I think it's a very good point that people, especially women, shouldn't have to apologize for their very normal emotions. I've noticed that crying is very vulnerable. When you are moved to tears, you're letting people see a different side of you. I think sometimes people apologize for crying because it's almost as if they don't want to be that vulnerable with you. It's very exposing. I think it actually takes enormous courage to cry in front of others (without apology), especially those you may not know very well.
Emily! hahahaha! You are so funny and I love this! I guess in Asia or the older generation, they view crying as a weakness. My dad is a wonderful dad but I was always told to stop crying as a child and that's the part I wish was different because it would have allowed more connection and bonding. So growing up, when my heart broke from boys, when I could no longer pursue dance as a career due to a bad back.. I couldn't share my pain because I didn't want to cry in front of my dad. Which is actually very sad, now that I think about it because we love each other, I'm super expressive but I feel like I could not show my feelings in all its beauty. I could show my very happy, positive side easily but it would take a lot to show my sad side. When I was younger, it also made me feel very awkward when someone starts crying because I just don't know what to do to. I remembered my closest friend started crying in school and I was looking at my other friends for "direction" and they were like signalling me to comfort her. Ah..but I'm glad I STILL cry and am able to openly do so around my husband..hopefully feel less awkward if I ever do in public. I shall not apologise for this long comment, I hope someone could relate too =)
I apologize a lot, myself, so I can relate to this. I do apologize for crying or for things that were not my fault or I had nothing to do with. Thanks for this reminder, Emily. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
As someone who struggles with depression and anxiety and sometimes feels awful for feeling things I think that I shouldn't be feeling (getting emotionally overwhelmed for things that wouldn't bother other people or having my thoughts run away with me and get into this sort of "existential crisis" state of mind that is ultimately pointless), I appreciate this SO much. I have been blessed with amazing friends who will listen to me but I still have so much trouble being vulnerable with them and am constantly apologizing for crying or opening up because I'm not at peace with what I'm feeling - to me my emotions are illogical and they don't respond to things the way I'd like, so I really hate them a lot of the time. This video came at a perfect time because it really reminded me that I need to be able to accept what is going on in my brain and with my emotions even if it doesn't always make sense and may even seem pretty stupid, and that it's okay for me to accept those feelings and be vulnerable and emotional with my friends about these things (in a healthy way of course). I also appreciate the emphasis you put on being reasonable in the emotions. It's easy to forget that it is possible for strong emotions and real reason to co-exist within a person, and that it is possible to be highly emotional while also being highly rational and making good decisions. Thank you so so much for this!!! Amazing content as always.
Thank you so much for this. I am a very emotional Canadian woman, living in the UK. In Canada (especially in the church), it's alright to cry and be emotional. But in the UK, it's NOT okay. I cried while sharing my testimony at church here, and people were so uncomfortable, and my pastor apologized afterward for asking me to share and making me embarrass myself. I have really held myself back since then. The problem is, I cry when I feel the Holy Spirit, but now, I'm insecure about it. This needs to change.
Emily, thank you. I've cried today and I dont even know exactly why, Just like you described and I was thinking like "oh I'm so weak, what would People do if they saw me like this", and your video helped me so much❤️
Thank you for saying this, Emily! I think it's amazing that women have so many emotions and we definitely shouldn't have to apologize for expressing them!
Interesting. I agree that lots of women apologize lots too much for things that require no apology. And this includes expressing emotion. I worked for a long time in a historically male organization. Fair or not fair...crying in the workplace was regarded by many [men in positions of authority] as proof that women did not belong in professional positions in our organization. And any hint that women can be emotional at "that time of the month"...used as proof that women are, generically, not suited for leadership, period. Hence the problem, even though we know that there are different valid leadership styles.
Hi, just wanted to share my 2 cents on this topic. (please do not throw stones at me) While I fully agrees that there is no need to apologize for showing emotions, I do feel that there are other variables involved. There are certain times where it is inappropriate to "confidently" expresses our emotions. Someone else in the comment section wrote about professional environment. An example off the top of my head will be newscasters, their profession requires them to keep a stoic/neutral expression while giving the news report (yes, I know there are different styles out there now) What I am trying to say is, sure we shouldn't need to apologize for feeling things, but there can be circumstances where it is inappropriate for us to express what we are feelings. For example if I am feeling angry about something, it might not be appropriate for me to express my temper at that point of time.
Thanks for this video!! As a man, I honestly have been crying a lot lately, and I am guilty of wanting to apologize for everything as well. Society is not a fan of any man crying at all, which makes it tough on me as I am more emotional than most men.
I have been sick since Thanksgiving last year. The doctors don't know have a diagnosis and can't even treat the symptoms. I no longer ugly cry, I hideous cry and I am not sorry. When it comes to your health and well-being you should never apologize for anything that makes you feel just a little bit better.
I also needed this a lot! My boyfriend and I had a very stupid fight yesterday and I was emotional and ugly cried in front of people we know. It was so embarrassing at the moment, but now I'm feeling lighter about this
Have you ever been told to "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about?" I know you're very early in the parenting journey, but that's something to think about. Every time I hear someone saying every variety of that, it makes my blood boil. THAT can be something that makes them think that crying is wrong. I realize that teaching children to cry more softly, not to make it look like you're crying on purpose for the purpose of manipulation, may be the more balancing thing to do. Or, if it becomes something that's ongoing, to say "I need time to process this". Anyway, apologizing for crying may be an outgrowth of being taught, as a child, that crying is for babies. Or being called a "crybaby". This is up for discussion
AMEN! And I'm sure you'd agree - it's also okay to be a man and cry.
I think it's a very good point that people, especially women, shouldn't have to apologize for their very normal emotions. I've noticed that crying is very vulnerable. When you are moved to tears, you're letting people see a different side of you. I think sometimes people apologize for crying because it's almost as if they don't want to be that vulnerable with you. It's very exposing. I think it actually takes enormous courage to cry in front of others (without apology), especially those you may not know very well.
Oo so so true about the hardened hearts thing! Loved this💕🙌🏻
Emily! hahahaha! You are so funny and I love this!
I guess in Asia or the older generation, they view crying as a weakness. My dad is a wonderful dad but I was always told to stop crying as a child and that's the part I wish was different because it would have allowed more connection and bonding. So growing up, when my heart broke from boys, when I could no longer pursue dance as a career due to a bad back.. I couldn't share my pain because I didn't want to cry in front of my dad. Which is actually very sad, now that I think about it because we love each other, I'm super expressive but I feel like I could not show my feelings in all its beauty. I could show my very happy, positive side easily but it would take a lot to show my sad side.
When I was younger, it also made me feel very awkward when someone starts crying because I just don't know what to do to. I remembered my closest friend started crying in school and I was looking at my other friends for "direction" and they were like signalling me to comfort her. Ah..but I'm glad I STILL cry and am able to openly do so around my husband..hopefully feel less awkward if I ever do in public.
I shall not apologise for this long comment, I hope someone could relate too =)
Oh I'm a crier and I never hold back. People are missing out on feeling, having a heart that's alive is amazing! Great thumbnail Emily!
This is such a simple thing that I feel like means so much. I'm in.
After watching your other video, I've been trying to apologize less. Never realized how often I say "I'm sorry" instead of thanking the other person!!
I apologize a lot, myself, so I can relate to this. I do apologize for crying or for things that were not my fault or I had nothing to do with. Thanks for this reminder, Emily. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow, I really needed this today. Thank you so much!!! Love and prayers to you.
As someone who struggles with depression and anxiety and sometimes feels awful for feeling things I think that I shouldn't be feeling (getting emotionally overwhelmed for things that wouldn't bother other people or having my thoughts run away with me and get into this sort of "existential crisis" state of mind that is ultimately pointless), I appreciate this SO much. I have been blessed with amazing friends who will listen to me but I still have so much trouble being vulnerable with them and am constantly apologizing for crying or opening up because I'm not at peace with what I'm feeling - to me my emotions are illogical and they don't respond to things the way I'd like, so I really hate them a lot of the time. This video came at a perfect time because it really reminded me that I need to be able to accept what is going on in my brain and with my emotions even if it doesn't always make sense and may even seem pretty stupid, and that it's okay for me to accept those feelings and be vulnerable and emotional with my friends about these things (in a healthy way of course). I also appreciate the emphasis you put on being reasonable in the emotions. It's easy to forget that it is possible for strong emotions and real reason to co-exist within a person, and that it is possible to be highly emotional while also being highly rational and making good decisions. Thank you so so much for this!!! Amazing content as always.
I really needed to hear this. Thank you!
What are ways to avoid feeling like a burden? I apologize a lot because I feel like a burden to others. Thank you! God bless!!
Thank you so much for this. I am a very emotional Canadian woman, living in the UK. In Canada (especially in the church), it's alright to cry and be emotional. But in the UK, it's NOT okay. I cried while sharing my testimony at church here, and people were so uncomfortable, and my pastor apologized afterward for asking me to share and making me embarrass myself. I have really held myself back since then. The problem is, I cry when I feel the Holy Spirit, but now, I'm insecure about it. This needs to change.
Yeah a problem I get is if I start crying I'm embarrassed which makes me cry more! But this video has definitely given me a new perspective!
Emily, thank you. I've cried today and I dont even know exactly why, Just like you described and I was thinking like "oh I'm so weak, what would People do if they saw me like this", and your video helped me so much❤️
Thank you for saying this, Emily! I think it's amazing that women have so many emotions and we definitely shouldn't have to apologize for expressing them!
Interesting. I agree that lots of women apologize lots too much for things that require no apology. And this includes expressing emotion. I worked for a long time in a historically male organization. Fair or not fair...crying in the workplace was regarded by many [men in positions of authority] as proof that women did not belong in professional positions in our organization. And any hint that women can be emotional at "that time of the month"...used as proof that women are, generically, not suited for leadership, period. Hence the problem, even though we know that there are different valid leadership styles.
I am more and more amazed about how you keep up such quality content that helps me in so many ways . Thank you! 😊
Hi, just wanted to share my 2 cents on this topic. (please do not throw stones at me)
While I fully agrees that there is no need to apologize for showing emotions, I do feel that there are other variables involved. There are certain times where it is inappropriate to "confidently" expresses our emotions.
Someone else in the comment section wrote about professional environment. An example off the top of my head will be newscasters, their profession requires them to keep a stoic/neutral expression while giving the news report (yes, I know there are different styles out there now)
What I am trying to say is, sure we shouldn't need to apologize for feeling things, but there can be circumstances where it is inappropriate for us to express what we are feelings. For example if I am feeling angry about something, it might not be appropriate for me to express my temper at that point of time.
I love this! Accepting feelings and dealing with them without being sorry is so important!
Thanks for this video!! As a man, I honestly have been crying a lot lately, and I am guilty of wanting to apologize for everything as well. Society is not a fan of any man crying at all, which makes it tough on me as I am more emotional than most men.
As a Canadian teenager this strikes me on so many levels. It's so true.
I have been sick since Thanksgiving last year. The doctors don't know have a diagnosis and can't even treat the symptoms. I no longer ugly cry, I hideous cry and I am not sorry. When it comes to your health and well-being you should never apologize for anything that makes you feel just a little bit better.
I also needed this a lot! My boyfriend and I had a very stupid fight yesterday and I was emotional and ugly cried in front of people we know. It was so embarrassing at the moment, but now I'm feeling lighter about this
Crying is beautiful
I love this! Just had time to watch it now, but I really needed to hear this today!! Love you!!
Thank You for this weeks video!! This really opened my eyes! I always just automatically apologized when I cried and now I won't :D thank you!
The day a woman is allowed to be angry and not have to apologize for it will be big win as far as I'm concerned.
You’re amazing!! Thank you for inspiring young girls/women and being a great role model ❤️🏝
I do this all the time! Thank you for the encouragement!
Thank you Emily! appreciated this video xx
Love from Australia ❣️
Yes sister!!! Needed to hear this! ♡
Such good advice Emily. Thank you.
Have you ever been told to "stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about?" I know you're very early in the parenting journey, but that's something to think about. Every time I hear someone saying every variety of that, it makes my blood boil. THAT can be something that makes them think that crying is wrong. I realize that teaching children to cry more softly, not to make it look like you're crying on purpose for the purpose of manipulation, may be the more balancing thing to do. Or, if it becomes something that's ongoing, to say "I need time to process this". Anyway, apologizing for crying may be an outgrowth of being taught, as a child, that crying is for babies. Or being called a "crybaby". This is up for discussion
Thank you for this powerful message, Emily! ❤
I love how this is so real! Yes when boogers come out of your nose ITS OKAY
I'm going to make this a rule now!!!🙌❤
Talk about good timing 😭
Thank you so much for sharing this!
I love this! Thank you Emily.
That’s so cool! I was just thinking about this topic
Thank you so much for this wonderful video!!! 😘😍
This is so good!!
Great video!!
Love love love this!!
Amen!
Oof this hits home. I’m gonna work on it. But what can we say instead of sorry if we feel embarrassed?? :0
this speaks to my soul...😅
I say sorry when I get emotional bc I look ugly af when I cry or tear up. Only babies look cute when they cry.
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