I’m currently seeing a biblical counselor right now and he has been saying pretty much exactly everything you have been saying! I’ve been struggling with OCD for a while now. Religious OCD, POCD, and now HOCD. And when my counselor told me to just say yes to the thoughts and allow them to be, I’m starting to realize slowly but surely that once you allow that to be, you’re able to see things much more clearly as if by accepting those thoughts and feelings, you start to see how false they are. No more worries or rumination just the real authentic you. It’s definitely a journey and I just wanted to say thank you! You’re the man Jesse! 👍
Dude!! The exact same themes you went through is what I am, same order and everything. Started with a fear of hell, then to pocd, now hocd. I feel your pain rn bro
thank you Jesse, my ocd is making me feel uncomfortable with everything I actually want, like watching and learning from your videos, wanting to see my long distance boyfriend, wanting to do my passion which is dancing, because my hocd tells me it's not safe/true to do things that I have always loved doing. Now that I know that what I'm feeling is 'normal' I feel more courage to move forward, inspire of what my f*cking brain is telling me. much love
Thanks very much for your comment! I'm glad you are getting up the courage to move forward! You are scoring points against OCD! Feel free to join my Facebook support group if you would like. Cheers.
Thanks for making these. I suffered with HOCD for years when I was younger but I only managed to get better when I finally learned to stop giving a shit and live life according to what I wanted from life. For the last ten years I was doing well, I got married to my long-term girlfriend, we've had kids and all the rest of it, but six months ago I had a random thought pop up out of nowhere "what if OCD came back" and I've been thrown back in the deep end for months now. I've probably watched your video (and pretty much all of the OCD videos on this website) multiple times at this point but your reiteration about avoidance has finally sunk in this time. I've felt so bad for months that I've hardly left the house. I've not gone out and done things I'm interested in. I've avoided work. I've cut all social connections and I still feel like shit. And you're totally right, instead of going out and getting anxiety around real people I've just been sat at home checking and rumininating by going through UA-cam thumbnails, almost too anxious to even watch TV or play computer games. I can't even read books because I'll worry I find the characters attractive in my own head. Well and truly painted myself into a corner and the only way out of it is to get wet socks at this point.
@@misoggerhi how did you just stop giving a shit im with my girlfriend at the moment and we are having a kid i had ocd before but now my mind keeps whispering to me im gay when im not attracted to males at all how do you stop this
This is so annoying I been having this for 4 years. False attractions go away because I expose myself to my fears but then it moves onto another person. It's just exhausting. It's like an endless road of mountains I've climbed before.
@TheyCallMeJesse it's definetly the compulsions, because I force myself to make eye contact with guys in public and my mind says "they probably think I like them now" and then I start being awkward around them. It's just illogical stuff. I can list many guys I'm friends with now that used to trigger me. It's crazy stuff.
Ive had this before but it seemed it went away on its own and i starter overthinking about certain things gf cheating and hurters other and my self etc but its recently come back to my mind whispering im gay when im 100% not i dont have anything against gay people its just not my cup of tea and i feel abit sick when i think about it and i’m only attracted to women but the more i argue against the talking the worse it gets then when im not thinking about it my mind goes oh your not thinking about it then im back to square one and its really starting to affect my life and stress me out
I've been told that my intrusive thoughts and feelings don't matter and that I should live according to my choices, I'm trying to live based on my choices but I don't understand, if feelings don't matter then I can just choose to be straight even if I feel the same way. symptoms" of attraction to men? So what's the point of there being attraction? I'm just very confused and I don't know what to do, no one on the NOCD application wants to answer me because they say this is reassurance.
Unfortunately it is a reassurance seeking question. You're still trying to "figure it out" which is a huge compulsion. You're better off putting your time into something productive. Trust me, I've been at this nearly twenty years and I've never found an answer to my OCD questions.
It’s been almost 5 months with HOCD i haven’t done compulsion since 2 months but this false attraction when I first had it it was so bad I wanted to leave the mall right away because I had anxiety fear and disgusted but now whenever it happens I don’t really do compulsions it’s just that when ever I scroll and I see a guy that’s better looking then me I get a feeling and I don’t like it and I start checking people out but when I try and not do compulsions I start to think that I’m gay if I don’t but I try not to listen to it and try not to do anny compulsions still
If you don’t get compulsions then that means your recovering ! Your almost there bro. And your brain is learning that your not gay lol we’re get back to normal again bro and I wish you luck! Since a kid I’ve always dreamed of having a wife and children
You don't "get" compulsions. Compulsions are something you DO. And compulsions feed the disorder. I've noticed you've been dropping a few comments on my channel, thanking people for giving you reassurance. Reassurance IS NOT GOOD. "Nah bro you not gay" and all that nonsense. Reassurance will only keep the disorder going. Instead of leaving comments on my channel, why dont you actually WATCH the videos, especially my ERP videos and learn to take care of yourself.
@@TheyCallMeJesse yes I will the false attraction has been gone but when it comes I just ignore and do annything annymore I’m honestly feeling more better then 5 months ago, My HOCD was really bad 5 months ago but now I’m really better and listen more plus I really try not to watch Porn annymore since it’s bad with my HOCD
Thank you for this video 🙏🏽 but I feel sexually aroused by girls , even if I’ ve always had crushes on boys and I have a boyfriend who I ‘ m in love with. But I feel turned on my women and sensuality.. Never by men :( and I’m not happy about that.. so I don’t enjoy this feeling but I think more because it’s a denial than an HOCD . You said that if the attraction brings positive emotions and feelings is real attraction, mine is enjoyable because I get TURNED ON, but I’ m not happy about that because it shouldn’t be this way! Can this still be HOCD even if I enjoy the feeling of being horny , even if I would love this not to happen with girls ?? It’s a nightmare!
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I’m currently seeing a biblical counselor right now and he has been saying pretty much exactly everything you have been saying! I’ve been struggling with OCD for a while now. Religious OCD, POCD, and now HOCD. And when my counselor told me to just say yes to the thoughts and allow them to be, I’m starting to realize slowly but surely that once you allow that to be, you’re able to see things much more clearly as if by accepting those thoughts and feelings, you start to see how false they are. No more worries or rumination just the real authentic you. It’s definitely a journey and I just wanted to say thank you! You’re the man Jesse! 👍
Glad you found it helpful! Thank you!
Dude!! The exact same themes you went through is what I am, same order and everything. Started with a fear of hell, then to pocd, now hocd. I feel your pain rn bro
thank you Jesse, my ocd is making me feel uncomfortable with everything I actually want, like watching and learning from your videos, wanting to see my long distance boyfriend, wanting to do my passion which is dancing, because my hocd tells me it's not safe/true to do things that I have always loved doing. Now that I know that what I'm feeling is 'normal' I feel more courage to move forward, inspire of what my f*cking brain is telling me. much love
Thanks very much for your comment! I'm glad you are getting up the courage to move forward! You are scoring points against OCD! Feel free to join my Facebook support group if you would like. Cheers.
Omg I feel this so deeply 😢 same here. We got this.
Thanks for making these. I suffered with HOCD for years when I was younger but I only managed to get better when I finally learned to stop giving a shit and live life according to what I wanted from life. For the last ten years I was doing well, I got married to my long-term girlfriend, we've had kids and all the rest of it, but six months ago I had a random thought pop up out of nowhere "what if OCD came back" and I've been thrown back in the deep end for months now.
I've probably watched your video (and pretty much all of the OCD videos on this website) multiple times at this point but your reiteration about avoidance has finally sunk in this time. I've felt so bad for months that I've hardly left the house. I've not gone out and done things I'm interested in. I've avoided work. I've cut all social connections and I still feel like shit. And you're totally right, instead of going out and getting anxiety around real people I've just been sat at home checking and rumininating by going through UA-cam thumbnails, almost too anxious to even watch TV or play computer games. I can't even read books because I'll worry I find the characters attractive in my own head.
Well and truly painted myself into a corner and the only way out of it is to get wet socks at this point.
Thank you. Im glad the advice on avoidance has sunk in. Live your life like you lived it before. For pro help, contact NOCD.
@@TheyCallMeJesse I give up with therapy, not being defeatist, but my experiences with the NHS have been dreadful and I don't have the money for NOCD.
Join my support group.
@@misoggerhi how did you just stop giving a shit im with my girlfriend at the moment and we are having a kid i had ocd before but now my mind keeps whispering to me im gay when im not attracted to males at all how do you stop this
watching your videos help a lot mate.
Feel free to join my support group. :-)
This is so annoying I been having this for 4 years. False attractions go away because I expose myself to my fears but then it moves onto another person. It's just exhausting. It's like an endless road of mountains I've climbed before.
Contact NOCD and get professional help. Maybe you were still doing mental compulsions. Maybe it's your self talk.
@TheyCallMeJesse it's definetly the compulsions, because I force myself to make eye contact with guys in public and my mind says "they probably think I like them now" and then I start being awkward around them. It's just illogical stuff. I can list many guys I'm friends with now that used to trigger me. It's crazy stuff.
Contact NOCD and read "Stopping the noise in your head" the book that I suggested in the video
@@TheyCallMeJesse yes I just put it on my Amazon cart
Nice video👍Can you next make a video about social anxiety & ocd?
Jeez dude you are flogging me. I only just uploaded this one. Did you watch it?
@@TheyCallMeJesse Sorrysorry ,yes i watched it and it was really helpful
this guy is amazing.
Ive had this before but it seemed it went away on its own and i starter overthinking about certain things gf cheating and hurters other and my self etc but its recently come back to my mind whispering im gay when im 100% not i dont have anything against gay people its just not my cup of tea and i feel abit sick when i think about it and i’m only attracted to women but the more i argue against the talking the worse it gets then when im not thinking about it my mind goes oh your not thinking about it then im back to square one and its really starting to affect my life and stress me out
Can you do a video about Hocd making you feel so hyper sexual to anything and hyper sensitive too
I've been told that my intrusive thoughts and feelings don't matter and that I should live according to my choices, I'm trying to live based on my choices but I don't understand, if feelings don't matter then I can just choose to be straight even if I feel the same way. symptoms" of attraction to men? So what's the point of there being attraction? I'm just very confused and I don't know what to do, no one on the NOCD application wants to answer me because they say this is reassurance.
Did you watch the video?
@@TheyCallMeJesse yes
Unfortunately it is a reassurance seeking question. You're still trying to "figure it out" which is a huge compulsion. You're better off putting your time into something productive. Trust me, I've been at this nearly twenty years and I've never found an answer to my OCD questions.
It’s been almost 5 months with HOCD i haven’t done compulsion since 2 months but this false attraction when I first had it it was so bad I wanted to leave the mall right away because I had anxiety fear and disgusted but now whenever it happens I don’t really do compulsions it’s just that when ever I scroll and I see a guy that’s better looking then me I get a feeling and I don’t like it and I start checking people out but when I try and not do compulsions I start to think that I’m gay if I don’t but I try not to listen to it and try not to do anny compulsions still
If you don’t get compulsions then that means your recovering ! Your almost there bro. And your brain is learning that your not gay lol we’re get back to normal again bro and I wish you luck! Since a kid I’ve always dreamed of having a wife and children
You don't "get" compulsions. Compulsions are something you DO. And compulsions feed the disorder. I've noticed you've been dropping a few comments on my channel, thanking people for giving you reassurance. Reassurance IS NOT GOOD. "Nah bro you not gay" and all that nonsense. Reassurance will only keep the disorder going. Instead of leaving comments on my channel, why dont you actually WATCH the videos, especially my ERP videos and learn to take care of yourself.
@@TheyCallMeJesse yes I will the false attraction has been gone but when it comes I just ignore and do annything annymore I’m honestly feeling more better then 5 months ago, My HOCD was really bad 5 months ago but now I’m really better and listen more plus I really try not to watch Porn annymore since it’s bad with my HOCD
Thank you for this video 🙏🏽 but I feel sexually aroused by girls , even if I’ ve always had crushes on boys and I have a boyfriend who I ‘ m in love with. But I feel turned on my women and sensuality.. Never by men :( and I’m not happy about that.. so I don’t enjoy this feeling but I think more because it’s a denial than an HOCD . You said that if the attraction brings positive emotions and feelings is real attraction, mine is enjoyable because I get TURNED ON, but I’ m not happy about that because it shouldn’t be this way! Can this still be HOCD even if I enjoy the feeling of being horny , even if I would love this not to happen with girls ?? It’s a nightmare!
The best thing you can do is contact organisations such as NOCD and download the app for your phone. Speak to a pro.
@@TheyCallMeJessethank you so much.. so do you think this is HOCD ?
I don't know. It could be real arousal or could be false attraction which also feels real. Go and see a pro.
I am having a really bad time brother.
Join my support group.
@@veraluxmundi2032 ?????? You lost me there sister
Can i have HOCD and later find out that i'm gay?
Maybe, maybe not. watch my video "What if its not HOCD"