The Best Line to Use When Asking a Girl Out and the #1 Mistake Guys w Approach Anxiety Make
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- Опубліковано 19 вер 2024
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Use this line to make a woman feel that there is more to her than her external appearance...that you are attracted to something indescribable and transcendent about her very being....this is what women long to hear and long to find: a man who is compelled to talk to them by something he can't even understand in himself....something deep and primal about a woman's unique essence.
The line is: Hey, I know this sounds totally out of the blue, but *I just had to ask*: can I have your number?
#1 Mistake guys make when trying to ask girls out: talking to her and waiting for a green light to ask her out. At the end of your brief conversation (the line can be used without conversation either but a little conversation will go a long way) ask NO MATTER WHAT. The line I supplied above is not offensive, not disrespectful, not creepy, etc...
Always remember when you are rejected, never get upset and lash out. Just say, I totally understand....and keep asking other women out. BILLIONS of women in the sea. It is "low value" to get stuck on one, even if she was absolutely amazing. Sadly.
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"Hello.. my name is George. I'm unemployed and I live with my parents" 😏
Don't be so negative , " women like meeting mama".
"Hello, my name is George and I'm a 70 year old virgin!" LMAO 🤪
woooooosh it's a line from Seinfeld
Yes, it was a line of truth and it worked for George.
I'm victoria, hi
This young and beautiful woman is telling us what no woman could talk about. Lets have a round of applause for expressing her thoughts and inner voice into words. Having said that, I don't believe in a line. Whatever comes out of my mouth is The Line.
@@mynonleatherlife Being myself was always the problem.
@@fredneecher1746 Same here.
@@fredneecher1746 but are you really being yourself? It’s hard work to break social conditioning I fall back into it constantly. But when I’m authentic the energy is different
@@alexanderstevens145 yes this
Great comment.
Guys aren'treally looking for the green light... They are looking to avoid landmines that could destroy them.
This
The biggest response to this is putting yourself out there to get use to rejection. On average, even confident handsome men have a small percentage of success with women. It has and will always be a numbers game for men. I can see how self-defeating this may be for those less confident in their own presence and decorum. It won't improve by wallowing. Self-improve, put yourself out there like everyone else. The universe doesn't owe sympathy.
But remember women cant handle rejection.
@@petroglyph79 Saying that only means you felt the need to when there's really no reason. It's a natural double-standard, because they're normally not in the position to chase men.
+Kantean Nightmare In this day and age of this toxic SJW / cancel culture environment its the Gods honest truth what you just said.
What I've noticed in my experiences with women is it's often less about what you do and more about how you do it. This line's framing versus the generic "Can I have your number" is a great example. Executing this perspective comes down to mindset. It's why people talk about confidence so much. The kind of confidence that's attractive to women can't be faked. It's exuded in every little micro-gesture your brain doesn't even consciously register doing or seeing in someone else. Sure you can sit in a straight up but relaxed position to look confident, but if you're at base unconfident, there'll be something about the way you sit that gives you away, even if the "macro-gesture" is identical to being genuinely confident. All I can say is own who you are. Bad boys are attractive because they absolutely own it and do not apologize for being masculine or for their bad behavior. If you're the opposite as a kind, nice, upstanding dude, own it. Be confident in your kindness. Be confident that if someone were to take advantage of your kindness you cam handle the situation. Building up this confidence comes from putting yourself in challenging situations, outside your comfort zone, and coming out of them okay. You realize: "Hell yeah I can do things. I'll handle anything as it comes to me." Once you've done this in genuinely difficult parts of life, talking to, hitting on, flirting with women will be easy. It might feel a little awkward the first few times even after you've built confidence in other areas of your life, but once you internalize your own value as a person and recognize your own strength, you'll recognize there's no reason to be nervous, shy, or awkward about anything with a woman you're not married to or engaged to be married to. And if you're nervous, shy, or awkward with your fiancée or spouse, then there's some serious problem you need to resolve.
great advice 👍
That's the exactly same experience that i got with women
Really great advice 👏
Being kind, nice or honest is never gonna get u girls (unless ur already incredibly good looking, tall, and her perfect type). Most guys are trained to be nice guys by society, parents, teachers and it really messes them up when they see that girls are repulsed by them and they get nothing for being nice.
I needed this, bro
@@MarBarkins Are you god? That's like GOD HAS SPOKEN! Man love you so much!!
Best tip I ever learned is that to increase your success rate, you have to increase your failure rate. This applies to everything, but especially asking girls out. In truth, if you're not overly creepy and just get on with it, 90% of girls are thrilled to be asked and you win even if they say no.
"If you're not overly creepy." Ah, there's my problem.
@@fredneecher1746 If you are a Chad, nothing creepy is creepy.
agreed, but I'm just a coward and can't take rejection 😁💋
Barz, Some ppl get it.
rejection sucks.
When you have to do 99% of the work yeah it can be tough.
If you're doing 99% for more than 10 minutes, it's time to walk away.
what should the percentage be vicotria 70-30, 80-20 guys?
It's not work. Be good flirty energy when you interact with everyone and then notice who vibes with you. Sometimes just walking and talking in your deep masculine energy and aura will set women off and you can notice reactions as you walk in. Those will be receptive. It can be overwhelming when many women are reacting to you all at once and you see it.
It's tough if you're lazy.
@@Zigzagzolar I know what you mean. The "many women reacting" has happened, and it can be a bit much. Was at Trader Joe's today. Before I even got out of my car, I felt surrounded by MILFs. As I was on my phone, I made a point of trying to make eye contact with, and smile at, as many as I could. It was quite a little mind trip. When I entered the store, it was also MILF City; however, it was too crowded and busy to bust any moves, and my cojones ascended into my abdomen.
I've found that line has many great variations, according to the specific circumstance, and have used it many times with great success. One time, I met a girl in a bookstore...I opened by mentioning something about the book she was reading, and we got in a great discussion for a few minutes. Finally, as we were about to break off....let me stress, this part is deliberate, because now for a split second she's thinking "omg, I'm never going to see him again!"...I said "nice to meet you!" and turned as if to go away, and then at the last second, I turned and said "Hey, I really enjoyed our conversation and I really want to do it again...what's your number?" She practically shot her number at me! On our first of several dates, she mentioned the incident and said "That was realllly smooth...this is obviously not your first rodeo!" and then I took her home. Part of the takeaway is, guys.....she WANTS you to ask for the number! Do it!!
Nice example and just proves what she said in several of her other videos. Women will almost never ask you out and she will also just let you walk away even if she so desperately wants to give her number to you
@@KpxUrz5745 hahaha your beliefs read like a Steven King horror story.
RESPONSIBILITY. We must be responsible for getting our needs met, all our needs.
I saw this cute video recently of a younger bird opening it’s mouth, chasing a bug, but it would never close its mouth to eat the bug… it was funny, pathetic and sad at the same time…
If you were a bird, I think you would be this bird. I know sometimes… I am that bird, but I do believe all the time you are that bird, hahahaha.
To ask is to receive.
To knock is to have the door opened. To seek, is to find.
If your too silly 🙃and goofy 🤪 to not make date requests, then you don’t need to date, basically🦉.
Yes, I will not be responding, and no, your rejection fear isn’t anything special, every body has it, but yours maybe at phobia levels, or your narcissist who’s pissed the world doesn’t bow to your weaknesses.
Cheers ❤️🔥
@@KpxUrz5745 who gives a fuck. Just ask anyway. I'd prefer get rejected immediately than regret not asking.
@@KpxUrz5745 holy shit you're negative man. If you're so afraid of rejection just say so. The entire point is that you don't look like a hurt puppy dog begging for a scrap of food. You ask with confidence. Your whole comment is projection.
So what's the alternative? Stand around and wait for a woman to ask for your number instead? Good luck. It's the man's job in our society to ask a woman out. We can debate ad nauseum whether that's fair, but it's the way it is. Accept it and move on. Rejection is better than regret.
Over the decades my most successful line has been "I want to learn what is unique about you." Very effective.
If you were a REAL man, you would ask her if you could see if her pssy smells diff than your last girlfriend!
Using this
I’m using this too lol
That's the way attraction works! At first as human, we are attracted to something physically about each other and only then we can move beyond that point and look deeper into that person.
That line makes a lot of sense. Whether you’re a woman or a man, we’re all individuals trying to be normal, to be acceptable, to be validated.
👍
Are you thinking about restarting your rejection group?
I sure wish I was 16 again and could watch this! My life would be completely different! 🤩 This is great stuff!
Asked for her for phone number after telling her I find her attractive. She said maybe later. Rejected, I know, but I’m still keeping my head up high for at least attempting
awesome!! so great you had the courage to go for it...so many guys don't
@@mynonleatherlife thank you! Even though it was a rejection, I was happy that I went for it. Building confidence slowly but surely
Get a stripper that looks better than her and get attention from her rather...the HOPE STRATEGY ain't living bro....🤣🤣
@@CashCowz962 savage 😂
@@bigplb2133 dont die waiting for her to COME AROUND...someone is tapping it right now....as we sit here on yootoobe... 🤣🤣
i would add: nice guys are scared to be jerk so they extra careful and avoid making the move
jerk just dont care so they will go foward even if they just care about themselve and see the girl as a object
so my advice to all the nice guys out there: be couragous and ask her
be bold!
and you may actually prevent that nice girl falling for the next jerk after you that will most likely broke her
(i have way to many female friends that have PTSD because they fall for the bad guy)
Underated comment
I actually used the line on a girl at school and it worked holy shit.
Good job Doc
I just straight up ask. I’m a salesmen so I’m used to rejection and the women are the same as my customers so I don’t ever take it personal when they say no to me.
This girl is an angel...so wise and sweet. Everything she says makes sense...now I'm gotta continue watching all her vids..lol
Yes your line works and yes men look at body and looks, but really what men seeks is personality companionship and respect
Go with your gut. If you have to consider whether or not to approach her and second guess it, then don’t. Just remember: if she says “yes” after this, then you’ve got to spend an extended amount of time with a girl u had to think about to begin with.
Yeah man...rejection is a major thing for guys...sadly I have seen a guy ask for a dance on the dance floor...and get rejected by a girl...and then I seen this other guy just jump in and grab the girls butt and start rough dancing with her and she dances with him for a long while and then the first guy she rejected came by again and this time she danced with him..but really wouldn't even let him grind on her booty...😂😂..women..this is what males go through in life yall...but looking at the 2 guys..they both look similar....and then layer that night...she dances sexually with like 7 guys....its was crushing to watch....but at my age now..I can see what's happening...she will go looking for that I guess gentleman (to marry her) after she has the kids of these rough housing guys...😂😂
Frankly for me rejection is so painful...I really only meet women via social connections and interactions...its a warm approach...and it's less heartbreaking....I rather put my energy in work..fitness...and finances...😂😂...just info for the ladies...the rejections plus the scary me2 news items simply take the whole game out of men..we have to be safe and live a safe life
@@CashCowz962 Truth here. Usually a high bar and the obstacles u point out. Thanks for the reply.
Yeah bro..I only do warm approaches these days...girls I know through friends etc..orgamizations etc....also I like to observe a woman for a while before I try to date her...no more cold approaches for me....as I become more of a high value man..I realize I can loose it all (wealth..life...future) playing silly games with strangers who are women ......reality bro
@@CashCowz962 strange enough...rejection doesn't hurt me one bit. It just makes me cringe lol.
So if I can brush it off, then you can too.
Obviously, you need to learn this.
One way, is go and get rejected on purpose and tell yourself its really not that big of a deal. Change your mindset about it.
Accept that most girls will reject you and that it's ok while u do this.
Do it until you truly are no longer bothered by it.
But yeah "me too" 😬
"You seem thin enough so I had to ask you for your number" LOL
In another video, Victoria mentioned that women crave a guy to be honest with her. By honest, she gave the example of not telling the woman is “beautiful” but rather telling her that he wants to “push her on the bed” (or something like that, I don’t remember the details). This video reminds me a bit of that scenario because Victoria is saying to ask for the number despite getting the green light and to not make an excuse for asking. I think there is one thing that might be missing here that could be helpful, which is a line to help ease the initial approach. Using the principle of honesty, I was very successful with the line “Hi, I liked you and wanted to meet you.” It always took me a lot of courage because I never totally shook my anxiety but it worked 99% of the time. Proceed after this line to chat for a short time, and then Victoria’s phone number line would fit well here.
This presents an honest, authentic flow that doesn’t leave the guy creating an awkward, drawn out situation trying to extract a green light that she may never explicitly reveal, even if she likes him.
Thank you, Victoria, for such great videos.
I thought im the only one doing this. I say this "Hey i know this is totally random/out of the blue but i just saw you and just had to talk to you/ and would hate myself if i didnt talk to you".
The reason this works is because:
- You declare your intentions and take away her fear of you. Girls are scared of men. When a stranger talks to her about random things she'll be thinking "who the fuck is this and what does he want from me?". When you explain why you approached her, that confusion is gone and she knows you dont want to steal her purse.
- Its a big compliment and immediately creats a positive feeling for her, instead of feeling uncomfortable and scared. It makes the whole experience a positive one which makes it easier for both you and the girl.
Bonus effect: Even if she rejects you, she will 100% be flustered by it and you probably made her day due to your approach. It is easier to approach girls when you know you make them feel good and not bad.
By the way this only applies when you are not repulsive to look at. If you are, she'll be insulted by your approach. This sucks but you cant do anything about the fact that women are hypergamous by nature
One of my old girlfriends who was quite a stunner told me that when guys asked her for her number she would give them the number to the local fire department.
She thought she was that hot,huh?
@@kevinscott59 No, she didn't think she was hot .... she knew she was !! We were a couple 3 fun years. No regrets.
@@kevinscott59 10
@@kevinscott59 Why make a comment on her attitude ? Did you get the number for the Fire House from some babe and it brings up a bad memory ??
999? (In the UK)
It's about being authentic. Practice being authentic until you are comfortable and confident being authentic.
Can you tell me more about it?
I agred...being flirty and complimenting woman's appearance will turn her on but to get her to go out with you there needs to be a sign of genuinely being interested in getting to know her better.
I agree 💯
@@mynonleatherlife I respect you as a person because you don't have a mean bone in your body. That said, I disagree. When I was in my 20s, I was way too scared to talk like that. Plus, it will get tons of accusations of "sexual harassment" headed my way. Again, you're a neat lady. Too bad we can't clone you.
The way u move, the way u smile the way u are angry the way u welcome
I like the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you carry yourself about
It is like that line in "As Good As It Gets". "Your greatest asset is your ability to humiliate yourself." And the more embarrassed you are, the better it works.
I think your video just removing my social anxiety to talk to women
Plus giving me a better understanding of women perspective how they want it and clearing the real confusion of me .
Your channel must be at the topest of youtube channel so nicely explained.
I just love the way you think and express the way you feels about something honestly
Anupam thank you so much...makes me so happy that you are getting rid of some of that social anxiety when it comes to talking to women. Wish u could have joined my old social anxiety club
Let me make it a whole lot easier.. Be soothing and Lock eye contact.. Do not look down.. And if she rejects you just be cool and after that every time you see her do small talk, joke.. Say something nice about her.. The key is confidence..
Are you saying you can try again after a first rejection?
I'm happily married for 15 plus years and sooo in love with my wife just fyi, but I find your channel amazing nonetheless. fascinating information from a real perspective. Reminds me of being single, yet still gives me confidence with my wonderful wife to this day. Your work is much appreciated!
done this a couple times out of honesty and its always taken well. shows empathy
right before she gives you the number, she's like .."wait! did you get that line from a youtube video??"
"Yes, I did", "did watch the video, where you suppose to say yes."
@@gwillis9797 😂😂
Victoria: its uncanny, how spot-on you always are.
This is what all men need ! An honest info on what women wanted to hear in dating. Thank you.. gonna your channel to men like me in our group.
The line is good I think. The point is the intent of it, which is to be an icebreaker and to get the question out and to short circuit all of the avoidance for the guy who is too chicken to find a reason to ask when the point is to just ask anyway and not be nervous and ponderous. I like the qualifier "this might seem out of the blue but ..." it gives the guy a dignified out if the answer is a negative, he hasn't come on too strong, its just casual.
When you have met enough entitled woman, dated a few and gone through hell... you stop bothering and life becomes fun and free 😏😬
I'll give it a shot!
I was 17 doing US Navy basic training in San Diego. Took the bus to go to the beach and sat across the most beautiful girl I had ever seen. Just when I got the courage to say something...... The bus stops, she gets out, then looks up at me and shrugs her shoulders as if to say: " You missed your chance Dummy " I'll never forget it.
waiting for ur move...
The thinking is the killer part. Not easy but gets better with practice. As soon as you hear the voice that says, "do it," and before you hear the voice saying, "here's what can go wrong," quit thinking and DO IT. If it makes it easier, remind yourself this isn't about her, but about you challenging your fears. There'll always be a woman somewhere, somehow that'll trip your trigger. Make it about your growth. Their reaction is out of your control.
@@broadcasttttabledude this is the most beautiful and helpful comment i’ve ever read. tysm seriously i love you❤
@@404NotFoundIDontCare Before I ask you to marry me, and we discuss names for our future kids, what does "tysm" mean?...lol!
@@broadcasttttable thank you so much
Victoria, every guy that watches your videos should send you at least one hundred dollars. You have done more for men than all the dating gurus combined. You build so much confidence for men by telling them exactly what to do and say, and it's coming from a very pretty, intelligent woman. It can't get any better than that. I keep telling asking myself, where were you at twenty years ago. Then I realize that there was no UA-cam back then or videos to watch on picking up women....Smile Thank you again for your wonderful wisdom and for teaching us men the art of seduction.
Wayne I am really deeply touched, thank u. I always felt I was doing this for my boyfriends (or at least the ones I had when I was a bit older) and I always felt deep down so proud I had helped them embrace and free their masculinity a little bit and now I kind of have the chance to do it on a larger scale. I hope that doesn't sound too self absorbed but it honestly means a lot to hear u say that. I greatly appreciate your words and comment.
@@mynonleatherlife yea when i get rich ima come back here and bless you bc women like you rare lol.
VERY interesting! Love your vids, unscripted, honest, and a true insight into the female psyche. You are helping a LOT of men out there. Fantastic work!! 👍🏻👍🏻
thank you very much!!
I see your subscribers growing daily and I honestly am confused why u don't have a million subscribers already, your amazing.
Ur amazing, thank u
dont ask for the number tell her to give it to you....hold out the phone, say "give me your number" and then shut your mouth.
This works. Once I was riding the subway, talking to a friend. Across from me was an attractive woman who I made eye contact with. At one point, I simply handed her a pen and a piece of paper. She wrote her name and phone number on it and handed it back to me. I smiled and nodded a silent thank you, and went about my conversation with my friend (who, BTW, was dumbfounded and shocked into silence).
@@DawoudKringle good work!
@@DawoudKringle I done this once. Called her. Set a date. Got to the date. It was not her, it was a big fat nasty whose number I was given instead.
@@richnoggin7524 happens to the best of us bro. Keep yo head up
@@richnoggin7524 That suck! My condolences. Well, that's the risk we take. But maybe the real point is to be courageous enough to actually seize the opportunity in the first place.
I have never asked a woman out in my life. They have all approached me. Learn to enjoy hard work and women will follow. If you got a desk job then flex you money, if you got a labor job then flex your arms. It's not complicated.
I'm 46, been a hygiene technician for 20 years, worked very hard.. Never got approached. The above strategy doesn't work. Go approach girls!
Quite patronizing to assume a labour job will only let a man flex his arms. A lot of them are very well paid, especially careers like plumbing.
Exactly how much axe body spray should I use before approaching a woman to ask her out?
Hahhaaa🤣
Half can, full can if you didn’t shower.
@@alexgallegos931 Thank you!!! That’s actually helpful.
@@BetaBuxDelux no trouble I was in middle school at one point too!
@@alexgallegos931 Oh, I’m not in middle school. I’m 45 and my nephews said the ladies can’t resist this stuff. I’m trying to keep my game fresh. ;)
It (the line) does cover all of basics; get her attention, make her feel special while getting to the point. 👍
Bravo! You hit the nail on the head. She wants to know she's THAT! kind of unique and special.
So true
Man... you're a genius. i've been picking up this stuff myself recently and i randomly came across you and have connected a ton with what you're saying. thank you. hopefully you can put an end to all these terrible dating coaches lol
This channels a gift to Men and Women.
So useful 👌
thank you so much Alexander!! I really appreciate that very much!!
There are no lines or one line. Just talk to them and be interested in what they say. Talk to them like you’ve known them for years.
You’re right. Best is to do it the way u described
Bingo
I once knew this guy who had really low self-esteem and NEVER had dates. I asked him what the problem was. He said he'd never date a woman whose standards were so low that she'd go out with a guy like him.
heavy shit man.
If he doesn't value himself he shouldn't expect anyone else to value him. That's his first mistake.
Jesus christ 😂 that's rough.
Holy shit! Lol
@@kolajoabiola2790 I actually made that up (or maybe I stole it from Rodney Dangerfield) :O)
"This might sound strange and out of the blue, but can I have the coordinates to your 32k weapon dupe stash?"
This makes total sense to me. I also heard you can say, hey you look interesting to me. Then proceed with the I had to ask for your number. Thank you!
Miss, you are a genius.
I aspire to one day understand the fine people of your gender as much as you clearly understand ours
Unless a woman is really hot to me(subjective), I will cold approach. I don’t understand why these guys aren’t getting laid. Women send signals if they are interested all the time. The trick is not to let them know that you’ve seen them signaling you. Because when they go into signal acting by standing next to you, you can play it off like you’ve never seen them signaling earlier lol and give her your name and number. I’ve gotten to know a few women this way. I think you are absolutely right about women not wanting to be obvious about signaling men. When you catch a woman googling eyes during her signaling, most times you will have to cold approach because she will avoid you like the plague because she does not want to come off as easy.. Again good video
The best line for me is, “as fine as you are, you ain’t got no man?’ Works every time because it compliments and asks a declarative statement.
Don't focus on pick up lines. Just be yourself and say how you feel. Throwing a joke in there doesn't hurt either. Just be open, honest, sincere, and funny. A little compliment goes a long way.
Btw.... your cute 😏👍
I appreciate a woman who isn’t afraid to make the first move.
Nowadays, some people ask directly for sex, like asking out for lunch, and it works for them. For some, it has to be really subtle and takes years.
In some settings and with fast women you can tell her I'm taking you home with me. And they agree.
My "line" with my wife wasn't so much a line as a look; we were nerding out together and some rando asked a dumb question, and we shared this intimate "how should we address this?" kind of glance.
Someone else here said guys aren't looking for green lights but for avoiding landmines. It's generally true, but also a loser mindset, which is maybe why guys generally fail at opening ladies. Confidence = king, and avoiding landmines is fear-thinking.
It's a losing mindset and at the same time, while rejection isn't a landmine, legal consequences are. That kind of consequence scares me, hence why I very rarely compliment women directly.
Though I do remember one time I heard a woman's name mentioned on the intercom of my local CVS, and I was in one isle and she was in the next. I didn't know it, but chanced it and said "Mary is one fucking beautiful young lady" and SECONDS LATER, she says "hi, Marky Mark!".
I've done this, and it works.
Thank you for your youtube channel! You are performing a valuable public service.
Awesome Dawoud, did u use the same line?
@@mynonleatherlife One variation I used was "I'm going to risk making a fool of myself, but Would you give me your number?"
Another variation I used: "If I didn't take a chance say hi to you, I'd never have the opportunity again."
Is so sad that people have reached the stage that to lack as much confidence as needed to pair (or feel they can be suited for any match or confidently partner up with another)- .. that instructions (and thank you for your help (if any of those who need find it useful)-...).. are required -(I'm all good though thanks 😁😇🥰 but well done for sharing and being confident about opening up for those with such difficulties as well 🤓
MAKES A LOT OF SENSE WHAT U SAY. GUYS PLEASE LIKE A GIRL FOR MORE THAN THERE BODY/FACE...YOU WILL BE HAPPY YOU DID.
I love it, thank u
@@mynonleatherlife your welcome!
I think you are wonderful, Victoria. It is a lucky guy who has you in their life. ❤❤❤😊
thanks zlinky
u changing my life, not just with women. cant thank you enough
oh wow that is amazing!! happy for u. was it anything in particular from the vids ?
@@mynonleatherlife instead of the teaching the "how" to be confidence, u teach the "why" of confidence. I think thats what makes ur vids so helpful and amazing. its like how most workout vids teach u what workouts to do to grow certain muscle, but the videos that explain the "why" the workout works really sets the difference.
that is absolutely incredible, thank u for telling me that. I am thrilled because that is exactly my greatest hope on my channel is that people will understand that why. Personally I am obsessed with why and until I understand why I cannot function lol well basically I end up not being able to go through with any actions or implement any directions or advice unless it makes sense to me so I love that ur getting some why from me. I also feel like most guys giving advice to guys don't really get the why even when they get the how or what. Like often they will give good advice imo but attribute it to some outlandish and often negative reason that I don't think girls experience whatsoever. And some of these guys do incredibly well with women but still don't seem to understand why. and I just have to laugh when they say things like chicks love to be dominated i know it's weird but just accept it and do it. for example. So thanks and u have really inspired me to explain some more.
@@mynonleatherlife have you thought about writing a book. all these information, I'm getting feel like it can be published and not only help you financially but help you with making more people understand why. But I also feel like if almost all men understood these "whys" it would be unfair to the less attractive men with their height or their looks. idk
*sigh* sure, I'll give it a try. Might as well. Who knows what'll happen.
Very wise words. Thank you
The line was working really well for me ... until my wife asked what I was going to do with all those numbers.
Lol
That’s funny!
They choose us. Always has been that way...
Only because there have always been weak men in the majority
@@j3ffn4v4rr0 Only because men have to walk a fine line so that they're not stigmatized as creeps and pervs by a society where big sections of it see men as automatically guilty if accused of some impropriety by a woman.
A green light is simply eye contact a smile and a smile back .....
External is the only thing that either attracts You to a stranger or not.
You are amazing, thank you for this info ❤️
Thanks CO talks, I hope it helps
What's the worst she can say? No?
You'd be surprised by how many say yes.
It's worth the effort.
Valuable advice that make senes. Thanks.
Awesome, I am glad u thought it was valuable. that is my goal to give value
@@mynonleatherlife you sure are doing just that.
6:48 What you just described right here is what most guys "feel", when they get rejected by the "hot" girl. Guys feel it before the date(that never happened) Women feel it after the date (pump and dump)
For me it is complimenting her out of the blue in a witty, playful and non-aggressive way.
This is great advice. I just passed up an opportunity today to ask for a number after a little flirtation in the apartment lobby. I've gotten way to used to being comfortable and afraid to get out of my comfort zone.
Another golden nugget.... thank you Victoria. 👍👍
That was good to hear from a woman’s perspective, that really sounds like a good way for a guy to put it. Thank you for that information!l
The more she interests you, the deeper you're going to fall if she says no.
Yeah, that's why you just pretend to be interested in them and go up to 100's of women and say the same "there's just something about you" shit hahahaa.
Go big or go home
Yeah exactly. So let 100s interest you 1% instead of 1 interest you 100%
The trick is to have abundance. Ok, the girl you really like can reject you, but you have other options (less desirable tho) in spare just in case so your ego don't get destroyed
I'd only add it can be useful to frame WHY you need her number, basically to introduce her to the idea of a low-stakes first date.
"I appreciate this is awkward but can I get your phone number? You're interesting and I'd like to take you for a cup of coffee sometime so we can get to know each other a bit better"
And Victoria is right - you should forget about picking up on the "five signs she's really into you" nonsense. Approaching a girl can be stressful enough without that. Simply approach, acknowledge the awkwardness (but don't apologize) and say you just felt you had to talk to her and either imply or state attraction. Be ready with a quick introduction if she want to know more about you but otherwise just ask for the number and plant the idea in her head of a simple first date. A cup of coffee and a pastry or a couple of drinks in a bar. Nothing too high-stakes but instead something that is simple and comfortable and easy to say yes to.
gold advice ty🎉
Victoria you're the last and the only honest woman on planet Earth, probably a glitch in a Matrix, but still, thank God for that 🙌
it's such an insulting thing to say to a woman, implying the entire gender are liars
I think this is very good advice. It shows that you are interested in the person and not just the physical appearance. It si more of I find your vibe compelling and would love to get to know you a bit better.
EVERYONE is interested in Physical Appearance!!!!
EVERYONE! ..... Except for the blind. If a woman wants a man that doesn't care about looks, then they should just date a blind man!
It all depends on her interest at first sight for you
No effort is necessary for an interested girl
No effort is possible for an uninterested girl
Hm interesting idea
💯💯💯
In the words of a smart man (Corey Wayne): "If the girl likes you, the doors open. If she doesn't, the doors close".
@Vinny Mac I completely disagree. Worrying about how to get girls to like you is what will get you depressed pretty fast. Just be the best version of yourself you can be. Live a fulfiling life and women will be attracted to that, attraction is not a choice, the rest will be easy.
@Vinny Mac Are you high?!
Where did I say that you said: "worry about how to get girls"? Please point me to it.
My phrase was "I completely disagree. Worrying about how to get girls to like you..."
Please read my comment again.
What color fedora should I wear to pick up m'ladies? Also, what is the best flavor of Axe bodyspray?
Lol!!
I guess being deep, fun, inquisitive, mysterious, and all the above, is the key to being human. And in deciphering another persons "..." is the social-emotional intelligence that gets a man/woman laid. "Fantastic"
This works because it gives the woman the impression that this guy is very self-aware by acknowledging the strangeness of the question he asks and that, in and of itself, is a very attractive trait in a man.
I tried it in the supermarket on the cashier, but she said, that she is married. We didn't really talk, but she broke my beer bottle and something in the way she reacted and fixed the problem impressed me. It was the exe contact when she gave me the new bottle. But it was very busy and we had everybodys attention. I brought the items in my car and wrote a note with my number. I thought she would be busy and I just could give her the note. But when I was back there was nobody and I feel that I should say something, so it happend. I think I blushed and there was an awkward silent moment but I cannot say that I felt uncomfortable at all. Also it surprised me that she was enjoying the approach as a compliment, while I fear that she will laugh at me or call me gross. No, she said thank you and that she is married. It is silly but most important to me is the experience that she would describe it as friendly, while I think that it is gross. I know that I didn't change my mind by only one experience but I think and hope that seeking for more experience like that will be the way to understand it deep inside and change my mind. I feel so spurred. It is great.
Great line, make her feel special.....
This is special. Im glad i found your channel
This line puts you in her frame
I'm reading "No More MR Nice Guy" by Robert Glover. I got told by a female friend I'm very, "intense". I think I know what it is now -trying to make people laugh all the time so they'll like me -> they think I'm crazy/too nice. Gotta be human, be real, be fallible, be yourself.
thank you for the life hack. I'm using it as soon as i can.
that was Awesome!!!!
Great line! I am not dating, but some of these principles can be applied to other things.
“My face is on fire, please sit on it!”
😂😂😂
this is next level stuff!
Not that you haven’t said some wise things in other videos, but I don’t listen to women when it comes to how they want to be approached.
First off, women rely heavily on their looks, it’s all they really have to catch a man’s attention. Your words remind me of the movie “Tootsie” wherein Jessica Lang tells Dustin Hoffman (as a woman) how she’d like to be approached by a man. And when Dustin Hoffman approaches her while he’s a man and uses her line, she throws water on him.
Cold approaches rarely work. Some kind of conversation is necessary. You’re right about one thing, girls won’t let you know how interested they are at first.
Nice line, def gunna have to use it, thank you
It all depends on the vibe if women digs you she'll give you her number first. I'm confident enough just to ask but with character. My line for asking "I'm not the type of guy who ask just any girl for her number with all respect we should exchange numbers how does that sound"
Too many words bro. Just say hey we should link up and do something fun.
@@Zigzagzolar it works for me but I'll definitely try your approach, women are stimulated by fun. Thanks
Hey I understand what you’re saying towards the end about how women want to be known as a person rather then their looks, and I get that. But with my experience its not exactly like that, and maybe I’m wrong, I guess that’s why I’m typing the comment in the first place. But basically I noticed that the men who like a woman for her personality rather then just being sexually attracted to her, end up failing more often then the men who are only sexually attracted to them (in most cases at least). I’m guessing it’s because women find the men who care about personality less attractive because they come across as less dominant then the guy who just wants sex. I’m not exactly sure why, maybe it’s because their mindsets are different, maybe they feel that these men who seem nice have some sort of weird alternative motive that they’re hiding and see the guys who care about looks as more genuine. I’m not sure exactly. This is just from what I’ve seen happen to various friends of mine, so it might just be a rare occurrence, I’m not sure. Me personally, I don’t necessarily have a hard time, getting a girls number (anymore at least), there have been even times where I’ve met a girl and we’ve had such a good conversation that they’ve asked for my number. But no matter what, it seems to always go downhill after I get it. I’m not sure if maybe they feel undervalued, because I usually wait a few days to call or text so I don’t seem needy, because I understand that being needy can sometimes come across as annoying. In the end I have no clue, but I’d like to hear what you think about this...
I think to make someone feel safe and connected off the street it is good to add something a tad friendly in...thus the advice about personality. however ur right that u have to keep a large dose of being sexually attracted in there to keep someone intrigued. The guys who are just sexually attracted come off as more disinterested, more dominant and more hard to get, more in demand, more objectifying...a lot of times which keeps girls hooked. So i agree with what ur saying that theres a lot to it. But if ur too sexual approaching someone on the street they may get very scared and not accept...I personally wouldn't cause I'd be scared they were a predator. They need to give off some safe vibes too. what do u think?
@@mynonleatherlife I completely agree, I guess I’m just confused why I’ve seen some of my friends have trouble, maybe I’m just biased because they’re my friends and maybe they do give off that predator vibe.
This is also true from my experience and my friends experience. And couple of coworkers. I may not speak for all women but in my opinion I feel this is 100% reason which she added on in her reply. And that is that Women, for their entire life since they know about their body they have come to term with that all men want them for their bodies, that this is what a man really is. Sadly. And this lesson comes from other women as well as their mothers too since adolescent (not to mention greatly on media, especially social media). So when a man who genuinely comes to her life for her and only her and not her body she gets confused, she thinks "wait this is not a man, something is off and I don't want it" IT WILL TAKE A LONG TIME TO CONVINCE THIS, and honestly (it's not even worth it in some cases) to a woman that you want her for her. But when they meet a guy who is mainly into her because he is sexual attracted her she thinks OK this is a man and that is genuine to her. Sadly. But deep down all woman want a man that's there for her personality, but years and years of telling herself this doesn't exist makes her feel weird/unsafe with those kind of men. This why most women get turned off/upset when the man in her life doesn't sexually becomes dominant that's why you hear most woman complain and I'm sure you heard it "oh he just doesn't make me feel sexy" because she wants to be reminded that you are a MAN, a type of man she believes is the only kind of man to exist, a sex craved man. (Always balance out though, and in the end I wouldn't waste time trying to figure out woman, just follow your purpose and you will know exactly how to act)
I made my bones before the internet existed. Hard to believe it's become so feckin complicated! You have my sympathy - what more can a guy do? I see from the comments there is considerably more to be done & in a finely calibrated way - to not end up in jail. Gotta wonder if it's worth the trouble anymore
@@clashofqueen93 ... I think this is close to accurate.
I would only modify it by saying that I don't buy the victimization part as being the main issue.
Women operate off of emotions, and those emotions are.more activated by a man viewing her sexually than by a man interacting with her brain.
So the loves experience is that a woman *feels* more.alive with the objectifying man than the academic.
This is always true... But in later years (30s) some women wise up and realize they constantly pick men who use them and leave. At that point a provider man who values their personality beces more attractive... But... It can't override the biological programming... And she'll never feel the arousal for him that she did with the bad boys that used her before.
(Hence the divorce statistics)
Good advice. Thanks.
Really great stuff about not needing 1 million signals of interest from her.
My opening line has always been "Hey, I'd like to be your next bad decision"
Does it work well?
It makes most girls laugh, or they say something like "I've made enough bad decisions", either way my foot's in the door and I'm good at talking to girls so that's all I need.
@@ss_whole I'm jealous of you. I wish I had that skill with women.