The Bone-Chilling Consequences of UNBIBLICAL Divorce
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- Опубліковано 17 чер 2024
- The bone-chilling consequences of divorcing your spouse unbiblically… In this video, Todd Friel discusses the deeply damaging effects of divorce, and emphasizes the way God design marriage to be.
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Divorce doesn't end the pain. It just transfers it to your children.
Well said!
Makes sense. But what if there aren't any children?
Since when do all divorcees have kids? Your logic astounds me.
And trade one set of problems for another
Amen!
My wife served me divorce papers last Thursday. Please pray for us, our walks in Christ, our children, and ultimately, our restoration. I pray this isn't the end.
🙏
Prayers you two will work it out.
She’s breaking her vows and the gospel.
I will pray for you however be aware when women file divorce papers that means they've been planning it for awhile that being said take your most valuable and prized possessions out of the house and hide them somewhere else where she can't get them and doesn't no where you placed them because she will make them vanish forever if you don't if you have kids don't even let them know where your prized possessions are second talk to your family and hers and make sure she doesn't succeed in turning them against you this includes your kids because she will if you don't. Trust Me ! Third learn the law And get a lawyer now and be ready for this to get expensive four when she takes you kids by order of the judge and she will when she denies you visitation to see you kids call the police so it's documented for the court five be prepared she's going to bring up every negative thing about you in court so she can win six she's going to do low down things to get you to lose your temper so she can get an easy win if example if you have dog she will put the dog down to get you angry so you outburst and get easy win ! Why you say because her lawyer told her to again she filled divorce papers because she fell out of love for you a long time ago and became bitter that she married you because she's under a self made delusion that she can do better than you and she's going to take it out on you in every way I mentioned including the divorce and she will take half of all you own in the divorce plus allamony and child support and your kids because she thinks you owe her please understand you must defend yourself fearsly because she is going to pull no punches because her lawyer trained her too so you must pull no punches either get your family and her family on your side so you have somewhere to go after you get kicked out of your home because it's coming and you don't realize it yet also you need your family and her family on your side because she will use them against you in and out of the court during and after the divorce and if she has any access to any of your bank accounts cut off her access to those accounts now before she purposely empties them out on you to make it harder for you to pay your lawyer and survive. Remember she fell out of love with a long time ago and she's already bitter she married you and she got a lawyer who has taught her to do everything I said to win and take all that can from you because she thinks you owe her also she's going to lie alot about you in and out of court so be ready for it.All this being said please respond to this message so I know you got it. Christ be with you my brother.
She likely believes she's missing out on true romance and adventures. But it's a mirage. She will become a permanent adulterer, and future relationships will be under God's judgment, (curse).
when I and my wife married in 1979 I loved her but didn't respect her. I did a lot of bad things ,hurtful and immortal, she would have been right to divorce me. she got saved and had a hard road with me. but she never gave up on me . after I got saved we had some bumps in the road .and Jesus christ keep us together. now after 45 years of marriage we have overwhelming, overflowing love for each other . If something happens to her I don't know if my heart could take it. trust the lord Jesus and never give up on each other. papa ❤️
Need to share this with my wife, she filed a little over a year ago. I'm starting to see small signs that God is working in both of us. I know HE can still save and restore our marriage and family!
Indeed! But what are ‘You’ doing to help that healing as well?
@@petercollins7848 interceding, fasting, text her everyday, remind her that I love her and that I'm here for her, admit and take ownership of my mistakes and flaws, sharing with her how God is working in me (difficult to show when we live in different states), I've written her letters, send her gifts and flowers...
Getting divorced and abandoning my family has been by far the worst decision I ever made. Great video Todd ❤️
As long as the spouse is alive, it's never to late to reconcile. And you should.
@@genemefferd3064 6 months after we divorced we did reconcile. Would have been better to have stayed married these past 6 years but grateful to have this opportunity to stay together. Thank you for the kind comment
@@ashleegardner6819 Thank and praise the Lord. So very happy for you.
@@jeremybrooks7415 I thank God everyday. I know without His grace I wouldn't be here. Thank you for your kind comment. ❤️
@@ashleegardner6819 you're very welcome, sister.
Marriage is about the gospel. It’s about serving, forgiving over and over, it’s about becoming more holy!
True. So… You speak about idea or Your experience?
Tell that to the abusive partner?
Tell that to the person who has far less emotional feelings than you do!
@@brucewmclaughlin9072 Fist to bloody blows is an exception to the rule.
Safe bet 99% of divorce is rooted in adultery and the ruse of
happily ever after. Reality being life is hard; marriage is work in process.
@@brucewmclaughlin9072 Lets be adults here. You speak to another topic.
God does not expect anyone to endure a life threatening relationship.
@@JaQba91 good question.
This was very encouraging for me. My wife and I have been going through some very difficult times. When I look at salvation, and how Christ lived the perfect life, and died the death I deserve the least I could do is honor Him with my marriage, even in difficult times.
Andrew, I'll pray for your marriage right now. Great name by the way, and I highly recommend Christian counseling.
Amen brother.
Praying for you, Andrew! May the Lord give you strength and grace.
I'm so glad you shared this! As a pastor I've seen the terrible consequences of unpivot divorces.
My own marriage has been very difficult, at times thinking divorce was the solution. I am pleased to say that it was best that we never divorced.
This is the video I needed two years ago when I didn't want a divorce, but he wouldn't have it any other way. I blame myself for not seeking God out sooner to save the marriage. Since then, I've repented of that divorce, whether it was Biblical or not, and if God wills me into the life of another, it will be by His will alone. Not mine. I've also accepted the fact I may be single for the rest of my life, if that is God's will for me.
I'm done living how I want to, and letting the Gospel teach me how I should live instead. I am definitely happier trusting His plans for me~
Marriage is not about Happiness.
It's like enlisting in the military. You are answering a call to service for a higher purpose. You will not always be "happy" while you serve, but you stick it out. Many years later you can look back and find joy in service, specially service for the glory of God.
I've been married twice. My first ex had multiple affairs and I filed (Biblical reason), my second wife left after one year due to not liking the location my children from my previous marriage and I were in. We grew up together, she made a profession of faith, yet she chose to leave the marriage and children who she said vows to. I tried to get a meeting with our pastor to discuss her verbally and physically abusive behavior, but she refused. I filed in that instance because she wouldn't. If we are talking about minor quarrels, etc. that is absolutely not a reason to divorce. Marriage should be a lifelong commitment and vows should be taken seriously.
@@andrewmarshall7569I hear your pain about your marriages, brother. God sees your struggles and offers comfort. While divorce isn't ideal, it can sometimes be the necessary path when faced with infidelity or abuse-situations you've bravely endured.
Take this time to reflect on your choices with God's guidance. Both of your wives struggled with commitment, and it's worth exploring why you might be drawn to these women. Talking with your pastor or a trusted mentor can help you process the trauma you've experienced and gain deeper insight into your relationship dynamics.
Above all, remember that God's love for you is unwavering. He's walking beside you and wants to bring healing and restoration to your life.
@@andrewmarshall7569I'm sorry for your struggles. That can't be easy.
My ex-husband had multiple affairs during our 11-year marriage. He repeatedly lied to me when I would ask him about these affairs, and he also was emotionally abusive to me as well. I have been a Christian for 56 years. I need for those who need deliverance from such marriages to know there is sometimes no other alternative. Please consider all situations before doing videos like this.
@@jackiedowdee5001 I don't know if you read my comment, but my ex wife sounds very much like your ex husband. It was always my fault for some reason. The gamechanging moment in my life came when I reached out to her and forgave her. I could not have done that on my own, and when the Holy Spirit urges, I follow now as quickly as I can. I never heard an apology back, and I don't need one. It was as if the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders.
Forgiveness is not an optional thing for a Christian. When you forgive someone who hurt you, or even worse, you are following Scripture. We never know how the Lord is working on someone's heart, and I pray nearly every day that she and her husband will come to know and believe in the saving Gospel of Jesus Christ. I'd ask that you pray for them too, and I will pray for you right after hitting submit on this comment Jackie. Thank you for sharing.
After 20 years of marriage I did the unthinkable and got divorced from my wife. She wasn't the easiest to live with and I listened to the deception that said I deserved to be happy, blah, blah, blah. I committed adultery and left a lot of misery in my wake. It was the worse decision I ever made. After years of rebellion the Lord had mercy on me and I came to my senses and repented. She wound up marrying a fine man and today I count them both as good friends. How I wish I didn't have this stain on my conscience, but I lean on scriptures like this one:
““let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, with our hearts sprinkled clean from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.”
Hebrews 10:22
If anyone reads this who is contemplating divorce I beg you to reconsider. The freedom and thrills lead only to sadness and depression. Repent and the Lord will help you. I wish I had.
Ty for your testimony brother.
Some of us don't have a choice, our wives serve us papers in a state with no fault divorce. My wife left me 3 years ago and there was literally nothing I could do to keep her.
You don't need to feel bad at all if she left because she was "unhappy". I don't know your situation, but I would highly recommend reflecting on why it happened. I've been married twice and divorced twice. First marriage, I filed because of her repeated infidelity, and the second was when she left after a year because she didn't like the location we lived in. Tried to do pastoral counseling, but she didn't want to. I filed because she abandoned my kids and I and she wasn't coming back. I'm dating a wonderful Christian woman now, and we are keeping our relationship pure. I'm still discerning about dating or if I should be more like Paul and remain single. Not everyone is meant to be married, and Scripture tells us this is completely okay. However, if you want a marriage and a family, pray for that. Delight in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.
If the unbelieving depart, let them depart....see 1 Corinthians chapter 7
@@sandman9390 100%
@@sandman9390bingo
@@andrewmarshall7569 My wife has been threatening divorce for 10 years. We've only been married for 11. She finally went to a lawyer. She emotionally abuses me (multiple counselors pointed it out and pleaded with her to get help) on the daily. If I let her leave, I feel like it's a case of abandonment. She just wants to hurt me in the process. I have two pet bunnies that she didn't want and I had to pratically beg her to let me rescue them. I've been the only one taking care of them for the last 9 months. She said tonight that she's going to take one of them. They're bonded and I hate the idea of seperating them, but I also don't want her to take both. I was looking forward to them being my post marriage counselors to help me get through it. Please pray she'll have a heart in at least this one area and let me keep them. She didn't even want them.
I’m in a great marriage now. I have no children. My ex husband tried to kill me twice -once by smothering me with a pillow -I stayed with him-- he still was mentally and physically abusive. I stayed….he raped me and I stayed….then he pointed his gun at me and was threatening to pull the trigger--I left him. In between that I suggested we go to religious or secular counseling…. He refused. I went anyway which was a point of contention for him as he insisted I was causing embarrassment to him. He died of cancer and was perhaps unrepentant at the end. I enjoy a decent husband who has never lifted a hand against me and we attend a Biblically sound church together. Sexual and physical abuse to almost the point of your own death is not a Godly reason to stay with a person. Glad I’m alive and a believer.
I am 65 about to get divorced to a wife who is an adulterous and who is said she only wants to stay married so that in 2 years she can take half of my SS and get alimony. She says this to me and never listens to me or what I say. She was damaged woman with pride about so many partners. Some relationship SHOULD not be saved as they are only only feeding the monster.
It is biblical to divorce an adulterer.
Todd-Comments show that this topic needs a biblical flowchart.
My husband and I went through a very horrible season, but we preservered! And let me tell you- I had friends and family telling me to just walk away! That was never an option I wanted or even considered. I prayed and sought out my Lord and Savior! He carried me through all the hard times and yes, He healed my marriage!!
Praise the Lord that BOTH of you worked to save your marriage!
My spouse cheated and abandoned me. She kept the kids from me for over a year. I get 1/2 the time with my kids now after custody court. After 4 years of her living with other men, I filed for divorce. I always remember that God says He allows divorce for adultery, however the caveat that He allows it because our hearts are hard keeps me in turmoil. I didn’t want her to leave. I wanted to forgive her. Now I have had 5 years of struggle against bitterness. The LORD has seen me through this far, but it hasn’t gotten easier. I watch my kids struggle emotionally and relationally and I can’t make it go away for them. I Hate Divorce.
May God bless and heal you through your painful journey and pray you have godly men around you that love and support you.
@brianschmidt9505 Keep praying for your ex and your children. Go out of your way to show her kindness at every turn. Jesus commands us to love our enemies, the children will see that you love Jesus. Divorcing a cheating wife is appropriate, but you're still to devote your life in prayer for her salvation. Stay single and keep praying for your broken family, God is good. I'm also divorced, but against my will, he committed adultery and left me for another woman and divorced me literally against my will. I pray for him as do the children, until death separates us or unites us depending if God saves him or not.
He allowed divorce for the man’s displeasure with his wife because their hearts were hard, setting up the Mosaic certificate process. The allowance of divorce for unfaithfulness is not because our hearts are hard, but because the adulterous spouse has already broken the marriage relationship.
I totally agree with Christian mama. I took am divorced and have been for 7 years. My husband was beating up on our son. Our home life was pure hell. He has moved on to other girlfriends, which breaks my heart. I am remaining single based on 1Cor. 7, if the wife departs let her remain single or else be reconciled. In these 7 years the Lord has graciously shown me myself and it has not been pretty. I have repented to the Lord and to my husband. His heart is hard and he wishes to go his own way. I am still praying for him and love. Many tell me to move on and release him, but I cannot. It is until death do us part. He may remarry, but I will still pray (by God's grace) for his soul. That is the most important things to do. I praise the Lord for saving me and showing me his truth.
53 yr married. It is worth it. Make it through the hard times.
Defining 'unbiblical divorce' would have been nice.
Jesus said that marital indecency was the acceptable reason for divorce. He said you cannot remarry while your spouse is alive.
You can biblically divorce in the case of adultery. But I don't believe you are free to re marry unless one passes away. I believe even in that case, and both are willing and repentant it can work out though that is a huge undertaking.
I’m married to a mentally ill, abusive, unbelieving (false convert) spouse. While it is extremely stressful, difficult, and maddening at times, I am given no biblical warrant to leave, instead I spend a great deal of time praying for them and trusting in Christ to know what’s best. This is but a momentary light affliction, eternity will be much sweeter.
Prayers for you. That's a tough pill to swallow.
You should read “Not Under Bondage” by Barbara Roberts. There ARE biblical grounds for divorce due to violence.
Abuse is not biblical groumds, to leave...
@@nissimusic2Yes it is…
Study it properly before making blanket statements
A commitment is a commitment. The call of duty isn't a first person shooter game. It's putting others first even when you're suffering. Running away may provide a temporary escape, but it won't solve the problem at hand.
My parents have been married for over 40 years. Both of their parents were married till death and so on. I was raised to believe that you follow god, and nothing is allowed to break the Covenant of marriage except infidelity. I met and married a wonderful man who believes that marriage is forever. We have been married for almost 12 years and have been through some stuff but we always find a way to work it out.
Divorce hits families financially as well.
...and a lot of lawyers are cashing in.
I have gone back to my ex-wife over and over again to reconcile yet she has no inclination no indication, no desire, and no response to reconcile with me. I am tired and just decided to pray for the strength to be celibate for the rest of my life.
I use my failures as a testimony to others of what not to do.
You don't know how many people you will touch with your testimony. Good for you for being a willing vessel for Our Lord's light to shine through.
Am not yet married, buh on thing I've noticed is that my generation is only excited about the wedding ceremony buh not the marriage 😢😢, an more importantly they don't wanna trust God before getting married 😢
Divorce is my biggest regret! 😞
Here’s something I don’t see anyone addressing. How about a divorce takes place then the man marries a divorced woman then the man and woman are saved by the Grace of God. Right, divorces in the persons history prior to salvation. Now they’re dedicated to the Lord in their marriage.
If you are asking if they should then get divorced, of course not. Not ONCE in the entire Bible does Jesus or Paul or ANYONE else instruct married people to get divorced.
There is this entire cult formed about this NEVER EVER get married again if you've been divorced. They've literally counseled people to break up perfectly happy families WITH Children, all because one or both had been married in the past, even if they got saved AFTER they married each other.
That entire demonic doctrine is EXTRAPOLATED through REALLY poor understanding of scriptural passages and REALLY faulty logical fallacies used to drum up such an absurd and obviously false on it's face, precept of man. Jesus, Himself, WARNS about teaching as doctrine the precepts of man.
It's FLAT OUT SATANIC!
This is a great video. Thank you Todd
We married young, first year in college. That was 52 years ago. There have been bumps but it's possible.
I was given papers years ago by my wife. Shortly after, the state granted a divorce because of irreconcilable differences. I often wonder if she has any of the feelings that were mentioned like regret, guilt etc. The evil one took down another marriage. I'm not going to remarry out of obedience and am praying to be content being single.
Well said, Todd!
Given these sobering facts you think the church would have ministries with mentors to help couples that have been married less than 5 years, Titus 2 ministries for the women, and male sheparding training for the men. Instead we have youth activities out the wazoo! Fun, fun, fun!!! Those youths have parents and they are growing up in broken homes and leaving the church.
You're right, but they don't even have the guts to talk about Godly order.
You saw the opening stat, that women file for divorce more than twice as much as men, yet, what does his FIRST point say? When a Christian divorces, it's ALWAYS because HE has hardened HIS Heart towards God.
It's pathetic. And then they cry that men don't go to church anymore.
Feminism has infiltrated the church just as much as the schools and the media. It's just they figured out a way to "spiritualize" it.
25 years ago, as an ultra-conservative Christian, if you told me I was a feminist, I would have laughed in your face. But I was. I just had no clue how much of their BS I had swallowed without realizing it. Most of it I learned in CONSERVATIVE Churches.
Our church encouraged the divorce. 'Pastor' divorced and many divorced women in the church.
@@allenhollenbach4692 Horrible!
@@allenhollenbach4692 😭😭😭
This is a great video. Every marriage has its highs and lows. Hang in there!!!
Great lesson, gracias
I wanted to divorce my husband about 6 years ago. We were both "growing apart" and one thing that Todd Friel I said on this video is so true, work on yourself! Look into the word of God and work on those things He is showing you. I prayed for my husband for years! He didn't change towards me until the past year and a half God is starting to work on his heart. While working on myself I wondered if my husband would ever love me the way that we were meant to love each other. And I often asked myself this question"am I still going to be faithful to him even if he doesn't love me in return? Do I do this just to get a certain outcome or will I continue to do this in obedience to the Lord?" I decided to continue for the Lord, regardless of my husband and his actions. Today we celebrate 11years of marriage ❤
Obviously there was no abuse in my marriage or anything that would give me biblical ground to seek divorce, so I knew that if I walked away that wouldn't God's will for my life.
So true! Good video.
Too many disregard what Jesus taught on divorce, and that God hates it.
I’m going through a divorce right now. It really hurts. I’m praying there will be a reconciliation. It’s been 2 months now. She does have a mental illness which I believe is paranoid personality disorder. From my part I could have communicated better but I was running out of patience. Please for us
My husband and i divorced 22 years ago. He has moved on with other relationships but i remained single. I suppose if he passes away, I'd be free to pursue a new relationship.
He's committed adultery by remarrying. You can remarry based on thst fact.
@@MTJCC where does it say that in the bible?
@@benmoisio232 What do you think "he has moved on with other relationships " means?
Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
@@benmoisio232literally in Matthew 19. You do realize that adultery requires capital punishment? So the adulterous spouse is dead, and the survivor is free to remarry
@@cosmictreason2242 I read Mathew 19 and I'm not seeing that because they divorced without adultery being the reason. So therefore just because one commits adultery after divorce, by remarrying, doesn't allow the other to remarry. Only if they divorced because of adultery can the innocent party remarry
As usual, Todd is right on the money!!
How does one counsel a friend in this situation? No abuse or anything untoward. But one firmly believes everything is the spouse's fault and none of theirs. They're both not perfect, obviously. But, I am struggling with how to talk to this person without saying get over yourself. Marriage isn't perfect. We probably all have things we should change. (Again, this is not an abusive situation).
If there's no abuse (which can be both physical or verbal/mental fyi) or sexual immorality, they need to devote everything they have to each other and make it work, rekindle the spark that attracted them together in the first place. Simply refusing to humble yourself to your spouse is not grounds for divorce.
Thinking oneself is always right is actually pride, and pride is the gravest sin. No one can possibly be right all the time but God. They need to find compromises and ways to please each other at the same time. "Women, submit to your husbands as the church does for Christ. Men, sacrifice yourselves for your wives just as Christ did for his church, taking care of them as your own body, for no one hates their own body, but takes care of it and gives it what it needs." -Ephesians 5
I would need more details to give better advice, but marriage/love is a choice, an ongoing commitment. "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not boast or insist on its own way."
I am divorced. I know God has forgiven me but the children really do suffer. I believed that I was a Christian but now I look back and choose to believe I would have made different choices if I had the mentors and friends and church I am a member of now. I wish someone told me that God is more interested in my holiness than my happiness. I also wish we had gone for Christian counseling. I am so grateful that God has forgiven me but divorce does come at a very high, painful price.
As long as your husband is alive, seek restoration. It's not to late. @@Linda-mo5sl
They are clearly at an impasse and need pastoral counseling on a husband's role (spiritual covering) and a wife's role (Godly submission to her husband), while both focus on Christ. The problem is that even in Christian marriages, we are competing with each other or saying we are equals. We are not equal, but one is not any more important than the other. A husband who abuses this concept is a tyrant, and needs to repent of how he is treating his wife. The wife needs to submit spiritually to her husband. This does not mean that she does not have an equal opinion; quite the contrary.
I know many women who are far better at managing finances than men, but I've seen it the other way around as well. If the husband is bad with his finances, he doesn't get to tell his loving Christian wife that she needs to "submit to his authority" and allow him to buy the newest box of collector pokemon cards that costs $500, when they have home repairs coming up that needs to be done, etc. I think you get the idea.
These two also need to have sex, and soon. Unless this issue deals with sexual trauma from the other partner, they need to discuss "withholding for a time" and get a physical reset. God gave us sex to unite us, and I often found when I was out of sync with my wife, that we needed to sync up intimately, which doesn't always have to be sex, but I know a lot of men who are being denied sex in their marriages, which is absolutely devastating to a man ladies. If there is a hormone imbalance, or something else, go to a doctor immediately. I sometimes wonder if Christian wives don't know about the power of sex in a man's mind, but I'll tell you a little secret.
Apologies for my rant, but this is my last paragraph. I am not at all saying that a woman should have sex if she is sick, the couple is arguing, or without complete consent, but when we marry each other, we are one flesh. Each couple has specific issues that Christian counseling can address before marriage, not after, but ladies, the secret is this, sex will motivate a man to do many things, and I assure you it will and can fix the way you see your partner. I wish your friends the best, and I highly recommend the counseling.
I recommend the books, 'The Excellent Wife,' by Martha Peace and 'The Exemplary Husband,' by Stuart Scott. For the spouse that believes they are blameless in the relationship I think I would show them the law and the standard of perfect obedience. I might point out that Jesus said there is none good but God. I might ask if it is therefore possible they actually do bear responsibility for part of the fault within the marriage. I would also point out the futility of focusing on the faults of the other rather than trying to fix the faults in themselves. No amount of blaming and arguing will force someone to accept responsibility and change against their will. For the spouse who doesn't think they are blameless I would encourage with the knowledge that the fire tests and purifies. This is an opportunity to grow spiritually and to persevere. I would tell both parties to pray and seek God diligently and to humble themselves. Marriage is a covenant between two people who are both sinners. Between Christians it's a relationship that also promises to help each other become more Christ-like; a vow to never leave the other one in the trenches. When one falls the other comes alongside to help lift them up and carry them. If your spouse has fallen remember your promise. You are not the only one who needs support. I would also point out that Hollywood has love all wrong and their version of marriage will almost inevitably lead to divorce. Remove that "I love the way you make me feel" version of this so called love and replace it with biblical love. Were talking the kind of love that will even sacrifice self to save an enemy. As soon as the faux love no longer feels a certain way what happens? They say, "I don't love you any more, let's end this." That's not love. Love is an action. Feelings follow after the action. Hollywood love is selfish and only cares about how that person makes you feel. That's not love at all. As Christians we need to emulate the love of God, not the counterfeit love of this world. Just keep pointing them to scriptures and pray for them and that God will give you the wisdom to edify and encourage them and give them good counsel if possible. Those books I mentioned might help them as well.
You missed mentioning the sadness & suffering caused to children on a divorce.
These comments are very telling of the times we're living in. When no one can be trusted to stay faithful to their spouse. I have to admit that Im beginning to become a little disillusioned with the idea of romance.
Stay balanced, the Song of Solomon is a part of the Bible for a reason!
@@BrianJohnson-lx3zdHow many wives did he have?
@@honeybun3492 Including concubines, about 999 too many!
Todd, my wife abandoned me and my sons 18 years ago for another man. A year or so later she started the process of a divorce. I signed the paperwork but later she changed her mind (why I don't know). It's been 18 years and she continues in an adulterous lifestyle. Yes, it's affected all my children 2 sons 2 daughters). Things became extremely difficult and eventually my youngest daughter committed suicide. I've been left penniless and on the verge of homelessness. What do I do. I've refrained from divorce, partly because of the cost but the other part is that I didn't want to put the final nail in the coffin. So, what do I do? I hope you, Todd, can answer my question. I'm penniless and confused over this. Thanks.
It sounds like you are choosing to stand for your marriage. The Lord has called me to stand for mine as well, even though I have biblical grounds for divorce (continuous adultery almost our entire marriage of 20 years although I only learned about most of it when he left). He’s been gone 7 years and divorced me unbiblically 3 years ago.
I stand 1) because God called me to, 2) because God sees him as still married to me and therefore he is sanctified through his believing spouse which means my prayers for his salvation carry more weight, and 3) because of the testimony for our children who originally wanted nothing to do with the Lord after my husband left, and are now both strong Christians.
But what was very important in my stand was:
1) I did a thorough Bible study of all verses and passages mentioning adultery, divorce, covenant, remarriage, etc. Took me two months but it clarified for my God’s direction.
2) I chose joy over sorrow, faith over fear, and praise over bitterness. (All with the Lord’s help of course - I couldn’t do this on my own.) I recognized God was big and my marriage trials were small. I realized God could always be trusted, even if I don’t understand. My kids saw my joy, faith, and peace and it really helped them cope. They saw my forgiveness of my spouse and they learned to forgive their dad.
3) I focused on Christ’s glory and not on my marriage restoration. Early on the restoration was my idol. It took up every bit of my life, thoughts, and dreams. But I asked the Lord to change that in me. I now don’t need another man to make me happy. God has blessed me with being enough for me. I have a wonderful church, great friends, a rewarding career, and beautiful relationships with my now-adult children.
4) I pray for my husband’s salvation. I worked through my anger and have fully forgiven him. On the rare occasions that I see my husband I treat him with kindness. His actions say nothing about me; they say everything about his spiritual rebellion and his love of his sin. He needs a savior. I would rather he come to the Lord and never come back, than him coming back but never knowing Christ. This is primarily about where he will spend eternity.
I didn’t learn all this on my own. The Lord guided me to Bob and Charlene Steinkamp’s testimony and learned so much from them. Charlene’s biblical stand was an inspiration. In fact it was through her that I learned about Todd Friel years ago :-)
I hope you find this helpful.
@@haltersweb I did appreciate your words. This year was our 41st anniversary but I continue to pray for her and my children. My children have become disillusioned about our Lord and Savior but I continue to pray for all of them and I'll never stop.
Thank you 🙌🏻☝🏻
@haltersweb
this was beautiful to read.
@@Bear_58 this is in regards to your second comment. You absolutely need to stop praying for her. As insane as that sounds, you have to realize the witchcraft spirit you are dealing with. You MUST break all soul ties with her and not let that spirit have any more access to you or your children. Believe me when I say, I understand it goes against everything you feel and have been taught.
When I went through my divorce I was told by several strong Godly people in my life I HAD to cut off all ties and get out of God's way, including stop praying for her. Yet, I couldn't make myself do it. I could for awhile, but then would start to pray for her again, and EACH of the three times I went back to praying for her, demonic manifestations would take place. In my entire Christian life, in spite of ALL the spiritual warfare I would engage in, I NEVER had anything like that happen. Bottom line, you open yourself up to the demonic realm, a realm God shields us from for a purpose. But when you are dealing with people like your wife and mine, you open up that door and give the enemy access God doesn't want them to have.
WE are not MESSSIAHS, WE can't save them. And God isn't going to ask you to stay spiritually entangled with such an evil spirit. So, break free, get out of the way, and IF by some miracle, she does see the light and repent, THEN you can see if God wants to restore your marriage. But she is no longer your responsibility.
Adultery is grounds for a biblical divorce.
Thank You Lord for blessing Your True sheep with brother Todd who steadfastly and constantly speaks The Truth about You and Your Words. Hallelujah. Amen.
Indeed, I have tasted all the Goodness of God mentioned by you, brother Todd, from God when I chose to obey Him in my marriage instead of quitting from it! Hallelujah. Lord strengthened my faith and my trust in Him, and every moment He gave me so much of His Peace and I know that He is The God of Every Grace who is in charge of me and my life! Amen. Soli Deo Gloria! 🪅🎉🎊🪅🎊🎉🪅
"“Whenever you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites, because they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by people. I assure you: They’ve got their reward! But when you pray, go into your private room, shut your door, and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. " (Matt 6:5-6, HCSB)
Todd kept specifying "unbiblical" divorce. I thought he might then, at least generally, cover "biblical" divorce, but that would probably have muddied the waters a bit for this video.
Adultery or abandonment…deep conversations could be had about either of these. Hopefully he’ll make a video on the subject.
@@LeeLeeB5ultimately Both of those fall under segsul imralty. Because forced abstinence is segsul imralty
@@cosmictreason2242 What?!? 😳 “segsul imralty”? What in the world is “segsul imralty”? Check your spelling, please. (I believe I know what you mean, and if so, ‘abandonment’ does not necessarily equate with “sexual immorality”…however, it is still considered a biblical allowance for divorce.) 🕊️
@@LeeLeeB5 it must be misspelled to avoid yt removing it. And my answer coheres with Matthew 19 better than yours
@@cosmictreason2242 I believe abandonment is addressed here: 1 Corinthians 7:15…
“But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”
Not to mention the damage done to kids.
And so many remarry which is adultery,
My wife cheated on me and left in 2018... she married the new guy in less than 6 months. I have been single since and im not even looking!
You are free to remarry in the Lord when an unbeliever departs.
@@justapilgrimgoinhome This isn't what Paul says at all. Paul says you are not bound to them anymore (literally "enslaved" δεδούλωται), he does not say you can remarry. In fact, Paul tells you to STAY married to them, in order to save them (1 Cor 7:16). You now have the same option Jesus gives those who divorce in adultery, namely, to be a spiritual eunuch (Matt 19:12) for the Kingdom of Heaven.
According to Jesus in Matthew 5 and 19. Marital Unfaithfulness are Grounds. Keep it balanced in your preaching against divorce. Side with what Jesus said, He’s Way Smarter than us!!!! 💯😘
@@justinwooten9998 As for being a "spiritual eunuch," even Jesus said, "All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given." (Matthew 19:11)
I dont even need to watch this . Its just a good channel
My wife left me without biblical grounds to do so and told me to send her divorce papers and pay for the divorce myself. I granted her request because there is a time in scripture where, if a professing believer will not repent of wrongdoing even though you, a few witnesses, and even the church cannot win them back from their wrongdoing, we are told to regard them as an unbeliever. We're told in 1 Corinthians how to react when an unbeliever tries to abandon a marriage covenant with them, and so after many attempts to win my wife back, along with attempts from Christian witnesses and the local church, I served her papers and ultimately gave her what she asked for. If she is a Christian, God will deal with her to discipline her, but I do not have to remain to see the outcome since I do not know if she is saved or not, if she will be saved or won't be, or if she'll repent or not. I'm called to peace.
Amen!
my wife left me a month ago. Took our five kids. It’s a spirit that is running through the heart of America. Its so crazy
@treybarnes5549 It happens to women too, my man left me for another woman, I never signed divorce papers, was divorced literally against my will. But please keep praying for your wife, and don't sign any divorce papers no matter the consequences. Your children will remember that you loved unconditionally the one who has done you evil. Love your enemies, loose your life for Jesus and the gospel, don't go to court to claim your "rights' because this is about loving others, not asserting your rights. It is about the gospel.
How random, to take five children on your own and take your chances in the world. Not.
@@christianmama2441 sad state of affairs
@@smokyquartz5817 right, she took them. I didn’t even know. I was at work. Crazy to think they are all yours
@@treybarnes5549 If she drags you to divorce court, just go there and tell the judge what your perspective is. Becareful not to fight over the stuff to be divided, it's not christian. You can tell the judge you don't want divorce but if there will be one against your will, to give you primary custody, since she is the one who left.
My wife filed for divorce in 2022 and the courts dissolved our marriage just over a month later. She was (and I suppose still is) convinced I am a narcissist. There was never adultery involved. She had some "Christians" who convinced her she was making the right decision and even felt "God" leading her to divorce me. She left the local church and joined another. I have waited and waited to see if there could be a change of heart and I have finally concluded that I will continue being depressed if I wait for something that God never promised will take place. Although I have believed that marriage is permanent I have seen a side to it that I never thought I would. I wouldn't initiate unbiblical divorce myself but I believe I can still remarry.
@knytRydah I do not believe you're at liberty to remarry in your case. Which part of what Jesus said you wanna add on to? Mark 10:
11 And he said to them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if she divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery.” How about stay single and devote yourself to the Lord, always praying for the salvation of your ex and doing her good any opportunity you get. You're not free to remarry, focus on Jesus and His kingdom. Christians who advocate divorces like that are false brethren, there are plenty of them in churches, you can recognize them because they do the opposite of what Jesus said.
You can and should only if you want to! Obviously should be only with a believer. She showed you her unbelief and plz read 1 Cor 7:15.
@@TheRealCaptainMcFly the Bible clearly says you cannot remarry, and Corinthians 7:15 doesn't talk about marriage even in the slightest so you can't use it in this case, completely out of context
@@benmoisio232 Well maybe you should explain the context and how this verse has nothing to do with marriage.
@@christianmama2441
Isn’t Jesus talking here about the person who does the ‘divorcing’ and not the innocent party? Just a thought!
I’d like to know your opinion on emotional and mental abuse in marriage
Thanks for this message Todd, it came just at the right time for me!!
I stayed in an abusive marriage for over 34 years and it just got worse .
I waited on God and prayed and he got worse !
He couldn’t stop watching porn and he was emotionally abusive and I still begged for him to spend time with me but he didn’t want to .
He obviously wasn’t saved but I had a caring pastor after several bad ones that told me to stay and bare it ! This pastor said he abandoned you and the marriage. Yes, he did !!
My former daughter-in-law divorced my son 4 years after he suffered a cardiac arrest and traumatic brain injury. She remarried 20 months later and now my granddaughters live out of a suitcase. She was generous in the divorce settlement, but I am still struggling with forgiving her. My son now lives with us, we are retired and in our mid sixties. This weighs so heavily on my heart. Any advice?
@HeatherMueller pray for her salvation, pray for them all, forgive as Christ has forgiven. These people who do these things and never repent will inherit eternal damnation, consider how frightening that is, pray God has mercy.
People are so self-centered and demanding that ‘their’ needs are met it doesn’t surprise me that divorce is so high, in fact I am amazed that it isn’t higher when I listen to how couples talk to one another! The pathetic whining of one side that you often hear when observing couples in supermarkets embarrasses me. Once the first flush of romance has cooled and couples need to just get on with real life that is when the shock sets in. Also women tend to want keep up with their friends and often spend more money than they really have on home improvements etc, as if ‘that’ is going to make for a satisfied life. They often tie their husbands down to a boring domestic life when they often led an active outdoor life before getting hitched. Indeed their masculine energy was probably one of the things that attracted their spouses during courtship! Now it is a round of visiting old relatives and going shopping for more ‘things’ to decorate the home. Beware who you marry!
Men too expect too much, they come from work and put their feet up and expect a cordon bleu meal served to them, expect the house to be kept immaculate, all their washing and ironing neatly done, and after all this when their spouse has done a full days work themselves too, to be an energetic lover later! In my estimation, any man that cannot wash, iron, and clean the house is not fit to be called a man at all. Where this idea that this was all ‘women’s work’ is beyond me. It might have been the case when men had been out roping and branding cattle all day, but those days are over for most I think! If couples don’t work together and share in everything then it is a recipe for disaster. Washing and ironing is a spiritual endeavour, when it is done to ease the burden off your spouse.
Amen and Amen!
What if my brother’s wife is a narcissist and doesn’t love or respect him, but rather mentally torments him?
Would you Make a video addressing this at 11:11 that’s being passed around please?
This is a just short clip of this topic from the actual Wretched tv episode. You can find the whole footage on their website where Todd defines unbiblical divorce
Siblings in Christ, please look up these verses in the New Testament regarding biblical divorce and remarriage. May the Lord speak to you through His word.
Matthew 5:31-32
Mark 10:11-12
Luke 16:18
Romans 7:2-3
1 Corinthians 7:39, if you want read the whole chapter for better understanding or yet the whole book of Corinthians.
Have a blessed day!
I think we should define "unbiblical divorce" first. The *ONLY* "Biblical Divorce" that exists, is if you decide to divorce your spouse because your spouse cheated on you (adultery), explained in Matt 5:32. Every other type of divorce is not valid in God's eyes, and if you either initiate or are the recipient of an unbiblical divorce and you remarry, you and your new spouse are committing adultery as explained in that same verse.
Marry people don’t commit fornication they would had died
Divorce is sad but sometimes necessary.
It's never necessary.
@@genemefferd3064 In a abusive relationship it is.
This definitely comes home. As I heard this video, I couldn't help but think of the woman I love very much that we are no longer married. Not a day goes by that I don't miss her or even think about her. But I look at when I didn't love her as Christ loves the church! The biggest problem is our sin. The selfishness. The carelessness. I have committed to wait for her regardless of how long that may be.
@SoliDeoGloria778 we are supposed to loose our life for Jesus and His kingdom. Please keep praying for her and it's not about your marriage, but about the gospel. Jesus is faithful when we were dead in our sins and when we go astray. Portray that same love and faithfulness of Jesus to your ex. God bless you, I'm in same situation with my ex, he divorced me to be with another woman, I resisted divorce and continue to pray for him until death parts us or maybe unites us for all eternity, Lord willing.
@@christianmama2441 I appreciate your encouragement. It is and must be about the gospel. And when I consider that more, then shall I trust Him more also. He remains faithful. Thank you again.
I looked over and over through scripture for a way OUT. I couldn't find a way in my situation. So I didn't, because I love and fear God more. So after tears, I changed in the way my husband was complaining about, but in ❤️ not spite like before. I made sure to ignore his insensitive comments. I tried this for 6 weeks (plan). Conclusion, he didn't change much...BUT I changed into a sweeter calmer, more loving and sumitive wife that I wanted to be. God helped me. So through tears, I have to agree with this...but only 12 years so far. Praying daily for my husband's salvation.
Still don't get my love language met...but neither did Leah in the bible.
It's so odd to me when people come into the comment section with the details of their divorce, and all but dare Todd to say it was wrong. C'mon. Read the Bible. See that there are reasons given for divorce. Stop picking fights with those who share the Word. Surely, a penchant for picking fights because you find offense reveals at least one flaw in your personality.
Here comes the pain
@Wretched! I hope that You see how much blessing You made by simply opening possibility to comment Your videos! 😉
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Amen ❤
Sometimes your enemies come from your own household. Put your hand to the plow and follow God's will without turning back. Remember Lots wife.
So, specifically, what is an "unbiblical divorce"?
Any desire for divorce is due to the hardness of ones heart and leads to adultery.
However, if betrothal is practiced, and it is found out before or at the time of consummation that one of them has been unfaithful, divorce is allowed.
What UA-cam theologian commenters say it is.
My ex husband was a child molestor and adulterer. I prayed hard for him but I'm so glad i am remarried now to a true Christian who loves Jesus and is faithful to me. I forgave my ex but I'm not staying in a marriage with someone who wants to abuse his own children and continuing to cheat. Jesus made an exception for remarriage very clearly in the gospel
There was no mention of the following scripture verses that are CRITICAL in what can happen to a person after divorce with regards to adultery:
Luke 16:18 “Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery."
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 "Do you not know that the unrighteous and the wrongdoers will not inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived (misled): neither the impure and immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor those who participate in homosexuality, Nor cheats (swindlers and thieves), nor greedy graspers, nor drunkards, nor foulmouthed revilers and slanderers, nor extortioners and robbers will inherit or have any share in the kingdom of God."
My preacher said that if you divore and remarry you commit adultery everyday. If you stay in that marriage even if you repent you will go to hell. I thought the only sin you can't get forgiven of was blasphemy.
One who continues to live in sin is not remorseful.
What if you have already made that mistake? And I can’t fix it. My sin kills me. It was a tough marriage and he is narcissistic and unfaithful but God was getting me through it. But we lost our son, brother in law, mother, and after his bypass he got meaner, I stayed until he got better physically but I can’t forgive myself and I just want to warn ANYONE who is thinking about it, DONT. You CAN get past affairs, gaslighting, and even constant belittling. Go to your pastor and if they won’t help you biblically, go to another church, there are good ones out there. There’s a war on marriage. Hang in there please. I’ve been divorced since 2012 and it’s done Everything he’s talking about. If you’re handed divorce papers, just refuse to sign and don’t fight back. It’s NOT worth it no matter how hard you think it is now, it’s a lot worse after. Especially if you have children. Please.
@bibleprophecy4400 I'm glad you say to not sign divorce papers and not fight back. I'm also divorced against my will, he left me for another woman. I never signed divorce papers. I do feel divorce only aggravates problems, especially with the minor children, my children are reaping the consequences big time, but God is good, we pray for daddy's salvation all the time and they are resilient to the evil done by their dad. Praise Jesus, stay faithful, Amen.
@@christianmama2441 yes, it kills me that I did that, I didn’t have anyone supporting me from the church just people telling me to get a divorce and it just snowballed. I just wanted him to stop throwing coffee in my face before work and screaming at me, throwing things at me but 20 years down the drain? And now I just don’t feel as close to God and it’s caused a huge crisis in my faith because I feel like I failed God. He was making it manageable for the most part but I’ve lost my stepchildren, my son even though he knows it was bad can’t stand me and we were so close but his dad has turned him against me but I don’t blame him. I hate me for what I did. He hid the infidelity so that I could get past and I think if I had stuck it out even that would have changed. He had stolen my retirement like 5 years in, I didn’t know until we got divorced so now I have nothing to leave my sons. Raising my grandson and having to get custody because my son has so many issues with rage, if he truly changes I’ve no problem giving him to him but I’m afraid this is just going to make things worse. I don’t even know what to do anymore. He’s only talked to his son two times in three years and hasn’t supported him. The mom doesn’t care, I’ve reached out to her so often. Divorce ruins Everyone’s lives and it’s made me question if I’m even good enough or if God has just said enough. So yes I will warn anyone who would listen, no matter how hard you think it is, it’s worse after divorce. Who’s to say he wouldn’t have done great things for God? I’m responsible. For him, my children and stepchildren.
I pray that you find healing, at least you’re not responsible. I am. That’s Not a good feeling. I pray God will forgive me for all the damage I’ve done.
So should one stay in a marriage if one of the spouses is mentally and physically abusive?
No. There are biblical grounds for divorce, i.e. physical abuse, where you are not under judgement
You have every reason to legally separate and seek counseling.
Yes
No, absolutely not!
Yes. If you have to ask, then it's not severe enough to be a justification. Only seggsual imralty is a justification. Abstinence is an example of segsul imraelty in marriage. If they make you so unsafe you have to separate and prevent you from coming together, then that becomes a justification. But you do not have unilateral authority to decide it but need to appeal to your elders
Divorce comes down to 2 things Selfishnes and or cheating. Learn to communicate .
Hmmm.. I wonder if the growing pornography issue plays a role in the growing trend for women filing for divorce. 🤔
Divorce, look up Dr Leslie McFall.
Talk about unbiblical marriages next!
We are looking for a house and 3 out of the 6 we looked at just last night are bc of divorce. so sad. I'm divorced bc of biblical reasons and then some. it still caused issues.
I divorced my husband because he was cheating on me and if we had stayed together, he would have ended my life. Is that an unbiblical divorce?
An unfaithful, cheating spouse is biblical grounds for divorce. They broke the covenant first
One could argue that would be suicide. I'm not a pastor but I'm not so sure staying in that kind of marriage is a good idea even from God's point of view.
Yes he's a God of order and marriage but he's also a God that considers us his friend.
You were 100% justified. Cheating is sexual immorality and is grounds for initiating divorce.
I also have no knowledge on what Scripture specifically says on threatening to kill your spouse in regards to divorce, but it's certainly not allowed. "Men, sacrifice yourselves for your wives just as Christ did for his church, taking care of them as your own body, for no one hates their own body, instead taking care of it and giving it what it needs." -Ephesians 5
You're still not allowed to remarry. You MAY get a divorce from a cheating spouse, but you can't remarry.
@@justinwooten9998 thats not true
a scourge
We seem to always fail to mention that marriage is a covenant that was instituted by God to mirror our unbreakable covenant relationship with our eternal Bridegroom. In the 53 years that I've been a Christian I have never heard a sermon on Biblical covenant. Sadly, the church is so much the poorer for it.
The is an ongoing neverendering "sermon" that God Himself speaks. One must quiet one's soul (because the world is loud) to hear it.
I say this in love, brother. Shaving was a good idea.
I am standing for my marriage, unto death.
Beginning in the late 1960s, divorce reforms spawned across the US (unilateral, no fault, uncontestible), that fed "the surge". That Christians enter a "civil" court to dissolve the marriage is discouraged, but that civil law is complicit should be noted by the Christian church with reproach.
Really committing to scripture could have saved my marriage. It's worth the effort no matter what.
I don't think that fear, guilt, shame, and threats are going to inspire couples in bad marriages to stay. Most happily married couples had good role models. A lot of Christians have poor marriage role models.
First, as others have mentioned, please define an "unbiblical divorce." Second, the divorced (or separated) people I know personally have all endured many years, if not decades, of pain and behaviors that I would challenge Todd Friel to tolerate while sharing a bed with the misbehaving person.
A person in a bad marriage doesn't have to separate or get divorced to feel angry, guilty, and as if God is disciplining them for some sin. Many of these people endure their struggles alone because the church is too busy trying to get more people in the door and doesn't truly care about those whose money and attendance they've already secured.
Sadly, when a person is struggling in their marriage and reaches out for help, they are often met with judgment, a lack of compassion, or very unhelpful advice. And don't get me started on the business of counseling.
Stop jokingly judging people and consider how you might encourage all those overpaid pastors to start truly serving their "flocks."
I don't know what to think about this. For starters, you don't define what unbiblical divorce is. I won't argue with you on the points you make. I just don't know what to do in my very bad marriage. If my marriage is a picture of Christ and the church, the world might be better off if I did end it.
@michaelrickels7386 Christ died for us sinners when we were His enemies, dead in our sins. If your marriage is tough, the more christlike your unconditional love for your spouse. Do you take seriously what Jesus did for us who were His enemies?
Unless you have to physically separate for your safety, you do not have a cause
I have a question on the Jewish perceptive on Chastity.
Why do Jews not believe in waiting until marriage ?
Don’t the studies show these marriage are the strongest less likely to get divorced?
Plus just having one romantic partner to me is just logical.
You can’t get any more romantic than that, you won’t be thinking of others or comparing them.
Plus the idea of being with multiple people grosses me out wether it’s me, them or both Thats done it.
So why isn’t this a thing with Judaism and other religions?
It seems like basic phycology.
I’ve had missed answers so far that the laws are complicated, it depends on who, what, where, when are relationships can be permissible.
But incest and grape is not allowed.
I was in a relationship with a Jewish girl and she admitted she has had multiple partners.
So I didn’t want to Continue the relationship.
Did I do the right thing?
Yes.
She is not a practicing Jew. Practicing Jews do believe in waiting until marriage, just like true Christians do. But as with everybody in this world, sin influences us all. But it all comes down to how do we stand against it. Look at Deuteronomy 22 to see what the Jews believe.
If you weren't married, then yes, you did the right thing.
Wrong title
What is even more out of line is an un-Biblical marriage. My first marriage at a young age had all the church stiff the bride wanted. Honestly, we argued after we left the reception and continued for a decade until we admitted our error. My second marriage was simple, and very much focused on Biblical principles and a blessing of God's Holy Spirit. Thirty years later we are going strong because of our Savior and our living to glorify Him.
@mikenixon2401 unbiblical marriage is like incestuous or something like that. Once you're married, it's the right spouse and until death parts you. Sounds like you committed adultery to remarry after your divorce. It's not what seems right in your eyes, but what God says is right.
When have you seen a church discipline its members over divorce?
Watch Gino Jennings people
Facts ! Ladies stop walking out on your husbands they married you because they love you love them back and don't abandon them.
And husband's, stop walking out on your family to chase women half your age!!!
@sharober1 that's less common but yes stay with your wife.
It's VERY COMMON,
@sharober1
Umm... no that's just plain wrong. The main reason for divorce is women saying the man doesn't make enough money or he doesn't make her happy anymore. The next would be abuse, mostly from women.
@gaminpreacher2909 no, I know how many families have been destroyed because men decide they want a younger woman.
Should have open with a disclaimer. There are real monsters and so many women feel trapped because of what they hear about how Christian’s should not get divorced