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  • @beckywolcott2680
    @beckywolcott2680 2 роки тому +178

    Oh my gosh, the designer claims to have a passion for getting to know who the client is and what they like, yet she puts a cow rug on the bedroom floor for a vegetarian. Winning.

    • @pupikatz8442
      @pupikatz8442 2 роки тому +32

      Totally disrespectful

    • @trishk.7876
      @trishk.7876 Рік тому +17

      Couldn't agree more. Those cow hide "rugs" are hideous.

    • @natgarrison2300
      @natgarrison2300 Рік тому +7

      Yep shocking!

    • @tional5266
      @tional5266 Рік тому

      Not a vegan, just bc she doesn’t east it doesn’t mean she can’t walk on it, the shopping addict lady probably bought it

    • @tional5266
      @tional5266 Рік тому +6

      Plus it looks fake and they had it before hand

  • @SueRosalie
    @SueRosalie 2 роки тому +54

    Instead of asking her to choose random clothing items to keep, they should have had a style expert help and teach her how to put together a capsule wardrobe of mix and match items out of what she had.

    • @SueRosalie
      @SueRosalie 2 роки тому +3

      Understanding French chic style concepts and "shopping from your wardrobe" would have helped her let go of her stuff.

    • @gigimarie5325
      @gigimarie5325 Рік тому

      Great idea!

  • @ellen3883
    @ellen3883 2 роки тому +51

    This "designer" and "expert dealer" show zero compassion when dealing with these people. Why even ask someone what their style is or what they like if you don't even listen to a thing they say. These people need some psychiatric help to find out WHY they hoard, not to just be bullied into selling all their possessions and into bad design.

    • @alphawhiskey2922
      @alphawhiskey2922 Рік тому +2

      I believe you just wrote the synopsis for this entire show.

  • @kellyandthehorses2877
    @kellyandthehorses2877 2 роки тому +193

    I'm really shocked that no mental health provider was helping Amy. That poor woman. I hope she's okay now. She totally was railroaded into getting rid of all her stuff with no process to work through her issue to heal and move forward.

    • @jademoon7938
      @jademoon7938 2 роки тому +35

      I agree, also why would* her fiancé would set a date for a wedding when he had one foot out the door?? That blew my mind. I'd never tell anyone I was engaged (or get engaged in the first place) to a man who was laying down ultimatums and was fully ready to walk away from our entire relationship.
      Hoarding is usually caused by trauma and mental illness. It's not that they just like pretty things. They have a serious problem interfering in their ability to function. They need real help.

    • @chloepresley2000
      @chloepresley2000 2 роки тому +11

      Absolutely.

    • @xSammyxSocksx
      @xSammyxSocksx 2 роки тому +32

      especially when the liquidator made an offer and her fiance said "do you want to get married or not?" ultimatums are not healthy

    • @raerae6422
      @raerae6422 2 роки тому +34

      Yeah, the show glosses over the extreme anguish Amy would experience throughout the cleanout/ sell-off. Im shocked they didnt have a psychologist that specialises in hoarding or addiction to help her. I feel she was neglected. The money raised would have been better spent on therapy for permanent change.

    • @lolgriffin3243
      @lolgriffin3243 2 роки тому +16

      They needed Stelios Kiosos!

  • @diemarkerin
    @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +265

    Marrying a hoarder while you can't cope with the situation caused by the hoarding is like literally digging your own grave.

    • @christinebutler7630
      @christinebutler7630 2 роки тому +27

      Not to mention that raising kids with such a person is abusive.

    • @sherritradup9542
      @sherritradup9542 2 роки тому +10

      @@christinebutler7630 agree with you 💯

    • @kimsherlock8969
      @kimsherlock8969 2 роки тому +7

      Yeah
      I feel for the patient boyfriend
      Many dont stay around to give it a go 💯
      Best Wishes them.

    • @Sinsteel
      @Sinsteel 2 роки тому +9

      She's lucky she's pretty lol. I wonder where they are now.

    • @kimsherlock8969
      @kimsherlock8969 2 роки тому +3

      @@feliciaschoenfeld5177 I will Thankyou

  • @shicruisin7004
    @shicruisin7004 2 роки тому +223

    This is the most horrible interior decorator/designer! Bullying paying clients into agreeing to what SHE wants in their homes! And then her tastes are SO terrible, and its all the same ideas/concepts! DARK! and finished off untidely! But SHE thinks she's brilliant!

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +23

      Couldn't agree more. She's rather a destroyer than a designer. She would have been better off working as a tax inspector maybe.

    • @rebeccagable9629
      @rebeccagable9629 2 роки тому +20

      The painted shoes were really stupid!

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому

      @@rebeccagable9629 incredibly stupid indeed! Hardly ever seen something so tacky.

    • @amandabartell1502
      @amandabartell1502 2 роки тому +5

      I agree, it's awful.

    • @cindyinaz2357
      @cindyinaz2357 2 роки тому +12

      I would have been in tears….horrible, isn’t strong enough!

  • @betzabesuazo9784
    @betzabesuazo9784 2 роки тому +103

    Personally, the interior design for the 3 rooms could have been done better. The dark walls shrink the rooms and cause a dark and gloomy atmosphere.

  • @Sheerkat7
    @Sheerkat7 2 роки тому +194

    In the first one, the "designer" forced them. She didn't listen to anything they said they didn't like. Someone (a hoarder) dealing with depression shouldn't have to live in gray rooms. The rooms all look half the size as they did in white paint. It all looked very community college interior designer class project at the reveal. The painted shoes and rug at the end were insulting. Where is the first couple 10 years later? Is she living alone in her hoard with 12 cats?

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +42

      I saw that, too. No good idea to make a goth cave out of the house especially with such small rooms and low ceilings.... if she's having depressions causing the hoarding disorder this will make matters just worst!

    • @HumbleMonsterUK
      @HumbleMonsterUK 2 роки тому +19

      When she said soft pink both fiancé and designer said no at the same time 🙄

    • @oulibemusic1257
      @oulibemusic1257 2 роки тому +16

      By " helping" the hoarder, the cumpulsive designlady satiesfied ber needs...😊😊

    • @minnesotagal507
      @minnesotagal507 2 роки тому +21

      That first house was awful.

    • @HumbleMonsterUK
      @HumbleMonsterUK 2 роки тому +14

      @@oulibemusic1257 Exactly adding colours she likes and her style 🙄 I said this before there was a Barbie on the floor I mean you get the idea what the hoarder would like.

  • @jemjarvs
    @jemjarvs 2 роки тому +73

    The design of the first house is just horrible, dingy, dirty looking, claustrophobic and dark. I would have been gutted! How on earth can she describe herself as 'a designer'?

  • @kendallk1130
    @kendallk1130 2 роки тому +212

    In 30+ years of watching home makeover shows that first house has always stood out to me as the most horrific re-do, I felt so bad for the couple who were clearly trying to be polite about the disaster the designer made of their home. The house could have been done up so simple and fresh but instead looked like a poorly-executed Hallowe'en horror house. I always wondered how fast the couple repainted everything and ripped out those ghastly shoes on the mantle...

    • @syrenadurager
      @syrenadurager Рік тому +15

      YES. What interior designer thinks painting old shoes is a statement!!!!! Mental statement???

    • @kendallk1130
      @kendallk1130 Рік тому +4

      @@syrenadurager 🤣🤣 right?

    • @Antoninavinstonova
      @Antoninavinstonova Рік тому +6

      The designer completely misread the young man or just ignored him. He even tried to tell her and she just brushed over it. And the painted shoes LOL

    • @kendallk1130
      @kendallk1130 Рік тому +5

      @@Antoninavinstonova the shoes would have broke me 🤣

    • @loriminnesota
      @loriminnesota Рік тому +10

      I was thinking the exact same thing. I work in design, and IMHO - This looked cheap and cluttered. I would be crying, too. NOT tears of joy!

  • @terrylutze4939
    @terrylutze4939 2 роки тому +95

    Wow, the place went from hoarded to dark and dank looking.....very depressing colours.......poor couple

    • @Dustandfuzz
      @Dustandfuzz 2 роки тому +16

      Yes,it was dark except in the one room that needs to be dark…the bedroom! What’s up with that? I would need a different interior designer. Do not like dark colours in anything but the bedroom. Even there I don’t like a dark colour but I do need it dark. She also seems to make a lot of business going on which I don’t like. Designers need to take into consideration what the home owners tastes are.

    • @icecreamgirlrockyroad3547
      @icecreamgirlrockyroad3547 2 роки тому +6

      Horrible

    • @misspage6447
      @misspage6447 2 роки тому

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @shelannejacksonhutton2034
    @shelannejacksonhutton2034 2 роки тому +65

    I was so angry with the designer on the first house. She's a vegetarian!!! I would literally be sick if someone put a cow skin on my floor, house still looked cluttered but with stuff that didn't reflect the personalities of the young couple! How did that help? And the painted shoes looked beyond awful.

    • @Robin-jc1ls
      @Robin-jc1ls Рік тому +10

      I agree about the Cow rug. That was completely insensitive and shows how little research they did about this couple. I hope she took it out of there and apologized.

    • @Vashti_Online
      @Vashti_Online Рік тому +7

      Was not a good resume for this ‘designer’. Horrid.

    • @violetscreaming
      @violetscreaming Рік тому +2

      Not everyone is vegetarian due to animal welfare reasons, some people just don’t want to eat meat.

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 Рік тому +2

      I have a friend who is a designer, he ASKS his clients what they want and has them approve everything BEFORE doing it

    • @mightymouse1005
      @mightymouse1005 Рік тому +2

      The designer needs to learn, she's Not decorating HER house

  • @sazennonumber
    @sazennonumber Рік тому +37

    I only made it half way through the first "make-over" and I am disgusted with the arrogance of the sales guy, as well as the "interior designer" and even Amy's fiance. They all barked at her without an ounce of understanding for what she's going through. They all acted as if hoarding or shopping addiction is something you can just snap out of. Amy was so kind and graceful... unbelievably so. How would they feel if someone took all of their stuff, told them that it's not okay to have that much and then to make them stand and watch strangers going through their stuff and taking it away for peanuts of money. Poor Amy. I wish she becomes able and willing to reduce acquiring and holding on to stuff and continues to live happy and healthy. 💖

  • @Carrie_13
    @Carrie_13 2 роки тому +46

    This young woman needs INTENSE THERAPY to even have a chance at saving her marriage before she's even walked down that aisle.

  • @francescarubera
    @francescarubera 2 роки тому +38

    The design is just wrong , you don't put swanky new york gentleman's club into cottage!!!! Is she really designer , I find this is error...She should go with different theme , something close to cottage ...not dark dingy small celling, claustrophobic, uneven walls , that dinning furniture is just insult to this cottage...
    I personally hate it , is not execute to standard...

    • @sophiaerling7714
      @sophiaerling7714 2 роки тому

      It is a disaster. U hope he got ile to at least go and buy 10 kilos of white paint before she bought clothing and shoes again...unless she could wear the ones on the fireplace🤣

  • @themrsedmonson
    @themrsedmonson 2 роки тому +46

    I think I would sue the designer on the first house. She turned that house into a depressing dungeon. I don't think any of those people have ever painted before either. 🤦🏼‍♀️

    • @GeeEee75
      @GeeEee75 Рік тому +2

      Yep, it looks like they ran out of paint before they got enough coats on.

  • @LazygirlLA892
    @LazygirlLA892 2 роки тому +59

    Honestly they should have taken the 2k and put it all towards the wedding. If I had that design in my home I'd probably go back to hoarding

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +8

      Haha yeah hoarding and piling up things to hide the ugly interieur mishap

    • @TurquoiseInk
      @TurquoiseInk 2 роки тому +4

      The money should have gone into therapy

  • @carolynwalls6787
    @carolynwalls6787 2 роки тому +83

    I haven't even seen what this awful designer has done to the 2nd place and I am already heartbroken that the woman is giving up her bespoke ring that her husband designed. Why should she give up valuable items she likes in exchange for cheap junk and bad colors selected by someone who doesn't even treat the homeowners like clients?

    • @edwardbrianna9729
      @edwardbrianna9729 Рік тому +3

      Exactly! Well said!

    • @lizziebkennedy7505
      @lizziebkennedy7505 Рік тому +3

      This! The designer is shockingly bad and so incapable of incorporating the being a of these people.

    • @elalogar7340
      @elalogar7340 Рік тому

      It's just unbelievable. The show was supposed to be about getting rid of the hoarded items, not people's valuables. Horrible, just horrible.

  • @Stephanie-lg1cm
    @Stephanie-lg1cm 2 роки тому +51

    The first house design was truly awful, the designer really didn’t listen to the brief and did what she wanted, it was a hotch potch of colour and design and everything fought everything else; I would have been absolutely miserable in that home. The second one was marginally better but again looked as though the designer had picked up random items from the curb side and painted them with whatever colour she had on hand. The feature (half) wall was too busy and the print was blurry, not relaxing at all. I feel this home owner will be less enthusiastic as time goes on and I think some of the items will find themselves back on the curb. Design is very personal but when you design for someone else you have to leave personal preferences behind and create something they would be happy living in, I don’t think she achieved that.

  • @kittyatkinson1988
    @kittyatkinson1988 2 роки тому +234

    I think the designer needs a new career path

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +12

      Tax collector would be more suitable

    • @MusedeMented
      @MusedeMented 2 роки тому +9

      No kidding. Yech.

    • @celestewatson4874
      @celestewatson4874 2 роки тому +4

      Yall. It was 12 years ago. And it's a different vernacular of house. And British tastes are very different to American tastes. It's not my taste either, but that wasn't alot of money when the British pound was stronger long before Brexit.

    • @MusedeMented
      @MusedeMented 2 роки тому +34

      @@celestewatson4874 I'm not American; I'm British-Australian, and that was bad taste even 12 years ago.

    • @CTBDF
      @CTBDF Рік тому +4

      Horrible

  • @missyb7411
    @missyb7411 2 роки тому +30

    Everyone's comments are spot on... listen to your clients and what they want or need not what you want/like. The design should make them happy and serene, not on edge and regretful. Each client should have therapy to deal with why they hoard.

  • @tigerlily8976
    @tigerlily8976 2 роки тому +44

    This interior design is a nasty woman. ‘I want to paint your house lilac’ ‘I don’t like lilac’ well we’re gonna paint it lilac anyway even though it’s your house and you don’t like it 😂

    • @lucyt4378
      @lucyt4378 2 роки тому

      It wasn't even "lilac," it was a light gray that looked like the primer you apply to a car before painting it. UGLY

  • @superchubbles
    @superchubbles 2 роки тому +50

    The low ceilings in that first house are making me feel claustrophobic.

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +1

      Me too and I'm a dwarf 😂

    • @SousChef77
      @SousChef77 2 роки тому +1

      Yes...and gray/white/black is so depressing. I am only 5'2" and I would not like dark walls and ceilings, but my walls are peach and my kitchen is aqua...so what do I know? (I know I love my happy, colorful home....and that is enough for me.)

    • @ripley_asher
      @ripley_asher Рік тому

      Same 😬 I don't know how that's even legal.

  • @MsTellitlikeitis48WithTheTea
    @MsTellitlikeitis48WithTheTea 2 роки тому +21

    I feel that man that is "helping" them is "NOT" he is not getting them a bang for their buck (sell $200.00 items for $10 - $20. The lady with the purple blouse has 2 pieces of furniture with the mouse on it worth millions and he knows that. Just two pieces of those furniture which she owns meets her goal alone. They need to bring ALL of her expensive furniture back in her house. And that lady needs to listen to her customer and fulfill "Their" wishes, NOT Hers.

  • @georgefannon5227
    @georgefannon5227 2 роки тому +80

    These people should be able to pick their own colors of everything just keep them in budget

    • @aliciacb8284747274
      @aliciacb8284747274 2 роки тому +10

      Especially considering that they’re actually paying for it

  • @tracyholliday2200
    @tracyholliday2200 2 роки тому +47

    I think the first designer is designing a home for herself, not the client! This girl was bullied from all sides into getting rid of possessions, disgraceful !

  • @loriannrichardson7644
    @loriannrichardson7644 2 роки тому +30

    Why get rid of the woman's books and bookshelves and then paper the walls in bookshelf wallpaper???

  • @xoxoxo81
    @xoxoxo81 2 роки тому +38

    Being a hoarder is a mental health problem. Decluttering is a good way but probably the woman needs to seek a therapist first. I’m pretty sure sooner or later she’ll be doing the same thing.

  • @valerieboston6292
    @valerieboston6292 2 роки тому +34

    Never never marry a hoarder unless they get counseling first to help them deal with what's making them hoard in the first place. They will just start all over again. Don't do it You are going to end up miserable. She seems very sweet and she's very beautiful but it's not worth it.

    • @HelenaRG71
      @HelenaRG71 Рік тому +1

      I am wondering where they are now; it seems that was about 12 years ago! Beauty will fade but hoarders will hoard their entire life if they don't get stopped. She needs a therapy and her credit cards should be blocked. What if they want kids? Will there be enough money for a family left?

  • @lorijames3974
    @lorijames3974 2 роки тому +33

    I do not like the designers aesthetic, at all. It’s sad that these people give up everything and get what they get from her.

  • @caroline-janehall1984
    @caroline-janehall1984 2 роки тому +78

    This has got to be one of the judgement programs I have ever watched in my life. People end up hoarding for a reason. 9 out of 10 times it to do with trauma, hoarding is a coping mechanism to it. This isn't dealing with that trauma 😕

    • @janebaker4912
      @janebaker4912 2 роки тому +4

      Exactly!

    • @alittlepieceofearth
      @alittlepieceofearth 2 роки тому +11

      Yes! It was dismissive to suggest that a pretty room could curb a serious mental health condition.

    • @Laura55sere
      @Laura55sere 2 роки тому

      People hoard because they are unhappy, perhaps she doesn’t want to get married after all.

    • @caroline-janehall1984
      @caroline-janehall1984 2 роки тому +1

      @@Laura55sere very true but I also think it's much more deeper then just unhappiness. It not just one thing it a combination of all different things. Thing that even hoarders might not even realise.

    • @beatamichalska6220
      @beatamichalska6220 2 роки тому +2

      I agree. This program doesn't solve anything. And home design is awful.

  • @NZSaskia
    @NZSaskia 2 роки тому +55

    I feel sorry for the first woman. First for being pressured to sell most of her clothes and even can’t keep her hair styler. And for what, dungeon rooms and non-vegan cow skin 😂

    • @28-sk8-masturb8
      @28-sk8-masturb8 2 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @28-sk8-masturb8
      @28-sk8-masturb8 2 роки тому

      Are you a kiwi?

    • @Kandi-Lu
      @Kandi-Lu 2 роки тому +3

      probably the worst design for a house i've seen..space was so small and she made it worse..

  • @marilynmills2273
    @marilynmills2273 2 роки тому +51

    I don’t think you should be getting married. She clearly has big problems which haven’t been addressed yet, not the best way to start a marriage 😢

  • @millissentflemmings2216
    @millissentflemmings2216 2 роки тому +30

    Giving someone a great interior is NO replacement for mental health care!! As someone who spent several years studying counseling, I can’t believe this young woman wasn’t offered any mental health support 😢

    • @trishk.7876
      @trishk.7876 Рік тому

      Not to mention that was far from a great interior!

  • @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933
    @donnaallgaier-lamberti3933 Рік тому +6

    When I married my husband, he was a collector. I was unaware of this but he had things stored at all of his friend homes and barns. When we moved to the country to a home with a ranch house and a pole barn he drove to all of his friends homes and retrieved his belongings. I was in shock because i had no idea of how much stuff he had. He had hid all of this from me. It only got worse. Over rhe next 20 years he continued to collect and often hid the items from me. He did not get better, he got worse....think twice about marrying this person....

    • @GeeEee75
      @GeeEee75 Рік тому

      Not a collector, a hoarder. I'm so sorry that this happened to you and it's not fair to hide such behaviour from someone you're going to live with.

  • @bozomahoney
    @bozomahoney 2 роки тому +36

    Ugh! WORST WALL COLOURS EVER!!

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 роки тому +6

      Agree, dark gray, dark blur, lilac geeeee, not coordinated

    • @Ms-Jones
      @Ms-Jones 2 роки тому +6

      Waaay too dark!

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 роки тому +5

      @@Ms-Jones Shows all the flaws of the wall

    • @Yinyara
      @Yinyara 2 роки тому +3

      Dark colours with a low ceiling is a weird choice. It only makes the room feel smaller. 🤨

    • @miafrisk1597
      @miafrisk1597 2 роки тому +2

      And IF she sais I dont like lilac Pls listen!!

  • @freefinanceph168
    @freefinanceph168 2 роки тому +17

    Worst designer I've seen, she didn't even consider what the couple liked or disliked.

  • @georgia777
    @georgia777 2 роки тому +37

    I find the first redecorating just awful. And what's with a bunch of painted shoes on the mantel? Tacky

  • @louiseash5705
    @louiseash5705 2 роки тому +44

    I've watched a lot of hoarder shows and the way they dealt with Amy was just awful!

    • @SueRosalie
      @SueRosalie 2 роки тому +4

      ikr they didn't teach her how to change her habits

    • @cynthiacarter514
      @cynthiacarter514 Рік тому +1

      @@Deb.-. I agree. She had barbies and hello kitty.🤔

    • @user-wg8vx8up9g
      @user-wg8vx8up9g Рік тому +1

      I agree and I’m a minimalist. This is a process you just can’t rip everything away from her.

  • @shade3403
    @shade3403 2 роки тому +14

    the heck?!!!! where on earth did you get that designer?!! the house looks ugly!! too dark, the decor choices looks cheap!!

  • @narab-n219
    @narab-n219 2 роки тому +15

    Designer says "ceilings are very tall" and they are almost scraping the ceiling with their heads 😅

  • @ericnorthman9410
    @ericnorthman9410 2 роки тому +48

    Oh No not the same designer. I like the house the way it is empty, open , light, airy . The homeowner said she is picky. I am too. That designer would be a nightmare for me. She should be doing the house according to the homeowners tastes Not hers ! I wouldn't use a designer and especially not that one. I didn't like the redo of either house.

    • @TurquoiseInk
      @TurquoiseInk 2 роки тому +2

      Neither house is really my style, but Sylvia seemed happy with her home.

    • @debbysouthworth5606
      @debbysouthworth5606 Рік тому +2

      The designer DEFINITELY is not on my wavelength either. I like the light wood floors and she wants to go dark! Nope.

    • @strietta1801
      @strietta1801 Рік тому +2

      She really has no idea for who she is working for. I never work that way - it is terrible. NEVER dark colour in small rooms 😩

  • @loretta_3843
    @loretta_3843 2 роки тому +14

    I remember as a kid, I'd ask my mum to get me something and she always answer with "where are we going to put it?" Unlike me, she's a neat freak, but now, I can see her point!

  • @Deputy-Seraph
    @Deputy-Seraph 2 роки тому +7

    I'm 5 feet nothing. Even I would feel cramped with ceilings that low

  • @uddelhexe3545
    @uddelhexe3545 2 роки тому +16

    what i really don't like is, when the designer forces designs on people and colors, they do not enjoy. Imagine living in a home looking at colors and schemes that you do not enjoy. Maybe it is interesting to look at at first, because it is new, but if someone tells you, they like harmony in colors, cause harmony is something that is the thriving force behind their issue...maybe do not force "clushing colors" on them and walk over their wishes like the abusive husband did. It is the same thing: she is not heard. I hate that moment at 1:33:39

    • @sophiaerling7714
      @sophiaerling7714 2 роки тому

      Maybe the guy got to the paint shop and bought 10 kilos of white until it was too late? 😁

  • @lisamcneil4839
    @lisamcneil4839 2 роки тому +9

    I can't appreciate this designer's taste. It's rather garish.

  • @johnellenicholas1895
    @johnellenicholas1895 Рік тому +9

    This is HORRIBLE! I feel so bad for the first woman. She didn’t have a choice in anything. IMO she will probably fill the house up again

  • @Khushball
    @Khushball Рік тому +4

    This show really isn't about hoarding, it's about a home makeover, and not a great one. They didn't even touch on the fact that she has a serious issue to overcome, something that does need therapy, and that simply tossing things out isn't enough. Without help, she'll keep doing this, and they'll never be free of the hoard.

  • @jillbecker9333
    @jillbecker9333 2 роки тому +37

    The fiance is doing this for himself . He has no comprehension of her problems. Note the comment when he saw the office, "and only my stuff can come in here."
    It has to be the Hoarder's decision to get rid of the things. As a reformed hoarder, every piece has a story, an emotional attachment.

    • @diemarkerin
      @diemarkerin 2 роки тому +4

      Exactly! I'm also a recovering hoarder BTW.

    • @martinasikk6162
      @martinasikk6162 2 роки тому +5

      She must understand that the money is going out with her habit,
      their savings must soon be empty.

    • @vestagirl8484
      @vestagirl8484 2 роки тому

      Hoarders are some of the most selfish, disgusting people on the planet. Right up there with 350lb gluttonous “body positivity” freaks who demand respect. Totally self-centered and narcissistic.😊

  • @PreppingAngel
    @PreppingAngel 2 роки тому +10

    The interior design was absolutely horrible.

  • @Sinsteel
    @Sinsteel 2 роки тому +10

    I really do want to know where they are 10 years later.

  • @86482099
    @86482099 2 роки тому +10

    Good lord, what a dump! That house needs to be redone by someone with taste.

  • @andreapttsn
    @andreapttsn 7 місяців тому +1

    And she should get rid of that horrible bf, blackmailing her with the wedding to get what he wants instead of showing understanding ad love. Then take legal action against this tv show, for bullying her into making bad life choices and repping her off, quite literally stealing all her belongings and giving her nothing in return, her money was used to promote and advertise a no-name designer and makeover show. What they have called Hoarding, can easily turn into her advantage as a great skill. She loves clothes and accessories and loves finding them and getting them. She is still young, she could turn this into a career and become a retail clothes shop owner, or become a buyer for a fashion department store. Just shows how important what kind of people we have around as, and how they can take advantage of us, if they are forceful, immoral and unkind.

  • @koogle5410
    @koogle5410 2 роки тому +45

    High design??? Lmao is that designer qualified??? Looks worse after 🤣🤣

    • @carolecochrane8173
      @carolecochrane8173 2 роки тому +4

      I am in agreement with you. I'm not impressed. 😁😁

  • @zoe9632
    @zoe9632 2 роки тому +6

    The first woman scared me a little in that when she looked at her clothes, her eyes glazed over & she zoned everyone out.
    I do hope she & her guy have been married happily till now.

  • @Weissguys6
    @Weissguys6 2 роки тому +8

    Wow. What a horrible thing to do to a sweet English cottage from the 18th century!

  • @MrJacobrabbit
    @MrJacobrabbit 2 роки тому +14

    Therapy before making any life decisions

  • @alittlepieceofearth
    @alittlepieceofearth 2 роки тому +8

    Did anyone even consider consulting a mental health professional or getting one for this poor woman before attempting to "cure" this poor woman of a serious addictive tendency,

  • @anhbinbaccuc8850
    @anhbinbaccuc8850 Рік тому +3

    Seeing all those women buying the clothes, I'm thinking they're helping one lady cleans her house, but turn 10 others into hoarders with bargain clothes .

  • @l.michelle3497
    @l.michelle3497 2 роки тому +4

    I love how the excess is sold off .
    so much better than dump trucking $$$items and perfectly usable things.
    a great and helpful improvement

  • @sheamom
    @sheamom 2 роки тому +19

    you can't expect her to change without major therapy and change in her brain! and don't marry a shopoholic until she has changed. you are asking for trouble.

  • @ginacable5376
    @ginacable5376 2 роки тому +13

    Why would you want a New York glam style in an English cottage.

  • @debrasaunders7200
    @debrasaunders7200 2 роки тому +16

    Stopped watching after the first couple. The flat could have been charming but it looks gaudy and chaotic

  • @amandabartell1502
    @amandabartell1502 2 роки тому +5

    How much did that makeover cost??? That's more shocking than the hoarding.

  • @manonlaviggne1085
    @manonlaviggne1085 2 роки тому +9

    The ceiling is so low I would feel claustrophobic

  • @my2cents581
    @my2cents581 2 роки тому +8

    Oh man! I need this kind of help!! I cannot touch any of the items I have acquired after my parents died and I am drowning in 45years worth of their possessions and am unable to deal with it all. I know I can’t keep it, nor will I use 90% of it! HELP😢

    • @beckykent435
      @beckykent435 2 роки тому +3

      You could apply for a Stacey Solomon's sort your life out. It's a BBC show where they take everything to a warehouse and you sort it into piles sell, recycle and keep then they clean and organise your house and give you the cash.

  • @nolahipsher886
    @nolahipsher886 2 роки тому +7

    they should have used the money for their wedding, not a re-do... and I don't really believe these people are real hoarders, because none of the stuff is dirty ... it all looks almost new, no dust or dirt..... check out "Hoarders" , now that is real hoard.

  • @debbievecchiarelli5480
    @debbievecchiarelli5480 2 роки тому +8

    why would you decorate a hoarder home with wallpaper that is a mess!!! get a new decorator asap

  • @ericnorthman9410
    @ericnorthman9410 2 роки тому +13

    I'd want to move from that low ceiling place. Terrible design .I do not like the designers taste.

  • @toni5431
    @toni5431 6 місяців тому +1

    Shockingly bad program. The "hoarders" were bullied and shamed into parting with pretty much everything they owned, even functional and deeply sentimental items. The good quality furniture items were sold off cheap simply to pay for tatty modern replacements for a "very bad" interior designer's personal tastes and ego. I thought the seller did decently and did at least listen in some part to the people, but the designer was rude and completely dismissive of the clients tastes and requirements. Her design choices were appallingly cheap and tacky and she had zero idea of how to use colour for the best results.

  • @hannahivens498
    @hannahivens498 2 роки тому +46

    Even though this was made a long time ago and just watching it now . I feel so sorry for her . In one day the poor girl had to sell all that she had own . And there was never no one before hand asking how she felt or a professional along the journey with her to make sure she wasn't feeling some sort of way towards this. It must of cost so much depression and anxiety on this part . I understand they needed money for their wedding . Her fiance wasn't so supportive ... he seemed very blunt and naraassistic had all the say in what happened . You can tell he was by when he was asking 'do you want to get married or not '. And didn't seem to want any of her stuff or opinions on anything to do with the house... and he need his own " man cave" ?. This was all so wrong . They also made the house interior look horrendous . All dark and dusty . You have a house like that needs light colours .

    • @magnoliasmile1
      @magnoliasmile1 Рік тому +1

      I sincerely hope she did not marry him- he’s very unsupportive. The way they handled giving her stuff away is giving me anxiety.

    • @hhealy7199
      @hhealy7199 Рік тому

      Did you not see how he was forced to live amongst all of that clothes hoarding?

    • @Wildmanmercury
      @Wildmanmercury Рік тому

      I feel so badly for her. Hopefully she got a divorce or didn’t get married.

  • @nattyophelia7879
    @nattyophelia7879 2 роки тому +12

    Redoing their house will not stop her from her compulsive shopping. They should educate these people on minimalism and capsule wardrobes and the danger of overconsumption on our environment. They should get them some therapy to learn other coping skills and some hobbies to pursue in exchange for shopping. I mean, this really isn’t going to do anything but throw a band aid on the problem, I wish Amy all the best.

  • @jilldavidson2204
    @jilldavidson2204 Рік тому +5

    I am appalled that Amy was bullied and belittled, by her partner who should be her support, and blamed and made the fool without any support. She needs a mental health supporter with her right through the process. Even the designer chose colours that are masculine, before looking at the dominant colours in the clothing hoard, none of which she was offered. This is a case of the sensational being prioritised over the individual health and wellbeing of the hoarder, in order to make "good" (read exploitative) television.

  • @annaguerrero8568
    @annaguerrero8568 2 роки тому +26

    As long as the first young couple likes the outcome of the rooms I say fine but grey is not a color I’d want to live with every day.

    • @kristinab1078
      @kristinab1078 2 роки тому +9

      The young lady was hesitant about the grey but went along with it b/c that is what the designer suggested. Not a good choice in such a small space w/ low ceilings.

    • @solidstate9451
      @solidstate9451 2 роки тому +4

      I love white and grey!

    • @sapphirexwind
      @sapphirexwind 2 роки тому +2

      Well... this was ahead of it's time as ALL the apts with "updated" design I've rented in the last few years have been...grey.

    • @lorenrobertson8039
      @lorenrobertson8039 2 роки тому +2

      @@sapphirexwind Well it is supposedly out of style now, but my husband who is an interior home painter still gets requests for depressing gray. I would be suicidal if I had to live in such a place. Gross!

    • @TurquoiseInk
      @TurquoiseInk 2 роки тому +1

      To be fair, this was "designed" 10 years ago. Still don't like her design styles, but I appreciate that she's trying to transform the home.

  • @martinasikk6162
    @martinasikk6162 2 роки тому +13

    Where does she get the money for the shopping from ?

  • @TheGlowingqueen
    @TheGlowingqueen 2 роки тому +11

    In the first house, He got his own room but she didn't. That was so unfair. She gave up all of that stuff!
    In my opinion they could have made that extra room into a closet for her. That would make much more practical sense. Then tell her, if she buys something new then something old must go. Because telling her she can never buy anything again won't work.

  • @dmsmiles4044
    @dmsmiles4044 Рік тому +1

    Dark with low sealings. Just looking at her studio tells you she is not someone you want in control of designing your home. She doesn't listen to them at all.

  • @mightymouse1005
    @mightymouse1005 Рік тому +3

    Amy was a different and refreshing hoarder. All her stuff was nice and high dollar. No garbage and gross floors and appliances.

  • @mattneillninasmom
    @mattneillninasmom 2 роки тому +33

    Why was Amy even AT the sale!? This increased her trauma enormously and unnecessarily.

    • @Angela-qs4cz
      @Angela-qs4cz 2 роки тому

      Fashion will not solve hoarding. Go back to the trigger. What caused this behavior?

    • @justineharper3346
      @justineharper3346 Рік тому

      I was wondering the same thing

  • @w021353s
    @w021353s Рік тому +1

    This designer has no feelings for her clients. She does just not listen. Seriously, "It's so Seventies??!!" It's her freaking house! Let her have the colors she wants!

  • @veronicaguyader9997
    @veronicaguyader9997 Рік тому +2

    This did nothing. What's her psychological trigger to hoard? They just forced her to chuck it out for a reward of poorly designed reclaimed spaces, and to keep her honey to marry her. This is a quick fix show...not a deep rooted, lets help you.

  • @Samphire2
    @Samphire2 2 роки тому +4

    What a shame they didn't help her more, the designer was a bit of a bully and was also part of the grey brigade and decided to turn their house into some kind of grey limbo, not helpful! She needs a new career path.

  • @Boo-Stein
    @Boo-Stein 2 роки тому +9

    She put fake shelf wallpaper up instead of an actual bookshelf? And then puts a stupid looking single shelf below it for “much needed storage”? How about a real bookshelf?

  • @patim5953
    @patim5953 2 роки тому +11

    First time watcher but that was painful to watch that poor girl Abby go through that on her own. Being pushed marriage or clothes constantly.

  • @Sinsteel
    @Sinsteel 2 роки тому +22

    "Guys, we need MORE money for the New York strip club makeover, and if we don't get it Amy is going to hoard pink spaghetti-strap tops again!"

  • @olivahernandez9799
    @olivahernandez9799 2 роки тому +13

    That’s just so scary 😟 mental health issues are the most scariest for me 😢

  • @waggytailsolo
    @waggytailsolo 2 роки тому +13

    He'll be able to tattoo his divorce date on his other arm.

  • @marie34K
    @marie34K 2 роки тому +17

    39 pairs of shoes ? So for my family of 5 that would have been 195 pairs ??? People are crazy . I own 4 pairs ...one pair of sneakers , a pair of boots , a pair of sandals and a pair of shoes ...and I'm a woman and I' am not poor .

    • @biancaj.d.148
      @biancaj.d.148 2 роки тому +2

      I am a teacher, I own
      1&2 Two pairs of sneakers
      3 a pair of winter boots
      4 Hiking boots
      5 A pair of ballet flats
      6 a pair of carpet slippers...
      I am coming along really well with this shoes... I would only buy one pair of evening/event shoes if I would get an invitation to a wedding or something like that.

    • @Weissguys6
      @Weissguys6 2 роки тому +3

      Less truly is more.

    • @Taylor23890
      @Taylor23890 Рік тому +1

      I love shoes . High heel shoes . I have over 200 pairs. I run I have 9 pairs of running shoes and 3 pairs of trainers to wear if walking or going on holiday at the airport

  • @juliagallant3885
    @juliagallant3885 2 роки тому +3

    Atrocious makeover!
    I wouldn't want the decorator to makeover my outdoor toilet

  • @lorenrobertson8039
    @lorenrobertson8039 2 роки тому +8

    Gosh the color scheme the decorator has chosen sound abysmal and depressing. All that gray, black, and darkness....how horrid. Yes it will look like a bunker or jail. It is obvious that they like light and colorful, cheerful colors to bring the mood up, not drowning in the sewer. The light is sparkling and pretty...I'm with Amy on that. I would immediately have that house repainted if that was forced on me! Yuk!

  • @thatcanadianchick7589
    @thatcanadianchick7589 2 роки тому +5

    So did they get married ? Don't care for the design, the painted shoes were so tacky, not impressed by anything other than the fact they kept the downstairs fireplace!

  • @BCTS
    @BCTS Рік тому +1

    Why does the designer choose such dark colours. The roof of the rooms are so low & you need bright colours to brighten & enlarge the room.

  • @mattneillninasmom
    @mattneillninasmom 2 роки тому +10

    Did I hear right? She lives in a 7 bedroom house. Alone. And is worried about money. Really!????

    • @jeanine6492
      @jeanine6492 2 роки тому

      It’s a 3 bed house and she lives with her fiancé - first story. The second one did say 7 bedrooms the lady living alone. Wow I’d like to have the money they spent on their hoards, I sure wouldn’t use it to hoard.

  • @roselee4445
    @roselee4445 2 роки тому +12

    The painted shoes, horrible

  • @mariafoust8321
    @mariafoust8321 Рік тому +2

    His office was downright ugly. What’s up with the lip on the wall? The whole place looked sooo depressing….

  • @KristinaBlabla
    @KristinaBlabla 11 місяців тому +1

    she made the office space in very, very dark blue so that the room looks x10 smaller, closed off and depressed and the woman's suppose to spend 8h a day there not feeling tired, energetic and happy. i seriously doubt that woman's a designer lol maybe she just started school for it and none of the professors told her doing things like that is a big no-no.

  • @icecreamgirlrockyroad3547
    @icecreamgirlrockyroad3547 2 роки тому +3

    These ppl need light!!

  • @Jader92
    @Jader92 2 роки тому +3

    The designer is awful and there so cold toward the hoarder/collectors if I were the first girl i wouldn’t of married that bloke of hers not supporting at all

  • @soniacook2991
    @soniacook2991 2 роки тому +5

    This is not how you fix hoarding problems .. there is always a root of problem where it comes from this girl needs therapy or hypnotherapy .. it’s works like an addiction .. tell you now this girl probably filled up her home again within 6 months after program started..

  • @carinnemillar3471
    @carinnemillar3471 Рік тому +2

    This is painful to watch. Zero support for Amy. Horrible results.