This is why getting married is not mandatory in my views. It can build you, but can also destroy you! A partner in life is just there to supplement you. Happiness is our own responsibility to our self. We don't need anyone to give us happiness.
Bro, sobrang agree ako sayo. Research the author of "I kiss dating Goodbye".. it's one of the examples purity culture can never determine the success of one's marriage.
You must be the source of Happiness as an individual coz that is your way too to keep your life heathy and alive. If you are happy, you can make others happy too.
being dumped, cheated on, left alone to suffer is the most painful feeling that i wouldn't even wish it on my worst enemy, to those of you here in the comments who have loved truly, genuinely, unconditionally...i admire you and salute you all
Same story ng buhay ko. I married my bestfriend... Then after 13years... Ayun iniwan ako at sumama sya sa officemate namin. Realization ko sa relationship ko: 1. Kahit kinilala nyong mabuti yung mapapangasawa mo. Hindi mo masasabi na pwede syang kunin ni God or kunin sya ng iba.😁 2. Love changes. It's an emotion, a feeling that we can't control. Today mahal mo sya, bukas hindi na. But the important things is your "STAND" if your stand is to stay and fix the marriage. Thr problem is, Mahirap yung ikaw lang ang lumalaban samantalang sya sumuko na. 3. Kung may problema ang mag-asawa dapat sa "TAMANG TAO" ka hihingi ng advice or makikipag-usap. 4. Sabi nila "baka hindi na masaya kaya iniwan ka" nope... I don't agree with this. Maraming tao ang binubugbog, nasasaktan, niloloko ng paulit ulit pero Hindi pa rin nila kayang iwan o lokohin yung asawa nila. 5. Wag masyadong ma attach, Acceptance na d ka na talaga mahal, forgive them (legal wife: parang ako na kasi ang kontrabida sa lovestory nila) 6. Huwag tanungin si God bakit nangyayari sa inyo yung ganung bagay. Pwedeng inilalayo ka lang dahil hindi talaga sya para sayo or test lang yan para patatagin kayo. Last but not the least, Mahal magpakasal pero mas mahal magpa Annul. 😂😂
People wont know how painful it is unless they themselves have undergone the same situation. It will be like a nightmare that would hunt you every night and would relive the pain over and over again. I feel you Moira. Stay strong and pray always for God is the only One faithful.🙏🏻
Love is not just a feeling, it's a Choice. It's a choice to commit to stay with the same person and forgive this same person over and over and over again, to love this person unconditionally meaning that even when the person deserve to be love or not, you continue to do it and choose to love regardless of whatever circumstances your in. Note that both has to be on the same commitment. Otherwise, the relationship wouldn't work.
Thank you. Your analysis makes sense and you discussed it with utmost sensitivity... Godly love is perfect, ours isn't. That's why we cling to Him in all the seasons of our hearts.
We, humans are wired to be emotional, few are logical thinkers. Once an emotional need is not fulfilled with your current partner, then you found it in someone else, and there will start the unfaithfulness on your partner. I agree with what you said "emotional immaturity" causes infidelity.
Most men is not looking for emotional fulfillment kaya nangangaliwa🤪 Fact is …. Its the LUST, that power of Sex excitement… sa kama lang lahat yan sila bumabagsak… 🤪
It's true that even if he (Jason) made mistake, he's man enough to admit and own up to his mistakes even if the consequences might be terrifying. That's why we cannot entirely claim that he's bad guy for hurting her, coz he still respect Moira in a way that he own up his mistakes and be honest with it... Sometimes, being honest with our mistakes makes it closer to our stepping stone to move forward and to forgive in time.
True..di katulag ng ex husband ko na di umamin sa akin na may kabit na pala. Sa iba ko pa nalaman..hayuup nun... Sana may divorce na para di na tayo mastustuck sa mga mokong natoh!
I agree that cheating is a decision one makes. Thats the most painful truth any partner could ever accept. That is why, oftentimes, ending the relationship and moving on is the best option. Based on experience, trust issues don't die. Being there for 2yrs now, I can say its toxic and it can really affect your mental health. So I think Moira did the right thing cutting ties and moving on eventhough Jason was courageous enough to confess what he has done. May God heal Moira and turn things around for her.
Share ko na to kasi nakakaawa na si Jason. Wala pa ngang details pero grabe na yungjudgement sa kanya. From a confession na sa kanya rin naman galing, na kung tutuusin ay puwede namang hindi na niya sinabi sa public. Here's the info na galing sa isa sa mga close friends nila: walang ibang lover si Jason, babae man o lalaki. Hindi bading si Jason. Hindi rin sya nagka-affair. Pero ang mali niya is pumunta sya sa mga spakol for sex. Yan yung unfaithfulness na sinabi niya. This is because wala silang sex ni Moira, dahil daw sa depression ni girl. Na-guilty si Jason kaya nag-confess sya sa asawa niya, but it backfired. When Jason was in Dubai, his wife spent time with Zack Tabudlo the singer and I guess nag-click sila (as evidenced sa lnstagr.:im ny.:i). W.:ila pang idea si Jason na emotionally cheating na pala si Moira sa kanya. Tapos ayun, he confessed, unfortunately ginamit ni girl ang confession na yun to break up with him. Meaning, matagal na silang nagkaka-problema, naghintay lang ng tamangopportunity si girl. Pareho silang may fault pero ang masama dito is yung la\aki langang umako ng kasalanan. Grabe yung impact sa family ni Jason na according to people who know them, are really good and very down-to-earth people na ayaw sa showbiz spotlight, kaya sobrang lungkot na nagkaganito na. Tuesday pa yung pasabog pero until now walang statement si Moira, para bang hinayaan lang niya si Jason to be slaughtered by the public and she's enjoying all the positive attention 😞
This was veryy so sad and traumatic ending to moira😣 The song that she was created "Paubaya" was suddenly really meant for her. I hope that she's ok..this is just only a test of life .. That You have to endure .. .but be always strong..because I know you will overcome it someday... not now . But eventually. You can heal yourself ..nobody will do that to you but yourself. Just wanna share for 40 years of existence..I've been through a lot of pain and difficulties in life ..I always broken hearted... I was enduring all of it in silence.. But one day I found myself for longest time ..Im ok.... I learned to be alone and enjoying it... Now having Companion for me is a choice. I have learned that I dont need to find my happiness to somebody for me to satisfy myself ..because I, myself can find happiness without somebody else .. Sa totoo lang Kinikilig na lang ako pagsahod na ..so many "me time" that create happiness that is why.. If somebody will come along and would love to have me for the rest of his life.. That will be a bonus.. Mawala man sya ulit di ko kawalan..kasi mananatili akong maligaya .. Because I know the art of being alone.
Mahirap nga magtiwala ulit pag nasira na ito pero hindi ka naman magiging masaya pag hinayaan mo ang puso mo hindi na magmahal ulit..i salute you always kuya darbs☺️☺️
Thank you. I don't have a boyfriend since birth, I am 28, too afraid. There is more reasons why marriages failed I've seen not just cheating. I've seen that, and I realize no person is perfect for you, but its a choice if you let yourself be vulnerable to someone. You are right, there are million of successful marriages out there😊 I hope I get to meet a person who is stronger than my fears.and makes me strong to gamble too.
True we choose the person to be beside us. Kahit sa dami ng pag subok na dadating. For 13yrs. Being married to my husband hindi lahat ng oras masaya. Sometimes i want to give up but still i choose to stay coz i still believe in love... so inspiring all what you have said! Thank you kasi still hanging and believing!
Salute to you bro. Galing po ng inyong mga opinions. Neutral ka poh and di judgemental. Sang ayon po ako sa 7 Realizations nyo. Very helpful po specially sa mga may pinagdadaanan at pagdadaanan na ganito sa relationship. Keep it up and thank u
TBH. While I think cheating should never be tolerated. (I got cheated by my 2 ex before) I think that couples who lasted several decades until their old age also gone through this. One way or another there were mistakes that were made but they were forgiven. As long as the person who made the mistake will not do it the 2nd time. Because that only means that he/she did not regret the mistake
That's true. But in Moira's case, her character is so different. She is nailed to her past. Either trauma or anything in effect, she carries it all the time by manifesting it in her songs. And it should not be that way. She relives her pain by making it her songs and even listening to her songs all the time. Jason or men in general cannot tolerate women's drama.
Yung bang alam na nya past mo, ung trauma mo.. And then ginawa nya din sayo. If you're really unsure about how you feel towards the person, just pls tell them.. Dont marry them and then cheat.
It is so painful to realize that way of redirection led to a massive heartbreak. You trusted the process, you had faith in it. But what is lacking? It’s hard to put your heart again for another redirection. 😢
Wise.. Marriage is difficult so any struggle if not resolved will be taken and magnified in marriage. Social media could magnify the failures of most marriages pero know that there are also many whose marriage works.
Wow, super na feel ko un emotion sa video mo. Naiyak ako while watching your video, especially dahil sapul na sapul lahat ng sinabi mo sa experience ko. I agree 100% sa analyzation mo. I have the same sentiments because of the lessons I learned from it.
Marriage is not really a guarantee that you will be forever with the person you love but rather a vow to be faithful, to always choose and love only that person you married for. But at the end of the day, it is still the choice of both parties either to stand for thier vow no matter how painful it is or to part ways and move forward.
She just made a song for herself ....""paubaya really meant for her. That's what we called premonition. Felt sad for Moira, May the Lord guide her to surpass the obstacles she's been through.
As a woman we give our 110% love n trust to our husband and we forgot to leave some to ourself.Iyong Taong minahal at you trusted him the most iyong pa nagbigay ng sakit .It’s not hard to forgive but it’s hard to forget what the person did to hurt you.Time can tell when to heal the wound .One the thing I realize that never trust n love the most except Allah .Hope both party learn fr each other mistakes.
Hello Darbs thanks for being cool..my friend admire them because God is always in the center for both..and shockingly sad for what happened..we feel for Moira🙏💖💝
Sa sarili kong karanasan, Ilang beses, ilang ulit na rin akong niloko ng asawa ko. Paulit ulit. Pero kami pa rin hanggang ngayon. Oo, tanga na kung tanga, pero ito ang pinili kong buhay pinili kong direksyon. Hanggat kaya kong magpatawad, magpapatawad at magpapatawad ako. Habggang sa mapagod na ko at masabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na...Tama na. Sagad na ako. Pero sa ngayon? Sa edad namin, kelangan ko na lang magpakatatag. Yun lang. Iba iba tayo ng pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Iba iba ang desisyon, pero kapit lang. Hindi habang buhay, iiyak ka, magmumukmok sa isang sulok.
Every thing happens for a reason. God is in control & He knows what is best for us. Usually unexpected sad situation happens dahil si Lord ayaw na nya tayong masasaktan pa ng matagal. He’s molding us to be strong, smarter & be prepared. Lagi si Lord may nilalaan na mas higit na magandang sitwasyon para sa atin. Ang hinintay nya lang sa atin ay ang magpakumbaba, magpasalamat, repent & remember Him everyday through PRAYERS. Moira, alam ko na kaya mong lagpasan itong pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Believe & have Faith that God is always there for those who are broken-hearted. For now, mahirap kalimutan at magpatawad pero in due time magagawa mo pa rin magpatawad. I believe in the power of PRAYER. God is leading u to the right path & be grateful. I bet u will shine! Much better is waiting for u. God bless you, Moira. Take care.💕🌹💕🌹💖
Usually sasabihin natin sana di n lng sila kinasal. Pero kahit tayo hindi ntin alam kung anong mangyayari in d future. May mga bagay n s panahon. Nagbabago. Kung alam nila na mangyayrari yon bk di nila maiisip magpakasal. S buhay n tao may mga desisyon n sana di n lmg natin ginawa
She was singing Paubaya with so much emotion that it actually manisfested in her life. Her song became her anthem..🥲 it always takes two to tango but at the end of the day, love is a choice and to stay committed is a choice.
That is her personality. She likes to be pitied and plays victim. All her songs are so negative in effect. She is to be blamed initially though. Just wiping it off to Jason.
Moiras songs became her anthem even in her real life. This is the most fitting description to describe her. Poignantly penned. I am just so floored. Thanks for it!♥️✌️♥️
Marriage is always a choice.. A choice to be together.. You vow in front of God.. There will always be highs and lows.. It's a test.. I hope one day.. May be not today or tomorrow.. I just hope one day.. They will still choose to be together, accept, forgive, and forget.. Yes it's hard.. But I guess that's how marriages lasts a lifetime.. ❣️🙏And also not because their relationship is God centered they will not experience hardship.. The more so they will be tested.. The enemy would always want to see the people of God crushed down.. Praying for both them.. God bless.. 🙏 ❣️
We should depend our happiness within ourselves. I think Moira has to work on healing from the past and learn on being responsible to be happy within her self. People change and cheat so we better back up ourselves
Real talk lang: The problem with stars, athletes, and influencers who have used their popularity to gain traction, especially in the aspect of finances would always plead for respect for privacy when disaster strikes in their personal life. But when everything was on a high roll or smooth sailing, they would want you to be glued on as their fans. I believe that once you make your life public, especially your love life, never request downtime from your fans especially when it's due to a breakup or separation. Once you allow it to be public, it's free for all. Accept that condition!
Amen and I agree to Real talk Darbs views. Falling in love is a choice and same with infidelity. But regardless of painful mistakes, God still gives us room, a chance to make things right even with consequences. 1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Forgiveness is also a choice. Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” As quoted by Ptr. Peter Tanchi: Love is not an option. It is a commandment. It is not a one time, one moment decision, but an everyday God-centered mission to love one another. Love is an unconditional commitment towards imperfect people to seek their highest good which often time requires sacrifice, resulting in God's glory❤😊🙌. Love transcends feelings. We don’t fall in love. We grow in love. - Ptr. Peter Tan-Chi
In our society today once a marriage has infidelity and unfaithful of a wife or husband they ddnt give a chance to forgive each other. vows and promises in front of God will no longer valid in thier heart & in the eyes of the Lord. yes you are really right of your comment. God is faithful and just to forgive our sins we must also forgiving because that's a commandment..
Feel sorry for idol moi , so heart breaking 💔, idol be calm and think whats the best move to do. Sana sa pag hihiwalay ninyo makita nyo kayu pala talaga ang para sa isn't isa, Don't. Close the door para sa isn't isa, Baka pagsubok lng ng marriage ninyo yan. God will make the way kung kayo ba talaga. At kung hindi na ganon talaga kailangan Tanggapin. God is always there for you tutulungan ka nya gumaan ang pagsubok na yan. Let's all pray harder 🙏 GOD BLESS IDOL
Tuluyaj ko ng pinalaya ang pinakamamahal kung bf😭. Ayaw ko ng masaktang muli. 1year and 5months na kami. Pero habang tumatagal, sinasaktan na niya ako physically, emotionally, minumura. Pero Kahit na mahirap makisama sa kaniya eh hindi ko nagawang iwan siya. Pero siya na itong napagod at iniwan na niya ako. 😭😭 ayaw ko na maghanap ng iba eh😭 I chose him but the god rejected. this year is very emotional pagdating sa mga relasyon. Maraming naghihiwalay at isa na sina moira and jason😭. Sana makahanap ng peace of mine. Ipagkaloob kay jesus ang lahat para makalaya at makalimot sa nasugutang puso😭😭
There is no such thing like a fairy tale! Everything is a work in progress. People change along the years, you marry a different person and changes in yrs. Wala talagang perfect and walang forever
Through this God making me realize that we should really buo with Him before pumasok sa isang relasyon and di lang bago magkaroon ng relasyon o kasal pero we really need God because we cannot be a person that He wants us to be if we do not have Him in our lives, di magiging maayos ang buhay at walang tunay na buhay kapag wala ang Diyos. God really loves Him kaya inaayos Niya tayo and also we should obey Him kase magiging hindi maayos ang buhay natin at hindi align Sakanya.
Its easy .if your not happy with the person you will end up separating.if you force yourself to stay you may end up depress. At least they separate early compared to someone they stay and work out but still separates after 15 or 20 yrs
Sabi nga nila... "baka kasi di na masaya kaya nambabae?" Or "baka nagkulang ka kaya pinagpalit ka?" Tanungin mo man ang mga tao kapag nasa TOXIC relationship sila... Pag nasa tamang katinuan, CHEATING WILL NEVER BE AN OPTION. Kung hindi na masaya... Hindi na mahal... Dalawa lang ang choice... "UMALIS o MAG-TIIS" di ba? pero magloko? Alam nilang mali yun.
@@techar570 that's why communication is very important to any relationship. Hindi pwedeng masaya ka lang o siya lang masaya sa relasyon ninyo. Kung hindi na kayang ayusin at mas masaya kayo sa ibang tao, what's the use of staying together?
I was about to propose to my partner on our anniv date.but she cheated on me 2 weeks before our anniv. It hurts so much, I cant describe the pain. Such is life.
If loving and waiting someone is a choice... Ganun din ang magcheat... Malalakas nalang talaga ang loob ng mga gumagawa nun, hindi makontento and maybe sakit na hindi pa nagagamot. Masakit lang talaga isipin kung bakit kailangan gawin pa. Or kung naranasan man lokohin bakit kailangan iparanas din sa iba lalo na sa totoong nagmamahal💔🥺😅
Setting aside every other factor, pag me cheating, meaning not just in this case between Jason and Moira, and only if the 3rd party, whether it's a woman or a man, if the 3rd party knew in the first place that the person initiating the cheating is already married or have a on ongoing relationship with another partner, mas malaki ang blame ko talaga sa 3rd party. Cos let's face it, if ikaw ang 3rd wheel and you already know that the person who is trying to get into an affair with you is currently in a relationship, whether the affair is meant to be shortlived or just a fling, the burden of whether to allow the affair to flourish falls more heavily on you. Cos ang "cheater-initiators" naman, even if they make a move pero ire-reject, they will stop pursuing you na. Although one wud also argue that the cheater can always look for another person to have an affair with. Still, in my opinion more burden with regards to responsibility weighs more on the other/3rd party to allow it to happen or not. Mas me power kc ang other party to say no, so that the cheating doesn't happen. Kung alam mong committed na yung nanunuyo sa yo, dapat di mo na papatulan so right there and then, nasara mo kaagad yung linya patungo sa makasalanang gawain. Bagkus, dapat maging instrumento ka para matulungan ang couple to strengthen their relationship, instead of giving way and being the cause of a broken relationship.
may lamat na hindi na pwede mabuo kailangn ng may iba na magpapalit na mas matibay at buo kaysa dati kung pilit mong ayusin wla na hindi na ung dati na maayos at maganda kahit ulit ulitin man na ayusin wla na hindi mo na maibabalik sa dati masisira parin dahil sa tiwala
masyado ignorante sa buhay kase alam nyo lang if successful at may pera kayo, alam nyo okay okay na lahat. Lalo pa at sasabihin papakasalan pa. Ndi ko natitigan masyado ito si Jason nuon kase alam ko okay naman sila pero naisip ko dati, bakit BIGLAAN ANG KASALAN? Lalo na kakasikat pa lang ni Moira nuon. So inisip ko, pinili nila yan at alam nmn na nila ang marriage. Ito pala yung kinutob ko dati, at nagkatotoo. Wag kayo masyado mag rush sa marriage or sa relationship kapag alam nyo na sweet lang yung tao. Mahirap gumawa ng relationship lalo na wala pa sa Panginoon at mahina ang spiritual life. Alam nyo nung nakita ko yung news nila na ito, sobra nagulat ako at nasaktan naiyak nagtaka nagulat nagutom at naurat sa Jason na ito. Kase para syang taga-sana all, taga-oo, taga-tawa lang sa ginagawa ni moira pero uung totoong ingredient ng buhay wala. Ang totoong relationship is: may away pero nagkakasunduan kayo agad agad ndi nagtatagal; nagaasaran kayo; inaalam nyo isat isang sekreto; may focus kayo sa plano nyo; you respect each others side and whats going through with them and you help the one whos getting so weak; You both keep learning from each other; and you both concern about each others spiritual life. Pag wala kayo nito ang boring nyo at ndi maganda dating ng relationship nyo.
Kahit gaano ka engrande, ka mahal ng kasal niyo or kahit nagpakasal pa kayo it doesn't mean you'll end up together forever, many things can change. But if you do, good for you but if not then it's not forever.
Love is pain Pain is Love If gusto mo lang ng palagi masaya sa relasyon hindi magwowork talaga ang marriage If you are ready for the pain and love together kahit ano pa mapagdaanan ng relasyon malalagpasan yan kung maliligaw man ang isa at kaya mo pa sya iligtas sa pagkakaligaw na yon do it kung mapapatawad mo at dahil mahal mo pa pero kung sa pagkakataon inulit pa don ka na bumitaw kasi hindi na yon pagkakamali nagdesisyon na sya tahakin yung gusto nya puntahan kahit alam nya mali na and it is time na tanggapin at tahakin mo naman yung daan mo para sa sarili mo. Still nasa tao parin yan mas kilala mo ang sarili mo at yung partner mo higit sa kanino man sa pag aasawa kasi iba na level up ng pag kokomit mo sa tao yon unlike nun magjowa pa lang kayo, basta sa bawat pagdadaanan ng mga mag asawa ipagdasal ang bawat isa na malagpasan ang Diyos ang hingan ninyo ng payo para magpatakbo ng relasyon ninyo mag asawa sabi nga sa misa ng kasal "walang tao ang syang magpapahiwalay sa dalawa tao pinagkasundo ng Diyos".
Naiyak n nman ako dto lalo na sa no.4 nka moved on nko eh, pero bumalik n nman mahirap tlga tanggapin yung hind ka pinili pati mga anak nyo khit ginawa mona lhat halos wala kna natirang pride sa sarili mo sobrang immature at selfish nya pero one day mapapagod at susuko k rin lumaban pray nlng for guidance
ito yun rason kung bakit ayoko na mag magmahal or sumugal, kasi baka maulit ulit yun sakit na minsan ko na pinagdaanan at naiwan ulit na mag isa. di madali mag umpisa ng bagong kabanata sa buhay mo na minsan, yun taong ginusto mo at pinili mo ay naging bahagi din ng buhay mo at naging mundo mo kahit sa panandalian na oras na magsama kayo.
mahirap din umamin sa isang kasalanan lalo na kung alam ung taong pagsasabihan mo ay mahalo o minahal mo... alam mong lubos siyang masasaktan lalo na kung mahal ka niya..
@daffydlloyd green tama naman talaga yung 20:80. 20% sa'yo ng buo while the 80 is consumable. Maubos man yung 80 na sa kanya, may tira ka namang 20 na para sa'yo. 🥰🥰🥰
Me too still believed in marriage but I know it's not easy to live for it till the end if our relationship and love to our God thru His son Jesus Christ is melted/cold it will turn down also to our treatment and love for our love once. That's why we need to live sorounded by the Holy Spirit everyday and all the time because we're nothing without Christ Jesus grace. Thanks Mr. Darbs for the realization of someone else. God bless us all 🙏😇
Truly that there is no perfect marriage but there is perfect God whom we can trust and look up 2 in times of brokeness...broken heart,broken bidy ,broken family evn broken marriage bcz He is the only d One who can arrange us and fix the broken pieces in us....
Active sex life is really important in a relationship. Love is just not enough. But majority of people will just ignore this. Lack of intimacy=inevitable separation. Cheating is bad but Moira also contributed to this, sucks to say. ✌
Plus !!!!! Communication don’t forget , believe me it’s not all about sex , I myself been married for 35 years did that done that , and made a choice to stay , for me the best decision ever , but then again it’s a case to case basis ( did he cheated on you bec. Of a woman or a man ) ??????
@@abacale glad things worked out for you! But you're definitely in the minority. 99/100 men (esp 20s-40s) want regular sex. If their wives don't satisfy their sexual needs, they will most likely explore outside the marriage.
Just to let u know , they are soooo many diff. Problems when it comes to marriage, we never have problems with sex , most of the time it’s the people surrounds like example his family very toxic , u know sometimes I wish nag cheat na Lang sya sa akin 😞✌🏼🥹
Dapat talaga mahalin muna talaga yung sarili bago pumasok sa segradong relasyon dahil hindi sa lahat ng oras papasayahin ka ng taong makakasama o kasama mo. Dadating at dadating din sa punto na hindi na kayo tulad nung dating nagsimula kayo.
Npagdaanan ko rin tong ganitong heartbreak and its no joke! grabeng sakit at matagal ako nakapagmove on. It haunts me everytime until nagkatrust issues nako sa mga lalake. Ive dealt with cheaters twice. SO its never easy. But, in their story, I admire Jason's courage to admit it! it takes a man to really apologize, admit, and accept what's coming for him because of it. Hindi lahat ng lalake umaamin sa kasalanan nila lalo na sa cheating issue. Nobody's perfect. Judge them if we all are perfect. Jason is so honest to the point na d na nya kayang maglie kay moira that's why inamin nya. Hindi sya hypocrite. And ofcourse, we should not tolerate cheating, pero sino ba saten ang perfect? Ang kagandahan nun, he love moira so much to tell her the truth and accept the consequences rather than magkasama nga sila pero guilty sya sa araw2. I RESPECT JASON'S COURAGE TO ADMIT WHAT HE DID. I FEEL SORRY FOR MOIRA AS WELL BUT I ADMIRE THEIR STRENGTH TO NOT THROW HATE AGAINST EACH OTHER JUST LIKE OTHER COUPLES DO. they still love each other to make sure na they dont hurt each other through hateful words. I dont judge them as well because we dont know the real story. I LOVE THEM NO MATTER WHAT :)
Eerily the best know Trilogy of songs that Jason composed for/ with Moi, could have been a hint that he was rocking the boat he still considered their marriage? Oh well, Moi is a strong woman it seems kaya naniniwala ako na malalampasan nya to at matatagpuan nya rin ang taong nararapat sa kanya.
Masakit ang maloko at masaktan pero Sna lahat din kasing lakas nya na aminin na he cheated..Yung mag gf/bf pa nga lang kau ang sakit n matuklasan n niloloko ka yun pa kaya na may basbas n ng simbahan..Pero naniniwala parin ako sa kasal at naniniwala parin ako n lahat tau may taong nilaan si Lord para makasama naten at kung wala man tama rin n matuto taung maging kontento at mahalin ang sarili naten at si God and maging masaya..Thank you Kuya Darbs for enlightening us today..Spread love everyone and be kind even the world is unkind to us sometimes..❤️
This Applies to GAYS and Lesbians also, trans, bi..etc. this is Great! Galing..And I would rather have him be HONEST…KUNG BAKLA ang partner, or if there is another girl, another guy…mas MAGANDA NA LANG UMAMIN siya. And it’s early …DYOSKO..3years is a lifetime also, even 3 hours of NOT BEING HONEST. Always be honest with feelings, esp. when it comes to “ Partnerships”. It’s not fun to hear…but treat “ it” like Business…pag SPOILED NA ANG MILK, DO not put it back to the Fridge, tapon..na..( like a cheating boyfriend or husband) because mabubulok, o maaasim mapanis…ang “ love”, or the milk. If returned inside the fridge…or “ changing” the expiration date…( trying to hide the “ cheating”.) A mentor once told me.
MADALAS, hindi nating kailangan ang husgahan kasi lahat tayo makasalanan, mga tao na kayang kaya na wasakin ng evil (A3). Imbes na manghusga, intindihim nalang, lalo na kung yang mga salita na ibabato ay makakapagpabigat lang ng damdamin ng taong nasa Hard times. SPŔEADING POSITIVITIES IS WHAT MATTERS. CREATING NEGATIVITIES WILL NOW GIVE YOU REWARDS and also peaceful in the whole world. God bless you Both po.
Huwag na nating gatungan ! In this matter, let them solve their own problems! We don't know what is going on behind closed doors! Kaya huwag na natin pakelaman sila! All we can do is pray for both of them! Huwag tayong manghusga! Dahil sa huli sila lang ang makakalutas ng kanilang problema!
As Moira's said before in every rejection, is not actually rejections its God's way of redirection.
Strong woman
It is not God's will for marriage to be broken so I don't know why this is being credited to God as if its been the plan all along.
@@wertfasd true.. d ko rin maintindihan, at hindi ko rin maintindhan bakit nangyri yn. But in the end we have no choice but to trust Gods plan... 🙏🙏🙏
@@wertfasd if you read the bible it was mentioned by Jesus in Mathew 19 that you are allowed to divorce if it was unfaithfulness.
karma yan..... itanong mo kay sen imee kung ano ang ginawa ng babaeng yan nung nag concert siya sa ilocos 😆😅😂
This is why getting married is not mandatory in my views. It can build you, but can also destroy you! A partner in life is just there to supplement you. Happiness is our own responsibility to our self. We don't need anyone to give us happiness.
Bro, sobrang agree ako sayo. Research the author of "I kiss dating Goodbye".. it's one of the examples purity culture can never determine the success of one's marriage.
true.
You must be the source of Happiness as an individual coz that is your way too to keep your life heathy and alive. If you are happy, you can make others happy too.
SelfLove is the BEST LOVE. 💯
being dumped, cheated on, left alone to suffer is the most painful feeling that i wouldn't even wish it on my worst enemy, to those of you here in the comments who have loved truly, genuinely, unconditionally...i admire you and salute you all
Thank you
Eto yung nararamdaman ko ngayon 😞
Gone through that, still hurt though
Si Moira ata ang nag breakup sa kanya kasi nag cheat sya
Same story ng buhay ko. I married my bestfriend... Then after 13years... Ayun iniwan ako at sumama sya sa officemate namin.
Realization ko sa relationship ko:
1. Kahit kinilala nyong mabuti yung mapapangasawa mo. Hindi mo masasabi na pwede syang kunin ni God or kunin sya ng iba.😁
2. Love changes. It's an emotion, a feeling that we can't control. Today mahal mo sya, bukas hindi na. But the important things is your "STAND" if your stand is to stay and fix the marriage. Thr problem is, Mahirap yung ikaw lang ang lumalaban samantalang sya sumuko na.
3. Kung may problema ang mag-asawa dapat sa "TAMANG TAO" ka hihingi ng advice or makikipag-usap.
4. Sabi nila "baka hindi na masaya kaya iniwan ka" nope... I don't agree with this. Maraming tao ang binubugbog, nasasaktan, niloloko ng paulit ulit pero Hindi pa rin nila kayang iwan o lokohin yung asawa nila.
5. Wag masyadong ma attach, Acceptance na d ka na talaga mahal, forgive them (legal wife: parang ako na kasi ang kontrabida sa lovestory nila)
6. Huwag tanungin si God bakit nangyayari sa inyo yung ganung bagay. Pwedeng inilalayo ka lang dahil hindi talaga sya para sayo or test lang yan para patatagin kayo.
Last but not the least, Mahal magpakasal pero mas mahal magpa Annul. 😂😂
Mahal magpakasal, Mahirap Magpa annulment.
People wont know how painful it is unless they themselves have undergone the same situation. It will be like a nightmare that would hunt you every night and would relive the pain over and over again. I feel you Moira. Stay strong and pray always for God is the only One faithful.🙏🏻
He said "Though my love for her has always been genuine" Why cheat in the 1st place?
Love is not just a feeling, it's a Choice. It's a choice to commit to stay with the same person and forgive this same person over and over and over again, to love this person unconditionally meaning that even when the person deserve to be love or not, you continue to do it and choose to love regardless of whatever circumstances your in. Note that both has to be on the same commitment. Otherwise, the relationship wouldn't work.
Thank you. Your analysis makes sense and you discussed it with utmost sensitivity... Godly love is perfect, ours isn't. That's why we cling to Him in all the seasons of our hearts.
Very true :)
We, humans are wired to be emotional, few are logical thinkers.
Once an emotional need is not fulfilled with your current partner, then you found it in someone else, and there will start the unfaithfulness on your partner.
I agree with what you said "emotional immaturity" causes infidelity.
ayan napansin ko sa josh na yan. need din nya mental support. Kase bading daw sya?
Most men is not looking for emotional fulfillment kaya nangangaliwa🤪 Fact is …. Its the LUST, that power of Sex excitement… sa kama lang lahat yan sila bumabagsak… 🤪
@@strawberryicecream2022 sino pong josh? hehe
@@stormybored17 do you think that couples should ‘spice it up’ in bed so sexual needs are met? just genuinely curious and also asking for advice… lol
@@stormybored17 , KASO LUST DOES NOT LAST!!!! SAME BODY, SAME VAGINA, IF ITS LUST, EH.....MAS MABUTI PANG MATULOG KA NA LANG SOMETIMES. HAHAHAHAHAHAH.
It's true that even if he (Jason) made mistake, he's man enough to admit and own up to his mistakes even if the consequences might be terrifying. That's why we cannot entirely claim that he's bad guy for hurting her, coz he still respect Moira in a way that he own up his mistakes and be honest with it...
Sometimes, being honest with our mistakes makes it closer to our stepping stone to move forward and to forgive in time.
True..di katulag ng ex husband ko na di umamin sa akin na may kabit na pala. Sa iba ko pa nalaman..hayuup nun...
Sana may divorce na para di na tayo mastustuck sa mga mokong natoh!
I agree that cheating is a decision one makes. Thats the most painful truth any partner could ever accept. That is why, oftentimes, ending the relationship and moving on is the best option. Based on experience, trust issues don't die. Being there for 2yrs now, I can say its toxic and it can really affect your mental health. So I think Moira did the right thing cutting ties and moving on eventhough Jason was courageous enough to confess what he has done. May God heal Moira and turn things around for her.
Share ko na to kasi nakakaawa na si Jason. Wala pa ngang details pero grabe na yungjudgement sa kanya. From a confession na sa kanya rin naman galing, na kung tutuusin ay puwede namang hindi na niya sinabi sa public. Here's the info na galing sa isa sa mga close friends nila: walang ibang lover si Jason, babae man o lalaki. Hindi bading si Jason. Hindi rin sya nagka-affair. Pero ang mali niya is pumunta sya sa mga spakol for sex. Yan yung unfaithfulness na sinabi niya. This is because wala silang sex ni Moira, dahil daw sa depression ni girl. Na-guilty si Jason kaya nag-confess sya sa asawa niya, but it backfired. When Jason was in Dubai, his wife spent time with Zack Tabudlo the singer and I guess nag-click sila (as evidenced sa lnstagr.:im ny.:i). W.:ila pang idea si Jason na emotionally cheating na pala si Moira sa kanya. Tapos ayun, he confessed, unfortunately ginamit ni girl ang confession na yun to break up with him. Meaning, matagal na silang nagkaka-problema, naghintay lang ng tamangopportunity si girl. Pareho silang may fault pero ang masama dito is yung la\aki langang umako ng kasalanan. Grabe yung impact sa family ni Jason na according to people who know them, are really good and very down-to-earth people na ayaw sa showbiz spotlight, kaya sobrang lungkot na nagkaganito na. Tuesday pa yung pasabog pero until now walang statement si Moira, para bang hinayaan lang niya si Jason to be slaughtered by the public and she's enjoying all the positive attention 😞
THE GUY CAN DO BETTR NEXT TIME.
Eto ung pnka mskit ung sinubukan mu ulit mg tiwala at the end ung taong un pla ang mas dudurog sau.💔Praying for your recovery moira🙏
This was veryy so sad and traumatic ending to moira😣 The song that she was created "Paubaya" was suddenly really meant for her. I hope that she's ok..this is just only a test of life .. That You have to endure .. .but be always strong..because I know you will overcome it someday... not now . But eventually.
You can heal yourself ..nobody will do that to you but yourself.
Just wanna share for 40 years of existence..I've been through a lot of pain and difficulties in life ..I always broken hearted... I was enduring all of it in silence.. But one day I found myself for longest time ..Im ok.... I learned to be alone and enjoying it... Now having Companion for me is a choice.
I have learned that I dont need to find my happiness to somebody for me to satisfy myself ..because I, myself can find happiness without somebody else ..
Sa totoo lang Kinikilig na lang ako pagsahod na ..so many "me time" that create happiness that is why.. If somebody will come along and would love to have me for the rest of his life.. That will be a bonus.. Mawala man sya ulit di ko kawalan..kasi mananatili akong maligaya .. Because I know the art of being alone.
True, love is a choice, choosing to see yun good na meron sa asawa mo at inde hanapin yun wala sa asawa mo na meron sa iba..
Mahirap nga magtiwala ulit pag nasira na ito pero hindi ka naman magiging masaya pag hinayaan mo ang puso mo hindi na magmahal ulit..i salute you always kuya darbs☺️☺️
Thank you. I don't have a boyfriend since birth, I am 28, too afraid. There is more reasons why marriages failed I've seen not just cheating. I've seen that, and I realize no person is perfect for you, but its a choice if you let yourself be vulnerable to someone. You are right, there are million of successful marriages out there😊 I hope I get to meet a person who is stronger than my fears.and makes me strong to gamble too.
I'm 24 and samee
I love your analysis. Watching you all the way from Kenya
Next time include some subtitles for the international audience
Same here,, I agree with his analysis..
True we choose the person to be beside us. Kahit sa dami ng pag subok na dadating. For 13yrs. Being married to my husband hindi lahat ng oras masaya. Sometimes i want to give up but still i choose to stay coz i still believe in love... so inspiring all what you have said! Thank you kasi still hanging and believing!
Me too I believe in love I choose to stay
Salute to you bro. Galing po ng inyong mga opinions. Neutral ka poh and di judgemental. Sang ayon po ako sa 7 Realizations nyo. Very helpful po specially sa mga may pinagdadaanan at pagdadaanan na ganito sa relationship. Keep it up and thank u
Ganda ng number 4 mo... Everyone will experience extreme challenges pero we choose to stay together dapat.. It makes the relationship stronger.
TBH. While I think cheating should never be tolerated. (I got cheated by my 2 ex before) I think that couples who lasted several decades until their old age also gone through this. One way or another there were mistakes that were made but they were forgiven. As long as the person who made the mistake will not do it the 2nd time. Because that only means that he/she did not regret the mistake
That's true. But in Moira's case, her character is so different. She is nailed to her past. Either trauma or anything in effect, she carries it all the time by manifesting it in her songs. And it should not be that way. She relives her pain by making it her songs and even listening to her songs all the time. Jason or men in general cannot tolerate women's drama.
I agree... "its hard to find a love we deserve"... 😢
Yung bang alam na nya past mo, ung trauma mo.. And then ginawa nya din sayo. If you're really unsure about how you feel towards the person, just pls tell them.. Dont marry them and then cheat.
I learned so much from this video ❤️
It is so painful to realize that way of redirection led to a massive heartbreak. You trusted the process, you had faith in it. But what is lacking? It’s hard to put your heart again for another redirection. 😢
Wise.. Marriage is difficult so any struggle if not resolved will be taken and magnified in marriage. Social media could magnify the failures of most marriages pero know that there are also many whose marriage works.
Wow, super na feel ko un emotion sa video mo. Naiyak ako while watching your video, especially dahil sapul na sapul lahat ng sinabi mo sa experience ko. I agree 100% sa analyzation mo. I have the same sentiments because of the lessons I learned from it.
Marriage is not really a guarantee that you will be forever with the person you love but rather a vow to be faithful, to always choose and love only that person you married for. But at the end of the day, it is still the choice of both parties either to stand for thier vow no matter how painful it is or to part ways and move forward.
She just made a song for herself ....""paubaya really meant for her. That's what we called premonition. Felt sad for Moira, May the Lord guide her to surpass the obstacles she's been through.
This was so painfull,, live and grow and let God do the rest for us,, 💔
I love how you made this kind of reaction. 👍
As a woman we give our 110% love n trust to our husband and we forgot to leave some to ourself.Iyong Taong minahal at you trusted him the most iyong pa nagbigay ng sakit .It’s not hard to forgive but it’s hard to forget what the person did to hurt you.Time can tell when to heal the wound .One the thing I realize that never trust n love the most except Allah .Hope both party learn fr each other mistakes.
Oh really? Wag mo nilalahat. Potangina mapalalaki o babae man, lahat tayo nangangaliwa.
Hello Darbs thanks for being cool..my friend admire them because God is always in the center for both..and shockingly sad for what happened..we feel for Moira🙏💖💝
It is not about the love but it is by the choice to stay and to trust your partner.
Sa sarili kong karanasan, Ilang beses, ilang ulit na rin akong niloko ng asawa ko. Paulit ulit. Pero kami pa rin hanggang ngayon. Oo, tanga na kung tanga, pero ito ang pinili kong buhay pinili kong direksyon. Hanggat kaya kong magpatawad, magpapatawad at magpapatawad ako. Habggang sa mapagod na ko at masabi ko na lang sa sarili ko na...Tama na. Sagad na ako. Pero sa ngayon? Sa edad namin, kelangan ko na lang magpakatatag. Yun lang. Iba iba tayo ng pinagdadaanan sa buhay. Iba iba ang desisyon, pero kapit lang. Hindi habang buhay, iiyak ka, magmumukmok sa isang sulok.
Thank you for the lessons today kuya Darbs!
Every thing happens for a reason. God is in control & He knows what is best for us. Usually unexpected sad situation happens dahil si Lord ayaw na nya tayong masasaktan pa ng matagal. He’s molding us to be strong, smarter & be prepared. Lagi si Lord may nilalaan na mas higit na magandang sitwasyon para sa atin. Ang hinintay nya lang sa atin ay ang magpakumbaba, magpasalamat, repent & remember Him everyday through PRAYERS. Moira, alam ko na kaya mong lagpasan itong pinagdadaanan mo ngayon. Believe & have Faith that God is always there for those who are broken-hearted. For now, mahirap kalimutan at magpatawad pero in due time magagawa mo pa rin magpatawad. I believe in the power of PRAYER. God is leading u to the right path & be grateful. I bet u will shine! Much better is waiting for u. God bless you, Moira. Take care.💕🌹💕🌹💖
Very well said sir, nothing much more or less to say. . . . Peace everyone
Usually sasabihin natin sana di n lng sila kinasal. Pero kahit tayo hindi ntin alam kung anong mangyayari in d future. May mga bagay n s panahon. Nagbabago. Kung alam nila na mangyayrari yon bk di nila maiisip magpakasal. S buhay n tao may mga desisyon n sana di n lmg natin ginawa
Thanks for your messages... Kung ayaw ma sayo, wag nlng pilitin kc mahirap makipagsiksikan sa taong mahal mo na niloko ka lng...
Minsan may mga tao talga na dapat na mawala sa buhay natin
Parang nakakatakot mag mahal ngayon kasi parang lahat ay laro lang
She was singing Paubaya with so much emotion that it actually manisfested in her life. Her song became her anthem..🥲 it always takes two to tango but at the end of the day, love is a choice and to stay committed is a choice.
That is her personality. She likes to be pitied and plays victim. All her songs are so negative in effect. She is to be blamed initially though. Just wiping it off to Jason.
Moiras songs became her anthem even in her real life.
This is the most fitting description to describe her.
Poignantly penned. I am just so floored.
Thanks for it!♥️✌️♥️
Ang sakit ng message sa dulo... 😥
Marriage is always a choice.. A choice to be together.. You vow in front of God.. There will always be highs and lows.. It's a test.. I hope one day.. May be not today or tomorrow.. I just hope one day.. They will still choose to be together, accept, forgive, and forget.. Yes it's hard.. But I guess that's how marriages lasts a lifetime.. ❣️🙏And also not because their relationship is God centered they will not experience hardship.. The more so they will be tested.. The enemy would always want to see the people of God crushed down.. Praying for both them.. God bless.. 🙏 ❣️
We should depend our happiness within ourselves. I think Moira has to work on healing from the past and learn on being responsible to be happy within her self. People change and cheat so we better back up ourselves
Thank you Darbs for protecting them..
Real talk lang: The problem with stars, athletes, and influencers who have used their popularity to gain traction, especially in the aspect of finances would always plead for respect for privacy when disaster strikes in their personal life. But when everything was on a high roll or smooth sailing, they would want you to be glued on as their fans. I believe that once you make your life public, especially your love life, never request downtime from your fans especially when it's due to a breakup or separation. Once you allow it to be public, it's free for all. Accept that condition!
Real Talk. Nice analysis. More power!
Amen and I agree to Real talk Darbs views. Falling in love is a choice and same with infidelity. But regardless of painful mistakes, God still gives us room, a chance to make things right even with consequences. 1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Forgiveness is also a choice. Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
As quoted by Ptr. Peter Tanchi: Love is not an option. It is a commandment. It is not a one time, one moment decision, but an everyday God-centered mission to love one another. Love is an unconditional commitment towards imperfect people to seek their highest good which often time requires sacrifice, resulting in God's glory❤😊🙌.
Love transcends feelings. We don’t fall in love. We grow in love.
- Ptr. Peter Tan-Chi
AGNES BATALLONES, I AGREE. EVEN IF YOU GET BEAT UP, STAY IN LOVE AND ASK FOR MORE!!!! HE NEEDS A PUNCHING BAG. CHOOSE TO LOVE.
In our society today once a marriage has infidelity and unfaithful of a wife or husband they ddnt give a chance to forgive each other. vows and promises in front of God will no longer valid in thier heart & in the eyes of the Lord. yes you are really right of your comment. God is faithful and just to forgive our sins we must also forgiving because that's a commandment..
Amen to that..Praise God
WOW!! These are helpful advices... Thank You for sharing...
Feel sorry for idol moi , so heart breaking 💔, idol be calm and think whats the best move to do.
Sana sa pag hihiwalay ninyo makita nyo kayu pala talaga ang para sa isn't isa,
Don't. Close the door para sa isn't isa,
Baka pagsubok lng ng marriage ninyo yan.
God will make the way kung kayo ba talaga.
At kung hindi na ganon talaga kailangan
Tanggapin.
God is always there for you tutulungan ka nya gumaan ang pagsubok na yan.
Let's all pray harder 🙏 GOD BLESS IDOL
Tuluyaj ko ng pinalaya ang pinakamamahal kung bf😭. Ayaw ko ng masaktang muli. 1year and 5months na kami. Pero habang tumatagal, sinasaktan na niya ako physically, emotionally, minumura. Pero Kahit na mahirap makisama sa kaniya eh hindi ko nagawang iwan siya. Pero siya na itong napagod at iniwan na niya ako. 😭😭 ayaw ko na maghanap ng iba eh😭 I chose him but the god rejected. this year is very emotional pagdating sa mga relasyon. Maraming naghihiwalay at isa na sina moira and jason😭. Sana makahanap ng peace of mine. Ipagkaloob kay jesus ang lahat para makalaya at makalimot sa nasugutang puso😭😭
Ang hirap kapag topic relationship
There is no such thing like a fairy tale! Everything is a work in progress. People change along the years, you marry a different person and changes in yrs. Wala talagang perfect and walang forever
SHELLA AVILA, HOW REALISTIC OF YOU.
Through this God making me realize that we should really buo with Him before pumasok sa isang relasyon and di lang bago magkaroon ng relasyon o kasal pero we really need God because we cannot be a person that He wants us to be if we do not have Him in our lives, di magiging maayos ang buhay at walang tunay na buhay kapag wala ang Diyos. God really loves Him kaya inaayos Niya tayo and also we should obey Him kase magiging hindi maayos ang buhay natin at hindi align Sakanya.
A life without love is not a life at all. #KeepLoving
very good analysis Sir... Thank you
Its easy .if your not happy with the person you will end up separating.if you force yourself to stay you may end up depress. At least they separate early compared to someone they stay and work out but still separates after 15 or 20 yrs
I do agree with you.really hope they will overcome this battle in their marriage.hope they will always remember their vow infront of God.
Yes, matapos man ang araw stil naniniwala padin ako kung gaano ka sagrado ang kasal..
Cheater have no respect to their partner moreover to themselves.
Sabi nga nila...
"baka kasi di na masaya kaya nambabae?" Or "baka nagkulang ka kaya pinagpalit ka?"
Tanungin mo man ang mga tao kapag nasa TOXIC relationship sila... Pag nasa tamang katinuan, CHEATING WILL NEVER BE AN OPTION.
Kung hindi na masaya...
Hindi na mahal...
Dalawa lang ang choice...
"UMALIS o MAG-TIIS" di ba?
pero magloko? Alam nilang mali yun.
@@techar570 that's why communication is very important to any relationship. Hindi pwedeng masaya ka lang o siya lang masaya sa relasyon ninyo.
Kung hindi na kayang ayusin at mas masaya kayo sa ibang tao, what's the use of staying together?
I just came across this channel and im hooked naaaa, i hope may spotify channel ka rin kuy darbs!
I was about to propose to my partner on our anniv date.but she cheated on me 2 weeks before our anniv. It hurts so much, I cant describe the pain. Such is life.
sobrang sakit grabe d ako makapaniwala..from TAGPUAN to PAUBAYA😭😭😭😭💔💔
If loving and waiting someone is a choice... Ganun din ang magcheat... Malalakas nalang talaga ang loob ng mga gumagawa nun, hindi makontento and maybe sakit na hindi pa nagagamot. Masakit lang talaga isipin kung bakit kailangan gawin pa. Or kung naranasan man lokohin bakit kailangan iparanas din sa iba lalo na sa totoong nagmamahal💔🥺😅
Setting aside every other factor, pag me cheating, meaning not just in this case between Jason and Moira, and only if the 3rd party, whether it's a woman or a man, if the 3rd party knew in the first place that the person initiating the cheating is already married or have a on ongoing relationship with another partner, mas malaki ang blame ko talaga sa 3rd party. Cos let's face it, if ikaw ang 3rd wheel and you already know that the person who is trying to get into an affair with you is currently in a relationship, whether the affair is meant to be shortlived or just a fling, the burden of whether to allow the affair to flourish falls more heavily on you. Cos ang "cheater-initiators" naman, even if they make a move pero ire-reject, they will stop pursuing you na. Although one wud also argue that the cheater can always look for another person to have an affair with. Still, in my opinion more burden with regards to responsibility weighs more on the other/3rd party to allow it to happen or not. Mas me power kc ang other party to say no, so that the cheating doesn't happen. Kung alam mong committed na yung nanunuyo sa yo, dapat di mo na papatulan so right there and then, nasara mo kaagad yung linya patungo sa makasalanang gawain. Bagkus, dapat maging instrumento ka para matulungan ang couple to strengthen their relationship, instead of giving way and being the cause of a broken relationship.
may lamat na hindi na pwede mabuo kailangn ng may iba na magpapalit na mas matibay at buo kaysa dati kung pilit mong ayusin wla na hindi na ung dati na maayos at maganda kahit ulit ulitin man na ayusin wla na hindi mo na maibabalik sa dati masisira parin dahil sa tiwala
i love the way you have explained the situition
masyado ignorante sa buhay kase alam nyo lang if successful at may pera kayo, alam nyo okay okay na lahat. Lalo pa at sasabihin papakasalan pa. Ndi ko natitigan masyado ito si Jason nuon kase alam ko okay naman sila pero naisip ko dati, bakit BIGLAAN ANG KASALAN? Lalo na kakasikat pa lang ni Moira nuon. So inisip ko, pinili nila yan at alam nmn na nila ang marriage. Ito pala yung kinutob ko dati, at nagkatotoo. Wag kayo masyado mag rush sa marriage or sa relationship kapag alam nyo na sweet lang yung tao. Mahirap gumawa ng relationship lalo na wala pa sa Panginoon at mahina ang spiritual life.
Alam nyo nung nakita ko yung news nila na ito, sobra nagulat ako at nasaktan naiyak nagtaka nagulat nagutom at naurat sa Jason na ito.
Kase para syang taga-sana all, taga-oo, taga-tawa lang sa ginagawa ni moira pero uung totoong ingredient ng buhay wala.
Ang totoong relationship is: may away pero nagkakasunduan kayo agad agad ndi nagtatagal; nagaasaran kayo; inaalam nyo isat isang sekreto; may focus kayo sa plano nyo; you respect each others side and whats going through with them and you help the one whos getting so weak; You both keep learning from each other; and you both concern about each others spiritual life.
Pag wala kayo nito ang boring nyo at ndi maganda dating ng relationship nyo.
Kahit gaano ka engrande, ka mahal ng kasal niyo or kahit nagpakasal pa kayo it doesn't mean you'll end up together forever, many things can change. But if you do, good for you but if not then it's not forever.
Agree!! Marami pa ring happy and successful marriages
Love is pain Pain is Love
If gusto mo lang ng palagi masaya sa relasyon hindi magwowork talaga ang marriage
If you are ready for the pain and love together kahit ano pa mapagdaanan ng relasyon malalagpasan yan kung maliligaw man ang isa at kaya mo pa sya iligtas sa pagkakaligaw na yon do it kung mapapatawad mo at dahil mahal mo pa pero kung sa pagkakataon inulit pa don ka na bumitaw kasi hindi na yon pagkakamali nagdesisyon na sya tahakin yung gusto nya puntahan kahit alam nya mali na and it is time na tanggapin at tahakin mo naman yung daan mo para sa sarili mo.
Still nasa tao parin yan mas kilala mo ang sarili mo at yung partner mo higit sa kanino man sa pag aasawa kasi iba na level up ng pag kokomit mo sa tao yon unlike nun magjowa pa lang kayo, basta sa bawat pagdadaanan ng mga mag asawa ipagdasal ang bawat isa na malagpasan ang Diyos ang hingan ninyo ng payo para magpatakbo ng relasyon ninyo mag asawa sabi nga sa misa ng kasal "walang tao ang syang magpapahiwalay sa dalawa tao pinagkasundo ng Diyos".
Naiyak n nman ako dto lalo na sa no.4 nka moved on nko eh, pero bumalik n nman mahirap tlga tanggapin yung hind ka pinili pati mga anak nyo khit ginawa mona lhat halos wala kna natirang pride sa sarili mo sobrang immature at selfish nya pero one day mapapagod at susuko k rin lumaban pray nlng for guidance
ito yun rason kung bakit ayoko na mag magmahal or sumugal, kasi baka maulit ulit yun sakit na minsan ko na pinagdaanan at naiwan ulit na mag isa.
di madali mag umpisa ng bagong kabanata sa buhay mo na minsan, yun taong ginusto mo at pinili mo ay naging bahagi din ng buhay mo at naging mundo mo kahit sa panandalian na oras na magsama kayo.
Sobrang dali lang maghanap ng taong mamahalin, pero napakahirap maghanap ng taong magmamahal sa'tin ng totoo
mahirap din umamin sa isang kasalanan lalo na kung alam ung taong pagsasabihan mo ay mahalo o minahal mo... alam mong lubos siyang masasaktan lalo na kung mahal ka niya..
Ang hirap nyan kuya Darbs. 🥺 Let's pray for both of them.
When you choose yourself over the one you loved, it means you already move on.
At least at the very last day he have a balls to admit his mistakes.
🤦♂️
He didnt just make mistake. He made a decision
@daffydlloyd green tama naman talaga yung 20:80. 20% sa'yo ng buo while the 80 is consumable. Maubos man yung 80 na sa kanya, may tira ka namang 20 na para sa'yo. 🥰🥰🥰
@@markfrancisalcantara8559 a decision that cost his relationship.👍👍👍
Ang sakit nga talaga, maraming taon ko rin dinala ang sakit. Sobrang sakit, I know.
Darbs, dapat updated tayo! Umusbong na naman ulit issue nila. 😅
Yes I still believed SA kasal.. Sana Hindi sila naggiveup .
Me too still believed in marriage but I know it's not easy to live for it till the end if our relationship and love to our God thru His son Jesus Christ is melted/cold it will turn down also to our treatment and love for our love once. That's why we need to live sorounded by the Holy Spirit everyday and all the time because we're nothing without Christ Jesus grace. Thanks Mr. Darbs for the realization of someone else. God bless us all 🙏😇
Truly that there is no perfect marriage but there is perfect God whom we can trust and look up 2 in times of brokeness...broken heart,broken bidy ,broken family evn broken marriage bcz He is the only d One who can arrange us and fix the broken pieces in us....
Active sex life is really important in a relationship. Love is just not enough. But majority of people will just ignore this. Lack of intimacy=inevitable separation. Cheating is bad but Moira also contributed to this, sucks to say. ✌
Agree!!!
Plus !!!!! Communication don’t forget , believe me it’s not all about sex , I myself been married for 35 years did that done that , and made a choice to stay , for me the best decision ever , but then again it’s a case to case basis ( did he cheated on you bec. Of a woman or a man ) ??????
@@abacale glad things worked out for you! But you're definitely in the minority. 99/100 men (esp 20s-40s) want regular sex. If their wives don't satisfy their sexual needs, they will most likely explore outside the marriage.
@@ogie86 sorry I forgot to tell u I’m the wife who wrote this 😁✌🏼
Just to let u know , they are soooo many diff. Problems when it comes to marriage, we never have problems with sex , most of the time it’s the people surrounds like example his family very toxic , u know sometimes I wish nag cheat na Lang sya sa akin 😞✌🏼🥹
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Dili insakto sa kahinog ang ilang gugma sa usag-usa.
Take Note about Married Life, thank for your content, i learned a lot
Dapat talaga mahalin muna talaga yung sarili bago pumasok sa segradong relasyon dahil hindi sa lahat ng oras papasayahin ka ng taong makakasama o kasama mo. Dadating at dadating din sa punto na hindi na kayo tulad nung dating nagsimula kayo.
Npagdaanan ko rin tong ganitong heartbreak and its no joke! grabeng sakit at matagal ako nakapagmove on. It haunts me everytime until nagkatrust issues nako sa mga lalake. Ive dealt with cheaters twice. SO its never easy. But, in their story, I admire Jason's courage to admit it! it takes a man to really apologize, admit, and accept what's coming for him because of it. Hindi lahat ng lalake umaamin sa kasalanan nila lalo na sa cheating issue. Nobody's perfect. Judge them if we all are perfect. Jason is so honest to the point na d na nya kayang maglie kay moira that's why inamin nya. Hindi sya hypocrite. And ofcourse, we should not tolerate cheating, pero sino ba saten ang perfect? Ang kagandahan nun, he love moira so much to tell her the truth and accept the consequences rather than magkasama nga sila pero guilty sya sa araw2. I RESPECT JASON'S COURAGE TO ADMIT WHAT HE DID. I FEEL SORRY FOR MOIRA AS WELL BUT I ADMIRE THEIR STRENGTH TO NOT THROW HATE AGAINST EACH OTHER JUST LIKE OTHER COUPLES DO. they still love each other to make sure na they dont hurt each other through hateful words. I dont judge them as well because we dont know the real story. I LOVE THEM NO MATTER WHAT :)
Eerily the best know Trilogy of songs that Jason composed for/ with Moi, could have been a hint that he was rocking the boat he still considered their marriage? Oh well, Moi is a strong woman it seems kaya naniniwala ako na malalampasan nya to at matatagpuan nya rin ang taong nararapat sa kanya.
Good lessons Kuya darbs God bless you and your family
Masakit ang maloko at masaktan pero Sna lahat din kasing lakas nya na aminin na he cheated..Yung mag gf/bf pa nga lang kau ang sakit n matuklasan n niloloko ka yun pa kaya na may basbas n ng simbahan..Pero naniniwala parin ako sa kasal at naniniwala parin ako n lahat tau may taong nilaan si Lord para makasama naten at kung wala man tama rin n matuto taung maging kontento at mahalin ang sarili naten at si God and maging masaya..Thank you Kuya Darbs for enlightening us today..Spread love everyone and be kind even the world is unkind to us sometimes..❤️
ibig sabihin nito. there is no assurance in life. what matters most is your self love and resilience to survive no matter what.
They're living in one roof pa ba. My G!
I wished may come back.
Dmi kong natutunan dto...i feel how hard it is to moira,grabe naiiyak pa dn ako pag napapakinggan ko ang paubaya 😭😭😭
This Applies to GAYS and Lesbians also, trans, bi..etc. this is Great! Galing..And I would rather have him be HONEST…KUNG BAKLA ang partner, or if there is another girl, another guy…mas MAGANDA NA LANG UMAMIN siya. And it’s early …DYOSKO..3years is a lifetime also, even 3 hours of NOT BEING HONEST. Always be honest with feelings, esp. when it comes to “ Partnerships”. It’s not fun to hear…but treat “ it” like Business…pag SPOILED NA ANG MILK, DO not put it back to the Fridge, tapon..na..( like a cheating boyfriend or husband) because mabubulok, o maaasim mapanis…ang “ love”, or the milk. If returned inside the fridge…or “ changing” the expiration date…( trying to hide the “ cheating”.) A mentor once told me.
MADALAS, hindi nating kailangan ang husgahan kasi lahat tayo makasalanan, mga tao na kayang kaya na wasakin ng evil (A3).
Imbes na manghusga, intindihim nalang, lalo na kung yang mga salita na ibabato ay makakapagpabigat lang ng damdamin ng taong nasa Hard times.
SPŔEADING POSITIVITIES IS WHAT MATTERS. CREATING NEGATIVITIES WILL NOW GIVE YOU REWARDS and also peaceful in the whole world.
God bless you Both po.
Huwag na nating gatungan ! In this matter, let them solve their own problems! We don't know what is going on behind closed doors! Kaya huwag na natin pakelaman sila! All we can do is pray for both of them! Huwag tayong manghusga! Dahil sa huli sila lang ang makakalutas ng kanilang problema!
Bka bading o d maka gawa ng baby c moira o c lalaki
Hindi sukatan ang kasal maiba tayo basta masaya tayo sa isat isa sapat na yun wlang forever dati gusto ko ng kasal ngayon no need na 😢