this point.

  • @marymidkiff7846
    @marymidkiff7846 2 місяці тому

    This would be a good time to talk about non duality not being for or against either side because we are all one we all have Buddha nature what we do say or think about them we are doing saying or thinking about ourselves and creating more of that in our reality it's better to accept things they way they are and let them go as they go they are at a different level of karma or consciousness learning their own lessons while we are where we are learning our own

  • @starshiptexas
    @starshiptexas 2 місяці тому

    5:00 straw man argument

  • @Rickpa
    @Rickpa 2 місяці тому

    The stuff you say seems credible..... well except when you say you have been meditating for 40 years, but you look like Michael J. Fox when he did the first Back to the Future movie.

  • @csvancouver30
    @csvancouver30 2 місяці тому

    Test

  • @guido3771
    @guido3771 2 місяці тому +1

    This is a typical example of how Dogen adepts like Brad use words without filling them with content. What is "good", what is "the right thing"? He doesn't clarify it. It's not the same for evetyone everytime. And obviously not the same for a samurai who is mentioned in another comment. "Even if the universe is full of jerks" just means that Dogen makes up a category "jerk" in which he trapped himself and you. Who is a jerk for Dogen and why should we care 800 years later?
    What a religious hogwash. And if you think it's clear what is meant, you dont need any Dogen to tell you.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому +2

      You're not reading Dogen, so this comment isn't very useful.

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 2 місяці тому +3

      Besides the title of your video and a photo as a teaser there is no clear definition of a jerk, not even in your answer. All we get is that people who denounce those who applaud assassinations might be jerks to you and/or because they are part of cancel culture. It has nothing to do with Dogen at all. He was part of the cancel culture by attacking Linchi and Vimalakirti, to name a few.

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 2 місяці тому +3

      @@HardcoreZen I have translated him almost completely. You are obviously blind for his mistakes.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому +2

      @@guido3771 You have done no such thing. Why lie? This is a useless conversation. I'm finished.

    • @guido3771
      @guido3771 2 місяці тому +4

      @@HardcoreZen I have. I am currently the main German translator and publisher of Zen (and Dogen).

  • @Composer19691
    @Composer19691 3 місяці тому +4

    Libs of Tik Tok doesn’t “go after people”…she just posts what they themselves posted on social media. Just saying.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  3 місяці тому +7

      That's not true. She tagged Home Depot in her post and encouraged them to fire her. She's as bad as anyone who tried to cancel her.

    • @Composer19691
      @Composer19691 3 місяці тому +2

      @@HardcoreZen If true, Home Depot made the choice to act if an employee’s actions aren’t compatible with the business.
      And btw… this not “cancel culture”. True cancel culture is someone being cancelled for something they said/did years ago. There seems to be an effort to redefine what this means. If I post something my employer doesn’t like… there may be repercussions

    • @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402
      @shokuchideirdrecarrigan7402 Місяць тому

      Home Depot CEO is MAGA.

  • @jonwesick2844
    @jonwesick2844 3 місяці тому +4

    So, in other words, be a doormat.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  3 місяці тому +4

      Yes. Obviously.
      NOT!

    • @jonwesick2844
      @jonwesick2844 2 місяці тому +1

      Explain the difference.

    • @HardcoreZen
      @HardcoreZen  2 місяці тому +5

      @@jonwesick2844 I'll see what I can do. But neither of my teachers were "doormats" at all. In fact loads of Zen teachers are described as "fiery" for good reason. My teacher's favorite way of shutting down an annoying argument was to say "I don't think so." He'd also say "It is your privilege to be wrong." How do you define "being a doormat"?

  • @HeikkiLiitoksia
    @HeikkiLiitoksia 2 місяці тому +1

    boring

  • @tomseja1678
    @tomseja1678 2 місяці тому

    Im 120 km away from the spot in Germany, but the universe doesnt want me to be there atm 🥲

  • @kakamarioluigi
    @kakamarioluigi 3 місяці тому +2

    Turn the other cheek