Ryan Cassata - Daughter
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- Опубліковано 10 кві 2018
- A song about my personal experience transitioning from female to male and my transformed relationship from being my dads daughter to being his son.
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Written by Ryan Cassata. Produced/Mixed/Mastered by Nate Evans (The Drive)
Music video by Ryan Cassata performing Daughter. ©: 2018 ROC Productions. Directed by Maxine Bowen & Ryan Cassata.
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Cake: Karina Abraham
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CAST:
X - Son, Ryan (Ig: @exxavior)
Greg Young - Father
Ryan Cassata - Self (@ryancassata)
Chris Pereida - Friend (Ig: @chrissokok)
Karla Lopez - Friend (Ig: @_karlaafoo)
Anna Luca Biani - Friend (Ig: @annabiani)
Ryder Dunagan - Friend (Ig: @ryder.mov)
Lauren Dunagan - Friend
Casper Purtlebaugh - Friend (Ig: @baughleon)
Akira Wyatt - Friend
Malcolm Ribot - Friend (Ig: @gorillashrimp)
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Geoffrey - Dog (Ig: @GeoffreytheDog)
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Thank you so much to everyone who made this happen. I'm so proud of how this came out.
Ryan Cassata this is honestly my new favorite song, I remember my dad was the last one in my family to start using he/him pronouns. I relate to this song so much. Thank you for making it. I started honestly crying.
Ryan Cassata could you put the chords somewhere so i can learn it?
Ryan Cassata I wish you could thumbs up more than once
Heh. Came out.
I am working on getting the chords online.
I'm a 12 year old boy and I just got my teachers to call me alex not Caitlin this shows that the small things matter to. Looking back on this at 17 i promise you it gets better it truly does there's going to be times where its hard and feels like you have no hope but you gotta stay strong because it does get better the older you get the more you grow and find who you truly are ❤️
death rose wow for the same age your much braver than me probably because I have a whole transphobic school except for some teachers but my friends are supportive Atlest
@@alananixon9775 my school is mostly transphobic too.... I'm stealth at this school so ppl don't know in trans
I came out to my science teacher and he calls me by my preferred name so I'm now Elliot to my class. Sadly I haven't had the courage to come out to the rest of the school because I fear that they will tell my parents who are so homophobic and call me a freak. I just wouldn't know what to do if they found out.
Awhh this warms my heart
Ooh shit same birth name same spelling. Jinx!
When he says “I’ll always be your little girl” he means that he will be the person that he has always knows which was “daddy’s little girl”
Jimin Is bae yeah i think it means that he will always be inside who his dad got to know? like his personality is still the same, even though he is a man. gender does not change our personality ☺️🖤
That hit me the most
Jimin Is bae Ohhh Okay makes more sense thanks
To me, the lyric hits kinda hard. For me, I'll always be daddy's little girl, that title doesn't really hold a gender, even if it does say girl in the name. I don't really mind it, but of course, I'm not talking for all trans people
If you where to understand the lyrics you would understand the song more
Be proud of who you are. I lost my son Nick to suicide. I was his biggest supporter. Stay strong. I'm on and will always be on your side.
I’m so sorry to hear about your son Dale. Sending you lots of love.
I’m so sorry for you, nobody deserves to loose their kids, I hope he was at least a bit happy before he died and I hope you’re doing better
I am sorry for your loss and although I don't think the pain could ever go away completely, but I do hope it will lessen with time.
I’m so sorry for your loss
I'm a closeted transmasc and this brought me so much joy I started crying, thank you
Sending so much love
Much love and take care! You are valid!
Same you are a king don't drop that crown
That makes two transmasc :)
same
My French professor found one of my Instagrams last year that had my preferred name and pronouns (Nico, he/him they/them she/her I'm genderfluid) and I was terrified simce I go to a Catholic school. Instead, he called me to his office one day and let me talk about everthing do that I could explain. He said that he supports me and that it could be hard to come to terms with such things. Since I wasn't really ready to come out to the class yet, he just began to not use my dead name (it's Nina, if anyone cares) and just kept using gender neutral terms. Once he accidentally called on me using Nico, but he played it off. If he ever dead named me, immediately after class he'd keep apologising.
I honestly found this do sweet and I'm still so happy that one of my favorite teachers accepts me.
That's sweet.
That's amazing Nico! Know you're valid, and that teacher is great.
As someone who is Genderfluid I loved reading this I love your teacher they seem amazing
Awwww
Aw that's so great!
Every time he said “I’ll always be your little girl” I just cried. This is such an emotional song
Gracey Lela I cried when I wrote that line
So true
That line was what brought tears to my eyes. I have a pretty dysfunctional relationship with my dad, and me being trans hasn't helped and it really hit home
Omg me too
HE IS CUTTING THE ONIONS.
I sang this to my dad when they had a pride talent show and I made him cry tears of joy. He said that he will start calling me Tobias and his son and use my pronouns now.
Edit: my dad thought it would be an innocent day of rainbows for me but when I asked him to take me to the talent show because I was gonna sing, he said yeah. 😂 my uncle who was the emcee there called me Tobias Gamble and my dad was shocked 😂 then I started singing and he started to cry. It was one of those core memories moments.
This is amazing!!
Hey my name is Tobias too!!
@@zombz4 my friends call me DJ Tobster on discord because my voice is always glitching on there 😂
Yoooooo....... wats up bro, I've started using the same name with all my online friends dude!
Bro my name is also Tobias! 😂
I just showed this to my dad and he’s 52, and me being trans has been weird on the whole family but he loves the song and we finally talked about it and he fully supports me as his son and I’m about to cry typing this lol
im about to cry reading this!! so awesome!
@@RyanCassata my dads actually a huge fan and asks for this song every time we’re in the car, so he was super excited to see your response-
Im happy for you.
The two main lines hit me hard “I didn’t change who I am, I’ve always been a man” and “but dad I’ll always stay your little girl” because people always tell me they liked me when I was a girl. And my dad doesn’t really accept me. But I’m going to stay strong and be myself. 💙
That's amazing. You do that. People are gonna be transphobic, and rude, and you're always gonna get hate. But remember that there are also a lot of people who will accept you and support you. So yes, you should stay strong, because not everyone is going to hate on you for being transgender.
That's amazing people just suck you are so brave stay strong!
Yeah, I'm not out yet but about two years ago I started cutting my hair to deal with the dysphoria (it does WONDERS) and all of my friends were like " I liked you better with long hair"
:')
@@idiomatic444 oof- that's my family-
I took Ryan singing he was "staying your little girl" to mean he was still his father's child. You are still you, only better, when you are living your truth. Be who you are.
First Time: *sheds a few tears*
Second time: *is crying*
Third Time: *Mental Breakdown*
I had a mental breakdown every time i listened to this song :')
Same
Fourth time: floods the house with tears
Makenna Young
Same :”)
I got real emotional the first time 😥
Kinda a rant, but a few months ago i came out to my dad as trans, he says its a phase, im confused and all that, and he refuses to use my pronouns & name, last year this was one of my favorite songs, now im barely able to make it through the song without crying, I hope he'll accept me at some point
Edit: I dont know if anyone is going to read this a year later. But he's come around, hes using my name, and pronouns. He's actually accepted me,
He still messes up sometimes, but he really does see me as his son.
I am glad that he has accepted you
Wish I knew what to say
same with my transphobia dad, i only told him the name i now go by and he still calls me a mrs and not a Mr
I'm getting surgery in a few days, I was super nervous to get that bottom surgery, then I listen to your song. And all my nerves flushed away, thank you for making me feel so proud of who I am. I'm gender fluid if you wanted to know.
How did the surgery go?
Hey how was the survey bro?
Howd it go
I want this song to be on the radio internationally
Isak Grund me too :)
Same
That would be awesome
@@RyanCassata I live in greece. I once showed this to my greek friend, and later that day he came to me and said
"The radio played the trans song you showed me today at work"
You've reached far, good job.
Same!
What a lot of people don’t realise with the part when he says “I’ll always be your little girl” means he’s still the same even before transition. Same child his father grew up and raised, just a man.
Kate Hansis yeah. I got that. I’m gender fluid but idk, it kinda hit me different.
I'm not trans but somehow this song is heartwarming, especially that part
I guess, but the “I’ll always be your little girl”, part did make me feel weird.
@@Guineapig7 Same, I don't like it.
I'm currently being bullied for being a trans male and this song is helping me out right now
Hey, just wanted to say that you're super awesome. Don't let anyone tell you else. You are perfect the way you are. ❤️
Hi! Its been a minute since u posted this but im just here to let u know that u are valid and amazing!! Dont let other people drag u down, you are perfect the way u are and however you identify and I hope are are doing okay!! :)
I'm a trans male as well. You're not alone. I'm here for u
I hope you’re okay now one year later
stay strong, things will get better i promise, all my love and support
Who's here before 1.5 Million???
Me❤️
Me and some transgender friends I sent this too♥️
me.
@@lycaptain thank you
Me I mean it's 1.4 rn soooo yes ig (if you are taking about views)
I'm finally getting my first binder in a few days, when just last year I was about to end it all, because I never thought I'd end up here
11/12/22 edit: I'm on t!!!
Congrats Im happy for you.
you're so lucky my mom thinks I'm going to f*ck it up and injure myself so I can't get a binder, start hormone blockers, start testosterone etc. but congrats I'm happy for you and pround of you, you got this. You can do it!!
Congrats! I’m so happy for you! Please remember to stretch! 💞
some kid so proud of you! just shows how things can change. it gets better 🖤
How’s the binder?
Shoutout to all my transmasc siblings; I love you.
Stay strong. - Faith
Hey Ryan! I'm a thirteen year old trans boy, I look up to you. You're one of my idols. I cry along to this song everytime. Love you man!
aww thank you so much!! sending you love
6am and I'm listening to this bawling my eyes out.
Yet I'm not the only one
Jackson I’m listening at 2:00 am and crying ;-;
me too.
Jackson same.
Me to just 2 am
Me: *cuts hair off*
My dad: *jokingly* "I never wanted a son."
Me: "Well, now you have one."
My dad: *suprised pikachu face*
I like The song I am a boy now I wass a girl beffore
I love this song.I'm non-binary!
im ftm and i was the only daughter... now my dad has 4 sons! ( but he doesnt know it yet lol closeted check )
@@thebutifulbees7320 No, she's a girl who wants to be a boy, when she says " stay your little girl" it means that she wants to be a boy but she hasn't changed, she's and will always remain the little girl inside her heart.
@@LaurynCecilia im also a closeted ftm trans. My mum has 2 sons and don't know about one 😂
This song made me realise I'm trans back in 2018. It's 2021 now, I'm 3 months on testosterone today and I couldn't be happier. Thank you so so much for making me realise who I am, this song has stuck with me ever since ^^
To all of you out there listening to this song: Please don't give up! You'll gonna get through this and times are going to get better! You can do this💪🏼
I’m so happy for you! Thank you for sharing!!!
We NEED an MTF version of this!
right!!
I sent this to my dad and he came into my room and sat on my bed and told me im the best son he could have ever asked for and he was crying and it made me really happy
That's so cute! You're a really lucky person. I told my dad and he just asked why I was going against god and told me the regular Christian bullshit about transgender people even though that isn't in the Bible.
Charles H. Fuck dude I'm sorry but just be you man. If you need advice or anything you can message me on IG @ slumped0utmaxx
@@tourettehero What? I'm not about to flip through every page in the bible to find a phrase that isn't there.
I hope a year later things are working out better than Ever. I truly hope you get what makes you happy. Youre Awsome. 💙💗💿💗💙
(I tried to make a trans flag out of emojis)
Maxxiim Luster so wholesome 🖤 you deserve this!
Me: * is sad and dysphoric *
Me: * listens to this song *
Me: * gets a huge feeling of euphoria and happiness *
:)
Same
Same bro
Hope you stay happy
Exactly
This is so relatable in an odd way.
When I transitioned, my father was supportive of me but I knew he was upset. To him it felt like he lost his daughter.
who's here before 2 million?
Me :D
Me.
I came out to my Mom last night... her first words were “I always thought you were a lesbian, I could live with you being a lesbian, but not trans.”
When I asked her if she loved me all she said was “I need to process this...”
Wow..
Hey you good now my man
Skating in Scotland unfortunately no. My mom still doesn’t support me and uh my dad is kind of dead now since January so he can’t support me
Corri sorry to hear that man, just remember to stay strong. If you can show your mom that this is what you genuinely want I'm sure she'll come around.
I hope everything is okay now dude. Stay strong
Edit: I saw one of the recent comments. I volunteer to be your new family if you want
I got my haircut today and right after I got in the car to leave, this song came on and I was shook.
(Edit) Update: So I showed this to my mom. She didn’t say anything about it and went back to playing her game so oof.
This whole thing sucks. sorry you're going through this.
My mum just ignored me saying it was a phase continuing to call me princess and you’ll grow out of it and confused why I don’t want dresses and skirts and a new tracksuit instead 😔 good life
That's how my mom handles things too 😂😂 cool I'm not the only one. I also talked to her about why she doesn't speak up to me in other situations and she says it's easier not to 😂🤷🏼♀️ idk man..she actually wanted to be a mom and had been trying for years so idk how this whole preparing for adulthood and communicating with your child bit didn't come up but okay hahaha
@@Popplebop @vannpire vidzz in this situation I'd remind her that not all women wear makeup, not all men aren't feminine, flamboyant, OR simply don't love makeup or fashion -- because MANY guys love fashion, art, design, and even makeup (starting from a young age even!). There's many tomboys too. If all of these people exist, it makes sense that you'd also not like dresses on an easier-to-handle level but if that's her gender bias then it makes sense that you're transitioning. I'm a cis female and I've always joked that my mom should have had another daughter :p and my friends often bonded with her over high feminine things. It's not that I'm not feminine, but I wasn't as in to fashion and frills and sequins and sparkles and pink (pink I liked for a short time around 4). I've never cared for jewelry, it annoys me. Many men wear jewelry. I resent makeup but it does look good lol so I'll do it. I'm so lazy about my hair :p. Also here's a website that discusses studies that found that only 0-13% (0 because they don't know everything about the brain) of people have 100%male or female brains -- what I mean by that is the fact that certain parts of the brain are more like to be certain shapes, sizes, or have certain characteristics if the person is male or female.
www.newscientist.com/article/dn28582-scans-prove-theres-no-such-thing-as-a-male-or-female-brain/
Here's a link to a ted talk about other facts about the brain that can relate to gender transitions.
I watched this TED Talk and thought you would find it interesting.
Karissa Sanbonmatsu: The biology of gender, from DNA to the brain
go.ted.com/CoUf
Learn more about watching TED Talks on all of your favorite platforms: www.ted.com/about/programs-initiatives/ted-talks/ways-to-get-ted-talks
I know but in my case I was trying to pass so wearing a dress or skirt wouldn’t of gone well
casually looking up ''Daughter'' songs for father oc to sing to to his daughter
**Finds this**
Me: WOW WHAT A WIN I WASNT EXPECTING-
That’s so awesome!!
@@RyanCassata ♥️ I showed my friend Kira this song and she showed it to her trans brother ^w^
He used to be a girl 😊 I really love this song
I WAS LISTENING TO THIS AND THEN MY BROTHER CAME IN AND SAID THAT BIDEN WON AND IM SO HAPPY
It's already been 10 months since he won? DAMN-
@Layla Barnett I don't support him, but I do tolerate him.
I'm 15 now, and I'm still in the closet. I'm comfortable with my name and pronouns. The ones I prefer anyway. Cody, he, his, him. And, I can't come out to my parents. I lost my big brother because he came out. He was kicked out and I never saw him again. My biological father would beat him because of how transphobic he is. My mom never knew. I still want the world to know.
You are valued, loved and important. Don't give up
Omg, my trans name is Cody ._. And i'm sorry that you never got to see your brother again...
Holy shit....that's heartbreaking....I am so sorry
Aw I'm sorry dude good luck.
I'm so sorry. I came out as nonbinary (it was a mistake) and my parents called me a freak. They haven't kicked me out but I fear they will soon.
@@emmascustomcloset omg i hope you're okay i haven't come out as nonbinary but ive made jokes and whilst my dad does not care he still does not get it. My mom and stuff thinks im a lesbian though lol. My brother kinda gets it but none know for certain since i never told them.
You know it's an amazing thing to be finally so comfortable in your identity as a man that you are okay with referring to yourself as a daughter and a little girl.
It's a really hard thing to do, a lot of respect Ryan!
It took me a long, long time to be comfortable with who I am.
AlphaTengua I think by "your little girl" I think it is meant that he is still the same person( ie the person who was daddy's "little girl")
What I think is important for trans people is to accept that their parents will go through a "I lost the child I raised" phase before they realise this person is the same person they raised, just more true to themselves.
We need to realise our parents have to go through a lot too when we come out (BUT, I CAN'T STRESS THIS ENOUGH, THEY SHOULD NEVER BE ABUSIVE!)
My mom said she went through a grieving phase at the beginning of my transition and my mom has talked to other parent's of trans people and found they went through something similar too.
I just wish my mom would stop refering to my coming out as "the DEATH" of her daughter. I am very much not dead, I'm just never going to be anyone's daughter.
I’m 12. Today my friends started calling me Sam. I’ve never felt so happy.
That's great my frends dont even know I'm pan let alone trans
Hi 12year old sam
I’m 14 now. My friends are still the only people that call me sam, even though I’m out to my (transphobic) family
I’m 15 and I’m also a transgender guy, I hope you are doing well, this time can be very difficult, but stay strong. : )
@@dumpsterracoon9920 we'll call you what you are--sam, the boy
I'm a trans boy and I'm currently stuck with an accepting dad but an unsupportive mum. I'm terrified I'm going to cause some major argument between my parents and my dad doesn't called me my preferred name yet due to how my mum would probably react with a mix of sadness and anger.
He tries to show support when he can though! Even wears a pride ally pin to work and is helping for an LGBTQ+ charity event at the school he works at.
some with me. mom unsupportive, dad supportive
My dad doesn’t fully support but he tries cause it’s the same situation for my family
One of my friends got bored in art class and was like "I'm gonna name you" so I agreed and that didn't work so I wrote down the names I picked so we agreed on Asher
Hi Asher
@@RyanCassata **Pretends that I didn't just scream when I saw that you replied**
Hey
That's exactly what happened with me - So I asked my friend who didn't know I'm trans what she thought my male name would be and since my deadname was Ashley she picked Asher and I've gone by it ever since lol
@@ericcherry4714 Yeah, I tried asking mum "What would you name me if I was a guy?" And she didn't figure out what it would be until after I came out, I think the name she chose was Maximus or something like that which would at least get people to stop calling me Asherly and Ashley which is funny because my old name is Kaylee so it's not even close.
Yea, I'm trying to come out to my parents at the moment and it's really stressful. If you have any advice I really need it I'm an emotional wreck
Song: ten years ago I cut my hair
Me, watching for the first time: well it didn’t grow much
Haha.
shanahe esmarh Omg yass
lmao
This is the definition of facepalm
@@SkunkGunk420 r/whooosh
I told my mum about this song and she said "whatever you are i will always support you" i love her so much
I got a haircut today. I'm so happy that now when I look above my shoulders I see a face that isnt an alien to me.
I'm planning on coming out but the anxiety just fills me up.
I know my dad would honestly hate me,
This song really helped
My anxiety got the best of me too and it took me weeks to come out as bi (it took me like a day to come out as trans) but i wrote a note to my parents
It took me until nearly 16 and I’ve known for around 10 years
Ha ha my dad would kick me out
I ended up coming out to most of my family over text while I was at my dad's, but I made a mistake in texting my brother because he asked my dad if I was joking, when I hadn't come out to him yet so he ended up asking me. Everyone I've come out to so far has been accepting, but I still need to tell the rest of my dad's side of the family, I haven't yet because I'm closer to them and don't want to lose them, and I don't know their views on it.
Same
still waiting for when my dad comes around about my transition
6 yearsss
yeahhhhh
victor i am rooting for u 🖤
4 years here
1 for me
You will be the victor in this situation!
Hey, I’m here for you. I transitioned (came out) at 11 (I knew for like 5 years before I came out ) but thanks fricking everything. My family was ok with it. But I know it’s not like that for everyone. It was hard for me sometimes. but do you know what helps? Talking to people that understand and have been through your situation, and know how it is exactly. So for example, I’m ftm, and one of my cousins also are. And then we started talking, then I found out that there are actually 4 trans men on that side of the family.
Sooo, I really hope your dad comes around, and I’m sure that if you really explain it and just work with him, he’ll eventually come around to except you. Best of luck. And I’m talking to everyone here who doesn’t have excepting families.
IT HIT 2 MILLION!!!!!!!!!!!
Yay!
This LITERALLY MAD ME CRY- the video is how I feel almost every day...my parents always tell me "your 14, your too young to know what you are" and it hurts me..a lot of people figure themselves out at a young age and the video and the song both explain that, I love that 😭😭💞♥️
Just remember that you are the only one who can say anything about your gender is you.
@@xoana4197 I agree with you
I am really enjoying reading everyone's stories, reactions, thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing with me.
Ryan Cassata Awesome job on this song! I need some help with coming out to my parents that I am Bisexual.I told my mum but she said "Oh you're just going through a phase" and my dad hates LGBTQ+ people. What should I do?
My parents didn’t accept me at first when I came out but I showed them this song and video and they actually started calling me by Westley and called me their son for the first time. So thank you for this it means so much ❤️
My sister is trans to will I mean my brother
@@adelinagarza7821 awww
@@adelinagarza7821
I am proud of them for coming out
Me: *cuts hair*
Parents: we don't want a lesbian daughter.
My mind: Oh it's worse. It's so much worse.
I am a Bisexual gay : )
-So you want a gay daughter?-
I'm not Normal, Not at all. That’s gonna be me😅😅
Oof. Way too fukkin real.
Same
First time coming out: March 25 2020: My parents wedding, on the trampoline with my cousin. I came out as Pansexual, my parents where okay with it but they made jokes alot.
Second time coming out: I'm not sure what the date was: Talking to my mum with a letter in my hand with what I was gonna say, tears running down my face "Mum, I'm trans, my name is Ollie" she accepted me and now I'm getting a binder in 12 days!!!!
im really proud of you, thats really manly!
@@ChewingGumIsCool okay but this made me so happy!! Kirishima is my comfort character thank you so much!!
@@ibukimioda8737 no problem have a really manly day!
Omg wow
I’m so proud of you! I came out and I’m getting my hair cut soon. I’m hoping to get a binder soon too
I felt euphoria for the first time while watching this. Im crying while smiling now and I feel so happy.
edit: I got my hair cut yesterday and im living as my true gender!
Congrats! I hope you're enjoying the haircut!
Congrats! Hows it going these days?
Anyone else get dysphoric when he says “I’ll always be your little girl”
A little, I try to put myself in the mindset that they mean their personality, ect hasn't changed and they're still there for their father to try to avoid it
Edit: I wrote this comment at like 1am ack, my grammar was bad and the message was a little unclear bc of that, fixed it tho
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@@nonchnlantx6205 he. not they.
meee
👌
I can out a year ago to my father, I lived in a very very conservative state. I lived in Kansas and when I came out to him he didn’t accept me and told me id “never” be aaron. Last month I was talking to him and he finally called me aaron and used he him pronouns. Three days ago I sent him this song and he called me crying. This song has basically made our relationship better. Thank you Ryan.
♡♡♡♡♡♡ my freaking heart
Yo thats cool but we have the same name. What was your girl name? mine was Abigail
@@LOLBu so weird.. I say this all the time :p. So many contradictions eh?
I wish I had the courage to come out. I'm an Asian and you know how that goes. My family have never really had the chance to get used to this type of stuff and my parents are super homophobic. I guess I'm just glad they don't know much English. Mom even threatened to disown me when I made a small joke about being a guy ;-;
[CRĚATOR UNFØUND] I’m sorry that sucks but one day it will get better
I’m get my binder soon ❤😁😁😁😁
My parents: *thinking they have two sons and a daughter*
My dad: *happy he has a daughter*
Me: *sits in the closet laughing maniacally*
@Prison Mike I’m honestly scared of how he’ll react at having three sons 💀 🤚🏻
Dude im in the exact same boat 💀
My father, happy to have 3 daughters:
Me: *evil cackle from closet*
My older sis: *laughs with girlfriend*
me who only came out to 6 family members and not whole: * laughs in mental Person*
i think the part that hit me the hardest was when he started showing the pictures and said "i tried and tried because i want you in my life." for reasons i kinda explained in my comment before this
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Annnnnd now I'm crying
In the closet
Like I am literally sitting in a closet listening the this song and crying
What is my life 😅
Your not alone I sit in my closet all the time because it's pretty big. I would be in my closet right now but it has been infested with spiders so hell naw!
Yeah I'm often sitting in the closet, literally sitting in my closet, also I'm not out yet, so yeah DOUBLE CLOSET
Good for you
I can't see my closet floor
You’re not alone same here
💖🏳️🌈
I'm not crying
YOU'RE CRYING
We're both crying
i vaguely remember seeing this song when I was younger and for a long time I forgot what it was called I finally found it again and it hits a lot harder than the first time I listened to it.
I’m glad you found it again
This is my mom's computer , she gave it to me, and I'm listening to this cause people bring me down everyday and now I'm even more prouder to be me! Who I really am and that is a trans boy who is pansexual and has the most amazing mother ever! I just wanted to let you know you song inspires me alot, so thank you for inspring me to always be myself no matter what! P.S In case no ones told you, you are a very handsome man.
This man will always be daddy's little girl and her cervical cancer when she is older will strike with a Vengeance
❤️❤️❤️Y'all transmasculine people are so kind and sweet, y'all make me proud to be your siblings and you make proud to be a man.
Are we just going to ignore the person with the top hat sitting at the piano and how amazing they look
No we are not.😍 Who is she (look at her earrings) and does she have a youtube channel/insta??
The first time I saw it, I immediately thought of Brendon Urie from the I Write Sins Not Tragedies music video
@@lilmacemacewheezyjr3780 oh my god i did too
I'm not I need there @
I'm not crying you are
I might be
listening to this again makes me realize how far i’ve come and i love it. thank you ryan.
Advantages of that my parents don't speak english: i can sing this and they won't know what is it about
Carla Pino awww
Same
yass
Yesssss
Plot twist: They actually speak English
I feel proud of you my guy
“I didn’t change who I am, I’ve always been a man”
This stood out to me the most, because my family says a lot of transphobic things and they misgender me all the time, even though I’m already out. I’ve been feeling dysphoric because of that and a lot of other things, so this part of the song helped a lot. Thank you, Ryan, for being here. ❤️❤️
I feel this bc my sister always says “You just want attention and your a girl” -.-
@@frogxmushroom2712 oh god…I’m so sorry you gotta deal with that, you deserve so much better :(((
@@Ace_isstressed 🥺Your so nice thanks so much
@@frogxmushroom2712 anytime!! ^^
Really beautiful song!!!
I really like his voice. Plus, the song and the tune are catchy af.
ok
Yeah
His voice will change
@@spacebeanstudios7979 I kinda of figured as much
@@mysticalblue2352 if he gets t that is
me: *has same short hair cut since 2nd grade*
my mom: “we know, you like girls!”
me: “i’m bout to end this whole woman’s career”
yes i’m still closeted i’m scared to come out 😔
I think you can do it and if they don't except you then its there loss cause you are a beautiful son
Kinda late.. but just come out if you feel like. You have time dont be scared
Milo Kowalke yeah i stopped being scared a few months later and just came out this month actually
@@garfieldpilled3637 congrats! Im proud of you 😊❤
Ryoma Hoshi how'd it go?
This song never fails to make me cry💕 reminds me of my dad, I'm so happy he accepts me
He has such a wonderful voice!!
“I didn’t change who I am, I’ve always been a man~”
“Still it changed your world, but dad I’ll always stay your little girl”
One if the precious transgender sentence I’ve ever heard 🥰
Me: **comes out at least 5 times in the last 4 years**
mom: stop doing this youre hurting me and your family
B*tch the one who's hurting someone is your mom
Stay strong and I hope it will be better
Same tho my moms like your hurting your future
I come out like 20 times in the last 2 years so I felt that
I understand my mom still hate me but oh well what can ya do
(In sing-songy voice) naaarcissism!
I’ve found my new comfort song
aww yay :) I hope you get the chance to check out some more of my music too.
@@RyanCassata I have I have and just i expected it’s amazing, ALSO UR LIKE REALLY HANDSOME MY MAN
This is my comfort song to.
Growing up my parents would joke that they wanted a son, but got me instead. Mostly due to the way I acted. I was the “tomboy”. When I came out I told them “you wanted a son, sorry I’m late.”
this is amazing
If your family isn't accepting, I'm your new family
Also, Ryan=short boi
Yay new family
Yoooo what up fam
Hi family
I have 4 new seblings and if anything ever happens to them i will kill everyone in this room and then myself
Well, guys, is it time to start begging for McDonald's yet?
Who else is listening to this while having a meltdown after their parents yelled at them for an hour because you asked them to call you the right name/pronouns
I’m listening to this while having a melt down cause my parents got mad at me for wearing “boys clothes” so I feel you
I'm not having a breakdown right now, but I have had so many. Fighting with my mum for years about wearing boys clothes, cutting my hair, etc. Always being yelled at by her.
The rest of my family all told me when I came out that they had known for a long time and were waiting for me to be comfortable enough to tell them. My mum told me I was mentally ill and metaphorically slapping her in the face.
I'm lucky because I do have other family who supports me, and I also live in my own apartment now so my mum cant stop me from transitioning. My heart goes out to all the small ones who dont have the support of their families and have to socially transition in secret, or cant at all, or who are having hormone therapy withheld, or who have been dispossessed over it. If I could take them all in, I would. Every child deserves a loving and accepting family. To all of you commenting and reading this who are afraid to come out to your families, or who have come out and weren't accepted, always know the entire trans community is with you, and you'll never be alone. One day, you WILL have the freedom to live your truest life. 💙💗🤍💗💙
I'm in war with my Aunt who tells me to ignore the Dysphoria and "deal with it" . And she's a counselor to Highschool students. . They get more understanding then I do. She just thinks I'm doing this as sort sort of coping mechanism for childhood trauma. Dude, I've been battling this shit for years, and I'm 19 but obviously lost. It gets better, and you guys always have someone who supports you.
And I'm still going to go on fucking hormones on my own money and shit. And I'm not "leeching " off of her, so it should be no problem. Once I can support myself, I'm disappearing.
Elladrawn your a true one i support you💖
... how'd you know???
Fantastic Song!
Thanks!
Ever since I heard this song it gave me the power to come out to my parents
"But dad I'll always stay your little girl"
Ugh that hit me real hard cause my dad is transphobic ow
I hope that your dad comes around soon. Sometimes, with parents, it can take a while. Don't lose hope tho. Keep fighting for yourself in a positive way. Keep expressing yourself as you are. I hope it happens soon for you.
Aww thank you ^^ normally don't get that nice of a reply. Awesome song btw, it's my new fave
I just went to a queer youth group and I came out to my school counselor and I'm way happier now cause she calls me my preferred name ❤️
Galaxy Arts same
I feel. I came out as Genderfluid and my dad told me I would always be his daughter with no exceptions :/
Hey Ryan! I am transgender ftm but my parents don’t support me, they say it’s a mental illness but I’m staying strong by watching your videos, when I’m suicidal I watch ur videos because I feel secured, I love this song so much, it relates to me a lot! I wish my parents see this but they will probably hate me so much when I show this to them, this is my favourite song now😁
I’m glad you’re staying strong. I know it’s hard sometimes. I hope you’re not self harming! Feel free to message me :)
Don't worry, there's a place out there for everyone! Just find a circle where you feel comfortable being who you truly are. I'm not part of the LGBTQ+ community, but I support the diversity and just LOVE pride month!! If you need anything send me a message, I've had deppression for over a year now, so I can relate to the suicidal thoughts, just remember everytime you feel down that you are VERY strong and you will overcome those bad thoughts and live on your life as a proud transgender. Lots of love to you, and to anyone who feel related to Michelle:YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS!
My parents still hate me for coming out as ftm
Khaela Conda I am trying to be strong, dysphoric, going through female puberty in a transphobic household and girl school. It’s just too much to bare
I'm a trans male, I always have been. My father had passed away when I was 8, but I know that he would love and accept who I am today. And I love this song, I feel like it can kinda relate to me, and I wish I could say it to him. "Dad I will always be your little girl"
HIS VOICEEE😭❤❤❤
I don't understand the mindset some parents have that they "lose their child" when they transition. Like just because I changed my name and go by different pronouns doesn't mean you get to act like I died. Geez.
Tbh, it's more like getting your child back bc they are more comfortable with their self and how they present themself, ofc body dysphoria and stuff are still gonna be there but I'm starting to socially transition at school and it makes me feel so happy and like myself
@@nonchnlantx6205 I get that entirely. I haven't been able to medically transition yet for a few important reasons but socially transitioning literally saved my life.
@Grace-Lynn Thode sometimes moms need a minute to grieve the vision they had for the daughter they thought they would raise. It's called disenfranchised grief and they can work through it with help and then be ready to be that supportive mom you want and need.
As a mother I see what parents are saying cuz I was raised by my grandmother I told her I was bisexual when I was 15 and her reaction was I didn't raise you to be with woman I raised you to get married to a man and reproduce when your race went old school person they don't have to remind friends to get out of their time the good old days so you have to use them into it my grandmother didn't talk to me for a whole year but I never got mad I'm ever yell scream I'll just like she'll see my way and she'll see this I'll just a phase and also they've been calling you a she or he for most of your life now they just have to change what they set their mind to because you decide to change your yourself they don't like that but that's not the real reason the real reason they don't want you to be something you're not it's because they're afraid you don't know how much parents worry about what can happen to you or what's going on with you why are you acting this way like I'm parent every time for my son does something I think of the repercussions or what can happen God thank you nothing ever happened but still as a parent you're trying to think what is the worst thing that can happen first I have one boy and two girls so I have a lot of worrying
I agree with this comment so much. I’m not allowed to use the word “deadname” because, quote from my mother, “it feels like my daughter is dead.” It hurt so much when she said that. I’m still me, just happier
My dad called me his son for the first time yesterday. He's known i was trans for 4 years. He used to hate it. Now he just loves me as his kid:)
I wish my parents would do it.....this comment gave me hope though, thanks 💕
@@dogaholicyoutube8758 just give them time. I know its hard, but hopefully with time they'll come 'round
God...if i came out as AFAB nonbianary and told them i wanted to go on puberty blockers-....theyd hate me....(im not ftm but i really bad dysforioa regarding all my female features)
I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOUU
Since I told my mother, she keeps telling me that I'm lying to my friends..
Friends know I'm transgender, so I fele free to use he/him and be myself, but mother doesn't want to take it so she's acting like she wants me to kick on the bottom of me and she thinks she can change any shit with that and gets me "normal" again ;-;
i still listen to this song crying cause my dad will never accept me i didn't even tell him yet and im gender-fluid might be trans and go by orion and im happier then i was while ago and im still alive and this song s one of the reasons so thank you ryan
I can't stop crying. This was such a beautiful song and video.
10 years ago I cut my hair
And I changed my name as people stared
And I went on TV and I so did declare
That this is who I am, for anyone that cares
I didn’t change who I am
I’ve always been a man
Still, it changed your world
But dad, I’ll always stay your little girl
10 years ago, I know you had a hard time
And I tried and tried, cause I want you in my life
I’m just living true, no doubt in my mind
And these changes they take time you’ll find
I didn’t change who I am
I’ve always been a man
Still, it changed your world
But dad, I’ll always stay your little girl
I know that you accept me as your son
But that Doesn’t mean your daughter ever did a run
I’ll always be close to you, no matter what
I love you and no doors are ever shut
I didn’t change who I am
I’ve always been a man
Still, it changed your world
But dad, I’ll always stay your little girl
I didn’t change who I am,
I’ve always been a man
Still, it changed your world
But dad, I’ll always stay your little girl
But dad, I’ll always stay your little girl
Noah Marie thank u for the lyrics! I’ve been looking for it!
The lyrics are up on Genius too!
Noah Marie thanks :) 💘💘
THANK YOU
Thank you !!!
I realized in the beginning
Ryan - Blue
Cassata - white
Daugther - pink
*colours from the trans flag*
Can't forget the yellow cum #yellowcummatters
wow. I’m an idiot-
@@browngundam2170 .....I have no Idea how to respond to that.....
I do believe there are two pansexuals in this thread - HI
@@heydiddlediddlegal9001 3😉
I sent this video to my dad as I was scared to come out but he accepted me and helped me communicate to my mom. He also helped me find a name instead of my given one. Im si thankful for my parents going on this crazy journey with me. Stay safe everyone!
awwww I love hearing stories like this!! congrats on coming out!
@@RyanCassatathank you! Also they name Ryan suits you so well.
The line 'But dad, I'll always stay your little girl' hit me hard in the feels
I'm non-binary, ad my dad passed away when I was young, before I even knew who I was yet
what parents don't get is that if their kid transitions they still are the same person. Love and support your kids. They really need it.
Your UA-cam Blogs saved my life and now your music is inspiring me
to tell you a cried would be an understatement
thank you for this.
Same
sameee 💜
Me: **cuts my hair so short it's basically a buzz cut**
Dad: You better not be a lesbian!
Me: Ummmmm..... (androgynous pan silence)
technically no
No but actually yes
That's a whole mood
I wanna cut my hair short my dad asked if I wanted to be male I’m just a tomboy XD save meee
cringe
I started crying Ahhhh. I love this song so much. I remember my dad was the last one in my family to start using he/him pronouns. He started using them about a year ago, I came out when I was 9, I'm 15 now. I love this song so much. It's my new favorite song.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience/story with me. I'm glad that you're dad calls you the right pronouns now. It's really cool that you came out so young! When did you start watching UA-cam videos of other trans people?
Ryan Cassata Well when I came out, I was immediately brought into the lgbtq community, so I started watching stories of people starting T and their transition at around 10 or so. But me being out at a young age actually got me bullied. I used to live a small town when I was a kid and I got harassed and beat up for it. I had to move, and even then I had to go to court cause someone assaulted me when I was 12 for being trans. The bullying actually never stopped. A couple weeks ago I transferred out of my highschool cause I've been getting bullied so much. I guess you just gotta keep your head up though. I actually write songs and play the ukulele and a bit of the guitar. And hopefully one day I can share my story, and create songs like these to help people who are going through rough spots, because I know this song helps me a lot, cause it's so relatable.
lucky, I'm 15, and I still haven't come out to my family. Im too scared.
Yvonne Heuberger why are you scared?
im 11 and i don't know if i'm too young to start my transition
we are about to hit 3 million streams on Spotify!
I was forced to come out as trans to my parents because the school was going to call my parents about changing my name to Luca and pronouns to He/Him. I started crying because I was scared and I watched my dad cry in front of me. He dropped his head and started shaking it, not saying a word. That made me cry even more. Even though 3 years have past since that, and both my parents say they are accepting, they always want me to keep my long hair and to stop thinking about surgery or anything like that. It’s hard and while I still love them very much, I can’t wait until I can leave and be myself. I wish everyone the best experience with their journey, stay safe everyone ❤
I was listening to this really loud and i couldnt hear anyhting else and my mom walked in my room
And this is how I accidentally came out to my mom
Noah omg, would you please share your story?? I’m having a really hard time coming out as NonBinary, so just hearing how others have came out (bisexual, trans, etc.) would be appreciated!
That's sort of awesome something similar happened to make me come out as ace dimiomniromantic mom saw I was looking at aven (asexuality.com) and asked about it then it all poored out of me
Noah that is beautiful.
Noah I love your profile pic.
damn it, i wish my parents would talk english and just understand what they say in those songs!!
Stop making me cry!!!!!
I’m bigender, and my parents refuse to acknowledge it. At least I have it easier than my twin, who they still call she/her even after they’ve begged to be called they/them. I feel so awful for Niko. They deserve so much better.
I hope you're both happy and i wish the best of luck to both of you
spirit yaz Thank you! I wish you the best as well! :)
I thought that I was bigender before I figured out I was trans, my own twin is cis. I hope you're both doing well, I'm proud of how brave you both are for coming out; I've never been brave enough for that
I’m still here listening to this, it’s so comforting knowing your not alone through this. Thank you. I don’t know how I’ll come out to my dad but I’ll try one day.
I came out to all my teachers and friends as a trans man, luckily they all supported me but when I told my parents they only acted like they cared because our family therapist was there. Now they only use the name and pronouns I prefer to go by when making fun of me and joking around with me. Thanks to them my new friends know my birth name and I wasn’t the one who told them. I’m planning to come out to the rest of my family this summer so I’ll update this once I do that.
By the way always remember you are valid, you are loved, and you are cared about even if you don’t think that’s true.
Hey, have you did it?
I'm not trans, I'm a Pansexual Woman, but anyways, I want you to know that you are not alone.
Yeah, your family may be transphobic or/and homofobic...and that may suck.... But you should never think you are less than someone, you are as equally valid.
You'll see things will be getting better year by year!
As the first ones that fighted for our rights, some thought things will never change, but decades later, here we are, things are changing.
Keep having hope! And always love yourself, that is one of the most important things 💖