Sex, Marriage, & Fairytales || Spoken Word
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This poem is a poem on how our society has distorted marriage, sex, and relationships. God's vision is so much better.
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Marriage today is struggling. Divorces, adultery, misconceptions, etc are plaguing not only the marriage itself but products of those marriages (my generation and the next). My hope in this poem is to highlight the most frequent and problematic issues marriages face today while also pointing to Jesus as the ultimate healer, redeemer, and restorer of every marriage. Whether single or married, my intention would be that this poem would allow you to look more deeply to Jesus to either better your current marriage, or prepare for your future marriage.
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I don't understand why there is so much hate on the comments for this video when there is so much truth in his message. I think it's a beautiful video.
It's really no surprise to be honest, but the same hate actually adds to the validity of the message.
There is hate, since there is 0 truth in this video.Its all bs.Christians gets divorced just as often as non christians.
Religion isn't going to make you love someone that you wouldn't love otherwise, you cannot substitute Jesus for real chemistry. And you definitely can't rely on him to make your relationship healthier, since the Bible is filled with scripture that encourages husbands to treat their wives like property.
Because people can’t separate religion and the lessons taught in the Bible. They think they’re too good to learn from wisdom passed down from millennia and can’t compartmentalize they aren’t being subjected to the wills of the church or other establishment. If only they could read it without getting triggered. Lol
Because we have a guy who was unmarried at the time discarding basic facts about marriage and divorce rates to peddle his horseshit religion in an attempt to judge peoples relationships based on whether or not they believe in a bronze age fairy tale. Not that hard to understand the hate.
Just to say, I actually really like the point where he says that "singles become friends first before ever becoming lovers" and the whole thing about " till death do us apart" being "until the feelings go away" and taking that perspective with their children.
This is so deep... As someone who has survived abuse, I can honestly say - make Christ your foundation. Be secure and happy in who you are. Don't seek relationships or things to fill those empty spaces. Don't rush into a relationship. Develop the most important relationship first -- and that is between you and God. Thank you for sharing Jefferson!
Amen. Everyone thinks marriage is a competition and they are rushing to jump the broom. 70% of marriages end in divorce. So to all single woman and men...wait on God. He has your life planned out and He has the person you need. Marriage isn't a race. While you wait build your relationship with God. Put him first and all things will follow.
Heck Kane I don't know where you got those statistics from. But idk what kind of weed you're smoking, but I want some.
Jason Hummer and smoke weed. dont forget
DarkReaperK97 www.apa.org/topics/divorce/
I accidentally wrote 70. I meant 50 percent even though thats not much better. The numbers are larger for subsequent marriages. I don't smoke, So sorry bro. The fact is still true that
1/2 of all marriages in the US end in divorce. Look it up for yourself. Don't take my word for it. The point I was making was I feel ppl are not acquiring God or acknowledging him anymore. I speak to my Christian woman and men to put God first in all areas of life.
To each their own will. I only speak what I believe. And I believe God should be the center of all we do.
I love this! So true! My marriage was falling apart. People would say to me everybody gets divorced, its ok. But I didn't want to be another statistic. So I said alright Jesus I give you my life and my marriage if you are truly real make a change in me and my marriage! And He did I can sit here and say my marriage is better than ever and the love I thought I lost for my husband God has given me a love for my husband than I ever had before!
You know, some of you leave some hateful comments on a video that speaks nothing but of love. If you're not religious, that's fine, but he's still making great points in this video. Open your mind, and stop taking your opinion as the only opinion that can be valid. That's called ignorance.
It does not, that is the sugar coating....
Ignorance does not mean someone thinking their opinion is the only valid one. Ignorance means lack of knowledge or information. Like you are ignorant to the very meaning of the word. This guy in the video is ignorant to the reality of marriage having never been married. He also makes no valid points. Spouting about fictional characters and trying to relate them to peoples sex lives and marriages is ridiculous. This guy does NOT speak of love, he speaks of control, submission and celestial authority. believe me there is a difference. Love does not require anything. No effort. No change. No sacrifice. No submission. It is unconditional. Unchanging. Offered freely. The fictional Jesus did not offer himself freely on the cross. We have to pay for that by giving our lives to him. Even after this we are still not offered love, which requires unconditional acceptance, we have to change, repent and try to control our"sins" even though we were just told all was cool Jesus died for that remember. If god really loved us and Jesus really paid the cost. we could receive this eternal life without even acknowledging him - now that's real love. Not the fake kind we are offered that's really a cover for a new form of control. This a video about control and submission - not love.
Excarnificate CAN I GET A AMENNNNNNNNNNNNAHHH!
Excarnificate Love take effort its not a feeling. God loves you more than you can even comprehend. He still loves you reguardless and its free but its your choice to take it or not, you say its control but hes not forcing it on anyone its out there for you to chose to receive. And you say have eternal life without acknowledgement. Well how can you choose to accept something you aren't even paying attention to since you choose not to acknowledge it so therefore you don't even know its there.
For your information I was a christian for over 20 years of my life. I know the bible. I have served in church. I know the innermost secrets of christianity. I reject them now because they are selfish and inconsiderate to the suffering of the world. the god of the bible is a racist, hateful, homophobic, misogynistic bastard who is a tryrant. Following that up with "But he loves you" is a slap in the face to every person he rejects because of his own design flaws. You are free to believe in this demonic character who doesn't even try very hard to pretend he is nice but i''ll pass thanks. I recommend you read your bible. Properly!
People just search for this video so they can chat rubbish about their irrelevant opinions. You don't like what he talks about? What then are you doing here?
You're not being forced to watch it.
If he's forming opinions about people they're aloud to be not happy about it
Irrelevant opinions? So the only relevant opinion is yours? That's arrogant, you all have a sin to count right there..
Stupididty MUST be combatted in any form that hampers others.
i actually was forced to watch it by my college professor.
What is important is that regardless of being atheist, agnostic, or religious, you must become more than lovers but also friends with your spouse. It's not just the fairy tale lifestyle that matters; it's also about what's going on inside your heart.
Probably watched this 50 times....LOVE IT...so accurate! I cry sometimes as I watched it. Now I really cry, as my wife served me divorce papers this week.
You should have done less listening to people like this and more time doing the dishes.
@@Visplight Man, go on.....
Bubba i hope you found newness after all this time.. Much love and ignore the doofus above.
Wow! This really made take inventory of my role as a holy wife to my husband. Thank you, sir! You are going to make an awesome husband one day soon! Hallelujah, it's all about Jesus Christ!
***** No it really is not. controlling is more like forcing. A Shepard leads his sheep but its up to the sheep to follow.
Soz Noza Fun fact: shepherds kill their sheep and eat them. Just putting that out there.
***** Or something like that.
Dude this is my story and exact conclusion after it happened and came back to Christ. Sooo much truth. Jesus is the only way.
Interesting how a video about love attracts so much hate because the word God and Jesus are used.... The Bible says that these names piss off the devil by the sheer mention of them
Worrrddd dude. People are misguded and confused. Its actually due to a left brain imbalance due to weatwrn education and so many other things. Not to worry, things will balance them out soon enough. You know what I mean?
I think it can be understandable that people have those negative feelings when the people claiming "God," "Jesus," and "religion" use their beliefs to bludgeon the beliefs of others. Rather than assuming people are misguided (and falling into an "us vs. them" mentality), why not instead examine their point of view? I think that would make the world a much better place.
Jay Gee The thing is, no one is attacking atheists. God intimidates atheists. Just the shear mention of God pisses off the enemy, and so that is why anger and frustration inevitably builds up in people when someone says Jesus
leon scott "No one is attacking atheist." I take it you haven't read stories of atheists run out of U.S. towns or that any mention of being atheist is a death sentence in some countries. Just recently Saudi Arabia declared all atheists as terrorists. And specifically in the U.S., high schooler Jessica Ahlquist was sent death threats for being atheist and opposing the posting a religious prayer in school. (Before you make assertions like that, please consider looking these things up. Google/your search engine of choice is at your fingertips.)
Most atheists are not pissed off at God or the mention of God, but at the people who claim to be God's followers because although they say they are all about love tend instead to spread hate. WBC is an extreme example. Those people are also trying to enforce their narrow values on everyone. When they try to force people to mention God in everything, it gets annoying. I don't think you'll find one atheist who is intimidated by God because they don't believe he exists and can't exert any kind of power; however, I do think that some atheists are intimidated by angry Christian mobs because they are capable of actual harm.
Well it was nice talking to you, but I don't feel like putting any more energy into this conversation. I won't be responding to any more replies. Have a good day.
Jay Gee Duuuude great point my man, shiiit. That is not good Christians doing that shit. See Jesus was all about good relationships. The Christian order is all about control and shit. Yo fuck that shit. God is real though and God is love. Love is gravity. Christians that is in scripture by the way. Not the gravity part but God is love part. Yo thats crazy son. See thats when people want to control others because they are scared. Fear based consciousness. Not love. Fear blocks consciousness. Love expands it. Create s freedom. God is real and thats scientific and spiritual fact but killing and all that shit for some beliefs, dude that is so stupid. Thats not okay that they do that, however I understand because they are simply confused spirits. Not going to hurt me personally. Just dont cross the line yo with violence, if you do I will retaliate with force, that is my right as a human being, that is all of our rights as a human being to defend ourselves. I am a vehicle of peace, dont fuck with me. Feel me?
I am not a Christian, but I love his videos on the pure basis of his passion and respectful ideals. Even if you aren't a believer you can't argue that most of his ideas of how you should treat women, yourself and others is pretty spot on.
correct until he spouts religious dogma
im definitely ready to defend my view pal, and unlike you im willing to drop what ive previously believed if what you present is "Reasonable, Valid, and most importantly Testable..."
kevin colvin
its still better then atheism dogma
Honestly if getting people to follow the evidence than some man with the beard in the sky, then I think atheist dogma all the way because "atheist realism" is truth and grounded in science
Incabello79 Yep boys, lead women with grace. Be a good leader - because you're the man.
I feel the exact way as this poem plays out... It is so hard to wait for marriage, but its worth it. My children are NOT facing what I've been through. Divorce is not an option. Jesus is my first love and I'm His bride. Therefore, I put my trust in Him to mold and shape my future husband, who is wonderfully for me.
this is totally true , im in highschool and i have so many friends whos parents are divorced . its become normal . Its a rarity to see a nice cute old couple - oh the warmth to my soul when i do
I don't understand how atheist call Christians bigots when all they do is go on videos about god and leave negative comments. Some atheist come here to learn or try to understand us, but many just down vote and leave comments saying there is no god. Then when Christians say something about atheist they get so mad. I don't know if people agree with me but this is how it feels when i try and watch videos like these that I enjoy.
He is a Christian, with a Christian channel. If you don't agree, there's no reason to get upset over what this man believes. All you have to do is go elsewhere. Christians believe that the foundation of marriage should be God, because that's what the bible teaches. These are his beliefs... No need to bash anyone.
Thank you.
+Melody Beall I think everyone has the right to believe what they want...however..without causing harm to this world. Considering God was a basis of marriage, children born would most likely be raised as Christians. Without their agreement, obligation, critical thinking, they are preached continuously. Now that is something I'm not fine about.
+Melody Beall
well, your point is an appropriate middle ground, cause it defends christianity while allowing non christians to have happy marriages, like it happens in real life.
Amen.
Thank you.
AMAZING!!!!! What a gift God has given you, my brother. My husband and I both come from broken homes, it's been hard, but we've come a long way. He is good at mentoring couples, I support him. This is good stuff to share!!!!!!!!
I'm not the most religious person in the world but it's funny all of these Atheists that condemn Christians for being judgmental are being the most hateful and ignorant on here. He's not saying people that don't believe in Jesus will have terrible lives he's saying that there's more to a life long relationship then selfish materialism passion and sexual desire. And if you choose to accept the idea of a higher power then that inspiration can help lead a healthy relationship into a beautiful partnership.
Jefferson, I teach high school (and I'm former youth minister) and a student shared one of your video's with me last year. I love your work and I love the way it reaches this age group! I encourage my students to watch your video's. I used an example from this video when teaching Rhetorical Figures in sound to my debate class today. Antimetabole: It's not the love that sustains the promise; its the promise that sustains the love. Thank you for sharing your wisdom in such an impactful way. May God bless you in your ministry.
What do you mean basing marriage on Jesus and God? Why would you base an important commitment on something that doesn't exist?
exactly, why not base a marriage on love and respect? No, Jesus and God. JESUS AND GOD.
Maybe because they were the most selfless beings ever created, and we should be a lot more like them.
Victoria Murad selfless huh? is that why they demand worship?
Selfless perhaps but you have to admit that God got a little ridiculous with all the people he killed (including Jesus).
Look, he isn't saying not believing in God will give a bad marriage to people. He's saying marriage isn't based on sex & lust. When you put you're marriage based on God it will help create a stronger bond between two people with God, if you believe in God. If you don't believe in God disregard this message because it has nothing to do with you? So why hate, really? This is to strengthen the Christian view on what marriage,love & sex really is to us. We aren't made to follow a role in a false fairytale.
That's why today in the world it's so hard to fufill God's word because it is full on temptation really.
+UnknownPenguin "because if your marriage rests on anything but Jesus, it's broken." --the truth is, I think, even according to a Christian perspective, that statement is more meant to rhyme than be taken seriously. Because in truth, according to the Bible, the fall caused everything to be broken. So I would really think that "even if your marriage rests on Jesus, it's still broken because we are all broken." In fact being a believer can cause you to see more brokenness around you than you did before, but you also have a different kind of hope. I don't think that this video represents Bethke well at all, and maybe now that he is married there are things he would change about it.
+Shannah Avila Thank you!!! Someone with some common sense speaks!
+Sarah Burkhardt no he's correct. there comes a time that someone wants to walk out. when that time comes you have to answer to god that's standing at the exit door. are you willing to stay and work it out or disrespect the promise you made to him and do everything in your power to correct what your planning on doing. he gave the rules and instructions on what to do so you have no excuse. now which will you do?
Amen!!
Sick Intentionz
Does it ever occur to you that maybe..they just grow apart? And don’t feel for each other what they once did? Does it occur to you that they would probably be better off and more happy out of an unhappy marriage than forcing themselves to stay in an unhappy marriage? Oh but I’m so sure “talking it out and working out their differences” is just gonna work wonders every single time. It doesn’t. And it doesn’t have to be about god, or else I guess in your case your trying to guilt people with the idea that “oh you want to leave a marriage I have nothing to do with, well what do you have to say about god, totally not my self insert, at the door shaking his head in disappoint, at the promise you made!”
I really love this video ❤ and the poem especially. I remember my Dad was perfect when I was child. Then I grew up and realized all that was a lie. I knew he was a drunkard and forgave him for this, until I found out what he did with some ladies was more than a kiss. I was barely sixteen when I knew this reality. I was in a relationship with a bad guy I thought he had changed for me. With bad marks at school, dating two girls at the same time, and for bonus a drinker. But in terms of getting a girl, he is far from being a loser. I was a good girl, with good marks, religious and wise enough. We were attracted together -- at least that's what I thought. He changed for a while and made me believe we were meant to be forever. I've always been told that men act with infidelity, and the only way to get respected is keeping my purity. And what happened to me and my ex, he cheated on me because I didn't wanna have sex. Of course we broke up, and know I'm on my own. I don't want a bad man neither ending up alone. My mother has been cheated on, I've been cheated on. And my biggest fear now is that though I try to be the right person for someone, and keep my virginity before marriage, I still marry a liar and a cheater. However I want to get married. I think real Love is beautiful.
God bless you and your holy work.
A much needed message in a world that is constantly trying to forget God as the center of our lives and marriages. Thank you for these beautiful words. To all those who attack it because you didn't like his delivery of the message or you don't believe in God, please take a moment to listen to the message and not focus on what you find annoying. If you don't believe that friendship should be the foundation to a loving marriage, that's truly sad.
Thank you Jeff. God led me here. I'm not a big fan of spoken word and I went to tap on a movie trailer and this popped up instead. I was laying in bed, having difficulty sleeping... got a lot on my mind. I needed this.
I just found this channel and I'm so into it!! The messages are great and fun to watch with my husband! Thank you!
Great video Jefferson! So true!! And it's awesome to see that you're married now, and to a lovely Godly woman, and you're following the same principles you preached. God is good - ALL the time! :)
Jefferson Bethke! God bless you. Your an amazing, preacher. Every time I watch your videos it touches my heart deep down and I have to cry.
Man brother good word I'm not sure if you will see or even read this comment but if you do I want to just say you have completely changed my walk with my Lord . I always beat myself up over my sin and have always been worried of where my soul will go when my life ends because of being worried I wasn't perfect enough for him even though I love God. my addictions always seemed to call back to me saying it's to big you are going to hell but now knowing I can just say God has taken that the Wight is lighter and now all I have to do is walk with him . So thank you for being an amazing Man for God and helping me let go of stuff that God's already taken care of .
Jefferson God has blessed you with such an amazing gift!!! You really touch my heart with each of your pieces!
I married my friend of 15 years and we met at vbs when I was little
That’s so awesome!
im beginning a relationship with someone I met on missions soon, i have so many hopes, but at the same time so much doubt from my past
I was watching Bible Builds right now and remembered this video for some reason. What a great message! Still the same yesterday, today and tomorrow! Many blessings! ✝️❤️
"Become friends first, before you ever become lovers." I love that soooo much.
Amazing! When you do not truly know God, you do not know TRUE love. For God IS love. Love is not a box you check off on your grand scheme of life. It is a commitment to be there for your spouse, and sacrifice your own desires for theirs. If more Christians truly believed the Bible whole heartedly, and had a true RELATIONSHIP with the Lord, the divorce rate wouldn't be so high.
So you're saying that non-Christians don't know true love?
Love exists outside religion, every human has it you could argue bc God made men and they've got free will. The devotion to God doesn't single it out and everyone else is devoid, like the bible says God shines the sun on everyone not just his followers, and let's it rain on all. He doesn't discriminate.
My bf is an atheist and I am catholic, but we became friends first, well we just started to date, nothing too serious we just really became close fast not because of lust, but because we connected. Now, I donʻt think it would be any different if God was in our lives or not. We both have the same values and morals, he just happens to not think God exists and Iʻm ok with that, he respects that I believe and thats what counts.
Believers do not have equal values with non-believers. His perception regarding morality can contradict what you justify as morally good or bad according to your relationship with God. Before he told you about what he doesn't believe, did you first acquaint him to the gospel or did you not think any of it mattered?
Simmiebird Values are not the same as beliefs. One can be good without God. One can be horrible with God. Did anybody ever acquaint you with having good manners and not being judgmental?
Juliet Abram You threw reason out the window ma'am. But sorry, I cannot determine whether people are good or horrible by my standard when I do not know them or even know why they do what they do.
Juliet Abram One can certainly be good without belief in God. But I pose the following questions: How can one can be good without God? What is good and evil with no ultimate good with which to measure it? There is nothing but relativity.
Simmiebird"believers do not have equal values with non believers" this is why atheists aren't always pleased with religious followers -_-
I just want to say this because I believe its because of those of who struggle with these issues that you made this to begin with....
Thank you. I found this video when I was much younger 17 or so and thought it was great. I've been through a lot since then, but I'm still saving myself. Its getting harder now that I'm in college and getting my life together. Some thing's have been happening lately (with guys of course) my stand is always the same but I had forgotten the reasons or how to discern, that statement that left me so astonished years ago"become friends first..." Has helped me so much in my discerning :) I can not thank you enough for never backing down. And keeping this here. God is not Dead.
This video is so touching. I want to share it with my girlfriend. Maybe she will understand why I called her my best friend sometimes and know it wasn't because I was putting her in the friend zone when I was doing that. It was something more.
Thank you so much for this video. It just blew my mind. Awesome work. God Bless! I know there is a lot of hate in some of these comments. But remember the enemy will do everything to break a child of the living God. Stay strong and keep following the path that God has laid for you.
Yeah...
It's sad to see how many people on here do not believe in our God. I have hope that one day you will understand and you WILL see the truth, and I hope when that day comes it is not too late.
And it's comments like this that makes people not want to see the glory of God. Comments like what you just made make us, christians, look terrible. Terrible!
The only truth is what we can physically sense, you and those around you can cause your mind to think it's feeling something when it really isn't. I wish more people would appreciate the life they have and stop trying to give credit to something illogical like a god for all their good fortune. You have one life, stop trying to save yourself for another that may or may not be there. I believe that doing good is something everyone should be involved in and that doing good has it's own reward. Instead of living for god, you should live it for you and those around you. A god is meaningless unless you give it meaning.
It's sad to see how many people on here do not believe in Zeus. I have hope that one day you will understand and you WILL see the truth, and I hope when that day comes it is not too late
I think that your most condemning word was 'our'. there isn't and never has been any evidence for the god of the bible, and believing in a deity which violates his own rules AND conservation of energy is silly.
Kevin Lee is god. Btw we don't need God to have a great life. Maybe you do. I mean if that's your thing.
PromethiumOxide You come to the end of yourself you will see. I know Jesus is real!!! I do not follow a realigion but a person who is the only one in history who has died and rose himself from the grave and never made a mistake/ The only one who said FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO!!! I have been through to many things in life to not know that Jesus is real plus I have seen miricals that Docters nor science can clame answere to.!!! I rather have peace of heart and love that is unconditional then a love that fiades and things that end!!!!
Josh Harris has some great books on dating and courtship. Really helped me when I turned my life around and submitted to Jesus. "I kissed Dating Goodbye" & "Boy meets Girl: Say hello to courtship" They are contemporary and Biblical, very helpful for todays teens and young adults that need to develop the right mindset for relationships with the opposite sex.
I always seem to watch this when my marriage is on the rocks... God bless!! Thank u for doing these honest videos
How do people watch this dude....? ugh. People get married all the time... and your God doesn't have anything to do with it. You don't understand anything and you don't get it....
Robert Williams Neither do you. The problem is that we have the same word for different ideas. Marriage means different things to different people, so does sex. The fact that God has nothing to do with marriage is evident when we see how most people end up getting divorced since humans aren't capable of true love.
+Jason Hummer Actually there is a correlation between couples living up to christian values and success rate of marriage. You tend to constate that a lot in Sociology.
Marriage existed long before even the vaguest idea of Jesus ever did, and it has had countless different forms. So, no, Jesus is not the foundation of marriage unless _you_ decide to involve it. It would be for _your_ marriage, not everyone's marriage.
Marriage started with Adam and Eve, who were the first people and walked with God daily. So when exactly was there a time when marriage didn't involve Jesus?
Virginia Rasberry
That is silly. Adam and Eve is purely mythological, unless you can prove otherwise. The exact moment anything viewed as "marriage" first existed is still largely debated. Some believe the first man to woman union was held in Mesopotamia in 2350 BCE. However, there are also various marriage rituals that exist within Chinese and native cultures which may have existed at roughly the same time. The Chinese also have "ghost marriages," and many native tribes had forms of same-sex union. Why, it is almost as if marriage is something as varied and complex as humanity itself, and no one group has claim over it.
On what basis can you say that Adam and Eve weren't real? All you have is your opinion. And Christians have a monopoly on the modern idea of marriage because they were the ones who created it. There have been humans pairing up forever, but real marriage is from and for God.
Virginia Rasberry You, also, only have your opinion that they are real, as the Bible is not factual: it is all a book of opinion--of subjective beliefs. Again, no, Christians did not create marriage, modern idea or otherwise. Many groups held similar concept of marriage, and it was actually Christians who held on to the archaic concept of marriage as nothing more than an exchange of property for the longest, even if not by much and even if encouraged more by religious leadership of the time more than anything. You have no claim to modern marriage, and to state otherwise is egotistical. The very concept of a union between two or more people belongs to the global community, and it takes countless forms.
So far, I've actually cited _some form_ of information to back up my claims; to point in the direction of something tangible. You've merely stated that your subjective beliefs are your proof for these statements being fact. Things do not work that way. Your feelings and beliefs do not change reality. So, unless you wish to back up your assertions with some form of verifiable proof, then I feel that we are done here.
You've cited biased reports from people who are hellbent on not accepting the truth. To believe that the Bible is purely fictional is completely absent of reality and illogical. I sir ask you to question your beliefs because when put under scrutiny they seem to fall flat.
You are a great speaker for some one so young. It is almost impossible to find someone our age who speaks like you do. I get chills listening to you sometimes. Hope to one day find guy like you. Seems so hard these days.
Nobody talks so constantly about God as those who insist that there is no God.
Heywood Broun
If you ask me or any other believer who has not been crippled by Tue fear of showing they're Christian by people like you, you would find that many people will be just as consistent except saying that god is real. Trying to find a quote and plastering it on a comment section of a awesome video will not change that.You may believe that Christians are nothing but homophobic and inconsistent insane people but we are not. I do not know what you believe or how you were raised but if you were to read this quote you may start to realise what Christians really are. "I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen, not because I only see it but by it I see every thing else" C.S. Lewis (guy who made Narnia just in case you didn't know) so hope you learn the truth god bless you
Sky Dickey if this is directed to me, i want you to know that i am a consistent christian...!
To go against your argument which by the way is reasonable. Many of us Christians were put to death for our beliefs, and it was literally illegal to only believe in our God and yet we did so, but we are fearful now because we have people are telling us that our religion is offensive and not politically correct. You can do what you want but I believe in the one true king, the "Alpha and Omega" you could say. But know this; our path is becoming increasingly difficult with more against us and others who are not even doing it right. Being a True Believer is harder than walking a path of unknown. Trust me.
Oh and by the way I mean no disrespect I am sure you are a great guy and we could be even friends but I just feel strongly about this
Christians forcing our faith down others throat is the "wrong" way if we loved and shared instead preaching all the time there would be less who see Christianity as a problem
This is great advise for any couple!! MUCH LOVE & GOD BLESS❣
No. It's really not. Do you know why? Because not every couple embraces these limiting views.
The couples who don't are the couples who fail
Virginia Rasberry
Except that, no, they are not. Plenty that do this still fail, and plenty that do not do it have not failed. Why, it is almost as if you care nothing about the actual statistics and facts and are merely making things up which conform to your spiritual beliefs. Funny, yes?
If the sun was created in the third day, how where days counted? I used to be a christian, thank God I'm now going to "hell", and have seen the truth.
Atheist here, don't get me wrong, the bible is unfathomable bullshit, but the 'days' in the bible was translated from 'Dia' which simply meant the period of time. problem is all of these values would have had to be equal if god was to write a 'perfect book', so it's still bullshit. ;) got yo back bruh.
PromethiumOxide Yeah, which also shows how great the translations are :P
EricMetalhead such accuracy ;) it's like how parting the red sea could also be parting the sea of reeds.
How can you question something when you do not fully comprehend it. The Sun was created on the first day.
Jacob K
:The Sun was created on the first day."
- and you know this because.....?
Married 3 years, married at 21, just now graduating from college. Wish I didn't get married. Judge me, I tried to do marriage Gods way and have failed as a leader. I want out before kids, house, major debts. Worst mistake of my life and I take FULL responsibility for the failure.
did anyone catch the verses he said in here to read i tried to get em but can't i keep missing it and everytime i listen i always miss the part can someone help me please thank you :))
i dont understand how people can say anything, if they havent even tried. I mean this video is very powerful and can prove alot but only for those who care to listen. if you disagree then leave. i dont understand how people who dislike this stuff watch it anyways...watch stuff you dont feel you have to bash and down without TRUELY listening and learning what is being taught. As for Jeff, this is so amazing.i love your channel. Great work.
Makes ya wonder how many of these negative comments are even real people. Maybe bots? Who knows
Man that was really inspirational. I'm not married but I feel the same way. Thanks Jeff.
I've seen this so many times since it came out.. love it.. i keep watching it for inspiration.
Amen Jefferson! Thank you for sharing this poem, as it had been very beneficial for me as a young Christian man with aspirations get married in the future!
Don't hate. Just enjoy the poetry. :)
thank you! I laugh at these haters...Thanks for making my day as I laugh at your ignorance. Great video!!!
I don't understand why people dislike this video. regardless of whether you beleive in god or not you can take valuable lessons from this message
@ kenita williams Exactly.....
No you can't.
Please never stop posting. I literally use your videos to help
People after they get saved. Almost 7 years watching these videos
Awesome stuff. Truly inspirational!
This is so good! So much truth, praise the Lord for creating such beauty in His creation.
That was an awesome and anointed poem. Your gift has truly shined in lifting Jesus up!
THESE SUBJECTS ARE THINGS I HAVE QUESTIONED FOR A LONG TIME. I WISH I COULD KNOW WHAT CHURCH I WOULD ENJOY. YOU ARE GIVING US
A GREAT GIFT. THANK YOU.
You INSPIRE me so much!!! i can't even find the words to explain how your way of thinking and talking helped me right now! it might sound so banal, but THANK YOU! THE BEST WISHES FOR YOU!!
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First I'd like to say that tolerance isn't a very high standard to hold oneself to. You tolerate mosquitoes not people. Acceptance if what you want, not tolerance. Second, having watched a number of this dude's videos I can tell you he NEEDS to pick up a science book so as to ascertain an elementary child's understanding of the world at least. Finally, accepting people, or tolerating, however you want to look at it, saying "hey the things you're saying are batshit insane." As such, I say "the things this dude is saying is batshit insane" and I add to it saying that its because of the shit he "preaches" he's is causing "terribadness".
U R Pretentious.That was OK tho. Some good rimez
Sorry, but
Jefferson Bethke: My parents have been happily married for 26 years. Earlier in their marriage, my mother was surprised and irritated to find she and my father were the topic of their work place's Christian group. The group was discussing how my parents could have such a strong marriage without Christ. My father is a former Catholic, and my mother was raised agnostic, so religion has never been part of our family life. Yet, my parents have never fought, never hit my sister or I, and have taught us values. People I meet sometimes assume I'm religious. Like my mother before me, this I find this both annoying and disturbing. We have light and love within us. We need no religion, and to tell us that our world and relationships will crumble without Christ seems both arrogant and narrow-minded. Please look into the world and see the people who are living happily without being Christian. I think you may be surprised. Enough, perhaps, to stop telling us that we are deficient.
Victoria McCauley You must be blind to history and the world. The morals and values in the US alone are in the toilet and it shows. Our country is falling apart the farther we get from christ. Look at history...there is more to the world than your little bubble.v
I dont know why people hate...i am open to your idea and gosh it's all true! I love these!
People hate what they fear or what their peers tell them they should hate.
yeah thats true
Kyla Matrimony this is not true, people hate this poem because it's fucking stupid
I dont know its like i can see it when no one wants to look at it in another angle
Do not say it is true, you would be regurgitating misinformation, which is very bad for the youth. Instead, just say "I agree with this view on marriage."
What a wonderful perspective on the institution of marriage. What’s even better is how we now acknowledge and welcome the legitimacy and truth of marriage vows and relationships of out LGBT sisters and brothers.
This is awesome stuff Jefferson.. as a friend of mine said every couple thinking of dating or getting married or engaged should watch this.. Thanks for sharing your heart and God's on a very important life issue..!
Bless you and keep doing what you're doing!!
Definitely a great video and great advice. If only people looked at their marriage this way and not as a convenience. Thanks for this!
Amazing job Jeff! Well said, very well said!
Powerful! On such a day as this less music, more intake on words. All your videos are worth sharing. #Keep at what you doing, letting God use you.
Absolutely beautiful! Thank you Jefferson! My foundation with the Lord is cemented and unmoving. My marriage however; is like a leaf, just blowing in the wind.
I respect you so much for posting your videos, awesome job showing the word of Jesus!!
If God is real why does the pope need security?
who said God is related with the pope !!! Gos is the one who used to be worshiped by all the prophets from adam , ibrahim , noah , moses and jesus peacebe upon them .. He is one not three in one .. he is only one as all the prophets preached, but after God raisen up jesus and saved him from the jews to crucify him , people after 300 years added the trinity .. and i challenge you if you will find one single verse when jesus peacebe upon him say worship me or iam God in the Bible
smart Imperfect John 10:30, “I and the Father are one.”
John Chapter 14 a certain man said to Jesus: Show us God, and Jesus said: If you have seen me you have seen God. Now without reading on the Christian will say: See Jesus claimed to be God, he said if you have seen me you have seen God. If that is crystal clear then you have a difficult portion when you go back just a few pages to Chapter 5 when another man came to Jesus and said show us God and he said you have never seen God you have never heard his voice. Now what did he mean there if on the other occasion he meant that he was God? Obviously you have made matters difficult by deciding what the first one meant. If you read on in Chapter 14 you will see what he went on to say. He was saying the closest you are going to seeing God are the works you see me doing.
smart Imperfect Exactly. Now the real question is whether Sauron was slowly slipping into Gollum as he kept the cursed ring in his possession, or whether his transformation was a mere reflection of human obsession.
the christian teaching now , is the church man made not jesus peacebe upon him teaching , the trinity was not preached by none of the prophets
The man was a teacher. He taught the Law of Moses. He was impressed to see Jesus answering the questions of hypocrites and heretics with wisdom:
“One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, ‘Of all the commandments, which is the most important?’”
He felt it was his opportunity to ask Jesus, the Great Teacher, what was the most important commandment, how he can be saved, enter life and the Kingdom of God.
Now, we need to shed all our biases, everything we have been taught in Sunday schools, and all the teachings of mortal men. All who love Jesus should let him talk:
“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’”
A great answer to a great question: accept the Lord our God is One, love Him, and worship Him to the best of your ability.
Jesus was not finished. He had more to teach. Obviously Jesus was teaching the man everything he needed to get into the Kingdom of God. Jesus added:
“…The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
The Great Teacher further clarified:
“There is no commandment greater than these.”
The man who questioned Jesus repeated the commandments to make sure he got them right:
Mark 12:32 “‘Well said, teacher,’ the man replied. ‘You are right in saying that God is one and there is no other but him…’”
Jesus seeing the man had learned the greatest commandment correctly gave him the good news:
Mark 12:34 “When Jesus saw that he had answered wisely, he said to him, ‘You are not far from the kingdom of God.’”
There are some significant lessons in this story:
First, Jesus taught the man more than he asked, yet he did not say he is the son of God, or the Savior sent to redeem mankind of its sins. He did not say anything remotely similar to what people are instructed to repeat to be ‘born again’ in Christ, “You should individually receive me, accept me as the Son of God, your personal Lord and Savior who will die on the cross for your sins and will rise from the dead. Let the Holy Spirit fill you…”
Take what Jesus said and leave what people have added.
Second, salvation depends on this commandment. Jesus made it clear when another man approached Jesus to learn from him (Mark 10:17-29). The man fell on his knees and said to Jesus:
Mark 10:17-18 “Good teacher, what must I do to inherit eternal life?” Jesus replied: “Why do you call me good? No one is good - except God alone.”
Third, Jesus confirmed there is no commandment greater than these. In case, someone might think the greatest commandment changed afterwards, Jesus told us:
Matthew 5:17-19 “For assuredly, I say to you, till the heaven and earth pass away, one jot or one title will by no mean pass from the law till all is fulfilled. Whoever therefore breaks one of the least of these commandments, and teaches men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of heaven; but whoever does and teaches them, he shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven.”
Fourth, anyone who loves Jesus and wants to enter life must keep the greatest commandment of Jesus as he said:
John 14:15 “If you love me, keep my commandments.”
Matthew 19:17 “If you want to enter life, obey the commandments.”
Fifth, a sincere Christian should accept what Jesus said without twisting his words or finding hidden meaning in them. Jesus taught exactly what Moses taught some 2,000 years before him:
Deuteronomy 6:4-5 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.”
Jesus, may the mercy and blessings of God be upon him, taught the same eternal truth ALL the prophets of God taught to their people: God is One, worship Him alone.
Deuteronomy 6:13 “Fear the Lord your God, serve Him only and take your oaths in His name.”
Deuteronomy 5:7 “You shall have no other God besides Me.”
Isaiah 43:11 “I even, I am your Lord and besides Me, there is no Savior.”
Hosea 13:4 “I am the Lord your God who brought you out of the Egypt. You shall acknowledge no God but me, no savior except me.”
Psalms 95:6-7 “O come, let us bow down and worship, let us kneel before the Lord, our Maker. For we are the people of His pasture and the sheep of His voice and He is our God.”
Jesus emphasized this teaching to Satan as well:
Matthew 4:10 “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: Worship the Lord your God, and serve Him only.”
Sixth, the Quran confirms the greatest commandment of Jesus. The Quran teaches us exactly that God sent all the prophets with the same teaching: to worship the One true God alone.
“…And your God is One God: there is no god but He…” (Quran 2:163)
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him...” (Quran 17:23)
“And We did not send any Messenger before you (O Muhammad) but We revealed to him (saying): ‘none has the right to be worshipped but I, so worship Me.’” (Quran 21:25)
Seventh, on the Day of Resurrection, the Quran tells us that God will ask Jesus:
“And [beware the Day] when God will say, ‘O Jesus, Son of Mary, did you say to the people, ‘Take me and my mother as gods besides God?...’” (Quran 5:116)
Jesus will respond:
“He will say, ‘Limitless are You in Your glory! It was not for me to say that to which I have no right. If I had said it, You would have known it. You know what is within myself, and I do not know what is within Yourself. Verily, it is You alone who fully knows all the things that are beyond the reach of a created being’s perception. I said not to them except what you commanded me - to worship God, my Lord and your Lord. And I was a witness over them as long as I was among them; but when You took me up, You alone had been their keeper:’ for You are witness unto everything. If You should punish them - indeed they are Your servants; but if You forgive them - indeed it is You who is the Exalted in Might, the Wise.” (Quran 5:116-118)
I'm a spoken word artist too and u just brought me out of my shell thank u i will start presenting in church soon. thanks
Hey I love it when you do spoken words poetry's! Please make more (:
What he is saying by if your marriage rest in anything but Jesus it is broken he means that if the foundation of your marriage is not like Jesus where Jesus dies for his bride the church then it is something broken. Lets put Jesus aside. A marriage needs the love of two people where the bond is so strong one would die for the other. He is not saying be a christian and you will instantly have a successful marriage.
Marriage was created by God. We can't put Jesus aside. He is the true example of man and his bride
You unravel Jesus so amazingly, thanks so much for reminding us all who should always take centre place in our lives! #preachit
Where did you find the background music for this spoken word?
Some of you guys are concentrating more about the religion, his actions, and his looks, more than the message behind it.
Wow... Thank you Brotha! Your videos have really helped me grow in Christ, so thank you :)
While I am an atheist and do not agree with the whole "putting god in your marriage" thing, I do find beauty in your words and rhymes. Keep on keepin' on.
Are you married?
+Taylor Hanson Actually...we're to put God above our marriage.
I am married, have been for two years. Both of us are Atheists.
Look at it this way. the manufacturer of a car is the only one that knows the true of the car. You might think your having a nice ride till something goes wrong. Then you have to look at the manufacturer for help either through the manufacturer or the car dealer. Because the true secret of the life of that car lies in the hands of the manufacturer. Until a marriage crash who can a person go to. God is the manufacturer of marriage and the one that can give the true joy of marriage. Do not mistake happiness for joy
Ehhh, yeah no. The only people who can make our marriage work is the two of us. We shouldn't rely on something that nobody can see or hear or feel to guide us. We got married because we love each other. That will help us through hard times, it already has and we've come out stronger for it. We are responsible for what happens to us. We don't believe in god and therefore "he" has no standing in our marriage, I'm glad that other people are able to make things work because of god but it's not for everyone. If a relationship is meant to be, it's meant to be. I don't think believing in god will change that.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻💪🏻 I’ve shared this and watched this many times over. Had to rewatch it since I got a new email. I absolutely love it as this it’s never old when it’s truth
I just say when i failed about love its really hurt but then its same feelings or more than hurts for Jesus everytime we failed Him.
This video is based off this mans opinion. We are all entitled to our own train of thoughts. Whether anyone agrees with it or not, you can't say his opinion is wrong.
Clearly... we havnt achieved mine control yet... But you cant doubt his accuracy.
Of course you can say his opinion is wrong. Here, I'll demonstrate:
His opinion is wrong.
Your opinion in the internet is like having a Penis. You can have one, look at it and be proud of it. But the moment you whip it out on public and forcing it on other people... Thats where your WRONG.
I literally cried when my sister showed me this
Rachel Frost I'm very sorry for you
+Ziegen Peter what are you sorry for?
I like the face he makes after he said "rest in something broken" at 1:10 1:14
Where there is truth,
There is hate.
The truth makes people feel bad about themselves and it shouldn’t.
We all yearn for the truth.
Embrace it. It will make you free.
Ahahhaha I like how your like bar has been slowly going down :3
truth is a matter of perception as well as facts, one mans truth can be another mans fable. When somebody truly thinks something is the truth, than that is the reality to them, contrary to what other people might think and say. History has showed just how marriage was treated back in the age of ignorance, but people again, can perceive this as a lie. The truth is in there minds eye more than it is in a history book, and many twist the words of the past to suit there own wants.
***** When in doubt, use logic
Always
MisterSkids I wouldn't call that truth. I'd call that perception. Truth doesn't change when we learn new facts, it means we were wrong in the past. The earth wasn't flat until we found evidence that its a sphere.
it is perception but thats there perception of the truth, you can tell them all the facts but what they believe is the truth as they perceive is different from our perception of it
Jefferson, keep on doing what you're doing. You are so talented. It is truly a gift from The Most High. The spirit in these atheist definitely don't like that spirit in you. Like the word says "Greater is He that's within me than he that is in the world." You are getting under these haters skin that's why they are saying mean things about you. In the words of Jill Scott, "Hate on me hater." Jehovah bless you.👏😊
Love your poems, Jefferson please continue to make more they are very inspirational.
i’m doing this for my speech class!!
A happy marriage is based on love, not necessarily anything religious.
+Emily Gibson
But God IS Love :)
Forgiven&Saved in Christ Not to me
+Emily Gibson Its not a sense of not to you because He loves you more than you could imagine. Its more a sense that you dont know Him or His love. The bible says that if you call upon the Lord He'll be there so why not try it? I know it may seem silly and pointless but just give it a shot.
+Emily Gibson
Hmm...so to whom are you and your husband saying your vows to in church, in front of the altar?
+Forgiven&Saved in Christ I'm not married and to me, marriage is more of a legal thing, I shouldn't need a piece of paper to prove that i love someone but there's the legal side, that's why I'd get married.
Amen. Those were some very strong words. Good job, i will be sharing this video for other to hear. God bless!
Finally a positive comment !
I know right!
Stephanie Martinez Just,just.... grow up please.everything he has said is completely wrong. if it works for your marriage that's fine, but dont say that all marriages rely on some psychopath. its rude and disrespectful this kid needs to grow up and so do you.
Beautiful and strong presentation.. i think it's cool how this type of speak can be relatable to the everyday person.. less older archaic speak and more down to earth, person to person.. Interesting to see a different perspective.. continue your craft!
Amen! I wish so badly that I could find someone like you who had relentless commitment. Sometimes I feel like there isn't anyone out there who is willing to love me and stay committed to me - it's very sad because I know how a relationship should be -
Powerful stuff. You definitely have a gift from God. The hate of the world only proves what an incredible job you're doing spreading the gospel and addressing important topics. Keep it up, brother!
My only wish: To never post again, please don't. Please prevent this man from posting anything else to this sewer of trash and isolation.
Great message... God bless you.
wow he's saying all those enlightening feelings i have but was findin it difficult to describe in my words, & there we go, he said it all. Thanks.
I would love to meet you one day. May God bless you and be with you always❤️ Keep speaking the truth others are so afraid to encounter.
I have an idea, why don't all you people who think this video is ______ or ____ _____ or (insert your insult here), just not watch it. If this video is making you "sick to the stomach", as I read one person say, then close off the video and go do something else.
so you are saying that whenever I disagree with someone I should stop listening?
Not at all, it was only a suggestion. If you find enjoyment from getting frustrated about something you could avoid, I say more power to you.
Christian Smith If we ignore a problem does it go away? sometimes yes, but usually not.
Marcus Rautenbach I'm sorry, what problem might you be referring to? If I'm remembering correctly we still have freedom of both speech and religion in this country.
Christian Smith
We could talk about the fact that people trying to impose their religion on everyone else violates the American Constitution (I'm British and I clearly know that particular document better than most Americans). We could talk about how what this video basically says is that if you don't have Jesus in your life, your marriage will fail, which is effectively hate speech. Now, I would argue that we have don't have a right to not be offended - that's the essence of freedom of speech. But whenever an atheist says "Hang on, you can't have special rights", Christians come down on them with the 'oppression' argument.
Also, UA-cam is on the internet. The internet is for the world, not just your part of it. You might want to become aware that America is a pitiful excuse for a 1st world country comparative to Scandinavian countries or Germany. Of course, it's my right to say that, just as it is yours to respond.
I feel sick...
i know right
I will never understand why people come and watch his videos just to leave hateful comments.
I really love this video, Keep up the good work Jefferson. You boldly speak the Truth, even though there will be others who will oppose it. It is a choice in what you believe in, what you want to say to someone, and just what you do day to day.