Don’t do this!🥵How to push to prevent tearing!
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The thing is. If you actually calm your self down and not think pushing is some race to the finish line. You can allow your vagina muscles to actually squeeze baby out with little to no pushing. Small tiny pushes while your contractions happen. Burning or stinging means baby is coming so don't push take a breather and breath deeply then small push. Allow it to stretch and don't be afraid to even put your hand down and have a feel what's happening or to even massage the opening a little. This is easier in water than a birth table. Or on all fours.
Such great tips! Thank you for sharing to all the mommas!
Meanwhile, idiot doctors thinking it's a race: *Performs CPR on the uterus 😡
I did this thank God my team at Kaiser noticed my son was pushing out with the contraction
Thank you ❤
This is exactly how my babies came through. I try to tell mamas that you don’t have to push at all because your body does the work… not many have this experience because they are forced to push on their back. I deliver on all fours. Maybe the next baby I’ll have a feel with my hand and catch myself! 🥰
Never let a nurse or doctor tell you how to push. Ignore them. I always do what I feel is right. They will tell you not to push yet, but I will always slightly push in contractions, the pressure eases pain. Even if they demand I push HARD, I will nudgingly push and stop if I feel pain or soreness. My babies only take 1-2 pushes, and I’ve never torn. Listen to your body, not a stranger with a sense of superiority.
Nature can’t be determined by schedules and threats. Even my “late babies” came before any doctor could induce. Even if a baby is late or early, they aren’t, it’s more likely that a doctor messed up their educated guess of gestational age. Every race has different size variations at any age, and there is truly no way to KNOW anything. Some baby’s are big, others small. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong.
Also, GO NATURAL! It’s less pain in the long run. Medicine will numb you, and you will not feel how you are hurting yourself. So many reasons to go natural. Those interventions can cause life long back pain, and distress your baby in the womb, only causing further complications.
Finally, RELAX!!! Trust in Mother Nature. Millions of women before you have given birth successfully on cave floors, why are you special??? This is what a woman’s body is designed to do! I fully believe that fear mongering is the reason women scream bloody mother. When woman are screaming, it’s out of psychological fear from all the horror stories they are told. Tensing up in fear won’t help delivery. Trust the process, go with the flow.
Very true on all points!
I am a first time mom to be 30 weeks+3 today, I want all natural, just wish to keep this mindset during labor, keep focused on my breathing and trusting my body 💜
I'd love for first time mom's to know you can have ALL this with a Partial epidural as well! I was very in tuned with my body even after medication. I was not numbed, the edge was taken off so I could truly focus. It does not have to be all natural, thank you❤
“A stranger with a sense of superiority”. Lmfao That is a MEDICAL DOCTOR with YEARS of experience. I guess you are against vaccines, as well, cause you know better than doctors.
I wish I knew this. Induction is a dreadful experience and you get no oxytocin overflow in your brain after delivery which messes your bonding with the infant.
Just had my baby last week and they told me to hold my breath. Third degree tears now... wish i would have informed myself about actual delivery, i just assumed all doctors would be great and know what is best for everyone, not just "this is what i learned 30 years ago in school so" but here we are lol
Omg I hope you're okay
It's so weird. Even when performing exercises we are told to breath.
Are you going to pelvic floor physical therapy?
Yeh I lost all trust in doctors after having my first baby last year. Their interventions with my natural birth had ended me up in an emergency c section. I wish I'd stayed at home and away from the hospital. This time I know how to defend myself and not let them bully me.
Just here to say ladies, I understand. I, too, wish I would of informed myself more.
I will make sure my daughter knows her options. Hugs! You are still great mamas!
Honestly in my experience my body was literally doing it for me I didn’t have to do much pushing . It’s pretty amazing what our bodies can do .
Not all people's bodies can do this. Some people even tear their bodies up to be able to do this. There's a person in this very comment thread saying they got third degree tears pushing 😩
I was the same! My body did the pushing and my mind had nothing to do with it.
true,
I was the same except it was almost 24 hours later where it suddenly decided to. I believe when the time come the time comes
I've been practicing this when (tmi) going...*ahem* # 2, and honestly it helps so much even then!
That is great practice!
I wish I'd thought of that. Makes so much sense when the baby is big enough to start pushing on the intestines and interfering with things.
Update:
After having my baby, this also helped for the first #2!
@@cheesey42dude9 Good to know!!
I’ve been trying that too in prep for delivery! 👶🏻
I did this but the nurses kept telling me to hold my breath 😢 I wanted to breathe through my pushes but for some reason the doctors were so against that
Your nurses were taught wrongly or tried to injure you on purpose(sadistic doctors/bullies in the medical field sometimes). Most actual medical professionals know breathing helps and saves lives. I'm sorry you had such bad care.
Did u tear?
Thank you!!! I never understood that, because when I went into labor, I remember purposely pushing my baby out of my vagina and not my butthole, enter me it is definitely a different kind of feeling and pushing. I did the same thing with my son, and after that I told all the women don't push like you're having a bowel movement.. so I am so glad that you made this video a year ago because it's very important.
If youre a trained singer like me--breathe like youre about to nail the loudest highest note ever and let the air just keep going down and opening everything up.
I’m having my third in a few days and I’ve learned to ignore doctors and listen to my body. With my first I took epidural I pushed how they wanted me to and had tears and hemorrhoids. My second because it was unexpected I did absolutely nothing. No one in my ear telling me to push, no epidural, no hospital bed (toilet thought I had to use the bathroom). My baby 100% guided me and my body did what it was created to do. No tears no hemorrhoids nothing! and fast recovery.
I know it can be different for every pregnancy, not sure how the one I’m in now will turn out but now I know what I want and don’t. OBGYn are surgeons they come in and then they go to the next. Eliminate the noise and let your voice speak up! Or tell your partner to speak for you when you are lost in the moment.
How did the 3rd go. I relate to ur comment
Thank God for ladies like you informing about the truth ❤❤❤❤
Thanks. I’m pregnant with my second baby and while I didn’t feel anything (thanks to my epidural) I am still scared of tearing. I had a 2nd degree tear last time
Same here.
Hey, so I had an epidural with my first and tore pretty bad.
So yeah, I was scared about that with my next babies.
BUT I had a home birth with my next 2 and didn't tear at all!
Epidurals prevent us from feeling when we need to let up on pushing, which in turn causes tearing.
@@allthingsaremadenew236 thank you. Yes I didn’t tear at all for my second delivery. Very thankful for that lol congratulations on your baby
@@MoniVenSmit oh wow! I didn't realize that your comment was from 6 months ago 😂
So glad that you didn't tear this time!!!
@@MoniVenSmitCongratulations on the second, did you do something different this time around?
I was only in labor for 2.5 hrs for my last baby she basically slid out of me.
God Bless
Was that the third?
@@rosyapplekitchen635 2nd with first baby I was in labor only 12 hours but I’m sure it would’ve been sooner if I hadn’t gotten the IV medication
Gave birth to my 2nd ten days ago and ended up doing this without even knowing what it was; I instinctively used breathing to control how quickly my baby came out. She had a head measuring a week bigger than the rest of her body and I ended up only with a graze and a couple of superficial tears. As opposed to my first where I was coached to strain and push and got two second degree tears with a much smaller baby. I highly recommend telling your care provider you won’t be pushing until you feel your body uncontrollably bearing down, that seemed to make a huge difference in my second birth.
I wanted to breath different but the nurse insisted I hold my breath for 10 seconds. Makes me mad. Next baby will be different for sure
The doctor told me to hold my breath through pushes and I fainted twice from the head pressure
Wow a woman in this movie I seen she died because of to much straining and she bled out and had an aneurysm that burst at the end and the midwife kept forcing to much she tired out of breath and just flat lined
Had my baby a few days ago and I pushed like hell( I know the correct technique); the pain was so intense that I just wanted baby out. I had no tears thankfully because I did a lot of work prior to. This was my first delivery with no tears.
What did you do to prevent tearing?
@@madhatter239 I worked with a pelvic floor therapist through out my pregnancy focusing on lengthening (relaxing) my PF. I did internal (not recommended by conventional medicine) and perineal massages at 36 weeks (mostly daily but at most every other day) . And finally learned my anatomy and became really familiar with my body so that I could figure out the best positions to make the most room for baby. I did the birthing better course, it has a lot of great information but could be overwhelming. I've torn with 2/4 of my kids and didn't tear with my first because I had an emergency c section.
Yes plz tell wat h did
What work did you do?
@@megamamab333 I posted it above...but focused on relaxing my pelvic floor through diaphragmatic breathing, internal and perennial massages (to release muscle tension), working with a pelvic floor therapist ( I had a lot of anatomical problems during my pregnancy, so my focus was working on those problems which could cause a delayed labor) and knowing my pelvic map so I could know which positions made the most room for baby to descend according to my anatomy. You can look into the birthing better course. They had a lot of great information but I will warn you that it was a bit overwhelming.
Don't hold your breath when you're having a bowel movement either!
Lol, I literally just learned this was a bad thing after decades of life holding my breath… no one ever told me it was wrong or bad. I’ve been trying to breathe more now in pregnancy during bowel movements to practice, but it’s really hard. Feels easier to hold my breath for short stints and push than it is to breathe out completely while pushing. Like my body just naturally wants to hold my breath a bit
@@Romns1513 I'm the same way, maybe it's because we just got used to doing it that way? Sometimes I have to remind myself, and it helps me!
I don’t know breathing was hard until this tried it and it too some practice. Good job mamas ❤❤
The issue is that most don't practice this before labor and epidural s make it really difficult to have that control
I've heard from a friend that it's best to give birth from home with a midwife.
Thank you ❤
I think in some situations holding the breath may be warranted, for example if baby is in distress or if mom is too unwell.
My baby was not in distress but I
I reached the hospital when I was already fully dilated and the suffering was unbearable. The pressure was unbearable, and I probably was screaming « I can’t I can’t I can’t » and the nurse had me hold my breath while pushing. My baby was born very quickly, much to my relief. I did have second degree tears but they felt like nothing compared to the third degree ones I had with my first, and honestly it is a price I was willing to pay to stop suffering. I suppose I would have been able to do it more « gently » but at the moment the suffering was just so intense it made sense to get things moving as fast as possible.
Sounds like pooping😅 I’ve struggled with bowel movements my whole life and it’s literally the worst trying to hold your breathe and poop instead I’ve always let my body do it’s thing haha. I’m due in less than a week and I’m hoping I’ll remember to rely on my natural instincts and not the doctors telling me what to do🥴
Same lol I’m hoping my decades of struggling to poop will help me push baby even that means telling the staff to leave me alone or be quit whilst I do it
My physio (a saint) told me push from the sides, use your obliques and notice how your whole pelvic region just gives and relaxes.
Are you talking about engaging your TVA muscles? I practice this in pregnancy!
I wanted to do this and was told off saying I was wasting my breath 😤
I regret listening to what the nurses are saying as by the time i feel like the baby it's coming they told me not to push by the time I'm not feeling the urge to push they told me to, my body was in control doing the whole thing on its own, I should have followed my body, I should have prevented the tear.
It's called down breathing, a hypnobirthing technique. Your body does it naturally when you poop too. You must be relaxed to achieve it.
I'm glad this works for some but my baby just shoved his way out in a hurry and ripped me allll the way open. Sometimes it's not about how you push at all.
These videos are so unrealistic
@@rosyapplekitchen635they aren’t lol, these are genuine people’s experiences and what helped them in a difficult situation, its different for everyone, no one is unrealistic lol
Perfect circle ❤
Thank you so much this really helps I was wondering if u can make one about how to push them out out quicker because I’m due really soon and I need help
Thank you!!!!!
Wish I came across this 4wks ago! But instead I got a 3C degree tear.
For me it is better with tearing instead of delivery for longer time…
Lady I’m in extreme pain I’m not thinking about blowing out candles
its to help you feel less pain lmao
i understand this is to help, but as a first timer... we don't know what you're talking about 😭
You will when you’re going through it! It’s like an instinct!
How are we supposed to remember all this when we're actually in labour?
Make a short list on your phone about breathing techniques for each stage of labor. Practice them. And then when you‘re actually in labor, refer back to your notes if needed.
This makes sense to me😊 love this
On baby number 5 and I've always pushed like it was a bowel movement and it has been pretty effective and baby born within 2 or 3 minutes, however, I shouls practice this one and keep in mind. Hard to think straight when you don't take any drugs during delivery, but I'll try! Lol
I could be wrong but don’t nurses and doctors want you to push and get the baby out as quick as possible to prevent the baby from suffocating in the vaginal canal?
The umbilical cord is still giving baby oxygen whilst connected
Sometimes as baby is exiting the cord can be compressed, or something causing distress to the baby (seen on monitor) and yes, they will want baby out fast. Also I think they assume something could happen and so let's just make this quick. Plus, they have other things to do.
They always tell u in the hospital to hold ur breath and to act like ur pooing
Jokes on them, I breath through my number 2s and I never push forcefully.
If you’re panting with the contractions are your stomach muscles still pushing through your breathes or are you pushing with each pant?
Very nice. Do you have any maternity dresses that I can have to wear
Cutest belly ever
Can i breath through the nose too? Like inhale exhale through mouth? Or only through mouth?
In fact you do not need to push. Is you are standing it just happens. Without any extra effort. But someone needs to pick up a baby. Use a big bath towel for a baby to go into it.
This doesn't make any sense. The whole reason you are told to hold your breath in is to increase intrathoracic pressure, which in turn will help you increase intra-abdominal pressure and contribute to your pushing efforts.
Purple pushing correct?
Are u really Prego?
No lmao she was though
I wish i knew this when i had my son it probably would have helped some what. He had a 95% head and i am on the petite side. Like i still can fit my middle school gym uniform.
credit the original creator.
I didn't do any technique and no one told me about how to push I just push while.holding my breath but didn't get any tear at all. My baby's weight is 2700gms
That is a very small baby. Perhaps that had more to do with it than holding your breath.
I had to have an episiotomy bc every push I did, his head would come out a little and then go back in. Lol I only pushed 4 times and then my doc cut me bc we were trying to get him out quickly bc his heart was acting funny. His heart was fine when he got out though. He just shot out so quick that popped a hole in his lung and doc had to drop the scissors and barely caught him like a football. 🤣🤣 it was definitely a wild experience. Lol
Im 7 months and so scared!
its already 2 months, have u given birth?
@@rosieesantiago28 any day now! Find out within the next few days if I'll be induced or not
@@megaddams2374 Updates?
@@clovebeans713 I gave birth... contractions were way worse than I ever thought they'd be! But I have my little girl 🖤
@@megaddams2374 congrats! how was the labor?
Pushing a watermelon through that tiny area, doesn't really help that much how you breathe, but yes you need to breathe through to let it stretch
I really don’t know where to ask so I’m gon comment here… if I want to avoid 💩 in front of everyone, do I do enema? What do people do to cleanse their gut out before delivery? Help please 😭😭
Better not to, there is still a dirty water inside after enema. My midwife told me it is better for them (and of course for the mommy) to quickly and discreet get rid of one solid poo, than dealing with this nasty water pouring from you during labour.
plus enema kinda drains you from your vital forces- and you will need all energy you have ;)
If people are uncomfortable with that possibility, let them know ahead of time and don’t invite them to watch you give birth lol. The nurses / docs do not care at all, they’ve seen everything. It’s more important you eat on the way to the hospital so you’ve got plenty of energy.
🤷🏻♀️ I just pooped mine out
If you push like for a bowel moment maybe you should see a doctor and make some diet changes 🤣
Or give birth on all fours or squatting.
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It also causes hemorrhoids. That's what happened to me at 17 not knowing about anything and listening to the nurses tell me to push as hard as I could in my bum. Horrible advice
Why are nurses saying to hold your breath 10 seconds like who is right than ?
Because they want to control you and your body to suit their own time frame, rather than letting you and your body get into its own rhythm and taking it's time.
Good to know
Oh god really
Contractions made me feel like i had to push and scream. This video is ridiculous, making it seem like giving birth is a blow of a candle. B please. It all depends on your body, and whether you have epidural or not.
it worked for her and others, and it may not work for some, everyone is different, every labour is unique! maybe pushing was what was right for you 💖
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I’ll never be pregnant ever again 🤣🤣😭😭😂😂 it’s so weird and funny how the media fights to manipulate people to do what they want them to do.. I still don’t have a house, oppression, and child support is not reliable.. (it’s better to be homeless and not pregnant verses homeless and pregnant 🎯🎯)
Pushing like that when you have a bowl movement it is also not indicated, as it can lead to hemoroids or worsening of them , especially during pregnancy. Learn it the hard way 😊 so you also push through breathing out during a bowl movement.
Thank you ❤