PARENTS AND ANXIETY
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- Опубліковано 4 лис 2017
- "You stop crying or I give you something to cry about"
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When your parents are the reason you have anxiety but they still don't believe its real 😌
Kaysi S Rip
Wouldn't that be sad instead of happy?
thisis true for me
My mom doesn't believe my anxiety is real 😒
because they really don't want :((((
My mom always says "You're too young to have anxiety"
:0 :D Oh my god, I hate it when people say "You're too young to have ___". It makes no sense, like I could go up to an angry adult and say "Oh, you're too old to be having a tantrum". Oh, sorry, I'm rambling again.
Bird Blogger ikr
My family says that to me about literally every problem I have. Smh
How old are you? I was 13 when I was identified with social anxiety
My mom says "your too young to be stressed"..........***TRIGGERED***
My mother never allows me to actually explain a situation. She just, “assumes”. She’s never allowed me to finish a sentence and thinks she is right every time she says something. If you prove her wrong, she’ll yell at you. And even better, she only believes my younger brother. A few years ago, my little brother told my mom that I hit him and yelled at him, but that was a lie, because I had only turned off the lights and played on my iPad for most of the night. My mother came over and slapped my leg, and the place she had smacked made my leg hurt really badly. That memory has stayed with me for about three years.
"My mother never allows me to actually explain a situation. She just, “assumes”. She’s never allowed me to finish a sentence and thinks she is right every time she says something. If you prove her wrong, she’ll yell at you. And even better, she only believes my younger brother."
WHY
IS THIS MY MOM
UGH I FEEL YOU
sorry that had to happen to you arrghh,,,,,
Smh, my parents at least trust the older sister (me) more than the younger one. As if they are the ones who lived long enough to know things. Your mother didn't have one right to hit you without even having you explain the situation.
Isn't that memory still with you?
Sorry that happened to you. I know a few people who now always try to talk super fast because they used to never get a sentence finished to their parent.
Wait, is this me? Same here. Sorry that happens to you.
This is so my mom...
Every time I hear the front door open or a knock at my bedroom door, my heart skips a beat and a wave of anxiety just *woosh* . I'm scared of being criticized and yelled at, it really messes me up because I get yelled at a lot. I know I'm a difficult kid but punishments make everything worse. I hate school but I also hate home, I feel stuck and paranoid all the time. I hope things will get better soon.
i hope things get better for you too
Same
Same ovwr here bro they wnt let me to sit peacefully for 2 minutes they just yell at me like hell they dnt support me they always support my sister if i say something to them they say that ur a fool u dono anything
Psychedelic Spoons ME...TOOOO!!!! My parents are strict about EVERYTHING. 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
I normally get into fights with my mom and she always looks at my texts and messages and even what I watch on UA-cam (ehh ok I’m fine with that, I mean any other mom would do something like that right)? If I say something to clever for her then she calls me a smart mouth. 🤦♂️🤦♂️ Then there’s my dad who treats me like a princess. However, he’s always on my mom’s side and does whatever she says whenever she says it’s like my dad is her little minion and I’m the prisoner. 🤦♂️
(I know that sounded creepy but I’m just being honest)
it’s like my mom is 10 steps ahead of me with everything and she wonders why I have a problem with her...and don’t even want to talk to her. 😂 then my brother comes EVERY YEAR which is my WORST NIGHTMARE.🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️ the oldest one is nice to me for like 3 days and then he’s a really mean person for the entire summer. 🤦♂️ it’s like he turned from good cop then had cop.🤦♂️
unusual coconut and if my earbuds are attached to the phone she even gets away with them as well! Therefore, no earbuds...NO MUSIC! No music, MORE ANXIETY. 🤦♂️😤 I mean I’ve tried sleeping without my music before and it didn’t work AT ALL. 🤦♂️
I don’t get why parents complain about being a parent
*YA SHOULD’VE USED PROTECTION*
Hey Jo agreed
Hey Jo yep
Fr tho, I always say "well I didn't ask to be born" and then my parents get so mad BC my mom couldn't have kids for ten years after my oldest brother, and then I came along c':
Anønymøus Urie hahaa
sometimes when i also say, "i didn't wish to be born" they'll get mad at me too.
seriously sometimes I feel i was born to become a burden for my parents.
Saiha Michaelis :c
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" O-o lol *war flashbacks*
It's now in our description haha.
soft palms Same
My mom lmao
Yup! Even tho most of the time I couldn't stop, not because I was purposely throwing a tantrum. And I remember crying worse when told this
My dad......
I grew up with my parents giving me mixed signals “it’s okay to do that” “just don’t do it that way or this way” “be yourself” “but don’t be like that” I was just so confused which lead me to being anxious a lot now
SAME! I told my dad that too much study gives me stress, and he says "ok just forget about the stress."
a few days later I ask for something to relieve my stress and he says "what is wrong with you, you don't even study enough"
*and I study around 3-4 hours, if not more per day.*
At least u are not like me my parents always beat me and criticize me and call me with bad words and when I want to show my emotions they act like I'm ridiculous and like I'm dumb
Me too. They say "You have to open up to us" but when I do, they don't take me seriously. They treat me like I have no common sense😔
Bunny Boy yesss
yumi foxlyne my mom used to do that a lot when I was younger. Now that I’m older she grounds me for a week sometimes 2 months 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
So that's why I can't function properly.
Is there a way to fix it? I want to fix it.
Evilkitty That's what I was thinking.
Right 🤨
Evilkitty I think you can.
My life has changed dramatically since I moved out. Don't try to prove them your worth because they're unable to see it and it only costs you energy. Instead, focus on your future and goals. The pain of being underrated and not understood won't just go away, but when you're away from them and busy with your life, you're able to move forward and feel better about yourself.
My parents have given me depression and anxiety by forcing me into situations I am not comfortable with a then degrading me to nothing more than a mistake when I don't handle the situation properly because I am overwhelmed.
Coyote Wolf117
I can relate.
I'm Negan Me too.
Mad Skitty ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ Same
Honestly? Relatable
Coyote Wolf117 aw same with me
More parents need to see this, my friends mom kept him too sheltered when he was growing up so now he has a lot of anxiety issues especially when it comes to talking to people because he was home schooled and he has trouble fitting in.
Live Epic of course but it prepares you for the real world and the real world is very demanding especially jobs and majority of the times your boss won't give a damn about your feelings (depends on what kind of person they are). But school is important too in developing social skills and helps you get to see how people interact and prepares you for that when you go out into the real world
THE FOX HOUND same with my friend. Everyone at school thinks he’s super weird and he has really conservative parents. Same with me actually as wrll
I have a friend like that, too
Love to hear parents thoughts on this!
hi, chef gordon!
I have a Helicopter Mom.
Just note that I'm 13 years old.
She has done a lot of things I'm uncomfortable with. She's gone through my sketchbook AND my journals, gone through my backpack, stalks my social media, etc. This has rendered me a bit paranoid. And now I don't share my personal feelings with her anymore. I vent at my own risk now. Every time I tell her to stop or leave me alone she just says "I'm your mother" and it pisses me off so much.
Let me give you an example of how weird she is -
When I was about 7 or 8 years old, I got a new puppy which I still have today. A few days after we got her, I wanted to take her outside in front of our house so she could learn to be pottytrained. My mother told me no. After I asked her why she said she was afraid of me getting kidnapped.
I was literally in front of our house where she had perfect vision of where I was going.
Once I got into middle school I realized her behavior was wrong and I was starting to outgrow it. I wanted to do things myself and I craved independence. She had a horribly difficult time giving it to me. This lead to me becoming a rebellious teenager and I usually took it upon myself to face my own challenges. I also disobeyed her rules because I thought they were silly. My father had a completely different parenting style which was more of something I liked and often favored him.
However this took a toll on my mother's relationship with me. I started to push her away because all I wanted was for her to leave me alone. I became "contradictory" and I developed a horrible attitude towards her. I don't tell her anything and I've lost my trust for her. We argued a lot over how I was. But I could never tell her why.
I understand she just wants to look out for me, but, I've gotten over many difficult real life challenges without her hand to guide me.
Treena Turtle that describes me perfectly...
Same, even as a young adult my mom still tries to entitle everything i have just cuz shes my mom
My mom has the same email, same ig, samq facebook, same youtube, knows my phone passwords, and one time I was riding a rent car to go somewhere my mom demands that she is on the phone with me on the whole ride there. My room is connected to my parents' room and I can't lock the door to my room or the connecting door to my parents' room. My mom says that it is ridiculous that parents have to knock before going in their childs room, but sometimes I just want privacy.
Reminds me of my childhood(I'm 12)
I wasnt allowed to shut my door until a few months ago
When a friend of mine comes over(which doesn't happen much due to my parents' rules) they DEMAND that my younger sister be allowed to hang out with us,even though she's obnoxious and physically hurts me. If I tell my parents,they just say "oh you and your friend just provoked her into doing that" and they yell at me. 1. No,we don't provoke her,and 2. Even IF she WAS provoked,that would be bad parenting as you would be teaching her that it's ok to hit and abuse if she doesn't get her way
And I'm not allowed to go to any of my friends houses if there are boys there(I'm an ftm boy,just not out yet so I understand)
I can't wear the clothes I like
I can't wear the jewellery I like
I can't watch what I like
Can't eat what I like,or drink what I like
And I can't go outside because I "might get raped"
And those are only a few
"You doesn't have anxiety"
"You are too young to have anxiety"
"Why are you crying?"
Same with my parents. They yell at me just for existing, and THEN they fucking wonder why I have anger problems, why I have anxiety, why I feel like I'm fucking worthless. Yet it feels like nobody listens to me. I. AM. ALONE.
@@Atlasworld2005 it'll all be good, stay strong not for your parents but for yourself
"Stop crying" "Stop being dramatic" "You aren't having a panic attack"
The first one is relatable.
@@Atlasworld2005 I've just broke down in tears after reading that. I'm fed up with my dad too
those words "You stop crying or I give you something to cry about" gave me major flashbacks and ptsd
why is that funny?
are you 10?
What is this even...
Chimera wtf are you okay..??:-\ 🤔
Chimera you're*
Why are you saying that getting beat by parents caused autism?
"You stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about" Lmaao if I had a dollar every time I heard that as a child, I'd be rich af
Kalista Willington same lmao
Kalista Willington lol I hear that from my dad all the time..... When he sees a bratty kid having a tantrum either on a video or in public. He also says that to me sometimes but that is before he realised that I cry Becuase of the fact I get over whelmed and become very forgetful. I have adhd and autism so once he learned that, he felt so bad becuase all this time he thought I was being disobedient and that I'm lazy. My mom tells my dad to stop ever since. Actually she spanks me for a real good reason and that is bad mouthing and hurting my sister. What I did was not right, though what I do to my sister also revolves to my autism Becuase every noise and movement gets me super anxious and it overwhelms me to the point I end up buying her to make her stop. Either way, what I did what not right.
Kalista Willington I’d be richer than Bill Gates
Same here
Yep i never understand why they would say that like thanks mum now i feel alot better
god, reading all these comments makes my heart break a bit... im not really an expert in this, but i really hope you guys can get at least some help y'all deserve :( it makes me feel to not be a parent or to not get married at all, just the thought of all kinds of bad stuff i would do to a child that i might not be aware it could ruin their mental health...is just beyond heartbreaking.
Me itself too.
I can’t be the only person who’s mom also mocked me when i was depressed
my dad did this and my gma they still do to this day although I’m not depressed as I used to be they still try to use the time I was against me but never wanted to realized that I was actually depressed I don’t like them very much 😕
No estas solo amiguito🫂
My parents sheltered me when I was younger, which has lead to my current anxiety problems.
Velar Trill I am an only child and I have SO much anxiety and have no one to talk to about my problems that won't yell at me for doing something wrong
Same. When I was developing social anxiety my mom always said that it was “normal behavior” and I had nothing to worry about. She continued shielding me from everything. I wasn’t homeschooled, but Ive been to 0 birthday parties in my childhood and 2 sleepovers in my entire lifetime. It’s probably the main reason why my social skills never improved as I got older. When I have kids, I’m going to everything in my power to give them the life they deserve.
Sarah Roy agree I didn't get much social skills too an old friend of mine is very good at everything cuz her mother will didn't really seem to care much about what she did so she is street smart and remembers good she is very good at talking to people and I'm not..that's cuz my family didn't really let me go out much like to the park my friends invited me to the park to have BBQ and they were gonna buy all the stuff and I was so excited and I told my dad about it and he said he will think about it but he didn't sometimes I felt like he would only do that to mess with my emotions and he didn't even stop to think about it and when he thought it though he wouldn't even tell me and when I would ask him if he thought about it he says no and then my grandma wasn't helping either she would say you never know someone may come up to you start a fight or may try to hurt you but she would say that about everything
Sarah Roy And I thought I was the only one when I was younger..
I'm also an only child
Can you do a video on sibling abuse? It’s an issue that nobody talks about but can have a really big impact on a kids life. My sister and I had a much worse and more verbally/emotionally abusive relationship than any other siblings I’ve met, and it had a lot of really bad affects on me and my anxiety/perception of my worth as si grew up. I feel like it’s an issue that should be talked about a lot more, since a lot of parents and people brush off legit bullying as “oh they’re siblings”
Yes, we can, and we guess you are looking more for strategies on how to deal with siblings abuse? Or signs of sibling abuse?
Psych2Go I guess anything to highlight it and how to deal with it or stop it if you’re a parent since it’s a pretty underrepresented type of abuse that I don’t see much information about, both for education and help purposes
This is a great request!!! Especially because some popular perceptions of sibling relationships today say fighting is natural or ok (I'm looking at you "How Toddlers Thrive" book!!).
In truth I thank God that my mother (despite other crazy stuff she did to me) always said "we don't fight our siblings, our siblings help us fight everyone else!" Our parents didn't allow us to fight physically at all and interceded if anything too out of line was said. They emphasized respect and that in the end, ours would be the longest familial relationship and so buck stops with us. And my brother was much younger, so we didn't even really have a relationship beyond disagreements over TV shows, who ate who's ice cream, and bathroom time until he was in middle school, I was in college, and we could hang out. But because we weren't allowed to disrespect and abuse each other in the name of "siblings will fight" bull crap as kids, there was no trauma to surmount before we could hang.
As an adult I have at least two friends who don't even have a relationship with their siblings, or like the poster below, had sibling relationships filled with fighting and vicious type crap. Neither one plans to have more than one kid because they only see siblings as an annoyance or worse a recipe for battles.
Someone needs to write an instructive corrective, or make a video like these fantastic shorts, that explains how siblings can actually grow into friends with time instead of some stranger you survived battles with in youth!!
Yes please, my brother bullied me when I was young and it almost destroyed my life. It made me feel like everything I did was wrong even when I knew it wasn't. I started realizing what was happening when I was about 12, and distanced myself from him. I'm 16 now and I still have difficulty talking to anyone in my family (specifically my mom) because my bro made me feel like they all hated me. I mean I love my bro and he's different now and regretful of what he did, but I doubt we'll ever have a close relationship. Sibling abuse is very real and very harmful and it's definitely something that needs to be brought to light.
cool dad yes should be because my siblings hate me. They are self efficient and very grown up and im mental and still a baby. Growing up is an asshole. No more fun just boring office for 40 years. And no emotions. And i never had fun. Invited to a friends birthday just once, only twice in a wedding. Hello, i want to have fun!!! Im super bored. So should i be bored for the rest of my life?
Things my mom told me:
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about"
"I may not have brought you into this world but I sure as hell will be the one to take you out of it"
That's all I can think of but uh yeah
Chimera Not sure what you accomplished by quoting me there, but if it's about the first part, I'm adopted.
Same bruh
Why the hell would someone adopt you just to abuse you verbally 🙄? Some people are just terrible
"I brought you into this world. Why are you so disrespectful?" Because i never wanted to be born
@@annandres8483
Y S ame
I have anxiety. My parents were the ones who fought 24 7 it affected my sleep,happiness ect i had anxiety before they started fighting but it wasnt to bad but as they fought more and more it made it worse and i have developed depression. Thank u for listening
Me too. And I'm the one who has to try and break up the fight. It's mainly my mom who argues about nonsense.
TrashMouth my parents fight a lot to. My dad treats me like a princess to much. My mom always says, “you’re such a spoiled brat!” In my face and then friends me for two months. 😒
My brothers say the same thing. Although my mom normally argues with my dad a lot about giving me whatever I want (I mean...I don’t exactly get whatever I want if you think about it. I never asked for anxiety, and I never asked for depression either). 🤦♂️😪
Lauren Martinez yeppppppp. My mom starts ALL the fights. 🤦♂️
Like anything that comes out of my mouth instantly becomes a mom fight 🤦♂️
Angela Cavon bro same it’s gotten a lot worse since two years ago tho she hit me for the first time a couple months ago and I’ve been afraid of her since she also flips everything I say to make it seem like I’m the one in the wrong and it honestly sucks my dad makes me feel like shit aswell, I hope your situation gets better dude :D
i have anxiety. i am also experiencing hallucinations and delusions for the last three years because of my anxiety but my parents just don't believe me. i am also experiencing headache, nausea, abdominal pain, chills, sudden contractions etc. every single day. every single time when i tell them about these they start laughing or get mad and tell me to control myself. how can i control myself, how can i control hallucinations?! this is not even the only case. 4-5 years ago when i told my parents that i was myopic they didn't believed in me for a long time too they didn't let me see a doctor for like three years, and my sight got even worse.
My parents are like this; loving, wanting what's best for me, but not actually knowing. I have autism, so naturally they're a lot more protective of me for that reason. They don't understand though that I'm actually a capable 18-year-old functioning adult now, and they don't need to be 100% involved in absolutely everything I do.
HarrybosPlums interesting
Maybe you can ask them about what their concerns are and then address them. For example, if you're fairly proficient with communication, but they're concerned with your communication abilities, then you can assure them that you can handle yourself on your own, and maybe provide an example of strong communication for them. Just an idea. Good luck!
TradeMar•TM From Atypical? I love that show!
Detective Ryuzaki thanks mate
HarrybosPlums i am mental and have heart disorders. Thats why grandma sheltered me and cos of her im mental. Am said to have Asperger.
I hate my parents for being helicopter parents. they ruined so many good opportunity's for me as a child and in a way still are ruining shit for me to this day. I've been diagnosed with anxiety disorder among other things and when I would go to therapy I couldn't even talk about my issues and the things I felt caused them because my parents specifically told me NOT to say anything about our family or else. so therapy didn't help me for shit in the end because most of my problems stemmed from family related stuff.
Nik N holy shit are you me. My dad passed away a few years ago when I was 15 and my mom helicopters over what I say in therapy about anything. Especially if she's paranoid we're talking about her.
Your therapist shouldn't tell what you say to anyone, especially your mother. Regard you therapy as me-time, not your mother's. Your mother is not there so you are free to say what you want.
Nik N holy shit same
I totaly have the same problems, and every time my mother got invite by the Theorpy i complety be shut down and answer really carefull as silent and short. Only if alone with the theropy i can tell little bit out of my heart
Both of my parents are extreme helicopter parents and yell at me if I get less than an A on anything, especially my dad. My mom never gives me any privacy whatsoever, and my dad takes the time to point out each and every one of my flaws, and tells me that I’m lazy and useless. When I try to stand up for myself, they just shut me down with “if other parents aren’t like us, then they’re not good parents. We’re doing what’s best for you”
Please for your sake tell someone trusted who isn't your parents. Thats close to mental abuse!
CrystalKatt 54 graded will never mean anything when you get a job, just remember that.
@Adam DoesThings my dad says that being an artist / musician is useless. he said ill end up on the streets of LA playing earning 25 cents a day...
music is the only way to relieve my stress yet he tells me to stop listening to music.
these things make me a rebellious teen inside
CrystalKatt 54 sounds like my parents but much worse except sorta on getting a good grade
CrystalKatt 54 that’s my parents too
This explains why I have Anxiety. And depression, and anorexia..
same
I pray that you are better now in Jesus name.
Maci Lopez yesssss it explains my anxiety to!
evelynn I wonder if you can tell your mom to like...I don’t know stop. I know it might sound scary to you. My mom used to snap at me a lot during meals that’s why I didn’t talk at all during meals. Although maybe just write her a note and tell her how you really feel maybe she’ll just calm down a little bit. If you really don’t want to do that you don’t have to.
Same.
My mum never let me socialise with my friends when I was younger (apart from the occasional birthday party) because of the "I dont know their parents, they could be molesters/rapists/kidnappers" thing
So now I have crippling social anxiety that I'm trying to fix (with little or no success so far :) Fantastic
Ju Lynn Ong I literally had the same issue. What really helped me was moving to a new area with a low crime rate and nicely dressed people and going out to get a cup of coffee at a local coffee shop everyday. Eventually I grew out of the "oh god everyone is going to rape me" mentality. I still have left over side effects like extreme introversion and generalized anxiety. Its still hard for me to look at people while walking down the street but every little "hello!" And a smile helps.
Ju Lynn Ong this happened to me as well .
Literally me too.
I have little to no close friends because of this shell I’ve put myself in, because of them.
I still live in fear every day that I'm going to be raped (again). It's my first thought whenever I see a man I don't know: "he wants to rape me, he would if he could".
I literally had the exact same issue, I couldn’t even leave the part of the neighborhood I live in for years!
Over the years I've become of scared of everything because if I don't do it right I get yelled at so it's hard for me to make everything perfect like my dad wants me to..
You can't do everything perfect, everyone make mistakes, that's a normal thing.
Fring but some parents are dumb and don’t believe on that nonsense, unless I don’t get A or B’s my parents are happy but below that they would beat me up, I would tell them I tried my best and people make mistakes but they don’t care and call me a dumbass
Same, but it’s my mom
same, but if i get below a 90 on a test, my dad gets me in trouble. i always find that ridiculous because i think a B is a good grade. my older sister makes D's and C's, but my dad just tells her to try harder next time, and doesn't yell at her for an hour and call her a crybaby
@@cloroxbleach7377 me too.
parents: i know everything about you
me: so you know that my entire life is falling apart? that my friends are leaving me? that i’m depressed? that i have severe anxiety? you know why i’m not good enough?
I am in a similar situation, but don't lose hope.
Relative to me🤦
My parents used a lot of negative parenting, they also induced fear to reduce me and my siblings doing things that they disapprove of. It hasn't affected me positively at all, its defiantly a cause for anxiety.
my parents call me negative, yet they induce so more fear
My parents induce anxiety in different ways. They push me way too far. My parents don’t see that I avoid certain things, such as cleaning my room, because they frequently result in panic attacks (messy rooms overwhelm me so much, so I cannot bare acknowledge them). I try to keep my room clean, however it always ends up a total disaster the end of each school week. I can’t relax on the weekends as a result
Minty Bliss my mom has done this throughout my teen years. Messy rooms make me feel like I have no space to move around in, and it doesn't help that my mom is a hoarder. So if i have a few clothes on my floor, she'll yell at me for destroying this room she spent so long "cleaning". It doesnt make sense as the room was already an "organized mess", but being 21 and living at home after dropping out of college after i went to rehab, i still listen to her just to keep her calm. It's mentally battering.
I *love* your profile picture
Minty Bliss same also >•< Phandom
Minty Bliss yeah, your parents are such jerks for wanting you to have a clean room
I avoid it too because its unpleasant and not fun. Had the same with homework because i took it as a punishment. We must avoid everything whats unpleasant
And what about comparing your kid with others? I've always been a shy and quite kid. I remember my mum comparing me with her friends' children. Most of these kids would be very outgoing and lively and my mum as well was a very outgoing and a very brave kid so she would always compare me with others who aren't socially awkward. For years this made me feel like a failure. Also teachers have a huge impact on this too. Whenever my mum would come to school, all teachers would tell her about why i was quiet and looked "sad" (well im at the school, how can i be happy) and then my mum would come home asking why i was like this.
I really don't remember having good school memories, i was always under the shadow of other kids, teachers would hardly remember my name. Kids were also pussies too that were calling me names and trying to put stickers on my back. Also some girls that have treated me like shit (calling me out because i wasn't as rich as them to buy new phones every year or because i couldn't wear different newly-bought clothes every day) I would see my mum comparing me with these girls (although it has never happened) because they were obviously outgoing and loud.
And I have been watching this channel for some time and finding out people who are going through the similar stuff as i am, i feel a bit better about my life. :)
Tavananna has good vibes story of my life...then the screaming started. It was as if it had to come from somewhere. If not my mom's friend, then her herself. She threatened to kick me out because I couldn't see a valid point to her reasoning multiple times, and actually countered with a valid point. Mind you she's sheltered me all my life, then this suddenly started. It was jarring. Eventually, I just said "What's the point of this?" and she had the nerve to ask me what's wrong. I can't tell her or she's going to start screaming again, so I just tell her I'm fine and clam up. Now she thinks I want to be her freaking servant, while I'm sitting here going I would have already moved out if I had somewhere to go. Now it looks like my dad's doing better, so I'm going to move in with him when I can after he gets moved. Oh, how the roles have been reversed!
I hate when my mom compares me in every negative way possible. Who cares if I'm not the best at every single thing. I'm so sick of it, to the point where I compare her to her sisters/my aunts cause they both went to universities and have a job while my mom hasn't and doesn't. I don't even care if I hurt her emotionally anymore. You get back what you reflect. Her mom/my grandma was an abusive and irresponsible parent as well, but my mom obviously hasn't learnt from her mistakes.
I’ve experienced this way too many times. This happens alot, but this problem doesn’t get the recognition it needs. The parents aren’t aware how much they put down thier kids like that, and when their kids points this out, they say things like «What are you talking about?! Are you saying that we’re not good enough parents?» and make them feel guilty for saying the truth.
Art Lover Yes! As a daughter i would never compare them with other parents. But most of the kids are being compared. Parents need to learn that comparing your kids (especially at a young age) is not OK. It doesn't push the child to be better, it pushes them to sadness and lack of self-esteem.
Tavananna has good vibes my mom does that too. She also compares me to my older sister a lot, which sucks. She won't admit it but I know thats her favorite out of all 3 of us
My anxiety skyrockets just by being near them. It gets higher when they talk
IM LITERALLY SHOCKED I HAVE SPENT MY ENTIRE LIFE BEING JUST ANXIOUS TO ASK MY PARENTS IF I CAN SEE A FRIEND. I MEAN REALLY ANXIOUS. I've always thought I was just weird and couldn't put my finger on why I end up lying to see friends etc.
(P.s. My name is Graham and I barely ever hear of someone else called Graham I'm shook)
I feel anxious to ask my mom almost anything 😌
@@hiimpeyton671 It will get better! My parents (mum) eventually loosened down, now that I’m older I have a lot more freedom
@@39nova77 I’m 17. Been like that forever
My mom, wrong Or right, will be pissed at you if you even question her views or prove them wrong. Like when I try to explain my anxiety to her she says 'you're attached to your phone too much'. 'Oh that's just your anxiety making you think that way.' For example when her boyfriend was a jerk she blamed it on my anxiety when I tried to tell her how it was making my anxiety issues worse. When I worked up the nerve to tell her what was really going on she yelled at me and went on about how I complain all the time and should really shut up and that she hated that about me. Doesn't help that my sister finds the tiniest things to glare at me or criticize me about. God dammit I can't do anything right. My self esteem is gone and my ego a popped balloon
May Jones go watch daily dose of internet. Helps me with depression at times.
Sounds like my mom.....
That’s kind of relatable with my parents
Same
Is your mom a clone of mine or what?
wow so my grandparents were responsible for my anxiety
+Lizette Serros Only you can answer this for yourself, in my case not.
Mine too and as I'm an adult my grandpa still treats me as a child and won't let me an adult.
Lizette Serros same here. My grandma made me mental, helpless and afraid of everyone
BPS JoΨ how did you not know your parents?
Aziza Alkan i did know my parents but they were too young to take care of me
I told my mom today and it didnt go well. Everytime I try to tell her something she makes it about herself and how she faced it and how she's fine. She told me i was being over dramatic and it was just nervousness. It was the hardest thing ive ever had to do and for her to dismiss it so easily just makes me feel....
Worthless.
CutieBean :3 I know! She brags about how great she is... (NOT) and she brags about how much she knows about everything and everything will be completely fine. 🤦♂️🤦♂️
Absolutely nothing goes right when I speak with her! That’s why I just don’t....say..anything anymore. However, she always questions me by saying, “are you alright?” “Did you get a good sleep?” “Why aren’t you talking?” (Maybe because you’re so mean😒)
Yeah, my parents are always angry at me if I do one thing out of line.
They refuse to believe anything I say and they fat shame me, they threaten to beat me with the belt,
Or threaten go upside my head with a metal broom saying ‘ this does not bend. ‘ they have made
Me more aggressive at school than ever, they say ‘clean up your act’ or ‘ do this again and I’ll ‘
They want to set the perfect little road for me, as a fifth grader I just don’t get it, they are
Making me anxious and aggressive with the passing minute, more or less I have anger issues, and social anxiety.
And I’m depressed.
Awww I feel you. I'm always here to talk. You're not alone. My parents physically hurt me for the smallest things. Only five more years until I can move out
iiSnowy_ artistii
Hey I know how it feels like
And now I am gonna go out of school and I am very impulsive, aggressive and even with anxiety
It’s ok don’t worry . I will be here for be your friend if you want .
chimchim . They should not That’s childish abuse .
Aww it’s ok I’m sure you’ll get through it somehow! ❤️
I know this might not help but...do you like writing music? I’m wondering if you write about what you’re going through it’ll probably make you feel better. 🙂
You can also listen to music? this is really the only thing that calms me down. Without my music...I’m toast. 😅😂
Right now I don’t really have anyone to talk to either my parents think they’ll understand everything I say to them but they’re the reason why I’m in this mess. 🤦♂️ and my friend left when I was 13 and my bf is in Iran. So I sort of have no one to talk to either.
Both sides of my family have anxiety so that part is genetic, but my parents also are extremely strict and insist on every way i do things that is different from theirs is wrong. They also act like everything in the world is going to hurt me so I have severe anxiety about the majority of things that come up in life. I'm also afraid of getting involved in activities or committing to things because I think it'll take away my freedom again. :/
Jolie Iler thats my grandma. Everything in this world can hurt me and kill me. And im afraid of literally everything, see every stranger as a rapist. My mother is super strict too
My grandma is all of them. Overprotective. My mother had a heart issue when she was a girl and grandma was always worried that she will die. Mother was happy when she got married but sadly it was a mistake and they live together. Argue every day. Mother is cold and angry all the time. Sister doesnt live with us anymore, she was rebellious. I couldnt because for grandma its a sign of rudeness. Must be polite and quiet. I wanted to play a lot but was called rude then. I have heart issue too and had homeschooling cos of fainting a lot at school. She made me mental, fat as hell, afraid of everything (every stranger is a rapist), helpless and an eternal kid. It cant be changed in any way. Cos of her i cant have privacy and a boyfriend. She would ask: whats his name, how old is he, where is he from, where does he work/study, who are his parents, is he catholic? I wouldnt keep it personal. Wait till she dies. Everyone is tired of her and she makes everyone angry.
My grandparents are the ony one I thrust. But this goes way too far. I am so sorry. :/
Oh god I feel for you so much, my parents (father especially) are the same way. Clingy, tend to stick their nose everywhere ( OH GOD A STRANGER SPOKE TO YOU ON THE STREET AND ASKED FOR YOUR PHONE NUMBER WHO IS HE ? HE DIDN'T GET TO SEE WHERE YOU LIVE DID HE? LOCK THE DOOR JUST TO BE SAFE!) and that results in me having major social anxiety and anxiety in general. I'm 25 soon 26 yo by the way, and I still live at their place, with very few friends (like, 2) and an almost non existent social life, I don't know about your grandma, but the worst with these people is when they're completely unassuming about their behavior, that they believe there's nothing wrong with it. I really hope things get better for you somehow...
Alice Flourite do you live in my head? Cos of my grandma im mental, helpless and cant have a social life. Its zero. Have no friends at all only lovers in the internet. In real life i dont exist at all.
I have super strict parents and I have like no friends. Not even on the internet :/
Screaming_ SealXD they are Hitler and Stalin. Im so sorry for you. This sucks. And these times i dont talk with anyone cos everyone seems boring and not deep at all, nothing to say. Maybe im normal just grandma made me mental. As a child i was happy and lively. Then i went to school and was super disappointed because i thought i will only play with other children. All the time. And that lessons will be fun, look like educational programs for kids. Hello, children want to play, not learn!
My parents have always been helicopter parents. Even now (as an early teen) I'm not allowed to walk outside by myself. Even when I was younger, my parents were always super hesitant to let me be with friends outside, especially males (I was, about 5-8). They have, unintentionally, made my fear so many things, not to mention I never got to really socialize with people outside of my parents friends and their kids, along with kids from school.
And even now, my parents think everything I do is suspicious because I always panic at everything, truth be told, when they want to go through my phone, since they've always yelled at me for every little thing, I have no idea how to react.
Another thing is they told me I never had to do anything I didn't want to, and they kept that promise. But not suddenly, they're forcing me into multiple things. Such as optional piano recitals, and the one time they've ever been truly proud of me is when I said I (willingly) auditioned for a solo in Chorus.
Like I said earlier, my parents never let me outside (even now) by myself. Well, I'm honestly scared to go because they've always said that I can't go without an adult because "There are a lot of creeps out there. Kidnappers and pedophiles." Thanks mom, dad. For successfully fucking me up pretty bad. Congratulations.
Clorax Bleach I can relate to you in a spiritual level😭
Bruh i can relate. I have a parent who basically constantly watches true crime shows and has gotten to the point where it slowly controlls her live and she has even tried making us watch a documentry about R kelly and the rape story just cause she wants to drive in the idea that everyone could be a rapist, murderer, or pyscho wanting just girls. If we go agaisnt her word, we are immediatly yelled at and said "You dont know anything about this, im the parent.". My family constantly fights and yells at eachother and ive gotten to the point where i just try to block out the yelling by listening to youtube and going on the computer constantly and its helped. They try to say im obsessed with the computer and i just want to play a video game all day and they want me to do something else when theirs literally no fun things around where i live. Like i just rely on drawing, video games, and youtube since like i barely got friends around where i live. Point is, it honestly sucks at times so.
Hello brother I am so sorry for you
ѕaмe, ι can'т even go oυтѕιde alone, noт even jυѕт ιn ғronт oғ тнe нoυѕe вc тнey тнιnĸ ι'll geт ĸιdnapped or ѕoмeтнιng
@Astro Loops but where will he/she go? How will they be able to support themselves?
I was never allowed to go swim with my friends, meet kids from my class, or do any free time activities basically. I remember asking my mom time and time again if I could go to the play ground with my friends but even such simple things she wouldn't allow me because she had no time to go with me. I'm 16 now, haven't had a room to myself for 11years now, I have social anxiety, an abusive father, have no one to talk to and have never had any hobby. I feel like I've missed out on live.
lunameowl aww. Hey I know I’ve said this in like every comment in here, but... have you EVER tried listening to music? If not you should try it.
You can even write your own song about how you are feeling. Most people who get abused like this mostly listen to music they relate to the most.
You can also meditate. 😉
While I would say my mom is a minor helicopter parent, it's my dad that causes the problems the most. He doesn't like to spend time with me, and he doesn't care about any of my accomplishes. He only cares when I mess up, and he always accuses me of doing something wrong. I try to be as good as possible, but I've even caught him watching me SLEEP. I was printing out assignments on the computer, and he took the papers out of my hand to see what I was printing. He put them on the desk, and I showed him that I had gotten 100% on this huge English test that I had worked really hard on. He shrugged, said "that's cool." And left. I just wish he would care about his own child.
Anna oh god the watching you sleep part is so creepy... my father does that too sometimes and I thought I was alone with that. But I hope your situation gets better
yy you too my dude, he thinks I stay up to watch porn or something but I don't really do anything he wouldn't approve of. It's like, I can do everything right, but I'm still being punished because he thinks I'm doing something wrong. Thanks for replying, I'm just venting my feelings. I hope things get better for you too.
Anna I feel you, that's so frustrating. You should search something non-harmful to help you cope with him if you haven't already
yy you know, you're right about that. Right now my escape is going and sitting with my dog and running my hands through his fur, but I can't always do that when I'm somewhere without him. Although, my dad also hates my dog and purposely scares him. My dog hates him so much that he goes under my bed when my dad comes in my room. But, in any case that's a really great idea actually. Thanks for talking with me! I'll definitely look that up tomorrow, since I kinda should be asleep right now whoops.
Anna good night, sleep well ^^
Legit, as soon as you grow up and go on the internet against whatever your parents say about talking to strangers, it is very good and can help you develop your mind.
I look back at my life and realize that if i listened and obeyed everything from my parents, i would not know anything about how people work, and wouldn't be as mature mentally speaking as i am today
My parents think that issues like anxiety and depressions are just a "set up" for me to whine about and all, even though i am depressed as, it's severely having an impact in my daily life and my studies but to them, it's just acting and i "should make some efforts now"
Your parents should not overprotect you but that doesn't mean you don't have to look towards other directionns by yourself.
I had a "friend" who was so clueless and so naive about everything, that was almost pitiful. I was 17, she was 18
but she didn't know anything beside what her parents tell her, she obey them just as if she was 3, i'm not exaggerating, she was stressing out so much when we went out around the school on a free period. No sense of tolerance either, she actually thought that being gay was a transmittable disease and took a few step back from me when i told her i was bi, and asked me if i am sick
Overprotection is really bad, it doesn't let kids grow up and let their mind bloom by itself.
Eileen-Haiikyuuties Amen to that friend.
Myemoo This is why it’s absolute bull-shit how people think electronics will ruin your learning and reasoning.
Myemoo lol
Being gay is an std
Jk jk i just laughed at the end
dude did we grow up with the same parents? Tf?
my mom told me “you’re just nervous. All u have to do is breathe. U don’t have anxiety.” And that made me wanna Kms even more. She has anxiety herself but doesn’t believe in mine.
For Real, This Really Feels Shit 😠
My parents are the ultimate helicopter parents. I'm the only kid they have and the only one they could ever have without severe risk to my mother's health; it was an awful pregnancy, and they weren't supposed to be able to have kids in the first place, so I understand that I'm really important to them. Not only that, but my dad spent his teenage years as the epitome of a problem child; hard drugs, alcohol, parties, drunk driving, you name it. He'll do everything in his power to keep me from being like him. My mom was a fantastic kid, quiet, good grades, well-mannered. She probably wishes I was more like her.
So, combine all that, and you've got some pretty overbearing people. They did everything for me growing up and never really taught me how to do things for myself. The first signs that something was off pointed to social anxiety, because I hid behind my parents and never learned how to deal with the frightening aspects of being around other kids. As I got older, though, and there was more to deal with, the anxiety spread. I started therapy in fifth grade after realizing myself that I didn't deal with things the way other kids did, but honestly, I think I needed it way sooner. I got into junior high and that's where everything started falling apart. I was diagnosed with panic disorder and generalized anxiety on top of the social phobia, and I was building up absences to the point where it's a miracle we weren't in court.
I got on medication sometime during that, and it worked for a year or two, but high school destroyed all of my progress. The stress of knowing that if I fucked up here, I'd fucked my future over kickstarted what kinda felt like a long, slow downfall. I'm in my second year of high school now, and I feel like my life is falling apart. I have severe hyperempathy problems from being guilt-tripped for years as a way to control my behavior, which, believe it or not, is absolutely horrible for relationships, so even something good like having a best friend hurts me at times.
I'm doing horrible in school, because it's a struggle to get myself out of bed and keep myself out of bed, let alone get out and accomplish things. I struggle to enjoy things I love, because seven months ago, I started experiencing chronic pain in both wrists that's slowly spread up my arms and to my shoulders and neck. I've gone through three diagnoses as well as every treatment you can think of for an overuse injury aside from injections and surgery, and nothing. Now, I've found out that it may actually be that my anxiety is so severe that in combination with the growing depression, it's fucking up my pain sensors and leaving me vulnerable to conditions like fibromyalgia. The only reason I'm not truly suicidal is because I'm afraid to die and somehow, I still have hope left. I still want to be happy.
If there's anything you can get from this, if you read this far, mental health is everything, and sometimes there are already signs there at a young age that are really important to pay attention to. I really wish someone had realized sooner that something was wrong. I wish I'd gotten into therapy and meds two years or so before I did.
Oh no, are you alright now?
@@salami7031 I'm working hard to get myself on track to being physically and mentally healthy :) thank you for asking! I hope you're doing well!
The only advice I can give u is too just be yourself. Do what u think its best. Dont worry about failing and just be afraid of the opportunity not being there. Also tell ur parents about what is going on and try to work it out.
Paradoxynne
This is extremely heartbreaking. But I totally think you can do it. I have faith in you. I have an abusive parent that messed up me and my brother's mental health but not as bad as yours.
My mother is a helicopter parent indeed. She has me rely on her for making decisions, and now that I'm an adult she gets butthurt that I have been relying on her less. She constantly criticizes my decisions in college (like going part time, as she wants me to go full time) and gets angry when I go spend time with my best friend every weekend. She will use any excuse during that time to get me to come home. Due to her parenting, I have a hard time relying on myself as a person, and I often don't speak my thoughts. As a young adult with a helicopter parent, I sometimes even have a hard time taking initiative. My mother also neglected to teach me certain things that would help me be more independent, so that makes being an adult even harder. If I ever, by some crazy chance have kids, I hope to not be this type of parent.
Soxnanhn When you said that your mom neglected you on things to help you be more independent, well my mom is the same. She wouldn't teach me how to drive so she can drive where I wanted to go. That would drive me crazy (no pun intended), most of the time she didn't want to go where I wanted go. Also She would get mad if I was to go to my cousin's house.
You're not alone
I deal with the same thing too. I can't even live my own life.
This is so me. My mom tends to criticize all my decisions if I acted-up without informing her. She thinks her plans/decisions for me will always be better. I understand that they are just being so protective but they should know that for us to be able to do better judgement and decisions in the future, they should let us decide on our own first.
@Kawaii Potato Same. I'm actually having a hard time finding a job right now and it's not doing me any good. Plus my mom telling me indirectly how weak I am by saying new generations are so weak compared to theirs. I'm looking for a way to get-out on this house and to job-hunt personally without her knowing (because she works at home so she's always here). Sometimes I'm too nervous to go downstairs and eat because I might see her so I ended up eating twice and sometimes once a day. It makes me uncomfortable being around my parents especially to my mom
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Catbird Wolf This is call Black Magic 😂
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My mom is the type of parent that threatens me, as mentioned in the video; it it really does cause me anxiety. Remember kids, having panic attacks at 5:00AM is just my way of saying "life sUcks!"
My mom is too
Well...uhh....
Ummm... 😪😪😪😭😭😭
My mom is like that to
I had two panick attacks at church and youth group and you’re totally right they’re AWFUL
Me: I'm good at stuff! I'm good at writing!
Mom: Then why don't you show me your story?
Me (In head): Because you'll say it's "age inappropriate" and won't let me write anymore :(
Me (In reality): *Tries to change subject*
Oh fudge -_- that happens with me too
Me: *writes LGBT+*
My mom: NO-
Uncle Odd I know! When a conversation becomes awkward between my mom and I, I try to change the subject. 🤦♂️ But she clearly ALWAYS wants an answer for everything ESPECIALLY my dad. 🤦♂️
clariønstørm yessss my mom looks at EVERYTHING I look at! I’ve asked her multiple times why she does it. The. She says, “”Oh it’s because that’s what mom’s do, so let me see what you’re watching.” 🤦♂️😒🤦♂️😒🤦♂️😒
I feel u. When im writing on my journal where i keep my stories my bro will sometimes snatch it away fooling around but not actually reading it and then my mom will get all concerned and start staring at me weirdly and ask, "What are you writing on that notebook?"
I’m happy to have the mother I have. She’ll give me advice about the this she’s been through but some things she won’t give advice on, because she believes that a child should be able to grow by themselves. Like last week my boyfriend broke up with me, she told me that never get upset over a breakup because you have other things to cry about (anime death and other stuff... can’t take anything seriously with this woman.. sometimes). I know no one really cares and will just skip over it because I don’t know how to write a simple paragraph. Stupid English.
Miss. Lovely Little Virgin - thats cool, your mom is raising you right. its true, some things you just havta sort out yourself.👍
Lucky...
Emily Wang I can relate actually.
Emily Wang ah yes, some, until i passed the eleven plus, she still hits me sometimes, but not as often
FellSans!
Can you talk about how child abuse can lead to social anxiety?
!! yess
Or things that can lead to social anxiety
my life
That must be where my anxiety came from, abuse
But that's a little obvious, isn't it?
I believe deep down that my father is slowly deteriorating my mental health. I say deep down, because he has done so much to engrave in my head that my feelings have no value. I cannot feel upset because I am punished for feeling that way when he says something hurtful. This causes me to force myself to go back to acting happy and treating him like nothing is wrong.
It has now come to the point that when I go to talk to someone about this or a problem I might be having, I break down and cry. I feel guilty, as if perhaps I'm just a delusional "kid" and that there's nothing wrong with me. He has damaged my emotional health.
I broke down talking to a girl. My anxiety was so high that I could barely say a word. Would've started crying except it's impossible for me to actually cry.
Musical Priss I relate.
Musical Priss I know! I don’t even want to talk about my unhealthy relationships with my parents to other people sometimes! I feel like they’ll just think I’m crazy and say, “ok you just have to calm down and like stand up for yourself then.” Or they might say, “that’s awful but why would you have a unhealthy relationship with your parents...I mean they ARE you’re parents” 😂🤦♂️
I feel like my dad is scarier than my mom. My mom sort of goes easy on me unless she’s actually on her bad side. My dad on the other hand, when I’m like doing a test and it’s time to do something important like go oh the balkoni, then I don’t do it right away (because I’m a hard worker) he gets really mad and starts yelling it sort of freaks me out without my headphones on that’s why I keep them on the whole time. 😂
Me too.
Not so much for me, but more for my slightly younger sister, where they tend to shield her from things I was already doing at her age, like walking alone to the sports centre that's literally 300m from my house, certain chores, riding the bus, etc... and it bothers me slightly because it's exactly that- She's a good person, but she can't really handle any kind of stressful situation. When I broke my arm, I was the one who had call my parents to take me to the hospital, because she panicked and couldn't figure out how to use my cell phone. That's only one example, but I feel that my parents do shelter her more than they did me, and it has affected her quite a bit
AJmoviemaker I feel the same way as you! I always feel like my parents care more than me sometimes. At least when they come to our house every year (ugh that’s my worst nightmare 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️) When I’m the only kid at home with my parents, my dad treats me like a princess and actually tries to act like he cares about me a lot. But he still makes it feel awkward
I'm in the position of your sister so yeah it gets worse further on
Can you do a video about how o
in home parental fighting and yelling, and verbal abuse can affect someone?
Please I'm generally cerious.
I agree, I'd like to see this.
i agree too
Sure thing! So affects of verbal abuse at homes yes? Rather than solutions?
Psych2Go such as a parent calling you a piece of shit n such
My mom always told me being a parent is the hardest thing in the world because there is no textbook on how to raise your child. :)) It is hard to know what exactly you are supposed to do as a parent to give the best possible opportunities to your child especially since the society doesn't really tell us what we should do and quality upbringing is not really in their best interest.
Quick Fix thats why i dont want to have children. The main reason is that they poop 24/7 and i would have to change diapers all the time. Want to avoid it as hard as i can. Having a baby is only changing diapers.
I have to agree with Aziza, its not worth having children - that's 9 months carrying a living *parasite* known as a baby, and then 18+ years of raising something that will end up spiting me for the rest of its existence. I can't even manage a Tamagotchi for a month without it dying. Plus the 25-50% chance of my child turning out severely autistic and that would mean a lifetime of diaper-changing if it would be anything like my severely autistic sib
lazy Perfectionist exactly and thanks. Want to avoid changing diapers as hard as i can. Im myself mental (maybe pretty normal just family made me mental), said to have Asperger. Had a tamagotchi but it often died within a day and i cried. Or i cared for it but then it said "good bye". I also have a risk that my child will turn out to be autistic and this is an asshole and no way to prevent from it. My mother already has problems with me and was often angry. I dont want to repeat her story. Most of all im afraid of single motherhood of a mental child. Or i hate when everything is normal for like 3 years and later... why is that? I hope im infertile (that is possible cos i have too much hormons, testosteron, small beard and feel like Conchita Wurst. Good that its not thick) cant get pregnant at all (if yes i cant be afraid of rape anymore). Im not made for care, too nervous and impatient. And thats why i can even kill that baby in affect, but later regret it. Its injustice. Puppies and kittens are very cute when born and are adult immediately (well, if a dog is 1, its like 14 in human age because a 1 year old dog can be pregnant, human 14 year old girl can too, a 7 year old cant. Only in case of an illness. It doesnt happen often. Every year in a dog is 7 human years), and humans are ugly when born, need care for more than a year. And only humans are mental. Animals arent. Wish humans were elves. Immediately adults (read: dont require changing diapers) and dont age. And biologically immortal. Elves cant die of an illness "natural causes", dont get sick and dont age, they can only be killed (which is the only difference between them and gods).
Hmmmmm I wonder how cavemen dealt with this?
Vasiliosaurus they could do whatever they wanted so they didnt care. They had instinct. Nature. Also they could have more than one partner, could do incest and homosexual, everything. You think why you have all of these in mythology? I dont think that any woman would like to be Penelope. If they had strict parents, they would extinct because any tiger would eat them.
My parents wont let me do *anything* ..i cant have social media...i am not even supposed to be commenting rn!
Lmao my parents wont even let me have friends
Same. They don't know that I'm commenting on these kind of videos😶
And I've never gone anywhere without them (not even school, one of my parents works at my school😥)
Monica Nelson
Hah same
@@lilshartythebaddest9005 Wait. Really?
I cant even text in peace with my mom being all concerned and demands to know who im texting. So even scrolls through the chat to see what we're talking about.
I grew up with divorced parents, and I was the reason they got divorced, I lived with my mom who was abusive, then got taken away to my dad who was more abusive, they know I suffer with depression and don't help me, its medically necessary for me to get therapy, and they don't allow me to. I consider suicide a lot and know I'll never have a good life because of the way I was raised. I am only 12 years old as of 2017.
You'll be fine. take it one day at a time. Your life is in your hands and no one has full control except you. DONT GIVE UP. YOU CAN DO IT!!
Call CPS and maybe they can get you to another family member. You should not have to grow up like this. You deserve the help and healing you need.
Peachachu UwU I'm legit worried if you're still alive given this was a year ago, you're very suicidal, and I don't know how to check
@@doubtingthomas1939 I just got the notification because someone replied, I'm still just going alone, once I'm 16 I'm moving out to go live with an older friend and that's less then a year away, it's been rough shit I'm still alive, thank you for your concern, it means so much.
Hey I have suicidal thoughts to and my parents are abusive to (they don’t even notice it) my oldest brother also thinks he’s a King and can rule over me. He always bothers me during homework and never leaves me alone with his teasing. I ask my mom to tell my brother off and then she says, “Jacob stop teasing your sister (not) *chuckles*” my dad doesn’t care what I say I’ve tried multiple times to just tell him what I’ve been going through and he won’t listen to me. He only listens to my brother and mom because I’m the youngest. The middle brother isn’t bad but he’s on the oldest brothers side. He always has, always will be. 😪😭
I’m 15 BTW 😉 so I totally get what you’re going through!
“What’s the most stressful job in the world?”
“Being a parent as you never get time off.”
then what are grandparents for?
Continual Improvement thats why i dont want to have children. And also they have no money from that. They have a time off only when children grow up and leave (but then empty nest syndrome. I have it cos my siblings works and doesnt want to play anymore) or die but this is something i wouldnt wish to anyone. Even if they were Hitler and Stalin but in this case i would want them to be dead, not children.
The M AMEN.
Continual Improvement nigga it's not
"Whats the most stressful job in the world?"
Dealing with parents who complain about you :)
Next video idea
*What teachers don't understand about with kids with depression and anxiety*
y e s
Maria Strasner this would be a good topic
*Y E S* My principal would say that my real tears were crocodile tears and that I'm just doing it for attention. I was once a normal kid before Grade one where I would be mentally abused by my "Teacher" yelling at me and putting me in time out if I got a question wrong, If my art was a little bit off, And even if I didn't eat my lunch. She'd even lie to get me into the principles office where my parents were called and I was screamed at by both my parents and my principle.
I hope she's proud of herself for what she done. I would've been a normal kid with good grades if it hadn't been for that inbred cow of a human being.
Ms Sk8erGurl my teacher told me I shouldn’t be so shy...
Ah I remember that time I said I didn’t write an essay, although I did, but I was too afraid of it being the worst in class.
RIP oral marks.
I have a couple mental illnesses that kinda screwed me up from a child. My mom always sheltered me from the world because she didn't wanna lose me like she had lost others which lead to anxiety. My parents also got into horrible fights ever since i was little which made me very depressed. My dad was bipolar and gave that to me. My mom also would say things like how if she could she would kill my dad but she loves us too much to go to jail for that. She exposed me to investigate shows with a lot of murder and crime but i didn't see it as solving crime i saw it as solving problems by murder which gave me kind of this off personality. Even when i try to explain this to people they really don't understand or don't believe me. Yes i get help but having all of these illnesses really can screw a person up.
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about"
My mom used this on me last week. It just caused more stress, anxiety, and feeling a bit depressed to be honest..
What if you tell your parents that you have anxiety, but they just say that we are like everyone else because everyone worries?
Make them try to see it through your eyes and such. That might help
Try to tell them about how your anxiety is different in that it lasts every day and is more severe than the occasional anxiety from some upcoming task. It's lasting and never going away because the parenting method that the parents are using is constantly keeping your anxiety up.
As a mom with OCD, my anxiety can at times be crippling. But I gotta keep going whether I want to or not .
It's not easy. 😣
Woah. I know it's off topic but I just saw another comment by you on the middle ground in a completely different side of the internet. Hello again!
Daniel Rule oh yea I comment alot lol where again
HELLO 🤣
Daniel Rule oh wait yea I remember now.
WYNOLLO TV it's ok if I need help we're here lol I typed I instead of u(you)
93498043computerㅤ ㅤㅤ it's okay 😁😁😁
At the wonderful age of twelve, I wanted to be a herpetologist. Looked up the annual profits and only 59,000 a year.
Then my parents are all 'you better make more than that, you gotta give us money' and 'you should do something else or get a side job'. As a result, stress goes from 0-100 REAL QUICK when someone mentions college
59000 a year is a perfectly fine wage that way over the average income a year.
my dad said that if I don't attend Harvard or something he'll forget that I even existed. he says im a mistake if I don't make it
@@name-eo1lv Thats fcuekd up schools not for everyone
spar the Herptology sounds fascinating!
My mum tells me I should control my mood swings unless she will treat me like I „treat her“ when it’s actually me and my mental illness. She would say „alright I’ll treat you that way as well let’s see how that feels like to you“
my parents did negative parenting and I get stressed out everytime I see them. My family isn't the best and I get paid attention to the least since I'm the youngest. Once they got to me they were already bored or parenting I guess and just wanted an off spring to carry their genes.
Blackkittypet Senpai I too got negative parenting. But only from my step dad.
my mother does negative parenting too :c She always punishes me for crying or having a panic attack. And 70% of the time she gets angry at me it wasn't even for something that was my fault, or it wasnt even something that should bother her at all. She's getting anger management counseling now though.
Blackkittypet Senpai nice profile picture
Wtf? I thought being the oldest meant you were left until your parents got bored.
can you guys do a video on how to move on now? i know every cause of every problem and can identify what has led me to this point. i think we now need help moving past the shitty hand life has delt us in a healthy way and how to stop shouting "i knew life wasnt fair,its my parents fault".
When I was a kid I was limited only to my backyard. When I was 8 my parents split and at that age, I was left play on my driveway. Age 9, I got to go play with the other kids. I got to walk to school alone. Age 11 I got to go to town alone for the first time. Age 13, got to go on a trip abroad with girl guides. 16 and getting to do a lot but my dad constantly tells me the same rules and my mom can get a little unfair sometimes. I kept it all held in along with my struggles with friends and broke down crying before French class. Luckily one girl was kind enough to want to help me while my "friend" only wanted to help to miss class. The one who helped is on the mental health committee and was able to help. My French teacher is a mother so she knows how hard things get for girls sometimes and left us miss class and occasionally checks in on me to make sure I'm okay.
Because of that, I'm now afraid of everything even the most simple things a "normal" person would do daily. I'm scared of facing my fears. Being constantly yelled at, getting blamed all the time, & lack of emotional support made me like this. I love my mom but she makes me feel guilty of everything I do.
I never had helicopter parents, in facts, its like I never had parents at all. They were there, and at the same time, they weren't. And when I'm close to them its painful, its mentally abusive. I always had to deal and learn everything by myself, english is not even my first language and I learned it through curiosity, although I always had my grandma to rely on. My depression and anxiety disorder started on high school, I never finished therapy and treatment, and I do feel like I got more control of it through the years but after losing my grandma everything just went downhill. I'm 21 yers old, can't get into a university or job, and I'm just feel helpless. I try to push through the obstacles but it never pays off, I just end hurting myself.
It's the worst feeling in the world, if you have someone who understands what you feel and listen to you, don't ever let go. You can lose him anyday without a single clue. :(
Oh my God. I'm sorry. I wish you good luck in life, and I hope you find a job soon
Oh no. I m sorry to hear that. Have you tried community college? If you have, I hope you find a job soon too. It is funny because they expect you to be an adult, but I feel like a lot of parents do not teach you how to be like an adult. All while they still underestimate you because you are young.
Janelle Guild theres no community college in my country, in fact, the ones called "public university" are really hard to get into and most people have to get an astronomic debt to pay for a private one. And yeah, youre right. I didnt even know how to vote and get my passport and stuff, i learned 2 languages online by myself cause they didnt care about any study besides high school.
That is unfortunate. College is getting more and more elitist. Oh wow. That is great you are trying to learn new skills in the meantime. Well, I wish you the best! One of my college advisors told me that in your 20's you are learning and in your 30's you are earning, so try not to be too hard on yourself.
I'm sorry to hear that you have such trouble. If you don't mind I would like to give you a some advice.
First, do not take big steps for now or only one at a time. Do not seek for the job and education. Try looking for a job only this year. Let it be part-time and not well-paid, but the simplest that you can find, but it has to be the one where you work with your mind, not hands. This way, you will have less time to think about your problems.
Why?
Because humans cannot think of two different things at the same time. As for the job, this will be a good practice of your social skills and will save energy for the future = education you desire to achieve.
Secondly, I would advise you to try volonteering. Let's skip the part that it's morally good and all that. You can read about that elsewhere, let's take a look on the pragmatic side of this vatiant tht may help to improve your situation.
Why you need it?
1. Volonteering is a "place" where nobody can push you too hard to do anything beacuse nobody pays you money for that. Pepple have to be nice to you when you do the social work so that not to skare you away. Because you are a free worker that they require for whatever reason, helping animals and other staff.
2. Remember what I told you about the fact that you cannot think about two things at once? While volonteering you have to think about feeding the animals or whatever your job would be, and not about your problems in your family, etc.
3. Volonteering atracts people that are more kind and compssionate than you would meet on a regular basis. For you this would be a golden mine to seek a true friend because there are already people who by their good deads towards the orphans or elderly show that they are ready to help in a time of need. Your task is to get close to one of them so that you might get the help you need in the future, but do not overuse with the amount of requests, once the relationship will be established and remember that one day you will also have to help your new friend. If you are not ready to deal with people that much, try, again, participating in organisations which help animals. Most of the time you'll be spending with animals than people who work there and that is a good start if you are shy. Or you could try online volonteering like the one whic UN offers. They have programs that require you to work 1-5 hours a week. And your knowlendge of languages is a big plus.
Anyway, good luck! =)
All I'm gonna say is I hate people. All my issues are from idiots try so many different parenting methods on me. I don't need that damn stress and anxiety of if I'm going to be struck for doing something.
Spirit Of Vengence same, people suck but at least people like us understand each other right?😂
I suppose. It helps some to know they ain't alone
Spirit Of Vengence well that's just hurtful
you think its hurtful? go rethink your fucking life kid.
Spirit Of Vengence oh jeez that even more hurtful
I opened up to my mom about having anxiety. We sometimes joke about where it came from, but deep down I know it’s because of her.
Apparently my school work is more important than my mental state.
This videos are useful, creative tools showing complex psychology researches in a simpler and charming way. Would you make one about Internet addiction disorder?
Yes internet addiction needs to be talked about
Thank you for the kind note and watching. We can definitely do that :) It's on our to do list now. Stay tune! May we also ask what you'd like to know most about internet addiction disorder?
Psych2Go can you talk about what it’s defined as and what effects it may have on societies?
Mostly, I'd like to know about the disorder's definition, how it originates, what causes and maintains it, how it affects daily life, its symptoms and how to identify them, and if it's possible, some techniques proved with valid scientific results to reduce these symptoms.
It's ironic we're discussing IAD in such a well-known source of Internet addiction as UA-cam, but I also think this can be an opportunity, available to everyone, to show both parents and children the impact that an excessive use of Internet is causing nowadays. Thanks for consider my petition, I'm looking forward to watch more of your videos!
P.S.: I'm from Spain (not sure if I expressed myself properly so I'm sorry about that) and I got a Psychology degree, hence my enthusiasm about your channel and its content. I'd be glad to help you guys if there's anything I could do. Keep it up!
Personally, I think that bubble wrapping doesn’t cause anxiety, but rather just an immature mindset overall. I’ve seen people that are completely dependent on their parents, have no sense of planning, have no sense of who they are in the sense of the world and think it revolves around them, and act babyish and throw tantrums, because of their parents “bubble wrapping” everything.
What I find causes anxieties is overbearing parents that push their children too much in everything, and set up high standards for them to reach. This, and way too many questions being asked for everything is what I’ve seen time and time again cause anxiety in children (myself included).
#relatable
My friend got suuuuper upset because she got a B on a quiz
Both high standards and bubble wrapping can cause anxiety. High standards can make children seem worthless, and bubble wrapping can make children anxious when they have to live away from their parents. They get anxiety from not knowing how to do things themselves in the adult world.
Also, parents can be both bubble wrapping and high standards. Parents can just control their child's life so that certain threats are out of the way except for the threat of the parents themselves.
Aaron Landry that is a common way for anxiety to be caused, but it can also be caused by someone traveling back to their childhood home, trying to ignore the fact that their dad died there only like 5 years earlier, and then when they get back to school, they slowly and slowly stop going and eventually that goes into depression which lasts all the way to the end of year six and half of year seven! And guess what, my mum or dad never hit me or threatened me or anything, honestly the second I went back there it’s like anxiety was waiting to pick me up outside the airport
My parents constantly yell at me if I don't complete a task in the alotted amount of time (i.e. hanging up my clothes), and this is mostly because I don't listen. Although I don't listen, I fear so much getting screamed at by my dad and having privileges taken away. This doesn't help me learn whatsoever, and my problems have worsened because of this. They also do not allow me on any forms of social media besides UA-cam and Pinterest, which are quote on quote "safer" than any other social media platforms. A lot of times people ridicule me because I am not allowed to have these privileges like my classmates do. After watching, I realize my parents use the threatening method. I still love them very much, but it's very sad to see that many parents are like this.
Ava Blomenberg hmmm my parents are like this to. If I don’t listen then my mom calls my dad to do all the work. 🤦♂️😒
It’s almost like he’s her minion and I’m...the prisoner. That was probably creepy but I’m just being honest. 😜
I have lots of social media accounts though mostly because I do online school. Which is another reason why I have social anxiety. 🤦♂️
According to this video, my parents did *EVERYTHING* wrong.
But I don't have anxiety though.
Literally perfect timing
Hope it helps!
Can you guys do a video on music psychology?
Yeah for sure! What would you like to know most about it?
Yeah...my parents just dont care.Only came to me if they needed me to do something or came to tell me off.
But they loved my siblings so much.I didnt matter if they slapped me or broke something of mine.
But if I even told them to go away or shut up my parents would tell me to shut up.
They didnt care when I sliced my hand open and was bleeding continuously for an hour
They made fun of me infront of friends and family and called me fat
I was really broken they decided to homeschool me so I was and still am completely isolated.
Everyone teased me so much that I got over self concious and never showed my face in public.I would cry and beg my parents to leave me at home
I always kept a mask on of a happy kind shy girl but inside I was breaking
I helped everyone with their problems
I never cried and slowly I began to only hate I hated my sisters and family and here I am at the age of 12 hating life hating myself I convince myself its all my fault
And ot is all my fault so in public I'll act like a nice smart girl
At home I'll be the aggressive angry hateful emotionless unloving girl
And inside I will be the weak,disgusting shameful girl
First of all, i want u to know that its not ur fault. Its ur parents who decided to have kids and have favorites and be toxic. I am no expert at this types of situations but know help is out there. Im sure u are an amazing person and even tho i dont know u in person, i want to tell u that i love u
Its been 2 years how are you?
@@0323jelly yeha, how are u now?
These comments piss me off... come on parents how hard can it be: let timmy make friends and have a nice childhood or confine him to within 5 feet of me and wonder why he does nothing
i have anxiety, and ive always coped with my obstacles in life on my own, my parents always wanted me to be independent, and usually never helped me with anything i couldnt try to do on my own
Yeah, I disagree with this video. It seems too one-sided.
Nowadays anyone who says they have anxiety or depression is considered to be a special snowflake.
Relatable.
The reason why I haven't told my parents nor will I ever
Militant Pacifist true, but you shouldn’t belittle anyone who has anxiety or depression, don’t be that person who says stuff like “these random people in a far away country that have nothing to do with you have it much worse!” How would you feel if you were depressed and someone said something like that to you
God, yeah. I had parents who never let me go outside, never let me visit a friend's house without some playdate schedules, not letting me go to a friend's house without my parents meeting there parents. I don't know how to get to the laundry mat 3 blocks from my home. I swear to God, my friend who's lived her for 2 weeks said they were going to a Starbucks, and me, a person who has lived her my entire life replied "wait theres a Starbucks here?"
My parents have always been stupid over protective of me, and it's one of the reasons I panic if I'm lost in any way, my first day of middle school I started bawling on the bus because I wasn't sure which was my stop, and the fear of getting lost was so burned into my brain I had a panic attack.
I've gotten better with my anxiety, but it's still hard, the constant need to ask my parents if I'm allowed to do something is still very present in my brain.
i have panic attacks every. single. day.
My parents are the last kind,my mother often used the "ill give you something to cry about" strat, my father was always yelling when i do the slightest thing wrong and never rewarding me when i do my chores. So if i did my chores my dad would pick through everything i messed up on, and if i didnt do them he would just yell at me for not doing them. Alot of the time my chores consist of cleaning his messes. If i cry, he says to toughen up and stop acting childish. Once after he yelled and yelled for me not cleaning my room (his room is covered in clothes) i just rolled over panted and heaved and shook violently. He says "you can heeve and cry all you want, your still cleaning this room" and 5 min later forced me to stand in the living room Saying if im not ganna do anything im ganna stand. one weekend he went and visited his freinds out of state, that was the most productive, stress free weekend of my life. Naturaly anytime my dad gets home from work, i get horrible anxiety and fear, i hide away. If i clean up hell say its because of his yelling and shit, witch makes me want to do it even less.
Is it a problem i want my parents to divorce so i dont have to live with my dad anymore?
I have crippling social anxiety as i cannot talk to new people, and if i am forced to present in front of the class i will shake and cry
Can you do a video about teens yelling at parents? My sister is really disagreeable and it's so annoying. I've never yelled at my parents and I don't understand how some people can
Don'tEverQuestionThis well
Here,i argue with my mom and i do it because of these reasons
1. If I don't she will ignore my thoughts
2. She says things like "Your opinions/feelings dont matter until you pay bills"
3. She claims actual problems I have as my laziness,I finally left a toxic friendship that I was in for 6 years and she wont let me grieve because "Her and my brothers are going through more"
Many children yell at their parents because they feel powerless and weak if they don't,my mother is a big reason for my antisocial tendencies
I hope this helps a bit!
Zen Wow yes that really changes my perspective, thanks!
Don'tEverQuestionThis
Not sure if you'd agree but I never had a fight with my dad since i turned 10 and would rely on fighting with my mom to test my limits (indifrent of her part in teir creation/existance ).
My dad never understod how we' d fight so much but I atribute it to having so few/little reason and much unvented anger/frustratiin with puberty.
Don'tEverQuestionThis I think it's kinda depends on what the situation is about
Don'tEverQuestionThis my family is very verbal and hot headed, especially my dad since he comes from a German family. We yell to get points across even though it doesn't usually, it makes it worse. It's given me severe depression and anxiety. I believe my dad has bipolar disorder and narcissist personality disorder (he doesn't believe mental illnesses are a thing so he won't get proper help), so talking to him is extremely frustrating. When we get frustrated, we tend to talk louder and louder until we're yelling. It's been a lot better for me since being on medication
My mothers parenting method is not very healthy (tell me your opinion)
•critiques me instead of congratulates me. I would show her a drawing and she would only point out the bad parts.
•isnt open minded. If she hasn't heard of it, she hates it.
•since she is scared of heights, she has now given me a chronic fear of elevators.
•breaks promises. One of the worst things ever. She would make a promise, just to break it. I have severe trust issues.
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When i was like in kinder my mom would yell at me for having such terrible hand writing, then up to 1st grade i got hit for getting my homework incorrect, until years later i would cry because my mom yelled at me, and she got so mad she would tell me "Stop crying" "shut up or i will hit uoy" "your annoying me with ur stupidity" and i would hide from her, she scared me, my mom hated my dad and divorced him, but then they got together. More years later, this week, my mom yelled at me for getting a "D" in Math, she insulted me and came and slapped me and i said "OW" and she mocked me "OW??" Then she said "Next time you fail, i will hit you with a belt so u can learn better" i don't get wtf is helping, by getting hurt by my mom, my dad actually supports me, but when my cousin left school i cried alot, and my mom yelled at me "STOP CRYING SHE DOESN'T MISS YOU!! STOP TRYING TO GET HER BACK, HAS SHE SAID, OH I MISS HER IM GOING BACK!, NO SHE LEFT YOU, BECAUSE SHE DOESN'T WANT TO GO BACK!!" And i started crying because i kinda thought my cousin didn't miss me at all because she didn't text me so i ran to my room. My mom even once tried harming me with a broom, spatula, belt, sandal, her arm, the wall, and she hurts my sister too by hitting her, pulling her hair, slapping her and throwing her things away, but my mom is more violent on me, and i startef getting Anxiety like a few months ago like "OH YOUR MOM IS GONNA SLAP YOU IF U FAIL HER" or "SHE WILL CHECK UR GRADES AND HIT U LIKE USUALLY" and i get scared of going back home with her. My Anxiety disorder started on December 22, 2016 and it worsened this year.. i hate myself so much..
Star and friends i feel so bad for you
This is absolutely child abuse. You need to report it to an authority or tell your dad since he seems pretty nice.
Honey no.. are you thinking about telling anybody about it?
Star and friends OMG yes my mom always got mad at me because of my homework. 🤦♂️
She even tried pulling my hair out 🤦♂️😒
Angela Cavon my comment was YEARS ago
It’s been better
But from you just explained sounds very harsh! How long has that been going with your mom?
These are some of the best times to have psychologists as parents. Both of my parents are psychologists, and they can help a lot with my anxieties. Thanks, Mum and Dad.
Is there a way to treat this problem? My parents have always been really strict about everything in my life, from what I wear to who I talk to. At least that was my childhood. I'm a grown woman now, but I have trouble socializing because I don't know how to react to certain things or how to respond, and I have trouble making decisions on my own. It sucks! I want to be able to function like a healthy human being, but I don't know how!
Galliod Get a therapist I guess :/
There is probably some kind of therapy to help you deal with life and socializing.
KittyG I don’t think there’s anything people can do to cure anxiety, but you can try the all the cliche and straight forward techniques that everybody says are useless but actually help loads, like counting to ten, taking deep breaths, all the usuals
In reality, heli parents want you to do what's best for them
One time I was doing a test at school and when I saw my grade I had an anxiety attack because I was so scared of my parents. When I have kids I never want my child to feel just how I feel.
Yea my parents have made me develope mental problems like social anxiety, depression, and more
But my parents are not like that, then why do I have anxiety? :(
Like if anxiety is only 30% genetics why do I have it??? Is 30% enough to have it? I really want to know.
All of a sudden I kinda want to figure out where my anxiety came from. As far as I know it was very random
You can have anxiety because of school or someone you fear or because of a lack of sleep. A lack of sleep can cause a vicious cycle because a lack of sleep can cause anxiety and anxiety can cause a lack of sleep. Even if it's not genetic, there are other factors.
My parents are helicopter parents, they are to strict.
They're also probably snowplough parents.
My parents are threatening, they're pretty scary.
“Stop crying before I give you something to cry about” will always be something engraved in my memory along with the feeling of fear that comes with it :(
my mom is none of these, she gives me plenty of privacy, as long as im fed, entertained, and healthy, & happy ^^
Gracey Mann lol that’s rlly sweet
YOU LUCKY, PRIVILEGED PERSON! GIVE ME UR PARENTS PLZZZ
"happy and healthy" pfft like my parents would care for that...
they only care about gOoD GRadEs
Feline Unknown you lucky soab
Feline Unknown more parents need to be like yours
My parents are good people. But they’re extremely judgmental and were horrible at raising me when I was a child.
My dad doesn’t really get anxiety since he came from a family with a no tolerance policy. He would force me to do things that were wayyy out of my capability to the point of mental breakdown, and it’s made me extremely anxious whenever I mess up. Also, my self esteem has dropped quite a bit as well. (For example) My mom once told me that if I continued to wear ratty boots, none of my friends would like me anymore. I know that seems like a simple thing for a parent to say. But I believe it had a very negative effect on my already existing anxiety growing up.
My mom is overprotective and well I don't have anxiety, but I don't have any friends my mom was afraid that kids would get jealous of me or hate me then they'd beat me up in highschool almost leaving me dead because I'm short and skinny, or that every boy that is in high school would only want me get me everything pretend to be with me to get into my pants then leave me. Or that I would end up dead by a school shooting. And that's why I'm homeschooled. But also, I always have to go everywhere with her if she goes anywhere, because If I stay home at all, without anyone home, I might be present when they rob our house, they might pull a gun on me and bam, dead.😕😒 so the only thing I have now is video games, that's as close as human interaction gets, unless you count a store clerk doing his job as human interaction.
Strawberry Milkshake my mom is overprotective to. But not that overprotective. This is what my mom does: she comes into my room, like she literally barges in without nocking. 🤦♂️ then she looks at who I’m texting and says, “who’s that?” “Hoe old is she?” “Where’s she from?”
Me: ITS NONE IF YOUR BEEZEWAX! 😂🤦♂️
Then she comes in one minute later and sees what I’m watching. 🤦♂️ then she asks me, “what are you watching?”
Me: STILL NONE OF YOUR BEEZEWAX 😤😂
My parents are overprotective but not that bad still the only human interaction is from school mates and teachers, the entering the room this is soo damn real and they are so quiet about it too and it scares me soo much, checking my phone when I sleep and knowing every single thing about my friends.
My parents think I should be more "ready and on the go" and expect me to be super smart and do everything right. I'm not PERFECT!!!! ( When will parents understand rip..)
My parents will do their best to induce anxiety when they can. They say they care and will listen, but when I express myself or opinion, I’m automatically wrong and yelled at. They then say “Don’t shut me out!” But how am I supposed to open up when they constantly yell at me? One week my mom yelled at me every day. Then they only tend to me when it comes to medical, food, or when I’m in trouble. They force me places with them when they want to yell at me 1 on 1
Oracle Nise sounds like my my parents. 😜
I always try telling them I have social anxiety. Then they say, “what do you mean by social anxiety” ..... WHAT IS THAT SUPPOSED TO MEAN? I’m sure mom already knows she’s the one who’s causing all of this but doesn’t want to admit it.... 🤦♂️
They even yell at me in restaurants and then when a stranger sees they COVER IT UP like nothing happened. 🤦♂️ My brother (the oldest one) does the same thing TBH.