What Are Healthy Coping Skills?
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All coping mechanisms can be unhealthy if done badly enough. But some are naturally more healthy than others.
Getting an animal isn't always great imho. If you have problems providing for yourself / having enough time to reflect on yourself, I don't think getting an animal will help, it'll become another hindrance.
I might be completly wrong on that though.
Although theres some coping mechanism that are tragically more damaging (sometimes with unrepairable side effect) compared to others.
Especially if there only the bare minimum of benefits obtain from said maladaptive (or not) coping skills
Probably why in best case scenario there'll be a collection of coping mechanism that all serv their purpose and keep anyone of them from consuming your life
Ok, how can reach out socially with people or getting a pet can be unhealthy?
Setiawan Let's say for example you spend way too much time socialising, or you get like 20 pets. The coping mechanism instead starts taking over your life. Just a rough example. My point is that they are a tool, not some cure-all.
@@Karlyr_being busy is a good thing on its own, but if you suffer some kind of burnout it may be stressful
Im all for people getting pets as long as they treat them like their children and not like toys
This, 100%...
If you don't understand that pets are people too, please just get a stuffed animal!
Yes, don't use a bunny as a football
pets are not children. you are raising a child to be independent but your pet is being raised to be dependent.
@jones2277 pets have no choice but to be dependent yet they have the brain function of a 2 year old child
@@aircatcher6891 yeah, because we took them out of their natural environments and bred them to serve and depend on us.
My bunny gives me a reason to wake up and maintain a consistent schedule.
Bunnies are adorable, very sensitive beings. I had one when I was a kid, and she was the sweetest girl, always worrying about me when I was sad and crying.
Mine too! Plus, she likes to jump into my lap and give me bunny kisses all the time, which makes it hard to keep feeling completely sad and completely alone. Bunnies are the best and such underrated pets
wishing you the best ❤
very emotional music like heavy metal is something i often listen to to cope. it really helps me release it all.
@@george27g i do it because i need catharsis not for dopamine.
@@george27g bro no
@@LilFeralGangrel catharsis creates a lot of dopamine lol. Hyping yourself up causes dopamine to be released.
So happy to see this. Thank you Dr. K ;)
Thank you too Psych2Go ❤
Pets are great, our cats have helped me so much. Especially being in a relationship where we have different needs for touch, having a cat that is almost always willing to snuggle (and sometimes quite insistent upon it even when I'm not) has been such a massive boon to my life.
The one concern I have is when people are unable to do basic care tasks for themselves, they might end up neglecting their pet. But this just means you should be mindful of what pet you get to make sure you're comfortable with handling their care needs.
After spending over 5 years 99 percent of the time at home I adopted a dog to not only give that dog a better life but me too. We both struggled so much in the beginning (she was in a cage for many months) with the walks, so many parts of our bodies in pain, but we made it :D. Somehow she still is more lazy than I am, going out 3 times a day is usually too much for her, she is happy with 2 times, lol she will struggle again a lot when she becomes older and needs to pee more often.
The title of the short combined with the thumbnail that just says "alcohol" is perfect
Getting a cat greatly reduced my chronic anxiety almost instantly. Can recommend!
that would cause me major anxiety.
I recently got a gf whom I met in person but lives far away. It sounds cliche but playing guitar really helped me get my emotions out when she was gone and I was trying (and failing) to bottle it up. Especially when I could do it over the phone to her.
Me too, playing guitar really help me out, specially when I sing about how I'm feeling. Also, drawing works on the same way for me
My dog has saved me from the brink more than once. Long enough for me to start getting therapy and working through my mental health in healthier ways than I had been.
wishing you the best ❤
I totally felt the pet one, I have dealt with depression my whole life and once I had to take care of a baby bird that fell from a tree and wow, I felt like I had a purpose in life I would wake up early eager to take care of him, unfortunately he flew away when he reached adulthood and I still miss him so much...
This checks out. During the worst of my physical and mental disability days, what got me up in the morning was taking care of my tree frogs, gecko, and bearded dragon.
My cat saved My life. He’s been immensely helpful to my mental health and even to my family. My mom just yesterday told me my cat made her day just because he came out of hiding and was letting my parents pet him. (He’s a shy boy)
Gamer bad: cat lady good.
Spending money makes me feel better! But I didn't get employed last 7 months, so no serotonin for me I guess
That's terrible way to feel good, it's contingent to external ability of the job market
I know multiple people who have been saved by their relationship with their pets. I also know one who, tragically, followed their dog after it passed. Please seek help even if your pet is helping you get by.
I use to be in a really shitty living situation and I often contemplated suicide. I never really had a thing for pets either they just seemed like to much responsibility for me at the time but one day my mom left a cat at the house and told me to watch her or she would die lol. That cat has kept me from going off in the deep end and saved me so many times I couldn't imagine my life without her.
nature. hobbies. And meditation is the most powerful thing. It is like giving yourself therpy. But problem is people dont know what meditation is. They think it is clearing your mind. You gottan know what you are trying to work on and why and then find the specific meditation skills for that and practice those. You need to have a great insight of what you are actually dealong with to start healing it on your on. Its DYI for your brain. But it is not for everyone. Most people need to be guided through thrapists and meditation experts.
I guess its a good thing that im a professional dog walker
I know for me the things that help me are the very things that are hard to do at first or I have a hard time wanting to do or setting up a routine to do it. Like waling everyday has honestly brought so much into my life! It helps me think and also helps me focus on a goal. And then in the evenings reading instead of mindless shows I used to watch has helped me a lot!
Please make sure you’re able to care for pets and understand financial needs they will need through out their life before you get them for your own need. They need you too and only have you to lean on.
It's true. I got my cat because i knew i wouldn't be able to abandon her by killing myself. She's the only reason i live. She's amazing. Love you floof!
Just make sure you are actually in a good spot to take care of them and meet their needs more than the basics of just food and water. I didnt think of that when i got mine as a puppy and i worry that i messed the poor boy up by not being able to do more than just cover the basics of survival. I cant speak to others but both dogs and cats are complex beings that require enrichment and true dedication. Please take good GOOD care of your little fur buddies, they really deserve it
Fulfilling job, rest, friends, activities for health are the best coping mechanism. I don't even know which one is top one
The things that truly made a difference were my animals, exercise/eating well, natural supplements, knowing yourself, and I mean every little thing, trauma, patterns, taking a hard look at yourself, what you think, what you consume, the people you're around, what triggers you, limiting beliefs etc. All of it. You have to know. So that you can identify what's making you use unhealthy coping mechanisms. And then comes the hard part, taking action.
Thank you thank you Dr K now I want to buy an albino crocodile
Pets arent people and not human! But they deserve respect, in that you have to take care of em, and can be a loved and loving part of your family nontheless!
Not me drinking to cope rn while watching this. Very true about the pet thing.
My mental health started to improve a lot as soons as I started working as a petsitter, since I couldn't (and still can't) afford to have one of my own. I like dogs, but cats are my favorites. I had one when I was a child, he just showed up at my house someday, he stayed because of my sister and me, he would go around the neighborhood when we'd leave for school and then come back when we'd arrive. I learned his cat language and the meaning of his vocalizations. He was a really good kitten, I was shocked when I found out about the negative stereotypes about cats, because none of that ever happened to me. I have interacted with lots of cats throughout my life, literally none of them tried to hurt me or acted cold around me. Cats have their own habits and personalities, and they have an unique way of making us feel special.
If you want a pet but don't have lots of money, a cat is a good choice, since they bathe themselves. Just keep them indoors and use some catification (watch Jackson Galaxy's videos for more).
Holy moley my two favorite youtube therapy channels
Responsibility for my two cats saved me over twenty years ago.
Imagine telling people Lego Star Wars is an unhealthy coping mechanism on par with substance abuse. Clown shoes moment.
How come games are considered an unhealthy coping mechanism? Is it just if you play them too much?
Yes
Because games suppress your negative emotions and you wont be able to process them. Youll start using it as an escape mechanism and it can also tend to be addictive.
It's because 99% of the time when people are playing videogames It's too escape/run away from the problem rather then actually feeling the emotion and addressing the issue. Also it can amplify the problem if you don't do well in the game as well.
If you start a pvp game(shooter,rts,resin, etc) with the intent to win and feel better, but you instead end up on a losing streak. You're most likely going to feel even worse then before.
Same with pve you boot up an rpg, but maybe you get stuck on a boss or something.
@@blanahahaI’d argue the same can be said of pets and friends, people often go clubbing and get tons of pets to escape from reality and considering the old cat lady trope is as common as it is this can also be addictive, I’m not saying gaming is a cure all but I feel that assuming misuse of it just because it’s gaming is absolutely ridiculous because not everyone misuses it, heck this is anecdotal but I use games as mental stimulation and because I handle and process so much while playing I’ve gotten significantly better at processing my own emotions as well as understanding others
My dog helped me so much. He died, and now my partner doesn't want me to get another dog. I'm fading
I'm sure you will find a way to convince her 🙂
Please don't fade too far. Please seek help 🙏
I do compulsive masturbation, escapism like drowning in work, playing games that get my mind out of there, maladaptive daydreaming, writing poetry and music.
These aren't working the best so I'm thinking of trying alchohol. I don't think the "healthy" coping mechanisms are strong enough for my sanity.
I don't even know if I should keep going. Might just end it all but the only thought that's keeping me on is the desire and dream of success and the power to control people and abuse my power to let on the cycle of hatred
My cat keeps the mean voices at bay🥲
Is love an unhealthy coping mechanism?
- no
Good, cause I fooking looooove cocaine.
Having pets are always a W
coping is the most stereotypical behaviour found in endiens when they get humiliated or lose in an internet conversations
Pets cost money to keep them happy healthy and safe, a LOT of money if they fall ill, or when you need a pet sitter because you cannot take them with you when you need to be elsewhere
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People can be great, but animals are much more reliably attentive and are harder to perceive as judgmental.
the cat that loved me more than anythihng in the world.....if i got up and go to my bed and shes not asleep she would always get up and lay next to my head. i was so self aware of her needing food that when i was dead asleep on medication her head butting my rubbing my should with her head would wake me up from a dead sleep. the cat had an easier time to wake me up than a person. she lived way past the time she should have died.......when she died she still tried to hang on to living as she beame nearly paralyzed and lose of function and when i touched her u could still she her trying hard to give me any type of movement to show me.......we couldnt find a vet thaty would take her to put her down because they were either all booked or was like maybe after closing time we could at 8 am in thew morning. called 10+ vets. i hated those 2 last days of her life more than more os the thing thats happened to me..
she did help me stay sane and i realized it even more when she was gone. i have other cats i love but she was just so different. she died last year..... she slept next to my head for nearly decade when ever i was at home she would be there next to me when i woke up or just laid down because i needed to she was there.
Pets are going to be required to get us to Mars and staying on Mars without going insane.
the only things that are strong enough to help me cope are substances of abuse
in your head, not in reality
Just don't get a puppy that isn't potty trained. That can be a nightmare if you're not ready for it
I depends how are you doing with your illnesses.
My cat became depressed too and died due to cancer. If I was healthy, I could've offered her a better life and ended her sooner. Instead I held her alive too long suffering and neglected her like my mom did to me.
For me it's my plants. 😅
Man’s really just said video games are an unhealthy coping mechanism, if done in moderation video games are a healthy coping mechanism, it all depends on how u approach things, hell even alcohol can be a healthy coping mechanism if done properly. For example there are people that turn to video games to destress or to have fun with friends or to mentally challenge oneself, 10 hr a day sessions are bad but realistically if u r playing with ur dog for 10 hrs a day that’s equally bad so assuming misuse isn’t really valid here, and as for alcohol I know many people who become mixologists and dedicate tons of time studying different drinks and trying new flavors and that is a healthy way to experience and use alcohol as a coping mechanism because it’s only unhealthy if abused you should never just toss coping mechanisms into the unhealthy category because they can be misused you should indicate that they are often misused tho
I initially wrote a long thing about games and porn before I realized I was triggered and the context is COPING SKILLS. Games and porn are only good within the context of being fantasy and a fun and limited accoutrement to a broader life.
Friends as a coping mechanism isn't great though because some of us aren't lucky enough to have good friends or a great understanding of ourselves, hence why they may be subscribed :p
The only true coping mechanism is self knowledge.
Ps: I love that you're speaking with other pros in your field, and pros in general!
I do not agree with coping through a companion animal. They are beings, not tools for getting us through a challenging situation.
The phrasing is a bit confusing. Is leaning on people for social support a healthy or unhealthy coping mechanism?
Huh, no wonder my mental health deteriorated after 2016. Dog died that year.
IF COPING DOESN'T WORK COPE HARDER THARS WHAT I DO
Shout out to my goldfish
Do it for them
👁️🗨️ Heard a good one is making up an alternate reality and version of friends in your head to return to in sleep. Repress those bad memories and don’t let anyone know. Make sure to stay in isolation for years too! 👍
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Do you know how to get there? Is not easy to, have tried but couldn't isolate what went wrong
Why are video games not considered a good coping mechanism? Genuinely asking.
I agree with a lot of what he says but how is video games an unhealthy coping mechanism
i just inhale copium
Why is gaming worse than meditating it keeps me from killing myself just as much I think.
Ok who am I to judge well im much more concerned on the fact that you're about to unalive yourself without video games. Yknow it's mainly because gaming is pretty addictive while meditation is for relaxation of mind. Trust me gaming is also my coping mechanism since middle school (my pfp says everything 💀) I play less multi-player games to avoid toxicity.
Well you could possibly take a 10 minute break to meditate then go back to gaming and kick some as. Theres no reason they have to be mutually exclusive or inclusive
Some of those meditation apps have timers (i think so. I do non app base meditation) then theirs the eeg headset stuff like the Muse headset that could help with the potential learning curve
@@Dimitris_Half so is reading (novels), Netflix, the news (because are you going to do anything different after knowing that stuff happened? Most likely not), Facebook, riding your bike (unless for travel and you have 3+DUI), camping, daydreaming, being alive, gardening (flowers with the exception of poppies or... I'll let you guess this one)
Also UA-cam, meditation, going out, talking, sitting on the couch watching the paint dry, art, music, hopes, dreams, goals, eating
And being annoying on the internet for everyone to see 🙈
How are video games unhealthy?
Dr K is changing my gender a healthy coping skill?
I always wonder what kind of person thinks someone will change their gender as a coping mechanism for stress. What kind of weirdo does that? At least there's some precedent for female personalities and male personalities and you can imagine them ending up in the wrong body just like you can imagine any other kind of birth defect. What kind of person thinks people will change their whole life and their physiology to be more difficult on a whim?
Is there something you want to tell us about yourself? Like, what gives you the idea that something so alien definitely exists?
@@zer0nix it's a multifaceted issue, people don't have enough mental support so they switch and it appears easier so it gives them the false sense that they made the right decision. Their identity becomes attached to this switch and they become desperate to keep this idea alive. It's interesting how you accept madness in order for people to keep their sanity. That's why you try to blame it on me instead of trying to talk about the issue. I understand it's difficult to talk sense when there is none. I don't have faith that the human race will be able to solve this gender dysphoria problem. We have accepted the madness because many do not understand the problem. We just have to deal with the consequences.
I am so lonely I need to look for some love.
Not in the wrong places.
I'm so lonely, why would someone make me this lonely😢😢😢
Learn to love your self, that part of you that has preferences and can choose and can always see you, and you won't need anyone else. You can enjoy their company but if they are not up to your standard, they can duck right off. If they don't love you then you don't need them, and if you love you then you don't need them. They are accessories and possible allies (and possible enemies), nothing more.
Note: this is not Dr k's advice, this is my own and I just wanted to offer a word as a fellow former lonely person. I am no longer lonely, though I do spend a lot of time with my self :)
@@Dimitris_Half if you know the difference between your self and your identity, it does work like that.
If you love your self, you realize that you are never alone because you are always in your own company. You can always see your own actions and have some level of appreciation of them. If you discount that then you may tend to do things that you will regret. If you love yourself, and you know that you are worthy because you love yourself, that's enough. Maybe not for others but it should be for you. The universe was not designed to be kind. The universe just is, just as we are for awhile just here to survive and maybe thrive and maybe reproduce with someone else worthy. But maybe not, and that doesn't mean that you are intrinsically unloveable, just unlucky or unskilled, thus far, and you should be patient with yourself. You love you and that should be enough.
The feeling of loneliness imo comes from feeling deprived of something that was never guaranteed in the first place, except for your self. If you can get it, great! But if you can't, it shouldn't be devastating, not if you know your self.
Ps: I realize I'm probably coming across as a massive narcissist lol
the thumbnail: "alcohol" lmaooo (dont listen to this comment)
Tfw no social support
,,How do you deal with stress?"
I pray to Jesus Christ of Nazareth 🍷🗿☦️✝️
Lol poor animals. Lots of people are abusive to themselves and subconciously are abusive to the animals.
i can't trust this advice. animals and meditation cause me anxiety.
these arent as fun though
This one was actually stupid lol yea just get a pet let them be stuck with the human who can't take care of themselves
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hey, at least I don't drink!
She's not paying attention to you
Saying that videogames are unhealthy as a basic idea is... simply wrong. It depends. Otherwise board games are the same. Watching a movie. Reading a comic book. All of this is bad. But playing a game with a friend? relaxing and unwind enjoying a good narrative? why not?
What about shutting down?