I used to hate the modesty talk but I love how you go about this conversation! ❤️ you’re incredibly respectful towards people who both agree and disagree with you :) modesty should always be a personal choice in my opinion & I love that you seem to agree with that!
Thank you for talking about modesty with teenage clothing! I often feel like I'm the only teen trying to achieve this and sometimes it gets hard to choose/create outfits that I'm comfortable in.
As someone who used to be Mormon, I was modest because that's what we were taught, BUT knowing that they make modesty rules soley for men and how they think a woman should dress is gross. You should be able to wear short shorts and a tank top without being told that you're giving some random guy "unholy" thoughts, that's not my fault... I don't wanna get into church talk, I'm just talking about LDS, but the modesty rules are made by men aimed towards women. It all comes from sexism Those modesty rules have caused me so much anxiety and self-hate/self-consciousness and I'm scared about what I wear for no reason, no one should be scared about what they wear especially when it comes to other people's opinions. Dress how you want for yourself, no one needs to shame you. Idk I just wanted to say that. We all have our opinions and I respect those of you who are confident enough to not worry about what you're wearing whether it's modest or not.
As a current Mormon, I know what you are talking about. Imo I think encouraging modesty is okay, but I think it's really about delivery. Like if you want to promote modesty, that's good because some people, religious or not, like wearing clothes like that. But its hypocritical and plain judgmental if you 1) shame others that don't dress like you. Like if someone is wearing a tank top, you have no right to harass them. Or if they have clothes or fabric that covers up more, like individuals who practice Islam, you cant harass them either. And 2) pitch it to girls that their amount of clothes will effect a man's sexual desire. It doesnt Matter what you are wearing, clothes do not give any concent nor do they rationalize unwanted sexual or predatory behavior. Just respect other people's choices. Personally I like dressing modestly, that is how I feel comfortable. And my friends know that. But some of my friends don't dress like me, and that's okay. I respect their decision as they do mine. And that's how it should work, respecting how people live and how they are. As long as it isnt oppressing people. Those are just my thoughts
I’m sorry you went through those emotions surrounding modest clothing. It will feel better to approach this situation if you think of yourself and how you enjoy practicing modesty. Another reason to be modest is for God.
The only thing that a one piece covers that a bikini doesn’t is your back and stomach. And if someone is sexualizing a back and stomach then chances are a one piece isn’t going to change how they’re looking at you.
I respect being modest, but growing up religious I would have anxiety attacks over what to wear and spend an hour figuring out what to wear. I wish as a person I wasn't automatically sexualized for just having a body... :c thats just me.
It's very natural, reality is unless you're a purely asexual being you're going to notice the attractive features of the opposite and even the same sex, and you're going to make judgements based on how someone looks. Women are sexualized but so are men, the difference is *how* they are sexualized; mainly because of how men view attraction and how women view attraction. Just like when a woman goes on in public and is noticed for her bodily features and her appearance by men, men go out into public and their appearance is noticed by women. If a man is in good shape, properly kempt, well dressed, displaying good hygiene; you notice. When a woman is in good shape, well dressed, ect ect you notice.
Izzy G. You’re sweet! Thank you! I was bullied as a kid for being fat, so now that I’m not I use every opportunity to show more, lol 😹 But I do like Abby’s more modest outfits as well and use them for inspiration when I’m feeling preppy or professional. 😹😻
Honestly love this channel. It’s helpful for women that actually want to change their style in a modest way. As a young mom (24) it’s really hard to find something appropriate but still “young”. It’s good to have the extra tips and advice to achieve that.
Elizabeth Robinson so you get it! Most women our age without kids don’t have to worry as much I feel. They don’t have a set of eyes copying their every move and choices.
Yeah I agree. I feel like these women upset we're talking about modesty and calling us judgemental for just making a personal style decision would throw a massive hissy fit if we were telling them they can't dress how they want to. The hypocrisy is just so blatant and disgusting in so many of these comments. Women tearing down other women just because we choose to dress in a way they personally don't dress. Abby has never once said anything against anyone who chooses to not dress modestly but these women in the comments are acting like she's trying to create legislation to force everyone to dress a certain way xD I think it's because they know deep down the only reason they dress immodestly is because they are desperate for attention and feel called out by other women going out of their way to not call attention to their body. If this isn't the case then why do they care how Abby or anyone else chooses to dress? Why go out of their way to comment on a video and a channel that isn't for them? Abby has never said this of course it's just my personal opinion.
Whitney Dahlin why go out of the way to call other women “desperate for attention”? Jeez I dress modestly but I never think others who don’t are “desperate for attention”. Also the reason why people comment under Abbys channel is because her ads are all over the place, even if you block them.
i dont agree with the video you did about why women should dress modestly, but i think it really works for you, and your gorgeous so whateva. plus its totally a woman’s choice for how to dress and if she wants to dress modestly thats okay! edit: i think this is one of your wholesome-er (?) videos, and i think its good you clarified what you mean by modesty.
chloewarren oh my gosh I hated that video she literally made it like you are dressing for a man not for yourself. I’m glad she’s improved on her views from then I think the 100k dislikes did the trick
i dont consider myself “conservative” or even that modest, but I actually enjoy this channel just to hear new perspectives and ideas on stuff ?? you don’t need to blindly hate her channel she actually makes some points 🤷🏼♀️
I feel exactly the same way! I like hearing new perspectives even though I might not necessarily agree with everything that is being said. I don't think she's saying "women have to do this, or else!" She's giving advice to people who want to be more modest. If people don't agree they can either keep listening or stop listening.
See she makes decent points that i kind of agree on but saying things like "women dress as sexual objects" is very very disgusting. Clothes dont make a woman any less of a woman. I dress modestly myself because it makes me comfortable, but a human is not an object there for cannot objectify themselves.
Genuinely agree! I'm not religious or Conservative but I find I'm drawn to modesty and honestly (so far) for me she hasn't said anything malicious or terrible.
Hey guys! Just wanted to let y’all know that you don’t have to listen to what anyone says about how you dress, man women or anything in between. If you want to go to a nudist beach, HELL YES. If you want to wear a burka to the beach, GO FOR IT. If you want to wear a chicken costume to the beach, OWN IT. You don’t HAVE to be modest, and being modest isn’t bad. Just do you and love yourself ❤️❤️
@Abby Mango stupid comment of the year, possibly of the century. No one is commanding you to wear anything. This is an advice video. You take it or leave it. You’re just expressing pre existing pent up anger and using this video as a pretext. Ok?
IGNORE THE HATERS! I found your videos through the ads and I’m so glad I did! I love that you talk about topics are controversial and the minority these days! :) God bless you!
Please keep up the channel. I dont necessarily agree with all that you say. But you have the right to say what you want to say. And you have been nothing but respectful. You deserve more views. I just wish women stop pulling each other down. Letting a woman speak without berating her is the first move.
I think this is an important comment, encouraging someone to keep going even if you don’t agree exactly with what they’re saying because you can respect what they’re doing/ where they’re coming from. We need more of this.
Tbh she has some good tips for people who want to dress modestly. Which is great! I think if she just did that she wouldn’t be getting all of this hate. However, I think she should preface the video by saying it is up to you on wether you would like to dress modestly, and if you don’t want to that’s ok and doesn’t make you any less of a woman. Another issue i have is her list of reasons why you should dress modestly. She should say it makes you more comfortable and confident rather than pleasing men. I think she still would get hate on this video even if she did follow these ideas, but there would be less of it.
Modesty might not be for everyone, but it’s definitely a value worth preserving. Thanks for working to keep the concept alive without being judgmental. This was really well done.
I know you were talking to her but I'm going to share my thoughts If you're talking about the Muslim women in middle east who wear the burka, then I think they are the perfect opposite of the western world. Middle eastern women cover up TOO MUCH while Western women cover up TOO LITTLE. The Burka is bad. The bikini is bad. Both are extremes and should be avoided. Short shorts of the west literally sexualizes women while the burka of the middle east covers women too much and unecessarily. *coming from a conservative christian*
ok I think you make a really good point. I wanted to add that the modesty of Muslim women in the Middle East is really diverse. You’ll find some women to cover literally everything except their eyes, and some who cover everything except their hands and face, and some who wear western clothing but still have a scarf on their head. I think I can agree with the idea that clothing like short shorts and bikinis has sexualized women. While I’m all for the freedom of choosing clothing, I think it can have big effects on the society. This is coming from a Muslim
ok but why should you (or anyone else) get too choose who is covering “too much” or “not enough” shouldn’t women get to chose what they want to wear and if they want to be modest or not or sexualized or not ( not in front of kids ofc)
simfimpim no but she’s telling women essentially that their bodies are sexual objects for men and we have to do our best not to tempt them. Which is insulting to men and women, and super toxic and backward. This is a common justification for sexual assault and this is an agenda that needs to die.
When did she say women should be forced to wear or not wear anything? She’s talking to people who WANT to be more modest. If that ain’t you, you’re free to disregard.
Your page is awesome!!! I love anyone who bases their content off modesty and femininity! Modesty is something a value SO much so I appreciate ones like you who try and teach women to be modest in a world where that’s such a foreign concept
I think it's every women's personal choice. Whatever makes you feel confident. No one should be shamed for dressing modestly but at the same time no one should be shamed for dressing immodestly.
You know what shaming would look like? Shaming would be a whole video of name-calling and sneering and ridiculing. Maybe she would be bringing in pictures of specific women wearing specific immodest outfits. Maybe she would ask for examples of disgusting immodest women in the comments. If you feel guilty listening to her content, that's a feeling that's originating within yourself because you, yourself, believe that you are doing something wrong. Abby is not making you feel that way. She is not shaming anyone.
Like those above me have stated, this video is not an attack on anyone who wishes to do the opposite. If you feel attacked that’s not the fault of the woman in this video talking about the value of modesty for those who wish to follow that advice and giving women tips on how to dress modestly.
ok alot of people for some reason think i'm saying that she's shaming me or something lol when I literally never said that. I don't have any problem with abby nor do I feel like she's attacking anyone. Y'all need to calm down Lmao like wtf I was sharing my thoughts on the modesty subject so stop trying to create drama out of nothing
nobody should have to cover up more so other people don’t get the ‘wrong impression’ or so people don’t judge based off of body and not personality. if someone judges a person solely based off of the fact that they show more of their body, that’s wrong of THEM. it’s 2020. anybody should be able to go out feeling comfortable with their body and not feeling like people are only paying attention to the fact that they’re showing more of their body. nobody needs to change themselves or the way they dress, people need to change the way they react to it. people need to learn how to control themselves and learn that no matter how much of someone’s body is shown, you have no right to judge them based off of it.
animeaintgay the idea was that men shouldn't be blamed for not controlling themselves if the woman in question was "seducing" him. People wearing mini skirts can have long term relationships period.
animeaintgay if I feel good about my body and want to show it off, then I will, although I normally do dress pretty modestly. It's dumb for her to act like this should be a societal standard.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this, regardless of the negativity you receive. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, etiquette, and rules to uphold for themselves. The people coming here to be offended shouldn't be watching this video in the first place. She is largely speaking to people that have the same standard for themselves and want advice. The advice is NOT being given to every woman in the country. Go by your own definition of modesty and dont go looking to people for advice who clearly have a different stance than you.
Mya fr! I’m confident in my relationship, personally style, and beliefs. How dare she say other wise. I’ve only seen less than a minute of her videos and she seems like she’s saying you either live like me or you’re not a good woman
hi Abby! I'm a young teen and watching your vids had really changed the way I think about clothing and conservative views. I hope you continue doing what your doing and inspiring young girls like myself!
Stop. You guys telling her not to listen to this woman, and her taking in advice about dressing modestly, is the same thing when everyone says “let girls what they want!” And “stop sexualizing women” when they’re half naked in music videos. So that’s allowed, but this girl who wants to take this advice *CANNOT?* That’s complete hypocrisy, and wrong. Double standards are not okay. Can’t say yes on one, no one the other. This nice girl has her OWN voice, knows what she’s doing obviously if she’s ended up here on UA-cam, and has free will and free rights. So stop the hypocrisy.
Another tip is getting long cardigans to wear with shorter dresses or shorts. It’s a cheaper way to start becoming more modest without feeling like you need a whole new wardrobe.
The proportion of likes and dislikes of this video says a lot about the world we are living in today in 2020, where people are basically constantly getting closer to normalizing nudity. I've even seen people refusing to admit that wearing bikini is the same as wearing underwear, citing the cultural difference and stuff, which to me doesn't even make any sense. Although I'm neither a woman or jewish, keep up the good work! It's a relief seeing more and more conservative and religious people speaking up.
I’m not judging anyone who dressed more “modest” but when you said to cover up so men don’t objectify you is just not the message little girls should be getting. Girls should grow up allowed to wear whatever they want that they feel comfortable in and if that means they wanna look hot and wear short shorts and a sports bra out then they should do that and not have to be told boys will be boys when they get cat called or objectified. So of course women can dress modest that’s great for them but we shouldn’t hold girls to this double standard. And if this isn’t a double standard to you then can you please address how you think men should dress more modest so they are just assumed to want a short term relationship for sex??
The whole concept of wanting to look “hot” is about sexuality. A lot of women sexualize themselves intentionally and then ask not to be objectified. Personally the way I see it is people can wear whatever they want and nobody can or should try to force them not to. But dressing modestly is classy, dressing immodestly is not. If you want to attract classy people into your life you won’t find them by being unclassy. It’s the same sort of reason that you don’t go to a club to find the love of your life Romeo. Unless you do haha
Hannibal I understand where your coming from and honestly mostly agree accept women dressing hot then getting objectified is the whole issue like men can wear what ever they want and be fine but as soon as a woman shows some skin then she’s just a piece of ass or whatever this is a horrible double standard bc no one is “asking for it” based on how they dress.
Pop she’s encouraging really healthy behavior, she’s a successful career woman and admits she’s not perfect. Seems much better than a lot of pop stars that young girls tend to look up to. Who else would you suggest?
Thanks for keeping your head up. Your comment sections show just how difficult it is to be a conservative in our crappy culture. Keep up the good work and stay strong fellow conservatives 💪🏻
@@alexa-fx2fb Ooff almost 99% of skin aging is photoaging from mostly the UVA- rays. Switch to a fake tan for your skin health. Dr Dray has a video on sun protection.
Totally agree about finding fashionable options and still being modest! My style tends to flip flop between vintage and bohemian. I wear a lot of oversized/flowy pieces when I want to be more casual, and more tailored vintage things when I want to be more professional or dressed up. I do a lot of my shopping at boutique stores and always find great modest pieces but still feel very modern and fashionable in them!
i haven't finished the video yet but i already love your opinions and think you're telling them in a great way! you aren't pressuring anyone into having the same viewpoints as you which is so great! 💓
She said women don’t respect their bodies if they don’t dress modestly. Your body is not a distraction, it’s your body, your vessel that’s gets you around. You are not sexual just for existing and having sexual organs.
I'm LDS, in our faith we wear thin white clothes under our regular clothes to represent our inward and personal devotion to God. Because of that we keep our shoulders covered and we are covered to a little above the knee and everything in between (except of course when swimming and working out and such). I just thought I would share If anyone wanted to know haha xx. Loved this video though! I think sometimes as women we have a hard time knowing how to be modest and fashionable, but it's definitely something achievable if you want it!
I left a comment basically just like this! Except I think you should know that lots of members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints do wear their garments while working out. ☺️
I normally hate the modesty talk... I grew up very religious “women are property” I now wear what I’m happy and comfortable in. I watched this in a mini skirt and low cut top 🙈 that being said you actually have some pretty good advice in this video for women that want to dress modestly. You seem very sweet maybe one day I’ll listen to your advice:) ps I did ask you a modesty question on Instagram so I hope you will get to it in your next video.
Yolii oh I must have missed that I actually feel like for me personally when I show off my body I’m respecting it because I was always taught that my body is bad and should be covered. If she feels differently that’s up to her but she shouldn’t say that women that choose otherwise are disrespecting themselves:)
Idk what drugs ur on but she thinks your dress sense is ‘garbage’ and that you disrespect your body by wearing what you want 😌but sis go off carry on supporting her
Vidhi Patel I’m not on drugs. As I already said it’s wrong for her to judge others we all come from different walks of life I’ll I was saying is that she did give some helpful tips for women that want to dress like her. She made other videos in that I strongly disagree with.
I come from a Jewish family but mine and my mother's generations no longer practice. I appreciate Abby trying to keep the culture alive but to me, true modesty is about acceptance and understanding that you only have direct authority over yourself. Judging others for wearing skimpy clothes doesn't get us anywhere. Besides, worrying about appearances so much doesn't strike me as humble. I can still eat and be thankful for my challah and salmon while wearing a crop top :)
I have dressed modestly most of my life due to shame about my body from personal experiences. I’ve never looked at it as a choice but rather as something I had to do in order to “protect” myself from the gaze of men. It’s interesting to hear the perspective of someone who is actively choosing it, not out of fear.
Right? I remember going to youth group as a teen and seeing guys wear tank tops that showed their nipples. Yet, I, as a teenage girl, couldn't show my shoulders or above my knees??
@@motherofallfrogs6902 well most people don't tell boys to dress modestly but that's wrong. for boys to be modest, they're not supposed to wear shirts or pants that are too tight, anything too short, y'know, the basics. nowadays boys are wearing girls shorts which.. yikes.
@@GABBYLIGER Well, I guess that makes sense. But I feel like most guys WANT to wear baggy clothes. So, no one has to tell them what they should and shouldn't wear. Most guys don't care about fashion just being comfortable.
Really like seeing this channel. Like a breath of fresh air. I dont understand why she gets so much hate while hundreds and thousands of others post same or more extreme content but are hailed as women empowerment. Make it make sense. Being modest is also a choice. Respect it.
I like how you brought up modesty in behavior. Another part of that, I think, is trying to be discrete as you can with your emotions. Namely, I don't think it's necessary for anyone to post every little feeling they have on social media for the world to see. I have a lot of girlfriends that do this. They will post something vague about something someone did that upset them, and the rest of us are expected to just show sympathy for them without having all the facts. Emotionally mature people just don't do that, in my opinion.
Talbots, J.Crew/Factory, Ralph Lauren, H&M, and Zara are all places I pull from for modest clothes. I love buying modest skirts at ModCloth and inheritco.com. And many you can find on sites like Poshmark if you are looking for a deal!
What I find funny are all the not negative comments here....why the hell are you taking time out of your lives to watch her video and comment? So you disagree, so skip the video...duh
Respecting your body is wearing what you want in 2020 and not allowing creeps to sexualize you. Making them uncomfortable for such ill manners rather then being made to feel uncomfortable in your body or shamed for it because of someone else's concept of modesty based on male subjugations in society.
Remember you’re watching her channel UNFORCED stop complaining when, people put animal abuse on their UA-cam channel. Seriously 🤡. If she wants to be modest respect to her, cause that takes respect and self restraint idec about all the hate I’m about to get😭
I dress modestly most of the time and I make it my point to try. It’s what makes me more comfortable. I hate it when other people point out that I have a nice body and therefore have to show it off. It makes me uncomfortable.. I’m not an object, it is unnecessary for you to look at my body. My friends usually make it seem like its a horrible thing and super outdated. Why does my nice outfit that just happens to also covers most of my legs and arms automatically a bad outfit? Also, I think that everyone should wear what makes them comfortable and happy. Can we normalize wearing clothing that is appropriate for an occasion?
yes you should wear anything that makes you comfortable! however the issue is that you shouldnt have to dress in a modest way to not be objectified. women could walk out on the town butt ass naked and they still wouldnt deserve to be objectified. the issue is societys view of women, not what you wear.
Zuania Morales the issue isn’t modesty. We’re not bashing modesty. We’re bashing women like Abby who bring down other women for not wanting to dress modestly. No one deserves hate for their outfit choices. But they do deserve hate if they’re running around hating on women for doing whatever they want.
thank you so much for being here for us conservatives, i make this comment on nearly every video and i mean it every single time. i love you so much and thank you for the strength you have because i certainty don't have the strength. you have helped me so much since i started watching you!!
You're amazing. I dont understand why so many haters persecute you, you're awesome and continue to do what you do. There's nothing wrong with being conservative, educated, nice etc. May God bless you!!!!
A lot of people, including myself, struggle a lot with trying to define what kind of clothing is modest. I have found it extremely helpful to look at the dress code for royal women (Kate Middleton). This woman is expected to dress modestly, and she pulls it off very well. The rules she is expected to follow I find easy to emulate, I don’t think it is oppressive at all.
I noticed you liked my reply. Thank you! I don’t see eye to eye with you on some things, but I believe that you have the right to share your opinions just like everyone else. I have subscribed to your channel and I just want to give you some advice. Part of the reason why a lot of people don’t like you is because of your ads. People don’t like to spammed. I think that if you pull back on the advertising you would have a lot more success in growing you base. Just let people come to you and your channel will organically grow.
When shopping at forever 21, the fabric is often really cheap. I got a maxi skirt that looked very elegant, but it turned out very revealing. So just be weary! 💖
I’ve always been a modest dresser. Probably even more so than my mother. I wear T-shirts and jeans, because that’s what I’m the most comfortable in. I’ve also been cold natured most of my life so it’s more practical I think.
Okay, I’m only 2min 30 seconds in and what I’m understanding is: the goal is to become “extra” modest, aka long sleeves long dresses. ... not sure if I agree with you, girl. It’s okay for girls to want to feel attractive and sexy. Oppression is not the right way of doing this.
This is really great. It's very new and fresh. I think more women need to hear this side of society. Modesty can be attractive and feels more rewarding long-term
Once I started to dress modestly and follow tzniut standards I honestly felt like my personality was shining through more because people were forced to listen to me and what I was SAYING instead of just looking at my body!
Thank you for this important subject. Women these days are walking around practically naked....then they wonder why their member cheat....and what about kids at the beach? They don't need to see a bare body with strings covering parts. Confidence is more than needing the sexual attention. We as a society need to encourage women feeling great and be more ambitious, not just sexual. Its small mind thinking...which is the problem w what's popular. Empowering women is more than sexuality.
Or just... dress however you want.. like everyone else.... and not make a video about why "modesty" is a fashion now, no. This is weird and meaningless and tasteless. Adapt and evolve, this isn't it ladies. Don't follow this woman's ideas.
i think this video is fine if you actually want to dress modestly. her other video "why YOU should dress modestly" sounded like she wants every woman to dress in a modest way. what i wear is for me and me alone. i dont care if i look too revealing or whatever. as long as i'm comfortable and feel good about myself.
Have you seen the long sleeve one piece with a zipper in front ugh its soo cute. I really dont like bikinis might as well wear my bra and underwear lol
I like how people are shaming her and being judgemental for following a modest lifestyle. For some people, staying old fashioned and following a modest lifestyle is comfortable and it empowers them. She isn't telling you how you need to live. Thought 2020 was about acceptance? smh
Before you read this just wanna say I’m not trying to attack you, just say my opinion. While I think some of these comments are attacking, most are more jokes/trolling and mostly respectful opinions. Although I get what you’re saying. And for me personally, the issue I have with this video are not the tips on modesty, they’re fine, but the reasons. All of them are to please men. Which is just dumb, dress modestly for you, but not for men. This entire mentality is feeding into the idea that women are “asking for” sexual harassment and do every little thing to please men.
there’s nothing wrong with her message, in fact it’s probably useful for teenagers who feel uncomfortable with the pressure of constantly wearing clothes that are showy or flashy and want guidance on how to feel more comfortable. perhaps you shouldn’t have kids if your so intolerant to other people having different opinions.
every comment on here is talking about her controlling what we should wear when she’s literally saying we have different options for modest clothing. she literally said short shorts that cover your butt cheeks are fine. if that’s too modest for you then idk what to tell you, but no one wants to see your butt cheeks. she’s literally saying to embrace inner beauty and have people like you for your personality rather than just your body. that if you are looking for a man-she didn’t say in order to attract a man-she said if you are making your own decision to find yourself a man, then take into consideration how he views you. she made good points about how wearing more “sexy” clothing will make him view you as a short term fling rather than a long lasting relationship. I don’t understand why there’s backlash about that. it’s literally science that men are more visual while women are more emotional beings. if you’re trying to find a husband, finding a man who only wants you for your body isn’t the right choice. I hate to make this about finding a man when it’s really about you showing your best self, but you need to find a man who will respect you and love you for you. not your body. am I saying that it’s not possible? no. a man can definitely love you and your body, but if he loves your body first, he’s not in this with the right intentions or mindset and you deserve better than that.
The whole “men are visual creatures” is bullshit. Just because some men are douches and see women as objects just because they wear stuff that shows more skin, is not our problem. And we shouldn’t have to fix this by dressing modestly, cause it’s not our fault. It’s ok to dress modestly if it’s for you and because you like it, but she shouldn’t feed into the idea that women need to constantly be pleasing men.
You gave some great tips! I would say we have similar ideas of “modesty”. 👏🏼👏🏼 I am really tall and it is VERY hard for me to dress in the summer modestly, cool, and comfortably but it can be done! 😊👏🏼
Why are there so many hateful women in the comment section? I'm a single guy and I'm much more attracted to a woman who dresses the way Abby is describing. Beautiful, but respectful and responsible. A girl with character is truly beautiful. Abby thank you so much for being a truly beautiful woman, as well as girls who are doing their best to have character in a culture that is attacking true beauty and femininity. God bless you! And keep fighting for women--the best creation God has made so far!
No offense dude, but you’re apart of the issue that and so is Abby. Abby is saying dress modestly to please men, if you don’t then you’re just asking for a bad guy. Then you’re saying yeah! I like when women dress modestly. Which is not the point. The point is for women and girls to dress to feel comfortable.
@@bellem4310 it sounds like you're trying to make people uncomfortable for following the convictions of their hearts, and trying to care about men's hearts and their own hearts (which is showing character). So why come on here and attack Abby and other girls who are trying to go against flow and what's easy? Comfort is not the ultimate underlying principle of the universe. Loving people is. That means thinking about how our words and actions affect other people. It's not always easy, but it's always worth it. How can acting loving and caring about others be wrong?
Mikezzz749 Lol you completely changed what I said. I said the idea that dressing modestly to please men is bs, and you and Abby feeding into that is not cool. Don’t go all holy on me, you just said what women want to wear is less important than whatever you believe the principal of the universe is.
Mikezzz749 And just to clear things up (sorry I didn’t say this in the original reply) I’m totally fine with people dressing modestly. That’s chill. What I don’t like is people dressing modestly to please other people.
@@bellem4310 you have a problem with trying to please people? I say nice things and treat people well because that's how you should treat other people, and that's pleasing others. What is wrong with that? ...maybe I don't understand your point, or what it is that you're bothered about with my statement. You think it's wrong for me to be attracted to someone who is sending a message that they care about having character? ...isn't being attracted to someone for the content of their heart what someone should be doing?
My favorite store is H+M. I am a young woman kinda transitioning from my teen years. They are amazing for finding modest cheap clothes as a teenager and also they have some more professional clothing to transition to that young adult fashion.
The reason I dont dress modestly is because I hate feeling like theres 90% of fabric on my body. And I realized that instead of blaming women for being sexualised, catcalled etc, we need to be blaming men. We are not the problem. The sick perverts are. Our breasts are NOT sexual objects. The fact that you are a woman and basically calling yourself a sexual object breaks my heart. God will love me whether I dress modest or not♡
Yesss girl My body has a hard time regulating temperature bc of an autoimmune disorder, and in the summertime where I live it can be nearly 100 degrees for months. I dress as close to naked as is socially acceptable bc the heat makes me lightheaded (lol). I’ve been judged by Christians for this, even my close friends. Just for wearing a cute tank top and shorts (which were quite short but whatever). My point is, not everyone is dressing “immodestly” bc they don’t respect their bodies-for many of us, it’s bc we do 💕
I like what you said about wearing a nude camisol. I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and we have a special garment we wear under our clothes at all times for the same reason. Basically a t-shirt and shorts. So we're never going to be less modest than our garments allow! :)
They aren’t though. Breasts are secondary sex characteristics, meaning they’re there to so you can tell men from women, and they’re primary function is not for the making of children. Breasts primary function is to feed babies. However, because of the misogynistic nature of the world, breasts have become overly sexualized to the point where they have become something they were never meant to be. I.e people, like this woman, believing they need to be covered up because they’ll make people, I.e men, feel sexual feelings. And quite frankly, that’s sad, because that’s not what breasts are for.
animeaintgay that,.... doesn’t change what breasts ARE. See, what you’re describing is a sexual attraction, or feeling TO breasts. Breasts themselves are NOT sexual. They are FOR feeding children, NOT sex. I don’t know how else to explain this to you.
Let me tell you something: struttin my stuff in my thong bikini makes me feel straight 🔥🔥🔥 BECAUSE I work hard, eat well, and because I respect my body enough to know that I am strong, independent, and who I am is way more than what my body looks like. We all have bodies. It’s just a butt. Get over it. If dressing modest is what makes you feel confident... wonderful. I 100% respect your decision to do that. But you should respect others’ decisions to dress however they choose. Imma keep doing what makes me happy and confident.
okay, if THIS chick has no problem with off the shoulder tops, schools shouldn't either
👏🏻👏🏻yes
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Well, schools are for studying, while she’s fine with people wearing them outside normally, so...
Vanessa T that’s true, but if you see her other content .....😬
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Girl, when are we getting the opera cover of WAP?
ben did a great cover of it XDD
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SupremeCuddle BRUHHHH RIGHT LMOASOASOKAOSK
hailey parks LMAO YEH
Can you please be modest with the UA-cam ads xoxo
@jessosse she's spending too much money (UA-cam is making too much) for them to really do anything. :/
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you speak the truth 😌💖
I used to hate the modesty talk but I love how you go about this conversation! ❤️ you’re incredibly respectful towards people who both agree and disagree with you :) modesty should always be a personal choice in my opinion & I love that you seem to agree with that!
Thank you for talking about modesty with teenage clothing! I often feel like I'm the only teen trying to achieve this and sometimes it gets hard to choose/create outfits that I'm comfortable in.
As someone who used to be Mormon, I was modest because that's what we were taught, BUT knowing that they make modesty rules soley for men and how they think a woman should dress is gross. You should be able to wear short shorts and a tank top without being told that you're giving some random guy "unholy" thoughts, that's not my fault...
I don't wanna get into church talk, I'm just talking about LDS, but the modesty rules are made by men aimed towards women. It all comes from sexism
Those modesty rules have caused me so much anxiety and self-hate/self-consciousness and I'm scared about what I wear for no reason, no one should be scared about what they wear especially when it comes to other people's opinions. Dress how you want for yourself, no one needs to shame you.
Idk I just wanted to say that. We all have our opinions and I respect those of you who are confident enough to not worry about what you're wearing whether it's modest or not.
As a current Mormon, I know what you are talking about. Imo I think encouraging modesty is okay, but I think it's really about delivery. Like if you want to promote modesty, that's good because some people, religious or not, like wearing clothes like that. But its hypocritical and plain judgmental if you 1) shame others that don't dress like you. Like if someone is wearing a tank top, you have no right to harass them. Or if they have clothes or fabric that covers up more, like individuals who practice Islam, you cant harass them either. And 2) pitch it to girls that their amount of clothes will effect a man's sexual desire. It doesnt Matter what you are wearing, clothes do not give any concent nor do they rationalize unwanted sexual or predatory behavior. Just respect other people's choices. Personally I like dressing modestly, that is how I feel comfortable. And my friends know that. But some of my friends don't dress like me, and that's okay. I respect their decision as they do mine. And that's how it should work, respecting how people live and how they are. As long as it isnt oppressing people. Those are just my thoughts
Man should dress modestly, too Noone wants to see their nipples or chest hair.
I grew up Mormon too, thank god I left. I feel your pain.
I’m sorry you went through those emotions surrounding modest clothing. It will feel better to approach this situation if you think of yourself and how you enjoy practicing modesty. Another reason to be modest is for God.
Yeah, unfortunately Mormonism like most man-made religions, is very much male-centric in general. Glad you escaped
It's the constant policing and shaming of other women that really did it for me 💫
pralienene That’s not what she said. If you like it so much when people educate themselves, you should do the same.
@pralienene It's ironic she's telling women to be modest when her nudes are on the internet
@@ChickenTendere wait wut?
The only thing that a one piece covers that a bikini doesn’t is your back and stomach. And if someone is sexualizing a back and stomach then chances are a one piece isn’t going to change how they’re looking at you.
Damn that spine looking kinda sexy tho
Alrighty Then Mates
Ngl, them vertebrae do be looking pretty good
@@aebbeh "Mmm her belly button is looking a bit scrumptious today 😈👅"
@@ChickenTendere That damn bellybutton making me sweaty 😻😻🤤🤤🤤
I respect being modest, but growing up religious I would have anxiety attacks over what to wear and spend an hour figuring out what to wear. I wish as a person I wasn't automatically sexualized for just having a body... :c thats just me.
We are all just animals it’s nature
Gutsk345ND we are not animals
It's very natural, reality is unless you're a purely asexual being you're going to notice the attractive features of the opposite and even the same sex, and you're going to make judgements based on how someone looks. Women are sexualized but so are men, the difference is *how* they are sexualized; mainly because of how men view attraction and how women view attraction. Just like when a woman goes on in public and is noticed for her bodily features and her appearance by men, men go out into public and their appearance is noticed by women. If a man is in good shape, properly kempt, well dressed, displaying good hygiene; you notice. When a woman is in good shape, well dressed, ect ect you notice.
Gutsk345ND It's not "nature" we have a brain. Use it.
Well you are, it's human nature so deal with it.
I work hard to stay in shape and have a flat stomach. I’m taking a two-piece to the beach!! Lol
Every type of swimwear will look gorgeous on you ❤️ 🧚♀️
Izzy G. You’re sweet! Thank you! I was bullied as a kid for being fat, so now that I’m not I use every opportunity to show more, lol 😹 But I do like Abby’s more modest outfits as well and use them for inspiration when I’m feeling preppy or professional. 😹😻
When I’m in good shape, same thing! But I dont like revealing ones! I get very sporty bikinis.
janereaction yesss get it!! staying in shape takes so much work may as well show off ur work lol
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Honestly love this channel. It’s helpful for women that actually want to change their style in a modest way. As a young mom (24) it’s really hard to find something appropriate but still “young”. It’s good to have the extra tips and advice to achieve that.
I'm a young mom, too (23)!
Elizabeth Robinson so you get it! Most women our age without kids don’t have to worry as much I feel. They don’t have a set of eyes copying their every move and choices.
Yes, we need a space to talk about modesty. I'll never understand why so many women throw a fit about this. It's a choice.
Yeah I agree. I feel like these women upset we're talking about modesty and calling us judgemental for just making a personal style decision would throw a massive hissy fit if we were telling them they can't dress how they want to. The hypocrisy is just so blatant and disgusting in so many of these comments. Women tearing down other women just because we choose to dress in a way they personally don't dress. Abby has never once said anything against anyone who chooses to not dress modestly but these women in the comments are acting like she's trying to create legislation to force everyone to dress a certain way xD I think it's because they know deep down the only reason they dress immodestly is because they are desperate for attention and feel called out by other women going out of their way to not call attention to their body. If this isn't the case then why do they care how Abby or anyone else chooses to dress? Why go out of their way to comment on a video and a channel that isn't for them? Abby has never said this of course it's just my personal opinion.
Whitney Dahlin why go out of the way to call other women “desperate for attention”? Jeez I dress modestly but I never think others who don’t are “desperate for attention”. Also the reason why people comment under Abbys channel is because her ads are all over the place, even if you block them.
I totally agree! They’re just being mean and controlling in my opinion. How dare someone think/feel differently than you?
Whitney Dahlin well said. It’s absolutely disgusting how they have treated her in the comments. If you don’t like it, don’t watch it.
the dresses in the background went oop
i dont agree with the video you did about why women should dress modestly, but i think it really works for you, and your gorgeous so whateva. plus its totally a woman’s choice for how to dress and if she wants to dress modestly thats okay!
edit: i think this is one of your wholesome-er (?) videos, and i think its good you clarified what you mean by modesty.
chloewarren that’s exactly how I feel! People criticizing her are being hypocritical.
chloewarren I don’t agree with many of her videos, but this one doesn’t make me too angry which is an improvement 😂
Tabitha Ann exactly! like the “why women should dress modestly” video...👀
chloewarren oh my gosh I hated that video she literally made it like you are dressing for a man not for yourself. I’m glad she’s improved on her views from then I think the 100k dislikes did the trick
@@Juicy-J1118 you do realize this person was known for having photos of herself performing various salacious acts right? She's a big hypocrite.
Her next video’s gonna be named “how to dress modestly in the shower”
Swimsuit only
How to dress modestly in a turtle neck sweater
How to dress modestly during intercourse😂
How to dress modestly during childbirth😂
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i dont consider myself “conservative” or even that modest, but I actually enjoy this channel just to hear new perspectives and ideas on stuff ?? you don’t need to blindly hate her channel she actually makes some points 🤷🏼♀️
I feel exactly the same way! I like hearing new perspectives even though I might not necessarily agree with everything that is being said. I don't think she's saying "women have to do this, or else!" She's giving advice to people who want to be more modest. If people don't agree they can either keep listening or stop listening.
She’s great! Love the content. You should check out @MrsMidwest to hear similar kind of ideas!
See she makes decent points that i kind of agree on but saying things like "women dress as sexual objects" is very very disgusting. Clothes dont make a woman any less of a woman. I dress modestly myself because it makes me comfortable, but a human is not an object there for cannot objectify themselves.
Thank you for this comment!! It's nice to see open minded people!
Genuinely agree! I'm not religious or Conservative but I find I'm drawn to modesty and honestly (so far) for me she hasn't said anything malicious or terrible.
Hey guys! Just wanted to let y’all know that you don’t have to listen to what anyone says about how you dress, man women or anything in between. If you want to go to a nudist beach, HELL YES. If you want to wear a burka to the beach, GO FOR IT. If you want to wear a chicken costume to the beach, OWN IT. You don’t HAVE to be modest, and being modest isn’t bad. Just do you and love yourself ❤️❤️
Yeah!
Preach!!!🙌🏻
Testify!!
This comment is so fickle that it's useless
@Abby Mango stupid comment of the year, possibly of the century. No one is commanding you to wear anything. This is an advice video. You take it or leave it. You’re just expressing pre existing pent up anger and using this video as a pretext. Ok?
IGNORE THE HATERS! I found your videos through the ads and I’m so glad I did! I love that you talk about topics are controversial and the minority these days! :) God bless you!
Please keep up the channel. I dont necessarily agree with all that you say. But you have the right to say what you want to say. And you have been nothing but respectful. You deserve more views. I just wish women stop pulling each other down. Letting a woman speak without berating her is the first move.
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I think this is an important comment, encouraging someone to keep going even if you don’t agree exactly with what they’re saying because you can respect what they’re doing/ where they’re coming from. We need more of this.
except for the nonstop ads that she puts out like she should pay rent for staying on my feed so much
ᴊᴀᴅᴇ ᴊᴇᴡ thats... literally what paying for ads is.
Sleepy Jean the joke is... she should pay rent for having her ads “live” on my phone... that’s... that’s the joke....
Tbh she has some good tips for people who want to dress modestly. Which is great! I think if she just did that she wouldn’t be getting all of this hate. However, I think she should preface the video by saying it is up to you on wether you would like to dress modestly, and if you don’t want to that’s ok and doesn’t make you any less of a woman. Another issue i have is her list of reasons why you should dress modestly. She should say it makes you more comfortable and confident rather than pleasing men. I think she still would get hate on this video even if she did follow these ideas, but there would be less of it.
She’s not going to say it’s okay to not because she wants to hold her religion above your freedom as a human being with autonomy.
Zero-Six yeah lol this was a pointless attempt.
Christians and Jews believe it's a moral issue, GET OVER IT!!!!!
Modesty might not be for everyone, but it’s definitely a value worth preserving. Thanks for working to keep the concept alive without being judgmental. This was really well done.
What do you think about the modesty of Muslim women?
I know you were talking to her but I'm going to share my thoughts
If you're talking about the Muslim women in middle east who wear the burka, then I think they are the perfect opposite of the western world.
Middle eastern women cover up TOO MUCH while Western women cover up TOO LITTLE. The Burka is bad. The bikini is bad. Both are extremes and should be avoided.
Short shorts of the west literally sexualizes women while the burka of the middle east covers women too much and unecessarily.
*coming from a conservative christian*
ok I think you make a really good point. I wanted to add that the modesty of Muslim women in the Middle East is really diverse. You’ll find some women to cover literally everything except their eyes, and some who cover everything except their hands and face, and some who wear western clothing but still have a scarf on their head. I think I can agree with the idea that clothing like short shorts and bikinis has sexualized women. While I’m all for the freedom of choosing clothing, I think it can have big effects on the society. This is coming from a Muslim
@@amania1795 You've also made some pretty good points yourself. Have a great day :)
ok you too! I’m glad to have a middle ground conversation in this wild comment section
ok but why should you (or anyone else) get too choose who is covering “too much” or “not enough” shouldn’t women get to chose what they want to wear and if they want to be modest or not or sexualized or not ( not in front of kids ofc)
I know people are going to leave a bunch of insecure and hateful comments, so before that happens I just want to say keep doing what you’re doing!
I agree! Keep it up!
Exactly! She's not telling women they HAVE to be like this. She is talking to women who want to be modest.
Yes yes yes!!
simfimpim no but she’s telling women essentially that their bodies are sexual objects for men and we have to do our best not to tempt them. Which is insulting to men and women, and super toxic and backward. This is a common justification for sexual assault and this is an agenda that needs to die.
POV: you’re a teen crying in the church bathroom being told that your skirt is too short and your shirt is too tight
yep. you really shouldn't wear that anywhere
nevertheless church, yikes. 🤪
Gabrielle Liger people should be able to wear anything they would like. It’s the men’s problem for sexualizing them.
Psa: Jesus loves *you*.
He doesn’t care what you’re wearing.
I’m sorry that the church full of broken people hurt you, Jesus isn’t like them.
@@PeytonlWeaver the bible talks about modestly but ok 🤷🏾♀️
Gabrielle Liger the Bible does not tell you what to wear.
Its the shaming/over possession of a womans wear choice for me. 😌
it's that every one of her videos is an advertisement for me
It’s the acting like I’m trying to help women for me
When did she say women should be forced to wear or not wear anything? She’s talking to people who WANT to be more modest. If that ain’t you, you’re free to disregard.
I love your username... but you def didn’t watch the video 😅
Your page is awesome!!! I love anyone who bases their content off modesty and femininity! Modesty is something a value SO much so I appreciate ones like you who try and teach women to be modest in a world where that’s such a foreign concept
i have some advice you youuu: stop buying youtube ads
I think it's every women's personal choice. Whatever makes you feel confident. No one should be shamed for dressing modestly but at the same time no one should be shamed for dressing immodestly.
You know what shaming would look like? Shaming would be a whole video of name-calling and sneering and ridiculing. Maybe she would be bringing in pictures of specific women wearing specific immodest outfits. Maybe she would ask for examples of disgusting immodest women in the comments.
If you feel guilty listening to her content, that's a feeling that's originating within yourself because you, yourself, believe that you are doing something wrong. Abby is not making you feel that way. She is not shaming anyone.
Like those above me have stated, this video is not an attack on anyone who wishes to do the opposite.
If you feel attacked that’s not the fault of the woman in this video talking about the value of modesty for those who wish to follow that advice and giving women tips on how to dress modestly.
ok alot of people for some reason think i'm saying that she's shaming me or something lol when I literally never said that. I don't have any problem with abby nor do I feel like she's attacking anyone. Y'all need to calm down Lmao like wtf I was sharing my thoughts on the modesty subject so stop trying to create drama out of nothing
nobody should have to cover up more so other people don’t get the ‘wrong impression’ or so people don’t judge based off of body and not personality. if someone judges a person solely based off of the fact that they show more of their body, that’s wrong of THEM. it’s 2020. anybody should be able to go out feeling comfortable with their body and not feeling like people are only paying attention to the fact that they’re showing more of their body. nobody needs to change themselves or the way they dress, people need to change the way they react to it. people need to learn how to control themselves and learn that no matter how much of someone’s body is shown, you have no right to judge them based off of it.
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animeaintgay this "advice" does actually stem from religious beliefs and also you're a simp
animeaintgay the idea was that men shouldn't be blamed for not controlling themselves if the woman in question was "seducing" him. People wearing mini skirts can have long term relationships period.
animeaintgay lmfao it's a boomer simp
animeaintgay if I feel good about my body and want to show it off, then I will, although I normally do dress pretty modestly. It's dumb for her to act like this should be a societal standard.
I'm not a fan of this girl but being modest is not antifeminism. Its a good thing.
Thank you for sharing your perspective on this, regardless of the negativity you receive. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, etiquette, and rules to uphold for themselves. The people coming here to be offended shouldn't be watching this video in the first place. She is largely speaking to people that have the same standard for themselves and want advice. The advice is NOT being given to every woman in the country. Go by your own definition of modesty and dont go looking to people for advice who clearly have a different stance than you.
I thought I blocked this girl already...
gwen I’ve tried 5 times and it doesn’t work lol
ive tried blocking her for every ad of her i see which is a lot, and nothing has worked
i swear she’s on this earth to infuriate confident women
Mya fr! I’m confident in my relationship, personally style, and beliefs. How dare she say other wise. I’ve only seen less than a minute of her videos and she seems like she’s saying you either live like me or you’re not a good woman
Just dont watch her bruh its not hard
hi Abby! I'm a young teen and watching your vids had really changed the way I think about clothing and conservative views. I hope you continue doing what your doing and inspiring young girls like myself!
juju draws nooo not you too now
PLEASE NO NO NO NO NO STOP YOU STOP NOW ITS NOT TOO LATE
Stop. You guys telling her not to listen to this woman, and her taking in advice about dressing modestly, is the same thing when everyone says “let girls what they want!” And “stop sexualizing women” when they’re half naked in music videos. So that’s allowed, but this girl who wants to take this advice *CANNOT?* That’s complete hypocrisy, and wrong. Double standards are not okay. Can’t say yes on one, no one the other. This nice girl has her OWN voice, knows what she’s doing obviously if she’s ended up here on UA-cam, and has free will and free rights. So stop the hypocrisy.
Cassidy Anne im not telling her how to dress, but some of this womans views are just like why? Like young kids shouldnt being having those views
Another tip is getting long cardigans to wear with shorter dresses or shorts. It’s a cheaper way to start becoming more modest without feeling like you need a whole new wardrobe.
Keely M 💯
The proportion of likes and dislikes of this video says a lot about the world we are living in today in 2020, where people are basically constantly getting closer to normalizing nudity. I've even seen people refusing to admit that wearing bikini is the same as wearing underwear, citing the cultural difference and stuff, which to me doesn't even make any sense.
Although I'm neither a woman or jewish, keep up the good work! It's a relief seeing more and more conservative and religious people speaking up.
I’m not judging anyone who dressed more “modest” but when you said to cover up so men don’t objectify you is just not the message little girls should be getting. Girls should grow up allowed to wear whatever they want that they feel comfortable in and if that means they wanna look hot and wear short shorts and a sports bra out then they should do that and not have to be told boys will be boys when they get cat called or objectified. So of course women can dress modest that’s great for them but we shouldn’t hold girls to this double standard. And if this isn’t a double standard to you then can you please address how you think men should dress more modest so they are just assumed to want a short term relationship for sex??
The whole concept of wanting to look “hot” is about sexuality. A lot of women sexualize themselves intentionally and then ask not to be objectified. Personally the way I see it is people can wear whatever they want and nobody can or should try to force them not to. But dressing modestly is classy, dressing immodestly is not. If you want to attract classy people into your life you won’t find them by being unclassy. It’s the same sort of reason that you don’t go to a club to find the love of your life Romeo. Unless you do haha
Hannibal I understand where your coming from and honestly mostly agree accept women dressing hot then getting objectified is the whole issue like men can wear what ever they want and be fine but as soon as a woman shows some skin then she’s just a piece of ass or whatever this is a horrible double standard bc no one is “asking for it” based on how they dress.
You are the role model so many young girls need now and days. Thank you so much!💜
Pop she’s encouraging really healthy behavior, she’s a successful career woman and admits she’s not perfect. Seems much better than a lot of pop stars that young girls tend to look up to. Who else would you suggest?
Pop then why are you watching?
I dont think this is the person young girls should be looking up to 😂
Bruh, dress however the heck you want. Modern clothing is self expression, wear what you are comfortable with. This ad is ridiculous
Thanks for keeping your head up. Your comment sections show just how difficult it is to be a conservative in our crappy culture. Keep up the good work and stay strong fellow conservatives 💪🏻
Modesty on the beach is so cool! That's basically comforable sun protection.
But I wanna be super tan
@@alexa-fx2fb Ooff almost 99% of skin aging is photoaging from mostly the UVA- rays. Switch to a fake tan for your skin health. Dr Dray has a video on sun protection.
@@yms4355 wearing sunscreen protects your skin while still getting a tan
Boomer smh
Totally agree about finding fashionable options and still being modest! My style tends to flip flop between vintage and bohemian. I wear a lot of oversized/flowy pieces when I want to be more casual, and more tailored vintage things when I want to be more professional or dressed up. I do a lot of my shopping at boutique stores and always find great modest pieces but still feel very modern and fashionable in them!
I’m honestly just glad she didn’t mention the finger tip rule with shorts.
Uh is the man viewing me sexually their issue? I don’t want to be married to a man who has no self control
dont show off every part of your body and that wont be a problem
So many feminists will attack her for this but then stand up for muslim women who wear hijabs. So hypocritical.
So true!!! One is praised while the other is torn down
I’ve never met a Muslim woman who said I didn’t respect myself because of the way I dress :)
@@natmaccc my neighbors are muslim and they think I'm the biggest slut ever because of the way I dress
that bitch so true
@takis lover you my think so but I know many feminists who stand up for it
i haven't finished the video yet but i already love your opinions and think you're telling them in a great way! you aren't pressuring anyone into having the same viewpoints as you which is so great! 💓
She said women don’t respect their bodies if they don’t dress modestly. Your body is not a distraction, it’s your body, your vessel that’s gets you around. You are not sexual just for existing and having sexual organs.
This is such a sweet video, also I like that my butch/masc style 100% fits into “modesty culture” whilst also being comfortable and authentic to me :D
I'm LDS, in our faith we wear thin white clothes under our regular clothes to represent our inward and personal devotion to God. Because of that we keep our shoulders covered and we are covered to a little above the knee and everything in between (except of course when swimming and working out and such). I just thought I would share If anyone wanted to know haha xx. Loved this video though! I think sometimes as women we have a hard time knowing how to be modest and fashionable, but it's definitely something achievable if you want it!
I left a comment basically just like this! Except I think you should know that lots of members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints do wear their garments while working out. ☺️
Mormon church isn’t real. Read the cesletter.org
Don’t forget the weird temple clothes too and the green aprons!
I am LDS as well
I normally hate the modesty talk... I grew up very religious “women are property” I now wear what I’m happy and comfortable in. I watched this in a mini skirt and low cut top 🙈 that being said you actually have some pretty good advice in this video for women that want to dress modestly. You seem very sweet maybe one day I’ll listen to your advice:) ps I did ask you a modesty question on Instagram so I hope you will get to it in your next video.
Did you catch the part when she said showing your body means you’re not respecting it?
Yolii oh I must have missed that I actually feel like for me personally when I show off my body I’m respecting it because I was always taught that my body is bad and should be covered. If she feels differently that’s up to her but she shouldn’t say that women that choose otherwise are disrespecting themselves:)
Idk what drugs ur on but she thinks your dress sense is ‘garbage’ and that you disrespect your body by wearing what you want 😌but sis go off carry on supporting her
Vidhi Patel I’m not on drugs. As I already said it’s wrong for her to judge others we all come from different walks of life I’ll I was saying is that she did give some helpful tips for women that want to dress like her. She made other videos in that I strongly disagree with.
Girl be free.
I come from a Jewish family but mine and my mother's generations no longer practice. I appreciate Abby trying to keep the culture alive but to me, true modesty is about acceptance and understanding that you only have direct authority over yourself. Judging others for wearing skimpy clothes doesn't get us anywhere. Besides, worrying about appearances so much doesn't strike me as humble.
I can still eat and be thankful for my challah and salmon while wearing a crop top :)
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I have dressed modestly most of my life due to shame about my body from personal experiences. I’ve never looked at it as a choice but rather as something I had to do in order to “protect” myself from the gaze of men. It’s interesting to hear the perspective of someone who is actively choosing it, not out of fear.
I enjoy watching your videos! I found them through the ads and yes! Thank you for being a positive, conservative voice! Praying for you!
So glad you're here!
Ok but how come dudes don't have to dress modestly?
Right? I remember going to youth group as a teen and seeing guys wear tank tops that showed their nipples. Yet, I, as a teenage girl, couldn't show my shoulders or above my knees??
they do.
@@GABBYLIGER really? Like how?
U don't ever hear adults telling dudes to dress modestly.
@@motherofallfrogs6902 well most people don't tell boys to dress modestly but that's wrong. for boys to be modest, they're not supposed to wear shirts or pants that are too tight, anything too short, y'know, the basics. nowadays boys are wearing girls shorts which.. yikes.
@@GABBYLIGER Well, I guess that makes sense. But I feel like most guys WANT to wear baggy clothes. So, no one has to tell them what they should and shouldn't wear. Most guys don't care about fashion just being comfortable.
That’s like saying stores should hide all of their products so people don’t steal
That’s a perfect representation wow, good job😂
Really like seeing this channel. Like a breath of fresh air. I dont understand why she gets so much hate while hundreds and thousands of others post same or more extreme content but are hailed as women empowerment. Make it make sense. Being modest is also a choice. Respect it.
I'm totally more comfortable wearing swim shorts and a t-shirt at the pool/beach. Maybe overkill on modesty, but it's so much more comfortable
I'm the same way. I like not having to worry about having sunscreen on my back.
Not over kill if that’s how you feel most conferable
Dressing so men don’t pay attention to you is dressing for men...just wear what you want to wear and your fine
Say it louder for the people in the back
Next video could you also show some examples of the outfits your talking about? I'm having a hard time imagining it. thank you! I love yiu!
Really appreciate your channel, hope the unfair criticisms recently aren't demotivating you.
I like how you brought up modesty in behavior. Another part of that, I think, is trying to be discrete as you can with your emotions. Namely, I don't think it's necessary for anyone to post every little feeling they have on social media for the world to see. I have a lot of girlfriends that do this. They will post something vague about something someone did that upset them, and the rest of us are expected to just show sympathy for them without having all the facts. Emotionally mature people just don't do that, in my opinion.
Thank you for this, I need to stop posting so much!
Whatever man. What a boomer. Don't show sympathy if you don't want to you sociopath.
I’m glad someone else mentioned having a hard time at Forever 21 😂
Although it’s a bit expensive, Talbots has some nice classic styles that are predominantly modest.
Tori Easter Yes! I own some pieces from Talbots. I love Banana Republic too.
I totally agree!
I love my Talbots Outlet for saving some $$ on their stuff. ☺️
You can find a lot of Talbots at thrift stores though!!
Talbots, J.Crew/Factory, Ralph Lauren, H&M, and Zara are all places I pull from for modest clothes. I love buying modest skirts at ModCloth and inheritco.com. And many you can find on sites like Poshmark if you are looking for a deal!
What I find funny are all the not negative comments here....why the hell are you taking time out of your lives to watch her video and comment? So you disagree, so skip the video...duh
Sad to see so many women tear you apart for wanting to be more modest
Lol
Respecting your body is wearing what you want in 2020 and not allowing creeps to sexualize you. Making them uncomfortable for such ill manners rather then being made to feel uncomfortable in your body or shamed for it because of someone else's concept of modesty based on male subjugations in society.
Remember you’re watching her channel UNFORCED stop complaining when, people put animal abuse on their UA-cam channel. Seriously 🤡. If she wants to be modest respect to her, cause that takes respect and self restraint idec about all the hate I’m about to get😭
Pretty sure people can be disgusted by more than one thing on a channel
I like displaying my body because i love myself
And you continue to do that! Don't let a drama seeking woman on the internet tell you how to dress.
I dress modestly most of the time and I make it my point to try. It’s what makes me more comfortable. I hate it when other people point out that I have a nice body and therefore have to show it off. It makes me uncomfortable.. I’m not an object, it is unnecessary for you to look at my body. My friends usually make it seem like its a horrible thing and super outdated. Why does my nice outfit that just happens to also covers most of my legs and arms automatically a bad outfit? Also, I think that everyone should wear what makes them comfortable and happy. Can we normalize wearing clothing that is appropriate for an occasion?
yes you should wear anything that makes you comfortable! however the issue is that you shouldnt have to dress in a modest way to not be objectified. women could walk out on the town butt ass naked and they still wouldnt deserve to be objectified. the issue is societys view of women, not what you wear.
Zuania Morales the issue isn’t modesty. We’re not bashing modesty. We’re bashing women like Abby who bring down other women for not wanting to dress modestly. No one deserves hate for their outfit choices. But they do deserve hate if they’re running around hating on women for doing whatever they want.
Your friends are jerks
@@bblleeppbblloopp it's biology genius. This generation is insane
@@janedoe3648 oh biology makes men catcall and otherwise sexually harass women? lmao take a biology class genius
Thank You for clarifying what is modesty because teens are feeling it is very oppressive.
Read “Modesty” by Martha Peace. Modesty is more than just a change of clothes, it’s an attitude of the heart that is cherished by God.
I love Abbys style!!!! 😍 Learning so much. Love your channel Abby ❤
I know this doesn’t really apply to these questions but what’s your opinion on LGBTQ+ issues
Who cares
thank you so much for being here for us conservatives, i make this comment on nearly every video and i mean it every single time. i love you so much and thank you for the strength you have because i certainty don't have the strength. you have helped me so much since i started watching you!!
Wow I am here early and I can’t believe how respectful and sweet the comments are early!
You're amazing. I dont understand why so many haters persecute you, you're awesome and continue to do what you do. There's nothing wrong with being conservative, educated, nice etc. May God bless you!!!!
This popped up as an ad right underneath the Wap video I was watching 😂
A lot of people, including myself, struggle a lot with trying to define what kind of clothing is modest. I have found it extremely helpful to look at the dress code for royal women (Kate Middleton). This woman is expected to dress modestly, and she pulls it off very well. The rules she is expected to follow I find easy to emulate, I don’t think it is oppressive at all.
I noticed you liked my reply. Thank you! I don’t see eye to eye with you on some things, but I believe that you have the right to share your opinions just like everyone else. I have subscribed to your channel and I just want to give you some advice. Part of the reason why a lot of people don’t like you is because of your ads. People don’t like to spammed. I think that if you pull back on the advertising you would have a lot more success in growing you base. Just let people come to you and your channel will organically grow.
When shopping at forever 21, the fabric is often really cheap. I got a maxi skirt that looked very elegant, but it turned out very revealing. So just be weary! 💖
Is WAP modest
I love dressing more modestly. It reminds me of my relationship with God throughout the day.
@@herbivarsawus4359 how does it feel to drag fellow women for their body choices
@Herbi Varsawus you will be sad on the Day of Judgment, and that’s an extreme understatement.
That Girl be respectful of the way others want to live
It's ok to be modest and it's ok to not be modest! God will still love you!
Found you through your adds and I’m so glad I did !!!! Keep doing what you’re doing !
Thank you Abby! I really like your videos and your style
I’ve always been a modest dresser. Probably even more so than my mother. I wear T-shirts and jeans, because that’s what I’m the most comfortable in. I’ve also been cold natured most of my life so it’s more practical I think.
Okay, I’m only 2min 30 seconds in and what I’m understanding is: the goal is to become “extra” modest, aka long sleeves long dresses. ... not sure if I agree with you, girl. It’s okay for girls to want to feel attractive and sexy. Oppression is not the right way of doing this.
This is really great. It's very new and fresh. I think more women need to hear this side of society.
Modesty can be attractive and feels more rewarding long-term
Once I started to dress modestly and follow tzniut standards I honestly felt like my personality was shining through more because people were forced to listen to me and what I was SAYING instead of just looking at my body!
Thank you for this important subject. Women these days are walking around practically naked....then they wonder why their member cheat....and what about kids at the beach? They don't need to see a bare body with strings covering parts. Confidence is more than needing the sexual attention. We as a society need to encourage women feeling great and be more ambitious, not just sexual. Its small mind thinking...which is the problem w what's popular. Empowering women is more than sexuality.
Or just... dress however you want.. like everyone else.... and not make a video about why "modesty" is a fashion now, no. This is weird and meaningless and tasteless. Adapt and evolve, this isn't it ladies. Don't follow this woman's ideas.
i think this video is fine if you actually want to dress modestly. her other video "why YOU should dress modestly" sounded like she wants every woman to dress in a modest way. what i wear is for me and me alone. i dont care if i look too revealing or whatever. as long as i'm comfortable and feel good about myself.
The high waisted bikini is where it’s at for me! Especially if it’s 50s inspired.
I love those too!
Have you seen the long sleeve one piece with a zipper in front ugh its soo cute. I really dont like bikinis might as well wear my bra and underwear lol
Tara Guzman i actually got a sleeveless zip up one piece from the Black Widow collection at Hot Topic. Arguably its sexier than any bikini.
I like how people are shaming her and being judgemental for following a modest lifestyle. For some people, staying old fashioned and following a modest lifestyle is comfortable and it empowers them. She isn't telling you how you need to live. Thought 2020 was about acceptance? smh
Before you read this just wanna say I’m not trying to attack you, just say my opinion. While I think some of these comments are attacking, most are more jokes/trolling and mostly respectful opinions. Although I get what you’re saying. And for me personally, the issue I have with this video are not the tips on modesty, they’re fine, but the reasons. All of them are to please men. Which is just dumb, dress modestly for you, but not for men. This entire mentality is feeding into the idea that women are “asking for” sexual harassment and do every little thing to please men.
Never have kids. They'll hate you
there’s nothing wrong with her message, in fact it’s probably useful for teenagers who feel uncomfortable with the pressure of constantly wearing clothes that are showy or flashy and want guidance on how to feel more comfortable. perhaps you shouldn’t have kids if your so intolerant to other people having different opinions.
every comment on here is talking about her controlling what we should wear when she’s literally saying we have different options for modest clothing. she literally said short shorts that cover your butt cheeks are fine. if that’s too modest for you then idk what to tell you, but no one wants to see your butt cheeks. she’s literally saying to embrace inner beauty and have people like you for your personality rather than just your body. that if you are looking for a man-she didn’t say in order to attract a man-she said if you are making your own decision to find yourself a man, then take into consideration how he views you. she made good points about how wearing more “sexy” clothing will make him view you as a short term fling rather than a long lasting relationship. I don’t understand why there’s backlash about that. it’s literally science that men are more visual while women are more emotional beings. if you’re trying to find a husband, finding a man who only wants you for your body isn’t the right choice. I hate to make this about finding a man when it’s really about you showing your best self, but you need to find a man who will respect you and love you for you. not your body. am I saying that it’s not possible? no. a man can definitely love you and your body, but if he loves your body first, he’s not in this with the right intentions or mindset and you deserve better than that.
The whole “men are visual creatures” is bullshit. Just because some men are douches and see women as objects just because they wear stuff that shows more skin, is not our problem. And we shouldn’t have to fix this by dressing modestly, cause it’s not our fault. It’s ok to dress modestly if it’s for you and because you like it, but she shouldn’t feed into the idea that women need to constantly be pleasing men.
You gave some great tips! I would say we have similar ideas of “modesty”. 👏🏼👏🏼 I am really tall and it is VERY hard for me to dress in the summer modestly, cool, and comfortably but it can be done! 😊👏🏼
Why are there so many hateful women in the comment section? I'm a single guy and I'm much more attracted to a woman who dresses the way Abby is describing. Beautiful, but respectful and responsible. A girl with character is truly beautiful. Abby thank you so much for being a truly beautiful woman, as well as girls who are doing their best to have character in a culture that is attacking true beauty and femininity. God bless you! And keep fighting for women--the best creation God has made so far!
No offense dude, but you’re apart of the issue that and so is Abby. Abby is saying dress modestly to please men, if you don’t then you’re just asking for a bad guy. Then you’re saying yeah! I like when women dress modestly. Which is not the point. The point is for women and girls to dress to feel comfortable.
@@bellem4310 it sounds like you're trying to make people uncomfortable for following the convictions of their hearts, and trying to care about men's hearts and their own hearts (which is showing character). So why come on here and attack Abby and other girls who are trying to go against flow and what's easy?
Comfort is not the ultimate underlying principle of the universe. Loving people is. That means thinking about how our words and actions affect other people. It's not always easy, but it's always worth it. How can acting loving and caring about others be wrong?
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Lol you completely changed what I said. I said the idea that dressing modestly to please men is bs, and you and Abby feeding into that is not cool. Don’t go all holy on me, you just said what women want to wear is less important than whatever you believe the principal of the universe is.
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And just to clear things up (sorry I didn’t say this in the original reply) I’m totally fine with people dressing modestly. That’s chill. What I don’t like is people dressing modestly to please other people.
@@bellem4310 you have a problem with trying to please people? I say nice things and treat people well because that's how you should treat other people, and that's pleasing others. What is wrong with that?
...maybe I don't understand your point, or what it is that you're bothered about with my statement. You think it's wrong for me to be attracted to someone who is sending a message that they care about having character? ...isn't being attracted to someone for the content of their heart what someone should be doing?
My favorite store is H+M. I am a young woman kinda transitioning from my teen years. They are amazing for finding modest cheap clothes as a teenager and also they have some more professional clothing to transition to that young adult fashion.
The reason I dont dress modestly is because I hate feeling like theres 90% of fabric on my body. And I realized that instead of blaming women for being sexualised, catcalled etc, we need to be blaming men. We are not the problem. The sick perverts are. Our breasts are NOT sexual objects. The fact that you are a woman and basically calling yourself a sexual object breaks my heart. God will love me whether I dress modest or not♡
Yesss girl
My body has a hard time regulating temperature bc of an autoimmune disorder, and in the summertime where I live it can be nearly 100 degrees for months. I dress as close to naked as is socially acceptable bc the heat makes me lightheaded (lol). I’ve been judged by Christians for this, even my close friends. Just for wearing a cute tank top and shorts (which were quite short but whatever). My point is, not everyone is dressing “immodestly” bc they don’t respect their bodies-for many of us, it’s bc we do 💕
I like what you said about wearing a nude camisol. I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and we have a special garment we wear under our clothes at all times for the same reason. Basically a t-shirt and shorts. So we're never going to be less modest than our garments allow! :)
I love anthropology for clothes that cover up more but are SOO cute!! Downside is that it’s expensive :( amazing quality clothes though
Does she know boobs aren’t a sexual part of a woman’s body?
They aren’t though. Breasts are secondary sex characteristics, meaning they’re there to so you can tell men from women, and they’re primary function is not for the making of children. Breasts primary function is to feed babies. However, because of the misogynistic nature of the world, breasts have become overly sexualized to the point where they have become something they were never meant to be. I.e people, like this woman, believing they need to be covered up because they’ll make people, I.e men, feel sexual feelings. And quite frankly, that’s sad, because that’s not what breasts are for.
animeaintgay I mean..... any part of the body can become stimulated??? But it’s not because it’s a sex organ.
animeaintgay that,.... doesn’t change what breasts ARE. See, what you’re describing is a sexual attraction, or feeling TO breasts. Breasts themselves are NOT sexual. They are FOR feeding children, NOT sex. I don’t know how else to explain this to you.
animeaintgay no, they’re not sexual. Society has made them sexual. They are not sexual. I don’t know how to explain this to you.
Let me tell you something: struttin my stuff in my thong bikini makes me feel straight 🔥🔥🔥 BECAUSE I work hard, eat well, and because I respect my body enough to know that I am strong, independent, and who I am is way more than what my body looks like. We all have bodies. It’s just a butt. Get over it. If dressing modest is what makes you feel confident... wonderful. I 100% respect your decision to do that. But you should respect others’ decisions to dress however they choose. Imma keep doing what makes me happy and confident.
Thats crazy, but I don't remember asking.
Maria Lopez she didn’t have to ask you
Yes go queen! ♥️♥️