Commitment. Nuclear families. Financial, physical and social security. Where cheating isn’t an option on the radar of either parent. These things offend some people and so they need not give them a second thought. However, some people genuinely want these things. Or have more capacity to commit for life. What we need is a way for people to identify which group each person is in, and partner-up with like minded. Sadly I (unknowingly) picked someone from the opposite group and it’s a freaking disaster. I knew which group I belonged to but I don’t think they did - or couldn’t admit it to themselves...
@@nataliec3142 - In short, traditional Christian values. Enough said! Frankly, I do not care what anybody says, but the Bible, even though it's an old book, if you look at it closely, it actually has a lot of practical guidelines and principles that if people lived by, society would be a hell of a lot better off.
The Cowboy No, it’s not “enough said.” Your views on what are traditional christian values are not equal to what others view as traditional christian values. Just how traditional is good before we start regressing as a society? I 100% guarantee that someone could agree with you on following traditional christian values but once it comes to actually outlining what those values are, you could both disagree immensely
@@christina3836 first you're wrong about the percentage manily because more false accusations go unknown, where the women gets away with the false claim, and second you're making it sounds as if oh it's a low number we should ignore it, as if destroying your life, your reputation your looks isn't the worst thing a human can do to a another person just for money,revenge, or victims plays.
The world would be a beautiful place if a husband and wife only had each other. If they grow old together and loyal to one another. What a shit hole this world has become🙄
@@novacorps325 youre quite delusional if you think the whole human population is a potential partner. at best you meet like a thousand ppl who could be in your whole life(probably a lot less). could be more if you go to a date every week with different ppl on tinder or such where basically you dont get a relationship, just a fck buddy. unless youre in a village, you wont go up to ppl to ask them out. onto your question. women most of the time dont want the marriage, just the wedding. its a fact. obviously everyone would deny it cause its like an accusation("did you kill this person?" "no".) both women and men are expecting everything from the other side, without effort on their own. tho i say both men and women, women are obviously a lot more guilty over this. their expectations are retarded. theres no such men that could fill all those requirements they wouldnt compromise about. men cant be picky about who they go out with, cause they dont get many chances, unless youre the kind of guy that is expert at charming women and getting her to bed. they could be picky but they wont care, cause they could get a lot of women anyway, why restrict themselves. in legal terms, women has way too much power, they can literally rape their spouse with the full support of the law, and completely ruin his life. this is a thing that while the "not all women are like that" is true, but "every women has the power to do so", and because of this men get scared to do anything to make a women use her power. and so the men who are the most fit to be a husband, are actually avoiding the whole marriage stuff althogether. in the end, both genders are meeting the worst of the other, and complain why things happen the way they do. i dont care enough to write more than this. youre free to believe whatever you want, i simply shared my thoughts on the matter, from my own research and experience.
Just Another Baby Seal With Internet Access wdym lmaooo this entire video trashes women and the feminist movement to try am blame them for the decrease in marriage
Bongo Bandits nop, 28 and for the first time in my life I’ve experienced what’s like to have someone writing a mean comment directed to me on a social media channel. Still stand by what I said. It won’t make you happy. All the blessings to you.
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I can't ever imagine having sex anytime soon and never have. I've been made fun of by my mom for not being into romance, and thought there was something wrong with me. Ultimately, seeing people around me getting knocked up left and right is alarming. I can't think of anyone I'd trust that much. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Even If the "hottest" person on the planet approached me, I'd still decline. Because I don't know them therefore I don't trust them. A stranger is still a stranger. I think entertainment really ruined the depiction of love.
@@davidwright4976 ah, no. Most of the people I'm referring to as "getting knocked up" are single women who don't have kids. I respect mothers that have kids with someone or in wedlock. I just mean that its alarming how this generation has no preservation of their bodies anymore. And these are usually the same women who get abortions over and over just because condoms don't feel as good. :/ I love and respect mothers. :)
@@jerryalakara Yeah, that's the thing. A lot of these women complain that they can't find meaningful relationships. Those types of relationships are for mature and secure people... not girls who get a different man each week. Also if the guy is willing to get with you even when you sleep around, he probably isn't just with you. He probably has a bunch of women on the side. :/
@@novacorps325 No. Yeeeeaaaah, I'm gonna take my horse to the old town road, I'm gonna ride 'til I can't no more! I'm gonna take my horse to the old town road, I'm gonna ride 'til I can't no more!
It only kills it if YOU let it. Just because ONE or a few females are like that doesn't mean we ALL are. I'm VERY independent, but love to see males be chivalrous. I ALWAYS say thank you too. Never miss when one is. Females have lost standards, but males shouldn't. Keep yours Dear. Continue to be yourself. Let NO ONE change YOU...or? They win.
@@erofilikalliri108 lol abortion cuz of rape is much lesser Most of abortion is cuz of they can't keep it in their pants or they can't keep their knees closed
@@stonecold7113 Ha, do what you want. I'm not going to try to stop you. It was a joke based on my own experiences in which people like Ben Shapiro lead me down an alt-right path for a while. I'm now quite left-wing and am embarrassed about that period of my life.
Hurricane Leslie No, I don’t. But my rights aren’t due to feminism. As Simone de Beauvoir once said: “the women movement is just a symbolic one, everything women have is what men agreed to give them”
Giovana Brito men having to “give” women their rights is the problem, my love. And sorry to inform you, but yes your rights were conquered through feminist efforts. The fact that you refuse to accept that men built a society for their benefit, and that feminism is a fight about equality and human rights does not mean that the movement doesn’t benefit you as a woman in a patriarchal society. I’m here if you want to talk about it (i mean it in a friendly way) 💕
He's objectively wrong on many, many issues. If you even listen to him with an ounce of honesty you can see that he talks fast to sound much smarter than he actually is. He's a partisan hack. Things he attacked obama for he praises trump for doing. He's a joke. The fact that you can't understand why the rational people in this society hate this guy shows your own inability to think critically
@@Jam77229 "The fact that you can't understand why the rational people in this society hate this guy shows your own inability to think critically" Quick, oh rational Snowflake, how many genders are there?
Consider yourself one of the lucky few and yes I am envious of you okay. I was married to a beautiful woman for over 20 years and our marriage went sideways in a hurry. Hold on to your wife and tell her you love her everyday
@@millzhale4223 to this day no idea why it went sideways. We got into a blow out argument. It went from planning dinner at 5 PM over the phone and by 730 PM she ended the marriage. Literally in 2.5 hours our marriage died. And this after planning to make love at 8AM for that very night. We had sex on the Sunday night 3 days before our separation. Go figure out women. I can't and I don't even try anymore.
@@robertlongwill8856 I'm sorry to read about your situation. Do you think she was seeing someone else or did you simply outgrow one another? I think feminism teaches women there is always a bigger and better deal.
@@millzhale4223 no she wasn't seeing another man. I asked her point-blank after we separated and she said no and I believed her at the time. She was 49 when she ended the marriage so I think that menopause got the best of her it's too bad because I'm totally in love with this woman. And I agree with you when it comes to feminism. When we first met she told me that she was behind in income tax filing by about 8 years. Guess who paid for that, I did. And that was in it 1989. It cost me almost $900 to get her income tax filed for those eight years. Her credit rating was non-existent and we bought everything based on my credit rating. I had helped her build up her credit rating to wear mine was at the time which was almost 820. Then she decided towards the end of the marriage that she can do things on her own. So anyways that's the part of life for a lot of people anymore
The happiest women I know have had only one sexual partner in their entire life, whereas the women I've known that have had vast sexual partners are among some of the most miserable people I've ever met.
The more sexual partners a women has, the less desirable she is. The best males will always go for the best females. So the more partners a women has, she reduces her chances of finding a proper MAN (not beta boy). Its simple, why respect a women who does not respect herself.
Those are just your experiences. There have been plenty of miserable women who only had one partner and plenty of extremely happy women who had lots of partners! And a woman having many partners does not make her less desirable and does not automatically mean she doesn’t respect herself!
I Do What I Want of course not all not all not all. But for the majority. Every guys I know does NOT want a girl who has been around. We treat these girls as just practice, you throw them away before you are ready to settle down. Of course there are exceptions as there are for everything. But in general, a women with multiple partners usually has some issues, issues most men do not want to deal with.
WAZBEW You sound like an asshole. You shouldn’t throw people away or just use them for practice! Especially if they have issues, have you ever considered that you’re just making them worse?! People like that need to be treated with kindness and love! Please, grow some empathy!
Committed relationships and marriages are a dying tradition in the west, the new sleep around culture on the other hand, is very trendy with millennials
Yes it's really sad. And then millenials complain that no relationships work and that 50% of marriages divorce. Well there is your answer, just be respectful and don't get inside the pants of every person you see for a night of pleasure. Its actually quite disgusting when you think about it.
Unfortunately, stating this truth nowadays will get you labeled a "prude" or a "fundie". Even some "conservatives" (whatever that means nowadays) will treat you as if you are some uneducated hillbilly.
You have heard of "Survival of the fittest". Those that sleep around will perish from diseases and will crack up mentally. Eventually, nature will cleanse itself and return to equilibrium. Sodomy will also die out since it is a tremendous vector for the transmission of disease and they can not reproduce their DNA.
I love that he talked about the decimation of marriage and traditional sexual morality. Reducing sex to a matter of simple consent is to devalue it to the point of a transaction. If someone violates consent in a business deal, it’s wrong but probably isn’t going to have long term emotional and psychological repercussions. There is a reason why victims of sexual abuse suffer those long term effects. Sex is not meant to be casual and it’s not meant to be carefree. When someone sexually abuses another person, they’re guilty of more than just violating consent. We have to instill respect for sex within the confines of marriage again if we want to see improvement in our culture.
“Not meant to be” according to who exactly? And also yes it is about consent, if your husband has sex with you it’s enjoyable, if a stranger breaks in and does it against your will not so much. Even better, you don’t want to have sex with your husband but he forces you. We can probably agree not a good thing. The only difference is consent in those situations and the fact that your married doesn’t override your consent. Aka, not as important
@@joeyalen5212 *And also yes it is about consent, if your husband has sex with you it’s enjoyable, if a stranger breaks in and does it against your will not so much.* If not having consent is what makes rape gravely immoral then if someone pats you on your back without your consent then he too would be doing something gravely immoral. So it can't just be consent which makes the act of rape gravely immoral. So there must be something other than or in addition to consent that makes the act of rape gravely immoral. *Even better, you don’t want to have sex with your husband but he forces you. We can probably agree not a good thing. The only difference is consent in those situations and the fact that your married doesn’t override your consent.* The sexual act needs to be unifying and procreative in nature, and it can only be done in the union of marriage(revealed to us by God). The Christian believes sex is sacred, when a couple gets married they become ONE flesh, and secular people tacitly admit this when they acknowledge that rapists deserve 10+ years in prison. Without invoking sacredness secular people cannot demonstrate why rape is gravely immoral.
In my opinion the things he’s talking about isn’t proper feminism the right to be equal to men is what it is and I would say most women are what feminists actually are it’s just people who take it too far have ruined it
I agree with you! Feminism is the main reason why women have come this far - from being treated like property to having a say in society. But some feminists have taken it too far and are trying to suppress the opposite sex which was the same mistake men made centuries ago.
Yes you're right but it's only the extreme you see in the news. Also I can't agree with Shapiro on the sex subject. You can have just sex for sex but you can have sex with someone you love to. The problem with people who are to conservative that they put everything in boxes. While there's a huge grey area. It's like when you had sex that is in his words a consuming product you aren't capable of appreciating sex with someone you love deeply. Which takes me to his point where he is right and that's sex with someone you love is way better then just having sex with someone.
The 21st Century Feminism hasn't done anything great in America. If the media outlets are blowing up the extreme side of it then there seems to be a lot. There is a small majority who believe in equality, but then the rest believe men should not be able to raise their children, women should have all feminine hygiene products free. They continue to fight when there is nothing wrong in their own country, but won't for women in others. 21st Century Feminism is a joke, hopefully it can become better, but right now it's a bunch of dyed hair women screaming about dumb shit.
Feminism was never about equality. Even way back when, when they were fighting for the right/privilege of being able to vote, they only wanted the privilege, without the responsbilitiy that went along with it (draft). Even today, in 2020, men in America have to register for draft if they want to vote, if they want student loans, or quite a few other things - women get those things without the responsbility that men have to put up with. How is that equal?
MrDziubla u missed the whole point of what I was saying actual feminists wanted to be equal and feminism has been given a bad name by people who want more than equality idk how it works in America tho so I can’t say anything on that but yeah
I am not Christian nor religious yet I have been and am still saving myself for marriage. Now I am 25 and my future husband has at last found me. I am so insanely happy, he treats me so well.
Exactly! I don’t agree with most of the point he made (the example being modern day feminism in general, it’s not radical at all) and same for a man! Just let them find what makes them happy and accomplished! (Also is that the Mito ribbon? My brother has mito)
I agree. Threesome has to be one of the best things that happens at some point in the modern woman's life so she can gain more experience in the porn era that we live
Probably by telling people that there’s plenty of fish in the sea. I’m happily married though. My wife was quite a catch. Though I do sometimes think about the one that got away.
Sadly I've noticed within myself the past year that I rarely let a woman through the door before myself anymore. Today I let this woman out of the lift first, she was greatful, smiled and said thankyou. That absolutley made my day !!! I will be doing this much more often now. Hopefully it's appreciated. It's hard though when some women think they are entitled. Women shouldn't feel patronised by men wanting to protect them. Us men are vulnerable to the world too and we need women to help us as well.
Do your thing hunni! I always say thank you and get a big smile when a male is a gentleman. And if some silly cow so far up herself can't appreciate your gesture just say, "You're welcome!" Some women need to be reminded they're not all that. If she gets sassy, ignore her, because you're better than that. I know men can be good at that. Lol
Women don't deserve having doors held open,or other chivalrous courteousies. The modern feminist doesn't want equality, they want to be more of a man than their partners.
@@natitekle5483 people say 'modern doesn't mean right' when it suits them,when it's time to drink, drug, get pierced ,tattooed and have premarital sex then modern is the way.
@@rheajewan8705 lol, true dat!!! We all have choices and we all should accept our choices in regards to what we really want either through traditional or modern way. Modern way suits me, more freedom.
This is why I ❤ Ben Shapiro. He hit a homerun on this b/c socially he is right. I'm not even married yet and I can see the complete & utter damage feminism has caused within human nature.
The "Don't Touch Me or I'll report you for rape" generation. That is probably why a very small number of cases aren't taken seriously. You know the sort of woman I am talking about.
CodyFern Fan ‘Western’ “White” girls and women and most ‘Westernized’ minority females already have “equal rights” you ignorant dipshit. Most of their contemporary causes are frankly shitty and unworthy.
@@snowfrosty1 I can tell you've never had a woman around for long enough: if you did, you'd be aware of the fact that ONE in FOUR college women will be raped (I am not ignoring men's struggles, but women are also 4x as likely to be victims of sexual assault, so this is clearly an issue that needs to be stressed), whereas 99% of rapists essentially get away with their actions. Also, the fact that Senators as well as our dipshit president wants to take away an institution that helps so many of these rape victims, such as providing abortions for women who would not be able to support their offspring or who would solely relinquish them to foster care (leading to a life of misery, abuse, and identity issues). How many men's bodies are controlled or regulated by the opposite sex? If men were forced to get vasectomies, you'd NEVER hear the end of it. OR maybe you would be aware of the persisting wage gap, in which women on average earn 81 cents of every dollar that a man does---and anti-feminists dismiss this as being a result of the fact that "men just work harder;" even though women are shown to earn higher grades and contribute equally to their respective job fields and environments. OR perhaps you'd be aware of the persisting stigmas in which girls and women are shamed for their sexuality and constantly called "sluts" and "whores" for the same actions for which a guy is praised or called "the man." Interestingly enough, the period during and following the Reconstruction, many white supremacists argued that since technically African Americans had been granted equal political rights, they are treated equally and given the same rights in practice. Your ignorance, complacency, and incomprehension of the effects of many men like yourself's attitudes have caused enough damage throughout history. It's time to let this register in your mind. Sure, you can ignore all the points I've made and respond with an ad hominem fallacy denigrating the fact that I'm a woman or whatever other qualities you deem fit: this only attracts more attention to the prevalent and prevailing diminutive attitudes towards women across the globe. My sincerest apologies if any of my language has proven too intricate for you; I guess it's just a result of me having to work 10x harder to receive the same amount of intellectual appreciation or credibility as someone who by chance was born with a Y chromosome.
Just curious, as a woman is most fulfilled in a committed relationship and having only one sexual partner in the totality of her life, the same applies for men, right? I've seen a lot of fo comments about how a woman should only have one sexual partner and women who do are generally happier, but I just wanted to ask if all of you agreed that the same standard should be expected for men as well.
@@bigfish6742 Sure,sure, that's also reflected in the way our closest relatives, the ape's live. But disregarding the 'extent of fulfilment', should the same standard be held (because we've moved on to overcome our primordial urges, for the most part), or should men be expected to be in a relation with more than one woman at a time? You've answered that and that's really the only thing i care about regarding the context of the original question. But here's another one. As men are biologically predisposed to desiring more than one mate (which has kind of been negated by societal expectations causing men to stick to one, but men do still cheat more) should men be treated differently if they have cheated then women are? You know, the whole 'boys will be boys' approach. Should men be excused for their actions and women be punished for the same thing?
@@kevinnelson6070 Honestly I think men and women should be held to the same standards. Mainly because of the emotions that are involved in human relationships. When either a man or woman cheats it affects everyone around them, especially the children. I know from experience because my father cheated on my mother all the time. They would argue, fight, split up and get back together, rinse and repeat. It was HELL for me and my siblings. Cheating is wrong wether it's done by man or woman. Animals don't have the same emotional attachments as us. Animals live a "survival of the fittest" life while we humans live for our families (for the most part).
Justin Centers I mean, what you ‘feel’ and your anecdotes aren’t usually representative of the population, but in this case they are. Statistically, women cheat just as much as men. But the original question was referring to how Shapiro said that women are more fulfilled in a committed relationship than in having numerous one night stands. I think it’s because lust eventually runs out, when it gets to the point where you’re only interested in sex and then you eventually lose interest in just sex. If those women you mentioned have any sort of moral compass, they would not be very happy, at least not as happy if they had not.
Yes, men should have the same standards too. Men and women should both only have sex in marriage, both should not get divorced. Both should only have one very serious partner all their life (their spouse). That is what Christianity teaches. I am Catholic, and nowhere in Catholic teachings does it place these standards only upon women.
that girl is wife material based on the fact she isn't an idiot. Which is so rare among women today, social media and tinder have destroyed relationships. Too much fake choice and wk'ing
The illusion in marriage is at the beginning She is Sincere. After the honey moon phase........you're more likely to be a sugsr daddy without the sugar. Who lives outside his house.
@R J M Although physical attractiveness is certainly a factor in determining whether or not someone is "wife material," intelligence is equally important and the girl in this video exhibits intelligence that is becoming increasingly rarer among women her age.
Everyone, both men and women, became too selfish. And with the dissolution of the family unit, no one knows how to have and work on long term relationships/marriage. It's truly sad bc I can only imagine how it'll be in the next 100 years.
@BW10 man how can you say that? Have you fucking left your room in the last 5 years? Have you not seen or heard what is happening in country and around the world? Even if you don't like him he opposes what is happening, and what is happening is horshit and scary on top of it.
Not trying to blame anyone in particular but likely one of the reasons behind a decreased commitment level or shape intimacy may have come from what many of the millennial generation saw from their parents, abuse or just general lack of a deep sense of love. So now love is cheapened into a quick hit like a drug. Deep love comes from knowing someone well like how well Jesus knows us.
Wow, some of you need read a history book. The concept of marriage was brought in as businesses between two families. Before that, (during pre medieval times) at least in Europe, you could get married in a pub in front of any 2 witnesses. Many people got married when they drunk and had to have it annulled by a committee.
@Samus Aran Well actually if you believe in any religion it makes sense that you would believe marriage comes from their God. The same way you believe your God created the world. Since we don't know exactly how or why we're here hose who chose religion have 'faith'. While atheists aren't 100% sure. So saying God didn't create marriage is condescending, instead of saying 'I think' or 'I believe'.
Everyone on this planet should have equal choice. Republican or democrat, as a living human on this planet, everyone is entitled to their equality and choice and freedom to make whatever decisions they want. This is something people understand. However, they do not understand that these decisions come at a price, no matter what they are. I am now 31. Most of my female friends, who are my age, who were booming feminists in college, are now gravely regretting their decision to be feminists, because now men do not want to get married due to lack of motivation. Marriage failed because women decided that they wanted to be treated like men, but still have the same privileges that "ladies" had in the 50's. You cannot have both.
I consider myself a feminist. Though I don't speak for all women or feminist. I don't want to be treated like men. However I want some things that usually men get. Like respect in a work environment.
@@meXmydreams Women in the west are respected as men. The wage gap has been debunked many times over. Women in major cities such as SF, LA, and NYC are paid more than men on avg.
@@meXmydreams you have to earn respect just like you have to earn the latter to manager. Stop demanding for things and start earning them that's why we don't like feminist. Y'all want the easy way and don't want to work like we men do
@@lightdk6321 1. Even if you count all the "debunking" in, the wage gap is still roughly 30%. 2, male feminists tend to marry female feminists. Problem solved.
A gentleman does not exploited women when they are vulnerable. Gentlewoman does not place herself in vulnerable positions. If you are a gentleman, when you see the girl who at the hose party in college has drank to near comatose state you do not exploit her. You make sure she is okay. If you are a gentleman and the drunk girl starts rubbing up on ypu, you walk her home. If she is offended by you not wanting to take advantage of her because she is drunk, she is not a girl you want in your life. If you are a gentlewoman, you do not drink your self into a nearly comatose state thus putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. If you are a gentlewoman, you do not get so drunk that you wander up to some dude you do not know or hardly know. There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sadly so many are confused over this.
You obviously don't know how our legal system works these days. That romanticized bull$hit doesn't work anymore. You'd be risking way too much as a man by doing that stuff.
Reading the comments it is clear in the near future men and women will end up.like the men and women in Japan where 73% of men ages 18 to 40 reject women because of matriachal oppression. Sadly when men and women cannot get along bad things happen for society. Japan has the lowest reproductive rate in the world. Marriage rates are at the lowest ever. The rate of depression and suicide for women have increased significantly. The 27 % of men who will consider women are easily able to exploit women as most women in Japan want to get married. Not uncommon for men to have multiple girlfriends as the competition for a man is cut throat. Motivational speaker zig ziglar used to say, men and women could have better romantic and marriage relationships if both men and women realized they were on the same team.
I find feminists are normally okay when you tell them why you reject the ideology...as long as you do it respectfully. They sense that male feminists are just trying to sleep with them and telling them what they want to hear.
I'm Indian and also from America. Perhaps what's he's saying makes sense in the western concept (especially considering radical feminism in the West), but I've seen what marriage does to women in my extended family. I'm sorry, but I don't agree. If feminism killed chivalry, then I don't see it even though Indian society is still all about marriage. :(
i think the indian standard of marriage has deviated far from what it was supposed to be in ancient times. what he's talking about isn't at all what indian marriages or frankly most 'traditional' marriages are today.
@@janhavisingh5826 I agree. It has deviated, but I think in a good way. In urban society, I see marriage more as a joint collaboration between the parents and children. Before that, it was simply the parents and/or elders making the decisions. In terms of chivalry... hm... what I was trying to say in the original comment is that marriage (simply based on elder's choice and society) is stupid. Chivalry was never a part of Indian marriage, even in ancient times. It was about social connection, community, and in times of barter trade system, it was a good method for families to exchange wealth and land. Of course this applies to the west too. I feel that nowadays arranged marriage has lost it's purpose. It is doing nothing more than suppressing the younger gen. I feel like I'm going off tangent and writing too much, plz bear with me. ^^; I agree with you and yes, what's he's saying has nothing to do with Indian traditional marriages today. I'm just saying his concepts and views in marriage only applies to western (specially American) society. I think a little strong feminism would do India good. Constraining sex to just marriage is a terrible idea and as far as I'm aware, Indian men being taught to protect is just another way of saying "women are weak."
@@jojisol5288 i agree with the arranged marriage, point, it is definitely doing more harm than good in this day and age when several marriages have turned abusive because the partners did not know each other that well before they got married. i also agree that India could do with a wave of feminism to address these issues in the society, especially when in India traditionalistic ways of living are still present, (the good traditions are fine but some traditions in this day and age are doing more harm then good).
@NonyaBusiness! I feel like this information is well known. Generally speaking its much easier for people to afford housing ect. together. ? What are you disagreeing with?
yatagarasuable sam harris never evaluates new ideas. He is closed minded af and only proceeds with “no thats wrong” when someone actually disproves him
Utterly brilliant I couldn’t agree more , I have been married for 34 years and raised 2 healthy balanced happy children , I weep when I look around and wonder who they can marry .....
@@80sfreak14 That's why they need to be honest with themselves and find someone who they ACTUALLY LOVE. And they need to be able to be emotionally intact because when they get into disagreements, they won't flip out. Marriage works perfectly fine with honesty
@@80sfreak14 Yeah I agree with you on that. But then again, you can also strive to help your partner be honest, and you can try and be the best person you can. I think most people have forgotten the utility of marriage. It's beneficial for both men and women
Whether they do it or not doesn't matter, atleast they have enough character to admit Ben was spitting. People typically don’t like being criticized and will justify their lifestyle regardless.
@@KARTIKEYA007 People can do what they want but doesn't necessarily make it good. Just cause certain things people choose to do doesn't effect anyone else doesn't mean that there aren't any valid criticisms.
@@godofgamers3884 there are valid criticisms for ANY lifestyle... Literally... So you are not in any position to criticize anyone's lifestyle since no matter what, your lifestyle can be criticized too
@@drmosaddegh first of all I'm atheist. I'm just asking you a question, why are you so defensive? I just want you to prove your point. Do you have some historical documents? Some biblical text or something like that? Otherwise you are not proving anything. You can't even prove that God is real. This are YOUR OPINIONS and not proofs
I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with this video because i want more information. but he said that feminism is responsible for ruining traditional marriage but never explained how? there was also no explanation to the other claims he made. if any one knows or he has said in a previous video please tell me, would love to discus :)
A friend of my wife messaged her after I shared this video on FB. She was asking my wife if she was okay as she believed Ben was saying consent was stupid. Like if I was sexually assaulting my wife. Now I love and respect my wife and at an early age was taught to be respectful towards all walks in life. I'm sure her friend meant well. My wife watched this video and felt concerned for her well being and I had to spend a hour saving face. I asked her to give me the benefit of the doubt and to not let her friend cloud her judgement of me and that she can always come to me for clarification when I share my opinion. We needed a professional marriage counselor to help put this discussion to rest because it was hard to deal with. So long story short....when someone states their opinion and you are in disagreement....seek clarification and get to know the person's heart before accusing them of something they are not
This is one reason I married my wonderful wife, who is from Japan. She came from a culture where it's still okay for a woman to be a woman, but she also recognized something outside of her generation's culture of frivolous sexuality and unrestrained lust. She wanted to save that intimacy for her future husband where it could be tempered and made more meaningful and enjoyable. I feel so guilty and yet motivated because this angel helps me want to overcome my issues and become the kind of man I know I can be for her and other people. I'm not a misogynist for wanting to love, protect, and care for my wife. It just became so important to people in our generation to equate that with meaning women can't do these things themselves or something. A good couple protects EACH OTHER, but our bodies are different. Sometimes one needs more help than the other, but that shouldn't be taken as a sign of weakness from one side, it should be taken as a sign of getting over one's pride and ego to care about someone other than themselves. (Edit 4 years later, I apologize for being dramatic with this comment. I feel I've changed a lot in the last years to not oversimplify this topic, so I apologize if I was being inconsiderate to anyone. We are doing fine though. Welcoming our first little one into the world soon. Whatever your background or identity, I hope you're just trying to be a good person for a loved one.)
The problem is the old ways are dead and if you find a decent partner then you're in the minority. People look at relationships like a Disney movie. Romance has never really existed as it's an illusion created by romance novels, TV shows, films to make money and brainwash people. People got.married years ago so they could have stability and have children. Many people were in unhappy marriages but stayed together as divorce was frowned upon. It wasn't all necessarily better years ago but society was much less broken down than it is now.
When he says that women need to teach men how to act within relationships he lost me. Women shouldn't have to be their spouses parent. Men are adults. Men shouldn't need to be taught how to act in relationships. If men need to be taught by their spouse how to function I think that that suggests parents are doing a lousy job raising compassionate, independent, and cultured boys.
@mkmoor04 we as humans learn through experience for the entirety of our life. parents can teach and instill good morals and respect towards others however there is no substitute for experience, it is the responsibility of both partners to extend common human decency. at the same time female characteristics are more nurturing, i suspect Ben is alluding to this idea. women do not have to mother their male partners, just have to posses strong traditional female characteristics for a happy relationship. Nothing more appealing than a strong character woman to a man i can tell you that. when it comes to long term relationships it is the character not the looks that matter to a man. is suspect it is the same for woman. hope i made sense.. :)
@Profit Glutton I think from a conservative perspective though that this takes away the agency and accountability of the man though. Conservative rhetoric consistently says that we should hold ourselves accountable. It is not society or the governments job to help us. It is our job to be responsible and useful so to speak. Therefore that same mentally would suggest that men should also be held accountable for not acting barbaric either, not their spouses job to act a certain way in order to teach men how to be. I think the main reason there is such issues in this day and age and things like radical feminism cropping up is more to do with the fact that society is not letting folks evolve. If you implicate someone to a role within society that is not of their choosing, but expected upon them by society at large you will see extremism crop up. Resentment can build, confusion, internal war etc of an individual happens when certain expectations are applied on an individual. This is no where more prevalent then in I would say the transgender community for example. Society and biology is forcing one expectation on someone, but internally their mind is forcing another- that ideological opposition within a person creates confusion, a loss of identity, resentment of society and themselves, and hence why they commit suicide at such staggering rates. People need to be allowed to evolve otherwise when we apply these social expectations or roles on folks it just creates extremism of some form. Men need to be allowed to evolve out of this stereotypical role of breadwinner and protector and same for women being the domestic goddess and nurturer so to speak. Now there is nothing wrong with men and women taking on those stereotypical roles. What is wrong is expecting everyone to fit into that model and not accounting for the fact that men and women are incredibly diverse and a good majority of them might not want to fit into those roles. And I don't think men are inherently more violent than women are. Yes, men show their violence through physical strength mainly because they are stronger, but women can be just as violent from an emotional standpoint. Men and women have a lot more in common than this suggests and I think we should allow ourselves to evolve and at the same time hold ourselves personally accountable to how we act within society on some level.
@Profit Glutton I completely agree that men are physically stronger than women and in a previous world yes they would need to be the main providers, but I think the fact that most jobs no longer need brute strength, but intellect instead puts both on equal footing. I think society just needs to adapt to that and look at it as an opportunity as I suggested to evolve versus trying to hold on to the old guard so to speak.
I am Computer Scientist and Engineer and i love to study the maths and analyze data from a young age. I am from India and I found that the Indian Education System is so discriminative against men. They gave chances to girls who doesn't who don't even show up in college and just hang out in premises. This girls can't even code anything in C or even python. They don't know basics of programming or other skills yet they get admission with 99% off. I say really. If you are a girl from minority it's even great. Boys like me have to pay 10000$ or even more while girls get scholarships as well as good amount of support. I visited many colleges and i found out it happens all the time. only 1/20 girl wants to know other than basics which will get them a job. Also the boys that get the admission are also same just because of they from minority they gets the advantage. Even If i travel in train the girls can come in men's couch and blame us for being too close in rush hour. My mother in school where she earns around 140 USD per month. She wanted me to see go to good college and have a good social life. Just because of these minority and girl empowerment bullshit I didn't got admission into a good college. Even after cracking JEE mains which is the one of the hardest exams in world. Even having good scores like 88% and 92% in Computer Science I didn't even make to college i wanted but same girl i knew got admission there with 20000 rs fees per year(hardly 180 USD) while she scored 52%. The college asked me 5000 USD for a year since i am not from minority and these girl who is not even studying there...she just want to enjoy friends circle. *AM I A JOKE* Really. After that I knew that dumbass kids who don't even like studying are killing the opportunities and dreams of students like us. I can't even express my frustration and hatred. Isn't Feminism killing the dreams of a mother wanting her son to have a good job and have a better life than her. I don't have a father, he died. My mother is a woman and she has all hopes on me but isn't feminism killing the hopes of lot of mothers who want their son to succeed. I am a Computer Scientist, An AI engineer and a researcher on my own. I didn't got into college but My programming skills are way superior to 99.5 % of these college folks. These minority rights and Feminist can't kill my dreams but they do a lot of damage by making world hard for people like us. I had to buy a 1000 dollar laptop which cost 70% more in india than USA so 1800 USD. and to get my own set up, Material for IOT and Robotics. Own raspberry Pie and other software necessaries. But working in my Home 8 hours a day studying and getting better in Industry, Pushing my limits I grew a lot of depression coz I didn't have any Social Life anymore like these people go to college have. If I had gotten gift of being in college I might have made lot of friends and also got the stuff I wanted already in the Comp. Lab. But my only crime was that I was born as a man and not in minority. Thanks if you made it to the end. I don't Think anybody will read this cause I just want to my frustration released . Sorry for my bad grammar here since I also lost my skills in communication since I hardly see anyone out there. I will survive for my mother and make a better place for people like me. Thank You Again.
i am sorry for what happened to u, and how u are discriminated against ur own collegues, u said u couldn't get admission in ur dream college because u are a male and some female did with less percentage, same thing can also happen with sc and st boys who dont even have sufficient knowledge and still they get admission on low fees, so what will u say to that? if u think i am being rude to u then i am sorry from bottom of my heart. if someone get priviliges more than us then its not our fault neither theirs, but the problem comes when they misuse them , in that college not only girls but many boys also join like that based on reservations then do all the open cateogory people blame them for being highly priviliged because they got in with less percentage? no , its just somelaws are made for the betterment of society but some people misused them, i am not defending any male or female here,, its not ur fault for being born as a man , i should say in countries like iran afganistan and syria, females curse themselves for being born as females so what should we do about that, once again i am not trying to justify something , just like some rapists with their influence can escape from the crime , some innocent men get caught by false victims in rape accuse, both are wrong, innocent should be protected at all costs be it a man or a woman, a real feminist is ur mother who have given birth to a beautiful child like u and is coping through all the difficulty to raise u into a responsible human being, sohave her as ur idol not these lame women or men . may god bless u
Modern woman underestimate the love of a man truly in love with.....They can leave you completely heartless and sad, so badly that sometimes the only thing you think about is self deletion...A man who is in loved with his female counterpart will always love her whether there's sun or rain, whether is day or night.....Love means two souls becoming one......
Feminism is not about liberating women. It is about denigrating men. Trump said it best when asked if he is a feminist, and he said "I am not a feminist, I treat men and women equally."
This lady was trying to give Ben's talking speed a run for its money. Don't even try it, lady! You might be a Master's student, but his wife is a doctor!!
As a women in her mid thirties, I can say I hate feminism. Because of the point Ben just made. I have thought this for a long time but haven't heard anyone in media verbalize it til now. Feminism is part of tearing down roles within a healthy marriage. When roles become confused, it creates a perfect breeding ground for chaos and disrespect. Women and men were created different for a reason.
You have the right to do many things thanks to the true feminists hun. I think what you should be hating is 'radical feminism'. Please dont shit on the women & men who fought for us to live better lives. Thanks.
@@anyagaladima8668feminism is bull shit. You expect equal pay but you don't bring in as much revenue as men, feminists back something only when it supports their Illogical agenda
No, you women have the right to do many things thanks to MEN. If men didn't comply, you would be making sandwitches. Because it's not as if women could enforce women's rights.@@anyagaladima8668
Not necessarily. Certain STDs can be passed from mother to child during pregnancy and birth, and others can be spread by non sexual means. But yes, it would certainly diminish the prevalence quite significantly.
@@Stigma-ba115 What is natural matters because those are the things that will never change, regardless of whether we judge these natural traits as right or wrong, or good or bad. Humans will always be naturally polygamous, no matter the amount of biased, skewed and highly unreliable polls and studies, paid and conducted by individuals and institutions with vested interests in certain results only.
@Frostmourne that may work but does go against the idea of getting the government out of citizens' daily lives. In any case the most problematic areas when it comes to unstable families is in the poor black communities; most of them are in the lowest income brackets and would be paying next to zero income tax (apart from payroll/SS taxes) Better solution is getting government out of stuff like benefits. Benefits that keep single mothers afloat have a positive impact on them short term but had the long-run effect of removing the man's responsibility for the child ("Why should I pay, you can bring up that child with taxpayers' money"). Removing the benefits would cause women to, just like the old days, force men to take responsibility as a *precondition* for sex.
Lol, government has less power when less ppl participate. If a man and woman are commited to each other, what is paperwork going to add. Government is a safeguard against and for those whose word are useless.
I've been divorced for 11 years and the best decision I made was to remain single which included not dating. That was such a very difficult decision! I had a dear friend, who is in heaven now, and she was like a grandmother to me and she would always tell me, "There are worse things than be alone and that is being married to the wrong person!" She sure had that right!
It is not only men's duty to protect their partners... Two people in a relationship protect each other. That's love and that's family. Protecting the other partner is not one sided duty, so I disgree when he said men are supposed to protect women and women are supposed to cherish and value those behaviors of men. I like him but don't agree with some points he made in the video.
I've been looking for a man who thinks like ben shapiro for a long time, but I've done myself wrong by taking part in some of this worldly crap because I got discouraged and I'm sad. It is so amazing to see someone with his beliefs stand up to others and explain things so well. I still hope to find my guy.
Same here for me but instead of a guy well obviously the opposite but hope I do as well it kills me like can you even start to have a relationship if this is a problem and as guy who's never been in a relationship and is currently not as well I ask myself how is it going to happen its like walking on egg shells
I don't always agree with Ben Shapiro but he's absolutely right here, and it's such an important issue because the mass abandonment of the family unit/marriage affects everyone and everything in our society
I think feminism in its core was a good idea....but like with everything there is always someone who will use things for the wrong things. I as a woman say that some people took feminism , me too and other stuff tooooooo far. Why can't people just fight for the right things with the right moves?????
Because the nature of mankind doesn't usually stop when goals are accomplished. They keep going. They keep pushing the envelope. For instance take gay marriage. Support it, against it, not really the problem. Now they are pushing for pedophilia to be normalized and "ok"...trust me they are. Next will be incest and then probably beastiality. Mankind KEEPS going due to pride.
Feminism at its core IS a good thing and people who do not recognize the disparities that women face FROM men are probably perpetrators themselves unwilling to acknowledge they have knowingly or unknowingly done something incorrect. Women, in the beginnings of marriage, were property to be owned. Not loved and respected. Not equalized within the household. People think marriages "back in the day" were all this lovely Dean Martinesque black and white movie... no! There was significant abuse, with no way out for the woman because she was shunned (as a "whore") for wanting to divorce. For some who wanted to go work and not raise kids, they weren't given that opportunity... they were shunned again. There are many parts of womens history that people need to understand more before simply going off and making broad sweeping statements. Has the feminist movement "gone too far", maybe in some cases it has. In other cases it hasnt. Had #Metoo gone too far... maybe in some cases it has. In others no, it has raised the conciousness of people to understand what the female experience is, how hard it is for some... and many who come from upscale "good" homes... Even using the term whore, for a sexually liberated woman, as was stated above, but not the equivalent for a sexually liberated man, shows the low-brow perspective of women by the listeners of this video.
@bad bad mc bad 100 years ago? That was when things BEGAN to start for women... not when shit hit its peak... First woman in the Marines: 1918 First time women could vote: 1920 First female Senator: 1932 First female CEO of Fortune 500 company: 1972 Time when martial rape was considered a crime in every state: 1993 My point was that far extremism is bad in most cases. But women continuing to be a voice for women who need help using their own, is not a bad thing. And sometimes it takes women in other countries to fight for the rights of women strongly oppressed in their own. It is fabulous for Ben's wife that shes accomplished so much. And it's a great earmarker to other women for what they too can accomplish, but it is not an example of the futility of feminism.
I think she is trying to 1up Ben in the "speed-of-light talking" category.
Notice me senpai
AOkayT Wonder what there kids would be like
@@alchemistlogic9421 they'll talk so fast you wouldn't even see their mouth move
Ben Shapiro probably has learned to talk so fast to keep people from interrupting him as they are often wont to do.
Ben talks quick, she was nervous.
He makes a great point, and essentially he says: "When you throw away traditional values, you start to see society fall apart."
The Cowboy In your opinion, what are traditional values and how do they help maintain a good society?
Piatequila Everyone has a different definition as to what they consider a traditional value. I was just curious as to what this persons was
Commitment. Nuclear families. Financial, physical and social security. Where cheating isn’t an option on the radar of either parent.
These things offend some people and so they need not give them a second thought.
However, some people genuinely want these things. Or have more capacity to commit for life.
What we need is a way for people to identify which group each person is in, and partner-up with like minded.
Sadly I (unknowingly) picked someone from the opposite group and it’s a freaking disaster. I knew which group I belonged to but I don’t think they did - or couldn’t admit it to themselves...
@@nataliec3142 - In short, traditional Christian values. Enough said!
Frankly, I do not care what anybody says, but the Bible, even though it's an old book, if you look at it closely, it actually has a lot of practical guidelines and principles that if people lived by, society would be a hell of a lot better off.
The Cowboy No, it’s not “enough said.” Your views on what are traditional christian values are not equal to what others view as traditional christian values. Just how traditional is good before we start regressing as a society? I 100% guarantee that someone could agree with you on following traditional christian values but once it comes to actually outlining what those values are, you could both disagree immensely
False accusers are just as bad as the real rapists, they destroy lives too!
They should go behind bars
yes but it's only about 2%-10% false accusations. Shouldn't we care more about actual victims and getting their rapists in jail?
@@christina3836 You say that as though due process favors the defendent
@@christina3836 first you're wrong about the percentage manily because more false accusations go unknown, where the women gets away with the false claim, and second you're making it sounds as if oh it's a low number we should ignore it, as if destroying your life, your reputation your looks isn't the worst thing a human can do to a another person just for money,revenge, or victims plays.
forgot to mention that there are punishments for false accusations.
He is the only living man who can argue with his wife
*man
@@lonelygamer5046 My fault
His wife who is a doctor.
@@caleblee5821 😂 😂 🤣
Who is a doctor :] 2
0.75x makes them sound normal
Surprisingly is makes ben sound like he had a few cold ones but it makes the young lady sound normal haha.
Thanks :)
He sounds fine at 1x
Ben slurs his speech at .75x while the young woman sounds normal. 😂
Thanks I usually need to speed it up lol
The world would be a beautiful place if a husband and wife only had each other. If they grow old together and loyal to one another. What a shit hole this world has become🙄
Fuck that
Amen
That woukd be great.
@@novacorps325 how do ppl select partners these days? Its the major factor why are married ppl fall apart.
@@novacorps325 youre quite delusional if you think the whole human population is a potential partner. at best you meet like a thousand ppl who could be in your whole life(probably a lot less). could be more if you go to a date every week with different ppl on tinder or such where basically you dont get a relationship, just a fck buddy. unless youre in a village, you wont go up to ppl to ask them out.
onto your question.
women most of the time dont want the marriage, just the wedding. its a fact. obviously everyone would deny it cause its like an accusation("did you kill this person?" "no".)
both women and men are expecting everything from the other side, without effort on their own. tho i say both men and women, women are obviously a lot more guilty over this. their expectations are retarded. theres no such men that could fill all those requirements they wouldnt compromise about. men cant be picky about who they go out with, cause they dont get many chances, unless youre the kind of guy that is expert at charming women and getting her to bed. they could be picky but they wont care, cause they could get a lot of women anyway, why restrict themselves.
in legal terms, women has way too much power, they can literally rape their spouse with the full support of the law, and completely ruin his life. this is a thing that while the "not all women are like that" is true, but "every women has the power to do so", and because of this men get scared to do anything to make a women use her power. and so the men who are the most fit to be a husband, are actually avoiding the whole marriage stuff althogether.
in the end, both genders are meeting the worst of the other, and complain why things happen the way they do.
i dont care enough to write more than this.
youre free to believe whatever you want, i simply shared my thoughts on the matter, from my own research and experience.
4:20 this is so on point. I’m a woman and I don’t buy those magazines. It is pure trash thinking that sleeping with hundred men will make you happier
you’re also probably fifty so shut up julia
Sis don't do it if it doesn't make you happy. Simple as that 🤷♀️
Vighnesraj Veeresh that’s your opinion luv idc what you do, all i’m saying is don’t trash other women for their lifestyles ❤️
Just Another Baby Seal With Internet Access wdym lmaooo this entire video trashes women and the feminist movement to try am blame them for the decrease in marriage
Bongo Bandits nop, 28 and for the first time in my life I’ve experienced what’s like to have someone writing a mean comment directed to me on a social media channel. Still stand by what I said. It won’t make you happy. All the blessings to you.
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I can't ever imagine having sex anytime soon and never have. I've been made fun of by my mom for not being into romance, and thought there was something wrong with me.
Ultimately, seeing people around me getting knocked up left and right is alarming. I can't think of anyone I'd trust that much. I've said it before and I'll say it again. Even If the "hottest" person on the planet approached me, I'd still decline. Because I don't know them therefore I don't trust them. A stranger is still a stranger.
I think entertainment really ruined the depiction of love.
So being a crazy old cat lady is not alarming ,but being a mother is?
It's good caution. Don't throw away your body. Reserve your vessel for things that will be more meaningful than silly playful dead-ended sex.
Good on you 👍
@@davidwright4976 ah, no. Most of the people I'm referring to as "getting knocked up" are single women who don't have kids.
I respect mothers that have kids with someone or in wedlock. I just mean that its alarming how this generation has no preservation of their bodies anymore. And these are usually the same women who get abortions over and over just because condoms don't feel as good. :/
I love and respect mothers. :)
@@jerryalakara Yeah, that's the thing. A lot of these women complain that they can't find meaningful relationships. Those types of relationships are for mature and secure people... not girls who get a different man each week.
Also if the guy is willing to get with you even when you sleep around, he probably isn't just with you. He probably has a bunch of women on the side. :/
Even if I wasn’t a Christian, I would still save myself for marriage
thats because no one will f u
@@MrMuaythai84 thats a weak argument...
Its more special that way
@@MrMuaythai84 shut up virgin
Tbh that's a good thing not by choice if assume amigo. You gotta be honest with yourself first.
Feminism killed chivalry.
Love and romance are next on the endangered species list.
@@novacorps325 No. Yeeeeaaaah, I'm gonna take my horse to the old town road, I'm gonna ride 'til I can't no more! I'm gonna take my horse to the old town road, I'm gonna ride 'til I can't no more!
@@novacorps325 hahaha, sure playboy
It only kills it if YOU let it. Just because ONE or a few females are like that doesn't mean we ALL are. I'm VERY independent, but love to see males be chivalrous. I ALWAYS say thank you too. Never miss when one is. Females have lost standards, but males shouldn't. Keep yours Dear. Continue to be yourself. Let NO ONE change YOU...or? They win.
Blame the government
I for one will keep fighting for the standards that protect the family.
“Chivalry is dead, and women killed it”
- Dave Chappelle
The concept of chivalry was a mistake from the beginning because it creates entitled women.
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The best comment I've heard : The time for choice is BEFORE conception, not AFTER.........
Yes, yes, a thousand times yes
Valerie Jewell say that a lot louder so everyone can hear this
Tell that to rape victims
@@erofilikalliri108 lol abortion cuz of rape is much lesser
Most of abortion is cuz of they can't keep it in their pants or they can't keep their knees closed
@@erofilikalliri108 USA today says abortion cuz rape and incest is just 1%
He is a jew n i m a muslim , and support him at this point
Even Christians (practicing) will support him
if you believe in god, your opinion is immediately invalid lmao
Bongo Bandits bro stop ruining other people’s day, just stfu and move on with your life
Same bro
Following him for years.
SnipingSharks :D sorry my reply “ruined your day”, you shouldn’t let small shit get to you x
Bongo Bandits well if you think about it, you basically had no reason to say that in the first place lmao
I swear Ben turns me a little more conservatives every time I listen to him
Conservatism is very right no pun intended
@@sussybaka4276 periodt
Stop listening to him then.
@@redmantis3336 Why would I stop listening to someone I enjoy listening to?
@@stonecold7113 Ha, do what you want. I'm not going to try to stop you.
It was a joke based on my own experiences in which people like Ben Shapiro lead me down an alt-right path for a while. I'm now quite left-wing and am embarrassed about that period of my life.
Feminism ruins everything it touches.
Giovana Brito do you want to trade in your rights?
@@littlelam3691 Completely ridiculous assertion. Completely fucking ridiculous.
@@littlelam3691 what rights do you don't have? Lazy pig🐖
Hurricane Leslie No, I don’t. But my rights aren’t due to feminism. As Simone de Beauvoir once said: “the women movement is just a symbolic one, everything women have is what men agreed to give them”
Giovana Brito men having to “give” women their rights is the problem, my love. And sorry to inform you, but yes your rights were conquered through feminist efforts. The fact that you refuse to accept that men built a society for their benefit, and that feminism is a fight about equality and human rights does not mean that the movement doesn’t benefit you as a woman in a patriarchal society. I’m here if you want to talk about it (i mean it in a friendly way) 💕
man, he gave her such a great answer that i forgot the question :D
m sure even she did :D
He tends to do that so he doesn’t actually have to answer it 😂
Just because he talks fast does not make him right
@@raqui174 if you have read what I have said you would never have come to that conclusion
@@raqui174 no, being right makes him right. (and yes somebody said that before somewhere)
I didn't know there could be a human that speaks faster than Ben
John Moschitta, the MicroMachines guy?
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Eminem?
Bobsheaux, I was just going to refer to him!
All those expe expensive coffees
I don't know man, the girl asking him the question was getting pretty close.
left wing for some reason hates this guy. I can't understand exactly why.
He talks fast
0004 or maybe you’re too slow
He's objectively wrong on many, many issues. If you even listen to him with an ounce of honesty you can see that he talks fast to sound much smarter than he actually is.
He's a partisan hack. Things he attacked obama for he praises trump for doing. He's a joke.
The fact that you can't understand why the rational people in this society hate this guy shows your own inability to think critically
Healablefall example?
@@Jam77229 "The fact that you can't understand why the rational people in this society hate this guy shows your own inability to think critically"
Quick, oh rational Snowflake, how many genders are there?
I love my wife so much, and feel lucky when i think about things all the time.
Consider yourself one of the lucky few and yes I am envious of you okay. I was married to a beautiful woman for over 20 years and our marriage went sideways in a hurry. Hold on to your wife and tell her you love her everyday
@@robertlongwill8856 why did the marriage go bad?
@@millzhale4223 to this day no idea why it went sideways. We got into a blow out argument. It went from planning dinner at 5 PM over the phone and by 730 PM she ended the marriage. Literally in 2.5 hours our marriage died. And this after planning to make love at 8AM for that very night. We had sex on the Sunday night 3 days before our separation. Go figure out women. I can't and I don't even try anymore.
@@robertlongwill8856 I'm sorry to read about your situation. Do you think she was seeing someone else or did you simply outgrow one another? I think feminism teaches women there is always a bigger and better deal.
@@millzhale4223 no she wasn't seeing another man. I asked her point-blank after we separated and she said no and I believed her at the time. She was 49 when she ended the marriage so I think that menopause got the best of her it's too bad because I'm totally in love with this woman. And I agree with you when it comes to feminism. When we first met she told me that she was behind in income tax filing by about 8 years. Guess who paid for that, I did. And that was in it 1989. It cost me almost $900 to get her income tax filed for those eight years. Her credit rating was non-existent and we bought everything based on my credit rating. I had helped her build up her credit rating to wear mine was at the time which was almost 820. Then she decided towards the end of the marriage that she can do things on her own. So anyways that's the part of life for a lot of people anymore
The happiest women I know have had only one sexual partner in their entire life, whereas the women I've known that have had vast sexual partners are among some of the most miserable people I've ever met.
The more sexual partners a women has, the less desirable she is. The best males will always go for the best females. So the more partners a women has, she reduces her chances of finding a proper MAN (not beta boy). Its simple, why respect a women who does not respect herself.
Those are just your experiences. There have been plenty of miserable women who only had one partner and plenty of extremely happy women who had lots of partners! And a woman having many partners does not make her less desirable and does not automatically mean she doesn’t respect herself!
Generalization
I Do What I Want of course not all not all not all. But for the majority. Every guys I know does NOT want a girl who has been around. We treat these girls as just practice, you throw them away before you are ready to settle down. Of course there are exceptions as there are for everything. But in general, a women with multiple partners usually has some issues, issues most men do not want to deal with.
WAZBEW You sound like an asshole. You shouldn’t throw people away or just use them for practice! Especially if they have issues, have you ever considered that you’re just making them worse?! People like that need to be treated with kindness and love! Please, grow some empathy!
Committed relationships and marriages are a dying tradition in the west,
the new sleep around culture on the other hand, is very trendy with millennials
Yes it's really sad. And then millenials complain that no relationships work and that 50% of marriages divorce. Well there is your answer, just be respectful and don't get inside the pants of every person you see for a night of pleasure. Its actually quite disgusting when you think about it.
Unfortunately, stating this truth nowadays will get you labeled a "prude" or a "fundie". Even some "conservatives" (whatever that means nowadays) will treat you as if you are some uneducated hillbilly.
Sunny shah Not as much as one might think. Of course, the press emphasizes the most salacious plot lines i.e. Tinder.
You have heard of "Survival of the fittest". Those that sleep around will perish from diseases and will crack up mentally. Eventually, nature will cleanse itself and return to equilibrium. Sodomy will also die out since it is a tremendous vector for the transmission of disease and they can not reproduce their DNA.
Hook up culture is the best
She’s the female Ben Shapiro with her speech speed
The day when Eminem lost the rap battle.
I love that he talked about the decimation of marriage and traditional sexual morality. Reducing sex to a matter of simple consent is to devalue it to the point of a transaction. If someone violates consent in a business deal, it’s wrong but probably isn’t going to have long term emotional and psychological repercussions. There is a reason why victims of sexual abuse suffer those long term effects. Sex is not meant to be casual and it’s not meant to be carefree. When someone sexually abuses another person, they’re guilty of more than just violating consent. We have to instill respect for sex within the confines of marriage again if we want to see improvement in our culture.
Great comment.
very well said.
“Not meant to be” according to who exactly? And also yes it is about consent, if your husband has sex with you it’s enjoyable, if a stranger breaks in and does it against your will not so much. Even better, you don’t want to have sex with your husband but he forces you. We can probably agree not a good thing. The only difference is consent in those situations and the fact that your married doesn’t override your consent. Aka, not as important
@@joeyalen5212
*And also yes it is about consent, if your husband has sex with you it’s enjoyable, if a stranger breaks in and does it against your will not so much.*
If not having consent is what makes rape gravely immoral then if someone pats you on your back without your consent then he too would be doing something gravely immoral. So it can't just be consent which makes the act of rape gravely immoral. So there must be something other than or in addition to consent that makes the act of rape gravely immoral.
*Even better, you don’t want to have sex with your husband but he forces you. We can probably agree not a good thing. The only difference is consent in those situations and the fact that your married doesn’t override your consent.*
The sexual act needs to be unifying and procreative in nature, and it can only be done in the union of marriage(revealed to us by God). The Christian believes sex is sacred, when a couple gets married they become ONE flesh, and secular people tacitly admit this when they acknowledge that rapists deserve 10+ years in prison. Without invoking sacredness secular people cannot demonstrate why rape is gravely immoral.
Great point! Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Sooooooo Christianity had it right all along? God knew what he was doing with human beings? 🧐🤔🤔🤦🏾♂️
Yeah that's why christian countries were the most successful
Amen!
Yes
@@rainsara2795 You mean Scandinavian countries...?
Wouldnt say god but you could definitely say christian intellectuals and academics who argued this for centuries.
In my opinion the things he’s talking about isn’t proper feminism the right to be equal to men is what it is and I would say most women are what feminists actually are it’s just people who take it too far have ruined it
I agree with you! Feminism is the main reason why women have come this far - from being treated like property to having a say in society. But some feminists have taken it too far and are trying to suppress the opposite sex which was the same mistake men made centuries ago.
Yes you're right but it's only the extreme you see in the news. Also I can't agree with Shapiro on the sex subject. You can have just sex for sex but you can have sex with someone you love to. The problem with people who are to conservative that they put everything in boxes. While there's a huge grey area. It's like when you had sex that is in his words a consuming product you aren't capable of appreciating sex with someone you love deeply. Which takes me to his point where he is right and that's sex with someone you love is way better then just having sex with someone.
The 21st Century Feminism hasn't done anything great in America. If the media outlets are blowing up the extreme side of it then there seems to be a lot. There is a small majority who believe in equality, but then the rest believe men should not be able to raise their children, women should have all feminine hygiene products free. They continue to fight when there is nothing wrong in their own country, but won't for women in others. 21st Century Feminism is a joke, hopefully it can become better, but right now it's a bunch of dyed hair women screaming about dumb shit.
Feminism was never about equality. Even way back when, when they were fighting for the right/privilege of being able to vote, they only wanted the privilege, without the responsbilitiy that went along with it (draft). Even today, in 2020, men in America have to register for draft if they want to vote, if they want student loans, or quite a few other things - women get those things without the responsbility that men have to put up with. How is that equal?
MrDziubla u missed the whole point of what I was saying actual feminists wanted to be equal and feminism has been given a bad name by people who want more than equality idk how it works in America tho so I can’t say anything on that but yeah
I am not Christian nor religious yet I have been and am still saving myself for marriage. Now I am 25 and my future husband has at last found me. I am so insanely happy, he treats me so well.
This feels fast forwarded
True!
Ben met his match in fast talking.
Kewl Boi but the speed on 0.75x and it sounds normal lmao
i didn't understand a word she said.
Anyone (male or female) who wants to be respected, must be respectable. Period, full stop.
Deacon Parsons best comment in this entire comment section. Only the evolved and civilized will get it.
While true, isn't universally agreed upon
you should respect everyone else before you will be respected
Been trying to tell people for years
People these days only wanna demand it and completely disrespect others
I agree with him but marriage doesn't have to be the best thing that happens to a woman.
Exactly! I don’t agree with most of the point he made (the example being modern day feminism in general, it’s not radical at all) and same for a man! Just let them find what makes them happy and accomplished! (Also is that the Mito ribbon? My brother has mito)
Obama Obama yeah like women wouldn’t have changed things if they were as happy as he says
Why not?
it’s 2020. Come on.
I agree. Threesome has to be one of the best things that happens at some point in the modern woman's life so she can gain more experience in the porn era that we live
Read the title as “How fisherman destroyed marriage” and was like perfect, I was wondering how they accomplished it
Probably by telling people that there’s plenty of fish in the sea. I’m happily married though. My wife was quite a catch. Though I do sometimes think about the one that got away.
@@irkhanbasc gosh I’m so happy for you ! It’s very rare to read something like that these days tbh
Imagine if that lady and Eminem had a child 😂 it would probably speak at speeds that the Flash could run 😂
she cant do rap god
😂😂😂
Now imagine if Ben ani Eminem had a baby..
Raul Rosas - yeah but she’d be invited to a slim shady after party before you would.
@@bhargavkelkar6877 and imagine someone dropping diss on that baby
Whats actually pretty interesting is that single parent adoption in men is growing as it's becoming more and more accepted.
That is interesting.
OEThe11 That’s a good thing since stereotypes of men go work and women do house work are very misleading
I thought you couldn't adopt as a single?
Got married a year ago at 23, was engaged at 22 and have had to constantly defend why I chose to settle down so early.
can i know why if u may? just curious and i want to know why u settled
@@abdeldjouadi I fell in love. When you know you know.
@@hannahwebster5606 seems fair
That's awesome!
Jeez they question you about your marriage decision?! Such manners people have!
I agree with this man 100000000000000% we need more people like him💓
simp
Sadly I've noticed within myself the past year that I rarely let a woman through the door before myself anymore.
Today I let this woman out of the lift first, she was greatful, smiled and said thankyou. That absolutley made my day !!!
I will be doing this much more often now. Hopefully it's appreciated. It's hard though when some women think they are entitled.
Women shouldn't feel patronised by men wanting to protect them. Us men are vulnerable to the world too and we need women to help us as well.
Do your thing hunni! I always say thank you and get a big smile when a male is a gentleman.
And if some silly cow so far up herself can't appreciate your gesture just say, "You're welcome!" Some women need to be reminded they're not all that. If she gets sassy, ignore her, because you're better than that. I know men can be good at that. Lol
😂
That's a good thing. If I dated a man who didn't open my door it would be over. I'm a lady and want to go out with a gentleman.
Women don't deserve having doors held open,or other chivalrous courteousies. The modern feminist doesn't want equality, they want to be more of a man than their partners.
You werent raised right if you havnt been doing this your whole life. However good on you for making the change.
This guy is among the few sane people left in America.
Yes
Right🔥🔥🔥💪🏽💪🏽
He denies global warming...
He’s only in it for the money
Traditional doesn't mean right
Modern doesn't mean right
@@natitekle5483 people say 'modern doesn't mean right' when it suits them,when it's time to drink, drug, get pierced ,tattooed and have premarital sex then modern is the way.
@@rheajewan8705 lol, true dat!!! We all have choices and we all should accept our choices in regards to what we really want either through traditional or modern way. Modern way suits me, more freedom.
Thank you
Girl: Mr. Shapiro thank you for being here.
My automatically generated captions: Mr. Superhero thank you for being here.
This is why I ❤ Ben Shapiro. He hit a homerun on this b/c socially he is right. I'm not even married yet and I can see the complete & utter damage feminism has caused within human nature.
April Harmony at least you being a woman I appreciate that you understand how much the feminism has destroyed the life
The "Don't Touch Me or I'll report you for rape" generation. That is probably why a very small number of cases aren't taken seriously. You know the sort of woman I am talking about.
Feminism is literally asking for EQUAL RIGHTS. Now, radical feminists on the other hand, may take some things too far and speak irrationally.
CodyFern Fan
‘Western’ “White” girls and women and most ‘Westernized’ minority females already have “equal rights” you ignorant dipshit. Most of their contemporary causes are frankly shitty and unworthy.
@@snowfrosty1 I can tell you've never had a woman around for long enough: if you did, you'd be aware of the fact that ONE in FOUR college women will be raped (I am not ignoring men's struggles, but women are also 4x as likely to be victims of sexual assault, so this is clearly an issue that needs to be stressed), whereas 99% of rapists essentially get away with their actions. Also, the fact that Senators as well as our dipshit president wants to take away an institution that helps so many of these rape victims, such as providing abortions for women who would not be able to support their offspring or who would solely relinquish them to foster care (leading to a life of misery, abuse, and identity issues). How many men's bodies are controlled or regulated by the opposite sex? If men were forced to get vasectomies, you'd NEVER hear the end of it. OR maybe you would be aware of the persisting wage gap, in which women on average earn 81 cents of every dollar that a man does---and anti-feminists dismiss this as being a result of the fact that "men just work harder;" even though women are shown to earn higher grades and contribute equally to their respective job fields and environments. OR perhaps you'd be aware of the persisting stigmas in which girls and women are shamed for their sexuality and constantly called "sluts" and "whores" for the same actions for which a guy is praised or called "the man."
Interestingly enough, the period during and following the Reconstruction, many white supremacists argued that since technically African Americans had been granted equal political rights, they are treated equally and given the same rights in practice. Your ignorance, complacency, and incomprehension of the effects of many men like yourself's attitudes have caused enough damage throughout history. It's time to let this register in your mind. Sure, you can ignore all the points I've made and respond with an ad hominem fallacy denigrating the fact that I'm a woman or whatever other qualities you deem fit: this only attracts more attention to the prevalent and prevailing diminutive attitudes towards women across the globe. My sincerest apologies if any of my language has proven too intricate for you; I guess it's just a result of me having to work 10x harder to receive the same amount of intellectual appreciation or credibility as someone who by chance was born with a Y chromosome.
Just curious, as a woman is most fulfilled in a committed relationship and having only one sexual partner in the totality of her life, the same applies for men, right? I've seen a lot of fo comments about how a woman should only have one sexual partner and women who do are generally happier, but I just wanted to ask if all of you agreed that the same standard should be expected for men as well.
Yes same standards should be expected of men to.
@@bigfish6742 Sure,sure, that's also reflected in the way our closest relatives, the ape's live. But disregarding the 'extent of fulfilment', should the same standard be held (because we've moved on to overcome our primordial urges, for the most part), or should men be expected to be in a relation with more than one woman at a time? You've answered that and that's really the only thing i care about regarding the context of the original question. But here's another one. As men are biologically predisposed to desiring more than one mate (which has kind of been negated by societal expectations causing men to stick to one, but men do still cheat more) should men be treated differently if they have cheated then women are? You know, the whole 'boys will be boys' approach. Should men be excused for their actions and women be punished for the same thing?
@@kevinnelson6070 Honestly I think men and women should be held to the same standards. Mainly because of the emotions that are involved in human relationships. When either a man or woman cheats it affects everyone around them, especially the children. I know from experience because my father cheated on my mother all the time. They would argue, fight, split up and get back together, rinse and repeat. It was HELL for me and my siblings. Cheating is wrong wether it's done by man or woman. Animals don't have the same emotional attachments as us. Animals live a "survival of the fittest" life while we humans live for our families (for the most part).
Justin Centers I mean, what you ‘feel’ and your anecdotes aren’t usually representative of the population, but in this case they are. Statistically, women cheat just as much as men. But the original question was referring to how Shapiro said that women are more fulfilled in a committed relationship than in having numerous one night stands. I think it’s because lust eventually runs out, when it gets to the point where you’re only interested in sex and then you eventually lose interest in just sex. If those women you mentioned have any sort of moral compass, they would not be very happy, at least not as happy if they had not.
Yes, men should have the same standards too. Men and women should both only have sex in marriage, both should not get divorced. Both should only have one very serious partner all their life (their spouse). That is what Christianity teaches. I am Catholic, and nowhere in Catholic teachings does it place these standards only upon women.
Love this breakdown of Feminism and Marriage. This is spot on!
I am a Muslim, but I approve of what Ben said. He is accurate 1000%
that girl is wife material based on the fact she isn't an idiot. Which is so rare among women today, social media and tinder have destroyed relationships. Too much fake choice and wk'ing
Well she would be wife material if marriage was an option in the current system ,but it's not
@@AndradeSamir Marriage is not dependent on the system, get married and don't register it. Simple as.
The illusion in marriage is at the beginning She is Sincere. After the honey moon phase........you're more likely to be a sugsr daddy without the sugar. Who lives outside his house.
@R J M Although physical attractiveness is certainly a factor in determining whether or not someone is "wife material," intelligence is equally important and the girl in this video exhibits intelligence that is becoming increasingly rarer among women her age.
Do you have the right things to offer a woman who isn't an idiot?
Nowadays, people just want get lit and have as much one-night stands as possible.
Both males and females.
LoserJ7 Don’t you think that’s only to impress friends? Don’t impress your friends. Walk on your own path.
Sad but true but it comes with a bunch of STDs and unwanted pregnancies.
ok boomer
Lol why do you care? If both parties are consenting there’s nothing wrong with it.
Anna Stella : Sadly, not everyone uses condoms. There’s still a lot of unprotected sex going on out there.
Married 35 years ...a lotta ups and downs but in the end the love we make is the love we take...
Nice end....... The End 😀😀😀
Everyone, both men and women, became too selfish. And with the dissolution of the family unit, no one knows how to have and work on long term relationships/marriage. It's truly sad bc I can only imagine how it'll be in the next 100 years.
Ben is not only smart, he is wise.
Truly. We drown so much in knowledge but thirst for wisdom.
True. My favorite part was when he said people getting married because of pregnancy was a good idea. That never leaves to unhappy marriages
Wise and being so young seems to meet the qualifications; as an United States President.
@@OldFort You sir, are very uneducated
@BW10 man how can you say that? Have you fucking left your room in the last 5 years? Have you not seen or heard what is happening in country and around the world? Even if you don't like him he opposes what is happening, and what is happening is horshit and scary on top of it.
Not trying to blame anyone in particular but likely one of the reasons behind a decreased commitment level or shape intimacy may have come from what many of the millennial generation saw from their parents, abuse or just general lack of a deep sense of love. So now love is cheapened into a quick hit like a drug. Deep love comes from knowing someone well like how well Jesus knows us.
Great comment
Samus Aran Yikes...and people wonder why I’m not a Christian.
Wow, some of you need read a history book. The concept of marriage was brought in as businesses between two families. Before that, (during pre medieval times) at least in Europe, you could get married in a pub in front of any 2 witnesses. Many people got married when they drunk and had to have it annulled by a committee.
An over-romanticized version of Love as portrayed in mass media is largely to blame.
It's not hearts, flowers and lavish vacations.
@Samus Aran Well actually if you believe in any religion it makes sense that you would believe marriage comes from their God. The same way you believe your God created the world. Since we don't know exactly how or why we're here hose who chose religion have 'faith'. While atheists aren't 100% sure. So saying God didn't create marriage is condescending, instead of saying 'I think' or 'I believe'.
Everyone on this planet should have equal choice. Republican or democrat, as a living human on this planet, everyone is entitled to their equality and choice and freedom to make whatever decisions they want. This is something people understand. However, they do not understand that these decisions come at a price, no matter what they are. I am now 31. Most of my female friends, who are my age, who were booming feminists in college, are now gravely regretting their decision to be feminists, because now men do not want to get married due to lack of motivation. Marriage failed because women decided that they wanted to be treated like men, but still have the same privileges that "ladies" had in the 50's. You cannot have both.
I consider myself a feminist. Though I don't speak for all women or feminist. I don't want to be treated like men. However I want some things that usually men get. Like respect in a work environment.
@@meXmydreams Women in the west are respected as men. The wage gap has been debunked many times over. Women in major cities such as SF, LA, and NYC are paid more than men on avg.
@@meXmydreams you have to earn respect just like you have to earn the latter to manager. Stop demanding for things and start earning them that's why we don't like feminist. Y'all want the easy way and don't want to work like we men do
@@lightdk6321 And that's the truth, even if the rest of the world condemn us for speaking it.
@@lightdk6321 1. Even if you count all the "debunking" in, the wage gap is still roughly 30%.
2, male feminists tend to marry female feminists. Problem solved.
2:22 I’m a muslim and i couldn’t agree more!
A gentleman does not exploited women when they are vulnerable. Gentlewoman does not place herself in vulnerable positions. If you are a gentleman, when you see the girl who at the hose party in college has drank to near comatose state you do not exploit her. You make sure she is okay. If you are a gentleman and the drunk girl starts rubbing up on ypu, you walk her home. If she is offended by you not wanting to take advantage of her because she is drunk, she is not a girl you want in your life. If you are a gentlewoman, you do not drink your self into a nearly comatose state thus putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. If you are a gentlewoman, you do not get so drunk that you wander up to some dude you do not know or hardly know. There is a difference between having sex and making love. Sadly so many are confused over this.
Try to explain to a girl that if she dresses for attention she will get it. Just not the type she wants most of the time. Falls on deaf ears.
You obviously don't know how our legal system works these days. That romanticized bull$hit doesn't work anymore. You'd be risking way too much as a man by doing that stuff.
Dubois2.0 so you would be risking too much by walking her home or not taking advantage of her? I don’t think you understood what he’s saying.
You walk her home with 10 witnesses, making a video in order to prove innocence in court.
Reading the comments it is clear in the near future men and women will end up.like the men and women in Japan where 73% of men ages 18 to 40 reject women because of matriachal oppression. Sadly when men and women cannot get along bad things happen for society. Japan has the lowest reproductive rate in the world. Marriage rates are at the lowest ever. The rate of depression and suicide for women have increased significantly. The 27 % of men who will consider women are easily able to exploit women as most women in Japan want to get married. Not uncommon for men to have multiple girlfriends as the competition for a man is cut throat. Motivational speaker zig ziglar used to say, men and women could have better romantic and marriage relationships if both men and women realized they were on the same team.
My Inference is most men in the west
Act feminist just to impress women
Be a humanist not a feminist 💗
Those are simps
Agree
I find feminists are normally okay when you tell them why you reject the ideology...as long as you do it respectfully. They sense that male feminists are just trying to sleep with them and telling them what they want to hear.
Lachee Brun try it and you can successfully ruin a date ... I promise 😂
feminism is an equal rights movement, it is "humanist"
Wow, very, very wise and learned man. Much respect to you Ben. Thank you.
simp
@@bongobandits1640 Nah.
ZackstaDaxta yeah❤️
@@bongobandits1640 false
ZackstaDaxta no
I'm Indian and also from America. Perhaps what's he's saying makes sense in the western concept (especially considering radical feminism in the West), but I've seen what marriage does to women in my extended family. I'm sorry, but I don't agree. If feminism killed chivalry, then I don't see it even though Indian society is still all about marriage. :(
i think the indian standard of marriage has deviated far from what it was supposed to be in ancient times. what he's talking about isn't at all what indian marriages or frankly most 'traditional' marriages are today.
@@janhavisingh5826 I agree. It has deviated, but I think in a good way. In urban society, I see marriage more as a joint collaboration between the parents and children. Before that, it was simply the parents and/or elders making the decisions. In terms of chivalry... hm... what I was trying to say in the original comment is that marriage (simply based on elder's choice and society) is stupid. Chivalry was never a part of Indian marriage, even in ancient times. It was about social connection, community, and in times of barter trade system, it was a good method for families to exchange wealth and land. Of course this applies to the west too. I feel that nowadays arranged marriage has lost it's purpose. It is doing nothing more than suppressing the younger gen.
I feel like I'm going off tangent and writing too much, plz bear with me. ^^;
I agree with you and yes, what's he's saying has nothing to do with Indian traditional marriages today. I'm just saying his concepts and views in marriage only applies to western (specially American) society. I think a little strong feminism would do India good. Constraining sex to just marriage is a terrible idea and as far as I'm aware, Indian men being taught to protect is just another way of saying "women are weak."
@@jojisol5288 i agree with the arranged marriage, point, it is definitely doing more harm than good in this day and age when several marriages have turned abusive because the partners did not know each other that well before they got married. i also agree that India could do with a wave of feminism to address these issues in the society, especially when in India traditionalistic ways of living are still present, (the good traditions are fine but some traditions in this day and age are doing more harm then good).
@@janhavisingh5826 I'm glad we agree. ^^
Even though I consider myself to be more left leaning, I can’t argue with the point Shapiro makes, and I have great respect for him.
I'm glad the voice of reason lives on
@NonyaBusiness! I feel like this information is well known. Generally speaking its much easier for people to afford housing ect. together.
? What are you disagreeing with?
yatagarasuable sam harris never evaluates new ideas. He is closed minded af and only proceeds with “no thats wrong” when someone actually disproves him
Ben, thank you so much for speaking the truth; you are so on point!
Ben: Thank you opposite sex partner. My sexual encounter has been fulfilled.
Once Again
Ben Shapiro: 1
Feminism: 0
I think you got the score wrong. Ben has like more than 100 pts
@@jpt5135, this is 'again'. Each time he wins against Feminism.
Ben: 2020
Feminism: 0
@@davidhendrickson6678 Totally! #BenForPrez2020
Devendra Singh i think that she is not a feminist and that she is a very inteligent and educate girl.
Utterly brilliant I couldn’t agree more , I have been married for 34 years and raised 2 healthy balanced happy children , I weep when I look around and wonder who they can marry .....
Oh my God tell them to avoid marriage like the plague, it's the worst thing they can get into if it fucks up
@@80sfreak14 That's why they need to be honest with themselves and find someone who they ACTUALLY LOVE. And they need to be able to be emotionally intact because when they get into disagreements, they won't flip out. Marriage works perfectly fine with honesty
@@jp_03766 that is true, but the problem is, finding a truly honest person nowadays is like finding a straight man at a Lady Gaga concert.
@@80sfreak14 Yeah I agree with you on that. But then again, you can also strive to help your partner be honest, and you can try and be the best person you can. I think most people have forgotten the utility of marriage. It's beneficial for both men and women
@@80sfreak14 Maybe its because you are looking for him at a "Lady Gaga's concert." My point is, maybe you're looking in the wrong places..
This is the most slow-talking-Shapiro i have ever seen.
Awesome👍👍👏👏 I m glad to see that such thinking still persist in world💕💕
All these dudes and women clapping like they don’t clap each other’s cheeks without being committed to a relationship 😭
Underrated comment 😂😂😂😂😂
Whether they do it or not doesn't matter, atleast they have enough character to admit Ben was spitting. People typically don’t like being criticized and will justify their lifestyle regardless.
Let people do what they want, simple
@@KARTIKEYA007 People can do what they want but doesn't necessarily make it good. Just cause certain things people choose to do doesn't effect anyone else doesn't mean that there aren't any valid criticisms.
@@godofgamers3884 there are valid criticisms for ANY lifestyle... Literally... So you are not in any position to criticize anyone's lifestyle since no matter what, your lifestyle can be criticized too
This was a *who raps faster* type of video
@joshtube9 NICE
I absolutely love how he’s interpreted and voiced this
I'm in my 20's but i really love that my man pursues me and i let him. Simple as that
Pursues !?!!!!
Loool
Get yourself a man that pursues you and not the other way around. Or maybe yet you are just better off alone, with tons of cats and anxiety pills
Assorted Berries Yeah stfu✨😹
@@twoprayingbuddhas892if you like just being pursed a day will come when your purser will get tired... I know I did
I wholeheartedly agree with Mr. Shapiro
get your head checked then
@@bongobandits1640 No need for that.
@@bongobandits1640 forcing people to be hypocrit- sorry I meant woke now?
What part exactly do you agree with? Or are you just another mindless chimp who agrees with any right side shit bag?
@@ahappilydrunkpuppy8961 stfu
Title is wrong. It should be "How Feminism Ruined Everything."
Jesus Christ, Son of God trust this man, he’s literally jesus
God doesn’t have a son
@@drmosaddegh prove it
@@drmosaddegh first of all I'm atheist. I'm just asking you a question, why are you so defensive? I just want you to prove your point. Do you have some historical documents? Some biblical text or something like that? Otherwise you are not proving anything. You can't even prove that God is real. This are YOUR OPINIONS and not proofs
God Jesus and the holy spirit are all one there is one god and they form the holy trinity
Very much appreciated him calling out Cosmo for that.
I'm not agreeing or disagreeing with this video because i want more information. but he said that feminism is responsible for ruining traditional marriage but never explained how? there was also no explanation to the other claims he made. if any one knows or he has said in a previous video please tell me, would love to discus :)
How??? Holy shit you even have a cat.
@Mikayla Kray yeah agree
This man advocates for morality, civilization, and social stability using logic and facts. Cheers Ben!
I've seen it first hand in many instances . Women leaving good men and breaking a family apart in order to be more happy. That's a paradox.
If the men ain't treating her in a good way she did the right thing don't judge
john connolly that’s good that she gets to leave when she feels she could be happier. Good for those women
john connolly damn western civilization must be really fragile if a happily divorced woman is all it takes to make it crumble
Kere Do thank. 👏 you. 👏
john connolly if it stands on the sacrifice of women’s happiness & freedom, let it fall. We’ll build something better 🥰
I love to listen to you videos. This one is another winner. Thank you!!!!!
A friend of my wife messaged her after I shared this video on FB. She was asking my wife if she was okay as she believed Ben was saying consent was stupid. Like if I was sexually assaulting my wife. Now I love and respect my wife and at an early age was taught to be respectful towards all walks in life. I'm sure her friend meant well. My wife watched this video and felt concerned for her well being and I had to spend a hour saving face. I asked her to give me the benefit of the doubt and to not let her friend cloud her judgement of me and that she can always come to me for clarification when I share my opinion. We needed a professional marriage counselor to help put this discussion to rest because it was hard to deal with. So long story short....when someone states their opinion and you are in disagreement....seek clarification and get to know the person's heart before accusing them of something they are not
Is your wife also conservative?
This is one reason I married my wonderful wife, who is from Japan. She came from a culture where it's still okay for a woman to be a woman, but she also recognized something outside of her generation's culture of frivolous sexuality and unrestrained lust. She wanted to save that intimacy for her future husband where it could be tempered and made more meaningful and enjoyable. I feel so guilty and yet motivated because this angel helps me want to overcome my issues and become the kind of man I know I can be for her and other people. I'm not a misogynist for wanting to love, protect, and care for my wife. It just became so important to people in our generation to equate that with meaning women can't do these things themselves or something. A good couple protects EACH OTHER, but our bodies are different. Sometimes one needs more help than the other, but that shouldn't be taken as a sign of weakness from one side, it should be taken as a sign of getting over one's pride and ego to care about someone other than themselves.
(Edit 4 years later, I apologize for being dramatic with this comment. I feel I've changed a lot in the last years to not oversimplify this topic, so I apologize if I was being inconsiderate to anyone.
We are doing fine though. Welcoming our first little one into the world soon.
Whatever your background or identity, I hope you're just trying to be a good person for a loved one.)
Preach... Everybody read this
The problem is the old ways are dead and if you find a decent partner then you're in the minority. People look at relationships like a Disney movie. Romance has never really existed as it's an illusion created by romance novels, TV shows, films to make money and brainwash people. People got.married years ago so they could have stability and have children. Many people were in unhappy marriages but stayed together as divorce was frowned upon. It wasn't all necessarily better years ago but society was much less broken down than it is now.
What on earth does "women can be women" mean? If your a person with a womens body and you are born with it than your a woman
Very well said
@@jadecarlile4842 i think he means a normal woman aka not a feminist and probably with conservative values
When he says that women need to teach men how to act within relationships he lost me. Women shouldn't have to be their spouses parent. Men are adults. Men shouldn't need to be taught how to act in relationships. If men need to be taught by their spouse how to function I think that that suggests parents are doing a lousy job raising compassionate, independent, and cultured boys.
@mkmoor04
we as humans learn through experience for the entirety of our life. parents can teach and instill good morals and respect towards others however there is no substitute for experience, it is the responsibility of both partners to extend common human decency. at the same time female characteristics are more nurturing, i suspect Ben is alluding to this idea. women do not have to mother their male partners, just have to posses strong traditional female characteristics for a happy relationship. Nothing more appealing than a strong character woman to a man i can tell you that. when it comes to long term relationships it is the character not the looks that matter to a man. is suspect it is the same for woman.
hope i made sense.. :)
@Profit Glutton I think from a conservative perspective though that this takes away the agency and accountability of the man though. Conservative rhetoric consistently says that we should hold ourselves accountable. It is not society or the governments job to help us. It is our job to be responsible and useful so to speak. Therefore that same mentally would suggest that men should also be held accountable for not acting barbaric either, not their spouses job to act a certain way in order to teach men how to be. I think the main reason there is such issues in this day and age and things like radical feminism cropping up is more to do with the fact that society is not letting folks evolve. If you implicate someone to a role within society that is not of their choosing, but expected upon them by society at large you will see extremism crop up. Resentment can build, confusion, internal war etc of an individual happens when certain expectations are applied on an individual. This is no where more prevalent then in I would say the transgender community for example. Society and biology is forcing one expectation on someone, but internally their mind is forcing another- that ideological opposition within a person creates confusion, a loss of identity, resentment of society and themselves, and hence why they commit suicide at such staggering rates. People need to be allowed to evolve otherwise when we apply these social expectations or roles on folks it just creates extremism of some form. Men need to be allowed to evolve out of this stereotypical role of breadwinner and protector and same for women being the domestic goddess and nurturer so to speak. Now there is nothing wrong with men and women taking on those stereotypical roles. What is wrong is expecting everyone to fit into that model and not accounting for the fact that men and women are incredibly diverse and a good majority of them might not want to fit into those roles. And I don't think men are inherently more violent than women are. Yes, men show their violence through physical strength mainly because they are stronger, but women can be just as violent from an emotional standpoint. Men and women have a lot more in common than this suggests and I think we should allow ourselves to evolve and at the same time hold ourselves personally accountable to how we act within society on some level.
@Profit Glutton I completely agree that men are physically stronger than women and in a previous world yes they would need to be the main providers, but I think the fact that most jobs no longer need brute strength, but intellect instead puts both on equal footing. I think society just needs to adapt to that and look at it as an opportunity as I suggested to evolve versus trying to hold on to the old guard so to speak.
You never stop learning. Relationships are about leaning on one another on many levels. He's right.
Thank you
I am Computer Scientist and Engineer and i love to study the maths and analyze data from a young age. I am from India and I found that the Indian Education System is so discriminative against men. They gave chances to girls who doesn't who don't even show up in college and just hang out in premises. This girls can't even code anything in C or even python. They don't know basics of programming or other skills yet they get admission with 99% off. I say really. If you are a girl from minority it's even great. Boys like me have to pay 10000$ or even more while girls get scholarships as well as good amount of support. I visited many colleges and i found out it happens all the time. only 1/20 girl wants to know other than basics which will get them a job. Also the boys that get the admission are also same just because of they from minority they gets the advantage. Even If i travel in train the girls can come in men's couch and blame us for being too close in rush hour. My mother in school where she earns around 140 USD per month. She wanted me to see go to good college and have a good social life. Just because of these minority and girl empowerment bullshit I didn't got admission into a good college. Even after cracking JEE mains which is the one of the hardest exams in world. Even having good scores like 88% and 92% in Computer Science I didn't even make to college i wanted but same girl i knew got admission there with 20000 rs fees per year(hardly 180 USD) while she scored 52%. The college asked me 5000 USD for a year since i am not from minority and these girl who is not even studying there...she just want to enjoy friends circle. *AM I A JOKE* Really. After that I knew that dumbass kids who don't even like studying are killing the opportunities and dreams of students like us. I can't even express my frustration and hatred. Isn't Feminism killing the dreams of a mother wanting her son to have a good job and have a better life than her. I don't have a father, he died. My mother is a woman and she has all hopes on me but isn't feminism killing the hopes of lot of mothers who want their son to succeed. I am a Computer Scientist, An AI engineer and a researcher on my own. I didn't got into college but My programming skills are way superior to 99.5 % of these college folks. These minority rights and Feminist can't kill my dreams but they do a lot of damage by making world hard for people like us. I had to buy a 1000 dollar laptop which cost 70% more in india than USA so 1800 USD. and to get my own set up, Material for IOT and Robotics. Own raspberry Pie and other software necessaries. But working in my Home 8 hours a day studying and getting better in Industry, Pushing my limits I grew a lot of depression coz I didn't have any Social Life anymore like these people go to college have. If I had gotten gift of being in college I might have made lot of friends and also got the stuff I wanted already in the Comp. Lab. But my only crime was that I was born as a man and not in minority. Thanks if you made it to the end. I don't Think anybody will read this cause I just want to my frustration released . Sorry for my bad grammar here since I also lost my skills in communication since I hardly see anyone out there. I will survive for my mother and make a better place for people like me. Thank You Again.
То, что ты такой лох, виноват не феминизм, а ты. Не было бы феминизма, ты как был бы лохом, так бы и остался
i am sorry for what happened to u, and how u are discriminated against ur own collegues, u said u couldn't get admission in ur dream college because u are a male and some female did with less percentage, same thing can also happen with sc and st boys who dont even have sufficient knowledge and still they get admission on low fees, so what will u say to that? if u think i am being rude to u then i am sorry from bottom of my heart. if someone get priviliges more than us then its not our fault neither theirs, but the problem comes when they misuse them , in that college not only girls but many boys also join like that based on reservations then do all the open cateogory people blame them for being highly priviliged because they got in with less percentage? no , its just somelaws are made for the betterment of society but some people misused them, i am not defending any male or female here,, its not ur fault for being born as a man , i should say in countries like iran afganistan and syria, females curse themselves for being born as females so what should we do about that, once again i am not trying to justify something , just like some rapists with their influence can escape from the crime , some innocent men get caught by false victims in rape accuse, both are wrong, innocent should be protected at all costs be it a man or a woman, a real feminist is ur mother who have given birth to a beautiful child like u and is coping through all the difficulty to raise u into a responsible human being, sohave her as ur idol not these lame women or men . may god bless u
Modern woman underestimate the love of a man truly in love with.....They can leave you completely heartless and sad, so badly that sometimes the only thing you think about is self deletion...A man who is in loved with his female counterpart will always love her whether there's sun or rain, whether is day or night.....Love means two souls becoming one......
Feminism is not about liberating women. It is about denigrating men. Trump said it best when asked if he is a feminist, and he said "I am not a feminist, I treat men and women equally."
Lucas Johnson it’s about Marxism
How can you say Trump treats men and women equally? He’s literally the biggest pig in the White House
+Campis Reviews Really? Do you know him personally? Or are you just buying into the narrative spun by George Soros and his paid protesters?
im actually buying into the videos they have of him speaking publicly and recorded audios but sure
+Campis Reviews Even if true, and not just big talk to impress his pals, he still pales compared to Bill Clinton.
This lady was trying to give Ben's talking speed a run for its money. Don't even try it, lady! You might be a Master's student, but his wife is a doctor!!
Ben's wife: Damn it Ben! I'm a doctor not a feminist!
I love your comment
That's the rumour
Ok, now I'm imagining them bitching at each other in chipmunk voices. Good job dude, that's a mental image I didn't need.
A Moroccan isreali doctor
Absolutely spot on and such a great description of some of the basic positives of marriage
Brilliant, as usual. Remind me not to get in a debate with Ben, unless I'm on the same side which is usually the case. Thanks.
As a women in her mid thirties, I can say I hate feminism. Because of the point Ben just made. I have thought this for a long time but haven't heard anyone in media verbalize it til now. Feminism is part of tearing down roles within a healthy marriage. When roles become confused, it creates a perfect breeding ground for chaos and disrespect. Women and men were created different for a reason.
You have the right to do many things thanks to the true feminists hun. I think what you should be hating is 'radical feminism'. Please dont shit on the women & men who fought for us to live better lives. Thanks.
@@anyagaladima8668feminism is bull shit. You expect equal pay but you don't bring in as much revenue as men, feminists back something only when it supports their Illogical agenda
No, you women have the right to do many things thanks to MEN. If men didn't comply, you would be making sandwitches. Because it's not as if women could enforce women's rights.@@anyagaladima8668
What you speak of is not feminism … get off you tube and read a history book actually read a few
If everyone only had one sex partner for life we would see all STIs and STDs disappear.
Not necessarily. Certain STDs can be passed from mother to child during pregnancy and birth, and others can be spread by non sexual means. But yes, it would certainly diminish the prevalence quite significantly.
Humans are not naturally monogamous. Most people have more than one sex partner.
@@Stigma-ba115 What is natural matters because those are the things that will never change, regardless of whether we judge these natural traits as right or wrong, or good or bad. Humans will always be naturally polygamous, no matter the amount of biased, skewed and highly unreliable polls and studies, paid and conducted by individuals and institutions with vested interests in certain results only.
@@despicabledeplorablemgtow3837 What the hell are you talking about? Humans are naturally monogomous.
@@CJ-lr4uq LOL. You can repeat that all you want but the evidence is against you and anyone who believes such nonsense.
So true. Well said.Thank you Ben for your continued stand for healthy morality and values that we need as a culture.
That's an example of man who just is afraid of life without rules, control. He lives according to definitions and strictly follow them.
I like how he said women have given up on marriage makes me not feel so guilty.
I’m sorry but only women should not feel guilty. How dare you feel the same as them? /s
women haven’t given up on marriage, i think it’s just the fact that no one wants to marry you mate
@@bongobandits1640 Yeah cause I'm such a horrible person.
Andrew Tschuta acceptance is the first stage ❤️
@@bongobandits1640 Blow me.
It's simple.
Remove government from marriage.
That's sadly not by any means enough in and of itself. It's a good start, though.
Remove government from a lot of things.
Dont need a piece of paper from the government saying you're married. If you feel you're at that stage, then you're committed. Less expensive too.
@Frostmourne that may work but does go against the idea of getting the government out of citizens' daily lives. In any case the most problematic areas when it comes to unstable families is in the poor black communities; most of them are in the lowest income brackets and would be paying next to zero income tax (apart from payroll/SS taxes)
Better solution is getting government out of stuff like benefits. Benefits that keep single mothers afloat have a positive impact on them short term but had the long-run effect of removing the man's responsibility for the child ("Why should I pay, you can bring up that child with taxpayers' money"). Removing the benefits would cause women to, just like the old days, force men to take responsibility as a *precondition* for sex.
Lol, government has less power when less ppl participate. If a man and woman are commited to each other, what is paperwork going to add.
Government is a safeguard against and for those whose word are useless.
One of the best Ben Shapiro clips of all time. Love this!❤👏
Bens clarity of thought is just amazing and spot on!!
I love how the closed captions call Ben, "Mr. Superhero..." 😁
It's auto-generated. I got "Mr Shibuya".
I've been divorced for 11 years and the best decision I made was to remain single which included not dating. That was such a very difficult decision! I had a dear friend, who is in heaven now, and she was like a grandmother to me and she would always tell me, "There are worse things than be alone and that is being married to the wrong person!" She sure had that right!
It is not only men's duty to protect their partners... Two people in a relationship protect each other. That's love and that's family. Protecting the other partner is not one sided duty, so I disgree when he said men are supposed to protect women and women are supposed to cherish and value those behaviors of men. I like him but don't agree with some points he made in the video.
same
I've been looking for a man who thinks like ben shapiro for a long time, but I've done myself wrong by taking part in some of this worldly crap because I got discouraged and I'm sad. It is so amazing to see someone with his beliefs stand up to others and explain things so well. I still hope to find my guy.
Same here for me but instead of a guy well obviously the opposite but hope I do as well it kills me like can you even start to have a relationship if this is a problem and as guy who's never been in a relationship and is currently not as well I ask myself how is it going to happen its like walking on egg shells
I don't always agree with Ben Shapiro but he's absolutely right here, and it's such an important issue because the mass abandonment of the family unit/marriage affects everyone and everything in our society
This lady be speaking faster than Shapiro.
It's great to be alive in this country this day in age. It is also sad to live here and now.
Man I dated a feminist a while ago, the day I know she's not a rational feminist but a lunatic, hadn't call her since. 😂😂😂terrifies me.
I think feminism in its core was a good idea....but like with everything there is always someone who will use things for the wrong things.
I as a woman say that some people took feminism , me too and other stuff tooooooo far.
Why can't people just fight for the right things with the right moves?????
Agreed!
Because the nature of mankind doesn't usually stop when goals are accomplished. They keep going. They keep pushing the envelope. For instance take gay marriage. Support it, against it, not really the problem. Now they are pushing for pedophilia to be normalized and "ok"...trust me they are. Next will be incest and then probably beastiality. Mankind KEEPS going due to pride.
@@RamrodAI You sir have hit the nail on the head. They want to be inclusive but their inclusivity will destroy mankind if we continue.
Feminism at its core IS a good thing and people who do not recognize the disparities that women face FROM men are probably perpetrators themselves unwilling to acknowledge they have knowingly or unknowingly done something incorrect. Women, in the beginnings of marriage, were property to be owned. Not loved and respected. Not equalized within the household. People think marriages "back in the day" were all this lovely Dean Martinesque black and white movie... no! There was significant abuse, with no way out for the woman because she was shunned (as a "whore") for wanting to divorce. For some who wanted to go work and not raise kids, they weren't given that opportunity... they were shunned again.
There are many parts of womens history that people need to understand more before simply going off and making broad sweeping statements.
Has the feminist movement "gone too far", maybe in some cases it has. In other cases it hasnt.
Had #Metoo gone too far... maybe in some cases it has. In others no, it has raised the conciousness of people to understand what the female experience is, how hard it is for some... and many who come from upscale "good" homes...
Even using the term whore, for a sexually liberated woman, as was stated above, but not the equivalent for a sexually liberated man, shows the low-brow perspective of women by the listeners of this video.
@bad bad mc bad
100 years ago? That was when things BEGAN to start for women... not when shit hit its peak...
First woman in the Marines: 1918
First time women could vote: 1920
First female Senator: 1932
First female CEO of Fortune 500 company: 1972
Time when martial rape was considered a crime in every state: 1993
My point was that far extremism is bad in most cases. But women continuing to be a voice for women who need help using their own, is not a bad thing. And sometimes it takes women in other countries to fight for the rights of women strongly oppressed in their own.
It is fabulous for Ben's wife that shes accomplished so much. And it's a great earmarker to other women for what they too can accomplish, but it is not an example of the futility of feminism.